WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Sorry Not Sorry

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<v Speaker 1>Rooking Jubels second date update. They say that one man's

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<v Speaker 1>trash is another man's treasure. I already don't like the

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<v Speaker 1>start of today's second date update, and that's why Tim

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone for a second date update. Today.

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<v Speaker 1>He found a discarded date and then he sweeped in

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<v Speaker 1>and got a date with her. Started Tim, Now, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to call your date trash. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>an analogy. Okay, Yeah, I tell us about the garbage pickup.

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<v Speaker 1>How'd it go? Um? Yeah, well, let leove back up.

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<v Speaker 1>I went out that night to go see a play

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<v Speaker 1>and I just went by myself. So I go to

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<v Speaker 1>the theater and I'm there and down the row, a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of seats down, there's this girl and she was

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<v Speaker 1>pretty cute. So I smiled at her and she sort

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<v Speaker 1>of smiled back. Did you throw her a wink too? No? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I did the polite you know, like smile ahead. No,

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<v Speaker 1>just like hello all right, like bite the lower lip,

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<v Speaker 1>like h my god. Any of the proper moves are

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<v Speaker 1>just simply a maybe I should have done that. You

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<v Speaker 1>start talking about how this woman sounds like a sweater

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<v Speaker 1>from Goodwill, and now you're tea all right, So he

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<v Speaker 1>smiled at her. I did, and the seat next to

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<v Speaker 1>her is vacant. So I get a little courage and

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of like walked down a little bit to

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<v Speaker 1>the aisle and I just said, Hey, is anybody sitting

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<v Speaker 1>the seat? And she said, yeah, someone else is going

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<v Speaker 1>to come take the seat. And then that's when you

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<v Speaker 1>yelled at out. Why are you yelled at her? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>He was upset. No, no, no, no, oh, you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>yelled at her. No, I just said, oh, okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't ask who you know the seat was for, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's none of your business, because she's a complete

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<v Speaker 1>stranger in a theater. Yeah, but she also didn't say

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<v Speaker 1>you know who it was for either, Like if it

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<v Speaker 1>was her husband, I imagine she would say like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's for my husband or or my boyfriend. Right, she

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<v Speaker 1>probably wouldn't, let you know, stop hitting on me exactly. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And the nicest way possible, I feel like, seat taken

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<v Speaker 1>has already stopped hitting on me. Why would you guys

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<v Speaker 1>saying no, actually I married him in a very long

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<v Speaker 1>relationship and the seat has been taken by him. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>there's this possibility that the seat is, you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>for one of her girlfriend. You know, a friend of

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<v Speaker 1>hers actually went to see the play with Yeah, right, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so you went back to your regular seat, then I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. I said, okay, well, you know, and enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>the show, and then I went back and the show

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<v Speaker 1>started a few minutes later, and it was good, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>But then through the show I sort of kept the

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<v Speaker 1>eye just looking over by her to see if him

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<v Speaker 1>in a hatch showed up. You almost sound like you're

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<v Speaker 1>starting to get a little creepy, the guy at the

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<v Speaker 1>that keeps looking over at her during the play. I

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<v Speaker 1>did it. That's the thing. I didn't want to, so

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of did, like the perfuel vision to see

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<v Speaker 1>if there's any action happening over there. Um anyway, So

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<v Speaker 1>intermission comes and no one had showed up. Oh the

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<v Speaker 1>mysterious vacant seat. She's either lying to you or the

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<v Speaker 1>person didn't show up. So you know, I went out,

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<v Speaker 1>I got something to drink, do the intermission stuff. And

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<v Speaker 1>when I came back in, I came in, so I

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<v Speaker 1>walked past her to get into the aisle, and as

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<v Speaker 1>I walked past her, I just said, hey, the seats

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<v Speaker 1>still taken, and she said, no, they didn't show, and

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<v Speaker 1>I said, oh, well, do you mind if I sit there?

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<v Speaker 1>And she said sure, So I say, good persistence. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I would have felt weird going back up

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<v Speaker 1>to her and being like, yeah, hey, what's up? You

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<v Speaker 1>said someone just come for that seat, but it's been

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<v Speaker 1>open this whole time and I've had my eye on

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<v Speaker 1>that seat. So yeah, and you a liar, just lied.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody's what's going on with you? I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>seem that way. I didn't want to see a creepy guy.

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<v Speaker 1>It was more like, you know, like I felt bad,

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<v Speaker 1>like she got good up on her day. It's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of awkward, though, I mean, you're putting her in a

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<v Speaker 1>position like what is she going to do? Stick to

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<v Speaker 1>the lie at that point? No, someone's still coming for

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<v Speaker 1>the last half of the play. But the good thing

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<v Speaker 1>is the play finishes and we start talking and then

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<v Speaker 1>I just said, do you want to go grab something

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<v Speaker 1>to eat? And she said, yeah, sure, that'd be great.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's cool. Okay. Yeah, So we laughed and we

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<v Speaker 1>walked to a place and we sit on and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we talked for a little while. We get a drink,

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<v Speaker 1>we get some food, conversations great, you know, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>creepy at all. And I noticed so that she's starting

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<v Speaker 1>to get a little life tired, and so I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, won't we just call it a night?

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<v Speaker 1>And she said, yeah, that'd be great. So I walked

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<v Speaker 1>into her car, said good night, gave her a hug,

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<v Speaker 1>and said can I call you? And she said sure?

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<v Speaker 1>And so I texted her a couple of times and

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<v Speaker 1>I never heard back, and I was, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>thought things had gone well, and you know, then I

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<v Speaker 1>emailed you guys. Did you ever find out who the

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<v Speaker 1>seat was for? You know, we didn't talk about it

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<v Speaker 1>at dinner because I thought if I brought it up

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<v Speaker 1>and she could get stood up, it would be uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>or make her feel bad. So I just stayed away

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<v Speaker 1>from it. I has a good idea. So how long

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<v Speaker 1>has it been since you guys went to dinner? It's

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<v Speaker 1>been like a week and a half. A week and

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<v Speaker 1>a half, okay, So she's definitely blowing you off. Yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I just certain, but why, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>who was that four or maybe it was for a

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend or someone that she was dating and he finally

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<v Speaker 1>showed up, or and now she's like nine wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>do with you. Maybe I was too forward, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I was a creepy guy in the theater trying

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<v Speaker 1>to steal the speed or yeah, so that's why you

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<v Speaker 1>knowled you guys, Well, we'll play a song, comeback, call

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<v Speaker 1>her and get your second date update. Okay, okay, great, great,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, man, just hold on brooking jubile in the morning. Second.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I forgot to ask the most important question

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<v Speaker 1>about today's second date update. If you just missed the

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<v Speaker 1>first part. Tim is on the phone and he wants

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<v Speaker 1>to call a girl named Sarah today. They actually met

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<v Speaker 1>at a play. She had an empty seat next to her.

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<v Speaker 1>At the beginning of the play, he asked if he

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<v Speaker 1>could sit in it because he wanted to move seats

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<v Speaker 1>and sit next to her because he thought she was hot,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said it was taken, And then after intermission

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<v Speaker 1>he saw the seat was still open, so he asked

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<v Speaker 1>her again. She ended up saying yes, you can sit

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<v Speaker 1>in the seat because whoever she was waiting for didn't

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<v Speaker 1>show up. After the play, they went to dinner, had

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<v Speaker 1>a great time. But now she's not calling him back,

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<v Speaker 1>and I forgot to ask him this, and I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>about that. Everybody listening, I know that you really want

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<v Speaker 1>to know, Tim, how was the play? No one cares

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<v Speaker 1>about that, like scale of one to five stars? What

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<v Speaker 1>are we talking? Well, the first act I was a

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<v Speaker 1>little distracted because I was, you know, trying to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out what the MP seat was about. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>it was like a three. Okay, good, all right. Shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>we even do the Seconday update now? Or have we

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<v Speaker 1>gotten that all cleared up? No? I still want to

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<v Speaker 1>know why she never thought? Okay, and Tim, you can't

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<v Speaker 1>remember any awkward moments you guys had when you went

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<v Speaker 1>for dinner and drinks after the play. No, everything was real,

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<v Speaker 1>like casual and cool, and I thought I was being

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<v Speaker 1>very like polite, and I have a lot of questions

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<v Speaker 1>about her, you know what she's like. I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was a good conversation. You actually seem very charming and

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<v Speaker 1>like a good listener. So I'll give you props on that. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, thank you, horrible play reviewer. But yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna dot her phone number right now here we go. Okay, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Hi is Sarah there? Yeah, this is Sarah. Hey Sarah,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? My name is Jebil and I host

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<v Speaker 1>a show called Brook and Jewel in the morning. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you today? Fine? Thank you. What's this regarding, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's regarding a date that you went on just a

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<v Speaker 1>little while ago. Okay, I know we started out so

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<v Speaker 1>business like, didn't we know? It's you might not even

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<v Speaker 1>think of this as a date, but you recently hung

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<v Speaker 1>out with somebody and they've been trying to get a

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<v Speaker 1>hold of you to get another date, but you're not

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<v Speaker 1>calling them back. So they emailed us to see if

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<v Speaker 1>we could get you on the phone and find out why.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh jeez, his name is Tim. Seriously. Yeah, he told

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<v Speaker 1>us about how he met you at a play and

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<v Speaker 1>then you had dinner after, so he contacted you to

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<v Speaker 1>get ahold of me. Yeah he did. Apparently he's been

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get ahold of you, but you're not returning

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<v Speaker 1>any of his phone calls or text messages. Yeah. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I'm just not into it, I guess. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>it sounded almost like for a second you were excited

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<v Speaker 1>that he contacted us. I was more surprised, not excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Read that wrong, then, Yeah, well Tim told us about

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<v Speaker 1>how you guys hung out. He said that it seemed

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<v Speaker 1>like you had a great time and he's confused. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he's an interesting person. I just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how I feel about him. Can I

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what I think it is and you let

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<v Speaker 1>me know if I'm right or wrong? Okay? So he

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<v Speaker 1>said that when he saw you at the play, you

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<v Speaker 1>had an empty seat next to you, and he asked

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<v Speaker 1>you like twice if he could sit in it. The

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<v Speaker 1>first time you said you were waiting for somebody to

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<v Speaker 1>show up. The next time you said, sure, they didn't

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<v Speaker 1>show up. Were you waiting for a boyfriend or a

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<v Speaker 1>husband or something like that. Uh No, I'm definitely single. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually just got canceled on by a friend. So

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, why would you say yes to him sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there when he asked the second time, and yes to

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<v Speaker 1>dinner if you weren't interested in him. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>was interested in him, but I only know him for

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<v Speaker 1>like ten seconds, and you know that kind of changed

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<v Speaker 1>once I got to know him. Really, I told him

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<v Speaker 1>after we talked to him that he was charming and

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<v Speaker 1>a good listener. Apparently I also had a bad read

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<v Speaker 1>on that. Yeah, I don't know. It was fine, And

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<v Speaker 1>then at dinner, I just sort of got some red flags.

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<v Speaker 1>What sort of red flags can you tell us? Basically,

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<v Speaker 1>we were walking into the restaurant and he stepped on

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<v Speaker 1>my heel and he just says oops, and I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of so he stepped on your he stepped on your

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<v Speaker 1>shoe and then said oops. Yeah, and like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>normal people would apologize if you just stepped on one right. Oh. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't say sorry about that. No, he didn't say sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really strange. And then at dinner later, he

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<v Speaker 1>knocks over his glass and it breaks, and when the

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<v Speaker 1>waitress comes and picks it up, he just says, the

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<v Speaker 1>glass fell. He didn't take responsibility for the shoe or

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<v Speaker 1>the glass. Yeah, exactly, no apology. You know, if that

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<v Speaker 1>would have been me, I would have been so embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you've broken the restaurant's glass. Yeah, he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>apologize at all, So it was it kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>jerk then just pointing out, hey, glass on the ground,

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<v Speaker 1>pick it up please. Honestly, it kind of read like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is not what I'm looking for. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>not into somebody who can't say that they're sorry, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking for someone who's more polite and can admit

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<v Speaker 1>when they've done something wrong, when they've stepped on someone

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<v Speaker 1>maybe or broken someone else's property. I mean, it's the

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<v Speaker 1>first date, and you'd think on the first date that's

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<v Speaker 1>when you want to be the most polite. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think he just has some kind of problem where he

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<v Speaker 1>can't say he's sorry. Okay, I want to let you

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<v Speaker 1>know that I don't have that problem, and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you that I'm sorry to break the news.

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<v Speaker 1>But Tim is actually on the other line listening and

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<v Speaker 1>wants to talk to you right now. What. Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sorry about that. Tim. Are you there? Yeah? Hi? Tim?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that you? It's me? Hey, so awkward? Is that

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<v Speaker 1>the real reason why you didn't come it back? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't say sorry. Yeah, that's the reason I'm sorry. See,

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<v Speaker 1>I can say it, but I don't know why you're

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<v Speaker 1>saying it. Why I just said I'm sorry. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just an empty sorry. What wait? Now you need sories

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<v Speaker 1>with depth. It just seems like for me. So okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So we were walking in the restaurant. We were in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle of a conversation and I know he's talking

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<v Speaker 1>about I stepped on your heel, and I started just

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<v Speaker 1>went like, oops, it went back to the conversation. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like sort of looks like a toss off that

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<v Speaker 1>it happened. It didn't happened on purpose, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of the conversation, so it just like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh oops, and we just continued. I didn't I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>think it was that big about red playing. A normal

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<v Speaker 1>person would say I'm sorry, yeah, but I didn't step

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<v Speaker 1>on you. I stepped on your shoe. I would be

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<v Speaker 1>apologizing if are you right now? Yeah? Most people wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Why why would I say sorry? I didn't do any

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<v Speaker 1>lookings on purpose? Okay, sometimes you don't do things on purpose,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still say sorry, Like you accidentally stepped on

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<v Speaker 1>a shoe. People, those are just those are just empty

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<v Speaker 1>sorryes because it wasn't I didn't do it on purpose.

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<v Speaker 1>It was an accident. So if you were like driving

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<v Speaker 1>your car and you accidentally hit a pedestrian, you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>apologize for that either, because that wasn't on purpose. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>whose fault wasn't serious? Are you serious right now? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just your foot that's on my foot could not

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<v Speaker 1>be my fault. It's not your fault. It was an accident.

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<v Speaker 1>No one's fault it's an I have never really dissected

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<v Speaker 1>the word sorry like we're doing right now. No, it'says.

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<v Speaker 1>I grew up that if you're gonna say sorry, it's meaningful,

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<v Speaker 1>and you should say sorry for something that that you

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<v Speaker 1>did and then you realize it was wrong, then you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you say, you say I'm sorry for that.

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<v Speaker 1>But when it's like this an accident, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you bump into somebody, she's like, oops, it's not mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not negative, it's just like oops, and then the

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<v Speaker 1>lights goes on. Yeah, but I, like everybody else, grew

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<v Speaker 1>up with common courtesy. So even if you weren't going

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<v Speaker 1>to say sorry, you say excuse me or I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean to do that. I just don't agree with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if Sarah and I continued and we got a

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<v Speaker 1>new relationship and then later on something happens where I

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<v Speaker 1>should say I'm sorry and I say hey, Sarah, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>it would have such a huge meaning and she would

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<v Speaker 1>really know like, wow, he's really sorry. Hey I cheated

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<v Speaker 1>on you, but I'm really sorry. And you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't throw that word around willy nilly, no nothing, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't throw it you're right, you shouldn't throw it around.

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<v Speaker 1>Willy Nilly said, that is so not what I expected

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<v Speaker 1>your response to beat all this, Tim, Well, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>really sorry about it. Sorry, I'm not sorry. Sarah's yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, guys, I'm not surprised. Okay, So are

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<v Speaker 1>we done here? No, not yet, Sarah, we're almost one.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do have to ask you if you would

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<v Speaker 1>like to go on a second date with Tim, we

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<v Speaker 1>will pay for it. You know what. Sorry, No, it's

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<v Speaker 1>so immature. It's so immature to say that with that tone,

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<v Speaker 1>like now you're ruining sorry, you ruined the word blinded,

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<v Speaker 1>immature that you can't use your manner if that a

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<v Speaker 1>six year old can use, So maybe practice that six

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<v Speaker 1>year will say sorry for sneezing. They'll say sorry for anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I am an adult, I'm a grown man. I only

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<v Speaker 1>say sorry when it counts and when it's needed. I

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Oh man, all right, well sorry, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>well sorry, I can't even say sorry now without thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I won't say sorry because it's not my fault. Tim.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't get a second date, right. I had no

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<v Speaker 1>idea that so many people would support the guy from

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<v Speaker 1>Today's second date update. Somebody texted in at seven eight

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<v Speaker 1>five nine tunes said, I agree saying sorry is a

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<v Speaker 1>sign of weakness, and I refused to be weak. If

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<v Speaker 1>you missed today's second date update. Oh my god, Tim,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to call a girl named Sarah to find

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<v Speaker 1>out why she wasn't calling him back. She said she

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't calling him back because during the date he accidentally

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<v Speaker 1>stepped on her shoe and he said oops instead of sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>and he's basically broke a water glass, didn't say sorry

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<v Speaker 1>to the waitress or anything else, just basically didn't apologize

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<v Speaker 1>and he owned it. He was like, no, yeah, of

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<v Speaker 1>course I didn't say sorry. I'm an adult. I say

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<v Speaker 1>sorry if I actually did something wrong and meant it.

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<v Speaker 1>Those were accidents, and no, no, I'm not sorry about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sad. I'm sad it happened, but I'm not sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>But do you hear saying even if you don't apologize,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still like excuse your behavior, like excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>or I didn't mean to do that or wow, oops

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<v Speaker 1>don't counts. So I've learned a lesson in saying sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm I'm not gonna say it anymore. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna apologize for anything, and I'm not sorry for that

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<v Speaker 1>one bit that doesn't surprise me. Remember, if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do a second ad update, all you have to

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<v Speaker 1>do is email the show and we will call the

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<v Speaker 1>person who didn't call you back five