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Speaker 1: Hi guys, welcome back to I Do Part two. It's

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Speaker 1: your celebrity mentor Jenfessler, and I am sure you, like me,

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Speaker 1: have been hooked on the Golden Bachelor and Golden Bachelorette,

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Speaker 1: amazing people looking for love, and this time on Bachelor

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Speaker 1: and Paradise they also brought the Goldens. I'm excited because

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Speaker 1: she was well liked on Paradise even though she wasn't

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Speaker 1: there for long. But she's still out there dating and

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Speaker 1: we're going to get into it all. Welcome April Kirkwood.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I love doing the Paradise Show because I got to

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Speaker 3: really be myself. The first time I was on a Bachelor,

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Speaker 3: I had just lost somebody, Ralph right about him, so

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Speaker 3: I wasn't quite in my gig, and I had never

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Speaker 3: watched the show.

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Speaker 2: I really came in kind of.

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Speaker 3: Blindsided due to my own choosing of really not studying

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Speaker 3: about it. So then I took a couple of years off,

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Speaker 3: grew into myself and healed, and now you get to

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Speaker 3: see all those many facets of me, the inner.

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Speaker 2: Child, the spitfire, the spiritual one.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I mean definitely, there's definitely was a shift

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Speaker 1: from watching the Bachelor to Bachelor in Paradise. But can

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Speaker 1: we start out because it's really really interesting. I think

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Speaker 1: it could be really insightful for our listeners talking a

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Speaker 1: little bit about your history in terms of relationships. I

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Speaker 1: think a lot of listeners who have watched the show

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Speaker 1: know that you've been through it a bit, especially you

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Speaker 1: lost I want to say, you lost your partner over

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Speaker 1: two years of twenty one years, over two years ago, right, right,

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Speaker 1: and you were married before that.

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Speaker 3: No, it's four years ago now, Okay, So in the

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Speaker 3: first two years I was numb.

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Speaker 2: In fact, I didn't know what to do. And I'll

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Speaker 2: I know this is a.

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Speaker 3: Crazy story, but I learned from that experience there is

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Speaker 3: no death, and I was not going to get any

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Speaker 3: We weren't legally married. I wasn't going to get any

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Speaker 3: legal financial help. Well, lo and behold. I swear to God,

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Speaker 3: may the gods come down, just to show you what

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Speaker 3: love does. So I have a psychic friend from Jersey.

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Speaker 3: She calls me and she said, do you live in

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Speaker 3: front of big glass lighting doors?

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Speaker 2: YadA YadA. I go, yeah, She goes, does Ralph.

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Speaker 3: Wear black all the time? I go, yet, but he's

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Speaker 3: standing outside the door.

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Speaker 1: Is that what you mean when you say no death. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I say here, I.

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Speaker 3: Said, She goes, I don't like him. I don't like

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Speaker 3: the way he treated you. Blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: I go no, let him in, let him in.

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Speaker 3: And you know, this was like two weeks after he

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Speaker 3: had passed, and so he said, I was at the funeral.

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Speaker 3: I didn't like this, and this is the way certain

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Speaker 3: people treated you. I've tried to talk to the attorneys.

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Speaker 3: It's not I can't get to anybody, but I can

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Speaker 3: tell you.

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Speaker 2: Where the will is.

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Speaker 1: Wait. I'm sorry, April. I I just make me understand.

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Speaker 1: This was you said. This is your husband, right, but

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Speaker 1: we weren't legally married. I'm sorry, your partner. But coming

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Speaker 1: back after death to talk.

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Speaker 3: To you, he was talking through this psychic and he goes.

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Speaker 3: He calls me Presh, So I knew it was him.

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Speaker 1: Did you have that tattooed on you somewhere? Yeah? I

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Speaker 1: read that. Yeah, so adorable. I love it, Presh, and so.

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Speaker 3: I you know, and I was mad at him because

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Speaker 3: he really didn't do me well.

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Speaker 2: So I said, broke, I'm telling him if you were

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Speaker 2: lying to me again, and he says, no, it's in

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Speaker 2: something white. I said no. The Ohio houses wife, he

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Speaker 2: goes no, and.

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Speaker 3: The lady is saying, I think he means like an

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Speaker 3: like a wine cooler or a wine you know, refrigerator.

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Speaker 2: I go, no, that's dark.

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Speaker 3: Anyhow, make a long story short. I'm like every woman.

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Speaker 2: I'm laying in bed.

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Speaker 1: All of a.

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Speaker 3: Sudden, at three o'clock, I get up. I go out

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Speaker 3: in the garage. His file cabinet is there next to

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Speaker 2: I pull out everything, get out. I find all kinds

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Speaker 2: of nice things, and I also find the will. No way,

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Speaker 2: but it's not been changed. And he was madly loved

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Speaker 2: with me. He has Louis bodies.

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Speaker 1: That's how he passed. Yeah, and so so hard.

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Speaker 3: That makes people angry mad. You know, I took his

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Speaker 3: car away from him. He thought I deserted him. So

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Speaker 3: he had a lot of stuff going on mentally, and you.

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Speaker 1: Had and you yeah, I have some relatives that are

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Speaker 1: going through that right now. Not easy. But yeah, you

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Speaker 1: were married before that. You have two kids, right, you're

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Speaker 1: maried right right twice before from when I remember right, yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you belong to my family, not not me yet.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not proud of it.

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Speaker 1: But what I will. Why not? Why not? I think

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Speaker 1: you should be proud of it.

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Speaker 3: I have no regrets. Each man brought me so much.

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Speaker 3: Yes they were a pain in the butt.

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Speaker 2: Yes I was.

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Speaker 1: They always are.

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Speaker 3: Yes I wasn't evolved the way I am now. But

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Speaker 3: each person opened doors to me that I have cherished.

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Speaker 3: And really love never dies. People say, oh, I still

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Speaker 3: love them, and I still love them. And you know,

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Speaker 3: if they all lined up right here, even Billy, the

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Speaker 3: one with the children, he'll come to Dana in dreams.

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Speaker 3: My daughter sees them, I don't, and she'll say, Billy,

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Speaker 3: You'll say, I'm worried about your mother, you know, Oh

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Speaker 3: my gosh, and you know her aunt, my aunt and

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Speaker 3: uncle hooy love, they're gonna die soon. I don't know

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Speaker 3: what she's gonna do. You better take and listen to her.

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Speaker 3: She knows what she's talking about. Because I'm kind of

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Speaker 3: woo woo, you know, and I'm into all of this

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Speaker 3: stuff as well as a therapist.

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Speaker 2: I kind of bring the soul aspect into it.

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Speaker 1: Tell I know I can feel that, but you I,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It strikes me that you would say

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Speaker 1: that you're not proud because it's also a brave thing

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Speaker 1: to keep, especially now right to have lost someone, divorce someone, No,

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Speaker 1: but not only bounced back. But I don't know. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm watching. I'm a viewer just like everyone. I feel

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Speaker 1: like you're thriving.

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Speaker 3: What I did by accident. So I called one of

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Speaker 3: my You're gonna laugh about this. So I called one

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Speaker 3: of my friends. I said, let's clean the house in

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Speaker 3: Florida because I just moved to New York. Okay, So anyhow,

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Speaker 3: she does this clean blah blah blah. She calls me later,

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Speaker 3: it's all cleansed. So wait a minute. I get the

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Speaker 3: other psychic from Jersey. She's doing my cars. Since I

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Speaker 3: moved here, I only do it once. It sounds like

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Speaker 3: I do it a lot, but I go. So she goes,

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Ralph is bound.

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Speaker 2: He's screaming. He can't get out of Florida. I bound him.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, how could you. No one should be bound

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Speaker 1: in Florida. Although I guess if you're gonna get bound,

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Speaker 1: it's a good place to be.

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Speaker 3: Well, he can't get out of the house. I feel

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Speaker 3: sorry for the new owners. So so it never stops.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but listen, I mean, I have to think it's

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Speaker 1: fabulous and I hope, like I'm on my first marriage,

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Speaker 1: but still at age fifty seven, I want to think

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Speaker 1: that if something God forbid a million times were to happen,

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Speaker 1: I would keep looking for love. And I just think

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Speaker 1: it's inspirational to see you do that. And I want

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Speaker 1: to get to some of the specifics of the show

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Speaker 1: because no, no, please, I just so I know that

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Speaker 1: our listeners are going to want to hear a lot

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Speaker 1: about the specifics. For instance, the young man. I know

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Speaker 1: you've probably spoken about this ad nauseum, Jonathan, who you

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Speaker 1: gave your rose to, So would you just tell us

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Speaker 1: a little bit about what you were thinking in that moment. I,

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Speaker 1: personally watching it, thought it was such a kind and

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Speaker 1: generous move to make, and I really appreciated it. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if everyone did, but I did. I thought

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Speaker 1: that was just a fabulous, classy move to make. But

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Speaker 1: tell me, maybe your your thoughts and if you had

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Speaker 1: any regrets about it.

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Speaker 2: I'm a little bit like Kathy. We kind of have

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Speaker 2: no filter and we.

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Speaker 1: Go by this love Kathy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's hilarious. So I'm standing there, I'm looking at

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Speaker 3: these guys. I don't like any of them, and I'm

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Speaker 3: looking at his face like I would my sons.

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Speaker 2: And I thought, and I was a guidance.

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Speaker 3: Counselor and a dean of schools for a long time,

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Speaker 3: and I thought, what so I'm a I help kids.

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Speaker 3: So I said, what can I do to help this boy?

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Speaker 3: There's nothing here for me. I'm going to give it

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Speaker 3: to him.

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Speaker 1: What a beautiful thing to do.

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Speaker 3: And I did it in your Bravo, you know, they

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Speaker 3: cut so much. And then he and I started to

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Speaker 3: pray for him on the set, and I think everybody

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Speaker 3: when there was a moment you know in privacy that

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Speaker 3: I'm sure it was filmed, but he said, I was

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Speaker 3: more affected by what you said than what you did.

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Speaker 3: And if I had to tell you what I said,

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Speaker 3: I don't even remember, because I remember.

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Speaker 1: You said something to the effect of I want to

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Speaker 1: give you the chance that others may not have given

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Speaker 1: you yet, or something like that.

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Speaker 2: Then I went home and I thought, why did I

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Speaker 2: like him so much? What did I see in him?

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Speaker 2: He did dress and look like Ralph.

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Speaker 3: Ah, so my attention had he been.

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Speaker 1: So Ralph must have been handsome, because I thought Jonathan

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Speaker 1: Jonathan was very handsome.

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Speaker 3: And Jonathan's a player, and Yelp was a player. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I could identify. But underneath the players, they're really.

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Speaker 1: Insecure, right, they always are right right.

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Speaker 3: The ones who are the worst, the narcissists and all

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Speaker 3: of that kind of agenda, they really have such low

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Speaker 3: self esteem, like they're afraid to attach.

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Speaker 2: They're afraid I need you. Don't leave me. If you stay,

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Speaker 2: you might hurt me if you fall, be lonely.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like you felt that coming out of Jonathan?

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Speaker 3: I felt something in him. He didn't really divulge because

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Speaker 3: it was all supposed to be fun. And then I

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Speaker 3: think he got a little afraid of me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but why, please don't tell me that

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Speaker 3: So if I get a bad boy that thinks I'm

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Speaker 3: Now, if I could go back to be with Frankie Valley,

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Speaker 3: I don't even wouldn't even take clothes. Probably, I would

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Speaker 2: To help him pass. And if I had time, I

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Speaker 2: I guess yes. And I would help him do everything.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty amazing. Do you feel like and you feel

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Speaker 2: I said, I know, I go find me next lifetime

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Speaker 2: When he passed, his family did a whole funeral up

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Speaker 3: I believe in marriage, and I think it's a commitment

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Speaker 1: It's so interesting because a lot of times my friends

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Speaker 2: I like being by myself. No death. There's so many

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, really, hello hello everyone.

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Speaker 1: that's what we do. I do Part two. But you've

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Speaker 3: Okay, First of all, you have to know you have

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Speaker 2: Do your work.

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Speaker 3: You cannot give to another what you don't have within yourself.

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Speaker 3: When you are healed and love yourself and most of

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Speaker 3: your issues, whether we like it or not, come from.

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Speaker 2: Mom and dad in early childhood.

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Speaker 3: It's not someone triggering you. It's when you get upset,

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Speaker 3: and it happens to all of us.

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Speaker 2: It's just the.

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Speaker 3: Calling of your soul saying there's more healing to do, honey,

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Speaker 3: Open yourself up to healing yourself, raise your frequency, and

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Speaker 3: you will attract what you are. If you don't like

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Speaker 3: what you're attracting, then change what you're sending.

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Speaker 2: That's I love and only love to everybody.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's I think that that is I think that's fabulous.

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys, because it's April has Obviously you're

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Speaker 1: a very spiritual woman, so I have to sort of

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Speaker 1: I just almost want to dumb it down for myself

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Speaker 1: a little bit as you're speaking. But I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: hang on to like these kernels of like if you

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Speaker 1: see something that you cannot.

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Speaker 2: On yourself, you cannot give to another what you don't

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Speaker 2: have yourself.

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Speaker 1: That's it. Okay, I can take that. Tell me about now,

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Speaker 1: we're just gonna we're gonna unfortunately, we're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: wrap it up, but we cannot. I cannot let you

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Speaker 1: go with talking about the new season of the Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: I'm hoping that it works out.

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Speaker 1: I'm hold, what do you think? What do you think?

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Speaker 1: What do you think of Mel? What do you are

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Speaker 1: you going to be watching?

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Speaker 2: You know, I haven't.

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Speaker 3: I haven't watched yet, to be honest, I've been busy.

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Speaker 3: I'm writing a book and I'm doing all this other stuff.

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Speaker 2: And I think that.

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Speaker 3: Mel has a lot to show himself from the bad

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Speaker 3: press he's gotten.

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Speaker 2: And I do think it's a cultural issue.

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to run around this that men do

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Speaker 3: who are successful and have enough money, like eye Candy

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Speaker 3: shame on them. If you can't see my soul or

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Speaker 3: you can't see who I am, I wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: Want that that kind of person.

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Speaker 1: I love that well. Would you consider doing another season?

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Speaker 2: I would love to do it.

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Speaker 1: Would you want to be the Golden Bachelorette?

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Speaker 2: I would love to do that. But see, I would

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Speaker 2: have fun with the guys. I would tease them, I

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Speaker 2: would turn them around.

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine they're not going to ask you. I

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Speaker 1: think that that would be Oh my god. Who wouldn't

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Speaker 1: want to watch that?

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Speaker 2: Heaven? And I would ask them questions, what do you

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Speaker 2: see when you see me? What do I see when

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Speaker 2: I see you?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: And also I believe girls in the two minute hug.

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Speaker 3: When you go in to hug a man, sit there,

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Speaker 3: let your hearts connect. When you're married, when they come home,

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Speaker 3: don't just go bye, I'm off to the gym.

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Speaker 2: Take two minutes. Let your heart, let your.

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Speaker 3: Energy, let your frequency connect. If you haven't connected all day,

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Speaker 3: that will make or break a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I love that advice. I don't remember the last time

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Speaker 1: I gave my husband a two minute hug. Maybe that's

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Speaker 1: what you say is a long time. Two seconds is

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Speaker 1: a long time. We're busy. Yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm all about hugging. And also if they

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Speaker 2: can't go slow and respect you and respect your pace,

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Speaker 2: let it go. It wasn't meant for you. There's something else.

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Speaker 1: I tell my my daughter specifically that all the time.

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Speaker 1: Of course, no rush, no pressure, and no rush. Right,

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Speaker 1: all right, well, listen, this is so this is so great.

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Speaker 1: I love you. You're a doll. By the way, Leslie

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Speaker 1: and Teresa, we have mutual friends. There are friends of mine,

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Speaker 1: and they told me the most delightful things about you,

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Speaker 1: how wonderful you are and warm and spiritual.

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Speaker 2: I will do anything for those girls.

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Speaker 1: They're the best. I love them.

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Speaker 3: Leslie's a lot like me. We've had a lot of

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Speaker 3: issues and relationships.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I I am.

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Speaker 2: They're a sugar, Naisa.

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Speaker 1: I hope you're not not the only people listening who knows.

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Speaker 1: I know exactly what that means. You're a doll. I

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Speaker 1: would love to have you back sometime. I wish you

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Speaker 1: all the best.

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Speaker 2: And you as well.

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Speaker 1: Oh, thank you your husband. I well, two minutes you

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Speaker 1: said two home minutes, right, okay, I'll put the timer on. Fine,

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Speaker 1: Thank you, April, Thank you so much. God bless you,

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Speaker 1: Please be well. Bye. So are you ready to date?

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Speaker 1: Like April? If you need some guidance from our crew,

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Speaker 1: call us or email us. All the infos in the

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Speaker 1: show notes, follow us on socials. Make sure to rate

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