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Speaker 1: and uh, we're gonna get Jared and Ashley on the

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Speaker 1: line because Ben and Ashley taped this episode earlier today.

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Speaker 1: But Jared and Ashley want to react to what you

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Speaker 1: all saw on Bachelor in Paradise tonight because this was

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Speaker 1: to get their thoughts on it right now. So we

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Speaker 1: have Jared and nashally here on the line. And it

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Speaker 1: was such a beautiful proposal, But what what do you

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Speaker 1: guys think on Yeah, we feel like so good about

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Speaker 1: our proposal. It was so sweet. Jared is legit a

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Speaker 1: have imagined I still can't imagine Um wanting, you know,

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Speaker 1: being proposed to in any other spot. Jared had mentioned

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Speaker 1: asked for nothing more. I thought that was perfect. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean the opportunity to go back to Paradise and

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. First, walking down and the first

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Speaker 1: that beach, and you don't get really any opportunities like that.

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Speaker 1: if you can tell, oh, yeah, what the hell are

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Speaker 1: and like, oh man, I can tell how awkward I was.

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Speaker 1: So that's the cool part. That's the really cool part.

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Speaker 1: You get to like you get all those feelings back

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Speaker 1: how I was feeling in the moment, Like oh my god,

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Speaker 1: And so let's clarify, Jared and I were really honest.

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Speaker 1: We were completely transparent in telling our story through the

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Speaker 1: had been this mostly basically for two and a half years. Well,

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Speaker 1: that's usually it. Thank you for letting us share how

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Speaker 1: of the podcast. By then and Ashley taped this episode

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429
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430
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431
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432
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433
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447
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Speaker 1: podcast on you dozen, Chris, thanks for coming on almost

473
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Speaker 1: fus podcast. Yeah, thanks for having us the I know

474
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: life is moving at a quick pace for you all.

475
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 1: You have some big updates to share with all the listeners.

476
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 1: But before do that, Chris, what do you think of

477
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 1: the Cubs right now? Go Cubs? I think they've got

478
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 1: six in a row right now, Man, it's absolutely incredible.

479
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: And that's I mean, that's really the only only thing

480
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:00,439
Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about with the cups,

481
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: But um, I know actually has a list of things

482
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: to talk to you both about. And uh and I

483
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: will chime in where I can. First off, congratulations guys

484
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,879
Speaker 1: number two. How many years apart? Are they going to be?

485
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 1: Two years? Perfect? The perfect amount? Is it a girl

486
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: or a boy? Boy? Second boy? Second boy? Two boys?

487
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: Are you gonna try for a girl? We will wait

488
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: and see. You carry so perfect? Nice, she's so tiny

489
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,439
Speaker 1: and then she has her little baby bomp. It's the

490
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: cutest thing ever. He looks out pretty. Is there anything

491
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: you guys are doing differently? Are you more chill this

492
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 1: time around? You're just like, oh, we've been through this before.

493
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like this has gone by so

494
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,800
Speaker 1: much faster because we're just so busy with a toddler

495
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:53,880
Speaker 1: and work that just um, this past sunday we did

496
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 1: we found out that it was a boy, and now

497
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 1: it feels like, oh, yeah, we are onto our second child,

498
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 1: so you already have all the stuff ready. We do. Yeah,

499
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 1: it's actually really great. That's so easy. I've had a

500
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 1: lot more wine this time Yeah, that's true. He's thinking

501
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 1: plenty for me. All right. You guys are also on

502
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,959
Speaker 1: marriage boot Camp. Marriage boot Camp, guys, is something that

503
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: I even I told Jared in my agent this week.

504
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 1: I was like, they'd have to pay us I think

505
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: half a million dollars to do this show because the

506
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: amount of stress you guys go through and the amount

507
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: of past arguments that should be put to bed that

508
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: are not while filming this show. It's something I never

509
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 1: want to address. Yeah, I mean, it's definitely something that

510
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 1: you have to like relive certain things in order to

511
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: get through the show. Yeah. But yeah, but we're both

512
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: really strong with where we're at. Exhibit why wouldn't do it? Yeah?

513
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,920
Speaker 1: Why do it? That money? It's really for the money,

514
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: as we all know, do a marriage with campus for

515
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: the money. We went on to work on our communication. Yeah.

516
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 1: So um when we when we filmed it, Asher was

517
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 1: only about eight months old. Oh my goodness. So it's

518
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 1: been in the bay for a while. Um, it's been

519
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: about a year. And so we were new parents and

520
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: we had been asked a couple of times before that,

521
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: and I was exactly like you and I'm like, hell no,

522
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 1: Like I never want to do it. I don't want to,

523
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 1: you know, put our relationship out there and then I

524
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: don't know. For some reason, I just felt like when

525
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,439
Speaker 1: we were new parents and kind of going through that

526
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: vulnerable stage, I thought it would be a good time

527
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 1: to reconnect and work on certain things that we needed to.

528
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: So would you, how do you feel stronger now that

529
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: you did before him? Such a good question I was

530
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 1: going that I would say, yeah, I mean it just

531
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: had to. I mean, we brought up stuff that we

532
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: already knew. Some you know, I'm sure it will be aired,

533
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,239
Speaker 1: but there's some stuff that will be aired that we

534
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: were like we were solid on and we're solid still on.

535
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: I think it's just because we were so busy with

536
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 1: a newborn. There's things you just you know that you

537
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: need to work on, but you just don't because you're

538
00:28:56,480 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: like tired and busy. So the show was an opportunity

539
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: for us to actually talk about things. They brought up

540
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: Brooks on the show, and that is you know, that

541
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: was your runner up, It was your third your third

542
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 1: place on your season. Just to remind people that are listening,

543
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: was he the one that failed? Yes? Yeah, so that's everybody.

544
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: What happened Okay, well everyone, what happened? Oh it's okay,

545
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 1: that was so long ago. So basically does like, you know,

546
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: she liked Brooks a lot, and then Brooks and guys.

547
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: She liked Brooks, she liked Chris. Then there was a

548
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: random guy in between I don't remember his name, and

549
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: um then Brooks was like, you know, I'm not going

550
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: I don't picture myself at the end of this with you.

551
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: So then he left and you were quite devastated, but

552
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: it really opened your eyes to knowing like that Chris

553
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: was real. So the whole thing is is like I mean,

554
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 1: Ben knows the show gives you the opportunity. It's not

555
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: even gives you the opportunity. It just happens that you

556
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: are able to fall in love with multi cool people.

557
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: And the only part about my season that was a

558
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: bummer is that, um, that was the focus was like

559
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 1: the drama of someone leaving rather than looking back at

560
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: when Chris and my love story began. It just got overshadow,

561
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: right because it started way before Brooks left, Like that

562
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: had nothing to do with it. So it was just

563
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: a bummer that it happened that way. But that is frustrating.

564
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 1: But you know what the show was exactly how my

565
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 1: story needed to unfold, So I'm glad. Was it a

566
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 1: stressful I mean, I think everybody out there watching I

567
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 1: remember this. Was it a stressful last few days? Or

568
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: were you excited about the you know, moving on with Chris?

569
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: Because I really think this is my opinion, Please argue

570
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,959
Speaker 1: with me. The love story really starts on the show,

571
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: and it kind of begins once the show is over,

572
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: so I can get how you're you're dating up until

573
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: that kind of last moment, which just happens to be

574
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: a proposal. Yeah. No, true. Like Chris and A though

575
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 1: we talked a lot, we talked about a lot, Like

576
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 1: we knew that before he even proposed that I was

577
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: going to move to Seattle. We talked about our lives together,

578
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: so we kind of had that picture in mind before

579
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 1: even getting engaged, and so that was really helpful, um

580
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: to know what our life would look like. I think

581
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 1: hometowns were really important for us because that's when I

582
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 1: also felt so comfortable with his family and just felt

583
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: like I fit right in. And I think it was

584
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: the same when he met my parents. It was just

585
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: kind of like we just I think we were just

586
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: meant to be and that's exactly how we were supposed

587
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: to meet. Yeah, and I to speak for days. Um.

588
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 1: So the difference, Ben was that when at the end,

589
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: I was the only one there, and I had been

590
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: the only one there for like ten days or you know,

591
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: in bachelor days. But uh so I would think that

592
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: she was excited to get going. You know, it was

593
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: like a different build up to the end of Okay,

594
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: there's two guys, I've got to let one go. They're

595
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:58,239
Speaker 1: both gonna pour their hearts out for me. Um. I

596
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 1: didn't know, right, so I just said to stay strong.

597
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: But she knew already because once Brooks left got the acts.

598
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: That's mean we're doing everyone's doing good, but you know

599
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: it's married. I have no idea. You're not even fright

600
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: you're on front with them. You guys, did you stay

601
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: chrumming at all with any of the gushmar season? Um? Ironically, yeah,

602
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 1: Brooks and Michael Gay, Zach Waddell shirtless dude. Well we

603
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: know that because exactly he's one of my favorite people

604
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: in the war, right, I mean those are all those

605
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: are all guys that were at our wedding. Nuts Bachelor girls.

606
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: It's I mean, you've been there and you've been there.

607
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 1: It's a different world when you're in it, Like everything's heightened,

608
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 1: everything is focused on just the relationship, are just on that,

609
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 1: and then once you get into the real world, you

610
00:32:55,320 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: like realize kind of what's important. And um, I don't know.

611
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: We just kind of just kept going strong with our

612
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,479
Speaker 1: relationship and building it in Seattle, so it was nice.

613
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: I have one lat and then we'll dig in more

614
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: here too. Everything going on right now? What have you

615
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: found being important? Um, post bachelor? I've always been interested

616
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 1: in what are those bachelor relationships look like five years

617
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,479
Speaker 1: down the road with kids, What are the some of

618
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 1: the things that you hold sacred. Well, I think when

619
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: we first started it was the fact that we wanted

620
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: to focus on each other, Like we didn't want to

621
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: put any any like fame or anything like that in

622
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 1: front of our relationship, and I think that's what made

623
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: us strong. Um. As for right now, I think it's

624
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: just keeping family in mind, keeping what's important, like keeping

625
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 1: like who knows you best, that's what's most important, and

626
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 1: making sure that your marriage is strong so that your

627
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: children can be strong. And you know, I don't know,

628
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 1: I think that's what's most important. To us right now. Yeah,

629
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: we've done a pretty good job. Um, you know, for

630
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: better or we're keeping things separate, right, Like, this was

631
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 1: a wedding designer beforehand, and then she got into wedding

632
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: design and that's what she wanted to do and this

633
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: was a good launching pad to give exposure. But now

634
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 1: she's at a point where she has her creation is

635
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 1: going to take her as far as it can. Write

636
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: like The Bachelor promoting with her wedding designs. I think, yeah,

637
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 1: I think what you're saying is that whatever we were

638
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 1: doing before the show is exactly what we're doing now.

639
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: And I think that's what was most important and so

640
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: that for us was what has really helped kept our

641
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: relation relationship strong. Yeah. Sorry, still designing. Oh yeah you are. Yeah,

642
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: I know. I don't know that. I told you last

643
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: time I saw you. Okay, you guys didn't have a

644
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 1: TV wedding, but you are in the bridal industry. So

645
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 1: did you How do you feel about that where you're like, oh,

646
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,399
Speaker 1: I want the TV wedding or you're like, this way

647
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: I could have more hands on. Yeah, I think we

648
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:03,760
Speaker 1: were kind of what ever like worked out. Um, honestly,

649
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 1: we're so happy to be able to have it be

650
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 1: intimate and kind of you know, do our thing and

651
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: I don't know, have the most special people in our lives. Yeah,

652
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 1: that way you can make sure that you have everybody

653
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:16,839
Speaker 1: you need. They're not just the Bachelor cast. We had

654
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 1: a great wedding. Yeah, we did lots of nineties throwbacks

655
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: then everyone on the dancelor. The music is so important,

656
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: so playlist, I know, did you have a DJ or

657
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,479
Speaker 1: a band? Oh? Do you know Tassos? He was gonna

658
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: oh yes, yeah. So ironically I knew Tasso's way back

659
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: in the day, like in Denver. He was on your season.

660
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 1: It was on and so I knew him way back

661
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 1: like when we were like sixteen, and so he did

662
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,879
Speaker 1: our He's a DJ, so he did. That's awesome. Yeah,

663
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 1: DJs are I think the way to go because that's

664
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 1: what you can play all the musically want to play.

665
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's all those questions that comes to

666
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 1: wedding planning. You guys still reel them in though, because

667
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,800
Speaker 1: they'll go on a tangent and like, we're not doing requests.

668
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 1: It's your wedding. Yeah, no request. You told no request

669
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 1: of certain certain songs because We're like, we didn't want

670
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: that typical wedding sound. Yeah, it's very known. I know

671
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: exactly what you're talking about. When you say typical wedding sound.

672
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 1: It caters more to the the parents that it does

673
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:29,760
Speaker 1: the twenties and anyway, then you got any more questions

674
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:31,839
Speaker 1: for christ and dust? Yeah, well I'm now I want

675
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: to move into I was kind of letting you guys

676
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 1: talk wedding stuff. I thought I thought we were going

677
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: to get Ashley to commit to a wedding, but about

678
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: a wedding date. My wedding date is going to be

679
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 1: probably confirmed within the next ten days. Yeah. Yeah, Jared

680
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: and I have his sister's wedding this coming weekend, and

681
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,839
Speaker 1: then the days after that we're going to look at

682
00:36:55,920 --> 00:37:01,800
Speaker 1: venues in Rhode Island and the one that we really love. Um,

683
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:03,760
Speaker 1: we have to get back to them by September seven.

684
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: So there you go. So there go. You should just

685
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: get married on the same day that her sister, his

686
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: sister is getting married and take it over. No. I

687
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: already feel bad for the amount of attention we're going

688
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: to get over, not over that couple, but you know,

689
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: the guests will flock. Oh that's okay, yeah, um, all right,

690
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 1: well I'm so I think as I've watched Marriage bout Camp,

691
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 1: I've had a couple of friends go on and do it,

692
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 1: um and we kind of touched on it, but we

693
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: didn't get a clear answer. Do you did you find

694
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 1: it beneficial? Are you happy you did it? Yeah? I

695
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 1: think there's some hesitants. Nobody likes it. No, there was

696
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:51,399
Speaker 1: a delay there, like you you know what, I think,

697
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: no matter what phase you're in in your relationship, whether

698
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 1: that's dating or marriage, it's always good to stop and

699
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 1: talk about it and kind of find out if there's

700
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: any problems because sometimes they're underlying and you don't even

701
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,439
Speaker 1: see them until they're brought up. My only qualm about

702
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: the show is that it's going to try to go

703
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 1: back to your bachelorte experience and you're gonna be like, wait,

704
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: we overcame that again already have to revisit that, especially

705
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 1: because it's such an unnatural environment, Like nobody else has

706
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: to go and watch your spouse date other people on camera.

707
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: You know, they would have never witnessed that. They could

708
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: have heard about how it was, but they never and

709
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 1: it's a whole different dynamic. It really is, and I

710
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: think it's just sometimes disappointing that that's what it always

711
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: goes back to, because Chris and I do have so

712
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 1: many other um facets of our relationship that should be

713
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: shown and hopefully the show will show that. But we

714
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 1: do revisit, Yeah, we revisit the Bachelorette, which was five

715
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: years ago, but we do. But you know what, I

716
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: think it was good for us. I think it put

717
00:38:56,239 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: us into a vulnerable state for us to both them

718
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: share things about our relationship that maybe we didn't know. Yeah,

719
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 1: we have a very select population or a very few

720
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 1: population that understands the Bachelor Bachelor, those people that go

721
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 1: through it right, and then we have all the fans

722
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: that go through it with us and have their opinions.

723
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: But you know exactly how how it goes right because

724
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,399
Speaker 1: you're in it. Yeah you all. I mean you've I

725
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 1: think consistently and just because of the people you are,

726
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 1: and and we got to spend some good time together

727
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: years ago at a McDonald's commercial. It was fun. Um.

728
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: But I think you both have been celebrated kind of

729
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: as the couple in Bachelor Nation that people can relate

730
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 1: with the most. And I wonder if my question for

731
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: you is do you think any of that has to

732
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: do with the way that you two really met. I mean,

733
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: I guess you your love story you said and started

734
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 1: way before you know, the kind of leaving of Brooks.

735
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of people out there when

736
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 1: they watched that they really related with both of you,

737
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 1: and we're rooting for you from then on out. Did

738
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 1: you feel that or is there other reasons why people

739
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:04,439
Speaker 1: can relate with you so much? I mean, I think

740
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 1: maybe just because both Chris and I were going on

741
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 1: the show very justly. I think it's completely different now

742
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: than when we were on it, and then when we

743
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: were on it compared to when Jason was on it, right,

744
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 1: Like I think people can relate five years Yeah, yeah, right,

745
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: And I think, um, people can relate to both both

746
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 1: what you said, like they were rooting for us on

747
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: the show, but they're also rooting for us now and

748
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 1: because we're super relatable in that shoot. I do mortgages,

749
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: but you know what I'm saying, like it's super normal. Yeah,

750
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: and you know that's yeah. I mean we live a

751
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:48,240
Speaker 1: very normal life. Uh yeah, Like you guys stay in

752
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: your hometown often, not like Caitly and Sean, which are

753
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: constantly on a different like continent or um, Rachel and

754
00:40:57,239 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: Brian are constantly going from like Connecticut, it's Texas, l A.

755
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: You guys are like at home with the kids. It

756
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: is very relatable. Yeah, it stays consistent and strong, and

757
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think that's something that just makes

758
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 1: us strong. Not that you can't write, but totally each

759
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:18,919
Speaker 1: relationship is so different. Um. But the other thing too,

760
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 1: is like the just the show is just like everyday life,

761
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: like you're either going to work out or you're not.

762
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:29,359
Speaker 1: And like you said, Ben, like the relationship does technically

763
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: begin after the show, because that's really when you're seeing

764
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 1: other people's like quirks and how they handle situations, how

765
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:40,880
Speaker 1: they handle stress, because on the show, like there is

766
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: none until yeah, outside of like the emotional there's not

767
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: like the every day stress. Um. So it's interesting No,

768
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: I mean before kids. Yeah, I'm saying before kids, like yeah,

769
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: she means like you know, when you go on the

770
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: glamour date, it's like you don't have any stress, but

771
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: then you get off and then you're like always someone

772
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:06,879
Speaker 1: handles there how to pay for dinner exactly? Are like helicopters,

773
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:12,319
Speaker 1: I mean asked for medium rare? Are you too? Are

774
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: you watching? Do you still keep up with the shows? Yeah? Occasionally.

775
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:19,240
Speaker 1: We've actually really gotten into paradise. This is the season

776
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 1: of Paradise. I'm here to declare that it is better

777
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: than a na other season of Paradise. And yeah, I know,

778
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 1: and I was on the other ones that should be

779
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: the Bachelor? Now was it right for Tienne Colton to

780
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: break that? But before we answer those questions, let's take

781
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 1: a break here. I know we have one of our

782
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: crazy consistent sponsors, that Bit Fun Ashley. You love that

783
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,839
Speaker 1: fit Fun? I love that fit Fun. Can you tell

784
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 1: our audience about that fit Fun? Hey? Does you love

785
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 1: that fit Fun as much as I do? Right? I do? Yes,

786
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: It's really it's gotten so good over the past year.

787
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: I use everything in the box. If you guys, have

788
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 1: you guys out there, have you tried that fit Fun?

789
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:00,680
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792
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793
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: or coffee press, glam glow bubble, masks a beauty blender,

794
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: and that's just the beginning of it. Joe mess out

795
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Speaker 1: It alone is worth more than forts the code totally.

802
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Speaker 1: I was like, our code is worth ten dollars, but yes,

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Speaker 1: the totes is worth way more than again fabit fund

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Speaker 1: dot com almost famous. Treat yourself girl. Should we talk

805
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 1: about paradise with you? Guys? Up and like it? And

806
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: I think we got to talk about cold and be

807
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 1: the Bachelor? I think we got to talk about paradise

808
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 1: Before we close our segment on Chris and Dees, I

809
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,359
Speaker 1: have to ask this. I've been I had it written down.

810
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: I'm not going to let us skip over. This is

811
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 1: the one question I want to ask you both. If

812
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 1: you had one minute, let's say thirty seconds, does to

813
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 1: explain your favorite things about Chris and Chris thirty seconds task?

814
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:31,439
Speaker 1: Can we do that really cool romantic like the Notebuck Yeah,

815
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: let's do it right, got thirty seconds on the clock

816
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: starting now. Chris is one of the most thoughtful, carrying,

817
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: strong people. I know. He makes everyone in the room

818
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 1: feel special. And you're my rock seconds. Oh you're also

819
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 1: very hot and you are a great father and husband

820
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: and I love you so much. I feel like my

821
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,839
Speaker 1: voice got all like quiet and sexy too, And that's

822
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 1: the way to do it. What's your name? She's getting

823
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 1: back into the voice now, she's like getting into her life.

824
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:15,920
Speaker 1: That's funny. I told him that. All right, Chris, it's

825
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:18,919
Speaker 1: your turn. You can go under thirty seconds. That's fair,

826
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: it's not over. Um. I loved as because she is

827
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 1: very driven, she's beautiful, she knows exactly what she wants. UM.

828
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 1: So she's not afraid to voice her opinion, her mind. UM.

829
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: But I love that she's a great mom, a great friend,

830
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 1: and I love her artistic side that's really come out

831
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:44,959
Speaker 1: in our relationship over the last five years. M huge

832
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 1: into puzzles. Who would have known that's actually brand new? Actually,

833
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 1: she just literally you've literally she goes. She text me like,

834
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go buy a thousand piece puzzle really quick.

835
00:45:55,200 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, what you have a table of a puzzle,

836
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: a table puzzle seen that Mark Wahlberg movie to have

837
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: In the movie, he does a puzzle that's all white.

838
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: So he's like a genius. That's so cool. I'm a nerd.

839
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: I like puzzle contribution there right, everybody out there. That

840
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: is Chris and Does. Some of our favorite people from

841
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 1: Bachelor Nation, that's Chris and Does as a couple. Catch

842
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 1: them on book a marriage boot camp coming up here

843
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: very soon. Actually the details on that. It's Friday, September

844
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: seven on on we TV. Make sure you check them

845
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:47,279
Speaker 1: out there you can see more about the relationship. But

846
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: now we're moving in to the recap of Bachelor in Paradise.

847
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: Also the question of who will be the next Bachelor

848
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: and who believe is the best Bachelor and Chris and

849
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: Dees are going to stick aroun to join us for

850
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 1: that with that team. Let's start with this. Shelton be

851
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 1: the next Bachelor. I don't think so. I don't think

852
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 1: he's mature enough or has had enough like dating experience

853
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: to handle. Oh. I would love to watch him try

854
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 1: to figure this out. No, those girls would eat him alive. Guys,

855
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 1: because just just can't be the bachelor because I love

856
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 1: him with Tea too much, and I don't think we

857
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 1: were left on a note where we wanted we want

858
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: to see him move beyond Tia yet. But you guys,

859
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: how heartbroken are you for Tia? If he was the

860
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:42,120
Speaker 1: bachelor Amy, Come on, where's the sensitivity? I'm sorry she

861
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: messed me up in the beginning of the season, all

862
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:48,799
Speaker 1: the craziness and then well she's just pig me. I

863
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: just can't lady, Yes, she needs a like no, I

864
00:47:56,280 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 1: love Yeah, I think it's amazing. But but that's why

865
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 1: I would say no to Colton. I think she deserves

866
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:09,799
Speaker 1: way more. She deserves someone who's going to just you

867
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,760
Speaker 1: know exactly what you want. When I loved Colton, sometimes

868
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 1: it takes a while to know what you guys remember

869
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: the episode and I don't remember which episode was, they

870
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 1: were laying on a bed outdoor bed, and she was

871
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:25,959
Speaker 1: kind of like ripping on a guy, and Colton said,

872
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: I'm not going to rag on the guy. I know,

873
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 1: I know. I really liked that because it's like I

874
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 1: didn't like that she was like dogging some dude who

875
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: knows what she was really talking sleep And he took

876
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: the high road and was like I'm not going to

877
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: rag on this guy. Sorry, I was like, chose me shared.

878
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 1: Here's the one thing I think that the show has

879
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 1: to watch out for. And I don't know if Colton's

880
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: this guy or not, but you you all all have

881
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: mentioned your concerns with it. I think the Bachelor really

882
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: needs a good bachelor, a likable Batchel. It's gonna be

883
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: so good, so likable do you think? Yes? But I

884
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 1: still am attached to his previous relationship. Okay? What makes him?

885
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,959
Speaker 1: What makes him so likable to you? Because I feel

886
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: like Paradise hasn't made him more likable. Yes? Are you talking?

887
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? That cheese conversation where he where

888
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: he said that she's gives him gas hilarious, when he

889
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,760
Speaker 1: said that he accidentally zipped up his penis one time, hilarious.

890
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 1: He wasn't going to rip on people that made me

891
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 1: like him. I do like that so much, wide range

892
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: of emotions. He's just a little snugly teddy bear. He

893
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 1: just confused. You didn't know what he was him when

894
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 1: we met him. Did you hear the rumor that Ben

895
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: is going to be a Bachelor again? Yeah? I just

896
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:52,319
Speaker 1: heard that. How do you feel about that, Ben. I mean,

897
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: it's great that people still think that I can hold

898
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 1: my own in that world. It also is great to

899
00:49:57,680 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 1: think that, you know, going on thirty and people they

900
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: still think those women will be attracted to me. Then

901
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 1: Lori was thirty six and Nick was thirty seven seven.

902
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:10,399
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Um, you know that you you all get

903
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 1: it that. I feel like, if you ever were to

904
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 1: do it again, it has to be like three years

905
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 1: four year break in between because it's so taxing. It's

906
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 1: just now recovering from my time on the Bachelor. I

907
00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: don't even know if I am. And you're sick of

908
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: that entire time too, Yeah, I was. Yeah, maybe that's

909
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 1: why maybe I do need to do it again because

910
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 1: I had a terrible experience because I was sick the

911
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 1: whole time. Taper White, could you imagine having to do

912
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: that strenuous That would have been great because I wouldn't

913
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: have gained I know, right every in the hot, sweaty

914
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: sand and the stomach starts journey and you're like, oh, yeah,

915
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 1: I feel sexy, this girl loves me, like I just

916
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,320
Speaker 1: wanted to keep doing this, and then it's like hey, sorry,

917
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 1: pause five minutes, like I'll be right back, and they

918
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 1: know exactly so sad. Hey, but but hey, I was

919
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 1: the best Bachelor of all time? Ye yourself describing right now? Yeah,

920
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 1: because it takes me at least twenty every morning outside

921
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 1: of Colton, and he doesn't have a tape more outside

922
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 1: of Colton. Who did you guys like um as the

923
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 1: possible bachelor coming out of Becka season. Honestly, I'm kind

924
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: of torn. I'm not sure because I'm not sure. I

925
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:44,319
Speaker 1: feel like there's this good I think we are on

926
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,919
Speaker 1: the Joe train put away followers. He's got he would

927
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 1: carry it, he will like him. You know what. Joe

928
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:55,879
Speaker 1: is probably the most relatable person ever on this show.

929
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 1: He just seems so down to earth and like kind

930
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 1: of just not really sure what's going on, but goes

931
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, yeah, I like it. He just think

932
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 1: he might be in a relationship. I mean, I I

933
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: think it might make it right. So moving now, we

934
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:15,800
Speaker 1: have a couple. We we've mentioned Colton grocery store, Joe.

935
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 1: We know the others that are up there for options,

936
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 1: and two of these people, Colton and Joe, are both

937
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 1: on Paradise this year. Colton. You know we saw this week, Uh,

938
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 1: he and Tia had broken up. Um, I think we

939
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 1: have to because this is a Bachelor focused podcast, we

940
00:52:33,680 --> 00:52:36,760
Speaker 1: have to break down the recent developments on this season

941
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:39,920
Speaker 1: of Bachelor in Paradise. Um. The things I have written

942
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 1: down here, the big ones are obviously Leo's meltdown. Um,

943
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 1: the guy has gone off his rocker. We've seen it happen.

944
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: Can we talk about this for a second. I mean,

945
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: we cannot ignore the fact that this might be one

946
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: of the most epic breakdowns ever in Bachelor history. When

947
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:00,919
Speaker 1: he was like, Kendall, I think you're beautiful. I don't

948
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: know why you're not taking I think you're a wonderful person.

949
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 1: And I also think you're a fake actress. Oh my god,

950
00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:09,360
Speaker 1: any through the drink. Well, then he threw the drink. Guys,

951
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:14,279
Speaker 1: I miss this. I'm sorry me the wrong way though

952
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 1: the moment he was like talking to Kendall and with

953
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:26,360
Speaker 1: the soft arm, oh somebody else, and I'm like, okay,

954
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: so let's say let me say this my sister, my

955
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 1: best friend think he's so hot too. And my friend

956
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 1: called him the rental version of Jason Momoa, especially when

957
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:40,720
Speaker 1: he was like Aquaman and like dove into the water

958
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: and then like emerge and he was like, who's the snitch.

959
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: Who's the snitch? Um? But yeah, So I find I

960
00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 1: used to think that Leo was attractive, and now that

961
00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 1: I've learned his personality more, I don't see it anymore.

962
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 1: It's just really amazing how somebody's appearance can change so

963
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 1: much when you learn about their personality. It's very true.

964
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 1: One of the things that dry me craziest is that

965
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: I feel like Leo knows he's attractive, though, Like, yeah,

966
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:06,359
Speaker 1: he's a good looking dude. He's tall, he's he looks

967
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,479
Speaker 1: you know, he looks like Chris and I. He's tall,

968
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: he's really strong, he's got a long, beautiful hair. Yeah,

969
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:16,839
Speaker 1: great eyes. I mean he's sensitive and sweet. No. Um,

970
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 1: he knows he's attractive, and he he uses that to

971
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 1: his advantage. And and it drives me up the wall

972
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:25,959
Speaker 1: because he sits there from the very beginning of talking.

973
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, of course, he's confident because the guy. The

974
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 1: guy's ego is the largest I've ever seen on the show.

975
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 1: And that's saying something. I was upset about Leo. I

976
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 1: don't I don't know, I was upset about it. I

977
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 1: never would have thought that would have come out of

978
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 1: the guy that we knew back during Becka season. He

979
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: seems so gentle and just carrying gentlemanly, and all of

980
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 1: a sudden, he's just this wild animal. I just got

981
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:57,280
Speaker 1: this side by side of he and Jason Momoa, and

982
00:54:57,440 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 1: I mean, Jason Momma was like the hottest person of

983
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 1: all time time, right, just like a stunning beat, right.

984
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 1: I think maybe he just needs to do another emission

985
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 1: impossible start and Justice League. I just didn't like it

986
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,920
Speaker 1: because I felt like he the way he complimented the

987
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 1: girls was like as if yeah, he had a huge ego,

988
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 1: and the way he complimented and was kind of condescending

989
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:27,560
Speaker 1: in the sense of like, oh yeah, like needing trying

990
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:29,799
Speaker 1: to make them feel like, oh, I know, I'm making

991
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: you feel real special. That's what I got from it. Yes,

992
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 1: but they ate it up. Kendall left it when she

993
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: was talking to him, and yeah, I was upset with that.

994
00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 1: What do we do as fans of the show. We're

995
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 1: all now fans of this show now when when we

996
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 1: have a character like Leo on it and he upsets

997
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:52,319
Speaker 1: us all and we're angry, is it fair for us

998
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: to get angry and to be like that was ridiculous,

999
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: like that guy has issues, or as fans, do we

1000
00:55:58,080 --> 00:55:59,640
Speaker 1: just need to not talk about it and do it

1001
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: like we treat every other human in the world and

1002
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 1: not judge because we don't know the full story. And

1003
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 1: how do we go about this now? Because one thing

1004
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 1: I was just so angry with Leo. We have to

1005
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 1: decide as fans how we're going to handle characters on

1006
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:14,959
Speaker 1: this show that we really are angry with. And what's

1007
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:17,640
Speaker 1: the best love to hate? What's the best avenue and

1008
00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 1: platform to discuss it? Because one thing that the show

1009
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:23,719
Speaker 1: is always done is it's allowedest ability to see through

1010
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: people's characters and say, Okay, we don't want to be

1011
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: that um moving forward, we want to be better than that.

1012
00:56:30,040 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 1: We want characters on this show to be better than that.

1013
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:33,839
Speaker 1: And so Christ and does before we break you here,

1014
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: because I know you have to get going, how as

1015
00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 1: fans of the show, do you handle people that you

1016
00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: get really angry with? Oh man, how do we handle

1017
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:45,759
Speaker 1: this show that we get really don't handle people on

1018
00:56:45,800 --> 00:56:47,759
Speaker 1: the show that we get angry with? Do we give

1019
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 1: them the benefit of the doubt? Christ just drinks more wine.

1020
00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 1: That's a good answer. I play yeah, I play that.

1021
00:56:55,280 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 1: I wonder what producers asking that question? Yeah, we know,

1022
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 1: even rewinds to listen. I'm like, give it, give it up.

1023
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 1: Jared and I are constantly rewinding, trying to find like

1024
00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 1: edit points. Yeah, um, how to handle it? I don't

1025
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:12,879
Speaker 1: even know. To be honest, it's easy, Okay, so it's

1026
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 1: really easy. It's critical. Yeah, it's super easy to be critical.

1027
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 1: But then I guess we always have to remember that.

1028
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: There's always like if someone's starting to become the villain, right,

1029
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,440
Speaker 1: we know, right, the four of us know that that

1030
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:30,280
Speaker 1: conversation is now always being had in the house, like

1031
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 1: did you hear that so and so did this? And

1032
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 1: it's like why do you guys when you guys talk

1033
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 1: about that for a second? So everything is just more fightened. Yea,

1034
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 1: So maybe they weren't that bad of a person, but

1035
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 1: now it's become so bad. So we all we have

1036
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: to remember that. Yeah. I feel like I give um

1037
00:57:47,040 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 1: people on the show a benefit of the doubt, more

1038
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 1: so because I've been on it. But it's still fun

1039
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: to watch. Talk to Chris. Thank you for your advice.

1040
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: We appreciate you. Um, we're gonna let you go. Thanks

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00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:04,240
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Speaker 1: Everybody out there listening, this is an opportunity that I've

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Speaker 1: never dreamed I would have, and I mean that this

1067
00:59:42,520 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: is a really special moment for me. There's only maybe

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00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 1: three people in the world I would be really nervous

1069
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 1: to talk to, and this guy is one of them,

1070
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 1: which is weird because he's also one of the most accepting,

1071
00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 1: loving people that I've ever heard about or read from.

1072
00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 1: The next guest on this podcast is my favorite author.

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00:59:58,440 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 1: He's also just one of my favorite human beans. And

1074
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 1: I think you'd probably hate it if he heard me

1075
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:06,280
Speaker 1: say that. Um. This guy is the one that that

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01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 1: whose book led me to choose to be love. And

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01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 1: what I mean by that is his book was the

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Speaker 1: one that made me convicted and also inspired to say,

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01:00:14,200 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna choose love above anything else in this world,

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01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:19,560
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do it. Um in the name of faith,

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01:00:19,680 --> 01:00:22,680
Speaker 1: in the name of people, Um, and I believe that

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01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 1: love will bring the most joy in life. And and

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01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:26,160
Speaker 1: so he's the one that led me to that. Our

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01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 1: next guest is um Bob Goff. Bob Goff is an

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Speaker 1: author of the New York best selling book Love Does.

1086
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 1: He's also the U. S Department of State recognizes but

1087
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: Bob Golf as a diplomat, and he is known as

1088
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:43,440
Speaker 1: the Honorary Consul for the Republic of Uganda due to

1089
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: his work with Love Does, formerly known as Restoring or National,

1090
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 1: a nonprofit organization he founded. Bob Goff is on the nine. Now,

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01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 1: Bob Goff, are you out there? Hey, get to hear

1092
01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:59,280
Speaker 1: your point. How you doing? Oh? Mr Goff, you don't

1093
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 1: understand how excited I am to talk to you. This

1094
01:01:02,200 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 1: guy is blessed out of his chair right now. He's

1095
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 1: just he's so smiley. I've never seen him so smiley.

1096
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you guys are connected on here. Ah,

1097
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:14,720
Speaker 1: this is really good. That's so glad we're talking a

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01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:18,880
Speaker 1: little bit. Um. It's it's hilarious, Bob, because as we're

1099
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 1: prepping for this conversation, one of the people that help

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01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: out with this show putting on this almost famous podcast.

1101
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 1: Tory uh texted me and she says, I'm gonna cry.

1102
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. I'm also a huge fan

1103
01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 1: of Bob Golf, and so you have fans, I mean

1104
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:38,439
Speaker 1: obviously all across the United States, my friends and Denver

1105
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 1: and my friends that I know, we're so excited for

1106
01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:44,440
Speaker 1: this moment, for for me. Um. So, Mr Goff, I

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01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 1: want to start with this by saying, Uh, you know

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01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:50,919
Speaker 1: what has inspired you in your life to write these

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01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:55,640
Speaker 1: books based on love? Yeah? I think I agree with you.

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01:01:55,840 --> 01:01:59,000
Speaker 1: It's kind of like those are the things that are

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01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:03,800
Speaker 1: gonna laugh. And I spent my entire career as a

1112
01:02:03,880 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 1: lawyer winning arguments, you know, if we were arguing, because

1113
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:11,920
Speaker 1: I win it. But I just decided at some point

1114
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 1: along that that that isn't going to actually last, all

1115
01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:19,520
Speaker 1: these arguments that actually loving some people and loving people

1116
01:02:19,600 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 1: without an agenda, Like as soon as your love has

1117
01:02:22,320 --> 01:02:25,360
Speaker 1: an agenda, they love anymore. It's just another program. And

1118
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:28,000
Speaker 1: so we just started helping people out. You don't have

1119
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: to go across the ocean to do that. You can

1120
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 1: go across the street. But wherever you go, just make

1121
01:02:33,920 --> 01:02:37,680
Speaker 1: to move and find somebody and then just actually see

1122
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:40,520
Speaker 1: how you can be helpful to them. So a simple concept.

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01:02:40,640 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 1: People have been doing it for century. They were doing

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01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 1: it long before you and I got here and long after.

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Speaker 1: But there's something about being super purposeful about it, just

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01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: to say I'm gonna actually take one thing and uh,

1127
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:56,240
Speaker 1: and then just go a little bit deeper with it.

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01:02:56,440 --> 01:03:00,600
Speaker 1: And for us, it was schools in countries that have conflict,

1129
01:03:00,720 --> 01:03:03,400
Speaker 1: if there was an ongoing civil war, that we would

1130
01:03:03,440 --> 01:03:06,480
Speaker 1: start a school there. And and we're actually we're the

1131
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 1: students most of the time. We're learning at time as

1132
01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 1: we go the blame while we're flying at most of

1133
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: the time. It's it's absolutely incredible. And a lot of

1134
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 1: people on this podcast, you know, we have half a

1135
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 1: million listeners every week, and a lot of them have

1136
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: kind of walked this journey with with Ashley and I.

1137
01:03:23,200 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 1: And one thing they've always asked is you know what

1138
01:03:25,520 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 1: has inspired you? What books inspired you? And I know,

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01:03:28,760 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if you know this or not, but

1140
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 1: Love Does. And you've recently came out with a book

1141
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:34,960
Speaker 1: called Everybody Always that I'm right in the heart of

1142
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,800
Speaker 1: right now. But Love Does is the book that really did.

1143
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 1: As I said at the beginning, I was on a

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01:03:39,680 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 1: mountain uh in Wyoming, Buffalo, Wyoming, and I was reading

1145
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:45,520
Speaker 1: it and I said, from that moment forward, even though

1146
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:47,520
Speaker 1: it might be tough at times, I'm going to choose

1147
01:03:47,560 --> 01:03:51,200
Speaker 1: to love because you convinced me in your argument that

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01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 1: love was the best answer. And so I want to

1149
01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 1: ask you, why do you believe love is the answer

1150
01:03:56,880 --> 01:04:00,720
Speaker 1: to life? I think what I noticed, and I know

1151
01:04:00,840 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 1: you and Astley have noticed as well as that people

1152
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:06,680
Speaker 1: try to all these other solutions for the most difficult

1153
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 1: questions that are out there, but the one that seems

1154
01:04:09,560 --> 01:04:13,480
Speaker 1: to work is loving people, even when it doesn't appear

1155
01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:17,120
Speaker 1: like it's working. There's something that like outlasts all of us.

1156
01:04:17,600 --> 01:04:20,920
Speaker 1: If you actually love people, uh And if you you've

1157
01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:22,640
Speaker 1: got to, if you're going to give away love, you

1158
01:04:22,720 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 1: need to understand what love is. When my daughter was

1159
01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:28,600
Speaker 1: in high school, I actually wanted her to be a nut.

1160
01:04:29,360 --> 01:04:34,560
Speaker 1: But so when the boys come by and asked you

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01:04:34,800 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 1: to the problems, I told her to ask them what's

1162
01:04:37,320 --> 01:04:40,200
Speaker 1: your definition of love? And because they're guys, they won't know.

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01:04:40,480 --> 01:04:42,960
Speaker 1: They send them home and think about what love is.

1164
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:44,800
Speaker 1: And when they know what love is, telling you and

1165
01:04:44,840 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 1: then you'll decide if you go to the problem with

1166
01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:49,360
Speaker 1: them and if they come back and say, it's like butterflies.

1167
01:04:49,480 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 1: But if you can get that from bad pizza. But

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01:04:51,960 --> 01:04:55,320
Speaker 1: love is sacrifice and commitment. And if we can figure

1169
01:04:55,360 --> 01:04:58,800
Speaker 1: out and we know that loving people sacrifice and commitment

1170
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: and just get past whether how it deals at the

1171
01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 1: particular time, then that's been super helpful to me. It

1172
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:07,439
Speaker 1: helps me when there's been a couple of days where

1173
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:10,680
Speaker 1: I've tried really hard at something and then it actually

1174
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:13,400
Speaker 1: hasn't turned out and I go like, no, no, I'm

1175
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 1: not doing it for the applause. Is if you want

1176
01:05:15,360 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 1: to applause, join the circus. If you actually want to love,

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01:05:18,600 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 1: just be prepared to commit to something and do whatever

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01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:25,600
Speaker 1: it takes to get there. And I think that's where

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01:05:25,760 --> 01:05:29,800
Speaker 1: the longest relationships I've had, you've had, have been founded on,

1180
01:05:29,960 --> 01:05:32,280
Speaker 1: like people that have sacrificed and we're committed to us.

1181
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:36,400
Speaker 1: What did the prom did come back and say, oh, yeah,

1182
01:05:36,520 --> 01:05:39,760
Speaker 1: yeah that the boys put circle around? And actually, what's

1183
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 1: beautiful if there's a beautiful betting that happens if you

1184
01:05:42,840 --> 01:05:46,480
Speaker 1: can actually kind of define the terms of your discussion

1185
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:51,600
Speaker 1: by by actually having vulnerable conversation to say, like this

1186
01:05:51,800 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 1: is literally what I'm looking for. If it's just the

1187
01:05:54,760 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 1: feelings all that and look, go bowling, but you actually

1188
01:05:57,280 --> 01:06:00,360
Speaker 1: want to go do life together, then let's under stand

1189
01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:03,480
Speaker 1: what we're aiming for. What's that beautiful thing on the horizon,

1190
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:07,360
Speaker 1: the dreaming for. I met sweet Maria Goffe thirty two

1191
01:06:07,440 --> 01:06:09,480
Speaker 1: years ago. She wouldn't go out of a date with

1192
01:06:09,600 --> 01:06:14,960
Speaker 1: me for three years, look like this crazy air and

1193
01:06:15,000 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 1: all that, But he saw who I was turning into.

1194
01:06:18,320 --> 01:06:21,000
Speaker 1: And that's one of the things that's been helpful for me.

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01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:24,160
Speaker 1: If there's somebody that's been kind of difficult, I just

1196
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:27,880
Speaker 1: think to myself, I wonder who they're becoming about who

1197
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:30,200
Speaker 1: they used to be. The people that I think have

1198
01:06:30,880 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 1: shaped me the most were people that believed in me

1199
01:06:33,840 --> 01:06:35,880
Speaker 1: and uh that even though I was kind of a

1200
01:06:36,000 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 1: rough draft of the first I was going to become,

1201
01:06:38,680 --> 01:06:41,400
Speaker 1: they saw the guy of turning into and that's what

1202
01:06:41,520 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 1: people who are like. To your point, then people who

1203
01:06:44,960 --> 01:06:47,800
Speaker 1: are turning into love one of the hallmarks about them

1204
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:50,440
Speaker 1: they see who the people around them are turning into.

1205
01:06:51,840 --> 01:06:53,880
Speaker 1: H I mean, Bob, you know we have a lot

1206
01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 1: of people, um that listen to podcasting right in about

1207
01:06:56,600 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 1: relationship advice. Uh, just in terms of both romance and

1208
01:07:00,640 --> 01:07:03,920
Speaker 1: personal in their life with their family. UM. You've been

1209
01:07:04,040 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 1: known to deal with people and some of the most

1210
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:10,760
Speaker 1: some of the life's hardest situations, UM be that from

1211
01:07:11,000 --> 01:07:14,240
Speaker 1: divorce to sickness to illness. In your book Everybody Always,

1212
01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:16,919
Speaker 1: there's there's a beautiful story of how you you loved

1213
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:20,360
Speaker 1: on your neighbor during an illness. And one of the

1214
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:23,400
Speaker 1: things that that we've been asked as people write in

1215
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 1: is how do you maintain a joy or how do

1216
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:31,720
Speaker 1: you find fulfillment in life's hardest situations? Um? And oftentimes

1217
01:07:31,720 --> 01:07:33,480
Speaker 1: I struggle answering that. So I was going to push

1218
01:07:33,520 --> 01:07:34,680
Speaker 1: that to you to see if you could help our

1219
01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:37,960
Speaker 1: listeners out. Yeah. The first thing that occurred to me

1220
01:07:38,040 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 1: when you frame that was to look beyond the auvious. UM.

1221
01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:46,400
Speaker 1: So sometimes there would be an immediate audi answer, even

1222
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:49,320
Speaker 1: to one of the most difficult circumstances, and to say

1223
01:07:49,840 --> 01:07:53,080
Speaker 1: is there's something deeper here that I can understand. One

1224
01:07:53,120 --> 01:07:56,480
Speaker 1: of the things I've learned from writing books is that

1225
01:07:56,760 --> 01:08:00,600
Speaker 1: the best chapter title come later. And I turned in

1226
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:04,960
Speaker 1: Everybody Always, I turned it in. There's no chapter titles.

1227
01:08:05,960 --> 01:08:09,440
Speaker 1: They're like bloody you forget something. I'm like, no, no, no, no.

1228
01:08:09,560 --> 01:08:13,600
Speaker 1: The better titles will come later. And so let's say

1229
01:08:13,680 --> 01:08:16,000
Speaker 1: there's a circumstance where some of your listeners he has

1230
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:21,760
Speaker 1: experienced rejection and where you would stay, uh, you know,

1231
01:08:21,920 --> 01:08:24,599
Speaker 1: that's the title of that chapter. Actually, if you give

1232
01:08:24,640 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 1: it a little while, you'll probably retitle that thing more

1233
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:31,360
Speaker 1: accurately released, or some time where you've had something that

1234
01:08:31,439 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 1: you really worked on. I built a launch. It took

1235
01:08:33,920 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 1: me twenty years to build this thing. A couple of

1236
01:08:37,840 --> 01:08:42,759
Speaker 1: guys made a mistake, confirmed it to the ground grass

1237
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 1: and one of the things that would have titled that

1238
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:48,120
Speaker 1: chapter I'm out. But I gave that a little while

1239
01:08:48,200 --> 01:08:51,120
Speaker 1: we're rebuilding this thing, and I would more accurately title

1240
01:08:51,200 --> 01:08:54,160
Speaker 1: that chapter I'm back. And so one of the things

1241
01:08:54,240 --> 01:08:57,040
Speaker 1: that has been super helpful is to just stay to

1242
01:08:57,120 --> 01:09:00,759
Speaker 1: flow down and just say there's a better chapter title

1243
01:09:00,880 --> 01:09:04,160
Speaker 1: for this um that then the one that occurs to

1244
01:09:04,280 --> 01:09:09,400
Speaker 1: you right away, the uh for everybody out there listening. UM.

1245
01:09:09,840 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 1: I love reading from Bob because he has this infectious

1246
01:09:13,960 --> 01:09:16,200
Speaker 1: joy about him, in this sense of humor towards life,

1247
01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:20,200
Speaker 1: and he's been involved in so many different stories. Bobby,

1248
01:09:20,560 --> 01:09:23,840
Speaker 1: you constantly write in your books about these interactions with people,

1249
01:09:24,320 --> 01:09:27,080
Speaker 1: and you're able to kind of process the interaction and

1250
01:09:27,160 --> 01:09:29,920
Speaker 1: then then tell the story clearly and concisely so that

1251
01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:34,320
Speaker 1: the reader, UM can learn from them. I think as

1252
01:09:34,400 --> 01:09:37,439
Speaker 1: I read your books sometimes I get envious, honestly, because

1253
01:09:37,680 --> 01:09:40,320
Speaker 1: your life has been full of so many interactions that

1254
01:09:40,360 --> 01:09:43,880
Speaker 1: are so meaningful. If I am asking you, I want

1255
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:46,479
Speaker 1: to have these meaningful actions. I want my life to matter.

1256
01:09:46,800 --> 01:09:50,200
Speaker 1: I want to leave a legacy. UM, you've been able

1257
01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:51,960
Speaker 1: to do that, and you do that in a way

1258
01:09:52,000 --> 01:09:55,960
Speaker 1: that's been shared with so many. How Oh, I think

1259
01:09:56,040 --> 01:09:59,880
Speaker 1: the like perhaps you and Ashley and the people listening,

1260
01:10:00,920 --> 01:10:04,880
Speaker 1: I'm paying attention to what's happening. I get easily distracted.

1261
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm like that dog in up I was I hooked up.

1262
01:10:12,800 --> 01:10:16,040
Speaker 1: We got this two thousand one suburban and I cooked

1263
01:10:16,080 --> 01:10:18,799
Speaker 1: the trailer up to we started driving from San Diego

1264
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:22,000
Speaker 1: towards Canada. And I was driving up the road and

1265
01:10:22,120 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 1: if you ever had it happened to where you're wondering

1266
01:10:23,960 --> 01:10:26,080
Speaker 1: if you locked the door, turned the oven off, and

1267
01:10:26,520 --> 01:10:29,679
Speaker 1: I just couldn't remember putting the latch on the trailer,

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Speaker 1: so I didn't sm on the brakes. I bumped the brakes,

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Speaker 1: I pulled off to the side. And this is after

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Speaker 1: having traveled quade away. I pulled up this night. Sure enough,

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Speaker 1: the latch wasn't on the trailer, and I was one

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Speaker 1: bump in the road away from having nothing past me

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01:10:45,560 --> 01:10:48,600
Speaker 1: in the fast lane. And well, it looked like I

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Speaker 1: was hooked up to that trailer. I wasn't actually cooked

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Speaker 1: up to that trailer. And so we're all looking for

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01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:56,479
Speaker 1: the same thing in our life, love and purpose and

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Speaker 1: connection and a couple of authentic relationships. And I think

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Speaker 1: the way that you put a latch on it is

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01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:06,320
Speaker 1: to be intentional and purposeful, to say, what's actually gonna

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Speaker 1: outlast What are some of the things like this idea

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01:11:09,200 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 1: that you're known for your opinions, but you're remembered for

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01:11:12,479 --> 01:11:14,840
Speaker 1: your love, like that would outlast me. So what I'm

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01:11:14,880 --> 01:11:16,760
Speaker 1: trying to do is put a latch on those things,

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01:11:17,240 --> 01:11:19,400
Speaker 1: and we try to do it in different things, big

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Speaker 1: and small. And what you do is you'll find the

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Speaker 1: things you're looking for. I wanted at nineteen seventy one

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Speaker 1: Volks so I can, but I haven't even thought about

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Speaker 1: one of those for thirty years. As soon as I decided,

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Speaker 1: I wanted at nineteen US. Every third car is a

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01:11:34,680 --> 01:11:38,200
Speaker 1: nineties you weren't volks But because you'll just find this

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01:11:38,360 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 1: thing you're looking for. So if you're looking for a

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01:11:40,520 --> 01:11:43,840
Speaker 1: great stories to help you make sense of your life,

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01:11:44,200 --> 01:11:46,040
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden you'll go like you'll have

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01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 1: a way to like in context to say, I want

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01:11:50,120 --> 01:11:52,280
Speaker 1: to put a latch on these things that I believe.

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01:11:52,400 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 1: For some of your listeners, faith might be a big

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01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:57,519
Speaker 1: deal for it. Put a latch on it by actually

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01:11:57,720 --> 01:12:00,840
Speaker 1: doing things like and it's nothing because like I want

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01:12:00,880 --> 01:12:03,720
Speaker 1: you to do them a big one and like you

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01:12:03,800 --> 01:12:06,120
Speaker 1: know a favor by doing something nice. But it's like

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01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:08,880
Speaker 1: to put a latch on everything you believe by actually

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01:12:08,960 --> 01:12:11,920
Speaker 1: putting it into action. And so that's what I'm trying

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01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 1: to do every day, And I write down. I have

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01:12:14,760 --> 01:12:17,080
Speaker 1: a practice, and I think that's what I've noticed about

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01:12:17,120 --> 01:12:21,880
Speaker 1: people that have um more clarity on why they're doing

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01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:24,880
Speaker 1: what they're doing. I right down the things that I'm

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Speaker 1: observing during the day. I did. I send myself a

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01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:31,439
Speaker 1: hundred emails a day? Is that crazy? Him? I get home,

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01:12:31,520 --> 01:12:35,280
Speaker 1: I'm like him again. Walk. But what I'll do is

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01:12:35,400 --> 01:12:38,439
Speaker 1: take everything I think about everything and I'll put it

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01:12:38,520 --> 01:12:41,000
Speaker 1: all in one place. I have a document. It's one

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01:12:41,080 --> 01:12:44,800
Speaker 1: point six billion words. Log is that crazy? Everything I

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01:12:44,880 --> 01:12:48,000
Speaker 1: think about everything? So even this morning, I've spent the

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01:12:48,080 --> 01:12:51,240
Speaker 1: first hour just reflecting on some of these things to say,

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01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:53,519
Speaker 1: like who's the guy I want to be? Like what

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01:12:53,760 --> 01:12:57,240
Speaker 1: is it that I want to um leave behind? Who

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01:12:57,360 --> 01:12:59,120
Speaker 1: is it that I want to do? And that gives

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01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:01,160
Speaker 1: me some focus? What am I going to do today?

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01:13:01,320 --> 01:13:04,599
Speaker 1: I know why I'm doing what I'm doing, I asked

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01:13:04,720 --> 01:13:06,600
Speaker 1: I where if you ever see a photograph of me,

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01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:09,400
Speaker 1: you'll always see me wearing a Boston Red Sox cat.

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01:13:09,960 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 1: And I'm not a Red Sox fan. I've actually never

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01:13:12,439 --> 01:13:16,479
Speaker 1: gone through games. But my neighbor across the way, Carol,

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01:13:16,640 --> 01:13:20,160
Speaker 1: who you mentioned Ben, was a huge Boston Red Sox

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01:13:20,280 --> 01:13:24,200
Speaker 1: fan and she got cancer and we knew she started

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01:13:24,240 --> 01:13:27,479
Speaker 1: this eternity long dance with Jesus at the end of

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01:13:27,560 --> 01:13:29,559
Speaker 1: the week, and so I made a deal with her.

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01:13:29,640 --> 01:13:32,240
Speaker 1: I said, Carol, I'll wear your Red Sox hat for

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01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:35,000
Speaker 1: the rest of my life and represents the Red Sox

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01:13:35,080 --> 01:13:38,559
Speaker 1: here on earth. But in exchange, every time Jesus worked

1331
01:13:38,560 --> 01:13:40,840
Speaker 1: by you in heaven, you need to mention my name

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01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:48,599
Speaker 1: the deal. And so one of the things that if

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01:13:48,640 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 1: you know why you're doing what you're doing, it'll give

1334
01:13:51,240 --> 01:13:54,479
Speaker 1: you some great perspective. You start seeing what you're looking for.

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01:13:54,960 --> 01:13:57,439
Speaker 1: I've got no less pocket than any of my pants.

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01:13:57,760 --> 01:14:01,200
Speaker 1: Ben try this actually YouTube cut out all the left

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01:14:01,240 --> 01:14:05,879
Speaker 1: pockets in your pants. Because everything needs to believe. Everything

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01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:08,320
Speaker 1: that's your life is the sum of everything you're hanging

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01:14:08,360 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 1: onto and everything you're willing to let go up. So

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01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,120
Speaker 1: if I want to hang onto something, I put in

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01:14:13,240 --> 01:14:15,560
Speaker 1: my right pocket, but I put my car keys on

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01:14:15,640 --> 01:14:18,920
Speaker 1: my left pocket. I'm taking uber because I don't even

1343
01:14:18,960 --> 01:14:22,120
Speaker 1: though they're gone. And that's the beautiful thing. Somebody says

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01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:26,320
Speaker 1: something kind of hurtful to me, somebody, Uh, there's a misunderstanding.

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01:14:26,400 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 1: I just immediately think to myself, left pocket. And so

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01:14:30,120 --> 01:14:33,120
Speaker 1: this whole idea, if you have these practices that have

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01:14:33,320 --> 01:14:36,760
Speaker 1: become like routines for you, those will be the ones

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01:14:36,880 --> 01:14:39,880
Speaker 1: that actually will continue to give context for your life.

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01:14:40,520 --> 01:14:44,439
Speaker 1: Do you really cut your pockets? He doesn't. Literally, no,

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01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:47,960
Speaker 1: no jeans. The jeans I've got on right now, left pocket.

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01:14:49,479 --> 01:14:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm telling you a bad bad it just shows up.

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01:14:54,120 --> 01:14:56,840
Speaker 1: He is he is the best. This is this guy

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01:14:57,120 --> 01:15:00,160
Speaker 1: he will rock your world. Anybody out there listening, make

1354
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:03,320
Speaker 1: sure you pick up Love Does or everybody always UM

1355
01:15:03,640 --> 01:15:05,960
Speaker 1: and and just either listen to it or read it.

1356
01:15:06,479 --> 01:15:09,160
Speaker 1: It has completely transformed my life. And and not this

1357
01:15:09,280 --> 01:15:11,200
Speaker 1: weird way, like a really good way. I'm not asking

1358
01:15:11,200 --> 01:15:12,400
Speaker 1: you to read this so that you'll come out of

1359
01:15:12,439 --> 01:15:15,439
Speaker 1: it like some you know, crazy Christian that you've never

1360
01:15:15,520 --> 01:15:17,960
Speaker 1: thought you'd be. No, it's just like it enhances life

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01:15:18,040 --> 01:15:21,880
Speaker 1: to a level UM that I never knew existed. UM Bob,

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01:15:21,960 --> 01:15:24,160
Speaker 1: I know that you're a busy guy. I really appreciate

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01:15:24,200 --> 01:15:27,000
Speaker 1: you coming on. But before you go, UM. Our good

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01:15:27,080 --> 01:15:29,080
Speaker 1: friend Ashley I Ken Eddie, who is a co host

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01:15:29,160 --> 01:15:32,640
Speaker 1: on this podcast UM, has recently gotten engaged. We've all

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01:15:32,720 --> 01:15:37,120
Speaker 1: witnessed this engagement on tv UM this last week. She's

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01:15:37,120 --> 01:15:40,479
Speaker 1: getting ready to enter into UM a life with one

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01:15:40,520 --> 01:15:42,560
Speaker 1: of my favorite people in the world. Jared, do you

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01:15:42,680 --> 01:15:47,480
Speaker 1: have any advice for Ashley as she begins this new season. Oh? Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: One of the things that I thought I needed to

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01:15:51,479 --> 01:15:56,800
Speaker 1: do is uh be really active, and I uh substituted

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01:15:57,080 --> 01:16:00,840
Speaker 1: or mistook having a purposeful life or a really active life.

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01:16:01,360 --> 01:16:03,680
Speaker 1: And what I did is I was running all over

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01:16:03,720 --> 01:16:05,680
Speaker 1: the world and trying to help out people and all that.

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01:16:06,120 --> 01:16:08,840
Speaker 1: And I pulled into the driveway of our home and

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01:16:08,920 --> 01:16:12,559
Speaker 1: this woman sweeper up who's been has never raised her

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01:16:12,600 --> 01:16:15,519
Speaker 1: voice verst that across word to me in the thirty

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01:16:15,600 --> 01:16:17,800
Speaker 1: five years I've been loving her, or the thirty two

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01:16:17,920 --> 01:16:21,360
Speaker 1: she's been loving me back. She had the libry and

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01:16:21,560 --> 01:16:26,439
Speaker 1: in the window is a help wanted side. She wasn't

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01:16:26,520 --> 01:16:30,040
Speaker 1: saying she needed help. She was saying I needed help.

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01:16:30,479 --> 01:16:32,640
Speaker 1: And so one of the things that I do is

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01:16:32,760 --> 01:16:35,360
Speaker 1: I go somewhere to speak during the day. So drop

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01:16:35,479 --> 01:16:38,679
Speaker 1: me off at five fifteen every single morning and fly somewhere,

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01:16:38,680 --> 01:16:42,080
Speaker 1: will say something, and I fly home for supper. And

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01:16:42,160 --> 01:16:44,320
Speaker 1: the next day he drops me up at five fifteen.

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01:16:44,439 --> 01:16:48,040
Speaker 1: I go somewhere at why home. And we never talk

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01:16:48,280 --> 01:16:51,200
Speaker 1: about geography. She doesn't know if I make Cleveland or

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01:16:51,680 --> 01:16:56,439
Speaker 1: Cleveland or invern wherever, because when people ask her where's Bob,

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01:16:56,600 --> 01:16:59,320
Speaker 1: she says, he's on his way home. And so, my,

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01:17:00,080 --> 01:17:03,360
Speaker 1: oh my, like blessing on you in this beautiful marriage

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01:17:03,400 --> 01:17:06,000
Speaker 1: will be that you would continue to run home to

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01:17:06,120 --> 01:17:08,760
Speaker 1: each other. I don't be efficient in the way that

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01:17:08,880 --> 01:17:12,400
Speaker 1: you love each other. Be present. It's like must be present.

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01:17:12,520 --> 01:17:17,000
Speaker 1: To win. So and I've learning that that idea. If

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01:17:17,120 --> 01:17:19,240
Speaker 1: you guys have a family in the future, that not

1397
01:17:19,400 --> 01:17:23,400
Speaker 1: gets confused that providing your for your family means going

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01:17:23,479 --> 01:17:27,280
Speaker 1: everywhere else, because sometimes you run away to do these

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01:17:27,320 --> 01:17:29,759
Speaker 1: things providing for your family, and you're actually not providing

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01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:32,320
Speaker 1: for your family. And so just keep run at home

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01:17:32,360 --> 01:17:35,000
Speaker 1: to each other. I know you will. I love that advice.

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01:17:35,080 --> 01:17:43,040
Speaker 1: Thank you here, geocash everything. Geocash greet my daughter when

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01:17:43,120 --> 01:17:45,640
Speaker 1: he was getting bored and Maria had some she was

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01:17:45,680 --> 01:17:47,559
Speaker 1: in a lot of pain. So I was writing a note,

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01:17:48,200 --> 01:17:50,000
Speaker 1: but we know flavor my daughter was going to be

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01:17:50,680 --> 01:17:56,840
Speaker 1: Dear lindsay, I forgive you for writing the cars I

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01:17:57,000 --> 01:18:00,400
Speaker 1: love Dad and putting in a pickled jar and aarreing it.

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01:18:00,600 --> 01:18:03,439
Speaker 1: And then eighteen years later my daughter wrecked the car

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01:18:06,560 --> 01:18:09,280
Speaker 1: instead a thing, the predictable thing like to be more

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01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:11,960
Speaker 1: careful and all that. I gave her a shuffle in

1411
01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:14,400
Speaker 1: the lattest dude longitude. I told her where to dick

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01:18:14,920 --> 01:18:17,320
Speaker 1: and then she got the jar up. She's like, Dad,

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01:18:17,400 --> 01:18:22,600
Speaker 1: you're predaves me before I was born. That's adorable. Do that?

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01:18:22,920 --> 01:18:25,920
Speaker 1: Do you cast him? Great? You could write notes to

1415
01:18:26,080 --> 01:18:29,000
Speaker 1: your kids, your future children and they were paying for

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01:18:29,320 --> 01:18:31,439
Speaker 1: your student alone. And if you change your mind, just

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01:18:31,560 --> 01:18:37,040
Speaker 1: don't tell where it is. That's so cute. It's well,

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01:18:37,360 --> 01:18:40,240
Speaker 1: Mr Goff, we appreciate you man, thank you so much

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01:18:40,280 --> 01:18:42,400
Speaker 1: for coming on here. Hey, before you go, Actually, you

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01:18:42,439 --> 01:18:43,800
Speaker 1: want to hear the and everybody and stud you want

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01:18:43,840 --> 01:18:47,080
Speaker 1: to hear the coolest thing I think about Bob on

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01:18:47,160 --> 01:18:49,559
Speaker 1: the back of his very first book, Loved Us, which

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01:18:49,600 --> 01:18:51,720
Speaker 1: was again a New York Times best selling book, and

1424
01:18:51,760 --> 01:18:53,880
Speaker 1: he hears this all the time. He put his real

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01:18:54,040 --> 01:18:57,000
Speaker 1: phone number so people that read the book could contact

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01:18:57,120 --> 01:19:01,360
Speaker 1: him to ask him questions. No way, Oh it's been terrific.

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01:19:01,479 --> 01:19:06,519
Speaker 1: I've got a hundred calls a day. I think you're

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01:19:06,520 --> 01:19:10,800
Speaker 1: a very special man. Their idea in terms of like

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01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:14,559
Speaker 1: people who are turning into love, people don't follow a vision.

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01:19:14,640 --> 01:19:17,559
Speaker 1: They follow availability. I don't mean Facebook follow I mean

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01:19:17,920 --> 01:19:20,280
Speaker 1: just the impact that people have had on me were

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01:19:20,280 --> 01:19:22,720
Speaker 1: the people who are most available to me. And so

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01:19:22,840 --> 01:19:24,640
Speaker 1: if we could be I'm never the smartest guy in

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01:19:24,720 --> 01:19:26,880
Speaker 1: the room, but I could be the most available guy

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01:19:26,880 --> 01:19:29,760
Speaker 1: in the room. And if we find our sweet spot

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01:19:29,840 --> 01:19:32,920
Speaker 1: in that in terms of availability, I would just look

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01:19:32,960 --> 01:19:37,840
Speaker 1: into that and people feel really loved, absolutely awesome, Bob,

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01:19:38,960 --> 01:19:41,080
Speaker 1: thank you again, and anybody out there listening, make sure

1439
01:19:41,080 --> 01:19:44,200
Speaker 1: you pick up love does or everybody always uh, I

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01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:47,400
Speaker 1: mean wherever books are sold, which is is probably Amazon

1441
01:19:47,520 --> 01:19:51,320
Speaker 1: these days. UM. This means so much to me, more

1442
01:19:51,400 --> 01:19:54,960
Speaker 1: than uh, more than you probably understand. You have changed,

1443
01:19:55,200 --> 01:19:58,800
Speaker 1: enhanced um and spoken into my life from a very

1444
01:19:58,880 --> 01:20:01,200
Speaker 1: far distance, and today I got the opportunity to speak

1445
01:20:01,200 --> 01:20:03,320
Speaker 1: to you in person, UM. And I will sleep very

1446
01:20:03,360 --> 01:20:04,840
Speaker 1: well to night with a big smell on my face.

1447
01:20:04,920 --> 01:20:09,479
Speaker 1: So Bob Goff, thanks coming to the podcast, and thanks

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01:20:10,000 --> 01:20:13,080
Speaker 1: you guys. Just keep spread and hope and love like

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01:20:13,160 --> 01:20:16,519
Speaker 1: they going a hole in your pocket to get everywhere

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01:20:16,600 --> 01:20:22,280
Speaker 1: because you got to go cut those left pockets out by.

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Speaker 1: Everybody thinks that I'm like so obsession prone, which is

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Speaker 1: probably the truth. But I just need you guys to

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Speaker 1: slash almost famous for an extra percent off today. I'm

1477
01:21:50,000 --> 01:21:53,440
Speaker 1: so excited. I mean, the guy he just isn't infectious.

1478
01:21:53,560 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 1: And there's so many times uh in my life now

1479
01:21:57,200 --> 01:22:01,519
Speaker 1: where sometimes what what happens, you know, quite always makes

1480
01:22:01,560 --> 01:22:04,200
Speaker 1: sense on why you're doing it. And what Bob has

1481
01:22:04,240 --> 01:22:09,400
Speaker 1: taught me personally is that sometimes love doesn't make sense,

1482
01:22:09,600 --> 01:22:13,840
Speaker 1: both romantically, UM and just personally, and sometimes these things

1483
01:22:13,920 --> 01:22:19,200
Speaker 1: are confusing. But if you choose to love, UM, a crazy, impactful,

1484
01:22:19,400 --> 01:22:25,040
Speaker 1: beautiful story seems to follow. Um. It's it's absolutely incredible

1485
01:22:25,120 --> 01:22:27,000
Speaker 1: what that guy has done for me. So that was

1486
01:22:27,080 --> 01:22:30,000
Speaker 1: a special moment. And I only have the Almost Famous

1487
01:22:30,040 --> 01:22:32,240
Speaker 1: podcast to think and the platform this gives us, so

1488
01:22:32,360 --> 01:22:34,360
Speaker 1: that he actually reached out and he said, Hey, Ben,

1489
01:22:34,400 --> 01:22:36,320
Speaker 1: I hear you're a good big fan. I want to

1490
01:22:36,360 --> 01:22:40,439
Speaker 1: come on your podcast. UM, So yeah, thanks, I heart

1491
01:22:40,479 --> 01:22:42,800
Speaker 1: Thanks Almost Famous Ash, thanks for being a co host.

1492
01:22:43,120 --> 01:22:45,000
Speaker 1: That was cool for me. It was so cool. It

1493
01:22:45,080 --> 01:22:47,200
Speaker 1: was so cool looking at your face and hearing his

1494
01:22:47,280 --> 01:22:50,280
Speaker 1: little anecdotes. What a what an adorable guy who makes

1495
01:22:50,560 --> 01:22:54,519
Speaker 1: makes me want to very things for my kids. You know,

1496
01:22:54,800 --> 01:22:56,200
Speaker 1: one thing I take away and we can move on

1497
01:22:56,360 --> 01:22:58,200
Speaker 1: from Bob and for anybody out there listening, and this

1498
01:22:58,320 --> 01:23:00,479
Speaker 1: is good for for the Bachelor franchise. Is it kind

1499
01:23:00,479 --> 01:23:03,599
Speaker 1: of goes back to what we're talking about. UM, one

1500
01:23:03,680 --> 01:23:05,680
Speaker 1: thing two things that I really take away, and I'm

1501
01:23:05,720 --> 01:23:08,920
Speaker 1: convicted of often is I need to be slower to speak, um,

1502
01:23:08,960 --> 01:23:10,800
Speaker 1: which is funny on a podcast, But I gotta be

1503
01:23:10,880 --> 01:23:12,720
Speaker 1: intelligent with my words because I really got to say

1504
01:23:12,760 --> 01:23:15,360
Speaker 1: what I mean, um, And and part of that is

1505
01:23:15,439 --> 01:23:17,639
Speaker 1: being intentional. And I think when he talks about bearing

1506
01:23:17,720 --> 01:23:19,800
Speaker 1: notes for his kids or the way he loves his wife,

1507
01:23:19,880 --> 01:23:21,360
Speaker 1: for the things that he does, all of it has

1508
01:23:21,439 --> 01:23:24,800
Speaker 1: intention and purpose behind it. And that's one thing I've

1509
01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:26,960
Speaker 1: taken with me is making sure that everything I do,

1510
01:23:27,080 --> 01:23:30,000
Speaker 1: from the biggest to the smallest things have an intention

1511
01:23:30,080 --> 01:23:32,479
Speaker 1: and a purpose. And when they do, I will care

1512
01:23:32,560 --> 01:23:34,400
Speaker 1: about them a little bit more and they will make

1513
01:23:34,479 --> 01:23:37,920
Speaker 1: more sense to me. So um, yeah, I think that's

1514
01:23:37,920 --> 01:23:40,280
Speaker 1: cool and it's good for anybody listening. And the next Bachelor,

1515
01:23:40,360 --> 01:23:42,599
Speaker 1: whoever that is, that will be my advice to him

1516
01:23:42,600 --> 01:23:43,960
Speaker 1: on the show, Um, if I get to go on

1517
01:23:44,040 --> 01:23:45,960
Speaker 1: and speak to him, or before when I give him

1518
01:23:45,960 --> 01:23:48,000
Speaker 1: a call. It will just make sure that everything you

1519
01:23:48,080 --> 01:23:50,599
Speaker 1: do on this show, every single decision you make, from

1520
01:23:50,640 --> 01:23:52,120
Speaker 1: a rose that you hand out, to a breakup that

1521
01:23:52,200 --> 01:23:54,560
Speaker 1: you're part of, to a date that you're in, that

1522
01:23:54,720 --> 01:23:57,120
Speaker 1: it has intention and it has purpose, because if not,

1523
01:23:57,360 --> 01:24:00,519
Speaker 1: this whole thing will be meaningless, and we don't want

1524
01:24:00,640 --> 01:24:03,040
Speaker 1: three months of your life to be meaningless. That's too

1525
01:24:03,160 --> 01:24:07,760
Speaker 1: much time. Well back to that topic, Ben, I think

1526
01:24:07,800 --> 01:24:09,800
Speaker 1: we need to touch on two things before we go

1527
01:24:10,000 --> 01:24:14,200
Speaker 1: about Bachelor in Paradise. Leo made a huge deal about

1528
01:24:14,360 --> 01:24:19,320
Speaker 1: Kevin quote tattling on him by accidentally, you know, telling

1529
01:24:19,439 --> 01:24:23,519
Speaker 1: Kendall without knowing that she didn't know yet that um.

1530
01:24:23,760 --> 01:24:27,160
Speaker 1: He also kissed Chelsea the same day that he went

1531
01:24:27,200 --> 01:24:30,559
Speaker 1: on a date with Kendall. I don't know how Leo

1532
01:24:30,720 --> 01:24:33,760
Speaker 1: thinks he was gonna get away with this like tattling,

1533
01:24:33,920 --> 01:24:36,360
Speaker 1: and he made a huge deal of it. It's like, dude,

1534
01:24:36,479 --> 01:24:40,519
Speaker 1: you're living within I don't even know, like a not

1535
01:24:40,720 --> 01:24:43,280
Speaker 1: even like an eighth of a mile radius with twenty

1536
01:24:43,320 --> 01:24:45,760
Speaker 1: other people. You don't think she's gonna find out. You're

1537
01:24:45,760 --> 01:24:48,920
Speaker 1: gonna call this tattling. Yeah, I mean, I think the

1538
01:24:48,960 --> 01:24:51,120
Speaker 1: whole thing is kind of funny too, is I Mean,

1539
01:24:51,200 --> 01:24:54,439
Speaker 1: there's definitely no perception here of the fact that it's

1540
01:24:54,439 --> 01:24:58,120
Speaker 1: all on TV, Like yeah, Like that's the crazy part

1541
01:24:58,160 --> 01:25:02,120
Speaker 1: to me, is you know this is being documented. At

1542
01:25:02,520 --> 01:25:05,800
Speaker 1: some point Kenda would have found out, yes, or like

1543
01:25:05,920 --> 01:25:08,640
Speaker 1: the camera person tells the producer that you all know

1544
01:25:08,800 --> 01:25:11,320
Speaker 1: that the producers are working with and against you, so

1545
01:25:11,479 --> 01:25:15,920
Speaker 1: the producer can do it and in interview segment and

1546
01:25:16,000 --> 01:25:17,240
Speaker 1: just go, what do you think that he kissed the

1547
01:25:17,280 --> 01:25:21,200
Speaker 1: other person? If no one quote tattled, right, uh, I

1548
01:25:21,240 --> 01:25:22,960
Speaker 1: think they would have probably waited for her to find

1549
01:25:23,000 --> 01:25:26,559
Speaker 1: out organically to the cast. But yeah, I mean, dude,

1550
01:25:26,800 --> 01:25:30,559
Speaker 1: she's going to find out all the girls talk. Well, yeah,

1551
01:25:30,680 --> 01:25:32,360
Speaker 1: I mean, what who is he trying to what is

1552
01:25:32,400 --> 01:25:34,120
Speaker 1: he trying to prove? I mean that's a crazy part

1553
01:25:34,160 --> 01:25:35,840
Speaker 1: of sometimes when I'm watching this, and this is kind

1554
01:25:35,840 --> 01:25:37,000
Speaker 1: of what I was trying to get to with Chris

1555
01:25:37,120 --> 01:25:39,439
Speaker 1: and Dees is I'm sitting at home and I'm like,

1556
01:25:39,720 --> 01:25:43,479
Speaker 1: I just and I handle it so poorly. Um, I

1557
01:25:43,680 --> 01:25:45,160
Speaker 1: wish I had a little more Bob Goth and me

1558
01:25:45,200 --> 01:25:46,920
Speaker 1: when I did this. But I'm like, I just want

1559
01:25:47,000 --> 01:25:50,960
Speaker 1: this guy to be better, like be better because none

1560
01:25:51,000 --> 01:25:52,600
Speaker 1: of this is going to be fulfilling. None of this

1561
01:25:52,800 --> 01:25:56,479
Speaker 1: is gonna is making him a better person. All it's

1562
01:25:56,560 --> 01:25:58,800
Speaker 1: doing is hurting people along the way. So it's just

1563
01:25:58,920 --> 01:26:02,400
Speaker 1: like this destroy dive path that is being caused because

1564
01:26:02,520 --> 01:26:05,759
Speaker 1: honesty isn't the first response. And I had a tweet

1565
01:26:05,800 --> 01:26:06,960
Speaker 1: the other day that It kind of came to my

1566
01:26:07,000 --> 01:26:10,200
Speaker 1: mind as I was watching this exact scenario was um,

1567
01:26:10,520 --> 01:26:12,479
Speaker 1: it said the best part about dating on TV, and

1568
01:26:12,600 --> 01:26:14,479
Speaker 1: I just thought it was that it keeps you honest,

1569
01:26:14,560 --> 01:26:17,439
Speaker 1: It keeps you authentic, authentic, and it keeps you genuine

1570
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Speaker 1: in all situations because you know it's gonna be showed back.

1571
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Speaker 1: And that's great. That's profound, ben quite profound. Yeah, I'm

1572
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Speaker 1: as ben. One more thing about Paradise. We need to

1612
01:28:35,000 --> 01:28:39,360
Speaker 1: talk about the Eric, Cassandra and Angela love triangle. The

1613
01:28:39,560 --> 01:28:42,800
Speaker 1: guy said, I'm all in with you, not interested in

1614
01:28:42,920 --> 01:28:45,360
Speaker 1: dating other guys, woke up the next morning said yes

1615
01:28:45,400 --> 01:28:49,280
Speaker 1: to a date with Cassandra, and then Angela goes, you

1616
01:28:49,400 --> 01:28:51,000
Speaker 1: told me last night that you were all and and

1617
01:28:51,040 --> 01:28:53,320
Speaker 1: didn't want to do anyone else. And then he goes, yeah,

1618
01:28:53,360 --> 01:28:55,719
Speaker 1: well I woke up this morning with a changed mind.

1619
01:28:56,000 --> 01:28:58,800
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god, no, you saw

1620
01:28:58,880 --> 01:29:02,200
Speaker 1: Cassandra and you change your mind. Yeah. I wish he

1621
01:29:02,280 --> 01:29:06,200
Speaker 1: kind of just would have said that, like, yeah, I

1622
01:29:06,439 --> 01:29:10,040
Speaker 1: told you that, but like does kiss Sander grow came in?

1623
01:29:11,000 --> 01:29:14,280
Speaker 1: I mean, because Angela was kind of the the unspoken

1624
01:29:14,400 --> 01:29:17,880
Speaker 1: Sweetheart of Paradise. In my opinions, she's so underrated, and

1625
01:29:17,960 --> 01:29:19,519
Speaker 1: we thought that's just gonna be such a big deal.

1626
01:29:19,760 --> 01:29:21,479
Speaker 1: On night one, I think like all the guys were

1627
01:29:21,520 --> 01:29:24,200
Speaker 1: into her, and then she's just quietly entered a relationship

1628
01:29:24,280 --> 01:29:26,160
Speaker 1: with Eric and we really haven't heard from her much

1629
01:29:26,200 --> 01:29:30,000
Speaker 1: since it's It's it's a beautiful dilemma too, because they

1630
01:29:30,080 --> 01:29:32,200
Speaker 1: really got us fired up about their relationship. It was

1631
01:29:32,280 --> 01:29:35,040
Speaker 1: so cute, their date was so meaningful, and they were

1632
01:29:35,120 --> 01:29:38,200
Speaker 1: just all bubbly and kissy and talkie and doing everything

1633
01:29:38,240 --> 01:29:40,799
Speaker 1: that que couples do. And then all of a sudden

1634
01:29:41,600 --> 01:29:47,360
Speaker 1: things change so quickly. And I mean, I wasn't a

1635
01:29:47,400 --> 01:29:49,720
Speaker 1: fan of this situation. I am a fan of Eric.

1636
01:29:50,000 --> 01:29:51,640
Speaker 1: I've been around Eric a couple of times. I'm a

1637
01:29:51,640 --> 01:29:54,040
Speaker 1: fan of Eric. I I would love to ask Eric

1638
01:29:54,120 --> 01:29:56,439
Speaker 1: at some point, and listeners out there, I wonder if

1639
01:29:56,680 --> 01:30:01,800
Speaker 1: Eric um it's proud of the situation now. I wonder

1640
01:30:01,840 --> 01:30:05,320
Speaker 1: how he feels about this, because this was from from

1641
01:30:05,360 --> 01:30:09,559
Speaker 1: my standpoint, this was a really not a manipulative situation.

1642
01:30:09,640 --> 01:30:11,320
Speaker 1: It wasn't an angry situation. It was just one that

1643
01:30:11,560 --> 01:30:15,559
Speaker 1: hurt watching. Also, why did he say yes right away?

1644
01:30:15,800 --> 01:30:17,439
Speaker 1: Why didn't he at least say I'm going to go

1645
01:30:17,560 --> 01:30:19,320
Speaker 1: talk to Angela first and I'll get back to you

1646
01:30:19,400 --> 01:30:22,439
Speaker 1: with an answer. He was so eager to say, yes, Yeah,

1647
01:30:23,320 --> 01:30:26,200
Speaker 1: where does this play out? I don't know. We will

1648
01:30:26,280 --> 01:30:28,479
Speaker 1: find out soon. I mean we're like, what do you

1649
01:30:28,560 --> 01:30:31,360
Speaker 1: think it does? How do I think it plays out?

1650
01:30:31,400 --> 01:30:34,000
Speaker 1: I think he's going to end up breaking up with Angela.

1651
01:30:35,439 --> 01:30:39,160
Speaker 1: I was so excited for her and him. I don't know,

1652
01:30:39,400 --> 01:30:41,599
Speaker 1: I get I really got into this one. You're right,

1653
01:30:41,640 --> 01:30:44,360
Speaker 1: maybe this is the best paradise ever, because like I

1654
01:30:44,479 --> 01:30:48,120
Speaker 1: was really drawn into Joe. I was really in favor

1655
01:30:48,160 --> 01:30:50,639
Speaker 1: of Joe, which I think, jeez, can that guy lose?

1656
01:30:50,680 --> 01:30:52,360
Speaker 1: I mean, the whole country was in favor of Joe.

1657
01:30:52,400 --> 01:30:57,479
Speaker 1: It's like James Franco smile, like just s he's got

1658
01:30:57,560 --> 01:31:01,280
Speaker 1: it ear to ear and then um, the Eric Angela

1659
01:31:01,400 --> 01:31:04,840
Speaker 1: relationship was one I was really rooting for. I thought

1660
01:31:04,920 --> 01:31:06,720
Speaker 1: it was the one. I didn't feel like they had

1661
01:31:06,720 --> 01:31:08,680
Speaker 1: a ton of chemistry that to be honest, on their

1662
01:31:09,360 --> 01:31:12,920
Speaker 1: on their date the night before, Yeah, it didn't seem

1663
01:31:13,439 --> 01:31:15,519
Speaker 1: didn't seem like they were like playing the part of

1664
01:31:15,640 --> 01:31:19,360
Speaker 1: the couple on the like they really wanted to to

1665
01:31:19,560 --> 01:31:23,120
Speaker 1: like feel that chemistry, but they really weren't. Maybe Eric

1666
01:31:23,200 --> 01:31:25,000
Speaker 1: felt that. I mean, I mean, let's give him the

1667
01:31:25,000 --> 01:31:27,720
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt here and say maybe that's exactly why. Yeah,

1668
01:31:27,760 --> 01:31:29,960
Speaker 1: but then why tell her that you're all in the

1669
01:31:30,080 --> 01:31:33,280
Speaker 1: night before? Oh? Because she was looking good and he

1670
01:31:33,400 --> 01:31:37,840
Speaker 1: got mixed up in his emotions and she who had

1671
01:31:37,880 --> 01:31:40,560
Speaker 1: the roses on that episode? On this coming episode, the

1672
01:31:40,560 --> 01:31:44,280
Speaker 1: guys had the roses. He gave it to her or

1673
01:31:44,400 --> 01:31:46,280
Speaker 1: she gave it to him. She gave it to him.

1674
01:31:46,520 --> 01:31:52,120
Speaker 1: And now and now with Cassandra, now he has the rose. Yeah.

1675
01:31:53,680 --> 01:31:56,080
Speaker 1: And so finally the t and cold and breakup we

1676
01:31:56,160 --> 01:32:00,800
Speaker 1: mentioned it before. Um, actually your heartbroken over this? Yeah?

1677
01:32:01,160 --> 01:32:03,320
Speaker 1: I just think, you know, maybe you'll see them again

1678
01:32:03,520 --> 01:32:08,320
Speaker 1: on Bachelor in Paradise sex and who knows what will

1679
01:32:08,360 --> 01:32:10,800
Speaker 1: happen there. But doomed to fail from the start, Well

1680
01:32:10,840 --> 01:32:13,879
Speaker 1: that's what people say the bachelor if he's the bachelor.

1681
01:32:14,640 --> 01:32:17,560
Speaker 1: Oh no, she will not She will not embarrass or

1682
01:32:17,560 --> 01:32:19,840
Speaker 1: stuff like that. She will not do that. She would

1683
01:32:19,880 --> 01:32:23,280
Speaker 1: not do that. Why if she loves him so much? Yeah, Well,

1684
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Speaker 1: she knows that she's been rejected by him and that

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Speaker 1: she chose to not be with her, So she's not

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Speaker 1: going to go on. I don't know if now there's

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Speaker 1: twenty four other girls, four other girls to compete with

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Speaker 1: again and the whole thing. What if he asks and

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Speaker 1: he's like, I'd like to you to be there so

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Speaker 1: I can further explore my confusion to enter in the

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Speaker 1: Oh really no, after going through whether or not you're

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Speaker 1: the one, I have a really nice proposal for you

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Speaker 1: to how about you come on to the show so

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01:32:57,439 --> 01:33:01,400
Speaker 1: that we can continue this relationships amongst everybody else because

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Speaker 1: I'm just not sure yet, Ashley. Before we end here,

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Speaker 1: what a cool podcast. We got to talk to Chris

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Speaker 1: and dez um. We we got to talk to one

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Speaker 1: of my favorite authors, one of just my favorite people,

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Speaker 1: Bob Golf. I mean, that's that that hits deep. My

1700
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Speaker 1: hands were actually sweaty the whole time. Um, but we

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Speaker 1: we kind of skimmed over it. And it was a

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01:33:19,800 --> 01:33:21,680
Speaker 1: little bit on purpose because I need to take a

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01:33:21,760 --> 01:33:23,840
Speaker 1: second to say it was so cool that you allowed

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Speaker 1: the world to watch the I don't know, if you

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Speaker 1: really had a choice, I wouldn't have wanted to be

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01:33:29,600 --> 01:33:32,120
Speaker 1: proposed to any other way I got. I got the

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01:33:32,160 --> 01:33:36,880
Speaker 1: opportunity to see you get proposed to um, And I

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Speaker 1: want I want you to have a little bit of

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Speaker 1: a time here to tell the audience that the listeners

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Speaker 1: who have been with us really since the beginning, what

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Speaker 1: that feels like, what that felt like, and just remind

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Speaker 1: everybody that you still are very much in love. All

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Speaker 1: there is this point in paradise to where I just

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Speaker 1: thought that Jared and I we were I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: there's no hope, but I'm gonna ask this guy random

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Speaker 1: then he goes, um, probably someplace that's special to both

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Speaker 1: of us? And you know, never what I have thought

1720
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Speaker 1: and thought that that that I would ask that question

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Speaker 1: And I mean, you guys. He I tell him every

1725
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Speaker 1: day and I'm flabberg acid by it every day. But

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Speaker 1: he is my romantic comedy character come to life. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how that guy is so wonderful to me.

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Speaker 1: He's the best that I love him so much. When

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Speaker 1: see that today. Sixth child. Six. He's also like thirty seven,

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Speaker 1: They're going to make an orchestra of hands and children.

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Speaker 1: Ye choir, choir Ashley. When you are thirty seven years old,

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Speaker 1: how many kids will you have? Probably two? That's fair. Um, Hey, everybody,

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Speaker 1: thanks for letting us uh watch your engagement Amy. I

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Speaker 1: Um and Ben, I'm glad you got to smile as

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