WEBVTT - Mean Mama 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Can't beleeve Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:16.680 and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:19.040 with yet another carefully reckless episode, which you girl, Jess 0:00:19.120 --> 0:00:21.520 hilarious This sweek, Taylor is in here with me. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.880 Say hi to Taylor, y'all says Hi, Taylor? Hi nice? 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:25.840 Sorry she beck y'all? 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:27.520 All right, but I'm gonna read this time, and she's 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:30.560 just gonna help me fix the mess. All right, all right, 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:33.640 so we're gonna jump straight into it. What's good, Jess? 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:36.000 I need your opinion on something. Well, I need to 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:38.040 know if I'm right or wrong for this. So me 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:39.840 and my best friend have been best friends for about 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:41.760 twenty out of twenty two years of our life. 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:44.240 Okay, so you're twenty two. You met your best friend 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:46.440 at two, but do you remember that? Sure? 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:47.040 Bet? 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:49.839 Just being line of me like a motherfucker. It's all right, 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:52.159 g It's all good. It's a good which means we 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:55.040 are super close. We grew up in two different households. 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:59.280 Mine's mine's is not a word. Mine was more family 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:03.280 oriented and hers was more strict and discombobulated. 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:04.640 Sorry, but it's true. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.240 Growing up, her mom didn't really let her go anywhere, 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:10.119 and was also hard on her. I never understood why 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:13.160 my girl always had great grades. She's a great person, 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:15.319 and no one ever really had problems out of her. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.200 Her mom used to talk about the way she dressed 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:21.440 and just belittled her in ways that wasn't too recognizable 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:25.280 until we got older. Even though our senior year graduation day, 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.000 her mother made her cry so bad because she didn't 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.640 want to take a picture with her m She said 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:34.440 she looked like she was about to sell some ass dumn. 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:38.240 Oh my gosh, and she actually looked really nice. Her 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:41.560 mother also sat in front of so many people. I 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:45.280 was so embarrassed for her. Just what the fuck she's said? 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:46.600 Oh she's saying. 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.240 Her mother also said that in front of a whole 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:49.919 bunch of people, So she was just embarrassed. 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:50.880 Okay, I got you. I got you. 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:53.720 A week after she decided to move out, which I 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:56.080 helped her move into her new place just to get 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:58.920 a peace of mind. She always looked up to her mom, 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.200 so it how what the fuck how you look up 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:01.920 to a bitch like that? 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:05.440 Damn she got a mother like, uh, what's the lady? Uh? 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.880 Yeah, precious, And Carrie, I was going back to the 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.720 movie carrying shit, but yeah, definitely should. She always looked 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.200 up to her mom, so it was kind of hard 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:16.080 to see for herself how she was breaking her down. 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:19.160 That was just a little backstory, so it can help 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:20.560 back up what I'm about to. 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.040 Say, La Mayo. Okay, here you go. 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:27.640 So now two years later, Bestie just bought her new home. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:29.760 Of course I knew about it, but she wanted to 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.359 tell her mom at some surprising news. 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.120 I already knew how that was about to go. 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.320 So Bessie and I just came back from lunch and 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:39.079 went to pick her mom up so we can show 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:39.800 her the new place. 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.680 Child. As soon as we pull up, she's like, who 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:44.360 else is this? This is yours? 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:47.160 Bessie was so excited, like, yes, Ma, I gotta show 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:49.680 you the inside. Her mom gonna ask her who on 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:51.640 the lease and why why you need a house? 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:54.480 So big girl. I just went back and sat in 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:54.760 the car. 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.880 Hey, y'all, who you went back to the car minded 0:02:57.919 --> 0:02:58.440 my business? 0:02:58.480 --> 0:02:59.880 Because like, what, why? 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.840 What does it matter? Just be happy for your daughter. Damn, Yeah, 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.600 I definitely get it. But anyways, once she was done 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:08.800 showing her the house, which was an amazingly fast tour. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:12.000 By the way, first of all, she's twenty. 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:16.440 House and right and you and you're not even right 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:18.560 about that, like you're not even looking at like your. 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.320 Daughter grew up fast. You know what I'm saying. 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.040 It's like damn accomplishments early. So I know people in 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:25.160 their thirties and forties and even fifties who ain't got 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:28.040 their own house, and that's fucked up that she would 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:31.600 like overshadow all of that with questions and interrogating them. 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:33.920 All right, So after she showed her a fast tour, 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.920 she took her home. The drive was so awkward. Bessie 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:38.760 would try to engage with her mom and she would 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.720 just respond so short and nonchalant. As Bestie and I 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:44.720 drove home, I finally decided that it was time time 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.320 to tell her about how I felt about her mom. 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:49.920 To sum it up, I called her mom a hater 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:52.160 and said that she's been hating on her for years. 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.320 And Jess, when I say she went off on me, 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:57.120 she did. I don't know if she's just being in 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:00.040 the now or what it is, but it's definitely the 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.240 I wasn't trying to overstep, but that's exactly what I 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:06.480 felt like after telling her and whole time I'm just 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.600 trying to look out for her. She dropped me off 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:12.320 and we haven't spoken since. Damn, it's been a week. 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:15.480 We usually talk every day, and I just feel so bad. 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.640 I texted her a few times and now she's giving 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:19.520 me the cold shoulder, like I said some crazy shit 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.520 to her, when in all honesty, my intentions were genuine. 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.480 I need your honest opinion and feedback. What do you think? 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:26.679 Do you think I was wrong? 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:29.839 First? And for almost No, I don't think you were wrong. 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:30.520 Y'all have been best. 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:33.240 For instance, she was damned too, and that's crazy because 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:36.839 you remember that. But I don't think that you were wrong. 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:40.279 I've seen something like this before. But look, Tayl, I 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:42.599 got this new thing I do where somebody has written 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:44.880 me a story that I've never seen before, like because 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:47.520 you know people write similar stories all the time, right, 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:52.440 but I got to saying we got one. So that's 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.560 literally like where we at. I call this an exclusive story, 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:58.279 right because we've never heard anything like this before. On 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.240 jes fix my mess again? Like I said, I've known 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.760 people that has gone through this, and then we've even 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:04.960 seen movies like this. 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:08.040 We've seen Precious. We've seen Carrie, we've seen other movies, 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:10.520 so she knew though. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.240 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know, she still loved 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:14.839 her mother, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, she know 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:16.800 my mom wasn't good. Yeah, And you know what the 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:20.920 difference between Precious and that girl. Precious didn't go off 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:22.560 on nobody that told her that she didn't need to 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:25.719 be with her mother, you know what I mean. Yeah, 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:27.320 I don't know what that part is. 0:05:28.440 --> 0:05:30.320 Shut up, I don't know what. 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:33.719 That part was about. But this is what I do think. 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.680 I think that your friend's mom is jealous of her. Well, 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:39.760 it could be one of two things, because I've seen this, 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.279 you know what I'm saying, I've seen this. It could 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:47.520 be that she hates the dad because sometimes people have kids, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.280 Women have kids by men before getting to know them, 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:54.760 and then they realize that they don't want the kid, 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:58.479 but the kid is already here. You know, something happens 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:03.800 and you have this constant reminder of the person that 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:05.760 just took you through hell, the person that she don't 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:08.000 even know why you was pregnant by, and you know, 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.320 especially when they look like the motherfucker, it's like, you know, 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:14.960 while I understand that it's wrong. It's very wrong because 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.080 one the kid didn't next to be here, and you 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:19.520 willingly had the kid. 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:20.679 You get what I'm saying. 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.560 Just because something happened with the father does not mean 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:25.680 that that falls on the child. You know, so you 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:28.720 can't treat the child away because of who you conceived with. 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.520 I noticed that happens a lot. Like like I said, 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:36.360 I know people. And then the second thing, her childhood, 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:40.240 the mom's childhood. She could be projecting what her mom 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:42.520 did to her. You understand what I'm saying now, Sometimes 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:44.719 it goes different ways. Sometimes people get treated like shit 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.359 when they're younger, so all they want to do is 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:47.760 be good parents. 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:49.400 To their kids. 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:52.240 That's why most a lot of those people they want 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.040 families so they can give the family. They can give 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:57.520 their kids what they didn't have growing up. You know 0:06:57.560 --> 0:06:59.680 what I'm saying, Like I do see it like that. 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:04.200 But sometimes your trauma can make you the very person 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:08.200 that you despise, you know what I'm saying. And and 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:13.360 you can actually yeah, basically just be like the person 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:15.800 that fucked you over. If you love me, you'll listen 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.600 to this commercial and then we'll be right back. So 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:22.360 I think either her mom didn't have a good upbringing, 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:24.560 you know, and this is just a generational thing, like 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.520 you know, and she's gonna have to break that cycle. 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:32.080 Your best friend, because she I still can't figure out 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:36.320 the defensive part other than she loves he mother like 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:39.480 she really just like it's like she sees the good 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.360 in her and she really is hoping that it changes 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:44.000 because she says she looks up to her. 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:47.360 What do you think I know someone actually not necessarily 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:52.560 like that, but know one that I don't know how listen, Yeah, 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:57.760 has certain stuff that her mom did to her. This 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.960 is and you can mom has her on trauma. Yeah, 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:04.400 she didn't deal with but she see again her mom's 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:07.280 not like that where she kind of just keeps critiquing 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:12.800 her and her mom just got issues whatever. But I 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:15.240 don't think she did anything wrong. But I think she 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:17.280 needs to face the truth of how her mom acts 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:20.040 towards her though, And that's being her best friend. She's 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.120 understand and she's just trying to keep it real with her. 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:26.040 And yeah, she's going to see things that she don't see. 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:29.360 So yeah, and I think and what if she sees 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.959 it but she don't want to, Yeah, she don't want 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.760 to like she's in denial about it. It's like not 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.200 And when I say no, I mean like she's not 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.559 ready to open that can yet, you know what I mean, Like, 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:43.200 oh no, because like I said, she could still see 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:47.440 the good in her mom. Because m like even even 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.920 for Precious before Precious got fed up and she went 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.199 to that social worker And I forgot Mariy Caurry was 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.160 in that movie Mark Curry was gonna hot ass map. 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:57.440 I've never seen Mariah Carry look crazy like that. That's 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.440 why that's the only place that I can't believe Mariah 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:02.920 Carey agreed to look a hot ass mess like that 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:04.760 order play a social worker. 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:09.520 Well we get off topic, but because remember she did 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:12.920 MTD Cribs and even how she was yes, like damn. 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.960 Bit like we never seen her with a bad day, 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.360 so I know she probably like no, and this this 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:19.920 is just the rollttle bitch, Like you. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:20.520 Know what I'm saying. 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:23.319 But like, I have never seen Mariah Carry. That's what 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:26.600 I forgot. I forgot him. Like until you watch the Ship, 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:28.839 You're like, oh shit, Paula Patton was the teacher and 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.200 it's like, oh shit, Maroc Curry did look like she 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:33.520 was on crack, you know what I'm saying. But it 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:35.680 is what it is. You know, she's a very beautiful 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.160 woman and that's what it is. But and it's her 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:41.120 holiday right now, so shout out to Mariah Carey. But 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:45.840 even before Precious got set up with her mother, you 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.080 know what I'm saying, Like she right before she threw 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:49.880 that TV or piano or something she threw out the 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:52.400 window at her as a TV or something, right like 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:55.720 she Pruscianus was still trying to like help her mother 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:58.520 and shit and give her the benefit of the doubt 0:09:58.559 --> 0:09:59.760 and Precious mom. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.000 And her her mom to like her. Yeah, it's like 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:04.320 her like yeah, neediness. 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:07.120 Mm hmm you do this so like me, yeah, because 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:10.000 it's your mom and you only get one, you know 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.400 what I mean. And it's like, yo, what am I 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:14.320 doing wrong? So kids start to blame themselves. The child 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:17.400 starts to blame themselves if they don't get help early 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.080 to realize this is not normal, you know, because if 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:23.079 you grow up like that, then this is normal to you. 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:27.520 This is your normal. Yeah, thinking about like, yeah, that's 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:28.440 normal to her. 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:33.800 Yeah, because she's like like she she acts like well, again, 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:35.880 I don't know if this is how her friend acts, 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:38.880 but like acts like okay if I do that, like 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:41.839 she's yeah yeah. It's like she's trying to get her 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:46.120 approval by everyone though, based off I think her. 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:51.160 Friend yeah yeah, because like her wanting to take her 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:54.360 mom so bad to show that house off to her, like, yo, mom, 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:56.920 this is what I accomplished, and and she knows her mom. 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:58.760 I don't know if she thought her mom would react 0:10:58.800 --> 0:10:59.880 like that. I just think that she was. 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.240 It's like, oh, maybe if I should her this house, 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.040 this is gonna make her love me, This is gonna 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:04.920 make her acknowledge me. 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:06.560 This is gonna make you know what I'm saying. 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.680 So maybe she's been spending her whole life trying to 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.160 prove herself because this is the normal that she's you 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:11.640 know what I mean. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.240 But I why don't she never talk to her She 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:16.320 never talked to her friend about that though, Like they 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.319 as best friends, y'all. 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.680 That's why I said, if y'all have been best friend 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:23.960 since too, why was she so defensive? I could see 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:25.880 if y'all just met, or y'all just been friends for 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:27.880 a few years, or you know, because then it'll be 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:29.160 a thing like you don't know my mom. 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:29.880 You know what I'm saying. 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:33.559 But you know, y'all was damn near like y'all were toddlers. 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:36.679 So it's like you've known this lady, you know, And 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:39.760 and I don't know. My best friend's mom is like 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:42.680 my mom too, you know. And my mom is like 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:45.400 my best friend's mom. And we haven't even been friends 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:49.240 best friends since we were too you know, So I'm 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:52.280 not sure why that is. But like I said, if 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:57.040 this is her normal, then maybe it's gonna take a 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:01.120 lot of like a lot more of this shit to 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.719 happen for her to realize it's wrong. Because again, she's 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.760 still only twenty two. I think she'll realize once she 0:12:08.800 --> 0:12:10.640 is where's her dad? Like I need to know, like 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.280 who's her dad? Where's the dad? Give me some more 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:13.840 of the backs, or I want you to update me 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.280 on this friend, because I could figure it out more 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:22.040 if I knew the history with both parents, Like has 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:24.280 she ever opened up to you about her father? Has 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:27.520 she ever opened up to you about being treated a 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:29.440 certain way as a kid when y'all were friends but 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:30.800 you didn't live with her, you know what I'm saying. 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:32.240 Who knows? You know? 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.599 She could have been getting beaten every night, or she 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:36.439 could have been getting starved. The mother could have been 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:38.400 like telling them you're fat or whatever, and you know, 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.679 like just could have been. This could have started early on, 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:44.920 which makes it her normal life, you know. And then 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:49.400 how does your best friend look at you and your mother? 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:52.400 You know what I'm saying, Like, does she ever has 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:54.640 there ever been a moment where she well you even 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:57.320 saw her wishing that this could be her household, like 0:12:57.320 --> 0:13:00.120 when you're around your parents and shit like that, And 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.240 has she ever been around that? 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:02.800 You know, understand what I'm saying. We do all mother 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:03.720 even let out the house. 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:08.440 But you know, like I like, uh, it's something there 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:12.680 that I need more context for to give full advice 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:16.559 on this shit, because I'm not gonna say she she 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:20.080 a little too old, but she old enough to notice 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:24.880 it's not right. Yeah, you know, you know, unless she's 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:33.240 just a diehard I got one mom, and I wonders, Yeah, yeah, 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:35.839 that as well, Like, yeah, was she the only one 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:39.880 treated like this? Was she the you know, the well 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.400 what child they always say is treated like the outcast? 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:44.160 The middle child? 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:44.400 Yeah? 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:46.360 Is she a middle child? Is she an only child? 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:48.800 You know what I'm saying, which wouldn't matter if the 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:52.000 mom is fucked up anyway, because you know, because then 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.160 all the kids get treated fucked up. You know what 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:57.520 I'm saying, unless it's the dad thing. Like I said, 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.680 I just need more contacts on it. But I don't 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:01.800 think that you were wrong. 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:02.480 I don't. 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.840 I do think that you should reach out though this 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:06.480 this is your best friend since too. 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:08.240 I think she did though she said you gave her 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:08.840 the shoulder. 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:11.920 Oh she did all the ship. She haven't talked to 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.880 her in a week. She said, it's been a week 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:15.559 and then let. 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:19.840 Me saying she reached out and she's just not got it. 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.000 Let me say, hold on, let me sing, let me sing, 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:22.680 me scroll on it. 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:24.640 Oh yeah, yeah, she dropped me off and that we 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.720 haven't spoken since it's been a week. We usually talk 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:28.440 every day, and I just feel so bad. I texted 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.560 her a few times and now she's giving me the 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:35.200 cold shoulder, like I really said some crazy shit to her. Okay, Okay, 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:38.880 I get it. I totally understand. Also, what nationality is she? 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:41.360 Like? Is she black? White? Other? 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:41.640 Like? 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.720 What is she? Because not that that really really matters. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:48.440 But I don't know, I don't know. I'm not sure 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:52.280 the defensiveness. It seems like that would come out of 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:55.000 a white person before a black person. Hell yeah, I 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:57.880 went to a predominantly white high school and it was 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.400 a lot of my friends who had fucked up parents, 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:03.600 and they see nothing wrong with that. Up. Hold up, 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.560 I know this shit getting good, but listen to just 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:07.640 a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:11.960 you'll listen. They see nothing wrong with their parents. Like yeah, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:15.360 like listen, this is crazy. I remember in high school 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:18.400 I was like one of them. When I say predominantly white, 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.240 by high school was predominantly white. I went to Yeah, 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.000 I went to Dallastown. I went to school in Pennsylvania, York, 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:27.120 right outside of York. It was this county called Dallastown 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:29.360 and I went to Dallastown Area High School and it 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:30.920 was a middle high school or whatever, but it was 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.040 a huge campus. It looked like a fucking college. Like 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:36.480 it was huge, like a university. And of course I'm 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:38.720 in high school. When I first got there, I think 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:41.280 I was like one of like sixteen black kids, and 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:45.200 it was about from nine to eleven thousand kids in the. 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:46.280 School, you know what I'm saying. 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:48.880 And it was different other races or whatever, foreign exchange 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.280 and all that, but it was predominantly Caucasian, and I 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:56.080 had friends, and once I got to be popular and 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.760 shit and all of that type of stuff, I developed 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.560 a strong friend group up there, and we would hook 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:04.560 school and go to my house and shit when it 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.000 was time to hook school, not when it was time, 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:10.320 but yeah, like we hated Thursdays, yo, because that was 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:12.320 science day and shit like, you know, So we would 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:15.640 hook on Thursdays. And I lived closer closest to the school, 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:17.320 so we would go right to my house. My mom 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.400 worked in Baltimore, so I knew when she was coming home, 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:22.280 and it would take her a while to get home. 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:23.600 So I'm like, oh, we can just look at my house. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:27.520 Were smoking in the backyard and my mom had came home. 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:29.440 I didn't get in trouble the first time I got caught, 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:31.720 you know. She was just like, you don't need to 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:33.400 do that. She had like a nice, stern talk with 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.080 me in front of my friends, and she kissed me 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:36.720 on my forehead and she was like, I love you, 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:38.240 but don't fucking play with me, little girl. 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:40.200 And that's the thing. I said, yes, ma'am, you know 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:40.640 what I mean. 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:43.760 So my friend. I remember her, her name was Morgan Talbert. 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.880 She was like, your mom just told you she loved you. 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:50.000 And I'm like, yeah, you know what I'm saying. She 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:53.880 was like that's crazy, is it crazy? 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:54.200 Yeah? 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.320 She was like interest like they they weren't affectionate with 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:01.600 their parents. Their parents weren't nurturing, they were just providing 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:03.640 for them. They were just they would give them money. 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.320 They wouldn't even see their kids half the time. A 0:17:05.359 --> 0:17:08.040 lot of their parents traveled for work, so they wouldn't 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.080 even see their parents a lot, you know what I mean. 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:12.000 And then I had other friends that would look at 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:13.840 me like, ooh, you see your parents every day, like 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:16.840 you like your parents like talk to you all the time. 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.520 Like that doesn't get on your fucking nerves. I'm like, no, 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:20.960 they love me the fuck. 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.639 Like that's interesting because the white people I went to, 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:27.480 I went to the white people that went to my school, 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:31.200 at least with my white friends, like the only thing 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:32.760 it was the stereotype. 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:33.680 Though. I remember one. 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:38.120 Time my friend Emily, she. 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:38.480 She I don't know, her mom almost mad at her 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:39.440 about something. 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:43.160 And we didn't give a fucking damn like and like 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:45.680 she was just like whatever, Mom, like. 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:49.800 Just like fuck you outside she didn't they fuck you, 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:50.680 but she was like. 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:55.359 Back talking to her. I remember stepping back like I 0:17:55.400 --> 0:18:03.160 wouldn't not Yeah with her, she goes, maybe you should, yeah, 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:08.320