WEBVTT - Just B Rant: Be a SMART Gold Digger! 0:00:12.360 --> 0:00:16.200 There's something mel Robbins says that is I'm paraphrasing because 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:18.000 I have my own version of it, but I always 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:22.840 give credit to the creator. She says something like how 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:26.119 they act is how they feel. That's not what she said, 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:30.040 but this is what I'm saying, Like what someone does 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:35.360 is who someone is. We create this whole like mystical 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:40.319 labyrinth of why someone did something like oh, he's been 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.800 really busy or he's working. Like a lot of people, 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.440 a lot of the matchmakers will say, well, you know, 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:47.919 if someone doesn't text you for a day or two, 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:50.879 they can be really busy with work. Like I'm calling bullshit. 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:52.920 I am one of the busiest people that I have 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:55.680 ever met. There's no time that I don't respond instantly. 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:59.520 Steve Cohen is a multi billionaire who is the Wizard 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:04.480 of Street who also owns the Mets. He's an instantaneous responder. 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:07.679 Mark Cuban, I've talked about this before, instantaneous responder. Now 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:11.080 I'm not dating them. They're both married, but if I 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:15.039 were and they were into me, they would be instantaneously 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.560 responding unless they were like under a piece of furniture 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:20.680 in a massage, in a board meeting, but it would 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:24.240 be the proverbial instantaneous, because someone should be responding to 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:26.600 you as they would their kids because they're interested. It 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:28.880 doesn't mean you're as important as their kids, but it 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.280 means in that moment, you are. They're just they're not moron. 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:37.200 So how someone interacts, responds, and communicates is who they 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.800 are and how they feel about you. Do not try 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:42.640 to gaslight yourself. Do not try to come up with 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.800 some mystical reason something happened. You know. 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:48.840 The difference, So another thing that goes on. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:54.240 So I'm the expert on men who have been married, 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:59.080 gotten divorced, want to start dating, don't want a gold 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.920 digger wants some want to talk to. Want someone that 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:06.040 they feel like is a business peer, and like I said, 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:09.600 someone who's not with them to just be taken care of. 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.120 That's men who want to partner. 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:16.160 I'm the queen of that space, okay, because people want 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:17.280 to set me up with them and they're like, she 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:20.040 doesn't need your money and they're like oh, and they're 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:24.760 like she's smart, okay, and you know her her kid 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:28.200 is older. Okay, So I understand this group. Let me 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.680 tell you some of the cautionary tales about this group. 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:35.359 If someone's been married for a long time and then 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:40.799 they start dating, they are literally they are like deer 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:44.040 that have not gotten their footing. They are babies that 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:47.800 don't know how to walk. They don't know how to text, 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:51.800 they don't understand how to communicate, they don't understand what's 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:57.239 sexually appropriate. They want to date, so they want to 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:59.920 get out there because they feel lonely, but once they 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.919 get out there, they don't know what the fuck they're doing. 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:06.600 It's it's like children. There are twenty eight year old 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:09.079 guys who've been out on the dating scene who are 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.920 smarter about dating than these dinosaurs. And because I was 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:18.080 in a marriage for twenty five years, I understand the space, 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:23.080 like don't be like you don't want to be the 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:26.480 practice round, you know what I mean, like the first pancake, 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.440 because what happens is you'll be the first pancake or 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:31.600 the second pancake and it's never gonna go well. Like 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.480 the catch who just got divorced after all those years 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.080 doesn't understand what day it is. 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:39.120 So you just need to know that. 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.320 They may seem and these guys could be so successful 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:44.960 in business, they could have focused all oh the other 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:48.600 part is they've been compartmentalizing for all these years. They're 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:52.680 probably in uninspired marriages. They stayed too long for the kids, 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.320 that's a big one. They stayed for the kids until 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.920 the kids go to college, so they've desensitized themselves. They're 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.920 in like an motionless box. Maybe they cheated. If they 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:05.560 didn't cheat, it's almost worse because they haven't had any feeling. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:09.680 They are devoid of anything. They have just focused on work. 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:14.480 So they may be so successful in such incredible physical shape. 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.640 These guys are always in great physical shape. They're focusing 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.880 on the triathlon. They want to get in shape. They've 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.920 never been in better shape. They're taking peptides because this 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.279 is what they've put their energy into. They have been 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:30.080 dead in their marriage. So they could be so highly 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:36.520 functional and successful at work, but in relationship they're morons 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.520 because they just don't speak the language. They're not fluent, 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.400 they don't speak English, they don't understand any of it. 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:49.440 So just beware of this guy who looks shiny and polished, successful, rich, perfect, 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:56.000 who's a moron because he doesn't understand anything. And communication 0:04:56.120 --> 0:05:00.840 style is critical, and how they act is who they are, 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.680 and what they do is how they feel. Do not 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:08.240 bog yourself down with creating excuses for some dope who's 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:14.960 not walking upright. I can't help but think about the 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:18.799 smart and dumb gold digger. I've known so many women 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:21.120 who have gotten with guys who are flying private, staying 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:24.440 first class, all the things. Bought her a Gucci bag, 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:29.680 all the things. Many times, these guys, these flash and 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:34.520 cash guys, you didn't do your due diligence. You have 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.400 to be a smart gold digger and a smart big 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:42.719 game hunter. Many times, these flashy, cashy guys have nothing. 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:45.960 So what's the difference if they have more nothing? What's 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.040 the difference if they get themselves into a bigger hole? 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:50.359 What's more credit card debt to a god who has 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:51.080 credit card debt? 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:51.800 Who cares? 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.000 They're ready in the fucking hole. It's like a binch. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.599 We already ate all the Cheetos and Frieda's and pizza. 0:05:56.880 --> 0:06:01.080 What's a brownie? It's the ultimate binch. So they will 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.880 go spend and roll deep, especially if they're going to 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:08.040 attract an interesting woman, a woman who might have some 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:10.600 money of her own, a woman who might have opportunity 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:14.839 of her own. Beware, these are the ones who on Facebook, 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:18.040 end up taking money from you because they look good looking, 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:19.600 they look like they've got stuff going on. 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:21.039 What's their job? What are they doing? 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:25.000 Okay, be fuckingware, be fucking aware. If you're going to 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.599 be a gold digger or big game hunter or want 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:33.120 a wealthy guy, do your due diligence. There's nothing worse 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:35.520 than a stupid gold digger. I've seen it so many times, 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:37.280 and I've been like, you go in the wrong way 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.479 because it's the one with the red flags. Okay, not 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:43.760 everything is as it seems. And just because someone's willing 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.839 to spend some dough and go some places and do 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.599 some things and take you for caviar, doesn't mean they're rich. 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:52.320 They might actually be poor. They're likely poor. They're more 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:56.320 than likely poor. It's too much. If it's too much, 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:58.640 it's too much, and don't trust it. 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:12.320 Okay. 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:15.760 Meggie Markle's new show, I have not seen it, and 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:17.400 I don't know how they even do ratings. They used 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:19.119 to not be able to do ratings, but they're saying 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.800 that the ratings haven't been good, like I think her. 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.080 Their other show was like eighty something million in this 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:26.960 time and this one's twelve million, which isn't good, but 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:29.280 they've gotten renewed for season. 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:31.800 Two, and guess what. Congratulations. 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:35.040 I want to tell you why I didn't see it, 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:38.840 But like, what does everybody need or expect for it 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.440 to be? It is a And I don't mean this 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.720 in a bad way. I don't mean this in a 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.960 bad way. We do things for different reasons. It's a 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:48.440 vanity project, and I don't mean that like she's vain. 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:50.800 I mean like it's something that they wanted to do. 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.600 They got paid a lot of money to do it. 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:54.720 She wanted to do it, she's doing it, and it 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:59.200 got picked up for season two. Mazotov, You're welcome. Congratulations. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.560 She's doing what she wants to do. And if it's 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:05.520 gonna be hate watching or just for memes or gifts 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:10.239 or whatever, then good. Like she's winning because it's making money. 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.640 Do I agree with all of their decisions? No, But 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:15.680 like if this is just what she wants to do 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:17.200 because she wants to be a mom, she wants to 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.480 be home, she wants this passion project. She wants this 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:23.360 vanity not even vanity. Actually I retract that strike that 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.640 from the record. It's a passion project that she wants 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.440 to do. You're allowed to do things because you like it, 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:31.440 and of course they want it to do well. But 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:35.120 like she wants to have this passion project. And for 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:37.720 some reason, she reminds me a little bit of Katie Lee, 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:40.040 who used to be on Top Chef for one season 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.840 and then she was replaced with Padme And she always 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:45.679 wanted to be in like the entertaining lifestyle food space 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:48.680 at home, cooking for her husband, making dishes, and like 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:51.800 she found her niche through Food Network. It's not like 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:53.559 she's trying to be Madonna. Maybe she is trying to 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:55.640 be Madonna. Of course, if she could be more to 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:57.400 do what she would, But she found her niche and 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.640 she seems happy over there, Like she wants to be 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:03.160 over there on that network with her family in the Hamptons, 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:08.560 like being like, you know, a smaller version of the 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.040 Barefoot Contesta, and it seems like Megan wants that too. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:13.160 And if she's putting pretzels from one bag into another, 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:15.880 guess what. I don't put pretzels from one bag into another. 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:19.680 It's a small dumb things can be dumb hacks, like 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:22.880 some of the most I literally have a belt secured 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.839 on my waist with that floppy pop part that like 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:29.079 it doesn't have a loop down there with mouth tape 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.199 and I posted I think I put it on my YouTube, 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.480 like with mouth tape to sleep and I'd so strong 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:36.520 you could clue your belt together. I also say it's 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:38.599 nipple tape too. It's the same fucking thing. Does it 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:40.880 matter on my breaking the internet with that? No? 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:42.640 But who cares? You don't have to. It's just something 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.040 I'm doing, so it could be like congratula. 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:49.199 Congratulations to Megan Markele for season two on something that 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:53.560 she wanted to do in her own way. Congratulations to Netflix. 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:57.080 People are watching still it's not a failure for them. 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:58.920 I don't really know how much money they paid, and 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:02.000 they might have trauncion. They probably said if it hits 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:04.560 this mark you'll get more money, or you know, if 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:08.760 it hits this markle you'll get more money. So congratulations, 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:12.079 and everything doesn't have to be everything. She is probably 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.280 very happy she gets to do the thing she likes 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:18.520 to do, and as she listens to the fans' critiques, 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:23.400 which are intense and voluminous, she'll change and hopefully it 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:26.679 works and hopefully it lands. But by being satirical and 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:31.800 make fun of able. It's successful. I mean, Julia Fox 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:34.520 became viral on TikTok with sounds just for people making 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:37.920 fun of her, and you know, in an endearing way. 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:42.959 So from Julia Fox's critiques to Megan Markle's ears, and 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.000 she should be so lucky to have like millions of 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:49.360 views just being critiqued. Okay, if they stop talking, start 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:53.040 worrying they are talking about her, we cannot discount that 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:59.080 that is actually happening. So I went to a place 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:02.760 in La called Love a La Land. What a cute concept, 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:06.760 like to be kind? And they are kind. They're kind, 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:09.360 they're cheery, and even though that can be sort of cheesy, 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:11.160 like I had a sweatshirt that said be kind, which 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:14.280 was like, oh no, it's said it doesn't cost anything 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:15.440 to be kind, and I was like, we'll it cost 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:17.679 seventy five dollars to wear a sweatshirt that says be kind, 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:19.440 because of course I had to be unkind and talking 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:22.959 about being kind. But I think it's such a nice 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.520 place to have a cultural fit that's like about being kind, 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:27.480 and the place makes you feel like you're a little 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:29.240 bit in like a padded cell nut house, you know 0:11:29.280 --> 0:11:31.520 what I mean. Like it's just like white cream and 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:36.080 coming and the merch is coming, and everything's nice and 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:39.280 everything's easy. It's almost like Handmaid's tail. Like it's just 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:43.719 like there's this seven coffee what's that thing called when 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:46.199 you have the beer that has that like spigot that 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:48.480 that handle, and it's like seven coffees, and then there's 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.280 like multiple oat milks in a row, and there's a 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:54.640 little heart stopper that closes the little hole in the 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:57.760 top of your coffee, and there's a thoughtful little hand 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:00.760 protector so your coffee is not hot on your poor 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.800 little precious fingers. And people are just in there on 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:06.080 their computers and it's just like sort of happy cloudness, 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:06.760 and I love it. 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:08.200 I love it. I love it. 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:09.720 I love the coffee, I love the place. I love 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.320 the people, I love the merchant, I love the kindness.