1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't beleeve Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: with yet another carefully reckless episode, which you girl, Jess 4 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: hilarious This sweek, Taylor is in here with me. 5 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 2: Say hi to Taylor, y'all says Hi, Taylor? Hi nice? 6 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 2: Sorry she beck y'all? 7 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: All right, but I'm gonna read this time, and she's 8 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: just gonna help me fix the mess. All right, all right, 9 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: so we're gonna jump straight into it. What's good, Jess? 10 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: I need your opinion on something. Well, I need to 11 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: know if I'm right or wrong for this. So me 12 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:39,840 Speaker 1: and my best friend have been best friends for about 13 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: twenty out of twenty two years of our life. 14 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 2: Okay, so you're twenty two. You met your best friend 15 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 2: at two, but do you remember that? Sure? 16 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 3: Bet? 17 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: Just being line of me like a motherfucker. It's all right, 18 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 1: g It's all good. It's a good which means we 19 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 1: are super close. We grew up in two different households. 20 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: Mine's mine's is not a word. Mine was more family 21 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: oriented and hers was more strict and discombobulated. 22 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 2: Sorry, but it's true. 23 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: Growing up, her mom didn't really let her go anywhere, 24 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,119 Speaker 1: and was also hard on her. I never understood why 25 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: my girl always had great grades. She's a great person, 26 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 1: and no one ever really had problems out of her. 27 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: Her mom used to talk about the way she dressed 28 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: and just belittled her in ways that wasn't too recognizable 29 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: until we got older. Even though our senior year graduation day, 30 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: her mother made her cry so bad because she didn't 31 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: want to take a picture with her m She said 32 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: she looked like she was about to sell some ass dumn. 33 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, and she actually looked really nice. Her 34 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: mother also sat in front of so many people. I 35 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: was so embarrassed for her. Just what the fuck she's said? 36 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 2: Oh she's saying. 37 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: Her mother also said that in front of a whole 38 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:49,919 Speaker 1: bunch of people, So she was just embarrassed. 39 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: Okay, I got you. I got you. 40 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: A week after she decided to move out, which I 41 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: helped her move into her new place just to get 42 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: a peace of mind. She always looked up to her mom, 43 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: so it how what the fuck how you look up 44 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: to a bitch like that? 45 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 2: Damn she got a mother like, uh, what's the lady? Uh? 46 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, precious, And Carrie, I was going back to the 47 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: movie carrying shit, but yeah, definitely should. She always looked 48 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: up to her mom, so it was kind of hard 49 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: to see for herself how she was breaking her down. 50 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: That was just a little backstory, so it can help 51 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: back up what I'm about to. 52 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 2: Say, La Mayo. Okay, here you go. 53 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: So now two years later, Bestie just bought her new home. 54 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: Of course I knew about it, but she wanted to 55 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: tell her mom at some surprising news. 56 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 2: I already knew how that was about to go. 57 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: So Bessie and I just came back from lunch and 58 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: went to pick her mom up so we can show 59 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: her the new place. 60 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 2: Child. As soon as we pull up, she's like, who 61 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 2: else is this? This is yours? 62 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: Bessie was so excited, like, yes, Ma, I gotta show 63 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: you the inside. Her mom gonna ask her who on 64 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: the lease and why why you need a house? 65 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 2: So big girl. I just went back and sat in 66 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 2: the car. 67 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, who you went back to the car minded 68 00:02:57,919 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: my business? 69 00:02:58,480 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 2: Because like, what, why? 70 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: What does it matter? Just be happy for your daughter. Damn, Yeah, 71 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: I definitely get it. But anyways, once she was done 72 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:08,800 Speaker 1: showing her the house, which was an amazingly fast tour. 73 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 2: By the way, first of all, she's twenty. 74 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: House and right and you and you're not even right 75 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: about that, like you're not even looking at like your. 76 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 2: Daughter grew up fast. You know what I'm saying. 77 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: It's like damn accomplishments early. So I know people in 78 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 1: their thirties and forties and even fifties who ain't got 79 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: their own house, and that's fucked up that she would 80 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: like overshadow all of that with questions and interrogating them. 81 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: All right, So after she showed her a fast tour, 82 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: she took her home. The drive was so awkward. Bessie 83 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: would try to engage with her mom and she would 84 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: just respond so short and nonchalant. As Bestie and I 85 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: drove home, I finally decided that it was time time 86 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: to tell her about how I felt about her mom. 87 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: To sum it up, I called her mom a hater 88 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 1: and said that she's been hating on her for years. 89 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: And Jess, when I say she went off on me, 90 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 1: she did. I don't know if she's just being in 91 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 1: the now or what it is, but it's definitely the 92 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to overstep, but that's exactly what I 93 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: felt like after telling her and whole time I'm just 94 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: trying to look out for her. She dropped me off 95 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: and we haven't spoken since. Damn, it's been a week. 96 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: We usually talk every day, and I just feel so bad. 97 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: I texted her a few times and now she's giving 98 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: me the cold shoulder, like I said some crazy shit 99 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: to her, when in all honesty, my intentions were genuine. 100 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 1: I need your honest opinion and feedback. What do you think? 101 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:26,679 Speaker 1: Do you think I was wrong? 102 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 2: First? And for almost No, I don't think you were wrong. 103 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 2: Y'all have been best. 104 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: For instance, she was damned too, and that's crazy because 105 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,839 Speaker 1: you remember that. But I don't think that you were wrong. 106 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 1: I've seen something like this before. But look, Tayl, I 107 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: got this new thing I do where somebody has written 108 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: me a story that I've never seen before, like because 109 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: you know people write similar stories all the time, right, 110 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: but I got to saying we got one. So that's 111 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: literally like where we at. I call this an exclusive story, 112 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: right because we've never heard anything like this before. On 113 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 1: jes fix my mess again? Like I said, I've known 114 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: people that has gone through this, and then we've even 115 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: seen movies like this. 116 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,040 Speaker 2: We've seen Precious. We've seen Carrie, we've seen other movies, 117 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 2: so she knew though. 118 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know, she still loved 119 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 1: her mother, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, she know 120 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 1: my mom wasn't good. Yeah, And you know what the 121 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 1: difference between Precious and that girl. Precious didn't go off 122 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: on nobody that told her that she didn't need to 123 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: be with her mother, you know what I mean. Yeah, 124 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 1: I don't know what that part is. 125 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 2: Shut up, I don't know what. 126 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: That part was about. But this is what I do think. 127 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: I think that your friend's mom is jealous of her. Well, 128 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 1: it could be one of two things, because I've seen this, 129 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,279 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, I've seen this. It could 130 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: be that she hates the dad because sometimes people have kids, 131 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,280 Speaker 1: Women have kids by men before getting to know them, 132 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: and then they realize that they don't want the kid, 133 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 1: but the kid is already here. You know, something happens 134 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: and you have this constant reminder of the person that 135 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: just took you through hell, the person that she don't 136 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: even know why you was pregnant by, and you know, 137 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: especially when they look like the motherfucker, it's like, you know, 138 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: while I understand that it's wrong. It's very wrong because 139 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: one the kid didn't next to be here, and you 140 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: willingly had the kid. 141 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:20,679 Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. 142 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: Just because something happened with the father does not mean 143 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: that that falls on the child. You know, so you 144 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,720 Speaker 1: can't treat the child away because of who you conceived with. 145 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: I noticed that happens a lot. Like like I said, 146 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: I know people. And then the second thing, her childhood, 147 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: the mom's childhood. She could be projecting what her mom 148 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: did to her. You understand what I'm saying now, Sometimes 149 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: it goes different ways. Sometimes people get treated like shit 150 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:46,359 Speaker 1: when they're younger, so all they want to do is 151 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: be good parents. 152 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 2: To their kids. 153 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: That's why most a lot of those people they want 154 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 1: families so they can give the family. They can give 155 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: their kids what they didn't have growing up. You know 156 00:06:57,560 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I do see it like that. 157 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: But sometimes your trauma can make you the very person 158 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 1: that you despise, you know what I'm saying. And and 159 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: you can actually yeah, basically just be like the person 160 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 1: that fucked you over. If you love me, you'll listen 161 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. So 162 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 1: I think either her mom didn't have a good upbringing, 163 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 1: you know, and this is just a generational thing, like 164 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 1: you know, and she's gonna have to break that cycle. 165 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: Your best friend, because she I still can't figure out 166 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: the defensive part other than she loves he mother like 167 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: she really just like it's like she sees the good 168 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: in her and she really is hoping that it changes 169 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: because she says she looks up to her. 170 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 3: What do you think I know someone actually not necessarily 171 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 3: like that, but know one that I don't know how listen, Yeah, 172 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 3: has certain stuff that her mom did to her. This 173 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 3: is and you can mom has her on trauma. Yeah, 174 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 3: she didn't deal with but she see again her mom's 175 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 3: not like that where she kind of just keeps critiquing 176 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 3: her and her mom just got issues whatever. But I 177 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 3: don't think she did anything wrong. But I think she 178 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 3: needs to face the truth of how her mom acts 179 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 3: towards her though, And that's being her best friend. She's 180 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 3: understand and she's just trying to keep it real with her. 181 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 2: And yeah, she's going to see things that she don't see. 182 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: So yeah, and I think and what if she sees 183 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,959 Speaker 1: it but she don't want to, Yeah, she don't want 184 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: to like she's in denial about it. It's like not 185 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,200 Speaker 1: And when I say no, I mean like she's not 186 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 1: ready to open that can yet, you know what I mean, Like, 187 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:43,200 Speaker 1: oh no, because like I said, she could still see 188 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: the good in her mom. Because m like even even 189 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: for Precious before Precious got fed up and she went 190 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,199 Speaker 1: to that social worker And I forgot Mariy Caurry was 191 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: in that movie Mark Curry was gonna hot ass map. 192 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: I've never seen Mariah Carry look crazy like that. That's 193 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: why that's the only place that I can't believe Mariah 194 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: Carey agreed to look a hot ass mess like that 195 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: order play a social worker. 196 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 3: Well we get off topic, but because remember she did 197 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 3: MTD Cribs and even how she was yes, like damn. 198 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: Bit like we never seen her with a bad day, 199 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: so I know she probably like no, and this this 200 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: is just the rollttle bitch, Like you. 201 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying. 202 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:23,319 Speaker 1: But like, I have never seen Mariah Carry. That's what 203 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 1: I forgot. I forgot him. Like until you watch the Ship, 204 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: You're like, oh shit, Paula Patton was the teacher and 205 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: it's like, oh shit, Maroc Curry did look like she 206 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:33,520 Speaker 1: was on crack, you know what I'm saying. But it 207 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: is what it is. You know, she's a very beautiful 208 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: woman and that's what it is. But and it's her 209 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: holiday right now, so shout out to Mariah Carey. But 210 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 1: even before Precious got set up with her mother, you 211 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like she right before she threw 212 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 1: that TV or piano or something she threw out the 213 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: window at her as a TV or something, right like 214 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: she Pruscianus was still trying to like help her mother 215 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: and shit and give her the benefit of the doubt 216 00:09:58,559 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: and Precious mom. 217 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 2: And her her mom to like her. Yeah, it's like 218 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 2: her like yeah, neediness. 219 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: Mm hmm you do this so like me, yeah, because 220 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: it's your mom and you only get one, you know 221 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: what I mean. And it's like, yo, what am I 222 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:14,320 Speaker 1: doing wrong? So kids start to blame themselves. The child 223 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: starts to blame themselves if they don't get help early 224 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:20,080 Speaker 1: to realize this is not normal, you know, because if 225 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,079 Speaker 1: you grow up like that, then this is normal to you. 226 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 2: This is your normal. Yeah, thinking about like, yeah, that's 227 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 2: normal to her. 228 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, because she's like like she she acts like well, again, 229 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 3: I don't know if this is how her friend acts, 230 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 3: but like acts like okay if I do that, like 231 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,839 Speaker 3: she's yeah yeah. It's like she's trying to get her 232 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 3: approval by everyone though, based off I think her. 233 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: Friend yeah yeah, because like her wanting to take her 234 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 1: mom so bad to show that house off to her, like, yo, mom, 235 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,920 Speaker 1: this is what I accomplished, and and she knows her mom. 236 00:10:56,960 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 2: I don't know if she thought her mom would react 237 00:10:58,800 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: like that. I just think that she was. 238 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, maybe if I should her this house, 239 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: this is gonna make her love me, This is gonna 240 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: make her acknowledge me. 241 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 2: This is gonna make you know what I'm saying. 242 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: So maybe she's been spending her whole life trying to 243 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: prove herself because this is the normal that she's you 244 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: know what I mean. 245 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 3: But I why don't she never talk to her She 246 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 3: never talked to her friend about that though, Like they 247 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,319 Speaker 3: as best friends, y'all. 248 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: That's why I said, if y'all have been best friend 249 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 1: since too, why was she so defensive? I could see 250 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: if y'all just met, or y'all just been friends for 251 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: a few years, or you know, because then it'll be 252 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: a thing like you don't know my mom. 253 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 254 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 1: But you know, y'all was damn near like y'all were toddlers. 255 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 1: So it's like you've known this lady, you know, And 256 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 1: and I don't know. My best friend's mom is like 257 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 1: my mom too, you know. And my mom is like 258 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 1: my best friend's mom. And we haven't even been friends 259 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: best friends since we were too you know, So I'm 260 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: not sure why that is. But like I said, if 261 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: this is her normal, then maybe it's gonna take a 262 00:11:57,080 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: lot of like a lot more of this shit to 263 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:03,719 Speaker 1: happen for her to realize it's wrong. Because again, she's 264 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 1: still only twenty two. I think she'll realize once she 265 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: is where's her dad? Like I need to know, like 266 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: who's her dad? Where's the dad? Give me some more 267 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 1: of the backs, or I want you to update me 268 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: on this friend, because I could figure it out more 269 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: if I knew the history with both parents, Like has 270 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: she ever opened up to you about her father? Has 271 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: she ever opened up to you about being treated a 272 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:29,440 Speaker 1: certain way as a kid when y'all were friends but 273 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: you didn't live with her, you know what I'm saying. 274 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 2: Who knows? You know? 275 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:34,599 Speaker 1: She could have been getting beaten every night, or she 276 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:36,439 Speaker 1: could have been getting starved. The mother could have been 277 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: like telling them you're fat or whatever, and you know, 278 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: like just could have been. This could have started early on, 279 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 1: which makes it her normal life, you know. And then 280 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 1: how does your best friend look at you and your mother? 281 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, does she ever has 282 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: there ever been a moment where she well you even 283 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 1: saw her wishing that this could be her household, like 284 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 1: when you're around your parents and shit like that, And 285 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: has she ever been around that? 286 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 2: You know, understand what I'm saying. We do all mother 287 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 2: even let out the house. 288 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: But you know, like I like, uh, it's something there 289 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 1: that I need more context for to give full advice 290 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:16,559 Speaker 1: on this shit, because I'm not gonna say she she 291 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 1: a little too old, but she old enough to notice 292 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 1: it's not right. Yeah, you know, you know, unless she's 293 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: just a diehard I got one mom, and I wonders, Yeah, yeah, 294 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:35,839 Speaker 1: that as well, Like, yeah, was she the only one 295 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 1: treated like this? Was she the you know, the well 296 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: what child they always say is treated like the outcast? 297 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 2: The middle child? 298 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 3: Yeah? 299 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 2: Is she a middle child? Is she an only child? 300 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, which wouldn't matter if the 301 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 1: mom is fucked up anyway, because you know, because then 302 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 1: all the kids get treated fucked up. You know what 303 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: I'm saying, unless it's the dad thing. Like I said, 304 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,680 Speaker 1: I just need more contacts on it. But I don't 305 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 1: think that you were wrong. 306 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 2: I don't. 307 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 1: I do think that you should reach out though this 308 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: this is your best friend since too. 309 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 2: I think she did though she said you gave her 310 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:08,840 Speaker 2: the shoulder. 311 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: Oh she did all the ship. She haven't talked to 312 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: her in a week. She said, it's been a week 313 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:15,559 Speaker 1: and then let. 314 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 2: Me saying she reached out and she's just not got it. 315 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 2: Let me say, hold on, let me sing, let me sing, 316 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 2: me scroll on it. 317 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:24,640 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, she dropped me off and that we 318 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: haven't spoken since it's been a week. We usually talk 319 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: every day, and I just feel so bad. I texted 320 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: her a few times and now she's giving me the 321 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 1: cold shoulder, like I really said some crazy shit to her. Okay, Okay, 322 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 1: I get it. I totally understand. Also, what nationality is she? 323 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 2: Like? Is she black? White? Other? 324 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 3: Like? 325 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 2: What is she? Because not that that really really matters. 326 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 1: But I don't know, I don't know. I'm not sure 327 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 1: the defensiveness. It seems like that would come out of 328 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 1: a white person before a black person. Hell yeah, I 329 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: went to a predominantly white high school and it was 330 00:14:57,920 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: a lot of my friends who had fucked up parents, 331 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:03,600 Speaker 1: and they see nothing wrong with that. Up. Hold up, 332 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: I know this shit getting good, but listen to just 333 00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 1: a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 334 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 1: you'll listen. They see nothing wrong with their parents. Like yeah, 335 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:15,360 Speaker 1: like listen, this is crazy. I remember in high school 336 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 1: I was like one of them. When I say predominantly white, 337 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: by high school was predominantly white. I went to Yeah, 338 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: I went to Dallastown. I went to school in Pennsylvania, York, 339 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 1: right outside of York. It was this county called Dallastown 340 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: and I went to Dallastown Area High School and it 341 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:30,920 Speaker 1: was a middle high school or whatever, but it was 342 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 1: a huge campus. It looked like a fucking college. Like 343 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:36,480 Speaker 1: it was huge, like a university. And of course I'm 344 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:38,720 Speaker 1: in high school. When I first got there, I think 345 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: I was like one of like sixteen black kids, and 346 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 1: it was about from nine to eleven thousand kids in the. 347 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 2: School, you know what I'm saying. 348 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: And it was different other races or whatever, foreign exchange 349 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 1: and all that, but it was predominantly Caucasian, and I 350 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 1: had friends, and once I got to be popular and 351 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: shit and all of that type of stuff, I developed 352 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 1: a strong friend group up there, and we would hook 353 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 1: school and go to my house and shit when it 354 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: was time to hook school, not when it was time, 355 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 1: but yeah, like we hated Thursdays, yo, because that was 356 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: science day and shit like, you know, So we would 357 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: hook on Thursdays. And I lived closer closest to the school, 358 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: so we would go right to my house. My mom 359 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: worked in Baltimore, so I knew when she was coming home, 360 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 1: and it would take her a while to get home. 361 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, we can just look at my house. 362 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 1: Were smoking in the backyard and my mom had came home. 363 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: I didn't get in trouble the first time I got caught, 364 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 1: you know. She was just like, you don't need to 365 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: do that. She had like a nice, stern talk with 366 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: me in front of my friends, and she kissed me 367 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: on my forehead and she was like, I love you, 368 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 1: but don't fucking play with me, little girl. 369 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I said, yes, ma'am, you know 370 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: what I mean. 371 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 1: So my friend. I remember her, her name was Morgan Talbert. 372 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: She was like, your mom just told you she loved you. 373 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, you know what I'm saying. She 374 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: was like that's crazy, is it crazy? 375 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? 376 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 1: She was like interest like they they weren't affectionate with 377 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:01,600 Speaker 1: their parents. Their parents weren't nurturing, they were just providing 378 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 1: for them. They were just they would give them money. 379 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: They wouldn't even see their kids half the time. A 380 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:08,040 Speaker 1: lot of their parents traveled for work, so they wouldn't 381 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 1: even see their parents a lot, you know what I mean. 382 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: And then I had other friends that would look at 383 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 1: me like, ooh, you see your parents every day, like 384 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: you like your parents like talk to you all the time. 385 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 1: Like that doesn't get on your fucking nerves. I'm like, no, 386 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: they love me the fuck. 387 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:23,639 Speaker 4: Like that's interesting because the white people I went to, 388 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,480 Speaker 4: I went to the white people that went to my school, 389 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 4: at least with my white friends, like the only thing 390 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 4: it was the stereotype. 391 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:33,680 Speaker 2: Though. I remember one. 392 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:38,120 Speaker 3: Time my friend Emily, she. 393 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 2: She I don't know, her mom almost mad at her 394 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 2: about something. 395 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 3: And we didn't give a fucking damn like and like 396 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,680 Speaker 3: she was just like whatever, Mom, like. 397 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:49,800 Speaker 1: Just like fuck you outside she didn't they fuck you, 398 00:17:49,880 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: but she was like. 399 00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:55,359 Speaker 3: Back talking to her. I remember stepping back like I 400 00:17:55,400 --> 00:18:03,160 Speaker 3: wouldn't not Yeah with her, she goes, maybe you should, yeah, 401 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 3: but her mom did not. 402 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 2: She was not the one. 403 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:12,840 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, And that's funny. One of my friend's 404 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:15,479 Speaker 1: moms was like that, and rest in peace to her. 405 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 2: Now. 406 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: She actually took her own life. She was dealing with 407 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: some mental issues. Yeah, but her name was, oh my god, 408 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: a Katie or Yvonne, I don't know, but either way, Alex, 409 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:27,480 Speaker 1: that wasn't I'm like the fuck, yeah, Alex, that was 410 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,119 Speaker 1: the name. She took her own fucking life, you know, 411 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:31,879 Speaker 1: and she was dealing with that. But she was a 412 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 1: mother that did not play. She she had two kids, 413 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,359 Speaker 1: and her daughter gave her. Her daughter was the youngest, 414 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 1: and her daughter gave her the most trouble. She will 415 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,680 Speaker 1: whoop that little girl ass, like she will whoop her ass. 416 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: And that was the first time I ever seen or 417 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 1: even heard of a white one of my white friends 418 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 1: being chastised physically being disciplined. 419 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:56,080 Speaker 2: But my first time she her mom was like like. 420 00:18:56,080 --> 00:19:01,320 Speaker 1: That, yeah, yeah her, that's the crazy thing, you know. 421 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 1: So I said that to say sharing my experience about 422 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: being in a predominantly white high school, because this speaks 423 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 1: to this girl's story, Like I wouldn't be surprised if 424 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 1: she was white, because but even if. 425 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 3: She was, how you explained it, Like they just weren't there, 426 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 3: but their parents weren't treating. 427 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 2: Them, weren't treating them. 428 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I think they'll be happy if she got 429 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 3: I'm sober. She got a house at twenty two, a 430 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:29,160 Speaker 3: house at twenty two? 431 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 2: What did you do for her job? I know I 432 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 2: need to know my best friend need to tell me. 433 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:35,360 Speaker 1: And shit, you know, I really want you to keep 434 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:37,919 Speaker 1: reaching out to her though, because honestly, maybe she's not okay. 435 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 436 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 1: You just yeah, you never know, and I think that 437 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 1: should be something that you should say. You should suggest 438 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:45,920 Speaker 1: that to her to go to therapy. I man, of shit, 439 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,120 Speaker 1: I lost my thought. I went all around the Marigo 440 00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 1: bush and shit, just to let you know why I 441 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:52,120 Speaker 1: say it and told you I. 442 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 2: Went to a predominant white high school. It was a 443 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 2: thought there. 444 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna get into it pribabe next week or 445 00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 1: some because I forgot you. I did the same shit 446 00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:01,359 Speaker 1: on the episode last week. But it is all right, man. Yeah, 447 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,399 Speaker 1: I think that you should suggest therapy to her, some 448 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: type of family therapy. I doubt that her mom will go, 449 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:09,920 Speaker 1: but she needs to go. It's still family therapy because 450 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:11,640 Speaker 1: she's going to go in there and spill about her mom, 451 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 1: and maybe her hailing can motivate her mom to go. 452 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:19,399 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Because those type of people 453 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: you have to talk to a certain way, like her mother, 454 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:22,080 Speaker 1: you have to. 455 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 2: It's a certain way. 456 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:26,040 Speaker 1: You have to be a healed person to get to 457 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: show another person the mirror of themselves. 458 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 2: Like, Yo, what you're doing is fucked up. You're wrong, 459 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 2: and you're projecting on me. 460 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 1: You've been projecting on me my whole life, and I'm 461 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 1: just now seeing as an adult, as a young adult, 462 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 1: but still an adult. Nevertheless, like this, you're not a 463 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: good mom to me, and I love you. I look 464 00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: up to you, and. 465 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 2: It's just like why what did I do? 466 00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: Like I need her to have these conversations with her mom, 467 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: but I do also want her to seek out therapy. 468 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 1: But I want her to have these conversations with her 469 00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:57,679 Speaker 1: mom because I doubt if she got mad at you 470 00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:59,919 Speaker 1: like that, she's ever questioned her mom about that. 471 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:01,720 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, because if you. 472 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 1: Know your mom like that, I think the first person 473 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to go show my house. 474 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, or she just also is in a sense wanted, 475 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 3: like she gotta protect her family. 476 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 2: Yeah maybe yeah, yeah in that sense. 477 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, but definitely keep me updated, you know, because I 478 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:19,439 Speaker 1: want to know. 479 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 2: I want to know. 480 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:21,879 Speaker 1: And then that's your friend. You know, I know you 481 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:24,359 Speaker 1: missed her and everything. So it's okay, you ain't. You 482 00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:27,320 Speaker 1: ain't losing nothing. Keep hitting her. Yeah, she's giving you 483 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: the coach show to pop up on her. You know, 484 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: go see her. That's your best sied. You know what 485 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:33,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying. Best friends they do that, they do that sometimes, 486 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 1: and you have to do that. 487 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:37,880 Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to go pull up on a bitch. 488 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:38,360 Speaker 2: What's up? 489 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: Like, come on you you got mad at me. I'm 490 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: just looking out for your best interests. 491 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 492 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:46,640 Speaker 1: I've watched your mom basically try to destroy who you are. 493 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:47,680 Speaker 2: Almost your whole life. 494 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 1: Like remember graduation, bitch, when you was crying fund all 495 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 1: those fucking people because your mom didn't want to take 496 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 1: a picture with you. She kept saying that she was 497 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:58,000 Speaker 1: dressed like a uchi. Yeah, like no, like, tell her 498 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,280 Speaker 1: that you've always been there. Just always just be there 499 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: if anything, even if she push you away, just be 500 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 1: there because she still needs somebody, you know what I'm saying. 501 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 1: And it's not the person who her mother is. She 502 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,120 Speaker 1: needs her mother, but not the person who her mother 503 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,119 Speaker 1: is right now. So the mother needs help too. But 504 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,600 Speaker 1: she's a little too set in her ways and it's 505 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 1: gonna take a miracle to change who she is and 506 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 1: her age. So it is up to the best friend 507 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:23,399 Speaker 1: to break that generational curse. So keep me updated, b 508 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: And just like that, we've come to yet the end 509 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: of another carefully reckless podcast. But your girl justcelarious and 510 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,480 Speaker 1: my girl Taylor's here. Say thank you Taylor, and we 511 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 1: got one. Okay, it's the first assumption to follow directions. 512 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:40,000 Speaker 2: Yes, all right, now stay you welcome, Tailor, You're welcome, 513 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 2: all right, that's what's up. She was about to say, 514 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: you welcome Tailor. All right. I love y'all. Y'all will 515 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 2: hear from us next week. 516 00:22:46,280 --> 00:23:59,960 Speaker 1: Peace Can't Believe Reckless is a production of iHeart Rate 517 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 1: Dio and The Black Effect. 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