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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thank you

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Speaker 1: again for joining us. We are excited to be back,

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Speaker 1: Please do it so we can talk to you and

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Speaker 1: find out what's going on in your world. But today

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Speaker 1: we're so excited, especially excited. We have a very very

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Speaker 1: very special guest and you know her and love her

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Speaker 1: from Joey season of The Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: Hi Rachel, Hi guys, welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: What's going on in your world right now?

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Speaker 3: You know, just busy busy, was work and kind of

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Speaker 3: navigating after everything, but it's been fun and creating at

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Speaker 3: the same time.

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Speaker 2: Do you love it? You had to love your experience?

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 3: It's obviously it all came out of nowhere and trying

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Speaker 3: to navigate my career on top of everything that happening

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Speaker 3: post show. But I mean it's I'm enjoying every moment

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Speaker 3: of it.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, you know, it was so special for me, Rachel,

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Speaker 1: to be able to sit with you and really really

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Speaker 1: get to know you. I think the world had something

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Speaker 1: to say about it as well, and they were all beautiful,

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Speaker 1: beautiful things.

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Speaker 2: I love you like one of my own. I really do.

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Speaker 3: My mom when she watched it, she goes you and Auntie, Susan,

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Speaker 3: you guys connected, Hanna said, we.

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Speaker 1: Did in a big way, a big way.

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Speaker 3: Like she's family, and my Mom's like, oh, she just

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Speaker 3: seems like she has the best energy. You know what

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Speaker 3: she does, She's amazing.

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Speaker 2: I would love to meet your family.

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Speaker 3: I owe you one.

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Speaker 1: And then our reunions of like women tell all after

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Speaker 1: the final verse, and they're always in these big places

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Speaker 1: with lots of people. I want you one on one,

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Speaker 1: I really do. We gotta go for coffee or our

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Speaker 1: meal or a cuptail and Kathy will join natural.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to join in on somebody. This can

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Speaker 2: I come to.

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Speaker 3: You're always invited, So I want.

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Speaker 2: To know you just alluded at the top of the

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Speaker 2: show here about life after the show. It's a check

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Speaker 2: in for you. How are you doing post show? What's

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Speaker 2: going on? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean, things have definitely gotten better for me since

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Speaker 3: I was getting that hate that I spoke about at

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Speaker 3: the reunion, things have definitely calmed down. The support and

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Speaker 3: love has been just I didn't expect all the support

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Speaker 3: to finally, I guess drawna all the hate. So it's

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Speaker 2: Which is a perfect statement.

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Speaker 1: We get so much love, but one negative or ten

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Speaker 1: negatives seem to weigh on us so much more than

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Speaker 1: all the love. Yeah, you gotta focus only on the love.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, we get it too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I say, Rachel, you you intimated that it was

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Speaker 2: some Rachel racial slurs coming your way. I mean, I said,

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Speaker 2: zip it, and you know I have paid, dear, I know,

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Speaker 2: really right, zip it for that. But honestly, since I've

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Speaker 2: talked a lot about this, what does it feel like

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Speaker 2: for us? It's just you try to ignore it, but

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Speaker 2: it's hard. It's hard.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it's definitely easier to ignore the the comments

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Speaker 3: like oh you're boring, or like Joey doesn't like you.

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Speaker 3: Those are obviously way easier, but when it comes.

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Speaker 1: They said Joey doesn't like you?

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Speaker 2: Are they Joey?

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Speaker 1: I mean, how how do you people say these things?

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Speaker 3: But Also, that's why it's funny, because that's just them

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Speaker 3: So those were obviously easy to ignore. But when it

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Speaker 3: But it just made me stronger as a person and

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Speaker 2: Definitely the high road for sure, for sure. So you know,

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Speaker 2: you you talk about we all know that, you know,

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Speaker 2: you and Joey definitely had a connection and he's now

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Speaker 2: classified as one of your exes. But yeah, do tell us,

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Speaker 2: we want to know what do all of your exes

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Speaker 2: have in common life? What's the what is the trait

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Speaker 2: that sort of come on? Good question?

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Speaker 3: Great, I know, because I mean Joey's kind of like

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Speaker 3: the favorite X right now, right like, there was there

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Speaker 3: was no you know, there's no no wrong doing on

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Speaker 3: either side. It was just the end of our journey

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Speaker 3: and that's the beautiful part about it. But my ex

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Speaker 3: is separate from Joey or.

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Speaker 1: Do they have anything in common anybody that you dated?

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Speaker 3: Sorry, they cheated kind.

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Speaker 1: Of like what Oh and he was doing it right

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Speaker 1: in front of your face, but.

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Speaker 2: That was allowed. That's okay. That's not a cheating suasan.

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Speaker 2: That's called dating on a TV show. Oh wow, so

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Speaker 2: they all cheated. How did you find out?

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Speaker 3: So two of I'm trying to so I would say

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Speaker 3: I had three serious relationships. They're great, I mean, separate

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Speaker 3: from my stating, they're amazing people. I never want to

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Speaker 3: talk bad about an ex. I think cheating is obviously

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Speaker 3: a personal choice, so you know, that's on them for

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Speaker 3: what they did. But I remember the one ex I had,

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Speaker 3: But it was we kept PG, don't worry.

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Speaker 3: Yes, exactly. But I got a brand new phone and

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Speaker 3: I asked him and I was like, oh, can I

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Speaker 1: Of who they were seeing each other, having some good

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Speaker 2: Doing the deeds. Wow.

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Speaker 3: Wow, he's amazing. His family is amazing. I'm so very

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Speaker 1: Still okay pause pause pause, you're still giving him kudos

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Speaker 1: forfing around on you. I'm not telling you the truth.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, that's not okay.

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Speaker 2: Wait a minute, excuse me. You're the one that's always

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Speaker 2: saying I want to I want to crucify them. And

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Speaker 2: I'm saying, don't forgive him. Euro was saying, forgive Rachel.

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Speaker 2: You're doing the right thing. Forgiven, so I'll make you happier.

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Speaker 2: It's about you.

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Speaker 3: I've forgive him for what he did. At the end

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Speaker 3: have happened. I learned a lot about valuing myself and

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Speaker 3: my family through that time and kind of knowing what

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Speaker 3: we're both civil. I respect him, he respects me, to

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Speaker 3: respect our families. But yeah, I got just one of

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Speaker 2: Just it's how old were you? How old were you

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Speaker 2: with that? You said it was your first love? How

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Speaker 3: So we started dating senior year of high school, and

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Speaker 2: Can I just say you sound exactly like my daughter dated?

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Speaker 2: man in the world if he had a brother, I'd said,

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Speaker 2: But that same thing happened to her, and I asked her,

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Speaker 2: so I have to ask you, do you feel like

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Speaker 2: that you wasted I don't like the word waste, because

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Speaker 2: I don't think any experience is a waste of time.

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Speaker 2: But do you feel like you missed out on some

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Speaker 2: My door a gentleman.

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Speaker 3: He was a gentleman, and so I can learn.

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Speaker 1: But one of the things that Rachel and I talked

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Speaker 1: Obviously it caused some trust issues with you, and for

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Speaker 1: give him your whole self.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. And I also I did speak with Susan

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Speaker 3: about this I've been in a relationship that was abusive

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Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, it happens, and I went to

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Speaker 3: But and then when I went on the show and

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Speaker 3: I met Joey, and even though he wasn't my person,

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Speaker 3: the friendship that we had really taught me that I

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Speaker 3: working on that. I think I think I finally reached

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Speaker 3: a point where I know what I deserve.

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Speaker 1: As isn't that a beautiful thing that you got to

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Speaker 1: walk away with right?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: So you're very close with your family, as you said,

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Speaker 2: And you know, I know most girls I did look

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Speaker 2: up to my dad, and I know you do to yours.

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Speaker 2: What what qualities in your dad? Like, what what would

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Speaker 2: you like to find in a guy that your dad possesses?

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Speaker 2: You know, what qualities?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, besides the fact that he treats my

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Speaker 2: That's enough right there for me. Treat me like a queen. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: You know, what's so beautiful that she is recognizing all this.

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Speaker 2: Just not never settle, Rachel, never settle.

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Speaker 1: That's so important that she just said that, because my

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Speaker 2: And then there's me who never settles, And then I

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Speaker 3: I absolutely love Serena and Joe.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, Rachel, you shared with me that you weren't

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Speaker 3: Perfect dream date in Hawaii. Okay, So my favorite place

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Speaker 1: your family's culture is to you.

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Speaker 2: I'm curious, regardless of who you marry, what what of

444
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 2: those traditions would you want to bring into your marriage

445
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,879
Speaker 2: because I know when I got married, I was very young,

446
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:46,240
Speaker 2: but my husband and I each had family traditions from

447
00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:48,399
Speaker 2: our own separate films that we try to incorporate. What

448
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:50,199
Speaker 2: ones would you want to bring with you?

449
00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:54,960
Speaker 3: I mean, definitely the traditional greeting that everyone crazy about.

450
00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 2: Right, Joey nailed that he did all he did.

451
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 3: Amazing, but it's it's also things that you don't see

452
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 3: on camera. You know, things that my mom taught me

453
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 3: you know, when when you're sleeping next to someone who's

454
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,880
Speaker 3: older than you, make sure your head is below them.

455
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 3: It's just a kind of respect that you're that you're

456
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 3: younger than them.

457
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 2: Well, what when you're sleeping you have to be lower.

458
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 3: Yes, when I've seen next to my sister, my mom

459
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 3: would go, oh oh, honey, no go lower because you're

460
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 3: your show respect to your sisters.

461
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:22,639
Speaker 2: I don't cand I just explain how this is going

462
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:25,359
Speaker 2: to work for you. And you're taller than when I

463
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,640
Speaker 2: sleeping together. When we find out when we find a guy,

464
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 2: he's always taller, our heads are going to be through

465
00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 2: the head door. It's not about honey, here's a good one, Rachel.

466
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Speaker 1: Do you have any questions for Kathy and I about

467
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 1: love or relationships?

468
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,199
Speaker 3: So many? Because I know you guys have had You know,

469
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 3: you have all this experience ahead of me, and you

470
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 3: know you guys being I quote older, you know, it

471
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 3: just makes you ten times.

472
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Speaker 2: You don't have put quotes around, quotes around it.

473
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:57,399
Speaker 3: Because I wouldn't consider you guys older. I think age

474
00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 3: is just all about wisdom, and I think there's something

475
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 3: so wonderful about you know it. I just have such

476
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 3: a respect for you guys, knowing that you've been through

477
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: things that I can't even imagine. I can't even fathom.

478
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,199
Speaker 3: So I guess I would ask you how would you

479
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 3: both define love or true love?

480
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 2: Wow?

481
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: One of the things going back for a second, because

482
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,160
Speaker 1: you hit a good point. My mother's girlfriends would try

483
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: to give me advice and stuff when I was younger,

484
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,119
Speaker 1: Like you know, twenty.

485
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:26,600
Speaker 2: You don't listen to that.

486
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: Even though we do have wisdom and experience, whatever we

487
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: say is not going to be and you could hear it,

488
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: but you have to live it.

489
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: But you know what, Yes, I would agree with that,

490
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 2: But Rachel, I think when you say you have so

491
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 2: many questions, I think some people are more open than

492
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 2: others to just hearing what we have to say, and

493
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 2: then when they're with another person in a relationship, something

494
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 2: might spark something, you know, Kathy and Susan said, I

495
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 2: think that's what it's about. Just don't know, but I

496
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:00,880
Speaker 2: want to hear your ane.

497
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:05,160
Speaker 1: I'm a hopeless romantic, much like yourself. I'm in love

498
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 1: with being in love. I wear my heart on my sleeve.

499
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,959
Speaker 1: That will never change because that's being true to myself.

500
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,879
Speaker 2: That's who I am. I don't know. For me, love

501
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 2: to me it sounds like something out of a poetry book.

502
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 2: But for me, love is that feeling that I don't

503
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 2: want to spend another day by myself. I want that

504
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,880
Speaker 2: person to experience things with me. I want to share things,

505
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 2: you know, the best friend, finding your best friend, someone

506
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,640
Speaker 2: that you know. I'm in the last chapter of my life.

507
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 2: It's going to last about fifty years, but my best

508
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:44,640
Speaker 2: best chapter. But I want it to be the best

509
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 2: chapter with someone. And I think that love looks a

510
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 2: little different as you get older, but I believe in love.

511
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: Since we're generations apart here and you've got all this

512
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: experience ahead of you, and I am a phone call

513
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,919
Speaker 1: away from holding your hand through anything that you're about

514
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 1: to walk through.

515
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 2: I just want you to.

516
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 3: Note that I'll be calling you. Don't you worry it.

517
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 2: I know you will.

518
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 1: Let's do the generation gap game, Rachel, I'm giving you

519
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: my number two.

520
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 2: I'm left. I'm sorry, Kathy, I call you a problem.

521
00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 2: She pulls.

522
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 1: It's a triangle, all right, listen, what about a little

523
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: game with Rachel.

524
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 2: Okay, generation gap this or that? You ready? Rachel, generation

525
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 2: gap this or that? We're just going to throw some

526
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 2: questions and you're going to pick this one or that one.

527
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 2: So here's the first one. Sliding into the DMS or

528
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 2: send it an email? I think either or it's about

529
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:53,199
Speaker 2: the same thing, isn't it.

530
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 3: Yes, I mean I'm considering my Gmail my social media too.

531
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 3: I'm always on it. I guess.

532
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 2: In d MS that just feels more immediate to me.

533
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 2: The d M.

534
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, my email before my I mean, if you.

535
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 2: If you email me, you know it maybe three days

536
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 2: it's buried in that DM. It's like blinking at you.

537
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 1: Instagram or TikTok. Yeah, oh they're one and the same

538
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 1: to now.

539
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 3: My Instagram, I guess.

540
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. How about all right, here's catching up with a

541
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 2: friend texting or calling? This is my own personal will

542
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 2: I prefer Oh so do I put so many younger

543
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: people it's all about texting. You can't read emotion in text.

544
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think this younger generation, I mean, I'm probably

545
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 3: in this younger generation whatever, but I think, uh there,

546
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,640
Speaker 3: it's just so easy, so they can like not have

547
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 3: what is what is the think of the word urgency.

548
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,919
Speaker 3: They're so numb to an actual connection with people, and

549
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 3: it's so they're so quick to text. They can go

550
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 3: about their day. I'd rather sit see you, feel you.

551
00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 3: Let's discuss what's going.

552
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: On, which which brings to mind the people behind their

553
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 1: computers making the negative comments. They're not showing their face,

554
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,360
Speaker 1: They're hiding behind something. So me, a text is when

555
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: I don't have time to talk. I can't talk, but

556
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: da da D D or I love you or talk

557
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: to you later.

558
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 2: But a phone call is real. I just find people

559
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 2: have their heads in their phone, you know, on the

560
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 2: screen so much. I'm just surprised to hear you say.

561
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 2: I love hearing you say a phone call.

562
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 3: I prefer a FaceTime too, because I'd rather just see

563
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 3: your face.

564
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's always fun. Oh, Kathy gets me at the

565
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: worst time. To Susan, are you serious? You're naked, you're

566
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 1: getting out the shower. Why do you answer the phone?

567
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 3: Anty season? Were you eating something?

568
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 2: Probably? Yes, I'm always eating, Susan, eating right every two hours.

569
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,959
Speaker 1: It's okay, here, I got I have.

570
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 2: This is the thing with Susan me that we constantly

571
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 2: talk about dating someone older than you or dating someone

572
00:27:58,600 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 2: younger than you.

573
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 3: Older. Either I would say older.

574
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 2: Well, because you're young. I would say younger because I'm

575
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 2: running out of options. Go either way.

576
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it really depends on the person.

577
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 3: My dad's younger than my mom and.

578
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 2: How much how much young honestly, not that much.

579
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 3: I think it's like two years. But he also through

580
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 3: his life experiences. My dad's just really mature. But I

581
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 3: also see guys who are younger than me and they're

582
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 3: they're just not there. It's just not well.

583
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: I think women mature quicker than men. So in your

584
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: twenties and younger, that's the case. Yeah, I totally get that.

585
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: How about ghosting today, that's one of my part. Would

586
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: you rather break up in person, have respect and have

587
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 1: a conversation.

588
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 2: Or ghost them?

589
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 1: What is this ghosting thing? Wait, it's called something else too?

590
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: What else do you call it?

591
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 2: Oh? I don't know.

592
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 3: I just called it.

593
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 2: There's cab fish when they're not. I don't know. That's

594
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 2: school us. Come on, school us, honey. I just learned

595
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:03,479
Speaker 2: what riz was.

596
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 3: Oh, I actually just learned what it actually was. To guys,

597
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 3: I might be in the same way. What. No, I'm

598
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 3: totally against ghosting. I feel like that's so disrespectful to

599
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 3: the person. You waste their time. At least you could

600
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 3: give them five minutes to explain why you don't want

601
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 3: to be with them. That's also why dms are so

602
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 3: easy to go because you can just not respond. You

603
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 3: can also then you can just elite. So, uh, it's

604
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 3: so easy for people to kind of move on nowadays.

605
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 3: I mean, at least my life break so there was

606
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 3: no ghosting there. Everyone saw me get broken up.

607
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: Well yeah, so wait, that's another thing you know in

608
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 1: your gener I don't even.

609
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 2: Know what it's called. Uh, plural dating, Like we are

610
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: dating more than one guy at a time. Say it again,

611
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 2: look at me. No, no, no, that's been married to

612
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 2: more than one at a time when we do not

613
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 2: subscribe to that. No, no, Rachel, we'll have a class

614
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 2: on that later. No, it's like plural dating where you

615
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 2: date you both of you are dating multiple people in

616
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 2: multiple relationships at a time.

617
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 3: Oh, I can't do that.

618
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: I'm greedy you, I'm selfish to me, I'm not sharing.

619
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: I'll share my fries. I can't tell you.

620
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 2: Share my man.

621
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 3: The other day, I saw those groceries in a throatle

622
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 3: I said, how did you get to and I.

623
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't get one right, because you know what

624
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 2: the best is being saved for you? Rachel, if you're out.

625
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: There, give it time. Let's talk for one second. When

626
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 1: you're reading all these books and talking about people. In America,

627
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: people date multiple people. It's called dating. I've always had

628
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: a relationship. Yes, I didn't know how to date too.

629
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously you don't get intimate. I would imagine,

630
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: because that's crazy.

631
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 2: That's what I'm talking about. You're having multiple.

632
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: No double dipping on my watch, I can't do it.

633
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 2: Well, I guess, I guess that's the final answer there.

634
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 3: I mean that that's normal.

635
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 2: Now I just told you I can't find me. She

636
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: said what I just said? Why is that normal?

637
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 3: Why? To me? But I know a lot of people

638
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,719
Speaker 3: who participate in that hookup culture.

639
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 2: Data it's just phraseex, what's wrong?

640
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 3: At least cycle the numbers and go back to your ex.

641
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: Like just.

642
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 2: No, you're not going back to your ex, Rachel. We're

643
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: not having any word cheating. It's over.

644
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 3: Even talk to my exes. They're in the graveyard. So

645
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 3: it's fine.

646
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: Oh god, So that's the next question. Friends with your

647
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: ex are cutting it off cold turkey?

648
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 3: I've cut it off cold turkey completely with all except.

649
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 1: That what Wow, I'm friends with only.

650
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 3: Because his best friend is my cousin's Beyonce, and he's

651
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 3: back in Haway, so he's very close with my family,

652
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 3: and I peak of this family, So we would just.

653
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 2: Never Yeah, I know you're going to find this hard

654
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 2: to believe, Rachel. Susan is friends with every every act

655
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 2: she's ever had.

656
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 3: It just makes the most sense, to be honest.

657
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: You know, I think it sounds exhausting.

658
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: They all hit me up and said congratulations on the

659
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: show we watched you.

660
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 2: We're so happy for you. I love that.

661
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 3: I love that they think about you still and are

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Speaker 3: messaging you though. That's how iconic you are.

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Speaker 1: But I'll reach out every birthday, every holiday.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I you know, I can't. You know the

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Speaker 2: date books. Susan's got a binder with tads, thousands of them.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's John's birthday, Oh it's Sam's birthday. She can't,

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Speaker 2: she can't deliver. Why it's too busy wishing the exits happy.

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Speaker 1: But that calendar in your phone that comes up once

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Speaker 1: a year and reminds you, listen, we weds been so great.

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Speaker 2: It has been so great having you. You're filled with

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Speaker 2: wisdom for your young years, and you are a delight

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Speaker 2: and good things are coming your way.

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Speaker 1: And we wish you all the very very best, and

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Speaker 1: we're Kathy and I both will always.

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Speaker 2: Be here for you.

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Speaker 1: And that does it for today's episode of Bachelor Happy

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Speaker 1: Hours Golden Hour. Thanks to our most favorite guests so far,

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Speaker 1: rightchel we love you.

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Speaker 2: We love you, we adore you. I'm your newest best friend.

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Speaker 2: Thank you all for joining us, and please be sure

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Speaker 2: to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes

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Speaker 2: coming out every week, and truly, if you enjoy today,

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Speaker 2: you have no idea what's in store for you, so

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Speaker 2: you won't want to miss a single episode.

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Speaker 1: Make sure to submit your questions to us so we

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Speaker 1: can talk about it. As I say every week, go

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Speaker 1: to Bachelornation dot com or hit us up on social

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Speaker 1: at Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 2: And please listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on

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Speaker 2: the iHeart or radio app or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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Speaker 2: It's been great. See y'all next week, See you next week,