WEBVTT - Conversations To Think About 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.400 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Sillers Podcast with your host, not funk that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:19.319 low glasses, Malone. I just don't. I'm really just I 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.520 don't like to cook. I cook, but it's not like. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:25.000 Some people really like to go in the kitchen. It's 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:28.000 very therapeutic to them. They really like it. Like me, 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:32.080 I just don't do it. It's not about cooking, right, 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:36.560 It's about feeding your family. That's why I do it. Yeah, 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:39.440 but how don't you like that? Then? I didn't say 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:41.239 I don't like to feed my family. I said I 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:43.400 don't like to cook. Then how do you expect to 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.120 feed your family if you don't love the thing I 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:48.720 feed your I don't like to cook, but I do 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:53.040 like to feed my family. I don't like to pay 0:00:53.200 --> 0:00:57.480 bills that I have to pay bills. No, that's different. 0:00:57.560 --> 0:00:59.840 That's like a man saying he don't like to pay 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.800 Else imagine says you want you should want to like. 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:10.240 How don't you desire that? That's like the truth. I don't. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.520 I'm sorry, I don't like to cook. I don't like 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:16.680 to cook. I don't. I just don't like. I'm not like, 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:20.319 I don't like to cook. I just I don't know. 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:22.240 It's like a guy like I don't want to protect you. 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:24.720 I don't like to protect. They like it. It's good. 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:28.200 I just I don't like to protector. I don't want 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.800 to take care. I don't. I don't. I really don't 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:34.880 get whatever lack of that energy. I really just don't. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.640 I'm not saying it. I just don't get it. Sorry, 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.760 G I just don't like to cook. I get it. 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:44.080 I just I just don't. You get three meals a day. 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.480 I could get probably eight meals a day. Eight meals 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.680 a day if that's what I was eating. Okay, I'm 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:53.320 sure he gets about five, at least five. That's what 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:57.600 I definitely don't eat that much. Eat three. You got three. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.920 You get your three meals, and your tooth smacks snap. 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:04.400 Many males, you know, it's funny. I never thought that 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:06.720 that was not something people would like to do. I 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.480 thought all Niggers like to take care of their family, 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.800 and all women like to nurture their family. I never 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:14.440 in my life thought I would meet human beings. You 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:20.080 are a lie. You are a lot. That's like, there's 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.120 a lot of women that don't even know how to cook, 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.280 but how they can't even I totally understand that because 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:30.359 they are not women yet. No, there's some grown as women. Know, 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:34.720 there are some grown ass females. The essence as a nurture. 0:02:34.800 --> 0:02:36.840 How the fund could you have kids and you don't 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:39.840 know how to prepare a meal? Oh I didn't say 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:42.280 they had kids, what do you? That's my point? Then 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.919 they're not even them as girls still because they don't 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:48.160 have kids. Know, I'm saying, they don't have a reason 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:50.120 to grow up, Like, how don't you want to nurture 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:53.200 other human beings as like your mother kids? But you're 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:55.400 earth like. But I'm still a protector, the provider. I 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.720 can never think to myself like, oh I don't like 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:00.600 to protect. Nobody said that. You just see it. You like, 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:03.000 I don't like to cook. I like to take care 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:07.160 of my family, like my kids. You don't want to 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:11.760 nurture that. I don't want to would how would do cook? 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.760 I just don't like soap? Okay, So if he's like 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:18.800 they go out to dinner, let's go, how to funk 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:23.799 are you dinner? So you want him to do that too? 0:03:24.400 --> 0:03:26.280 You want him to take care of the house and 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:30.079 fucking take you to dinner, out to dinner that makes 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:36.760 you more excited than cooking. Yeah, you are understand why 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.360 they are going thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:43.720 of mind whatever. They're going thousand thousands of mouth because 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:47.480 don't nobody wants to cook them. No, it's not because 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:52.680 don't nobody wants to cook them. That's why. That is why. 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:56.920 That's why. And they are ridiculous because they just making 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:01.920 black women look bad, like, oh and three meals a 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.880 day and they're making black women. You just literally said 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.800 you would prefer say that I don't do it. That's 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:14.000 not the ploy. That's not how don't you like it? 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:18.280 I don't like it. It's some meals that I do 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:20.800 like to cook. I like to don't know how you 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:24.440 don't like to listen. I do like to cook Mexican food, 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:28.039 but I don't like to cook if I just don't 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:30.920 like to cook it or not. Dang, food is there, 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:34.719 sucking the ship is there and all the time, and 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:42.719 it's breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, baby food, making baby food 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:47.279 from scratch right now, you feel me, Dang, I can't 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:51.560 express to you. I don't be telling my nigger like 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:57.800 I trust me because no, she just called him, and 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:01.440 so your food is ready, that ship ain't because no, 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.719 she did it with love. She got up this morning, 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:05.880 put the roast on and everything like she did it 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:09.080 with love. Give us a break. There are times, you 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:11.320 know what, I give y'all a break like these niggas 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:18.239 a break. Times when I'm likes I hate a gros 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:27.680 and these ory okay, like put in no category. She's 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:30.360 not like me. She liked to do all that type 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:33.440 of stuff. I don't even know why why you should 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:35.680 have been married way, but I could have been married. Girl. 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:37.800 I told you what happened to me. Girl. Can you 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:39.880 know the microphone is picking up you, slapping the table, 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:43.000 bouncing that lighter everything so people will be there? Like, 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.320 what the fun is going on? That is Red putting 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.680 her foot down about the fact that she's upset. Sorry, 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:58.440 but yeah, no, you know I'm a good woman. What 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:02.000 the fuck? Just because I don't like to cook, don't 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:04.000 mean I'm not good. Don't mean you're not gonna have 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.479 a meal. Don't mean you're not gonna have a meal. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:12.599 It just means I don't like having a good example. Right, 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:18.560 You don't like to work out, but you still work out. 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:23.560 I love to work out. Who loves Oh, it is 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:25.480 a lot of people that love to work out. Working 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.720 out its fucking excellent. Boy, you're just lazy if you 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.800 don't like it. If you don't like it, Okay, yeah, 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:36.159 I guess that's it. It's not fun. Of course it's fun. 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:43.120 It's not fun. It's not Why would working out be fun? 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.120 Is it fun to you? Let's keep it one hundred? 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:49.880 Is it fun? Listen? The only time I have results 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:53.159 is fun? No, no, the only time I have working 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:57.200 out when I did the boxing? How are the results? 0:06:57.200 --> 0:07:00.479 How are the results fun? Because there's out of fun 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:10.520 things that the results well, so attention see that's see. 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:12.120 This is my point. And this is what I was 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:16.840 saying about people seeing you because you worked out, and 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:21.000 I was supposed to be talking about my man like mega, please, 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:25.239 it's fun? What's fun? Like? Okay, say you work out 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.520 and then um, you know you're getting the results that 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:32.920 you want, and you're starting to feel a little more sexier, 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.080 more confident, and you know, you guys are having a 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:41.480 little bit more like um intimacy and it gets fun 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:45.120 because you're is that what you really think? Do you 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.480 really think that's how it worked? Well? I haven't really 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:52.200 worked out, so I was just asking her where she 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:53.880 got that. She tried to flip some bush. I mean, 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:57.600 I don't think I don't like working out. I don't 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:59.520 know what I like. I don't like working out. I 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:03.080 don't like cooking. I put it this way. When I 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.520 first started working out, I did not enjoy it, because 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:07.800 of course you're sore and all that achey and all 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:10.880 that crap. But um, once I got into a routine, 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:13.560 I did enjoy it. It was like, Okay, I have 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.480 to get up and do it. I felt good at 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:21.160 but when I was doing it, certain ones, but not 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:25.200 everything exactly. Yeah, not everything you like. I hate doing 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:29.080 the core and I hate that, but I do it. 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:36.120 I like boxing, you like it all, you like everything anything. 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:40.800 That's just what it is. So that's what intellectually you 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.480 think I would be like. That's just want to disagree 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:45.880 for what what would be the purpose of that? I 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:51.960 don't know. That's just ridiculous. I'm genuinely flabbergasted. What are 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:56.800 you flabbergast that you don't want to do like? I 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:59.600 didn't say I don't like. I didn't say I didn't 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:06.520 want Some dudes, listen, some dudes every man wants to 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.880 take care of their woman, even the ones who lie 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:11.720 like oh she lived here too, and want you to 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:15.920 pay rent bills. They want to, they just aren't able to. 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:17.920 So then what they do is they find a way 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:21.320 to pacify you know what I mean, their lack of 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:24.200 and whatever they feel is wrong, and say, okay, So 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.760 I'm then the man in this because this seems acceptable. 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:30.760 But I don't know a man breathing air that don't 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:34.360 want to take care of his old lady. And what 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:38.760 I'm saying, I mean, pay the mortgage right, pay the bills. 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:42.120 I don't know a man who doesn't want to do 0:09:42.200 --> 0:09:45.600 that or doesn't or doesn't like to. Now if they 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:49.440 can't afford to is different. That's where they start to 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:53.040 make excuses and reason. And we have problems. M Well, 0:09:55.760 --> 0:10:00.200 because I don't like to cook. I don't like to cook. 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:07.360 Let me. I like to make tacos. She said, tacos? 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:10.480 You do make good? Do I make good Mexican food? 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:18.040 Passive saying that tacos is fine? Look, no seilings, Jim 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:28.040 Red's happening. Look, I don't have much to say. What 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:29.760 you mean, you don't have much to say? I really 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:31.640 don't have much to say about it, because it's like, 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.240 at the end of the day, it's like, what can 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:36.959 I really say? Like and you know, like, I don't 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:41.120 know how you could consider yourself a good woman if 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:44.640 you don't like to cook. I didn't say that I 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:48.640 don't cook that woman. Okay, she she doesn't like to 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:52.360 cook or whatever, but she always makes sure that you're 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.520 fed and it's good food. It doesn't matter that she 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:57.000 didn't cook. What if she didn't know how to cook? 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:58.920 And why would you not learn how? Like how could 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:00.480 you walk to I was gonna say, if you didn't 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:02.120 know how to cut, you shouldn't learn how to click. 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:04.200 If you have to feed, that means you just didn't 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:08.520 fucking learn. There are so many opportunities to learn how. 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:14.320 And that's specifically not but get what you're saying. Look, 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:16.920 I was My mother had me in the kitchen that 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.280 like you or my grandma had me picking like green 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.480 beans and stuff when I was a kid, like learning 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.160 how to do stuff like that. And so I mean 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:28.480 some people they do teach you. How do y'all feel 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:31.920 about rent splitters? Dude that want to split the rent 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.640 with you? Honestly, I know y'all in a deep bond 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:37.360 because you like saying I don't like to cook or don't, 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:39.280 but don't answer from that because it would really be 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:42.520 tacky and everybody gonna smell that you lying. So I 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:45.080 need you to find a space to be honest, even 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.720 if you think it's going to sound weird. How do 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:51.160 you feel about that? Do you feel like you know 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.240 what I'm saying? Like you can marry a man who 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:58.120 you split the rent with yea for the rest of 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:02.680 your life. I mean, why not we in it together? 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:06.640 I don't. I don't know what do you respect about man? 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:10.480 I was like, okay, what I respect about man? Of 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.840 course a man I could take care of his family? 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.360 I mean, but really taking care of his family if 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:19.880 if y'all I believe so, he's able to provide something. 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:22.240 It's not like he's coming in there and not providing anything. 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.199 But wouldn't it be y'all taking care of the family 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:26.960 at that point? I mean, yeah, true, But that doesn't 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.720 mean that he's not providing anything. I'd be different if 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:34.160 he came he can't can't. Um, do you consider that 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.120 person a provider if they only provide what you're providing? Like, 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:40.240 wouldn't that make your providers will, Yeah, that would make 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:42.360 me a provider as well. But do you really I 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:46.559 wouldn't knock that. I wouldn't knocked that. I mean, okay, 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.640 I only live I only live with one guy. And 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:51.679 the guy that I lived with, he did take care 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.240 of the rent, but I took care of the bills 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.719 and then I, um, you know, I bought the groceries 0:12:56.760 --> 0:13:02.120 and stuff like that. But so but he wanted to 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:04.120 make sure that I want to finished school and stuff 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.959 like that. But I was thinking a little different. What 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:10.040 if he was like, yo, we lived together, you live 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:16.559 here too, so we should split ittift? Oh no, I'll 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:21.120 probably be like, dang, why I gotta pay rent? But me, 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:25.319 I don't know. I've never been that situation. I wouldn't 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.880 want I wouldn't want it, Like what do you Okay? 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:33.880 So if he had it, but yeah, no, like you 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:35.880 know where we we go, Dutch, I'm gonna cook you 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.280 gonna last show. I just told you I I would 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.000 want a man to take care of me like I 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:45.480 would would love it. But I'm not saying that that's 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.040 all I would need, like I would be okay. But 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:51.599 if if I had that, I'll be good too. I 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:55.640 don't know ship because that never really I just think 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.240 there's a problem like where we That's probably not true. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:01.840 Why do you think that what you respect about me 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.640 and is rooted? Like let's say if a dude was 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:08.160 giving you ship right and he couse was bullying like 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:10.720 he was on you, and then your nigga tried to 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.920 fight him, and then your nigga got mopped up and 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.160 he kept working with you, and your nigga was beat up, 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:20.080 knocked out? What you mean sucking with me? He just 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.840 like flirting with you or being a little inappropriate touching you, 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:25.840 and your nigga try to fade him, and then your 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:29.560 nigga get mopped up. Okay, that's different though, that's a 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.360 little bit different, is it? Like he tried, he stood 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:36.040 up to try to protect and he got knocked out, 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:38.560 damn like mocked up, and then nigga was on you. 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:44.880 I wouldn't even I wouldn't. I couldn't that dude, not 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.360 the guy, but not my dude. But I couldn't work 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:51.160 with that guy that was flirting with me. But probably 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:54.640 how do you feel about you? Let me shut up, 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.440 but how do you feel about your dude at that point? Dang? 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:00.720 I wouldn't. I gonna be honest with you all, probably Damn, damn, 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:04.760 you just funked up. That's like I remember that time 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.080 I went to it. I can't even say this on 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:09.440 this aird right now, Yes, you can't say it. I 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:13.320 went to this um this concert with this guy. I 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.600 didn't go with him, but we end up seeing each 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:19.440 other there. And I actually saw this nigga get like 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:22.400 picked up, like damn near picked up and moved to 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:26.120 the side, and I was like, oh, ship, you just 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:31.920 let it, just literally took him by dollar and moved. 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:34.440 This was somebody was dating. It was somebody that I 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:37.760 was there together and I was with you. I've seen 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:44.320 him there. What concert was it? You see? That's why 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.000 I didn't want to bring it up to you. See, 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:49.640 just you can say it. And we signed and I'm 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:53.040 gonna that. I was like, damn, I couldn't. I couldn't. 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.720 Did I see? I just literally watched. You didn't see it. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:16:01.280 I told you you was there. Oh damn good you 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.200 didn't see that because you have been clowning the whole time. 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.120 But you to ask your question, I don't I don't think. 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:10.400 I don't think I could listen. I mean, look, you 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.000 ain't gonna win every you know, every fight, you know, 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.600 but I understand. Let's say every time you'll get stood up, 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:21.720 that's what every time, every time you try to protect you, 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:25.600 you just get can protect me? So good enough? Still 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:27.000 is he's still like you're like, you know what, I'm 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:28.960 sticking with you because you have a penis that makes 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.240 you a man and you don't have to protect me 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:36.320 because he has a penis, right, so that can make 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:42.000 him protector? Like in what since do we look at 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:44.960 these gender roles and when do we actually say okay? 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:49.080 Is it only like uh, like we're saying this today 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:51.440 it's a new day. That that expression when you just 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:53.000 you list a new day, how much of a new 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:55.760 day is it? Is? It? Is it a new day enough? 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:59.320 Where um, you don't care if your man is a 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:06.840 protector for some women it is. I think everybody's lying 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.040 when they try to act like they want to evolve. 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:13.199 I think obviously women, right, they want to have as 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:16.920 little accountability as possible. I don't mean that negatively, just honestly, 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:19.200 it's just kind of how it is. But I still 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:24.119 think you want a man to be accountable completely. And 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:28.320 I'll just be thinking about that sometimes. Um so if you, 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:34.920 if you're a girl is cooking, you're getting all your meals, 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:41.880 but she doesn't necessarily like to cook. Are you gonna 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:47.600 feel something like I'd be pretty devastated. What if she 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:52.320 just didn't tell you? Well, then that's smart. Yeah. I 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:55.000 would just wouldn't tell him that, Like like I wasn't 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:56.359 tell him that, like I don't want to come. I 0:17:56.400 --> 0:18:00.159 just couldn't imagine I don't like him. I just but 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:02.840 I just couldn't imagine not liking to be I'm telling 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.119 y'all that I don't like to cook. My dude, probably 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:07.160 he don't know I don't like to cook. I'm sure 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:12.719 he knows. You know this show he's been new. You 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:16.080 could tell when somebody don't like to cook. But I 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:21.879 don't know. It's a joy if you've been if you 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:29.960 likes to cook, it's a joy about it. I agree 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:33.200 with that because I like when I cook, and that's 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:36.199 what I like about cooking. When I see everybody like, oh, 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:39.040 this is good, like you put, I'll be like, thank you, 0:18:39.359 --> 0:18:42.879 I did that, and I like that. I like that 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:45.880 you're happy and you fool I would think that that's 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:49.800 like the ship. But I don't know, man, I'll get confused. 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:53.800 Valentine's Day right and coming up, and I just think 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:57.840 to myself, just like, man, I don't know what's gonna 0:18:57.880 --> 0:19:00.680 happen to the future. What about they have to do? 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:04.119 What does that have to do. I'm probably gonna be 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.359 laid out. I don't know what be doing, if I 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:13.040 even be, you know, hopefully I'll be doing whatever. But um, 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:17.159 I just was thinking about it, and it's been on 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:20.200 my mind a lot. But the last podcast and different 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:24.760 podcasts and listen to people talking like and I just like, 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:29.440 I have no hope for the future, Like, no hope. 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:34.119 I'm not lying, I have no hopes. I feel like 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:37.000 we're going into a weird space where human beings are 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:41.480 becoming less human, they're becoming more like animals. That the animals, 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:44.359 the dogs are more protected than other human beings. You 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:48.200 have people that really don't like to exemplify, you know, 0:19:48.440 --> 0:19:50.920 what we on this earth for? Like, how do you 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:53.879 not like some of these things? That's just crazy to me. 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:57.520 I love it. Do you think that you're on this 0:19:57.720 --> 0:20:06.919 earth to have a baby? I think that was definitely 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:10.760 what my situation is unique, y'all? What is it unique? 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.320 You haven't had no kids, But it doesn't make you 0:20:14.560 --> 0:20:18.679 less than you don't want to have kids? Why? How 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:21.359 could you not be a man and not want to 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:24.640 have kids? How could you not want to leave? How 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:27.800 could you not want to leave your what? How I 0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:31.440 can't even have kids? Who said that I can't get pregnant? 0:20:32.520 --> 0:20:35.560 You know what? You know what? I can't have kids? 0:20:35.920 --> 0:20:41.280 You know what? I'm just saying. What's today? I'm done 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:45.200 with you? How could you be a man and not 0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:50.400 want to put your leave your seed? Because I meet 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:52.760 women now who don't want to cook, but you were 0:20:52.840 --> 0:20:57.879 put here. That's not too now? So how is it not? So? 0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:01.080 Why don't you have How could you be on this 0:21:01.280 --> 0:21:05.400 earth and not because for a long time I met 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:09.080 women who didn't like to cook. That's so damn So 0:21:09.280 --> 0:21:10.920 that made you not want to have a damn kid? 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:13.840 Who gonna feed my chip? No glasses? You used to 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:16.240 say that you wanted to have a kid, you want 0:21:16.280 --> 0:21:18.840 to walk him to school and all that. Yes, because 0:21:18.880 --> 0:21:21.520 I thought I was gonna meet a wife, right, women 0:21:21.800 --> 0:21:24.680 who liked to cook, but you and be nurturers. And 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:27.440 what I'm not I'm not meeting that. I'm meeting more 0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:31.040 women I'm not saying they are not exceeding at being 0:21:31.080 --> 0:21:33.639 a parent. I'm saying I'm meeting more women that I 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:37.560 care about selfish and personal things. So if you having 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:40.080 kids is probably the most selfish decision we make in 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:42.600 our life, right, and then it makes you the most 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:46.920 selfless motherfucker. Every reason people have a kid is selfish? 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:49.920 What makes me think I'm so great that I should 0:21:50.000 --> 0:21:52.560 leave myself on this earth that you got to be? 0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:54.840 I just want to leave a little bit of me left, bitch. 0:21:54.880 --> 0:21:57.320 You wasn't that special. But that's what we're here for. 0:21:58.160 --> 0:22:03.159 We're here to pass information. So when when you have 0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:06.440 a kid, right, your sales pass information to a child. 0:22:06.960 --> 0:22:11.840 I'm passing y'all information and the world information. Excuse me, 0:22:11.920 --> 0:22:20.399 When you get married, you our intimate it's to have children? Right? No, 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:23.840 what do you mean? No, it's not. That's not what 0:22:23.960 --> 0:22:27.240 I'm doing it for. Is that what it's supposed to 0:22:27.320 --> 0:22:32.160 be generals for? That? That's so what are you doing? 0:22:33.240 --> 0:22:36.560 I'm not Where is the little g? Where is the 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:40.960 little g? You saw many little Jesus? No, no, no, Jack, 0:22:41.840 --> 0:22:47.200 where is the where you don't see these niggas? Jack? 0:22:47.280 --> 0:22:49.399 In my style? Now you're not knowing what you're supposed 0:22:49.400 --> 0:22:51.800 to do. I'm disappointed in you. But the difference is, 0:22:51.880 --> 0:22:55.159 I'm not saying I like it too. You said I 0:22:55.200 --> 0:22:57.159 don't want to have it. I'm telling you, how do you? 0:22:57.560 --> 0:23:01.359 How do you like these? You have a wild when women? 0:23:01.520 --> 0:23:04.520 How are you in a relationship and you don't have 0:23:04.720 --> 0:23:09.240 no kids and you're having you know, technically your woman 0:23:09.359 --> 0:23:13.080 becomes your child. Listen here, you gotta get excited when 0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:16.879 you take them to dinner like kids. They want to 0:23:16.960 --> 0:23:19.920 tanch you like kids. You gotta watch them like kids. 0:23:20.200 --> 0:23:22.359 When you really get your kid, you get it. But 0:23:22.440 --> 0:23:24.600 it really is, where is the little g and the 0:23:24.680 --> 0:23:31.160 little get man to some of these niggas wrapped? I'm 0:23:31.200 --> 0:23:33.800 doing a fantastic job of passing information. But the difference 0:23:33.960 --> 0:23:38.359 is it's not because you're It's not about not wanting to. 0:23:38.520 --> 0:23:42.000 It's a not desire to. Of course, when I was 0:23:42.200 --> 0:23:45.280 when I was twenty No, no, no, you don't that 0:23:45.480 --> 0:23:49.120 it's not. But it's not a question of desire. It's 0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:51.399 not a question of desire. Is it doesn't make sense 0:23:51.760 --> 0:23:54.159 for you to have a kid, but you're supposed to. 0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:58.520 Why That's why you bust a nut right is to 0:23:58.640 --> 0:24:01.040 have a kid. Sure, so then that person didn't get pregnant. 0:24:01.720 --> 0:24:10.439 Mm hmm, it's not my fault. I can't get pregnant 0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:15.359 when I was, when I was, when I all the 0:24:15.400 --> 0:24:19.119 way until I was twenty three, I just knew that 0:24:19.200 --> 0:24:23.240 I was gonna be married with children at really it 0:24:23.320 --> 0:24:25.520 was supposed to be. That was my only dream. My 0:24:25.600 --> 0:24:28.720 only dream was to be a pharmacist. Go to Zuosa 0:24:28.800 --> 0:24:31.960 Pacific and a degree in pharmacy, work at a pharmacy, 0:24:32.040 --> 0:24:35.720 open my own pharmacy, have a house in Lakewood Race car, 0:24:36.440 --> 0:24:40.640 a wife, a couple of kids. That was my dream. Sick, 0:24:41.600 --> 0:24:46.399 that's how compact and small and reasons I had a 0:24:46.440 --> 0:24:51.200 house in Lakewood. But the point I'm saying to you 0:24:51.480 --> 0:24:56.520 is when you start meeting the opposite sex, that's where 0:24:56.560 --> 0:24:59.359 you started being like, your how realistic is this going 0:24:59.440 --> 0:25:04.800 to be? How do you well when you meet that? 0:25:05.240 --> 0:25:08.320 When you meet the one and you guys, tie the knot. 0:25:08.720 --> 0:25:12.840 Now it's time to have a kid, because that's what 0:25:13.280 --> 0:25:15.639 you're supposed to Everybody having kids without trying to not 0:25:15.840 --> 0:25:17.520 when you gotta go that far, and it's a whole 0:25:17.560 --> 0:25:19.960 bunch of women that don't know how to cook and 0:25:20.080 --> 0:25:22.000 I feel that. That's my point. That's why they ain't 0:25:22.040 --> 0:25:27.159 got no business getting bregnant. It's not just about not 0:25:27.280 --> 0:25:29.480 knowing how like I get it if you just don't know, 0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:33.160 But how don't you want to learn? Every Man should 0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:36.119 learn how to change all your agree with. Every Man 0:25:36.160 --> 0:25:39.359 should know how to change the type. Every man should 0:25:39.440 --> 0:25:41.960 know how to change the light book, and they should 0:25:42.040 --> 0:25:46.919 love it. It's the reason why you exist. Every Man 0:25:47.000 --> 0:25:49.159 should take up some level of fisticuffs to know how 0:25:49.200 --> 0:25:53.000 to defend your your family. Every man should, especially in America, 0:25:53.080 --> 0:25:55.240 you own a pistol if you legally can, and know 0:25:55.320 --> 0:25:57.240 how to shoot it, just in case that day comes 0:25:57.280 --> 0:25:59.320 when you have to defend your family. These are part 0:25:59.440 --> 0:26:04.560 of what make a man a man. Yeah, every man, 0:26:05.720 --> 0:26:08.560 I don't get how you don't like to. You know 0:26:08.640 --> 0:26:11.000 what's funny? I like to fight. Now. That don't mean 0:26:11.040 --> 0:26:15.200 I walk around starting fights. I enjoy it. It worked 0:26:15.200 --> 0:26:18.040 out for me, and I know some guys who don't, 0:26:18.880 --> 0:26:22.040 but that's because they don't understand. So you got a 0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:23.719 couple of different kind of fighters. You've got guys who 0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:26.240 can fight that blackout. They want to stomp your head 0:26:26.320 --> 0:26:28.719 in the ground and acting donkey, and they don't even 0:26:28.720 --> 0:26:31.359 have control themselves. Like you win in the fight that 0:26:31.400 --> 0:26:34.159 they're on the ground, don't not finish, stomp your head. 0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:37.800 I already won. Whatever I couldn't explain through verbals, I 0:26:37.880 --> 0:26:41.280 explained through these fits. So you got people don't like 0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:42.960 to fight because they don't know how or they're not 0:26:43.119 --> 0:26:46.560 control their selves. But a standard fistic cover match is 0:26:46.600 --> 0:26:50.280 not really a big deal. It's it's conversations outside of 0:26:50.440 --> 0:26:52.879 verbal sometimes it becomes physical. I need to explain this 0:26:52.960 --> 0:26:55.520 to you, nigger, and the words are not working for me. 0:26:56.920 --> 0:27:00.359 Understanding the words that are coming out they know and 0:27:00.400 --> 0:27:02.840 then so understand the words that's coming out of my fist. 0:27:04.480 --> 0:27:09.040 So I truly enjoy being a man. I don't. There's 0:27:09.119 --> 0:27:14.800 nothing about being a man I don't enjoy. Now I'm 0:27:14.800 --> 0:27:16.960 not saying there's nothing wrong with the parts of that 0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:20.080 you don't enjoy. Yeah, I'm not. You don't want to 0:27:20.080 --> 0:27:22.640 have kids, that's not part of being a man. Why 0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:26.120 it's just not being a father. Well, that's being a father. 0:27:26.160 --> 0:27:28.160 I'm not a father. That don't mean I'm not a man. 0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:34.960 But in order for you to be here, mean to 0:27:35.040 --> 0:27:36.800 be here, we had to have a father so it 0:27:36.960 --> 0:27:42.520 is a part fantastic. That's really a woman, right, so 0:27:42.720 --> 0:27:44.760 he not really a man? No? No, no, no, no. 0:27:45.080 --> 0:27:47.280 First off, I can't have a baby. No, but you 0:27:47.480 --> 0:27:51.240 said that a woman. I'm saying, you're saying that for 0:27:51.240 --> 0:27:53.840 a woman can't cook? And I said, I said that, 0:27:53.920 --> 0:27:56.080 how do they feed their kids? I said, what they 0:27:56.160 --> 0:27:58.040 haven't had You said, what they haven't had kids yet? 0:27:58.200 --> 0:27:59.560 I said, well, then they don't have a reason to 0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:05.600 become a woman. Mm hmmm, because they are. So you 0:28:05.640 --> 0:28:07.840 can play around like you could, which I don't know 0:28:07.880 --> 0:28:10.639 why you're not preparing. You know, maybe you you know, 0:28:10.720 --> 0:28:12.640 you hear people like I'm having fun, It's like, well, 0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:16.000 you're just being a hoar? What is having fun outside 0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:19.119 of being a hor for women? Wow? It sounds a 0:28:19.160 --> 0:28:20.879 little harsh, but I mean, if you're not in Nigga's 0:28:20.920 --> 0:28:22.879 face and getting drinks at the clubs and parties and 0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:25.560 meeting different guys, what are you really doing? What's fun 0:28:25.640 --> 0:28:27.359 about being a woman? At that point it just becomes 0:28:27.400 --> 0:28:29.800 regular human being. Ship Like, if you ain't going to 0:28:29.880 --> 0:28:32.800 the parties getting free ja, what are you doing? What 0:28:32.880 --> 0:28:35.760 do you mean what's fun for a woman? When people 0:28:35.840 --> 0:28:37.879 say like you don't need to get so serious. You 0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:39.560 need to go out and have fun. What does that 0:28:39.680 --> 0:28:45.520 mean not have any responsibilities? In which world does that 0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:49.080 seem like fun? To avoid responsibility? Look how we even 0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:53.920 raise people? Well, I'm saying responsible for someone else, But 0:28:54.120 --> 0:28:56.960 that's the point of it. Like literally, and you're not married, 0:28:57.120 --> 0:29:00.680 and you don't have the husband or the detector, the 0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:04.800 whole family. Just keep meeting guys. And you know what 0:29:04.800 --> 0:29:08.160 I'm saying. That's like I'm not telling my daughter in general. 0:29:08.440 --> 0:29:11.640 It's like my daughter she's in college right now. No, 0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:14.000 you don't have need to have children. You need to 0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:16.320 focus on that, you know what I say. I'm not 0:29:16.400 --> 0:29:18.720 telling her go out and party, but no, you don't 0:29:19.040 --> 0:29:21.040 need to have children right now. Like you got other 0:29:21.120 --> 0:29:23.680 things that you need to worry about. You can't even 0:29:23.920 --> 0:29:28.880 take your of yourself children, not right now? Why so, 0:29:29.160 --> 0:29:32.479 because she she's barely taking care of herself having another 0:29:33.000 --> 0:29:39.680 child in this we're not in in um, you know, 0:29:40.880 --> 0:29:43.880 but what do they call it? Ancient times? Where like 0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:50.040 it was different, you know, where women couldn't work, or 0:29:50.160 --> 0:29:55.880 women couldn't go to school, or women couldn't be educated, 0:29:56.360 --> 0:29:59.240 or you know, they just wanted to have them. You know, 0:29:59.440 --> 0:30:03.440 they were just have children in yeah to taking care. 0:30:04.280 --> 0:30:08.840 So we are in and I'm not telling my daughter 0:30:09.000 --> 0:30:14.160 who's nineteen, yes, go and have a child. No, I 0:30:14.280 --> 0:30:18.160 would want her to meet her husband and so have 0:30:18.320 --> 0:30:20.440 a child. So what if she got married next year 0:30:20.480 --> 0:30:23.280 in college? I mean, if she got married next year 0:30:23.280 --> 0:30:26.200 in college, then she gets married next year, I want 0:30:26.200 --> 0:30:37.680 a kid. Okay, that's I felt that too, because because 0:30:37.680 --> 0:30:39.720 you're trying to hold your points so cold, but you 0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:44.040 just realize it was soonestly, I listen, it's not time 0:30:44.160 --> 0:30:47.880 for her to have children. What's the time? Not now? 0:30:48.400 --> 0:30:52.920 What is the time? A different time than definitely not 0:30:53.360 --> 0:30:58.720 give me a time. Because when you're saying, why can't 0:30:58.720 --> 0:31:03.480 I wait till I'm tifty, wait till you fifty? Who you? Yeah? 0:31:03.680 --> 0:31:06.800 What's wrong with that? Because because is at the time, 0:31:07.240 --> 0:31:13.520 because you everything, everybody's your situation is already I'm still 0:31:13.600 --> 0:31:16.680 literally doing what your daughter is doing. I'm literally running 0:31:16.680 --> 0:31:21.160 a business. Hold up, because because you understand his mom, 0:31:21.240 --> 0:31:22.720 and this is what you don't want for your daughter, 0:31:22.760 --> 0:31:26.000 because she's learning, you know, she's trying to figure out 0:31:26.080 --> 0:31:28.120 life and stuff. Right, that's what you're saying. Right, you 0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:30.640 said you don't want her to have that because blah 0:31:30.680 --> 0:31:33.040 blah blah. So what about glasses malone, who was trying 0:31:33.080 --> 0:31:35.520 to let me, let me make my point to Rodge 0:31:35.560 --> 0:31:38.360 and enterprise business. I'm trying to get no selings off 0:31:38.400 --> 0:31:41.080 the ground. I got all this work I gotta do. 0:31:41.120 --> 0:31:43.000 I gotta put my whole cow. I got so much 0:31:43.000 --> 0:31:45.840 stuff to do. Like your daughter, I don't have time 0:31:45.920 --> 0:31:48.520 for a child. But how could you be a man 0:31:48.760 --> 0:31:51.720 and not want to have a family. That of course 0:31:51.760 --> 0:31:54.040 I want a family. I've always wanted a family. That 0:31:54.120 --> 0:31:57.560 don't mean that it's time you said you're You're not. 0:31:58.000 --> 0:32:00.200 You don't it's not. It wasn't about this high year. 0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:03.800 What I told you. What happened was I kept meeting women, 0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:07.680 but were talking about now. So now put my business 0:32:07.720 --> 0:32:12.920 like your daughters and treatment. You see the different No difference, 0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:16.960 It is a difference. No, it's a differently because you 0:32:17.520 --> 0:32:22.120 were like, no, that I'm not having kids. I literally 0:32:22.160 --> 0:32:25.320 said that after meeting women who didn't really want to 0:32:25.400 --> 0:32:27.880 be a family. But that's it's done. You have a 0:32:28.360 --> 0:32:31.200 this way deeper than that. I meet women who don't 0:32:31.280 --> 0:32:33.560 want to be a family. So he's just saying in general, 0:32:33.680 --> 0:32:36.720 like it, just you don't like you like they don't. 0:32:37.080 --> 0:32:41.960 I don't like. Think about women. Think about that little 0:32:42.000 --> 0:32:43.800 piece of me and me that died when you said 0:32:43.840 --> 0:32:46.440 you don't like something. He probably here the like in 0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:48.840 the room. Think about that little piece of me that 0:32:48.960 --> 0:32:50.360 just died when you said you don't like cooking. A 0:32:50.440 --> 0:32:55.600 little piece of me died, like when this man said 0:32:55.680 --> 0:33:01.160 he had to fly three thousand miles, not even three thousands, 0:33:01.240 --> 0:33:05.440 three thousand bad. Listen, listen. Just because I don't like 0:33:05.600 --> 0:33:07.920 to cook, don't mean that my man is not fed exactly. 0:33:08.040 --> 0:33:12.160 It's definitely fed. He is. Yeah, I don't know how 0:33:12.200 --> 0:33:16.440 you could not another thing though, I ain't talking. I'm 0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:20.160 just saying some people, which is sad. I get it 0:33:20.280 --> 0:33:22.240 about to say some people have sex they don't like 0:33:22.320 --> 0:33:25.360 to have sex. But that's not You only supposed to 0:33:25.360 --> 0:33:27.640 have sex for one reason. We just missus everything. We 0:33:28.280 --> 0:33:30.800 have sex for white. Yeah, for one thing. What is 0:33:30.880 --> 0:33:33.800 that to have children? And why you don't have no children? 0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:36.000 Because I'm miss used it like everybody else. The difference 0:33:36.120 --> 0:33:39.160 is I don't like to I frown it myself for 0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:41.120 getting pussy the way I've been in pussy my life. 0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.040 I frowned him. Might be like, you ain't had no kids, 0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:45.680 you to suck all these holes? Man, what are you 0:33:45.800 --> 0:33:48.160 doing with your life? Or you have met some pretty 0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:51.880 decent women? And then I always be like man, and 0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:54.480 she said she ain't gonna cook man, and like they're 0:33:54.520 --> 0:33:57.520 not proud of it, and it's like they don't really 0:33:57.640 --> 0:34:01.600 desire to be that type of thing. If you want, 0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:04.960 and I'm not saying women are just cooking, right, women 0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:08.200 can provide companionship a thousand other things. But then are 0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:14.840 you really good at these things? Yes, excellent? Don't be 0:34:14.960 --> 0:34:21.480 doing don't don't don't. I didn't even say anything, you know, 0:34:22.520 --> 0:34:29.960 I didn't say ship. What the fuck? I didn't do nothing. Listen, 0:34:31.440 --> 0:34:35.440 y'all need to stop. I didn't do nothing. Damn might 0:34:35.560 --> 0:34:37.839 even say nothing y'all all my as my name said 0:34:37.880 --> 0:34:40.920 ship because you always over here talking about what we 0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:47.640 ain't got going on the same way, why you don't 0:34:47.680 --> 0:34:51.160 have no kids? And where's like I said, I've been 0:34:51.160 --> 0:34:54.239 a part of raising other people's children. I'm doing my part, 0:34:55.400 --> 0:34:58.719 and I enjoyed it. I didn't like. I didn't like 0:34:58.880 --> 0:35:01.080 it if I had get kids up from squatting back. 0:35:01.120 --> 0:35:03.440 I don't like picking kids up from school. I just 0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:06.680 never felt that way. It's not like I don't like 0:35:06.880 --> 0:35:10.239 the idea of being a parent. I don't like the 0:35:10.360 --> 0:35:12.759 idea of co parenting with somebody who doesn't want to 0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:17.160 truly like being a parent. If you don't like, like, 0:35:17.520 --> 0:35:19.319 if you don't like let's say, if a woman didn't 0:35:19.360 --> 0:35:25.600 like cooking or cleaning, it's like that's like devastating. It's 0:35:25.680 --> 0:35:28.560 like we have to be a parent unit together, and 0:35:28.800 --> 0:35:30.520 it all means you're not gonna be a parent unit. 0:35:30.560 --> 0:35:32.359 It's just they don't like to do it, but they're 0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:35.600 gonna do it. But they don't like. You know, people 0:35:35.600 --> 0:35:37.320 don't like to go to school, but they go to school. 0:35:38.760 --> 0:35:40.880 How don't you like to learn? There's a lot of 0:35:40.920 --> 0:35:43.120 people that don't like to learn. I can't really that's 0:35:43.160 --> 0:35:48.120 again like that said, that's a malfunction. There's gonna but 0:35:48.239 --> 0:35:52.240 there's a people I mean, yeah, not grown ups, not adults, 0:35:52.360 --> 0:35:56.000 not you know, they definitely you're they like learning. That's 0:35:56.000 --> 0:35:58.480 why they're going to school, you know, But that's not true. 0:35:59.360 --> 0:36:02.000 They may not like. They just going because they need to. 0:36:03.040 --> 0:36:06.799 It's a reason like they gotta get, you know, might 0:36:06.880 --> 0:36:11.040 be something, Yeah, you want to go sit in a 0:36:11.120 --> 0:36:16.440 class where whatever. A lot of people. I like it. 0:36:16.960 --> 0:36:21.960 I love I like certain courses. Listen. I'm not look, 0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:25.560 this comes across a little he man, but it's really not. 0:36:25.800 --> 0:36:29.480 It's just like I enjoyed being a man, and that's good. 0:36:29.520 --> 0:36:34.279 I'm happy that you do enjoy that. Are being a man, 0:36:35.080 --> 0:36:37.640 being a father I said. I didn't say I enjoy 0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:40.799 being a father. Being a man A part of being 0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:43.440 a father, a part of being a man. It's not 0:36:43.880 --> 0:36:45.480 like being a being a woman. Don't have to be 0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:49.480 being a mother. But nurturing is a natural thing, like 0:36:49.640 --> 0:36:51.320 protecting is a natural thing. I don't have to just 0:36:51.400 --> 0:36:54.920 protect my kid, right, I protect other people? Can I 0:36:54.960 --> 0:36:59.319 show other people kids how to fight? M So I'm 0:36:59.440 --> 0:37:04.400 literally a protector and provider for earth, not just personal. 0:37:04.480 --> 0:37:06.080 Like if a little kid was walking down the street, 0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:08.400 and you know, if the one who was walking down 0:37:08.440 --> 0:37:10.239 street and the nigger for the kicker ass almost hey 0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:14.640 bro chill, I mean, like, relax now, if it's his woman, 0:37:14.760 --> 0:37:17.400 I'm back up. But if like let's say it's a 0:37:17.440 --> 0:37:20.000 stranger man messing with this woman, messing with a woman 0:37:20.080 --> 0:37:23.120 he just owner and he hey bro, relax, if it's 0:37:23.160 --> 0:37:25.960 a kid at the park shooting jump shots and he 0:37:26.040 --> 0:37:28.279 don't got a good form. Amen, tuck you elbo. I'm 0:37:28.280 --> 0:37:31.759 gonna show him. I think that I like it, though, 0:37:32.880 --> 0:37:35.520 I think that I would probably like to cook more 0:37:36.360 --> 0:37:41.160 if I was just a homemaker. That don't even make sense. 0:37:42.239 --> 0:37:44.320 I think I would enjoy it more. But because I 0:37:44.440 --> 0:37:50.279 have so many different things going on, it's just sometimes 0:37:50.360 --> 0:37:55.360 just like, man, I don't want to cook this. I 0:37:55.440 --> 0:37:58.960 cook it, but I just I don't want to change that. 0:37:59.360 --> 0:38:01.760 You have to get you more excited about being a nurturer. 0:38:02.239 --> 0:38:07.759 It's an awesome thing, awesome dog, It's so awesome. It's 0:38:07.800 --> 0:38:12.440 one of the most attractive traits for women. I mean, 0:38:12.520 --> 0:38:16.120 they enjoy that. Look, I get it. Um. I meet 0:38:16.160 --> 0:38:17.840 some women that I never I met women in my 0:38:17.920 --> 0:38:21.239 life I should have never opened the door for they 0:38:21.440 --> 0:38:23.319 was like the worst type of women. If I opened 0:38:23.320 --> 0:38:26.480 the door for this motherfucker, I'm tripping. But I opened 0:38:26.520 --> 0:38:28.759 the door because I enjoyed being a man. It's not 0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:33.200 necessarily representation of my responsibility or how many crappy women 0:38:33.280 --> 0:38:35.759 I meet. Like if I made a crappy woman in 0:38:35.800 --> 0:38:37.760 the past, that don't mean y'all deserve to be crappy. 0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:42.040 So my circumstances don't change the man that I am. Right. 0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:46.360 So that's like I know that I enjoyed. No, no, no, no, 0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:52.360 I enjoy it. That's the cornerstone of everything. You know. 0:38:52.600 --> 0:38:55.000 And I'm not saying you know it's wrong that you 0:38:55.080 --> 0:38:56.880 don't like to. I think that's just where we had 0:38:56.920 --> 0:39:00.239 in time, A little piece of you died. It was 0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:09.160 like little pieces gown. So what's your plans for Valentine's Day? 0:39:09.719 --> 0:39:11.640 I don't have any plans right now. You don't have 0:39:11.680 --> 0:39:14.120 a Valentine's Day. I don't know what I'm gonna do 0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:18.680 for Valentine's Day. Valentine's probably not what you mean. You 0:39:18.719 --> 0:39:24.120 don't have a Valentine. I don't know what what she got? 0:39:24.200 --> 0:39:32.279 Some ship? Damn, we gotta talk. I don't know what 0:39:32.360 --> 0:39:35.719 I'm gonna do. Probably, what's your plans for Valentine? What's yours? 0:39:37.200 --> 0:39:40.200 You're gonna cook something? I mean, you probably want to 0:39:40.200 --> 0:39:43.800 go out. I need to be off today, even the 0:39:43.880 --> 0:39:45.920 day of all loves like, I need to be off today. 0:39:46.360 --> 0:39:48.880 I think we might be going to see Mike Epps. 0:39:49.320 --> 0:39:51.880 I think we might go to Vegas. You know, I 0:39:51.920 --> 0:39:58.279 probably won't cook one actual Valentine's Day. I'll be home 0:39:58.520 --> 0:40:01.360 and I am gonna cook what kind of meal is 0:40:01.400 --> 0:40:05.960 a Valentine's Day meal? So it's gonna be whatever like 0:40:06.080 --> 0:40:10.120 his favorite. So he likes steak lamb. Probably do like 0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:15.440 his favorite type of steak. He likes lamb better, so um, 0:40:15.920 --> 0:40:21.000 I probably do like a Hebrew rab. He just started 0:40:21.040 --> 0:40:22.879 eating lamb when he got with me because we don't 0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:25.000 eat pork like I didn't grow up, even pork chops. 0:40:25.040 --> 0:40:27.319 We always eat lamb chops or Lamb shanks or stuff 0:40:27.320 --> 0:40:31.680 like that. So now he every Sunday it's like we 0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:34.040 always have like lamb. So if I was to do 0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:38.399 a steak like today, I made a ribby roast. Um. 0:40:39.200 --> 0:40:42.000 So yeah, I probably do like one of his favorite meals, 0:40:42.320 --> 0:40:45.800 which is gonna be lamb, And I probably do like 0:40:45.920 --> 0:40:49.520 a rack a lamb or Lamb shanks, and then probably 0:40:49.600 --> 0:40:57.680 like some um jasmine rice and maybe like some grill 0:40:57.840 --> 0:41:04.520 vegetables or something like that. On getting I don't know. 0:41:04.760 --> 0:41:10.320 You know, honestly, I never felt like me is supposed to. 0:41:13.480 --> 0:41:19.279 I'm wrong, but I agree. I never felt that my 0:41:19.520 --> 0:41:26.719 ex I was annoyed because he really felt like, yeah, 0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:30.920 like he expected remember that he expected a Valentine's and 0:41:31.000 --> 0:41:33.719 that was the first. We're all wrong, but I mean 0:41:33.840 --> 0:41:38.320 me and you are wrong, but I do agree slipping 0:41:38.800 --> 0:41:41.880 like because I think I've always started Valentine's Day as 0:41:41.920 --> 0:41:44.600 a woman's day. I think it is too I think so, 0:41:44.840 --> 0:41:50.440 But I like my He was really like, I'm like, 0:41:50.880 --> 0:41:54.239 because what did I get him? Oh? I got him 0:41:54.280 --> 0:42:02.560 some um some floor mats. His new car he got 0:42:02.719 --> 0:42:04.880 he had a new car. I've been decided about that. 0:42:05.640 --> 0:42:08.319 But but but I'm a gift of purpose type of person. 0:42:10.800 --> 0:42:15.640 I'm a man's man. Gifts that like screwdrivers, right, I 0:42:15.719 --> 0:42:21.000 get you got me like that? That's why he's in 0:42:21.160 --> 0:42:26.879 ex man now. He would love anythough thing for the car. 0:42:27.560 --> 0:42:31.400 It's like for me, I would do something. I don't know. 0:42:31.520 --> 0:42:34.919 I just put together like special gifts. I don't really 0:42:35.080 --> 0:42:40.560 you feel like you're supposed to get laid on Valentine's Day? Yeah, yeah, 0:42:42.280 --> 0:42:44.600 you're supposed to get laid, or you're supposed to get laid, 0:42:44.640 --> 0:42:47.120 or you're supposed to do the lane like you're supposed to. Like, hey, 0:42:47.320 --> 0:42:50.880 we could do Is that a gift? I love that? 0:42:51.080 --> 0:42:53.040 Are you giving him? Are you? Are you wrapping up 0:42:53.080 --> 0:42:57.399 and giving it like, oh that ship like one time 0:42:58.520 --> 0:43:02.640 and he's and ship crotchless panties. Yeah, I didn't understand 0:43:02.680 --> 0:43:05.560 that the girl walked into crosses panty. I would cry, 0:43:05.680 --> 0:43:09.359 like why no he he say, he say, you've never 0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:14.400 seen I'm not why, But I agree because I just 0:43:14.480 --> 0:43:18.160 didn't say. I didn't understand what was the purpose of 0:43:18.239 --> 0:43:20.680 the pantis. But it's supposed to be I guess probably 0:43:20.719 --> 0:43:24.360 looks sexy. It's like a whole little thing. It literally 0:43:24.680 --> 0:43:29.680 just what is it there for? The one thing? So 0:43:29.840 --> 0:43:32.560 what is it like? It literally this is all open, 0:43:32.680 --> 0:43:36.440 like it literally just covers the back of your like 0:43:36.760 --> 0:43:40.320 but in you're like your your giant. Everything's open, like 0:43:40.360 --> 0:43:43.120 there's nothing there in the middle. I had to be weird. 0:43:43.560 --> 0:43:46.480 It was weird. So it's probably like to have like 0:43:46.600 --> 0:43:50.640 the brawn a whole little like sexy thing. That's probably 0:43:50.680 --> 0:43:54.120 why it's like that. I think I heard, you know, 0:43:54.280 --> 0:44:00.239 maybe like some edible panties. Edible panties is fine like that. No, 0:44:01.680 --> 0:44:11.040 it's I'm not into that though. That's not I'm not 0:44:11.080 --> 0:44:14.319 because I'm not into I'm not a super romantic person 0:44:15.480 --> 0:44:18.719 I believe in like I'm not I'm not like a 0:44:19.920 --> 0:44:24.279 that kind of person, like I'm more of a Yeah, 0:44:24.280 --> 0:44:26.359 I'm not like that. I'm saying he didn't really care, 0:44:26.440 --> 0:44:29.080 Like if you were, I don't even like lines read 0:44:29.960 --> 0:44:32.239 you're not romantic though, No, I don't think so. I 0:44:32.320 --> 0:44:35.000 think I'm more like I don't know the quite word, 0:44:35.040 --> 0:44:39.839 you know what I mean, Like, um, romance just has 0:44:40.040 --> 0:44:44.000 to a touch of corniness to me. That but you're thoughtful. Yeah, 0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:47.560 so like that's when that's romantic. Well, I can't find 0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:50.520 I think people can find romance in who I am. 0:44:50.719 --> 0:44:53.560 But I'm not like rose petals leading up to the 0:44:53.600 --> 0:44:56.520 world parts like okay, but you're are you more so 0:44:56.719 --> 0:44:59.600 like you see something that made me think of you 0:44:59.719 --> 0:45:04.440 type that's romantic and that's romantic. That is really romantic. 0:45:05.360 --> 0:45:08.439 I'm saying based off the traditional sense of what people 0:45:08.680 --> 0:45:13.000 use and all that. So you a woman, we definitely 0:45:13.320 --> 0:45:17.080 we wouldn't see like a video where she's like, oh 0:45:17.200 --> 0:45:20.200 my god, thank you gee because there's rose petals and 0:45:20.320 --> 0:45:24.440 like all this that's flowers. Yeah okay, but I'm not 0:45:24.600 --> 0:45:33.239 like rose petals made me. Uh that's just Tuesday. I 0:45:33.360 --> 0:45:36.520 get you, that's just Tuesday, you know, And I'm not 0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:39.200 My hands are really strong and funked up, so like 0:45:39.320 --> 0:45:42.759 I'm stupid heavy and so mamassages ain't really great like 0:45:42.920 --> 0:45:46.960 you really, I do not know that they are not 0:45:47.080 --> 0:45:49.799 good at giving the massage. I'm not If you ask 0:45:49.840 --> 0:45:54.160 me for a massage, that's that's that's that's my I 0:45:54.520 --> 0:45:58.200 like dang like he's the same way. But I think 0:45:58.880 --> 0:46:02.960 you guys are like manly men and there's not I 0:46:03.239 --> 0:46:09.359 love manly men. It's just I love it, but it's 0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:12.080 not a lot of manly man and it sucks because 0:46:12.080 --> 0:46:13.960 I guess I'm not sound like the cook. I'm not 0:46:14.040 --> 0:46:19.440 like a womanly woman. But they you know, but I 0:46:19.560 --> 0:46:29.920 do it fine? That would be so dope. Desired. Got 0:46:30.000 --> 0:46:32.920 to find a certain space to where you desire to 0:46:33.120 --> 0:46:38.160 excel in the simple roles in life. Like if you 0:46:38.239 --> 0:46:40.600 don't enjoy that, and then it's never going to be 0:46:40.719 --> 0:46:42.680 done with the joy and care should be done with. 0:46:42.960 --> 0:46:45.440 You're missing out on what makes it great. You're missing 0:46:45.480 --> 0:46:48.719 out on everything that's awesome about it. That the nourishment 0:46:48.800 --> 0:46:52.239 of a man, how a dude feels and how he looks. 0:46:52.280 --> 0:46:55.520 I love that, though, how could you not like that? Like, 0:46:55.680 --> 0:46:59.239 I'm not like, like, even if you didn't like the 0:46:59.360 --> 0:47:02.400 concept of standing up, which I don't. That's just so 0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:07.600 unny humanly, but or turning your arms to stir or 0:47:08.320 --> 0:47:10.759 you know, watching I don't get quite what it is 0:47:10.920 --> 0:47:13.680 because I don't know what I'm saying. But I'm saying 0:47:15.360 --> 0:47:19.680 the desire of it all should That's just I'm always 0:47:19.880 --> 0:47:24.640 I'm always looking for time. So I think for me, like, 0:47:24.920 --> 0:47:28.480 there are meals besides taco. That was just being funny, 0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:32.120 but there are. I'm just saying there are meals I 0:47:32.320 --> 0:47:35.400 do like to cook. But I think because I'm just 0:47:35.560 --> 0:47:42.400 always looking for time, it's like I don't like to 0:47:42.640 --> 0:47:45.439 cook because I would think you don't like to work. 0:47:46.440 --> 0:47:50.279 I know, I don't see now that's different. So but 0:47:50.320 --> 0:47:51.759 that's what I'm saying. But she just said you don't 0:47:51.800 --> 0:47:57.320 like to work or cook. That's think about it. You've 0:47:57.320 --> 0:48:02.280 to count that, you'ven count that they were both didn't 0:48:02.360 --> 0:48:04.640 trip off that well. But I said, you said you 0:48:04.640 --> 0:48:07.399 would be You wouldn't mind being a homemaker, right if 0:48:07.960 --> 0:48:12.440 if you weren't, Yeah, I would mind you like you know, 0:48:12.640 --> 0:48:15.399 she says, she you would like it, right, She said 0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:18.239 she wouldn't mind. She said that. I said last week 0:48:18.320 --> 0:48:20.000 or a couple of weeks ago, I said, yeah, I 0:48:20.040 --> 0:48:22.040 would love to be a homemaker, Like if I didn't 0:48:22.080 --> 0:48:24.040 have to work and I could just But how would 0:48:24.080 --> 0:48:26.279 you love to be homemaker if you don't love to cook, 0:48:26.400 --> 0:48:29.160 Because I'm saying right now, I don't. It's the fact 0:48:29.200 --> 0:48:32.000 that I don't really have the time. So I'm just 0:48:32.600 --> 0:48:36.279 I'm just always running, you know what I'm saying. It's 0:48:36.280 --> 0:48:37.920 like I don't really get to take the time to 0:48:38.280 --> 0:48:44.080 enjoy that thing that I'm doing. Yes, I'm always running. 0:48:45.760 --> 0:48:51.080 This is a consistent joke between like, bro, you work 0:48:51.160 --> 0:48:55.279 from home. I'm not saying you're not racking your brain 0:48:55.360 --> 0:48:57.520 and I'm not saying even though you shouldn't be stressing 0:48:57.560 --> 0:49:00.680 at home. But but it's weird. Okay, So it's like 0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.279 it's weird because I do work from home. Now this 0:49:04.520 --> 0:49:07.720 is new, right, I haven't worked that from I've always 0:49:07.760 --> 0:49:09.520 worked and I haven't worked from home. And I took 0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:12.080 care of kids and they have practice and I had 0:49:12.440 --> 0:49:14.440 a whole show that I went to at nine and 0:49:14.520 --> 0:49:16.960 I was there on time, did coming all the way 0:49:17.000 --> 0:49:20.399 from the valley all that. But now it's crazy, it's 0:49:20.440 --> 0:49:24.200 like I'm at home, you know, I'm working, taking care 0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:29.320 of the baby. People listening to this ship like holy ship. Whatever. 0:49:29.920 --> 0:49:34.920 I'm working, I'm taking care of the baby, I'm cooking, 0:49:35.560 --> 0:49:41.920 I'm cleaning, and you know, shopping. Sometimes I don't even 0:49:41.920 --> 0:49:44.000 get to leave. I'll just try to like door dash 0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:49.280 um and it's like I'm still trying to find time, 0:49:49.600 --> 0:49:52.840 like I guess to fit me in there. Yeah, but 0:49:52.960 --> 0:49:56.680 that's kind of the point of having children, to not 0:49:56.800 --> 0:49:58.799 be able to fit you in there. Yeah, you lose 0:49:58.880 --> 0:50:02.160 you first, And I guess because you know, I had 0:50:02.239 --> 0:50:06.759 kids young, and then I had I tell Joey induce right. 0:50:06.920 --> 0:50:09.880 The giants La Johns shout out to the home like 0:50:10.040 --> 0:50:14.000 they they really fantastic rappers. They were raised to be rappers, 0:50:14.080 --> 0:50:16.360 they were really born to be rappers. And they have 0:50:16.680 --> 0:50:18.920 went to the college. Their father player hand put them 0:50:18.960 --> 0:50:21.719 through the college of it and they are fantastic. But 0:50:24.760 --> 0:50:29.799 they have a fucked up understanding where it's like they 0:50:29.920 --> 0:50:34.359 feel like I need to make time to rap. No, no, See, 0:50:34.400 --> 0:50:37.000 this is the thing about this as your career. This 0:50:37.200 --> 0:50:39.120 is the thing about kids. Do that make it tough 0:50:40.320 --> 0:50:42.680 when you're doing hip hop and when you're trying to 0:50:42.760 --> 0:50:45.920 start this business, you have to find time to be 0:50:46.040 --> 0:50:49.799 somebody's boyfriend. You have to find time to be somebody's father. 0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:56.520 You have to do this. This is a commitment and 0:50:56.640 --> 0:50:59.759 if you make it a hobby, you just about sign 0:51:00.080 --> 0:51:04.640 you no chance opportunity. You have no chance. So you 0:51:04.960 --> 0:51:11.120 have to be a wife first and everything. Find time 0:51:11.160 --> 0:51:14.800 to be everything. And even people make disagree with this, 0:51:14.960 --> 0:51:19.279 but literally, from the most historical ideas, you're supposed to 0:51:19.360 --> 0:51:23.360 find time to be a mother. You're supposed to always 0:51:23.440 --> 0:51:25.400 have time to be a wife. You find time to 0:51:25.440 --> 0:51:28.200 be a mother, You find time to be a homemaker, 0:51:28.239 --> 0:51:31.719 and you find time for your job. You always find 0:51:31.880 --> 0:51:36.399 time for those things. The for shure thing is being 0:51:36.440 --> 0:51:38.480 a wife. So I don't know how you don't like that, 0:51:39.760 --> 0:51:45.080 and I think it's priorities. Yeah, and what we've learned 0:51:45.200 --> 0:51:47.040 or seen or like, you know, because the way you 0:51:47.120 --> 0:51:49.360 broke that down where it's like, okay, you are you 0:51:49.440 --> 0:51:53.920 should you have to find time and yeah, you know, 0:51:54.160 --> 0:51:58.879 and it's like that job. You know what I'm saying. 0:51:59.120 --> 0:52:01.440 But you you know what I'm saying. You can't say 0:52:01.800 --> 0:52:05.120 that job, that job, But you have to say you 0:52:05.280 --> 0:52:09.000 have to love cooking and nourishing your family. You have 0:52:09.120 --> 0:52:12.440 to love that today and hate your job. Yeah, I 0:52:12.520 --> 0:52:15.080 mean I get that. That's like today I was like 0:52:18.480 --> 0:52:23.000 you both. I don't hate cooking. I'm just not liking 0:52:23.120 --> 0:52:26.440 it right now. I'm trying to like I'm trying to um, 0:52:27.880 --> 0:52:30.760 I'm starting all over again. So this is like trying 0:52:30.840 --> 0:52:35.720 to find a balance. And at this age I figured 0:52:35.840 --> 0:52:37.920 I would be I mean because I have my kids young, 0:52:38.080 --> 0:52:41.000 so I figured I would be done. I never done 0:52:41.080 --> 0:52:45.680 doing what raising kids? And you know what I'm saying, 0:52:45.760 --> 0:52:49.120 not done with as far as like my marriage and 0:52:49.239 --> 0:52:52.600 things like that are like, you know, I don't know 0:52:52.680 --> 0:52:55.239 why people stop having kids that once you start having kids, 0:52:55.520 --> 0:52:58.200 excuse me, because you don't have one. An that's why 0:52:58.360 --> 0:53:01.120 you don't even have one. I'm not just I'm saying 0:53:01.920 --> 0:53:03.960 that's the point. So why would you stop if you 0:53:04.040 --> 0:53:08.760 have something, you don't have one. I'm allow, I'm letting 0:53:08.840 --> 0:53:12.279 y'all have the space. Why would you stop? I mean, 0:53:12.920 --> 0:53:14.560 first of all, you get to an age where you 0:53:14.680 --> 0:53:19.640 have to stop. Um, Financially, it may not be feasible 0:53:19.760 --> 0:53:22.560 for you to have children. Stop doing something of the 0:53:22.600 --> 0:53:25.480 ship you want to do. Take some backseats. If if 0:53:25.520 --> 0:53:28.960 you're if you're addition to the world, if your addition 0:53:29.040 --> 0:53:32.239 to the world is going to be children. Like my 0:53:32.320 --> 0:53:37.040 addition to the world is I'm passing information through film records. 0:53:37.280 --> 0:53:40.600 This is how pass information. Any great sale, the only 0:53:40.680 --> 0:53:43.840 single responsibility of even the most single sale is to 0:53:43.840 --> 0:53:48.120 pass information and not do this ship all the time, 0:53:49.360 --> 0:53:54.320 all the time to two millions of people. Right. But 0:53:54.440 --> 0:53:56.720 if you're going to have children and you're not teaching 0:53:56.840 --> 0:53:59.959 the world ship, you would think you would have more kids. 0:54:00.320 --> 0:54:01.759 I don't know. I just think, like I said, I 0:54:01.840 --> 0:54:03.560 honestly think the world is going to a sense of 0:54:03.640 --> 0:54:08.440 selfishness and it's like we just kind of like, you know, 0:54:09.280 --> 0:54:14.120 mm hmmm, I don't know. I'm like, fuck it, yeah, 0:54:14.200 --> 0:54:17.960 this world is. It's cold world. I'm like, people care 0:54:18.000 --> 0:54:24.840 about the dogs more than humans. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. 0:54:24.960 --> 0:54:32.000 These people be turning these dogs dogs eat your ass. Yeah, 0:54:32.800 --> 0:54:36.680 like this is a dog my girl stuff. She leaves 0:54:36.760 --> 0:54:38.840 her air conditioning on in the house for the dogs. 0:54:38.920 --> 0:54:41.799 My mom leaves her teeth if you don't put them 0:54:41.880 --> 0:54:45.439 fucking dogs outside in the doghouse. No, my mom leaves 0:54:45.480 --> 0:54:49.080 a TV on. She'll leave a light on if it's 0:54:49.120 --> 0:54:52.279 hot in the summer. YEA. What it is about white 0:54:52.320 --> 0:54:58.919 people and dogs, black dogs, I hope not my black 0:54:58.920 --> 0:55:03.279 grandfa in the outside and they came in, you know 0:55:03.320 --> 0:55:06.400 what I mean that when he let him in, but 0:55:06.520 --> 0:55:11.080 not they weren't there all the time getting Oh my dog? 0:55:11.239 --> 0:55:15.800 She owed, How did your dog? She's like sixteen and 0:55:15.920 --> 0:55:19.840 dog years, that's a hundred or something mine? Did you 0:55:20.000 --> 0:55:22.840 did you actually prepare all that? Did you start making arrangements? 0:55:23.239 --> 0:55:28.120 Do I need to it's happening soon? Huh? My son said, 0:55:28.160 --> 0:55:34.200 it seemed dog is a hundred five. She's still very life. Actually, 0:55:34.280 --> 0:55:40.000 your dog is a hundred hold up seven times fifteen 0:55:40.520 --> 0:55:50.240 five three? Yeah, seven years dog years seven verse sugar 0:55:50.280 --> 0:55:53.520 free verse as one dog is, it's seven dog years 0:55:53.600 --> 0:55:57.359 for a year, followed me. I got to figure out 0:55:57.360 --> 0:56:00.920 a hundred and sixty eight. Yeah, so how old is 0:56:00.960 --> 0:56:05.480 my dog? Your dog is a hundred and five fifteen 0:56:05.600 --> 0:56:08.520 times seven five three? She doing I'm really good. My 0:56:08.640 --> 0:56:12.279 son did say that looks like she's going blind. I'm 0:56:12.360 --> 0:56:16.520 sure seeing a lot of ships for a long time. Yeah, 0:56:16.680 --> 0:56:19.640 she's been since the kids were in like elementary, they 0:56:19.680 --> 0:56:25.839 were a little, very little. Now I'm not getting another dog, 0:56:26.280 --> 0:56:29.200 so when it so before I leave? What is it 0:56:29.320 --> 0:56:32.879 about work? You don't like what is about work. Um 0:56:34.600 --> 0:56:37.920 actually like my job. I do like my job. I 0:56:38.080 --> 0:56:40.520 like my position. I like my job, like helping people. 0:56:40.960 --> 0:56:44.000 Um So I do like work. But I don't like 0:56:44.840 --> 0:56:46.640 the fact that I have to work and I have 0:56:46.760 --> 0:56:49.439 to take time away from my daughter. Or I can't 0:56:49.480 --> 0:56:53.120 do the things that I want to do. I mean, 0:56:53.160 --> 0:56:58.120 I still I can't do them right, like I can't 0:56:58.360 --> 0:57:04.080 like I have to um when I'm on the clock, 0:57:05.120 --> 0:57:08.840 somebody else's controlling what I do. Like you know what 0:57:08.840 --> 0:57:12.640 I'm saying, I can't just okay, I gotta stop doing 0:57:12.680 --> 0:57:14.880 this to take care of my man, like or I 0:57:14.920 --> 0:57:17.200 gotta take care of my daughter, my daughter, you know. Like, 0:57:18.040 --> 0:57:20.120 so I don't like the fact that I have to 0:57:20.200 --> 0:57:26.520 go into work and punch a clock into work. You 0:57:26.680 --> 0:57:28.800 got to start at least caring about some of these phrases. 0:57:29.080 --> 0:57:33.360 I don't like that I have to go to work. 0:57:33.480 --> 0:57:38.040 Geez leave her alone. Mentally, she's she goes into that room, 0:57:38.160 --> 0:57:41.320 she travels. I'm not saying you're not working. You're kind 0:57:41.320 --> 0:57:44.080 of using a lot of like phrases that include traffic 0:57:44.200 --> 0:57:48.240 and after go into work, where the funk are you 0:57:48.360 --> 0:57:54.240 going into the living room my office? I have to 0:57:54.320 --> 0:58:00.520 go into my office and do I love working from home? 0:58:03.120 --> 0:58:06.400 You use you like, go into I can't have time, 0:58:06.560 --> 0:58:08.960 and I don't have time. You know how funked up 0:58:09.040 --> 0:58:10.960 your ship would be if you had to drive to work. 0:58:11.080 --> 0:58:14.240 Oh yeah, I probably would have got fired having this 0:58:14.400 --> 0:58:18.880 baby and trying to if you actually had to go in, yeah, 0:58:19.240 --> 0:58:24.400 I would have been like, honey, the most woman This 0:58:24.520 --> 0:58:27.480 is the most womanly podcast. Like people are gonna listen 0:58:27.520 --> 0:58:30.920 to you and be like this is crazy whatever. Man 0:58:31.080 --> 0:58:33.400 for sure gonna be like what because You're like, I 0:58:33.480 --> 0:58:36.320 got to go into work, and I'm like, you don't go. 0:58:36.560 --> 0:58:39.320 What I'm saying is I can't just take care of 0:58:39.480 --> 0:58:44.640 my daughter, my family, my man, nourish them all day 0:58:44.760 --> 0:58:48.120 long because I have to work for the man. That's 0:58:48.120 --> 0:58:50.640 not true. People used to do that and take care 0:58:50.640 --> 0:58:52.880 of their family home. I have to work for the man. 0:58:52.960 --> 0:58:55.160 I did it too, But so you can do both. 0:58:55.360 --> 0:59:00.680 But it's hard. But it is difficult sometime because I 0:59:01.560 --> 0:59:04.160 who has ever had to So you don't even like 0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:10.200 it work unless you're self employed, but work for a 0:59:10.360 --> 0:59:14.000 company and still take care of your baby at the 0:59:14.080 --> 0:59:16.560 same time. Think that means you're saving that you can 0:59:16.560 --> 0:59:21.000 actually get a babysitter and spend some of that money. Yeah, 0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:24.720 I started trying to see about somebody helping on Tuesdays 0:59:24.760 --> 0:59:27.200 and Thursday. But I'm not sending her to daycare? Why not? 0:59:28.840 --> 0:59:31.080 So you want it all? My baby needs to be 0:59:31.240 --> 0:59:32.919 with me. I need to say, I'm she's not ready 0:59:32.960 --> 0:59:37.200 to go to daycare yet. She doesn't speak. Yeah, when 0:59:37.360 --> 0:59:38.920 you put the babies in the bay hare when they 0:59:38.960 --> 0:59:41.240 could turn I mean, this is a blessing for me 0:59:41.440 --> 0:59:44.320 because my other kids I had to put had to 0:59:44.520 --> 0:59:47.640 put them in daycare, like one, and she just turned 0:59:47.720 --> 0:59:50.960 one and I haven't had to Actually, No, I was 0:59:51.360 --> 0:59:53.760 back to work when they were babies, so they just 0:59:53.840 --> 0:59:57.680 went to like family and stuff like that, daycare, family, friends, 0:59:58.240 --> 1:00:00.840 to your office at home or knows. How do you 1:00:01.000 --> 1:00:04.439 figure this out? How do you figure out the time 1:00:04.560 --> 1:00:08.000 to do anything? It's hard, Lord knows, you're stuck in 1:00:08.080 --> 1:00:12.440 that living room traffic, that traffic from the from the 1:00:12.560 --> 1:00:15.800 that traffic from that traffic from your home office to 1:00:15.920 --> 1:00:19.920 your kitchen. Sometimes, man, you stuck at that intersection at 1:00:19.960 --> 1:00:29.160 the couch and Ricky Lake. It's hard. Good looking out 1:00:29.200 --> 1:00:32.040 for tuning into the No Seillers podcast, Please do us 1:00:32.080 --> 1:00:35.400 a favorite, subscribe, rate, comment, and share. This episode was 1:00:35.440 --> 1:00:37.720 recorded right here on the West coast of the USA 1:00:38.120 --> 1:00:40.800 and produced by my homeboy A King, for the Black 1:00:40.840 --> 1:00:44.160 Effect Podcast Network and not Heart Radio. Yeah.