1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington, 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 2: Well Hello, hello, hello, Hello. Before we start, I need 4 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 2: to talk about something because we do put these little 5 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 2: teaser videos out on social media, and this podcast has 6 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,919 Speaker 2: been experienced me just moving around my house trying to 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 2: find a room to podcasts from. I was in the 8 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 2: studio at iHeart and then I started filming Great's Anatomy 9 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 2: and it's been hard to run there. So I made 10 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: it at home and I've settled on this room and 11 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:49,520 Speaker 2: I need to show the Call It crew this. This 12 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 2: tree behind me has been with me since I was 13 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 2: about twenty eight. And what I love about this tree 14 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 2: is that this has completely dyed and this is barely surviving, 15 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 2: and I feel like this is me as a tree. 16 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 2: The tree behind me has been with me a long time, 17 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 2: and it's a it's a YANKI tree. Okay, this episode 18 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 2: today was sparked by something that really truly happened, that 19 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 2: I saw in the wild that I thought didn't actually 20 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 2: really happen in real life. Right, Like, this is not 21 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 2: a situecause you saw this some movies or you saw 22 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 2: on social media, and it's like I'm never going to 23 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 2: really see this in the wild myself. I was driving 24 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 2: home from an episode that we did on the podcast, 25 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 2: and I'm driving and i see this car in the 26 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 2: distance and it is covered in graffiti, covered the whole 27 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,320 Speaker 2: car right and I'm like, what is what is this? 28 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 2: Maybe it's like an artistic thing. It clearly was not. 29 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 2: We got up close, and by the way, every single 30 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 2: car in the freeway was slowing down really close to 31 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 2: it to get like the full vibe. I may even 32 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 2: I snapped a picture. It wasn't legal, but I just 33 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 2: did it. I slow I did a slow down and 34 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 2: I did a quick picture snap, which thank god it was. 35 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 2: It was not a legal picture to take, but I 36 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 2: had to do it because it was so unreal. And 37 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 2: then I sent it to Jessica after this car had 38 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 2: this This young boy by the way, because I saw 39 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 2: him and he was like twenty two and just you know, humiliated, 40 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 2: had clearly been in a relationship with some girl and 41 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 2: looked up right like he had cheated. And this girl 42 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 2: had written like you're you're a dirty like all over 43 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 2: his car. Everyone on the one oh one freeway knew 44 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 2: he had cheated. And I have never seen anything like, 45 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 2: And I was like, damn, this girl went for revenge right, 46 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 2: like she wants everyone to know. 47 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 3: And she'd, by the way, just speaking of like the 48 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 3: cost that it will mean, like the actual physical cost 49 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 3: that will be incurred by him because of this. She 50 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 3: didn't miss a panel. 51 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no she didn't know. No, no, she got bumper, 52 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 2: she got there was not a inch of that car 53 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 2: that did not know that he had cheated. 54 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, And. 55 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 2: I text Jessica and I was like, we have to 56 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 2: do an episode on cheating, revenge and the crazy things 57 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,399 Speaker 2: that maybe we have done, maybe you guys have done, 58 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 2: maybe you've seen other people do after and you break 59 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 2: up bad breakups, So here we are inspired by this 60 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 2: this guy on the freeway. I don't know if you 61 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 2: deserved it or not. 62 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, who knows? 63 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:35,119 Speaker 2: What did you do? 64 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 3: What did you do? What did you No? 65 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 2: It was a little I'll be honest, it was. It 66 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 2: was very It was a little unhinged. But you know 67 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 2: I have had my unhinged moment in a breakup. 68 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 3: Well yeah, And I think that the reason why it's 69 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 3: it's interesting to discuss is because everybody's unhinged looks different, right, 70 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 3: So clearly this person's unhinged. The next level, that's the 71 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 3: next level unhinged. That was just that was not just 72 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 3: emotionally unhitched. 73 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 2: That was next levels. 74 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 3: But well it was awesome. It was criminal. Let's add 75 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 3: to that. 76 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 2: It was criminal. It was a criminal offense. You could 77 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 2: have she may be in jail, maybe in jail. 78 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 3: Emotionally criminal. It was criminal. 79 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 2: We are not encouraging any of this today. By the way, 80 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 2: a lot of this will be illegal. Okay, So I 81 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 2: want to know Jess. 82 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:29,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, First of I don't. 83 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 2: Know how many how many serious relationships do you think 84 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,559 Speaker 2: you've had in your life? I don't know this number 85 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 2: for you. 86 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 3: Well, I my first boyfriend was my thirteen twelve thirteen. 87 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 2: And you would count it as like a like a 88 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 2: like one of them. 89 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 3: Well, no, I'm saying that was the first time I 90 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 3: called someone my boyfriend and he was sadly it was 91 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:53,919 Speaker 3: he was a second runner up. I really liked his 92 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 3: best friend. 93 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,559 Speaker 2: I know that happens all the time when you're a kid. 94 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 2: Why do you do that? You would never do that 95 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 2: as an adult like him, But so I'll just think 96 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 2: the best friend like you would never do that, but 97 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 2: as a kid, you're like, it makes sense. 98 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll just be closer. I'll just be clot the 99 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 3: way to do that. And I was full braces. He 100 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 3: was full braces. There love it. There was a kiss. 101 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 2: It was it was like wonder years. 102 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 103 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 2: No, the Yeah, it was disgusting by the look on 104 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,239 Speaker 2: your face, it was, Yes, it was gross. 105 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. And then I'd say, in high. 106 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 2: School, did you have a high school sweetheart? 107 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,719 Speaker 3: I had a high school sweetheart? I did. I did. 108 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 3: I He was my first. It was just the loveliest 109 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 3: of all the loveliest, sweetest, sweetest. We were together for 110 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 3: a year and I was a sophomore in high school 111 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 3: and he was a senior. And then he went to 112 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 3: college and we broke up because we went to college. 113 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. 114 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I got into a I got into a 115 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 3: fender bender. Well no, I actually meant the axle of 116 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 3: my car because we were driving alongside each other and 117 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 3: he was like finally departing, and he was like going 118 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:05,920 Speaker 3: to the left, and I'm like romantically like leaning out 119 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 3: the driver's side window and I've got my hand on 120 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 3: the wheel. I'm not a very experienced driver at this 121 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 3: point in my life, and I'm yelling. 122 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 2: I love you no. 123 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 3: And I just kind of curve to the right and 124 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 3: I hit this really big curve and I bet my axle. 125 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 3: And then of course when my parents were like what happened, 126 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know, how did you bend 127 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 3: your axle? 128 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 2: I don't know. I have no idea. I was just 129 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 2: looking at the road and I was like, oh my god, 130 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 2: there's the road. It definitely was not saying I love 131 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 2: you goodbye. 132 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. Anyways, I did have a boyfriend and cheat on me. 133 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 3: I didn't really like him that much in high school, 134 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 3: I like kind of just was dating him. I like 135 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 3: the friend groups were all friends and ye, yeah we 136 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 3: were dating, but I didn't really I wasn't that into it. 137 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 3: Like it definitely was not love and I was very nonchalant. 138 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 3: And then in order to get my attention, he cheated 139 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 3: on me. 140 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: That always works. I mean, if you love some if 141 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 2: you really want to see the deal in a relationship, 142 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 2: definitely Yeah. And with a friend of mine, Yeah no, no, no, 143 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 2: that's that's a guarantee my friend. 144 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 3: What kind of friend is that? 145 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 2: Yeah? 146 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 3: And then uh, and then he made sure I found 147 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 3: out about it. I was actually surprised that I was 148 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 3: upset and I actually was the time even upset, and 149 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 3: I remember I had like my car keys in my hand, 150 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 3: and in like a giant dramatic moment, I like threw 151 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 3: them against the wall and then I was like, shit, 152 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 3: I hope I didn't break my key fob. That wouldn't 153 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 3: have been worth it. 154 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 155 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, So then that, yeah, that was. That was 156 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 3: high school. I guess we're doing this in a nutshell. 157 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 3: So that was high school, and then college I was, 158 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 3: I was. That's when I became what my my girl 159 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 3: my friends kind of referred to me as the kissing bandit. 160 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,200 Speaker 2: I didn't know this information. 161 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. I'd grown up in a family 162 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 3: culture and system that was rather prim and proper and 163 00:07:56,720 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 3: a little more conservative, a little more conservative. So for 164 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 3: me growing up in a more conservative household about about 165 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 3: the yeah yeah, yeah yeah. I figured that, like the 166 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 3: slippery slope was just like everything butt like everything but sex. 167 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 3: So just that was for me. It was a lot 168 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 3: of the other stuff. I was the kissing bandit. 169 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 2: You were the kissing bandit. 170 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 3: I was the kissing bandit. So I was so wait 171 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 3: for it, don't take it the wrong way. I was 172 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:33,079 Speaker 3: so open. I was like, oh my gosh, you're super funny, 173 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 3: but like maybe yeah, like aren't like revving my engines 174 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:39,760 Speaker 3: from like across the room. Great, let's go out. And 175 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 3: so I really And then there were you know, some 176 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:44,680 Speaker 3: people that I dated that were like you would mean 177 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 3: talk about like from across the room, like gorgeous, but 178 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,679 Speaker 3: then you end up in like a conversation and it 179 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 3: was really like a C minus and and I would 180 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:55,560 Speaker 3: and I would kiss both of those people. 181 00:08:56,480 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, well the kissing parts are kissing is an part 182 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 2: of knowing, because you might not feel like your chemistry 183 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 2: is on the your kissing you're like, wait a second, yeah, 184 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 2: we do have we do. I was not a kissing 185 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 2: bandit at all. I will's icy cold. Oh no, no, no, 186 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,600 Speaker 2: I was not. I was not icy. But I got 187 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 2: the ick so easily from literally we should do a 188 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 2: whole episode on just the ick right like, in fact, 189 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,319 Speaker 2: in fact, just listening to us right now, guys writing 190 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 2: what gives you the ick? Because tiny things gave me 191 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 2: the ick? And if if I even smelt an ick coming, 192 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 2: there was no chance of how for a makeout, I 193 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 2: couldn't even subject these lips to any of that. So 194 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 2: I was pretty particular. I think I would consider I 195 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 2: think I would have I had a high school sweetheart. 196 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 2: I had a couple serious relationships before Matt had some 197 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 2: dating lens. I won't really call it a relation. I 198 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 2: would think I've had about four four relationships, three really 199 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 2: serious boyfriends my whole life, and I'll tell you one 200 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 2: of them kind of pissed me off. M oo mm hmm. 201 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 3: Oh. 202 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 2: He held some information for me about sleeping with somebody 203 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 2: that I did not Yeah that I was not happy 204 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 2: about it. It was before me, but I didn't like it 205 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 2: was it was. And by the way, I don't know 206 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 2: how I feel about this now, but back then, I 207 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 2: wanted to know. I wanted the list of names of 208 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 2: everybody that you would ever if you had looked at someone. 209 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 2: I needed to know that acciation. I wanted the whole Yeah, yeah, 210 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 2: I wanted the whole thing. And he had purposely left 211 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 2: out a very recent hookup before me and I found out, 212 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 2: and it was explosive and granted I was I'm like 213 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 2: twenty three, okay, so I'm still like, what's call me 214 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 2: a baby? 215 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:55,079 Speaker 3: Then? 216 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 2: And so I did do a little break up revenge ee. 217 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 2: He happened to have laughed, his favorite blue striped shirt 218 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:07,560 Speaker 2: at my house and my apartment, I should say. And 219 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 2: so I wrote your alling asshole in marker on the 220 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 2: back in permanent marker. Yeah, big thick permanent marker. Took 221 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 2: some time with that. It's like a little art project 222 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 2: for me. And then I took some scissors and I 223 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 2: just cut up like this, so it was kind of 224 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 2: like a flaring. It had a fringe. Yeah, he gave 225 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 2: that shirt a foot long fringe at the end, yep. 226 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:36,559 Speaker 2: And that was a that was a little revenge breakup 227 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 2: that I did. I wouldn't recommend it. I would not 228 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 2: recommend it, but in the moment it felt so good. 229 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. 230 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 2: Have you ever had like a little bit of an 231 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 2: unhinged you know. 232 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 3: I went with the whole living well as the best revenge. 233 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 3: So I would just like make sure that I was like, yeah, 234 00:11:55,400 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 3: I was very strategic about making or that if I 235 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 3: had broken up with someone, or if I'd been seeing 236 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 3: someone and it had it ended well or whatever whatever, 237 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 3: that I would magically be where they were. But like 238 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:15,199 Speaker 3: living you know, my best life. 239 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:17,439 Speaker 2: Your revenge was the optics. 240 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, mine was like the wind fan and like 241 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:23,559 Speaker 3: the wind machines, and then like, definitely, whatever person I 242 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 3: could be with that would make them really like, yes, 243 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 3: I would make sure I was them, and it was 244 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 3: all for show. It was all for show, and that 245 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 3: was as revenge twisty as I ever. 246 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 2: You never did like a little throw the shirt in 247 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 2: the trash. You never did anything like yeah, no, you're 248 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: better than me, jess. 249 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 3: Oh it doesn't mean, I know, please please please psychological 250 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 3: warfare or sharp beyond your shirt or project or tomato tomato. Yeah, 251 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 3: because I think that they can eat be equally them 252 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,320 Speaker 3: as impactful they can. 253 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:08,160 Speaker 2: I mean I was. I also did the optics. I 254 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 2: did the breakup optics. And it was right when I 255 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 2: was twenty three. Was around the time that Facebook had 256 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 2: just started, and at first you had to be in college. 257 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 2: You had to have a college account for Facebook, and 258 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 2: I was not in college. I was like, not in 259 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:26,120 Speaker 2: college and I couldn't get in. There was no way 260 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 2: of posting right oh oh yes right, and needed the 261 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 2: college email account to get in. And back then I 262 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 2: was like, damn it, I don't have that. So I 263 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:38,559 Speaker 2: would go to my Space and I would use my Space. 264 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 2: I would I would post cute pictures of me. I'd 265 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:43,880 Speaker 2: put on a cool song that was like you everything 266 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 2: you did, You're a and I'm so hot, And then 267 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 2: I'd have that song playing in the background and I'd 268 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 2: be like, yeah, the optics for everything they still are 269 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,319 Speaker 2: come on, yeah. 270 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah yeah. First of the Hello, that's what Instagram 271 00:13:58,160 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 3: is for. 272 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 2: No, well, the revenge jop decks. We're talking about revenge jopticks. 273 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:05,680 Speaker 2: Revengejopics are still happening. Would you say that you were 274 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 2: a serial dater or more of a singleton. 275 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 3: A serial dater? 276 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 2: You were? I don't know. I was kind of on 277 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:16,680 Speaker 2: and off. I had my single moments, but. 278 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 3: I was, I was. 279 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 2: I was always looking. 280 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 3: I didn't love being single. 281 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 2: You didn't know. 282 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 3: It's weird because I actually loved being alone. 283 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 2: See I didn't like being alone. 284 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 3: Oh gosh, I love alone time. 285 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 2: Well, no, I love love love. 286 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 3: I mean, I clearly I live for my family, but 287 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 3: during those very rare opportunities wherever i'm if, I realize 288 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 3: I'm in the house by myself. Oh this is the best. 289 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 2: No, it is the best. I know why we're whispering. 290 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 3: We had whisper, we got whisper. I know we can 291 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 3: find out. Did you what did you think was worse 292 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 3: breaking up with someone or being broken up with. 293 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 2: Well, clearly I've had both. I've had you know, I've 294 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 2: had both. Like the rest of the world, being broken 295 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 2: up with is really painful. I think at the end 296 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 2: of the day, it is worse doing the breakup is 297 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 2: really hard and I was really bad at it. We've 298 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 2: talked about this before. I was a staller. I was like, 299 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,320 Speaker 2: when shall I do it? Let me check when the 300 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:12,840 Speaker 2: when the when the lease is up? Do you know 301 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 2: what I mean? Like, that's the game the date when 302 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 2: it wasn't necessary. What do you think I think? I 303 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: think being broken up with is so painful. 304 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 3: Mm hmmmmmm. I was broken up with in college and 305 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 3: I was so heartbroken that I literally, I mean the 306 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 3: next day I wore all black like it was a funeral. 307 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 2: No, we've toald, Yeah, you're morning. We all it's the 308 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 2: notoriousest breakup that was. 309 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 3: That was the just breakup. 310 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 2: Yes, so you woke up the next morning and you 311 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 2: went to your closet and you purposely decided to wear 312 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 2: all black. 313 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a black dress and then it was 314 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 3: a black cardigan and some black loafers. Oh, everything about 315 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 3: the outfit. 316 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 2: Yes, Oh my god. 317 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 3: Yep, that was me. And then and then the next 318 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 3: time that I dealt with being broken up with, I 319 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 3: didn't even really get broken up with. I just got 320 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 3: cheated on, and then it was and then when someone 321 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 3: cheats they forced you to break up. But then you're 322 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 3: sort of like, wow, yeah, and then I think that, 323 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 3: oh God, yes, I hated. I hated breaking up with people. 324 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 3: Hated hated, hated, hated, Like I mean, I think I said, 325 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 3: it's sure, I would just have to become so awful 326 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,640 Speaker 3: that they couldn't possibly retain their dignity and stay with me. 327 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 3: I mean, I. 328 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 2: Feel like that's a lot of people in their twenties, 329 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: which is so bad. I want to tell like Hayden 330 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 2: and Lucas, like, listen, the bravest thing you can do 331 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:46,479 Speaker 2: is just say like it's not working, instead of nonchalantly 332 00:16:46,760 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 2: becoming a ghost, which was worse Your first boyfriend or 333 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 2: your first job. 334 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:11,960 Speaker 3: Well, my first real boyfriend that wasn't the thirteen year old. 335 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,239 Speaker 3: We both had brace's kiss in the bathroom. He was 336 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 3: the best. Oh my gosh, I couldn't have had a 337 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 3: better first boyfriend. 338 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 2: That's really cute. We have a question about the first boyfriend, though, 339 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 2: in your twenties when you were still like, you know, 340 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:25,359 Speaker 2: you weren't married and settled down. Did he ever do 341 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 2: a little reach out? 342 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, of course. I had many repeat visitors come out. 343 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 2: Oh my god, we've all been there. I love a 344 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 2: repeat visitor. 345 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:40,719 Speaker 3: There were boyfriends, and then there were the boyfriends, and 346 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 3: then there were the chapters. 347 00:17:43,119 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, they come back in. I love it 348 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 2: a repeat visitor. I've never heard that that's the best 349 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:51,159 Speaker 2: way to describe it. 350 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well you know what, 351 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 3: But here's the thing, and this is I'm very grateful, 352 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 3: and I would hope that my kids would have similar experiences, 353 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 3: is that I did a pretty good job of navigating 354 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 3: around the assholes. Like I dated great people like I didn't. 355 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:09,479 Speaker 3: I didn't do you know what I mean, Like I 356 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 3: wasn't attracted to people who were going to treat me poorly. 357 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 3: I was attracted to incredibly interesting people for very different reasons. 358 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:19,359 Speaker 3: Like I said, I mean, I remember there was a 359 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 3: guy I was dating and I was like, oh my 360 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:23,360 Speaker 3: gosh when I first like, just we had different chemistry 361 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,560 Speaker 3: for different reasons, you know, And so I really liked 362 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 3: all the guys that I went out with and if 363 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:30,040 Speaker 3: I ever found myself in a situation where I wasn't 364 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 3: being treated well, which definitely has happened, it would have 365 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 3: been the first and last date. I mean, I definitely 366 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 3: remember calling girlfriends from the bathroom some places. 367 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 2: Being like get me out of here, yeah. 368 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:44,920 Speaker 3: Or just like people that were like ick, I did. 369 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 2: Go on this date with this guy who's pretty famous now, 370 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 2: he was pretty famous back then. I went a little 371 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:55,359 Speaker 2: date with him, and I do remember on the first date. 372 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 2: I won't give any more clues, but on the first date, 373 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:00,920 Speaker 2: I do remember just kind of thinking like he pulled 374 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 2: up in this I can't believe I'm telling this story. 375 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 2: He pulled up in this like really swinky convertible, And 376 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,639 Speaker 2: if you know me, you would know that that is 377 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 2: an ick for me. Instantly, it feels like you're showing off, 378 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 2: Like it feels like you're like, hey, check out my car. 379 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:21,119 Speaker 2: You know. So I was immediately, you know, some people 380 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 2: are kind of into that at that It was like 381 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 2: such an eye roll. I was like, oh God, So 382 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 2: I get in the car, we go to this place, 383 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:30,760 Speaker 2: we're kind of having you know, we're making out a 384 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:34,240 Speaker 2: little bit and it's fine, but I'm not super into him. 385 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: He's really cute, but I was just not. I wasn't 386 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 2: super into him. And he told me. One of his 387 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 2: pickup lines that night that killed it for me was 388 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 2: he was like, I have a seen you on Californication 389 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 2: and I was very naked Californication. Okay, he was not 390 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:58,640 Speaker 2: letting me know that he'd admired my acting skills. This 391 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 2: was a flaw. Her comment that was basically like, I've 392 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:06,199 Speaker 2: already seen your naked, and by the way, what do 393 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,719 Speaker 2: you do? What do you even do with that? Like 394 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:11,399 Speaker 2: did you see it on DVD? Like how do you 395 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 2: even respond to that? And it just was dead. It 396 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 2: was dead in the water. 397 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:20,560 Speaker 3: Because because he was insinuating that he'd seen your naked, 398 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 3: not because he'd actually seen you. 399 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 2: Because it was like keep it to yourself, dude, Like 400 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,199 Speaker 2: if I had seen someone like in a hot you know, 401 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 2: like if I'd seen like a hot movie with somebody 402 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 2: and I was, you know, dating that person, I would 403 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 2: be like I saw you in that. 404 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:32,879 Speaker 1: You know. 405 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:36,280 Speaker 2: It's like I was like, dude, like hop some chill. 406 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,639 Speaker 2: It was just it killed it and it was it 407 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,679 Speaker 2: really didn't go much further. I do want to know 408 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 2: this because listen. I love my dad, I love my family, 409 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 2: but no one was getting no one was intimidated coming 410 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 2: home to Martin Laudington's house and Wokingham, England. But you 411 00:20:56,960 --> 00:21:01,720 Speaker 2: you grew up in a really different situation almost anybody. 412 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 2: And because your parents are Kate Capshaw and Steven Spielberg, 413 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 2: and so I want to know, basically, I want to 414 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 2: know if boys came over to your place with their parents, like, 415 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:18,399 Speaker 2: like what was that? 416 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:18,800 Speaker 1: Like? 417 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 3: Oh, I always had I had a lot of guy 418 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 3: friends as well as you know, boyfriends, and so I 419 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 3: would and I and I always and I people were 420 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 3: always at my house, and my family was always just 421 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:34,639 Speaker 3: very welcoming, and I had so many younger siblings. They 422 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 3: were so much fun to play with, and it was 423 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,840 Speaker 3: just like a fun house. And I think that all 424 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 3: my friends really loved being at my house. The boyfriends 425 00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:46,600 Speaker 3: went because I actually did have a couple of guy 426 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 3: friends that turned into boyfriends. So those were sort of 427 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,360 Speaker 3: like there was some runway for them to feel comfortable, 428 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 3: and then when they became a boyfriend, it was easier. 429 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:57,159 Speaker 3: There was a little bit of speed bump, There was 430 00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 3: a little bit of like they would like hit that 431 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:00,360 Speaker 3: speed bump and like know that they were were at 432 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,359 Speaker 3: my house, and like they would just kind of like 433 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 3: get it all together, like everything would just like get 434 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 3: real nice and tidy, and if you know my parents, 435 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 3: like they're definitely not like a mister and missus type couple, 436 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 3: and so and then they would get all hung up 437 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,239 Speaker 3: because they wouldn't know what to call them, and then 438 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 3: they would inevitably call them something the wrong way, like 439 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 3: they would call my mom missus Spielberg and she's like, 440 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,880 Speaker 3: I'm not missus Sielburg and then they're like, well, shit, 441 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,160 Speaker 3: what are you are you, miss Capshaw? And then you're 442 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,479 Speaker 3: like and then also, remember when I'm in high school, 443 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 3: my mom had me when she was twenty three, So 444 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 3: my mom is yeah, not even forty. 445 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's hot. Yes. 446 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:39,720 Speaker 3: So so the boys are coming home and they're like damn. 447 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:41,359 Speaker 2: Like Cash's mom is hot. 448 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:42,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. 449 00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:45,160 Speaker 3: And meanwhile I was like I remember being simultaneously proud 450 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 3: and a little pissed off, right Like I was like, oh, 451 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 3: my mom's so beautiful, and then I was a little 452 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:50,120 Speaker 3: bit like, no, look at. 453 00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 2: Me, look at me, Like yeah, well, by the way, 454 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,399 Speaker 2: looking over here was not going to give you a 455 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 2: better view. 456 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 3: My mom was like, this is so much Oh god, 457 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 3: I mean, come on now, but yeah, and I remember 458 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,359 Speaker 3: there were a couple of times where they would be 459 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,080 Speaker 3: it would like it would just be a different kind 460 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,359 Speaker 3: of circumstance because again, people would come over to our house. 461 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,119 Speaker 3: And I mean, now, I think everybody watches where so 462 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 3: many people watch awards shows, I guess in the form 463 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 3: of entertainment, but I think back then it was a 464 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:20,680 Speaker 3: little more niche and my parents would always be going 465 00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 3: to the award show, but then we would be watching 466 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 3: it at home. So I'd invite people over to watch 467 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 3: it and they'd come. They'd be coming in the front 468 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 3: door while my parents were walking out the front door 469 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:31,600 Speaker 3: to go to the event, and so they would just 470 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 3: be the like the picture of glamour and yeah and sophistication, 471 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 3: which yes, I think was probably intimidating. But here's the thing, 472 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 3: I never bemoaned it, because really what it did was 473 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,159 Speaker 3: create a little bit of a filter, like a little 474 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 3: bit of like you better behave bring your a game, 475 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,160 Speaker 3: bring your best self, because people just felt a little 476 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 3: bit more. I don't know that it was intimidated because 477 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 3: our house was very like again, it was chill. 478 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,399 Speaker 2: I think it's I don't think it's like a personality 479 00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 2: like intimidation. I think it's just that it's it's to 480 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 2: be frank, it's like Hollywood royalty, right like and and 481 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,480 Speaker 2: so that would be it would just be naturally intimidating, 482 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 2: I think. 483 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean I never thought of it like 484 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 3: that because I was in No. 485 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 2: Because it's your fan, because that's your family. Yeah, but 486 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 2: that's I'm just saying, like the rest of the world. 487 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And I clearly, I mean, honestly, there's like 488 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:29,159 Speaker 3: when we were talking about revenge stories, I could go 489 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:30,560 Speaker 3: back on a couple of them, and I kind of 490 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 3: wish that i'd had I'd been a little more revenge 491 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 3: because I remember dating a guy when I first got 492 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:38,920 Speaker 3: out of college who was in He was a producer, 493 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 3: and he behaved horribly. He was like one of the 494 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,639 Speaker 3: only ones that just like he did all the things 495 00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:45,400 Speaker 3: you're never supposed to do in a relationship, and I 496 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 3: just really I was so deeply hurt by all of 497 00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:52,639 Speaker 3: his behavior. And I remember thinking because he sort of 498 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:58,040 Speaker 3: worked peripherral to my parents, and I remember being like, 499 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 3: I should tell them every single thing that he's ever done. 500 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 3: But then I was like, eh, like, what's it? Like? 501 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,199 Speaker 3: What's it gonna get me? What's it gonna do? This 502 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:10,880 Speaker 3: is business? 503 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 2: This was them. 504 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 3: I know I should have Oh mommy daughter. I know 505 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 3: I've told them since if that. 506 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 2: Matters, so I would have. I would have had the 507 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,400 Speaker 2: whole PowerPoint presentation or ready to go. 508 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,919 Speaker 3: Look at what this record did. Yep. I think we 509 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,920 Speaker 3: should now turn it over to our crew because there 510 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 3: areible submissions here. Yeah, I'm gonna go with the first one. 511 00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,439 Speaker 3: Are you ready for it? 512 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 2: I'm ready? 513 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 3: Sarah wrote in and she said I broke up with 514 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 3: my ex after finding out that he cheated on me 515 00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:43,200 Speaker 3: with my mom. So I gave him back the clothes 516 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,040 Speaker 3: he gave me. I sprayed them with fart spray, put 517 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 3: fake cockroaches in them, and waited for him to collect them. 518 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 3: And I wish I could have seen his face from 519 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:53,119 Speaker 3: my car, but all I heard was him screaming like 520 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 3: a girl, and he proceeded to throw the bag out 521 00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:56,919 Speaker 3: the window. He saw me sitting in the car, and 522 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,479 Speaker 3: I gave him a grin, waved and drove off, blowing 523 00:25:59,520 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 3: a kiss. 524 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:06,359 Speaker 2: First of all, cheating with your mom is insane. 525 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 3: Well, I did just talk about how hot my mom 526 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 3: was I know, but my mom is, Yeah, your mom still, 527 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,160 Speaker 3: My mom's hot. 528 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 2: Your mom's a babe. Okay, cheating in the room. Horrifying. 529 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 2: Fart spray genius. 530 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 3: Mm hmm. 531 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 2: I actually wish I thought of the fart spray. I 532 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:24,399 Speaker 2: think the fart spray is good because it's like, you know, 533 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 2: they're having to figure out where exactly it's the smell's 534 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 2: coming from you. I mean like it takes a second. Yep, 535 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 2: that's a good one. I love it, okay, Amelia wrote, 536 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 2: and she wrote, me and my ex husband were on 537 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,159 Speaker 2: a cruise in the Caribbean when I found him in 538 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 2: our room with another girl who was my best friend 539 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 2: in secondary school, that's in high school. I hadn't spoken 540 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 2: to her since I was sixteen, so I found her 541 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,480 Speaker 2: on Facebook to get some more information. It turns out 542 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 2: it was his cousin. What. I confronted him about it, 543 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,239 Speaker 2: and he told me that the fair hipping this is 544 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 2: so juicy, the affair hippen going on for three years 545 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 2: with the same girl his cousin. Once we got back 546 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,919 Speaker 2: to the UK, I packed up all his shit and 547 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,119 Speaker 2: left them at his auntie's house with a note that 548 00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:15,920 Speaker 2: said talk to your daughter and nephew. They can explain 549 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 2: all to you how long they sleeping together or To 550 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,040 Speaker 2: this day, he still calls on, leads me, boy smells, 551 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:27,360 Speaker 2: begging me to come back. This is just disgusting. This 552 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:28,400 Speaker 2: is just really Yeah. 553 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 3: I don't, I don't. Yeah, I don't even know how. 554 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 3: I love that. You're like, it's so juicy. I find 555 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,880 Speaker 3: it like. 556 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 2: Like a little puke juice. Puke juice. This is I mean. Yeah, no, 557 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,440 Speaker 2: it's turned my stomach. I do like the note, though, 558 00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 2: you do, Yeah, you want to leave the note? 559 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:45,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, the note's good. 560 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:51,040 Speaker 2: It's a good move. Nobody's fully unhinged yet, Okay, read CJ. 561 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,400 Speaker 3: All right, CJ. I was in an unpleasant relationship when 562 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 3: I was very young, sixteen to nineteen. I worked nights 563 00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:58,919 Speaker 3: in a shop and came home sick one night at 564 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 3: three am to find my partner in bed with my 565 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 3: best friend. After throwing her out, I let my partner 566 00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,520 Speaker 3: believe I had forgotten the whole thing, and then super 567 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 3: glued his ballsack to the side of his leg while 568 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,760 Speaker 3: he was asleep. While waiting for him to wake up, 569 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,639 Speaker 3: I put all this stuff out on the front lawn. 570 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,479 Speaker 2: I literally by the way, I'm so glad that you 571 00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:22,120 Speaker 2: read that. For some reason, it's really funny hearing you 572 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,840 Speaker 2: say the word ballack super good and I was just 573 00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 2: saying that none of our crew was unhinged. This does 574 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:34,919 Speaker 2: border unhinged. Oh gosh, super glue to ballsack. I just 575 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,040 Speaker 2: you know, I understand what that is. 576 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,920 Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm just I go literal. I'm trying so hard 577 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 3: to like, did she know he was a deep sleeper? 578 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,040 Speaker 3: Did she like pulled the ball sack away from his leg? 579 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 3: How much did she know to put on? 580 00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 2: Well, my question is do you glob the leg first 581 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 2: or do you glob the ball? I think you globed 582 00:28:55,600 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 2: the leg and then you smushed the ball. Luck because 583 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:09,360 Speaker 2: if you glove the ball, I feel like no, but 584 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 2: I do we need instructions and then. 585 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 3: Depending on how tidy they keep things. I mean, you're 586 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:16,880 Speaker 3: dealing with the whole hair situation. 587 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:22,400 Speaker 2: You're definitely dealing with hair. It's like, what do you Okay, 588 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 2: so you wake up and you have a super glue, 589 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 2: do you go like, how do you I mean, you 590 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,680 Speaker 2: can't get the scissors where you go? 591 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,480 Speaker 3: No, you're looking for like some kind of solvent, but 592 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 3: probably a guy is not even going to know a 593 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:40,040 Speaker 3: solvent is what you need, and she's nowhere to be found. 594 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 3: So good luck. 595 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 2: You're driving yourself to the yarn you've got to reveal. 596 00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, but better than better, I mean better than on 597 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,200 Speaker 3: his actual genius, right. 598 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,240 Speaker 2: Because I don't know, guys, I want to know what's 599 00:29:53,280 --> 00:30:03,840 Speaker 2: more sensitive. I'm assuming that the uh shraft is more 600 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:04,680 Speaker 2: it's the. 601 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 3: Shaft is glued while it's not excited in the world 602 00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 3: out there in the world thinking about it gets excited. 603 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,800 Speaker 3: What happens to the glue God? 604 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 2: So many questions. It's almost like we need that show, 605 00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 2: remember that show that like did all those science experiments? 606 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 2: They never did this. 607 00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 3: What are you talking about? Well, they didn't glue people's balls. 608 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 2: No, I'm just I have questions I have. This is 609 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 2: not I'm not reading this and then I'm done with it. 610 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 2: I know. 611 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:36,600 Speaker 3: No, No, we need to move on. 612 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:37,600 Speaker 2: I think we need to move on. 613 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. Also, I'm just gonna say, I'm just gonna throw 614 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 3: it out there that if you're sixteen, you shouldn't be 615 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 3: working nights. 616 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,400 Speaker 2: Sorry, that the moral of the story is take a 617 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 2: day job. Take a day job, take a day take 618 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 2: a day job. I think that's what we've learned, okay. 619 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 2: Nikki Clark wrote, I found out my ex was cheating 620 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 2: on me. She denied it relentlessly, but messages do not lie. 621 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 2: We were being in a house share with some of 622 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 2: my friends and it was decided she wasn't coming back. 623 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 2: My friends and I packed up all her shit and 624 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,640 Speaker 2: furniture and left it out in the garden for her 625 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 2: to collect. She had two cats that lived with us, 626 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 2: so when collecting all of the cat stuff up, I 627 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 2: emptied the litter tray full of poop into the zipped 628 00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:23,040 Speaker 2: up sections of the sofa cushions. Revenge is best served 629 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:28,760 Speaker 2: shitty sometimes. I mean, it's really gross into the zipped 630 00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 2: up section. I feel like that's gonna be hard to clean. 631 00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 2: That's hard to clean. 632 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 3: That's gross. 633 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 2: It is really gross. 634 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,040 Speaker 3: I mean, Nikki, I'm not judging. I'm just saying I'm 635 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:42,080 Speaker 3: not well. 636 00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,680 Speaker 2: I don't like the cheating. I don't and I don't 637 00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 2: like the denial. I don't like the denial of there. 638 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 2: The cat poop is a is a I mean, it's. 639 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 3: A choice, ew, just the whole thing. 640 00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:58,080 Speaker 2: It's just do Yeah, what wasn't gonna be nice? Was it? 641 00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:00,240 Speaker 2: She wasn't gonna fill perfume. 642 00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,360 Speaker 3: Like, Okay, would you rather have your balls glued to 643 00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 3: your leg? Or would you rather have. 644 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 2: Oh cat boop you? 645 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,480 Speaker 3: By the way, you don't even have balls to like. 646 00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:14,600 Speaker 2: Actually, I already know nobody wants a ball glued. You 647 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:32,600 Speaker 2: don't even have to have them to know that's fucking liability, 648 00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:36,880 Speaker 2: you know what. I want to hear more, obviously because 649 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:41,719 Speaker 2: this is super entertaining, But I think I love this one. 650 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 2: I feel like we can't top We need to take 651 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 2: a second. And I don't say that often. 652 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 3: What you're leaving me in suspense? 653 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,160 Speaker 2: What? No, we need to after the ball story, I 654 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:57,280 Speaker 2: need to take like I feel like I need I 655 00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,320 Speaker 2: just need a moment, you know. I want to continue 656 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:03,880 Speaker 2: on with more, but I think we gotta pause. 657 00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 3: For the balls. 658 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 2: We gotta pause for those. We gotta pause because we're 659 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 2: not gonna beat that story today. We may later listen 660 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 2: if you can beat that story. 661 00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,560 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, but also don't make it up. We'll know, 662 00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:18,840 Speaker 3: we'll know. We want real stories. 663 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, because some of the some of the stories that 664 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:28,080 Speaker 2: did get you know, they were too shenaniguinea. I mean true, 665 00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:37,440 Speaker 2: but but but it read like an action movie. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, 666 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,400 Speaker 2: I think we need to add a PSA. 667 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,520 Speaker 3: To those of public services a little bit. 668 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 2: In public service. Now, we don't condone any of these stories. 669 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,480 Speaker 2: We are merely sharing. 670 00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 3: What happens when you're unhinged, when you're unhinged in some people, 671 00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 3: just like we were talking about our airplane stories, like 672 00:33:55,320 --> 00:34:02,400 Speaker 3: one person's unhinged, yes, someone else's totally together, and vice versa. 673 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,920 Speaker 2: So I think we can agree these we were not 674 00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:09,000 Speaker 2: totally together in these stories, including myself. Do I you 675 00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 2: know that shirt hat should not have been made into 676 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,000 Speaker 2: a fringe dress. 677 00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:16,560 Speaker 3: This didn't look like car wash flaps. 678 00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:22,880 Speaker 2: It really should not have. This was hysterical though. 679 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's just so funny. You know why 680 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:29,759 Speaker 3: it's funny is that we just it's further proof that 681 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:37,400 Speaker 3: human interactions are so creative and nuanced and individual and wild. 682 00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,000 Speaker 2: Are we calling this creative? 683 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:43,479 Speaker 3: We're calling this very creative. Okay, some of the names 684 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:47,359 Speaker 3: that are written sorry nay spray painted on that car. 685 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 3: We're creative. It was illegal again, We're just saying that 686 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:51,280 Speaker 3: it was creative. 687 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:52,120 Speaker 2: Artistic. 688 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:53,919 Speaker 3: Revenge is a creative act. 689 00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 2: It can be, it can be. That's what the crew 690 00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,400 Speaker 2: is showing us but again illegal. 691 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, very illegal, very legal. Again, we don't condone. 692 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 3: There's better ways to deal with this, yes, yes, exactly. 693 00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:12,520 Speaker 3: All right, Well, you know what, thank you for showing 694 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:16,719 Speaker 3: us the good, the bad, and the ugly. We appreciate it. 695 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,840 Speaker 3: And I think that probably we've I've learned a little 696 00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 3: bit during this episode. I'd grown, I've reminisced, I'm nostalgia 697 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,560 Speaker 3: thrown in there for sure. We've more stories where that 698 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:29,920 Speaker 3: came from. 699 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,879 Speaker 2: We're going to share some more so much. 700 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. All right, let's call it. 701 00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:38,040 Speaker 2: Let's call it the end of the episode.