1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: the podcast, new listeners, old listeners. Wherever you are in 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:10,039 Speaker 1: the world, it is so great to have you here 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: back for another episode as we, of course break down 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: the psychology of our twenties. I hope you all had 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:20,520 Speaker 1: a transformative, fun but safe start to the new year. 7 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: Welcome to twenty twenty five. Before we get into this episode, 8 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: a few months back, I said that I had a 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: lot of surprises in store for this year. And guess what, 10 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 1: you did not have to wait long for the first one, 11 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: and probably one of the biggest ones. I am so 12 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 1: beyond excited to announce that my brand new podcast, Mantra, 13 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: will be launching on the thirteenth of January. Yes, that 14 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: you heard me write a brand new podcast. And if 15 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,480 Speaker 1: you are a fan of the Psychology of your twenties, 16 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: you're going to love this. If you're interested in expanding 17 00:00:56,440 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: your mind, improving your mindset, growing as a person, learning 18 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: Mantra is going to be the perfect fit for you. 19 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: Every Monday, I focus on a new mantra so you 20 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: can begin your week with a mental reset, and I 21 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 1: talk to you about the meaning of the mantra. How 22 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: to really take advantage of what that Mantra can do 23 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: for you where we can see it show up in 24 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: our lives and also journal prompts a weekly challenge. We 25 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 1: have been working so hard on this, and the reason 26 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: I really wanted to do a show like this is 27 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: because I love the psychology of your twenties is of 28 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: course my creative baby, but I also wanted to have 29 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,679 Speaker 1: a space that isn't just the science. It's more inspirational 30 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: and reaffirming, perhaps even more spiritual, which is also an 31 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: important part of who I am, along with my love 32 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: of humans and numbers and studies and the psychology of things. 33 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: And Martra just felt like the perfect way to do this. 34 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: Every Monday is a mental reset. 35 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 2: You tune in on. 36 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,559 Speaker 1: Your morning commute, when you're at work, when you're the gym, 37 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: and it just sets the tone for the rest of 38 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: your week. You can be one of the first people 39 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 1: to hear it and listen to the brand new episode 40 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: if you subscribe to Mantra now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. 41 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: It's already up there. It's ready to go. The first 42 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: episode drops in less than a week. I hope you 43 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: love it. I really really do. It is just such 44 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: a passion project for me, is something I think is 45 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: going to be such an important thing to put out 46 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: into the world, hopefully make a huge difference, hopefully just 47 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: inspire you, give you more things to listen to if 48 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: you need a new podcast. There it is. Without further ado, though, 49 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,920 Speaker 1: let's talk about the psychology of manifestation, which is of 50 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: course today's topic, one that I have been really excited 51 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: to do for a while. Actually, it's very much been 52 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: at the top of the list, but just keeps getting 53 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: bumped down by things that felt more important. But it's 54 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: a brand new year and this just felt like a 55 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: great episode to dive into straight off the bat. So 56 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 1: if you are a brand new to manifestation, I'll give 57 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: you a quick one oh one. Manifesting is this very affirming, 58 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: significant idea that you can attract your dream life by 59 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: using your thoughts. How you view a situation matters, and 60 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: it's a powerful way to bring about your greatest desires. 61 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: So basically, if we think positive things, they will happen. 62 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: If we think we are lucky, lucky things will happen 63 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: to us. That is the whole premise and manifesting it's 64 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: become so incredibly popular in recent years, specifically after the 65 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: success of a book called The Secret Actually was written 66 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: by an Australian author back in two thousand and six, 67 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: and it reintroduced this ancient idea that your thoughts are 68 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: a powerful magnet for the reality that you want. That 69 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: premise has of course existed in a number of cultures 70 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: for thousands of years. It's important to acknowledge that Buddha, 71 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: for example, taught that our thoughts shape us and that 72 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: our intentions determine our destinies. So it's definitely not a 73 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: new idea, but it's a very powerful one that has 74 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: reached a whole new audience. If it sounds too good 75 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 1: to be true, I get you. I totally understand, especially 76 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: if you're someone who is quite scientific like me. Anything 77 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: that offers a simple, quick fix, easy solution to transform 78 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 1: your life, to make everything possible, to make a million 79 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: dollars sounds like a scam. Additionally, we do really have 80 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: to talk about how elitist manifestation can sometimes seem for 81 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: people who are experiencing poverty or starvation or war, for 82 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: whom thinking positive things will most likely not change a 83 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 1: larger systemic problem. There are some criticisms of manifestation. It's 84 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: definitely got some major issues. We're going to talk about 85 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: that later on, but I also really want to break 86 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: it down for you and show that it's not just 87 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: a magical, mystical idea for the people who successfully implement manifestation. 88 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: A lot of it is really rooted in psychology and 89 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: in our cognition and in our subconscious minds, and how 90 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: our beliefs in our mindset subliminally control our actions and 91 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: our behaviors. You know, if you really believe something will 92 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: happen to you, and you have the ability and the 93 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: resources to action that belief, that's crucial. It does create 94 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:28,599 Speaker 1: a self fulfilling prophecy where you are more likely to 95 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: act in a way that ensures that it will, even 96 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: if you don't realize it. You know, obviously, if you 97 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 1: think something will happen and you don't do anything about it, 98 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: manifesting will never work for you. If you think, yeah, 99 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 1: it would be nice to be rich and then just 100 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: sit twiddling your thumbs waiting for it to happen, That's 101 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:50,160 Speaker 1: not how manifestation works. There are some really powerful psychology 102 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: and neuroscience behind this very legitimate self help practice that 103 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: can spur on goal directed action, and it really relies 104 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: on things from cognitive restructuring to the power of self talk, 105 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: the power of self belief, and concepts neurological concepts like 106 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: long term potentiation. So today I want to talk about it. 107 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: If you're on the fence, if you're completely committed to 108 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 1: the idea, if you're just trying to level up and 109 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: improve the way you manifest, this episode is for you. 110 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 2: There is so. 111 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: Much science, so much fascinating research to cover in this episode, 112 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: and I also want to provide the five most powerful 113 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: manifestation exercises that you can use based on all this psychology. 114 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 1: So all of that and so much more. It is 115 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: a jam packed episode. After this short break, manifestation has 116 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: definitely been having a moment in the self help wellness 117 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: space in recent years. I don't know when I first 118 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: really became aware of manifesting as a concept, but when 119 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: I did, I will admit I thought it was ridiculous. 120 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: You know, how could your thoughts make anything magically happen 121 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: for you? You know, I have thousands millions of thoughts 122 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: every day, very few of them ever come true. I 123 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: think that definitely came down to being a bit of 124 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: an overachiever as well. You know, I really believed in 125 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:14,119 Speaker 1: the absolute power of blood, sweat, and tears and hard work. 126 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: Really that was my like, that's my equation. You work hard, 127 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: you get what you. 128 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 2: Work for and what you deserve. 129 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: But in twenty nineteen, I really had my first instance 130 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: of kind of realizing that I had manifested certain things 131 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: in my life. I'd gone through a breakup. I was, 132 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: you know, really committed to repeating all these positive statements 133 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: to myself. I was journaling about what I wanted in 134 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: the next month, three months, a year, and strangely a 135 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: lot of it was coming true. And when I was 136 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: investigating and I was like, Wow, why is this happening? 137 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 1: You know, it can't just all be luck. And I 138 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: think it really came down to how these practices were 139 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: restructuring and shifting how my mind thought about problems. Okay, 140 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: I've already gone off on a tangent. Let's dial it 141 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: back for a second. Let's talk about the pillars of manifestation, 142 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: the most common manifestation techniques, themes, topics. Basically, so, the 143 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: biggest formal theory of manifestation is undoubtedly the law of attraction, 144 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: law of attraction. You would have heard it everywhere. And 145 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: this law basically suggests that your thoughts and beliefs can 146 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: attract people, events, and circumstances into your life. And it's 147 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: very much based on the idea that people and their 148 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: thoughts are made up of pure energy, and like energy, 149 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: similar energy attracts similar energy, thereby allowing us to improve 150 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 1: our health well for personal relationships by thinking positive things 151 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: and attracting those positive things to us. So basically, your 152 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: thoughts are a magnet. They attract whatever you think, you desire, 153 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: that you think of, and that you focus on. Another 154 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: very famous form of manifestation is, of course, the law 155 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: of detachment. This sounds like the opposite of the law 156 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: of traction, but it's definitely not an entire contradiction. It 157 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: basically suggests that in order to manifest our desires, we 158 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: have to release our attachment to a specific outcome. So 159 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,319 Speaker 1: if you are trying to manifest love, I know that's 160 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: a big one. You need to release the idea of 161 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 1: what love could look like for you, so you cannot 162 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 1: keep expecting that love is going to be this six 163 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 1: foot four, dark haired person who is a lawyer, who 164 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: does these exact specific things, and their name is Andrew 165 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: and they're twenty seven. Like, you can't imagine a specific 166 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 1: kind of person. You have to detach from your expectations 167 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: about how whatever your desire will come to you, Like 168 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: what's the outcome going to be? You have to detach 169 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: from a specific outcome. Same with a you know, a 170 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: dream job. If you're manifesting your dream career, you have 171 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: to accept that maybe what you have in mind isn't right. 172 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: And let let's say the universe or a higher power. 173 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 1: That's how a lot of people normally talk about this. 174 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: How you have to let that guide you. So why 175 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: I see this working on a psychological basis is that 176 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: this perspective creates an internal shift and it puts us 177 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: into a growth and curiosity mindset so that opportunities we 178 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: may have previously not looked at now become available to us. 179 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: So it keeps us more open. I definitely have some 180 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 1: issues with the premise behind the law of detachment, because 181 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: I think, especially for people who are anxious or who 182 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: have anxiety or who have OCD, detaching from an outcome 183 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 1: or breaking out of a thought pattern can be extremely hard, 184 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:42,440 Speaker 1: near impossible. That doesn't mean that these individuals don't still 185 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: have dreams that come true. So there are certainly some 186 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: holes in this logic, right, People who are overly anxious 187 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 1: don't just have bad things happen to them as well. 188 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,959 Speaker 1: You know, the opposite of law of attraction. You know, 189 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: if law of attraction is correct, you know, thinking about 190 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: negative things would make negative things happen to you someone 191 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: who is overly anxious. That's not always the case. So 192 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 1: moving back to the law of attraction, because I think 193 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:10,679 Speaker 1: that is really the manifestation technique that we're zoning in 194 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 1: on today. If you think it's simply about asking the 195 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: universe to reward you as I once did, I really 196 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 1: want to explain further that psychology. 197 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 2: In that psychological explanation. 198 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 1: And we have to start with this very fundamental logic. 199 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,559 Speaker 1: Believing that you can accomplish something is going to make 200 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: it much more likely that you do compared to not believing. 201 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: What does this rest on. It rests on the power 202 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: of self belief. Self belief that is the number one 203 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: biggest factor in any success story that you will ever hear, 204 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: and yet I think it is the least talked about. 205 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: You cannot be motivated, you cannot be disciplined. You cannot 206 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 1: be a risk taker. You cannot bet on yourself if 207 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: you do not believe that success will be yours. So 208 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: not believing in yourself is a goal ending contradiction. The 209 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: reason that the law of attraction works and that many 210 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:13,679 Speaker 1: people see manifesting as a very golden key that unlocks 211 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 1: this incredible life of theirs is because of how it 212 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:21,079 Speaker 1: changes out underlying, subconscious, subliminal thoughts to do with self belief. 213 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: This is called by another name. It's called cognitive restructure, 214 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: which you've already mentioned a couple of times. It's a 215 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 1: very well researched, legitimate therapeutic technique. Basically, what this method 216 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: has people do is identify negative thoughts or self limiting 217 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 1: thoughts and challenge them replace them with more positive thoughts. 218 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: So let me give you an example of how this 219 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: could be used using the American Psychological Associations accredited five 220 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 1: step process to cognitive restructuring your CBT. Firstly, a person 221 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:57,079 Speaker 1: identifies the situation and feeling that they would like to change. 222 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:01,439 Speaker 1: For example, let's say anxiety about the future. It's one 223 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 1: I always use for people in their twenties. Then you 224 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: identify the underlying thoughts about the feeling. So, for example, 225 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:12,199 Speaker 1: why am I feeling anxious about the future, Well, probably 226 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: because you know, I'm uncertain. I'm scared of failure. I 227 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: expect the worst case scenario to happen. And then it 228 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: asks people to look for evidence of that being the 229 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: case in the past. So, what is your worst case 230 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:28,960 Speaker 1: scenario here? I'm going to fail, I'm going to be miserable, 231 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 1: I'm never going to find success. They say, what's the 232 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:36,560 Speaker 1: evidence for that being the case? Who's telling you this? 233 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: Where's the magic ball? And then it gets you to 234 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 1: really focus on the alternative. What if the worst case 235 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 1: scenario didn't happen? What if you were a success? Why 236 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:49,840 Speaker 1: couldn't that happen to you? What if it all worked 237 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: out for you? Then they ask you to make a 238 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 1: decision and when a future dilemma like this one comes up, 239 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:00,600 Speaker 1: do you continue to choose the more health helpful thought 240 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 1: or do you continue to choose the less helpful thought. 241 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:06,880 Speaker 1: This really changes how our brain responds to a problem 242 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 1: by changing our thought circuits and pathways that are attached 243 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:15,960 Speaker 1: to it. Cognitive restructuring sounds a lot like manifestation in 244 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: that way. Manifestation is working to create more positive thoughts 245 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 1: for a positive outcome, and really, you know what that 246 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:28,880 Speaker 1: entails is introducing positive scenarios into your mind. Cognitive restructuring 247 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: kind of sounds the same. There is a lot of 248 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: evidence for this kind of technique working. So there was 249 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: a twenty twenty study that looked at one hundred and 250 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: forty one individuals who received cognitive restructuring treatment and it 251 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 1: found that at a twelve month follow up, individuals reported lower 252 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: depressive symptoms, less anxious avoidance. And this is the really 253 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 1: big one, greater self efficacy. So self efficacy we talk 254 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: about it a lot. It's probably one of my favorite 255 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: concepts and basically says that our ability, our belief, and 256 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 1: our ability to achieve an outcome that we want is 257 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: really really important. So self efficacy is basically your self 258 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 1: belief in bringing about your future or being able to 259 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 1: work hard or be consistent. So you know, if you 260 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: have a big project at work or you want to 261 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: launch a business, people who are high and self efficacy 262 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: will say, yeah, I'm capable of that. It's going to 263 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:28,000 Speaker 1: be hard, but I'm ready for the challenge. I can 264 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: do it. Whereas if you're low in self efficacy, you'll 265 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: doubt yourself into inaction. Basically, luckily, self efficacy is something 266 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: that you can change, and this is one way of 267 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 1: doing it, that cognitive re structuring. Another explanation for the 268 00:15:44,120 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: psychology of manifestation is what we know very commonly as 269 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 1: a self fulfilling prophecy. So as self fulfilling prophecy occurs 270 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 1: when our beliefs and expectations influence our actions and ways 271 00:15:56,040 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 1: that bring those beliefs to life and the context of manifestation, 272 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: by visualizing success or a desired outcome, we subconsciously align 273 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: our decisions, attitudes, and actions with that goal. This focus 274 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: really increases our motivation, our perseverance, and our openness to 275 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: those opportunities we might previously overlook. So, in essence, manifestation 276 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 1: leverages the psychological mechanism of a self fulfilling prophecy by 277 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 1: turning positive beliefs into deliberate action, really bridging the gap 278 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: between intention and achievement. So, if you walk into a 279 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: room thinking everyone in this room is going to fall 280 00:16:40,840 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: in love with you, is going to think that you 281 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 1: are charismatic and attractive and alluring, you are going to 282 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: feel better about yourself. And so because of that you'll 283 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: probably speak to more people, you'll be more open, you'll 284 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:57,800 Speaker 1: make more eye contact, you'll feel better, and you might 285 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:00,440 Speaker 1: walk out and say, my god, I manifested that that 286 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 1: is really actually a self fulfilling prophecy. And if you 287 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:06,719 Speaker 1: want to see it in action, you've got to hear 288 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: about this very famous experiment from the nineteen sixties. You've 289 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 1: probably heard about it before, but it was about how 290 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: teachers expectations of students actually determined their grades and the 291 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 1: students who performed best, and it really came down to 292 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:24,639 Speaker 1: the students who wore glasses because the teachers assumed, you know, 293 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:27,240 Speaker 1: if you wear glasses, you're more intelligent, so they treated 294 00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:30,160 Speaker 1: them as such. They treated them as if they were 295 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 1: already intelligent, and therefore it created that self fulfilling prophecy. 296 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 1: It meant that they gave them more attention, it meant 297 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:40,879 Speaker 1: that they gave them more praise, It meant that they 298 00:17:40,920 --> 00:17:43,959 Speaker 1: spent more time with them, that gave them more challenging work, 299 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:47,160 Speaker 1: and so they were the ones who achieved all because 300 00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:50,240 Speaker 1: of a self fulfilling prophecy. And you can use that 301 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 1: same formula on yourself. So two final points on the 302 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: psychology and manifestation. The other reason that we tend to 303 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:00,120 Speaker 1: think that what we think about attracts what we experience 304 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 1: also comes down to how the thought patterns that occur 305 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:07,919 Speaker 1: with manifestation unlock a growth versus a fixed mindset. So 306 00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:12,360 Speaker 1: a fixed mindset assumes that our abilities are innate and unchangeable, 307 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 1: that what we're born with is what we're given. And 308 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: you know, if we're lazy, we're lazy. If we're not 309 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 1: good at sports, we're not good at sports, we're not disciplined, 310 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: we're not disciplined. A growth mindset means that we believe 311 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,680 Speaker 1: that all humans, you and I are capable of change, 312 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: that we can improve, and that means that our beliefs 313 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 1: about our ability to learn, grow, and succeed. Our growth 314 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:40,800 Speaker 1: mindset can indeed affect whether we effectively manifest what we desire. Importantly, 315 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 1: the research really suggests that if we truly believe we 316 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 1: can achieve something, we are more willing to do the 317 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:50,159 Speaker 1: hard work to achieve it. So manifesting by saying all 318 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:52,919 Speaker 1: those positive statements to yourself, by saying this is what 319 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,160 Speaker 1: I really want, this is who I am. 320 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 2: This is what I'm going to achieve, it. 321 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: Means that the parts of ourselves that are willing to work, 322 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 1: that are more activated, that we're more willing to grow 323 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 1: into a challenge. And finally, the reason that manifestation works 324 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: is what we call the upward spiral of positive emotions. 325 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 1: So the thought process behind manifestation actually incidentally also creates 326 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:18,960 Speaker 1: an important cognitive positive feedback loop where the more we 327 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 1: think positive good things, the more we actually tend to 328 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: see positive good things, like a confirmation bias. And then 329 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 1: it goes a step further, which means that we actually 330 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: are generally more optimistic, motivated, happy about our current state 331 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 1: because all these good things are happening to us. We 332 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 1: can see all these good things around us because we've 333 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 1: been cue to see those things, prime to see those things. 334 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: And of course, someone who is more happy, optimistic is 335 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:47,439 Speaker 1: going to be more motivated. So manifestation techniques, like the 336 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:50,600 Speaker 1: law of attraction or the law of detachment, they really 337 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 1: seemingly work because of how they transform the perception of 338 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: our circumstances, our self beliefs, and therefore trigger important goal 339 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 1: in intentional and activating behaviors. I want to be really 340 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:07,880 Speaker 1: really clear, there is zero proof that manifestation works on 341 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:11,399 Speaker 1: its own. Some people do like to cite this idea 342 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 1: of quantum theory, which states that everything in the universe 343 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 1: is made up of energy. So when we declare an 344 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 1: intention and we practice manifestation, we align our energy with 345 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:25,159 Speaker 1: the universe's energy. But specifically, I really think what it 346 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,159 Speaker 1: comes down to is our actions, and I want to 347 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: talk about how we can get better at activating important, 348 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: motivated behaviors and actually going after what we want with 349 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:46,320 Speaker 1: the help of manifestation. Of course, after this shortbreak, so, 350 00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,160 Speaker 1: the most powerful quote I have ever heard about manifestation 351 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: came from an interview with a professor at Stanford University. 352 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: His name is doctor James Dottie, and this is really 353 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 1: what he had to say. Manifestation is not about asking 354 00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: the US universe to reward you. It's about rewiring your 355 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: brain to reward itself. Love that quote, absolutely loved when 356 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: I heard it for the first time. And what's really 357 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: describing is agency. This is how I see it. When 358 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 1: our mind is on board and convinced of our success. 359 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: It's kind of like turning the wheel in a huge 360 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,719 Speaker 1: semi truck, right, So our positive thoughts turn the wheel 361 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:27,920 Speaker 1: and then all the carriages follow behind it. So once 362 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,960 Speaker 1: we have a positive appraisal of our situation and of 363 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 1: our beliefs. Our beliefs will then shift, our attitudes will 364 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:37,359 Speaker 1: then shift, then our ambition, and then our actions will follow. 365 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,840 Speaker 1: So when your mind and your thoughts are on board, 366 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: your behaviors and intentions follow suit and acknowledging this is 367 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: really essential because we are after a really balanced approach. 368 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 1: Your manifestation is not just about wishing, and we don't 369 00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:55,159 Speaker 1: want it to lead to a lot of you know, 370 00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: unrealistic expectations and blame, you know, sitting there being like 371 00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: I'm wishing for something. 372 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 2: I want it to happen so badly. 373 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: And it's not coming true, and that means I must 374 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 1: be doing it wrong, or I'm a bad person, or 375 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: I don't deserve good things because the universe isn't giving 376 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 1: them to me, Absolutely not. It may be because you're 377 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 1: not allowing your actions to follow along. So I want 378 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:20,760 Speaker 1: to talk about five manifestation techniques that can really inspire 379 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:25,200 Speaker 1: that positive restructuring in their full spurun change and how 380 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,160 Speaker 1: that can bring about your dream life. And the biggest one, 381 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 1: the first one I really want to speak about that 382 00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 1: I see people using all the time, and that I 383 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 1: actually personally use I've just recently been doing this a 384 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:39,160 Speaker 1: lot with the new year. Is scripted journaling or narrative 385 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:43,880 Speaker 1: conjuring sounds fancy, It's actually really simple. What I want 386 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:47,440 Speaker 1: you to do is write out a very detailed journal 387 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:52,160 Speaker 1: entry as if whatever you are desiring has already happened, 388 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 1: and I want you to write it out in as 389 00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:58,959 Speaker 1: much detail and I mean overkill with the detail. So 390 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 1: this method I did research. It really emerged as an 391 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 1: offshoot of this nineteen seventies kind of project to do 392 00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 1: with neuro linguistic programming. So boring, but basically this project 393 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: encouraged individuals, as part of this process to visualize their 394 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 1: futures using all five sensors. And basically what they found 395 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 1: was that when we thought about our future using words 396 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:27,440 Speaker 1: and actions and then using all these different sensory inputs, 397 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:32,440 Speaker 1: our subconscious perception of the world changed and ultimately determined 398 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: what we believed was possible for us to attain, achieve, 399 00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: and attract. So that project kind of like came across 400 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,720 Speaker 1: this incidentally, And I'll give you an example of how 401 00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:46,640 Speaker 1: you can use scripted journaling in your own life. Say 402 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 1: you are really trying to manifest a huge lifestyle change 403 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:52,880 Speaker 1: or overhaul. So you want to make yourself into someone 404 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 1: who is active, who has a large group of friends, 405 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:57,679 Speaker 1: who will boost each other up, who goes on hikes, 406 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,879 Speaker 1: goes to pilates, whatever it is. Get out your journal, 407 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,439 Speaker 1: get out of pen and write a journal entry that 408 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: sounds like today. I woke up in my beautiful linen 409 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,959 Speaker 1: sheets and the sun was shining through my apartment window. 410 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:13,159 Speaker 1: And that apartment looked down onto forty ninth Street, and 411 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 1: I'd bought it a couple months ago, and I decided 412 00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 1: that I would text my friend group to go to 413 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,879 Speaker 1: pilates with each other. And this was what the picture 414 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 1: for my friends group looked like. And this was what 415 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:23,639 Speaker 1: we called the group chat name. And this is how 416 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 1: many people were in that group chat. And I put 417 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: on this outfit that was this color from this brand, 418 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: and I ate this for breakfast and these were the 419 00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: ingredients and this is how it tasted. And this is 420 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: what my carpet looks like. And these are my steps 421 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 1: down to the street. And you know, this is what 422 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: the POLARATEUS studio looked like. This is the perfume that 423 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,399 Speaker 1: my friend was wearing. She smiled when she saw me 424 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,240 Speaker 1: every little detail. I feel like you get the picture 425 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:49,760 Speaker 1: as much as possible. If writing isn't really your thing, 426 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 1: you can also use an audio journal where you describe 427 00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:56,639 Speaker 1: your perfect work day at your dream job, or an 428 00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,439 Speaker 1: amazing date you're yet to go on but that you 429 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: know is a the future, you know, with as much 430 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: detail as possible. That scripting doesn't just have to be, 431 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,679 Speaker 1: you know, written down. You can also make it verbal. 432 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,600 Speaker 1: That can be really really powerful. And the reason that 433 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:12,919 Speaker 1: it's powerful is because it gets you to think about 434 00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,840 Speaker 1: aspects of your goal or your dream that you might 435 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 1: not consider. You know, often when we set goals or 436 00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 1: we're manifesting something, we're so just focused on it happening, right, 437 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:26,360 Speaker 1: We're so focused on the future and the outcome, and 438 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,000 Speaker 1: we don't really have an idea of what we need 439 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:32,520 Speaker 1: to get there, or timelines or small components, or what 440 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 1: needs to happen between then and now and what it 441 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 1: could feel like. And the scripted writing in this narrative 442 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,640 Speaker 1: exercise gets us to fill in a lot of the blanks. 443 00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 1: And I'm going to get a little bit scientific here, 444 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,120 Speaker 1: but there was actually a series of studies conducted between 445 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,639 Speaker 1: twenty and eight and twenty fourteen that examined what happened 446 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 1: when we visualize future goals in this way, or we 447 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 1: engage in positive thinking and writing or mentally simulating future events, 448 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 1: and what it found was that two important brain areas 449 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: are activated by exercises like this, the ventral medial prefrontal 450 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 1: cortex and the posterior singular cortex, both of which, by 451 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 1: the way, are implicated in attention and self reflection. But 452 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: more specifically, these areas of the brain support internally directed action. Basically, 453 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,440 Speaker 1: they are the parts of the brain that when a 454 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,199 Speaker 1: thought comes in, they say, Okay, we're going to make 455 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: this happen. 456 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:29,159 Speaker 2: How do we do this? 457 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: What parts of our body do we need to put 458 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 1: into action? What other thought processes in our brain do 459 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,919 Speaker 1: we need to switch on. Even if a visual or 460 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: written script isn't your thing and you're more of a 461 00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:45,320 Speaker 1: visual thinker or learner, you can also utilize the power 462 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:49,120 Speaker 1: of a good old fashioned vision board. I'm sure you've 463 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,800 Speaker 1: all seen the videos of people sharing their vision boards 464 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:56,760 Speaker 1: from twenty twenty three and how many surprising things from 465 00:26:56,800 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: those boards actually happened. I really think it's because representing 466 00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 1: your goals visually in this way is such a great 467 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:09,400 Speaker 1: physical visual queue or reminder of what you are working towards, 468 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,480 Speaker 1: and therefore, when you have that more on your focus, 469 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,720 Speaker 1: you are more likely to remember, Hey, I actually want 470 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,439 Speaker 1: this thing. What have I been doing to make it happen? 471 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,240 Speaker 1: Maybe I should be working harder on that. There's a 472 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:25,040 Speaker 1: famous quote that you become what you behold or what 473 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 1: you see your environment and what you are visually exposed 474 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:34,480 Speaker 1: to that really does influence mood, motivation, attitude. Vision board 475 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,680 Speaker 1: work actually works on a part of our brain called 476 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: the reticular activating system RIS. It's actually located in the 477 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 1: brain stem. It's a very essential part of our brain 478 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: that filters information and determines what's important. And when you 479 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,520 Speaker 1: visualize your goals frequently, as you do with the vision board, 480 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 1: your RIS becomes more attuned to opportunities that align with 481 00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:01,000 Speaker 1: those goals. So this process really helps you notice things 482 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:04,600 Speaker 1: in your environment that can help you achieve your aspirations, 483 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,399 Speaker 1: making you more focused and intentional. Here's the thing that 484 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:09,960 Speaker 1: you really need to do, though, to make a vision 485 00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: board work for you. Don't just choose the photos that 486 00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,280 Speaker 1: are available to you in a magazine or that you 487 00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 1: have lying around. You really have to be intentional with 488 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,000 Speaker 1: setting this up. So choose the photos that most resonate 489 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:26,199 Speaker 1: with you. Choose to have a few options. And I 490 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 1: really like to have four segments of my vision board. 491 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: One segment is for career, one is for relationships, one 492 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:35,359 Speaker 1: is for lifestyle. One is for personal growth goals, so 493 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: things like cobbies, travel, spiritual goals. And I really really 494 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 1: make sure that it's not all material things. There should 495 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:46,280 Speaker 1: be experiences on there too. There should be things that 496 00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,680 Speaker 1: really activate my senses, things that are small and daily. 497 00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 2: And something that. 498 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,680 Speaker 1: Mel Robbins actually said that was really powerful in a 499 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 1: recent episode of Hers is that you can't just have 500 00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 1: big life changing goals on a vision board. This is 501 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,320 Speaker 1: more about the lifestyle that surrounds achieving those goals. You 502 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,360 Speaker 1: can't just have a picture of the finish line of 503 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,720 Speaker 1: you know, the New York Marathon without a few pictures 504 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 1: of you running, you know, or of a training plan 505 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 1: or of healthy fuel. Your vision board needs to be 506 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,719 Speaker 1: focused on the building blocks as well as the big outcomes. 507 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 1: Let's talk about another very well known manifestation strategy or 508 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 1: accompany meant and that it's affirmations. This is probably the 509 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: strategy that I rely on most heavily in my own life, 510 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 1: mainly because I know that scientifically speaking, how I talk 511 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:41,320 Speaker 1: to myself matters. Also, affirmations are so accessible on a 512 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 1: daily basis, you know, vision boards, scripting. They're a real 513 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 1: time commitment and a very worthy time commitment, not necessarily 514 00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,560 Speaker 1: something that you can do every day, but affirmations you 515 00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:54,840 Speaker 1: can even do a few times a day. And when 516 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,239 Speaker 1: I was going through a really transformative time when I 517 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 1: was twenty two, I had a list of t affirmations 518 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,719 Speaker 1: written on a big piece of paper on the inside 519 00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,800 Speaker 1: of my bedroom door. And these affirmations were genuinely so 520 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 1: important to me, and I really think that they were 521 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:14,960 Speaker 1: a huge, huge kind of way in which I was 522 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,239 Speaker 1: able to lead a more fulfilling life compared to the 523 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 1: life I was living before. And I actually went searching 524 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 1: for these because I was like, these affirmations are really good, 525 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,000 Speaker 1: and it took me a while to come up with them, 526 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 1: like it was a very finely tuned in the list, 527 00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: And finally I found a picture in my phone of 528 00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 1: this list on the back of my door, and I 529 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 1: want to read these out to you. These were the 530 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,200 Speaker 1: affirmations I used to really help me bring about a 531 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 1: more positive way of seeing my life and therefore a 532 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:48,520 Speaker 1: more positive life. I radiate confidence and self assurance. I 533 00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 1: have an attractive aura. I am someone who goes after 534 00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 1: what I want. People feel good around me. I trust 535 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: myself to make the right decisions. I am a powerful 536 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:07,520 Speaker 1: creator of my reality. I am a hard worker. I 537 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:12,960 Speaker 1: am constantly attracting incredible things into my life. I release 538 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 1: the need for others approval. I am in control of 539 00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 1: my best and my worst thoughts. These were the affirmations 540 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 1: that I would recite to myself every morning for over 541 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 1: a year, and it was like putting on a mental armor. 542 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:30,640 Speaker 2: Every day. 543 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 1: The first thing I said to myself in the morning 544 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,680 Speaker 1: was I'm not stressed about the day. I'm not overwhelmed. 545 00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 1: I'm not worried about how I look. All of these 546 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 1: natural thoughts were would pop up, and instead I would 547 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:47,480 Speaker 1: put myself into a place of self empowerment by making 548 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 1: sure I left my house every single morning with a 549 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:54,640 Speaker 1: more positive statement and positive feeling about myself and mind. 550 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:59,040 Speaker 1: And it really did change how I approach challenges, change 551 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,360 Speaker 1: how I approach people, how productive I was as well. 552 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 1: I really think that it also changed how I made friends, 553 00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,400 Speaker 1: Like there was this huge shift for me between being 554 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,920 Speaker 1: quite lonely and then suddenly having all these people in 555 00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 1: my life because I was I really think entering the 556 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:21,080 Speaker 1: outside world radiating positive energy because I felt good about myself. 557 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: I also have affirmations that I use for specific circumstances. 558 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: Before you know, I mentioned a public speaking I have 559 00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,720 Speaker 1: five affirmations for that in my notes up. Anytime I 560 00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,760 Speaker 1: need to public speak, I say, I am prepared for this. 561 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 1: My voice is strong and steady. The people in this 562 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,360 Speaker 1: room will be captivated by me. I speak and communicate 563 00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 1: with ease, and I am excited for the opportunity to 564 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:47,240 Speaker 1: share knowledge. Very very effective. And if you want a 565 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,720 Speaker 1: fund psychology study that provides evidence for the effectiveness of 566 00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:53,520 Speaker 1: this method, we can actually look at one from twenty 567 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:59,080 Speaker 1: fifteen conducted at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, where sixty 568 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,920 Speaker 1: seven students were to either participate in an affirmation exercise 569 00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:07,880 Speaker 1: before a task or not, and those who outperformed the 570 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,160 Speaker 1: other students All of them were those who had done 571 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:14,320 Speaker 1: affirmations because they felt more capable. And it's free, like 572 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:15,240 Speaker 1: that's the crazy part. 573 00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:16,960 Speaker 2: You don't need to do some crazy thing. 574 00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 1: You just have to make your list and stick to it. Okay, 575 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,440 Speaker 1: before we talk about limitations, I want to talk about 576 00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:26,920 Speaker 1: one final way to combine manifestation and psychology and your 577 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 1: pursuit of your goals. And it's called a sensory anchor. 578 00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:33,880 Speaker 1: And the sensory anchor we're going to be talking about 579 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,600 Speaker 1: today is music. So a sensory anchor is a stimulus 580 00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,920 Speaker 1: such as a sound, smell, touch, that triggers a specific 581 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 1: emotional or mental state. Music in particular is highly effective 582 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 1: because music is very emotional and it directly triggers a 583 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 1: lot of emotional centers of the brain. It's why we 584 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:54,560 Speaker 1: get tingles when we listen to songs, That's why we 585 00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:58,360 Speaker 1: have a physical reaction, it's why it evokes memories. By 586 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:03,520 Speaker 1: pairing music with your visualization or manifestation practice, you can 587 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:07,800 Speaker 1: train your brain to associate certain songs or sounds with 588 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 1: a mindset of success or confidence or joy. So what 589 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 1: I want you to do is put together a playlist 590 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:19,319 Speaker 1: of songs that make you really like motivated, inspired, pumped up, 591 00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:24,040 Speaker 1: feeling good about yourself, like alive. Make a playlist like that, 592 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:27,560 Speaker 1: and anytime you are in the mindset, you're in the mood, 593 00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,480 Speaker 1: you're in the place to achieve something to get shit done, 594 00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:34,480 Speaker 1: or you're just feeling low as well, play that playlist. 595 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,840 Speaker 1: I've already seen so many examples of these on Spotify, 596 00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:42,720 Speaker 1: Like you can look up manifestation playlist or mindset shift 597 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:46,920 Speaker 1: playlists anything like that, and people have already curated music 598 00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:53,960 Speaker 1: that is intended to evoke a really like excited, motivated, passionate, 599 00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:57,800 Speaker 1: creative mindset. And I just want to say one final 600 00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: thing with all these methods, the thing that real links 601 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:04,280 Speaker 1: them and why they are implicated in the manifestation process 602 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:09,280 Speaker 1: is that all of them, in some way, using you know, writing, 603 00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:14,600 Speaker 1: using your words, using what you see, using what you hear, 604 00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:20,120 Speaker 1: all of them are influencing us to see outcomes is 605 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:24,040 Speaker 1: happening in our favor by influencing how we think about things. 606 00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,840 Speaker 1: So before we conclude this episode, I really think that 607 00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,680 Speaker 1: it would be remissive me to not consider the limitations 608 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:37,319 Speaker 1: of manifestation and the privilege that definitely comes with being 609 00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:41,360 Speaker 1: able to implement things like scripting or affirmations and see 610 00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:45,400 Speaker 1: them as being effective, you know, manifesting that lifestyle that 611 00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,880 Speaker 1: we want. If that's something that is really happening for people, 612 00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,800 Speaker 1: we have to question why it's not happening for others. 613 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 1: And let's be honest, a lot of the things that 614 00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: we want to manifest, they are luxuries, and we could 615 00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,680 Speaker 1: not begin to be you know, even dream of them, 616 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:06,400 Speaker 1: let alone receive them, receive first class flights, receive dream jobs, 617 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:13,359 Speaker 1: receive money if our fundamental basic human needs weren't already met. 618 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 1: So food, water, security, safety, health, emotional and social support. 619 00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:25,840 Speaker 1: Those are the fundamental foundations of human life, and so 620 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:30,080 Speaker 1: many people don't have those things. There are people in 621 00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:34,160 Speaker 1: war zones or experiencing violence or poverty who may be 622 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:38,120 Speaker 1: wishing harder than any of us, than you and me 623 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:42,480 Speaker 1: for a life of peace, of safety, food, and their 624 00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 1: abilities bellies, and they're not receiving it. So I think 625 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:50,440 Speaker 1: that we also have to recognize that in order to 626 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,880 Speaker 1: manifest anything, you do actually have to have the ability 627 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,239 Speaker 1: to action your desires, and that means privilege and resources. 628 00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:02,480 Speaker 1: You know, if we think manifestation is just this immaterial, 629 00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:07,840 Speaker 1: energetic quantum force at work, why is the quantum force 630 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:12,560 Speaker 1: not helping so many people who are really doing it hard. 631 00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:18,000 Speaker 1: Why does the universe's energy seem to neglect people that 632 00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,879 Speaker 1: are struggling with poverty or that are less privileged than us, 633 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,920 Speaker 1: because I don't think that's how energy works. You know, 634 00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:29,880 Speaker 1: if the quantum theory is positive energy attracts positive energy, 635 00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,840 Speaker 1: like it's forgetting about a large group of people. So 636 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,800 Speaker 1: it is a privilege to be able to use psychological 637 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:41,920 Speaker 1: methods of manifestation to really bridge the gap between intention 638 00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:45,840 Speaker 1: and motivation and therefore achievement. And I think that before 639 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,080 Speaker 1: we go out there and say, yeah, I like just 640 00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 1: manifest it, like, just think positive things and good things 641 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,239 Speaker 1: will happen, you've got to remember that's not the case 642 00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,600 Speaker 1: for everyone, and that it is really a blessing and 643 00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,319 Speaker 1: something you should be grateful for, that this is a 644 00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,880 Speaker 1: technique that you are exploring and that could work for you. 645 00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:05,879 Speaker 1: So I find that when I think about manifestation as 646 00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 1: an exercise that is rooted in self belief psychology and 647 00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:13,239 Speaker 1: then having the ability to take actions based on your 648 00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,480 Speaker 1: positive thinking, that makes a lot more sense to me. 649 00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:20,840 Speaker 1: And that's something that, yeah, again I think we should 650 00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,760 Speaker 1: be grateful for. So I really hope that you learned 651 00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:27,160 Speaker 1: something from this episode. You learn something about the science, 652 00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:31,320 Speaker 1: from the studies, about the research the concepts that make 653 00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:35,799 Speaker 1: up manifestation is such a powerful method of attraction or 654 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:39,719 Speaker 1: of detachment, whichever one you choose to believe in. If 655 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 1: there's something I missed here, I would love to hear 656 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,120 Speaker 1: from you. Please share your manifestation exercises that you use. 657 00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:47,879 Speaker 1: I would love to hear from them, like I would 658 00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,000 Speaker 1: love to hear them. Sorry, and love to hear from you, 659 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,799 Speaker 1: because there's so many out there that I probably haven't 660 00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,440 Speaker 1: mentioned that people could learn a lot from. If you 661 00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,439 Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode, make sure you share it with a friend, 662 00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:01,600 Speaker 1: share it with family men, Share with your partner someone 663 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,200 Speaker 1: who you think could learn as well. We are always 664 00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,880 Speaker 1: open to episode suggestions. You just have to DM me 665 00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:10,600 Speaker 1: on Instagram. That is how we get so many ideas 666 00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,279 Speaker 1: for the psychology of your twenties, and make sure you're 667 00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:16,720 Speaker 1: following along. Make sure you're subscribed. Make sure you follow 668 00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,120 Speaker 1: us over there on Instagram. And until next time, stay safe, 669 00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:23,439 Speaker 1: be kind, be gentle with yourself, and we will talk 670 00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:24,479 Speaker 1: very very soon.