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Speaker 1: Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We are back.

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Speaker 2: Guys, unbelievably great questions. Please please do send your questions.

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Speaker 2: But Susan one of my favorites. We're going to get

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Speaker 2: started with a question of the day. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Okayk you go ahead.

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Speaker 2: What is a way wedding hot take that you have

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Speaker 2: that means like an unpopular opinion about weddings? Like what

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Speaker 2: is so for me? An unpopular opinion for me is

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Speaker 2: that like the bride has to always wear white.

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Speaker 1: Or they have to throw the garter or or all that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, hmm, I mean, I've seen brides wear really

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Speaker 1: And people wedding or whatever they want.

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Speaker 2: I know, but but that's that's one of the things

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Speaker 2: that a lot of people like, Oh no, she's got.

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Speaker 1: To be in white tradition exactly.

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Speaker 2: What's what's some more? What's some other ones for you?

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Speaker 1: I don't know that I really have any. I mean,

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Speaker 1: for me, A new one, which is not new anymore,

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Speaker 1: was the first sight. You know, they take their pictures

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Speaker 1: before the cocktail hour, before the actual ever moody and

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Speaker 1: what My first thought was, Oh, but we're not old

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Speaker 1: school anymore. It's yeah, some of them still sleep together

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Speaker 1: the night before the wedding.

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Speaker 2: You know, you're absolutely right. And you know what the

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Speaker 2: one of the ones I hated this at my wedding.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's unpopular or popular, but when

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Speaker 2: I got married, it was cute to take the cake

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Speaker 1: Of ram it in their mouths.

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Speaker 2: No, like I remember that video that we talked about

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Speaker 2: where he hosed her. What I was like, that's unpopular, Like, no, no,

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Speaker 2: thank you, we don't need that. I don't know. Weddings

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Speaker 2: have changed so much since you when I got married.

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Speaker 1: It's changed with the times.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think anybody out there have any opinion

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Speaker 1: on that, because I'd like to hear it.

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Speaker 2: You mean, what what's unpopular? Now? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What people think is unpopular?

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Speaker 2: I mean there's so much, so many. I mean, do

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Speaker 2: you remember, Look, you're a wedding offiicient, yes, Sam, do

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Speaker 2: you What do you think about people writing their own vows?

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Speaker 1: I love it. I hold it for them. I just

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Speaker 1: did one actually Monday night. It was three hours. It

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Speaker 2: Kathy, Okay, wait a minute question. In the old days,

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Speaker 2: it was repeat after me. Do you still do that

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Speaker 2: a wedding? Yes?

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Speaker 1: I do, Yes, I do.

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Speaker 2: So.

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Speaker 1: That's when they're putting the ring on their finger. And

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Speaker 1: what I find humorous. I think they get so caught

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Speaker 1: up and nervous and they're repeating after me. A couple

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Speaker 1: of times they were looking at me. I go, no,

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Speaker 1: look at him when you say you're not marrying me,

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Speaker 1: or they forget to put the ring on, it's just

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Speaker 2: It's so cute. I love it. I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: think I think when I got married, you know, back

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Speaker 2: when it was black and white television, they didn't you

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Speaker 2: didn't get to write your own vows. I love.

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Speaker 1: They also didn't get me to marry you. That wasn't

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Speaker 1: a thing. Then, Oh, you.

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Speaker 2: Know what, You're right? I know if I've told you that,

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Speaker 2: not my son, that you officiated their wedding back in March,

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Speaker 2: not Kyle's wedding. Do you know that my oldest son

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Speaker 2: is a wedding officiant? Yes, yes, we feel And I

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Speaker 2: asked Kyle. I asked him, do you want your older

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Speaker 2: brother to marry No, nope, I want Susan. Okay, let's go. Great.

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Speaker 1: It was great, all right, Kathy, we have some fan questions.

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Speaker 1: All right, do you want to go first?

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Speaker 2: All right? So Tara, who is twenty two, asks, Hi,

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Speaker 2: Kathy and Susan, I really need your help. I'm super

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Speaker 2: friend might be into my boyfriend. I've been with John

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Speaker 2: for about a year and a half. He and my

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Speaker 2: best friend Lindsey get along really well. When John was

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Speaker 2: looking to get me a birthday gift, he asked Lindsay

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Speaker 2: for advice. Anytime I have people over or we go

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Speaker 2: people or hosting. Everything was great until last week. Lindsey, John,

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Speaker 2: go out as we usually do. I noticed Lindsay was

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Speaker 2: acting really weird all night. She was visibly uncomfortable anytime

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Speaker 2: John held my hand or gave me a kiss, which

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Speaker 2: is not out of the ordinary. When we got home

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Speaker 2: from our local bar, Lindsey was crying. John noticed first

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Speaker 2: I pulled Lindsay into my room to figure out what

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Speaker 2: was going on, she just kept saying things like why

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Speaker 2: doesn't he like me? Why didn't he ask me out?

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Speaker 2: When I asked who she was talking about, she would

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Speaker 2: just say, you don't know him, or nothing. It's fine.

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Speaker 2: It's been two weeks, and even though she still comes

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Speaker 2: around and acts happier, those mannerisms around John and I

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Speaker 2: still come up. I've asked my other close friend and

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Speaker 2: she's the one that thinks that might be because he

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Speaker 2: has feelings. Sorry, it might be because she has feelings

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Speaker 2: for John based on how she acts around us both.

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Speaker 2: Since I don't have any evidence, I have no way

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Speaker 2: to go about this? What should I do?

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Speaker 1: New? Well, when you started this, I thought maybe something

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Speaker 1: that crushes there. But when you finished it, why would

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Speaker 1: the girl say he didn't ask me out? If she

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Speaker 1: was talking about John, John would not ask her act exactly.

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Speaker 1: They would sneak around or something crazy like that.

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Speaker 2: But Tara, Kathy, here you are twenty two years old.

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Speaker 2: I bet you are beautiful. I bet John is fabulous, sweetie.

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Speaker 2: I promise you. You are nervous and anxious and you

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Speaker 2: have some probably some issues around trusting him. I am

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Speaker 2: guessing this, as Shakespeare would say, much ado about nothing.

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing Lindsey met a guy at the bar that

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Speaker 2: you probably didn't see or didn't talk, and she probably

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Speaker 2: wants what you and John have. And this guy that

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Speaker 2: you didn't see probably didn't ask her out or didn't

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Speaker 2: get her phone number. And that's what this is about.

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Speaker 1: What do you think is And she could be quite

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Speaker 1: jealous of you or and John's relationship and wants that

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Speaker 1: for herself. But don't overthink this. I remember I still

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Speaker 1: overthink things that I'm way better than I used to be,

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Speaker 1: But at twenty two years old, don't start something that

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Speaker 1: you're going to regret.

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Speaker 2: I know, and Lindsay, here's the not Lindsay Era. You're young,

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Speaker 2: and I don't mean that in a negative way. You

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Speaker 2: sound passionate and you sound lovely. But here's the thing,

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Speaker 2: you're twenty two. Let this play out. I really think

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Speaker 2: he's into you and not your girlfriend. Just you know,

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Speaker 2: take a breath.

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Speaker 1: Be secure in yourself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, be secure in yourself.

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Speaker 1: And if you really really feel like you can't deal,

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Speaker 1: say something to her, So do you like him or

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Speaker 1: something like you.

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Speaker 2: Know, or ask her or ask John really do you

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Speaker 2: need to be kissing and hugging her? Maybe, like, maybe

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Speaker 2: we should.

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Speaker 1: Back off a little bit. Ye, she's getting the wrong

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Speaker 1: impression or something like that. But in the meantime, breathe.

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Speaker 2: Breathing is good. Breathing is good. All right, already we

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Speaker 2: have good luck, good luck terror Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Sweetheart Maddie who is twenty six, and she writes high

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Speaker 1: Kathy and I love the podcast. I really hope you

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Speaker 1: see this because I could use some advice. I've been

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Speaker 1: single for the past five years and I really want

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Speaker 1: to find someone. Almost all my friends are in long

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Speaker 1: term relationships, and sometimes it's a bummer being the fifth wheel. Oh,

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Speaker 1: we know. In the past year, I've gone on a

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Speaker 1: handful of first dates. One was a mutual friend, too

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Speaker 1: many to admit to were from hinge, and one I

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Speaker 1: met at a bar. None of them went past date one.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is I feel like. On

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Speaker 1: at least a few of those dates, the chemistry was good,

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Speaker 1: we were laughing and talking, had similar interests. At least

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Speaker 1: had enough success for a second date. But every single

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Speaker 1: time I go on a first date, I thank them

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Speaker 1: either the next morning or a few hours later that day,

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Speaker 1: just to say I had a really great time. Most

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Speaker 1: and the few times I have, they say me too,

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Speaker 1: doing something wrong? Should I just not text at all?

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Speaker 1: I have no idea what to do, but I'm so

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Speaker 1: tired of this one date slump. Any advice would be

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Speaker 1: much appreciated. Love you both, Oh God, I remember feeling

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Speaker 1: like that. Okay, So what I've learned through my past

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Speaker 1: I always say I had a good time too.

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Speaker 1: Because when you send it out. Of course most of

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Speaker 1: them will be A gentleman said, Oh yeah, me too.

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Speaker 1: Don't start blowing them up, don't start texting them.

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Speaker 2: I gotta say, Susan, I never until you've just said that,

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Speaker 2: you keep talking. But I have a whole different take

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Speaker 2: on it. I'm so interested in this that you're focusing on.

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Speaker 2: And you may be right that she sounds too weaker, But.

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Speaker 1: She sounded like she's feeling chemistry with all of them,

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Speaker 1: Like she's saying, what a great time. I would go

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Speaker 1: see this guy again. Yeah, but I still laughed and

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Speaker 1: had conversation. I made it an enjoyable evening. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: we just not meant for each other, that's all. I

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Speaker 1: was always the one that had to say it by text.

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Speaker 1: Of course. I'm so sorry. As much as I enjoyed

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Speaker 1: your company, I just don't feel that match. And that's

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I think you've hit on a couple of

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Speaker 2: really good points here. Number one. She's twenty six, and

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Speaker 2: she says I really want to find someone. So she

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Speaker 2: may be too weaker. She looking too desperate, looking desperate

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Speaker 2: and writing right away so they're like you, oh, this

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Speaker 2: is too much, not interested in this. But I also

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Speaker 2: wonder if she's attracted to the wrong kind of guy

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Speaker 2: because kind of well I don't know either, but she

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Speaker 2: says she's had a lot of all them are first dates.

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Speaker 2: Am I doing something wrong? So? You know, I guess

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Speaker 2: what I would say, Maddie, is I would think about

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Speaker 2: I think I think dating apps have their place and

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Speaker 2: lots of people like them, and they've worked for a

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Speaker 2: lot of people. But maybe for you you need to

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Speaker 2: meet a guy in real life and so that you

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Speaker 2: Is it my place to say something? Do I confront

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Speaker 1: That god, you poor little thing. It stings, It stings

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Speaker 1: I mean me, knowing me and my big mouth, I

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Speaker 2: Are you saying ghost him? In short? Ye? Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 2: as I got to be honest with you, Susan, when

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Speaker 2: I would have. I think you would have too. But

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Speaker 2: on the floor. Therefore, move along, Anonymous, he's not changing.

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Speaker 2: Don't waste your breath. You're skinny or you're pretty on

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Speaker 1: And you know what, don't get involved because you'll be

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Speaker 2: Bad and you don't confront him because you know what,

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Speaker 2: But you know what, I don't know, Susan. Maybe she should.

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Speaker 1: Tell the girlfriend that woman knows what he did while

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Speaker 2: She wait a minute, isn't she friends with her?

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Speaker 1: I didn't say that.

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Speaker 1: You do what makes you feel good because you didn't

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Speaker 2: I think if you know the girl. I think if

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Speaker 2: If she ever confronts you, you can say the minute

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Speaker 2: I found out, I you know, I headed south. I

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Speaker 2: But you know what, clearly she still had feelings for

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Speaker 1: All right, we have one more you ready. It's from

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Wait, so much is going through my mind.

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Speaker 2: I don't know a couple of things, Susan, do you

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Speaker 2: remember when we did the Jennifer Hudson Show. I asked

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Speaker 2: Yeah you yes, Yeah, I told him because we share

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Speaker 2: He said to my wife. Yeah, he goes, but my

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Speaker 2: But it doesn't matter. I said, you got to be

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Speaker 2: I said? No? She didn't. She was lying to you.

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Speaker 2: And I said, if I get one hundred women in here,

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Speaker 2: So here's what Kathy does. Oh, he goes, see, I

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Speaker 2: You idiot? I was pretending that's what your wife did

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Speaker 1: Sometimes guys are clue. So here's what's the deal. After

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, now we had the internet, we didn't

435
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Speaker 2: have that back then, and it was like, you know whatever.

436
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Speaker 1: The internet ever helped me.

437
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Speaker 2: Well, that's because it wasn't around when you were starting

438
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Speaker 2: having sexes.

439
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Speaker 1: And I hate to tell you what she says here,

440
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Speaker 1: I really don't want to screw this up.

441
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 2: Well, okay, fine, so she's dating.

442
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: Trust me, you don't want to not say anything and

443
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 1: be together with this guy forever and you'll be bored

444
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: in bet because that opens a whole other world.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I definitely any way, Susan, it doesn't open

446
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 2: another world, it closes loses this world. Yeah, good luck, sweetie.

447
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Speaker 1: We wish a lot of luck. Let us know if

448
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Speaker 1: you could teach him something.

449
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,120
Speaker 2: Let us know if you have an orgasm?

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Speaker 1: Oh boy? Okay, Kathy. Before we wrap up today's episode,

451
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Speaker 1: should we do another round of truth or drink?

452
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Speaker 2: Oh god, have your wine by my favorite game? Okay,

453
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 2: all right, we're gonna do it. Kas We're going to

454
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 2: take turns reading questions. We each have to answer it.

455
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Speaker 2: If we refuse to answer, we drink. Ready, Okay, go

456
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Speaker 2: all right. What's the worst wardrobe malfunction you've ever had?

457
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 2: I've never had one. Oh no, yes, I have my

458
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 2: bathing suit. I was in the water and my bathing

459
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 2: suits came down and my boob was completely and.

460
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Speaker 1: I didn't know And everybody knows that one. It happens

461
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,439
Speaker 1: to all of us. The ocean will do it exactly.

462
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:27,159
Speaker 2: You stood up? Is that it? Yeah? Yeah, that happened?

463
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 2: All right? What's the next one?

464
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Speaker 1: What do you think is your red flag?

465
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: Like? What is mine? Is? I joke all the time?

466
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 2: I talk too much. They think I'm never serious.

467
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 1: Mine is outspoken loud that too, But that's not a

468
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 1: red flag? Well sense a humor?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I kind of want to drink,

470
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Speaker 2: but we're not drinking yet. Okay, this can I answer

471
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 2: this one? Who are who are three single people in

472
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 2: Bachelor Nation? You'd like to see him paradise? Listen up, everyone, Susan, Kathy, Nancy, Okay, you're.

473
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 1: Absolutely Have you ever had a crush on a co worker?

474
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: I never did, I have, I never acted on it, Yes,

475
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 1: but I definitely have.

476
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: What did the coworker do? Tell me more?

477
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: I don't want to share that with you.

478
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 2: You said there drink you're drinking? Oh, drink up baby?

479
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 2: All right? Damn you always said Now I know you lie.

480
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 2: You said there was you'd never not answer a question.

481
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: All right, okay, answer, I just didn't tell you who?

482
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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, all right? Has anyone, ugh, I have

483
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Speaker 2: to answer this. Has anyone ever walked in on you

484
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Speaker 2: hooking up my kids? Who? My children? You too? Yeah?

485
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: Perhaps every household. That's a dumb one. What's the most

486
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: scandalous thing you've done in public?

487
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 2: You go first, I got to think.

488
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:18,360
Speaker 1: Scandalous.

489
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 2: Well, in your case, top mes on the beach. I

490
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:28,120
Speaker 2: mean that's I mean, it's not trying to oh, well,

491
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Speaker 2: the one thing I did one time when I don't

492
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,359
Speaker 2: think it's scandalous, but it's the best thing I can

493
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 2: come up with. Because I don't want to drink my

494
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 2: my husband and I want a cruise with my mother

495
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 2: in law. And we met these people and we were drinking.

496
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,959
Speaker 2: It was a Martini bar, literally, and we're drinking Martini's

497
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 2: and I got a little silly and they there was

498
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: a band playing across, and they said something about dancing

499
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 2: on the bar, and then they were, of course you

500
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Speaker 2: wouldn't do that. I looked and I went, I wouldn't

501
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 2: do that. Watch got up and danced on the bar.

502
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 2: My husband, by the way, was appalled Okay.

503
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: Have you ever knowingly been the other woman?

504
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: Knowingly?

505
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: Knowingly?

506
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 2: No? No, no, I honestly, I don't think I've ever

507
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: been well, obviously, if I knew it, I know it.

508
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 2: I've never been the other woman the only play? Well,

509
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: can I tell you the guy that had a frozen hand? Also,

510
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 2: when we were on vacation one time was talking with

511
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 2: other women online. Do you understand now why he's a

512
00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 2: past boyfriend?

513
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, here's a good one. Have you ever faked an orgasm?

514
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, with the same guy. Why don't we get him

515
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 2: on the podcast? We're gonna have you. I think most

516
00:29:58,320 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 2: women have faked.

517
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 1: Have to have to make them feel good. Sometimes you

518
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 1: just can't, you know?

519
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 2: Yeah? All right? Have you ever kept a secret from

520
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 2: a best friend and off? Yes? What was it? Okay,

521
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 2: it's time for me to fess up.

522
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: Do you know I can't keep secrets?

523
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 2: Good? Excuse facination. I want to say this loudly if

524
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 2: I could scream into this microphone, Susan cannot keep a secret.

525
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 1: I ten for a little while, but not forever.

526
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, thirty seconds, She's good. Seconds, I admit it.

527
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: Can I drink?

528
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 2: No, you don't have to drink. You can drink. Sure,

529
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 2: knock yourself out? All right?

530
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 1: What's something you think I'm not ready to hear?

531
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 2: Oh? You go first? What am I not ready to hear?

532
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: What is something you think you're not ready to hear it?

533
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 1: I don't keep anything from me.

534
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 2: I know I don't.

535
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: You can't even do there not good for us?

536
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 2: This. We can't do that one because we tell each

537
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 2: other everything. What even I gotta tell y'all. Susan hair?

538
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 2: She got her hair cut so short, and like literally

539
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 2: she goes, wait, think of my hair? I want? Oh,

540
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 2: dear God, looks like ship. What did you do with butcher? Was?

541
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 2: Did I know?

542
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: You didn't say shit? You said your hair is too short?

543
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: I said, I know, I said, just cut it again.

544
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: Actually she did a great job. Okay, what's the biggest

545
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: age gap you you've ever had with a hookup or partner?

546
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 2: Frozen hand guy?

547
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: No, what's the biggest age gap?

548
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 2: I'm saying the same guy. It's the frozen guy. I'm trying.

549
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: We don't care who it is. What's the age gap?

550
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 2: Five years older?

551
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to drink because I'm not telling you it

552
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: was young.

553
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, next, Uh, what's something embarrassing? Oh? Okay, souson

554
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 2: you got about your What's something embarrassing you've done while drunk?

555
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: I don't I get drunk.

556
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 2: Have you ever seen me drunk? No, we can't answer that.

557
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 2: I mean we don't have to drink. I mean we

558
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 2: will drink.

559
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: Who from Bachelor Nation do you think is most like

560
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: your younger self?

561
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 2: We're both going to answer the same one.

562
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: I think we both thinking, Maria Marie says younger self.

563
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 2: I wasn't. Oh yeah, yeah, I I don't know, believe

564
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 2: it or not. I was a little bit quieter when

565
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: I was younger. I was never quiet, but I wasn't

566
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 2: as I was still funny, but I wasn't quite as outgoing.

567
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. I got what's I don't know about.

568
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: What's the silliest reason you've rejected or broken up with someone?

569
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 1: Silliest reason? They're never silly. There's always a good reason. Yeah, yeah,

570
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 1: have you ever pretend it to like a gift? And

571
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: if yes, what was it?

572
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: Oh?

573
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, many times? Want to hurt somebody.

574
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 2: My husband I we talked about this before. Initially he

575
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 2: just had horrible taste and clothes, and you know, I

576
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 2: was like, thank you, honey, I love that look at

577
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 2: the follow up question, have you ever regifted a bad gift? Yeah, Susan,

578
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 2: you saw your birthday gift. I regifted it there, you

579
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 2: didn't use it all the time, No said ever received

580
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: you don't only suck at moral quandary? Have you ever

581
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 2: regifted a bad gift?

582
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:46,959
Speaker 1: I regifted a gift before it says it was something

583
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: that was so bad.

584
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 3: Now I wouldn't because then it looks bad on me.

585
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: I'm going to do it as a gag thing. That's

586
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 3: exactly what I was going to say. I say them,

587
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 3: I have a gift tour. And when we go to,

588
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 3: like in my golf group Christmas, exactly all that stuff,

589
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 3: and like people go, where the hell did that come from?

590
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 2: Him? Like, yeah, two Christmases ago. Hope you enjoy it.

591
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 2: I know, Oh my god, that was so much fun.

592
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 2: Except I didn't get to drink enough wine.

593
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: I know, I only had like two SIPs.

594
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 2: Well that's because you live a bad life, you're you.

595
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 2: But really, thank you guys so much for tuning in.

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Speaker 2: This was a great We just love answering your questions.

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Speaker 1: We absolutely do be sure to subscribe as we have

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Speaker 1: new episodes coming out every week, and you don't want

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Speaker 1: to miss this stuff. I mean, we can't make this up.

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Speaker 2: You cannot, you cannot, and you know what, whether you

601
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 2: want to give your name or be anonymous, we don't care.

602
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 2: Make sure you submit your questions to us. Go to

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Speaker 2: bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and please send them in.

604
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 2: Send a question, send a comment, you know, a date

605
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Speaker 2: whatever a date.

606
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Speaker 1: on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast.

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Speaker 2: That's it for now, see you next time.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely m