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Speaker 2: They say, take from the dead and give to the rich.

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Speaker 1: You know, why not a.

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Speaker 2: Regular Robin Hood Robin Graves.

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Speaker 1: You know, I only have a million dollars and if

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Speaker 1: I get nine hundred thousand more then I'm so close

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Speaker 1: to two million.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's important. Also, what are you gonna do

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Speaker 2: with the money? You're dead, You're dead, Get dead, stupid?

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Speaker 2: Come on, you can't take it with you when you're gone.

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Speaker 2: You're Egyptian and you believe that all of your money

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Speaker 2: comes with you after you die, then you take all

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Speaker 2: the recyption, Yeah, buried with their the mummies and the

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Speaker 2: clarification ladies and gentlemen. Yeah, Like what happens if, like

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Speaker 2: you know, Indiana Jones snooping around your pyramid takes your shit,

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Speaker 2: does it suddenly disappear in the afterlife.

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Speaker 1: That you're literally just like sitting on your like golden throne.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, were just fin to go like a cartoon.

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Speaker 2: Indeed, not again, not again.

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Speaker 1: So I thirty four female got married when I was

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Speaker 1: twenty four to a fifty three year old man.

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Speaker 2: That is a big age difference.

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Speaker 1: I think it's not enough.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna be changing his diapers. Let's go seventy, let's

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Speaker 2: get why not, let's go one hundred. I say the like,

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Speaker 2: as long as there's no prenup. Let's make sure this

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Speaker 2: person is close as they could be to death.

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Speaker 1: I want you to have been eighty when I was born. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that is, that is that's the goal. The gold ratio

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Speaker 1: and no prenup. Nope, and let make sure you inherit everything.

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Speaker 1: There we go, there, we go gold dig into the max.

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Speaker 1: Let's call him F. I met him when I was twenty.

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Speaker 1: When we began dating, we received all sorts of accusations

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Speaker 1: and criticism, but we didn't care. That's crazy, I mean

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Speaker 1: massive forty seven or eight and twenty something like that. No,

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Speaker 2: Love is love. No.

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Speaker 1: We went on to have a happy, quiet life and

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Speaker 1: three children. Wow. Now eight male, five male, three female.

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Speaker 2: Holy shits. Okay, I guess I guess that's fine.

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Speaker 1: And scenting adults to a you know, it's possible, it's fine.

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Speaker 2: I guess. I mean it's crazy though, that when they

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Speaker 2: started dating, she could not drink, and he was almost

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Speaker 1: Yep, that's that's the other rule in my golden ratio.

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Speaker 1: You have to be a legal senior citizen before I

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Speaker 2: One of my seconds was dating a girl that was

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Speaker 2: twenty and we would all like rib on him for like,

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Speaker 1: My man's living his best life. He's loving it. And

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Speaker 1: we were hoping for baby number four on my request.

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Speaker 1: When COVID hit f continued as an essential worker, a

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Speaker 1: doctor those Buco bucks, Baby, there you go. When I

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Speaker 2: Just gigs. Okay, all right, let's keep it legal boys.

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Speaker 1: Well, I went home as a high risk patient due

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Speaker 1: to a long history of pulmonary issues, including a lobectomy, which.

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Speaker 2: Is like removing part of your lung. Yes, which would

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Speaker 2: He's old as fuck. You know, I think. I think

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's a perfect marriage. Maybe it's a perfect beauty.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. No, you're right. You're right. Perfect union. Yes, I'm

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Speaker 2: here for it. I want one hundred and twenty. What

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Speaker 1: I breathe, you breathe. I have COVID. You have COVID.

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Speaker 2: Bro Yes, so much endless similarities, so much common.

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Speaker 1: He was connected to a ventilator on October twenty fifth,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, shut up. The news was devastating, especially having to

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Speaker 1: was widowed at age forty. His children are now forty

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Speaker 2: His children are twice the age of his wife.

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Speaker 1: Players are gonna play yeah, players are gonna play yo.

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Speaker 2: That feels so wrong, and players gonna play the age.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy. The forty one year old was the one

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Speaker 1: You don't have to like it or interact with her.

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Speaker 1: entering What the fuck, my god? These are awful people.

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Speaker 1: I understand why they, the daughters mostly hold resentments towards me,

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Speaker 2: Like I understand, I understand, I understand a lot of

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Speaker 2: like skepticism about this. Yes, right, I understand it, and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know she's not doing anything wrong.

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Speaker 1: No, come on, I guess i'd be upset too if

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Speaker 1: six mail, they feel that my babies replaced them. I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, hey, got a new family, now, fuck

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Speaker 2: this old one. Yeah, it's literally old, decrepit forty year

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you discussed me. My kids are freaking toddler. He's

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Speaker 1: just cute as all. He got no wrinkles, Yeah, no baggage.

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Speaker 2: Oh why don't you use some moisturizer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, you're you're you're out here expressing all

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Speaker 2: Yeah, come come on.

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Speaker 1: For f's sake, I have never pushed my family onto them,

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Speaker 1: and only thirty six male and his husband have met

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Speaker 1: my kids. I've only seen his grandkids through pictures. Dang,

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Speaker 1: that kind of sucks. Another short topic is the inheritance.

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Speaker 1: Uh did you know?

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Speaker 2: Oh, gee, she's gonna get everything, isn't she.

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Speaker 1: Here where I live? You don't get to write a will? What?

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Speaker 1: By law, your spouse gets fifty percent of the assets

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Speaker 1: while the other fifty percent is split evenly amongst your children.

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Speaker 2: Wow. So not automatically.

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Speaker 1: Not only does she get fifty percent automatically, but now

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Speaker 1: So let's do some math. Let's use some math.

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Speaker 2: Holy I didn't even think about that. So, oh they're pissed.

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Speaker 1: So hold on, hold on, let's see, let's see.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude, dude, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: So their inheritance went from six teen point seven percent

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Speaker 2: So even if ope, even if the husband, let's say

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Speaker 2: let's say it's like a million dollars. That's like eighty

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Speaker 1: Where they could have gotten one hundred something sixty over

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Speaker 1: one hundred and sixty almost one hundred and seventy thousand dollars. Wow. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the big cheese in this scenario, the wife's getting half

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Speaker 1: a mill, Well, they get eighty. Gotta hurt, got hurt.

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Speaker 2: Yikes. Oh dude, I see why they're pissed. I see

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Speaker 2: whether pissed. I see why they're pissed. Like they don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I kind of like it is what it is.

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Speaker 2: But like salt in the wound, they already hate this girl.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she's even worse riach, and probably I imagine,

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Speaker 2: like the doctor, we have a life insurance policy too. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know that we get that here, but

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Speaker 2: I mean often they do. Oh yeah, I see. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Since my kids are under age, I will guard their share,

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Speaker 1: them a good kickstart in life. But that means that

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Speaker 1: I will receive seventy five percent of the total of

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Speaker 2: Woo oh dude.

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Speaker 1: Now I considered taking on the twenty five percent that

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Speaker 1: only taking twenty five for myself in the household. But

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Speaker 1: she was literally gonna give up like half of what

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Speaker 2: I mean, she got so much abuse from them, it

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Speaker 1: They don't need the money any more than I do.

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Speaker 1: Right? Yeah? Like, like do you because from what we understood,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so maybe there's nothing the husband could have done.

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Speaker 1: Know, always sparking good conversations with our beautiful commenters.

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Speaker 2: Hey, we could be wrong. We don't. I mean like

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Speaker 2: Oh no, John, you're gonna be a terrible parent. My

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Speaker 1: About the gold?

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