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Speaker 1: many young men that don't have male figures or father

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00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 1: figures in their life. And if we're going to put

426
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: toxicity in the mix where we already have that in

427
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 1: our culture, right, like music, it's in everything. Um, this

428
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: is what this is all they have. But then a

429
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 1: friend of ours was like, no, watch the full videos,

430
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: like see the full message. And I think both of

431
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 1: you are right. It is based on um, those of

432
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 1: us that are tone sensitive, sometimes your message is not

433
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: going to get across to me depending on the way

434
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 1: that you say it. And it's okay, I know that

435
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:51,440
Speaker 1: about myself that made you feel like he was toxic. Um,

436
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 1: let's see a basic summarization because I'm not going to

437
00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 1: quote this man. I cannot quote him. Um, two things,

438
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: one for for women. First, I'm just talking for me

439
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 1: that you felt like, oh my god, he says, I'm

440
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:12,679
Speaker 1: horrible about me, that you should not date unless you

441
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: have a certain amount of money. I don't remember exactly. Again,

442
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: I felt like, especially men in their early twenties, you

443
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: should be outdating and see what that looks like and

444
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 1: feels like for you, so that you can figure it

445
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 1: out for yourself, like make your own path. Yes, you

446
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: should be okay to where you can take a woman out,

447
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 1: but don't wait until you have your life all the

448
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,360
Speaker 1: way together, because if you wait until your thirty five

449
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: forty to date a woman for real, for the first time,

450
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: it may not go so well. And that's my opinion.

451
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: So you felt for men like that's so because you

452
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: Women don't have the problems with what he said about men.

453
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: They only have the problem and they say about women.

454
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: And if if I was talking to my son, I

455
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 1: would tell my son to wait later in life before

456
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 1: he getting a serious relationship. I don't think he was

457
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 1: saying don't date well before you try of like wife

458
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: someone up. You should take care of certain things in

459
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: your life, so you'll be able to be that man

460
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: that you want. My man tell him about how strong

461
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 1: his sons is already, right, so he's teaching them there's

462
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 1: certain things, are certain values that they're gonna have. As

463
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: a kid, my father told me as a man, the

464
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: bare minimal, I should be a provider or what I said.

465
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: I said the world was bare minimum and say that

466
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: was it? He said, but that ba minimal. You got

467
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: a lot of brothers that even covering that part, they

468
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: ain't that bare minimal. They're not being the provider in

469
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: their homes. So why would you have a problem with

470
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: him telling brothers go out there or four jobs if

471
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: you have to, because they we want the high value

472
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 1: woman too, So how are you gonna get the high

473
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: value woman? Because that's why he was talking about to do?

474
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 1: That was five one three hundred pounds making four hundred dollars. Like,

475
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: why do you have a problem with the real have

476
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: someone telling you the truth? Well, if you I didn't

477
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: say that, right, like I gave you a very specific

478
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: example of what I had an issue with. I don't

479
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: have an issue with him saying if you want to

480
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: be that twelve percent man, go work those four jobs

481
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: or however many jobs he said, work at McDonald's. You

482
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: know again, I can't give you verbatim what this man said,

483
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: and no disrespect to anything that he had to say.

484
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 1: It was his opinion. We all have the right high opinions, um,

485
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 1: but I don't. The only thing I strongly disagree with

486
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 1: is telling people not to go out and find themselves

487
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: regardless of where they are, because there is someone, no

488
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 1: matter what, that's gonna met you. Yeah, because he didn't

489
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: say that, he didn't. Everybody's not gonna be work at McDonald's.

490
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: Not to go get to McDonald's, girl, but he's. But

491
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 1: his staying was get your ship together. And I'm gonna

492
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 1: tell you something that resonated with me because I grew

493
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 1: up poor. I grew up disadvantage and a lot of

494
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: the reason why that was so much trauma and trauma

495
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 1: in my life was because of insufficient living. Uh. And

496
00:30:56,280 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: so I recognized that early on. So I promised myself

497
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 1: that I would not procreate and until I got some

498
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: real money. No, I'm just enough money to take care

499
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: of the babies, but enough for me to enjoy our life. Also,

500
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: I understood that at an early age. Because if you

501
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: bring children into this world and you ain't got no

502
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: fucking money, you're gonna bring them into a world where

503
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 1: they're at a social disadvantage. They are gonna go out there.

504
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: They're gonna see other kids having ship, and they're gonna

505
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: want that ship, and they're gonna compromise their convictions. They're

506
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 1: gonna compromise whatever it is you taught to them. It's

507
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: gonna break down. It's gonna it's gonna break down all

508
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: those walls. They're gonna cross all those boundaries, and they're

509
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: gonna become something that you don't want to see. So

510
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: it is incompetent of all of us. I do believe

511
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 1: that we get our ship together financially, especially a man

512
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: at the bad minimum, you get your ship together financially

513
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 1: before you start, you know, pro creating. And I'm gonna

514
00:31:53,920 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: tell you something else. I don't even feel like having X.

515
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: And I know I might be in this, I might

516
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: be in the in the minority here. I don't know.

517
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I don't feel like no, I

518
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: don't this is me, this this is but this is

519
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:20,239
Speaker 1: me when I was even broke. I don't I'm not

520
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 1: even the move for sex. If my ship ain't right,

521
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 1: my money right, I can't even get excited. And that

522
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: was that you in your early twies. In my early twinnies,

523
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: because I was always about I understood I was on

524
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: a mission. I knew I had to get the papers,

525
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: I had to get to the PA. I'm not saying

526
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 1: I didn't have sex. I'm not saying I didn't have sex.

527
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I did not have sex. But I'm

528
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 1: telling you it was difficult for me to really be

529
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: there when I was broke, because I was always thinken

530
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: by like I got to get out of this shifty

531
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:59,719
Speaker 1: as position, like I'm in another thing. Another Another thing

532
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: is I do believe that sex is a reward for

533
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: hard work. I agree that he was. He was a

534
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: wealthy and so a lot of the concepts that he

535
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 1: got from, you know, I understand. For instance, Dr Francis

536
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 1: Kress Wilson suggested that black men and women in this

537
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: country should not get married before the age of thirty

538
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: five of men, specifically in women thirty because of the

539
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 1: system of white supremacy racism. Even the honor of alaj

540
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 1: Muhammad spoke about black men getting themselves together cleaning themselves

541
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: up before they decided to procreate, because all you do

542
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: is exactly what William Be said. You bring children into

543
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 1: this world and you're ill prepared to take care of them.

544
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: I say the same things to my sons. And if

545
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: you take that pressure off of them to be with

546
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: a woman in their twenties when they're not ready, then

547
00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: you take that pressure off of them so they can

548
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: then build themselves up and be the pillars of the

549
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 1: black community that we need them to be, as opposed

550
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 1: to rushing out there thinking their men before their time

551
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: period and then doing something stupid or being feel feel

552
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: like in order to prove myself to be a man,

553
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 1: I have to sell drugs. I had to get money anyway.

554
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: I gotta get rich or die trying at nineteen years old.

555
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: So yeah, I know, I understand, and all these men

556
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 1: in here understand a masculine mentality, and Kevin Understanding understood

557
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: it too, and that's why I said, look, get yourself

558
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 1: together first, it's greater or later. Don't rush, because if

559
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: you make these men feel rushed, they're gonna do what

560
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: you all call crazy things. That's why you have so

561
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: much economic crime going on during Christmas men want to

562
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: feel like men, so they go out and start robbing

563
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: grocery stores and banks and whatnot. And that's why you

564
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: have such an uptick and crime and breaking the entries

565
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 1: during these these time periods where men are expected to

566
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 1: demand and the only way they're expected to meet the demand,

567
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 1: and the only way you can meet that demand is

568
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: through financial sufficiency to your woman and that and there's

569
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure on men to meet that, you know,

570
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 1: those those terms. And let me ask the women in here,

571
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 1: who amongst us are dating? Uh? Seeing a guy that

572
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 1: makes less than five a week? I want to wait listening? Okay,

573
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 1: are you dating? Are you dating? You're not even dating

574
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: at all? You know dating? Okay? How much you make mortifier? Okay?

575
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: See that goes to Kevin's point, like we can talk

576
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 1: about money all we want to, and we can try

577
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: to put that number on it all we want to.

578
00:35:54,400 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 1: But every single woman you know has a number? All right,

579
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: what's that? What's the magic? Now? Every single woman has

580
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 1: every single woman number? What's the best? What's the best?

581
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 1: You don't have you don't have another, you don't have enough? Man,

582
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: So you're saying you gotta make no did you have

583
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: a number you want, would you dat a man to

584
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: make sure I don't know you would make that's good? No?

585
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: You okay, but but it's okay. You don't want somebody

586
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: to make more than fifty thou but you don't want

587
00:36:52,480 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 1: to make over fifty thousands if he can like wrong

588
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 1: point we're talking about how dude make fifty thousand, but

589
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 1: he good with it? You can thousand, definitely, not that's

590
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:15,399
Speaker 1: so much you can stress fifty thousand that somebody more

591
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 1: than me. I want somebody to right her is more

592
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: important than right now? Right he makes fifty right now,

593
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 1: But but there's a plan to you know, I aim higher,

594
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,400
Speaker 1: get better thirty four. So what's like, how old is

595
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 1: this dude that's making his fifty not younger than thirty?

596
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: You got one more by the way, Yeah, and he's

597
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 1: making pip that you tell him about. He gonna have

598
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: aspiration to make more, aspiration to make more, or he

599
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 1: can Christ Jan or my situation, we're not value you

600
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: make it. Then if you make it to forty and

601
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: you're still making fifty gees, there's no Chris Jan in

602
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: your way nowhere. Maybe if he went a lottery, maybe

603
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: he's just I don't know. He This is the type

604
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: of nonsense that we're talking about. Right, If you fIF

605
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:24,839
Speaker 1: four years old and you make fifty thousand, there's no

606
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:28,440
Speaker 1: aspiration you you're thirty years old because you don't have

607
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:36,280
Speaker 1: a lot of aspirations and you're making fifty's have started

608
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: sometimes shouldn't be. That's why we're not answering your question.

609
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,880
Speaker 1: Start over, Yeah, people do start over. A lot of

610
00:38:46,880 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: people start over in multimillion. I don't understand what every

611
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,959
Speaker 1: man that makes this magical amount of money and we're

612
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 1: upset at them asking us for anything, and that's not

613
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: the case. Say one more time, I'm missing Williams. So

614
00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: we might be on the other side of what you're describing.

615
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: That's what it sounds like to me at this table,

616
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: like we may be a little bit money honestly with

617
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 1: dated guy or one a dated guy to say that

618
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: one to day to guy to make fifty I don't

619
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's true, because you may be

620
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,759
Speaker 1: at a table with women that believe in partnership exactly.

621
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 1: That's what I said. I'm not in a partnership. I'm

622
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: not going to in a partnership and then you'll break

623
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 1: up that mentality comes into play when the tables turner,

624
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: because the tables can go and that's not fair because

625
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 1: are you in the partner that's personal, that's what that's

626
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 1: turn at time. And then y'all broke up. And then

627
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: how do you like the partner to partners in general?

628
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: I'm speaking, you know, like to like nice clothes? I

629
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 1: do you know, like nice wash? And I guess for me,

630
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: like I'm okay with with taking care of what I

631
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 1: need for myself first and foremost. Okay, I would never

632
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 1: because I would never do that for myself without a partner.

633
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 1: So my expectations for myself and first, and they're very high.

634
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: That the davy you're embracing around, so that means that

635
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 1: means you want to live a certain type of lifestyle

636
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: and if you do, makes fifty ge gee partnership. But no,

637
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be able to live that. Like I

638
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 1: had a panel work I think you was that when

639
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: a young lady was an attorney and she got up

640
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 1: and said this nonsense, right, this this only I want

641
00:40:57,760 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: to partnership and I want to love him from the

642
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 1: south to the north, and then we'll come up together.

643
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 1: She said she wanted to make a day to do

644
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:15,879
Speaker 1: like dollars go to voids revoting podcast will be right

645
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: back after the poet just talk about us aging out. Now,

646
00:41:27,280 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: the ave is that, well, if we're talking about what

647
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: Kevin was saying, he's referring to something that's been um

648
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 1: In China, they have something called leftover Women. Let me

649
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 1: give it to you. It's an article that came out

650
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 1: about seven years ago, and China is going bankrupt because

651
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 1: they have so many or actually a South Korea, they

652
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 1: have so many women who are unmarried and they're not

653
00:41:56,480 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: contributing to the tax base because women don't make enough

654
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 1: money to support themselves in in in the society. Same

655
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:07,839
Speaker 1: thing here in the United States. Men make more money,

656
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: We contribute more to the tax base. It is the

657
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:14,479
Speaker 1: men's tax money that pays for the roads, that pays

658
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 1: for the ambulance or the utilities that we use. It's men.

659
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,359
Speaker 1: So when a woman has a job she's not making,

660
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 1: you are not paying enough back in the system to

661
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 1: take care of her end of the social financial contract

662
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: that you have with the country. So that's what's going on.

663
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: In South Korea. They refer to it as leftover women,

664
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 1: and they point to the age of twenty seven, they

665
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 1: are now having problems like and they are having problems

666
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 1: with sustaining their country. And so Kevin quantified that and said, okay, well,

667
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 1: black American women, the age is thirty five when they

668
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 1: stopped being beneficial to uh and I don't want to

669
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 1: he had this study down, but that's what he meant,

670
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 1: and he's relating it to the United States. Here, ladies,

671
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:03,240
Speaker 1: use this. This is what's going on in in South Korea,

672
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 1: and it's also going on in Japan. So this is

673
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: not just an American phenomenon. It's happening all of the

674
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:12,919
Speaker 1: western western based countries in Japan. I know people whood

675
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 1: it's in the east, but it's they're still more Western

676
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 1: than Eastern. Without giving a resolution to that, so at

677
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: thirty five, you you you age out right, you're done?

678
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 1: So what what is this suggestion that a woman should

679
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: do at that point? Lower your expectations? And so I

680
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: had said that like previously that you know, what he

681
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,800
Speaker 1: says is harsh, the messaging, it stings, it's like a

682
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 1: mean dad. But there's a lot of truth to what

683
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:42,200
Speaker 1: he says. I think his intent is to motivate, but

684
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't always do that. Like it goes in the

685
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: other directions sometimes because he throws in those. But you know,

686
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 1: with the unrealistic expectations, he would ask you to be honest,

687
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,479
Speaker 1: he would ask you what you look like, and you're

688
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 1: two hundred and seventy five pounds, like you was a

689
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: ten stop. Come on, still think these ways that you

690
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: can communicate effectively. We're giving with where you can because

691
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 1: people will receive it if they can understand. They actually

692
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: will receive it from entertainment. And it could be starting

693
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 1: somebody very calmly and tried to deliver it nicely. She

694
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 1: did not get it. She kept saying, but but or

695
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: I think, or I have a business story. But she

696
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 1: kept making excuses. And then that's when he his brother

697
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: brought it up. The more money I make and more

698
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: educated you are, that you're more value to us per se.

699
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:01,879
Speaker 1: And if a man is really making money, like he's

700
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 1: really making he's what they because I would call it

701
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: high value. Man. I say men to check all the

702
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: boxes because I want to say I wouldn't want to

703
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,080
Speaker 1: say because he made more money than him, or he

704
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: made more man of him that somehow he's more valuable.

705
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: But they're about high value is low, So I say,

706
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 1: check all the boxes. So if the more boxes you check,

707
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,839
Speaker 1: the more valuable you're gonna be in anything, whether it's

708
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 1: a car, whether it's a commodity, whether it's a business

709
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: where you know, whether it's relationships. The more the boxes

710
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 1: you check, the more value your you have. Women only

711
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: checking four or five boxes trying to get a man

712
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: with it checks tin boxes and it's just unrealistic. So

713
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: I think then at the core he was saying, just

714
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 1: be more realistic. Stop lying to yourself. That's what I

715
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 1: always say when a woman said, well I date a

716
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: man to make fifty and then use cold words like ambitious. No,

717
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: it don't go together, right that that type of ambition.

718
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:02,919
Speaker 1: Sometimes you might need the right woman by his side

719
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 1: to get him to where he needs to go, because

720
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:10,839
Speaker 1: sometimes part times at different times. And like I said,

721
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: we talked about COVID people starting over, like I mean

722
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 1: just to put everything in a box, and said you

723
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 1: need to make this amount of money, Like I just

724
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:18,360
Speaker 1: don't think that's really If you talk to me a

725
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: man and made four hundred thousand dollars a year, right

726
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: and then went through COVID and he's making fifty, that's

727
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,399
Speaker 1: something totally different. What we're all saying is we don't

728
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 1: want to use these one offs that women always do.

729
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 1: I know somebody to live in Michigan where the woman

730
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 1: makes six hundred thousand and he made twenty and they

731
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 1: have a harmonious relationship. The fact that the matter is

732
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: that usually doesn't work. So if you're forty years old

733
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 1: and you're still making fifty and you've been making it

734
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 1: for the last ten years of your life most of

735
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: the time, that is where your ambition lot. Now, there's

736
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that because I got cousins that make fifty.

737
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 1: They have great lives, but they're they're equally yoke with

738
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 1: the woman that with they make forty or thirty, they

739
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:03,480
Speaker 1: make fifty, and lifestyle is that of right, that makes

740
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 1: that type of money. But you have these women that

741
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: want to live, you know, the three hundred four hundred

742
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:11,400
Speaker 1: dollar life, talking about what our day to do that

743
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: make fifty and you got you know, you know, if

744
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 1: you even do it for yourself, it's even worse. You've

745
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: got ten thousand dollars on your risks. It's just not

746
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: gonna work. This is all based on math and data.

747
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: When I haven't heard one of you say, oh the

748
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 1: love or how this person makes me a criminal dollars

749
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:43,400
Speaker 1: a year. It happens like every woman that gets that

750
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 1: makes that much less to him, that that loves her

751
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 1: to death is bored with him within a year. Well,

752
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,399
Speaker 1: look at our society now you're talking about so many

753
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:53,919
Speaker 1: women being unwed or the divorce rates being so high.

754
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: If we're going based off of your numbers, don't match

755
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: my numbers, or you know, because I'm living this way,

756
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: I should be able to have ever any women or

757
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 1: do whatever I want. If we're all gonna go by

758
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: the same thing and we're all not matching up to that,

759
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:09,520
Speaker 1: then where is that going to leave us? I think

760
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 1: there's something that Kevin understood that a lot of us

761
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 1: who study this relationship phenomena and understand love was never

762
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 1: traditionally a part of marriage. It's a recent invention since

763
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: the seventeen hundreds, partly that it was about duty and

764
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: who matches well together. Your family has this land, Our

765
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 1: family has this heard as cheap. So we're gonna come

766
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: together and y'all are gonna make a family because it's

767
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: beneficial for society. What Kevin was pointing out, he always said,

768
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 1: it's me me society that we have. So it's not

769
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 1: about and today's day, it's about me, me, me, as

770
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:46,319
Speaker 1: opposed to the family that we're going to come together

771
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 1: make so love it's not about marriage, is not about love.

772
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: It's about duty. That's why those marriages lasted so long,

773
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: because the duty outlasted the love. You can fall out

774
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 1: of love pretty quickly because it's a feeling, you know,

775
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 1: just like you can go for man had too angry,

776
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 1: too happy to say, but duty remains. And I think

777
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 1: that's the thing Kevin is trying to point out. But

778
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: another point that you had, you brought up how he

779
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:11,080
Speaker 1: talked to you. Now, I'm in a room full of guys.

780
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:14,239
Speaker 1: Imagine your football coach said, Hey, I want you to

781
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:16,919
Speaker 1: go over there and their crossed, you know, a hunter

782
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 1: of yards and I want you to hit him full speed.

783
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 1: But okay, So why can't you talk to me in

784
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: like that because they're masculine and they're gonna laugh at you,

785
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: and they're not gonna hear you, and they're not gonna

786
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 1: respect you. Now, I think what Kevin realized is that

787
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,959
Speaker 1: because of the society that we live in, because women

788
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: have been women have been forced to work like men.

789
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: They've been taught to if you work like a man

790
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: and think like a woman or something, and if you

791
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:45,960
Speaker 1: go to school and get a job and you know

792
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 1: you act like a man, then you'll get treated better.

793
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 1: But in effect, what's happened is they become masculine. And

794
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: he pointed that out every night. So how do you

795
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 1: talk to if you got to talk to a masculine man,

796
00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: rough for to click, you gotta trying to talk to

797
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 1: a masculinized woman. I think that now that you see,

798
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: that's not across the board. But I think that's what

799
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: he realized. And we're talking about communication, not what was said,

800
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:14,880
Speaker 1: but was an effective communication if he was If this

801
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: guy was the type of person I could say, look,

802
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 1: I want you to hit the three hole, talk the

803
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,839
Speaker 1: ball and he responded to that fine, But if I said, hey,

804
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 1: get your butt through that all blah blah, it might

805
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:28,360
Speaker 1: need to happen. It's about effective communication. Remember, this is

806
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 1: a business man that we're talking about, and businessmen don't

807
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:34,840
Speaker 1: want to waste their time. So as a businessman, was

808
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,399
Speaker 1: he given an effective communication with what he was saying

809
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: that that's what you have to look at. Sterilize it,

810
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,800
Speaker 1: recognize what this man was trying to do is separate

811
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: yourself from your emotions. And I think you're getting better

812
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:50,399
Speaker 1: understand that. We all agree to that if you feel

813
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: back all those layers of chaos and you know, cut

814
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:58,239
Speaker 1: downs and being rude, that there's some evident truth to

815
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: what he was saying, but it's just not if his

816
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 1: intent is to help and to educate, you're gonna understand

817
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 1: your audience, You're gonna lose a lot of people with

818
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: the world because Kevin, what Kevin said, what Kevin said

819
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 1: the way he said it, women would not be following

820
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: him right now, they wouldn't not be talking about and

821
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 1: we would not even be doing this show right now

822
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: if he said it in a nicey type of way.

823
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 1: Because and here's the thing, women are not mad at

824
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:50,879
Speaker 1: him because of his delivery, because there are a penny

825
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: of men out there on YouTube and social media that

826
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:57,840
Speaker 1: are making disparaging content about women every single day, and

827
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:01,800
Speaker 1: these women are not following these men. They followed Kevin

828
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:05,800
Speaker 1: because Kevin was charismatic. Kevin was stylish, he was handsome,

829
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 1: he was educated, he had money, he had all the things,

830
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:12,799
Speaker 1: and he was charming. He was funny, he had many

831
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: of the attributes that women want, that they looked for

832
00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 1: and they dress why they with him saying, let me

833
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: go listen to this guy who it's like the guy

834
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 1: that I want, and he's saying ship telling me how

835
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: to get one. So that's why I'm going to go

836
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: here and listen to Kevin. That's why they were tuning

837
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 1: in to listen to Kevin. And then like it's like

838
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:36,240
Speaker 1: the love guru here said, when they couldn't check those boxes,

839
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:39,600
Speaker 1: that's when it that's when it became a problem. I

840
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: do believe. I believe. I believe that the venom came

841
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:47,720
Speaker 1: from those who couldn't check those They couldn't check those boxes,

842
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: and that's when that's when the venom came right. And

843
00:52:51,600 --> 00:52:55,879
Speaker 1: so then people automatically they completely disconnect. But if if,

844
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 1: if we could get women and you can't get every

845
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: woman to listen in with without emotion, but if I

846
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: can listen because he didn't really bother me or really offended,

847
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 1: because I honestly listened because I felt like, you know what,

848
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: this could potentially be free game, So let me listen.

849
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 1: Because if he thinks like this, then there's a lot

850
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:22,319
Speaker 1: of men that think like this. Million figure out how

851
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,320
Speaker 1: to manipulate this. Every women that check most of the

852
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 1: boxes listen. It would be just like somebody walked there

853
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 1: here and say all broke niggers need to go home.

854
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: Wouldn't not a must? Will be like damped get out

855
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:46,400
Speaker 1: of here. You know, we were angry because it wouldn't

856
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 1: apply to us. You're right about it. We were not getting.

857
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:53,040
Speaker 1: What about the woman that's trying to be better though,

858
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:56,239
Speaker 1: because there's the flip side game that was trying to get.

859
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 1: He gave that game. Did you did you listen? Yes,

860
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 1: he did. They didn't want to. Did you listen to something?

861
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:10,400
Speaker 1: You prove my point? Not ch, but you said the

862
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:12,760
Speaker 1: people who actually you said they check off the boxes

863
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 1: or don't who listened to him said boxes listen? The

864
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 1: ones that the least amount of boxes were angry. And

865
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 1: they're angry because he knew. She knew. You've been a church,

866
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 1: and you've been a church and the preachers talking about

867
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 1: something and you get offitted because they think they looking

868
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 1: straight at him and they talking talking to him or

869
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:40,279
Speaker 1: them or her, Because y'all those chicks thought he was

870
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: talking straight to them, calling the show. They needed the advice.

871
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 1: I've never made a chick. That was a nine. That

872
00:54:56,000 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: was upset of never never, We're not talking. But I'm

873
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: not gonna argue. But I think that some of the

874
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 1: only time I got upset, Literally, the only time I

875
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 1: really got upset was hearing the clips on Instagram and

876
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: stuff about the scale for women. Oh you're this number,

877
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:22,879
Speaker 1: you're that number. Seeing clips of that without a true

878
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:25,560
Speaker 1: introduction or watching a full video, that's the only time

879
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:28,240
Speaker 1: I got upset. I felt like, man, for our community,

880
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 1: this doesn't feel good at all. That was my introduction

881
00:55:32,400 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 1: by a white woman. But because I saw some white

882
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 1: boys saying talking about scales, were you upset with I

883
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: didn't see that, but that would have upset me if

884
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 1: they were talking about us. But they scaled themselves. If

885
00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: they were saying, for our community, have scales if you

886
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: if you're not attractive, we shouldn't know what to see.

887
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: But they scaled themselves. He asked them, how do you feel?

888
00:55:54,360 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. If that was my introduction and

889
00:55:57,840 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: that was my that's the first thing I said. A

890
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: lot of only judged him basis on the clips and

891
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 1: not actually watched that. If you only said you're a teen,

892
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: you're a three you're a one, you're a six. I

893
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:16,400
Speaker 1: would be offended. Just just if you sat in this

894
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:19,640
Speaker 1: room right now and scaled the four of us in here,

895
00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 1: I would be offended. It's uncomfortable. But but do you

896
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: scale men all the time? I do not scale men.

897
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:26,799
Speaker 1: So if a man walked in who was five ft

898
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: one three pounds, example, I'm just saying finished because women

899
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: how they say that, they say, uh, look at you?

900
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 1: Didn't look at me? Right? Making make sense? Right? So

901
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,319
Speaker 1: like if I'm not that guy, like and I'm trying

902
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:46,959
Speaker 1: to highlight you, but I'm looking at myself. I'm thinking

903
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 1: I'm the ship though, but you're not feeling that it's

904
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 1: not for you. You would tell me if I tell

905
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 1: you that, I tell you that I'm trying to highlight you.

906
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:59,840
Speaker 1: I'm not five pound guy just trying to hide at you.

907
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: What you're gonna say, You're gonna say, look at you.

908
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say that he really just trying

909
00:57:12,520 --> 00:57:23,000
Speaker 1: to you know, like yeah, right, Like it's not even

910
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 1: you know what you say how that would go? This

911
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 1: is the universal for this bullshit. No, I mean, that's

912
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:36,720
Speaker 1: that's basically what it is. That's basically how a lot

913
00:57:36,760 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 1: of women think nowadays, it's just like it's like if

914
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: you yeah, you're not gonna necessarily what I'm saying, like

915
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 1: in general that you're thinking in your head, liked even

916
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 1: like even think like before even you know, what made

917
00:57:55,920 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: him think that he could come hid at me? Basically?

918
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:00,080
Speaker 1: Is it okay? That is it? Can can we is

919
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 1: verbalize it? It's okay to judge people on how they

920
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 1: look on the exterior, right, yes, okay. We we should

921
00:58:07,720 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: be able to say, we should be honest. It's hurtful.

922
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 1: It's hurtful that we all can't receive a merit award

923
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: for showing up and playing. It's hurtful that we all

924
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: can't be tens. It's hurtful that we all can't have

925
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 1: six facts. You know. But that's all right, you know,

926
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:35,360
Speaker 1: because we're all unique in our way and we all

927
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:37,880
Speaker 1: have our quality. May you may not have the physical

928
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 1: beauty of this person or that person, but you're still

929
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: a unique person. We have to learn to love ourselves.

930
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: I think that's the most important thing. And Kevin Samon's

931
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 1: will simply point out, this is your this is I'm

932
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 1: an image consultant. Here's the mirror, this is what you

933
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 1: look like. Right now. That's not making me love myself.

934
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Speaker 1: And you're not loving yourself. If you think you look

935
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 1: other than what you really look like, you're delusional. But

936
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Speaker 1: he wouldn't tell you you are four if you didn't

937
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:13,320
Speaker 1: ask him. But he's not just you, just lunt, but

938
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Speaker 1: you look you give yourself even correct if they gave

939
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Speaker 1: themselves a number two high. Correct what I'm doing. You

940
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 1: know what I'm doing. You know favors if you're six

941
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 1: or four and I tell you you're not, because if

942
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:37,240
Speaker 1: you if I tell you a nine, then you try

943
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: to play in the nine ball field actually playing playing

944
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,880
Speaker 1: in the four ball field. Then once you start, once

945
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:49,360
Speaker 1: you bring those expectations now and you start, did you

946
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 1: start trying to find all the great boys and fours

947
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 1: and five dreaming? Right? You can live a better life,

948
00:59:55,880 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 1: but you're gonna be a happy if you were a four,

949
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:01,000
Speaker 1: still think you should have a nine, seven, eight or nine.

950
01:00:01,200 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: And it's the same thing with a man. If you're

951
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: if you're not a nine or eight or seven, and

952
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 1: you you're out there trying to get tens, I mean

953
01:00:08,920 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to spend a lot of money because

954
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: otherwise you're not gonna get what you want. So what

955
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 1: he gave you was the game without you even knowing it.

956
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 1: He was like, listen, you're four, you're for this is

957
01:00:20,400 --> 01:00:23,360
Speaker 1: what you look like. Now, let's now that we have

958
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: that know then go get that fault tune for two

959
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Speaker 1: The Boys Were Gone Be podcast. This episode was produced

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Speaker 1: by A King and brought to you by The Black

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