Speaker 1: Laft meeting, laugh meeting. You know, I realized I used
Speaker 1: to do my like airhorn, like super loud like laugh meeting.
Speaker 1: And then my mom, who listens to my podcast every
Speaker 1: single week. My mom is British, she was like, donning
Speaker 1: you sound like you're on steroids when you're doing these
Speaker 1: things in the morning, and I'm like, oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: just get so excited. The Laft meetings are one of
Speaker 1: my favorite things to do. I love hearing from all
Speaker 1: of you that listen to the podcast and hearing your questions.
Speaker 1: It really makes me think about our show differently, and
Speaker 1: you know, rewatch things differently. So I get very excited
Speaker 1: and like hype about it. But maybe I should pull
Speaker 1: it back, done it down? Am I Like? Am I
Speaker 1: being really loud in your ears? I'm so sorry, It's
Speaker 1: just my enthusiasm. Hi mom. All right, So we are
Speaker 1: calling a Loft meeting. I don't know if you guys
Speaker 1: can see this, for those of you that are maybe
Speaker 1: watching this clip on ig or you're watching this on YouTube,
Speaker 1: but I'm very excited. So for a while I've been
Speaker 1: talking about how I wanted to do a Valentine's gift
Speaker 1: to our New Girl fans. One because I feel like
Speaker 1: we always did the best Valentine's episodes, and two because
Speaker 1: you'll deserve it because we love you. So La Morne
Speaker 1: and I designed Ferguson shirts. What's a greater love letter
Speaker 1: because Winston, as we all know, love Ferguson and Hannah me.
Speaker 1: I am a very proud and out cat lady. Okay,
Speaker 1: So here I am. Can you guys see it here?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see if I can lean away for the
Speaker 1: mic for a second. It says the Mess around and
Speaker 1: at the bottom it says, go fergs to you Bishop.
Speaker 1: I love like I always love those, like athletic shirts
Speaker 1: growing up for different teams. I love them. I would
Speaker 1: go to vintage stores and buy them. So that was
Speaker 1: kind of the inspiration in making our Ferguson Team Ferguson shirt.
Speaker 1: Please go to our website, The messroound pod dot com
Speaker 1: and get you as it's a limited Valentine's Drop love
Speaker 1: letter to you guys, and if it does really well
Speaker 1: and people like it, then maybe we'll keep it on
Speaker 1: the site. If not, this is a one and only
Speaker 1: but I love it. You're gonna see me in town.
Speaker 1: We're on and around here in La I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: rocking this shirt for sure. All Right, we're habbing a
Speaker 1: loft meeting. Here we go, let's start. We hear from
Speaker 1: Trish first, Hi Handed Lamour, and I'm a huge fan
Speaker 1: of both of you and love listening to your show.
Speaker 1: Thank you. You're both so genuine and down to earth
Speaker 1: and seem beautiful inside as well as outside. This is
Speaker 1: I'm telling you the level of compliments you guys give.
Speaker 1: I am here for it. Thank you very much. New
Speaker 1: Girl is one of my comfort shows I have in
Speaker 1: rotation as it brings me joy. I've watched it so
Speaker 1: much that having it on, I've watched it so much
Speaker 1: that having it on in the background while I work
Speaker 1: from home, I sell giggle just hearing the comedy and
Speaker 1: brilliance of the show. Anyway, I wanted to comment and
Speaker 1: agree with Hannah's opinion about it being inappropriate to continue
Speaker 1: to have an X in your life if you're in
Speaker 1: a new relationship and started for a reason and it
Speaker 1: and it for a reason, being an acquaintance would be
Speaker 1: more appropriate. With that being said, I also believe, and
Speaker 1: had a heartbreaking experience with it, that if you're in
Speaker 1: a relationship, you should not have a best friend of
Speaker 1: the same sexual orientation that you talk to, hang out
Speaker 1: with more than your partner. Red flags being hiding text
Speaker 1: with them, stay out all hours of the night with
Speaker 1: them with your phone off, and the classic I've known
Speaker 1: them longer than you. I truly believe you've heard a
Speaker 1: relationship everything should be open communication and honesty. Anything you
Speaker 1: can't tell your partner you're doing is inappropriate and to
Speaker 1: both of your points, if your partner's uncomfortable with how
Speaker 1: you're behaving, then there's something there to discuss. This is
Speaker 1: all true. Oh. I always joke about how I could
Speaker 1: have had a Netflix series about my relationship story as
Speaker 1: it was in sign Anyway, I love your show. I
Speaker 1: love you both. I hope you hear back from you, Trish, Trish,
Speaker 1: I agree with you. I agree with you on all
Speaker 1: your points. I will say I learned the most about
Speaker 1: relationships and how to be respectful in relationships from a
Speaker 1: friend of mine in college. She was in an open relationship.
Speaker 1: She was into all sorts of things that I won't disclose.
Speaker 1: They were private. So what she basically told me was
Speaker 1: so interesting because I said, you know, at the time,
Speaker 1: at that age or whatever, I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: he sent a text to his ex and he was like,
Speaker 1: you know, like, it is that cheating. I just had
Speaker 1: a text. But we had promised that we weren't gonna
Speaker 1: like communicate with our exes, and he sent a text,
Speaker 1: and he's like, a text isn't cheating? You know, I
Speaker 1: didn't have text with her. And I remember my friend
Speaker 1: who was in this like super open, adventurous relationship, was like, no,
Speaker 1: that's cheating. If he made a promise to you about
Speaker 1: doing something in the relationship and you both agreed to it, no,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but a text can be cheating. And I
Speaker 1: remember it really opened my eyes to like, when you
Speaker 1: are going to be in a relationship and you're gonna
Speaker 1: be intimate and vulnerable, you kind of make a contract
Speaker 1: with each other of the things that would hurt you.
Speaker 1: You share those things, and you make a promise to
Speaker 1: not do those things. So if someone does them, whatever
Speaker 1: it is, whatever is in your little contract and your relationship,
Speaker 1: that's cheating. It's a betrayal of trust. So it's so
Speaker 1: funny to think that my friend that was in the
Speaker 1: most open of all relationships is the one who told
Speaker 1: me that like a text qualifies and can be as
Speaker 1: hurtful as someone's with somebody else because it's a betrayal. Interesting.
Speaker 1: But everybody, by the way, is different. Some people might
Speaker 1: be like, you can sleep with as many people as
Speaker 1: you want. That's cool with me, doesn't hurt my feelings. Right,
Speaker 1: everybody's different. Everybody can make their own rules in life. Bam,
Speaker 1: All right, here we go, Brenda, Hello, mess around, Crewe
Speaker 1: handahla morning, Joelle. Hey Joel. First off, thank you for
Speaker 1: an amazing podcast about an amazing show. You're welcome. With
Speaker 1: all of the mess going on in our country, your
Speaker 1: show makes me smile and laugh every week. I wanted
Speaker 1: to write in because, while I do agree with Hannah
Speaker 1: on her take on x's ooh, this is a very
Speaker 1: spicy loft meeting we're having, I have an interesting caveat
Speaker 1: to the rule. I'm super close with my ex, but
Speaker 1: only because there's no chance of anything happening between us.
Speaker 1: I'm a trans woman and we dated prior to my transition.
Speaker 1: When I was with her, I was going through a
Speaker 1: lot and was dealing with so much confusion. Now there's
Speaker 1: no chance of either of us having romantic feelings for
Speaker 1: each other, as we are both into men, and she
Speaker 1: is married. We've had a chance to transition for being
Speaker 1: romantically involved to just being the best of girlfriends. In
Speaker 1: most cases, I wouldn't be friends with an ex, but
Speaker 1: I do believe in exceptions to that rule. Thanks again
Speaker 1: for all you do and for brightening my idea, I
Speaker 1: brightening my idea my day. Thanks Brenda. This is what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Brenda. Right, every single relationship is different, totally different.
Speaker 1: I dated someone once where I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: I'm not comfortable of your friends with your ex that's
Speaker 1: just like my thing. And they were like, oh, got it,
Speaker 1: no problem, and they're like, by the way, that doesn't
Speaker 1: bother me, I don't care if you're friends with all
Speaker 1: your exes. And I was like, oh, okay, and they
Speaker 1: genuinely meant it so and that wasn't a double standard.
Speaker 1: They had other things that they weren't comfortable with, right,
Speaker 1: and so I had to respect those things. It doesn't
Speaker 1: mean it has to be the same. Also, that was
Speaker 1: a nice lesson for me to learn too, Right, is
Speaker 1: that everybody could kind of say like, these are the
Speaker 1: things that are important to me, and you might have
Speaker 1: different things that are important to you. I love that,
Speaker 1: and I love that you have that support and friendship
Speaker 1: now with someone who knows you. And that's all right,
Speaker 1: Jen Hi, Hannah Lamur and I've always wondered as a
Speaker 1: show how our plot holes handled. Do they ever get
Speaker 1: pointed out by cast and or a crew during table reads?
Speaker 1: In the episode, Nick tells Caroline that he broke up
Speaker 1: with her because of Jess, but in the first season
Speaker 1: it's mentioned that Nick and Caroline had been broken up
Speaker 1: with for about six months before Jess moves in. Our
Speaker 1: plot holes sometimes intentional needed when character development goes in
Speaker 1: a different direction over time. I'm so curious about this.
Speaker 1: It seems like such a big piece of Nick's backstory
Speaker 1: to change on the fly. Thanks for reading. You know
Speaker 1: what's funny is I don't feel like it ever happened
Speaker 1: like that. We talked about a plot hole during our show,
Speaker 1: like and that like one didn't come up that was
Speaker 1: glaringly obvious, and we're like, hold on, doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1: So I don't think we ever caught one when we
Speaker 1: were doing the show, at least that I know of,
Speaker 1: Or maybe they did and they fixed them right, But
Speaker 1: a couple have slipped through the cracks. That one I
Speaker 1: always find interesting because I feel personally it's more like,
Speaker 1: you know how they're kind of like on again, off again,
Speaker 1: and you're still texting each other communicating. I feel like,
Speaker 1: remember like Nick was still so hung up on Caroline,
Speaker 1: and there was that connection back and forth still that existed,
Speaker 1: and then it ended. And I think it was that
Speaker 1: Nick didn't tell the truth right about Jess. I think
Speaker 1: it was more that that became the issue and that's
Speaker 1: why she got so mad, right, She was just like,
Speaker 1: you lied and the lie is what got her. So
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, be honest. You gotta be honest. Thank you.
Speaker 1: All right. So Carly, my name is Carly. I started
Speaker 1: watching New Girl when I started college and some of
Speaker 1: my roommates introduced me to it. That was about five
Speaker 1: years ago, and I've watched it pretty consistently since then.
Speaker 1: Like many others, it has become a comfort show for me.
Speaker 1: My husband will often watch the show with me, but
Speaker 1: has to leave the room if things in the loft
Speaker 1: get too cringy. He always tiptoes back in. Though. I
Speaker 1: listened to this podcast constantly for a few months to
Speaker 1: catch up on everything that had previously aired, and I'm
Speaker 1: caught up and devastated. I have to wait for Tuesday
Speaker 1: and Thursdays to be able to listen to you guys
Speaker 1: always brighten my day. Oh thank you. I'm about to
Speaker 1: graduate from college to become a junior high slash high
Speaker 1: school math teacher. Everyone thinks I'm insane, but I love it.
Speaker 1: It's all I've ever wanted to do. My husband is
Speaker 1: setting to be a history teacher. We hope our impact
Speaker 1: on students can be as big as New Girl's impact
Speaker 1: on all of us roomies. You know what I will
Speaker 1: say as that I love how teachers connect to the
Speaker 1: show because Jess is a teacher, right and it's all
Speaker 1: those teachers' stories and everything. I feel like there's a
Speaker 1: lot of teachers that watch this show and really connect
Speaker 1: to it, which makes me happy. You know, teachers are amazing.
Speaker 1: You do so much incredible work, and you know, being
Speaker 1: with this next generation coming up and teaching them and
Speaker 1: guiding them and supporting them. And I love when I
Speaker 1: hear people going into a teaching profession for young people
Speaker 1: and then how this show helps them connect and feel
Speaker 1: seen and allows them to laugh. It's a pretty funny job.
Speaker 1: In a lot of instances, when you run a lot
Speaker 1: of young people. So you're a teacher. We love that.
Speaker 1: Here we go. This, I guess is your assorted questions
Speaker 1: in comments. But let's hear your story first, Carly. I
Speaker 1: once heard that if you are truly friends with a
Speaker 1: lot of your exes, it means you're never in love
Speaker 1: or you still are. Interesting theory. As I look back
Speaker 1: at my exes, that idea is definitely true for me.
Speaker 1: Before I was married, I definitely kept my exes around
Speaker 1: in hopes of the occasional hookup. Carly Ly, thank goodness
Speaker 1: for being happily married and not resorting to that anymore.
Speaker 1: I have a crazy ex story for you. I'm very excited.
Speaker 1: When my husband and I got together, he wasn't in
Speaker 1: contact with any of his exes anymore. He was still
Speaker 1: but he was still living in one girl's head. Rent
Speaker 1: g'sreat she's cyberbullied. Oh no, the heck out of him.
Speaker 1: She kept getting new phone numbers somehow and would call
Speaker 1: and text him all the time with super hateful messages.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. He would just ignore the messages and
Speaker 1: block each new number as they came up. When I
Speaker 1: came into the picture, she started harassing both of us
Speaker 1: on social media. Oh my goodness. She made an anonymous
Speaker 1: Instagram account so no one could tell who she was,
Speaker 1: but we knew she would send me messages telling me
Speaker 1: she had all of this dirt on my husband and
Speaker 1: knew all these secrets he was keeping for me. I
Speaker 1: already knew everything she tried to tell me. She would
Speaker 1: comment very private knowledge about him on our posts, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, and send me old screenshots of messages between
Speaker 1: her and my husband. Then, as her last hurrah, she
Speaker 1: got another new number and called my husband on our
Speaker 1: wedding night, literally the second we were about to consummate
Speaker 1: our marriage. Luckily we didn't really hear from her after that,
Speaker 1: but boy, it was wild. Oh my goodness, that sounds awful.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry you went through that, and that woman
Speaker 1: sounds like she needs some help. Please enjoy my assorted
Speaker 1: questions and comments below, Carly, my goodness. Okay, do you
Speaker 1: have a teacher that left a long lasting impact on you? Ooh?
Speaker 1: I do. Actually, I remember in university taking a class
Speaker 1: on comparative politics between India and Nigeria, and it was
Speaker 1: the class that really got me into political science, which
Speaker 1: led to my job at the un Really studying the
Speaker 1: impact of Female Leaders. Yeah. I loved that course at UBC,
Speaker 1: and I had a really great teacher who was so
Speaker 1: wonderful and patient with me because I thought I had
Speaker 1: to go to business school. I thought you go to
Speaker 1: university to go to business school. And I took that
Speaker 1: class as an elective and it changed my career trajectory.
Speaker 1: So I love that class. I love that he taught
Speaker 1: it and really focused on female leaders and kind of
Speaker 1: created space for all of us to kind of learn
Speaker 1: through comparison what works and didn't work in these countries.
Speaker 1: So I think about that class often, So that was great.
Speaker 1: There's been mentioned of what crossover episodes people would like
Speaker 1: to see. I would love to see a New Girl
Speaker 1: slash Modern Family crossover. Fun fact, Jason Weiner was the
Speaker 1: director of a lot of the Modern Families. Who's an
Speaker 1: ep on that show, and also directed a bunch of
Speaker 1: New Girls. Love Jason Weiner. He's one of my dearest friends,
Speaker 1: so there's a little connection there for you, and I've
Speaker 1: come up with lots of ideas of what that could
Speaker 1: look like. Haley dates one of the guys in the Loft.
Speaker 1: Jess teaches one of the Modern Family kids Just and
Speaker 1: Cam work at the same school. Phyllis Schmidt and CZ's realtor,
Speaker 1: Mitch and Nick went to law school together. Slash meet
Speaker 1: up in some lawyer context. I like all of these.
Speaker 1: Those are good pitches. We did a crossover with Brooklyn
Speaker 1: nine nine, but a modern family one would have been good.
Speaker 1: I like these ideas also, like everyone else, I'm on
Speaker 1: board with a New Girl reunion train and about ready
Speaker 1: to start a petition forward get it going, Carly. It'd
Speaker 1: be a fun online petition. I wonder how many like
Speaker 1: people would actually sign it, you know, I think would
Speaker 1: this become like a real movement submitted to Hulu? You know,
Speaker 1: never know. Yes, if you read anything from me on ear,
Speaker 1: I think I'll cry. Oh Carly, Well, we spend a
Speaker 1: lot of time together talking about you. Carly. Thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing your story, thank you for being
Speaker 1: a teacher, Thank you for your great questions. All right, everybody,
Speaker 1: that is our show. Go to our website, the mess
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