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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og story

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Speaker 3: Oh you, my friend mocked me behind my back, but

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Speaker 3: she didn't know I could understand their language.

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Speaker 1: Choc Let Blue, my maid of Otto.

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Speaker 3: Marlene thirty six female, was a close friend of mine.

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Speaker 3: I was born in the US but grew up in Japan.

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Speaker 3: We permanently moved back to the US over a decade ago,

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Speaker 3: so I didn't have any friends around, but it didn't

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Speaker 3: bother me much since I'm very introverted. By the way,

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Speaker 3: This comes from Hikari Sukura on the Okay Storytime subpreddit.

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Speaker 3: So we met just a year after I moved after

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Speaker 3: one of my friends introduced us on Facebook, so she

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Speaker 3: and I clicked right away. We didn't see each other

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Speaker 3: much as I'm an introvert. Therefore I enjoy my own

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Speaker 3: space and she is her own circle. But we became

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Speaker 3: good friends. This will be important later. Six years ago,

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Speaker 3: I thirty three female, got married to my husband let's

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Speaker 3: call him Luke. After just a few months of dating

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Speaker 3: I asked Marlene to be my maid of honor, and

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Speaker 3: she accepted. I should have put things into perspective, but

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Speaker 3: I could tell she wasn't happy about my upcoming marriage.

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Speaker 3: She would say things like, are you sure about this?

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Speaker 3: Or dude, he's white, we're Asians, she's Filipina and I'm

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Speaker 3: Chinese Japanese. Oh hope, he says bro. Anyway, we got married.

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Speaker 3: The ceremony was really memorable. Everybody was happy. Fast forward

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Speaker 3: October twenty twenty, I found out she was pregnant and

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Speaker 3: was due March twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's.

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Speaker 3: Exciting, hopefully hopefully. I was so happy for her. She

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Speaker 3: never told me once that she was dating, and I

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Speaker 3: guy at the time I got engaged. That's pretty weird

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Speaker 3: that she was your maid of honor and you didn't

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Speaker 3: know she was dating anyone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's pregnant.

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Speaker 3: I asked why she never told me, but she said

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Speaker 3: she just wasn't sure about him. Sounds fair, right, I

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Speaker 3: don't think so, since it was COVID nineteen times. She

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Speaker 3: sent me an invite for her baby shower in February

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Speaker 3: twenty twenty one, and I was happy. Maybe it's just

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Speaker 3: because I I have like a totally different style of

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Speaker 3: friendship where I tell people everything about me immediately. That's true,

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Speaker 4: But that's true. That is true, and you do be considerate,

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Speaker 4: and you're like, did I already tell you this?

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Speaker 3: I offered to help her for the party, but she

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Speaker 3: said her other friends got it covered. One week before

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Speaker 3: told her I'll drop off my gifts to her and

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Speaker 3: her baby and boxes of diapers, and she said her husband,

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Speaker 3: Ed will meet me in the corner of the street,

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Speaker 3: about a block away from their house.

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Speaker 4: Husband. Yeah, they just got married. I thought they were, like,

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Speaker 3: I thought that was weird, but okay. I drove there,

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Speaker 3: waited for thirty minutes. I texted and called her multiple

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Speaker 3: going to her house, and to my surprise, there were

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Speaker 3: a lot of people there. Yeah, they were like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: we're not throwing the party, but they just didn't want

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Speaker 3: to invite Opee, which is so strange, and.

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Speaker 1: Someone would be hurt by that, you know.

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Speaker 3: Like you weren't in man. That would be really rude.

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Speaker 3: If you invited all other friends and one person was

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Speaker 3: because he was busy cooking for the party, and I

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Speaker 3: said it's okay. He apparently was cooking for over fifty people.

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Speaker 3: Filipino parties are big. I was just going to drop

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Speaker 3: off the gifts and leave until one of Marlene's friends

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Speaker 4: Oh no.

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Speaker 3: In tacalog. She asked if I was the chief girl

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Speaker 3: and ED responded, yep, it's this fat chick. Oh and

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Speaker 3: they started laughing in front of me. I pretended not

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Speaker 4: That is so sad.

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Speaker 3: That's ridiculous.

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Speaker 4: Why I have enemies when you have friends like this.

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Speaker 3: I assume that Marlene's been pretty to these types of

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Speaker 3: conversations where she's heard them talking about her suppose it

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Speaker 4: As a her just because of who she married.

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Speaker 3: Ridiculous. One thing Marlene didn't tell them is I'm a polyglog,

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Speaker 3: but I fluently speak Mandarin, Japanese English, and Tagalog was

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Speaker 3: with my life. She sent me a text explaining that

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Speaker 3: in case I was wondering why there were a lot

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Speaker 3: of people, it was because people didn't receive the message

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Speaker 3: right away.

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Speaker 4: Freaking liar, Like, just don't n up, Like Opie doesn't

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Speaker 4: care because she's an introvert, so she probably doesn't even

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Speaker 3: Literally, just don't up to it. I said, it's fine

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Speaker 3: and no harm done. Didn't even make me for the gifts,

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Speaker 3: but at that point I didn't care. I was numb.

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Speaker 3: I didn't text her from then on. Seven months later,

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Speaker 3: she sent me an invite to her wedding. What she

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Speaker 3: just wants gifts?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, gimme, gimme, don't bring the white dude. Gimme gimme.

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Speaker 3: I guess they hadn't been married at that point. I

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Speaker 3: think she Ope was just calling.

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Speaker 4: See I have a reading comprehension. You're ever gas eyeing me.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, that's my bad, I said, we regretfully declined

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Speaker 3: because of our work, but we'll mail her our wedding gift.

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Speaker 3: Don't even give her a wedding gift. On the invite,

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Speaker 3: I saw that she assigned her friend from the baby shower.

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Speaker 3: Let's call her Fatima, to receive the gifts at her

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Speaker 3: place because their house is a mess from all the

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Speaker 3: baby I had a light bulb moment. I told Marlene

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Speaker 3: that I'll mail a five hundred dollars gift card to

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Speaker 3: Fatima's place, and she said thanks. Took a photo of

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Speaker 3: lookout for it. She confirmed the address. I didn't mail it.

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Speaker 3: I kept the gift card and ripped the chase out

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Speaker 3: She tried calling me asking me if I had mailed

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Speaker 3: me and I answered. She said she and Fatima had

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Speaker 3: a huge fight and she accused her of stealing the

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Speaker 3: all ended in Fatima throwing out all the gifts from

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Speaker 3: I acted like I was disgusted, but I wanted to laugh.

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Speaker 3: By the way, you can always laugh with us by

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Speaker 3: joining us live every week to at three PMPSD on YouTube,

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Speaker 3: Facebook and TikTok. And there's a little bit left to

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Speaker 3: the story before we managed it off.

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Speaker 4: Never cross an introvert that has time on their hands.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I understand, like, obviously your friend sucks. And don't

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Speaker 3: know if I can condone this behavior. I think I

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Speaker 3: would have just been like, I'm not sending a gift,

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Speaker 3: but this is pretty smart. This is smart. Don't know

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Speaker 3: if I would have done it, nor would I condone it.

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Speaker 4: But you know, your maid of honor is now using

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Speaker 4: you as a money bag.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well no, I would probably just cut her off. I

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Speaker 3: don't think I would entertain it. But you know, oh,

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Speaker 3: he's got her own journey to go on and that's

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Speaker 4: Without people like you, we want to have stories like this,

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Speaker 4: so this is pretty smart. It really does show her

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's a little bit more. She asked me

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Speaker 3: the card, but I told her I'll do what I can.

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Speaker 3: We ended the phone call and Luke noticed the grin

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Speaker 3: on my face. I eventually told him everything, and he

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Speaker 3: He was sad and upset considering he spoke to her

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Speaker 3: thought I went too far with the stolen gift card ployt.

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Speaker 3: I know this isn't a question of Anni I am

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Speaker 3: an a whole, but a case of I know I'm

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Speaker 3: an a hole. Yeah, it is an ale move. I

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Speaker 3: haven't spoken to her since then. She asked me a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she did mock her. I did, forget about it.

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Speaker 3: Her friend didn't, but the boyfriend at the time and

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Speaker 1: Did, but she still let it happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean she probably talked behind her back about

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Speaker 4: That girl did not know OPI she only knew her

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Speaker 3: That's true. Yeah, no, I mean honestly, like, I think

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Speaker 3: everyone stucks here. I think that's the situation. Yeah, it

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Speaker 3: was a bit far, but you know, also.

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Speaker 4: I liked Op's little move. I know it caused some damage,

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Speaker 4: but those people had choices and they made those choices. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I guess you don't cross Ope.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just don't cross her. And she did it so

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Speaker 4: sneakily like the husband you even know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, man, but that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 4: My best friend married a toxic man. She kicked me

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's a bad friend.

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Speaker 4: Chloe and I were best friends in high school. We

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Speaker 4: could sit down at a kitchen table talking for hours,

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Speaker 4: perfectly content and entertain in each other's company. When Chloe

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Speaker 4: got her driver's license, I rode shotgun while she drove

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Speaker 4: around town because she was nervous about driving Alan. By

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Speaker 4: the way, this comes from Dingo's eight Miamo on the

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Speaker 4: r Slash Okay story Tom Subrede. So things changed when

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Speaker 4: Chloe started dating an older guy named Wade. He was

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Speaker 4: in his mid twenties. Chloe and I were barely eighteen.

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Speaker 4: It foh icky to me, but Chloe's parents were thrilled

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Speaker 4: with the match. Interesting they known Wade since he was

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Speaker 4: a kidd. If Chloe's parents were okay with it, who

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Speaker 4: was I to question it.

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Speaker 3: I don't truss that.

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Speaker 4: I think you know how to do math, and no

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Speaker 4: one else here does. From then on, all of our

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Speaker 4: invited to Chloe's parents' house one weekend. Chloe picked me

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Speaker 4: up with Wade in tow instead of the low key

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Speaker 4: kitchen table chat I was expecting. We arrived at a

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Speaker 4: Yeah do is tab her profile. But dang, dude, this

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Speaker 4: It's Chloe's first relationship too. Chloe and Wade got married

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Speaker 4: We caught up over Facebook, and while we're not close

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Speaker 3: reconnected with another old friend and her friends, and happened

437
00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:04,160
Speaker 3: to me through her my current boyfriend. This is another

438
00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,000
Speaker 3: story for another time, but needless to say, I was

439
00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:10,640
Speaker 3: smitten and lost any and all feelings i'd once had

440
00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,639
Speaker 3: for my ex. And when eventually confronted by a different

441
00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:16,000
Speaker 3: friend we'll call him Tim from the friend group John

442
00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:19,120
Speaker 3: and I belong to, I admitted I had no intentions

443
00:19:19,119 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 3: of starting my relationship with John again. Tim was angry

444
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:24,959
Speaker 3: with me and informed me that John had been waiting

445
00:19:24,960 --> 00:19:26,200
Speaker 3: for me to come back to him.

446
00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:27,760
Speaker 1: Oh boy, why.

447
00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:31,119
Speaker 3: And was apparently heartbroken over a breakup and he wanted

448
00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:31,680
Speaker 3: me back.

449
00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,359
Speaker 4: It's been months, it's been more than months now, it

450
00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,840
Speaker 4: has it has so this is the first one, it's

451
00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 4: first serious relationship.

452
00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,679
Speaker 3: Yeah. So Tim convinced me to go and speak to

453
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,960
Speaker 3: my ex John and let him know that I'd moved

454
00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:45,520
Speaker 3: on and I didn't want to be together again so

455
00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:48,959
Speaker 3: John would have some closure. So, being the impressionable and

456
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:52,000
Speaker 3: sensitive girl I was, I did this. I invited John

457
00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:54,280
Speaker 3: out to lunch and told him as kindly as I

458
00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,679
Speaker 3: could that I cared about him, but not in the

459
00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:58,680
Speaker 3: way he wanted, and that I had met someone else

460
00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:01,320
Speaker 3: recently that I wanted to pursue a relationship with. He

461
00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,159
Speaker 3: seemed to take it well, and we parted ways on

462
00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:08,680
Speaker 3: what I assumed were friendly terms. But apparently I was mistaken.

463
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 4: Oh no, he went into revenge mode.

464
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:13,400
Speaker 3: It's just going like, I have to date her best

465
00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:17,440
Speaker 3: friend everywhere. Now before I continue, we've got to rewind again.

466
00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 3: Bear with me, please, I had a best friend through

467
00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 3: all of this. She was, for all intents and purposes,

468
00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:26,240
Speaker 3: my soulmate bestie. We'll call her Anna. Anna and I

469
00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:29,320
Speaker 3: understood each other in a way few did, at least

470
00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 3: this is what I believe, and we belonged to the

471
00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:34,400
Speaker 3: same friend group that John did. We were fast friends

472
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:38,439
Speaker 3: and nearly inseparable. We did everything together, and I loved

473
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:41,200
Speaker 3: Anna like she was my very own sister. To this day,

474
00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 3: I still treasure fond memories of us growing up and

475
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,639
Speaker 3: experiencing life together, and I do often wish we hadn't

476
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,920
Speaker 3: grown a part or had the problem that we did.

477
00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:53,119
Speaker 3: It was really stupid. Now, Anna was Anne is of

478
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,840
Speaker 3: course gorgeous. He had the most beautiful voice, and was

479
00:20:56,880 --> 00:21:00,280
Speaker 3: incredibly smart and talented. Everyone who met her could admit

480
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:03,359
Speaker 3: she was and probably still is a lovely person. So

481
00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 3: about three or four years later it came as no

482
00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 3: mass as surprise when she reached out to me and

483
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 3: asked if I minded if she dated my ex John,

484
00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,920
Speaker 3: who had asked her out a small get together reunion

485
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 3: that I hadn't been able to go to.

486
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it sounds like this is typical small town behavior.

487
00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 3: Also, they have the same friend group.

488
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 4: That's how things developed because there's not a lot. If

489
00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:27,760
Speaker 4: that happened here, well.

490
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 3: It actually would kind of make sense. It aren't. We

491
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:33,119
Speaker 3: have like a very I could see widespread friend group.

492
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, but your best friend dating because this is her

493
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 4: best friend, that would be weird if my best friend

494
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:41,200
Speaker 4: started dating my acts. It's like if mister Steve said, hey, I.

495
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,480
Speaker 3: Feel like we talked about the things that didn't work

496
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 3: out here. I don't like when you tell people like, oh,

497
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:47,119
Speaker 3: this wasn't working out.

498
00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 1: They're in a loop.

499
00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:50,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, they know all the things like why do you

500
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:50,880
Speaker 3: want to go date them?

501
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:54,560
Speaker 4: I think John's fault was he liked Opie a lot,

502
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 4: and Opie did not feel the same, and that's why

503
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 4: he was starting to get resentful she was not reciprocating

504
00:21:59,440 --> 00:21:59,880
Speaker 4: his love.

505
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:02,439
Speaker 3: I myself have been dating my now boyfriend for a

506
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 3: couple of years at this point, and we were blissfully happy,

507
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:07,919
Speaker 3: and I had moved some hours away, and everyone in

508
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 3: our friend group was much too busy to spend a

509
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,879
Speaker 3: lot of time together. So I hadn't seen my ex

510
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 3: or my best friend for a good while. But I

511
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 3: had no hard feelings towards John, seeing as I thought

512
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,679
Speaker 3: we'd parted amicably. So when Anna asked if I minded

513
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 3: that she dated John, I told her happily that I

514
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 3: don't mind at all, and I hope they had a

515
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:29,120
Speaker 3: great relationship. I was too stoked to see my bestie

516
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,600
Speaker 3: find someone she really seemed to love, and I thought

517
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:34,120
Speaker 3: John would be a great boyfriend for her because at

518
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,640
Speaker 3: the time I still respected and cared about John as

519
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 3: an old friend. So Anna and John started dating, and

520
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 3: for a while, she and I stayed in touch as

521
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,159
Speaker 3: often as possible. She was renting a room from one

522
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 3: of my close family members, so when I would visit

523
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 3: my family, i'd get to see her, and all in all,

524
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 3: we were really like family. She was dear to me,

525
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 3: and my family loved her and were just as happy

526
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,800
Speaker 3: as I was to see her in love with John. However,

527
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 3: six or seven months into the relationship, things got weird.

528
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 3: Oh oh, they'd gotten engaged and she didn't tell me

529
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: right away. Oh my gosh, that's your best friend. Do

530
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 3: you know anyone that's got engaged that quickly. No, I

531
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 3: know a couple that got engaged seven weeks into dating.

532
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 3: You don't know anything about that person, Yeah, you really don't.

533
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 3: I heard it from my family, and then when I

534
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 3: asked her about it, she told me and admitted she

535
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 3: forgot to let me know. I don't buy it. If

536
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 3: that's your best friend, I don't buy that. I know. Again,

537
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 3: I tell my best friend's things immediately.

538
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,400
Speaker 4: Whatever I gonna get engaged, well, I guess I'll tell

539
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 4: you guys.

540
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 3: When I started dating my ex, like I came down,

541
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 3: I was like, I got a freaking boyfriend.

542
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was there. I witness that happening.

543
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 3: And then also when I got broken up stipped immediately.

544
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 4: It was funny because I was there, Like, moments before

545
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:48,199
Speaker 4: you got together and moments after you guys, don't you

546
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 4: worry girl, I got you. I'll facilitating out here.

547
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's working hard. We'll see, we'll check the video

548
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 3: comes out.

549
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm working on being a matchmaker.

550
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 3: Everyone in the discord go message me and be like.

551
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: Hey, what's your what's your relationship going?

552
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 3: What happened?

553
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 1: So guinea big true.

554
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 3: I forgave this and figured it was just because we

555
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 3: both had so much going on. I was working a

556
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 3: lot in a city a couple hours from her, and

557
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 3: she was going to school and working and now planning

558
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: a wedding. However, after that conversation, Anna started being distant,

559
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 3: too busy to call or text or talk on social media,

560
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:24,360
Speaker 3: and yet again I stupidly didn't see the red flags

561
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 3: and assumed it was because of everything going on in

562
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 3: our life. As things progressed, I learned that my family member,

563
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 3: a cousin will call her Shelley, was planning Anna and

564
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 3: John's wedding, and she was so very excited to put

565
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 3: her event planning skills to work for one of her

566
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 3: favorite friends. So, while Shelley kept me updated about John

567
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 3: and Anna's upcoming wedding, I started to plan on going

568
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 3: to my best friend's wedding. Okay, I hadn't expected to

569
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 3: be made a bridesmaid, but it hoped, but hadn't received

570
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 3: anything from Anna, so then made the assumption I was

571
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:56,120
Speaker 3: just a guess, which was fine too, But as time

572
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 3: went by I didn't receive an invite or much connection

573
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,919
Speaker 3: with Anna, more and more anxious. Eventually I stopped hearing

574
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 3: anything from Anna altogether. And yet again I clung to

575
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 3: the hope that it was because she was busy. But sadly,

576
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 3: when I spoke to Shelley about it, everything fell apart

577
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 3: and I was devastated. Oh no, Anna and John didn't

578
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: want me at their wedding, and instead of speaking to

579
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 3: me themselves and letting me know I wasn't invited for

580
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 3: whatever reason, they told Shelley to tell me how cowardly.

581
00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, how coward Well. John is pretty hurt. You know

582
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 4: about the first lave theory. Yeah, I think that is on.

583
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, you can't have her in the wedding,

584
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 3: Like she can't be at the wedding at all, or

585
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 3: I'll say her name.

586
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, he wants her so much, but he only could

587
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 4: settle for the friend he can't get over. He's like

588
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 4: Laurie when he settled for Amy. This is what he

589
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 4: feels like.

590
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 3: Dang, And instead of speaking to me themselves and letting

591
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 3: me know I wasn't invited for whatever reason, they told

592
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 3: Shelley to tell me. Now a little bit about Shelley.

593
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,439
Speaker 3: She'd recently lost a family member and was in a

594
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 3: very sensitive emotional state, and with this added weight of

595
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 3: having to tell me something so uncomfortab it made her

596
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 3: really upset. She felt trapped in the middle of everything

597
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 3: and didn't know what to do. And eventually she let

598
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 3: me know in tears how she felt. And of course

599
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: I was pretty mad. Not only had my best friend

600
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,880
Speaker 3: not invited me to her wedding with my ex, she'd

601
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: not bothered to tell me herself and involved my cousin,

602
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 3: who was already having a very difficult time. Now, this

603
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: next part is a real doozy. Apparently my cousin expressed

604
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 3: how she felt Anna, and of course, instead of reaching

605
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,360
Speaker 3: out to me herself, she had my ex. John texted me.

606
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:33,199
Speaker 1: Oh, what perod is?

607
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 4: John is puppeteering the friend. Yeah, he's puppeteering Anna in

608
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 4: a way. This is him getting revenge on Op's.

609
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 3: I've stolen your friend, Ikey. This was so out of

610
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,880
Speaker 3: the blue, I was shook. Apparently we needed to discuss

611
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 3: our previous relationship, and from what it sounded like to me,

612
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:55,199
Speaker 3: he wasn't over me. Oh no, and Yetie was marrying

613
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 3: my best friend and she knew about it. That's why

614
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 3: you're not invited to the wedding. I, with the help

615
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 3: of my amazing boyfriend at the time, was able to

616
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 3: respond politely but firmly that no, I would not discuss

617
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 3: our high school relationship with him, but that there was

618
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 3: no hard feelings between us, and I would at that

619
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 3: point politely decline a wedding invitation if they sent me one.

620
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 3: John seem annoyed and taken aback, but what the heck?

621
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 3: I wasn't going to discuss an old high school relationship

622
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 3: with him while he was preparing to marry my best friend.

623
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 3: I thanked him and sent my best friend O well

624
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 3: wishes text and blocked them both everywhere, And honestly, I

625
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 3: wish I could say there was some funny, starky ending,

626
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 3: but no, they got married. All our friends and even

627
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 3: my family was there, but I wasn't. I was hurt

628
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 3: and upset and did cry a lot, and realized that

629
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 3: my friendship with my bestI was over. We did on

630
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 3: occasions speak at events we both happened to be at,

631
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 3: and she tried to talk to me about it and

632
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: even eventually apologized, And while I did forgive her, I

633
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 3: decided our relationship would never recover. And to this day,

634
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 3: I don't understand why they did everything the way they did.

635
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,520
Speaker 3: But what I do understand is.

636
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 1: That you can join us live, but where.

637
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 3: On YouTube, Facebook, TikTok and Twitch?

638
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 1: How do I do that?

639
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 3: Just have our rofile?

640
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: Okay? Oh win? I three PMPSD wow every day.

641
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 4: Every weekday, and there's a little bit left. Someone is

642
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 4: hurt and has not processed their emotions.

643
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 3: He's not over his first girlfriend, and that's embarrassing.

644
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:22,199
Speaker 4: Yep.

645
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, because you're about to marry another girl. That's ichy.

646
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 4: This is so ichy.

647
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 1: I don't really like how he's approaching this.

648
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 3: No, you approach it in the worst way possible. Absolutely,

649
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 3: really really go to therapy, dude, go to therapy.

650
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:35,200
Speaker 4: Yep. Agreed.

651
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 3: I'm pretty over it now because if either of them

652
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 3: truly cared about me as a friend, they would have

653
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 3: handled it much differently. So I don't see the point

654
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 3: in feeling but hurt about it anymore. Too much unnecessary stress.

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Speaker 3: Got to live my best life now and enjoy the

656
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Speaker 3: people in my life that don't cause myself and my

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Speaker 3: family discomfort. As Charlotte says, living well is the best revenge.

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Speaker 3: I wish them well, But dang it. If it wasn't

659
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Speaker 3: one of those stupid drama lama wedding situations, I'd be in.

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Speaker 3: I hope everyone enjoyed this. I'll be checking in on

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Speaker 3: the comments if anyone has any clarifying questions, comments, or

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Speaker 3: snide remarks to make. And that is the end of

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Speaker 3: that story.

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Speaker 5: My brother accidentally hired the creepiest wedding officiant.

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Speaker 1: He ruined the ceremony.

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00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 4: Sounds like it came straight from Seinfeld.

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Speaker 5: This takes place about two and a half years ago,

670
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 5: when the officiant of my brother's wedding, who was also

671
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 5: the bride's father's best friend, completely ruined the brother's ceremony.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from user Mortgage on the

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Speaker 5: r slash Okay storytime subbreddit.

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Speaker 1: So for a context, my sister in law wanted.

675
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Speaker 5: To have her uncle officiate her wedding, but a few

676
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 5: months beforehand he was diagnosed with lung cancer. This is

677
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 5: when the Donkey, who is sister in law's father's best

678
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 5: friend of many years, offered to take her uncle's place

679
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 5: and a officiate the wedding. By the way, the uncle

680
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 5: is doing well and is in remission as of today.

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Speaker 1: Nice Now.

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Speaker 5: The wedding was being held at a resort in Cancun,

683
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 5: which is great for me because.

684
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Speaker 1: The legal drinking age they were late teen.

685
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 5: I was a bridesmaid, but because I live in Texas

686
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 5: and my brother and sister in law live in California,

687
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 5: I was unable to be a part of any bachelorette activities.

688
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 5: This didn't bother me, but it meant that I did

689
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 5: not know or was not very familiar with most of

690
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 5: the bridal party. Being three states away also meant that

691
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 5: I had never met Donkey before, but I honestly consider

692
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 5: that a blessing. At some point a couple days before

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00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 5: the wedding, I had actually noticed him hanging around sister

694
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 5: in law's father, but I had no idea who he was. Honestly,

695
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 5: there wasn't much to notice about him other than he

696
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 5: gave off creepy uncle vibes. I'm imagining like Uncle Jack

697
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 5: from It's Always Sonny in Philadelphia. No, at the wedding rehearsal,

698
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 5: he was absolutely nowhere to be found. Or maybe I

699
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 5: was just too hung over to notice. Yeah, Cancun will

700
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 5: do that to you.

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00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 1: Now.

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00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 5: I'm not well versed in weddings or wedding etiquette, but

703
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 5: I'm pretty sure that the person who's responsible for guiding

704
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 5: the flow of the ceremony would want to be at

705
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 5: the literal rehearsal for the wedding he's officiating the next day.

706
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 5: But I digress. The rehearsal goes off without a hitch,

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00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 5: and everyone heads to the beachside restaurant where the dinner

708
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 5: is being held. There is where I would have my

709
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 5: first encounter with him. I'm seated at the end of

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00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 5: the table with the rest of the bridal party. The

711
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 5: dinner orders have already been taken, and everybody is enjoying

712
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 5: small talk with their neighbors in Abby Lee voice, when

713
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 5: out of a sudden, I feel a heavy presence on

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00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 5: my left side and I look over to see none

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00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 5: other than the Donkey kneeling next to me. He introduces

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00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 5: himself with his name, let's say Rick. But he finishes

717
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 5: his statement by saying with one eye, and then proceeds

718
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 5: to shove his finger into his eye, which turned out

719
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 5: to be fake and made of glass. Looking around at

720
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 5: the bridesmaids and groomsmen that were sitting closest to me,

721
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 5: all of them were clearly very uncomfortable looking in any

722
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 5: direction other than ours, and I could tell that I

723
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 5: would not be receiving any backup whatsoever despite the weird introduction.

724
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 5: I tell him my name and shake his hand, which

725
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 5: was kind of sweaty, and he proceeds to ask me

726
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 5: how I know the bride and groom? Loki, why are

727
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 5: we shaming someone for having hyph brideroses he probably had

728
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 5: claiming hands. He was nervous. He'd been planning that bit

729
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 5: with the eyeball.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how this guy is, but I definitely

731
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 4: know Opie is under the age of twenty one. Ohp

732
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 4: He's like, yeah, eighteen, Maybe you should check that one

733
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 4: eye you got that Rick.

734
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 5: He asked me how I knew the bride and groom.

735
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 5: I inform him that I'm the groom's sister. He then

736
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 5: gets this creepy look on his face and looks between

737
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 5: my brother who's on the opposite side of the long

738
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 5: table and I and says, ah, I see looks run

739
00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 5: in the family, all right, Not cool with that.

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Speaker 1: That's why he was so sweaty.

741
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:05,720
Speaker 5: He's so sweaty because he's like, look at all these hotties. Gross,

742
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 5: that's gross.

743
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 1: Mind you. My brother is actually my stepbrother.

744
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 5: I gave him a small laugh because the only other

745
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 5: alternative would be to.

746
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: Hit him right in his stupid glass eye.

747
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 5: But I wasn't going to cause a scene at my

748
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 5: brother's rehearsal dinner.

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00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 1: Also, that's not the only alternative. Your only choices when.

750
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 5: Confronted with an awkward encounter are not like complete ignorance.

751
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 4: Probably like instinct. She's probably saying her instinct was a

752
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 4: punch just guy in the eye.

753
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 5: But I wasn't going to cause a scene at my

754
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 5: brother's rehearsal dinner. He then continues to say something along

755
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 5: the lines of you know, back in my day, if

756
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 5: I had seen you. Ooh, unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, he

757
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 5: didn't finish what he was saying as the weight staff

758
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 5: started to swarm around us to deliver our fresh meals.

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00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 5: After he was interrupted, he just looks back at me

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00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 5: and excuses himself, stating the food is coming out and

761
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,040
Speaker 5: that he has to go back to his table. He

762
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 5: was genuinely at a loss for what to think after

763
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 5: the weird interaction I had. It wasn't until the bridesmaid

764
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 5: next to me filled me in on who he is exactly.

765
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 5: It turns out that he is the officiant sister in

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00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 5: law's father's best friend, and the woman sitting next to

767
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 5: him at the table is his seventh.

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00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 4: Wife trying to find an eighth Hey, he's looking.

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00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 1: For the eighth right now.

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00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 5: Some of the other bridesmaids started to speak up about

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Speaker 5: their own experiences with him and how much of a

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00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 5: creepy is.

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00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:30,879
Speaker 1: Basically, the general consensus.

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00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:34,240
Speaker 5: Is that this man is weird a f The next morning,

775
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 5: which was the day of the wedding, goes smoothly, with

776
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 5: only a few minor setbacks and adjustments needing to be made,

777
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 5: but otherwise getting ready was an easy going process. All

778
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 5: in all, the sister in law felt beautiful, we felt beautiful,

779
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 5: and her parents were able to have a first look

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00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 5: in her bridal suite with the photographer. It was a

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00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 5: very special moment to be in that room. My brother

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00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 5: and sister in law wanted to say their vows to

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00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 5: each other before the ceremony in a private area of

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00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 5: the resort with their videographer. Only the vows and ceremony

785
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 5: were recorded like this on the beach. We all get

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00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 5: into our places so that we can start walking down

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00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 5: the aisle. Even though the beach is private, there are

788
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 5: still people from the resort relaxing on the sand and

789
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 5: enjoying their beach day. Luckily, when some people noticed a

790
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 5: wedding was starting to take place, they all moved further

791
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 5: down the beach so as to not be in the way.

792
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,439
Speaker 1: There was a light breeze that kept our.

793
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 5: Skin cool from the heat of the sun, and just

794
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 5: enough cloud coverage to prevent nasty sunburns. It was the

795
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 5: perfect day for a wedding. Yeah, it sounds like it.

796
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 1: Now for the crap show. Oh boy.

797
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 5: When the entrance music plays and we start making our

798
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 5: descent down the sandy aisle, it takes me not even

799
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 5: half of the aisle length to take full notice of

800
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 5: the outfit that donkey Man is wearing as he stands

801
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 5: at the center of the altar. He has on a

802
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 5: white button up that is only half buttoned with bright

803
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 5: red slacks and the matching red bow tie with a

804
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 5: pair of aviator sunglasses. He looks like he was auditioning

805
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 5: for too hot to handle. And that's not the worst

806
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 5: of it. His seventh wife, who was sitting in the

807
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 5: first row designated for the groom's family, was wearing a

808
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 5: matching outfit. Her blouse was bright red and completely sequined,

809
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 5: paired with skinny white jeans in what looked like eight

810
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 5: inch wedges. No one was even wearing shoes, and the

811
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 5: wedding colors were neutrals. Everyone in our bridal party was

812
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 5: wearing white, so they stood out. At least somebody matched

813
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 5: his freak, you know what I mean. Seventh wife might

814
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 5: be the final.

815
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 1: One for him.

816
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 5: Final, boss, find you a seventh wife who matches your

817
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 5: ridiculous red outfit at the wedding that you officiated.

818
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 4: Well, she agreed to marry him, probably knowing he's been

819
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 4: married six times before, so like, who knows what this

820
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 4: woman stayed of mind.

821
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 5: Is red sequin dress, that's her state of mind. Moving on,

822
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 5: it's sister in law's turn to walk down with her father.

823
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: She looked so beautiful and as she walked down the aisle,

824
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 5: the sun was just a start of golden Hour, so

825
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 5: it looked like she was bringing the sunshine down with

826
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 5: her as she descended the sand.

827
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful image.

828
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 5: Her father hands her off to my brother and the

829
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 5: ceremony commences. I'm not really sure the best way to

830
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 5: describe the words that came out of his mouth, So

831
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 5: here's a sequence of events.

832
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:18,720
Speaker 1: Oh boy.

833
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,719
Speaker 5: He starts talking about how long he's known sister in

834
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 5: law and has watched her grow up. It was a

835
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 5: cute start that had everybody smiling. He then starts trying

836
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 5: to be funny by pretending to not know who the

837
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 5: best man is for a good minute.

838
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: Who has the rings in his pocket?

839
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 5: When he finally remembers who the best man is, he

840
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 5: takes the rings, and before he goes to hand them

841
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 5: off to the couple, he shots at the top of

842
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 5: his lungs like a battle cry.

843
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 1: Who's ready for some football.

844
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 5: With his fist raised in the air. So far, the

845
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 5: only thing I've liked has been the eyeball bit.

846
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, that rubbed me the wrong way.

847
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 5: And it looks like he's not the cool version of

848
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 5: the eyeball bit. He's the very not cool version of

849
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 5: the eyeball.

850
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 1: You have to have some swag to pull off the

851
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: eyeball you do.

852
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 5: You have to have a little finesse. You gotta have

853
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:10,360
Speaker 5: a little tact. He is executing this entirely wrong. No

854
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:12,839
Speaker 5: one's ready for football right now, dude. At one point

855
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 5: he started playing the harmonica. Then the grand finale, when

856
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 5: Donkey was done making a total fool of himself and

857
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 5: told the bride and groom to kiss his wife, ran

858
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:27,720
Speaker 5: up to the altar and through plastic confetti stars all

859
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 5: over the sand and in the air. The pieces were

860
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 5: small but kind of sharp, and since none of us

861
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 5: had shoes, we had to walk very carefully through the

862
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 5: sand throughout the remainder of the after ceremony photos. None

863
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 5: of this was approved by the bride or groom, and

864
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 5: it was all basically improvised. And you're throwing microplastics into

865
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 5: the beach.

866
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 4: We already have it in us, so what's the point.

867
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 5: At some points, while he's speaking, I watched the timer

868
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 5: on the audio recorder that's attached to his microphone, and

869
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 5: the entire ceremony from the moment he started speaking to

870
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 5: win the bride and groom kicks lasted between four and

871
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 5: five minutes. The guests were seated for about fifteen minutes.

872
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 5: I just remember being in complete shock and looking around

873
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,840
Speaker 5: at the guests to try and engage the general reaction

874
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 5: and see if they felt the same way I did.

875
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 5: Everyone in attendance had the exact same expression of what

876
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 5: is happening and how are we supposed to react to this?

877
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 5: Her parents were livid, and so were mine. When the

878
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 5: you may kiss the bride moment happened, the Maid of

879
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 5: Honor grabbed Donkey by the arm and pulled him out

880
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 5: from behind the newlywed so that he would not be

881
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:39,320
Speaker 5: in the background. Bless her heart for not yanking harder.

882
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 5: From there, the rest of the wedding went on without

883
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 5: any issues. Unfortunately, the damage had been done, and the

884
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 5: Maid of Honor and I had to console sister in

885
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 5: law in the bathroom at her reception, She had been

886
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 5: holding up like a true trooper, but several drinks later,

887
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 5: I think the emotions got to her. My sister in

888
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 5: law is an absolute saint of a woman, and seeing

889
00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 5: her like that was heartbreaking. Turns out Donkey had a

890
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 5: greater impact than on just the wedding party and guests

891
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:06,800
Speaker 5: onlookers from the beach would approach us to ask about

892
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 5: what was up with that ceremony. Family members were asking

893
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 5: if sister in law was okay, to which I asked

894
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 5: them not to try and talk with her about it tonight,

895
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 5: as she is trying to enjoy what's left of her

896
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 5: wedding day. I reassured sister in law that nobody would

897
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 5: think her wedding was bad, and that everyone's thoughts of

898
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 5: the ceremony were reflections of that man's actions and not

899
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 5: of her. Her father told him to kick Rocks after

900
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 5: the ceremony, and the next day gave him enough earfuls

901
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 5: to last a decade. Even sister in law's mother, who

902
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 5: is normally a very quiet and polite woman, was yelling

903
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 5: the ugliest of profanities at him. Then, when her parents

904
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 5: were done my brother and I, his mom had a

905
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,360
Speaker 5: go at him, and she's a lot less reserved with

906
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 5: her words. Unfortunately for him and his wife. They were

907
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 5: stuck in the resort with us for another three days,

908
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 5: and they spent those days trying to avoid anyone that

909
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 5: had anything to do with the wedding. That's what happens

910
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 5: when you make that many oopsies. As an officiant at

911
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 5: the wedding, big old oopsies.

912
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: Dude, this is chrizy. Yeah, but you know what else

913
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: is crazy?

914
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 5: So the fact that we go live every weekday at

915
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:18,240
Speaker 5: three pm PST on YouTube and Facebook, TikTok and Twitch.

916
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 5: All you gotta do is tap on our profile, easy

917
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 5: and you'll join our live. We might even be live

918
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 5: right now, so go check right after this story. We

919
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 5: do have a little bit of story left here. Okay, now,

920
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:33,640
Speaker 5: is there anything that you would have done differently? Would

921
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,319
Speaker 5: you have pulled the plug on the officiant earlier?

922
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 4: Honestly? If I was a father of the bride, I

923
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 4: would be like, all right, we're gonna redo this. I

924
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:42,759
Speaker 4: was like, run from the top, you get the heck

925
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 4: out of here, and then I would do it myself.

926
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 1: I would go to the.

927
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:47,839
Speaker 4: Back, look up, Okay, what do I have to say? Great,

928
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 4: because they're already legally married by an efficient, but now

929
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 4: we're gonna actually do it again, and I'd run it back.

930
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 4: If I was the father of the groom, I talked

931
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 4: to him and go to the bride's father and be like, hey,

932
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 4: can we redo this because I don't know what happened?

933
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: Like this is super off, but let's see how this

934
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:04,280
Speaker 1: story finishes.

935
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 5: Sister in law was not close with the donkey man,

936
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 5: but she thought that he would at the very least

937
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 5: take her wedding seriously, being that her father is his

938
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 5: best friend. But he ruined one of the most special

939
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 5: moments of their lives. It felt like he had turned

940
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 5: their wedding into his personal comedy club, except none of

941
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 5: the jokes were funny, not to mention the weird, perverted

942
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,879
Speaker 5: comments he would say to the other bridesmaids, which were

943
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,799
Speaker 5: much more crude than what he told me, and the

944
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 5: fact that he's like eighty with a seventh wife who's

945
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 5: just as bad as him. To this day, sister in

946
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 5: Law's family has never spoken another word to him. And

947
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,800
Speaker 5: that is the final word of that story.

948
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 4: I love that.

949
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think you ever speak to that guy again.

950
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 5: And low key I'm gonna be like dad.

951
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 4: Why are you his friends?

952
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 5: I mean, he's gonna be like eights. You know he's fine.

953
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 5: You can't put him in charge? All right, we should

954
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 5: I should have known. Anyway, That is the end of

955
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 5: that story. I was so worried about being a bridezilla

956
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 5: that I let my family walk all over me at

957
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 5: my wedding.

958
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 4: Wet toast spine moment.

959
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 5: The insane amount of drama from my family and my

960
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 5: husband's family leading up to our wedding was absurd.

961
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: When I look back on it, it was a lot.

962
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 5: I was determined not to be a bridezilla through any

963
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 5: of it, but I also think that I should have

964
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:26,800
Speaker 5: had a better backbone.

965
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 1: No wet toast right. By the way.

966
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 5: This comes from user lumpy Platform seventy eight twenty one

967
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 5: on the r slash Okay story time subbreddit. So there

968
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 5: is a fine line between being a bridezilla and standing

969
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 5: up for yourself. I was so set on not being

970
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 5: a bee of a bride that I let some of

971
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 5: the things I wanted to get tossed aside to start.

972
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 5: My husband and I started dating in December of twenty seventeen,

973
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 5: engaged July twenty twenty, and married July twenty twenty two.

974
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 5: We booked our venue twenty months in advance. We let

975
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 5: our friends and family know about it, eighteen months in advance,

976
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 5: we sent out to save the dates, eight months in

977
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 5: advance invites three months before we let everyone know. Because

978
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 5: we were getting married on a Wednesday, It's July, so

979
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 5: it's summertime. So no school, and it was the fourth

980
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 5: of July week, so they could make it a fourth

981
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:20,800
Speaker 5: of July trip if they wanted. Ooh, that's a bad idea.

982
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 5: I don't think it's a good idea to be like, hey,

983
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:28,359
Speaker 5: consolidate your holiday trip into our wedding trip. Also, we

984
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,840
Speaker 5: understood that not everyone could attend because it was a Wednesday,

985
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,240
Speaker 5: but that is why we gave everyone the big notice

986
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 5: so they could make arrangements if they wanted to. Of course,

987
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 5: everyone was like, why a Wednesday, It's more convenient for

988
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 5: a Saturday. The venue was three thousand for a Wednesday,

989
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 5: thirty five hundred for everything, including the add ons we

990
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 5: wanted to get married on a Saturday. The most basic

991
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 5: package was fifteen thousand. We went with a Wednesday and

992
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 5: gave everyone a year and.

993
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 1: A half notice.

994
00:44:57,080 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 5: Drama number one My cousin got engaged in in the

995
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 5: March before my wedding and then planned her wedding three

996
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 5: weeks before mine.

997
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: Okay, I kept that to myself. She knew when my

998
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: wedding was.

999
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 5: But whatever, I will be a good guest at her

1000
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 5: wedding and keep my thoughts to myself. Side note, she

1001
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 5: doesn't come to my wedding, and some of my family

1002
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 5: also don't come to mind because they couldn't attend both weddings,

1003
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,359
Speaker 5: and they picked hers because it was first. Okay, I

1004
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 5: know that it can be costly to attend weddings, and

1005
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 5: to attend them back to back is hard. And our

1006
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 5: weddings were in different states. Her wedding is in another state,

1007
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 5: so I traveled to her wedding. My cousin is Catholic,

1008
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 5: so the ceremony was about forty five minutes to an hour.

1009
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 5: During the ceremony, I was sitting next to my sister,

1010
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 5: who's eighteen, who was my maid of honor.

1011
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: Not by my choice, my mother made that choice for me.

1012
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 5: My sister is pitching a fit during the whole ceremony

1013
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:48,720
Speaker 5: because it was so long and she, in her words,

1014
00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 5: didn't do religion. I told her to just calm down.

1015
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 5: No one's asking her to be religious, just sit here

1016
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 5: for a wedding. She is rude and embarrassing during the

1017
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 5: whole ceremony. Side note, my sister and I do not

1018
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:03,919
Speaker 5: get along. You don't say, and she's actually a very

1019
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 5: entitled and hateful person.

1020
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 4: You don't have to invite your sister.

1021
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 1: Don't invite people who are entitled and hate you.

1022
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 4: Yep, yep, there's a chart. There's a beautiful wedding chart

1023
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 4: that you can go by. And one of the biggest

1024
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 4: things is will this person make my day happier or not?

1025
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 4: And it doesn't make it happier.

1026
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:19,959
Speaker 1: Them shout out to the wedding chart.

1027
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:20,399
Speaker 4: Yep.

1028
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 5: Once the ceremony is actually over and we stand, she

1029
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 5: pushes me out of the aisle to be line it

1030
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 5: to the exit. And when I say push, I mean

1031
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,319
Speaker 5: if it had not been for the seats, I would

1032
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,759
Speaker 5: have been on the ground. I think, y'all, you and

1033
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 5: your sister need to do an Oklahoma drill. As we

1034
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 5: go outside for the wedding photos, my cousin is asking

1035
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 5: where my sister is and if I can go get

1036
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 5: her for the photos. I reluctantly walked back into the

1037
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 5: church to get my sister, and when I found her,

1038
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 5: I told her that they were asking for photos. She

1039
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 5: said she didn't care, and I told her that it's

1040
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 5: not her wedding and if she didn't want to take photos, fine,

1041
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 5: but she needs to be polite. Right in the middle

1042
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 5: of a huge church with a big echo, she starts

1043
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 5: screaming at me calling me a bee and that I

1044
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 5: need to just leave her alone, and I mean a.

1045
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: Bunch of cussin. This is how I grew up with her.

1046
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 5: Because I was the older one, I was always expected

1047
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 5: to be nice to her, but she was always allowed

1048
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 5: to scream and call me names. So she feels like

1049
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 5: this is an acceptable way to treat people. Absolute parenting

1050
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 5: fail right there, ye a huge parenting l This was

1051
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:28,719
Speaker 5: horrifying and embarrassing, and I was in tears. I carpooled

1052
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 5: with my mother and sister all the way from home

1053
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 5: to this state, so my car's at my house.

1054
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 1: That's a twelve hour car ride.

1055
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 5: I told my mom I was getting an uber to

1056
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 5: a car rental place and I was getting a car

1057
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 5: and leaving. My mother then told me that I needed

1058
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 5: to suck it up, get over it, and ignore my sister.

1059
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 5: And if I left, then she wasn't going to pay

1060
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 5: for my wedding cake, which was her gift to us.

1061
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 5: I told her that it looked like I'm picking up

1062
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 5: a cut of the cake and a bakery because I'm

1063
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:55,720
Speaker 5: not staying.

1064
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:56,720
Speaker 1: And I left.

1065
00:47:57,040 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 5: I collected my things, went to Enterprise, and I I left.

1066
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:04,240
Speaker 5: I think your mom was low key right about this. Really,

1067
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 5: I don't think you should have left your own wedding. No,

1068
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 5: not at all, because you don't deserve that the sister.

1069
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:13,439
Speaker 5: I mean clearly, like it's not ideal, but like by

1070
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 5: leaving your wedding, your sister got at your emotions, and

1071
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 5: instead of letting that moment uproot the whole rest of

1072
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 5: your wedding and the rest of that day, I think

1073
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 5: the right.

1074
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:27,480
Speaker 1: Move would be to kind of just.

1075
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:28,359
Speaker 5: Suck it up for the rest of the day as

1076
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 5: best as you can and maybe put a rule on

1077
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 5: your sister instead of just leaving. So I collected my things,

1078
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 5: I went to Enterprise, and I left. My sister was

1079
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 5: fired from being made of honor. She was not happy

1080
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 5: about this, and she's lucky she was still a bridesmaid

1081
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 5: Drama number two at my bridle shower. Since my husband

1082
00:48:47,960 --> 00:48:50,720
Speaker 5: and I had already owned a house and lived together

1083
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 5: for a few years, I didn't need any household appliances.

1084
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: A new trend is honeymoon funds.

1085
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,640
Speaker 5: What I wanted was more of a bridle lunch with games,

1086
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 5: and if someone really wanted to get us something instead

1087
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 5: of a gift, they could donate to a honeymoon fund.

1088
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:07,439
Speaker 5: But this was not mandatory in any way. I ran

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Speaker 5: this idea across a few people to make sure it

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Speaker 5: was okay. My grandmother wanted to host my bridal shower

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Speaker 5: as her wedding gift, so I told her what I wanted,

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Speaker 5: and she told me absolutely not, that she would not

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Speaker 5: send out invites for a quote unquote money shower. I

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Speaker 5: explained to her that it's not a money shower, that

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00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 5: it is a lunch with some fun games. If I

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00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 5: left with zero dollars, I would be fine with it.

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00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 5: I just want to play some games. So of course

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Speaker 5: she told me that she wasn't going to give me

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Speaker 5: a shower if it was just going to be a

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Speaker 5: quote unquote money shower.

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Speaker 4: She dropped this whole family. Dude, what is wrong with

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Speaker 4: these people?

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Speaker 1: If this day a bridal shower? Are you the bride?

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Speaker 5: No?

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00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: Shut up? Listen to her? A wedding? Are you the bride?

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00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 1: Are you the groom?

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00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 5: No?

1108
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Speaker 1: Shut up? Listen to them. It's that simple.

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00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 5: She would not drop the term money shower, so she

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Speaker 5: throws the shower she wants me to have.

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00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 1: Well, during the.

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Speaker 5: Whole thing, she just tells guests how selfish I was

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00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 5: because I want under a money shower, and she made

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Speaker 5: herself look good by saying that she wasn't going to

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Speaker 5: allow it. So the whole event became very awkward for

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Speaker 5: me because I was looking like a money hungry bride.

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Speaker 1: Drama number three.

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Speaker 5: The May before our wedding, my husband's grandmother passed away.

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00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 5: She was cremated and there was a celebration of life.

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Speaker 5: There were actually three celebrations of life planned for her.

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Speaker 5: We went to the first one and paid our respects.

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00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 5: While we were there, we learned that the date for

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Speaker 5: the third celebration of life was our wedding date, So.

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Speaker 4: Both sides of the family are coming after him.

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Speaker 5: I mean, how are you supposed to react without seeming disrespectful.

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Speaker 5: But the biggest thing that got me was that we

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00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 5: got so much crap for planning our wedding on a Wednesday,

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Speaker 5: but it was okay to schedule a celebration of life

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Speaker 5: on a Wednesday. So most of my husband's family didn't

1130
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 5: show up to our wedding. I mean, absolutely no disrespect

1131
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 5: to his grandmother, but my husband is still here and

1132
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 5: his family wasn't there for him.

1133
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Speaker 1: Drama number four.

1134
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 5: My husband does not have the best relationship with his mother.

1135
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 5: He was debating on inviting her or not. His parents

1136
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 5: are divorce and they don't get along. But he decided

1137
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 5: to invite her, and he called his dad to let

1138
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:07,400
Speaker 5: his dad know. His dad told him that he was

1139
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 5: not attending our wedding because it was on a Wednesday.

1140
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 1: He had an eighteen month notice.

1141
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,480
Speaker 5: Nice scum on the earth, just e lope. At this point,

1142
00:51:15,520 --> 00:51:18,279
Speaker 5: we let him know way in advance. Why was this

1143
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 5: such a big deal to everyone. Yes, it's a Wednesday.

1144
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 5: We told you way in advance. That's why we picked summertime.

1145
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 5: If you can't come, okay, But to not come because

1146
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 5: it's a Wednesday wedding seemed really ridiculous. It was a

1147
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 5: twelve thousand dollars difference to have a Saturday wedding. And

1148
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 5: by the way, it'll never cost you twelve thousand dollars

1149
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:39,360
Speaker 5: To join us.

1150
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 1: When we go live on.

1151
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 5: YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch every weekday at three pm PST.

1152
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 5: All you gotta do is tap in our profile and

1153
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:50,399
Speaker 5: you're in. But before you check if we're live right now,

1154
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 5: which we might be, we do have a little bit

1155
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:54,359
Speaker 5: of story left, just a lobe.

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00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 4: If everyone's reacting this way, I'd probably get as much

1157
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 4: money as you can back from the venue and just

1158
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 4: be like, all right, we're just gonna lope and have

1159
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:03,280
Speaker 4: the people that actually care about us at this wedding.

1160
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,560
Speaker 5: So as the complications sort of start to pile up,

1161
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 5: you just go, you know what, We're gonna pull the deposit.

1162
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: We're gonna pull the venue.

1163
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:12,759
Speaker 4: Just about your friends that actually care. Yeah, because it

1164
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 4: seems like both family members, like every single family is

1165
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:17,280
Speaker 4: just horrible.

1166
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 5: I mean, almost two years is a long time, and

1167
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 5: that's plenty of time to figure out how to make

1168
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 5: one Wednesday work.

1169
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 4: However, Nope, nope, Now, however, no, however, here.

1170
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 5: I'm still seven twine, still hung up on the fact

1171
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:33,760
Speaker 5: that they made this the same week as fourth of July.

1172
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 5: This is an American if this is taking place in

1173
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 5: the United States, Oh well it's not an Oh well,

1174
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 5: it's like that. I bet you a lot of these

1175
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 5: people are not going because of that.

1176
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:47,360
Speaker 4: Oh no, dude, I bet you. I bet you. For

1177
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:48,640
Speaker 4: a family member, I would have done it.

1178
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 5: At the end of the day. I married my husband

1179
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,719
Speaker 5: and that's all I wanted. But I don't understand why

1180
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 5: it's such a dramatic road. I do wish I had

1181
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 5: more of a backbone through these moments. I was so

1182
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 5: determined not to be a bridezilla that I let people

1183
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 5: walk all over me, and I didn't respect myself enup

1184
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 5: to stand up for myself. So don't go overboard, but

1185
00:53:07,000 --> 00:53:09,239
Speaker 5: at least be enough of a bridezilla to stick up

1186
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 5: for yourself and be respected. That's God's the end of

1187
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:13,240
Speaker 5: that story.

1188
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:13,879
Speaker 3: I like that a lot.

1189
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 4: I hate that your family did it, but you made

1190
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 4: it work out, Opie. Well, it's just really rough too.

1191
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 5: It's like the Grandma's like celebration of life is on

1192
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 5: the same day as the wedding, which feels like they

1193
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 5: could have probabent a purpose. They probably could have worked

1194
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 5: that around. It feels like that's a targeted thing to do.

1195
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:32,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, like a year before it happened. Yeah, because it

1196
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:33,919
Speaker 4: was May and then they put it a year.

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Speaker 1: Hey, it's John here, og host of the show. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a

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Speaker 4: My bride friend showed her true colors, so I did

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Speaker 4: a giver a wedding gift?

1202
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Speaker 1: Were they red, purple, pink, blue? Green?

1203
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Speaker 4: In twenty nineteen, I twenty female, worked at a workplace

1204
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Speaker 4: where I met some of my best friends. We still

1205
00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:59,440
Speaker 4: have a pretty big friend group and we still hang

1206
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:01,759
Speaker 4: out quite often. I can even call some of my

1207
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Speaker 4: best friends even after some of these years. By the way,

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Speaker 4: as of every friend group, our group to looked a

1211
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Speaker 4: little different. A woman, El Lauren, thirty four, female, was

1212
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 4: also a part of the group. She and her fiance

1213
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Speaker 4: Alex thirty five female, would get married in October twenty twenty,

1214
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 4: and the whole group was invited. Since I'm also a

1215
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 4: makeup artist, I offered to do her makeup for her

1216
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 4: on her big day. We agreed on a price of

1217
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:34,359
Speaker 4: fifty pounds because I knew they sometimes didn't have too

1218
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 4: much money to live from. Unfortunately, COVID came along at

1219
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:41,279
Speaker 4: the beginning of twenty twenty and everything around weddings was

1220
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 4: pretty unsure. They were even preparing to postpone the wedding

1221
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 4: to a moment where it was allowed to have that

1222
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 4: many gifts on weddings again or on their wedding date.

1223
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 4: The government announced that there could be weddings, just not

1224
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 4: more than thirty guests, no dancing, and everyone needed to

1225
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 4: remain seated. The couple both were pretty skeptical about COVID

1226
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 4: regulations and decided to just go through with the wedding anyways.

1227
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Speaker 4: Me and my best friend Mercy twenty seven female, were invited.

1228
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 4: The rest of the group wasn't anymore because of the regulations.

1229
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 4: There would be a big party with all of the

1230
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:21,280
Speaker 4: uninvited guests later on when there wouldn't be any regulations anymore,

1231
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 4: and so on their wedding day, my friend and I

1232
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 4: left at six am for an almost three hour drive

1233
00:55:27,480 --> 00:55:30,279
Speaker 4: to the wedding location. We arrived at the hotel where

1234
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 4: Lauren was getting ready and I did her makeup. I

1235
00:55:33,280 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 4: also took pictures of her leaving the room having the

1236
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 4: first look with hers soon to be wife, because they

1237
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:41,720
Speaker 4: didn't bother to hire a photographer for that moment. After

1238
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 4: that moment, we and some other guests were sent to

1239
00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 4: a tent outside without any food or drinks to wait

1240
00:55:47,840 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 4: until it was time to walk to the venue. It

1241
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,719
Speaker 4: rained and it was very windy since it was fall.

1242
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 4: It was also very chilly, but after like an hour

1243
00:55:57,120 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 4: or two, we could walk to the venue. When we

1244
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 4: arrived at the venue, we definitely saw more than thirty guests,

1245
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:08,360
Speaker 4: and Alex was yelling if the government, Yeah, after the government.

1246
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 4: When we arrived at the venue, we definitely saw more

1247
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 4: than thirty guests, and Alex was yelling if the government

1248
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 4: as she was putting her glass up. Mercy and I

1249
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:20,360
Speaker 4: had our opinions, but we didn't say anything. The ceremony

1250
00:56:20,440 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 4: was nice, the food was okay, you could compare it

1251
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 4: to some charcuterie boards. And since we had to drive

1252
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:29,360
Speaker 4: such a long way, Mercy and I left quite early,

1253
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 4: around eight pm. So because we had to leave that early,

1254
00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 4: I forgot the envelope with the gift. At home. Mercy

1255
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 4: wrote a sweet card with all of our names on

1256
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 4: it with well wishes for their wedding. She also added

1257
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: some money from her husband and her I decided I

1258
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 4: would mail it to her or just give it to

1259
00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 4: her when I see her or them both. But a

1260
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 4: few days later, Lauren texted in her group chat as

1261
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 4: she wanted to thank us all for the card, but

1262
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:58,399
Speaker 4: she ordered if something fell out of the envelope since

1263
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 4: they were just thirty years I was in there. I

1264
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,319
Speaker 4: admitted that I forgot to bring my gift and that

1265
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 4: I would hand it to her personally when I would

1266
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 4: see her. The rest of the group said that they

1267
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:11,719
Speaker 4: would get them a gift at the party they could attend,

1268
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 4: which sounds logical to me, but Lauren wasn't okay with that.

1269
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 4: She expected something to come from the whole group. Mercy

1270
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 4: took care of that by writing that card. I get

1271
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 4: that there could have been some confusion about the money

1272
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:26,680
Speaker 4: in there, but to expect gifts from people who aren't

1273
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:29,920
Speaker 4: present is a bit weird, right. That is a beautiful

1274
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 4: way of saying it, to expect gifts from people who

1275
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 4: aren't proving.

1276
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: I see the word play there. Yes.

1277
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 4: Also, I had sent her the invoice for the makeup

1278
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 4: services and it remained unpaid with no further explanation. I

1279
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 4: already thought it was okay because it wasn't that much money,

1280
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 4: and I knew money was short sometimes in their household

1281
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 4: and with the expenses of a wedding. I didn't want

1282
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 4: to bother them anymore. After a while, three weeks or so,

1283
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 4: Lauren got really upset with all of us because she

1284
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 4: felt ignorre especially since we never heard from her since

1285
00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:05,400
Speaker 4: the last text she sent us. We did talk in

1286
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 4: the chat, but she never participated in conversations anymore. She

1287
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:11,840
Speaker 4: did this more often, so I didn't fill the need

1288
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 4: to check in on her. Same goes for my other friends.

1289
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 4: Lauren left the chat, unfriended us from Facebook and Instagram,

1290
00:58:18,640 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 4: and told Mercy that she felt disappointed about the gift

1291
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 4: and she expected our group to send her flowers on

1292
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 4: her big day. A lot of expectations, A lot, yeh. See.

1293
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 5: It's expectations that always get you in the most trouble.

1294
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 5: But it's always nice when a problem takes care of

1295
00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:38,080
Speaker 5: itself by removing all of you and blocking you, and

1296
00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:41,240
Speaker 5: it's like, well, if this person's gonna go completely nuclear

1297
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 5: over that, it's better.

1298
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: Off without you.

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Speaker 4: I guess she was awfully mean to Mercy, so I

1300
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 4: felt the need to step in. I told her that

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00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 4: Mercy never deserved this kind of treatment and that we

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00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 4: all agreed on handing her a present at the big party.

1303
00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:58,880
Speaker 4: Lauren responded by saying she still didn't see me with

1304
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 4: the gift. That was true, since we both didn't have

1305
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 4: the time to meet up. I also still didn't receive

1306
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 4: any payment for my services, and it bothered me that

1307
00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 4: she was so fixated about the gifts. So I wrote

1308
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,919
Speaker 4: her a paragraph long text saying how rude I thought

1309
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 4: she was being to mercy and how we almost froze

1310
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 4: to death at her wedding, almost starved in that tent,

1311
00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 4: and that I got the impression that she got married

1312
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:27,400
Speaker 4: for the gifts and not to celebrate love. But we

1313
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 4: love you and you can celebrate with us every weekday

1314
00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 4: through PMPSD. Just at her profile where do we Go

1315
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:33,480
Speaker 4: Live Dakota.

1316
00:59:33,360 --> 00:59:37,080
Speaker 5: YouTube, Facebook, TikTok Twitch, that's what we're lying at.

1317
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 1: Oh it takes is a tap on our profile.

1318
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 4: But we're not done with the story. We got a

1319
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 4: little bit left. Did she get married for the wedding

1320
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 4: or did she get married for the gifts?

1321
00:59:45,840 --> 00:59:50,040
Speaker 5: I don't know if anybody gets married just for the gifts?

1322
00:59:50,200 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 4: Time out of time out. I could fight you on

1323
00:59:52,000 --> 00:59:55,240
Speaker 4: this because so you get married and the man's got

1324
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:57,400
Speaker 4: a lot of money, and the man's a family, got

1325
00:59:57,400 --> 00:59:58,520
Speaker 4: a lot of money, and you're.

1326
00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 1: Like, ooh, that's not getting merri for the gifts.

1327
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:03,520
Speaker 5: That's more like you're getting married because your husband has

1328
01:00:03,520 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 5: a lot of money.

1329
01:00:04,520 --> 01:00:04,760
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1330
01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 4: And instead of her being like yay, I'm married, yeah, yeah,

1331
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 4: she's more.

1332
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: Like, give me you pay me.

1333
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 5: No, she is very fixated on like you'd owe me

1334
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 5: a bigger thing, Like I feel like it's different if

1335
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:19,280
Speaker 5: it's like a baby thing, you know what, Like if

1336
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 5: you're going if you're coming through to like the baby shower,

1337
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:23,960
Speaker 5: it's like and y'all just bring me flowers. I'm like,

1338
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 5: that's great. Give me a stroller, give me diapers. You're

1339
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 5: gonna have a baby shower. They do.

1340
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 4: I get to get you like diapers and like a

1341
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:34,520
Speaker 4: little baby clothes for your little kid.

1342
01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 5: Briley giving me an existential crisis over child rearing right now, and.

1343
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:40,760
Speaker 4: You get to come to my baby shower.

1344
01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:43,280
Speaker 1: Of course I read your baby shower.

1345
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,680
Speaker 4: The last thing drove Lauren over the edge and she

1346
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:50,000
Speaker 4: didn't even see the rest of the whole paragraph anymore.

1347
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 4: She blocked all of us, And oh, I got a

1348
01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:55,960
Speaker 4: snarky text from her wife, Alex, who blocks me right

1349
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 4: after she pressed sinned, And I really wanted to give

1350
01:00:58,840 --> 01:01:02,160
Speaker 4: her a nice lie aberration too, but I couldn't.

1351
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 5: Again, it's perfect when these problems take care of themselves

1352
01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 5: because they just block.

1353
01:01:06,040 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 4: You for you until this day, this is a story

1354
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 4: we still laugh about. But was this also an a

1355
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:14,840
Speaker 4: whole move from me or from the whole group. No,

1356
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 4: she was entitled. Everyone had a game plan. You have

1357
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 4: a big party, you get gifts. We weren't invited to

1358
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 4: the wedding, so we can't do it.

1359
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 1: The wedding's not about the gifts.

1360
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 5: The wedding's about getting married your partner and getting you know,

1361
01:01:27,280 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 5: having the ceremony and everyone's there, and.

1362
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 1: It's like, there's like a hole. Isn't it like the

1363
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 1: bridle shower or whatever.

1364
01:01:33,760 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 5: Isn't that supposed to be where the gifts and stuff

1365
01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 5: or exchange?

1366
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 1: Like, I don't know it doesn't.

1367
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,720
Speaker 4: It seems weird to be so fixated on that one aspect.

1368
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:44,560
Speaker 4: I'm not digrhoranum of this. I read another story up

1369
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 4: similar to this. It sounded like op was just invited

1370
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,080
Speaker 4: to a wedding to give them a gift. So and

1371
01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:52,280
Speaker 4: she found out that she was being used her whole life.

1372
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 4: So what she did was she sent in was I

1373
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 4: was like, hey, bride, I'm sending you a five hundred

1374
01:01:57,720 --> 01:01:59,320
Speaker 4: dollars gift. I can't send it to the wedding. Can

1375
01:01:59,360 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 4: I send it to your friends because you're in between

1376
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 4: moving places? Okay, was on this yeah, and then she

1377
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 4: sent it and then it like caused a fight between

1378
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:07,280
Speaker 4: them and it was like petty revenge. That was a

1379
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 4: crazy one.

1380
01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 1: But I shouldn't do that, Opie. That's it in that story.