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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. All right, Thank you, nephew. Subject

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Speaker 1: he's not equipped to handle me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: am married to a man that was my king, and

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Speaker 1: he messed it all up by having a female best friend.

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Speaker 1: He didn't have a physical affair with her, but he

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Speaker 1: had an emotional one, and he shared intimate details of

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Speaker 1: our marriage, good and bad. Then he encouraged her to

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Speaker 1: call me and have a talk with me about how

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Speaker 1: unhappy he is in our marriage. When she called, I

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Speaker 1: got so teed off that I invited her over. I

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Speaker 1: made sure my husband wasn't home so I could drag

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Speaker 1: that I was crazy, so luckily for her, she brought

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Speaker 1: her sister with her. There is no way I could

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Speaker 1: handle them both. So I sat in my own house

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Speaker 1: and listened to this woman tell me was lacking in

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Speaker 1: my marriage and what irritates my husband. She went on

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Speaker 1: broke her silence and told her own sister that she

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Speaker 1: had a lot of nerve to come up in my

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Speaker 1: house to do to do that, and she ushered her

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Speaker 1: see her out. My husband got wind of what his

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Speaker 1: so called buddy did and he didn't come home. He

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Speaker 1: texted and said he'd give me a day or two

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Speaker 1: to cool off. In the meantime, I sent a group

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Speaker 1: of how he's not equipped to deal with me in

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Speaker 1: flopping around his friends all set all set laughing emojis,

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Speaker 1: and said he'll never live this one down. I got revenge,

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Speaker 1: so I'm cool. But he's furious and claims he had

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Speaker 1: good intentions. He's not equipped to handle me in or

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Speaker 1: Are we headed for divorce? Or can we move past this? Woo? Listen,

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Speaker 1: I think if you get past this, it will be

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Speaker 1: a miracle from God. Okay, it will be a miracle

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Speaker 1: from God. You already know two wrongs don't make a right,

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Speaker 1: and they absolutely do not. But what you did was

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Speaker 1: what he did was horrible too. I'm not letting him

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Speaker 1: off the hook at all. He should not have shared

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Speaker 1: your intimate details, none of that. Your husband was wrong

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Speaker 1: to blast all that to his sty but at least

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Speaker 1: all he did was run his mouth you. You disgraced

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Speaker 1: and humiliated him by showing his private parts to his boys.

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Speaker 1: I just don't see how there's any coming back from

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Speaker 1: that or his little man. I said private parts, what

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Speaker 1: you called it a a little man? Huh. The only

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Speaker 1: one who seems to have any sense in this whole

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Speaker 1: letter is your husband's friend's sister, who checked your sister

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Speaker 1: for being at your house and for disrespecting you and

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Speaker 1: then ushering here, ushering her up out of your house again.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how you come back from something like

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Speaker 1: this unless the Lord himself intervenes Otherwise, I think you

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Speaker 1: guys are done and your marriage is over. Steve. I

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Speaker 1: think is something wrong with every single person in this letter,

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Speaker 1: every single person in this letter, And I'll tell you why,

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Speaker 1: and I don't. I don't know what. No, this ain't

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Speaker 1: king right there. If this was your king, and this

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Speaker 1: is who you chose to marry, and this is how

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Speaker 1: I showed wood hate to be your slave, because this

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Speaker 1: is how you treat the king. Lord, have mercy. This

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Speaker 1: letter is doomed from the get go, y'all. But he

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Speaker 1: emotional this spool. He shared intimate details of our marriage.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say that. I'm saying that he shared intimate

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Speaker 1: is your king? How stupid? Is your king hate fellas?

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Speaker 1: What woman would you have call your wife to tell

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Speaker 1: would dude that stupid ass move like? I thought? Nobody? Okay? Cool?

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Speaker 1: What she called? I was so teed off that I

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Speaker 1: brought her sister with her. Wow, now this is kind

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Speaker 1: of crazy. What a housewife show is this? Because you

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Speaker 1: There's no she bought her sister would a Luckily for her?

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Speaker 1: I can handle them both. So I said in my

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Speaker 1: what's lacking in my marriage and irritates my husband. She

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Speaker 1: had a lot of nerve to come to my house

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Speaker 1: and ushered her out of my house. But something wrong

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Speaker 1: Hold up, sister, you can't do what you finn't go

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Speaker 1: we not once again. You need some better people, Ryl,

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Speaker 1: so we'll not come back. I'll tell you the rest

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Speaker 1: of them. All right, we'll have part two if Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after subject He's

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject he is not

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Speaker 1: equipped to handle me. We didn't got to that part yet.

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Speaker 1: Woman married to a man, she says, her keen, but

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Speaker 1: This dude has been telling this female friend everything about

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Speaker 1: for him and tell her what she's unhappy with in

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Speaker 1: her marriage. This dumb woman calls up this man's wife

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Speaker 1: see you out. My husband got we into what his

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Speaker 1: so called buddy, this female friend did, and he didn't

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Speaker 1: come home. And he texts and said he'd give me

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Speaker 1: a day or two. The cool law. That's because he

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Speaker 1: know how crazy his wife is. He'd know if I

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Speaker 1: go in here now, all hell gonna break loose. This

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Speaker 1: is how crazy this woman is. But I mean, really,

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Speaker 1: this sister right yeah, called you come up in my

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Speaker 1: she posts have a problem. But the gall of this

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Speaker 1: But then the utter stupidity of the husband for asking

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Speaker 1: fools in this letter. I don't even know where to go.

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Speaker 1: Calm down, Steve, now here's where the letter take a

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Speaker 1: dog turn. In the meantime, I sent him a group

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Speaker 1: texting three of his closest friends with a video of

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Speaker 1: how he's not equipped to deal with me in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: In the video, he wasn't able to perform and he

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Speaker 1: His friends all sent laughing emojis and said he'll never

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Speaker 1: live this down. I got revenged, so I'm cool. I

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Speaker 1: don't understand this group of people. I don't understand this

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Speaker 1: group of people when you send a sex video out, lady,

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Speaker 1: ain't you any I'm just I'm just curious. So now

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Speaker 1: Now you say I got revenged, so I'm cool. But

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Speaker 1: say he's not equipped to handle me in out of

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Speaker 1: told our business. Now you saying he ain't equipped to

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Speaker 1: minute ago, he was your king, So king did something

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Speaker 1: early on, someone was working to make you want to

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Speaker 1: be queen all. Wouldn't nobody else ask your crazy ass

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Speaker 1: Or can we move past this? I don't like? Shirley said,

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Speaker 1: I don't know unless you have an act of God

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Speaker 1: come in here. I don't know where y'all think y'all going.

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Speaker 1: Why y'all still want to be married? First of all,

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Speaker 1: he's not married to his best friend. His best friend

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Speaker 1: can't talk to you. She's so crazy she come over

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Speaker 1: and you figure, I'm cool. Now I got revenge? How

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Speaker 1: simple minded are y'all? It's bad? So this is the

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Speaker 1: real Housewives of Green Metal Oaks INSANEA silm because everybody

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Speaker 1: in this letter is crazy. So, ma'am, I don't care

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Speaker 1: that you're headed for divorce. I don't even see why

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Speaker 1: y'all marriage. You don't have a marriage. He's not married

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Speaker 1: been willing to do that to embarrass your man. He

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Speaker 1: don't like you, he's scared of you. You crazy. Why

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Speaker 1: don't y'all just go y'all separate ways? Yeah, make no

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think the sister. I like the

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Speaker 1: her why she was going over to this woman's house,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, no, no no no no no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no no, come go with me over his wife's house.

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Speaker 1: But she knew they were friends. They're best friends. The

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. The sister knew that we're going over here

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Speaker 1: for what because he wanted me to talk to her. No, no, no,

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