1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 2: Hi, Teekys, I just wanted to drop in and leave 13 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 2: you a question. I am a big follower of yours, 14 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 2: from reality TV, your music, your podcasts, and now watching 15 00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 2: your docu series. I love it. I love that it's raw, real, 16 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 2: and your vibe has always just been so uplifting and 17 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 2: you're just like the big sister I never had. But 18 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 2: my question for you today is Emilio's tattoo, the Dolores tattoo. 19 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 2: What is the meaning behind it? Is it a coincidence 20 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 2: because I know that's your mother's legal name. Tell me 21 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 2: about it. How do you feel about it? Is it 22 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 2: like a sign that your mother left imprinted on him? 23 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 2: Let me know. 24 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: I love that question, Roxanne, and I love it. Oh. 25 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: First of all, thank you so much for supporting all 26 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: that I do. It means the world to me. You 27 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: have no idea. And in regards to your question, yes, 28 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: when I saw it on his chest, I was like, Okay, 29 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: who is this? Hopefully it's one of your family members 30 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: and not an ex girlfriend. And thank goodness, it was 31 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: not an ex girlfriend. It's actually his grandmother, who I 32 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,440 Speaker 1: absolutely love. I love his grandma. We call her Amma, 33 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: and her name is Dolores. We call her Lola. But 34 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: it's crazy because yes, that was my mom's first name. 35 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:12,079 Speaker 1: She very much disliked the name, but it was her name. 36 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: So when I saw it on him, I said, oh 37 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: my gosh, this is so crazy, like it's I don't 38 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 1: know I did. I did take it as a sign. 39 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: I know my mom would absolutely love a medio. I 40 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: just those are things that I'm like, Damn, I wish 41 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,399 Speaker 1: she was here. She she would love him, she would 42 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: love him so much. But yes, I did take it 43 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: as a sign, and yes, thank goodness, it wasn't an 44 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: ex girlfriend, so I'd be like, cover it up and 45 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. But it's his grandma, So yes, that yeah, 46 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: that's that's the answer. So thank you so much for asking, 47 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: miss Roxanne. I appreciate that. Okay, cool, Let's move on 48 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: to the next listener, and it's from an anonymous listener. Okay, 49 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:51,399 Speaker 1: let's see. 50 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 3: Hi Cheeky's So. I want to keep this post on 51 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 3: anonymous only because I have people they listen to your podcast. 52 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 3: I'm gonna try and make this short because my last 53 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 3: recording was too long. But anyways, I have a partner. 54 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 3: We've been together for four years. We have a daughter together. 55 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 3: I have three kids from a previous marriage. He moved 56 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,519 Speaker 3: to Minnesota from California and he has three kids in 57 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 3: California himself. He wants to move to California. I want 58 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: to move to California. But the only thing that's stopping 59 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 3: me from wanting to move, of like one hundred percent, 60 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 3: is my three kids. I don't want to take them 61 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 3: from a stable home here in Minnesota, like a stable 62 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 3: support system, all the good things that they have here, 63 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 3: to go to California with nothing and like be living 64 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 3: in a they get so expensive out there. You can't 65 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 3: find nothing nice, nothing decent if you're not making like good, 66 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 3: good money, And that really scares me. What do you 67 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 3: think I should do? Do you think I should make 68 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 3: a move? Do you think I should risk it? I 69 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 3: want to move? Is I just don't want to put 70 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 3: them in a predicament where they my kids are just 71 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 3: not I'm gonna be happy over there. 72 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: Ooh, okay, this one's a toughie. Okay. First of all, 73 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: you don't have peace with the decision, because if you 74 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: had peace and you knew this is what I want 75 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: to do, you wouldn't be asking me. So that to 76 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: me is already a sign an indication that you're obviously 77 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: not sure. And when you don't have peace with the decision, 78 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: then in my opinion, it's best not to make a 79 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,679 Speaker 1: decision and just stay where you are. In my heart, 80 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: as I was hearing you, I thought if this was 81 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: my sister, I would definitely tell her don't move California. 82 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 1: I love California. I love it. It's a beautiful state. 83 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:48,480 Speaker 1: We have the mountains, the beach, the desert like it's amazing. 84 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: The weather's great. But girl, it is very expensive. And 85 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,919 Speaker 1: if you don't have a job lined up. If you 86 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: don't want to leave Minnesota without your children that's not 87 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 1: an option, then don't. I'm assuming your children are still 88 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: very young. I think that you should just stay and 89 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 1: do what's best for your kids right now, because they 90 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: need you, especially if they're young, they still need you. 91 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: And I know me moving as much as I did 92 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: when we were little, it really does affect you. It does, 93 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: so that's that's important. I mean, if it was like 94 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,919 Speaker 1: within the same state, but it's like a whole other state, 95 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 1: it's just I feel like a lot. I don't know 96 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: if this will be a deal breaker with your man, 97 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 1: but I think that if you guys can compromise and say, hey, 98 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: let's just wait a few more years and really just 99 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: line things up and get all your ducks in a 100 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: row out here in California, then maybe. And then he 101 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: has kids in California, So I get it. Okay, now, okay, 102 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:47,720 Speaker 1: now I get it. Sorry, I was remembering the other 103 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: part of your of your question. So yes, oh, it's 104 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: a tough one. It's a tough one. He has kids 105 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:00,679 Speaker 1: out here. Just ask him for a few more years. Yeah, 106 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: maybe his kids can move to Minnesota. I don't know, man, 107 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm stuck on that one. But go 108 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: with what your heart is telling you. He wants to 109 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 1: come for his children, and you want to say for 110 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: your children. Maybe you guys can make it work. Try it. 111 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 1: But if I were you, I wouldn't move there. Boom done. 112 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: I love you, Okay, send you a big hug. All right, 113 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: we're gonna move on to the next question. The next 114 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: question comes from Juliette. Hello, miss clean Bee. 115 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 4: I'm from Texas. I admire you, and I think you're 116 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 4: a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. 117 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 2: I was wondering do you have any tips for first 118 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 2: home buyers? And that's it. 119 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,119 Speaker 1: Oh, Juliette, very nice, short and sweet and to the point. 120 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,799 Speaker 1: I love it. Thank you so much for those beautiful words. 121 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,480 Speaker 1: And the good thing is you live in Texas, so 122 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: in Texas you get more bang for your book. That's 123 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: great for first time buyers. I would just make sure 124 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: that you get the right loan for yourself. Get yourself 125 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: a very good real estate agent that knows what they're doing, 126 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: and a good loan officer, someone that's going to tell 127 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: you everything and all the options that you have because 128 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: as a first time buyer. There are a lot of 129 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: programs and you don't have to put down twenty percent. 130 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: I believe it's like three percent, five percent something like that. 131 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: I'm not entirely sure, but make sure you do your 132 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: research and make sure you find someone that will answer 133 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: all of your questions because of course I'm not a 134 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: real estate agent or a loan broker or loan officer. 135 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: But you definitely have a lot of options because you 136 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: are a first time buyer, and definitely make sure that 137 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 1: you have your down to payment. You know, save some money. 138 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: Good thirty forty fifty thousand dollars you know would be great. 139 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: And again in Texas, there's a lot of great options 140 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 1: the property. The properties out there are there. You get 141 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: a lot for your money, so that's a great thing. 142 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: Hopefully that helps and thank you for your question. Juliette Okay. 143 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: Last question comes from Tina. 144 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 4: I want your advice on a personal topic. A year ago, 145 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 4: I was one month in of being nearly wed. My 146 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 4: sister and her baby daddy were very addicted to drugs. 147 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 4: They have five children. They both got incarcerated. We took 148 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 4: in the five children so that they wouldn't go to state. 149 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 4: She got out three months after. He is still incarcerated. 150 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 4: He will be out soon. Throughout this time, when she 151 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 4: got out, I told her, I will take care of 152 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 4: the kids for a few months until you can get 153 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 4: back on your feet, get us, get yourself a place, 154 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 4: a job, take your kids back in. She has not 155 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 4: even tried. I'm starting to have problems with my husband 156 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 4: because it's emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, it's straining. It's five children. 157 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 4: We went from just him and I just one month 158 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 4: recently married to having five children in the household. So 159 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:08,439 Speaker 4: it takes a toll. So what do you advise I do. 160 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 4: I've tried to communicate with her to have her get 161 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 4: her children back. It's been a year and she's still 162 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 4: like wishy washy. She's not in her children, like her 163 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 4: children's life. She doesn't look for them. So I don't 164 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 4: know what else to do. 165 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Tina, I'm so sorry to hear that 166 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 1: about your sister, because I just I can't. I can't 167 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:39,719 Speaker 1: even understand why a mom wouldn't look for her children. 168 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 1: Hopefully she's not back on drugs, I'm hoping, and I'm 169 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 1: sorry to hear that it's causing issues in your in 170 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:55,959 Speaker 1: your relationship. I think what you're doing is a beautiful thing. 171 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: First of all, taking in children that aren't yours for 172 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 1: love for them and love for your sister of course. 173 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: So I think that's a beautiful thing. I can understand 174 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,839 Speaker 1: how difficult it may be in every aspect of your life. 175 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: Like you mentioned, I would maybe look into to help 176 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:17,679 Speaker 1: you a little financially, like there's you know, the government 177 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 1: can help with a lot of things, you know, and 178 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:25,079 Speaker 1: definitely maybe become like a foster parent. I believe that can. 179 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know the details. I'm just saying. 180 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: As I was listening to your question, I thought about that. 181 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: I was like, what have you become like a foster parent? 182 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: Like you can get some support from from from the 183 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 1: from the state, you know, So I'm hoping that helps 184 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: a little bit. But then again, like it's I get 185 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: it's five kids. I think in reality, like these kids 186 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,760 Speaker 1: need you. I I don't know, these these questions today 187 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: are so tough, guys, because I'm like, damn, it's like 188 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: I want to give you the best advice, but then 189 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 1: I put myself in your shoes and I know it's difficult, 190 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: But I just know that what you're doing is amazing 191 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:01,199 Speaker 1: and you're gonna make a huge difference in these children's lives. 192 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 1: They're going to appreciate it so much. And I know 193 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: right now it's very heavy, but just know that that 194 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 1: that is just wow. Like I admire you and and 195 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: I'm hoping that things get better. Just look into programs, 196 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:18,200 Speaker 1: look into to like there's a lot of help. You 197 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 1: just have to like really research and find it to 198 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: help you financially, to get some support. Can your family 199 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: help you anyone else that maybe you guys can like 200 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:33,680 Speaker 1: you know, help with the kids. I don't know. And 201 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 1: hopefully your sister's okay, man, I just hopefully she's okay. Okay. 202 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: So we have Roxanne, an anonymous listener, Juliet and Tina. 203 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:45,679 Speaker 1: I hope that I was able to help. These questions 204 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 1: kind of got me today because it's like I want 205 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 1: to give you guys the best advice, and it's like 206 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: I want to think, oh, this is what I would do, 207 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: but I know it's a lot easier than done. So 208 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:55,320 Speaker 1: hopefully I was able to help you and give you 209 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: some advice and give you some peace of mind. And 210 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 1: thank you guys for listening and watching and If you 211 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: have a question, please feel free to leave it at 212 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,200 Speaker 1: speakpipe dot com. 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