Speaker 1: There's something mel Robbins says that is I'm paraphrasing because
Speaker 1: I have my own version of it, but I always
Speaker 1: give credit to the creator. She says something like how
Speaker 1: they act is how they feel. That's not what she said,
Speaker 1: but this is what I'm saying, Like what someone does
Speaker 1: is who someone is. We create this whole like mystical
Speaker 1: labyrinth of why someone did something like oh, he's been
Speaker 1: really busy or he's working. Like a lot of people,
Speaker 1: a lot of the matchmakers will say, well, you know,
Speaker 1: if someone doesn't text you for a day or two,
Speaker 1: they can be really busy with work. Like I'm calling bullshit.
Speaker 1: I am one of the busiest people that I have
Speaker 1: ever met. There's no time that I don't respond instantly.
Speaker 1: Steve Cohen is a multi billionaire who is the Wizard
Speaker 1: of Street who also owns the Mets. He's an instantaneous responder.
Speaker 1: Mark Cuban, I've talked about this before, instantaneous responder. Now
Speaker 1: I'm not dating them. They're both married, but if I
Speaker 1: were and they were into me, they would be instantaneously
Speaker 1: responding unless they were like under a piece of furniture
Speaker 1: in a massage, in a board meeting, but it would
Speaker 1: be the proverbial instantaneous, because someone should be responding to
Speaker 1: you as they would their kids because they're interested. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean you're as important as their kids, but it
Speaker 1: means in that moment, you are. They're just they're not moron.
Speaker 1: So how someone interacts, responds, and communicates is who they
Speaker 1: are and how they feel about you. Do not try
Speaker 1: to gaslight yourself. Do not try to come up with
Speaker 1: some mystical reason something happened. You know.
Speaker 2: The difference, So another thing that goes on.
Speaker 1: So I'm the expert on men who have been married,
Speaker 1: gotten divorced, want to start dating, don't want a gold
Speaker 1: digger wants some want to talk to. Want someone that
Speaker 1: they feel like is a business peer, and like I said,
Speaker 1: someone who's not with them to just be taken care of.
Speaker 2: That's men who want to partner.
Speaker 1: I'm the queen of that space, okay, because people want
Speaker 1: to set me up with them and they're like, she
Speaker 1: doesn't need your money and they're like oh, and they're
Speaker 1: like she's smart, okay, and you know her her kid
Speaker 1: is older. Okay, So I understand this group. Let me
Speaker 1: tell you some of the cautionary tales about this group.
Speaker 1: If someone's been married for a long time and then
Speaker 1: they start dating, they are literally they are like deer
Speaker 1: that have not gotten their footing. They are babies that
Speaker 1: don't know how to walk. They don't know how to text,
Speaker 1: they don't understand how to communicate, they don't understand what's
Speaker 1: sexually appropriate. They want to date, so they want to
Speaker 1: get out there because they feel lonely, but once they
Speaker 1: get out there, they don't know what the fuck they're doing.
Speaker 1: It's it's like children. There are twenty eight year old
Speaker 1: guys who've been out on the dating scene who are
Speaker 1: smarter about dating than these dinosaurs. And because I was
Speaker 1: in a marriage for twenty five years, I understand the space,
Speaker 1: like don't be like you don't want to be the
Speaker 1: practice round, you know what I mean, like the first pancake,
Speaker 1: because what happens is you'll be the first pancake or
Speaker 1: the second pancake and it's never gonna go well. Like
Speaker 1: the catch who just got divorced after all those years
Speaker 1: doesn't understand what day it is.
Speaker 2: So you just need to know that.
Speaker 1: They may seem and these guys could be so successful
Speaker 1: in business, they could have focused all oh the other
Speaker 1: part is they've been compartmentalizing for all these years. They're
Speaker 1: probably in uninspired marriages. They stayed too long for the kids,
Speaker 1: that's a big one. They stayed for the kids until
Speaker 1: the kids go to college, so they've desensitized themselves. They're
Speaker 1: in like an motionless box. Maybe they cheated. If they
Speaker 1: didn't cheat, it's almost worse because they haven't had any feeling.
Speaker 1: They are devoid of anything. They have just focused on work.
Speaker 1: So they may be so successful in such incredible physical shape.
Speaker 1: These guys are always in great physical shape. They're focusing
Speaker 1: on the triathlon. They want to get in shape. They've
Speaker 1: never been in better shape. They're taking peptides because this
Speaker 1: is what they've put their energy into. They have been
Speaker 1: dead in their marriage. So they could be so highly
Speaker 1: functional and successful at work, but in relationship they're morons
Speaker 1: because they just don't speak the language. They're not fluent,
Speaker 1: they don't speak English, they don't understand any of it.
Speaker 1: So just beware of this guy who looks shiny and polished, successful, rich, perfect,
Speaker 1: who's a moron because he doesn't understand anything. And communication
Speaker 1: style is critical, and how they act is who they are,
Speaker 1: and what they do is how they feel. Do not
Speaker 1: bog yourself down with creating excuses for some dope who's
Speaker 1: not walking upright. I can't help but think about the
Speaker 1: smart and dumb gold digger. I've known so many women
Speaker 1: who have gotten with guys who are flying private, staying
Speaker 1: first class, all the things. Bought her a Gucci bag,
Speaker 1: all the things. Many times, these guys, these flash and
Speaker 1: cash guys, you didn't do your due diligence. You have
Speaker 1: to be a smart gold digger and a smart big
Speaker 1: game hunter. Many times, these flashy, cashy guys have nothing.
Speaker 1: So what's the difference if they have more nothing? What's
Speaker 1: the difference if they get themselves into a bigger hole?
Speaker 1: What's more credit card debt to a god who has
Speaker 1: credit card debt?
Speaker 2: Who cares?
Speaker 1: They're ready in the fucking hole. It's like a binch.
Speaker 1: We already ate all the Cheetos and Frieda's and pizza.
Speaker 1: What's a brownie? It's the ultimate binch. So they will
Speaker 1: go spend and roll deep, especially if they're going to
Speaker 1: attract an interesting woman, a woman who might have some
Speaker 1: money of her own, a woman who might have opportunity
Speaker 1: of her own. Beware, these are the ones who on Facebook,
Speaker 1: end up taking money from you because they look good looking,
Speaker 1: they look like they've got stuff going on.
Speaker 2: What's their job? What are they doing?
Speaker 1: Okay, be fuckingware, be fucking aware. If you're going to
Speaker 1: be a gold digger or big game hunter or want
Speaker 1: a wealthy guy, do your due diligence. There's nothing worse
Speaker 1: than a stupid gold digger. I've seen it so many times,
Speaker 1: and I've been like, you go in the wrong way
Speaker 1: because it's the one with the red flags. Okay, not
Speaker 1: everything is as it seems. And just because someone's willing
Speaker 1: to spend some dough and go some places and do
Speaker 1: some things and take you for caviar, doesn't mean they're rich.
Speaker 1: They might actually be poor. They're likely poor. They're more
Speaker 1: than likely poor. It's too much. If it's too much,
Speaker 1: it's too much, and don't trust it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Meggie Markle's new show, I have not seen it, and
Speaker 1: I don't know how they even do ratings. They used
Speaker 1: to not be able to do ratings, but they're saying
Speaker 1: that the ratings haven't been good, like I think her.
Speaker 1: Their other show was like eighty something million in this
Speaker 1: time and this one's twelve million, which isn't good, but
Speaker 1: they've gotten renewed for season.
Speaker 2: Two, and guess what. Congratulations.
Speaker 1: I want to tell you why I didn't see it,
Speaker 1: But like, what does everybody need or expect for it
Speaker 1: to be? It is a And I don't mean this
Speaker 1: in a bad way. I don't mean this in a
Speaker 1: bad way. We do things for different reasons. It's a
Speaker 1: vanity project, and I don't mean that like she's vain.
Speaker 1: I mean like it's something that they wanted to do.
Speaker 1: They got paid a lot of money to do it.
Speaker 1: She wanted to do it, she's doing it, and it
Speaker 1: got picked up for season two. Mazotov, You're welcome. Congratulations.
Speaker 1: She's doing what she wants to do. And if it's
Speaker 1: gonna be hate watching or just for memes or gifts
Speaker 1: or whatever, then good. Like she's winning because it's making money.
Speaker 1: Do I agree with all of their decisions? No, But
Speaker 1: like if this is just what she wants to do
Speaker 1: because she wants to be a mom, she wants to
Speaker 1: be home, she wants this passion project. She wants this
Speaker 1: vanity not even vanity. Actually I retract that strike that
Speaker 1: from the record. It's a passion project that she wants
Speaker 1: to do. You're allowed to do things because you like it,
Speaker 1: and of course they want it to do well. But
Speaker 1: like she wants to have this passion project. And for
Speaker 1: some reason, she reminds me a little bit of Katie Lee,
Speaker 1: who used to be on Top Chef for one season
Speaker 1: and then she was replaced with Padme And she always
Speaker 1: wanted to be in like the entertaining lifestyle food space
Speaker 1: at home, cooking for her husband, making dishes, and like
Speaker 1: she found her niche through Food Network. It's not like
Speaker 1: she's trying to be Madonna. Maybe she is trying to
Speaker 1: be Madonna. Of course, if she could be more to
Speaker 1: do what she would, But she found her niche and
Speaker 1: she seems happy over there, Like she wants to be
Speaker 1: over there on that network with her family in the Hamptons,
Speaker 1: like being like, you know, a smaller version of the
Speaker 1: Barefoot Contesta, and it seems like Megan wants that too.
Speaker 1: And if she's putting pretzels from one bag into another,
Speaker 1: guess what. I don't put pretzels from one bag into another.
Speaker 1: It's a small dumb things can be dumb hacks, like
Speaker 1: some of the most I literally have a belt secured
Speaker 1: on my waist with that floppy pop part that like
Speaker 1: it doesn't have a loop down there with mouth tape
Speaker 1: and I posted I think I put it on my YouTube,
Speaker 1: like with mouth tape to sleep and I'd so strong
Speaker 1: you could clue your belt together. I also say it's
Speaker 1: nipple tape too. It's the same fucking thing. Does it
Speaker 1: matter on my breaking the internet with that? No?
Speaker 2: But who cares? You don't have to. It's just something
Speaker 2: I'm doing, so it could be like congratula.
Speaker 1: Congratulations to Megan Markele for season two on something that
Speaker 1: she wanted to do in her own way. Congratulations to Netflix.
Speaker 1: People are watching still it's not a failure for them.
Speaker 1: I don't really know how much money they paid, and
Speaker 1: they might have trauncion. They probably said if it hits
Speaker 1: this mark you'll get more money, or you know, if
Speaker 1: it hits this markle you'll get more money. So congratulations,
Speaker 1: and everything doesn't have to be everything. She is probably
Speaker 1: very happy she gets to do the thing she likes
Speaker 1: to do, and as she listens to the fans' critiques,
Speaker 1: which are intense and voluminous, she'll change and hopefully it
Speaker 1: works and hopefully it lands. But by being satirical and
Speaker 1: make fun of able. It's successful. I mean, Julia Fox
Speaker 1: became viral on TikTok with sounds just for people making
Speaker 1: fun of her, and you know, in an endearing way.
Speaker 1: So from Julia Fox's critiques to Megan Markle's ears, and
Speaker 1: she should be so lucky to have like millions of
Speaker 1: views just being critiqued. Okay, if they stop talking, start
Speaker 1: worrying they are talking about her, we cannot discount that
Speaker 1: that is actually happening. So I went to a place
Speaker 1: in La called Love a La Land. What a cute concept,
Speaker 1: like to be kind? And they are kind. They're kind,
Speaker 1: they're cheery, and even though that can be sort of cheesy,
Speaker 1: like I had a sweatshirt that said be kind, which
Speaker 1: was like, oh no, it's said it doesn't cost anything
Speaker 1: to be kind, and I was like, we'll it cost
Speaker 1: seventy five dollars to wear a sweatshirt that says be kind,
Speaker 1: because of course I had to be unkind and talking
Speaker 1: about being kind. But I think it's such a nice
Speaker 1: place to have a cultural fit that's like about being kind,
Speaker 1: and the place makes you feel like you're a little
Speaker 1: bit in like a padded cell nut house, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like it's just like white cream and
Speaker 1: coming and the merch is coming, and everything's nice and
Speaker 1: everything's easy. It's almost like Handmaid's tail. Like it's just
Speaker 1: like there's this seven coffee what's that thing called when
Speaker 1: you have the beer that has that like spigot that
Speaker 1: that handle, and it's like seven coffees, and then there's
Speaker 1: like multiple oat milks in a row, and there's a
Speaker 1: little heart stopper that closes the little hole in the
Speaker 1: top of your coffee, and there's a thoughtful little hand
Speaker 1: protector so your coffee is not hot on your poor
Speaker 1: little precious fingers. And people are just in there on
Speaker 1: their computers and it's just like sort of happy cloudness,
Speaker 1: and I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1: I love the coffee, I love the place. I love
Speaker 1: the people, I love the merchant, I love the kindness.