1 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: There's something mel Robbins says that is I'm paraphrasing because 2 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: I have my own version of it, but I always 3 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: give credit to the creator. She says something like how 4 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: they act is how they feel. That's not what she said, 5 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: but this is what I'm saying, Like what someone does 6 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: is who someone is. We create this whole like mystical 7 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:40,319 Speaker 1: labyrinth of why someone did something like oh, he's been 8 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: really busy or he's working. Like a lot of people, 9 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: a lot of the matchmakers will say, well, you know, 10 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:47,919 Speaker 1: if someone doesn't text you for a day or two, 11 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 1: they can be really busy with work. Like I'm calling bullshit. 12 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: I am one of the busiest people that I have 13 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: ever met. There's no time that I don't respond instantly. 14 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: Steve Cohen is a multi billionaire who is the Wizard 15 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: of Street who also owns the Mets. He's an instantaneous responder. 16 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: Mark Cuban, I've talked about this before, instantaneous responder. Now 17 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 1: I'm not dating them. They're both married, but if I 18 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: were and they were into me, they would be instantaneously 19 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: responding unless they were like under a piece of furniture 20 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,680 Speaker 1: in a massage, in a board meeting, but it would 21 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: be the proverbial instantaneous, because someone should be responding to 22 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: you as they would their kids because they're interested. It 23 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you're as important as their kids, but it 24 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: means in that moment, you are. They're just they're not moron. 25 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: So how someone interacts, responds, and communicates is who they 26 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: are and how they feel about you. Do not try 27 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: to gaslight yourself. Do not try to come up with 28 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: some mystical reason something happened. You know. 29 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 2: The difference, So another thing that goes on. 30 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: So I'm the expert on men who have been married, 31 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: gotten divorced, want to start dating, don't want a gold 32 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: digger wants some want to talk to. Want someone that 33 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: they feel like is a business peer, and like I said, 34 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: someone who's not with them to just be taken care of. 35 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 2: That's men who want to partner. 36 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: I'm the queen of that space, okay, because people want 37 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 1: to set me up with them and they're like, she 38 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: doesn't need your money and they're like oh, and they're 39 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: like she's smart, okay, and you know her her kid 40 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: is older. Okay, So I understand this group. Let me 41 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: tell you some of the cautionary tales about this group. 42 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:35,359 Speaker 1: If someone's been married for a long time and then 43 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 1: they start dating, they are literally they are like deer 44 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: that have not gotten their footing. They are babies that 45 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 1: don't know how to walk. They don't know how to text, 46 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: they don't understand how to communicate, they don't understand what's 47 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:57,239 Speaker 1: sexually appropriate. They want to date, so they want to 48 00:02:57,280 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 1: get out there because they feel lonely, but once they 49 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: get out there, they don't know what the fuck they're doing. 50 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: It's it's like children. There are twenty eight year old 51 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: guys who've been out on the dating scene who are 52 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: smarter about dating than these dinosaurs. And because I was 53 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: in a marriage for twenty five years, I understand the space, 54 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 1: like don't be like you don't want to be the 55 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: practice round, you know what I mean, like the first pancake, 56 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: because what happens is you'll be the first pancake or 57 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: the second pancake and it's never gonna go well. Like 58 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: the catch who just got divorced after all those years 59 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: doesn't understand what day it is. 60 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 2: So you just need to know that. 61 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,320 Speaker 1: They may seem and these guys could be so successful 62 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: in business, they could have focused all oh the other 63 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: part is they've been compartmentalizing for all these years. They're 64 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: probably in uninspired marriages. They stayed too long for the kids, 65 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: that's a big one. They stayed for the kids until 66 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: the kids go to college, so they've desensitized themselves. They're 67 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: in like an motionless box. Maybe they cheated. If they 68 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: didn't cheat, it's almost worse because they haven't had any feeling. 69 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: They are devoid of anything. They have just focused on work. 70 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: So they may be so successful in such incredible physical shape. 71 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: These guys are always in great physical shape. They're focusing 72 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: on the triathlon. They want to get in shape. They've 73 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: never been in better shape. They're taking peptides because this 74 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: is what they've put their energy into. They have been 75 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: dead in their marriage. So they could be so highly 76 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: functional and successful at work, but in relationship they're morons 77 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 1: because they just don't speak the language. They're not fluent, 78 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: they don't speak English, they don't understand any of it. 79 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: So just beware of this guy who looks shiny and polished, successful, rich, perfect, 80 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: who's a moron because he doesn't understand anything. And communication 81 00:04:56,120 --> 00:05:00,840 Speaker 1: style is critical, and how they act is who they are, 82 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 1: and what they do is how they feel. Do not 83 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: bog yourself down with creating excuses for some dope who's 84 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: not walking upright. I can't help but think about the 85 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:18,799 Speaker 1: smart and dumb gold digger. I've known so many women 86 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: who have gotten with guys who are flying private, staying 87 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: first class, all the things. Bought her a Gucci bag, 88 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: all the things. Many times, these guys, these flash and 89 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: cash guys, you didn't do your due diligence. You have 90 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: to be a smart gold digger and a smart big 91 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:42,719 Speaker 1: game hunter. Many times, these flashy, cashy guys have nothing. 92 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: So what's the difference if they have more nothing? What's 93 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 1: the difference if they get themselves into a bigger hole? 94 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 1: What's more credit card debt to a god who has 95 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: credit card debt? 96 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 2: Who cares? 97 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: They're ready in the fucking hole. It's like a binch. 98 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 1: We already ate all the Cheetos and Frieda's and pizza. 99 00:05:56,880 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: What's a brownie? It's the ultimate binch. So they will 100 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: go spend and roll deep, especially if they're going to 101 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: attract an interesting woman, a woman who might have some 102 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: money of her own, a woman who might have opportunity 103 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 1: of her own. Beware, these are the ones who on Facebook, 104 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: end up taking money from you because they look good looking, 105 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:19,600 Speaker 1: they look like they've got stuff going on. 106 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:21,039 Speaker 2: What's their job? What are they doing? 107 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: Okay, be fuckingware, be fucking aware. If you're going to 108 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 1: be a gold digger or big game hunter or want 109 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: a wealthy guy, do your due diligence. There's nothing worse 110 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: than a stupid gold digger. I've seen it so many times, 111 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 1: and I've been like, you go in the wrong way 112 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 1: because it's the one with the red flags. Okay, not 113 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: everything is as it seems. And just because someone's willing 114 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:45,839 Speaker 1: to spend some dough and go some places and do 115 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 1: some things and take you for caviar, doesn't mean they're rich. 116 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: They might actually be poor. They're likely poor. They're more 117 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: than likely poor. It's too much. If it's too much, 118 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: it's too much, and don't trust it. 119 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 2: Okay. 120 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: Meggie Markle's new show, I have not seen it, and 121 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 1: I don't know how they even do ratings. They used 122 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:19,119 Speaker 1: to not be able to do ratings, but they're saying 123 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: that the ratings haven't been good, like I think her. 124 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: Their other show was like eighty something million in this 125 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: time and this one's twelve million, which isn't good, but 126 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: they've gotten renewed for season. 127 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 2: Two, and guess what. Congratulations. 128 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 1: I want to tell you why I didn't see it, 129 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 1: But like, what does everybody need or expect for it 130 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 1: to be? It is a And I don't mean this 131 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: in a bad way. I don't mean this in a 132 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: bad way. We do things for different reasons. It's a 133 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: vanity project, and I don't mean that like she's vain. 134 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: I mean like it's something that they wanted to do. 135 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: They got paid a lot of money to do it. 136 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 1: She wanted to do it, she's doing it, and it 137 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 1: got picked up for season two. Mazotov, You're welcome. Congratulations. 138 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: She's doing what she wants to do. And if it's 139 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: gonna be hate watching or just for memes or gifts 140 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:10,239 Speaker 1: or whatever, then good. Like she's winning because it's making money. 141 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: Do I agree with all of their decisions? No, But 142 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: like if this is just what she wants to do 143 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: because she wants to be a mom, she wants to 144 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: be home, she wants this passion project. She wants this 145 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: vanity not even vanity. Actually I retract that strike that 146 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: from the record. It's a passion project that she wants 147 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 1: to do. You're allowed to do things because you like it, 148 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: and of course they want it to do well. But 149 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: like she wants to have this passion project. And for 150 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: some reason, she reminds me a little bit of Katie Lee, 151 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: who used to be on Top Chef for one season 152 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: and then she was replaced with Padme And she always 153 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,679 Speaker 1: wanted to be in like the entertaining lifestyle food space 154 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,680 Speaker 1: at home, cooking for her husband, making dishes, and like 155 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: she found her niche through Food Network. It's not like 156 00:08:51,840 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 1: she's trying to be Madonna. Maybe she is trying to 157 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: be Madonna. Of course, if she could be more to 158 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: do what she would, But she found her niche and 159 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: she seems happy over there, Like she wants to be 160 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: over there on that network with her family in the Hamptons, 161 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: like being like, you know, a smaller version of the 162 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: Barefoot Contesta, and it seems like Megan wants that too. 163 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: And if she's putting pretzels from one bag into another, 164 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: guess what. I don't put pretzels from one bag into another. 165 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 1: It's a small dumb things can be dumb hacks, like 166 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: some of the most I literally have a belt secured 167 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,839 Speaker 1: on my waist with that floppy pop part that like 168 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: it doesn't have a loop down there with mouth tape 169 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,199 Speaker 1: and I posted I think I put it on my YouTube, 170 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 1: like with mouth tape to sleep and I'd so strong 171 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: you could clue your belt together. I also say it's 172 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:38,599 Speaker 1: nipple tape too. It's the same fucking thing. Does it 173 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: matter on my breaking the internet with that? No? 174 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 2: But who cares? You don't have to. It's just something 175 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 2: I'm doing, so it could be like congratula. 176 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 1: Congratulations to Megan Markele for season two on something that 177 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:53,560 Speaker 1: she wanted to do in her own way. Congratulations to Netflix. 178 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: People are watching still it's not a failure for them. 179 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 1: I don't really know how much money they paid, and 180 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: they might have trauncion. They probably said if it hits 181 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,560 Speaker 1: this mark you'll get more money, or you know, if 182 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: it hits this markle you'll get more money. So congratulations, 183 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:12,079 Speaker 1: and everything doesn't have to be everything. She is probably 184 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: very happy she gets to do the thing she likes 185 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: to do, and as she listens to the fans' critiques, 186 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: which are intense and voluminous, she'll change and hopefully it 187 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:26,679 Speaker 1: works and hopefully it lands. But by being satirical and 188 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: make fun of able. It's successful. I mean, Julia Fox 189 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 1: became viral on TikTok with sounds just for people making 190 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: fun of her, and you know, in an endearing way. 191 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:42,959 Speaker 1: So from Julia Fox's critiques to Megan Markle's ears, and 192 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 1: she should be so lucky to have like millions of 193 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: views just being critiqued. Okay, if they stop talking, start 194 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: worrying they are talking about her, we cannot discount that 195 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: that is actually happening. So I went to a place 196 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: in La called Love a La Land. What a cute concept, 197 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 1: like to be kind? And they are kind. They're kind, 198 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: they're cheery, and even though that can be sort of cheesy, 199 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: like I had a sweatshirt that said be kind, which 200 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: was like, oh no, it's said it doesn't cost anything 201 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: to be kind, and I was like, we'll it cost 202 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,679 Speaker 1: seventy five dollars to wear a sweatshirt that says be kind, 203 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,440 Speaker 1: because of course I had to be unkind and talking 204 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:22,959 Speaker 1: about being kind. But I think it's such a nice 205 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: place to have a cultural fit that's like about being kind, 206 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 1: and the place makes you feel like you're a little 207 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 1: bit in like a padded cell nut house, you know 208 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: what I mean. Like it's just like white cream and 209 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:36,080 Speaker 1: coming and the merch is coming, and everything's nice and 210 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: everything's easy. It's almost like Handmaid's tail. Like it's just 211 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,719 Speaker 1: like there's this seven coffee what's that thing called when 212 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,199 Speaker 1: you have the beer that has that like spigot that 213 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: that handle, and it's like seven coffees, and then there's 214 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: like multiple oat milks in a row, and there's a 215 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 1: little heart stopper that closes the little hole in the 216 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: top of your coffee, and there's a thoughtful little hand 217 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: protector so your coffee is not hot on your poor 218 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: little precious fingers. And people are just in there on 219 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:06,080 Speaker 1: their computers and it's just like sort of happy cloudness, 220 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: and I love it. 221 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. 222 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: I love the coffee, I love the place. I love 223 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: the people, I love the merchant, I love the kindness.