Speaker 1: You need the reason sometimes to do something or behave
Speaker 1: in a certain way.
Speaker 2: All I can think about is that hohop was staying song, So.
Speaker 1: You're not talking about and the reason.
Speaker 2: Sorry, so stupid.
Speaker 3: More Better, More Better, a little better.
Speaker 1: Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending
Speaker 1: to have it all together and embrace the journey of
Speaker 1: becoming a little more better every.
Speaker 2: Day we're at least trying to.
Speaker 1: That's Stephanie Beatrice and that's most fe merrow.
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Speaker 2: Yeah we want.
Speaker 1: To talk to you, yeah, if we want to know
Speaker 1: what you want to hear us talk shit about.
Speaker 2: And you know, our end goal for this is to
Speaker 2: like meet you guys, actually meet up with you guys
Speaker 2: in person, and it would be so nice if we
Speaker 2: were actually having a back and forth conversation. So, yeah,
Speaker 2: you have to write us so that we can talk
Speaker 2: to you. What's been going on with you lately? What
Speaker 2: have you done lately that's a little more better?
Speaker 1: Oh man, I sort of feel like I've been doing
Speaker 1: a lot of things more better because I'm in that
Speaker 1: mode of I'm about to leave my family for a job,
Speaker 1: and so I'm in like superwoman super mom mode where
Speaker 1: I'm doing all the things and my days are scheduled
Speaker 1: to the tea and I'm just like very disciplined, and
Speaker 1: I'm you know, kind of going the extra mile in
Speaker 1: some way, you know, like last week or there's a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago, I cooked some like extra nice
Speaker 1: dinners and like, I don't know, it's like my mom
Speaker 1: guilt like manifesting.
Speaker 2: Outcoming what joy?
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think it's okay if I do burn
Speaker 1: out a little bit, because my first week in some
Speaker 1: or two weeks there will be for like fittings and
Speaker 1: just like reading the script and rehearsing, and so it's
Speaker 1: okay if I get there a little tired, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean.
Speaker 2: You're saying, you're like banking family hours and banking stuff
Speaker 2: for your family. So because you're going to be alone
Speaker 2: when you get to the city that you're shooting in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I yeah, And you know how it is
Speaker 1: like just a few days by yourself and you're like,
Speaker 1: I'm good.
Speaker 2: I bounce back like literally two days by yourself and
Speaker 2: you're like, what do I do with myself? Will you charge?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: It's weird. How are you?
Speaker 1: What have you been doing lately? That's more better.
Speaker 2: I've been, you know, racing cars that yeah day in
Speaker 2: the morning. Yeah you have.
Speaker 1: We had night shoots the last couple of nights.
Speaker 2: And you know, I've been really practicing this thing where
Speaker 2: I turn any like resentment or like crankiness into a
Speaker 2: chance to uh use it for gratitude, which sounds really ridiculous,
Speaker 2: but it is actually talking and it puts me in
Speaker 2: a way better mood. Like, for example, the other night,
Speaker 2: one of the cars broke down and we had a
Speaker 2: night shoot, which, if you guys don't know, a night
Speaker 2: shoot is essentially most of the time on TV, you
Speaker 2: start really early in the morning so that you can
Speaker 2: go as long as you can in twelve fourteen, maybe
Speaker 2: sixteen hours a night shoot. Your call time is usually
Speaker 2: something like four point thirty in the afternoon. You start
Speaker 2: shooting when the sun goes down. You're usually shooting outside,
Speaker 2: and you shoot until the sun comes up. Sometimes one
Speaker 2: of our car broke down at about four thirty in
Speaker 2: the morning. I was supposed to be driving in that car,
Speaker 2: so I had to wait until the radiator got changed out,
Speaker 2: which you know, they did it as fast as they could,
Speaker 2: but in the meantime, somebody else got to shoot their
Speaker 2: scenes in another car, and I was like, oh, I
Speaker 2: want to go home. You know, I was like wow,
Speaker 2: But then I was like, Okay, I'm really Look at me.
Speaker 2: I'm like on set and I'm in a trailer. There
Speaker 2: was a time when I would have dreamed for a trailer.
Speaker 2: Look at me, I can you know, afford to buy
Speaker 2: like a nice fleece blanket for my trailer. Look at me.
Speaker 2: I'm like in a beautiful costume on this show for
Speaker 2: one of the first times. Normally I'm in like disgusting,
Speaker 2: dirty clothes with blood all over them, and like I
Speaker 2: got to be in a beautiful dress and like my
Speaker 2: hair's done, and like I'm about to go do a
Speaker 2: scene where there's like crazy lighting rigs like the kind
Speaker 2: of lighting rigs that they only have on like superhero movies,
Speaker 2: and we're like driving cars at like seventy miles an
Speaker 2: hour and like doing crazy spins and like I'm gonna
Speaker 2: go to set and do that. I'm gonna go and that.
Speaker 2: You know. So by the time I actually got to
Speaker 2: set and was ready to shoot, I realized, like that
Speaker 2: really helps me because my brain is just in the
Speaker 2: place of like now I can give a good performance
Speaker 2: as opposed to like, e until cranky, I'm cold and
Speaker 2: it's you know, x many degrees and like home and
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: So like, honestly though, that's so impressive stuff because it'll
Speaker 1: having to wait at four thirty in the morning, keep
Speaker 1: your energy up, like you can't just like take a
Speaker 1: nap sometimes because I can really mess you up. So
Speaker 1: I knew I could, like, yeah.
Speaker 2: You coffee at like yeah thirty in the.
Speaker 1: Morning, energy up for whenever they're like we're ready for.
Speaker 2: You, We're ready for you, and uh we have like
Speaker 2: fireworks going off behind you in this shot, so like
Speaker 2: you know, we need you to do it well the
Speaker 2: first or second take, like you don't only have Yeah,
Speaker 2: it takes forty minutes to set.
Speaker 1: The pressure so of like, don't buck this up. We
Speaker 1: all waited, we fixed the thing, and also there's going
Speaker 1: to be all these other things going on, so don't
Speaker 1: fuck it up. Yeah, I just waited for an hour
Speaker 1: and four three in the morning.
Speaker 2: But it definitely is like, uh, it's a good pack.
Speaker 1: I will be remember that next time something goes wrong.
Speaker 2: It works, dude. I think I got it off.
Speaker 1: A ticket and really try to root myself in some
Speaker 1: gratitude because are hard.
Speaker 2: They're hard, They're really hard. I think I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: I got it off on TikTok. And for those of
Speaker 2: you on the internet, I see you where like seventy
Speaker 2: I thought you deleted your TikTok. I did, and then
Speaker 2: I put it back on my phone.
Speaker 1: I was about, and I'm going to take it all
Speaker 1: to get done.
Speaker 2: On your back phone. I have to take it off again.
Speaker 2: I spent three hours on it the other day. I
Speaker 2: should have been in bed. I was like, And then
Speaker 2: suddenly I looked at the clock. It was twelve thirty
Speaker 2: at night. I was like, what am I doing? So
Speaker 2: the real answer to your question, what have I done
Speaker 2: more better lately? TikTok, I've done it a lot more better.
Speaker 2: I'm really good at it right now, so good at it.
Speaker 2: I don't want to be good at it, but I
Speaker 2: am anyway more better.
Speaker 1: Steph What are we talking about today?
Speaker 2: This week's topic actually comes from a listener. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: we got this really quick, short, quick email, and like
Speaker 2: most acidey, if you have a suggestion for a future episode,
Speaker 2: just email us at Morebetter pod at gmail dot com
Speaker 2: and you can also include a voice note. No one's
Speaker 2: done that yet. I feel like I want to hear
Speaker 2: your voices.
Speaker 1: I'm still shocked that no one has said voice.
Speaker 2: I would really love that. Anyway, let's read the email. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm listen, Stephanie. I've been listening to every episode of
Speaker 2: your podcast and have something that I could use some
Speaker 2: help with and wonder if you could too. How do
Speaker 2: you get and stay motivated? Bailey? So on today's episode,
Speaker 2: we're talking about motivation. Explain what that means?
Speaker 1: Yes, I have a nifty little definition here from our
Speaker 1: lovely producer. Isis two definitions of motivation, the general desire
Speaker 1: or willingness of someone to do something, and number two
Speaker 1: is the reason or reasons one has for acting or
Speaker 1: behaving in a particular way. I feel like though, that's
Speaker 1: like a chicken and egg situation there, Like you need
Speaker 1: the reason sometimes to do something or behave in a
Speaker 1: certain way.
Speaker 2: All I can think about is that hoopa stank song.
Speaker 1: So you're not talking about and the reason.
Speaker 2: Sorry, so stupid. You guys are probably too young to
Speaker 2: know that reference. But look at look at usk really good? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean yeah, I think you're right. Chicken and egg
Speaker 2: kind of situation. Yeah. We So we're very both, very
Speaker 2: lucky right now, we're both I'm working right now, you're
Speaker 2: about to start a job. I feel like we are
Speaker 2: in a place to answer this question. Well sometimes we're not.
Speaker 1: But yeah that's now yet just eight months from now,
Speaker 1: maybe a different episode, yes, correct, But this is a
Speaker 1: topic we could return to.
Speaker 2: Can you talk about, like what your experience is lately
Speaker 2: with motivation, like presently with motivation, because yeah, you sort
Speaker 2: of talked about it a little bit.
Speaker 1: Already, but yeah, so presently, I motivation has been pretty
Speaker 1: easy because I have this job coming up, so, like,
Speaker 1: for instance, working out is one I think that people struggle.
Speaker 1: I struggle with motivation reasons. I'm in that pre job mindset.
Speaker 1: I really like to sort of train for every job,
Speaker 1: no matter what it is, if it's gonna like this show.
Speaker 1: There's no action in this show, I will be in
Speaker 1: high heels every day, which I feel like is like action.
Speaker 2: And of itself. Yes, if you've ever walked in high heels,
Speaker 2: you know, twenty minutes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, doing a lot of relevance ankle circles. H No,
Speaker 1: But I it's like, I'm also playing a very confident character.
Speaker 1: And I know for me personally, if I feel fit
Speaker 1: and strong, it's not even about size for me, It's
Speaker 1: just about feeling like fit and strong, I'll be able
Speaker 1: to like exude, like find that confidence.
Speaker 2: More easily, and I don't want to. There's nothing more.
Speaker 1: Humbling and also like just sort of fucking depressing than
Speaker 1: to like feel so tired after the first week of shooting,
Speaker 1: like exhausted, like you're about to get sick, which has
Speaker 1: happened to me. And I haven't done a show schedule
Speaker 1: in you know, in a bit, so I also just
Speaker 1: wanted my stamina to get up, you know. And then
Speaker 1: like I was saying with my family, like I'm super
Speaker 1: motivated to like be super wife, be super mom, like
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit too much, but just because I
Speaker 1: know I'm about to like really miss them, and I
Speaker 1: it's helping me stay really present and just like do
Speaker 1: extra sweet things for everyone and just you know that
Speaker 1: makes me feel Yeah, I don't know, like a little
Speaker 1: bit better about going away.
Speaker 2: What you were talking about, though, is like you have
Speaker 2: a goal. Your goal is like me, goals help a
Speaker 2: lot with motivation. Yeah, And it's like a time goal,
Speaker 2: like in this many days, in this much time, I
Speaker 2: will be shooting for this many weeks. Yes, I'm not
Speaker 2: going to see my family for three weeks. I want
Speaker 2: to like bank time like you have like almost like
Speaker 2: a calendar in your mind of like this is happening
Speaker 2: and I need to be ready for it when it starts.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, like I think, Yeah, I think. I literally
Speaker 1: was like for the three weeks before I leave, I
Speaker 1: need to be like very present for three weeks and
Speaker 1: just try to like help my family out a lot
Speaker 1: and like you know, do fun things with the kids.
Speaker 1: And even when I'm struggling to work out when I
Speaker 1: don't have a job, which is obviously a lot harder
Speaker 1: to motivate. Sometimes I'm like, just do you know my
Speaker 1: husband has this great saying, but like every habit can
Speaker 1: be formed in three weeks. So we usually go by
Speaker 1: like three weeks for like something I'm trying to motivate
Speaker 1: for if I don't have a good reason, because I
Speaker 1: feel like the strength of the reason is always a
Speaker 1: thing that helps the motivation for me. So sometimes it's
Speaker 1: just putting a false goal on it. Not false, but
Speaker 1: you know, just saying for three weeks, I'm going to
Speaker 1: commit to yeah, yeah, twenty minutes a day, or you know,
Speaker 1: eating healthy Monday through Friday or whatever. You know, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: just set these things and I just tell myself, force
Speaker 1: yourself to do it for three weeks, and then it
Speaker 1: almost always gets easier after the three weeks and you
Speaker 1: kind of keep it. You don't like it's it's it's
Speaker 1: happened where I've been, Like three weeks is up, I'm good,
Speaker 1: I'm good to go. I'm gonna order order some pizza
Speaker 1: and like throw a way across the room and be
Speaker 1: like fuck you. But most of the time I find
Speaker 1: that after the three weeks it's like a little bit more.
Speaker 1: You're like, you have an easier time with it. What
Speaker 1: about you, what's your how's your relationship with motivation? I'm
Speaker 1: a lot like you, like.
Speaker 2: An incoming you know, an incoming giant.
Speaker 4: Iceberg of a job, or like you know, like it's coming. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that is helpful, it is. It is a lot of
Speaker 4: my motivation. I think that connects to my anxiety, like oh.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not gonna be ready, I gotta get ready,
Speaker 2: which I don't know that is always healthy for me,
Speaker 2: but it works, I think the thing I'm trying to
Speaker 2: think of, Like you know, sometimes sometimes with things I
Speaker 2: like And I heard this somewhere and I don't know
Speaker 2: where it was. It was probably TikTok. You guys stopped
Speaker 2: making fun of me, but it was something like, you
Speaker 2: make the hard choice today so that tomorrow is easier
Speaker 2: in some way. So like for me, for example, I
Speaker 2: don't do super great with alcohol, and like I enjoy
Speaker 2: alcohol sometimes, like I love a fancy cocktail, I love
Speaker 2: a glass of shamps, you know, but in general, I'm
Speaker 2: better when I'm not really drinking alcohol very much. But
Speaker 2: that's hard for me because it is such a you know,
Speaker 2: social lubricant. It is something that everybody does all the time,
Speaker 2: especially with the holidays coming up. It's like it's really
Speaker 2: easy to like have one glass of wine turned into three,
Speaker 2: so but for me, when I think about the hard
Speaker 2: choice is like the hard choice right now is say
Speaker 2: no to the glass of alcohol, say no to the martini,
Speaker 2: say no to the drink. That is hard in the moment.
Speaker 2: It's not hard forever. It's just really hard in the moment.
Speaker 2: But what's easier is the next day. For me, Yeah,
Speaker 2: because the next day I don't feel crappy, and I'm
Speaker 2: reminded of it every time that I imbibe, like almost
Speaker 2: every time. Sometimes, Like you know, I can have like
Speaker 2: two drinks and feel okay the next day, but more
Speaker 2: than likely, if I have two drinks or three, I
Speaker 2: feel it the next day, Like I feel kind of
Speaker 2: like slower, and like it's harder to do everything. You know,
Speaker 2: it's harder to get the motivation to work out, it's
Speaker 2: harder to shower, it's harder to like, Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: I've come to the same like similar realization too with alcohol,
Speaker 1: and it's I used to have a glass of wine
Speaker 1: every night. Hm, that was like my my end of
Speaker 1: the day, little ski, lower reward, and it just didn't
Speaker 1: work for me anymore, I realized, and I felt better
Speaker 1: when I stopped. Things changed too, right, Like it's yeah,
Speaker 1: I still let myself have it most weekends, and I
Speaker 1: do find some weeks that I'm counting the days until Friday.
Speaker 2: But sure, that's the way it is. Sometimes I think,
Speaker 2: you know, the holidays are coming, I'm definitely gonna mark
Speaker 2: time for myself to like have some cocktails, you know.
Speaker 2: But I think essentially what I'm saying is, like the
Speaker 2: motivation for me to not drink in social settings is
Speaker 2: often like make the hard choice now so that tomorrow
Speaker 2: things are easier.
Speaker 1: Yeah, more.
Speaker 3: More.
Speaker 2: It's the same thing for me with like nutritious food,
Speaker 2: Like I make choices that support the long days. I
Speaker 2: make choices that support my gut health. I make choices
Speaker 2: that support like what I have to do the following day,
Speaker 2: like that day, like so that the next day, And
Speaker 2: those choices are sometimes hard, you know, like especially on set,
Speaker 2: because they're bringing around like delicious snacks and stuff and
Speaker 2: like I mean, honey, I like my diet cokes and
Speaker 2: my diet have these mostly than anybody else, you know.
Speaker 2: But it's just like finding when when when those things are,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: But it's always there. That table lives there all day,
Speaker 1: every day, every day, all day. I want to past
Speaker 1: it multiple times a day. And yeah, when I was
Speaker 1: a younger actor, I was just like, this is the
Speaker 1: greatest thing ever.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's the greatest thing ever.
Speaker 1: Especially have a dandee basket. They have a candy drawer, Like.
Speaker 2: Oh my girl, you think I wasn't like taking things
Speaker 2: from the craft services table and putting them in my
Speaker 2: toe bag. I'm taking when I was poor, kidding me
Speaker 2: to tutelee.
Speaker 1: But then you quickly learn that you feel like shit
Speaker 1: and you're, yeah, probably just ate too much shit from
Speaker 1: the craft service table yesterday.
Speaker 2: It really is like a connection. Like my oftentimes my
Speaker 2: motivation to stay like eating stuff that I find nutritious
Speaker 2: and supportive of me is like raws, you know, my kids. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because when I think about like my food choices, for example,
Speaker 2: I think about and it also not for nothing helps
Speaker 2: me stay on track with like I have a history
Speaker 2: of disordered eating, so like it helps me stay on
Speaker 2: track with like I don't want to restrict the things
Speaker 2: that I find delicious, Like I do indulge in the
Speaker 2: things that I really like because I don't want to
Speaker 2: put them off limits for me and then binge them
Speaker 2: at you know, the end of the week, because that
Speaker 2: doesn't support my longevity and my life. You know, I'm
Speaker 2: me being one hundred and five with Roz still in
Speaker 2: my life, you know what I mean? So like that
Speaker 2: is that becomes my motivation for stuff. It's like, I
Speaker 2: want to live a long time. So like, am I
Speaker 2: going to eat this rice Krispy treat? Absolutely? Am I
Speaker 2: going to slather almond butter on it so that I
Speaker 2: get some fats and protein while I eat this sugar bomb? Absolutely?
Speaker 2: Because I know my body will process it better.
Speaker 1: Great snack, It's a great, great, great sat What about
Speaker 1: I have a question for you. What about like motivating
Speaker 1: for something you don't want to do, like work or
Speaker 1: you have to go, let's say, to a function with
Speaker 1: people you don't like, but you have to for work,
Speaker 1: or I'm just trying to think of like other things
Speaker 1: that people. You know, I feel like we're kind of
Speaker 1: lucky that like we love our job, and yeah, it's
Speaker 1: pretty easy to motivate to go to work things or work,
Speaker 1: you know, to work, But like what if you don't.
Speaker 2: I mean to quote a great song by the title
Speaker 2: of November Rain, nothing less forever. We both know hearts
Speaker 2: can change nothing less forever.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm like so much quoted that.
Speaker 2: But it's like if you have to go to a
Speaker 2: crappy function, if you have to do a crappy audition,
Speaker 2: if you you know, like not a crappy audition, but
Speaker 2: like let's say you get an audition and it's like,
Speaker 2: oh god, I don't have to memorize this, like putting
Speaker 2: it on tape, like put.
Speaker 1: Me on it right, like or like dr going wrong
Speaker 1: for this. I know we're gonna get it right.
Speaker 2: Like I have to drive to Santa Monica, which is
Speaker 2: like two hours away from my house in traffic. Okay,
Speaker 2: So how do I get the motivation to do it?
Speaker 2: It's like one nothing less for reever. Nothing literally nothing nothing,
Speaker 2: you guys, it just doesn't even in your life. It
Speaker 2: just doesn't last forever. So like it will there will
Speaker 2: be a when this is done. That that one really
Speaker 2: helps me. And number two is like and this one's
Speaker 2: more like about grief, but someone wants I think it
Speaker 2: was like a book that I was reading about grief.
Speaker 2: It might have been my therapist shout out, Danny, she's
Speaker 2: the best. But it like you you think of this
Speaker 2: thing as an ocean that's going to drown you, like
Speaker 2: a wall of water coming at you, and it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'll drown in it. I can't. I can't get in it.
Speaker 2: I can't. But she's like, try to think of it
Speaker 2: or the book or whatever. Try to think of it
Speaker 2: as a wave, which is like at one point, yes,
Speaker 2: you will be under the deepest part of the wave,
Speaker 2: but then the wave will pull back and you won't
Speaker 2: be in the wave anymore. You know. Yeah, that's one way, right,
Speaker 2: So like that helps me sometimes, Like that really helps
Speaker 2: me with especially with auditions, because it's like, Okay, at
Speaker 2: one point today I will not know this at all,
Speaker 2: and then there will be another point where I know
Speaker 2: really well. At one point today I will be absolutely
Speaker 2: frustrated because I cannot get this stupid lighting in my
Speaker 2: office to like make me look like a human person.
Speaker 2: And but another point, the lighting will be okay, and
Speaker 2: I'll get a pretty good take, a pretty good take
Speaker 2: of something that like feels like that's a good representation
Speaker 2: of me as an actor, you know, yea yeah. And
Speaker 2: if I don't even like hit those two things, it'll
Speaker 2: be done. You know, it'll be done, and I'll turn
Speaker 2: it in or I won't, it'll be done.
Speaker 1: I love that so much because it's like, yeah, you're
Speaker 1: you're finding the motivation in making the thing that feels
Speaker 1: so big finding ways to make it smaller, you know,
Speaker 1: and that I think that is so I love that
Speaker 1: that visual of the wave. I also something that helps
Speaker 1: me sometimes with motivating for things that I really don't
Speaker 1: want to do is like I kind of do a
Speaker 1: rewards yes, like Okay, if I just do this one thing,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like sometimes it's food, but sometimes it's like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna schedule a massage for myself or going to yeah,
Speaker 1: like carve out something that I really love to do.
Speaker 1: Or I'm also gonna have dinner with this friend that
Speaker 1: i haven't like seen in a while, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make sure it happened, like whatever, you know, to just
Speaker 1: like have something to kind of look forward to, Like
Speaker 1: I bribe myself.
Speaker 2: Might have to be immediate, like I have, Yeah, that
Speaker 2: might have to be immediate rewards, because like if I
Speaker 2: give myself something too far in the future, it's like
Speaker 2: I'm never gonna do that, fuck it, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, No, an immediate one is good. An immediate
Speaker 1: one is good.
Speaker 2: Like I'll set a timer for myself while I'm running
Speaker 2: lines by myself, and I'll set it for like twenty minutes,
Speaker 2: and then once the twenty minutes goes off, I get
Speaker 2: like ten minutes or five minutes of like I get
Speaker 2: to watch something on Netflix for five minutes or ten minutes,
Speaker 2: or I like online shop and fill my cart with
Speaker 2: stuff I'm never gonna buy.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean hits. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But I set like and I started out in college actually,
Speaker 2: like because I was so bored with with writing notes
Speaker 2: and stuff like notes for classes. So I would set
Speaker 2: my timer twenty minutes and then like or like I'll
Speaker 2: read this script, and then when I'm done with the script,
Speaker 2: I'll like give myself a little reward of like watching
Speaker 2: an episode of Disenchantment on Netflix or something.
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's good. I like that.
Speaker 2: I think the thing is the thing that's really hard
Speaker 2: is it's sometimes it's really easy to start, but the
Speaker 2: follow through is the part that's really hard. And I
Speaker 2: find that especially in the beginning. Like Okay, so for example,
Speaker 2: in our lives, when I am auditioning and I'm not booking,
Speaker 2: it gets really hard to stay motivated because it feels
Speaker 2: like I guess I'm just never gonna work again. I'm
Speaker 2: never gonna do anything again. This is it. I did
Speaker 2: all the best things that I've ever done, which.
Speaker 1: Is a lie.
Speaker 5: It's a lie, right, it's a lie, right because you
Speaker 5: look at especially like any actors that I really like
Speaker 5: and and really respect, it's like their best.
Speaker 2: Stuff always comes with wisdom and aige and like life
Speaker 2: being lived. Because if you think about it, like being
Speaker 2: an actor, so much of it is reflecting the human
Speaker 2: experience back to other people. And it's like the more
Speaker 2: of that human experience that you have, the better you
Speaker 2: are at communicating the human experience. Right, Yes, that's why
Speaker 2: young people are so good, Like teenagers are so good
Speaker 2: at being like in love on screen because it's all fresh, right,
Speaker 2: Whereas like older actors are often better at communicating things
Speaker 2: like heartbreak or pain or like loss because they've actually
Speaker 2: gone through it. Yeah, So like ultimately that's a lie, right,
Speaker 2: Like my best work is behind me. It's like no,
Speaker 2: but it can start to be the thing that happens
Speaker 2: in your head when like you're like, oh no, I'm
Speaker 2: never gonna work again, right, So, like the motivation has
Speaker 2: to come from somewhere deeper. Then I'm just going to
Speaker 2: get this job. I'm gonna I want to get this job.
Speaker 2: You know, It's like it has to come from somewhere deeper.
Speaker 2: And I think that's what we're sort of getting at
Speaker 2: in this conversation, is like what is the deeper reason
Speaker 2: for the thing behind the thing? Right? Like you talked
Speaker 2: about it's not just being a certain size the reason
Speaker 2: you want to work out, right, It's like, you know,
Speaker 2: for our jobs, it's it really is things like and
Speaker 2: it sounds so little, but like think about like someone
Speaker 2: who does hair, like a hairdresser, yeah, or a barber.
Speaker 2: They're on their feet constantly, constantly, constantly, constantly, right, Like,
Speaker 2: it's the same kind of thing. Like you want to
Speaker 2: be able to do your job and do it in
Speaker 2: a way that supports you and doesn't make you feel
Speaker 2: like you hate your job or you're like you're super
Speaker 2: tired all the time. Or like even my dad when
Speaker 2: he was driving trucks, it was like I tried so
Speaker 2: hard to get him to stretch, and he never did.
Speaker 2: But like, you know, I wish he had taken the
Speaker 2: time to like do a little bit of stretching because
Speaker 2: like maybe toward the end of his life, you would
Speaker 2: have been able to move a little better, you know,
Speaker 2: like moving better. My mom is my mom like loves
Speaker 2: her hokahs. Brad butaughter a pair of hokahs. She like
Speaker 2: loves her hokahs. She's always walking around the neighborhood. And
Speaker 2: I think part of her motivation is like stay active
Speaker 2: so that your body, like in your seventies, is still
Speaker 2: giving you what it can.
Speaker 1: You know, yes, yeah, I just listened to a podcast
Speaker 1: actually with Jane Fonda. Ooh, and remember like in the
Speaker 1: eighties and nineties, she was like real, she was like
Speaker 1: the aerobics queen. Oh yeah, and she still works out
Speaker 1: and she works out with weight. She's like, I still
Speaker 1: do everything that I used to do. I just maybe
Speaker 1: don't do it as long and I maybe don't do
Speaker 1: it with the weights are not as heavy.
Speaker 2: She goes.
Speaker 1: But for me, it was always about and she's in
Speaker 1: her eighties. Yeah, she is still so active and like
Speaker 1: it really is just about yeah, like, uh, being able
Speaker 1: to move. And I find that to be for me
Speaker 1: when I have no motivation for the movement to think
Speaker 1: about that, you know, it's like I want to be
Speaker 1: winded when I have two boys. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I
Speaker 1: want to be winded when I'm like trying to run
Speaker 1: around with them.
Speaker 2: Or let's time travel for a second. Let's say let's
Speaker 2: say we're twenty five again, because I have a feeling
Speaker 2: Bailey is younger than us, So let's say we're twenty five. Okay,
Speaker 2: what is your motivation like or how do you stay
Speaker 2: and get motivated?
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I think it's a motivation. Was harder when
Speaker 1: I was younger, because you have, right, like you're like
Speaker 1: I'm you sort of feel invincible and you don't really
Speaker 1: have I think a connection with like your mortality.
Speaker 2: No, not the same I don't think that the same way.
Speaker 1: There's no urgency right to like time yet, right, And
Speaker 1: I do think there were times so I'm god, I
Speaker 1: would go I would go months and months without like
Speaker 1: stepping foot in a gym or like lifting away in
Speaker 1: my twenties because I was like, eh, my later, and like.
Speaker 2: I would say, like in terms of that though, like
Speaker 2: I think if you are in an ambitious person or
Speaker 2: like if you have if you have desires and wants
Speaker 2: like and everybody has different ones, right, but like, yeah,
Speaker 2: you want something in your future. So let's say Bailey
Speaker 2: wants like I don't know savings. Let's say like, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's she wants to travel or she wants Let's that
Speaker 2: one's more exciting. So let's say Bailey wants to travel, right,
Speaker 2: Like what's her motivation for saving money for traveling? Then
Speaker 2: it's like surrounding yourself or this is something that I
Speaker 2: would have done in my twenties, which I kind of did,
Speaker 2: like surrounding yourself with like images of the future that
Speaker 2: you want. So like I used to do a lot
Speaker 2: of mood boards or like picture boards or like pinterest
Speaker 2: boards of like these are the places I want to go,
Speaker 2: and I would look at them a lot, Like I
Speaker 2: would hang my what do you call it your vision board?
Speaker 2: I would hang my vision board like inside a closet
Speaker 2: where I like always would go, and so then I
Speaker 2: would see the images of what I wanted, and that
Speaker 2: to me would remind me like every day is a
Speaker 2: way do I wanna? You know, Bailey, do you want
Speaker 2: to save money for that Paris trip? Is it as
Speaker 2: important as you really think it is? Like? Maybe it is?
Speaker 2: So maybe that means like you're not gonna go out
Speaker 2: to dinner with your friends, maybe you're gonna invite them
Speaker 2: over for movies instead. So you guys are gonna say
Speaker 2: or like you're not gonna buy that new bag because
Speaker 2: you know that if you save that money in a
Speaker 2: high yield savings account, listen to me, adult that in
Speaker 2: two years you'll be able to take it out and
Speaker 2: like use it for luxury hotels s day in Paris
Speaker 2: or like maybe don't want to stay the luxury hotel,
Speaker 2: maybe you want to stay it in Airbnb and like
Speaker 2: see more of France, you know, like it like becomes
Speaker 2: like I think the visuals really helped me when I
Speaker 2: was in my twenties, like like that's what I want.
Speaker 2: I want that, you know.
Speaker 1: Yes, I never made vision boards, but I did make lists,
Speaker 1: like goal lists, like yes, you know, and sometimes I
Speaker 1: would even break it down. I remember, like here's a
Speaker 1: couple attainable goals for the next six months. Yeah, these
Speaker 1: are for the year, and these are for five years
Speaker 1: from now, you know. And so that it always gave
Speaker 1: me like something immediate to work on and then something
Speaker 1: that I could once in a while check in and
Speaker 1: be like am I making little moves or making little
Speaker 1: decisions that support this like goal I have for like
Speaker 1: the end of the year or a year from now.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Bailey, you caught us at a really
Speaker 2: great time in our lives about this truly conversation, because,
Speaker 2: like Molso said, to start this in eight check again
Speaker 2: in eight months.
Speaker 1: Record an episode in eight months. Oh my god, you
Speaker 1: will see how different than Toad will be, Like how
Speaker 1: does anyone ever get out of bed? You know what?
Speaker 2: I am massaging my third eye because like my brain
Speaker 2: is like, hey girl, it's okay. You're actually doing great.
Speaker 2: You're doing great, and in eight months you would be
Speaker 2: doing just as good. Yes, that's right, that's true, it's true,
Speaker 2: but also more better. Mel did you did you learn
Speaker 2: anything that made you feel more better today? I did?
Speaker 1: Gosh, I felt like you had such good advice on
Speaker 1: this topic that I'm gonna remember.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, so many gems. What's when? It was like
Speaker 2: nothing less forever, nothing less forever.
Speaker 1: Yes, cold November rain and the wave and the ocean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make start making vision boards again.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I kind of want to make a.
Speaker 1: Vision board too, Like it's really happen vision board party
Speaker 1: people do that.
Speaker 2: That's a great idea. That's a great idea. Oh, if
Speaker 2: you guys make vision boards, we would love to see them.
Speaker 2: Oh you put them on Instagram when you tag us
Speaker 2: and we can, we would love love to see them
Speaker 2: if it's not too personal. Obviously, sometimes you want to
Speaker 2: keep your vision boards personal to yourselves. That's why mom
Speaker 2: is inside my closet, so I get it. But yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: if you feel.
Speaker 1: Like anybody given your vision board like the Evil Eye.
Speaker 2: No, you really don't. I feel more better just talking
Speaker 2: about it. But I do feel like like I am
Speaker 2: in a good place to give that kind of advice.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I hope that it hit Bailey. I
Speaker 2: hope it hits someone else out there too that maybe
Speaker 2: needed to hear us in that good place.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just know the advice is coming from two very
Speaker 1: motivated people right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, guys, thanks for joining us.
Speaker 1: We'll see you next time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see you next time. Bye bye, More Better.
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