1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: What's happened in everyone, Emily a Body Here, you are 2 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: listening to five minute Friday on Hurdle. Good morning, good afternoon, 3 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 1: good evening, whenever you're listening to this. I've received so 4 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: many sweet messages lately about this segment on the show, 5 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: and it's so appreciated. 6 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:37,639 Speaker 2: I love that you love it. 7 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 1: So if you're one of these people and you're listening 8 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: right now, and I know that there are thousands of you, 9 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: it would mean a lot to me if you share 10 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: Hurdle on your social feeds wherever that might be. If 11 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: you send an episode to a friend, shoot me a 12 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: message over on the Hurdle page at Hurdle podcast or 13 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: at Emily a Body and let me know that you 14 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: love it. Spread the love if you will. I have 15 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: been head down in work mode recently. I'm excited to 16 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: be traveling to Japan for the World Athletics Championships in September, 17 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: and knowing that I have quite a bit of time there, 18 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: I'll be there for about two weeks, I want to 19 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: prepare everything so that I can set myself up to 20 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: be in the best position possible, and that means that 21 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm noticing I'm not showing up a lot in the 22 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 1: digital world these days. I'm waking up, I'm doing my 23 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: workout and probably sharing something from that on Instagram, and 24 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: then I'm getting back to my apartment and jumping into things. 25 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 2: I feel a little bit disconnected, if. 26 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: We're being honest, But I know that this will have 27 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: a really good payoff and will set me up to 28 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: be in a really good position. Just right now, it 29 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: feels a little bit isolating, if I'm being real. I'm 30 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: also having a tough time, and this is what I 31 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: want to talk about this week. My workouts aren't really 32 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:11,799 Speaker 1: feeling like they're clicking, not only my running workouts. I 33 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: will say I've had I feel like I'm a bit 34 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:17,799 Speaker 1: in this place of a I've hit a plateau with 35 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: some of the skills that I've been working on at 36 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: the gym, and between that and summer running gestures loosely 37 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: being summer running and it being so humid and me 38 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: just feeling completely like a baby deer out there. No 39 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 1: thing's feeling really super stellar. And that is so difficult 40 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 1: because this is something that I do regularly in my 41 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: life to remind myself that I am capable, and so 42 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: there's a bit of both going on. 43 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 2: There is this I'm showing up. 44 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: It's not really feeling that good, but I'm still showing 45 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: up anyway, and that is definitely something to be proud of. 46 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 2: And I know that I'm better for it. 47 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: And there is this lingering frustration of is everybody else 48 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: not struggling? Am I just not as good at these 49 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: things as I thought I was? And this is what 50 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: I know to be true. I know that the latter 51 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: is what we in life calling we refer to as 52 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: the gremlin, and that negative self talk. It's not doing 53 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: me any favors whatsoever. I know that these are not facts. 54 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,399 Speaker 1: These are just my thoughts. And so what I've been 55 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: working to do consciously is to flip that script. When 56 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: I say my workouts haven't been going well lately, that's 57 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: not fact. Instead, I can say I haven't been feeling 58 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: really stellar in the gym. Okay, that's fair, that's valid. 59 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: But now what do you do with that? I ask myself, Okay, 60 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: if I hear that, then what's in my control to 61 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: flip the script make things better? That's up to me. 62 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: And if you hear this and you feel like you 63 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: really resonate with this sentiment, then that's also up to you. 64 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: So here's what I'm doing about this not so stellar 65 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: feeling that I'm having about my workouts. 66 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 2: I'm mixing things up. 67 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: So on Saturdays, I've been running with a rather large 68 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 1: group here in New York City. Nike puts together a 69 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: training collective for women. This is the first year where 70 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: it's all really promoting her. They put together this group 71 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: of women. They call it Project Moonshot, and these women 72 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: meet every weekend as a part of this program to 73 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: do the long run. And I've loved getting together and 74 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: that camaraderie with them, but it just I need to 75 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: mix this up. I need to mix this up for 76 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 1: right now and just get my feedback under me. So 77 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 1: on Saturday, I'm setting myself up for success in the 78 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: best way I know how I know, I like to 79 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: get out early, especially when it's warm out. Typically speaking, 80 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: that group doesn't start running until around eight to fifteen. 81 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 1: So I'm going to start my long run with one 82 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:07,480 Speaker 1: of my dearest friends who's also training for an ultra marathon, 83 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,719 Speaker 1: and we are going to run together at six point 84 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,720 Speaker 1: thirty in the morning. That gives me a little bit 85 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: of my confidence back. That is a variable that I 86 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: know typically works in my favor. And having the support 87 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: of my friend, she knows how I have been feeling 88 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 1: with my workouts. I vocalize to her that I really 89 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: want to reclaim some joy this weekend, and so to 90 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 1: be able to not only open up to her, but 91 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: use her as accountability buddy and be able to really 92 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: feel safe together, that's helpful too. Those are two things 93 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: that I know are within my power to reclaim some 94 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:50,040 Speaker 1: of my juju back. Okay, I'll say it one more time. 95 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: Your thoughts are just that, They're just thoughts. They're valid. 96 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: It's okay to have thoughts, but it is up to 97 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: you to then decide how am I going to respond 98 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: to my thoughts. And so I'm in a little bit 99 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: of a workout right now. I know that many of 100 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: you have been in this place before. I know that 101 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: I am not the only person that feels this way 102 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: at the current time, or that will ever feel this way, 103 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:19,799 Speaker 1: and that in itself also helps me navigate this discomfort, 104 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: helps me know that I am not alone in what 105 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: it is that I'm going through. So my thought prompt 106 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: for you this week is is there something that you're 107 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: feeling a little frustrated over? And After you identify that thing, 108 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: what is within your control to do something about it? 109 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: How can you respond to your thoughts and take action 110 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: in a way that serves you. Again, what's something that 111 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 1: you're struggling over. Identify that and then ask yourself what 112 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: is within my control to do in the near future 113 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: to feel a little bit better, Because again, that's up 114 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: to you, that's up to me, and we get to 115 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: respond to our thoughts. And now a listener question. Hey 116 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: em I'm a new listener. I found the pod to 117 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: be the perfect starter for my weekends and weekly resets. 118 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: I feel calm but inspired after an episode to get 119 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: after it. 120 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 2: I'm a big fan of your advice. 121 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: It's straightforward, approachable, and reminds me that little changes can 122 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: have a big impact. Okay, I love you, listener. I've 123 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: been struggling to find my next hurdle professionally. I love 124 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 1: what I do and I would do it for free 125 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 1: because it makes me happy. 126 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 2: That's so sweet. 127 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: I have set big goals and have been achieving or 128 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: have achieved them. Right now, I feel ambitionless at work. 129 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: I've settled into a role and don't have anything to chase. 130 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: How do you continue to push forward? Or set new 131 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: goals when you've found success and completed your current goals. 132 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 2: Thanks so much. Okay, Okay, this is a really good one. 133 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: And firstly, I want to say that it's really beautiful 134 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: that you have found yourself in this role that really 135 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: aligns with your passions and what seems to be your purpose. 136 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: You are in this place. If you're willing to work 137 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: for free, then you're doing something right. A lot of 138 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: folks would love to be in a job or a 139 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: role like that. With that said, I too have been 140 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: at a place where I feel as though I have 141 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:21,239 Speaker 1: plateaued professionally, we can call it that. And so when 142 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: you're unsure of what you want to do next, look 143 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: around you and ask yourself, who is it that I 144 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: am learning from? Who is it that I have an 145 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 1: opportunity to garner new education from? Because although right now 146 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: you might not have an immediate goal professionally, that doesn't 147 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 1: mean that you have to be at a standstill when 148 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 1: it comes to your learning. So what I would advise 149 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: you to do is take survey or inventory of who 150 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 1: is around you and ask yourself, who is it that 151 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: I can connect with during this time to garner new 152 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: inspiration and Once you identify those individuals, then try to 153 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 1: set up accessible opportunities to claim some of their time. 154 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: I know this can be difficult, depending on what your 155 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: role is, and depending what industry you're in or what 156 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 1: field that you work in. But and I say this 157 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: with compassion, flattery will get you everywhere, or at least 158 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 1: it will get you a lot farther than if you 159 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: lead without it. So someone that you identify, that you admire, 160 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: that you think is really skilled, shoot them a note, 161 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: let them know that you feel that way, and then 162 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: ask them if you could get ten to fifteen minutes 163 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: of their time to learn about how they got to 164 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,319 Speaker 1: that place, and entice them even more by offering to 165 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: buy them a coffee. And if you're not in the 166 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 1: same place, in the same state, in the same office, 167 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: you can then offer to send a gift card of 168 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 1: some sort to cover the cost of whatever sip that 169 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 1: they're after. 170 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:52,079 Speaker 2: Again, this is. 171 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: Just one example of something that you can do while 172 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 1: you feel a little bit stagnant that can help you 173 00:09:55,880 --> 00:10:01,439 Speaker 1: professionally in the long run. It's only one examp. Oftentimes, 174 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: in goal setting workshops, what I encourage attendees to do 175 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: is to envision yourself five years from right now, if 176 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: you were to write down what your best case scenario 177 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: would look like, what your title could be, what it 178 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 1: is that you have achieved, what would that look like? 179 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: And then also what would that feel like? And when 180 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: you can work backward and start to paint the picture 181 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 1: that way, then you can kind of plug and play 182 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 1: the pieces to the puzzle to ask yourself the important question. Okay, 183 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: if I ultimately think it would be cool to do 184 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:39,959 Speaker 1: this or feel this way, what is within my power? 185 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: Are you seeing a trend here to get there? What 186 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 1: are small stepping stones that maybe didn't look so obvious 187 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 1: before that fall into place once you really allow yourself 188 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: to dream big, to think big, to ask what's my 189 00:10:56,400 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: dream scenario? I hope that this helps and I'm always 190 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:03,480 Speaker 1: down for listener questions, so if you have one, feel 191 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: free to email over at Hello at Hurdle dot us 192 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: and again, like I said at the top of this episode, 193 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 1: please share the love for hurdle with friends, with families 194 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:14,319 Speaker 1: with your social tags. 195 00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 2: It's the best. 196 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: I'm over at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast 197 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: Another Hurdle Conquered. 198 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.