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Speaker 1: I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show, Ashley, good morning, welcome to the show. How

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Speaker 1: are you? I'm good. Are you doing well? Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Welcome to waiting by the phone. We're trying to figure

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Speaker 1: out what's going on with this guy, Drew. I have

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Speaker 1: your email, But why don't you explain to everybody listening

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Speaker 1: how you met Drew, about any dates you've been on,

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Speaker 1: and why you think you're being ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Okay, gosh, So I met Drew on Hinge and we

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Speaker 2: hung out twice, and both times we went to his

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Speaker 2: place and had some drinks, and I don't know, ever since, like,

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Speaker 2: I thought we had really good conversation. I've always had

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Speaker 2: a really good time. We definitely were like super flirty

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Speaker 2: for like the whole time, and I felt like we

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Speaker 2: had a good connection. But ever since then, he hasn't

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Speaker 2: reached out, and I just want to figure out why,

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Speaker 2: because I really liked him and I thought we could

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Speaker 2: work out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So honestly, and I asked the question

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Speaker 1: all the time, But you look back on this date,

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Speaker 1: you thought it was a success. You left thinking, oh,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go out again, and I'll hear from him,

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know tomorrow or the next day,

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Speaker 1: but nothing. And I assume you've reached out to him

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Speaker 1: and he hasn't responded.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I texted him like twice, and I didn't want

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Speaker 2: seem too desperate, so I stopped it twice.

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Speaker 1: You can't double text, right, you can't do it. But

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Speaker 1: I mean maybe, I mean maybe maybe once and then

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Speaker 1: one more Hail Mary. You know you try it? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: maybe not. Maybe that's just maybe that's just me. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's just me. Shut up. Whatever. What's you like not

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Speaker 1: to have? What's you like? Not to be pseudo desperate? Sometimes?

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Speaker 1: What's that like? Kiki? It's not that fun. You know,

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Speaker 1: you enjoy yourself. It's a thrill. Okay. Rufo probably never has.

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Speaker 1: He's never been on a dating app in his whole life. Paulina,

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Speaker 1: I don't know you ever double texted. I'm sure I have. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If I tied the doumble tucks to you guys, I

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Speaker 2: probably double text other people too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because one of you double texts. Hey, actual question,

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Speaker 1: that's famous, Paulina. Hey, can I ask you a question

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Speaker 1: on the text? It's okay. I feel much better now

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Speaker 1: actually about my about my texting in my private life.

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Speaker 1: So let's call this guy Drew and see what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Good luck, Ashley. Hello, Hi is this Drew? Hey Drew,

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Speaker 1: good morning. My name is Fredam calling from the Fred Show,

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Speaker 1: the morning radio show. I have to tell you that

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Speaker 1: we are on the radio right now, and I do

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Speaker 1: need your permission to continue with the call. He said, Okay,

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Speaker 1: if we chat for just a second.

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Speaker 3: Sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know it's it's kind of a startling thing

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Speaker 1: to get a call from a radio morning radio show,

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Speaker 1: but I'll get right to it. We're calling on behalf

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Speaker 1: of a woman named Ashley, who I guess you met

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Speaker 1: on Hinge and went on a date with recently. Do

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Speaker 1: you remember Ashley?

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Speaker 3: I do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, so what's going on with her? Because you know,

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Speaker 1: she called us and had a lot of nice things

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Speaker 1: to say about you. I was excited to meet you,

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Speaker 1: said the date went well in her opinion, says, she's

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Speaker 1: texted you since the date. You have not responded, You

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Speaker 1: haven't reached out, you haven't planned another date. She feels

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Speaker 1: like she's being ghosted. Is that the case?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean I'm not really that interested. I think she's

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Speaker 3: looking for more like a sugar daddy type of situation.

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Speaker 3: Oh than like a dating situation.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well tell us more. What does that mean, because

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Speaker 1: she didn't share any of that with us.

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Speaker 3: Uh. Well, she came over my house kind of out

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Speaker 3: of the blue. She's called me and said she was

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Speaker 3: in the area or whatever and asked if she can

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Speaker 3: there and she said she was hungry. I didn't have

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Speaker 3: any food in the house, so she just ordered food

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Speaker 3: or whatever. I said no, I'm fine, and then she

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Speaker 3: ate it, you know, and we hung out for a

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Speaker 3: little bit, and then as she was leaving, she asked

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Speaker 3: that she just ordered and ate.

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Speaker 1: And you didn't even have told.

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Speaker 3: Her no, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Oh wo, so you were supposed to be okay, So

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Speaker 1: she shows up at your house, orders food for herself,

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Speaker 1: eats it, leaves, but before she goes, she asks, like,

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Speaker 1: for if you wanted to venmo her for the food or.

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Speaker 3: So give her cash or something, and I, yeah, that's

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Speaker 3: not my that's not my bag.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: She invites herself over, orders food, eats it, and I'm

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Speaker 3: supposed to pay for it. Yeah, that's not equality the

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Speaker 3: last time I checked, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm good. Oh that's not equality. Well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I guess it would have been one thing if you

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Speaker 1: you know, can I get that for you? You could

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Speaker 1: have ordered it to begin with. But since you didn't,

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Speaker 1: which you have no obligation to do, by the way,

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Speaker 1: but since you didn't, then I think it's entirely unheard to.

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Speaker 1: You know, she bought it. It was her decision. You

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Speaker 1: don't owe her any money. I barely know her.

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Speaker 3: We went on one date and this is the second

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Speaker 3: time we're hanging out, and now I'm supposed to buy

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Speaker 3: her food every time we hang out.

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Speaker 1: Now, come on, well, let me bring Ashley. Ashley, you

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Speaker 1: did not mention this whole thing about the food, So

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Speaker 1: you went to his house ordered food that you wanted.

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Speaker 1: He didn't get anything, and you expect him to pay

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, he's the guy.

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Speaker 3: I don't really see the issue.

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Speaker 1: He's the guy, and we just said.

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Speaker 2: Dating he should pay. And also, Drew, don't Actually you

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Speaker 2: didn't have a bite you did.

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Speaker 1: Oh, he had a bite, so he should pay for

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Speaker 1: it the whole thing. That's hilarious.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I had a bite of a chicken wing.

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Speaker 1: I mean that was that? Like five dollars? You want

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Speaker 1: me to vend you five dollars break that chicken? That

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Speaker 1: was it? Was it? Was it a drumstick? Or wasn't that?

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Speaker 1: Because that's going to depend on how did you have

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Speaker 1: any of the celery? Didn't come with celery? Because and

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Speaker 1: was there an extra ranch? Or did you double dip?

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Speaker 1: Did you guys share the same ranch, because honestly, that's

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Speaker 1: going to cost you more. No double dipping.

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Speaker 3: I just got one bite of a regular wing, just

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Speaker 3: a buffalo wing.

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Speaker 1: Now see, one could argue, though, if you're at my home,

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Speaker 1: I should be hospitable and offer you something to eat

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Speaker 1: or drink or it's nothing, you're my house. But if

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Speaker 1: I don't hold on to hear me out. If I don't,

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Speaker 1: and then you make the choice that you're hungry and

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Speaker 1: you want to do something, that doesn't mean that after

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Speaker 1: you order that I then have to pay you back.

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Speaker 1: That's not exactly what that means. Correct, Yeah, right, But.

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Speaker 2: I do think that he's the guy and we just

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Speaker 2: started dating, like we were out.

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Speaker 1: If we went on the date and we were out

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Speaker 1: and we were having.

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Speaker 2: Food, he would normally pay drawing.

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Speaker 1: I also think an important distinction here is that he

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Speaker 1: did not actually ask you out. You showed up at

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Speaker 1: his house. So what you're like, It wasn't even like

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Speaker 1: he said, come over, let's have chicken wings with ranch

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Speaker 1: and celebert you yourself. You showed up looking for food, right,

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Speaker 1: and you wanted to eat, and he didn't have anything

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Speaker 1: because he wasn't planning on you coming again, maybe if

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Speaker 1: he had invited you over. My whole thing about paying

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Speaker 1: is if I initiate, I should definitely pay. He did

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Speaker 1: not initiate. You just showed up at his house.

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Speaker 2: Right, I mean, I still think it's my school disagree,

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Speaker 2: but I guess.

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Speaker 1: I mean he has paid your cell phone bill too,

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Speaker 1: because you use the phone to order the food. Nah,

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Speaker 1: that's probably on his WiFi. Oh yeah, wait a minute, hey, Drew,

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Speaker 1: did she connect to a Wi fi? Because that's not note,

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Speaker 1: not a day unless she's a platinum.

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Speaker 3: Are you gas money too for coming over my house?

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Speaker 2: I'm gotta give you.

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Speaker 3: Twenty all the time.

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Speaker 1: That's an excell one.

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Speaker 3: This is crazy, anyone nuts nowadays?

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Speaker 1: Man, what the hell is going on? Yeah? No, I

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Speaker 1: have to agree with you here. Again, the only distinction

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Speaker 1: would have been, I think if you had invited her over,

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Speaker 1: but you didn't, she shut up. So no, not on you, Ashley,

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Speaker 1: It's not on him. But look, Drew, now that we've

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Speaker 1: straightened that out, would you like to go out with

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Speaker 1: her again? I mean, I'm sure you're probably gonna have

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Speaker 1: to reimburse her for something, but do you want to

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Speaker 1: do you want to try again? No, I'm good.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna save my money, uh, spend it in the

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Speaker 3: right ways, and now you're good.

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Speaker 1: You're good, Okay, Ashley, he's not interested. That's the reason why.

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Speaker 3: That's okay. I'm not either.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if he's not going to buy I should

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Speaker 2: for what, like it was like twenty five bucks, then

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Speaker 2: I'm good. He's a cheap ass.

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Speaker 1: Oh interesting, that's that's that's the hot takes you broke, right,

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Speaker 1: I guess. So all right, it's not going to work out, Ashley, Drew,

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Speaker 1: thank you for your time. Best to buck of both

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Speaker 1: of you. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think