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Speaker 1: it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter subject, Thank

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Speaker 1: you nephew. Where are your shoes? Okay? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm forty and my husband is forty four years old.

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Speaker 1: I work from home, and my husband is a nurse,

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Speaker 1: and he works four days on and four days off.

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Speaker 1: He's got a part time job giving COVID tests one

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Speaker 1: day a week, and he was working late the other

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Speaker 1: night and I was in our backyard smoking weed and

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Speaker 1: I heard my husband pull into the driveway. I walked

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Speaker 1: around the house to surprise him, and I ended up

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Speaker 1: for something. He went to his trunk and took a

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Speaker 1: that he was not wearing any shoes. He's usually in

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Speaker 1: crocks or sneakers to work, but he only had on socks.

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Speaker 1: I appeared out of nowhere, and he was startled. I asked,

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Speaker 1: his car. It was so chilly that I suggested he

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Speaker 1: put he put on his shoes. He playfully told me

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Speaker 1: We went inside, and when he went to the back,

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Speaker 1: I went and popped his trunk to get the shirt

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Speaker 1: he took off. I didn't find any shoes in a

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Speaker 1: car or the trunk. I put the shirt across the

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Speaker 1: the collar. He gave me a sorry excuse that he

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Speaker 1: helped a woman that had a car wreck, and he

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Speaker 1: said he lifted her out of the car and that's

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Speaker 1: how the makeup got on his shirt. Then he said

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Speaker 1: that the lady coughed a lot, so he didn't know

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Speaker 1: if he had a cold, the flu or covid, so

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Speaker 1: he left the shirt in his trunk to be safe,

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Speaker 1: But he still had on the pants and they were clean.

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Speaker 1: I asked him again, where are your shoes? And he

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Speaker 1: didn't have an answer. Instead, he got mad and told

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Speaker 1: me that I'm never satisfied and he can never win

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Speaker 1: with me. I'm sick of him not answering basic questions.

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Speaker 1: Why does he react this way? Okay? Why would you

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Speaker 1: have to ask a grown man where are his shoes?

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Speaker 1: Where are your shoes? Why? Something is definitely wrong with

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Speaker 1: that question, and you already know the reason because he's lying. Okay,

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Speaker 1: It was a simple question, where are your shoes? He

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Speaker 1: obviously left them wherever he was, and he just forgot

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Speaker 1: or something with whomever he was with. Why would a

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Speaker 1: grown man leave his shoes anywhere? Have you ever heard

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Speaker 1: of this before? No, it sounds like wherever he was

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Speaker 1: he left in a really big hurry and forgot his shoes. Okay.

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Speaker 1: The story about him helping a woman that had a

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Speaker 1: car wreck and that's how he got the makeup on

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Speaker 1: his shirt, that whole story sounds crazy. He lifted her

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Speaker 1: that's why he left his shirt in the trunk. What

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Speaker 1: come on you? Yourself caught? I know you were smoking weed,

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Speaker 1: but even you thought that this was a sorry excuse,

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Speaker 1: a sorry story, and it is you're not buying any

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Speaker 1: of this, and I don't buy it either. He's also

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Speaker 1: on the defensive now, getting mad at you because his

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Speaker 1: story doesn't sound right, and you know it, and that's

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Speaker 1: why you're questioning him. Police. Don't fall for any of

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Speaker 1: his tricks, his shenanigans, and don't expect him to tell

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Speaker 1: you the truth, because for him, at this point, in

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Speaker 1: his shoes and all that mess, is not an option.

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Speaker 1: He can't tell you the truth, all right, Steve, Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: well let me say this here to answer this one

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Speaker 1: question fairly says that he's not gonna tell you the truth. Nope,

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Speaker 1: Well why would he? This? This ain't the time for truth. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So let's just start right there. He not gonna tell

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Speaker 1: you the truth? Why would he do that? Don't make

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Speaker 1: no damn sense at all. I have told y'all about

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Speaker 1: this truth thing. Now. Oh, the truth matters now. The

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Speaker 1: truth ends the marriage right now. The lie protects the

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Speaker 1: marriage and her heart. Let's go over this effort. Your

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Speaker 1: He got a part time job cold test. He was

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Speaker 1: working late the other night. You were sitting in the

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Speaker 1: necessary to tell us that, but you did. Obviously it's

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Speaker 1: a meaningful moment in your life. So and we needed

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Speaker 1: to know that. You could have just said you were

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Speaker 1: sitting in the backyard chiling. Now use in the backyard

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Speaker 1: smoking weed. You heard your husband pulling to the driveway.

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Speaker 1: You walk around the house to surprise, and see here

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Speaker 1: we go. Now, all these surprises, and he ended up

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Speaker 1: stopping to watch him because he was searching his car

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Speaker 1: for something. Now, the man went to the trunk, took

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Speaker 1: he wasn't wearing any shoes. He usually got on crocks

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Speaker 1: I peered out of nowhere and he was startled. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what What was that? Yeah it was some cussing too,

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Speaker 1: but you know, I can't go there. I asked where

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Speaker 1: It was so chilly. I suggest he put on his shoes.

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Speaker 1: He playfully took girl, get your tell this out, leave

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Speaker 1: me alone. See me out here. Whoop, tell me whoop.

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Speaker 1: We went inside and when he went to the back.

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Speaker 1: smudge of makeup on the collumn. All right, when we

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Speaker 1: come back, here comes the truth. Okay, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: hang on. Part two of your response is coming up

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Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: subject is where are your shoes? We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is where are

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Speaker 1: you or his shoes? Let's just get to it quick.

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Speaker 1: The man is forty four sheet forty. She worked from

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Speaker 1: the house here a nurse. You know. He worked four

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Speaker 1: days on four days off. He got a little extra

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Speaker 1: job doing COVID test. She was at the house one night.

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Speaker 1: She had finished her works. She was out in the

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Speaker 1: backyard chilling smoking weeds. She felt very compelled to tell

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Speaker 1: us that she smokes weeds. So that's fine. I heard

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Speaker 1: my husband pulling to the driveway. I walked around the

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Speaker 1: house to surprise, but she ended up watching him because

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Speaker 1: any shoes. He's usually in crocks and sneakers to work,

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Speaker 1: but he only had on sock. I ap peered out

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Speaker 1: of nowhere, and he would startled. I love that sound. Girl,

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Speaker 1: now chuck out her the iced tea. Now walking up

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Speaker 1: So I just suggested that he put his shoes on.

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Speaker 1: He playfully told me getting my tail in house, leave

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Speaker 1: him long. So we went inside, and when he went

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Speaker 1: get the shirt he took off. I didn't find any

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Speaker 1: makeup on the collar. Now he would go, now, just

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Speaker 1: what the letters about? He gave me a sorry excuse

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Speaker 1: that he helped a woman that had a car wreck.

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Speaker 1: The man is a nurse that he is trying to

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Speaker 1: save somebody's life and you're trying to judge him about

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Speaker 1: some damn makeup. He in here trying to save somebody's life,

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Speaker 1: which is all his career has been about. He said,

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Speaker 1: he lifted how out the car, and that's how the

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Speaker 1: makeup got on the shirt. Shirley talking about he I

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you the truth? Why would he? This don't

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Speaker 1: just sound good right here? Oh this this sound way

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Speaker 1: penna than the damn truth. You're not gonna discount the

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Speaker 1: truth like that. Oh well, I'm not discounting. He nothing

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Speaker 1: to tell it. And you just said yourself why you

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Speaker 1: can't ask him for the truth because he's not gonna

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Speaker 1: tell it. So now let's go with what sound bad.

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Speaker 1: I'm a nurse. She came into the car wreck. I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to help her out, and make up got on

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Speaker 1: the shirt. Then he said, the lady coughed a lot,

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Speaker 1: so he knows she had a call to flew off COVID.

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Speaker 1: I can't bring this in this house on you, but

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Speaker 1: as I love you, I gotta take this shirt off

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Speaker 1: because it could have COVID own it. So he left

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Speaker 1: the shirt in the trunk to be safe. Okay, can

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Speaker 1: I ask you a question? Not chat, but go ahead,

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Speaker 1: go ahead. I just want to know what was he

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Speaker 1: cover up? What was our covering something? I was protecting

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Speaker 1: the safety of this family. What really happened? Because we've

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Speaker 1: heard enough lies. What really happened? You think, Oh, you

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Speaker 1: ain't heard the boy you're going we can't stop lying.

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Speaker 1: But he still had on the pants and they were clean.

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Speaker 1: He didn't drop the lady, so the makeup ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: be on the pants. If he had dropped off, that

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Speaker 1: would be makeup on the pantrongly held up. I asked

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Speaker 1: lady that I helped was fat. I had to live

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Speaker 1: so hard. I came up out my shoes, but I

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Speaker 1: left your shoes, okay, got it all. I had to

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Speaker 1: And it was so busy saving her life. When I

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Speaker 1: and and he can never win with me. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's because he only fought the fault. He telled incomplete lies.

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Speaker 1: So you can win, but you got to complete shoe lies. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we can't getting mad folded life. And I just told

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Speaker 1: And when I lifted up, I had to come up

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Speaker 1: out t shoe. Well, why then I had for him?

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Speaker 1: And why was he looking for him in the trunk

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Speaker 1: if he loved him? At the scene, how do you

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Speaker 1: And your answer is imagining all this because you have Anyway,

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Speaker 1: says in his car, where are your shoes? First of all,

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Speaker 1: let me explain, so you can't tell you where your

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Speaker 1: he didn't forget his shoes. He was in a time

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Speaker 1: damn shoes. What time situations? Situation you win. I could

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Speaker 1: could stay here putting on my damn shoes. That's more

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Speaker 1: important to me, the old, cheapass crops of this woman's life.

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