Speaker 1: Here's how we would describe you. A lying, thieving, blaspheming adulterys.
Speaker 1: That's what you are so far, and we haven't even
Speaker 1: gotten into the hate or any of the other things
Speaker 1: that are part of your life. Pay I'm not singling
Speaker 1: you out because look, my hand is raised. I am
Speaker 1: with you. I'm a lying, thieving, blaspheming adulter. Welcome back
Speaker 1: to the podcast. One of my favorite guests and one
Speaker 1: of my favorite humans. Wow, little brother Parker William Smith
Speaker 1: felt like you needed a full introduction today. What an intro.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Sometimes when you come to do this podcast,
Speaker 1: you will drive here from the Yee Farm where you work,
Speaker 1: where you're the CEO, and you'll listen to like some
Speaker 1: kind of inspirational something to get in the mood for
Speaker 1: this podcast. And I asked you today and you said
Speaker 1: I was listening to how About Them Cowgirls by George Strait.
Speaker 1: So I think I am very ready prepared for this podcast.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. That's amazing. This podcast. The format of it,
Speaker 1: this is episode one oh six, and it's basically, you
Speaker 1: have a question, you email it to Grangersmith Podcast at
Speaker 1: gmail dot com and we walk through them as if
Speaker 1: Parker and I are sitting with you, maybe around a campfire,
Speaker 1: maybe driving in a truck, whatever. The most casual, relaxed
Speaker 1: environment you could imagine is you ask us the question
Speaker 1: and we walk through it without notes, without preparation, basically
Speaker 1: as if we're just buddies trying to give you the
Speaker 1: best advice we can on the situation. This started, this
Speaker 1: podcast format started when I just realized that I have
Speaker 1: a lot of people in my life. I'm very blessed
Speaker 1: to have a lot of people in my life that
Speaker 1: have very sound advice, good advice, and you know, on
Speaker 1: whether it's on the bus or on the phone, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of guys that will just sit around and
Speaker 1: just kind of walk through life's questions, whether it's relationship
Speaker 1: or career or spiritual, whatever it might be, we walk
Speaker 1: through them together. And I just thought, man, this would
Speaker 1: be really cool if I opened it up to guests.
Speaker 1: So if you guys have a question, email Greener Smith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com and we'll get to it.
Speaker 1: And let's get to the first one. Here. Is this
Speaker 1: your first episode with these headphones? Yeah, switched to headphones today,
Speaker 1: and the benefit is so that each of us can
Speaker 1: hear ourselves, similar to how when you're on stage or
Speaker 1: is that completely different. Yeah, well yes, it's basically the idea.
Speaker 1: There's two main reasons we're wearing headphones today. One, it
Speaker 1: allows the guest to hear I kind of I'm comfortable
Speaker 1: around the microphone. But it allows the guest to see,
Speaker 1: to feel their radio, to the their proximity to the microphone,
Speaker 1: so they can be aware of you know, if you
Speaker 1: come you come back and you're sitting in the chair
Speaker 1: like this and you realize when I sound way better
Speaker 1: like this. The second biggest reason is if there's a
Speaker 1: because I don't I produce this myself. There is no
Speaker 1: technician or audio guy in the room, no camera guy.
Speaker 1: It's all me. So if there's a problem, I'm going
Speaker 1: to know it instantly because I have headphones on. So
Speaker 1: we'll see how it goes. If you're watching on YouTube,
Speaker 1: you'll understand. If you're just listening, it shouldn't even matter
Speaker 1: to you at all. And then so when musicians are
Speaker 1: on stage, the benefit of the what you call the ears,
Speaker 1: which a lot of people don't know, is when those
Speaker 1: guys are on stage, they have what you call your
Speaker 1: ears and your headphones, and that is so that you
Speaker 1: can hear yourself as well, right, because that's so strange
Speaker 1: on stage. That's the main reason, because the speakers are
Speaker 1: usually in front of the stage and they're shooting outwards
Speaker 1: towards the crowd. So the musicians that are behind the
Speaker 1: speakers are not going to hear it. They're going to
Speaker 1: hear a delayed sound, and they're not gonna be able
Speaker 1: to hear the detail of what they're playing or singing,
Speaker 1: and so then we have a completely different mix than
Speaker 1: what the crowd here. So that's why we have a
Speaker 1: monitor engineer, Will who mixes our ears, and then Blake,
Speaker 1: who's out what we call front of house, who mixes
Speaker 1: what the audience hears. That's kind of a new thing.
Speaker 1: It started with we wear the earphones the ear plugs,
Speaker 1: but that's maybe like a fifteen or twenty year old deal.
Speaker 1: Before then everyone had wedges, which some people still use them.
Speaker 1: It's the speakers that are on the ground shooting back
Speaker 1: towards the musicians. But before that they didn't have anything.
Speaker 1: So like if you think about the Beatles when they
Speaker 1: used to play concerts at big arenas, they didn't have
Speaker 1: any kind of monitor system at all. They were just
Speaker 1: playing with the ambient noise of what the arena sounded like,
Speaker 1: which is very difficult and hard to harmonize, hard to
Speaker 1: hear the details of what the guitar players are doing,
Speaker 1: stuff like that. So here we are just like the Beatles,
Speaker 1: me and you. Yep. First question is this subject is
Speaker 1: how do I stop being a hero? Hey, grangew my
Speaker 1: name is Joshua. I hail from San Saba, Texas. Shout
Speaker 1: out to Texas Ranch Country. I've met you a couple
Speaker 1: times and each time you never let me down. You're
Speaker 1: so welcoming and friendly and make us feel like family.
Speaker 1: Thank you for that. Now for my question. I'm a
Speaker 1: young Christian man who's looking to find the woman I
Speaker 1: want to spend the rest of my life with. The
Speaker 1: Only problem is I have a hero complex that I
Speaker 1: have to beat. Whenever I start talking to a young
Speaker 1: lady and we get to know each other and open
Speaker 1: up or talk about ourselves, I get more invested. The
Speaker 1: more invested I get, the more I want to help
Speaker 1: them with all of their life's problems before even a
Speaker 1: commitment has been made. I hate to see people struggle,
Speaker 1: and especially when I have an interest in them, So
Speaker 1: I help out whatever they need before we even get
Speaker 1: to know each other. This usually gets me in the
Speaker 1: quote he says, friend zone, and I'm being labeled a
Speaker 1: nice guy? How do I stop being this hero ps?
Speaker 1: I'm twenty one years old. I know my life is
Speaker 1: just starting and I have a lot to figure out.
Speaker 1: I just started welding school and I'm planning on that
Speaker 1: being my career. Here's a picture of us, so oh awesome. Yeah, Joshua,
Speaker 1: he's a super cool dude, and he included a picture
Speaker 1: of me and him in a meet and greet man Joshua,
Speaker 1: thank you brother, Thank you for emailing, and thank you
Speaker 1: for being the fan that you are. I know I've
Speaker 1: met you several times and you're just a stand up guy,
Speaker 1: so I appreciate you emailing. It's a pretty common question,
Speaker 1: I think to this hero complex is what he's calling it.
Speaker 1: Where you come in and you meet somebody and you
Speaker 1: want to immediately try to fix a problem that they have.
Speaker 1: I know I've been in this kind of situation where
Speaker 1: you meet you're young, and you meet a girl and
Speaker 1: you talk to her a few times and she meet
Speaker 1: lee tells you about her stepdad. Is you know, neglecting
Speaker 1: her or talking. You know, maybe you know any kind
Speaker 1: of scenario, you name it, there's some kind of problem,
Speaker 1: and then you want to come in and go you
Speaker 1: know what, you know, you should tell your stepdad and
Speaker 1: you try to start fixing things, and then you gain
Speaker 1: their trust and then you become this friend of theirs.
Speaker 1: You've been in this situation. Yeah, I think that there's
Speaker 1: a level of First of all, it's not wrong to
Speaker 1: want to help somebody. I think that that is a
Speaker 1: good thing in and of itself. But I think that
Speaker 1: it's easy. I've fallen in this, in this situation with
Speaker 1: past relationships where there's a form of pride and ego,
Speaker 1: and that feels good to be the one helping people
Speaker 1: in a certain sense, and you almost turn into like
Speaker 1: their personal helper for everything. And when they're relying on
Speaker 1: you for all of this, their their help to deal
Speaker 1: with all of their problems, you know, there's there can
Speaker 1: be an issue to that, and then the guy or
Speaker 1: the girl or whoever's the one helping, let's become the
Speaker 1: hero kind of fuels that because they like to be
Speaker 1: the one relied upon. And then the other person likes
Speaker 1: it because they can just throw all their problems on them,
Speaker 1: and it just turns into this weird cycle. And when
Speaker 1: the relationship is not two individuals who have all of
Speaker 1: their anxieties and cast on the foundation of Christ, then
Speaker 1: it's easy to look for other things or people to
Speaker 1: cast your problems on, and then that's that's where the
Speaker 1: problems start. Yeah, for sure, I think Joshua, something something
Speaker 1: interesting to know is that maybe you just need to
Speaker 1: hear it. Maybe you already know this, you just need
Speaker 1: to hear it from us. But you trying to help
Speaker 1: them and trying to figure out some of their problems
Speaker 1: is not what is making them not like you. You,
Speaker 1: that's something else. That's something different. You know, like if
Speaker 1: a girl, if a girl likes you, she just she's
Speaker 1: gonna like you, and she's gonna love that you help
Speaker 1: with her issues if she if you are if you
Speaker 1: are included into this friend zone because you're helping her,
Speaker 1: but that means she just wasn't gonna like you romantically
Speaker 1: in the first place. Yeah, it's easy to justify and
Speaker 1: be like, well, she just doesn't like me because I'm
Speaker 1: too helpful, right, And it's like she doesn't dislike you
Speaker 1: if you're a guy out there and you're thinking that
Speaker 1: you're always friend zone. It's like, girls don't not like
Speaker 1: you just because you're very nice or helpful or you're
Speaker 1: doing things for them, it's because they weren't interested. And
Speaker 1: I think that it's up to the guy initially, if
Speaker 1: you're gonna ask a girl out, then let her know
Speaker 1: you're interested, so that there's clarity at the beginning. And
Speaker 1: you say very specifically, I don't want to do homework
Speaker 1: with you. I don't want to you know, come over
Speaker 1: and let's hang. It's I want to take you on
Speaker 1: a date, and you have to say that d were
Speaker 1: a date, so that they know from the very beginning
Speaker 1: of what your intentions are. Otherwise, the girl is confused
Speaker 1: and she doesn't know what this is and the guy
Speaker 1: might just be might just be messing around and not
Speaker 1: the girl doesn't know what the guy's intentions are, and
Speaker 1: then at the end of the day, the guy could
Speaker 1: be misled and then friend zoned even though he was
Speaker 1: never even seen romantically by the girl in the first place,
Speaker 1: because he didn't let his intentions be known. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: really good. So I think you could basically fill in
Speaker 1: the friend zone thing. You could fill that in with
Speaker 1: any other character trade about you. She doesn't like me
Speaker 1: because I make too much money. She doesn't like me
Speaker 1: because I don't make enough money. She doesn't like me
Speaker 1: because I'm a welder. She doesn't like me because I'm
Speaker 1: a doctor. You could find something to fill in the blank,
Speaker 1: but I think Parker Man really hit it on the
Speaker 1: head where you need, Joshua to when you start liking
Speaker 1: a girl and you're just being you, and the version
Speaker 1: of you is you like to fix things. When you
Speaker 1: are that version and you start liking a girl, you
Speaker 1: needed to tell her straight up, you know what. I
Speaker 1: like you. I would love to take you on a date.
Speaker 1: Would you be interested in going on a date and
Speaker 1: seeing if there's more to us than just being friends?
Speaker 1: And if she goes? You know what, Joshua, You're such
Speaker 1: a sweet guy. I just don't think of you that way. Great,
Speaker 1: now we know, like your problem solved. There's your problem solved.
Speaker 1: You're right, So I think I could quickly say your
Speaker 1: subject line, how do I stop being a hero? You don't?
Speaker 1: That's awesome. One day, one special girl, Joshua is gonna
Speaker 1: love that you're the hero. She's gonna love that she
Speaker 1: could turn to you and you're a problem solver, and
Speaker 1: that's going to take a certain personality, not very rare.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of girls would love that, but
Speaker 1: there are certain girls that would be like, I don't
Speaker 1: that's not my love language. Stay out of this. I
Speaker 1: could do it myself and that's fine too. But that's
Speaker 1: that's that's the fun process of dating is you realize
Speaker 1: all those things in this dating process. So hit her
Speaker 1: up with that that D word, Parker said, date. It's
Speaker 1: going to date Parker. We have a lot of I
Speaker 1: set aside a lot of questions for you. You want
Speaker 1: me to read some subjects or you want me to
Speaker 1: just hit and hit the next one. Let's just hit one. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: this this question literally came today. It says, hey, Grangel,
Speaker 1: I'm being vulnerable here here. I just got over an
Speaker 1: abusive relationship and the person was very emotionally abusive. She
Speaker 1: always manipulated me into thinking certain ways that I wasn't
Speaker 1: allowed and told me I wasn't allowed to have any friends.
Speaker 1: I was always told that I was worthless in this
Speaker 1: world and that I was the problem and the reason
Speaker 1: I had no friends. Whenever I tried to confront her
Speaker 1: about how she was making me feel she put it
Speaker 1: back on me and assured me that she was a
Speaker 1: good person. I let it go on for so long
Speaker 1: because I know her pass and I know she was abused,
Speaker 1: and I was trying to give her the benefit of
Speaker 1: the doubt. I also believed that she was telling me.
Speaker 1: I also believed she was telling me and that she
Speaker 1: was right about no one wanted to be my friend,
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to be alone, so I stayed
Speaker 1: with her. I finally decided to leave recently, but I
Speaker 1: still feel like I'm not good enough to try to
Speaker 1: make friends and move on. Please help, Brian. It's kind
Speaker 1: of like a similar question to what we just read, Yeah,
Speaker 1: Brian is look, Brian, you came into this relationship trying
Speaker 1: to fix her because she came out of an abusive relationship,
Speaker 1: so you used that as you gave her a crutch
Speaker 1: and said, well, I'm going to give you the benefit
Speaker 1: of the doubt because I know you were abused and
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be abusive, so I'm going to
Speaker 1: help fix you. But that ended up backfiring on you.
Speaker 1: So his question is, I mean they're done. What it
Speaker 1: sounds like is the bottom line is I didn't want
Speaker 1: to be alone, so I stayed, which, Yep, how relatable
Speaker 1: is that. How many people right now just are in
Speaker 1: relationships with people who are awful, people who tell them
Speaker 1: that they have no friends and that they're miserable and
Speaker 1: that they're not good humans, and they're like, well and
Speaker 1: they believe them. Yeah, and it's like, well, I guess
Speaker 1: this is better than being by myself. And so at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it comes down to can
Speaker 1: I be content by myself or do I need to
Speaker 1: have someone with me even if they're awful and making
Speaker 1: my life life worse in every way. I want everyone
Speaker 1: to listen that is thinking about a question they might
Speaker 1: have for this podcast that has to do with them
Speaker 1: being single right now and looking for someone out there
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship with. So then you read
Speaker 1: this one and you go, well, here's the opposite. Here's
Speaker 1: someone that was in a relationship that was miserable, meaning
Speaker 1: it's not the goal to be in a relationship, to
Speaker 1: seek a relationship just to be in one because you're lonely.
Speaker 1: That doesn't accomplish anything, and oftentimes that gets you in
Speaker 1: the wrong relationship. In this case was someone that was
Speaker 1: previously abused, and so you tried to fix it and
Speaker 1: then you got abused in return. So Brian's question is
Speaker 1: really he's asking am I worthy? Am I good enough
Speaker 1: to make friends and move on? Please help? Right? That's
Speaker 1: his question basically, Yeah, So what do you tell the
Speaker 1: Brian when he says I'm not I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: not good enough to make friends and move on? Please help? Well,
Speaker 1: so he has all of these feelings from surrounding himself
Speaker 1: with this girl and not with with good people who
Speaker 1: are lifting him up. And so I think that we're
Speaker 1: gonna believe whatever we're being told from the people around us,
Speaker 1: and they have a big impact on our thoughts and
Speaker 1: our subconscious And so, first of all, yes, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: ask in this situation. I wouldn't be asking yourself, how
Speaker 1: should I feel? Based on these things that she told me.
Speaker 1: He should be asking himself what should I do with
Speaker 1: those feelings? And there's so many different times in our
Speaker 1: lives where we feel like we can't move on, or
Speaker 1: we can't go on, or we've lost somebody, or we've
Speaker 1: gotten our heart broken and we can't get to that next.
Speaker 1: We feel like we can't make it another day, when
Speaker 1: in reality. It's not about how you feel. You will
Speaker 1: be okay, you will be able to move on. But
Speaker 1: testing you know, the says to take captive every thought,
Speaker 1: to obey Christ and test it and test it with
Speaker 1: truth because that is the only source of truth that
Speaker 1: is out there. And when you're surrounding yourself with people
Speaker 1: that are speaking negatively, then it's going to affect you negatively.
Speaker 1: So yes, you will move on, Yes you will make friends.
Speaker 1: You need to take steps today, small steps. Don't relive
Speaker 1: the past, don't don't feel like you needue closure from this.
Speaker 1: It's over. Move on. Take steps toward healthy activity, toward
Speaker 1: getting sleep, toward uh, surrounding yourself with good people and
Speaker 1: joining a club, joining a sport, like we always say,
Speaker 1: and it'll get better. So good. Remember that book we
Speaker 1: read a long time ago, what was it called Dale Carnegie?
Speaker 1: How to Win friends and Influence people. That's what what's called.
Speaker 1: That's a great book, Brian. I mean, just just you
Speaker 1: could you could make friends by doing one thing I'll
Speaker 1: lot and that's listening. You can go into a relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody new and listen seventy percent of the time
Speaker 1: and talk thirty percent of the time and You're gonna
Speaker 1: make good friends that way right off the bat. You're
Speaker 1: going to earn people's trust. You're gonna you're gonna find
Speaker 1: a lot of people to go. Man, I really like Brian.
Speaker 1: Why do you like Brian? I don't know, Man, He's
Speaker 1: just he always understands me. And the truth is you're
Speaker 1: just listening. Just be a good listener. So you started
Speaker 1: this whole email to me by saying, I'm going to
Speaker 1: be vulnerable. Here, be vulnerable. Right back to people in
Speaker 1: a new friend group, how do you find friends? Well,
Speaker 1: what do you like to do? So you could start
Speaker 1: with work. You can start with neighbors, people, people that
Speaker 1: live next door in the apartment next door. Hey, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna cook some burgers tonight. You guys want to come over,
Speaker 1: And when they come over, ask them about themselves. People
Speaker 1: love to talk about themselves. What do you do? Where
Speaker 1: are you from? Where do you have any siblings? Where'd
Speaker 1: you go to school? And people will talk and talk
Speaker 1: and and you'll be able to discern good friends. But
Speaker 1: I mean, this is this is your next move. You brother,
Speaker 1: you're single now, congratulations. This is a this is a
Speaker 1: great step for you. This is a this is a
Speaker 1: new page, a fresh blank slate for you. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is great. Congratulations, I should say, you're out of it.
Speaker 1: You're out of an abusive relationship. You're free, clean slate,
Speaker 1: ready to make some friends, find some people that you
Speaker 1: could talk to and listen to them. You'll be just fine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: be glad you're not in a marriage with her. Be
Speaker 1: glad you're not in a marriage with her, because we
Speaker 1: will find those. We'll find those kind of questions in
Speaker 1: here too. Let me let me go to this one.
Speaker 1: This is a short question, and I'm gonna I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna read their name. They don't they don't have their names.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to read it. The side note, if
Speaker 1: you're emailing Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com, I love
Speaker 1: it when you keep it short. You don't have to
Speaker 1: tell me your whole life story for me to get
Speaker 1: a gist of where this is going. So it's easier
Speaker 1: for me and the guest. And so far the ones
Speaker 1: I've read the day have been great. Just don't write
Speaker 1: a novel. It's harder for me. I think you could
Speaker 1: sum it up. Here's a very short one. It says,
Speaker 1: subject line, I don't like talking to people about this,
Speaker 1: but dot dot dot me and my wife have been
Speaker 1: trying to have a kid for close to four years.
Speaker 1: I want to get a fertility test done, but I'm
Speaker 1: scared to know the answer. What do you think I
Speaker 1: should do? I will let you answer that. Okay, he
Speaker 1: didn't tell me not to say it, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say in the email. His name is Dylan, Dylan brother.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you, let me let me shoot it
Speaker 1: back to you. You're having You and your wife have
Speaker 1: been having trouble having a child for four years. Fast
Speaker 1: forward thirty years in your life, and I would ask
Speaker 1: you straight back and say say, nothing happens. You don't
Speaker 1: get anything tested. I would ask you, or would you
Speaker 1: ask yourself in thirty years are you happy that you
Speaker 1: didn't check? Are you good with that? Because I think
Speaker 1: the obvious answer is you want to know. That's why
Speaker 1: you emailed this podcast. You want to know. So go
Speaker 1: in there and go to that get that appointment, you
Speaker 1: and your wife at the fertility clinic, and get the
Speaker 1: test done and take the answer. Come what may. And
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about your story, but I would
Speaker 1: say there's an equal chance you can get any answer.
Speaker 1: The doctor could say I'm so sorry. Guys, there's no possibility.
Speaker 1: Or a doctor could say there's a slight issue and
Speaker 1: here's how we here's how we could get you pregnant,
Speaker 1: or the doctor says that looks like nothing's wrong. Keep trying.
Speaker 1: But either way you're gonna walk out of that clinic
Speaker 1: and you're gonna go, Okay, I understand now, Dylan, You're
Speaker 1: gonna have an answer. Don't you want an answer? And
Speaker 1: that this is this is valuable to you to have
Speaker 1: an answer, so you can't go in being scared about anything.
Speaker 1: So the issue is he doesn't want the wrong answer. Yep,
Speaker 1: that's what it comes down to. People would rather live
Speaker 1: in a twilight of it not being certain but kind
Speaker 1: of constantly what happens when you don't have any anything
Speaker 1: concrete or any truth and you're just constantly living in
Speaker 1: this like void of you don't know what's right or
Speaker 1: what's wrong, and and then you you don't know how
Speaker 1: to take steps from there. If he's in a situation
Speaker 1: where he is infertile, then there are options that you
Speaker 1: can take for adoption or like there's different steps that
Speaker 1: you can take to have children after that, But how
Speaker 1: sad would it be to just live in this gray
Speaker 1: twilight you're quoting. You're quoting Teddy Roosevelt. So, Dylan, what
Speaker 1: would Teddy Roosevelt say if you asked him this? If
Speaker 1: you haven't studied Teddy Roosevelt at all, man, what an
Speaker 1: amazing guy in American history? And he would tell you
Speaker 1: straight up like it is, don't live in that gray twilight.
Speaker 1: Step forward, make a decision, go into this clinic, and
Speaker 1: then and then you'll have a second group of decisions
Speaker 1: to make after you find out what's going on. Maybe
Speaker 1: maybe the doctor says, we could, we could get you
Speaker 1: a baby, but it's gonna cost a lot of money.
Speaker 1: Maybe you don't have the money. Now you know, at
Speaker 1: least now you know, at least now you have options.
Speaker 1: Right now, your option is go to bed scared and
Speaker 1: lonely and worrying, and your wife is wondering if she's
Speaker 1: really a woman, and you don't want any of that.
Speaker 1: You could you could walk out like Parker said, and go,
Speaker 1: you know what, We're going to adopt. We really want
Speaker 1: a child. We're going to adopt. The foster system is
Speaker 1: crazy right now. Or you could say, hey, babe, looks
Speaker 1: like our destiny is to not have a child, So
Speaker 1: we're going to do other things that we can now
Speaker 1: commit to because we know we're not going to have
Speaker 1: a child. So anyway, Dylan, there's a you're not going
Speaker 1: to know any of this until you go in and
Speaker 1: go to the clinic and then email this podcast back
Speaker 1: and let us all know what happened. What a difficult
Speaker 1: situation that must be for a man who is possibly
Speaker 1: infertile or the woman is possibly infertile. It's like she's
Speaker 1: been placed on this earth to have children and to
Speaker 1: raise disciples. And what a scary feeling that must be
Speaker 1: to be like, did I make a mistake? Am I
Speaker 1: with the right person? Am I with the wrong person?
Speaker 1: Because we can't have children? Did I do this? Or
Speaker 1: did I do that? And it's so if they find
Speaker 1: that answer and it is yes, you cannot have children,
Speaker 1: then it would make you rethink everything that you've done
Speaker 1: in a scary way. But he could take solace in
Speaker 1: asking himself, you know, I have a goud who cares
Speaker 1: for me, and that what is he trying to teach
Speaker 1: me in this situation? How many times in the Bible
Speaker 1: have there been situations of infertility? And then twenty years later,
Speaker 1: god fulfills his promises. Yeah, it brings up another point.
Speaker 1: If you find out that your wife is the one
Speaker 1: that's infertile, honor her, love her, give her, shower her
Speaker 1: with love, make her feel like she's the woman of
Speaker 1: your dreams forever, regardless of what this doctor says. And
Speaker 1: if you come in with that mentality, then you could
Speaker 1: that's what you would also expect her to come back
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Speaker 1: another very simple, very short question that comes from a
Speaker 1: guy named John. He says, I'm fourteen years old. I'm
Speaker 1: struggling with a caffeine addiction and trying to quit. How
Speaker 1: can I help myself to quit? Thank you? John? Wow? Right,
Speaker 1: that one's actually relatable. I would consider myself fairly addicted
Speaker 1: to caffeine, but he's fourteen. Oh never mind, he's fourteen, Like,
Speaker 1: that's pretty young. It's an interesting question, like this is
Speaker 1: what's worrying him? He's so. I guess we shouldn't think
Speaker 1: so much about the caffeine as we could just speak
Speaker 1: to addiction in any sort for a fourteen year old. Okay,
Speaker 1: since it's caffeine, we could say, are you getting enough sleep? Right? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good start. And maybe maybe the caffeine is
Speaker 1: part of why you're not getting enough sleep, and then
Speaker 1: that's leading you to be tired, which makes you want
Speaker 1: more caffeine. And so it's a never ending circle here
Speaker 1: that you could get caught in and as a fourteen
Speaker 1: year old and good. So self discipline is the first
Speaker 1: thing to come to mind for John. When you're fourteen,
Speaker 1: the word for you is discipline, and self discipline is
Speaker 1: one of the hardest forms of that word, because you, Hey,
Speaker 1: no one's gonna help you, but you so ye, are
Speaker 1: you really worried about it? Like? Is this? How is
Speaker 1: this affecting your life? Is this I'm assuming this is
Speaker 1: affecting your sleep, which is which is an issue? I'm
Speaker 1: assuming this isn't like I'm going broke at Starbucks or
Speaker 1: something like surely it's not that. But first thing, just
Speaker 1: for just speaking speaking to myself about caffeine, is you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to put a time on your day when
Speaker 1: you have your last cup of coffee or coke or
Speaker 1: whatever whatever you have. So for me, it's like three
Speaker 1: o'clock is the is my number. If I have something
Speaker 1: after three o'clock, if I have tea or coffee after
Speaker 1: three coke zero, then I'm gonna feel it. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: an energy drink. I'm gonna feel it when I get
Speaker 1: into bed. I could feel that that anxious feeling when
Speaker 1: you get into bed and you still have caffeine in
Speaker 1: your system. So put a time on it. And one
Speaker 1: thing I did is I went to I'm a coffee
Speaker 1: drinker in the morning. I went to one cup and
Speaker 1: I used to just drink, and there was a time
Speaker 1: and I just drank unlimited amount of coffee in the morning,
Speaker 1: and then I would get jittery right before lunch. I'd
Speaker 1: be shaken. No one wants that. So this particular addiction
Speaker 1: as you start as you don't have to go cold
Speaker 1: turkey on it. You can, but that takes more discipline.
Speaker 1: But just ramping down your caffeine intake so say you're
Speaker 1: on six cups of say, let's be realistic, three cups
Speaker 1: of coffee and two energy drinks. Let's say that's what
Speaker 1: you're doing. Then ramp it down to one energy drink
Speaker 1: and two cups of coffee and do that for thirty days.
Speaker 1: Let's speak Jordan Peterson language here, Aim small, right, excuse me,
Speaker 1: aim lower. You need to make you're trying to make
Speaker 1: hit a bullseye. Hear, and you need to widen the
Speaker 1: bullseye a little bit and aim smaller, and don't worry
Speaker 1: so much about cold turkey. How do I kick this
Speaker 1: thing and make little progressions and then mark it on
Speaker 1: your calendar so you could give yourself, say, for the
Speaker 1: next ten days, I'm gonna keep this exact same habit,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna be thinking about it. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: thinking about my routine. And then after ten days, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna knock down one energy drink and two cups of
Speaker 1: coffee and then or replace that with coke zero, whatever
Speaker 1: you're drinking, and then do that for twenty days, and
Speaker 1: then mark it on your calendar. And then twenty days later,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cut all energy drinks. I'm gonna go to
Speaker 1: one cup of coffee or one coke zero. And what
Speaker 1: that's gonna do is it's gonna ramp down your body's
Speaker 1: need for that caffeine and you're not gonna think about
Speaker 1: it as much. Yeah, And I think that it's also
Speaker 1: a matter of asking yourself, you know, what is the
Speaker 1: root of this problem? What am I? What void am
Speaker 1: I filling with this caffeine? Or you know, some people
Speaker 1: out there, everybody has advice, you know, what is it
Speaker 1: with this alcohol or this drug that is filling some
Speaker 1: hole that I have? Is it because is it because
Speaker 1: it's just a sleep problem and it's just a snowball
Speaker 1: and I just like constantly need to feel energized. Or
Speaker 1: is it are you socially anxious and so you feel
Speaker 1: like you need to have energy to be sociable or
Speaker 1: is it you have it when you're stressed out and
Speaker 1: just having an honest conversation with yourself and then trying
Speaker 1: to get to the root of it rather than just
Speaker 1: thinking I just need to quit caffeine just because I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure that's bad. It's like, what's the root here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's so good, that's so good. So, especially since you're fourteen,
Speaker 1: another thing you could do is it's it's always I say,
Speaker 1: the cookie jar theory. But the cookie jar theory is,
Speaker 1: if you're you're on a diet, take the cookie jar
Speaker 1: out of the kitchen, get it out of the house,
Speaker 1: because you're not good enough. I'm not good enough as
Speaker 1: a human to be trying to be on a diet.
Speaker 1: And every day, every morning, you have to walk past
Speaker 1: the cookie jar, and it's so easy to reach in.
Speaker 1: It's much easier on yourself to just get the cookie
Speaker 1: jar out of the house when you're in a good
Speaker 1: right mind and you're not craving. It's like they say,
Speaker 1: don't go grocery shopping when you're hungry. You're gonna buy
Speaker 1: the whole grocery store. So when you're not feeling you're
Speaker 1: not really feeling caffeine, it's not really a big deal.
Speaker 1: At some part of your day, go through your fridge
Speaker 1: and get rid of all the coke, get rid of
Speaker 1: all the energy drinks, take it all out, and then
Speaker 1: you're going to be craving it and you're gonna open
Speaker 1: the fridge and go, ah, took it out. I took
Speaker 1: it out. Well, I guess I can't have one unless
Speaker 1: I literally you don't have a car, You're fourteen, so yeah,
Speaker 1: and just having a healthy, healthy amount, Like, how much
Speaker 1: more are you going to enjoy that one cup of
Speaker 1: coffee knowing that that's the only one that you get,
Speaker 1: Like that's ultimately what's going to be better for you?
Speaker 1: Like C. S. Lewis says something along along the lines
Speaker 1: of how much better is it to swim with a
Speaker 1: clear conscience when you go in through the gate versus
Speaker 1: hopping the fence in the middle of the night and
Speaker 1: potentially having all of these like harmful effects happen to you.
Speaker 1: It's like, how much more would you just enjoy that
Speaker 1: one cup of coffee with a clear conscience? Yeah? If
Speaker 1: this is I'm assuming you're fourteen, 're living with your parents,
Speaker 1: or this is a discussion you need to have with
Speaker 1: your mom too. Ok, Mom, I'm I feel like I
Speaker 1: have an addiction to caffeine? Can you help me with this? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Thank you, John, thanks for emailing buddy. Here's a here's
Speaker 1: one Parker that came in this week and it says
Speaker 1: the subject says, straightforward question, wanting straightforward answer. Morning. I
Speaker 1: have a very straightforward question, and I know it's likely
Speaker 1: been answered to. I apologize. I myself am just shy thirty,
Speaker 1: married to an incredible man. We have two beautiful, healthy kids.
Speaker 1: We are a small business owning family. I would say
Speaker 1: we are rich with love and life and that's all
Speaker 1: that matters to us. Having said that, neither myself or
Speaker 1: my husband have ever been a member of any church
Speaker 1: or any religion. We're both what I call spiritual and
Speaker 1: constantly helping and serving people. Just because we don't choose
Speaker 1: to go to a church house, read books and so on,
Speaker 1: are y'all saying we will not go to heaven. I
Speaker 1: was raised with a very simple upbringing of being a
Speaker 1: good person and good will come. Another is, if there
Speaker 1: is a God, which we do believe, there is no
Speaker 1: good God will keep you from your loved ones. I
Speaker 1: truly believe that, having lost my dad just shy of
Speaker 1: six months ago, very sudden, no doubt in my mind
Speaker 1: that he's not there, meaning he is in heaven. You
Speaker 1: can't live a life such as his and be the
Speaker 1: man that he is and not end up with the
Speaker 1: best of the best. Anyway, thank you for your time,
Speaker 1: much love, Chanda. Okay, that was not a straightforward question.
Speaker 1: It was not Chonda. That was not straightforward. I understand it.
Speaker 1: I understand exactly what you're saying, but it was not
Speaker 1: maybe as straightforward as you think. I guess she's saying,
Speaker 1: we have a lot of beautiful things that we've produced,
Speaker 1: and we are what they would consider good people, and
Speaker 1: they're saying that, they're saying, will we not go to
Speaker 1: heaven because just because we're not Christian even though we're
Speaker 1: good people. No, that's not what she's asking. She didn't
Speaker 1: say Christian. What did she say religion? And I think
Speaker 1: that's important in her question. And I could speak to
Speaker 1: this and would I would ask you, you know, if
Speaker 1: we're sitting in the around a campfire together, Chinda, I
Speaker 1: would ask you why you believe there's a God but
Speaker 1: you don't want to serve him in any way? I
Speaker 1: would ask that because otherwise you should just be an atheist,
Speaker 1: because an atheist would say, yeah, I like doing good things.
Speaker 1: It pleases me to do good things. But she is
Speaker 1: which I believe is the image of God in her.
Speaker 1: She's acknowledging that there is a place, a heaven type
Speaker 1: place after you die, and surely all good people go there.
Speaker 1: That's kind of what she's thinking, and the reason I
Speaker 1: bring I corrected you on the Christianity thing. Is it's
Speaker 1: important because you guys have heard me talk about this
Speaker 1: on my podcast of plenty, and I'm sure that's why
Speaker 1: you're asking me this, because you've heard me in previous
Speaker 1: podcast talking about Christianity. So you just want to straight
Speaker 1: up say, hey, you talk about this this Jesus. Are
Speaker 1: you telling me that I won't go to heaven if
Speaker 1: I don't believe in him? She didn't say that, she
Speaker 1: said religion. So a couple of things. This is loaded question.
Speaker 1: But here's a couple of things. One spirituality, Being spiritual
Speaker 1: and acknowledging a God and talking about religion is not
Speaker 1: what I ever talk about in this podcast. We talk
Speaker 1: about a relationship with Jesus Christ, and that is Christianity.
Speaker 1: It's different. It's not being spiritual or yeah, I'm good.
Speaker 1: It's not that that's a another religion. There's other religions
Speaker 1: that can do that. But the second thing I want
Speaker 1: to say is that what I speak to about christ
Speaker 1: and Christianity, what I speak to is I am simply
Speaker 1: being a mailman delivering the male. But I'm I'm not
Speaker 1: writing the mail, right, I'm just delivering it. So what
Speaker 1: I'm saying is not what I not what I came
Speaker 1: up with or something that I figured out. I'm just
Speaker 1: telling you what the Bible says. And the Bible is
Speaker 1: the book that Christians believe is the word of God.
Speaker 1: So I'm just telling you what the Bible says. And
Speaker 1: so if you want to straightforward answer to what the
Speaker 1: Bible says, and I say that because it's not me
Speaker 1: in any way, in my opinion, the Bible says, the
Speaker 1: answer is to you, no, you will not go to heaven.
Speaker 1: And with that, we're going to take a break. We'll
Speaker 1: be no, I'm just kidding. I'm just we get going.
Speaker 1: We'll dig get more of that, We'll dig in more.
Speaker 1: I'll do what. I acknowledge, Sehonda, that your question is
Speaker 1: very common, see it all the time. And I believe
Speaker 1: that that. I believe that that desire when you something
Speaker 1: happened with you at some point when you were looking
Speaker 1: at my Instagram or you were listening to the podcast
Speaker 1: or whatever you were doing, and you stopped and you
Speaker 1: made time in your busy day to craft an email
Speaker 1: and send it correctly to Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot
Speaker 1: com because this was on your mind and I believe
Speaker 1: there's something that within you that led you to that.
Speaker 1: Otherwise it wouldn't have mattered that much, because you just
Speaker 1: would have been convinced. Yeah, good people go to heaven.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter who you worship, what you believe, what you read,
Speaker 1: doesn't matter anything. If you're good, you're gonna go. That's
Speaker 1: what I believe. I don't care what Granger thinks. I
Speaker 1: don't care about emailing him. But that's not what happened.
Speaker 1: You pulled out your computer or your phone, and you
Speaker 1: typed this up and you sent it because you're looking
Speaker 1: for an answer. Yeah. The Bible tells us that no
Speaker 1: one is good, not even one. And so one of
Speaker 1: the things that I found in my when I found
Speaker 1: Christ was the nature of my own depravity, and that
Speaker 1: not one ounce in me is anything but a depraved wretch,
Speaker 1: a terrible person. I was sprinting to hell from the
Speaker 1: moment that I was born, saved by grace. And how
Speaker 1: common is it for humans naturally to want to define
Speaker 1: morality and what is good and what is evil on
Speaker 1: their own since the beginning of Adam and Eve. That's
Speaker 1: our oldest story is you can define what is good
Speaker 1: and evil. You can know the truth. Eat this apple
Speaker 1: and it will all be made clear to you. And
Speaker 1: how common is it for us to want to have
Speaker 1: control and want to define that for ourselves rather than
Speaker 1: to seek God's word. I would ask you a couple
Speaker 1: of questions. If we're sitting together, Chanda, I would ask
Speaker 1: you a couple of questions like this, because Parker's right on.
Speaker 1: Usually the root of a question like this is humans
Speaker 1: typically don't understand the depth of their own depravity. And
Speaker 1: when you don't understand that you're not good, and you
Speaker 1: don't understand the depth of your depravity, then you don't
Speaker 1: understand the sacrifice it took Jesus on the cross to
Speaker 1: wipe you clean to be your savior. Basically, if you
Speaker 1: don't think you need it saved, then you don't need
Speaker 1: a savior, and then Jesus doesn't exist, doesn't matter. So
Speaker 1: once again, I'm just delivering the mail. I didn't write it,
Speaker 1: but I would ask you these questions. Have you ever
Speaker 1: told a lie in your whole life? White lie, little lie, anything?
Speaker 1: And I would bet you would say yes. And I
Speaker 1: would say what do they call someone that tells a lie?
Speaker 1: A liar? And then I would say, have you ever
Speaker 1: stolen anything? Have you ever stolen anything in your entire
Speaker 1: life a song on the internet? The answer probably is yes.
Speaker 1: And then I would say, well, what do they call
Speaker 1: someone that steals a thief? Then I would say, have
Speaker 1: you ever have you ever taken the name of God
Speaker 1: in vain in any way? Have you ever said OMG
Speaker 1: on a text? Then the answer is yes. And what
Speaker 1: do they call someone that takes the name of God
Speaker 1: in vain? A blasphemer? And then I would say, have
Speaker 1: you ever looked at a man at all with lust sexually?
Speaker 1: Have you ever looked at a man with lust sexually?
Speaker 1: And you, of course you would say yes some point
Speaker 1: that's not your husband, you'd say yes. And I would say,
Speaker 1: Jesus says that if you look upon another person with lust,
Speaker 1: you have committed adultery. So I would say, so far, Chonda,
Speaker 1: here's how we would describe you. A lying, thieving, blaspheming, adulterous.
Speaker 1: That's what you are so far. And we haven't even
Speaker 1: gotten into the hate or any of the other things
Speaker 1: that are part of your life. Pay I'm not singling
Speaker 1: you out because look, my hand is raised. I am
Speaker 1: with you. I'm a lying, thieving blaspheming, adulter. That's who
Speaker 1: I am, and that's who we all are. We are,
Speaker 1: we are broken, and until we truly realize that, we
Speaker 1: realize at what point of good would allow you and
Speaker 1: your worldview to get into heaven? And at what point
Speaker 1: what line in the sand do you finally cross and
Speaker 1: God goes, Oh, congratulations, Shonda. You are a good person.
Speaker 1: And if you have subtracted just three more water old
Speaker 1: ladies across the street, you might not have made it,
Speaker 1: but you just made the perfect quota, and so you're
Speaker 1: on the good side. Welcome to Heaven. I don't want
Speaker 1: to speak I don't want to speak about your dad
Speaker 1: because I lost my dad too, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to say anything bad about him. And I could say
Speaker 1: this about your dad. We don't know what happens to
Speaker 1: someone on their deathbed. We don't know what kind of
Speaker 1: supernatural conversion or what could have happened, so we cannot
Speaker 1: speak to that at all. But I'm speaking to you
Speaker 1: and your heart, and I want you to know the
Speaker 1: depths of your depravity, and that the Bible says no
Speaker 1: one is good and we are not saved by works
Speaker 1: of any kind. We're not we're saved by grace, through
Speaker 1: faith and Jesus alone. And two thousand years ago God
Speaker 1: became flesh. He came to earth as a man, one
Speaker 1: hundred percent God, one hundred percent man. And he lived
Speaker 1: a perfect life to show us how to live, to
Speaker 1: show us how to worship. And he was hated for that.
Speaker 1: He was killed for that, hung on a cross, and
Speaker 1: he died in front of all his disciples, in front
Speaker 1: of hundreds of people. He died, And during that time
Speaker 1: he atoned for our sin, and he took on the weight,
Speaker 1: and he felt the pain, and he felt the death
Speaker 1: and the blood and the nails in his hands, in
Speaker 1: his feet. Then he took on all of that, all
Speaker 1: of the pain, all of the suffering, all the abandonment,
Speaker 1: all the lies and evil of the world. He took
Speaker 1: it on for us so that we could be saved
Speaker 1: through him. Three days later he was resurrected. He rose
Speaker 1: from the dead in front of hundreds. He came out
Speaker 1: of that tomb and appeared to hundreds of people eyewitnesses
Speaker 1: who wrote it down and spread that message like wildfire.
Speaker 1: This message spread out all through the Near East and
Speaker 1: Greece and Western Europe, and people took this and they
Speaker 1: saw it, and they wrote it, and they passed it,
Speaker 1: and they wrote letters to other people that lived during
Speaker 1: that time, and they all died for it because the
Speaker 1: message was that valuable. And when these people saw him resurrected,
Speaker 1: they saw it with their own eyes, and they changed
Speaker 1: and they died for that message. So that is the
Speaker 1: story of the gospel. And with your acknowledgment of your depravity,
Speaker 1: which we call repentance, it's God. I'm sorry. I've messed up.
Speaker 1: I'm not good. I'm messed up. I've messed up. I
Speaker 1: thought I was good. I thought I walked enough old
Speaker 1: ladies across the street. I thought I was spiritual. I
Speaker 1: thought I thought I know said the right things, taught
Speaker 1: my kids the right way. But I was wrong. I'm
Speaker 1: not worthy. I'm not worthy of the almighty creator of
Speaker 1: the universe. That's not I can't be worthy. Thank you
Speaker 1: for saving me through this. You gave me an opportunity,
Speaker 1: and all we're asked to do is believe that, and
Speaker 1: you're saved. Well said. I love the scene of John
Speaker 1: McCall arthur on Larry King Live that I know you've
Speaker 1: seen several times. And Larry King had a show where
Speaker 1: he would have individuals call in, and he would have
Speaker 1: on this particular show, he had different representatives from every
Speaker 1: major world religion. He had Judaism, Islam, he had an atheist, Buddhism,
Speaker 1: and listening to each one of these individuals speak, it
Speaker 1: is very clear that every other major world religion has
Speaker 1: you working your way to heaven and your salvation is
Speaker 1: based on your works here on earth, and Christianity is
Speaker 1: the only religion that says there's nothing that you could do.
Speaker 1: You are not deserving of eternal life, even though you
Speaker 1: think you are, and we're naturally thinking that we're entitled
Speaker 1: to it, and thank God, and it just makes sense.
Speaker 1: It's thank God only through the sacrifice of Christ. Aren't
Speaker 1: you glad that it's there's not a Santa Claus God
Speaker 1: up there with a good and naughty list, a good
Speaker 1: and a naughty list that gives you check marks every
Speaker 1: time you do something good, and if you get enough
Speaker 1: check marks, you're finally going to get to heaven. You
Speaker 1: do enough good things and hopefully, man, hopefully by the
Speaker 1: time I die, I've done enough good and I'll just
Speaker 1: be with God, hopefully. Isn't that? Isn't that scary. And
Speaker 1: I'll say this one more thing to you, Chonda. You
Speaker 1: believe there's a God. Wouldn't you believe that a God
Speaker 1: that created this universe, that created you and his image
Speaker 1: would have given you a way to know him. And
Speaker 1: we believe that's the Bible. It's not a mystery. It's
Speaker 1: not a I wonder who God is. I wonder what
Speaker 1: He thinks of me. When we actually have a book
Speaker 1: that tells us exactly was written over the course of
Speaker 1: fifteen hundred years, over forty different authors, over every subject
Speaker 1: you can imagine, inspired by God in every way historically accurate,
Speaker 1: that we could trace this back and the story of
Speaker 1: the Gospel that I said, you know, Paul says in
Speaker 1: Romans that that story I told you is the power
Speaker 1: of the Gospel is the power of God for salvation.
Speaker 1: So what it does is when you hear the story,
Speaker 1: it either triggers you and you feel it that within you.
Speaker 1: You feel that trigger and you go, I'm in. Or
Speaker 1: it plants a seed where maybe five years down the
Speaker 1: road you remember that and it triggers you, or it doesn't.
Speaker 1: It doesn't. So there's people listening right now that go
Speaker 1: that is the biggest fairy tale hogwash I've ever heard
Speaker 1: in my life. I understand that that's biblical too. That
Speaker 1: some people will just think, no way, that's foolish, foolishness,
Speaker 1: and God says you reject him, you become a fool
Speaker 1: in that way, and it's going to sound like foolishness.
Speaker 1: But there's other people, and this is who I'm talking to.
Speaker 1: There's other people listening right now that go I want
Speaker 1: to know more about this because I thought I thought
Speaker 1: this whole spiritual religious thing was all the same. But
Speaker 1: Grangeer's telling me it's not. And that's who I'm speaking to,
Speaker 1: and that's what's that's what's important to me. So Shanda
Speaker 1: email back. Would you would you email back if this
Speaker 1: mattered to you, if this made sense to you, and
Speaker 1: give me a straightforward answer back like I gave it
Speaker 1: to you. Give me a straightforward answer back this mattered
Speaker 1: to me? Or Granger you are a looney, but either way,
Speaker 1: email back. We got we got a little ticker on
Speaker 1: time that says we're just about out of time? Part well,
Speaker 1: would you come back next week? Am I being invited back?
Speaker 1: Could I invite you back on the podcast right now?
Speaker 1: Will you come back next week and we'll knock out
Speaker 1: the rest of these questions. I will be here perfect
Speaker 1: in the same shirt. Probably we'll see you guys. Love you.
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