WEBVTT - Affairs, Adderall and PTA moms

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, Welcome to Desperately Devoted, the Ultimate Desperate Housewives rewatch

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<v Speaker 1>hosted by me Terry Hatcher, my on screen daughter Andrea Bowen,

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<v Speaker 1>and my real life daughter Emerson Tenney.

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<v Speaker 2>Each week, we continue our rewatch of Desperate Housewives and

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<v Speaker 2>discuss all the fascinating topics inspired by this incredible show.

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<v Speaker 3>This week is such a good one.

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<v Speaker 4>It's such a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's dive into episode six, Running to stand Still, which

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<v Speaker 3>aired on November seventh, two thousand and four.

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<v Speaker 5>What a jam packed hour. In this episode, the tension

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<v Speaker 5>between Gabrielle and her mother in law hits a new

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<v Speaker 5>high or low, depending on how you look at it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my, it does go low, and Lynette finds herself

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<v Speaker 2>taking some pretty extreme measures to live up to the

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<v Speaker 2>elusive task of being a mom who is trying to

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<v Speaker 2>do it all.

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<v Speaker 3>Susan and Julie sneak into a juvenile mental health facility

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<v Speaker 3>as one does, yes, you know, casual, and we get

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<v Speaker 3>a very sexually charged storyline from Brie which features a

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<v Speaker 3>pretty iconic burrito.

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<v Speaker 5>And yeah, we are gonna get more on that burrito later.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes we are.

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<v Speaker 5>We definitely are.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So we like to start our episode by hearing

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<v Speaker 2>each other's most desperate moment. Our most favorite desperate moment, Andrea.

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<v Speaker 3>Mine, I would say is Lynette taking her kid's add

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<v Speaker 3>medication to finish the costumes for the school play.

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<v Speaker 4>That is bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Although as the only actual mother of the three of us,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna say, well, I never did that.

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<v Speaker 4>It is totally relatable.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like my most desperate moment has to be

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<v Speaker 5>Gabby dropping her mother in law off at a casino

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<v Speaker 5>to go into crippling debt fueled by her gambling addiction,

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<v Speaker 5>just to cover up an affair with a minor. She

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<v Speaker 5>is a pretty.

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<v Speaker 4>Rough mother in law.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I you know, she may deserve it, and

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<v Speaker 2>it is a very complicated situation. Okay, Well Mine and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if this is desperate because it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>also rave, and also she's glorious looking. But I found

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that Brie put on this unbelievably sexy red

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<v Speaker 2>underwear lingerie with a mink fur coat over it and

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<v Speaker 2>shows up at her husband's hotel room desperate to basically

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<v Speaker 2>get him to fuck her.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like that was that was that was a

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<v Speaker 2>bottomed out moment. But although also an iconic one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think the motel made that worse the hotel

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<v Speaker 3>room itself, the motel. Okay, well, we clearly have so

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<v Speaker 3>much more to explore here, so let's get into episode six.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, oh my gosh, running to Standstill, which actually is

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<v Speaker 5>one of the few other non son time lyric episodes.

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<v Speaker 5>This is named after a U two song. Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 5>very of the era.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if Mark Cherry is a big you two

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<v Speaker 2>fano another thing we have to ask him.

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<v Speaker 4>You need to keep a scorecard of that.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, I find this episode amazing, as they all are.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the battle that Gabby is having with her

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<v Speaker 2>mother in law mother in law is just epic. And

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<v Speaker 2>Brie and Rex and you know, the continuing dissolution of

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<v Speaker 2>the positivity of their marriage is very interesting to look at.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and we started this episode with a garage sale,

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<v Speaker 3>a yard sale, which I.

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<v Speaker 5>Just have to say, My mom is a huge fan

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<v Speaker 5>of yard sales. The second I saw Susan in a

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<v Speaker 5>yard sale, I was like, Okay, she wasn't trying too hard.

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<v Speaker 3>Terry, are you a fan of having yard sales or

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<v Speaker 3>going to yards sales?

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<v Speaker 5>Going two yards? Ye?

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I mean, you know, I know, when my parents

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<v Speaker 2>moved out of the home that I grew up in

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<v Speaker 2>and they lived in.

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<v Speaker 4>For forty years, they had a garage.

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<v Speaker 2>Sale and I helped them, you know, like T shirts

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<v Speaker 2>for a quarter on the lawn, that kind of yard sale.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've had a yard sale back when maybe I

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<v Speaker 2>was pregnant with you or maybe you were just born.

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<v Speaker 2>But I had a yard sale out in Shadow Hills

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<v Speaker 2>where I used to live in Los Angeles, and the

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<v Speaker 2>pop Rozzi came and it ended up in those days

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<v Speaker 2>it was the National Choir that was the big tabloid magazine,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was like some sort of horrible how pathetic

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<v Speaker 2>is she that she has to have a garage And

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<v Speaker 2>I like it maybe look like a total loser that

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<v Speaker 2>I had a garage sale, And I was like, garage

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<v Speaker 2>sales are fun, reuse, repurpose.

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<v Speaker 5>You know. I have so many memories of going to

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<v Speaker 5>garage sales. I remember my mom and I we would

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<v Speaker 5>drive around LA on the weekends and sometimes we would

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<v Speaker 5>see in a state sale sign and it would be

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<v Speaker 5>the most exciting thing ever and we'd go and we'd

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<v Speaker 5>follow it. And I mean at the time, I was

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<v Speaker 5>a kid, so I was always looking for like vintage

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<v Speaker 5>figurines or anything equestrian related. Yeah, but I still I.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell you them sometimes as well. First of all, I

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<v Speaker 2>was going to use set a state sale. I do

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<v Speaker 2>think this is something I give very hung up on.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you get to somebody's estate sale and you're like, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a yard sale. This is the yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>misleading advertising. I'm just saying anyway, But sometimes I don't

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<v Speaker 2>buy anything. Sometimes I'm just so curious about other people's lives,

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<v Speaker 2>which I guess leads.

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<v Speaker 4>Us really right into the show.

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<v Speaker 3>I do have one very quick, wonderful garage sale story experience. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so we were having a garage sale, estate sale. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, we were selling a lot. I have a

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<v Speaker 3>large family. There's always a lot to sell anyway, and

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<v Speaker 3>a woman came over to me holding a pair of

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<v Speaker 3>very cute high heels that we had been mine, and

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<v Speaker 3>she asked me if I had them in another size.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, it's not a store, I was, lady.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a yard sale, not Bloomingdale's.

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<v Speaker 2>But oh my gosh, that's so funny, you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>it just made me think. Actually, one other personal story

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<v Speaker 2>there was a while I don't know if you remember

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<v Speaker 2>this when I was doing the celebrity yard sale to

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<v Speaker 2>benefit at the Juvenile Arthritis, and I did one at

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<v Speaker 2>the Americana, I did one at our house, and I

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<v Speaker 2>would get different celebrities to donate their stuff and all

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<v Speaker 2>the money went to Juvenile Arthritis, which which I was

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<v Speaker 2>I was a what do you call it when you spokesperson? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, and that was kind of through Children's Hospital

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<v Speaker 2>Los Angeles, which I still work with. But anyways, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>so people seem to be very generous with their used goods.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, well, and so is Paul.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, I don't know if he's generous or he

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<v Speaker 2>just wasn't get rid of.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, he's currently offloading, which leads to Susan buying it's

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<v Speaker 5>a crystal bowl, crystal of oz. But what he wraps

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<v Speaker 5>it in is even more important. That's going to come

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<v Speaker 5>back later, that yellow blanket. Yes, And I love that

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<v Speaker 5>Susan is snooping around and asks about his swollen lip

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<v Speaker 5>and how he got it, and he goes the regular

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<v Speaker 5>way for asking too many questions. Right, Yeah, he is

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<v Speaker 5>just such a good villain, he really is.

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<v Speaker 3>And he only is getting more villainous, you know, which

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of didn't remember, and obviously Mark Moses is

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<v Speaker 3>not like that. But yeah, it's he's he's sneaky this episode,

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<v Speaker 3>for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's coming from some I mean, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>this is interesting to him. We'll be interesting as we

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<v Speaker 2>get to talk to some of these people. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes in the arc of a series like this, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even think the writers know where they're going. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>there might be some general direction, but they don't really

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<v Speaker 2>necessarily always get it all.

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<v Speaker 4>Planned out right.

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<v Speaker 2>And I feel like for an actor like Mark, for

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<v Speaker 2>any good actor, if the writers aren't able to tell

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<v Speaker 2>you the story, like why is he behaving this way?

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<v Speaker 4>What?

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<v Speaker 5>What is he.

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<v Speaker 2>Digging out of the pool? Maybe the writers don't actually

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<v Speaker 2>know yet. They just it's a cool scene to have

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<v Speaker 2>him digging out of the pool, but like, maybe they

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<v Speaker 2>haven't executed that thought yet. And as the actor, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to make it up for yourself otherwise, even if

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<v Speaker 2>it's wrong, you got to make up something otherwise it's

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<v Speaker 2>not grounded in anything. So it's interesting to see these

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<v Speaker 2>guys do their performances as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we also got a great guest star this week

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<v Speaker 3>in Sharon moranch who plays the unlikable irritating Mazie Gibbons,

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<v Speaker 3>but she plays her so well those as Yes, but she.

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<v Speaker 4>Does yeah at all.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, So she and Lynette really butt horns this

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<v Speaker 3>episode as Lynette is trying to get settled in the

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<v Speaker 3>new school with the twins, and I thought this was

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<v Speaker 3>a really interesting storyline. I'm excited to discuss it with

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<v Speaker 3>you guys about the rewriting of Little Red Riding Hood. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>because it feels topical as this show we continue to discover,

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<v Speaker 3>continues to feel so topical these days and relevant still

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<v Speaker 3>that someone is suggesting an edit or a rewrite of

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<v Speaker 3>a children's story to make it more palatable for the children.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and that Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I took note of this too, that this felt like

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<v Speaker 5>a very early idea of what isically correct speaking, and

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<v Speaker 5>I continue to fall, I mean, especially these days, on

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<v Speaker 5>the side of we can't be censoring what books are

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<v Speaker 5>taught in schools, what makes certain people uncomfortable. But it

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<v Speaker 5>was interesting to see in two thousand and four a

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<v Speaker 5>character like Lynnette bringing up a.

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<v Speaker 2>Pushback, a push on somebody trying to nice, nice everything, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and pointing out.

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<v Speaker 5>So well that it doesn't make any sense that the

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<v Speaker 5>literal big bad Wolf is gonna not be big and

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<v Speaker 5>bad because then what is little red riding hood working against?

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<v Speaker 5>What is the adversity? What does the huntsman do? I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I think she dissects that really well. But it also

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<v Speaker 5>made me laugh about just the politics of PTA in schools.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Mom, did you ever deal with that?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, did the closest.

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<v Speaker 2>I get to that, which is not really PTA, but

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<v Speaker 2>it is an example of it's hilarious I think is

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<v Speaker 2>that I used to have.

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<v Speaker 4>These big Easter parties.

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<v Speaker 2>I threw a lot of parties, but I still do.

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<v Speaker 4>That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>But the Easter parties were giant picnics. I think I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not exaggerate to say that I hid over five hundred

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<v Speaker 2>of those little plastic eggs that break in half and

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<v Speaker 2>you put like candy or toys or whatever, and then and.

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<v Speaker 4>The whole there would be like a petting zoo. I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>it was a whole.

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<v Speaker 5>I think we actually ended up with a cat.

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<v Speaker 4>We did cat tracks.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, Sometimes people, some of the moms would bring food

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<v Speaker 2>to put up, almost in a potlux sort of way,

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<v Speaker 2>And this one woman brought a cheesecake, and this cheesecake

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<v Speaker 2>was truly one of the best cheesecakes.

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<v Speaker 5>I've know which woman you're talking about. Amazing baker is.

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<v Speaker 4>An amazing baker. It's true.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I said to her, I go, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>this is really the best cheesecake I've ever had. Do

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<v Speaker 2>you think would you share the recipe with me? And

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<v Speaker 2>she said no, I cannot, And I was like, oh, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just seeing all right. But then she tops

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<v Speaker 2>it and this is what kind of reminds me of Mazie. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>she goes, she goes, what and even if I did,

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<v Speaker 2>you wouldn't be able to make it?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow? One two Puna.

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<v Speaker 2>I was not involved really in that kind of PTA issue,

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<v Speaker 2>per se. I feel like that touches the same mothers

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<v Speaker 2>of students and they're all like protecting their turf and their.

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<v Speaker 3>That feels generational way too, because now we have a

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<v Speaker 3>term all over the internet about this, which is gatekeeping,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and people just don't gatekeep or they don't

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<v Speaker 3>consider gatekeeping a good thing.

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<v Speaker 4>So she was gate gaping the cheesecake.

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<v Speaker 3>Plus it was probably the cheesecake recipie on the back

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<v Speaker 3>of Philadelphia or the cream face.

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't know, she's a very good does it

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<v Speaker 5>makes me. Think about the conversation that the women have

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<v Speaker 5>when they get together to play cards, when they talk

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<v Speaker 5>about how men and in fight, Yeah, like the different

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<v Speaker 5>ways and this cheesecake comment, just like the PTA. And

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<v Speaker 5>later when Lynnette does, you know, prevail on not changing

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<v Speaker 5>little Red riding hood, but then get saddled with having

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<v Speaker 5>to make all of these costumes and she kind of

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<v Speaker 5>gets that snide look from the PTA queen mom who says,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, oh, I'm sure you're not going to be

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<v Speaker 5>able to pull off making all those costumes. You know,

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<v Speaker 5>even if I gave you the recipe to the cheesecake,

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<v Speaker 5>you wouldn't be able to make it, right. I think

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<v Speaker 5>that is the difference between how men and women fight.

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<v Speaker 5>Men will go punch someone in the face and then

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<v Speaker 5>it's over, and women will repeatedly knife you with comments

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<v Speaker 5>until your self esteem is entirely destroyed, and you think

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<v Speaker 5>about it twenty years later.

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<v Speaker 4>You think that's really true. I guess it really is.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want it to be true. I want you.

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<v Speaker 2>Hear so much about women supporting women, and I sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>they do, and I know in my life, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>we're three women, we're all supporting each other.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I I'm a champion of that, have so many women

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<v Speaker 2>in my life, and but you do. Still it's a

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<v Speaker 2>stereotype for a reason that there is this you know,

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<v Speaker 2>actually it is. I heard some you know, some of

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<v Speaker 2>the variety or like Hollywood Reporter, they have these like

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<v Speaker 2>round tables of Emmy nominated actresses. I love those, I

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<v Speaker 2>do too, and they I don't remember exactly who it was,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was kind of in the last recent years,

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<v Speaker 2>and so some set.

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<v Speaker 4>Of really fabulous actresses.

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<v Speaker 2>Again I'm not gonna remember exactly who it was, but

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<v Speaker 2>one of them I do remember, talked about they must

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<v Speaker 2>have been older, because they talked about how the way

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<v Speaker 2>women are supportive of each other now is not the

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<v Speaker 2>way it was like twenty or.

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<v Speaker 4>Thirty years ago, and maybe it was.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think they were making the point that the

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<v Speaker 2>studio didn't foster like it was not in the studio's

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<v Speaker 2>interests right for everybody to be supporting each other, for

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<v Speaker 2>the women to be connecting and empowering each other, and

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<v Speaker 2>obviously it's almost unionization in a way. It's you can

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<v Speaker 2>see that somebody would not benefit from all the women.

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<v Speaker 3>Camaraderie. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I saw a clip recently kind

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<v Speaker 3>of piggybacking on that, which was I think it was

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<v Speaker 3>a few years ago, and it was at I want

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<v Speaker 3>to say, the Emmys, and it was when all of

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<v Speaker 3>the nominees for Best Lead Actors in a Comedy all

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<v Speaker 3>when as soon as their names were announced, just as

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<v Speaker 3>being nominated, they walked right up on stage. It was

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<v Speaker 3>Amy Puller, she walked right up, and then Melisa McCarthy

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<v Speaker 3>and she walked right up, and then you know, eighty

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<v Speaker 3>Falco walked right up, and they kept doing this and

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<v Speaker 3>then they stood on stage together and then the winner

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<v Speaker 3>was announced and they all hugged her. It was Melissa

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<v Speaker 3>McCarthy that year, and they all just surrounded her and

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<v Speaker 3>hugged her, and she looked very shocked, but it was

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<v Speaker 3>so moving. I think I got to hear that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't know, I don't remember seeing that in

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<v Speaker 3>real time, but anyway, I did think that this was

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<v Speaker 3>also a very interesting theme in this episode, and I

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<v Speaker 3>wonder as we go exploring the show more, the types

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<v Speaker 3>of conflicts we will witness between the housewives and how

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<v Speaker 3>they resolve their conflicts.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and I think this is also a big turning

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<v Speaker 5>point for Lynette's character, I feel like her children getting

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<v Speaker 5>into which also where's the baby? But her two children

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<v Speaker 5>getting into this new school. I feel like we start

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<v Speaker 5>to see her identity shift to trying to We don't

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<v Speaker 5>really see her feel competitive with the other women on

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<v Speaker 5>the block. Maybe there's a comment, oh, she's not as

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<v Speaker 5>perfect as bree Vandicamp, but then again, like who is?

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<v Speaker 5>But I kind of see her start to get competitive

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<v Speaker 5>with the other women she suddenly faced as moms in

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<v Speaker 5>the school. I'm going, Okay, if I'm not a working

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<v Speaker 5>mom anymore, if I'm a stay at home mom, how

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<v Speaker 5>do I compete with these other parents who are you know,

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<v Speaker 5>perform whatever it means to perform well as a stay

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<v Speaker 5>at home mom. Yeah, and of course you know she

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<v Speaker 5>it leads her to to drugs.

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<v Speaker 3>Right right, because the question of how do how does

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<v Speaker 3>one do it all? Is often the answer is there's

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<v Speaker 3>they can't they can't write, and so there's usually something

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<v Speaker 3>behind the scenes helping you. And in this in this episode,

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<v Speaker 3>we will find out that one of the other moms

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<v Speaker 3>is using her child's out all yes, her children's add medication,

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<v Speaker 3>and Lynette sort of considers it and ultimately ends up

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<v Speaker 3>succoming as she then has that line when she looks

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<v Speaker 3>at herself in the mirror and her eyes are all

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<v Speaker 3>dilated and Lynette says, oh, what big eyes you have?

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<v Speaker 4>Who Yeah, tie.

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<v Speaker 3>Us right back in the little red riding hood.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, speaking of good lines. So then we have still

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<v Speaker 2>we've got Gabby having her whole exposure of her affair

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<v Speaker 2>getting more and more stressful. And there was a scene

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<v Speaker 2>where she actually does even does the most perfect spit take.

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<v Speaker 5>But I could.

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<v Speaker 2>Have done a spit take while I was watching the

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<v Speaker 2>show if I had been drinking something, because that's how

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<v Speaker 2>brilliant it is. But she uh says that, I guess,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess No. Bree says, both John and Danielle are

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<v Speaker 2>in the Abstinence Club and you see Yavvy just do

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<v Speaker 2>this fit take in front of her mother in law.

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<v Speaker 5>This is at the poker game, which then.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, before yes, I wonder if Eva practiced. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 3>there have you ever had to do a spit take, Terry,

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<v Speaker 3>I have, I have.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I did it in this show,

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<v Speaker 2>I have this whole series, right, but I definitely have

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<v Speaker 2>in my career.

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<v Speaker 3>I just think it's such a great gag. When someone

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<v Speaker 3>nails it, and I would feel so much pressure to

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<v Speaker 3>try to do it justice and I wonder if it

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<v Speaker 3>was a good one.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I did also notice in this episode that John only

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<v Speaker 3>calls Gabrielle mississles and I did, as we are continued

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<v Speaker 3>to be fascinated by this dynamic playing out in front

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<v Speaker 3>of us. I did note that, you know, it's it's

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<v Speaker 3>so funny and cringey that he only ever calls her

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<v Speaker 3>missus Elise and she never yeah, yeah, never said I

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<v Speaker 3>think she's into it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think she must be.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah wait, speaking of being into it, but okay, moving

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<v Speaker 5>into it. Before the women sit down to play poker,

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<v Speaker 5>and then we have the other missus Sole swindle them

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<v Speaker 5>all out of their money because she's such a card shark.

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<v Speaker 5>We have Brie and Rex back in their therapist's office

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<v Speaker 5>and Rex suggests, and I was like, wait, is this

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<v Speaker 5>a Y two K thing I don't know about? And

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<v Speaker 5>now we're just calling it something else in today's age?

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<v Speaker 5>He suggests getting a sexual surrogate, and I is this

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<v Speaker 5>is this helped me understand? Is this like a three?

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<v Speaker 3>So I can't help you because I also wrote down

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<v Speaker 3>what is a sexual surrogate.

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<v Speaker 2>But I actually think that there may be medical intes procedures.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I mean, I don't know, like.

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<v Speaker 2>In a loving relationship, and we were not able to

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<v Speaker 2>make that part of our relationship work. And I really

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<v Speaker 2>love this person. I don't know that I would be

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<v Speaker 2>opposed to having somebody teach me. I mean once, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>when I was no, No, when I was twenty, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I had like some girlfriend teach me how to

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<v Speaker 2>give a blowjob on a beer bottle.

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<v Speaker 3>A beer bottle.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, that makes sense, I guess, but it's so. And

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<v Speaker 2>there was a lot of discussion about the rim and

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<v Speaker 2>what you were supposed to focus on, and there was

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<v Speaker 2>also some conversation about your hand and how it was

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to sort of twist and not just go straight

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<v Speaker 2>up and down.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, it was a very detailed and she was your

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<v Speaker 3>sexual Surguy.

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<v Speaker 2>What she's going, oh my god about it is the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that I don't remember what happened yesterday, but somehow

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<v Speaker 2>I remember this beer model. So I so I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>saying I that was just between girlfriends, right, And.

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<v Speaker 3>That's every man's fantasy, having that conversation with beer involved.

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<v Speaker 5>It's of course, this is you.

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<v Speaker 2>And the other thing I did was I showed you

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<v Speaker 2>how to put a condom on a banana.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, we're straying far away, Okay from the sexual

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<v Speaker 5>we're talking.

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<v Speaker 4>About teaching about sexual things. Yeah, that far away, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Similar a similar shape to ever come back a similar shape.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, I survived it the first time.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm I don't need that lesson anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a phallic structure in this scene that is

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<v Speaker 3>never addressed that Marcia as Brie is stroking at the

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<v Speaker 3>beginning of this scene, and it's never talked about what

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<v Speaker 3>it's this horn shaped thing that's on that they doctor

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<v Speaker 3>Boldin's side table, and I would the scene. At the

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<v Speaker 3>top of the scene, she is just you can imagine,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna do it, but she is rubbing this little.

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<v Speaker 4>I did not even very like that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's kind of falls into Remember another episode we Andrew

0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:22.040
<v Speaker 2>and I were talking about, did either of us remember

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<v Speaker 2>why Julie reached up and moved the food off of

0:21:26.640 --> 0:21:31.520
<v Speaker 2>Susan's mouth. We deduced that it was our personal edition

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<v Speaker 2>remember from the script, to like have some sort of

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<v Speaker 2>deeper sense of how we behave as characters. And I

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<v Speaker 2>have a feeling that Marcia maybe added this as almost

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<v Speaker 2>like a subconscious thing of like, I mean, it would

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<v Speaker 2>be curious to ask her.

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<v Speaker 5>And I do.

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<v Speaker 3>And the fact that it's happening in a therapist's office

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<v Speaker 3>is just really great. And I do think it's another

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<v Speaker 3>example of how strong the show's tone comes through, where

0:22:01.000 --> 0:22:06.040
<v Speaker 3>that type of overt bodiness or you know, something that

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't work on a show where the writing wasn't balanced.

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<v Speaker 3>You might just not you might just find that kind

0:22:12.520 --> 0:22:14.280
<v Speaker 3>of pushing it over the top. But I felt like

0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:17.040
<v Speaker 3>it really played into the whole thing very well and

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<v Speaker 3>was funny and cheeky, and it made sense because the

0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:23.760
<v Speaker 3>rest of that storyline is pretty raw between Bri and

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<v Speaker 3>Rex and they.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's the point you're making, is it really

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of serious and that you know. When this

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<v Speaker 2>show first was nominated for any awards, which is not

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<v Speaker 2>too much after probably this episode aired, I think was

0:22:38.520 --> 0:22:41.800
<v Speaker 2>the time awards seasons were starting to come up. I

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<v Speaker 2>think it was a surprise a little bit to people

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<v Speaker 2>that it fell in the comedy category. It's totally it's

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<v Speaker 2>an hour long. Usually comedies are not an hour long show.

0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:55.680
<v Speaker 2>Usually that almost automatically makes you a drama, a drama,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was clearly so funny.

0:22:58.359 --> 0:22:59.399
<v Speaker 4>That it could.

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<v Speaker 2>It was isn't gonna be able to stand against an

0:23:02.520 --> 0:23:06.199
<v Speaker 2>out and out like cop show drama, you know, the

0:23:06.200 --> 0:23:10.400
<v Speaker 2>hospital kind of thing, right and rightly so it ended

0:23:10.480 --> 0:23:14.199
<v Speaker 2>up in the comedy section, but it's it's also not

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:19.280
<v Speaker 2>a sitcom, you know. And and writing that that very

0:23:19.359 --> 0:23:22.320
<v Speaker 2>fine line, I think they did extremely well, at least

0:23:22.320 --> 0:23:22.960
<v Speaker 2>in the beginning.

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<v Speaker 3>I do want to because we're talking about the Breeze stuff,

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<v Speaker 3>I do want to include that my personal favorite line

0:23:37.119 --> 0:23:39.960
<v Speaker 3>in this episode was a bree line, and it is

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<v Speaker 3>when she is sitting at the lunch that she ends

0:23:43.040 --> 0:23:47.119
<v Speaker 3>up having my line, Oh my gosh, im sending I

0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:50.280
<v Speaker 3>have the same favorite line. And she has this moment

0:23:50.359 --> 0:23:53.320
<v Speaker 3>where she kind of pleads with her therapist who she

0:23:53.400 --> 0:23:57.159
<v Speaker 3>sees out at lunch, to turn it into an impromptu session,

0:23:57.160 --> 0:23:59.880
<v Speaker 3>and he reluctantly gives in and she sits with him,

0:24:00.080 --> 0:24:02.280
<v Speaker 3>and she brings up the sex stuff that keeps coming

0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:05.200
<v Speaker 3>up in therapy sessions with Rex, and she says, after

0:24:05.240 --> 0:24:08.280
<v Speaker 3>being accused of maybe that she doesn't like sex or

0:24:08.280 --> 0:24:12.679
<v Speaker 3>that she's closed off and cold, she says this long

0:24:12.840 --> 0:24:15.760
<v Speaker 3>paragraph about all of the various things she loves about sex,

0:24:15.800 --> 0:24:20.640
<v Speaker 3>which is just divine and so amazing, and then she says,

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<v Speaker 3>to be honest, the only thing I don't like about

0:24:22.680 --> 0:24:25.720
<v Speaker 3>sex is the scrotum. I mean, it obviously has its

0:24:25.760 --> 0:24:29.560
<v Speaker 3>practical applications, but I'm just not a fan who is Okay.

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<v Speaker 5>I did write down also as my favorite line. I

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<v Speaker 5>know you said we were gonna have the same favorite line,

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<v Speaker 5>and I said, no, no, no, we're not. Mine is

0:24:36.960 --> 0:24:39.000
<v Speaker 5>so obscure, there's no way we're gonna have the same

0:24:39.000 --> 0:24:43.720
<v Speaker 5>favorite line. Well, we're both your daughter, oh obviously.

0:24:43.880 --> 0:24:45.800
<v Speaker 3>And we're not fans of the scrotum evidently.

0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:47.639
<v Speaker 5>Well, definitely not for me.

0:24:47.720 --> 0:24:53.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, my husband af there. Okay. I think we've found

0:24:53.240 --> 0:24:56.440
<v Speaker 3>out that the actor playing doctor Goldfine is the nephew

0:24:56.960 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 3>of Christopher Lloyd, the actor Christopher. And now that I'm

0:25:00.440 --> 0:25:03.840
<v Speaker 3>rewatching this, I think about that and I totally see it.

0:25:04.280 --> 0:25:06.440
<v Speaker 3>And he's doing such a great job as well. And

0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:08.880
<v Speaker 3>at the end of that scene, the server comes over

0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:12.159
<v Speaker 3>and she had just delivered that monologue about sex, and

0:25:12.200 --> 0:25:15.120
<v Speaker 3>he says another great moment, which is he says, can

0:25:15.160 --> 0:25:17.240
<v Speaker 3>I get you anything? And he says, just the check

0:25:17.320 --> 0:25:19.520
<v Speaker 3>and the server says, you haven't ordered yet.

0:25:21.280 --> 0:25:22.800
<v Speaker 4>She's like, I'm so uncomfortable.

0:25:23.160 --> 0:25:25.080
<v Speaker 3>I need to get out of here, just so good.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, so then we have the poker go into the

0:25:28.600 --> 0:25:31.600
<v Speaker 5>poker game, which Gabby uses is an amazing opportunity to

0:25:31.600 --> 0:25:34.760
<v Speaker 5>say that she's having diarrhea so she can sneak out

0:25:34.800 --> 0:25:36.879
<v Speaker 5>the window and climb over a fence to get to

0:25:37.000 --> 0:25:42.840
<v Speaker 5>John the gardener. And I loved that poker was the

0:25:42.880 --> 0:25:45.840
<v Speaker 5>activity that these women get together to play, like a

0:25:45.880 --> 0:25:47.800
<v Speaker 5>reason they all come together. I mean, my mom and

0:25:47.840 --> 0:25:51.720
<v Speaker 5>I were part of an all women's poker league, very casual,

0:25:52.840 --> 0:25:54.840
<v Speaker 5>but I do think it's something that has maybe typically

0:25:54.840 --> 0:25:57.199
<v Speaker 5>thought of as being more masculine, and I really like

0:25:57.359 --> 0:26:00.040
<v Speaker 5>to see that that, you know, it wasn't all just

0:26:00.160 --> 0:26:01.840
<v Speaker 5>book club, although we do see that.

0:26:02.960 --> 0:26:05.520
<v Speaker 3>Is this the first episode where we see the women

0:26:05.640 --> 0:26:06.560
<v Speaker 3>gathering for poker?

0:26:06.760 --> 0:26:10.639
<v Speaker 5>I feel like we've seen them alas time okay, right

0:26:10.720 --> 0:26:11.520
<v Speaker 5>in a flashback with.

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:14.520
<v Speaker 3>Mary in a flashback? Yeah yeah, yes, but this is

0:26:14.640 --> 0:26:15.679
<v Speaker 3>the first time with money.

0:26:15.960 --> 0:26:16.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah.

0:26:19.480 --> 0:26:24.280
<v Speaker 2>And also like I kind of I'm loosely recalling like

0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:28.760
<v Speaker 2>when this first came up and us as actual actresses,

0:26:28.840 --> 0:26:32.080
<v Speaker 2>like who actually played poker and who didn't play poker,

0:26:32.119 --> 0:26:34.560
<v Speaker 2>and I kind of feel like I maybe remember that

0:26:34.640 --> 0:26:37.520
<v Speaker 2>Eva did. She's from Texas and Texas hold him and

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:41.840
<v Speaker 2>that makes sense, And I did because I grew up

0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:45.439
<v Speaker 2>playing poker with the Hatcher plan, you know, since the

0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:49.199
<v Speaker 2>time I could walk, and I think I think Felicity

0:26:49.480 --> 0:26:52.800
<v Speaker 2>did too, So I feel like there was some familiarity

0:26:52.840 --> 0:26:56.760
<v Speaker 2>to poker. But that was definitely Mark's call, like that

0:26:56.920 --> 0:27:01.159
<v Speaker 2>was something he applied to the show, that poker was

0:27:01.200 --> 0:27:05.119
<v Speaker 2>going to be a gathering point of these women, and

0:27:05.160 --> 0:27:08.680
<v Speaker 2>it started in those first few episodes and it stayed

0:27:08.680 --> 0:27:09.920
<v Speaker 2>for the entire run of the show.

0:27:10.240 --> 0:27:13.400
<v Speaker 3>And I still have a Desperate Housewives poker table and

0:27:13.760 --> 0:27:17.400
<v Speaker 3>personalized Desperate Housewives poker chips. I might have to bring

0:27:17.440 --> 0:27:19.480
<v Speaker 3>them in sometime because it was a GI It was a.

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:21.639
<v Speaker 4>Wrap gift, yeah, from Mark for one season.

0:27:21.800 --> 0:27:22.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:27:22.040 --> 0:27:22.800
<v Speaker 4>Actually feel like I.

0:27:22.760 --> 0:27:25.879
<v Speaker 5>Vaguely remember seeing a case of those chips.

0:27:26.560 --> 0:27:27.040
<v Speaker 4>Yep ye.

0:27:27.240 --> 0:27:29.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but pretty cool.

0:27:29.040 --> 0:27:30.399
<v Speaker 4>But poker's a good tool.

0:27:30.920 --> 0:27:34.719
<v Speaker 2>It's a good tool to sit around a circle and

0:27:34.840 --> 0:27:39.480
<v Speaker 2>have characters have discussion. But also, you know, there's some

0:27:39.760 --> 0:27:42.720
<v Speaker 2>bluffing and bedding to it, you know, and it's.

0:27:42.640 --> 0:27:45.320
<v Speaker 3>Math, and yeah, I mean it's a. It's it kind

0:27:45.320 --> 0:27:47.760
<v Speaker 3>of tickles all the things I grew up playing Texas

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:50.640
<v Speaker 3>hold as well, and I haven't played in a long time.

0:27:50.720 --> 0:27:53.160
<v Speaker 3>I know I haven't played in a long time because

0:27:53.160 --> 0:27:55.840
<v Speaker 3>I did get weirded out how serious people get and

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 3>at least in the circles and that I was playing in.

0:27:58.080 --> 0:27:59.600
<v Speaker 3>I was like, Oh, it's too intense for me. I'm

0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:04.000
<v Speaker 3>gonna back, but maybe I should revisit as with my girlfriends. Maybe,

0:28:04.000 --> 0:28:04.360
<v Speaker 3>Well it.

0:28:04.359 --> 0:28:06.919
<v Speaker 5>Is, I mean, it is about who's bluffing, who's covering

0:28:06.960 --> 0:28:10.840
<v Speaker 5>something up, Who can you trust speaking up, speaking.

0:28:10.800 --> 0:28:13.479
<v Speaker 3>Bluffing and covering up, and who can you trust? Okay,

0:28:13.560 --> 0:28:17.520
<v Speaker 3>So Susan comes up with an idea to sneak I

0:28:17.640 --> 0:28:20.760
<v Speaker 3>follow borrow Ida Greenberg's car.

0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:24.320
<v Speaker 5>Which is I made a note about driving a stick

0:28:24.760 --> 0:28:27.200
<v Speaker 5>which you do know how to? Do you have a

0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:27.880
<v Speaker 5>TR three?

0:28:28.320 --> 0:28:28.680
<v Speaker 4>I do.

0:28:28.760 --> 0:28:31.000
<v Speaker 2>I have a nineteen sixty TR three that is a

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:33.600
<v Speaker 2>stick shift. But I also grew up my first car.

0:28:33.960 --> 0:28:36.120
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't even my car, it was my family's car.

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:37.680
<v Speaker 4>This is so sad.

0:28:39.080 --> 0:28:42.640
<v Speaker 2>It was an orange Chevy Vega with a black stripe

0:28:42.680 --> 0:28:44.640
<v Speaker 2>down the side that was a stick shift with no

0:28:44.760 --> 0:28:47.640
<v Speaker 2>air conditioning and an eight track tape, man, am.

0:28:47.800 --> 0:28:50.280
<v Speaker 5>I old, anything's very cool?

0:28:50.480 --> 0:28:53.360
<v Speaker 2>Well, hi, And I learned to drive that, and I

0:28:53.560 --> 0:28:56.800
<v Speaker 2>drove that car in San Francisco on streets like Lombard

0:28:56.920 --> 0:29:00.000
<v Speaker 2>Street and you know, like up, straight up, straight down.

0:29:00.640 --> 0:29:03.320
<v Speaker 2>So I do have that in my bag of tricks.

0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 2>And I ever rolled down.

0:29:04.360 --> 0:29:06.640
<v Speaker 5>I'm seeing that Princess Diary scene when she can't get

0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:09.080
<v Speaker 5>up the hill and she rolls down and she's crying.

0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:11.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh I never that never happened to me, but it.

0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:14.640
<v Speaker 2>But driving on those hills in San Francisco is quite

0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:17.000
<v Speaker 2>a lot. The scariest part is when you kind of

0:29:17.080 --> 0:29:18.960
<v Speaker 2>get to the top and you're like out of red

0:29:19.040 --> 0:29:21.800
<v Speaker 2>light and you can't really see over you know, like

0:29:22.400 --> 0:29:25.200
<v Speaker 2>yeah it's that kind of hill, and you're.

0:29:25.000 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 3>Like you're gonna fall off.

0:29:26.000 --> 0:29:27.360
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, it's.

0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:29.880
<v Speaker 2>It's uh anyways, So that's a good bag of trick

0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:31.960
<v Speaker 2>as a bag to I mean trick to having your

0:29:32.000 --> 0:29:33.480
<v Speaker 2>bag of tricks as an actor to be able to

0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:35.360
<v Speaker 2>drive a stick And I was able to drive it,

0:29:35.600 --> 0:29:38.240
<v Speaker 2>which means I was even able to not drive it,

0:29:38.520 --> 0:29:41.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, like I know, when you know how something works, yes,

0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:42.080
<v Speaker 2>you can make.

0:29:41.960 --> 0:29:44.040
<v Speaker 3>It not work right, which Susan had to do.

0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:46.120
<v Speaker 4>Which Susan had to do. So that was that was fun.

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:48.960
<v Speaker 3>So off you go, and you find out that Zach

0:29:49.240 --> 0:29:52.520
<v Speaker 3>is being not with obscure relatives, as Paul had said,

0:29:52.840 --> 0:29:55.480
<v Speaker 3>but actually is being held at some sort of mental

0:29:55.520 --> 0:29:57.480
<v Speaker 3>facility for juvenile troubled youth.

0:29:57.720 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and not just off you go. Off you go

0:30:01.120 --> 0:30:06.680
<v Speaker 5>with your daughter, who you send in to the rehabilitation.

0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:11.200
<v Speaker 3>Just a brief aside about this. So I do remember

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:14.600
<v Speaker 3>two things very vividly, and then I not observed one

0:30:14.640 --> 0:30:17.719
<v Speaker 3>more thing by watching. So the two things I remember

0:30:17.800 --> 0:30:23.040
<v Speaker 3>is I remember the line where Susan says, when Julie questions,

0:30:23.320 --> 0:30:26.000
<v Speaker 3>how can I blend in with these messed up kids?

0:30:26.760 --> 0:30:27.080
<v Speaker 4>Ouch?

0:30:27.360 --> 0:30:31.040
<v Speaker 3>But also Susan says, I don't know, Julie, pretend to

0:30:31.080 --> 0:30:34.680
<v Speaker 3>be Bellie mcgag a little. And I kind of remember

0:30:34.880 --> 0:30:39.040
<v Speaker 3>you flagging that or pushing back a little bit on that,

0:30:39.200 --> 0:30:43.800
<v Speaker 3>or at least feeling like, how should Susan say that?

0:30:44.000 --> 0:30:46.400
<v Speaker 3>You know, is it a throwaway thing? Or I don't

0:30:46.400 --> 0:30:48.200
<v Speaker 3>remember all you have, but I think we had a

0:30:48.280 --> 0:30:50.400
<v Speaker 3>chat about it because I think it was so good.

0:30:50.520 --> 0:30:52.560
<v Speaker 2>So I didn't remember that, But now that you're saying that,

0:30:52.560 --> 0:30:54.320
<v Speaker 2>it makes sense, because it makes sense.

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:58.200
<v Speaker 4>What flagged for me was wow, like that I.

0:30:58.160 --> 0:31:00.680
<v Speaker 2>Don't know, I mean talk about the political correct thing

0:31:00.720 --> 0:31:02.160
<v Speaker 2>and what you would and wouldn't say.

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:04.960
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, this did not hold up the test of time

0:31:05.000 --> 0:31:10.040
<v Speaker 5>in terms of how you would refer to adolescence in

0:31:10.160 --> 0:31:11.640
<v Speaker 5>a mental health It's.

0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:18.360
<v Speaker 2>It's just super I mean, it's extremely callous, I guess,

0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:20.960
<v Speaker 2>just to as almost like a joke, say oh, I

0:31:20.960 --> 0:31:25.400
<v Speaker 2>don't know, you know, do that. And so I imagine,

0:31:25.480 --> 0:31:27.560
<v Speaker 2>as I was a mom of a seven year old

0:31:27.600 --> 0:31:30.280
<v Speaker 2>at the time, I imagine that that maybe came up for me.

0:31:30.360 --> 0:31:36.000
<v Speaker 2>But then you're doing a comedy and sometimes it's the

0:31:36.080 --> 0:31:38.320
<v Speaker 2>right thing within there. But yeah, it sounds like we

0:31:38.360 --> 0:31:39.480
<v Speaker 2>all sort of flagged it.

0:31:39.560 --> 0:31:41.640
<v Speaker 5>I mean I wasn't you know, I didn't turn it off.

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:44.040
<v Speaker 5>It wasn't horrible, but I didn't even kind of chuckle

0:31:44.040 --> 0:31:46.520
<v Speaker 5>at it. But I also went, you know, I wouldn't.

0:31:46.720 --> 0:31:48.600
<v Speaker 5>I don't think I would choose to write that line

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:50.080
<v Speaker 5>in this scenario to day.

0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:50.440
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:31:51.040 --> 0:31:54.880
<v Speaker 3>The other thing I remembered was the scene that Julie

0:31:54.920 --> 0:31:58.480
<v Speaker 3>has with Zach where she finds him and he's so

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:00.640
<v Speaker 3>zoned out because they have him up on all of

0:32:00.680 --> 0:32:04.000
<v Speaker 3>these drugs. We don't know what they are, but he's medicated.

0:32:04.440 --> 0:32:08.560
<v Speaker 3>And I remember filming that scene really well because it

0:32:08.800 --> 0:32:11.640
<v Speaker 3>was the first scene that I had on the show

0:32:11.640 --> 0:32:15.840
<v Speaker 3>that wasn't with Terry, that wasn't with Susan, And I

0:32:15.840 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 3>think I was nervous, you know, because I had gotten

0:32:18.520 --> 0:32:22.840
<v Speaker 3>so comfortable working with you and I we were enjoying

0:32:22.840 --> 0:32:25.080
<v Speaker 3>that so much, and then it felt, I mean, it

0:32:25.160 --> 0:32:27.880
<v Speaker 3>was exciting and nerve wracking to experience what it would

0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:29.360
<v Speaker 3>be like to work with one of the other actors

0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 3>on the show. So I remember that. And then the

0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:34.400
<v Speaker 3>last thing that I noticed about this whole little sequence

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.280
<v Speaker 3>that I happened to notice rewatching it, was why is

0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:41.560
<v Speaker 3>Julie wearing flip flops on this jaunt to this center?

0:32:41.720 --> 0:32:44.880
<v Speaker 2>Be guys, the Word of Department didn't have any clothes.

0:32:45.520 --> 0:32:48.360
<v Speaker 2>So I used my own purse and my own necklaces

0:32:48.400 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 2>and my own whatever.

0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:54.160
<v Speaker 3>And I'm rock and flip flops sound Doug shout out

0:32:54.200 --> 0:32:55.240
<v Speaker 3>to our to ourselves.

0:32:55.240 --> 0:32:58.920
<v Speaker 2>And actually though I mean, and I'm not even I'm

0:32:58.920 --> 0:33:00.720
<v Speaker 2>not even dogging the War Department.

0:33:00.760 --> 0:33:03.120
<v Speaker 4>It's it's it's it really was.

0:33:03.200 --> 0:33:07.440
<v Speaker 2>The show was a gigantic thing, yes, with a lot

0:33:07.520 --> 0:33:09.920
<v Speaker 2>of character. There are so many moving parts. It's so

0:33:10.080 --> 0:33:12.720
<v Speaker 2>many moving parts. And I do recall that it was

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:16.040
<v Speaker 2>kind of always at some level of last minuteness. And

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:17.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if that was because of when we

0:33:17.640 --> 0:33:20.720
<v Speaker 2>got the scripts or you know, whatever, but it was

0:33:20.800 --> 0:33:23.320
<v Speaker 2>it was always like, you know, hanging on You're just

0:33:23.440 --> 0:33:25.920
<v Speaker 2>you're just hanging on you You're gonna get it, you know.

0:33:26.120 --> 0:33:29.240
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like you had luxurious amounts of time to

0:33:29.400 --> 0:33:32.040
<v Speaker 2>make everything work. And think about it, and I would

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:34.760
<v Speaker 2>not be surprised if there were just no other shoes

0:33:34.800 --> 0:33:36.960
<v Speaker 2>and there were just flip flops and they didn't And

0:33:37.280 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 2>if you had said, do you have tennis shoes in

0:33:38.960 --> 0:33:40.720
<v Speaker 2>the size nine, you would have been and they would

0:33:40.720 --> 0:33:41.000
<v Speaker 2>have been. No.

0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:42.920
<v Speaker 3>I would have been that woman at the yard sale

0:33:42.960 --> 0:33:46.080
<v Speaker 3>at my yard sail asking for another size being shot down.

0:33:47.240 --> 0:33:50.520
<v Speaker 3>So in this scene where Julie is questioning Zach, she

0:33:50.800 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 3>has short on time. She's fearing like she's gonna get

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:53.600
<v Speaker 3>kicked out.

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:56.960
<v Speaker 5>But we do do a good job. You get racial information.

0:33:57.160 --> 0:33:59.600
<v Speaker 3>Julie goes right in. She gets the nugget of information

0:33:59.640 --> 0:34:03.360
<v Speaker 3>we need, which is that she asks him, you'd told

0:34:03.400 --> 0:34:05.800
<v Speaker 3>Brie this thing about doing something bad. What were you

0:34:05.840 --> 0:34:09.280
<v Speaker 3>talking about and he says that he has started remembering

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 3>things since after his mom has passed, and one of

0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:15.400
<v Speaker 3>those things is that he remembers someone named Dana. And

0:34:15.440 --> 0:34:18.800
<v Speaker 3>that's this thing. This new part of our mystery involving

0:34:18.880 --> 0:34:20.600
<v Speaker 3>Zach and Paul and the Young family is that we

0:34:20.640 --> 0:34:23.880
<v Speaker 3>now have who is Dana to add into that mix.

0:34:24.560 --> 0:34:29.000
<v Speaker 5>And the tension is really continuing to escalate on all

0:34:29.200 --> 0:34:31.480
<v Speaker 5>fronts in the middle of this episode. So we have

0:34:32.040 --> 0:34:38.080
<v Speaker 5>the investigation into Paul, we get the Dana name, and

0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:42.760
<v Speaker 5>then we have Gabrielle learns that Juanita has a gambling

0:34:42.800 --> 0:34:46.520
<v Speaker 5>problem and drops her off under the guise of going

0:34:46.520 --> 0:34:50.920
<v Speaker 5>to a buffet at a casino, drops her off there

0:34:51.160 --> 0:34:55.319
<v Speaker 5>where she starts to lose all of her money, which

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:57.160
<v Speaker 5>is going to come back at the end of the episode.

0:34:57.280 --> 0:35:00.600
<v Speaker 5>And then we have Brie showing up to really confront

0:35:00.719 --> 0:35:03.360
<v Speaker 5>Rex on the struggles in their marriage. And this is

0:35:03.360 --> 0:35:05.440
<v Speaker 5>the scene that you would referenced earlier Mom where she

0:35:05.480 --> 0:35:08.200
<v Speaker 5>shows up in that fabulous, fabulous code that honestly has

0:35:08.239 --> 0:35:11.040
<v Speaker 5>no business being at a motel. She looks way too

0:35:11.200 --> 0:35:15.920
<v Speaker 5>nice to be at some corner motel. And I loved

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:18.400
<v Speaker 5>this scene and I also really loved her final scene

0:35:18.440 --> 0:35:20.879
<v Speaker 5>in this episode because I think both of them were

0:35:21.000 --> 0:35:25.600
<v Speaker 5>really building blocks on I know we're calling it desperation,

0:35:26.080 --> 0:35:28.320
<v Speaker 5>but I also think it's really brave.

0:35:28.480 --> 0:35:29.560
<v Speaker 4>I was gonna say bravery.

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:33.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's really brave to be So just tie her

0:35:33.480 --> 0:35:38.759
<v Speaker 2>whole story together, because I really do think she puts herself.

0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:41.320
<v Speaker 5>Out there in such a vulnerable.

0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:43.640
<v Speaker 2>Way, in such a vuln I mean, can you imagine

0:35:43.800 --> 0:35:47.719
<v Speaker 2>like standing in front of the person you love, all basically.

0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:49.080
<v Speaker 5>Naked, who's saying they want to leave you?

0:35:49.360 --> 0:35:49.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:35:49.880 --> 0:35:54.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, and almost more vulnerable than being naked,

0:35:54.160 --> 0:35:58.319
<v Speaker 2>because when you wear lingerie, you're trying to say something, saying.

0:35:58.080 --> 0:36:01.320
<v Speaker 5>That you tried you, yeah, try to be sexy.

0:36:01.120 --> 0:36:09.160
<v Speaker 2>Right yeah, And then so not seen and so critically

0:36:09.280 --> 0:36:14.800
<v Speaker 2>judged for this quirk that she has this control quirk,

0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:16.640
<v Speaker 2>you could call it, right, I mean.

0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:20.400
<v Speaker 3>The way she's zeros in on that it's so fixated

0:36:20.520 --> 0:36:21.240
<v Speaker 3>and can't.

0:36:21.080 --> 0:36:25.800
<v Speaker 2>She just can't let it go, and and it wins

0:36:25.880 --> 0:36:27.120
<v Speaker 2>and then.

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:30.479
<v Speaker 5>And he has no empathy. I was like, oh my god,

0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:32.759
<v Speaker 5>you've never been about to have sex with someone and

0:36:32.800 --> 0:36:35.360
<v Speaker 5>you notice something or your phone rings and it breaks

0:36:35.360 --> 0:36:37.560
<v Speaker 5>the mood for a moment. But then you silence it,

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:39.440
<v Speaker 5>and then and then you get.

0:36:40.200 --> 0:36:43.759
<v Speaker 3>Showing up because he's voicing the things he's dissatisfied with,

0:36:43.880 --> 0:36:46.000
<v Speaker 3>and she is putting herself out there to try to

0:36:46.000 --> 0:36:48.600
<v Speaker 3>bring them closer together. And this is something that he

0:36:48.640 --> 0:36:50.880
<v Speaker 3>could recognize in her as something he just has to

0:36:50.920 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 3>accept or offer understanding or curiosity about, and instead he

0:36:55.000 --> 0:36:55.879
<v Speaker 3>just shuts it down.

0:36:55.920 --> 0:36:58.000
<v Speaker 2>And this is why I think like that there's some

0:36:58.520 --> 0:37:01.120
<v Speaker 2>level of this is why you have to you look deeper,

0:37:01.280 --> 0:37:04.640
<v Speaker 2>like there's some level of insecurity. Like okay, so let's

0:37:04.680 --> 0:37:08.280
<v Speaker 2>say her thing with the burrito made him lose his erection.

0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:11.440
<v Speaker 2>I mean we don't that that doesn't get talked about,

0:37:11.480 --> 0:37:14.520
<v Speaker 2>but like let's just assume like that is what happened.

0:37:14.960 --> 0:37:18.960
<v Speaker 2>Maybe you know, there's some insecurity going on with this

0:37:19.040 --> 0:37:24.440
<v Speaker 2>character that we're not aware of yet, that that instead

0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:28.560
<v Speaker 2>of admitting his own frailty, like you ruin the mood

0:37:28.760 --> 0:37:31.399
<v Speaker 2>and now I don't have the power to get back

0:37:31.440 --> 0:37:34.239
<v Speaker 2>in the mood, he just blames her and this is

0:37:34.280 --> 0:37:36.800
<v Speaker 2>the thing, instead of taking any part of responsible.

0:37:38.000 --> 0:37:40.640
<v Speaker 3>And it's so interesting that you have a quote unquote

0:37:40.719 --> 0:37:45.120
<v Speaker 3>very buttoned up character as Breed, and people make these assumptions.

0:37:45.200 --> 0:37:48.239
<v Speaker 3>In this episode, people being Rex and doctor goldfind about

0:37:48.239 --> 0:37:49.920
<v Speaker 3>how she might be in the bedroom, and she is

0:37:50.000 --> 0:37:52.520
<v Speaker 3>not that way. That's not where she's buttoned up. That's

0:37:52.560 --> 0:37:54.000
<v Speaker 3>where she evidently let's lose.

0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:57.680
<v Speaker 5>She used to drink out of the milk curtain, maybe her.

0:37:57.680 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 3>Wild side, and she is very progressive SIV in her approach.

0:38:01.600 --> 0:38:04.680
<v Speaker 3>And she confronts Rex back at their house and say,

0:38:04.960 --> 0:38:06.759
<v Speaker 3>you know, while she's repairing that mug, that was a

0:38:06.840 --> 0:38:07.760
<v Speaker 3>very poetic way.

0:38:07.640 --> 0:38:09.840
<v Speaker 4>Of saying I love that line.

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:14.200
<v Speaker 2>I would rather repair something I have than get something new.

0:38:14.360 --> 0:38:14.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:38:14.960 --> 0:38:18.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So it was so powerful, beautiful, And then she

0:38:18.560 --> 0:38:22.680
<v Speaker 3>confronts him and says, I've been thinking about it that

0:38:22.840 --> 0:38:24.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm not the problem here.

0:38:24.320 --> 0:38:24.719
<v Speaker 5>It's you.

0:38:25.160 --> 0:38:30.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm willing, I'm here, I'm curious, I'm asking, and you're

0:38:30.560 --> 0:38:33.640
<v Speaker 3>shutting down why And he's still he still won't go

0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:34.200
<v Speaker 3>there with her.

0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:37.600
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, he's almost waiting for her to have a moment

0:38:37.680 --> 0:38:39.920
<v Speaker 5>like the burrito moment, so then he doesn't have to

0:38:39.960 --> 0:38:42.200
<v Speaker 5>engage with her and he has something to blame it

0:38:42.239 --> 0:38:45.239
<v Speaker 5>on other than saying, I mean, we don't know yet

0:38:45.239 --> 0:38:47.560
<v Speaker 5>with the underlying I don't know because I haven't watched

0:38:47.560 --> 0:38:50.560
<v Speaker 5>the show, but what his underlying reason is that he

0:38:50.640 --> 0:38:52.880
<v Speaker 5>has such a hard time connecting with her. And I

0:38:52.920 --> 0:38:55.960
<v Speaker 5>do think this idea of it's better to fix what

0:38:56.040 --> 0:39:00.480
<v Speaker 5>you already have is really interesting. I'm curious what you like,

0:39:00.680 --> 0:39:04.239
<v Speaker 5>Is it better or I mean, obviously there's different When

0:39:04.400 --> 0:39:06.880
<v Speaker 5>is it better maybe to fix what you already have

0:39:07.160 --> 0:39:09.360
<v Speaker 5>or when do you decide to throw in the towel

0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:11.680
<v Speaker 5>on something, I mean, whether that's a relationship.

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:14.040
<v Speaker 2>It is a really good question. I mean, it's it's

0:39:14.080 --> 0:39:16.399
<v Speaker 2>interesting that you you know, I mean that you would

0:39:16.440 --> 0:39:19.279
<v Speaker 2>ask us that question as it reflects in our personal life.

0:39:19.280 --> 0:39:21.640
<v Speaker 2>Because I was just also going to say about the

0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:28.080
<v Speaker 2>character storyline. Yeah, that again, this is an incredibly deep, complicated,

0:39:28.640 --> 0:39:34.120
<v Speaker 2>relatable issue between couples that is happening all the time. Yeah,

0:39:34.160 --> 0:39:38.120
<v Speaker 2>and here it is thrown in this sort of iconic

0:39:38.320 --> 0:39:42.640
<v Speaker 2>comedy that some people might reflect back on and think, oh,

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:45.000
<v Speaker 2>that was a silly good show or whatever.

0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but this is a this is meaningful. Again.

0:39:48.320 --> 0:39:50.440
<v Speaker 2>I guess I'm just going to say, like Mark Cherry,

0:39:50.640 --> 0:39:54.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, and your writing staff, like this was really

0:39:55.040 --> 0:39:59.480
<v Speaker 2>amazing writing for television. Yeah, And I think television, obviously,

0:39:59.480 --> 0:40:03.160
<v Speaker 2>in twenty years, continues to evolve, and there's amazing shows

0:40:03.239 --> 0:40:06.080
<v Speaker 2>left and right that have examples of great writing. But

0:40:06.640 --> 0:40:09.560
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't make this any less, ye, And I guess,

0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:12.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, reflecting back, I mean, you know, I've been

0:40:12.760 --> 0:40:17.640
<v Speaker 2>divorced from your dad for over twenty twenty five years.

0:40:17.680 --> 0:40:19.040
<v Speaker 4>I guess we're at.

0:40:19.480 --> 0:40:23.399
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I think in regards to your dad,

0:40:23.640 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 2>like I've said this before, everything worked out the way

0:40:26.560 --> 0:40:28.879
<v Speaker 2>it should. Like I'm so happy that he's happy and

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:32.120
<v Speaker 2>in his relationship and they're exactly what each other need.

0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:37.040
<v Speaker 2>And there's you know, you can't go back. But your

0:40:37.120 --> 0:40:41.120
<v Speaker 2>dad's a great person. And I wish that we both

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:46.440
<v Speaker 2>had had the tools to maybe repair it.

0:40:47.920 --> 0:40:48.560
<v Speaker 4>But we didn't.

0:40:48.760 --> 0:40:50.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean neither of us. You know, we didn't.

0:40:50.840 --> 0:40:54.520
<v Speaker 2>We collectively didn't, and so and so. But I'm not

0:40:54.600 --> 0:40:57.080
<v Speaker 2>saying I would rather it. I just it is interesting

0:40:57.080 --> 0:40:59.719
<v Speaker 2>in hindsight. So I think what I'm saying of all

0:40:59.719 --> 0:41:03.719
<v Speaker 2>of this says I might lean a little more into at.

0:41:03.680 --> 0:41:07.879
<v Speaker 4>Least try to repair what you have before you get

0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:08.319
<v Speaker 4>rid of it.

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:12.040
<v Speaker 2>But I'm not necessarily applying that to like my own life,

0:41:12.080 --> 0:41:15.440
<v Speaker 2>because it is what it is. And you know, but

0:41:15.480 --> 0:41:17.439
<v Speaker 2>I guess if I had to pick one I would say,

0:41:17.520 --> 0:41:18.239
<v Speaker 2>lean the into that.

0:41:18.640 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I think that something that I found myself

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:37.560
<v Speaker 3>feeling watching this episode and watching Brie and Rex was man,

0:41:37.920 --> 0:41:39.959
<v Speaker 3>it really feels like all of the effort is coming

0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:40.319
<v Speaker 3>from Bri.

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:42.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, I mean I am ready to see.

0:41:42.719 --> 0:41:48.040
<v Speaker 3>Something from him, and if he's just done, then I

0:41:48.080 --> 0:41:50.600
<v Speaker 3>guess he's just done. But it does feel like while

0:41:50.600 --> 0:41:53.200
<v Speaker 3>they're still exploring and they're still in marriage counseling, I

0:41:53.239 --> 0:41:56.040
<v Speaker 3>would like I would like some more from him. I'd

0:41:56.120 --> 0:41:57.799
<v Speaker 3>like him to show us more.

0:41:57.880 --> 0:41:59.680
<v Speaker 5>I agree, And I think maybe that is a time

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:02.680
<v Speaker 5>and freeze in the process of finding that of when

0:42:02.760 --> 0:42:06.680
<v Speaker 5>you decide, okay, it's not worth repairing this, because it

0:42:06.719 --> 0:42:09.200
<v Speaker 5>does take two people to repair something, whether that's a

0:42:09.280 --> 0:42:12.360
<v Speaker 5>romantic relationship or friendship or working dynamic. You know, I

0:42:12.400 --> 0:42:15.160
<v Speaker 5>think you both have to be showing up with that goal,

0:42:15.280 --> 0:42:18.600
<v Speaker 5>and it's worth showing up with that goal, I think always.

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:20.760
<v Speaker 5>And then you also have to be able to acknowledge

0:42:20.760 --> 0:42:23.520
<v Speaker 5>when somebody's just someone's not and.

0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:26.480
<v Speaker 3>Maybe the repairing is not the relationship, but maybe the

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.360
<v Speaker 3>repairing is the relationship with herself.

0:42:28.640 --> 0:42:30.640
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, oh so wise.

0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:32.120
<v Speaker 3>You know, maybe that's where that comes in.

0:42:33.080 --> 0:42:34.720
<v Speaker 4>Say that again, I like that.

0:42:34.640 --> 0:42:39.200
<v Speaker 3>Maybe instead of the repairing being our marriage is fixed

0:42:39.200 --> 0:42:42.600
<v Speaker 3>and we're going to stay together, the repair is I'm

0:42:42.640 --> 0:42:46.160
<v Speaker 3>going to heal myself and recognize the parts of myself

0:42:46.200 --> 0:42:48.399
<v Speaker 3>that I thought were broken, and I'm going to work

0:42:48.440 --> 0:42:51.319
<v Speaker 3>on those instead of, you know, try to get rid

0:42:51.360 --> 0:42:51.640
<v Speaker 3>of them.

0:42:51.840 --> 0:42:53.040
<v Speaker 4>I like that. I love that for her.

0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 3>I like that too well.

0:42:54.120 --> 0:42:56.279
<v Speaker 5>I think working on the parts of ourselves on the

0:42:56.320 --> 0:43:03.280
<v Speaker 5>complete opposite end of the spectrum we have. Lynette asks,

0:43:04.719 --> 0:43:07.880
<v Speaker 5>while trying to figure out why she is unable to

0:43:07.920 --> 0:43:12.279
<v Speaker 5>sew these costumes and feels deficient, she asks her other

0:43:12.520 --> 0:43:14.080
<v Speaker 5>mom in the group, not her.

0:43:14.000 --> 0:43:16.640
<v Speaker 2>Advocary executing everything perfectly well.

0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:19.719
<v Speaker 5>She goes, what's your secret? And it turns out she

0:43:19.760 --> 0:43:25.640
<v Speaker 5>does have a secret, and the secret is adderall and

0:43:25.640 --> 0:43:31.000
<v Speaker 5>and Lynette cracks and she takes it and starts down

0:43:31.040 --> 0:43:33.279
<v Speaker 5>a slippery slope. And this made me. I mean, I

0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:35.680
<v Speaker 5>love the storyline because I do think it is so relatable.

0:43:36.080 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 5>And I'm not advocating for people taking ADHD medication that

0:43:40.400 --> 0:43:42.799
<v Speaker 5>they don't need just to get things done. We should

0:43:42.880 --> 0:43:45.839
<v Speaker 5>not put so many expectations on ourselves that we need

0:43:45.880 --> 0:43:48.280
<v Speaker 5>to resort to that. But I do think as women,

0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:51.960
<v Speaker 5>often we do end up in positions where we're stretching

0:43:51.960 --> 0:43:56.200
<v Speaker 5>ourselves really thin. And Mom, I just wondered if you

0:43:56.239 --> 0:43:58.560
<v Speaker 5>had anything that you wanted to say about this.

0:44:00.200 --> 0:44:01.239
<v Speaker 4>Well, I think you're right.

0:44:01.400 --> 0:44:04.400
<v Speaker 2>We do find ourselves and positions where we stretch ourselves

0:44:04.440 --> 0:44:06.200
<v Speaker 2>really thin. Are you asking me if I ever took

0:44:06.200 --> 0:44:07.719
<v Speaker 2>out or although I never did, No, I.

0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:11.920
<v Speaker 3>Don't know, or as being a high achiever, maybe if

0:44:11.960 --> 0:44:15.319
<v Speaker 3>you felt yeah, I think it's interesting. You know what's

0:44:15.360 --> 0:44:18.400
<v Speaker 3>funny is that I am relating to the show, as

0:44:18.440 --> 0:44:20.760
<v Speaker 3>I've said, in a whole new way that it's almost

0:44:20.760 --> 0:44:22.680
<v Speaker 3>as though I feel like I am watching it for

0:44:22.719 --> 0:44:25.759
<v Speaker 3>the very first time and being pregnant and watching it,

0:44:25.800 --> 0:44:29.439
<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm really locked in on the on the relationships

0:44:29.440 --> 0:44:33.440
<v Speaker 3>that are shown, or the exploration of mothering and motherhood

0:44:33.520 --> 0:44:35.799
<v Speaker 3>right because I'm just I'm soti in that chapter of

0:44:35.840 --> 0:44:38.239
<v Speaker 3>my life or starting that chapter of my life. And

0:44:38.320 --> 0:44:40.440
<v Speaker 3>so the idea of trying to do it all, have

0:44:40.560 --> 0:44:42.400
<v Speaker 3>it all, be the best, this, be the best that,

0:44:42.520 --> 0:44:43.920
<v Speaker 3>be the best wife, be the best mother, be the

0:44:43.920 --> 0:44:47.160
<v Speaker 3>best in business, be the best everywhere, right is landing

0:44:47.160 --> 0:44:48.600
<v Speaker 3>with me in a way that it didn't when I

0:44:48.640 --> 0:44:51.960
<v Speaker 3>was on the show, and so I was actually thinking

0:44:51.960 --> 0:44:54.120
<v Speaker 3>about this unpacking it a little bit after I watched

0:44:54.160 --> 0:44:56.400
<v Speaker 3>the episode, and how does this show up in my

0:44:56.800 --> 0:45:01.240
<v Speaker 3>life as someone who identifies as a perfectionist, And yeah,

0:45:01.320 --> 0:45:03.480
<v Speaker 3>I know, I think we all suffered from that. Yeah,

0:45:04.640 --> 0:45:07.799
<v Speaker 3>And so I was thinking though that even in pregnancy,

0:45:08.360 --> 0:45:12.520
<v Speaker 3>even in pregnancy, the idea of mom guilt kind of

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:15.280
<v Speaker 3>creeps in the idea of wanting to be the best.

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:19.160
<v Speaker 3>You know, anything you find out about how your pregnancy

0:45:19.239 --> 0:45:21.920
<v Speaker 3>is going that you've decided is not right, it feels

0:45:21.960 --> 0:45:24.360
<v Speaker 3>like a failure on your end, even though I should

0:45:24.400 --> 0:45:27.640
<v Speaker 3>know it isn't right, but it feels it can land

0:45:27.719 --> 0:45:31.080
<v Speaker 3>that way. Or I had mentioned I think to you

0:45:31.080 --> 0:45:34.799
<v Speaker 3>guys recently that I'm suffering pill fatigue because I'm taking

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:36.520
<v Speaker 3>prenatals and I'm taking oh my go threes and I'm

0:45:36.520 --> 0:45:38.759
<v Speaker 3>taking X y Z to make sure that everything's going

0:45:38.920 --> 0:45:42.799
<v Speaker 3>all these vitamins, yes, all these vitamins and not ADHD medications,

0:45:44.000 --> 0:45:46.160
<v Speaker 3>and that some days it's just so much and by

0:45:46.160 --> 0:45:47.239
<v Speaker 3>the end of the day you're like, oh my god,

0:45:47.239 --> 0:45:49.880
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to take one more pill. But the

0:45:50.640 --> 0:45:53.480
<v Speaker 3>driver in my head, instead of it being it's okay,

0:45:53.880 --> 0:45:56.680
<v Speaker 3>you've done great, You're nourishing your baby. The way you're

0:45:56.680 --> 0:46:01.040
<v Speaker 3>carrying your baby is enough. It's a going to let

0:46:01.080 --> 0:46:03.720
<v Speaker 3>her down if you don't find a way to stomach

0:46:03.800 --> 0:46:05.640
<v Speaker 3>one more pay right, Yeah, yeah.

0:46:05.560 --> 0:46:08.000
<v Speaker 2>So these are the stories we tell ourselves, you know,

0:46:08.200 --> 0:46:11.000
<v Speaker 2>and getting a hold. I mean, I feel like I've

0:46:11.000 --> 0:46:13.239
<v Speaker 2>worked my whole life. I mean I'm still I feel

0:46:13.280 --> 0:46:16.680
<v Speaker 2>like I work on it every day. Like the awareness,

0:46:16.840 --> 0:46:20.800
<v Speaker 2>the conscious choice that you can make about the stories

0:46:20.840 --> 0:46:25.440
<v Speaker 2>you tell yourself about yourself and the difference between the

0:46:26.360 --> 0:46:30.200
<v Speaker 2>what you have and what you have done and focusing

0:46:30.239 --> 0:46:33.160
<v Speaker 2>on that instead of the what you haven't and what

0:46:33.320 --> 0:46:35.279
<v Speaker 2>isn't enough and what you didn't do, which is what

0:46:35.320 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 2>we mostly do. And that really comes from DNA, you know,

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:42.120
<v Speaker 2>it really does like we're not wired to sort of

0:46:42.160 --> 0:46:43.160
<v Speaker 2>focus on the good.

0:46:43.960 --> 0:46:45.040
<v Speaker 4>We're really focused to.

0:46:46.600 --> 0:46:49.200
<v Speaker 2>We're wired to focus on the bad because that's how

0:46:49.239 --> 0:46:52.239
<v Speaker 2>we have survived with you know, we don't repeat those

0:46:52.239 --> 0:46:54.560
<v Speaker 2>things or whatever what we're afraid of and all that.

0:46:54.640 --> 0:46:57.360
<v Speaker 4>We keep that, but it has to be conscious, you

0:46:57.400 --> 0:46:58.000
<v Speaker 4>really have to.

0:46:57.920 --> 0:47:00.719
<v Speaker 2>Think about it. And and the way put it too,

0:47:00.960 --> 0:47:04.680
<v Speaker 2>like that we are the ones that set up the expectation.

0:47:05.000 --> 0:47:07.520
<v Speaker 2>You know, you are the one that says me, I'm

0:47:07.560 --> 0:47:09.960
<v Speaker 2>gonna take me. For example, I'm the one that says

0:47:10.600 --> 0:47:12.279
<v Speaker 2>I should be able to go to my friend's wedding

0:47:12.360 --> 0:47:13.640
<v Speaker 2>in New York, and then I should be able to

0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:15.440
<v Speaker 2>come home to the hotel at one o'clock and I

0:47:15.480 --> 0:47:16.920
<v Speaker 2>should be able to wake up at three and go

0:47:16.960 --> 0:47:19.480
<v Speaker 2>to the airport and fly to Los Angeles and then

0:47:19.480 --> 0:47:20.960
<v Speaker 2>get off the plane and get my makeup done and

0:47:21.000 --> 0:47:24.160
<v Speaker 2>then come here and do a couple of episodes of

0:47:24.239 --> 0:47:26.160
<v Speaker 2>that and then go home. And then actually I have

0:47:26.239 --> 0:47:29.279
<v Speaker 2>two auditions that I'm self taping tonight, and then I

0:47:29.360 --> 0:47:31.520
<v Speaker 2>have to wash the dog because we're going to Children's

0:47:31.520 --> 0:47:34.520
<v Speaker 2>hospital tomorrow to visitations. And I should be able to

0:47:34.560 --> 0:47:39.800
<v Speaker 2>do all that. That is my day, and I'm probably

0:47:39.800 --> 0:47:40.920
<v Speaker 2>not gonna do I'm you know.

0:47:41.040 --> 0:47:44.000
<v Speaker 5>Are you sure you'd well.

0:47:44.200 --> 0:47:46.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm surely not. I'm not taking the adderall to get

0:47:46.719 --> 0:47:47.360
<v Speaker 2>it all done.

0:47:47.239 --> 0:47:48.200
<v Speaker 4>But maybe I should be.

0:47:48.960 --> 0:47:52.000
<v Speaker 2>But that is a very high bar of expectations. And

0:47:52.160 --> 0:47:54.280
<v Speaker 2>my point is I've done that to myself.

0:47:54.520 --> 0:47:54.680
<v Speaker 5>Right.

0:47:54.960 --> 0:47:58.239
<v Speaker 2>I could have called the hospital and said, you know what,

0:47:58.480 --> 0:48:02.000
<v Speaker 2>we love coming to Children's Hospital. I've had other extra

0:48:02.040 --> 0:48:04.480
<v Speaker 2>stuff come up today. I just can't make it, But

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:07.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel guilty about the kids, right, I feel guilty

0:48:07.440 --> 0:48:11.000
<v Speaker 2>about the patients that they're suffering way more than I'm suffering.

0:48:11.400 --> 0:48:13.319
<v Speaker 2>So I should just get my shit together and get

0:48:13.320 --> 0:48:16.000
<v Speaker 2>the dog washed and get over there, right, you know,

0:48:16.120 --> 0:48:19.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I want to execute these auditions because

0:48:20.360 --> 0:48:22.759
<v Speaker 2>it's important to me to get another acting job. And

0:48:22.800 --> 0:48:25.040
<v Speaker 2>that's how the business works. Now as you do these

0:48:25.120 --> 0:48:28.960
<v Speaker 2>horrible self tapes in your own house and you know,

0:48:29.120 --> 0:48:31.680
<v Speaker 2>but it's hard for me to do. It's not my wheelhouse,

0:48:31.760 --> 0:48:34.080
<v Speaker 2>I you know, but I'm good and so anyways, it's

0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:37.759
<v Speaker 2>an example of every day we set up the list

0:48:37.800 --> 0:48:40.279
<v Speaker 2>of expectations and then we fall short of them, and

0:48:40.320 --> 0:48:41.640
<v Speaker 2>then we punish ourselves for it.

0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:45.239
<v Speaker 3>Well, I hope that this conversation, maybe being so fresh

0:48:45.280 --> 0:48:47.160
<v Speaker 3>in your mind, will offer you the chance to be

0:48:47.280 --> 0:48:48.360
<v Speaker 3>to give yourself some grace.

0:48:48.480 --> 0:48:50.840
<v Speaker 2>Well, here's the thing. I think one trick is sometimes

0:48:50.840 --> 0:48:54.279
<v Speaker 2>you really can't change the list of expectations, but you

0:48:54.360 --> 0:48:56.240
<v Speaker 2>can change the way you treat.

0:48:56.080 --> 0:48:57.560
<v Speaker 4>The voice that you treat yourself with.

0:48:57.800 --> 0:48:59.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, and I do know at the end

0:48:59.760 --> 0:49:01.799
<v Speaker 2>of the stay, when I do get the auditions done

0:49:01.800 --> 0:49:04.600
<v Speaker 2>and I do get the dog washed, and I'm totally exhausted.

0:49:05.360 --> 0:49:09.040
<v Speaker 2>I do have control of going I did my best. Yes,

0:49:09.160 --> 0:49:12.480
<v Speaker 2>like maybe I won't get the jobs, you know whatever,

0:49:13.200 --> 0:49:15.880
<v Speaker 2>but I'll know that like I showed up and I

0:49:15.920 --> 0:49:18.319
<v Speaker 2>did my best and that will be enough. Yeah, there

0:49:18.320 --> 0:49:22.040
<v Speaker 2>won't be any extra punishing. And that's maybe different than

0:49:22.080 --> 0:49:22.799
<v Speaker 2>twenty years ago.

0:49:23.000 --> 0:49:26.800
<v Speaker 5>Yeah that I'm like, I'm just thinking about the women

0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:29.000
<v Speaker 5>in the show and how I don't feel like anybody

0:49:29.040 --> 0:49:30.440
<v Speaker 5>is saying that they've done their best at the end

0:49:30.440 --> 0:49:31.239
<v Speaker 5>of this episode.

0:49:31.480 --> 0:49:32.840
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a good point.

0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:35.600
<v Speaker 4>That's a good point that they're all really critical of themselves.

0:49:35.680 --> 0:49:39.280
<v Speaker 5>I mean maybe Gabby feels momentarily like she's done her best,

0:49:39.360 --> 0:49:42.600
<v Speaker 5>but then we see that that's going to come back

0:49:42.640 --> 0:49:44.600
<v Speaker 5>to bite her because Carlos, well.

0:49:44.600 --> 0:49:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Let's like wrap that up for the listeners of like

0:49:46.800 --> 0:49:50.080
<v Speaker 2>how that So she picks her up. She realizes that

0:49:50.080 --> 0:49:52.600
<v Speaker 2>she's she's lost all this money and she kind.

0:49:52.440 --> 0:49:56.520
<v Speaker 3>Of said somewhere upwards of fifteen thousand dollars, Yeah, Carlos's money.

0:49:56.239 --> 0:50:00.400
<v Speaker 2>In an hour, and Gabrielle uses that to get the

0:50:00.440 --> 0:50:01.279
<v Speaker 2>mother in law to.

0:50:01.360 --> 0:50:06.200
<v Speaker 5>Not say anything about her to Carlos. But then Carlos

0:50:06.400 --> 0:50:10.719
<v Speaker 5>says when Gabby is not there to his mom. You know,

0:50:10.760 --> 0:50:13.000
<v Speaker 5>I'm so glad you guys are getting along. Gabby was

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:15.200
<v Speaker 5>really worried about you. I ended up telling her that

0:50:15.280 --> 0:50:20.640
<v Speaker 5>you had a gambling addiction. And Whennita realizes she set

0:50:20.640 --> 0:50:22.800
<v Speaker 5>her up, she sent her there on purpose, and now

0:50:22.880 --> 0:50:25.520
<v Speaker 5>she is suspicious that she and I think she even

0:50:25.560 --> 0:50:28.440
<v Speaker 5>noticed it. She notices John at the end, and she

0:50:28.520 --> 0:50:30.719
<v Speaker 5>notices how Gabby doesn't talk to John at all.

0:50:31.040 --> 0:50:33.560
<v Speaker 3>Right, they have that little lags, that little moment as

0:50:33.600 --> 0:50:36.080
<v Speaker 3>she's walking back from her mailbox.

0:50:35.760 --> 0:50:38.440
<v Speaker 5>And it's the idea that the person that you're actively

0:50:38.520 --> 0:50:42.080
<v Speaker 5>ignoring is the person that she's having something right, So

0:50:42.120 --> 0:50:44.160
<v Speaker 5>we get that storyline wrapping up in that way. We

0:50:44.239 --> 0:50:47.960
<v Speaker 5>obviously we covered Rex and Brie. Brie is so beautiful

0:50:47.960 --> 0:50:51.720
<v Speaker 5>and fearless and vulnerable and Rex just gives her nothing, nothing,

0:50:53.239 --> 0:50:55.960
<v Speaker 5>And Lynette does make all of the costumes.

0:50:55.680 --> 0:51:00.879
<v Speaker 3>And in the show too, I know, I know.

0:51:01.000 --> 0:51:02.880
<v Speaker 4>So that's a really big episode.

0:51:02.920 --> 0:51:08.279
<v Speaker 2>And I brought bean burritos so in episode six, and

0:51:08.400 --> 0:51:12.440
<v Speaker 2>the scene in the hotel room with Rex and Brie.

0:51:12.600 --> 0:51:16.480
<v Speaker 2>The reason I have brought you three different bean and

0:51:16.560 --> 0:51:20.200
<v Speaker 2>cheese burritos should be obvious if you.

0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:20.840
<v Speaker 4>Saw that scene.

0:51:21.320 --> 0:51:24.680
<v Speaker 2>I thought it was hilarious that Brie could just not

0:51:25.239 --> 0:51:30.160
<v Speaker 2>enjoy sex while she saw the hot cheese slowly about

0:51:30.320 --> 0:51:33.920
<v Speaker 2>to drip on the carpet. It was a epic moment,

0:51:33.960 --> 0:51:35.480
<v Speaker 2>that scene. But anyway, let me tell you what we

0:51:35.520 --> 0:51:38.000
<v Speaker 2>have here. So I felt like, you know, I make

0:51:38.040 --> 0:51:40.160
<v Speaker 2>a good burrito, but I felt like it might be

0:51:40.200 --> 0:51:44.560
<v Speaker 2>more fun to search Los Angeles for their best burritos.

0:51:44.600 --> 0:51:47.480
<v Speaker 2>So I looked up what were the best bean and

0:51:47.560 --> 0:51:52.799
<v Speaker 2>cheese burritos in our city? And so I won't tell

0:51:52.840 --> 0:51:55.680
<v Speaker 2>you which one is which, Okay, but one of these

0:51:56.080 --> 0:52:02.840
<v Speaker 2>is from Sorna Rita's in downtown LA. One of these

0:52:03.120 --> 0:52:08.920
<v Speaker 2>is from Burrito Express in Pasadena, and one of these

0:52:09.120 --> 0:52:13.920
<v Speaker 2>is from Casitas Taco Al Carbone in Burbank.

0:52:14.200 --> 0:52:15.960
<v Speaker 5>Did you drive to all of these locations to pick

0:52:16.000 --> 0:52:16.839
<v Speaker 5>up the burritos?

0:52:17.120 --> 0:52:18.200
<v Speaker 4>It is none of your business.

0:52:20.000 --> 0:52:23.279
<v Speaker 3>Look, we don't have to just delivered right here.

0:52:23.520 --> 0:52:25.520
<v Speaker 2>Anyways, I will tell you which one is which, but

0:52:25.600 --> 0:52:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I know, so I thought we could take a bite

0:52:27.560 --> 0:52:28.799
<v Speaker 2>of each of them and then see.

0:52:29.280 --> 0:52:32.799
<v Speaker 5>Wait, I'm so excited. I also I love just starting.

0:52:32.680 --> 0:52:34.400
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I want to I want to bite.

0:52:35.520 --> 0:52:36.440
<v Speaker 5>I'm starting with that one too.

0:52:36.480 --> 0:52:40.200
<v Speaker 2>Okay, great, this is the one with the really soft

0:52:41.080 --> 0:52:44.280
<v Speaker 2>beans like they're they're really refried.

0:52:44.680 --> 0:52:47.560
<v Speaker 5>Mm hmm wow, which I have to say, in my opinion,

0:52:48.080 --> 0:52:52.399
<v Speaker 5>a bean and cheese burrito, I'm expecting soft refried bean.

0:52:52.520 --> 0:52:54.680
<v Speaker 3>Yes, you want kind of one texture. It's the one

0:52:54.719 --> 0:52:56.399
<v Speaker 3>food where I feel like you kind of do want

0:52:56.440 --> 0:52:58.680
<v Speaker 3>one texture soft.

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:00.799
<v Speaker 2>And then this is a different one has more of

0:53:00.880 --> 0:53:04.600
<v Speaker 2>like the whole the whole pento bean. Okay, I'm not

0:53:04.680 --> 0:53:07.120
<v Speaker 2>really seeing the cheese these are supposed to be.

0:53:07.560 --> 0:53:08.520
<v Speaker 5>I'm sure it's in there.

0:53:08.600 --> 0:53:11.360
<v Speaker 3>No, I see some white cheese. Yeah, but the beans

0:53:11.360 --> 0:53:14.480
<v Speaker 3>are definitely a little bit more. It's going to be

0:53:14.480 --> 0:53:16.640
<v Speaker 3>aggressive own individual identity.

0:53:16.719 --> 0:53:18.680
<v Speaker 4>Okay, okay, while we're chewing.

0:53:18.760 --> 0:53:21.520
<v Speaker 2>While you guys are chewing, I'll say just I mean,

0:53:21.560 --> 0:53:24.759
<v Speaker 2>how can you not say, First of all, I mean

0:53:24.800 --> 0:53:31.760
<v Speaker 2>so many things, Bree is so brave in this moment,

0:53:32.000 --> 0:53:35.719
<v Speaker 2>and you know what, you really wouldn't necessarily expect it

0:53:35.760 --> 0:53:40.560
<v Speaker 2>of the Breed character to kind of put her ego aside,

0:53:40.719 --> 0:53:45.040
<v Speaker 2>and even later in the scenes where they kind of

0:53:45.200 --> 0:53:47.160
<v Speaker 2>they come back to the house and she sort of

0:53:47.160 --> 0:53:49.200
<v Speaker 2>calls them out on you know, I don't think it's me,

0:53:49.360 --> 0:53:53.480
<v Speaker 2>I think it's you. But but she shows up in

0:53:53.920 --> 0:53:57.319
<v Speaker 2>such a brave way, and it made me want to

0:53:57.320 --> 0:54:00.600
<v Speaker 2>buy a mink coat and have a person that I

0:54:00.640 --> 0:54:04.000
<v Speaker 2>would go wear nothing but brawn underwear and then just

0:54:04.200 --> 0:54:07.920
<v Speaker 2>drop the mink coat with like that seemed so fun

0:54:08.560 --> 0:54:13.560
<v Speaker 2>and Marcia. Okay, So twenty thirty years ago, when I

0:54:13.600 --> 0:54:16.400
<v Speaker 2>was doing Lewis and Clark, I got an opportunity to

0:54:16.400 --> 0:54:18.799
<v Speaker 2>do the cover of a magazine called Movie Line, which

0:54:18.800 --> 0:54:22.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't think exists anymore, but it was one of

0:54:23.000 --> 0:54:26.239
<v Speaker 2>they We did this big photo shoot and then they

0:54:26.280 --> 0:54:28.319
<v Speaker 2>had this idea to kind of do this racy cover

0:54:28.880 --> 0:54:35.200
<v Speaker 2>and I did this shot of me like up against

0:54:35.280 --> 0:54:37.520
<v Speaker 2>a pole, like a like a lamp post or a

0:54:37.520 --> 0:54:40.960
<v Speaker 2>big wood you know, big wood lamp post, and I

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:45.480
<v Speaker 2>was tied. I was totally naked, but tied with like

0:54:45.680 --> 0:54:48.040
<v Speaker 2>fishing rope, you know, like the really thick the kind

0:54:48.040 --> 0:54:50.759
<v Speaker 2>of rope you climb up at a CrossFit gym, And

0:54:50.800 --> 0:54:55.560
<v Speaker 2>it was tied around my breasts and around my crotch

0:54:55.600 --> 0:54:58.160
<v Speaker 2>and sort of you know in a way but where

0:54:58.160 --> 0:55:00.520
<v Speaker 2>you couldn't see like the private parts, but you could

0:55:00.840 --> 0:55:06.600
<v Speaker 2>see everything. And I remember at the time thinking this

0:55:06.719 --> 0:55:08.560
<v Speaker 2>is really risque. Some people are gonna like this some

0:55:08.560 --> 0:55:10.480
<v Speaker 2>people are gonna hate this, but I'm going to be

0:55:10.520 --> 0:55:13.200
<v Speaker 2>really glad I have this photo when I'm eighty years old,

0:55:14.080 --> 0:55:19.000
<v Speaker 2>And can I just say I am, I really am,

0:55:19.239 --> 0:55:22.840
<v Speaker 2>And and take that to heart. You young people listening,

0:55:22.880 --> 0:55:27.880
<v Speaker 2>because you know, make those moments, because you know you

0:55:28.440 --> 0:55:29.960
<v Speaker 2>will get to a point where you'll look back and

0:55:29.960 --> 0:55:32.680
<v Speaker 2>you go, well, I'm not going to be that ever again. Really,

0:55:32.719 --> 0:55:35.000
<v Speaker 2>even if I was a person who was getting plastic surgery,

0:55:35.040 --> 0:55:37.480
<v Speaker 2>which I'm not, but if I was, no judgment by

0:55:37.520 --> 0:55:41.440
<v Speaker 2>the way, you know, you still can't make that. You

0:55:41.120 --> 0:55:43.960
<v Speaker 2>can't you can't make that yourself look like that. It's

0:55:44.000 --> 0:55:48.360
<v Speaker 2>only something that youth offers. Anyway, Marcia in this scene

0:55:48.520 --> 0:55:55.279
<v Speaker 2>looks it looks unbelievable, like just flawless unbelievable.

0:55:55.360 --> 0:55:56.880
<v Speaker 4>I love the scene so much. Okay, what are we

0:55:56.920 --> 0:55:57.840
<v Speaker 4>thinking of the Britos?

0:55:57.880 --> 0:55:59.759
<v Speaker 3>Well, I just I mean, have you tried the third one?

0:55:59.800 --> 0:56:02.239
<v Speaker 5>I haven't tried the third one. For the third one now,

0:56:02.480 --> 0:56:04.839
<v Speaker 5>I'm kind of only want to do bean and she's

0:56:04.840 --> 0:56:08.680
<v Speaker 5>burritos every every episode because it's it's all I want.

0:56:08.719 --> 0:56:10.600
<v Speaker 5>My girlfriend would love that too, is her favorite snack.

0:56:11.719 --> 0:56:14.399
<v Speaker 3>I went through a I went through a phase during

0:56:14.440 --> 0:56:17.000
<v Speaker 3>Desperate Housewives, probably season one because I grew so much

0:56:17.160 --> 0:56:21.840
<v Speaker 3>where I think for three weeks straight I craved a

0:56:21.880 --> 0:56:23.839
<v Speaker 3>bean and chese burrito every day and my mom made

0:56:23.840 --> 0:56:24.919
<v Speaker 3>them for me every day.

0:56:25.040 --> 0:56:26.520
<v Speaker 5>So she made them because I was gonna say where

0:56:26.520 --> 0:56:27.040
<v Speaker 5>did you get your bean?

0:56:27.080 --> 0:56:31.120
<v Speaker 3>And she made them and they were great. Okay, do

0:56:31.160 --> 0:56:32.040
<v Speaker 3>we have a favorite?

0:56:32.280 --> 0:56:33.920
<v Speaker 5>I think my favorite is the first one.

0:56:34.000 --> 0:56:35.359
<v Speaker 3>I think my favorite is the first one.

0:56:35.360 --> 0:56:37.480
<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, it's almost like we're related through TV.

0:56:38.320 --> 0:56:43.600
<v Speaker 2>Our favorite is Soa Sona Rito's s O n O R.

0:56:43.760 --> 0:56:46.360
<v Speaker 2>I t a s Sona Rito's and it looks like

0:56:46.400 --> 0:56:48.840
<v Speaker 2>there's one on Sartel and one in downtown l A.

0:56:48.920 --> 0:56:53.720
<v Speaker 2>And of the three, I will say this was voted

0:56:53.760 --> 0:56:54.600
<v Speaker 2>the highest.

0:56:54.480 --> 0:56:56.600
<v Speaker 5>Ah out of the twel amazing.

0:56:56.760 --> 0:57:00.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we picked the one that the the wherever

0:57:00.480 --> 0:57:02.120
<v Speaker 2>this article was from.

0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:06.240
<v Speaker 5>I will say, I think this burrito from Sona Rita's

0:57:07.400 --> 0:57:11.880
<v Speaker 5>is worth getting a cheese stain in your clothes.

0:57:13.120 --> 0:57:14.919
<v Speaker 4>Or on the rug or on the rug.

0:57:15.080 --> 0:57:17.680
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but I prea is that amazing line where she goes, well,

0:57:17.720 --> 0:57:20.640
<v Speaker 5>you've clearly never tried to get out a cheese stain.

0:57:20.800 --> 0:57:24.560
<v Speaker 5>That's right, that's right. And I feel like we're just

0:57:24.600 --> 0:57:28.160
<v Speaker 5>getting drawn more and more into the juicy mystery of

0:57:28.560 --> 0:57:29.120
<v Speaker 5>this season.

0:57:29.160 --> 0:57:31.240
<v Speaker 2>And I love that you use the word juicy because

0:57:31.280 --> 0:57:34.240
<v Speaker 2>of the bean and cheese burritos to talk.

0:57:34.120 --> 0:57:39.080
<v Speaker 5>About juicy, a juicy burrito, just like the juicy juicy

0:57:39.160 --> 0:57:44.440
<v Speaker 5>last shot of the Dana's baby blanket unnoticed for now

0:57:44.560 --> 0:57:48.960
<v Speaker 5>in the back of Susan's garage. And I really, I mean,

0:57:49.040 --> 0:57:51.960
<v Speaker 5>I personally can't wait to see what happens next.

0:57:52.040 --> 0:57:54.880
<v Speaker 2>It's hard not to binge this. Oh my god, I'm

0:57:54.920 --> 0:57:57.560
<v Speaker 2>really it is really hard for me to not binge this.

0:57:57.640 --> 0:58:00.920
<v Speaker 2>I cannot wait to watch episode seven. But just so

0:58:01.200 --> 0:58:03.600
<v Speaker 2>you're listening at home, we're trying not to binge it

0:58:03.680 --> 0:58:05.720
<v Speaker 2>because we want to come back and record, you know,

0:58:05.760 --> 0:58:08.640
<v Speaker 2>each episode as a podcast and other. If I was

0:58:08.640 --> 0:58:13.200
<v Speaker 2>following my true nature, i'd be done with this season already. Yeah,

0:58:13.200 --> 0:58:16.880
<v Speaker 2>but it's actually a really good exercise that we used

0:58:16.920 --> 0:58:18.280
<v Speaker 2>to watch television this way.

0:58:18.400 --> 0:58:20.880
<v Speaker 4>Yep. You used to have to wait for the next week.

0:58:21.480 --> 0:58:27.840
<v Speaker 2>And there is something gratifying about waiting and not just

0:58:28.080 --> 0:58:31.400
<v Speaker 2>shoving it all into your brain in six hours until three.

0:58:31.200 --> 0:58:31.680
<v Speaker 4>In the morning.

0:58:31.760 --> 0:58:34.400
<v Speaker 2>Yes, there is something nice about letting it settle in

0:58:34.480 --> 0:58:36.880
<v Speaker 2>week after week. So I don't know if if you're listening,

0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:39.640
<v Speaker 2>if you're following along with us with that same rate

0:58:39.840 --> 0:58:43.959
<v Speaker 2>of viewership, but we're having fun. And by the way,

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