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It's time, your time, not just to 18 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 2: go back to school, but to come back and move 19 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 2: forward with Purdue Global, Purdue's online university for working adults. 20 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: Start your comeback at Purdueglobal dot edu. 21 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 3: Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. 22 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 4: Thanks for listening to our podcast and thanks for supporting 23 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 4: the ministry. 24 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,760 Speaker 5: If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 25 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 5: blessing and share it with a friend. 26 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 6: We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 27 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:20,959 Speaker 6: your life. 28 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 3: Well, God bless you. 29 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,759 Speaker 4: It's a joy to come into your homes and we 30 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 4: loved you, and we're believing for God's very best in 31 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 4: your life. If you're ever in our area, I hope 32 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 4: you'll come out and see us. I promise you we'll 33 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 4: make you feel right at home. But thanks for tuning 34 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 4: in today. I like to get started with something funny, 35 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 4: and I heard about this minister that bought a new 36 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 4: horse and he trained it to respond to praise the 37 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 4: Lord meaning giddy up, and Hallelujah meaning woe. 38 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 3: His friends were so impressed. 39 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 4: Every time he said praise the Lord, the horse would 40 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 4: take off running. He'd say halllulu and it would quickly stop. Well, 41 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 4: one day he was out riding and the horse got 42 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 4: spooped and headed straight toward a cliff. The man yelled 43 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,239 Speaker 4: out whoa, whoa, but he didn't respond. He then remembered 44 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 4: he'd taught it something different, but he couldn't remember what 45 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 4: it was. 46 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 3: He yelled out, Amen, Glory, Bless God. 47 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 4: Nothing happened. Finally, right when the horse got to the 48 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 4: edge of the cliff, he yelled out Hallelujah, and the 49 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 4: horse came to a screeching halt. He breathed a sigh 50 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 4: of relief and said, Praise the Lord. 51 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 3: All right, hold up your bibles. 52 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 4: Say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 53 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 4: I am what it says I am. I have what 54 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 4: it says I have. I can do what it says 55 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 4: I can do. Today I will be taught the word 56 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 4: of God. I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my 57 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 4: heart is receptive. I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, 58 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 4: God bless you. I want to talk to you today 59 00:02:57,880 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 4: about not losing your joy. 60 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 3: Every day we. 61 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 4: Have opportunities to get upset, to go around stressed out. 62 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 4: Life is full of inconveniences. People don't always do what 63 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 4: they should, our plans don't always work out. There's constantly 64 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 4: something that can steal our joy. 65 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,679 Speaker 3: People, traffic, disappointments. 66 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 4: And if we're going to live in victory, we have 67 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 4: to have the right approach to life. And at the 68 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 4: first part of every day we need to make a 69 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 4: decision that no matter what comes against us, we are 70 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 4: not going to get upset. It's good to have plans, 71 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 4: but we should submit our plans to God and just say, God, 72 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 4: this is what I would like to accomplish today, this 73 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 4: is what I would like to get done. 74 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 3: But God, I know you're in control. 75 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 4: So I submit my plans to you, and I make 76 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 4: a decision in advance. 77 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 3: No matter what comes my way. 78 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 4: I'm going to stay in peace, knowing that you are 79 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 4: directing my steps and that all things. 80 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 3: Are going to work together for my good. 81 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 4: If you'll learn to submit your plans to God and 82 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 4: decide in advance to stay in peace, then when things 83 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 4: come against you, it's no big deal. You've already made 84 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 4: up your mind. That's not gonna steal my joy. I 85 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 4: like to pray every morning, Father, thank you that you've 86 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 4: given me the grace to handle whatever comes my way. 87 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 4: And when those inconveniences come, when our plans don't work out, 88 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:29,520 Speaker 4: when somebody irritates us, the first decision we should make 89 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 4: is I am not gonna get upset. I'm not going 90 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 4: to lose my joy. I have the power to stay 91 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 4: in peace. That's what the scripture says. No man can 92 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 4: take your joy. That means no person can make you 93 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 4: be unhappy. No circumstance can force you to get upset. 94 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 3: It's totally up to you. 95 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 4: You have complete control of how peaceful and how happy 96 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,039 Speaker 4: you want to live. And one of the keys to 97 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 4: enjoy in life is you have to take responsibility for 98 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 4: your own happiness. I hear so many excuses. I'd be 99 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 4: happy if my spouse would treat me better. I'd be 100 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 4: happy if I didn't have to work around so many 101 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 4: negative people, or if I didn't have these problems, these challenges, 102 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:16,040 Speaker 4: then I wouldn't be. 103 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 3: So stressed out. 104 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 4: No, you can be happy right where you are. You 105 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 4: may be in a difficult situation. It may not seem fair, 106 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 4: but God has armed you with strength for every battle. 107 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 4: He said he would never let you go through more 108 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 4: than you can handle. 109 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 3: You can have joy. 110 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 4: Right there in the midst of that adversity if you'll 111 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 4: simply have the right approach. Jesus put it this way 112 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 4: in John fourteen twenty seven. Stop allowing yourself to be 113 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 4: upset and disturbed. Notice, it's a decision we have to make. 114 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 4: One of the best things that I've ever learned is 115 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,919 Speaker 4: I don't have to have my way in order to 116 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 4: be happy. My plans don't have to work out in 117 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 4: order for me to have a good day. 118 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 3: I've already made up my mind. 119 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 4: I'm going to enjoy this day even if things don't 120 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 4: go my way. I'm gonna be happy, even if somebody 121 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 4: doesn't like my sermon. God forbid, I'm gonna have a 122 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 4: good attitude, even if I have a flat tire on 123 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 4: the way home. When we have this kind of approach, 124 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 4: all these things that have the potential to upset us, 125 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 4: maybe at one time they frustrated you, they won't upset 126 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 4: you anymore. Some of you need to draw that line 127 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 4: in the sand and say that's it. I'm done with 128 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 4: letting people and circumstances and traffic and neighbors and disappointments 129 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 4: always upset me. I refuse to give away my joy anymore. 130 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 4: I'm gonna live my life happy. Well, you say, Joel, 131 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,120 Speaker 4: I've got a lot of things coming against me, a 132 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 4: lot of challenges, and my spouse kind of gets on 133 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 4: my nerves, my boss aggravates me, traffic is horrible. Know, 134 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 4: those circumstances are not really you problem. 135 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 3: It's your approach. You keep giving away. 136 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 4: Your joy because you could take someone with the right 137 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 4: attitude and put them in your same situation, and they 138 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 4: wouldn't be stressed, they wouldn't be uptight, they would still 139 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 4: be enjoying their life. 140 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 7: Why is that they have the right approach? 141 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 4: They know that God is in control, They know their 142 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 4: steps are being ordered by the Lord. They know all 143 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 4: things are ultimately going to work together for their good. 144 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 4: In other words, they've trained themselves to stay in peace. 145 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 4: We have to recognize we can't control the traffic, we 146 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 4: can't control what our neighbor does or how our boss 147 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 4: treats us. But we can control our approach to life. 148 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 4: That's where the power lies, not in being able to 149 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 4: control all of our circumstances, but in being able to 150 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 4: control our own attitude and rise above those negative circumstances. 151 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 4: I think it's interesting the Apostle Paul never prayed for 152 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 4: people to be delivered from their problems. He prayed that 153 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 4: God would give them the. 154 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 7: Strength to go through them with a good attitude. 155 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 4: A lot of times we think, God, if you just 156 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 4: change these people that are aggravating me, God, if you 157 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 4: just make my child straighten up, or God, if you 158 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 4: just move my boss to another planet. God, if you 159 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 4: deliver me from these people, then I could be happy. 160 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 4: But the truth is those people may not ever change. 161 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 3: I hope they do. 162 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:32,559 Speaker 4: But even if they don't, if you will change, if 163 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 4: you will make an. 164 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 7: Adjustment, it doesn't have to upset you anymore. 165 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 4: You have the power right now to live a joy filled, 166 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 4: faith filled, peace filled life. But you've got to come 167 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 4: to that point where you say, God, even if it 168 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 4: never changes, it's not going to steal my joy. I 169 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 4: know you've got me in the palm of your hand. 170 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 4: I know you've always got my best interests at heart. 171 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 4: So God, I'm totally trusting you. 172 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:00,359 Speaker 3: Anything you have to. 173 00:08:59,880 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 4: Have in order to be happy is something the enemy 174 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 4: can use against you. If you think you have to 175 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 4: get married in order to be happy, not only are 176 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 4: you in for a pleasant surprise, I said, a pleasant surprise, 177 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 4: but the enemy can use that against you. If you 178 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 4: think your boss has to change before you can enjoy 179 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 4: your work, you'll go year after year dreading it, thinking 180 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 4: that's why you can't be happy. 181 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 3: Now throw out all those excuses. You can be happy 182 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 3: right where you are. 183 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 4: I know people that are facing life threatening diseases in 184 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 4: the natural. If anyone had a right to be kind 185 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 4: of down, it would be them, but they've got a 186 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 4: smile on their face. They're in peace, fighting the good 187 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:48,199 Speaker 4: fight of faith. And when we have to have something, 188 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 4: it's a sure sign that we're out of balance. Most 189 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 4: of the time, that's only going to cause God to 190 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 4: delay that from coming to pass. And it's good to 191 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 4: have hopes and dreams. It's good to to get up 192 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 4: each day believing and expecting. But what I'm saying is, 193 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:07,599 Speaker 4: don't wait for those things to enjoy your life. 194 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 3: And be happy. 195 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 4: This is the day the Lord has made, not tomorrow, 196 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 4: not when all your dreams come to pass, not when 197 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:17,320 Speaker 4: all the negative. 198 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 7: People are changed. 199 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:18,959 Speaker 3: But today. 200 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 4: Understand, God has you exactly where he wants you, and 201 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 4: if you'll learn to be happy where you are, God 202 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 4: will get you to where you want to be. He's 203 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 4: promised he will give you the desires of your heart. 204 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 4: If there's something that you really want, I would encourage 205 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 4: you to just put it on the altar, just say God, 206 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 4: I would really love to have this. God, you know 207 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 4: the desire you put in me. I would love to 208 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 4: get married. I'd love to see my spouse change. I 209 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 4: would love to get that promotion. But God, I'm not 210 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 4: waiting on that to be happy. I'm happy right where 211 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 4: you have me. That's the kind of attitude God's looking for. 212 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 4: Somebody came up to me a while back and she 213 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 4: was kind of bent out of shape. She said, Joel, 214 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 4: my boss doesn't give me the credit that I deserve. 215 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 4: He overlooks me, and it's not fair and it's very upsetting. 216 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 4: I told her what I'm telling you. Don't allow other 217 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 4: people to steal your joy. You can't make your boss 218 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 4: do what's right. You can't change that man. You should 219 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 4: have the attitude. It doesn't matter what my boss does 220 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 4: or doesn't do. I'm not working under him. I'm working 221 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 4: under God, and I'm gonna keep a smile on my face. 222 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 4: I'm gonna be happy anyway, knowing that God's gonna make 223 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 4: it up to me. And if you'll have that kind 224 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 4: of approach, not only will you enjoy your life more, 225 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 4: but God will fight your battles for you. 226 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 3: He'll make sure you get. 227 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 4: Everything that you deserve. But we cannot wait for other 228 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 4: people to change. 229 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:50,719 Speaker 3: We have to change. 230 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 4: I know this man that struggled in his marriage for 231 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,800 Speaker 4: years and years. He and his wife don't see eye 232 00:11:56,880 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 4: to eye on certain issues, and she won't come to 233 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 4: church with him for the longest time. This had him 234 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 4: down and discouraged. And I saw him a while back 235 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 4: and ask him how everything was going, and he seemed 236 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 4: to be very upbeat. He said, Joy, everything's going great. 237 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 4: I'm really enjoying my life. 238 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 3: And I thought for sure that. 239 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 4: He and his wife were getting along better and they'd 240 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 4: resolved all those issues, but he said, no, my wife 241 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 4: is just the same. We still don't see out of eye. 242 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 4: She still won't come to church with me. But he 243 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 4: said something very interesting. He said, Joel, she hasn't changed, 244 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:33,840 Speaker 4: but I've changed. I don't let that upset me anymore. 245 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 4: I don't let that steal my joy. That's what I'm 246 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:40,439 Speaker 4: talking about. Don't allow other people to keep you from 247 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 4: being happy. They may do things that irritate you. You 248 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 4: may have a family member that gets on your nerves 249 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 4: night and day, but you've got to make a decision. 250 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:52,679 Speaker 4: You're not going to let that get under your skin, 251 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 4: and you're going to enjoy your life anyway. Because let 252 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,600 Speaker 4: me tell you, if you let other people in your 253 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 4: circleumstances keep you from being happy, there will always be 254 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:05,559 Speaker 4: something to steal your joy. 255 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 3: Some of you today. 256 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 4: If you don't draw that line, you'll go the next 257 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 4: twenty years letting someone control you and keep you down 258 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 4: and discouraged. I found, unfortunately, some people don't really want 259 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 4: to be happy. They want discipline themselves, to make right choices, 260 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 4: and so they just live in the pits, are defeated 261 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 4: and depressed. And understand, you can't change people. You can 262 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 4: encourage them, you can speak faith into them, but ultimately 263 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 4: you cannot make them do what's right. And I say 264 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 4: this respectfully, but you're not responsible for their happiness. You're 265 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 4: responsible for your own happiness. You need to have the attitude, 266 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 4: have the attitude. If you don't want to be happy, 267 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:55,520 Speaker 4: that's fine, but you're not gonna keep me from being happy. 268 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:57,560 Speaker 4: If you want to live in the pits, that's okay, 269 00:13:57,640 --> 00:13:59,079 Speaker 4: but I'm not gonna get in there with you. 270 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,439 Speaker 7: I'm gonna end joy my life. 271 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 4: Sometimes we have to love people from a distance. You 272 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 4: may have you laugh because you know it's true. You 273 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:14,439 Speaker 4: may have family members, relatives, friends, You love them. They're 274 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 4: good people, but you can't be around them every minute. 275 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 4: You can be kind, you can be respectful, but you 276 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 4: should not spend all your time with what I call 277 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 4: toxic people. That's people that are always negative, people that 278 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 4: bring out the worst in you, people that irritates. 279 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:33,359 Speaker 3: You and always want to argue. 280 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 4: The less time you spend with people like that, the 281 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 4: better off you're going to be. And I realize sometimes 282 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:43,360 Speaker 4: we don't have a choice. You may work with someone 283 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 4: or live with someone that just almost on purpose, does 284 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 4: things to aggravate you. They feel like it's their calling 285 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 4: to make your life miserable. You need to change your approach. 286 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 4: The more you let them upset you, the more you 287 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 4: let that get under your skin, all you're doing. 288 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 3: Is empowering them. 289 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 4: If they can frustrate you, they know they can control you. 290 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 4: The next time they do something that would normally upset you, 291 00:15:11,240 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 4: just stay. 292 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 3: In peace, don't give in. 293 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 4: If they're rude to you, just keep a smile on 294 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 4: your face. If they leave you out, overlook you on purpose. 295 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:21,560 Speaker 3: Don't let it bother you. 296 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 4: Don't go call your friends, don't give it the time 297 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 4: of day. 298 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 3: When you rise above. 299 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 4: That and keep your joy, you're not fueling it anymore. 300 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 4: In other words, you're taking away their power. But as 301 00:15:34,640 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 4: long as they know they can push this button and 302 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 4: upset you, and. 303 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 3: This button and you'll come running. And this button and 304 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 3: it'll sour your day. Then they're gonna keep doing that. Well, 305 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 3: you say, Joe, I can't help it. 306 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 4: They aggravate me, they get on my nerves. 307 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 3: No, we can't help it. 308 00:15:48,800 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 4: The scripture says in Psalms, God has given us the 309 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 4: power to stay calm in times of adversity. 310 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 3: Here's the key. 311 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 4: What you feed is going to grow. You have to 312 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 4: quit feeding those wrong emotions. In other words, the next 313 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 4: time you get stuck in traffic and you're tempted to 314 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 4: get upset, don't feed it. The next time a coworker 315 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 4: is rude to you and you're tempted to let it 316 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 4: sour your day, overlook it. 317 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 3: Don't let it steal your joy. 318 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 4: If you'll quit feeding those wrong feelings, they will get 319 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 4: weaker and weaker, and eventually they won't affect you anymore. 320 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 4: When Victoria and I first got married some twenty years ago, 321 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 4: we would do things that kind of irritate each other. 322 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:34,640 Speaker 3: Not on purpose. 323 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 7: We just have different personalities and. 324 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 4: If we're not careful, we'll blow things out of proportion 325 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 4: and little things will turn into big things. We have 326 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:46,040 Speaker 4: to learn to adapt and adjust, and we can't wait 327 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 4: for others to change. 328 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 3: We have to change. 329 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 4: For instance, when I have somewhere to go, I like 330 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 4: to leave maybe fifteen minutes early, so I have plenty 331 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 4: of time and can just relax. 332 00:16:57,280 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 3: Victoria is just the opposite. 333 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 4: She'll leave fifteen minutes it's late and make it up 334 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 4: on the freeway. 335 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:04,479 Speaker 3: We're just different. 336 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 4: Actually, she doesn't speed. She's a very good driver. If 337 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 4: you see me riding with her, that helmet I. 338 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 3: Wear is just a safety precaution. 339 00:17:14,640 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 4: But on Sunday mornings we take different cars to church. 340 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 4: Not for that reason because I stay late. 341 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:23,880 Speaker 3: But I used to. 342 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 4: Get so stressed out thinking that she wasn't going to 343 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 4: get here on time, And so before I left, I'd 344 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 4: tell her, Victoria, you got to leave it this time, 345 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 4: and there may be traffic and this is very important. 346 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:34,400 Speaker 3: On and on, just kind of nagging her. 347 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 4: And when it got time for the service to start, 348 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 4: I would wait for her at the back door. I'd 349 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 4: ask Johnny, give me an update, See if you can 350 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 4: see her. 351 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 3: He'd open the door, look down East Houston Road, see 352 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,120 Speaker 3: if we can see her car. I was so uptight 353 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:47,640 Speaker 3: about it. 354 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 4: But the fact is, I can't ever remember one time 355 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 4: that she missed our part. 356 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 3: At the very beginning of the service. 357 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:56,880 Speaker 4: Now, there were times she'd pull up during the opening song, 358 00:17:56,960 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 4: but she made it up here. But one day I 359 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:03,240 Speaker 4: decided to do what I'm asking you to do. I 360 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 4: changed my approach. I quit nagging her, I quit trying 361 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 4: to change her, and I let her be who God 362 00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 4: made her to be. Now that thing that used to 363 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,640 Speaker 4: stress me doesn't bother me at all. 364 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:16,400 Speaker 3: In fact, it's funny. 365 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:19,159 Speaker 4: When I quit letting that upset me, that's when she 366 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 4: started coming earlier and earlier. Sometimes Now she'll beat me 367 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:25,440 Speaker 4: here by thirty minutes. 368 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 3: God is a god of miracles. But what am I saying. 369 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,640 Speaker 4: What I'm saying is I changed. And even now when 370 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 4: she's running late and I'm tempted to get upset, I 371 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:41,640 Speaker 4: just remind myself, even if she doesn't make it on time, 372 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:43,679 Speaker 4: even if she doesn't get all her makeup put on 373 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:46,880 Speaker 4: driving down the freeway, that's not going to sour my day. 374 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 3: I've learned to relax and just go with the flow. 375 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 4: But I've seen people they go year after year letting 376 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 4: the same things upset them every time they get caught 377 00:18:56,760 --> 00:19:00,080 Speaker 4: in traffic. They respond a certain way every time, and 378 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 4: their spouse does a certain thing they lose their joy, 379 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 4: it sours their day, or if they don't get enough 380 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 4: done at the office at. 381 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 3: Work, they come home all frustrated. 382 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 7: Don't let that be you find out what's stealing your joy. 383 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:15,320 Speaker 3: Take inventory of your life. 384 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,639 Speaker 4: What are you allowing to upset you, what's causing you 385 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 4: to go through the day stressed out? Identify what it is, 386 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 4: and then make a decision that you're going to change 387 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 4: your approach in those areas. After all, if you get 388 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 4: caught in traffic, getting upset is not going to make 389 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:35,880 Speaker 4: it go any faster. If someone's rude to us, being 390 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,239 Speaker 4: rude back to them is only going to sour our 391 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 4: own day. If our plans don't work out, Let's stay 392 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 4: in peace instead of getting upset, knowing that God is 393 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 4: still directing our steps. He's still got us exactly where 394 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 4: he wants us. I was driving in a crowded parking 395 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:54,679 Speaker 4: lot the other day, just going around and around. This 396 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 4: was in another state, looking for a place to park, 397 00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 4: and this couple came out of the building walking toward 398 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 4: their car, and I had to guess which ale they 399 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:05,800 Speaker 4: were going to be part down. I turned down this 400 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 4: one aisle, and it just so happened it was the 401 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 4: right one, and they were parked at the spot closest 402 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 4: to the door, right up front, so you know me, 403 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,960 Speaker 4: I was just thanking God for his favor and just 404 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 4: waiting for them to back out. When they backed out, 405 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 4: this man came from the main road and he turned 406 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,960 Speaker 4: down the wrong direction on that aisle and beat me 407 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 4: to that spot. My first inclination was to want to. 408 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:30,120 Speaker 3: Honk and give him a piece of. 409 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 4: My mind, but then I remembered I'm a pastor and 410 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 4: I can't do that. 411 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 3: I had to make a decision. I am not going 412 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:41,520 Speaker 3: to let this upset me. 413 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 4: I thought to myself, I'll give him the parking spot, 414 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 4: but I will not give him my joy. When you're 415 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 4: tempted to get upset when somebody does you wrong, you 416 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 4: have to ask yourself, is this worth giving up my 417 00:20:56,640 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 4: joy over they've already offended me. Am I gonna make 418 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,400 Speaker 4: it worse and let it sour the rest of my day. 419 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:06,639 Speaker 4: Some people don't realize they're constantly giving away their joy. 420 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,400 Speaker 4: They wonder why they're not happy. It's because they gave 421 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,959 Speaker 4: it away joy when they couldn't find their car keys 422 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 4: in the morning, gave away joy in traffic gave away 423 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 4: joy when they had to work late, gave away more 424 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 4: joy when they heard somebody was talking about them. Friends, 425 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,400 Speaker 4: I'm asking you to quit giving away your joy. 426 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:25,199 Speaker 3: You need it. 427 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:30,400 Speaker 4: Life is too short to let interruptions and inconveniences keep 428 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 4: us from being happy. We're never going to get away 429 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 4: from them. You can't just pray it all away. It's 430 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 4: a part of life. We have to learn to handle 431 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 4: it in the right way, and it's very freeing when 432 00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 4: you understand this principle. 433 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,160 Speaker 7: I don't have to give away my joy. 434 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 3: I can live. 435 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,120 Speaker 4: Every day happy if I want to. And I don't 436 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 4: mean that we're always jumping up and down. But one 437 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 4: definition of joy is calm delight. 438 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 3: That means we're at peace. 439 00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 4: We're at rest, not mad at our bowse and aggravated 440 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 4: at the boss and disappointed because our plans didn't work out. 441 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 3: Quit giving away your joy. 442 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:10,080 Speaker 4: And so I just went on past that parking spot, 443 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 4: didn't make a big deal about it, really didn't think. 444 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 3: About it even anymore. 445 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 4: A few minutes later, I found another place to park, 446 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,920 Speaker 4: and when I was walking toward the building, this young 447 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:23,679 Speaker 4: couple came walking out and they stopped me and told 448 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 4: how they had a son in the hospital and they 449 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 4: had been reading my book. It was a source of 450 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 4: hope and encouragement to them. 451 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 3: The lady began to weep and weep. 452 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 4: She said, Joel, I know seeing you here is God 453 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:39,680 Speaker 4: letting us know that everything is going to be okay. 454 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 4: And after we prayed, after we talked a moment and prayed, 455 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,080 Speaker 4: I thought about I didn't get the spot that I wanted, 456 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,640 Speaker 4: but I got the spot that God wanted me to have. 457 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:56,000 Speaker 3: God was directing my steps. That wasn't a coincidence. 458 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 4: God caused our past to come together for a reason. 459 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,639 Speaker 4: But if I'd been upset and stayed over with that 460 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 4: other guy and argued tried to set him straight, I 461 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,959 Speaker 4: probably wouldn't have been where I was supposed to be. Friends, 462 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:12,639 Speaker 4: God's in control. When our plans don't work out, it 463 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 4: doesn't mean that we're not at the right spot. And 464 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 4: if somebody's rude to you, if you're attempted to get upset, 465 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 4: just take the high road and stay in peace. 466 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 3: God is a god of justice. 467 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 4: He sees every wrong that's ever been done. And if 468 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 4: you'll keep your peace, he'll make your wrongs right. He'll 469 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,440 Speaker 4: take what you thought was a set back what you 470 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,439 Speaker 4: thought was a disadvantage, and he'll turn it around and 471 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:39,639 Speaker 4: use it to your advantage. Let's learn to pass these tests. 472 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 4: Don't get set in your ways. There's always something that 473 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 4: can steal our joy. 474 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:44,760 Speaker 6: Now. 475 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,679 Speaker 4: I know people they get stressed every time they have 476 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,239 Speaker 4: to pay their bills each month, or every time they 477 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 4: have to clean the house, every time they have. 478 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 3: To work late. 479 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 4: And if they don't make these adjustments, they'll go the 480 00:23:56,040 --> 00:24:00,119 Speaker 4: next twenty years giving away their joy. I read where 481 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 4: there are more heart attacks on Monday morning than any 482 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:07,959 Speaker 4: other time during the week. Why is that people are uptight, stressed, 483 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,920 Speaker 4: dreading going to work, already planning on having a lousy day. 484 00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 4: One reason there's so much sickness in our society is 485 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:20,800 Speaker 4: because of stress. Ninety percent of all doctor's visits to 486 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 4: a primary care physician are stress related. I think we'd 487 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 4: be amazed at how much healthier we would be if 488 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 4: we would quit fighting against everything that doesn't go our way. 489 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:36,480 Speaker 4: When we really believe that God's in control, we don't 490 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 4: have to get upset because somebody. 491 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:39,200 Speaker 3: Was rude to us. 492 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 4: We don't have to be uptight because we didn't get 493 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 4: a promotion we wanted. 494 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 3: We don't have to live. 495 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 4: Worried because we got a negative report from a medical doctor. No, 496 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 4: we know that God has us in the palm of 497 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 4: his hand. We know that no weapon formed against us 498 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,439 Speaker 4: is ever going to prosper. When you stay full of joy, 499 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 4: it's just like you're taking medicine when you're at peace, 500 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 4: when you're at rest, it brings health to your whole system. 501 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 4: The scripture says this, a relaxed attitude will lengthen your life. 502 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 4: I believe many of the headaches and back aches and 503 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 4: the reason we can't sleep, many of these ailments would 504 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 4: go away if we would just come back to that 505 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:25,240 Speaker 4: place of peace, not hurried, worried, uptight, stressed out. Some 506 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,640 Speaker 4: people on the inside, they're always fighting. They're always internal 507 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:33,879 Speaker 4: with something they don't realize. They are giving away the 508 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,480 Speaker 4: very thing that can help keep them healthy. They keep 509 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,919 Speaker 4: giving away their joy. I heard about this man that 510 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 4: had not been feeling well. He went to see his 511 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,160 Speaker 4: doctor and the doctor said what's wrong. He said, well, doctor, lately, 512 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:49,480 Speaker 4: i've been getting dizzy and I'm starting to see these 513 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:53,160 Speaker 4: white spots. The doctor examined him and put him through 514 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 4: some testing. Several days later called him back and said, sir, 515 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 4: I hate to tell you this, but you've got a 516 00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 4: rare disease and we think you only have about six 517 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 4: months to live. The man quit his job, decided to 518 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,400 Speaker 4: travel the world and do all the things he'd. 519 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:09,120 Speaker 3: Always hoped to do. 520 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,199 Speaker 4: Spent a lot of time with his family, bought a 521 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,199 Speaker 4: new sports car. One day, he was driving by this 522 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 4: famous clothing shop and he decided to go in and 523 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,479 Speaker 4: get a tailor made suit. The tailor came in and 524 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 4: measured his arm length thirty three inches, measured his waist 525 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,679 Speaker 4: thirty two, measured his pant length thirty four. Then he 526 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,080 Speaker 4: measured his neck and said, I'm gonna make you a 527 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,600 Speaker 4: sixteen and a half inch shirt. The man said, no, 528 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,360 Speaker 4: I wear a fifteen inch shirt. The tailor measured it again, 529 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 4: very closely. He said, no, sir, look you wear a 530 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:45,160 Speaker 4: sixteen and a half inch shirt. The man was very adamant. 531 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 4: He said, no, sir, I wear a fifteen inch shirt. 532 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 4: I've won one my whole lifetime, and I want you 533 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:55,600 Speaker 4: to make me a fifteen inch shirt. The tailor said, well, fine, 534 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 4: I'll make you a fifteen inch shirt, but he's gonna 535 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 4: make you dizzy and you're gonna start see in white spots. 536 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 3: What's my point? You know my point. 537 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 4: If we'll be willing to change, if we'll make adjustments, 538 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 4: many times we'll see our white spots go away. We'll 539 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 4: see our frustrations go away. It's when we get set 540 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,360 Speaker 4: in our ways and we think this is the way 541 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,719 Speaker 4: I've always done it. Always get upset when my spouse 542 00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 4: is late for dinner, Always get stressed when. 543 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,639 Speaker 3: I have to work over time, Joel, My daughter. 544 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,879 Speaker 4: Always upsets me. She knows how to push just the 545 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 4: right buttons. Now turn those buttons off. Don't go around 546 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 4: with a fifteen inch when you know you need a 547 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 4: sixteen and a half. Make the necessary adjustments, and some 548 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,640 Speaker 4: of you, if you just get your joy back, you'd 549 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 4: go to a whole new level. You're constantly allowing other 550 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 4: people in your circumstances to keep you upset, frustrated, worry. 551 00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:54,679 Speaker 4: If you would make even a minor adjustment and change 552 00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 4: your approach, you would see a major improvement. Remember, we 553 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,640 Speaker 4: can't control our circumstance. We can't control what other people do, 554 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 4: but we can control our own attitude. That's where the 555 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:08,560 Speaker 4: power lies. Now, I wonder how many of us would 556 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 4: get upset this week. If we knew we only had 557 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,439 Speaker 4: six months to live, we wouldn't be bothered if we 558 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 4: had to work late. We'd have a whole new perspective. 559 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,960 Speaker 4: We wouldn't be stressed if we got stuck in traffic. 560 00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 4: We'd appreciate every moment. We wouldn't let a family member 561 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 4: get under our skin. 562 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:26,159 Speaker 3: We would rise above it. 563 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,720 Speaker 4: Friends, let's keep it in the right perspective. We're not 564 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,120 Speaker 4: always going to be here. 565 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,879 Speaker 7: Each day is a gift from God. 566 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,760 Speaker 4: Now, I'm asking us to make these adjustments now so 567 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,479 Speaker 4: you don't have to look up one day and say, man, 568 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 4: I wasted years letting that person frustrate me. I wasted 569 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 4: years being stressed on the job, years dreading having to 570 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 4: clean the house. Now, if you'll change your approach and 571 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:56,160 Speaker 4: believe that God's directing your steps, believe that you're exactly 572 00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 4: where you're supposed to be, then you'll come back to 573 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 4: that place of peace and you'll not only enjoy your 574 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,320 Speaker 4: life more, but God will pour out his blessings in 575 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 4: favor and you'll live the life of victory he has 576 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 4: in store. 577 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,240 Speaker 3: Amen, do you receive it today? 578 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,280 Speaker 4: Or We never like to close our broadcast without giving 579 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,360 Speaker 4: you an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. 580 00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:18,520 Speaker 3: Would you pray with me? 581 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 4: Just say, Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. 582 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 3: Come into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. 583 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 4: Friends, if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you 584 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:35,480 Speaker 4: got born again. Get in a good Bible based church. 585 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 4: Keep God first place. He's going to take your places 586 00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:39,760 Speaker 4: you've never dreamed of. 587 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 8: Thank you for listening to the Joel os Deine podcast. 588 00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,160 Speaker 8: Help us continue to share the message of hope with 589 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 8: those all over the world. Visit Joelusdin dot com slash 590 00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 8: give Hope to give a gift today. 591 00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 4: Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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