Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't beleeve Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: with yet another carefully reckless episode, which you girl, Jess
Speaker 1: hilarious This sweek, Taylor is in here with me.
Speaker 2: Say hi to Taylor, y'all says Hi, Taylor? Hi nice?
Speaker 2: Sorry she beck y'all?
Speaker 1: All right, but I'm gonna read this time, and she's
Speaker 1: just gonna help me fix the mess. All right, all right,
Speaker 1: so we're gonna jump straight into it. What's good, Jess?
Speaker 1: I need your opinion on something. Well, I need to
Speaker 1: know if I'm right or wrong for this. So me
Speaker 1: and my best friend have been best friends for about
Speaker 1: twenty out of twenty two years of our life.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're twenty two. You met your best friend
Speaker 2: at two, but do you remember that? Sure?
Speaker 3: Bet?
Speaker 1: Just being line of me like a motherfucker. It's all right,
Speaker 1: g It's all good. It's a good which means we
Speaker 1: are super close. We grew up in two different households.
Speaker 1: Mine's mine's is not a word. Mine was more family
Speaker 1: oriented and hers was more strict and discombobulated.
Speaker 2: Sorry, but it's true.
Speaker 1: Growing up, her mom didn't really let her go anywhere,
Speaker 1: and was also hard on her. I never understood why
Speaker 1: my girl always had great grades. She's a great person,
Speaker 1: and no one ever really had problems out of her.
Speaker 1: Her mom used to talk about the way she dressed
Speaker 1: and just belittled her in ways that wasn't too recognizable
Speaker 1: until we got older. Even though our senior year graduation day,
Speaker 1: her mother made her cry so bad because she didn't
Speaker 1: want to take a picture with her m She said
Speaker 1: she looked like she was about to sell some ass dumn.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, and she actually looked really nice. Her
Speaker 1: mother also sat in front of so many people. I
Speaker 1: was so embarrassed for her. Just what the fuck she's said?
Speaker 2: Oh she's saying.
Speaker 1: Her mother also said that in front of a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of people, So she was just embarrassed.
Speaker 2: Okay, I got you. I got you.
Speaker 1: A week after she decided to move out, which I
Speaker 1: helped her move into her new place just to get
Speaker 1: a peace of mind. She always looked up to her mom,
Speaker 1: so it how what the fuck how you look up
Speaker 1: to a bitch like that?
Speaker 2: Damn she got a mother like, uh, what's the lady? Uh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, precious, And Carrie, I was going back to the
Speaker 1: movie carrying shit, but yeah, definitely should. She always looked
Speaker 1: up to her mom, so it was kind of hard
Speaker 1: to see for herself how she was breaking her down.
Speaker 1: That was just a little backstory, so it can help
Speaker 1: back up what I'm about to.
Speaker 2: Say, La Mayo. Okay, here you go.
Speaker 1: So now two years later, Bestie just bought her new home.
Speaker 1: Of course I knew about it, but she wanted to
Speaker 1: tell her mom at some surprising news.
Speaker 2: I already knew how that was about to go.
Speaker 1: So Bessie and I just came back from lunch and
Speaker 1: went to pick her mom up so we can show
Speaker 1: her the new place.
Speaker 2: Child. As soon as we pull up, she's like, who
Speaker 2: else is this? This is yours?
Speaker 1: Bessie was so excited, like, yes, Ma, I gotta show
Speaker 1: you the inside. Her mom gonna ask her who on
Speaker 1: the lease and why why you need a house?
Speaker 2: So big girl. I just went back and sat in
Speaker 2: the car.
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, who you went back to the car minded
Speaker 1: my business?
Speaker 2: Because like, what, why?
Speaker 1: What does it matter? Just be happy for your daughter. Damn, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I definitely get it. But anyways, once she was done
Speaker 1: showing her the house, which was an amazingly fast tour.
Speaker 2: By the way, first of all, she's twenty.
Speaker 1: House and right and you and you're not even right
Speaker 1: about that, like you're not even looking at like your.
Speaker 2: Daughter grew up fast. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's like damn accomplishments early. So I know people in
Speaker 1: their thirties and forties and even fifties who ain't got
Speaker 1: their own house, and that's fucked up that she would
Speaker 1: like overshadow all of that with questions and interrogating them.
Speaker 1: All right, So after she showed her a fast tour,
Speaker 1: she took her home. The drive was so awkward. Bessie
Speaker 1: would try to engage with her mom and she would
Speaker 1: just respond so short and nonchalant. As Bestie and I
Speaker 1: drove home, I finally decided that it was time time
Speaker 1: to tell her about how I felt about her mom.
Speaker 1: To sum it up, I called her mom a hater
Speaker 1: and said that she's been hating on her for years.
Speaker 1: And Jess, when I say she went off on me,
Speaker 1: she did. I don't know if she's just being in
Speaker 1: the now or what it is, but it's definitely the
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to overstep, but that's exactly what I
Speaker 1: felt like after telling her and whole time I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to look out for her. She dropped me off
Speaker 1: and we haven't spoken since. Damn, it's been a week.
Speaker 1: We usually talk every day, and I just feel so bad.
Speaker 1: I texted her a few times and now she's giving
Speaker 1: me the cold shoulder, like I said some crazy shit
Speaker 1: to her, when in all honesty, my intentions were genuine.
Speaker 1: I need your honest opinion and feedback. What do you think?
Speaker 1: Do you think I was wrong?
Speaker 2: First? And for almost No, I don't think you were wrong.
Speaker 2: Y'all have been best.
Speaker 1: For instance, she was damned too, and that's crazy because
Speaker 1: you remember that. But I don't think that you were wrong.
Speaker 1: I've seen something like this before. But look, Tayl, I
Speaker 1: got this new thing I do where somebody has written
Speaker 1: me a story that I've never seen before, like because
Speaker 1: you know people write similar stories all the time, right,
Speaker 1: but I got to saying we got one. So that's
Speaker 1: literally like where we at. I call this an exclusive story,
Speaker 1: right because we've never heard anything like this before. On
Speaker 1: jes fix my mess again? Like I said, I've known
Speaker 1: people that has gone through this, and then we've even
Speaker 1: seen movies like this.
Speaker 2: We've seen Precious. We've seen Carrie, we've seen other movies,
Speaker 2: so she knew though.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know, she still loved
Speaker 1: her mother, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, she know
Speaker 1: my mom wasn't good. Yeah, And you know what the
Speaker 1: difference between Precious and that girl. Precious didn't go off
Speaker 1: on nobody that told her that she didn't need to
Speaker 1: be with her mother, you know what I mean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know what that part is.
Speaker 2: Shut up, I don't know what.
Speaker 1: That part was about. But this is what I do think.
Speaker 1: I think that your friend's mom is jealous of her. Well,
Speaker 1: it could be one of two things, because I've seen this,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, I've seen this. It could
Speaker 1: be that she hates the dad because sometimes people have kids,
Speaker 1: Women have kids by men before getting to know them,
Speaker 1: and then they realize that they don't want the kid,
Speaker 1: but the kid is already here. You know, something happens
Speaker 1: and you have this constant reminder of the person that
Speaker 1: just took you through hell, the person that she don't
Speaker 1: even know why you was pregnant by, and you know,
Speaker 1: especially when they look like the motherfucker, it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: while I understand that it's wrong. It's very wrong because
Speaker 1: one the kid didn't next to be here, and you
Speaker 1: willingly had the kid.
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Just because something happened with the father does not mean
Speaker 1: that that falls on the child. You know, so you
Speaker 1: can't treat the child away because of who you conceived with.
Speaker 1: I noticed that happens a lot. Like like I said,
Speaker 1: I know people. And then the second thing, her childhood,
Speaker 1: the mom's childhood. She could be projecting what her mom
Speaker 1: did to her. You understand what I'm saying now, Sometimes
Speaker 1: it goes different ways. Sometimes people get treated like shit
Speaker 1: when they're younger, so all they want to do is
Speaker 1: be good parents.
Speaker 2: To their kids.
Speaker 1: That's why most a lot of those people they want
Speaker 1: families so they can give the family. They can give
Speaker 1: their kids what they didn't have growing up. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I do see it like that.
Speaker 1: But sometimes your trauma can make you the very person
Speaker 1: that you despise, you know what I'm saying. And and
Speaker 1: you can actually yeah, basically just be like the person
Speaker 1: that fucked you over. If you love me, you'll listen
Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. So
Speaker 1: I think either her mom didn't have a good upbringing,
Speaker 1: you know, and this is just a generational thing, like
Speaker 1: you know, and she's gonna have to break that cycle.
Speaker 1: Your best friend, because she I still can't figure out
Speaker 1: the defensive part other than she loves he mother like
Speaker 1: she really just like it's like she sees the good
Speaker 1: in her and she really is hoping that it changes
Speaker 1: because she says she looks up to her.
Speaker 3: What do you think I know someone actually not necessarily
Speaker 3: like that, but know one that I don't know how listen, Yeah,
Speaker 3: has certain stuff that her mom did to her. This
Speaker 3: is and you can mom has her on trauma. Yeah,
Speaker 3: she didn't deal with but she see again her mom's
Speaker 3: not like that where she kind of just keeps critiquing
Speaker 3: her and her mom just got issues whatever. But I
Speaker 3: don't think she did anything wrong. But I think she
Speaker 3: needs to face the truth of how her mom acts
Speaker 3: towards her though, And that's being her best friend. She's
Speaker 3: understand and she's just trying to keep it real with her.
Speaker 2: And yeah, she's going to see things that she don't see.
Speaker 1: So yeah, and I think and what if she sees
Speaker 1: it but she don't want to, Yeah, she don't want
Speaker 1: to like she's in denial about it. It's like not
Speaker 1: And when I say no, I mean like she's not
Speaker 1: ready to open that can yet, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: oh no, because like I said, she could still see
Speaker 1: the good in her mom. Because m like even even
Speaker 1: for Precious before Precious got fed up and she went
Speaker 1: to that social worker And I forgot Mariy Caurry was
Speaker 1: in that movie Mark Curry was gonna hot ass map.
Speaker 1: I've never seen Mariah Carry look crazy like that. That's
Speaker 1: why that's the only place that I can't believe Mariah
Speaker 1: Carey agreed to look a hot ass mess like that
Speaker 1: order play a social worker.
Speaker 3: Well we get off topic, but because remember she did
Speaker 3: MTD Cribs and even how she was yes, like damn.
Speaker 1: Bit like we never seen her with a bad day,
Speaker 1: so I know she probably like no, and this this
Speaker 1: is just the rollttle bitch, Like you.
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But like, I have never seen Mariah Carry. That's what
Speaker 1: I forgot. I forgot him. Like until you watch the Ship,
Speaker 1: You're like, oh shit, Paula Patton was the teacher and
Speaker 1: it's like, oh shit, Maroc Curry did look like she
Speaker 1: was on crack, you know what I'm saying. But it
Speaker 1: is what it is. You know, she's a very beautiful
Speaker 1: woman and that's what it is. But and it's her
Speaker 1: holiday right now, so shout out to Mariah Carey. But
Speaker 1: even before Precious got set up with her mother, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like she right before she threw
Speaker 1: that TV or piano or something she threw out the
Speaker 1: window at her as a TV or something, right like
Speaker 1: she Pruscianus was still trying to like help her mother
Speaker 1: and shit and give her the benefit of the doubt
Speaker 1: and Precious mom.
Speaker 2: And her her mom to like her. Yeah, it's like
Speaker 2: her like yeah, neediness.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm you do this so like me, yeah, because
Speaker 1: it's your mom and you only get one, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And it's like, yo, what am I
Speaker 1: doing wrong? So kids start to blame themselves. The child
Speaker 1: starts to blame themselves if they don't get help early
Speaker 1: to realize this is not normal, you know, because if
Speaker 1: you grow up like that, then this is normal to you.
Speaker 2: This is your normal. Yeah, thinking about like, yeah, that's
Speaker 2: normal to her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because she's like like she she acts like well, again,
Speaker 3: I don't know if this is how her friend acts,
Speaker 3: but like acts like okay if I do that, like
Speaker 3: she's yeah yeah. It's like she's trying to get her
Speaker 3: approval by everyone though, based off I think her.
Speaker 1: Friend yeah yeah, because like her wanting to take her
Speaker 1: mom so bad to show that house off to her, like, yo, mom,
Speaker 1: this is what I accomplished, and and she knows her mom.
Speaker 2: I don't know if she thought her mom would react
Speaker 2: like that. I just think that she was.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, maybe if I should her this house,
Speaker 1: this is gonna make her love me, This is gonna
Speaker 1: make her acknowledge me.
Speaker 2: This is gonna make you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So maybe she's been spending her whole life trying to
Speaker 1: prove herself because this is the normal that she's you
Speaker 1: know what I mean.
Speaker 3: But I why don't she never talk to her She
Speaker 3: never talked to her friend about that though, Like they
Speaker 3: as best friends, y'all.
Speaker 1: That's why I said, if y'all have been best friend
Speaker 1: since too, why was she so defensive? I could see
Speaker 1: if y'all just met, or y'all just been friends for
Speaker 1: a few years, or you know, because then it'll be
Speaker 1: a thing like you don't know my mom.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But you know, y'all was damn near like y'all were toddlers.
Speaker 1: So it's like you've known this lady, you know, And
Speaker 1: and I don't know. My best friend's mom is like
Speaker 1: my mom too, you know. And my mom is like
Speaker 1: my best friend's mom. And we haven't even been friends
Speaker 1: best friends since we were too you know, So I'm
Speaker 1: not sure why that is. But like I said, if
Speaker 1: this is her normal, then maybe it's gonna take a
Speaker 1: lot of like a lot more of this shit to
Speaker 1: happen for her to realize it's wrong. Because again, she's
Speaker 1: still only twenty two. I think she'll realize once she
Speaker 1: is where's her dad? Like I need to know, like
Speaker 1: who's her dad? Where's the dad? Give me some more
Speaker 1: of the backs, or I want you to update me
Speaker 1: on this friend, because I could figure it out more
Speaker 1: if I knew the history with both parents, Like has
Speaker 1: she ever opened up to you about her father? Has
Speaker 1: she ever opened up to you about being treated a
Speaker 1: certain way as a kid when y'all were friends but
Speaker 1: you didn't live with her, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Who knows? You know?
Speaker 1: She could have been getting beaten every night, or she
Speaker 1: could have been getting starved. The mother could have been
Speaker 1: like telling them you're fat or whatever, and you know,
Speaker 1: like just could have been. This could have started early on,
Speaker 1: which makes it her normal life, you know. And then
Speaker 1: how does your best friend look at you and your mother?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, does she ever has
Speaker 1: there ever been a moment where she well you even
Speaker 1: saw her wishing that this could be her household, like
Speaker 1: when you're around your parents and shit like that, And
Speaker 1: has she ever been around that?
Speaker 2: You know, understand what I'm saying. We do all mother
Speaker 2: even let out the house.
Speaker 1: But you know, like I like, uh, it's something there
Speaker 1: that I need more context for to give full advice
Speaker 1: on this shit, because I'm not gonna say she she
Speaker 1: a little too old, but she old enough to notice
Speaker 1: it's not right. Yeah, you know, you know, unless she's
Speaker 1: just a diehard I got one mom, and I wonders, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that as well, Like, yeah, was she the only one
Speaker 1: treated like this? Was she the you know, the well
Speaker 1: what child they always say is treated like the outcast?
Speaker 2: The middle child?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Is she a middle child? Is she an only child?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, which wouldn't matter if the
Speaker 1: mom is fucked up anyway, because you know, because then
Speaker 1: all the kids get treated fucked up. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, unless it's the dad thing. Like I said,
Speaker 1: I just need more contacts on it. But I don't
Speaker 1: think that you were wrong.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I do think that you should reach out though this
Speaker 1: this is your best friend since too.
Speaker 2: I think she did though she said you gave her
Speaker 2: the shoulder.
Speaker 1: Oh she did all the ship. She haven't talked to
Speaker 1: her in a week. She said, it's been a week
Speaker 1: and then let.
Speaker 2: Me saying she reached out and she's just not got it.
Speaker 2: Let me say, hold on, let me sing, let me sing,
Speaker 2: me scroll on it.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, she dropped me off and that we
Speaker 1: haven't spoken since it's been a week. We usually talk
Speaker 1: every day, and I just feel so bad. I texted
Speaker 1: her a few times and now she's giving me the
Speaker 1: cold shoulder, like I really said some crazy shit to her. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: I get it. I totally understand. Also, what nationality is she?
Speaker 2: Like? Is she black? White? Other?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: What is she? Because not that that really really matters.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, I don't know. I'm not sure
Speaker 1: the defensiveness. It seems like that would come out of
Speaker 1: a white person before a black person. Hell yeah, I
Speaker 1: went to a predominantly white high school and it was
Speaker 1: a lot of my friends who had fucked up parents,
Speaker 1: and they see nothing wrong with that. Up. Hold up,
Speaker 1: I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me,
Speaker 1: you'll listen. They see nothing wrong with their parents. Like yeah,
Speaker 1: like listen, this is crazy. I remember in high school
Speaker 1: I was like one of them. When I say predominantly white,
Speaker 1: by high school was predominantly white. I went to Yeah,
Speaker 1: I went to Dallastown. I went to school in Pennsylvania, York,
Speaker 1: right outside of York. It was this county called Dallastown
Speaker 1: and I went to Dallastown Area High School and it
Speaker 1: was a middle high school or whatever, but it was
Speaker 1: a huge campus. It looked like a fucking college. Like
Speaker 1: it was huge, like a university. And of course I'm
Speaker 1: in high school. When I first got there, I think
Speaker 1: I was like one of like sixteen black kids, and
Speaker 1: it was about from nine to eleven thousand kids in the.
Speaker 2: School, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And it was different other races or whatever, foreign exchange
Speaker 1: and all that, but it was predominantly Caucasian, and I
Speaker 1: had friends, and once I got to be popular and
Speaker 1: shit and all of that type of stuff, I developed
Speaker 1: a strong friend group up there, and we would hook
Speaker 1: school and go to my house and shit when it
Speaker 1: was time to hook school, not when it was time,
Speaker 1: but yeah, like we hated Thursdays, yo, because that was
Speaker 1: science day and shit like, you know, So we would
Speaker 1: hook on Thursdays. And I lived closer closest to the school,
Speaker 1: so we would go right to my house. My mom
Speaker 1: worked in Baltimore, so I knew when she was coming home,
Speaker 1: and it would take her a while to get home.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, we can just look at my house.
Speaker 1: Were smoking in the backyard and my mom had came home.
Speaker 1: I didn't get in trouble the first time I got caught,
Speaker 1: you know. She was just like, you don't need to
Speaker 1: do that. She had like a nice, stern talk with
Speaker 1: me in front of my friends, and she kissed me
Speaker 1: on my forehead and she was like, I love you,
Speaker 1: but don't fucking play with me, little girl.
Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I said, yes, ma'am, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean.
Speaker 1: So my friend. I remember her, her name was Morgan Talbert.
Speaker 1: She was like, your mom just told you she loved you.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, you know what I'm saying. She
Speaker 1: was like that's crazy, is it crazy?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: She was like interest like they they weren't affectionate with
Speaker 1: their parents. Their parents weren't nurturing, they were just providing
Speaker 1: for them. They were just they would give them money.
Speaker 1: They wouldn't even see their kids half the time. A
Speaker 1: lot of their parents traveled for work, so they wouldn't
Speaker 1: even see their parents a lot, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And then I had other friends that would look at
Speaker 1: me like, ooh, you see your parents every day, like
Speaker 1: you like your parents like talk to you all the time.
Speaker 1: Like that doesn't get on your fucking nerves. I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: they love me the fuck.
Speaker 4: Like that's interesting because the white people I went to,
Speaker 4: I went to the white people that went to my school,
Speaker 4: at least with my white friends, like the only thing
Speaker 4: it was the stereotype.
Speaker 2: Though. I remember one.
Speaker 3: Time my friend Emily, she.
Speaker 2: She I don't know, her mom almost mad at her
Speaker 2: about something.
Speaker 3: And we didn't give a fucking damn like and like
Speaker 3: she was just like whatever, Mom, like.
Speaker 1: Just like fuck you outside she didn't they fuck you,
Speaker 1: but she was like.
Speaker 3: Back talking to her. I remember stepping back like I
Speaker 3: wouldn't not Yeah with her, she goes, maybe you should, yeah,
Speaker 3: but her mom did not.
Speaker 2: She was not the one.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, And that's funny. One of my friend's
Speaker 1: moms was like that, and rest in peace to her.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: She actually took her own life. She was dealing with
Speaker 1: some mental issues. Yeah, but her name was, oh my god,
Speaker 1: a Katie or Yvonne, I don't know, but either way, Alex,
Speaker 1: that wasn't I'm like the fuck, yeah, Alex, that was
Speaker 1: the name. She took her own fucking life, you know,
Speaker 1: and she was dealing with that. But she was a
Speaker 1: mother that did not play. She she had two kids,
Speaker 1: and her daughter gave her. Her daughter was the youngest,
Speaker 1: and her daughter gave her the most trouble. She will
Speaker 1: whoop that little girl ass, like she will whoop her ass.
Speaker 1: And that was the first time I ever seen or
Speaker 1: even heard of a white one of my white friends
Speaker 1: being chastised physically being disciplined.
Speaker 2: But my first time she her mom was like like.
Speaker 1: That, yeah, yeah her, that's the crazy thing, you know.
Speaker 1: So I said that to say sharing my experience about
Speaker 1: being in a predominantly white high school, because this speaks
Speaker 1: to this girl's story, Like I wouldn't be surprised if
Speaker 1: she was white, because but even if.
Speaker 3: She was, how you explained it, Like they just weren't there,
Speaker 3: but their parents weren't treating.
Speaker 2: Them, weren't treating them.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I think they'll be happy if she got
Speaker 3: I'm sober. She got a house at twenty two, a
Speaker 3: house at twenty two?
Speaker 2: What did you do for her job? I know I
Speaker 2: need to know my best friend need to tell me.
Speaker 1: And shit, you know, I really want you to keep
Speaker 1: reaching out to her though, because honestly, maybe she's not okay.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You just yeah, you never know, and I think that
Speaker 1: should be something that you should say. You should suggest
Speaker 1: that to her to go to therapy. I man, of shit,
Speaker 1: I lost my thought. I went all around the Marigo
Speaker 1: bush and shit, just to let you know why I
Speaker 1: say it and told you I.
Speaker 2: Went to a predominant white high school. It was a
Speaker 2: thought there.
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna get into it pribabe next week or
Speaker 1: some because I forgot you. I did the same shit
Speaker 1: on the episode last week. But it is all right, man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that you should suggest therapy to her, some
Speaker 1: type of family therapy. I doubt that her mom will go,
Speaker 1: but she needs to go. It's still family therapy because
Speaker 1: she's going to go in there and spill about her mom,
Speaker 1: and maybe her hailing can motivate her mom to go.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Because those type of people
Speaker 1: you have to talk to a certain way, like her mother,
Speaker 1: you have to.
Speaker 2: It's a certain way.
Speaker 1: You have to be a healed person to get to
Speaker 1: show another person the mirror of themselves.
Speaker 2: Like, Yo, what you're doing is fucked up. You're wrong,
Speaker 2: and you're projecting on me.
Speaker 1: You've been projecting on me my whole life, and I'm
Speaker 1: just now seeing as an adult, as a young adult,
Speaker 1: but still an adult. Nevertheless, like this, you're not a
Speaker 1: good mom to me, and I love you. I look
Speaker 1: up to you, and.
Speaker 2: It's just like why what did I do?
Speaker 1: Like I need her to have these conversations with her mom,
Speaker 1: but I do also want her to seek out therapy.
Speaker 1: But I want her to have these conversations with her
Speaker 1: mom because I doubt if she got mad at you
Speaker 1: like that, she's ever questioned her mom about that.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, because if you.
Speaker 1: Know your mom like that, I think the first person
Speaker 1: I'm going to go show my house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, or she just also is in a sense wanted,
Speaker 3: like she gotta protect her family.
Speaker 2: Yeah maybe yeah, yeah in that sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but definitely keep me updated, you know, because I
Speaker 1: want to know.
Speaker 2: I want to know.
Speaker 1: And then that's your friend. You know, I know you
Speaker 1: missed her and everything. So it's okay, you ain't. You
Speaker 1: ain't losing nothing. Keep hitting her. Yeah, she's giving you
Speaker 1: the coach show to pop up on her. You know,
Speaker 1: go see her. That's your best sied. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Best friends they do that, they do that sometimes,
Speaker 1: and you have to do that.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to go pull up on a bitch.
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 1: Like, come on you you got mad at me. I'm
Speaker 1: just looking out for your best interests.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I've watched your mom basically try to destroy who you are.
Speaker 2: Almost your whole life.
Speaker 1: Like remember graduation, bitch, when you was crying fund all
Speaker 1: those fucking people because your mom didn't want to take
Speaker 1: a picture with you. She kept saying that she was
Speaker 1: dressed like a uchi. Yeah, like no, like, tell her
Speaker 1: that you've always been there. Just always just be there
Speaker 1: if anything, even if she push you away, just be
Speaker 1: there because she still needs somebody, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And it's not the person who her mother is. She
Speaker 1: needs her mother, but not the person who her mother
Speaker 1: is right now. So the mother needs help too. But
Speaker 1: she's a little too set in her ways and it's
Speaker 1: gonna take a miracle to change who she is and
Speaker 1: her age. So it is up to the best friend
Speaker 1: to break that generational curse. So keep me updated, b
Speaker 1: And just like that, we've come to yet the end
Speaker 1: of another carefully reckless podcast. But your girl justcelarious and
Speaker 1: my girl Taylor's here. Say thank you Taylor, and we
Speaker 1: got one. Okay, it's the first assumption to follow directions.
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, now stay you welcome, Tailor, You're welcome,
Speaker 2: all right, that's what's up. She was about to say,
Speaker 2: you welcome Tailor. All right. I love y'all. Y'all will
Speaker 2: hear from us next week.
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