1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: My girlfriend announced she was pregnant. She doesn't know I 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: had him a sect to me, what a twist? 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 2: A twist you. 4 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: Only read the title. I might sound like a bad guy, 5 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: but I'm not. I've known I wanted to be child 6 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: free since my early teens. My parents didn't oppose me, 7 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 1: but they did say I could change my mind. Since 8 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: I'm not an only child, they'll still get grandchildren. And 9 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 1: this comes from storyteller thirteen on the r slash Okay 10 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: story time sub reddit. So when I was twenty I 11 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: got a vasectomy. When I was twenty two, I met 12 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: my girlfriend. I've been open about wanting to be child 13 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: free from the very beginning. I remember telling her about 14 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 1: my vasectomy, but to be honest, I think there was 15 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: already alcohol involved, so I'm not sure if she she 16 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 1: told her. We were dating for a year and a 17 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,200 Speaker 1: half when she moved in with me. I'm out twenty 18 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 1: five and two weeks ago, I got home from work 19 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: and my girlfriend was standing in the living room smiling. 20 00:00:55,600 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: He showed me a positive pregnancy test. Ooh, Thinking it 21 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: was a TikTok prank, I played along when she didn't 22 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: reveal it was a prank, I knew what had happened, 23 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: but I continued playing. 24 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 2: Along Ouch ouch double ouch. 25 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: That night, he got up at midnight and started sending emails. 26 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: He's reaching out to everyone. 27 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: Then I took a week off work and email my 28 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: best friend the details, telling them to pretend they knew 29 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: nothing and be prepared. The next morning, I left for 30 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: work as usual, but I didn't go to work. Carl, 31 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: one of my friends, was waiting outside. He had a 32 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: cap and a hoodie ready for me. The whole week, 33 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: we followed Katie and on day three, she met up 34 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 1: with her affair. 35 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 2: At least you have like a rider or I friend. 36 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I like the steakout. 37 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like he met up. He gave me a 38 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 2: hat and a hoodie because apparently ope, he didn't have 39 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 2: those already yep. 40 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: And he's like, all right, stake out baby. 41 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 2: Oh and he's like, I brought chips. 42 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: We're gonna have the police scanner also on just just 43 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: for the nice. We followed them to a motel and 44 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: then Carl followed him to his home. The guy was 45 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: married with kids. We devised a plan. I convinced Katie 46 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: to go to her parents' house to tell them the 47 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: good news last Saturday. While there, I gave my friends 48 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 1: the keys to my home. At Katie's parents' house, we 49 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 1: had lunch with the parents and siblings first, then Katie 50 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: told them the good news. Everyone was happy. After a while, 51 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: I got a call I had to take. It was 52 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: my friend telling me they were done and they were ready. 53 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: So I asked to make an announcement. I pulled Katie 54 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: aside in front of anyone. I bet they thought I 55 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 1: was going to propose. 56 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 2: No story. 57 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: I started by telling how we met, how much she 58 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: meant to me, and ended with and that's why it 59 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: hurt so much that you cheated on me and got 60 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: pregnant by someone else. 61 00:02:54,360 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 2: Oooh heavy in front of everyone is crazy. Damn. 62 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:06,119 Speaker 1: The room was silent. Katie looked shocked. She started telling 63 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: me it wasn't a funny joke. I said, I'm not joking. 64 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: I'm not joking. The moment you told me you were pregnant, 65 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 1: I knew you cheated. I got a vasectomy five years 66 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: ago and I go to checkups every year, so if 67 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 1: you're pregnant, you have beated. At that moment her phone 68 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: rang I told her to answer it. It was probably 69 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,800 Speaker 1: a fair partner's full name. You know, the real father 70 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: of your baby probably wants to know and talk about 71 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,359 Speaker 1: you moving in. Not sure if his wife and kids 72 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: are going to like that. What happened was that my 73 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 1: friends had loaded up everything of Katie's in a U 74 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: haul and brought it to a fair partner's home. Why 75 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: they called me. They were in front of his home 76 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: for the final parts. They rang the doorbell and asked 77 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: a fair partner where they could put her things. He 78 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: was confused, and they handed him and his wife a 79 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: folder with pictures of him and Katie. And Carl said, 80 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: since op's kicking her out, she needs a place to stay, 81 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: we're just living her things. And since you don't want 82 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: the woman who is pregnant with your child to stay 83 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: on the street, we assumed you would take her Insie. 84 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 2: Sorry, Pistachio says, messy. This is a messy, so messy. 85 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: It is brutal. Oh, a fair partner called Katie, yelling 86 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: that she ruined his life and he never wants to 87 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: see her again. After hearing him scream over the phone, 88 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: I said, oh, so his wife doesn't want his mistress 89 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:30,159 Speaker 1: and they're a fair baby living there, they'll have to 90 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,119 Speaker 1: stay here with your parents. With that, I walked away, 91 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:38,160 Speaker 1: leaving a crying Katie in her confused and angry family behind. 92 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: My friends brought the U haul with her stuff to 93 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: her parents' house after the fair partner refused to accept 94 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: it really quick? Is this too overboard? 95 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:52,919 Speaker 2: I think because I feel bad for Katie, which is 96 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 2: crazy because obviously she cheated. 97 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 3: Maybe this is too overboard. 98 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 2: This is just so intensely a lot. 99 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: I went home with my sister and was waiting, and 100 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: she was waiting for me. She knew everything. This was 101 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 1: not part of my plan, but Carl knows me so well. 102 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 1: I broke down and cried in my sister's arms. He 103 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,279 Speaker 1: stayed the weekend taking care of me, allowing me to 104 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: grieve and process the betrayal. And there is an update. 105 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: But Carl is such a goaded friend that he's like 106 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: your sister. Yeah, is this too much? What do you 107 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: guys think? Chimmy Lee says nuclear revenge Nova, Starlit says, 108 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,840 Speaker 1: I'm eating popcorn for this. This is getting good. Justine 109 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: Madola Burqua says, a good thing. The wife found out. 110 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: Lilyx Pilly says she was going to make her raise 111 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: someone else's kids. Kamsas says, this is hilarious. To be honest, 112 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: LILYX Pilly, no guilt, no shame, Keltic kick scorched. 113 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 2: That was scorched Earth. 114 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: This is scorch This is scorch Worth. I honestly feel 115 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: like it's a little bit too much. But there is 116 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: an update. Yeah, it's been a week since I dumped 117 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: Katie at her parents' house. My boys cleaned out my 118 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: home and brought everything of Katie's to her parents. But 119 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 1: because I didn't have time to mark everything that was Katie's, 120 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: the boys didn't take every thing that belonged to her, 121 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,480 Speaker 1: and that even took some things of mine. So I 122 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: called her sister to arrange a meeting to exchange our belongings. 123 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: The sister agreed, but under one condition, a sit down 124 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: with Katie to hear her out. 125 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:16,800 Speaker 2: Oo deal with the devil. 126 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: Would you sit down and. 127 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 3: Listen to her depends on what it was. 128 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 1: I would have just left everything there, but the tablet 129 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,159 Speaker 1: had some pretty important work stuff. So I agreed to 130 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: hear Katie out, but I made it very clear that 131 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: there was no chance of us getting back together. Katie 132 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: was a shadow of her former self. She started with 133 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 1: small talk, but I quickly told her I wasn't there 134 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: for that. You wanted to apologize. Here's where I almost 135 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 1: lost it. I wanted to yell at her for destroying 136 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: our relationship. I wanted to yell that I can't accept 137 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: a simple apology for destroying my trust. But I didn't yell. 138 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 1: It was quiet. I didn't accept the apology, but I 139 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: also didn't reject the apology. I just said nothing. She 140 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: asked why I never asked why she did it. I 141 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: said there was nothing she could say to justify what 142 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: she did, so it didn't matter which excuse she came up. 143 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 2: LT I think that's true. 144 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: And she said she really thought the child was mine 145 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: because we weren't using protection theseconomy with yearly checkups, and 146 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: she was hoping that I would change my mind about 147 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: being child free as soon as I saw that she 148 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: was pregnant. I told her that was a very dumb assumption. 149 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: She clearly did not use any protection with her affair partner. 150 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: But she told me she thought it was unfair of 151 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: me to expose the affair to her family. I didn't 152 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: have to do that. My response was, that's right, I 153 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: didn't have to. I chose to just like you chose 154 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: to cheat on me, just like a fair partner chose 155 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: to cheat on his wife. These are just the consequences 156 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: of those choices. There is more to the story. But 157 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: by the way, you can join us every weekday here 158 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: on YouTube at three pm PST. Just tap our profile. 159 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: She asked me if we still had a chance if 160 00:07:58,080 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: she terminated the baby. 161 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 2: I don't think he's gonna say yes to this. 162 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: I told her, keeping or charming the baby wouldn't change 163 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: her betrayal. You can do what she wants, but we 164 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 1: are never, ever, ever getting back together. 165 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 2: No, I think that's totally fair. 166 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. 167 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 2: No, Katie made her own Ben. She's got a lie 168 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 2: in it. 169 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: I was done. I heard her out. Didn't tell me 170 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: anything I didn't already know. So I got up, took 171 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: my stuff, and it was about to leave when she said, 172 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: I love you. Oh hell Mary, Yeah, heil Mary, last 173 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: minute play No she My response was, no, you don't. 174 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: If you loved me, you would have never betrayed and 175 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: hurt me like you did. I did love you, but 176 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: you destroyed that too. With that, I left and I 177 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: could hear her stobbing. I've also learned that the affair 178 00:08:57,320 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: partner is kicked out of the house. They are divorcing. 179 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: He ended it with Katie because he blames her for 180 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: ruining his life. 181 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 2: That's silly. That's on him. 182 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: I don't know what Katie is going to do with 183 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: the baby, but that is not my problem, and that's 184 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: where that story ends. 185 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 2: Wow, this is on Katie and her affair partner. One 186 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 2: like this is they made their choices and they have 187 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 2: to kind of deal with the consequences. I think it 188 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 2: felt a little bit scorched her the maybe too far, 189 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 2: just because so many other people were affected by it. Yeah, 190 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 2: but that that's my only reason. Like I don't really 191 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 2: feel I don't feel bad for Katie and the affair partner, 192 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 2: just for like her kid and for the affair partner's 193 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:43,319 Speaker 2: wife and for the family everyone around this. 194 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: But wow, what if it was me? And I'm trying 195 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: to think of like what is like the best thing 196 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 1: to do is just to is not to do like 197 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: a dramatic and feeling, but it's just to be like, hey, 198 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: I know it is, I know I know what's going on. 199 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: Let's divorce, and you don't need to even a dramatic 200 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 1: even feel oh yeah, like I mean, let's just break up. 201 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: Let's break up. You don't need to reveal it to 202 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: the family in this crazy way. All our drama I 203 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: feel like is I don't think it's it's good for 204 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: a story, but yeah, for your life, I think it often. Yeah, 205 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,560 Speaker 1: does more, no more harm than good? Are we on four? 206 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 1: Now we're on four. 207 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 2: We're at fifty three minutes. 208 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:20,640 Speaker 3: With five minutes. 209 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 2: My best friend started spreading lies about me, so I cut. 210 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: Her off good. I hate liars. 211 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 2: And this comes from Carl's junk male who says I 212 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 2: twenty two female previously posted about ending my friendship with 213 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 2: bff twenty two female, which I now know was the 214 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 2: right move, But now she's begun to. 215 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: Escalate best fake friend. 216 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, not a very good BFF. A weekend ago, I 217 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 2: was at a farmer's market with my mother. Fifty seven 218 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 2: female eating lunch. A girl and her boyfriend twenty three 219 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 2: female and twenty two male who I will call c F, 220 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 2: A female who I will call Cali and Simon walk past. 221 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 2: I recognize them from high school, but was only friends 222 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 2: with him and he had a crush on me. About 223 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:09,960 Speaker 2: five minutes later, Callie comes stopping up to my mother 224 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 2: and I with Simon and tow and shouts can I 225 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 2: eyvings speak to you for a seconds without even allowing 226 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 2: me to answer, she berads me with all of these 227 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 2: allegations BFF had said about me. 228 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: What happened to the BFF, friend trip Jeanette? Why she 229 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:26,599 Speaker 1: why she's spread. 230 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 2: Rumors friend rumors to Callie and Simon. I hate conflict, 231 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 2: but I try my best to stay calm and de 232 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 2: escalate the situation. I would attempt, to the best of 233 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 2: my ability to surmise the important bits of this conversation. However, 234 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 2: she sat there and talked to me for forty five minutes, 235 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 2: so that is somewhat off the table. Instead, I will 236 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:50,200 Speaker 2: go more order of events. Number one, CALLI and Simon 237 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 2: see me Callie. Number two, Callie talks to BFF who's 238 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 2: also at the market, and tells her she's going to 239 00:11:56,360 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 2: confront me and asks for what I said verbati. He 240 00:12:00,679 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 2: comes over to confront me about the things I said 241 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 2: and asking why did you say X and why? Number four, 242 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 2: Callie brings up intimate details of B is the BFF, Benny. 243 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: Is maybe the boyfriend. 244 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 2: We actually don't know who B is of b and 245 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 2: I's relationship I'm assuing boyfriend, then Ben and I's relationship, 246 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 2: which are extremely irrelevant to whatever her issue with me 247 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:26,719 Speaker 2: is Number five. I stay as calm and neutral as 248 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 2: I can to be escalate things. Number six. By the end, 249 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 2: Cally is calmer and says we should hang out some time, 250 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 2: then leaves to a wedding. She hasn't thirty minutes. 251 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:38,199 Speaker 1: Wait, what so you guys became friends? 252 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,319 Speaker 2: She comes over, she's sort of screaming at you. She's like, 253 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 2: why would you say all this? And oh my god, 254 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 2: your relationship with your boyfriend is crazy, blah blah blah, 255 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 2: and then she's like, sorry about that. 256 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 1: Left hang out, Yeah, let's be friends. 257 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 2: Let's be friends. 258 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 1: Let's go to a wedding. Can I can we actually 259 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: get married? 260 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 2: What was said in the conversation was extremely hurtful, immature, 261 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 2: and irrelevant. So the reason I bring it up is 262 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 2: because of all of what Callie was saying to me 263 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 2: was said by BFF, someone who, even after everything that 264 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 2: happened with Ben, I cared about because eight years of 265 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 2: care and reverence and love doesn't go away. I am 266 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 2: hurt that I thought so highly of BFF for so 267 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,679 Speaker 2: long and that she could do this, I now fear 268 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:20,200 Speaker 2: further escalations, and I'm taken aback by the immaturity of 269 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 2: the wholes. I'd like to make very clear that I 270 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 2: do not care about what Calli and Simon think of me. 271 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 2: They have only known BFF for seven months and clearly 272 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:33,680 Speaker 2: love drama and a fight, two things I personally feel 273 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 2: uncomfortable with. I am strictly concerned with bff's confidence in escalating. 274 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 2: Is there anything I should do to prevent further escalations? 275 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 2: And edit? I bring up that Simon thinks I'm cute, 276 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 2: because initially this is why I thought I was getting fronted. 277 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 2: I didn't clarify that in the post, though. It's irrelevance 278 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 2: since I did not end up scrubbing the entirety of 279 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:58,319 Speaker 2: the conversation with CEA. Oops. And there are some relevant 280 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 2: comments how older like twenty two? 281 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 3: Okay, they are giving teenager for some reason. 282 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 1: I mean it's because it's like like like dry high. 283 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 1: It's all it's it's lame, Yeah, but there is I mean, 284 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: definitely distance yourself from BFF. Yeah, she's giving intimate details 285 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: of your life. She's using like the stuff that you 286 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: tell her in confidence against you. So it's like, dude, 287 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 1: not cloud chasing. 288 00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 4: Have you seen those memes where it's like my mom 289 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 4: just told the deepest, darkest secret. 290 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:26,600 Speaker 3: For some thanks Giving clout? 291 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, but rather than comments, oh God, what a day, 292 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 2: says your ex best friend sounds horrific. It's like she 293 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 2: is jealous of you and taking it out on you. 294 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 2: This is hard. On one side, you can continue to 295 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 2: ignore her and be the bigger person if she lies 296 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 2: about you and someone approaches you, continue to handle things 297 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,240 Speaker 2: with the same maturity you've had through this. But there's 298 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 2: the other side where you can confront her. What she's 299 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 2: doing is not cool and things need to be addressed, 300 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 2: especially if you still consider her your best friend. But 301 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: I feel like that's what she wants. He wants to 302 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 2: get a rise out of you and great drama. Either way, 303 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 2: she's not a good friend. He's acting super shady and 304 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 2: being a bully. B said she was being very mean 305 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 2: about you, and I believe him. Her behavior only confirms 306 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 2: that she has issues with you. It's super immature on 307 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 2: her part to not just talk to you about it directly, 308 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 2: and Opie responds, thankfully. I have a couple other friends 309 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:22,120 Speaker 2: that I would consider closer than her. One of whom 310 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 2: had her own smear campaign headed by BFF. I just 311 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 2: wish people would stop listening to what she says and 312 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:30,680 Speaker 2: that she would get help. I feel bad for anyone 313 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 2: who has to feel this jealous of their friend. 314 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, and she's not gonna have many friends for 315 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: very long with this baby. No surre, oh surree. And 316 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: she doesn't deserve any friends. 317 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 2: She doesn't freaking deserve those friends. 318 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 1: Man, she doesn't concerned them. 319 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 2: Big old Yaki, Yaki, yaki. 320 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 1: I want it's a win though her okay storyteme phone case. 321 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: You can't get it anywhere. 322 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:52,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, you really can't. You have to have like a 323 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 2: specific file and go to a specific place to make 324 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 2: that happen. 325 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, pretty cool, agreed. 326 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 2: But that is the end of this episode. So if 327 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 2: you love us, make sure to subscribe. 328 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: We Love You and seen tomorrow. This is an episode 329 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 1: from Deep Within the Archives, time for okop rewlam. 330 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 4: My husband said I cheated and our biracial baby isn't his. 331 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 3: Then somehow it got even worse. 332 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: I'm always just like concerned with how it could get worse, 333 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 1: But somehow they always get worse. 334 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 4: My boyfriend asks for a paternity chest of our child. 335 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 4: As soon as the results come and show that he 336 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 4: is the father, I'm leaving him. 337 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: Damn, ro you just got his carmel back. 338 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 4: Now I'm a new mob to a baby boy who 339 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:41,720 Speaker 4: is my pride and joy. And though it's been a 340 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,240 Speaker 4: roller coaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the 341 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 4: past few months have been great, tiring, but great. I 342 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 4: have a boyfriend of three years who is the first 343 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 4: person relationship wise that I've ever loved. And I thought 344 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 4: that we were doing great as new parents and also 345 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 4: as partners. 346 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: You thought you were doing great by those first two sons, 347 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: says Eh, might be a little hiccup. 348 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,480 Speaker 4: On Friday, he came home and just straight up asked 349 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 4: me for a paternity test to prove the baby is his. 350 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 1: Why did he suddenly ask that? There must be a 351 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 1: reason right. 352 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,280 Speaker 4: Just like that, It was completely out of the blue. 353 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 4: Just as I was putting dishes away, he asked for 354 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 4: one like he was asking me what was for dinner? 355 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: Babe, Babe? Do you mind, you know, like after you're 356 00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 1: done stack of the dishwasher getting a p thirnity tests. 357 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 4: I'm imagining it. It's like it's like he's like he's 358 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 4: giving an order. He's like, hey, maybe we could get 359 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:35,879 Speaker 4: some Kliamari, some tempora and a paternity test. Like do 360 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:38,280 Speaker 4: you what do you think I'm a different race from him, 361 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 4: But our child, apart from the skin tone, is literally 362 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,360 Speaker 4: the mirror image from pictures I've seen of him when 363 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 4: he was a baby. 364 00:17:45,320 --> 00:17:49,119 Speaker 1: Y'all, look at your freakin family history right now, come on, 365 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:50,920 Speaker 1: open up that scrap book. 366 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,400 Speaker 3: Look at your damnself. 367 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: Look at yourself in the mirror. 368 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 4: I was stunned when he asked, and his reasons were 369 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 4: that he said he had to be sure he was 370 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:04,480 Speaker 4: the father and he had to have certainty. 371 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 1: It's such a breach of trust, Like, all right, if 372 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:10,360 Speaker 1: you're actually worried about cheating and like that's been a thing, 373 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 1: I understand that if the trust is there, you're kind 374 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 1: of like, by asking, you're kind of breaking some trust 375 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:17,480 Speaker 1: in the relationship. 376 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 4: I think we're only hearing op side of the story 377 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:22,080 Speaker 4: so far, but from what we have seen. 378 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, unless there's cheating. If there's cheating, then I understand. 379 00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 1: If there hasn't been, then I don't like if. 380 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 4: You walk in and your child's mother is a boeing it, Okay, Well, 381 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 4: now we have some cause or whatever. Also, his answer 382 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 4: was like why because I had to have certainty. It's like, 383 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 4: why do you want to see the movies? Like because 384 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:44,280 Speaker 4: I want to watch moving pictures on a screen. 385 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:46,080 Speaker 3: It's like, that's not an answer. 386 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 4: Like all I remember as he was speaking, is just 387 00:18:49,760 --> 00:18:54,159 Speaker 4: immediately feeling pain. The man I love doesn't trust me. 388 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 4: He would actually believe that I would do it with 389 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 4: someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass 390 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:04,160 Speaker 4: off another man's baby as his. I have never ever 391 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:06,640 Speaker 4: given him a reason to think that I would cheat 392 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 4: on him. I have tried to be transparent and communicated, 393 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 4: and it wasn't enough. 394 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 3: I feel for Uop. I feel for Uop. 395 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 1: It feels so hard just watching these relationships fall apart 396 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:18,160 Speaker 1: in real time. 397 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 4: He told me that he would give me time to 398 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 4: think about this, that he wouldn't go behind my back 399 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 4: and do this test before our relationship to move forward. 400 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,240 Speaker 4: He needs to be one hundred percent sure. This guy, 401 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 4: just like he just keeps repeating the thing that is 402 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 4: like the worst thing to say. 403 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:35,120 Speaker 1: The stab. 404 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:40,199 Speaker 4: He repeated this because he, in his words, needed me 405 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 4: to realize how serious he was. 406 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 1: I think we get it. I think we get how 407 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 1: serious you are. 408 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 3: Duty do you want a paternity test? Is that what 409 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 3: you're saying, because I'm unclear. 410 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 4: After thinking for a couple of days, I'm going to 411 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:57,399 Speaker 4: allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide. 412 00:19:57,480 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 4: I've never cheated and would never have cheated on him. 413 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 4: Once it's proven that he's the father, I'm ending it, 414 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 4: leaving the same day, and I'm gonna try my best 415 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 4: to be a cooperative co parent with him. 416 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 3: It's done. She's made up her mind. Bro. 417 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 4: In the meantime, I'm coming up with my exit plan, 418 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 4: a place to live, a lawyer to work out a 419 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 4: custody arrangement in court, et cetera. I can't even tell 420 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,080 Speaker 4: my family or friends right now because it would go nuclear, 421 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 4: and my first priority is our child. I'm not asking 422 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:28,159 Speaker 4: for advice or reassurance or to explain aside. I'm just 423 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,439 Speaker 4: realizing this part of my life is now over. What 424 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,919 Speaker 4: a way to start the new year. Huh, God damn. 425 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 1: I understand, though, Like you know, once the trust in 426 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:42,320 Speaker 1: the relationship is broken, like, it's hard to get that back, 427 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: and obviously he doesn't trust her. 428 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 3: And it all seems for nothing. 429 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess you must have suspicions of their cheating, 430 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 1: but like he didn't even give any good reason. He 431 00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: did to give any reason. 432 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 4: No good reasons, no good reason. He's like, I want 433 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 4: it because I want it. 434 00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: I totally get where Ope's coming from, but damn date, 435 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: give it to me. 436 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,879 Speaker 4: A final update, It's short and sweet. I left, things 437 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 4: have gone downhill and under advisement, I can't really discuss 438 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 4: it until things are settled in court. I guess I'm 439 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 4: really a cautionary tale on what can go wrong. Please, 440 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 4: if you have any concerns with your partner, discuss things beforehand, 441 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 4: especially before you have a child. Thank you all again 442 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:25,320 Speaker 4: for your different perspectives. Hoping to have everything settled eventually. 443 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, have all those conversations beforehand, but damn opfeel for you? 444 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:31,080 Speaker 3: Feel for you? Wait? 445 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: John, So like really quick, doctor okop. Before in another 446 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 1: episode where like every birth should come with a paternity test, 447 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: like automatically, do you remember what we said that? 448 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what a ton of people say on these 449 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 4: stories too. 450 00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:46,919 Speaker 1: So with that being on the record as something that 451 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 1: we both have said, is it truly a big deal 452 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 1: to ask for a paternity test? And why do you 453 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,000 Speaker 1: think of this? Context? This time is different? 454 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:58,440 Speaker 4: Here's the thing the situation with like I think we 455 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 4: were talking about it in the context of like literally 456 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:02,639 Speaker 4: like when you go to a hospital and like you 457 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 4: have a baby, they do all these procedures, they clean 458 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 4: the baby and like get their perth certificate whatever that 459 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 4: it's done there in that process. 460 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 1: So John's saying, you shouldn't even have to ask for it, 461 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: it should just be already given to you. 462 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 4: I think it's probably a good idea to where it's 463 00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 4: like confirmed every time. 464 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 1: Okay, So then I ask you, so obviously this is 465 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,959 Speaker 1: this is that different relationship, But do you think if 466 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 1: you were to have a child with your significant other 467 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 1: that you would want the default to be them giving 468 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 1: you a paternity test. 469 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,879 Speaker 4: I don't want the default of them giving me the 470 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:39,199 Speaker 4: paternity test. It could be a good idea, yeah, for 471 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:42,480 Speaker 4: the people who have had their partners cheated right in 472 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 4: the hospital, for that to happen where there's like no 473 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 4: finger pointing, but the truth is revealed. 474 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: You don't want to have to start the revolution. You 475 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,560 Speaker 1: want the revolution to have already started and it just 476 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:54,879 Speaker 1: already be benefiting. 477 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,119 Speaker 4: I just think, like just reading of all the stories 478 00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 4: of people who did have a child with another person, 479 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 4: I never even consider this ever before we started the show, 480 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 4: not once. But I'm like, damn, this is crazy. So 481 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,720 Speaker 4: you're asking me, would I ever ask my partner for 482 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:09,520 Speaker 4: a paternity test? 483 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:10,960 Speaker 3: Hell? No, I would never. 484 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:14,680 Speaker 4: I would never do that unless there's some super serious evidence, 485 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:16,280 Speaker 4: super serious evidence. 486 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:20,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, if there's something sus Yeah, there's something super sus. 487 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 4: Other than that, like, I have no I have no 488 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 4: reason for me to ask my partner. That's the problem 489 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 4: with this scenario is because Opie's partner literally completely destroyed 490 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,640 Speaker 4: the trust of the relationship by asking for the paternity test. 491 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,919 Speaker 1: Because what he's really saying, he's not asking for a 492 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,000 Speaker 1: paternity test, He's saying, I think you cheated. 493 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,480 Speaker 3: I think you cheated. That's the problem. It's it's low key. 494 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 4: I don't know if I'll say good, but like this 495 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,400 Speaker 4: kind of revealed the giant red flag that like, if 496 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 4: he literally doesn't trust you with that and has the 497 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 4: goal to go and ask you for it, like like 498 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,199 Speaker 4: and do what he did, he's not a keeper. Not 499 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 4: a keeper exactly. 500 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:57,119 Speaker 1: So to summarize, John wants everyone to get a paternity test. 501 00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: He wishes that was the norm, because it is not 502 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: the norm. Because he trusts his partner. He's not gonna 503 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 1: ask for it himself. 504 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 4: We need to literally have you know, those T shirt cannons. 505 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,159 Speaker 4: We literally need to fund a program shooting paternity tests 506 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 4: in like people's windows are on their like. 507 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,440 Speaker 1: You get a paternity test. Don you get a paternity test? 508 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,680 Speaker 3: Don you gotta pattern any Oprah paternity test? 509 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, bro, that's that's what Okop Show will become.