1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Buck up. We gotta find him. It's a strawberry letter subject. 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:07,000 Speaker 1: How do I get out of this mess? I made? 3 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:11,040 Speaker 1: Dear surely, I'm a thirtysomething single, most of the time, intelligent, 4 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: success successful female. I've been on my current job for 5 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:17,319 Speaker 1: five years. To make a long story short, I've been 6 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:19,480 Speaker 1: dating my boss for about a year and a half 7 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 1: and he is married. His wife is a sweetheart, and 8 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 1: I've tried numerous times to break it off because I 9 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: was not raised to mess mess with anyone's husband or 10 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: significant other, and maybe I am making this situation more 11 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: complicated than it really is. The way this affair started 12 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: is so weird. My boss would come into my office 13 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: with these sad stories, which now I feel was a 14 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: plot to gain my sympathy, and I was a confidant 15 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: and counselor, to put it mildly. Then he started giving 16 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: me bonuses and gifts, you name it, I got it 17 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:52,599 Speaker 1: until finally, after a year of gifts, he asked me 18 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: to dinner with no strings attached. At least that's what 19 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: he said. Well, I went to dinner with him, and 20 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: need I say more? A year later, I am singing 21 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: this song. He makes me feel like the woman I 22 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 1: know I am, but it isn't right. Nothing about it 23 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,559 Speaker 1: is right. The advances, the money that gives, the vacations 24 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: all feel good for the moment, but afterwards I feel 25 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 1: like a prostitute. I know better and have tried numerous 26 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: times tell this man I don't want to do this 27 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: because there is no future in us. I also honestly 28 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: tell him I want the best for his marriage, but 29 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: it seems he just doesn't care about anything but himself, 30 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: and I don't know what to do except change jobs. 31 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: I avoid phone calls when I am not at work, 32 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: but Monday morning the cycle restarts. I feel like I 33 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,839 Speaker 1: am depriving myself of a real relationship with a single 34 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: and available gentleman. Dealing with this guy. I want to 35 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: be married some day and know I will reap what 36 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: I have sown, and I am willing to accept and 37 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: deal with that because there is no way around it. 38 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: But I want to allow room for my mate, the 39 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: one God is destined for me to come with no hindrances. 40 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: Please help his sister out. This is really trying to 41 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: do a police help assister out. That is really trying 42 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:06,559 Speaker 1: to do what is morally right. Stephen Shirley please help, Sincerely, 43 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: not a prostitute, but feeling like one in the South. Okay, uh, 44 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: you know what, dear, not a prostitute. Your answer is 45 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: right in your letter. You know what you're doing is wrong. 46 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: You know you already know that. I'm not gonna sit 47 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: here and tell you what a terrible person you are. 48 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: What you're doing is stank, because you already know that. 49 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: You said you weren't raised to mess with anyone's husband 50 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:28,920 Speaker 1: or a significant other. You said it's not right, you 51 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 1: said you feel like a prostitute. Afterwards, you said you 52 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 1: should change jobs. So hey, why don't you do that? 53 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: Change jobs, start making plans to get out of this situation. 54 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: Just stop doing this. Okay, stop. You know it's wrong. 55 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: You've gotta stop. You gotta get out of this situation. 56 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: There's just no way around it. Alright, twelve minutes, we're 57 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: out of time, but we'll be back with Steve and 58 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: his answer. But you gotta get out of this. Get 59 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,119 Speaker 1: your resume together, girl, all right, Come on, Steve, let's 60 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: go with part two of today's Summer Letting your response. 61 00:02:57,280 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: He let me, how do I get out of this? 62 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: Didn't wanna ask me? Dear, Sherlean. Dear Sherley, I'm a 63 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:08,959 Speaker 1: thirty something single most of the time, uh, intelligent, successful female. 64 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: I've been on my current job for five years. And 65 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 1: make a long story short, I've been dating my boss 66 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: for about a year and a half and he is married. 67 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: His wife is his wife is a sweetheart, and I've 68 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: tried numerous times to break it off because I was 69 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: not raised to mess with anyone's husband or significant other. 70 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,239 Speaker 1: And maybe I'm making this situation more complicated than it 71 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 1: really is. The way this is a fair started is 72 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: so weird. My boss would come into my office with 73 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: these stories about how I feel, uh but about these 74 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: with these sad stories which now I feel was applied 75 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: to game I simply and I was this confident in 76 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: counselor to put in milly. Then he started giving me 77 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 1: bonuses and gifts, you name it, I got it until finally, 78 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: after about a year of gifts, he asked me to 79 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: dinner with no strings attached. At least that's what he said. Well, 80 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: I went to dinner with him, and need to say more? 81 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: And and need I say more? A year later, I 82 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: am singing this song. He makes me feel like the 83 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: woman I know. I am, but it isn't right. Nothing 84 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: about it is right. The advances, the money, and the gifts, 85 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: the vacations all feel good for the moment, but afterwards 86 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: I feel like a prostitute. I know better and have 87 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: tried numerous times to tell this man I don't want 88 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: to do this because there's no future in us. I 89 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: am absolutely I I also honestly tell him I want 90 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 1: the best for his marriage, but it seems he just 91 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: don't care about anything but himself, and I don't know 92 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,799 Speaker 1: what to do except change jobs. I avoid phone calls 93 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: when I'm not at work, but Monday morning, the psycho restarts. 94 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm depriving myself of a real relationship 95 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: with a single and available gentleman dealing with this guy. 96 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: I want to be married some day, and I know 97 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: I will reap what our son, and I'm willing to 98 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: accept and deal with that because there's nowhere around it. 99 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: But I want to allow room for my mate, the 100 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: one guy that's destined for me to come with no hindrances. 101 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 1: Please help her sister out that is really trying to 102 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: do what is morally right. Steve and Shirley, please help, Sincerely, 103 00:04:54,920 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: not a prostitute but feeling like one in the South. Well, lady, 104 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 1: first of all, I'm always amazed at how let us 105 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: start you all. Ever noticed a person's description of themselves 106 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: always defies the letter. They always thirty something, single, intelligent, 107 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: very successful, hardworking, educated. Then you read the dumbest damn 108 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: letter from all of these intelligent people, and that right 109 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: there is amazing. I need that back. I just cut 110 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: it off to the light. I blew the light anyway. 111 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: Now I can't see anyway. I just I gotta tell y'all, 112 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: here's so many problems in this. But this is a 113 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: letter about a woman who is just trying. All she's 114 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: doing is trying. My daughter taught me something the other day, 115 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: and I repeated it. When a person says they tries, 116 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: that merely means that they failed with honor. It just 117 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: means you failed with honor. Well you know, I I tried, 118 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: I gave it my best. I tried. You didn't do anything. 119 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 1: You failed with honor. And this woman is full of trying. 120 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: She says, uh, I've tried to break it off numerous times. 121 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 1: That we go trying again. Because I was not raised 122 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: to mess with anyone's husband's significant other. Well, you might 123 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: not have been raised to do that, but you've grown 124 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 1: now and you show doing a damn good job of it. 125 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: So whatever your mama taught you when you were growing up, 126 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: and you don't wipe that out the game right now? Okay? Uh, 127 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: the way that's a fair started is so weird. Here's 128 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: another left part of My boss would come into my 129 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,479 Speaker 1: office with these sad stories, which I now feel was 130 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:46,239 Speaker 1: a plot to game my sympathies. Okay, and you don't 131 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: get that, ladies, I have told you how many women 132 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: have heard this story right here. We know that you 133 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: all are nurturerers by nature, and we play on your 134 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: nurturing side. Help me, help me, help me. I'm so sad. 135 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. I lost. He's your 136 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 1: damn Boston. He run a major company. How sad and 137 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: lost is he? Quit trying to fix everybody and fix yourself. 138 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: If women, if you are nurturing to yourself as you 139 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: are to these men, your life would be in the jackpot. 140 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: Lad But you're nurturing on some man. Come along and 141 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: the dude is married, All right, then let's go on 142 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 1: down now here you go. He makes me feel like 143 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: the woman I know I am, but it isn't right. 144 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: Nothing is right about it. The advances, the money that gives, 145 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: the vacations all feel good for the moment, but afterwards, 146 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: I feel like a prostitute. Well let's go over this. 147 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 1: How does a prostitute operates off money? Gifts, advances, vacations. 148 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: That's where the prostitute do most of the time. Money. 149 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: Look here, I'm gonna give you some of this cooking. 150 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: You give me some cash. That's an exchange that's done 151 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: on the corner. That a strip club, that a brothel 152 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: is legal in Vegas, and you got it popping off 153 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: on your jobs. Now you just know that's what you're being, Okay, 154 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: And then you says I know better and have tried 155 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: numerous times. Dare your ass go trying again? You don't 156 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: seem to be trying real hard now, his was? I 157 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: honestly tell him I want the best for his marriage. 158 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,439 Speaker 1: That's the good part right there. I want the best 159 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: for his marriage. That's why I sleeped with you all 160 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: over town and all these different hotels and take your 161 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 1: husband's money and gifts because I want the best for 162 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:45,439 Speaker 1: your marriage. We gotta get out of here. You're listening 163 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: to Steven show