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Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show,

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Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone today for to Catch a

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Speaker 1: Cheater and she thinks that her husband of four years,

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Speaker 1: Alan might be starting to see somebody else. Holly, thank

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Speaker 1: you for coming on the show. I'm sorry that you're

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Speaker 1: dealing with this. What's going on with Alan.

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Speaker 2: We've been married for four years, but we were together

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Speaker 2: probably three and a half years before that, so almost

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Speaker 2: eight years we've been together. He's just been really distant

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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, for like the past five to

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Speaker 2: six months. I don't know what's one line I've asked him.

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Speaker 2: He's just like, everything's fine or it's not you. I'm

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Speaker 2: just going through some things. So I was like, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: if you're going through some things, do you want to

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Speaker 2: be in therapy or anything like that? And he was

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Speaker 2: like sure. So he started therapy, which I commend him

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Speaker 2: for and I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that you're

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Speaker 2: doing that. But he's still like distant, and even after therapy,

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Speaker 2: that's not like it got kind of work. He spends

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Speaker 2: his time on Twitch and on his phone, and we

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Speaker 2: even used to once a week, like we would take

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Speaker 2: our lunch breaks together from work and have lunch together,

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Speaker 2: and that stopped like two months ago, Like, we don't

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Speaker 2: even do that anymore.

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Speaker 1: Huh.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. So I'm suspecting there's

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Speaker 2: another person.

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Speaker 3: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside?

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Speaker 3: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure,

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Speaker 3: But have there been any signs of another person?

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Speaker 2: Well, he's always on his phone, right, like I said,

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Speaker 2: and we don't do our once a month lunch breaks

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Speaker 2: together anymore.

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Speaker 1: So did he give you a reason for stopping those?

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Speaker 2: Well, he just said he's swamped at work, and everybody

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Speaker 2: knows that's a cliche.

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Speaker 4: Come on, really, I mean.

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Speaker 1: It could be.

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Speaker 5: I mean I he tried to just show up at

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Speaker 5: his work with lunch and be like, Hey, you couldn't

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Speaker 5: go that?

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Speaker 1: Do that? Yeah, yeah's surprise.

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Speaker 4: I mean, for lack of a.

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Speaker 2: Better to, I do not have to do.

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Speaker 3: That, Okay, okay, fair? Does he interact with his friends

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Speaker 3: the same way that he was before?

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Speaker 2: No? Really, So that's kind of weird too. And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: who is getting all of this attention from him? You know,

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Speaker 2: because it's not me, it's not his friends, it is

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Speaker 2: his phone. So I'm not going to go through his

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Speaker 2: phone like I tried to want we got in a

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Speaker 2: big argument, it didn't work out, so I stay away

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Speaker 2: from going through his phone. I just don't know. I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 2: so everyone's supposed to help, but it got worse. So

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Speaker 2: now do I'd be like, stop going to therapy. I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna look crazy. Yeah. What if he's like having an

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Speaker 1: A therapist, Oh, that would have been a potwaste. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: then I would say ask him to stop going to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk

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Speaker 3: about ethics and yeah, teach you how to get over divorce.

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Speaker 3: And not getting a full blown, like one hundred percent

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Speaker 3: cheating vibe from this though, I'm getting more of a

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Speaker 3: like something's going on with him and he's just isolating

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Speaker 3: himself from the world's kind of a thing, which is

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Speaker 3: tough because when a guy gets to that space, it's

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Speaker 5: But if he's not acting like if he's acting weird

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Speaker 5: with his friends also, that's what I mean, he's an

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Speaker 5: isolation phase.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like it's got

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Speaker 2: to be something like he's never done a drug in

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Speaker 2: his life, so it's not drugs.

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Speaker 1: Well that's good, yeah, all right, Well we'll try to

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Speaker 1: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You

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Speaker 1: already told us what grocery store he's a Rewards card

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Speaker 1: member at, So we'll do the usual and call up,

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Speaker 1: pretend to be from the grocery store and say that

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Speaker 1: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six long stim

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Speaker 1: and we'll see he sends those to you or to

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Speaker 1: somebody else. Okay, okay, all right, we'll play a song.

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Speaker 1: Come back and get your to Catch a Theater next

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Speaker 1: if you're just joining us for today's To Catch a Teater.

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Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone and she thinks that her

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Speaker 1: husband of four years might be messing around. We're about

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Speaker 1: to call him and pretend to be from the grocery

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Speaker 1: store that he is a RWARS card member at, and

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Speaker 1: say that every single month, we randomly choose one Awards

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Speaker 1: card member who gets free flower delivery from our Florida department,

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Speaker 1: and we'll see v sends those flowers to Holly or

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Speaker 1: to somebody else. Hally, before we do that, why don't

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Speaker 1: you refresh everybody's memory on what's going on with Alan.

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Speaker 2: Alan and I have been together total. It was almost

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Speaker 2: eight years, four of them married. These guys really distant.

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Speaker 2: He spends most of his time playing Twitch or on

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Speaker 2: his phone. He stops our monthly lunch dates that we

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Speaker 2: do together from work. He did start therapy, but it

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Speaker 2: only got worse after therapy. And I don't want to

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Speaker 1: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here

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Speaker 1: we go. Hi, this is jorable calling from I was

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Speaker 1: looking for our rewards card member named Alan.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, this is Alan.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a

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Speaker 1: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news.

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Speaker 1: You're this month's big winner. Thank you very much for

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Speaker 1: shopping with us. Yeah, the clouding. We're here in the

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Speaker 1: office and everything. Hey, every single month, we choose one

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Speaker 1: rewards card member totally random, who gets free flowers delivered

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Speaker 1: from our floral department. So it's thirty six longstin red roses,

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Speaker 1: a box of candy or chocolates or whatever, and a

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Speaker 4: Oh hey, that's pretty cool. You said free, right.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, Frank, nothing out of pocket. Will give you a confirmations

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Speaker 1: and everything, so you know that it's free. It's just

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Speaker 1: our little way of saying thank you very much for

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Speaker 4: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could

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Speaker 4: use that for sure.

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Speaker 1: Great. If you know the person that you want to

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Speaker 1: send the flowers to right now, I can do it

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Speaker 1: quickly over the phone in just a matter of minutes.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I can give it to you on the

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Speaker 1: The first thing that I will need would be the

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Speaker 1: first and the last name of the person that you

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Speaker 4: Okay, why don't you make the card out to Judy?

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Speaker 1: It's j U d Y okay, and you have the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what's the name? Is my last name?

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Speaker 1: So things your last name is? What was that your wife?

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Speaker 4: Uh? No not Actually I'm going to put this in

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Speaker 4: the card. But if you could write I love you mom,

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Speaker 1: Oh that okay, yes, I can do that. Were you

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Speaker 1: And at this point I'll just let you know that

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Speaker 1: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is actually Jewel from the Jewel Show. That's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. Yeah, I mean on the radio show too. Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and wait, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Your wife, Holly is actually on the phone with us.

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Speaker 4: Holly, Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: Nope, Holly. Do you want to explain what this is?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I kind of. I feel stupid now, but I

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Speaker 2: kinda ask them to do this because you've been getting like,

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Speaker 2: really really distant and you haven't been telling me what's

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Speaker 2: been going on, and I've been asking you about it

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Speaker 2: and spend most of your time on your phone, and

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Speaker 2: you've been canceling Old state.

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Speaker 1: The segue is called to catch a cheater, Allan, So

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Speaker 1: if somebody thinks their significant other might be cheating, then

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Speaker 1: they will email us to call them and see I

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Speaker 1: see who they send flowers to.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, okay, I've see now. Well, I gotta tell you, babe,

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Speaker 4: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry

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Speaker 4: and the truth is that I do have a secret.

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Speaker 4: But you know it's it's nothing about you. It's actually

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Speaker 4: my mom has been getting sick oh answer, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: Oh we just kind of figured this out, and you know,

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Speaker 4: my siblings, they're not going to be helping me, so

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Speaker 4: it's it's like pretty much my responsibility here.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I mean, your mom

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Speaker 4: I don't want to put the burden on you. I mean,

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Speaker 4: you know me, I'm the kind of person who just

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Speaker 4: kind of deals with whatever is in front of them, and.

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Speaker 2: I should have told you. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And also Alan, just a quick note, I get where

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Speaker 1: front of him. Everybody needs somebody to lean on, especially

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Speaker 3: It sounds like it's been going on for a long time,

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Speaker 3: and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to bear

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Speaker 1: I have six months and if you if your partner

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Speaker 1: want to be there for you. Alli. Do you want

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Speaker 2: Of course I do. I'm even embarrassed that it had

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Speaker 2: to come this far to be on the radio, But

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Speaker 2: like I wish I would have known like this is

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, you know what, It is my fault that

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Speaker 4: you feel this way, and you guys are totally right.

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Speaker 4: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah,

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Speaker 4: I guess I could use some help myself, so yeah,

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Speaker 4: you know me at all that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, do you want to finish having this conversation

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Speaker 2: like outside.

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Speaker 4: Of Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and

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Speaker 4: we haven't done it in a while because you know,

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Speaker 4: I've been so wrapped up and all this, but you know,

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Speaker 4: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think

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Speaker 4: if maybe we go to lunch today that would be

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Speaker 4: pretty cool.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure up to it, of course. Yeah, let's do that.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, you have a lot to

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Speaker 1: talk about, and I'm glad that he wasn't cheating too.

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Speaker 2: Me too.

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Speaker 3: I am sorry to hear about about your mom, Alan,

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Speaker 3: and this is going to be a tough time for

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Speaker 3: all of you, but thankfully you have each other and

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Speaker 3: a lot of love, so you're lucky in that.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, and I appreciate you guys for that.

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Speaker 5: The Jewel shows to catch a Cheater