WEBVTT - #30 Dating Etiquette

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<v Speaker 1>Help I Suck Good Dating with Dean Angler and I

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<v Speaker 1>Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everyone, thank you for joining us

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<v Speaker 1>on this week's episode of Help I Suck at Dating.

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<v Speaker 1>Joined in studio by two very lovely ladies. Hello. Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's start with Vanessa, permanent fixture of this podcast which

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<v Speaker 1>has just been fabulous, and a very special guest who

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<v Speaker 1>you probably will listen to on the almost famous podcast

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<v Speaker 1>this we can think her rock and hoops as big

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<v Speaker 1>as as her head waters the Vega The Vega Friendly Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Where did you get those hoops? I love them? Oh m.

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<v Speaker 1>Hoop Nation by alexis coming out? What? Oh? I know, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited. This is like I've invested a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money into this, so I'm really I mean, hoops

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<v Speaker 1>are your things? Yeah? I literally wear eyelashes and hoops

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<v Speaker 1>how basically And this you guys are like really intellectual

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<v Speaker 1>and like smart, so it's making me uncomfortable. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to say for lots what's proprietary about your

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<v Speaker 1>hoops that makes them better than other hoops, because are

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<v Speaker 1>like good bloody, but they're cheap. They really are? How

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<v Speaker 1>much with those? Okay? That's good? Yeah? I like yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I like it. I do know. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to come out with the hoops for men? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean eventually absolutely. I feel like I feel like who

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<v Speaker 1>bearings for men are like male rompers. I will say,

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<v Speaker 1>so I got my male rompers that exists. It was

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<v Speaker 1>a thing for a hot minute. Oh I think I

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<v Speaker 1>saw what's his name wearing at stage coach? Yeah, oh

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<v Speaker 1>alex Yeah, yeah, what's his name, Robbie, he's wearing a

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<v Speaker 1>male romper. I think he was. I could see that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I got my ear peers in fifth grade and

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<v Speaker 1>my aunt made me get the hoop earring. Ye. The

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<v Speaker 1>littles was like the Michael Jordan's es, Like, yeah, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm saying there's a market there for hoops for men.

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<v Speaker 1>It bring it back, but we should know. We should

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<v Speaker 1>note that Alexis has found love. She no longer sucks

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<v Speaker 1>it dare im. Sorry, you guys, I don't I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know I'm here kidding. I mean your Instagram because

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<v Speaker 1>you and Tyler are damn cue you guys, really are.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like he's a male version of you. No,

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<v Speaker 1>no, no no, no, he's completely uppisite. He's really quiet. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he's but I mean, like he's funny. Oh yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 1>he's not really like I have the funny one. No,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, he tries well opposite the track. Yeah he's

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<v Speaker 1>we're kind of opposite. But he's like he has a

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<v Speaker 1>good heart, good like good man. I think we should

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<v Speaker 1>have Like there has to be a whole segment at

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<v Speaker 1>some point about how they make long distance work. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I was just going to ask you guys that. So

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<v Speaker 1>last night I did a live segment. I was like bored.

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<v Speaker 1>I was cooking, so I'm like, oh, let me go

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<v Speaker 1>live on Instagram. The last a little bit he did

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<v Speaker 1>didn't answer you. Well, I was trying to like notch

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<v Speaker 1>up my fingers off and wait, I actually wrote some

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<v Speaker 1>of them. One person, who was it? Someone asked, I

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<v Speaker 1>have no coal? What do you guys think of long

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<v Speaker 1>distance relationships? I actually love long distance relationships And we

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<v Speaker 1>were talking about that too last time. You're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>well I get to see him, and you know that

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<v Speaker 1>I cut out of my space because we're both are independent.

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<v Speaker 1>So like also like I work on like this week,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm working on my website for my hoops. So like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like, because I have a dad, I need to

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<v Speaker 1>be alone to actually focus and he like has business too,

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<v Speaker 1>so he does his thing, and then when we're together

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<v Speaker 1>he seems pretty supportive. Yeah, he's so supportive. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know anything about business. He does, so I

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<v Speaker 1>know hoops, he knows business. So what work? What's your

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<v Speaker 1>upsite name? Hoop Nation by Alexis dot com. Okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>when is this going to get launched? Tuesday? Oh that

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<v Speaker 1>is wait? What are we? Oh? Next week? Yeah? Next week?

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<v Speaker 1>So one week right after Mother's Day? Yeah? Perfect, So

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<v Speaker 1>buy your mom some hoops the belated Mother's Day present

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<v Speaker 1>for the moms out there. I'll sp it up. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>oppositely too. I can't do longest its relationship really, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just I'm needy. You need Wow, I didn't picture you

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<v Speaker 1>as the needy type. Wait, what are your love languages?

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<v Speaker 1>Well we can talk about that later too, because I

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<v Speaker 1>know they asked you that on your Instagram live last night.

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<v Speaker 1>They did, Oh they did. They asked me for my

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<v Speaker 1>love life. Oh you can't van as a you can

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<v Speaker 1>to in long distance relate to the girl. I like it, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but eventually I did not Dallas. What I like Dallas? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I shave my legs, so it's okay. Okay o, good

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<v Speaker 1>together like a Harry person. My top in your bottom,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm lasered from the waist up. Oh really, So I

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<v Speaker 1>tried doing laser. I did laser in Montreal, but I

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<v Speaker 1>did the bikini area in my under arms. I only

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<v Speaker 1>did it three times and then I started growing back,

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<v Speaker 1>like thinly, and then I can't. I moved out to

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<v Speaker 1>l A and everything. We'll get laser way sponsored. Come on, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>go with it. I mean, damn me, give me. I

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<v Speaker 1>have considered getting a Brazilian man. So let me talk

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<v Speaker 1>about this. Are you Harry I love I love Harry men.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like bar nobody likes the Harry balls. Come on,

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<v Speaker 1>I meant I believe it, Like, yeah, we're counting it

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<v Speaker 1>down for practical reasons. So my brother, my brother goes

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<v Speaker 1>on like a lot of like mountaineering trips, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>like every time, well not every time, but he's done

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<v Speaker 1>it before where he's gone for a month, and like,

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<v Speaker 1>when you have to alieve it yourself in the wilderness,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes more sense to have less hair, right, And

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, he's like, I love it. He like swears by.

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<v Speaker 1>He thinks it's the best thing ever. I was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like, I wonder what that must be like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>can you let us know after you do it? Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll do it live on the podcast. Perfect Have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever waxed? No? I have not. Okay, I was is

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<v Speaker 1>probably really I'm sorry, I'm sorry, very painful. I must imagine.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you a groomer but only in the front areas?

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<v Speaker 1>You can't trim the back areas can't. Well I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>you could, but it's what's the purpose of it? Where

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<v Speaker 1>is the practicality of it? I don't like full clean

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't like clean clean yeah, like a little yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like it to be like I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to I don't want him to be super well groomed.

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<v Speaker 1>Wants man, how did we end up here? Alexis is here?

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<v Speaker 1>Alexis wait? I think, wait, do you have to leave?

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<v Speaker 1>You want to leave? Okay? Well, the first ten minutes

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<v Speaker 1>of the podcast, I love you guys dot com, I think, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know Alexis, Oh she's hilarious. I mean you just

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<v Speaker 1>look at her and you just smile. Yeah. Yeah. We

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<v Speaker 1>spent a week together in Paradise last year and there

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<v Speaker 1>was never dull moment. And as you can clearly see

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<v Speaker 1>she just continues with the humor and alexis potty jokes

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<v Speaker 1>and gotta love it. But anyways, it was good to

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<v Speaker 1>have her. So for this next segment, we are actually

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<v Speaker 1>going to be joined by Julian who's from evite UM

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<v Speaker 1>and we tease it a little bit last we know

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<v Speaker 1>you tease it on your Instagram Live a little bit. Yeah. Basically, Julian,

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<v Speaker 1>who want to introduce yourself. Basically, what we're gonna talk

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<v Speaker 1>about today is party etiquette and a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>dating etiquette hopefully as well. Oh yeah, I have lots

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<v Speaker 1>of questions. I came prepared, okay, perfect. Yeah. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Julian Um. I'm an Evite party specialist and UM. I

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<v Speaker 1>co host a weekly show on evite on Facebook page

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<v Speaker 1>called vit i Rol, which is amazing. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I was checking the website. Evite has been around you

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<v Speaker 1>guys for twenty years. Yeah, we're celebrating our twenties birthday

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<v Speaker 1>this year. That's insane. I was, um, like a really

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<v Speaker 1>bad at math. That was ten when it came out, Dean,

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<v Speaker 1>Hold are you like five seven seven? Thanks Vanessa? But

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<v Speaker 1>who would have thought like you? I was twelve. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like another level of comfort right now? Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>you know, um, alright, so can you I actually looked

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<v Speaker 1>at a couple of the videos. Um wait, there was

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<v Speaker 1>one that was really interesting because I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, that's totally me. How to go st a party?

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, oh, what does that mean? Like

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<v Speaker 1>like not going to a party? Now? How do you

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<v Speaker 1>leave a party? So? I come from a big Italian family?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really Italian? Well my mother my father's clark. My

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<v Speaker 1>mother is a jeezy just super which part of Italy

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<v Speaker 1>Northern Genoa, Genoese? Okay, I'm southern, so I'm have a

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<v Speaker 1>hard head. Yeah, spending wrong with that, but we also

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<v Speaker 1>like we're it's always awkward when you're the first person

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<v Speaker 1>that wants to leave a party. You don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be the first person to break the ice. So can

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<v Speaker 1>you give us like the dues and dones of how

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<v Speaker 1>would you go ust to party? That's a great question.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think the most important thing is don't definitely

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<v Speaker 1>be the first to leave. How do you not at all?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that you don't want to be the

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<v Speaker 1>first person to jump ship. I think though you wait

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<v Speaker 1>to like the atmosphere is a little quiet and then

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<v Speaker 1>I think you just look for like a quick exit

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<v Speaker 1>and get out of there. I think you usually like

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<v Speaker 1>snap a picture of the party in that way when

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<v Speaker 1>you're leaving. You can text them later saying hey, I

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<v Speaker 1>had a great time, thanks for having me there, and

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<v Speaker 1>then they're like, okay, so they actually showed up. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>glad about that. I um, yeah, I still haven't mastered that.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I have to try that. I'm the king

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<v Speaker 1>of the Irish exit. Whenever at a bar with all

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<v Speaker 1>my friends. Yeah, well that's what we call it. At

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<v Speaker 1>least one emeralds around, they're still partying hard. I just

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<v Speaker 1>ordered Ubert, don't say word to anyone and just check.

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<v Speaker 1>See that's what I'm bad at. So I've been in

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<v Speaker 1>our culture. You have to say bye to everybody. So

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<v Speaker 1>even if you had a party with like fifty people,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to go around and kiss, kiss everyone on

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<v Speaker 1>the cheek and you know, say you're good byes. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not used to I guess doing the Irish exit exit. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think sometimes you say like hey, I have to

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<v Speaker 1>take a quick phone call outside real quick, or sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you just say I have to go use the restroom,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you just restrooms. That was a good one

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<v Speaker 1>with me, and people believe it. Yeah, bathroom is that rude?

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<v Speaker 1>Just vanish? I mean it maybe a little rude. At

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<v Speaker 1>the same time, like, I think you should also look

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<v Speaker 1>out for yourself. I don't think you wanna have to

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<v Speaker 1>go through goodbyes with like twenty or twenty five different people.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the more you get out the better, and

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<v Speaker 1>then only that the party host doesn't have to worry

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<v Speaker 1>about like going through the process being like thank for

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<v Speaker 1>coming and everything. They can go back to join the party.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess enough for years. I my move was I

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<v Speaker 1>have to get something out of my car. That's one.

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<v Speaker 1>People have found it very charming. We took a poll

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<v Speaker 1>and everyone everyone. But that's what kind of questions you

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<v Speaker 1>have for Julian. Oh well, okay, so I know there's

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<v Speaker 1>like another video that you guys have what to do

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<v Speaker 1>when you run into your ex at a party, which

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<v Speaker 1>I found hilarious. At one point it was don't let

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<v Speaker 1>your ex no you've been secretly stalking them on Instad's true. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we all kind of Yeah, so it's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, don't act as if you know anything that's

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<v Speaker 1>going on in their life, like just casually asked them like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, how's it going with work? So I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to actually ask you, how would you since this

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<v Speaker 1>is you know, help I secon dating. So you're at

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<v Speaker 1>a party and there's like someone that you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>really attracted to. How would you approach them and possibly

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<v Speaker 1>get their contact info? Is it now more appropriate to

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<v Speaker 1>ask them for their Instagram had ndle, their Twitter handle

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<v Speaker 1>or do you just you know, go old school and

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<v Speaker 1>ask them for their number? I think you go old school.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I was listening to Your Guys last episode,

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<v Speaker 1>and so many people were saying how happy they were

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<v Speaker 1>when men come up to them and they're just really

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<v Speaker 1>like and you know, hey, this is my name, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>love to take you out or something like that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what people should start doing. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it almost makes you more authentic. I don't know. When

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<v Speaker 1>you if someone wants to come up to me and

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<v Speaker 1>be like, hey, so what's your Instagram handle? I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>is this someone I really want to invest some time?

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel I don't know deed. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>were to ask a girl for her number and she

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<v Speaker 1>would respond, well, um, because this is what I I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of do. Sometimes I'm like, well, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to give out my number, but we can become Instagram friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that Is that a turn off? Is that? I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's an appropriate way to handle it too, because

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<v Speaker 1>then you have the opportunity to creep their Instagram a know,

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit more about them, a little more about them,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the d M works just as well as

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<v Speaker 1>a text message. So that is true. It kind of

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<v Speaker 1>allows a little bit more of a comfortability between the

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<v Speaker 1>two of them. But I do appreciate that the tradition

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<v Speaker 1>ality probably not a word of just giving is a

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<v Speaker 1>word or asking for a phone number, um, just because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we're moving away from a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>things that we used to do that obviously we're proven

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<v Speaker 1>to be successful and now we're kind of adopting our own,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, millennial ways of doing things, and it's just,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I think it's important also stand out from

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<v Speaker 1>the crowd. I mean, if you're hopefully you're floating with

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<v Speaker 1>someone who you know is super attractive, and so you

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<v Speaker 1>want to make sure that you're not just another number,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you know, you don't want to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that you're just not like follower nine hundred or follower

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<v Speaker 1>A thousand and twenty. You want to make sure, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>this is actually someone who who is invested in seeing

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<v Speaker 1>this go somewhere. So this EVI I r L that

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<v Speaker 1>you do every other Friday. You said, what do you

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<v Speaker 1>guys typically talk about on that besides we uh no,

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead, I'm sorry. Like this, like this party etique

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<v Speaker 1>type stuff, is that mostly what it is? Or is

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<v Speaker 1>specific situations that you might find yourself in. It's really everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we jump from party etiquette. We we invite

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<v Speaker 1>guests on to make different recipes, food, drink, We do

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of challenges like party fail stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>We try and just try to make it feel more

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<v Speaker 1>realistic and relax. I feel like a lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>people get so stressed out when they're plenty the party

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<v Speaker 1>has to go perfectly, and parties aren't like that. Life

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<v Speaker 1>isn't like that. So I think we try to stress like,

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<v Speaker 1>have fun, enjoy yourselves. It's just a good time nice. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I definitely enjoyed myself at most of the

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<v Speaker 1>parties I go to. Tuesday Saturday night, Vanessa sends me

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<v Speaker 1>a video of her probably two fifty feet away from me,

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<v Speaker 1>just zooming in very slowly, very slowly, and then there

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<v Speaker 1>it is like a mosh pit with me and all

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<v Speaker 1>my friends is jumping up and you couldn't be missed.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I have to send him this. It

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<v Speaker 1>was too good. But you did have a good time.

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<v Speaker 1>I still have blisters. So last week we had Tiffany

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<v Speaker 1>and Caleb um for the greatest wedding ever donated. They

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<v Speaker 1>had their wedding on Saturday. We both attended and I

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<v Speaker 1>still have blissers on my feet for dancing the entire night.

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<v Speaker 1>It was such a beautiful event. Yeah, two great people,

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<v Speaker 1>Dean's friends. Yeah, no, it was wonderful. Yeah I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. Um So, do you want to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>us about any other videos that you guys have? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so if you um so, We we have so many

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<v Speaker 1>different videos we have. We obviously do like a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of d I Y s and recipe would do a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of original stuff. We interview a lot of experts

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<v Speaker 1>in their field and we're just trying our best for

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<v Speaker 1>people who are planning parties or planning get together is

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make it a little easier for them to

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<v Speaker 1>have the initiative to want to hang out with people connect.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like nowadays so many people are connected through

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<v Speaker 1>phones and computers and your tablet. You don't have the

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to see people face to face. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>and that should be sorry, and I think I interrupted.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that should be when I want to So

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<v Speaker 1>I have a roommate out in l A and we're

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<v Speaker 1>always like, oh, we want to throw a party. We

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<v Speaker 1>want to be you know, a hub where people come

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<v Speaker 1>and meet each other and you create new friendships. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a great way to to meet maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a significant other. Yeah, I think it's so many times

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<v Speaker 1>we're just stuck by being like, you know, someone met

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<v Speaker 1>so and so on a dating app or or someone

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<v Speaker 1>was connected by a friend they met on Instagram. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think, uh, we should pride ourselves to get out

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<v Speaker 1>a little more. You don't know who you may meet.

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<v Speaker 1>It may just end up being a friend, but that

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<v Speaker 1>friend may connect you with the person he may may

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<v Speaker 1>fall in love with now that hit it with. So,

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<v Speaker 1>So here's my issue with I think I have party

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<v Speaker 1>phobi like throwing a party phobia. I hate throwing parties

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<v Speaker 1>for the simple fact I'm scared no one's going to

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<v Speaker 1>show up. That's that's an ego thing, right is it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean when I did my charity, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>no one's going to show up and think anythink it

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<v Speaker 1>blows back down to ego. Yeah. I think it's because

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<v Speaker 1>you're it's like, you don't want to fail at something,

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<v Speaker 1>and also you're putting yourself out there. You don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, if there are there will be people

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<v Speaker 1>who will come. You don't want there to be like

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<v Speaker 1>three people at a party and then everyone's like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, this loser through a party. But that never

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<v Speaker 1>really happens. There's always a lot of people that show

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<v Speaker 1>and so that leads me into my second fear of

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<v Speaker 1>throwing a party is that if people do show up,

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<v Speaker 1>that I just throw a bad party. So it's good

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<v Speaker 1>so EVI offers the support and like the information that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of allows you to have an exciting party for

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<v Speaker 1>your friends. Yeah. I mean, I think at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the day, if you're inviting over good friends and

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<v Speaker 1>good family to celebrate, I think a party can never

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<v Speaker 1>really be bad. I think, trust me, I can probably

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<v Speaker 1>throw a pretty bad party. I mean, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>there's something really special and having also like a party

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<v Speaker 1>that maybe a little bad. I mean a party where

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<v Speaker 1>someone breaks something or something embarrassing happens. I mean those

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<v Speaker 1>are the ones that you end up telling the stories

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<v Speaker 1>about for you. Can you and you share a story

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<v Speaker 1>about maybe the most memorable party that you've been to. Yes, okay, So, um,

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<v Speaker 1>one Halloween, I threw a Halloween party where I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to propose to my husband, and UM, it was

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<v Speaker 1>so embarrassing because, um, a bunch of people showed up,

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<v Speaker 1>and then four or five people showed up who I

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<v Speaker 1>had no clue who they were, and and as I

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<v Speaker 1>was proposing to them, they started chanting and screaming at

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<v Speaker 1>the top of their lungs, like positively or what do

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<v Speaker 1>you mean? No, It's just like they were just making

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<v Speaker 1>noise and everything in the middle of this morning. Everyone

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<v Speaker 1>else had who were coming, everyone else who was there

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<v Speaker 1>and what was going on? But these people had been invited.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what happens with every party. Friends show up with friends.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was kind of awkward because I had to

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<v Speaker 1>repeat the question really yeah, oh no, But I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it would also ended up being something really cool. You

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<v Speaker 1>you look back on it and you're like, did he

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<v Speaker 1>not hear the first time he did? But I just

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I want to make it clear to everyone

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<v Speaker 1>here that this is going as smoothly as possible. And

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<v Speaker 1>for the record, I do see a wedding band on

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<v Speaker 1>your fingers, So that's twice. Basically, Yeah, I actually have

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<v Speaker 1>a similar stories. So my um, I think, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>Halloween everyone gets a chance to really be themselves or

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a day you can be someone else that

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<v Speaker 1>you always wanted to be. So my sister through when

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<v Speaker 1>I was still living at home at my mom's house,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom was on vacation, and my sister and I

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<v Speaker 1>were like, oh, let's throw a Halloween party since, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, good old school Italian family, like you're not

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<v Speaker 1>allowed doing any of these kinds of things. So for

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<v Speaker 1>us was like, oh my god, we're throwing a Halloween party.

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<v Speaker 1>Mommy doesn't know, she's the way, we're going to buy alcoholic.

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<v Speaker 1>We invited people, and that was the day my sister

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<v Speaker 1>met her now husband and now baby daddy. Yeah, over

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<v Speaker 1>twelve years ago. So there you go. For the listeners

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<v Speaker 1>out there, go to parties, you know, have a party,

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<v Speaker 1>have a party, have a party, so you never know

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<v Speaker 1>who you'll meet, and you may end up meeting like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, just a friend, but like that may be

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<v Speaker 1>a great friendship you have, or that friend may introduce

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<v Speaker 1>you to someone who's like you spend your life with.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think either way, just like, go out and

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<v Speaker 1>meet people. How did hang outside? How did you meet

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<v Speaker 1>your husband? We met on Instagram? Okay, okay, we can.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we hear that story because we've gotten out a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of times now he lib and Tiffany last night too,

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<v Speaker 1>last week. Oh yeah, I would love to. So he's

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<v Speaker 1>a cookbook author and a food photographer. So he was

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<v Speaker 1>using the hashtag food and foodie and I'm a big

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<v Speaker 1>I love eating, and so I was following people who

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<v Speaker 1>did that. So we connected on that and we just

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<v Speaker 1>literally started commenting on one of his posts, I believe

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<v Speaker 1>it was of donuts, and there's like sixty comments going

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<v Speaker 1>back and forth, and finally asked him out in the

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<v Speaker 1>comments in the comment Yeah, we go back looking at

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<v Speaker 1>and we're like, no one else's commenting. So if anyone

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<v Speaker 1>just like it, totally starts sneaking on this comment section,

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<v Speaker 1>like oh my god, well the Instagram his wonderful marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>You couldn't meet people through social media? We had, um,

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<v Speaker 1>someone come on from a dating service. That was nine

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars. That was last week. That was last week? Correct, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I have such a horrible memory the elite dating Dean.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so proud of you. I do my homework trying

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<v Speaker 1>to say I doubt anyway. All this to say is

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<v Speaker 1>you could meet your future ye if other it's nowadays,

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<v Speaker 1>there's there really is no excuse to get yourself out.

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<v Speaker 1>There's you know, we have so many opportunities to meet people.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, like, don't deny yourself any opportunity,

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<v Speaker 1>either out of fear or if you're having trouble meeting

0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:17.520
<v Speaker 1>people online, which is tough. You know, it's scary when

0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:19.840
<v Speaker 1>you go on like Instagram or Facebook and like you

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<v Speaker 1>see the perfect life people are living because they only

0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:24.480
<v Speaker 1>put that out so you you know, you're tend to

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<v Speaker 1>get a little discourage. You're like, well, I'm not living

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<v Speaker 1>my best life personally because I know, so how could

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<v Speaker 1>I meet this person? But in reality, we're all the same,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we're all fighting the same struggle. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think you don't really realize that until you get out

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<v Speaker 1>and actually connect with people face to face. You're like, oh,

0:19:36.320 --> 0:19:39.600
<v Speaker 1>this person two is having trouble with with rent or

0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:43.399
<v Speaker 1>when you know, whatever problems that we all endure. Absolutely so,

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<v Speaker 1>so more focusing on evite. Then what do you guys

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<v Speaker 1>typically like to because you guys kind of specialize in

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<v Speaker 1>the party invites, but then you're now you're kind of

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<v Speaker 1>spinning off these d A Y m all these types

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<v Speaker 1>of recipes and stuff, right, yeah, So so what's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of been like the staple of for the past twenty years,

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<v Speaker 1>since you guys been around for so long. Yeah, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>we're the leading online in texting aitation service. Our our

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<v Speaker 1>company mission is to bring people together face to face,

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<v Speaker 1>and while the bread and butter of our company, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>are the invitations and allowing people to make that process easier. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>we really believe that we want to help you make

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<v Speaker 1>your party planning process as easy as easy as possible

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<v Speaker 1>and encourage you to do it. I think, like I would,

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<v Speaker 1>like we were talking about before, so many people get

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<v Speaker 1>afraid about throwing parties or so many people think that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a party is a huge endeavor and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not you know, simple get together with Like like what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing right now, you know, considered in the studio, right, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we're having a good time. We're enjoying each other's company.

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<v Speaker 1>And the more we spend time doing that, and the

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<v Speaker 1>way if I can teach you either to make a

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<v Speaker 1>you know, good good recipe of a delicious food or

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<v Speaker 1>a delicious drink, you know better. I think people when

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<v Speaker 1>when they hear the word party, they think something like

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<v Speaker 1>super elaborate. It could be like a dinner party. YEA

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<v Speaker 1>many times have we gotten together with brunch? Will not

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<v Speaker 1>us personally all that we should? You should, definitely, but

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<v Speaker 1>I mean especially now that I know your husband loves food. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he makes so good. Don't worry about me, guys, but

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<v Speaker 1>speaking right now, but you know, like it's it's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>even coffee, like grabbing coffee. I think sometimes we tend

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<v Speaker 1>to like hype everything up so much in our mind

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<v Speaker 1>that in a way it kind of um it cannibalizes

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<v Speaker 1>us from actually doing anything. And I feel like we

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be like that. We should all just have fun

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<v Speaker 1>and chill. Well. I love karaoke, So if I throw

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<v Speaker 1>a karaoke party at my place, would you guys like

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<v Speaker 1>to join? I would love to. What's your favorite song? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>I like um Outcast? Yeah, it's like that gets the

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<v Speaker 1>crowd going saying, I wonder all by Oasis. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>good one, you really feel. I'm Africa from Toto. Wait,

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<v Speaker 1>how does that go? I Kiss the Rains down and

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<v Speaker 1>a Africa Bless the Rains. Oh my god, I've been

0:21:54.880 --> 0:21:57.520
<v Speaker 1>singing this song for so much, and this is why

0:21:57.560 --> 0:21:59.479
<v Speaker 1>I have to go to karaoke because I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>any lyrics, so I need stuff up on this space

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<v Speaker 1>there for you the entire Yeah. Yeah, so karaoke party,

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<v Speaker 1>karaoke party, but make sure you use even Yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll send you any um so do give any party

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<v Speaker 1>words for the listeners out there. Maybe want to plug

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<v Speaker 1>the website or anything like that. Yeah, so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>find us on social media. We're at evid our. Our

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<v Speaker 1>next show is eighteenth on our Facebook page. It's at

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<v Speaker 1>ten ay and Pacific standard time. Um, so make sure

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<v Speaker 1>to check it out. And Vanessa and I be guests.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, we love Oh my god, guys, I

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<v Speaker 1>love d I Y stuff. Would do so much more

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<v Speaker 1>than that, but yeah, come on, okay, no, but I

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<v Speaker 1>know you guys also do d Y stuff. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, come on, so you can use her for

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<v Speaker 1>the d I Y stuff and you can use me

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<v Speaker 1>for everything else. I don't know. I'm not good at

0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:39.159
<v Speaker 1>d I y stuff. You know what, neither am I,

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<v Speaker 1>So you'd be a perfect you guys should come on.

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<v Speaker 1>When was that May? Yeah, I'm going to be in Kentucky,

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<v Speaker 1>but the following two weeks from the following the fallow Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so we're every other week a second. Yeah, don't give

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<v Speaker 1>me that, look, Vanessa, I'm gonna a rock climbing trip

0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:57.119
<v Speaker 1>to Red River Gorge. Okay, I was just wondering what

0:22:57.160 --> 0:23:00.280
<v Speaker 1>was going on climbing. That's amazing. Yeah, one of times

0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:02.000
<v Speaker 1>we'll go in a way, we'll have a party here

0:23:02.040 --> 0:23:03.760
<v Speaker 1>inviting me to a lot of things. I don't want

0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:06.400
<v Speaker 1>to over commit, but I'm down And I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>the other thing, over committing to, like saying yes to

0:23:08.480 --> 0:23:10.920
<v Speaker 1>a party that you maybe not want to think. That's

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<v Speaker 1>super hard too, because nowadays everyone says yes to everything

0:23:13.920 --> 0:23:16.680
<v Speaker 1>with the hope that like, oh, I'll just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>And I hate myself for it too. I do it

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<v Speaker 1>all the time, and it's like, at this you should

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<v Speaker 1>be a little more realistic when you say yes the stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, like people understand when they're

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<v Speaker 1>throwing to get together a party when they're just hanging

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<v Speaker 1>out that people are going to say, No, that's just life,

0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:31.840
<v Speaker 1>you know. Don't don't let that stop you from having

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<v Speaker 1>a good time. Perfect. Well, thank you for joining us, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>for having me. I appreciate you. Thank you so much. Um,

0:23:38.359 --> 0:23:40.280
<v Speaker 1>incredible story. That's two weeks in a row. We have

0:23:40.400 --> 0:23:43.680
<v Speaker 1>someone that met their significant other now yeah, now husband

0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:46.960
<v Speaker 1>because Caleb RT now married. Maybe one day we'll have

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:51.040
<v Speaker 1>a story like that too. No not together, not together

0:23:54.240 --> 0:23:59.560
<v Speaker 1>maybe no, but you should have seen deep an interview

0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:03.080
<v Speaker 1>that in stuff there's a romance and our own personal stories.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I was commenting on your Instagram live yesterday

0:24:05.080 --> 0:24:07.320
<v Speaker 1>to get a single. I did not see you commenting.

0:24:07.359 --> 0:24:10.200
<v Speaker 1>We're actually now Facebook Instagram friends. I was like, yeah,

0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:13.840
<v Speaker 1>I thought I am team Danessa over here. What about

0:24:13.880 --> 0:24:22.000
<v Speaker 1>the Dean anyway? For me? Thank you, thank you. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel politter already. I feel like our etiquette as a

0:24:27.320 --> 0:24:33.080
<v Speaker 1>whole just skyrock did um if I may polite? Um.

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<v Speaker 1>My wife said to me last night Mother's Day is Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>and she, my wife, is in charge of getting our

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<v Speaker 1>parents gifts, which I know was not fair, and it's

0:24:40.920 --> 0:24:43.640
<v Speaker 1>wonderful that she does that. But she does gifts from

0:24:43.640 --> 0:24:47.159
<v Speaker 1>my mother, my father on Father's Day, their birthdays. She

0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:49.720
<v Speaker 1>takes care of it. I'm very that's a great wife.

0:24:49.720 --> 0:24:52.440
<v Speaker 1>It's a great wife. She said to me last night,

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<v Speaker 1>your mom texted me and said, don't get me anything

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<v Speaker 1>for Mother's Day. And honestly, I didn't have any ideas anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So can you just send her some flowers or something.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to put that on you. I said, this fine.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I should get her. I should get

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<v Speaker 1>her Sherry's berries. And my wife said, wait a minute,

0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:08.160
<v Speaker 1>is that those chocolate cover berries? Yeah, okay, get those

0:25:08.160 --> 0:25:11.119
<v Speaker 1>from me. Mom, whatever you want, but get those from me.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I'm getting my mom and my wife Sherry's

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<v Speaker 1>berries for Mother's Day. That's a great idea. And Mother's

0:25:16.680 --> 0:25:18.960
<v Speaker 1>Day just three or it is on Sunday. It's on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>May lucky numb. What is today Tuesday? We're talking five

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<v Speaker 1>days and five days, and Sherry's Burriers can deliver within

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<v Speaker 1>those five days. I did this last night, absolutely no worries. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I agree. I think people should be considering

0:25:32.400 --> 0:25:34.640
<v Speaker 1>alternative gifts for their mothers for Mother's Day. The flowers,

0:25:34.640 --> 0:25:36.480
<v Speaker 1>of course, they're great, they're beautiful. Maybe you can even

0:25:36.480 --> 0:25:39.000
<v Speaker 1>include the flowers with you can. I can. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting. I'm getting a dozen rainbow roses and the

0:25:43.000 --> 0:25:45.639
<v Speaker 1>dozen chocolate covered berries, and not all the same. There

0:25:45.640 --> 0:25:47.399
<v Speaker 1>are an assorted berries and you can get them in

0:25:47.440 --> 0:25:50.280
<v Speaker 1>different chocolates, right, milk chocolate, dark chocolate, white chocolate. That's

0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:52.120
<v Speaker 1>what all happens. And then the rainbow roses. You could

0:25:52.119 --> 0:25:55.439
<v Speaker 1>also get rainbow tulips. It's about the same price from

0:25:55.560 --> 0:25:57.800
<v Speaker 1>Sherry's Berries. And when I did, I clicked on the

0:25:57.840 --> 0:26:00.280
<v Speaker 1>microphone in the corner, I put in the code day

0:26:00.440 --> 0:26:03.679
<v Speaker 1>and there it was. It said radio deal unlocked and

0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:06.080
<v Speaker 1>they're all my options. That's us. That's the radio, is it?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? I used to buy flowers all the time

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<v Speaker 1>for whether it's just like friends, for myself, for ex

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:12.960
<v Speaker 1>girlfriends that I was dating at the time, and I

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<v Speaker 1>always saw that little microphone in the upper right hand corner,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've never been able to utilize it before. So

0:26:17.440 --> 0:26:19.960
<v Speaker 1>what's great now is our listeners that notice that microphone

0:26:19.960 --> 0:26:22.160
<v Speaker 1>are able to do it by just putting in dating

0:26:22.200 --> 0:26:25.520
<v Speaker 1>into the little microphone area. If you go to berries

0:26:25.560 --> 0:26:27.800
<v Speaker 1>dot com, that's it, really berries dot com. I still

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe they own that, and I think they start

0:26:31.320 --> 0:26:34.320
<v Speaker 1>off at what they got some really great deals on there,

0:26:34.359 --> 0:26:36.879
<v Speaker 1>which if you've ever gotten flowers delivered before, they're like

0:26:36.920 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 1>fifty sixty seventy dollars for just a bouquet flowers. But

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<v Speaker 1>what Cherry's Berries does is flowers and chocolates and berries.

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<v Speaker 1>You can do, and you can do, or you can do.

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<v Speaker 1>All of it blows my mind. So basically, what you

0:26:49.359 --> 0:26:50.880
<v Speaker 1>can do is go to berries dot com to get

0:26:50.880 --> 0:26:54.720
<v Speaker 1>your fresh, juicy strawberries dipped in milk, dark and white chocolate, um,

0:26:54.800 --> 0:26:58.560
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is. Even the mixtures, what are those called?

0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:02.040
<v Speaker 1>The swirls they do the swizzles. I'm a fan of swirls. Um,

0:27:02.119 --> 0:27:05.280
<v Speaker 1>you choose your delivery day, it's guaranteed customer satisfaction always

0:27:05.280 --> 0:27:07.000
<v Speaker 1>is number one for them, or you get your money back.

0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:09.240
<v Speaker 1>It's more than just berries, like we've been talking about.

0:27:09.240 --> 0:27:13.320
<v Speaker 1>They've added new treats like cake pops, strawberry cheesecake bites,

0:27:13.440 --> 0:27:17.760
<v Speaker 1>and artisans artisanal chocolate truffles. I'm gonna say right now,

0:27:17.800 --> 0:27:20.400
<v Speaker 1>my favorite dessert of all time is cheesecake. So if

0:27:20.400 --> 0:27:22.280
<v Speaker 1>you guys feel like getting me one of these things.

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:25.439
<v Speaker 1>I'll definitely take the strawberry cheesecake bites gave Merries berries

0:27:25.440 --> 0:27:28.240
<v Speaker 1>and and I get the so okay, so I buy

0:27:28.280 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 1>you the Sherry's berries and then I get yeah, getting

0:27:32.400 --> 0:27:35.359
<v Speaker 1>of the berries. Okay, that's fine. But you know, obviously

0:27:35.359 --> 0:27:37.040
<v Speaker 1>what I'm gonna do is go to berries dot com

0:27:37.080 --> 0:27:38.920
<v Speaker 1>and put it the code dating in save myself a

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:41.440
<v Speaker 1>little bit of money. Obviously make you really happy on

0:27:41.440 --> 0:27:43.920
<v Speaker 1>on Mother's Day, which you're kind of like a mother,

0:27:44.040 --> 0:27:45.919
<v Speaker 1>Like I feel like I kind of am. You know,

0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:49.760
<v Speaker 1>I have like my nephew, I have my students, your students, pets.

0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:55.440
<v Speaker 1>I do not have, well my sister's dog. But you're

0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 1>a mother, all right. But I'm getting you at Sherry's

0:27:58.000 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 1>Berriers from Mother's Day one more time Barries dot com.

0:28:00.840 --> 0:28:03.400
<v Speaker 1>Use code dating, get a great deal on Mother's Day,

0:28:03.400 --> 0:28:05.400
<v Speaker 1>and I promise whoever you get it for, I will

0:28:05.480 --> 0:28:09.320
<v Speaker 1>not be disappointed. If we can, I'd like to get

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<v Speaker 1>rid of some of the rumors that have been swirling

0:28:11.520 --> 0:28:14.639
<v Speaker 1>about you, Dean. Yeah. In fact, Eastern has seen some

0:28:14.800 --> 0:28:18.840
<v Speaker 1>I know on Reddit, Reddit, what is what is one

0:28:18.880 --> 0:28:20.920
<v Speaker 1>you've seen? Like for sure that we want to just

0:28:20.960 --> 0:28:22.680
<v Speaker 1>bounce off and are there any truth to this or not.

0:28:23.040 --> 0:28:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I've been wondering this personally as well as the members

0:28:25.640 --> 0:28:28.720
<v Speaker 1>of the Internet at large. They've been pictures with you

0:28:28.840 --> 0:28:30.760
<v Speaker 1>with a certain young lady whose name may or may

0:28:30.800 --> 0:28:34.760
<v Speaker 1>not beginning with a letter K, named Christina, and everyone

0:28:34.840 --> 0:28:40.080
<v Speaker 1>thinks you're with her Christie. No. No, And this is

0:28:40.120 --> 0:28:41.720
<v Speaker 1>the thing too. We just talked. We just discussed this

0:28:41.840 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 1>very briefly. There have been so many rumors circulating about

0:28:45.000 --> 0:28:47.960
<v Speaker 1>me over the past seven days, and it just blows

0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:49.960
<v Speaker 1>my mind where any of this stuff even comes from.

0:28:50.040 --> 0:28:52.040
<v Speaker 1>I guess people are wondering what your dating life is like.

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I share it every day on this

0:28:55.640 --> 0:28:57.600
<v Speaker 1>every week on this podcast. Yeah, but I feel like

0:28:57.680 --> 0:29:00.480
<v Speaker 1>if you take a picture with someone who's like the

0:29:00.720 --> 0:29:02.480
<v Speaker 1>of the opposite sex, they're gonna be like, oh, I

0:29:02.520 --> 0:29:04.520
<v Speaker 1>guess they're dating. Or if they see you walking around

0:29:04.560 --> 0:29:07.400
<v Speaker 1>with someone, they're going to assume you know that you

0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:09.840
<v Speaker 1>guys are dating. It's I mean, I guess. But so

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:12.000
<v Speaker 1>even like on Instagram or something, sometimes it's hard to

0:29:12.040 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 1>see like every comment and all that kind of stuff.

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:16.080
<v Speaker 1>But sometimes you'll see like these fake Instagram accounts get

0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:17.720
<v Speaker 1>made and then leave comments like I remember this one

0:29:17.760 --> 0:29:21.000
<v Speaker 1>specifically from like four or five days ago that was like, Dean,

0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:23.280
<v Speaker 1>how could you You're such a jerk, Like You're making

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:25.120
<v Speaker 1>out with Kendall during the day at stage Coach and

0:29:25.160 --> 0:29:27.320
<v Speaker 1>then making out with Christina later that night at stage Coach,

0:29:27.400 --> 0:29:29.360
<v Speaker 1>And I'm just like looking at it, like I wasn't

0:29:29.400 --> 0:29:31.600
<v Speaker 1>making out with either the people at Stage Coach. This

0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:34.600
<v Speaker 1>is absolutely mind blowing and like and this, like this

0:29:35.320 --> 0:29:37.080
<v Speaker 1>narrative is being put out there by people that I

0:29:37.080 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 1>have absolutely no idea what they're talking about, which means

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 1>people that are lesser informed see that and potentially could

0:29:41.680 --> 0:29:45.120
<v Speaker 1>believe it, which is just so frustrating. That's the Internet,

0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:47.560
<v Speaker 1>and I keep saying, don't believe everything you read, of course.

0:29:47.600 --> 0:29:48.960
<v Speaker 1>And then and then I jump on Twitter like a

0:29:49.040 --> 0:29:51.240
<v Speaker 1>day or two after that, and I see an article

0:29:51.280 --> 0:29:53.600
<v Speaker 1>written by like celeb Gossip or something that was talking

0:29:53.640 --> 0:29:56.160
<v Speaker 1>about how Dean and Brandy Cyrus are now dating each

0:29:56.200 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 1>other and Dean is just in a data until he

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:03.800
<v Speaker 1>leaves her Bachelor in Paradise come June first, and I'm

0:30:03.880 --> 0:30:05.840
<v Speaker 1>looking at this and I texted Brandy a screenshot of it.

0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 1>I was like, Brandy, I guess we're dating now, I

0:30:07.280 --> 0:30:09.440
<v Speaker 1>don't know if you knew this, boyfriends, I think like

0:30:09.480 --> 0:30:12.440
<v Speaker 1>the most alarming thing is Bachelor in Paradise. Yeah. Well,

0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:14.400
<v Speaker 1>and as I've said before, and I said, we'll continue

0:30:14.400 --> 0:30:16.440
<v Speaker 1>to say, there's no chance I'm going to Bachelor in Paradise.

0:30:16.440 --> 0:30:18.520
<v Speaker 1>I'll maybe continue to like tease the possibility of it,

0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:20.160
<v Speaker 1>but no, come on, people, there's no way I'm ever

0:30:20.240 --> 0:30:23.760
<v Speaker 1>going back there. Um, it's just so frustrating. So way, Dean,

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:25.880
<v Speaker 1>you are not which, By the way, I love both

0:30:25.960 --> 0:30:29.520
<v Speaker 1>Brandy and Christina and Kendall. I have never met Kendall,

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 1>but I'm sure she seems like a love she seems

0:30:31.320 --> 0:30:33.560
<v Speaker 1>like a lovely persons, very nice. Yeah, she's my friend,

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:37.320
<v Speaker 1>close friend. Really, because you met her, I've hugged her twice.

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:40.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that counts. It's the second hug that really

0:30:40.560 --> 0:30:44.880
<v Speaker 1>breaks the Barrea. Yeah, well, okay, so you're not dating anyone,

0:30:45.040 --> 0:30:48.040
<v Speaker 1>not dating anyone, You're not even talking to anyone, not

0:30:48.240 --> 0:30:52.920
<v Speaker 1>like flirtatiously texting anyone or exchanging any d ms at

0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:54.720
<v Speaker 1>anyone saw me at the wedding. I was just dancing

0:30:54.720 --> 0:30:57.680
<v Speaker 1>around a bunch of my bros. Would you qualify yourself

0:30:57.680 --> 0:31:01.080
<v Speaker 1>as single? A f single I think that's a very

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:04.880
<v Speaker 1>accurate qualification. When was the last time you kissed someone?

0:31:04.960 --> 0:31:10.360
<v Speaker 1>How many weeks ago? To the dirty details, it's very dirty.

0:31:10.880 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 1>Probably March March fourteen. Yeah, March fourteenth, I think is

0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:18.760
<v Speaker 1>the last day that I kiss someone. Thank you for

0:31:18.880 --> 0:31:26.160
<v Speaker 1>the precis. Because I left for India March fourteen or so.

0:31:26.200 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 1>Whichever day that I left for India, Leslie and I

0:31:28.480 --> 0:31:30.280
<v Speaker 1>drove to the airport together because she was flying back

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:33.080
<v Speaker 1>to Arkansas. And I met Leslie on Saturday. She was

0:31:33.120 --> 0:31:36.880
<v Speaker 1>lovely too. Maybe that's why people don't trust you necessarily,

0:31:37.000 --> 0:31:39.840
<v Speaker 1>because you did keep that relationship hidden for a while

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:42.920
<v Speaker 1>while Winter Games aired. You had to, and maybe that's

0:31:42.920 --> 0:31:45.000
<v Speaker 1>why people people feel like you're not as forthcoming as

0:31:45.040 --> 0:31:47.280
<v Speaker 1>you could be. But you haven't done any reality shows.

0:31:47.320 --> 0:31:49.600
<v Speaker 1>There's no reason to be hiding anything at this point. No,

0:31:50.480 --> 0:31:53.280
<v Speaker 1>except I mean I would I don't know. Yeah, you're right,

0:31:53.320 --> 0:31:55.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I would hide anything even if I did. Okay,

0:31:55.920 --> 0:31:57.560
<v Speaker 1>I just like I'm I'm just kind of the person

0:31:57.600 --> 0:31:59.520
<v Speaker 1>that's like, if something's going on, I don't care enough

0:31:59.560 --> 0:32:01.719
<v Speaker 1>to keep it secret from anyone, and I'll just talk

0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:07.760
<v Speaker 1>about it. No, candle, No, Christina, no Brandy. On the contrary,

0:32:07.800 --> 0:32:09.600
<v Speaker 1>we're actually I'm dating all three of them right now

0:32:12.520 --> 0:32:15.000
<v Speaker 1>and no paradise, no paradise for the record. And yeah,

0:32:15.080 --> 0:32:17.640
<v Speaker 1>so so we saw Leslie at the g wed this

0:32:17.680 --> 0:32:20.080
<v Speaker 1>past weekend and everything was good between us. Yeah, you

0:32:20.120 --> 0:32:23.360
<v Speaker 1>guys were talking we matched funny enough, you did? And

0:32:23.560 --> 0:32:25.640
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah you did. She had like this dark green

0:32:25.760 --> 0:32:27.680
<v Speaker 1>dress that she wore and I walked up to it

0:32:27.680 --> 0:32:29.280
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, so you decided to match me

0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 1>this for the wedding and she was like, I honestly

0:32:31.720 --> 0:32:33.080
<v Speaker 1>had no idea you were wearing that. It was like

0:32:33.120 --> 0:32:35.080
<v Speaker 1>the dress that she wore out of the limo on

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:37.920
<v Speaker 1>Chon loew season And I just like randomly picked my

0:32:37.960 --> 0:32:40.360
<v Speaker 1>tucks out at the tuxedo rental place and that sure enough,

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:42.480
<v Speaker 1>they're like the exact same color. Pretty funny, but it

0:32:42.560 --> 0:32:44.760
<v Speaker 1>was fun. Danced around quite a bit. That was a

0:32:44.800 --> 0:32:48.960
<v Speaker 1>great wedding. Vanessa burnt grilled cheese on Oh my god. Yeah,

0:32:50.400 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 1>well I was hungry. I'm always hungry, like I love

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:57.000
<v Speaker 1>to eat. Actually, wait, there was a question. Oh okay, wait,

0:32:57.120 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 1>so there was this article that I read and it's

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:05.480
<v Speaker 1>about um talking money talk with your significant other. And

0:33:06.240 --> 0:33:10.000
<v Speaker 1>if you are going into a serious before you get

0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:11.920
<v Speaker 1>into a serious relationship with someone, you should have that

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 1>money talk with the person, which I think isn't that

0:33:14.920 --> 0:33:17.520
<v Speaker 1>awkward to start talking about like, oh, what are your

0:33:17.560 --> 0:33:19.480
<v Speaker 1>bank state statements? Like do you have any debt? Or

0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:21.240
<v Speaker 1>like how much money do you save a month? And

0:33:21.280 --> 0:33:23.360
<v Speaker 1>how much money do you make? Isn't that too early

0:33:23.520 --> 0:33:26.320
<v Speaker 1>to have those types of conversations with someone before you

0:33:26.400 --> 0:33:28.920
<v Speaker 1>get into an exclusive relationship with them? But in this

0:33:29.160 --> 0:33:31.800
<v Speaker 1>in this article, they suggest that you have those conversations

0:33:31.960 --> 0:33:35.000
<v Speaker 1>before you become exclusive. Hold on, there's a point of

0:33:35.080 --> 0:33:39.360
<v Speaker 1>this story anyway. One of the questions was, um, what

0:33:39.680 --> 0:33:42.320
<v Speaker 1>hold on? Let me pull it up here. Um, that's

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:45.120
<v Speaker 1>a good question to have when you're engaged or in that. Well,

0:33:45.160 --> 0:33:48.520
<v Speaker 1>they say to have those conversations prior to that, so

0:33:48.600 --> 0:33:50.480
<v Speaker 1>then it's kind of like you can escape that situation

0:33:50.600 --> 0:33:54.040
<v Speaker 1>before like situation if they're horribly in debt. Yeah, I

0:33:54.080 --> 0:33:55.800
<v Speaker 1>don't this is what the article was saying. I'm just

0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:58.160
<v Speaker 1>like re quoting the article. But the point of this

0:33:58.280 --> 0:34:01.200
<v Speaker 1>conversation was what's the thing you'll always be willing to

0:34:01.280 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 1>spend cash on? And my answer to that is food.

0:34:05.160 --> 0:34:07.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't care how poor I am. I want to

0:34:07.280 --> 0:34:09.719
<v Speaker 1>be able to spend my money on my food. You

0:34:09.719 --> 0:34:12.320
<v Speaker 1>don't mean just basic food and shelter. You mean, like, no,

0:34:12.600 --> 0:34:14.839
<v Speaker 1>you want to eat good food, not even good food.

0:34:14.880 --> 0:34:16.800
<v Speaker 1>I just like having a fridge full of food. I

0:34:16.920 --> 0:34:19.760
<v Speaker 1>like having options, I like having snacks, I like eating.

0:34:20.280 --> 0:34:23.600
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, after it's like the no point of this conversation.

0:34:24.040 --> 0:34:26.080
<v Speaker 1>But after the wedding, I got home and I'm like,

0:34:26.120 --> 0:34:28.480
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I'm starving. So I made myself a

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 1>grill cheese and I burnt it. So that's the conversation

0:34:31.160 --> 0:34:33.040
<v Speaker 1>that we were having about my my burnt grill cheese.

0:34:33.040 --> 0:34:34.560
<v Speaker 1>I thought it was a burnt piece of French toast

0:34:34.600 --> 0:34:37.239
<v Speaker 1>at first, but it was my grilled cheese. Um. But

0:34:37.360 --> 0:34:38.879
<v Speaker 1>that is an interesting topic, and I think that both

0:34:38.960 --> 0:34:41.440
<v Speaker 1>Mark and Easton canswer that best if you want to.

0:34:41.600 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 1>Of course, like, at what point in your relationship did

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:45.879
<v Speaker 1>you have a conversation with finding about finances with your

0:34:45.880 --> 0:34:48.720
<v Speaker 1>significant other. I'll go first because it's a pretty short answer. Remember,

0:34:48.719 --> 0:34:50.480
<v Speaker 1>my wife was very young when we first met. But

0:34:50.560 --> 0:34:52.279
<v Speaker 1>you did manage to accumulate quite a bit of debt

0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:53.880
<v Speaker 1>in the first couple of years of our relationship, just

0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:55.440
<v Speaker 1>going to school and living out here. And there's some

0:34:55.520 --> 0:34:57.000
<v Speaker 1>long story there I don't have to get into. But

0:34:57.600 --> 0:35:00.359
<v Speaker 1>um I took it upon myself working at full time

0:35:00.440 --> 0:35:02.560
<v Speaker 1>job at Disneyland at the time, So I paid off

0:35:02.600 --> 0:35:04.680
<v Speaker 1>for debt because we all we both knew where this

0:35:04.840 --> 0:35:06.920
<v Speaker 1>was going. That sounds like an amazing job. By the way,

0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:09.040
<v Speaker 1>it was a great job. I hosted who Wants to

0:35:09.080 --> 0:35:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Be a Millionaire? Show What Yes at disneyl Hand on television.

0:35:13.120 --> 0:35:15.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm sitting next to a celebrity, That's right, and uh,

0:35:15.640 --> 0:35:17.719
<v Speaker 1>it was the best job I've ever had to this day.

0:35:18.040 --> 0:35:20.680
<v Speaker 1>But anyway, um, so, so we took care of that

0:35:20.719 --> 0:35:23.239
<v Speaker 1>because if you're both on the same page, then everything's fine.

0:35:23.320 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 1>And so I paid our stuff off because I don't

0:35:25.040 --> 0:35:26.320
<v Speaker 1>want that to be I don't want to be saddled

0:35:26.360 --> 0:35:28.400
<v Speaker 1>with that once we do get married. Let's take care

0:35:28.440 --> 0:35:30.239
<v Speaker 1>of that, because I feel like, if they're the one

0:35:30.640 --> 0:35:33.800
<v Speaker 1>and the love is there, there's no situation financially you

0:35:33.880 --> 0:35:38.360
<v Speaker 1>can't work through together. Eastern we are. You know, my

0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:41.160
<v Speaker 1>wife and I had been friends for almost a decade

0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:44.239
<v Speaker 1>before we started dating, and uh, we already knew each

0:35:44.280 --> 0:35:47.759
<v Speaker 1>other's situation. Just from that, Like it came just over

0:35:47.800 --> 0:35:49.799
<v Speaker 1>the years, Like she'd be like, oh, my student loans

0:35:49.880 --> 0:35:52.320
<v Speaker 1>really suck. This is how much I owe in student loans,

0:35:52.400 --> 0:35:57.839
<v Speaker 1>and like I don't have much debt on my playing card.

0:35:57.920 --> 0:36:00.320
<v Speaker 1>But when we got engaged, we like sat down and

0:36:00.480 --> 0:36:03.759
<v Speaker 1>compared and hash out the numbers, but like it wasn't

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:05.160
<v Speaker 1>anything that was going to make or break. So this

0:36:05.280 --> 0:36:07.560
<v Speaker 1>was post engagement though. Yeah, so like the actually the

0:36:07.600 --> 0:36:09.560
<v Speaker 1>time we actually had the conversation was when we realize

0:36:09.600 --> 0:36:12.120
<v Speaker 1>our finances would be join, you know, we'd be combining things.

0:36:12.560 --> 0:36:13.800
<v Speaker 1>I guess you want to make sure I didn't have

0:36:13.840 --> 0:36:16.400
<v Speaker 1>like a secret account or something like that. It is

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:20.040
<v Speaker 1>definitely an interesting topic. But like for me specifically, I've

0:36:20.040 --> 0:36:22.359
<v Speaker 1>been pretty poor, like my entire life growing up until

0:36:22.400 --> 0:36:25.440
<v Speaker 1>I was twenty four years old, I've been like I

0:36:25.520 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 1>live paycheck to paycheck, uh, and certain yeah, of course,

0:36:29.160 --> 0:36:31.719
<v Speaker 1>so I ended up until probably like right around when

0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:33.120
<v Speaker 1>I moved to l A. And even then, like I

0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:35.960
<v Speaker 1>was still like struggling but doing better for myself. Um.

0:36:36.160 --> 0:36:38.240
<v Speaker 1>And so it's always been kind of like a sensitive subject,

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.359
<v Speaker 1>I guess just because I wasn't super confident with where

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:43.720
<v Speaker 1>I was at. Um. But things have gotten better obviously recently,

0:36:44.200 --> 0:36:46.400
<v Speaker 1>and I think I'm open more to discussing it, but

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:48.480
<v Speaker 1>not to the point where I'm like sharing my bank

0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:50.840
<v Speaker 1>account information with anyone that I'm dating. Just yeah, I

0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 1>feel like that's like an engaged thing. I mean, I

0:36:53.880 --> 0:36:55.680
<v Speaker 1>don't know. That's why I was asking throwing the question

0:36:55.719 --> 0:36:57.080
<v Speaker 1>to you guys, because I don't know when the right

0:36:57.120 --> 0:37:00.600
<v Speaker 1>time is to ask these kinds of I mean, they're important.

0:37:00.719 --> 0:37:03.960
<v Speaker 1>It's an important to cover, especially because I'm such a saver.

0:37:05.000 --> 0:37:08.920
<v Speaker 1>I save like of what I make. Yeah, I'm like, so,

0:37:10.280 --> 0:37:12.600
<v Speaker 1>I you know, my when my grandparents immigrated from Italy,

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:15.880
<v Speaker 1>they came into Canada with like nothing flip flops and

0:37:15.920 --> 0:37:19.480
<v Speaker 1>they just you know, they made their way, and um, luckily,

0:37:19.719 --> 0:37:21.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, we have the life that we have thanks

0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:23.000
<v Speaker 1>to my grandparents. So Ever, since you know, I was

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:26.680
<v Speaker 1>fourteen and I got my first job, my grandfather told me, like, Okay,

0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:28.640
<v Speaker 1>this is how you should manage your money. So I've

0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:31.239
<v Speaker 1>always been very I wouldn't say stingy, but I've been

0:37:31.400 --> 0:37:35.719
<v Speaker 1>very careful with what I spend. Um. So yeah, for me,

0:37:35.760 --> 0:37:38.279
<v Speaker 1>it's important to be with someone who appreciates the value

0:37:38.280 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 1>of a dollar. That's a deal record for a lot

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:42.319
<v Speaker 1>of people. If somebody's are real spendthrift and the other

0:37:42.360 --> 0:37:45.040
<v Speaker 1>person is super frugal, you're gonna have problems. It's funny

0:37:45.040 --> 0:37:46.480
<v Speaker 1>that we bring this up to because just so, I

0:37:46.520 --> 0:37:49.120
<v Speaker 1>had my therapy appointment yesterday, four weeks in. By the way,

0:37:49.160 --> 0:37:52.239
<v Speaker 1>it's going really well. And she talks about how not

0:37:52.360 --> 0:37:54.880
<v Speaker 1>only is she like a relationship and like a regular

0:37:54.960 --> 0:37:57.920
<v Speaker 1>type of therapist, she's also a career therapist in a

0:37:58.000 --> 0:37:59.960
<v Speaker 1>financial therapist as well. I guess which is a thing.

0:38:00.560 --> 0:38:02.360
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm butchering the title of No, you're right, this

0:38:02.400 --> 0:38:04.480
<v Speaker 1>is what it says in the article financial therapist. Yeah. So,

0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:06.120
<v Speaker 1>so we talked a little bit for maybe like twenty

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:08.440
<v Speaker 1>minutes about my spending habits and how all of us

0:38:08.480 --> 0:38:11.359
<v Speaker 1>are basically, uh, products of our parents. Like the way

0:38:11.360 --> 0:38:13.160
<v Speaker 1>we watched our parents spend is basically how we learned

0:38:13.160 --> 0:38:15.359
<v Speaker 1>how to spend our money as well. Um, And it's

0:38:15.360 --> 0:38:17.600
<v Speaker 1>just it was so interesting to hear, like because Vanessa

0:38:17.640 --> 0:38:19.759
<v Speaker 1>says she's a saver, which is incredible, eight percent of

0:38:19.800 --> 0:38:21.600
<v Speaker 1>every dollar you make, you basically save. For the most part,

0:38:22.080 --> 0:38:23.759
<v Speaker 1>I was also living at my mom's house though, so

0:38:24.040 --> 0:38:28.320
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't paying rent. Yeah, and I'm super lomaintenanced to

0:38:28.440 --> 0:38:31.160
<v Speaker 1>like I don't really have much to pay every month

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:34.600
<v Speaker 1>other than rent and maybe like insurance whatever it is. Um.

0:38:35.239 --> 0:38:36.920
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, she was like we were like sat down.

0:38:36.960 --> 0:38:38.160
<v Speaker 1>She's like, so, what have you been buying lately? And

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I was like, going through it, I was like, holy cow,

0:38:39.480 --> 0:38:41.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm spending way too much money, money that I never

0:38:42.000 --> 0:38:44.040
<v Speaker 1>would have spent before. But like, you always spend within

0:38:44.120 --> 0:38:45.800
<v Speaker 1>your means, I guess. So that's something that I'm currently

0:38:45.840 --> 0:38:48.080
<v Speaker 1>working on with my therapist now, is to control the spending.

0:38:49.080 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 1>That's a danger that we were we run into as well.

0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:52.640
<v Speaker 1>If you make more money, you spend more money, but

0:38:52.680 --> 0:38:54.640
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to. The key the key, it seems like,

0:38:54.760 --> 0:38:56.000
<v Speaker 1>and I've been told this and I don't live this,

0:38:56.080 --> 0:38:57.960
<v Speaker 1>and I wish I did. The key to long term

0:38:58.120 --> 0:39:02.239
<v Speaker 1>wealth and prosperity is to live below your means. Yes, yeah,

0:39:02.480 --> 0:39:04.640
<v Speaker 1>is to kind of keep spending like you were before

0:39:04.920 --> 0:39:06.359
<v Speaker 1>and just put away as much as you play. It's

0:39:06.360 --> 0:39:08.200
<v Speaker 1>hard to think long term though, it is, especially when

0:39:08.200 --> 0:39:10.040
<v Speaker 1>the money's coming in right. Well, you never know like

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 1>when the money's going to stop, right, So I always say,

0:39:12.719 --> 0:39:15.040
<v Speaker 1>like I was comfortable when you know, I was teaching

0:39:15.120 --> 0:39:17.560
<v Speaker 1>and I was making the salary that I was making.

0:39:17.840 --> 0:39:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I was very careful with what I was spending. And

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:21.480
<v Speaker 1>now I'm like, I'm still going to act that way.

0:39:21.520 --> 0:39:25.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm still gonna act like that's smart. Yeah, that's super respectable. Yeah.

0:39:25.560 --> 0:39:26.920
<v Speaker 1>But that's the thing I want to be able to.

0:39:26.960 --> 0:39:28.759
<v Speaker 1>You know, the person that I'm with, I want to

0:39:28.800 --> 0:39:30.960
<v Speaker 1>make sure that they are also that and you know,

0:39:31.160 --> 0:39:33.439
<v Speaker 1>have that mind frame too, because they say the number

0:39:33.480 --> 0:39:35.920
<v Speaker 1>one cause of divorce other than like lack of communication

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.239
<v Speaker 1>is financial problems and like maybe secrecy when it comes

0:39:39.280 --> 0:39:43.439
<v Speaker 1>to finances and stuff. Certainly the biggest argument arguments, Yeah,

0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:45.760
<v Speaker 1>is that to any varying degree, like if he spends

0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:47.359
<v Speaker 1>a little bit more, a little bit less, you're okay

0:39:47.400 --> 0:39:48.440
<v Speaker 1>with it? Or does it have to be kind of

0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:51.400
<v Speaker 1>like spot on? No, I just don't. I'm not materialistic,

0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:53.640
<v Speaker 1>so I don't care if you have like a Porsche,

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:56.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, like, don't spend money on a car when

0:39:56.440 --> 0:39:58.120
<v Speaker 1>for the record, let me just say this real quick.

0:39:58.320 --> 0:40:00.640
<v Speaker 1>I drove Venessa home last week. No hold on the

0:40:00.800 --> 0:40:04.440
<v Speaker 1>car felt like it was breaking down, Like is your

0:40:04.480 --> 0:40:05.640
<v Speaker 1>car going to break down on the way to my

0:40:05.680 --> 0:40:08.760
<v Speaker 1>apartment right now. I'm like, no, it's just a Jeep Vanessa.

0:40:08.800 --> 0:40:13.160
<v Speaker 1>They're allowed in there. It's three okay, No, But it

0:40:13.320 --> 0:40:14.960
<v Speaker 1>was like it didn't have doors and stuff, so I

0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:16.799
<v Speaker 1>I like it didn't have a roof that I was scared.

0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:19.560
<v Speaker 1>I was like, there's no roof. It's a jeep, you guys,

0:40:19.680 --> 0:40:21.600
<v Speaker 1>and I had didn't have doors once I put the

0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:24.680
<v Speaker 1>doors back on last week. I love your call you

0:40:26.280 --> 0:40:28.880
<v Speaker 1>right now, I'm not I'm not backpeddling. He doesn't need

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:34.759
<v Speaker 1>to have a Porsche. But I'm gonna whatever. Let's go

0:40:34.840 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 1>on to the next segment. That thing up yourself, didn't you? Um? No,

0:40:38.320 --> 0:40:40.120
<v Speaker 1>I did not. I bought it lifted and had already

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:41.560
<v Speaker 1>big thirty threes and all that kind of stuff on it.

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:44.200
<v Speaker 1>But I do plan on dropping a diesel engine into

0:40:44.239 --> 0:40:47.520
<v Speaker 1>it pretty soon. Yeah, baby, Do you spend money on

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 1>a gym membership? Um? I just cancel my gym membership

0:40:50.680 --> 0:40:52.440
<v Speaker 1>because I think I'm going to be getting one through

0:40:52.480 --> 0:40:59.879
<v Speaker 1>Beach Body. Wait for real, have you heard of Beach

0:41:00.160 --> 0:41:02.400
<v Speaker 1>on Demand? They're awesome. You don't even tell me you

0:41:02.440 --> 0:41:04.279
<v Speaker 1>don't even need a gym membership. Basically, what you do

0:41:04.400 --> 0:41:06.320
<v Speaker 1>instead of going to a gym and being in that

0:41:06.480 --> 0:41:09.000
<v Speaker 1>freaking iron cathedral with so many other people waiting your

0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:11.440
<v Speaker 1>turn to use the workout equipment whatever it is you used,

0:41:11.440 --> 0:41:13.840
<v Speaker 1>Gonna work out at home just basically like logging on

0:41:13.880 --> 0:41:15.680
<v Speaker 1>a Netflix or something like that, you log onto Beach

0:41:15.760 --> 0:41:17.600
<v Speaker 1>Body on Demand. They have a bunch of stuff like

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:20.359
<v Speaker 1>P nine Yes in Sanity, twenty one day Fix, hip

0:41:20.400 --> 0:41:24.840
<v Speaker 1>hop abs, which I've been practicing a lot lately for

0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:27.520
<v Speaker 1>two reasons. One because I really want apps and two

0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:30.759
<v Speaker 1>because I really want rhythm, and one of that are coming.

0:41:30.800 --> 0:41:34.000
<v Speaker 1>The rhythm maybe not so much one is more the other, right,

0:41:35.160 --> 0:41:36.560
<v Speaker 1>but you know what, I'm still gonna fight it and

0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:39.279
<v Speaker 1>try and get it either way. Um, there's hundreds of

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:42.200
<v Speaker 1>effective workouts on there, from bodybuilding to weightlifting, to to

0:41:42.400 --> 0:41:44.400
<v Speaker 1>yoga to even dance workouts. Like I said that hip

0:41:44.440 --> 0:41:47.080
<v Speaker 1>hop as ads work out, they're usually like ten minutes,

0:41:47.480 --> 0:41:49.120
<v Speaker 1>maybe a little bit longer than that, depending on kind

0:41:49.160 --> 0:41:50.840
<v Speaker 1>of what you're looking for. But like I said, I

0:41:50.920 --> 0:41:53.239
<v Speaker 1>love them. I basically canceled my gym membership solely because

0:41:53.239 --> 0:41:56.120
<v Speaker 1>I loved Beach Body on Demand so much. Um. There's

0:41:56.120 --> 0:41:58.520
<v Speaker 1>over one million people currently on beach Body on Demand.

0:41:58.640 --> 0:42:00.600
<v Speaker 1>And to our listeners right now, out of help. I

0:42:00.640 --> 0:42:03.480
<v Speaker 1>suck at dating. You can try absolutely free if you

0:42:03.560 --> 0:42:06.440
<v Speaker 1>text Dean to thirty thirt thirty. I'm sure you guys

0:42:06.480 --> 0:42:08.279
<v Speaker 1>have heard me talk about it before. That's d e

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:12.479
<v Speaker 1>An too. Three zero three zero three zero. Um, maybe

0:42:12.600 --> 0:42:14.520
<v Speaker 1>log on and hip hop abs. I do it every

0:42:14.560 --> 0:42:16.640
<v Speaker 1>morning at seven am. So if you're you know, in

0:42:16.760 --> 0:42:20.120
<v Speaker 1>the West Coast time zone, and you're up at seven

0:42:20.160 --> 0:42:21.600
<v Speaker 1>am and you want to do hip hop apps work

0:42:21.600 --> 0:42:23.040
<v Speaker 1>out with me. We can kind of pretend like we're

0:42:23.040 --> 0:42:25.480
<v Speaker 1>in the same room. I'm going to be texting this.

0:42:26.160 --> 0:42:29.080
<v Speaker 1>I want I want this, So think about a think

0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:30.960
<v Speaker 1>about you know, you watch Netflix, you started one place,

0:42:31.000 --> 0:42:32.440
<v Speaker 1>you finish it on your phone, you finish it on

0:42:32.480 --> 0:42:34.400
<v Speaker 1>your ipadt you fish in a hotel room somewhere. Is

0:42:34.440 --> 0:42:36.560
<v Speaker 1>the same idea. I have yet to use Beachbody on

0:42:36.640 --> 0:42:38.880
<v Speaker 1>demand on a public transit system, but I think that

0:42:38.960 --> 0:42:41.320
<v Speaker 1>might be the next step. You're gonna be clenching your kegles.

0:42:45.239 --> 0:42:47.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing kegles right now. As a matter of fact,

0:42:47.719 --> 0:42:49.840
<v Speaker 1>you guys don't do that. We have them, we can

0:42:49.920 --> 0:42:53.000
<v Speaker 1>do I've I've I'm very confused. I've done them before.

0:42:53.360 --> 0:42:57.040
<v Speaker 1>In college when I was curious about what would happen. Um, anyway,

0:42:57.080 --> 0:42:59.359
<v Speaker 1>it's go ahead and text Dean to three zero three

0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:03.520
<v Speaker 1>zero zero. You can try beach Body on demand and

0:43:03.600 --> 0:43:06.680
<v Speaker 1>get some sweet hip hop abs just like me. Um,

0:43:07.560 --> 0:43:09.200
<v Speaker 1>give it a try. I promise you won't regret it.

0:43:09.200 --> 0:43:10.759
<v Speaker 1>Summers right on the corner. So now's the time to

0:43:10.760 --> 0:43:15.080
<v Speaker 1>sign up? Yeah, I wait for real? Yeah? Men, do

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:19.120
<v Speaker 1>this are the well? Both hold on so I can

0:43:19.200 --> 0:43:22.440
<v Speaker 1>get this for free. I'm all about the bree You

0:43:22.480 --> 0:43:25.319
<v Speaker 1>can get full access the entire platform. Yes, okay, absolutely free.

0:43:25.360 --> 0:43:28.520
<v Speaker 1>I will do that. But keegels, yeah for what your

0:43:28.560 --> 0:43:30.279
<v Speaker 1>but I just I just looked it up as a

0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:33.799
<v Speaker 1>matter of fact, No you can't. It improves endurance, oh

0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:35.719
<v Speaker 1>right right right, yes, yes, yes, yes, I know what

0:43:35.760 --> 0:43:39.279
<v Speaker 1>else is it improve? It? Endurance and well and also

0:43:39.440 --> 0:43:45.040
<v Speaker 1>just like really, I don't know. I think it has

0:43:45.160 --> 0:43:47.960
<v Speaker 1>benefits in the bedroom. I think there's also benefits I

0:43:48.000 --> 0:43:52.080
<v Speaker 1>don't know, longevity, like longevity, Um, like when you have

0:43:52.120 --> 0:43:54.439
<v Speaker 1>to go pee that you can hold it better. Yeah,

0:43:54.920 --> 0:43:58.960
<v Speaker 1>called again, I was thinking incontinence. Yeah, in continence when

0:43:59.000 --> 0:44:01.160
<v Speaker 1>you can't hold it her that ke muscles can help

0:44:01.160 --> 0:44:04.200
<v Speaker 1>if you're having trouble holding it, or if you're dribbling, Oh,

0:44:04.640 --> 0:44:06.319
<v Speaker 1>that's news to me. I always thought of it more

0:44:06.320 --> 0:44:10.279
<v Speaker 1>of as a performance thing. I think that's also a

0:44:10.360 --> 0:44:12.759
<v Speaker 1>reason people exercise those muscles. She would keep talking about

0:44:12.760 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 1>this or John move on to something else. I just

0:44:14.600 --> 0:44:16.640
<v Speaker 1>thought it was something you could do on public trends

0:44:16.719 --> 0:44:18.319
<v Speaker 1>that when no one one knows you're doing it. That's

0:44:18.320 --> 0:44:20.440
<v Speaker 1>why I brought it up. Hey, we got some emails

0:44:20.520 --> 0:44:22.560
<v Speaker 1>that I feel like we should read because people want

0:44:22.640 --> 0:44:25.040
<v Speaker 1>your advice. I hope they asked about les On there.

0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:27.840
<v Speaker 1>Kira says, I had a really good friend who was

0:44:27.880 --> 0:44:29.719
<v Speaker 1>seeing a guy for a few months, but broke things

0:44:29.800 --> 0:44:31.800
<v Speaker 1>off with him because she didn't think they were compatible.

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:35.880
<v Speaker 1>I had become really close with this guy. He told

0:44:35.920 --> 0:44:37.640
<v Speaker 1>me he didn't want our friendship to end, and my

0:44:37.719 --> 0:44:39.640
<v Speaker 1>girlfriend said she had no problem with him and I

0:44:39.760 --> 0:44:43.479
<v Speaker 1>staying friends. Well, I developed feelings for him. We talked

0:44:43.480 --> 0:44:45.560
<v Speaker 1>to every single day. He was very flirty with me

0:44:45.640 --> 0:44:48.239
<v Speaker 1>and always initiated plans to hang out. I noticed my

0:44:48.320 --> 0:44:50.759
<v Speaker 1>girlfriend stopped wanting to hang out with me, but when

0:44:50.800 --> 0:44:52.399
<v Speaker 1>we were in the same group, she acted like nothing

0:44:52.440 --> 0:44:55.520
<v Speaker 1>could changed. Six months later, the guy tells me he's

0:44:55.520 --> 0:44:58.279
<v Speaker 1>seeing my friend again. I didn't even know they were

0:44:58.320 --> 0:45:00.839
<v Speaker 1>on speaking terms. They've been dating for almost a year now,

0:45:00.920 --> 0:45:03.680
<v Speaker 1>and she has completely cut me off and refuses to

0:45:03.760 --> 0:45:06.919
<v Speaker 1>talk to or acknowledge me even in groups. I don't

0:45:06.960 --> 0:45:08.719
<v Speaker 1>hang out with her boyfriend one on one anymore, but

0:45:09.320 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 1>he still texts me every single day. If they're a

0:45:13.600 --> 0:45:15.799
<v Speaker 1>way to get over him without losing this friendship? Also,

0:45:15.840 --> 0:45:17.560
<v Speaker 1>do you think I should try to repair my friendship

0:45:17.640 --> 0:45:23.439
<v Speaker 1>with the girl? I do miss her? Oh? This is tangled? Um. Well,

0:45:23.760 --> 0:45:25.759
<v Speaker 1>the one thing that stood out when she said I

0:45:25.840 --> 0:45:28.319
<v Speaker 1>end up developing feelings for him. We talked every single day.

0:45:28.360 --> 0:45:31.680
<v Speaker 1>I always say this, be careful who you hang out with,

0:45:31.800 --> 0:45:35.279
<v Speaker 1>because you might just start liking them for sure. So

0:45:35.680 --> 0:45:37.680
<v Speaker 1>I think on like, you're gonna stop hanging out with

0:45:37.760 --> 0:45:40.080
<v Speaker 1>new people because you might develop feelings for them. Well, no,

0:45:40.200 --> 0:45:42.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying. I think when it comes to like,

0:45:43.000 --> 0:45:44.560
<v Speaker 1>if you have like you know, you kind of have

0:45:44.719 --> 0:45:47.080
<v Speaker 1>like that kind of there is some sort of chemistry

0:45:47.160 --> 0:45:49.279
<v Speaker 1>and the longer you hang out with them, yeah, I

0:45:49.360 --> 0:45:52.000
<v Speaker 1>think it is for a girl to romanticize the Relationship's

0:45:52.000 --> 0:45:53.759
<v Speaker 1>gonna say right now, you probably should uber back to

0:45:53.840 --> 0:45:55.800
<v Speaker 1>your apartment. Because I'm worried that we're going to develop

0:45:55.800 --> 0:46:01.279
<v Speaker 1>feelings for each other. That's how ridiculously ridiculous. No, this, no, Sean,

0:46:01.400 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I talked to you on Tuesday's. I do not talk

0:46:04.080 --> 0:46:06.320
<v Speaker 1>to you every single day like zero. This is obviously

0:46:06.360 --> 0:46:07.799
<v Speaker 1>is a little b different of a situation because they

0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:11.400
<v Speaker 1>talk every day. But you still shouldn't, I don't know,

0:46:11.680 --> 0:46:13.520
<v Speaker 1>continue to continue your life. Well that was wait, that

0:46:13.640 --> 0:46:16.680
<v Speaker 1>was my thing one to UM, I do find it?

0:46:16.800 --> 0:46:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Hold on it does my girlfriend stopped wanting to hang

0:46:18.640 --> 0:46:21.279
<v Speaker 1>out with me, so I obviously I think that at

0:46:21.360 --> 0:46:25.680
<v Speaker 1>that point your friend Kira was starting to talk to

0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:29.640
<v Speaker 1>the guy again, and probably because she knew that Kira

0:46:29.800 --> 0:46:31.880
<v Speaker 1>and this guy we're talking every day, and so she

0:46:31.920 --> 0:46:34.040
<v Speaker 1>gets a little jealous, maybe a little bit possessive, and

0:46:34.080 --> 0:46:35.920
<v Speaker 1>she's like, actually want this guy back now? Yeah, well,

0:46:36.000 --> 0:46:37.839
<v Speaker 1>I think here you have to ask yourself what's more

0:46:37.840 --> 0:46:40.400
<v Speaker 1>important to your friend, the friendship with the guy or

0:46:40.640 --> 0:46:43.439
<v Speaker 1>your friendship with the girl. And to me, I think

0:46:43.880 --> 0:46:45.560
<v Speaker 1>it would be that your friendship with the girl, because

0:46:45.800 --> 0:46:48.240
<v Speaker 1>that's who you were friends with before you got introduced

0:46:48.280 --> 0:46:50.719
<v Speaker 1>to UM. I agree, it sounds like the friendship with

0:46:50.760 --> 0:46:52.879
<v Speaker 1>the girls a little more important than with the guy. Yeah,

0:46:53.160 --> 0:46:56.520
<v Speaker 1>but I think they're both doomed. I'm afraid as friendships go,

0:46:57.080 --> 0:46:59.000
<v Speaker 1>I think it's over for both of them. And I'm sorry.

0:46:59.640 --> 0:47:01.560
<v Speaker 1>And we talked about this on Scrub and in this week.

0:47:01.719 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 1>Friendships have there's seasons for life, for everything. As time

0:47:05.160 --> 0:47:07.440
<v Speaker 1>you pointed out, some friendships are only meant for a

0:47:07.520 --> 0:47:09.640
<v Speaker 1>certain part of your life and want for your whole life.

0:47:09.719 --> 0:47:11.759
<v Speaker 1>And that's okay. And if it's meant to be, you

0:47:11.840 --> 0:47:13.600
<v Speaker 1>guys will find your way back to each other. But

0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:16.560
<v Speaker 1>it's not worth losing your mind over. That's true. So

0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:19.000
<v Speaker 1>do you think what I suggest, Kira maybe blocks the

0:47:19.000 --> 0:47:21.840
<v Speaker 1>guy's number or is that too drastic? Nah? It just

0:47:21.880 --> 0:47:25.120
<v Speaker 1>sets the precedent and sets the You know what I

0:47:25.160 --> 0:47:27.239
<v Speaker 1>would do, I would be the bigger person and write

0:47:27.239 --> 0:47:29.280
<v Speaker 1>to them being like, hey, guys heard you're back together.

0:47:30.080 --> 0:47:31.880
<v Speaker 1>I wish you guys the best of luck. Hope you're

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:35.160
<v Speaker 1>happy and smiling. Kira, so put him in a group

0:47:35.239 --> 0:47:37.800
<v Speaker 1>chat or yeah, maybe a group or I don't know,

0:47:37.840 --> 0:47:39.759
<v Speaker 1>maybe send it to your girlfriend or and and to

0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:41.880
<v Speaker 1>him separately, but just or maybe a group chat so

0:47:41.920 --> 0:47:44.920
<v Speaker 1>you're not, like, you know, doing it behind anyone's back,

0:47:44.960 --> 0:47:46.520
<v Speaker 1>but I would be the bigger person and just send

0:47:46.600 --> 0:47:49.080
<v Speaker 1>him a message. Maybe, but they've been together a year,

0:47:49.160 --> 0:47:51.680
<v Speaker 1>so it might be a little aiming and that. I

0:47:51.800 --> 0:47:55.319
<v Speaker 1>also I don't like that he's texting her every day.

0:47:55.360 --> 0:47:59.919
<v Speaker 1>That's not about I forgot about that. So Kira, forget

0:48:01.840 --> 0:48:04.880
<v Speaker 1>that group. Maybe you do block him. I think you

0:48:04.920 --> 0:48:06.360
<v Speaker 1>need to move on with your life. I think you

0:48:06.400 --> 0:48:07.840
<v Speaker 1>need to let him move on and focus on the

0:48:07.880 --> 0:48:10.640
<v Speaker 1>relationship that he's into. Granted, maybe doesn't sound like it

0:48:10.719 --> 0:48:12.480
<v Speaker 1>might be the best one because he's texting you every day,

0:48:12.520 --> 0:48:14.759
<v Speaker 1>But if it sounds like nothing happened between here and

0:48:14.800 --> 0:48:17.680
<v Speaker 1>this guy, so there's no real like foul play. But

0:48:17.800 --> 0:48:19.960
<v Speaker 1>he seems to be kind of keeping her on the

0:48:20.000 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 1>back burner just in case. Totally unfair and that I

0:48:24.040 --> 0:48:26.560
<v Speaker 1>believe we call that benching, and there's we do not want.

0:48:28.960 --> 0:48:30.520
<v Speaker 1>So Yeah, so I'm gonna stick with it and say

0:48:30.600 --> 0:48:32.759
<v Speaker 1>heresh to block the guy. Well, now I agree. I

0:48:32.840 --> 0:48:35.960
<v Speaker 1>think she should block him mentally and through text block

0:48:36.040 --> 0:48:37.880
<v Speaker 1>him and move on. I think you'll be friends with

0:48:37.920 --> 0:48:41.239
<v Speaker 1>her again someday, hopefully. A lot of the emails we

0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:44.160
<v Speaker 1>get our boy the shore was going great and then

0:48:44.440 --> 0:48:46.279
<v Speaker 1>now all of a sudden, he's cooled off to me.

0:48:46.520 --> 0:48:48.080
<v Speaker 1>And here's another one of these, but I think we

0:48:48.160 --> 0:48:51.240
<v Speaker 1>usually end up with he found somebody else. But anyway,

0:48:51.280 --> 0:48:54.200
<v Speaker 1>this is called Subway No Response guy. Nicole is twenty

0:48:54.239 --> 0:48:55.920
<v Speaker 1>four years old. She's working in New York City. I

0:48:56.000 --> 0:48:57.399
<v Speaker 1>like this one because it kind of paints a nice

0:48:57.440 --> 0:48:59.200
<v Speaker 1>picture of her life. It's kind of an exciting wife.

0:48:59.239 --> 0:49:01.440
<v Speaker 1>She's been single for six years and ready for a

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:04.000
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend again. She met a guy on the subway in

0:49:04.080 --> 0:49:05.759
<v Speaker 1>New York. The first time I saw him, we made

0:49:05.760 --> 0:49:08.040
<v Speaker 1>eye contact. I didn't know what to say. We ran

0:49:08.080 --> 0:49:09.640
<v Speaker 1>into each other twice in a week, and I ended

0:49:09.680 --> 0:49:11.640
<v Speaker 1>up getting his number. We went out for coffee his

0:49:11.760 --> 0:49:14.640
<v Speaker 1>idea this past weekend. He had mentioned something during the

0:49:14.680 --> 0:49:17.600
<v Speaker 1>day about grabbing lunch. I followed up but got no response.

0:49:17.680 --> 0:49:19.640
<v Speaker 1>I just thought, okay, that's the end. Another invite to

0:49:19.680 --> 0:49:22.360
<v Speaker 1>dust no a big deal. However, Monday morning he texted

0:49:22.400 --> 0:49:25.800
<v Speaker 1>me bright and early, so I'm a dick, I'm sorry,

0:49:25.960 --> 0:49:28.080
<v Speaker 1>and you offered to make up for it. We went out.

0:49:28.239 --> 0:49:30.560
<v Speaker 1>It was great. He was so apologetic about our plans

0:49:30.600 --> 0:49:33.120
<v Speaker 1>from the weekend before. I texted him, thinking for lunch

0:49:33.160 --> 0:49:36.560
<v Speaker 1>and a great time and he never responded. I've noticed

0:49:36.600 --> 0:49:38.359
<v Speaker 1>he isn't big on his phone, and I'm not sure

0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:41.160
<v Speaker 1>if it's because he's older. He's thirty one. I bumped

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:43.600
<v Speaker 1>into him twice today and we said hello, He made

0:49:43.600 --> 0:49:45.400
<v Speaker 1>a joke, he went back to work. How do I

0:49:45.520 --> 0:49:47.279
<v Speaker 1>bring up the whole texting thing to him? I feel

0:49:47.280 --> 0:49:48.560
<v Speaker 1>like this could be a good thing. I don't want

0:49:48.560 --> 0:49:51.319
<v Speaker 1>to ruin up by seeming patty and wanting a text back. Help.

0:49:51.400 --> 0:49:54.000
<v Speaker 1>I suck at dating Nicole. Oh, that sounds like me,

0:49:54.360 --> 0:49:58.800
<v Speaker 1>Like what do I do if I, um, dean, what

0:49:58.920 --> 0:50:01.600
<v Speaker 1>would you do if your a kind of response would

0:50:01.600 --> 0:50:03.279
<v Speaker 1>you want from her? I got excited about this because

0:50:03.320 --> 0:50:05.440
<v Speaker 1>she capitalized subway, and so I thought she met him

0:50:05.480 --> 0:50:10.040
<v Speaker 1>at a subway, and I was going to ask or something.

0:50:10.320 --> 0:50:13.759
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I love subway personally. I think that. I

0:50:13.840 --> 0:50:15.920
<v Speaker 1>think the common theme we see what this too, as

0:50:15.960 --> 0:50:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Mark said, is it starts strong, it fizzles a little bit,

0:50:19.120 --> 0:50:20.680
<v Speaker 1>and then people kind of like dwell on it and

0:50:20.719 --> 0:50:22.520
<v Speaker 1>focus a little bit too much onto it. It's like,

0:50:22.920 --> 0:50:26.040
<v Speaker 1>for instance, Nicole years old, lives in New York City.

0:50:26.040 --> 0:50:28.360
<v Speaker 1>She's been single for six years, and so maybe I

0:50:28.400 --> 0:50:31.080
<v Speaker 1>think she's putting a lot of pressure on this relationship

0:50:31.120 --> 0:50:33.920
<v Speaker 1>even though it's never really taken off anywhere. I don't know. Listen,

0:50:34.040 --> 0:50:36.400
<v Speaker 1>if a guy's into you, he will call you, he

0:50:36.440 --> 0:50:38.160
<v Speaker 1>will text you, he will want to see you. And

0:50:38.440 --> 0:50:40.759
<v Speaker 1>that's my point. That's what I'm saying. And I feel

0:50:40.760 --> 0:50:43.040
<v Speaker 1>like she's putting too much emphasis on this relationship even

0:50:43.120 --> 0:50:45.800
<v Speaker 1>though it's not reciprocated and it doesn't really seem to

0:50:45.840 --> 0:50:47.680
<v Speaker 1>be like much is going on there, you know what

0:50:47.719 --> 0:50:50.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean. But maybe because she's been single for six years,

0:50:50.320 --> 0:50:52.640
<v Speaker 1>she's kind of grasping at straws and kind of hoping

0:50:52.680 --> 0:50:54.160
<v Speaker 1>that this is the relationship that's going to pull her

0:50:54.160 --> 0:50:55.640
<v Speaker 1>out of that single funk. Yeah. I think when you

0:50:55.760 --> 0:50:57.600
<v Speaker 1>like date someone, or you one on a day with someone,

0:50:57.760 --> 0:50:59.320
<v Speaker 1>or if you're in a relationship, you kind of like

0:50:59.480 --> 0:51:02.759
<v Speaker 1>put up you you make excuses for the person that

0:51:02.840 --> 0:51:06.320
<v Speaker 1>you're dating. But Nicole, if you put yourself outside of

0:51:06.360 --> 0:51:09.160
<v Speaker 1>the situation and you know you're reading this what you

0:51:09.239 --> 0:51:11.600
<v Speaker 1>just sent us, I think you would probably tell yourself like, hey,

0:51:11.640 --> 0:51:14.000
<v Speaker 1>if he's not giving you the signs that he's into you,

0:51:14.360 --> 0:51:16.279
<v Speaker 1>or you know, he's not giving you what you need

0:51:16.440 --> 0:51:19.239
<v Speaker 1>and deserve, then I would, you know, make wait for

0:51:19.320 --> 0:51:20.800
<v Speaker 1>him to make a move again, and I wouldn't. I

0:51:20.920 --> 0:51:24.120
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't ask him why he hasn't texted back. And and look,

0:51:24.160 --> 0:51:25.759
<v Speaker 1>I've been this guy before too. I've been the guy

0:51:25.840 --> 0:51:28.200
<v Speaker 1>that gives the spreadic texts, will bump into a be casual,

0:51:28.320 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 1>be polite, and be even if you're into a girl.

0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:32.440
<v Speaker 1>What's what I'm saying. So let me So I've been

0:51:32.480 --> 0:51:35.160
<v Speaker 1>this guy where I'll see him and be polite, be casually,

0:51:35.200 --> 0:51:37.040
<v Speaker 1>be friendly, all that kind of stuff, like go on

0:51:37.160 --> 0:51:38.719
<v Speaker 1>like maybe like even like a friend day hang out.

0:51:38.840 --> 0:51:42.120
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't sound like they're hooking up. But just if

0:51:42.200 --> 0:51:43.919
<v Speaker 1>in my position, if I was that guy, it would

0:51:43.920 --> 0:51:45.680
<v Speaker 1>just mean that I'm not interested at all. And so

0:51:45.840 --> 0:51:47.719
<v Speaker 1>if he's not interested in her, then she shouldn't be

0:51:47.800 --> 0:51:49.600
<v Speaker 1>interested in a relationship with him right now if it

0:51:49.640 --> 0:51:51.560
<v Speaker 1>doesn't seem like that's where it's trending towards. Yeah, And

0:51:51.600 --> 0:51:54.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't think because he's thirty one n thirty one

0:51:54.400 --> 0:51:56.919
<v Speaker 1>year old text and call and it's very it's human

0:51:56.960 --> 0:51:59.000
<v Speaker 1>instinct to make excuses for these people, and we all

0:51:59.080 --> 0:52:00.920
<v Speaker 1>do it, and you're doing now. I think, thank you

0:52:01.200 --> 0:52:02.520
<v Speaker 1>know he's not very good at texting. Oh you know

0:52:02.560 --> 0:52:05.000
<v Speaker 1>he's so busy, but like you said, if he's into you,

0:52:05.200 --> 0:52:08.759
<v Speaker 1>you would absolutely know it. So I think I love

0:52:08.840 --> 0:52:11.440
<v Speaker 1>how you met. That's such a cute story making eye

0:52:11.480 --> 0:52:14.440
<v Speaker 1>contact on the subway at such a movie. But I

0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:16.560
<v Speaker 1>don't know that this is happening right right now. Listen,

0:52:16.719 --> 0:52:20.439
<v Speaker 1>I dated a guy this is pre bachelor days, where

0:52:20.560 --> 0:52:24.719
<v Speaker 1>we met on a train from Toronto to Montreal and

0:52:24.920 --> 0:52:27.479
<v Speaker 1>we sat like, so he had seen me five years

0:52:27.600 --> 0:52:30.239
<v Speaker 1>prior to that in a line at a breakfast listen

0:52:31.800 --> 0:52:34.120
<v Speaker 1>years later. Yeah, So then, like I was, I was

0:52:34.200 --> 0:52:36.080
<v Speaker 1>boarding the train and I wasn't feeling well, so I

0:52:36.160 --> 0:52:38.960
<v Speaker 1>had I was struggling to put my my luggage on

0:52:39.000 --> 0:52:41.040
<v Speaker 1>the train. Someone tasked me from behind. He's like, hey,

0:52:41.120 --> 0:52:42.400
<v Speaker 1>do you need help, and they turned around. I'm like,

0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:44.279
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, it's the guy that had messaged me

0:52:44.400 --> 0:52:46.279
<v Speaker 1>five years ago when he saw me in line. So

0:52:46.400 --> 0:52:47.920
<v Speaker 1>we ended up sitting next to each other on the

0:52:48.000 --> 0:52:49.680
<v Speaker 1>train and I'm like, oh my god, so here I

0:52:49.719 --> 0:52:53.080
<v Speaker 1>am a girl even Essa romanticizing the relationship. We're gonna

0:52:53.160 --> 0:52:54.920
<v Speaker 1>end up together because it's meant to be. We have

0:52:55.040 --> 0:52:57.440
<v Speaker 1>such a great love story. I mean, it didn't end

0:52:57.520 --> 0:53:00.560
<v Speaker 1>up working out, obviously, I went on The Bachelor, but yeah,

0:53:00.920 --> 0:53:03.280
<v Speaker 1>that was That's sad though, isn't it when the great

0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:05.960
<v Speaker 1>meetings don't turn into an amazing relationships? And I think

0:53:06.000 --> 0:53:07.800
<v Speaker 1>that should have been great. At that point, I was

0:53:07.920 --> 0:53:09.760
<v Speaker 1>just so in love with the story that I wanted

0:53:09.800 --> 0:53:11.160
<v Speaker 1>it to work out because it was such a great,

0:53:11.200 --> 0:53:14.080
<v Speaker 1>cute story. So what were the next steps that unraveled

0:53:14.120 --> 0:53:16.560
<v Speaker 1>in the relationship. Well, he was living in Toronto at

0:53:16.600 --> 0:53:18.399
<v Speaker 1>the time, I was in Montreal, so we did long

0:53:18.440 --> 0:53:21.120
<v Speaker 1>distance and I think at a point we just realized

0:53:21.160 --> 0:53:23.799
<v Speaker 1>we wanted we wanted the same things, but not at

0:53:23.840 --> 0:53:26.239
<v Speaker 1>the same time in our life. Were at different were

0:53:26.239 --> 0:53:28.120
<v Speaker 1>at different stages in our life. And for those that

0:53:28.200 --> 0:53:30.279
<v Speaker 1>don't know the listeners of the podcast, Toronto is in

0:53:30.320 --> 0:53:36.839
<v Speaker 1>the province Ontario and Montreal is in the province Quebec. Yes, geography,

0:53:37.000 --> 0:53:38.840
<v Speaker 1>and so there's a little geography lesson for today. For

0:53:39.200 --> 0:53:41.680
<v Speaker 1>for this two. Maybe all those romantic comedies we watched,

0:53:41.719 --> 0:53:44.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, serendipity and where the they at the end

0:53:44.200 --> 0:53:47.719
<v Speaker 1>they're so happy. Maybe it's not forever after though maybe

0:53:47.760 --> 0:53:49.799
<v Speaker 1>those end poorly too. We don't see their whole lives.

0:53:49.960 --> 0:53:51.920
<v Speaker 1>That's why I don't like watching movies. That's actually a

0:53:51.920 --> 0:53:53.719
<v Speaker 1>funny thought that I had the other day too, is

0:53:53.880 --> 0:53:57.120
<v Speaker 1>growing up. You watch all these movies, like these cute

0:53:57.200 --> 0:53:59.160
<v Speaker 1>rom comms, love stories, whatever it is, but all we

0:53:59.280 --> 0:54:01.560
<v Speaker 1>see is the chain up until they get together. They

0:54:01.600 --> 0:54:04.000
<v Speaker 1>get together, and then the movie's over. You know, except

0:54:04.440 --> 0:54:14.040
<v Speaker 1>the notebook because the spoiler Emily is she's twenty eight.

0:54:14.160 --> 0:54:16.719
<v Speaker 1>She's never had a serious boyfriend. All my life have

0:54:16.800 --> 0:54:18.840
<v Speaker 1>been completely open with my friends and my family, but

0:54:18.920 --> 0:54:20.719
<v Speaker 1>unable to talk to and open up to people I

0:54:20.800 --> 0:54:23.479
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I told myself this year I would finally

0:54:23.520 --> 0:54:25.200
<v Speaker 1>put myself out there and maybe even get on a

0:54:25.320 --> 0:54:27.560
<v Speaker 1>dating app. I've always had reservations about them, but I'm

0:54:27.560 --> 0:54:30.480
<v Speaker 1>trying to get over that. It's it's a perfectly normal thing.

0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I think. I'm always concerned I won't be able to

0:54:32.600 --> 0:54:34.680
<v Speaker 1>keep the conversation going. I've been thinking more and more

0:54:34.680 --> 0:54:37.160
<v Speaker 1>about how you always say, what is the worst that

0:54:37.239 --> 0:54:39.320
<v Speaker 1>can happen? Right? That is our advice. You gotta shoot

0:54:39.320 --> 0:54:41.840
<v Speaker 1>your shot. They'll say, no, we'll move on any advice

0:54:41.920 --> 0:54:43.800
<v Speaker 1>for getting out there. Thank you for your insight and

0:54:43.880 --> 0:54:46.520
<v Speaker 1>being so open and honest each week. It is truly refreshing.

0:54:46.560 --> 0:54:50.680
<v Speaker 1>Hopefully soon I will suck less at dating. That is Emily. Oh, Emily, listen.

0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:52.920
<v Speaker 1>I was talking about this last week on the podcast.

0:54:53.680 --> 0:54:55.839
<v Speaker 1>If I were in a position where yes, I said

0:54:55.880 --> 0:54:58.040
<v Speaker 1>that I'm dating someone, if I were in a position

0:54:58.880 --> 0:55:01.360
<v Speaker 1>I did say that, is that going? So wait, I

0:55:01.440 --> 0:55:04.360
<v Speaker 1>want to talk about what's what's the what's your definition

0:55:04.400 --> 0:55:08.120
<v Speaker 1>of dating versus my definition of dating is like leading

0:55:08.200 --> 0:55:12.239
<v Speaker 1>to possibly a relationship? Yes, okay, so I'm dating someone. Okay, Well,

0:55:12.320 --> 0:55:15.040
<v Speaker 1>let's let's hear uh. We have somebody that you've heard

0:55:15.040 --> 0:55:17.440
<v Speaker 1>before on this show named Erica who is now in

0:55:17.520 --> 0:55:20.400
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. We talked her before when she was crushing

0:55:20.440 --> 0:55:23.600
<v Speaker 1>on her oral surgeon. That's over and done with. She

0:55:23.800 --> 0:55:27.120
<v Speaker 1>has a boyfriend. The definition we'll get back. We'll get

0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:30.239
<v Speaker 1>back to Emily and a second. But the definition of

0:55:30.640 --> 0:55:33.719
<v Speaker 1>dating someone you happened last night or two nights ago,

0:55:33.760 --> 0:55:37.360
<v Speaker 1>whenever it was what the talk? No, but that's not

0:55:37.440 --> 0:55:42.840
<v Speaker 1>the yeah than it was five days ago? Um No.

0:55:43.000 --> 0:55:47.160
<v Speaker 1>But the definition of the definition of dating someone is

0:55:47.480 --> 0:55:50.920
<v Speaker 1>before the talk happens, you're dating and now I'm in

0:55:51.000 --> 0:55:55.439
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. Yeah, okay, congratulations. By the way, I don't

0:55:55.440 --> 0:55:58.160
<v Speaker 1>know why people congratulate people in relationship, because this whole

0:55:58.239 --> 0:56:00.920
<v Speaker 1>show was about the struggle of finding one. Yeah, and

0:56:01.000 --> 0:56:04.920
<v Speaker 1>I are you happy? I'm super happy? Then congratulations, Okay,

0:56:04.960 --> 0:56:07.200
<v Speaker 1>thank you. The last time the listeners heard from you,

0:56:07.400 --> 0:56:09.840
<v Speaker 1>you were very not in a relationship. That's true. You

0:56:09.880 --> 0:56:11.560
<v Speaker 1>were in the abyss. How long ago is that? Two

0:56:11.600 --> 0:56:15.360
<v Speaker 1>weeks ago? Okay? What? No? I was very not in

0:56:15.360 --> 0:56:18.920
<v Speaker 1>a relationship like seven weeks ago. Now look at her.

0:56:19.000 --> 0:56:20.960
<v Speaker 1>It can happen that fast. It can happen that fast.

0:56:21.080 --> 0:56:23.080
<v Speaker 1>But that's what I mean. So I am anyway, it's

0:56:23.120 --> 0:56:24.840
<v Speaker 1>not about me. Let's talk about it. Okay. But then

0:56:24.880 --> 0:56:27.319
<v Speaker 1>the question is for you. Are you in a relationship?

0:56:27.520 --> 0:56:32.400
<v Speaker 1>You are dating? Are you in a relationship? Mark asking

0:56:32.480 --> 0:56:35.760
<v Speaker 1>the hard hitting questions over here? I am dating someone

0:56:36.440 --> 0:56:40.319
<v Speaker 1>and he makes me very happy. And this comes back

0:56:40.400 --> 0:56:43.600
<v Speaker 1>to wait, who was it, Nicole? So the guy that

0:56:43.680 --> 0:56:46.000
<v Speaker 1>I am dating? Wait wait, no, I'm actually gonna say

0:56:46.000 --> 0:56:48.399
<v Speaker 1>something important here. So when I so, when I first

0:56:48.480 --> 0:56:51.759
<v Speaker 1>met when I first met um, this guy that I'm dating.

0:56:52.080 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 1>So last night, when I was my brain is everywhere.

0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:55.759
<v Speaker 1>So last night when I was doing the live the

0:56:55.840 --> 0:56:59.279
<v Speaker 1>live show on my my my Instagram, I was talking

0:56:59.320 --> 0:57:03.479
<v Speaker 1>about you know, when you first meet someone the first

0:57:03.760 --> 0:57:07.000
<v Speaker 1>date of the second date, You're never truly yourself until

0:57:07.120 --> 0:57:09.440
<v Speaker 1>like the third or fourth date, when you can be like, okay,

0:57:09.520 --> 0:57:10.960
<v Speaker 1>like I made it to the third day, let me

0:57:11.040 --> 0:57:13.360
<v Speaker 1>really like shed you know, a couple of those layers,

0:57:13.440 --> 0:57:15.359
<v Speaker 1>and let me start being more of myself. So when

0:57:15.400 --> 0:57:17.160
<v Speaker 1>I went on a date with this guy, I didn't

0:57:17.320 --> 0:57:18.880
<v Speaker 1>not want to go on a date with him. I'm like,

0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:21.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I see myself with him. I you know,

0:57:21.440 --> 0:57:24.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's gonna work out. So I asked him.

0:57:24.840 --> 0:57:26.360
<v Speaker 1>He asked me to go out for dinner. I was like, sure,

0:57:26.440 --> 0:57:28.040
<v Speaker 1>let's go off a dinner at six because I didn't

0:57:28.040 --> 0:57:29.400
<v Speaker 1>want to go for dinner later because I wanted to

0:57:29.440 --> 0:57:31.760
<v Speaker 1>be in bed by like ten o'clock. I ended up

0:57:31.800 --> 0:57:35.200
<v Speaker 1>staying out with him until one am, and we just

0:57:35.400 --> 0:57:37.720
<v Speaker 1>were We had so much in common, and it was

0:57:37.760 --> 0:57:41.000
<v Speaker 1>just so nice to be in the presence of someone

0:57:41.280 --> 0:57:44.480
<v Speaker 1>who genuinely just had interest in your life as as

0:57:44.600 --> 0:57:47.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, as as a teacher, as a person, as

0:57:47.200 --> 0:57:49.320
<v Speaker 1>like outside of bachelor world, and and so I had

0:57:49.360 --> 0:57:51.560
<v Speaker 1>such a really good connection with him. And then you know,

0:57:51.680 --> 0:57:55.920
<v Speaker 1>like we're sot talking at this point. So anyways, that's

0:57:55.920 --> 0:57:57.680
<v Speaker 1>what I was trying to I want to talk about

0:57:57.720 --> 0:58:02.960
<v Speaker 1>that with Nicole. I had a genuine connection with this guy. No,

0:58:03.040 --> 0:58:05.040
<v Speaker 1>but when Nicole was talking about like the subway girl,

0:58:05.120 --> 0:58:07.000
<v Speaker 1>like he was, he was calling me, he was texting

0:58:07.040 --> 0:58:08.720
<v Speaker 1>me the next day, he was, you know, like wishing

0:58:08.760 --> 0:58:10.480
<v Speaker 1>me good night, making sure I got home okay, like

0:58:10.680 --> 0:58:12.520
<v Speaker 1>he was. He was giving me all the signs that

0:58:12.560 --> 0:58:14.320
<v Speaker 1>he was interested in. Now, Emily, if I was in

0:58:14.400 --> 0:58:17.960
<v Speaker 1>a position where I was, you know, like single, single,

0:58:18.520 --> 0:58:21.280
<v Speaker 1>I would definitely go on a dating app. Because that's

0:58:21.320 --> 0:58:24.920
<v Speaker 1>what she was asking, right, Yeah, that's what you put

0:58:24.960 --> 0:58:27.560
<v Speaker 1>herself back out there. Should she throw it out there? Yeah? Yeah,

0:58:27.720 --> 0:58:31.280
<v Speaker 1>I mean why, like exactly what would what is there

0:58:31.280 --> 0:58:34.480
<v Speaker 1>to lose? I mean, I agree. I think that I

0:58:34.560 --> 0:58:38.000
<v Speaker 1>struggled with something very similar to Emily before. Funny enough,

0:58:38.040 --> 0:58:40.160
<v Speaker 1>before going on the show, was I just didn't really

0:58:40.200 --> 0:58:43.560
<v Speaker 1>open up to many people about my feelings and my

0:58:43.640 --> 0:58:45.560
<v Speaker 1>emotions and all that kind of stuff, which I still

0:58:45.560 --> 0:58:48.240
<v Speaker 1>struggle with. But I've gotten better at so I understand.

0:58:48.520 --> 0:58:49.880
<v Speaker 1>And I think the only advice that I can offer

0:58:49.920 --> 0:58:52.400
<v Speaker 1>to Emily is the more that you attempt to do

0:58:52.480 --> 0:58:54.480
<v Speaker 1>it and the more that you talk about the things

0:58:54.560 --> 0:58:56.280
<v Speaker 1>that you feel or the things that have affected you

0:58:56.360 --> 0:58:58.360
<v Speaker 1>positively or negatively. The easier it gets every time you

0:58:58.440 --> 0:59:00.280
<v Speaker 1>do it, and the stronger connections are going to build

0:59:00.320 --> 0:59:04.560
<v Speaker 1>with whomever it is, whether it's a person you're dating casually, um,

0:59:04.600 --> 0:59:06.760
<v Speaker 1>whether it's a potential boyfriend, or whether it's just a

0:59:06.840 --> 0:59:08.680
<v Speaker 1>regular friend. I think that the more you talk about

0:59:08.720 --> 0:59:10.120
<v Speaker 1>those things, the more you open up, the easier it

0:59:10.120 --> 0:59:13.040
<v Speaker 1>will become. Um. That's that's my advice that I had

0:59:13.080 --> 0:59:14.760
<v Speaker 1>to get her. Yeah. I think the more people you meet,

0:59:14.800 --> 0:59:16.560
<v Speaker 1>the better chance you are you going to find somebody

0:59:16.720 --> 0:59:18.600
<v Speaker 1>that you really like spending time with. But I think

0:59:18.640 --> 0:59:20.560
<v Speaker 1>her hesitation was that she just is unable to open

0:59:20.680 --> 0:59:23.919
<v Speaker 1>up about things. And that's what she said sitting in there. Yeah. Yeah,

0:59:24.000 --> 0:59:26.240
<v Speaker 1>which has been completely open to my friends and family,

0:59:26.320 --> 0:59:27.720
<v Speaker 1>but don't know how to open up to people I

0:59:27.760 --> 0:59:31.120
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I think. I mean, yeah, it's hard to

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:35.480
<v Speaker 1>like be vulnerable and and you know, especially with someone

0:59:35.520 --> 0:59:38.160
<v Speaker 1>that you don't know. But once you do it, I mean,

0:59:38.240 --> 0:59:40.640
<v Speaker 1>I love being vulnerable, but also you take it one

0:59:40.640 --> 0:59:42.040
<v Speaker 1>step at a time. You don't to worry about that

0:59:42.160 --> 0:59:44.040
<v Speaker 1>right now. Right now, you just worry about meeting somebody

0:59:44.040 --> 0:59:45.840
<v Speaker 1>you can worry about opening up to them as you

0:59:45.920 --> 0:59:50.480
<v Speaker 1>come along. Now, Erica, Yes, I was just so like

0:59:51.600 --> 0:59:54.000
<v Speaker 1>Mark has seen me through this entire progression of like

0:59:54.120 --> 0:59:57.720
<v Speaker 1>meeting my boyfriend. I don't say that word much meeting

0:59:57.800 --> 1:00:00.560
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend, and then I was I was so closed

1:00:00.560 --> 1:00:03.320
<v Speaker 1>off to it for a couple of weeks and was like, whatever,

1:00:03.360 --> 1:00:04.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to go on the dates. It's fine,

1:00:04.720 --> 1:00:07.840
<v Speaker 1>It's fine. Um, but it's like once you really get

1:00:07.880 --> 1:00:09.800
<v Speaker 1>to know someone, that's when you can actually start to

1:00:09.960 --> 1:00:12.520
<v Speaker 1>like open up and have the real conversations. And there

1:00:12.600 --> 1:00:14.760
<v Speaker 1>was like this one date that we went on where

1:00:14.880 --> 1:00:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I suddenly was ready to open up and I almost

1:00:17.040 --> 1:00:19.560
<v Speaker 1>cried to him, and we both say that was the

1:00:19.680 --> 1:00:23.040
<v Speaker 1>day that like things actually got serious. So I think

1:00:23.080 --> 1:00:25.440
<v Speaker 1>it takes time and it's not immediate, but you should

1:00:25.440 --> 1:00:29.680
<v Speaker 1>definitely put yourself out there because it actually works. So

1:00:30.520 --> 1:00:32.480
<v Speaker 1>so there you go. She didn't you know, bumble the

1:00:32.640 --> 1:00:35.520
<v Speaker 1>harmony they work. I mean, you can find people. They

1:00:35.560 --> 1:00:39.520
<v Speaker 1>can be frustrating, they can be um, they can really

1:00:39.560 --> 1:00:41.040
<v Speaker 1>suck a lot of your time if you let them,

1:00:41.080 --> 1:00:43.520
<v Speaker 1>but they also can be very successful. So we're very

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<v Speaker 1>happily happy for do you want to do one more email.

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<v Speaker 1>I do have one more. This is for you, Dean.

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<v Speaker 1>You said last week you wouldn't date an eighteen year old,

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<v Speaker 1>and that really bothered the eighteen year olds in their audience.

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<v Speaker 1>Jen says, Dean mentioned you would not did a nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>year for certain reasons. What about someone who's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be twenty one is in college? Now? I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>talking about herself, but she makes it more general. Is

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<v Speaker 1>it the fact that they're still in school? Is it

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that they can't go out and drink? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What is it about this age that bothers you. I've

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<v Speaker 1>always been someone who dates older, but it always feel

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<v Speaker 1>bad with My boyfriend would get up to go to

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<v Speaker 1>work for the day and I'd get up and go

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<v Speaker 1>to a couple of classes. And my question is for

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<v Speaker 1>someone older, is being twenty going to be twenty one

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<v Speaker 1>and age issue? Ps? I love the fact that Vanessa

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<v Speaker 1>and Jared have been in the studio lately. Dean. It's

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<v Speaker 1>such a tricky question because you can't like generalize and

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<v Speaker 1>say everyone that's twenty one years old is too young

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<v Speaker 1>to day seven year old. Of course, there are like

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<v Speaker 1>certain circumstances we're like, oh, you're a very unique twenty

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<v Speaker 1>one year old that maybe like I'm not mature, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>I act very immaturely just generally, like on a daily basis,

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<v Speaker 1>we can all agree with that. I think I always

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<v Speaker 1>say guys mature kicking and screaming eventually, but that's just

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<v Speaker 1>like that's just my regular Ben is the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>Ben is a very mature like stand up guy, but

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<v Speaker 1>he acts very childish and so many ways that's like

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<v Speaker 1>his fun loving side and that we all adore so much.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'd like, I feel like I'm somewhat the same way,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe a little bit behind in certain areas though, because

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<v Speaker 1>Ben obviously is um is great, but it's just it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to picture dating someone that isn't kind of

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<v Speaker 1>that hasn't been able to experience life at that point yet,

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<v Speaker 1>because as a twenty one year of college student, Like

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<v Speaker 1>when I look at myself when I was twenty one

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<v Speaker 1>and in college, I just such a shadow of myself,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I couldn't even recognize him right now, Like we're

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<v Speaker 1>such completely different people, you know, between the past six

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<v Speaker 1>years from now till then, and so for me to

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<v Speaker 1>be interested in dating someone that's at that similar walk

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<v Speaker 1>in life that I was back then. It just doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>even register to me, like I have no interest in

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<v Speaker 1>in that, I guess, if that makes sense, I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also think that women are mature much more

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<v Speaker 1>quickly than men do. I mean I I dated women

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<v Speaker 1>in college and they were all just the same. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean maybe a little bit of course elevated than

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<v Speaker 1>I was, for sure, but it's just it's still not

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<v Speaker 1>something that I would be interested in now at this

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<v Speaker 1>point in my life. You know, I could always speak

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<v Speaker 1>from my experience. I have twenty six years eighteen, and

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<v Speaker 1>we were right on the same level. So it worked

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<v Speaker 1>for me. I think it was a different time, not

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<v Speaker 1>to like date you or anything. That's fine, has changed

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<v Speaker 1>quite a bit. Was ten years older than I was,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, yeah, and I was waiting warmer than him.

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<v Speaker 1>How old were you? I was twenty four, he was

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<v Speaker 1>thirty four, and we were like nine years apart. Sorry, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but you feel like you remember sure that he was

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<v Speaker 1>at the time, and he will still admit to that.

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<v Speaker 1>He agrees something about guys. I'm telling you when I

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<v Speaker 1>was when I was twenty three, I went on a

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<v Speaker 1>date with a nineteen year old and it just was

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<v Speaker 1>so evident the age difference. Maybe that's just her though

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen and you were three. Yeah, but I think nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>versus twenty one. There there's I mean, it's still it's

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of years, but I think it a significant

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<v Speaker 1>amount of it was just one day in one person. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>it's different from person to person, especially from relationships relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying from my experience, I've never necessarily had

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<v Speaker 1>a reason or a desire to date someone at that age.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, you have to be open to it. Age

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<v Speaker 1>is just the number. I've always been the person that

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<v Speaker 1>said I want to date older. I want a date older.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, what if if someone who's younger or my age,

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, a little bit older, a little bit younger,

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<v Speaker 1>like if we're on the same wavelength and the same

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<v Speaker 1>path and we want the same things at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm all for it. How old would you go? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk about another subject. Interesting, it's pretty soon. How old? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>How about how young would you go? Would you dat

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<v Speaker 1>a younger man? Yes, no problem. But I think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>more open to it now than I was before because

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<v Speaker 1>it has not worked out for me when guys were older.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I was dating three year olds, thirty five

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<v Speaker 1>year olds, thirty six, thirty seven. Never worked out. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, why don't I try something different? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you if you keep on the same pattern, then

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<v Speaker 1>of course you're going to have the same end result.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm open to saying like, hey, you're younger. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to pretend you're younger. I'm just gonna forget

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<v Speaker 1>about your A and I mean in the same way

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<v Speaker 1>to just I would say like plus or minus five years,

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<v Speaker 1>I could go down to two. I say that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't necessarily fully agree with me saying it. I

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<v Speaker 1>go up to thirty two. I guess you know what

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<v Speaker 1>it's like. I agree that there's no expectation put on

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<v Speaker 1>age when you're dating. I feel like, but someone that's

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<v Speaker 1>nine twenty years old, that's just for me. Just if

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<v Speaker 1>you click, you click. Certainly, of course, if you click,

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<v Speaker 1>you click, it doesn't matter the age. Probably better not

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<v Speaker 1>to not know the age until you get the conversation. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>legal requirements that I think, well, that's true. Sometimes. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>One thing I did want to mention before we go

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<v Speaker 1>talking about saving money earlier, I do not actually buy

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<v Speaker 1>lunch today because jet Blue sentence pizza, I came in

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<v Speaker 1>an hour earlier for that pizza, just saying, given five

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<v Speaker 1>minutes later, still enjoyed three slices. Actually, New York pizza

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<v Speaker 1>is its own deal, and you cannot get authentic New

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<v Speaker 1>York pizza in Los Angeles. And so Jet Blue is

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<v Speaker 1>doing an amazing thing. They are New York's hometown airline

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<v Speaker 1>and Jet Blue knows no one does pizza like New

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<v Speaker 1>York and that's why they're flying their iconic taste of

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<v Speaker 1>New York across the country to Los Angeles. Patsy's right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Patsy's East Ham which is delicious. It was really great

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<v Speaker 1>and really authentic New York pizza. It is the first

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<v Speaker 1>ever coast the coast pizza delivery by an airline. Pie

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<v Speaker 1>in the sky. They're calling at a limited time program

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<v Speaker 1>where Jet Blue flies authentic New York pizza from Patsy's

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<v Speaker 1>and East Haarlem across the US to select el a

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<v Speaker 1>residence and you have to go to the Jet Blue

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<v Speaker 1>dot Pizza. How great is that? Way is a suffix pizza.

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<v Speaker 1>The Suffixes pizza is punch it into your computer. It's

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<v Speaker 1>time to be alive. You have the w W w

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<v Speaker 1>that's in there, and then WWL we got jet Blue

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<v Speaker 1>dot Pizza. This has been a personal fantasy of mine

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<v Speaker 1>for many from out of state, and I like, for real,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I saw it was coming today and I'm like, oh, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>you should go by easton dot Pizza. That's what you

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<v Speaker 1>should do, and you don't spoil anything coming there. Like

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<v Speaker 1>Domino's dot Pizza. There's probably you can purchase some U

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<v Speaker 1>r L s here and start selling them making money.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's a lot of dots that opened up

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<v Speaker 1>recently dot com. So you're telling me Dominoes isn't gonna

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<v Speaker 1>want Domino's Dot Pizza And I think they're all going

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<v Speaker 1>to want that. Yeah, for sure, I'm gonna go home

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<v Speaker 1>and buy it right now. Well, it's from May night

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<v Speaker 1>to the eleventh. What is today? Today is the eight

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<v Speaker 1>Today's the eighth, So it's this week Wednesday through Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>This week, Jet Blue is gonna satisfy cross country cravings

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<v Speaker 1>with a limited quantity of three and fifty New York

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<v Speaker 1>pizzas available for purchase each of the three days, more

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<v Speaker 1>than a thousand pizzas in total. So thank you, Jet Blue.

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<v Speaker 1>That was delicious. That was delicious. Pepperoni pizza was so good.

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<v Speaker 1>I do love New York pizza. There is no l

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<v Speaker 1>A pizza, really is there l A Tacos, But like

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<v Speaker 1>there's Chicago pizza, there's New York piza. No, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>a like a not a margarita pizza. But there are

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<v Speaker 1>California Pizza Kitchen. They have like avocado on the pizza. No, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>John and Vinnie's I don't know jon Nis, No, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. You guys have only been here a year

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<v Speaker 1>and I know John and Um, I'm not going with streets.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's in West Hollywood and it's like all fentic

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<v Speaker 1>Italian restaurant, like real Italian food. It's my favorite spot.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go to all of Garden tonight or

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<v Speaker 1>when you're there your family, or wait till tomorrow and

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<v Speaker 1>get Jet Blue to bring me a Patsy's pie because

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<v Speaker 1>that sounds delicious. Two days in a row. There you go. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a fun episode. There's a couple of things

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<v Speaker 1>I want to mention before we get out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>There has been a creation of a new Facebook group.

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<v Speaker 1>Check it out. It's called to help I Suck at

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<v Speaker 1>Dating to the Facebook. Yeah, it's great. Um, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>it's a fun place, a fun form to meet like

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<v Speaker 1>minded listeners. We can share topics and ideas. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>active on Facebook typically, but I do like to at

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<v Speaker 1>least try to get on there, and I'll be say

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of things. Get on there. We have the

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<v Speaker 1>scrubbing in Facebook group and now there's almost famous face.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be very act well. And that's the thing too.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw Becca's has like seventy seven that's insane, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I saw that and I was like, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a this is a great thing. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I should probably make one. And then like the next day, know,

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<v Speaker 1>someone reach out to me on Instagram. They're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm part of the Becca Tilly's um scrubbing in Facebook group.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I make one for the help I suck at dating?

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<v Speaker 1>And of course I was naturally like, yeah, of course please.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds awesome. So, um, be sure to follow on

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<v Speaker 1>on Facebook if you have any questions or you just

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk with people that listen to the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>as well. It's a great place to do just that. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>There is one other thing we normally don't talk much

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<v Speaker 1>bachelor on this podcast, which we talked about our lives

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<v Speaker 1>through Vanessa, Me and Jared, of course. But what we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do, it's gonna be kind of fun and I

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<v Speaker 1>want actually to kind of gauge Vanessa's idea of this.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you heard of batch bracket? Yes, So what we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do is create a help I Suck at Dating

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<v Speaker 1>batch brackett help I suck at dating group that everyone

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<v Speaker 1>can sign up under the help I Suck at Dating

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<v Speaker 1>group and then fill out a batch bracket. Um that

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<v Speaker 1>will you know? It's it's obviously just like a fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>thing like um, fantasy sports for the bache for the Bachelorette,

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<v Speaker 1>for the new season coming up, becast season, Yes, for

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<v Speaker 1>this season, and so we're all I'm gonna make one.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna make one. We're gonna come and started to

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<v Speaker 1>make one. Mark and Easton of course, we would love

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<v Speaker 1>to have you make Let's do this campaign. Um, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna have a lot of listeners hopefully make one

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<v Speaker 1>as well. And I think at the end of the season,

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<v Speaker 1>whoever ends up getting first place, we're going to give

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<v Speaker 1>him some sort of special prize. Oh. I thought maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we would love to have him to the studio oh my, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>imagine we could. I mean we could probably fly Hi

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<v Speaker 1>out to l A and get into the studio for

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<v Speaker 1>an episode. I will say, I don't know if you met.

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<v Speaker 1>We met one of Becca's guys at the wedding on

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<v Speaker 1>Saturday and he was very nice, very very nice gentlemen. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's all we're gonna say about so anyway, So

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<v Speaker 1>obviously Becca season doesn't start for amlier what two or

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<v Speaker 1>three weeks, so we have a little bit of time

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<v Speaker 1>to set this up. But if you're listening and you

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<v Speaker 1>want to join that batch bracket, go to www dot

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<v Speaker 1>batch bracket dot com. Um, we're going to have a

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<v Speaker 1>help I suck at dating group made here pretty soon.

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<v Speaker 1>And like I said, me, Vanessa, Easton, Mark, Jared, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of names, remember, Um, we're all going to

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<v Speaker 1>make our own and no cheating, no spoilers, stay off reality, Steve,

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to know who did that if you do it. Um. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>big thank you to Julian Clark from EVA Etiquette. Check

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<v Speaker 1>out their new videos and check out Vanessa on their

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<v Speaker 1>d i y page next week eighteen. Thank you to

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<v Speaker 1>Beach Body on Demand for giving me my hip hop abs.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you to Sherry's Berries for the strawberry cheesecake pops

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<v Speaker 1>that Vanessa is gonna give me out of the bouquet

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<v Speaker 1>that I buy her for Mother's Day. Big thank you

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<v Speaker 1>to Jet Blue Pizza for putting food in our bellies today. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have any questions or you just want to

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<v Speaker 1>email some stories that you have to to us to

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<v Speaker 1>discuss on here, please email him to I Suck at

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<v Speaker 1>Dating at iHeart media dot com. Thank you Alexis Waters

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<v Speaker 1>for stopping to hoop Nation. Alexis Waters maybe our most

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<v Speaker 1>bleep show every Um. I will not be in studio

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<v Speaker 1>next week. I'm going to be in Kentucky rock climbing

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<v Speaker 1>trip with my brother and his girlfriend. Vanessa's giving me

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<v Speaker 1>a weird face Kentucky. Yes, I understand that I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>giving you. I love Kentucky to Kentucky. It's great. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to Red River Gorge with my brother and

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<v Speaker 1>his girlfriend and five other friends to go rock climbing

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<v Speaker 1>for seven days. That's so fun. Yes, it is fun,

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<v Speaker 1>So stop giving me that weird look. So wait, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be swapping you, Jared and you, so it's me

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<v Speaker 1>and you, and now it's gonna be me and Jared

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<v Speaker 1>got it. Oh great, but I see how this is.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what you said earlier. Just because you and

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<v Speaker 1>Jared are hanging out. I don't want you guys to

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<v Speaker 1>develop feelings for I'm ering at home. UM anyways, is

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<v Speaker 1>anything you want to say before we part ways? No?

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<v Speaker 1>That's oh actually wait, I didn't want I did want

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<v Speaker 1>to say thank you. I posted this on my um

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<v Speaker 1>my Instagram last night. My foundation No Better You. We

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<v Speaker 1>are selling T shirts to um a school in Montreal,

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<v Speaker 1>and all the proceeds are going directly to that school

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<v Speaker 1>for their autism inclusion program. And we only have like

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<v Speaker 1>largest left in a T shirts and you think there's

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe ten left, so you guys want to buy.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for the support. Um yeah, check

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<v Speaker 1>it out. No Better You dot com, dot org dot org.

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<v Speaker 1>My apologies, UM, you still have to give me a

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<v Speaker 1>shirt so I can post on I only have the

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<v Speaker 1>extra small with me here. But I mean you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get those hip hop abs. So well. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>fun episode. Thanks thanks for listening. Thank you Vanessa, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you very much. I'll see you in two weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll see Vanessa and Jared next week. Be sure to

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<v Speaker 1>tune in when maybe they'll suck a little less. Follow

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