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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject what will she do next? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I have never written into a show before, so be

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Speaker 1: easy on me. I'm married to a woman that I

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Speaker 1: did not date long enough. In the beginning. She told

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Speaker 1: me she is very religious type of a woman because

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Speaker 1: she knows I'm a preacher's kid. She would let me

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Speaker 1: touch her below the waist or do anything until our

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Speaker 1: wedding night. I was so into her because she said

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Speaker 1: all of the right things. She cooked the foods I like,

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Speaker 1: and she kept a clean house. I proposed to her

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Speaker 1: last Christmas, and we got married as a courthouse a

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Speaker 1: week later because of COVID. She moved in and everything changed.

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Speaker 1: I came home a few days a few days after

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Speaker 1: our wedding, and she had changed my bedroom furniture out

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Speaker 1: with a bedroom set that her grandmother left for her.

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Speaker 1: She said she was waiting to get married so she

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Speaker 1: could get it out of storage and sleep in the

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Speaker 1: same bed her grandparents conceived her mother in. That was

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Speaker 1: the first inkling I had that she might have some

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Speaker 1: loose fruits. Then she put Christmas lights in the trees

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Speaker 1: in my front yard and every night she lights them up,

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Speaker 1: no matter what time of year it is. She leaves

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Speaker 1: bedcrumbs breadcrumbs for birds on the back patio, and now

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Speaker 1: I have bird droppings all over my nice patio furniture.

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Speaker 1: There are also three stray cats that live in my

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Speaker 1: is that the sex that I waited for is not

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Speaker 1: all of that. She drinks till she's sloppy drunk, and

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Speaker 1: that's the only way she will sleep with me. Yes,

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Speaker 1: the Holy Act was affront because this woman makes Martini

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Speaker 1: every night, and I know there's weed in the house,

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Speaker 1: but I've never seen her smoke it. I am wondering

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Speaker 1: what my wife will do next. I want to make

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Speaker 1: this work, but I don't know if I should. Is

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Speaker 1: it time to walk away from her? Wow? Well this

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Speaker 1: marriage has started off wrong already. Yeah, your wife shouldn't

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Speaker 1: just change things without discussing it with you and all

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Speaker 1: of that. I mean, she's no longer single. She has

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Speaker 1: someone else to consider in her life, and I'm consuming.

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming that this furniture from her grandmother that she

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Speaker 1: got out of storage and put in your room is

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Speaker 1: probably old and ugly. They're old. Oh you know that

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Speaker 1: furniture old and but the question is are you mad

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Speaker 1: that she changed it? Or are you just mad that

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Speaker 1: the furniture is just ugly? Because that's not the worst

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Speaker 1: thing in the world. It's very inconsiderate on her part,

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Speaker 1: I'll say, But do you even do you love her?

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Speaker 1: I mean, what's going on here? You know, I don't

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Speaker 1: see you mentioned that at all in your letter. I mean,

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Speaker 1: because you guys can learn each other sexually, if that's

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Speaker 1: not popping, you can learn that, you know. But if

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Speaker 1: there is no love and you don't have a foundation,

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Speaker 1: this is not gonna work. I mean, no matter what

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Speaker 1: she does, you got to decide if these things that

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Speaker 1: she's doing our deal breakers. I mean, can you live

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Speaker 1: with all this craziness, the grandma's furniture, the cats in

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Speaker 1: You know, you got to decide if those are deal

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Speaker 1: breakers or not. You know, and if she really is crazy,

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Speaker 1: that's the only thing I can say to you. You know,

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Speaker 1: you got to talk to her, just like you wrote

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Speaker 1: this letter to us, and just see where she is.

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Speaker 1: It really doesn't sound like, uh, I don't know, you

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Speaker 1: like each other very much right now. She's drinking every

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Speaker 1: night Martini's and everything. She's she does have some issues.

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Speaker 1: She can't get with you unless she's drunk. These are

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Speaker 1: problems that you, guys should have hashed out before you

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Speaker 1: got married. The future doesn't look bright for you guys

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Speaker 1: out of the door already. Steven. Yeah, well, well, I

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Speaker 1: appreciate everything you said, Shelly, nice approach to this letter, everything,

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Speaker 1: but this is one of the moments why I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: do what I promised to be at the beginning of

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Speaker 1: the year. I'm gonna be pointed, pointing and judgmental. This

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Speaker 1: know why are we trying to play this any other way,

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Speaker 1: she do next? Well, what hell she's doing right now?

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Speaker 1: Because what she's doing right now is everything? And I

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Speaker 1: mean everything. You know this woman right here, man off

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Speaker 1: the shame with it, So now listen to me. First

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Speaker 1: of all, he said, I've never written into a show before,

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Speaker 1: so be easy on me. Well, first of all, let's

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Speaker 1: just say, ain't nobody ever wrote into a show before?

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Speaker 1: It ain't nobody ever done that? So this ain't no

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Speaker 1: public service announcement you back, no, no, no, no no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: that I ain't never wrote into a show before? Who had? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the show trying to help nobody but us. Secondly, so

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Speaker 1: be easy on me. That's not gonna happen. Man. A

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Speaker 1: woman that I didn't date long enough in the beginning,

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Speaker 1: she was religious, she know your preacher's kid. She wouldn't

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Speaker 1: all the right things she could, food, she kept clean house.

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Speaker 1: You proposed to her last Christmas, we got married on

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Speaker 1: the court house. A week later, calls of COVID, she

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Speaker 1: moved in and everything changed. Now the night of the

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Speaker 1: letter is what will she do next? Damn that when

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Speaker 1: we come back, I'm defiting to go over the threefold

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Speaker 1: yo asked? Still down? That's all this letter about? Without

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Speaker 1: hang back, watch this hang up. See we'll have part

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Speaker 1: after subject what will she do next? We'll get into

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letters,

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Speaker 1: subject what will she do next? Well, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what she's gonna do next, but we're here to talk

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Speaker 1: about what she did now, and so now let's just

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Speaker 1: gonna get to it. She wouldn't let you touch her

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Speaker 1: below the waist before you're marriage. You finally married this

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Speaker 1: Christmas calls the COVID A week lady y'all got married,

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Speaker 1: about what has changed. I came home a few days

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Speaker 1: after I went, and then she had changed my bedroom

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Speaker 1: What what? What? What did you say? A right? You

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Speaker 1: bed from my old? Is this damn bed all these

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Speaker 1: old ass bid with bringing them on carvings in it?

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Speaker 1: And or this old, this slaver ass style mattress. I'll

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Speaker 1: take something. See if you get in the bed that

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Speaker 1: damn old that your grandparents conceived your mama in. That

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Speaker 1: was before mattress technology had even struck. So now you're

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Speaker 1: You know, ain't no you roll this way and the

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Speaker 1: calls react to your body. You've seen all them cursed,

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Speaker 1: you know. Dak Prescott on the commercial Postupelo sedic, you know,

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Speaker 1: thermogenic therapeutic. All it wasn't none of that. All they

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Speaker 1: the hell. I would've been at work all day and

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Speaker 1: I come home and you got this old bed and

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Speaker 1: Harriet tubbing stuff passing at me, all these head posts

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Speaker 1: with people nails dug in them from slavering people where

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Speaker 1: they'd bit into the headboard. Nobody wants sleep in this

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Speaker 1: ragged ass bed. Your tight ass grandmama had your mama

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Speaker 1: and them in. Who wants to do this hill, this

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Speaker 1: damned twelve years of slave ass bed. And I got

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Speaker 1: to come home relive all these dead people. People been

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Speaker 1: Then she put Christmas lights in the trees in your

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Speaker 1: she plugged the lights up. What did you do it?

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Speaker 1: You just got Christmas lights up in the trees. Then

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Speaker 1: she got these bread crumbs she put out in the

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Speaker 1: they're live in the backyard and eat the birds. Yea,

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Speaker 1: cats kill birds. This crazy health forgot this electric bill

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Speaker 1: running up with all these There are Christmas lights in there,

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Speaker 1: and it probably ain't no Christmas like. They're the big

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Speaker 1: giant multicolor bull blue, yellow. Yeah, that's the ones. I

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Speaker 1: damn bulls right here. Everybody, get them live video ass

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Speaker 1: white lights. Now make your you know, look more classic.

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Speaker 1: Now she got them old ass Christmas lights look like

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Speaker 1: damn old had gowns on all this cotton in here.

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Speaker 1: Everybody ragged, hands bad. You can't even fluff the mattress up.

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Speaker 1: Everything mad. You're that that damn mattress so flattish, like

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Speaker 1: got big bugs in here. We got damn bowld weavers

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Speaker 1: Ena ass a lie in this ragged ass matress. You

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Speaker 1: mad to cleave us. Slepping head conceived your mama clad us.

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Speaker 1: And you sent up here telling about what should you do? Man,

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Speaker 1: this guy, this whole lot of got divorced, wrote all

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Speaker 1: over this was a mistake. It was a COVID mistake.

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Speaker 1: You made a mistake in COVID. Man, Get your ass

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Speaker 1: out don't stay with this. Help she got to get

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Speaker 1: drunk to make love to you. It ain't even good.

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