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Speaker 3: More Better, More Better, a little better.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending

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Speaker 1: to have it all together and embrace the journey of

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Speaker 1: becoming a little more better every.

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Speaker 2: Day we're at least trying to.

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Speaker 1: That's Stephanie Beatrice and that's most fe merrow.

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Speaker 1: To talk to you, yeah, if we want to know

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Speaker 1: what you want to hear us talk shit about.

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Speaker 2: And you know, our end goal for this is to

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Speaker 2: you have to write us so that we can talk

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Speaker 2: to you. What's been going on with you lately? What

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Speaker 1: Oh man, I sort of feel like I've been doing

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think it's okay if I do burn

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Speaker 1: What have you been doing lately? That's more better.

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Speaker 1: Steph What are we talking about today?

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Speaker 2: This week's topic actually comes from a listener. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: we got this really quick, short, quick email, and like

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Speaker 2: I'm listen, Stephanie. I've been listening to every episode of

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Speaker 2: you get and stay motivated? Bailey? So on today's episode,

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Speaker 2: we're talking about motivation. Explain what that means?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I have a nifty little definition here from our

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Speaker 2: All I can think about is that hoopa stank song.

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Speaker 1: I really like to sort of train for every job,

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Speaker 2: It's the same thing for me with like nutritious food,

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Speaker 1: I love that so much because it's like, yeah, you're

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Speaker 2: like ten minutes or five minutes of like I get

436
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Speaker 2: to watch something on Netflix for five minutes or ten minutes,

437
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 2: or I like online shop and fill my cart with

438
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Speaker 2: stuff I'm never gonna buy.

439
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean hits. Yeah.

440
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Speaker 2: But I set like and I started out in college actually,

441
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 2: like because I was so bored with with writing notes

442
00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 2: and stuff like notes for classes. So I would set

443
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 2: my timer twenty minutes and then like or like I'll

444
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 2: read this script, and then when I'm done with the script,

445
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 2: I'll like give myself a little reward of like watching

446
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Speaker 2: an episode of Disenchantment on Netflix or something.

447
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Speaker 1: You know, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's good. I like that.

448
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Speaker 2: I think the thing is the thing that's really hard

449
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Speaker 2: is it's sometimes it's really easy to start, but the

450
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 2: follow through is the part that's really hard. And I

451
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 2: find that especially in the beginning. Like Okay, so for example,

452
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 2: in our lives, when I am auditioning and I'm not booking,

453
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 2: it gets really hard to stay motivated because it feels

454
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: like I guess I'm just never gonna work again. I'm

455
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 2: never gonna do anything again. This is it. I did

456
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,920
Speaker 2: all the best things that I've ever done, which.

457
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 1: Is a lie.

458
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:14,919
Speaker 5: It's a lie, right, it's a lie, right because you

459
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 5: look at especially like any actors that I really like

460
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 5: and and really respect, it's like their best.

461
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 2: Stuff always comes with wisdom and aige and like life

462
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 2: being lived. Because if you think about it, like being

463
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 2: an actor, so much of it is reflecting the human

464
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 2: experience back to other people. And it's like the more

465
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,959
Speaker 2: of that human experience that you have, the better you

466
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 2: are at communicating the human experience. Right, Yes, that's why

467
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 2: young people are so good, Like teenagers are so good

468
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 2: at being like in love on screen because it's all fresh, right,

469
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 2: Whereas like older actors are often better at communicating things

470
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: like heartbreak or pain or like loss because they've actually

471
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 2: gone through it. Yeah, So like ultimately that's a lie, right,

472
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 2: Like my best work is behind me. It's like no,

473
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 2: but it can start to be the thing that happens

474
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:07,400
Speaker 2: in your head when like you're like, oh no, I'm

475
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 2: never gonna work again, right, So, like the motivation has

476
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 2: to come from somewhere deeper. Then I'm just going to

477
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 2: get this job. I'm gonna I want to get this job.

478
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 2: You know, It's like it has to come from somewhere deeper.

479
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 2: And I think that's what we're sort of getting at

480
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: in this conversation, is like what is the deeper reason

481
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 2: for the thing behind the thing? Right? Like you talked

482
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Speaker 2: about it's not just being a certain size the reason

483
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 2: you want to work out, right, It's like, you know,

484
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:38,439
Speaker 2: for our jobs, it's it really is things like and

485
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 2: it sounds so little, but like think about like someone

486
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,640
Speaker 2: who does hair, like a hairdresser, yeah, or a barber.

487
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: They're on their feet constantly, constantly, constantly, constantly, right, Like,

488
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 2: it's the same kind of thing. Like you want to

489
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 2: be able to do your job and do it in

490
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 2: a way that supports you and doesn't make you feel

491
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Speaker 2: like you hate your job or you're like you're super

492
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 2: tired all the time. Or like even my dad when

493
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 2: he was driving trucks, it was like I tried so

494
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 2: hard to get him to stretch, and he never did.

495
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: But like, you know, I wish he had taken the

496
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Speaker 2: time to like do a little bit of stretching because

497
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,480
Speaker 2: like maybe toward the end of his life, you would

498
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 2: have been able to move a little better, you know,

499
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Speaker 2: like moving better. My mom is my mom like loves

500
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Speaker 2: her hokahs. Brad butaughter a pair of hokahs. She like

501
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 2: loves her hokahs. She's always walking around the neighborhood. And

502
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Speaker 2: I think part of her motivation is like stay active

503
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Speaker 2: so that your body, like in your seventies, is still

504
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Speaker 2: giving you what it can.

505
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Speaker 1: You know, yes, yeah, I just listened to a podcast

506
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Speaker 1: actually with Jane Fonda. Ooh, and remember like in the

507
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Speaker 1: eighties and nineties, she was like real, she was like

508
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Speaker 1: the aerobics queen. Oh yeah, and she still works out

509
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 1: and she works out with weight. She's like, I still

510
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: do everything that I used to do. I just maybe

511
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 1: don't do it as long and I maybe don't do

512
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: it with the weights are not as heavy.

513
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Speaker 2: She goes.

514
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,679
Speaker 1: But for me, it was always about and she's in

515
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,239
Speaker 1: her eighties. Yeah, she is still so active and like

516
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: it really is just about yeah, like, uh, being able

517
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,199
Speaker 1: to move. And I find that to be for me

518
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:23,440
Speaker 1: when I have no motivation for the movement to think

519
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: about that, you know, it's like I want to be

520
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: winded when I have two boys. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I

521
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 1: want to be winded when I'm like trying to run

522
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Speaker 1: around with them.

523
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Speaker 2: Or let's time travel for a second. Let's say let's

524
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Speaker 2: say we're twenty five again, because I have a feeling

525
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 2: Bailey is younger than us, So let's say we're twenty five. Okay,

526
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 2: what is your motivation like or how do you stay

527
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 2: and get motivated?

528
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I think it's a motivation. Was harder when

529
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: I was younger, because you have, right, like you're like

530
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm you sort of feel invincible and you don't really

531
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 1: have I think a connection with like your mortality.

532
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,399
Speaker 2: No, not the same I don't think that the same way.

533
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:05,719
Speaker 1: There's no urgency right to like time yet, right, And

534
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 1: I do think there were times so I'm god, I

535
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: would go I would go months and months without like

536
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,679
Speaker 1: stepping foot in a gym or like lifting away in

537
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 1: my twenties because I was like, eh, my later, and like.

538
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 2: I would say, like in terms of that though, like

539
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:32,919
Speaker 2: I think if you are in an ambitious person or

540
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 2: like if you have if you have desires and wants

541
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 2: like and everybody has different ones, right, but like, yeah,

542
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 2: you want something in your future. So let's say Bailey

543
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 2: wants like I don't know savings. Let's say like, yeah,

544
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 2: that's she wants to travel or she wants Let's that

545
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 2: one's more exciting. So let's say Bailey wants to travel, right,

546
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: Like what's her motivation for saving money for traveling? Then

547
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: it's like surrounding yourself or this is something that I

548
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 2: would have done in my twenties, which I kind of did,

549
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 2: like surrounding yourself with like images of the future that

550
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 2: you want. So like I used to do a lot

551
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 2: of mood boards or like picture boards or like pinterest

552
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 2: boards of like these are the places I want to go,

553
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 2: and I would look at them a lot, Like I

554
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 2: would hang my what do you call it your vision board?

555
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 2: I would hang my vision board like inside a closet

556
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 2: where I like always would go, and so then I

557
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 2: would see the images of what I wanted, and that

558
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 2: to me would remind me like every day is a

559
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 2: way do I wanna? You know, Bailey, do you want

560
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 2: to save money for that Paris trip? Is it as

561
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 2: important as you really think it is? Like? Maybe it is?

562
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 2: So maybe that means like you're not gonna go out

563
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 2: to dinner with your friends, maybe you're gonna invite them

564
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 2: over for movies instead. So you guys are gonna say

565
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: or like you're not gonna buy that new bag because

566
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: you know that if you save that money in a

567
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 2: high yield savings account, listen to me, adult that in

568
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 2: two years you'll be able to take it out and

569
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 2: like use it for luxury hotels s day in Paris

570
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 2: or like maybe don't want to stay the luxury hotel,

571
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 2: maybe you want to stay it in Airbnb and like

572
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 2: see more of France, you know, like it like becomes

573
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 2: like I think the visuals really helped me when I

574
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 2: was in my twenties, like like that's what I want.

575
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 2: I want that, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I never made vision boards, but I did make lists,

577
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: like goal lists, like yes, you know, and sometimes I

578
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 1: would even break it down. I remember, like here's a

579
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 1: couple attainable goals for the next six months. Yeah, these

580
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: are for the year, and these are for five years

581
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: from now, you know. And so that it always gave

582
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 1: me like something immediate to work on and then something

583
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: that I could once in a while check in and

584
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: be like am I making little moves or making little

585
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: decisions that support this like goal I have for like

586
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Speaker 1: the end of the year or a year from now.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Bailey, you caught us at a really

588
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 2: great time in our lives about this truly conversation, because,

589
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: like Molso said, to start this in eight check again

590
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Speaker 2: in eight months.

591
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: Record an episode in eight months. Oh my god, you

592
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 1: will see how different than Toad will be, Like how

593
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 1: does anyone ever get out of bed? You know what?

594
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: I am massaging my third eye because like my brain

595
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 2: is like, hey girl, it's okay. You're actually doing great.

596
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 2: You're doing great, and in eight months you would be

597
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 2: doing just as good. Yes, that's right, that's true, it's true,

598
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: but also more better. Mel did you did you learn

599
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 2: anything that made you feel more better today? I did?

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Speaker 1: Gosh, I felt like you had such good advice on

601
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 1: this topic that I'm gonna remember.

602
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 2: Oh wow, so many gems. What's when? It was like

603
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: nothing less forever, nothing less forever.

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Speaker 1: Yes, cold November rain and the wave and the ocean. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna make start making vision boards again.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I kind of want to make a.

607
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: Vision board too, Like it's really happen vision board party

608
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: people do that.

609
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:05,719
Speaker 2: That's a great idea. That's a great idea. Oh, if

610
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 2: you guys make vision boards, we would love to see them.

611
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 2: Oh you put them on Instagram when you tag us

612
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:12,239
Speaker 2: and we can, we would love love to see them

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00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 2: if it's not too personal. Obviously, sometimes you want to

614
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: keep your vision boards personal to yourselves. That's why mom

615
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 2: is inside my closet, so I get it. But yeah, yeah,

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00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 2: if you feel.

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Speaker 1: Like anybody given your vision board like the Evil Eye.

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00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 2: No, you really don't. I feel more better just talking

619
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Speaker 2: about it. But I do feel like like I am

620
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 2: in a good place to give that kind of advice.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I hope that it hit Bailey. I

622
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 2: hope it hits someone else out there too that maybe

623
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,719
Speaker 2: needed to hear us in that good place.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just know the advice is coming from two very

625
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 1: motivated people right now.

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Speaker 2: Okay, guys, thanks for joining us.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you next time.

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