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Speaker 2: WHOA, that's crazy, Sophia.

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Speaker 1: Well, keon, it's Inheriting too Much Drama Week on Okay

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Speaker 1: some families, love is a price.

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Speaker 1: I Mail forty seven, was diagnosed with cancer about six

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Speaker 1: months ago. I don't know what happened, but I was misdiagnosed.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't malignant as the initial diagnosis thought. Anyway, I'm

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Speaker 1: recovering by the way. This comes from deleted and if

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to get good.

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Speaker 1: Advice scoofully, but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 1: only know what we'd do, So let us know what

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Speaker 1: you would do in the comments and op sense. I

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Speaker 1: don't know why, but it felt like mom Female seventy

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Speaker 1: three and sister female thirty five weren't all that glad

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Speaker 1: about me recovering. I didn't make a fuss, but I

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Speaker 1: told me not to worry and that they were probably

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Speaker 1: still in shock. We were invited to my mom's house

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Speaker 1: last Sunday, and that's when my nephew, male twelve was

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Speaker 1: It felt like a hit to the gut. I'm child free,

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Speaker 1: so I don't really know when people start being a holes,

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Speaker 1: So the next explanation is that he's heard the adults

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Speaker 1: around him. I laughed and looked at my family. They

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Speaker 1: pretended that they didn't hear. Only my girlfriend watched me

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Speaker 1: in horror. I asked my nephew, why would he think

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Speaker 1: he would get rich when I have my girlfriend? He

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Speaker 1: was confused. I saw my sister turn around at that announcement.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend spent the rest of the evening holding my

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Speaker 1: hand and caressing it. I'm called the day after and

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Speaker 1: she was dancing around the subject trying to find out more.

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Speaker 1: I never discussed my will with anyone, But what were

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Speaker 1: they expecting. I've been with my girlfriend for thirteen years.

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Speaker 1: She's the love of my life and my family, what

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Speaker 1: the effe is going on? I'm changing my will, excluding

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Speaker 1: gonna go to charity instead. And we've got an update, folks.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, yai, not a good family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, not a good family. When all they are going

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Speaker 2: to remember you buy is your money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're waiting for you to just pass away so

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Speaker 1: they can get all that money. But we got an update,

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Speaker 1: So this blew up. The message is loud and clear,

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Speaker 1: marry your girlfriend. In my defense, neither of us have

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Speaker 1: ever thought about it. We're happy, and we've always seen

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Speaker 1: each other as each other's family. Unfortunately, that's probably not

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Speaker 1: how the world sees us, and it's sad about the will.

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing the majority of you are from the US,

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Speaker 1: but where I come from, as long as I don't

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Speaker 1: law and can't be willed away. I spent all night

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Speaker 1: She woke up around three am and smiled at me. God,

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Speaker 1: There is no way, there is no way that this

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Speaker 2: Thirteen years of you guys being together in marriage wasn't

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Speaker 1: I do not believe for a second that the woman

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how romantic, by the way you could just I.

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Speaker 1: Is it here? There's no way that your girlfriend was

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Speaker 2: Wait, why are you up?

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Speaker 1: I was just so, I don't know. I just had

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Speaker 2: Like what?

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Speaker 1: and she shared that we're engaged. Mom called me two

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Speaker 1: asked why now, and I didn't hold back. I told

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Speaker 1: male fourteen, is expecting a Porsche when he turns eighteen,

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Speaker 1: grateful and happy that I'm fine, but that I shouldn't

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Speaker 1: forget that they're my real family. My girlfriend is still

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Speaker 1: the worst happen, but they'll always be my family. Mom

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Speaker 1: that also meant I would disinherit my girlfriend's niece. I

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Speaker 1: told her that she should wait for me to pass

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Speaker 1: to find out shouldn't she She said, there's no point

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Speaker 1: talking to me what I'd like this. She begged me

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honey, don't do anything dumb that should have passed

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy for her to be this, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, on top of the will situation when

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Speaker 2: And you also said I'm gonna get married to my

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Speaker 1: She said, is this a joke?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, you're kind of crazy. Not congratulations. I'm so

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Speaker 1: Now. What's left is to find my girlfriend, no, my

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Speaker 1: fiance an engagement ring. She's very simple and minimalistic. She

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Speaker 1: I choose it. Please send any suggestions my way. I'm

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Speaker 1: new to this business. I'll put some photos of what

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Speaker 1: me your best rings. Dang, this got long. Sorry guys, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we've got some comments. Comment one says you might want

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Speaker 1: to rethink your will about the rest of your family too.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like they've been plotting about inheritance behind your back

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Speaker 1: during the misdiagnosis. You might also want to leave them

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Speaker 1: assumed once I passed on, they're getting everything. Comment two

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Speaker 1: just a shame. It's people who should be close. I've

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Speaker 1: Opie says, I know these things happen, but I never

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Speaker 1: of us like it tension, especially my fiance. What a

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Speaker 1: beautiful thing to call her. We're elbing. She was very

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Speaker 2: There's still no way to me that. OPI's like, not

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Speaker 2: one day, just in his mind we should get married.

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Speaker 2: But now he's like on that, he's on that.

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Speaker 3: This is so cool.

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Speaker 2: She's my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Beyonce could have done this ages ago. Instead, when I'm

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Speaker 1: And we've got an update. Do you have any thoughts though?

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Speaker 2: No, that those comments were pretty straightforward and light. Like

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Speaker 3: You need to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and just focus on your girlfriend who's been supporting

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Speaker 2: you and it's has at least shown that she's not

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Speaker 1: Well, we got an update. Hello, I'm the dude who

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Speaker 1: been stringing her along for thirteen years. This is absolutely

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Speaker 1: not the case. First and foremost, it's twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 1: Women can propose if they want to. Second, you have

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Speaker 1: her sister and exactly you stay and was and like

438
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,560
Speaker 1: her sister literally was like try not to show much

439
00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:08,400
Speaker 1: affection because of this, you know, and like was very

440
00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,639
Speaker 1: much like aware of what she was going through, how

441
00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,160
Speaker 1: she was feeling. And then you know, and then she's like, oh,

442
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,040
Speaker 1: well this happened.

443
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:17,679
Speaker 5: I actually no, I didn't.

444
00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:21,359
Speaker 1: But uh oh p continues. My wife said, we're okay,

445
00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:24,119
Speaker 1: but maybe couples counseling wouldn't be a bad idea, and

446
00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:27,560
Speaker 1: I agreed. Now we're looking for a therapist together. I'm

447
00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 1: so glad Annie is finally gone and that we don't

448
00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,920
Speaker 1: have to deal with her again. I'm also so grateful

449
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 1: that my wife trusted me enough to believe me when

450
00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,480
Speaker 1: I talk to her. We're now making arrangements for the holidays,

451
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 1: and even though it's a little late, we're putting up

452
00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 1: some decorations as well. I want to thank all of

453
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,000
Speaker 1: you told me to talk to my wife. I realized

454
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:48,920
Speaker 1: I could have lost my marriage by keeping quiet. Top

455
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,399
Speaker 1: secret spy says, oh Pie, I'm glad you listened to

456
00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,680
Speaker 1: the near unanimous chorus from last time and did the

457
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:56,959
Speaker 1: right thing. Or trust in you can only go up

458
00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:59,280
Speaker 1: from you making it clear that you put her first,

459
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,879
Speaker 1: boys and bears her jolly fashays not the ale. Sounds

460
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 1: like your sister in law is having trouble coping with

461
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 1: her divorce, and that's likely the source of her affection

462
00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 1: for you, If that helps either you or your wife

463
00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 1: at all. Sometimes when people are struggling, they displace their

464
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,880
Speaker 1: feelings and think they feel things for others who offer

465
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 1: support when it's really not that at all. That sounds

466
00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 1: like what's going on with your sister in law. Add

467
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,960
Speaker 1: booze to that, and things and the things people say

468
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,680
Speaker 1: can get pretty wild. That said, when your sister in

469
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 1: law doubled down, claiming you are the one trying to

470
00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 1: initiate things, she lost every bit of sympathy and understanding.

471
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,160
Speaker 1: She was envious of her sister and made a conscious,

472
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:39,960
Speaker 1: sober decision to try to destroy her sister's marriage while

473
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: at the same time using you and her sister for

474
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:46,240
Speaker 1: shelter and comfort. Regardless of whether or not she stays blocked.

475
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 1: This is not someone you or your wife should ever

476
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 1: trust again. Your sister in law's behavior went past the

477
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:55,360
Speaker 1: point of being upset and moved to disgusting. Please protect

478
00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,879
Speaker 1: yourselves and don't let this woman back in your lives.

479
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 1: I'm really, really sorry this happened to you and your wife.

480
00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:02,680
Speaker 1: It's terrible what your sister in law did, but you

481
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 1: both handled it well, which I would agree with.

482
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Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

483
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Speaker 6: to the next one.

484
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 5: My wife confessed that her affair was physical right after

485
00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 5: I forgave her no takebacks. I am a stay at

486
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 5: home dad of three kids, including one with special needs.

487
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 5: For the past couple of years, it has been a

488
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 5: slog therapist after therapist for my kiddo. With cerebral palsy,

489
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 5: two other kids in school, and NonStop responsibilities. This was

490
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 5: something we discussed many times. She works and provides financially

491
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,640
Speaker 5: and I stay at home with the kids. By the way,

492
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Speaker 5: this comes from Watch Available forty five eighty six And

493
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 5: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

494
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Speaker 5: the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia,

495
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 5: and we are here to give some good advice goofully,

496
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,360
Speaker 5: but we don't have all the answers. We would only

497
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 5: tell you what we would do in this situation, but

498
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 5: we would love to know what you would do in

499
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:58,160
Speaker 5: the comments. As Opie says, two years ago, she joined

500
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 5: a jim and began a relationship with John. My wife

501
00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 5: and John would frequently message on Facebook about random things,

502
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 5: but things she tried to hide and delete. She lied

503
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 5: about speaking to him and about what they talked about.

504
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 5: We are done having kids, so during this time she

505
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 5: got a front airbag augmentation and a tummy tuck type procedure.

506
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 5: It felt like she was gearing up to cheat on me,

507
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 5: but she assured me it was just her way of

508
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 5: reclaiming her motherhood body. She spends an unreal amount of

509
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 5: time at the gym before work on off days, it

510
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 5: never stops. She can easily spend three to four hours there. Meanwhile,

511
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 5: I am at home with the kids, making breakfast and lunch,

512
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 5: getting them to school, and taking my child with cerebral

513
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 5: palsy to therapy appointments. I started to feel like a

514
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 5: single parent. While she was living her dream life at

515
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 5: the gym and building a career, I was treating her unfairly.

516
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 5: Last summer, she took her rings off. She did not

517
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 5: tell me directly, but she started saying we were separated,

518
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 5: even though while there were no ground roles or real discussions,

519
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 5: she continued living her life with her rings off, as

520
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 5: if a decision had already been made. We were clearly

521
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 5: in a slump. My suspicion about her relationship with John continued,

522
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 5: but our marriage went through hills and valleys. Some days

523
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 5: felt better and others felt like it was never going

524
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 5: to work. We laid out roles about John, and I

525
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 5: asked her to delete him from her phone and block him.

526
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 5: I said they could communicate at the gym since he

527
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 5: was there so much, but nowhere else. Then in June,

528
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 5: I found a text thread on her phone while trying

529
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 5: to fix it. It was messages upon messages detailing her relationship

530
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:40,159
Speaker 5: with John. He is married as well. My suspicions of

531
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 5: over two years were confirmed. I knew she was cheating

532
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 5: on me. I completely lost it. I was devastated and furious.

533
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 5: She insisted they never had physical contact beyond holding hands

534
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 5: and hugging. She was extremely adamant that was all it

535
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 5: ever was. Things did not feel like they could get better,

536
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 5: but somehow, over the next couple of months they kind

537
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 5: of did. Or maybe I was just missing who my

538
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 5: wife used to be. I convinced myself that an emotional

539
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 5: affair was something I could forgive. I told her I

540
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 5: forgave her, and we recommitted to making things work. It

541
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 5: felt like we were closer and more normal than we

542
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 5: had been in a long time. She seemed open and

543
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 5: honest when I asked questions. The day after our anniversary,

544
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 5: she dropped another bombshell. She admitted the affair was physical.

545
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:31,719
Speaker 5: They had spicy sleep an unknown number of times in

546
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 5: his car while she was at work. She said they

547
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 5: used a Wiener wrapper. I was completely shattered. I had

548
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 5: already grieved once and now I was thrown back into

549
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 5: another wave. Of mental torment and physical PTSD. She lied again.

550
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,879
Speaker 5: She said the last time they had spicy sleep was

551
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 5: in April. I do not know what to believe. She

552
00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:57,880
Speaker 5: says she felt incredibly lonely. I asked why she did

553
00:25:57,920 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 5: not just get a divorce, and she said she never

554
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 5: tended to, and that she cares deeply for our family

555
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 5: and kids. It feels completely contradictory she had spicy sleep

556
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 5: with him while also occasionally having a spicy sleep with me.

557
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 5: She never told me that I was sleeping with her

558
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 5: after she had been with him. Writing that out makes

559
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 5: me feel sick. I'm using an alternate account because there

560
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 5: are details that would make this story clearer, but they

561
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 5: would also make me easily identifiable through my profession and

562
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 5: past post. She says she is utterly remorseful and wants

563
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 5: to work things out. I just got tested for STDs today,

564
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 5: something I never imagined I would have to do. Yet

565
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 5: here I am. I am lost. I am a mid

566
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 5: thirties dad of three, and it feels like my life

567
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 5: is over. My kids are the only thing keeping me

568
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 5: grounded right now. There are some comments common on one

569
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 5: three to four hours at the gym every day. That's

570
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 5: what I was thinking, Yeah, why when Opie said like

571
00:26:58,280 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 5: three to four hours, I.

572
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 1: Was like, all, no, you can do.

573
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 5: We do what like two hours at the gym and chatting? Yes,

574
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,199
Speaker 5: and after an hour and a half, really we're done. Yeah,

575
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 5: Like honestly.

576
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:13,639
Speaker 1: After an hour, we're done.

577
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 5: But like, like consistently, you know, there's no way she's

578
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 5: working three to four hours at the gym.

579
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: Well, she is the most jacks person ever. Yeah.

580
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 5: Either that or like she's doing like one rep and

581
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 5: then taking an hour break.

582
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:29,719
Speaker 1: She's certainly getting her cardio.

583
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's getting something. When is she even home to

584
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 5: care so deeply about the kids? Opi responds, this is

585
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 5: exactly my point. She literally goes to the gym in

586
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 5: the early morning, but sometimes doesn't get home until kids

587
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 5: are on the bus. I would hate to miss waving

588
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 5: them off. I wave them off every morning.

589
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: Ah oh.

590
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 5: Op responds to a longer comment regarding getting an appointment

591
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 5: with a lawyer and marriage counselor does op want to

592
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 5: reconcile and if his wife was picking John over him

593
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 5: at many times? Opie says, I'm reading through this. I

594
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 5: will add when I found said message said text messages.

595
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 5: The first thing she said was she cares about him,

596
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 5: which really pissed me off. She should care about me

597
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 5: as her husband. She finally has told him no more contact,

598
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 5: and she blocked him on every platform and said that

599
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 5: she is willing to have an open device policy. I

600
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 5: do think this is extremely remorseful, at least right now.

601
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 5: He has made some suggestive comments as a way to

602
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 5: make her feel bad. She did put her rings back on,

603
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 5: and the guy wants to reconcile to me as well.

604
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 5: AKA he reached out to me on Instagram and I

605
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 5: immediately blocked his dumb butt. Comment or two said, I've

606
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 5: said before on the sub that if my spouse was

607
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 5: one was the one to come clean about an affair,

608
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 5: I'd be likely to try to work it out. But

609
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 5: this is just this is just a disaster if you

610
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 5: decide to stay, and that's a big if. Couple's counseling,

611
00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 5: quitting the gym, spending her newly available free time time

612
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 5: with the kids she allegedly cares deeply for. But this

613
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 5: all hinges on one question. Do you even want to

614
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 5: work things out? Seriously? Ignore everything I just suggested, ignore

615
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 5: any stay, leave, crucify her in the divorce or other comments.

616
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 5: Take some time and really ask yourself, do you want

617
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 5: to try to work this out? COMMENTO three says, thank

618
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,959
Speaker 5: you for putting the question into words that I've been

619
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 5: trying to do myself in another thread. The real question

620
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 5: is what is she doing to want to make him stay?

621
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 5: Opie response, That's what I'm thinking from the beginning. I'm

622
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 5: convinced she had a plan or deep intention, but she

623
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 5: says things just kind of.

624
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: Fell that way. Yeah right.

625
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 5: She says they were just friends first. But if that's

626
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 5: the case, why did she delete all of her messages

627
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 5: from him when I first saw them. That first happened

628
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 5: like one and a half years ago. This has been

629
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 5: crappy since the start. Comment to four says, your mistake

630
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 5: was thinking any sort of affair would be less harmful.

631
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 5: An affair is an affair, regardless getting physical or not.

632
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 5: Have you wondered why did she have this surge of

633
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 5: honesty so suddenly. I imagine her affair has gone sour.

634
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 5: She's afraid of being dumped by you and is trying

635
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 5: to keep you around. I won't be the one to

636
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 5: tell you how you should take on your life, OPI.

637
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 5: You are the only one who knows how hard this

638
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 5: hurt you and how bad you are now. However, I'd

639
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 5: recommend you to take your feelings in consideration this time.

640
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 5: May you find the inner strength to take the best

641
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 5: decision of for your happiness and for your emotional health.

642
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 5: OHP responds, You're not wrong. Things did get sour after

643
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 5: I found these texts. She immediately ceased that relationship and

644
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 5: blocked him. I think that's why she wants to start

645
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 5: fresh and continue our relationship. She's giving me contradictory information

646
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 5: that it only happened because she was separated and she

647
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 5: was extremely lonely, but then said she doesn't want to

648
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 5: leave her family and that we mean so much to her.

649
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 5: I asked her, plainly, did you think about us when

650
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 5: you were having spice time in his car?

651
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: Update?

652
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 5: My wife of thirteen years confessed about an affair about

653
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 5: three months ago. She told me the day after our

654
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 5: anniversary that they had spicy sleep often. Nearly three months later,

655
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 5: I debated on whether or not I really wanted to

656
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 5: write an update or not. Life has been really a

657
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 5: whirlwind of emotion since that point. For all those people

658
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 5: who gave me encouragement and advice, I really appreciate you

659
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 5: more than you know, we SAWT counseling pretty much asap

660
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 5: since all this shook out, which has been a somewhat

661
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 5: positive experience, I think for both of us. Overall, this

662
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 5: update is really effing boring. Okay, but maybe I need

663
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 5: an outlet right now because I'm feeling it hard today.

664
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 5: Generally speaking, things just are right now. Some days feel

665
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 5: more hopeful than others. But we are decently committed to

666
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 5: making this work for now.

667
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: Decently committed is just a horrid thing kind of about it.

668
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,520
Speaker 1: We're just like it's gonna work today. It is like

669
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: I just really don't wanna. Yeah, most days it's kind

670
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: of I don't really want to. But you know, she's

671
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: she's got one ring on right now. It's not on

672
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: her ring finger, but you know, compromise, but I gave

673
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: it to her. Yeah, circle, And it's also not her

674
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: wedding ring, but I did. I did give it to her.

675
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: I got it from It's a ring pop. Oh it's

676
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 1: oh yes, yes, it's a ring a ring pop.

677
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 5: But we are decently committed to making this work for now,

678
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 5: especially given our situation with our kids, specifically our son.

679
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 5: Our therapy sessions tend to work on our communication and

680
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 5: forward progress. It's not hard to gripe or look for

681
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 5: some sort of validation of my frustrations with my wife

682
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 5: about how things shook out or what I experienced, although

683
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 5: she is entitled to her feelings about how I approach

684
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 5: the relationship in the.

685
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 1: Beginning, which she swears was merely friendly.

686
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 5: In the beginning. Although the more I think about it,

687
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 5: the more it feels like I'm being.

688
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: Gaslighted by my wife.

689
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 5: You are, and maybe a little bit by our therapist.

690
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 5: I generally do not have a problem with my wife

691
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 5: having male friends, and even when we were having a

692
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:08,719
Speaker 5: hard time, I felt that I made my boundary extremely clear. Initially,

693
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 5: when they were just friends, she would message him like regularly,

694
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 5: going into topics that felt boundary crossing. In this she says,

695
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,959
Speaker 5: they were just friends, but now I don't think I'm

696
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 5: comfortable with her having friends like that again. And I

697
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 5: told her that I am a little upset because reflecting

698
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 5: on things now makes me feel like both my wife

699
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 5: and our therapists made it seem like I'm letting my

700
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 5: anxiety get the.

701
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 3: Best of me.

702
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 5: We have moved toward an open device policy. Really on

703
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 5: her end, we have set new boundaries about relationships and

704
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 5: maintaining these relationships. Although now that I read and type

705
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 5: this out, I really feel like I'm giving more than

706
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 5: what she ever had to. Even though she's the one

707
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 5: who decided to pursue a runaway relationship with another man.

708
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 5: She states she didn't feel safe in our marriage and

709
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 5: pursue this relationship. I'm so conflicted on how to feel

710
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 5: about everything. As I type this, I'm learning to rebuild

711
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 5: my trust in her. I need to feel safe again.

712
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 5: I want to feel like this was her character flaw

713
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,839
Speaker 5: rather than a reaction to how she felt I treated her.

714
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 5: She says she felt unsafe, frustrated, unloved. I am not

715
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 5: saying those things aren't untrue, because she is entitled to

716
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,439
Speaker 5: her own feelings, but it feels like an excuse. Things

717
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,399
Speaker 5: were rocky for a while, but she feels that we

718
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 5: were not doing well before I had issues with her

719
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:29,320
Speaker 5: communication with this guy. That feels incorrect because since that moment,

720
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 5: I know I've been short with her, and with good reason.

721
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 5: She literally lied about the amount of communication they had together.

722
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,359
Speaker 5: Feels like I'm being gas lit because she made it

723
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 5: seem like friends have that regular amount of communication. Some

724
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 5: days we end in fights mainly about my tone or

725
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 5: my reaction. It feels like a broken record. She constantly

726
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 5: criticizes how I communicate with her or our kids. It

727
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 5: feels like it never ends, and this is something she

728
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 5: continually goes back to as a reason for her abandonment.

729
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 5: But some days it feels like it ends more peacefully

730
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,240
Speaker 5: in calm. I guess going back to why I decided

731
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 5: to write today was really about feeling effing worthless. I

732
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:09,320
Speaker 5: feel absolutely unfit and unworthy. I let my wife trample

733
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 5: on me, and she makes me feel that it really

734
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 5: was my fault for her actions. It feels that the

735
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 5: therapist also wants me to understand these flaws and how

736
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 5: they shape the events that happen. I don't know, but

737
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 5: maybe the therapist is right. I am noticeably anxious about

738
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,760
Speaker 5: anything my wife does, and I feel that it won't change.

739
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 5: I will always worry about who she's talking to. She

740
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,719
Speaker 5: says she's committed to our relationship, but it feels.

741
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 6: Like such a crappy excuse.

742
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 5: I told her that's what you said on our wedding day,

743
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,720
Speaker 5: and look at this effing messof I wish my update

744
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 5: contained more substance. I wish part of me could say

745
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 5: I left her cheating, but God alimony slash child support.

746
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 1: God abs it.

747
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 5: Met someone new, God abs buddy. I can't do that

748
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 5: right now. I try to stay busy at work and

749
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 5: at home.

750
00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: Edit.

751
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 5: Just for clarity's sake, my wife did make it abundantly

752
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 5: clear that she wants nothing to do with him. In

753
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 5: more ways than one, He's been finding ways to continue

754
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 5: to seek her attention. He even wrote an email to

755
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 5: her and she showed me immediately. Okay, well that's growth.

756
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 5: But also I don't know.

757
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I think ope, just in

758
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: the way that you're writing this it, I don't know

759
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 1: if you can, if you want to work it out.

760
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 1: It doesn't seem like you're there.

761
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 5: It doesn't seem like it's ever gonna get better to you, op,

762
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 5: because it seems like you're always going to think about this.

763
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 5: This is just always going to be on your mind.

764
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 5: And sometimes that's how people react. And that's okay, that's

765
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 5: just how you are.

766
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 1: Incredibly reasonable reaction.

767
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, like you, this is way validated. But I I

768
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 5: just think that now you're just trying to work it

769
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,399
Speaker 5: out when it's not not going to work. Yeah, it's

770
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 5: and that's just that's just the way it is, and

771
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:59,479
Speaker 5: it's and you know, it happens to a lot of people.

772
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 5: You're not the one, so you know. But there are

773
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 5: some comments. Comment to one, I'm sorry, dude, I guess

774
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 5: you decided to stay. I know I wouldn't. It's easier

775
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 5: said than done. Yes, but she lied, lied and lied.

776
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,479
Speaker 5: I'm sure there's more lies in there too. Opie says,

777
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 5: my decision to stay isn't set in stone. It's built

778
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 5: on the idea that we are extremely fragile and she

779
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 5: has to put in the work. If not, or if

780
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 5: she crosses our transparent boundary, I'm not giving her a

781
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 5: third chance. Comment to two, I'm curious. Have you informed

782
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 5: his wife? Has she cut contact with him? Does she

783
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 5: still go to the gym? What is she doing to

784
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 5: make this work on her end? Please elaborate. I'm genuinely curious.

785
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 5: I would like to know how you're doing to be

786
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 5: able to move forward in this. I'm sorry you're going

787
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 5: through this update mate, Opie says, as far as I know,

788
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 5: he and his wife are separated and made that an agreement.

789
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 5: So to him and his wife, he was within his

790
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 5: own rights, That's all.

791
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:55,280
Speaker 6: Hearsay.

792
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 5: Though, and I'd rather not think about it anymore. Does

793
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 5: my wife go to the gym, buddy? Let me tell

794
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 5: you she's still addicted to it. Goes every day in

795
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 5: the am since me and my kids are still sleeping.

796
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 5: Still works out for three to four hours at a

797
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,919
Speaker 5: time usually, although she is quite social when she goes,

798
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 5: which is why it takes her so long. She finds

799
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 5: that her identity really relies on her ability to maintain

800
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 5: this gym time.

801
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: I've noticed.

802
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 5: I think if you took it away from her, I

803
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:26,240
Speaker 5: don't know what she would do. COMMENTO two says fine,

804
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 5: I can understand that, Jim, But is the same gym?

805
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 2: Like?

806
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 5: Is this just business as usual? They still attend the

807
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 5: gym together? Please, I hope not. You can't be that naive.

808
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 5: There has to be some consequences, at least in my experience.

809
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 5: If nothing changes, nothing changes. What has she done exactly

810
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 5: in this reconciliation to prove to you that you're not

811
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 5: her second choice? Opie responds, it is not the same gym.

812
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 5: Although it's funny when she complains about not being able

813
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,840
Speaker 5: to go there mainly because of her old friend group

814
00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 5: and proximity to our house. It makes me want to

815
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 5: stare at her and laugh as if she didn't cause

816
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:03,720
Speaker 5: that entire problem.

817
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: That's ridiculous. I would be so frustrated if she was like, oh,

818
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: I just missed the old gem like blah blah blah.

819
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, well, maybe you shouldn't have pooped where

820
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 1: you work out.

821
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 5: Oohoo, don't poop at your gym, don't poop, don't poop there,

822
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 5: don't poop where you lift comment to three. Fire your therapist,

823
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 5: whoever they are, they suck. You need to find one

824
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 5: specializing in infidelity who will hold her feet through the fire.

825
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 5: Unless your therapist holds that line, then no matter what

826
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 5: was going on in the marriage, cheating is inexcusable, and

827
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 5: that the first priority is to deal with your pain

828
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 5: and the nuclear bomb that your wife chose to blow

829
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:42,720
Speaker 5: up in the middle of your marriage. They are crap

830
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 5: and completely unqualified to do their job. Good luck ohe

831
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 5: He responds, she has tried EMDR therapy for my trauma.

832
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 5: I believe they are qualified at least somewhat, but I

833
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 5: wish she would be more assertive about protecting me given

834
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 5: what transpired, although to that effect, I know she needs

835
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 5: to remain neutral, so I'm not sure what good therapy

836
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 5: looks like. Comment refour says, find a new couple's therapists

837
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:11,280
Speaker 5: because yours sounds very biased, and I really suggest individual

838
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 5: therapy because you need a space away from her to

839
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 5: work through this. Opie response. I agree, I think individual

840
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 5: therapy would really help me. Comment refive says, never ever

841
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 5: be a stay at home dad. Women lose all respect

842
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,400
Speaker 5: for their house. Okay, that is stupid comment. Stupid comment.

843
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're skipping your studio.

844
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 5: My there's a there's a second up day, let's just

845
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 5: get into it.

846
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 1: I've given my advice. I think individual therapy is a

847
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: great idea.

848
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:43,760
Speaker 6: I mean, just just leave.

849
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:46,239
Speaker 5: Op That's why that's my thing. Just leave, just get

850
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 5: out there. It's not getting better. Update two self esteem

851
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 5: repair following affairs, same day, different subreddit. Oh my wife

852
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,280
Speaker 5: at thirteen years cheated on me. We have been seeking

853
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 5: counseling and trying to work through it, although today I'm

854
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 5: realizing that I have literally no self esteem anymore. Dang,

855
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 5: she works out constantly while I may stay at home

856
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 5: parent and it shows nout. Going into my past or

857
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 5: if you need context, you can go into my post history.

858
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 5: How do you begin to love yourself again, especially since

859
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 5: I have decided to stay.

860
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:18,360
Speaker 1: That's the thing. If you're finding that you can't love yourself,

861
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 1: that your self esteem is just gone, then maybe the

862
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:23,919
Speaker 1: only way that you can love yourself is to leave.

863
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're going to

864
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 6: go to the next one.

865
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,759
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866
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867
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868
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Speaker 1: I accidentally ruined Mother's Day for my in law's because

869
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:40,320
Speaker 1: I couldn't keep quiet.

870
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Speaker 3: You just had to be a little church mouse.

871
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: I thirty eight female, have been married to my husband

872
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 1: forty one male for seven years this coming June, and

873
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 1: we have been together for nine years total. We have

874
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: two children, twin boys who are five months old. This

875
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: is not easy for me to write, but I need

876
00:41:58,640 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 1: to get it all out.

877
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 3: Oh no oh no, no oh no.

878
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from inside Ingenuity six seven

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00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota.

882
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,840
Speaker 1: And I'm Vincent and that's Carly and we're here to

883
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 1: give good advice, goofy, but we don't have all the answers.

884
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 1: We only know what we do, So let us know

885
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 1: what you would do in the comments, and Ope says.

886
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,760
Speaker 1: Two weeks before Mother's Day, I found out my husband

887
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:29,720
Speaker 1: had been cheating on me for at least seven months.

888
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day, Ouch. I used his phone to order

889
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 1: lawn chairs on the Loew's app since it's tied to

890
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: our card and I wanted to use our rewards. While

891
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:42,760
Speaker 1: I was looking for the set I wanted, he received

892
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: a snapchat notification from a woman. I didn't even know

893
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: he had Snapchat, so it caught my attention at the

894
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 1: time my husband was outside mowing the grass. I opened

895
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: the snap and it was a spicy pic of a

896
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: woman who looked to be in her mid twenties, with

897
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:05,280
Speaker 1: the caption ew with a gross caption.

898
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 7: That's what I'll say, Hey, I missed it when we

899
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 7: were bumping uglies the other day, Just like a caption

900
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 7: that just says, yeah, we have made relations with one

901
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 7: another and I'd like to do it again.

902
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: My jaw hit the floor. I started going through his

903
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 1: text messages, but there were no conversations with other women.

904
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 1: There only harmless messages from employees at his dermatology practice.

905
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 1: That made my stomach sink even more. I checked his

906
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 1: Snapchat and saw no chat history with her, which I

907
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 1: assume is because he deletes everything. Well, it deletes itself,

908
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: That's why people use Snapchat. I am not familiar with Snapchat,

909
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: so I googled how it works while trying to see

910
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 1: if deleted messages could be recovered. I did not want

911
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: to waste the short time I had while he was

912
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: still mowing, so I gave up. I did scroll through

913
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: his friend's list and ended up taking photos of it

914
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 1: with my phone. I continued checking his apps and everything

915
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:08,360
Speaker 1: seemed normal until I found a secure folder. It required

916
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 1: a password, and after trying a few I figured it out.

917
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: The pass code was the date of our first date,

918
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 1: which felt especially cruel. That is insane, yeah, to put

919
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: the date of your first date, like your anniversary date,

920
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 1: as the password to your hidden cheating folder. Inside there

921
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:32,760
Speaker 1: were dozens of spicy photos of at least three women,

922
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:37,760
Speaker 1: including the woman from Snapchat. I recognized her immediately because

923
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: she has a very distinct tattoo on her stomach. Along

924
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: with the photos, there were two videos of that same

925
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: woman doing spozy stuff with him. My heart felt like

926
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 1: it was going to explode out of my chest. I

927
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: started shaking and crying uncontrollably. I forced myself to Breathe

928
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: grabbed my phone and started taking pictures of everything. I

929
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 1: recorded short clips of the videos because I could not

930
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: bring myself to watch them fully. I went through his

931
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:07,279
Speaker 1: phone again and realized he might have hidden apps. I

932
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 1: googled how to find hidden apps on Android and followed

933
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 1: the steps. Three apps were hidden, two messaging apps and

934
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: a hookup app called adult friend Finder. Right, a hookup

935
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:19,439
Speaker 1: app called adult friend Finding.

936
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 3: Maybe that's just harmless, you know, maybe he's just looking

937
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 3: for friends who are adults.

938
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 1: I debated opening them because I was terrified of what

939
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:30,359
Speaker 1: I would see, but I needed to know. He had

940
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 1: been messaging at least four different women, including the woman

941
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 1: from the videos. I found proof that he had spicy

942
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 1: sleep with at least two of them. All of the

943
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: messages made me sick, but the ones from the video

944
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 1: woman shattered me completely.

945
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 3: Not the video woman, not the videop Oh.

946
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: I had to stop and throw up from the stress

947
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: and anxiety.

948
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 3: That's terrible. Yeah, I'd be disappearing.

949
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: Oh this is so awful. Some of the messages that

950
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 1: hurt me the most were burned into my mind. She

951
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: asked him to tell her how much better her body

952
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: was than mine, and he did. She sent a spicy

953
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 1: pick and asked how her body compared to mine, and

954
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 1: he told her there was no comparison and called her

955
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: a goddess. Reading those words broke something in me. I

956
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: had just given birth to twins five months earlier. I

957
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: was already incredibly insecure about my body, my weight, and

958
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 1: my C section scar. I was about twenty five pounds

959
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: heavier than before pregnancy. My husband and I stopped having

960
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 1: spicy sleep about two months before I gave birth because

961
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 1: it was painful for me, which lines up with when

962
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:43,280
Speaker 1: he started messaging these women. Since the twins were born,

963
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 1: we had only had spicy sleep about three times due

964
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:51,319
Speaker 1: to my exhaustion and insecurity while caring for and breastfeeding them,

965
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: I took photos of everything I found. The earliest messages

966
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 1: were from seven months earlier, which means this started while

967
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: I was pregnant.

968
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 3: The good old classic. This guy is terrible, Let's throw

969
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 3: him in the pit.

970
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: I also discovered that the night after my C section,

971
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 1: while our premature twins were in the NICUU. He met

972
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:18,399
Speaker 1: the video woman at her apartment. He told me he

973
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: was getting food and checking on his office. Anything could

974
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: have happened to our babies and he would not have

975
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 1: been there. I closed all the apps, made sure the

976
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 1: hidden ones were hidden again, and put his phone back

977
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 1: exactly where I found it. I cleared the Snapchat notification

978
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: and hoped he would not notice. Then I called my

979
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: best friend of over thirty three years, who was also

980
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: my business partner. I told him everything and completely fell apart.

981
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 1: He helped me calm down and told me not to

982
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:49,080
Speaker 1: confront my husband yet. He advised me to speak with

983
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:53,000
Speaker 1: divorce lawyers immediately and to meet with the best ones

984
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 1: so they could not represent my husband. He also offered

985
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:58,440
Speaker 1: me and the twins a place to stay, as saying

986
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 1: his husband would be happy to us. His support kept

987
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 1: me standing. Over the next week, my best friend helped

988
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 1: me with the twins while I met with five divorce lawyers.

989
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 1: I hired the one I felt was the best. She

990
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: advised me not to leave the family home, so I stayed.

991
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 1: She immediately started the divorce paperwork while I pretended nothing

992
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 1: was wrong and tried to keep everything normal. Mother's Day

993
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 1: arrived and my husband made me breakfast in bed. He

994
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 1: gave me expensive jewelry flowers and made a big show

995
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 1: of it. I could not enjoy any of it because

996
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: it felt fake. Well it is, but I pretended to

997
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 1: be happy. That afternoon, my husband's father hosted a cookout

998
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: for Mother's Day. Everyone attending had a baby under a

999
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 1: year old, so was everyone's first Mother's Day except my

1000
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: mother in law. I told my husband I didn't feel

1001
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 1: like going, but he guilted me by saying his dad

1002
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 1: had a big surprise for me. I reluctantly agreed and

1003
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 1: asked if my best friend could come since his mother

1004
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 1: passed away the year before. My father in law said yes.

1005
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 1: I planned to act like nothing was wrong and focus

1006
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:11,080
Speaker 1: on my twins. I am closest to my sister in law, Julie,

1007
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 1: who introduced me to my husband ten years ago. At first,

1008
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:18,400
Speaker 1: the day was actually nice. My husband and the men cooked,

1009
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: the woman held the babies, and my best friend helped

1010
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 1: in the kitchen so the moms could relax. After we ate,

1011
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: my mother in law started taking pictures. She told my

1012
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: husband to sit next to me and put his arm

1013
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: around me. She jokingly said, pretend like you love her.

1014
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: Oh nah, this is you didn't. Okay, you've done. The

1015
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:43,360
Speaker 3: only one who ruined Mother's Day is your terrible husband.

1016
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 3: And yeah, like I would struggle to hold it together

1017
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 3: for any amount of times, Yeah, that's with them. With

1018
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 3: that being said, no, it's over.

1019
00:49:56,120 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 1: I'm sobbing. It's over, and I completely broke down. I

1020
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 1: started sobbing uncontrollably. My in laws hugged me, and my

1021
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 1: best friend stood by my side. My father in law

1022
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 1: asked what was wrong. I looked at my best friend

1023
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: and he gave me a look that said I could

1024
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: tell if I wanted. I told him that my husband

1025
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:17,320
Speaker 1: has been cheating on me for at least seven months.

1026
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 1: My husband immediately denied it, saying it wasn't true and

1027
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 1: that we were his whole world. I told them about

1028
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: the messages, photos, videos, and apps. He looked faint and

1029
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 1: sat down after a long silence. Julie asked him why,

1030
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:35,919
Speaker 1: and he claimed he only talked to women and never

1031
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 1: physically cheated. But she just said, I've got messages, videos,

1032
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 1: What did you think the videos were of? What did

1033
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 1: you think the videos were of?

1034
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 3: I just once I'd like to see him go yeah,

1035
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 3: he got me. No I did.

1036
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:49,520
Speaker 1: I did all that.

1037
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 3: No, it was this, No it was that, No, it

1038
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 3: was this, and then yeah I did. Just say it.

1039
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 3: Just say it, Just do it.

1040
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 1: You've already been caught.

1041
00:50:58,200 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 3: We've caught redhand.

1042
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1043
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 8: I had a weird one though, where one time I

1044
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 8: accused someone of it and they fully just went, yeah

1045
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 8: it went okay, Why Andy went I don't know, Well.

1046
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't know what to do there either. My

1047
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 1: best friend called him a liar. I showed messages and

1048
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 1: explained everything, including the videos. My husband kept denying at

1049
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 1: even claiming that messages about spicy Sleep were just role playing.

1050
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: When Julie's husband grabbed his phone to look, my husband

1051
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 1: snatched it back. At that point, my mother in law,

1052
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: Julie and Fran were crying. My brother in law, Chris

1053
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: started yelling at me, saying I ruined Mother's Day and

1054
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: that this was not the time or place. I'm sorry,

1055
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Did op breaking down and crying seem like

1056
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 1: she meant to bring this up on Mother's Day. Maybe

1057
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: we should have a little bit of tact and be like, oh, oh,

1058
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: the guy that cheated on her for seven months on

1059
00:51:56,280 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 1: his pregnant wife. Maybe that's the person I should be blaming.

1060
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 3: Mother's Day, can't. I can't blame him, he's my brother.

1061
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 1: Julie defended me and said my husband ruined it. Fran

1062
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,240
Speaker 1: agreed with Chris and said I was wrong for bringing

1063
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: it up. Truly insane. Truly insane to see your sister

1064
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 1: in law sobbing uncontrollably and be like, how dare you

1065
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: bring this up at Mother's Day?

1066
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 3: She's be like, oh, here she goes again.

1067
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 1: Always sobbing uncontrollably. This girl.

1068
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:33,919
Speaker 3: It's always about me, me, me with this one, isn't it? Ah? Yeah, yeai.

1069
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,680
Speaker 1: Both of my twins started crying and I needed to leave.

1070
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 1: I asked my best friend to take me home and

1071
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 1: we move the car seats outside. My mother in law

1072
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 1: told me I should have kept it to myself and

1073
00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: that future Mother's days would now be tainted. I ignored

1074
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,760
Speaker 1: her and left. My husband stayed at his parents' house

1075
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: for two nights. My father in law later told me

1076
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,279
Speaker 1: I did not ruin Mother's Day. My husband did. He

1077
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: said he understood why I broke down. He admitted that

1078
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: some family members were still angry with me, but he

1079
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 1: believed they would get over it. I still feel horrible

1080
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 1: and guilty for letting everything come out that day. I

1081
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: keep replaying it over and over in my head. Am

1082
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:21,280
Speaker 1: I the a hole? No? No, you literally were keeping

1083
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: it in and then you just broke down. It happens, It.

1084
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:29,760
Speaker 3: Happens, not an a hole for a second. I wouldn't

1085
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:31,799
Speaker 3: have even gone. I would have been like, oh, yeah,

1086
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 3: I don't know. I can't, I can't do it.

1087
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 1: Gilt tripped her into going No.

1088
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:38,879
Speaker 3: I would have just been like, I'm ill, I'm physically ill.

1089
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 3: I can't do it. Yeah, no, I can't even be.

1090
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:44,799
Speaker 3: I can't pretend. I can't pretend to be love you

1091
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 3: and be around you and your whole family when I

1092
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 3: know this stuff. And that's the end of this story.

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Speaker 3: I had an a with my engaged coworker, and now

1098
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:04,840
Speaker 3: she's calling me the cheater.

1099
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 6: Well you kind of both the cheaters, right.

1100
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's kind of. It takes two scenarios.

1101
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:14,720
Speaker 1: She's doing a lot worse though.

1102
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 3: I twenty nine male, met this girl, Diane, twenty four female,

1103
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:21,640
Speaker 3: in May or June of last year. We work in

1104
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 3: the same youth sports organization and crossed paths. One day

1105
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:28,959
Speaker 3: I had no immediate feelings towards Diane. I just thought

1106
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 3: she was cute. One night, we finally got to sit

1107
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 3: down and talk about softball and life. We learned that's

1108
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 3: what did it. These people live in the Midwest. We

1109
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 3: learned a few things about each other, and I ended

1110
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 3: up challenging her in simple skills competitions since the facility

1111
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 3: was empty. This story comes from I'm not very sneaky,

1112
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 3: and if you want to submit your own story, go

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Speaker 3: to the r slash. Okay, storytime Separate at I'm Dakota,

1114
00:54:56,239 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 3: I'm Keon, and we are here to give good advice.

1115
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 3: But we are goofballs. You don't always have the right

1116
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 3: advice or any advice. Some things are out of our purview.

1117
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 6: This goofy ball.

1118
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:08,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're balls at goof So.

1119
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 3: If you were like, I know the thing, tell us

1120
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 3: in the comments and Op says, some of the info

1121
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:20,319
Speaker 3: I found out was that she was engaged. So you're

1122
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 3: both dirty, little scoundrel cheaters.

1123
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 6: Okay, he just found out.

1124
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:28,719
Speaker 8: So now what he does next will decide if he's

1125
00:55:28,760 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 8: a dirty scoundrel, cheater or oh.

1126
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 3: As we were going through the different competitions, I could

1127
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 3: tell she was having fun but getting frustrated because I

1128
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 3: continuously beat her at everything. I wonder how or why hmm,

1129
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 3: So I decided we halt the games and work on

1130
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 3: why she was struggling. Due to the nature of the sport,

1131
00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 3: I had to physically work with her movements. I was

1132
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 3: extremely respectful towards her boundaries, asking if I could move

1133
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:58,359
Speaker 3: and touch her so that I could put her in

1134
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 3: good positions. A Slutely, nothing spicy happened, but I did

1135
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:06,879
Speaker 3: feel a spark. My flirty side started to show a bit.

1136
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 3: We stayed at the facility until like two or three am,

1137
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 3: just enjoying each other's company. At the end of the night,

1138
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 3: we both knew there was chemistry between us. We hung

1139
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 3: out like that a good handful of times, sometimes staying

1140
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 3: up well past sunrise. Dude, you are you were a cheater?

1141
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1142
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:25,759
Speaker 7: You know?

1143
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 6: Now you know that she's engaged.

1144
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 2: This is this is on you.

1145
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:33,800
Speaker 3: She called me the cheater, but I felt the spark.

1146
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 3: She did not go back to her fiance sometimes until

1147
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:40,759
Speaker 3: maybe seven, eight, or even nine am the next day.

1148
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,399
Speaker 3: Eventually it got to the point where it's obvious we

1149
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 3: like one another. We flirt all the time, we spend

1150
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 3: large amount of time together. One night, we found ourselves

1151
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 3: in the parking lot of a high school talking and

1152
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 3: flirting up a storm. I drew the line and said,

1153
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:58,319
Speaker 3: where is this going. You're engaged, I'm single. We can't

1154
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 3: keep doing this. It's not right or fair to your fiance. Well,

1155
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:06,640
Speaker 3: that triggered a huge discussion, which wound up in us

1156
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:11,400
Speaker 3: embracing and her kissing me with our hands starting to wander.

1157
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 1: See. I think my.

1158
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 8: Problem is Opie's trying to make it sound like he's

1159
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 8: totally innocent in this whole thing, Like, well, she kissed

1160
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 8: me and I was like yeah, and then our hands

1161
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 8: started to wander, like dude, you know what's happening.

1162
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 3: Eventually she spoke to me about leaving her fiance, not

1163
00:57:34,040 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 3: because of me, but apparently she has been extremely unhappy.

1164
00:57:38,920 --> 00:57:41,880
Speaker 3: He's been neglectful, and it was like living with a roommate,

1165
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:43,160
Speaker 3: not a significant other.

1166
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 2: But you opened her eyes more, Opie, So technically at

1167
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 2: the very end of the day, also was.

1168
00:57:50,440 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 3: You I was on board with her decision. I had

1169
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 3: feelings for her. As the days went along through June

1170
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 3: into July twenty twenty three, we ended up sleep together

1171
00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 3: multiple times.

1172
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 6: God, I never would have guessed.

1173
00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm into her, but I'll wait.

1174
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 3: She had stayed at my place dozens of times, lying

1175
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 3: to her fiance with excuses about girls' night out. I

1176
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,880
Speaker 3: did voice my concern about her still waiting to end

1177
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 3: things with him, because it was making me uncomfortable that

1178
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 3: I had laid in bed with her while she was

1179
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 3: on the phone with him or picking her up from

1180
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 3: his place. I am not really sure why I didn't

1181
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 3: end things, but I just stuck the course until around

1182
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 3: either the last week of June or the first week

1183
00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 3: of July twenty three. I got crushed. I put pressure

1184
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 3: on about ending things with him or I have to go.

1185
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 1: Wait.

1186
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 6: I thought she did end things with him.

1187
00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 3: No, she just said was like I'm going to. It

1188
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 3: was just I'm going to. I remember having a phone

1189
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 3: call with her and I told her, you've been talking

1190
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,479
Speaker 3: about ending things with this dude, but you never did.

1191
00:58:57,720 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 3: Almost like you're trying to want your cake and eat

1192
00:58:59,920 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 3: it too. Either I had to go or Diane's fiance

1193
00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 3: had to go that night. She ended up dropping me.

1194
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:10,959
Speaker 3: I was hurt, fuming, and pissed off.

1195
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,680
Speaker 2: This guy really thought, He's like, yeah, I have a

1196
00:59:13,720 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 2: better chance.

1197
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 1: Don't understand I taught her softball form.

1198
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:21,200
Speaker 6: She has to stay with me.

1199
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 3: I immediately deleted everything about her messages, contact information, everything. All

1200
00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 3: that love I had turned straight into hate. I stayed

1201
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 3: strong and didn't pick up any of her calls. I

1202
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:36,280
Speaker 3: even walked past her with a smile at work, not

1203
00:59:36,320 --> 00:59:39,640
Speaker 3: acknowledging her one bit. When that all happened, I met

1204
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 3: Tris twenty one female through a friend. Tris was a

1205
00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 3: very attractive girl, athletic and seemed to be down to earth.

1206
00:59:48,400 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 3: She was stunning, but I did not pursue. I didn't

1207
00:59:51,360 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 3: have the confidence, nor was I really over Diane. May ninth,

1208
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four rolled around. After not speaking with Diane,

1209
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 3: I finally broke and responded. Diane and I had a

1210
01:00:04,120 --> 01:00:09,800
Speaker 3: phone conversation that night. She laid it all out, her feelings, thoughts, everything,

1211
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 3: which convinced me to just be friends with her, and

1212
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 3: I reluctantly agree.

1213
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 2: What is going on here?

1214
01:00:15,960 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 3: Why would you do this?

1215
01:00:17,240 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 2: You're like, you see this mess that you have also

1216
01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 2: are creating, and you're like, let me get my trash

1217
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 2: and throw it in there. I'll maybe get clean right now,

1218
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:27,320
Speaker 2: let's clean that up.

1219
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:31,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just just stay away, stay away from her.

1220
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 3: You're both like toxic. Just stay away from each other.

1221
01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 3: She was still with her fiance, and in my mind,

1222
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 3: she screwed me over, so I labeled her as a

1223
01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:46,240
Speaker 3: walking red flag. This guy's about to lay out Diane's

1224
01:00:46,320 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 3: red flags and you'll never guess what the first one is.

1225
01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 2: One number one me.

1226
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:57,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, Diane's red flags. Cheated emotionally and physically on her

1227
01:00:57,360 --> 01:00:58,600
Speaker 3: fiance with me.

1228
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: This depoot with me.

1229
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 3: She lied to both me and fiance, led me on

1230
01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 3: only friends with males because Diane doesn't get along well

1231
01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 3: with women. Didn't actually break things off with X until

1232
01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:20,640
Speaker 3: much later. Emotionally cheated and planned to physically cheat with

1233
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,560
Speaker 3: another dude on her snapchat before ME found this out

1234
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 3: way later while snooping. As each day went by, Diane

1235
01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 3: and I had small conversations at the facility, nothing more

1236
01:01:32,680 --> 01:01:38,040
Speaker 3: than casual conversation. So one night, Diane, Tris Vina twenty

1237
01:01:38,080 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 3: seven female, and another friend all ended up at the facility.

1238
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 3: Tris and Vina were already best friends. Diane was introduced

1239
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 3: last to the group. We all hung out talking and

1240
01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 3: messing around. All four of us continued to hang out

1241
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:57,440
Speaker 3: as a group. July eighteenth, twenty twenty three, Diane starts

1242
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 3: to grill me about Tris, asking if I think Tris

1243
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 3: is interested in me. I said no. At the same time,

1244
01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 3: Diane began to finagle herself back into an intimate friends

1245
01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 3: with benefits type thing with me, although she was still

1246
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:16,520
Speaker 3: with her fiance. I told her nothing more than friends

1247
01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 3: with benefits. The last week of July came about and

1248
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 3: she finally calls everything off with her fiance. She didn't

1249
01:02:23,400 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 3: run to anyone but me to help her pick up

1250
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 3: the pieces. In all honesty, it was weird how she

1251
01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 3: handled the breakup, almost emotionless. She just moved on like

1252
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 3: six years were nothing to her. About the twenty fourth

1253
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:39,400
Speaker 3: of July, there was a pool party at my friend's

1254
01:02:39,560 --> 01:02:43,480
Speaker 3: stepfather's place. Diane, Tris, Vina, and a few other friends

1255
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 3: were invited. According to one of my buddies, Diane was

1256
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:49,880
Speaker 3: complaining and upset with the fact I was giving everyone else,

1257
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:55,520
Speaker 3: especially Tris, my attention, which was completely untrue. Diane separated

1258
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 3: herself from the group. She told me she was jealous

1259
01:02:58,040 --> 01:03:01,320
Speaker 3: of me throwing and tossing everyone around. I told her,

1260
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 3: we are grown people who happened to be athletes playing

1261
01:03:04,240 --> 01:03:07,440
Speaker 3: keep away in the pool. Everyone was playing it except you.

1262
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:10,480
Speaker 3: So from then on, my friends decided to be on

1263
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 3: my butt about dating Diane. I chose to stay silent.

1264
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 3: Oh did you You chose to stay silent instead of

1265
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 3: exposing that you're both morally horrifically compromised. Great. I did

1266
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 3: not want to embarrass and air out any dirt about Diane.

1267
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:31,400
Speaker 3: She was everyone's sweetheart. It made me resent her more

1268
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 3: and I was extremely close to just cutting her off.

1269
01:03:34,840 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 3: Going into the first week of August, I found my

1270
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 3: channel to cut Diane out. Everything that happened between us

1271
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:43,680
Speaker 3: ate a hole through me. I ended up becoming very

1272
01:03:43,720 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 3: short with her. I was disgusted with her and overall

1273
01:03:47,360 --> 01:03:50,400
Speaker 3: with myself. I took a family friend's boat out and

1274
01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:53,040
Speaker 3: the whole group was supposed to go. Diane ended up

1275
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:55,440
Speaker 3: dropping out due to some family issues, so it was

1276
01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 3: only Viena, Trice and I going out on the river.

1277
01:03:58,120 --> 01:04:00,600
Speaker 3: No way you're gonna see your avenue to breakup is

1278
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 3: just cheating on her with Tris. Right, there's no way

1279
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:10,439
Speaker 3: that that's what you're talking about, right, right. We get

1280
01:04:10,440 --> 01:04:15,080
Speaker 3: there and I get the barbecuing. While the barbecue was going,

1281
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:18,840
Speaker 3: we played keep away in the water. Of course, being

1282
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:22,920
Speaker 3: completely oblivious, Tris made a move on me. I was

1283
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 3: caught off guard.

1284
01:04:24,480 --> 01:04:27,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, she made the move on me.

1285
01:04:28,400 --> 01:04:32,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, sure, sure man. Tris again makes another pass

1286
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:35,080
Speaker 3: at me. She did it a third time, back to

1287
01:04:35,120 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 3: her butt up against me and gave me a look.

1288
01:04:38,440 --> 01:04:42,080
Speaker 3: I couldn't lie. Instantly, I was turned on, and I

1289
01:04:42,240 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 3: thought I found my way out. Since that day, I

1290
01:04:45,760 --> 01:04:52,720
Speaker 3: began to talk with Tris.

1291
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 8: So you're relationship thing with this person was a different relationship.

1292
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 3: She opened up to me and it seemed like we

1293
01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,440
Speaker 3: had a bit in common. For about a week or so,

1294
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,240
Speaker 3: we talked and did a few things together. At this point,

1295
01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:04,520
Speaker 3: I was going to stop things with Diane due to

1296
01:05:04,560 --> 01:05:07,920
Speaker 3: the fact I held so much hatred and resentment towards her,

1297
01:05:08,360 --> 01:05:11,080
Speaker 3: and the fact that everyone else wanted to chime in

1298
01:05:11,160 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 3: every day about Diane without knowing everything I knew. Diane

1299
01:05:15,480 --> 01:05:18,200
Speaker 3: picked up on the change towards her. She started to

1300
01:05:18,280 --> 01:05:20,920
Speaker 3: ask questions, do I annoy you? Please? Tell me if

1301
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:24,160
Speaker 3: you don't want me around anymore, and starting in on Tris,

1302
01:05:24,680 --> 01:05:27,760
Speaker 3: I refused to answer or just flat out lie, wow,

1303
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 3: that's health. I should have stated how I felt, but

1304
01:05:31,400 --> 01:05:33,680
Speaker 3: was met with you need to stop holding that stuff

1305
01:05:33,720 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 3: over my head and let it go. Oh so again

1306
01:05:35,560 --> 01:05:38,520
Speaker 3: it's her fault, gotcha. As I got to know Tris,

1307
01:05:38,560 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 3: something changed. She had to leave to get back to college.

1308
01:05:42,080 --> 01:05:44,560
Speaker 3: But before she left, I had asked her pretty in

1309
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:48,000
Speaker 3: depth questions that she could not answer with maturity. The

1310
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 3: red flags were starting to.

1311
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:53,160
Speaker 8: Show, darning darting to show.

1312
01:05:53,120 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 3: You are the red flag, my guy. Tris had the

1313
01:05:55,840 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 3: most severe case of FOMO. What set me over the

1314
01:05:59,440 --> 01:06:03,600
Speaker 3: edge and I next victim, had helped her work out

1315
01:06:03,680 --> 01:06:06,080
Speaker 3: for her sport the whole time she was in town.

1316
01:06:06,360 --> 01:06:10,280
Speaker 3: Her attitude had changed and became more demanding. I didn't

1317
01:06:10,320 --> 01:06:15,040
Speaker 3: like that, and it's all about you, buddy, So I

1318
01:06:15,120 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 3: made the comment when she leaves, she isn't going to

1319
01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:20,600
Speaker 3: speak to us anymore. After the first month of being gone,

1320
01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:23,720
Speaker 3: Tris did not contact or rarely reached out to us.

1321
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:27,919
Speaker 3: She became extremely selfish and I didn't want any part

1322
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 3: of it.

1323
01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 6: She didn't want to talk to me.

1324
01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 1: He was so selfish of her.

1325
01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:36,640
Speaker 3: There was only room in this town for one incredibly

1326
01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 3: selfish butthole, and his name is my name. I felt

1327
01:06:40,400 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 3: bad for Vena because her and Tris were supposed to

1328
01:06:43,400 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 3: be best friends, and Tris never updated or checked in.

1329
01:06:46,520 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 3: It really hurt Vena's feelings. I finally got on a

1330
01:06:49,520 --> 01:06:51,920
Speaker 3: phone call with Tris and asked her why she doesn't

1331
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:55,080
Speaker 3: want to speak to us. Tris said, once I left,

1332
01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:57,760
Speaker 3: I didn't really want to be concerned about anyone from there,

1333
01:06:57,840 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 3: so I decided I was just going to drop everyone.

1334
01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 3: Right then, I knew I made the right move to

1335
01:07:02,720 --> 01:07:05,680
Speaker 3: lose interest. That's the end of Tris. I think.

1336
01:07:05,760 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 6: I think Tris was interested in you.

1337
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:12,520
Speaker 3: Buddy, can me get Triss and got out of their

1338
01:07:12,560 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 3: triss Tris, good job.

1339
01:07:14,560 --> 01:07:16,280
Speaker 6: Tris Tree.

1340
01:07:16,880 --> 01:07:20,240
Speaker 3: Nothing extremely intimate happened between us. Thank god your soft

1341
01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:23,120
Speaker 3: heart was protected. As for Diane, I had a decision

1342
01:07:23,120 --> 01:07:25,439
Speaker 3: to make. I knew I still held on to all

1343
01:07:25,520 --> 01:07:29,640
Speaker 3: those ill feelings towards her. Well, she didn't have my trust.

1344
01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:33,000
Speaker 3: I made offhand comments once in a while, and personally

1345
01:07:33,080 --> 01:07:35,240
Speaker 3: I was one foot in and the rest out. I

1346
01:07:35,320 --> 01:07:37,280
Speaker 3: knew it would take time for her to gain my

1347
01:07:37,400 --> 01:07:41,439
Speaker 3: trust back to be honest, I was pleasantly surprised because

1348
01:07:41,480 --> 01:07:43,680
Speaker 3: she earned all of it back plus more. It took

1349
01:07:43,720 --> 01:07:46,120
Speaker 3: a while, but she's sure as heck did it. I

1350
01:07:46,200 --> 01:07:48,320
Speaker 3: sat down with a mutual friend and he put things

1351
01:07:48,360 --> 01:07:51,640
Speaker 3: into perspective. I told Diane that I need time to

1352
01:07:51,640 --> 01:07:54,439
Speaker 3: figure things out before I could move forward with her.

1353
01:07:54,840 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 3: Since then I was moved to being Diane's assistant because

1354
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:02,120
Speaker 3: her old assistant left. She helped me tackle a ton

1355
01:08:02,200 --> 01:08:05,880
Speaker 3: of my own family issues. After doing all this great stuff,

1356
01:08:06,280 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 3: the feelings of ill will and hatred began to subside

1357
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 3: until they completely diminished. We did have some arguments here

1358
01:08:13,360 --> 01:08:15,919
Speaker 3: and there, but we got through them with ease. Since

1359
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:18,360
Speaker 3: I decided to let Diane into my life, things seemed

1360
01:08:18,400 --> 01:08:20,320
Speaker 3: like they got a lot better, even though this has

1361
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:24,160
Speaker 3: been a stressful year for us, dealing with parents, players, families,

1362
01:08:24,280 --> 01:08:28,240
Speaker 3: terminal sickness of loved ones, job and money issues. But

1363
01:08:28,479 --> 01:08:32,559
Speaker 3: Diane worked through everything until about two weeks ago. Now

1364
01:08:32,560 --> 01:08:35,880
Speaker 3: we're getting into the real meat. Two weeks ago, the

1365
01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:38,599
Speaker 3: week of the fourth of July was a crazy week.

1366
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:43,280
Speaker 3: I played sports still myself, so there's a big tournament.

1367
01:08:43,640 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 6: Year since she left her fiance.

1368
01:08:45,320 --> 01:08:49,759
Speaker 3: So whennessa day, Diane and I go out. It's about

1369
01:08:49,800 --> 01:08:51,840
Speaker 3: two am, and I have to be up at nine

1370
01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:54,880
Speaker 3: am to play at eleven. I ended up heading back

1371
01:08:54,920 --> 01:08:57,960
Speaker 3: to my place and Diane decided to stay longer and talk.

1372
01:08:58,520 --> 01:09:01,160
Speaker 3: At this point, she and I are unofficial still, but

1373
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:04,160
Speaker 3: I considered her to be my s O. Diana is

1374
01:09:04,200 --> 01:09:06,640
Speaker 3: staying with me every day, lives at my place, and

1375
01:09:06,680 --> 01:09:09,879
Speaker 3: I'm happy with it. But here's the problem. She stays

1376
01:09:09,920 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 3: with the guy who runs our organization, talking with him

1377
01:09:13,240 --> 01:09:15,080
Speaker 3: till six or seven am in the morning.

1378
01:09:15,280 --> 01:09:16,400
Speaker 6: Oh my god, how.

1379
01:09:16,320 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 8: You guys used to do when she was cheating on

1380
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:19,880
Speaker 8: her fiance.

1381
01:09:20,360 --> 01:09:22,080
Speaker 3: This shows a little familiar.

1382
01:09:22,720 --> 01:09:29,440
Speaker 1: What have I heard that? That's a tough one, continues

1383
01:09:29,720 --> 01:09:30,880
Speaker 1: sketchy Boo.

1384
01:09:31,040 --> 01:09:34,400
Speaker 3: Right, I'll trust her. She doesn't have a key yet,

1385
01:09:35,200 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 3: so I had to stay up waiting for her, even

1386
01:09:37,120 --> 01:09:39,360
Speaker 3: though I had to play in less than five hours. Bro,

1387
01:09:39,560 --> 01:09:44,920
Speaker 3: nobody on Earth cares about your Corey League Athletics game.

1388
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:46,280
Speaker 6: You could have gone to bed.

1389
01:09:46,320 --> 01:09:50,479
Speaker 3: I'm sure you're an adult with a death dream. Show

1390
01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 3: up late, show up tired. None of that matters at all.

1391
01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:58,519
Speaker 3: I wake up at like nine thirty ish, not happy,

1392
01:09:59,000 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 3: but still tired. But I get ready. I'm ready to go,

1393
01:10:03,560 --> 01:10:06,200
Speaker 3: and she stops and asks me if she could shower

1394
01:10:06,320 --> 01:10:10,599
Speaker 3: for like five minutes. I was like, you need to hurry. Well,

1395
01:10:10,640 --> 01:10:12,720
Speaker 3: she ended up making me late for game time, and

1396
01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:16,200
Speaker 3: I was hot. On the way to the field, I

1397
01:10:16,280 --> 01:10:18,439
Speaker 3: slammed my hand a few times on the steering wheel

1398
01:10:18,600 --> 01:10:22,160
Speaker 3: and then on the console. The outside bone of my

1399
01:10:22,320 --> 01:10:27,040
Speaker 3: wrist accidentally catches her elbow. Oh fowl, she's in the car. Rock.

1400
01:10:28,040 --> 01:10:31,439
Speaker 8: So you now have crossed into being the worst of

1401
01:10:31,479 --> 01:10:32,880
Speaker 8: the two people in this story.

1402
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:34,360
Speaker 6: You actually suck.

1403
01:10:35,000 --> 01:10:38,920
Speaker 3: I immediately apologize and beg for forgiveness. I didn't mean

1404
01:10:39,000 --> 01:10:42,240
Speaker 3: for that to happened. I instantly tear up, pathetic and

1405
01:10:42,320 --> 01:10:46,360
Speaker 3: apologize profusely. She said she's okay and knew it was accidental,

1406
01:10:46,400 --> 01:10:49,200
Speaker 3: but my heart is racing. Two days later, I play

1407
01:10:49,240 --> 01:10:53,759
Speaker 3: in another game. Everything is fine until after Diane takes

1408
01:10:53,960 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 3: video so that I may review it later.

1409
01:10:56,360 --> 01:10:57,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1410
01:10:57,680 --> 01:11:00,240
Speaker 3: We stayed after the game to watch some of the

1411
01:11:00,320 --> 01:11:04,439
Speaker 3: second games, and I'm bored. There wasn't a ton of action,

1412
01:11:05,120 --> 01:11:07,080
Speaker 3: so I asked for the phone to review the footage

1413
01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:10,080
Speaker 3: she took of me. She refused, so I asked again.

1414
01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:13,320
Speaker 3: She refused and this went back and forth until I

1415
01:11:13,320 --> 01:11:16,000
Speaker 3: got annoyed and said, why do you take video if

1416
01:11:16,040 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 3: you aren't even gonna let me see it? Diane said,

1417
01:11:19,439 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 3: give me Diana pass. Diane put her hat on, said, hey,

1418
01:11:24,400 --> 01:11:28,120
Speaker 3: you're overthinking things out there. I was like, I'm not chilling.

1419
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:31,160
Speaker 3: I just want to watch some film on myself. She

1420
01:11:31,240 --> 01:11:33,840
Speaker 3: continuously refused and made the comment you tell other people

1421
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:37,280
Speaker 3: not to overthink, so take your own advice. I was like, no,

1422
01:11:37,560 --> 01:11:39,799
Speaker 3: I'm a grown man. Just give me the phone.

1423
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:40,280
Speaker 6: Say it.

1424
01:11:40,600 --> 01:11:43,880
Speaker 3: Say it. I'm a grown butt man. My butt is

1425
01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:47,839
Speaker 3: fully grown. Still, she refuses and says, in front of everyone,

1426
01:11:48,080 --> 01:11:50,800
Speaker 3: since you tell all the kids you mentor to stop overthinking,

1427
01:11:51,120 --> 01:11:53,120
Speaker 3: I'm going to treat you like a twelve year old

1428
01:11:53,200 --> 01:11:54,559
Speaker 3: girl in front of.

1429
01:11:54,560 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 8: Everyone is twelve year old girls are so much cooler

1430
01:11:59,000 --> 01:11:59,759
Speaker 8: than this guy.

1431
01:12:00,439 --> 01:12:03,719
Speaker 3: He's more like a five year old boy. She proceeds

1432
01:12:03,760 --> 01:12:06,320
Speaker 3: to do just that. I walked away to cool down.

1433
01:12:06,720 --> 01:12:10,679
Speaker 3: Once I came back, I was good. I started drinking

1434
01:12:10,720 --> 01:12:13,160
Speaker 3: and having a good time. At the end of the night,

1435
01:12:13,240 --> 01:12:15,320
Speaker 3: Diane and I walked back to my car and I

1436
01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:18,280
Speaker 3: confronted her about doing what she did, literally talking and

1437
01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:20,080
Speaker 3: treating me like a twelve year old girl in front

1438
01:12:20,120 --> 01:12:23,960
Speaker 3: of everyone. This guy has the nerve to say that

1439
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:28,120
Speaker 3: was disrespectful and uncool. She makes the same comment, I

1440
01:12:28,200 --> 01:12:31,360
Speaker 3: just think you're overthinking it. I hastily disagreed and shot

1441
01:12:31,439 --> 01:12:33,160
Speaker 3: back at her, and before you know it, we're having

1442
01:12:33,160 --> 01:12:36,080
Speaker 3: a shouting match down the highway. She blurted out that

1443
01:12:36,200 --> 01:12:38,400
Speaker 3: I hit her the other day and just threw it

1444
01:12:38,439 --> 01:12:41,479
Speaker 3: into my face, and I just lost it. I was tired,

1445
01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:45,479
Speaker 3: somewhat intoxicated, and obviously mad, and I thought she crossed

1446
01:12:45,479 --> 01:12:48,200
Speaker 3: the line, so I crossed the line back. I am

1447
01:12:48,280 --> 01:12:50,840
Speaker 3: especially not proud of this. Well, don't worry, no one

1448
01:12:50,840 --> 01:12:53,559
Speaker 3: hears proud of you at all. She was telling me

1449
01:12:53,760 --> 01:12:55,360
Speaker 3: to let her out of the car in the middle

1450
01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:57,200
Speaker 3: of the fide and way.

1451
01:12:57,040 --> 01:13:03,559
Speaker 8: Where to God, dude, it was your next action, so wisely.

1452
01:13:03,800 --> 01:13:06,720
Speaker 3: She kept screaming at me to do it. I refused

1453
01:13:06,760 --> 01:13:10,439
Speaker 3: because it was extremely unsafe. I'm not going to say

1454
01:13:10,479 --> 01:13:13,479
Speaker 3: what I did, but it was messed up. I did

1455
01:13:13,479 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 3: not do anything to hurt or harm her, Let's make

1456
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 3: that clear. But what I did was messed up.

1457
01:13:19,040 --> 01:13:20,080
Speaker 6: Something to harm her.

1458
01:13:20,439 --> 01:13:20,880
Speaker 3: But didn't.

1459
01:13:20,880 --> 01:13:22,320
Speaker 6: No, I know exactly what it's going to do, and

1460
01:13:22,360 --> 01:13:23,439
Speaker 6: it's fully to hurt.

1461
01:13:23,320 --> 01:13:26,479
Speaker 3: And harm her, buddy. When the thing that you did

1462
01:13:26,560 --> 01:13:30,120
Speaker 3: is actually so bad you can't even write it, it

1463
01:13:30,120 --> 01:13:34,680
Speaker 3: doesn't matter. So finally I get to a junction and

1464
01:13:34,720 --> 01:13:37,519
Speaker 3: I pull over, and she gets out and starts walking

1465
01:13:37,560 --> 01:13:41,679
Speaker 3: in the wrong direction, a very dangerous direction. I tried

1466
01:13:41,680 --> 01:13:43,519
Speaker 3: to get her to calm down and listen to me,

1467
01:13:44,160 --> 01:13:46,240
Speaker 3: but she had her mind made up that she wanted

1468
01:13:46,320 --> 01:13:48,840
Speaker 3: someone else to get her and for me to go away.

1469
01:13:49,400 --> 01:13:51,720
Speaker 3: So after a while I pleaded with her to get

1470
01:13:51,760 --> 01:13:54,240
Speaker 3: back in the car because she will be waiting for hours.

1471
01:13:54,720 --> 01:13:56,040
Speaker 3: I didn't want to leave her on the side of

1472
01:13:56,040 --> 01:13:58,160
Speaker 3: the highway next to dangerous areas in the middle of

1473
01:13:58,240 --> 01:14:01,320
Speaker 3: the night. But everything I said, even me dropping the

1474
01:14:01,439 --> 01:14:04,040
Speaker 3: I love you bomb, just fell on deaf ears.

1475
01:14:04,840 --> 01:14:06,720
Speaker 6: Is this the first time he said I love her

1476
01:14:06,760 --> 01:14:07,080
Speaker 6: to her?

1477
01:14:08,080 --> 01:14:12,120
Speaker 3: From the sounds of it contextually, I think that is.

1478
01:14:13,120 --> 01:14:16,040
Speaker 3: Eventually she just said take her back and that she

1479
01:14:16,160 --> 01:14:20,000
Speaker 3: was done. That tore me apart. The very next day,

1480
01:14:20,120 --> 01:14:21,720
Speaker 3: we were supposed to leave to go to a week

1481
01:14:21,760 --> 01:14:24,479
Speaker 3: long tournament for her team that she runs. I had

1482
01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:26,920
Speaker 3: to play a ball game first and then go, but

1483
01:14:27,080 --> 01:14:30,000
Speaker 3: she did not contact me at all. A mutual friend

1484
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 3: before the game sat down and talk with me about

1485
01:14:32,120 --> 01:14:34,920
Speaker 3: what happened the night before. I told him a very

1486
01:14:34,960 --> 01:14:36,720
Speaker 3: short version of everything above.

1487
01:14:36,479 --> 01:14:38,400
Speaker 2: Probably the one where you're like she was the one

1488
01:14:38,400 --> 01:14:40,080
Speaker 2: in the wrong and I didn't everything right.

1489
01:14:40,280 --> 01:14:43,639
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah. Diane showed up to the game, didn't

1490
01:14:43,720 --> 01:14:46,839
Speaker 3: speak a word to me or look in my direction. Eventually,

1491
01:14:46,920 --> 01:14:48,840
Speaker 3: later that day I got a hold of her and

1492
01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:52,360
Speaker 3: we drove down, but the car ride was miserable. To

1493
01:14:52,400 --> 01:14:56,759
Speaker 3: wrap everything up. Monday evening on the eighth of July

1494
01:14:57,200 --> 01:15:00,320
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four, Diane ripped me a new one because

1495
01:15:00,320 --> 01:15:03,719
Speaker 3: she found out that I talked to Tris and said

1496
01:15:04,040 --> 01:15:06,599
Speaker 3: I was willing to give you a second chance, but

1497
01:15:06,680 --> 01:15:10,360
Speaker 3: not after finding that out. I assume our mutual friend

1498
01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:12,719
Speaker 3: told her. Tris and I went out a few times.

1499
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:15,600
Speaker 3: She came on to me and I kissed her. Apparently

1500
01:15:15,680 --> 01:15:18,360
Speaker 3: that was the nail in the coffin. So since all

1501
01:15:18,400 --> 01:15:20,559
Speaker 3: that has happened, she has told me she doesn't trust

1502
01:15:20,560 --> 01:15:23,240
Speaker 3: me anymore, doesn't see me the same way, and that

1503
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:25,880
Speaker 3: I lied to her made her feel crazy, and that

1504
01:15:25,960 --> 01:15:28,240
Speaker 3: I am a cheater too. I will own up to

1505
01:15:28,240 --> 01:15:30,960
Speaker 3: the live part. We weren't together either, but she's still

1506
01:15:31,000 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 3: calling me a cheater. She also said she wants me

1507
01:15:33,840 --> 01:15:36,920
Speaker 3: to continue being her assistant, but we haven't talked since

1508
01:15:36,960 --> 01:15:39,040
Speaker 3: the day she dropped me off back at my house

1509
01:15:39,080 --> 01:15:42,000
Speaker 3: after the trip. A big thing is she said, I

1510
01:15:42,040 --> 01:15:45,600
Speaker 3: didn't give her enough public displays of affection. I'm not

1511
01:15:45,720 --> 01:15:48,960
Speaker 3: into public displays of affection. She said, I didn't tell

1512
01:15:48,960 --> 01:15:51,840
Speaker 3: her enough about how I felt about her. Does anyone

1513
01:15:51,840 --> 01:15:54,120
Speaker 3: else think she found someone else or went back to

1514
01:15:54,160 --> 01:15:54,920
Speaker 3: her ex fiance?

1515
01:15:55,000 --> 01:15:57,719
Speaker 6: Said, I couldn't freaking care any less.

1516
01:15:58,640 --> 01:16:02,200
Speaker 3: Anyone else would be better than any one and we

1517
01:16:02,240 --> 01:16:05,000
Speaker 3: are finally coming up to the tail end of this one.

1518
01:16:05,760 --> 01:16:07,720
Speaker 3: I want you to be alone for the rest of

1519
01:16:07,760 --> 01:16:11,559
Speaker 3: your life. And also, don't think I forgot about you, Diane.

1520
01:16:11,760 --> 01:16:13,360
Speaker 3: I want you to be alone for the rest of

1521
01:16:13,360 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 3: your life as well. I want you both to be

1522
01:16:16,160 --> 01:16:20,280
Speaker 3: happy being alone forever, because everyone else is better off.

1523
01:16:20,880 --> 01:16:24,160
Speaker 3: I can definitely understand her being upset about everything, but

1524
01:16:24,200 --> 01:16:27,439
Speaker 3: I feel like all this is really high school crap

1525
01:16:27,520 --> 01:16:28,880
Speaker 3: that could have been talked out.

1526
01:16:29,600 --> 01:16:31,800
Speaker 6: Read read the next line. Please read the next line.

1527
01:16:31,960 --> 01:16:36,680
Speaker 3: She's being extremely immature and unfair, especially the way she

1528
01:16:36,800 --> 01:16:41,519
Speaker 3: treated me and her ex fiance to how she treats me. Now,

1529
01:16:42,040 --> 01:16:45,600
Speaker 3: since like October of last year, things have been extremely

1530
01:16:45,640 --> 01:16:48,639
Speaker 3: good between us, although I know my hands aren't clean

1531
01:16:48,640 --> 01:16:51,759
Speaker 3: in this. All of this has really messed me up great.

1532
01:16:52,320 --> 01:16:54,519
Speaker 3: I fell for this girl, and because I had a

1533
01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:57,879
Speaker 3: bad few days on top of many more untold issues,

1534
01:16:58,240 --> 01:17:02,240
Speaker 3: I struggled at keeping my com posure just once. That's

1535
01:17:02,240 --> 01:17:05,559
Speaker 3: a lie. I guess when it rains, it pours. I

1536
01:17:05,600 --> 01:17:08,920
Speaker 3: only knew this girl to be a liar, cheater and untrustworthy,

1537
01:17:09,320 --> 01:17:11,880
Speaker 3: but ended up finding a gem of a person later

1538
01:17:11,920 --> 01:17:14,439
Speaker 3: on once I learned more about her. I really don't

1539
01:17:14,439 --> 01:17:16,800
Speaker 3: know what to do or think. I'm stuck between a

1540
01:17:16,880 --> 01:17:20,240
Speaker 3: rock and a hard place. Please help me with thoughts, opinions,

1541
01:17:20,240 --> 01:17:20,839
Speaker 3: and advice.

1542
01:17:22,800 --> 01:17:26,320
Speaker 8: Can you please tell us how badly these comments roasted him?

1543
01:17:26,560 --> 01:17:26,920
Speaker 3: Please?

1544
01:17:27,000 --> 01:17:27,880
Speaker 2: I looked it up.

1545
01:17:28,400 --> 01:17:29,320
Speaker 3: Were they supportive?

1546
01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:30,080
Speaker 7: No?

1547
01:17:30,560 --> 01:17:31,560
Speaker 3: Thank god?

1548
01:17:31,960 --> 01:17:32,000
Speaker 5: No?

1549
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:36,360
Speaker 2: Even it it's there, it's still there. There's not many comments,

1550
01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:37,960
Speaker 2: there's no comments.

1551
01:17:38,240 --> 01:17:40,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, it makes sense. I doubt many people could get

1552
01:17:40,439 --> 01:17:43,120
Speaker 3: through all that. And that's the end of this story.