WEBVTT - Naughty or Nice?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Erica and I'm Nila and it's Wednesday, Happy Ho

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<v Speaker 2>Ho ho.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunk Day and it's two days till Christmas. I know

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<v Speaker 1>y'all stressed up. Well, we wanted to start this episode

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<v Speaker 1>off a little different. We have two tiny special guests

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<v Speaker 1>with us, guys, very VIP. Can you introduce yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>Luna Irie?

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<v Speaker 1>And how old are you? Guys?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm six five.

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<v Speaker 1>Five and when's your birthday?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm twenty seven five.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know your astrology sign is no? Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>we failed.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. I realized you didn't notice know it recently

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<v Speaker 2>and I was just like, how are you my daughter?

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<v Speaker 2>You are a Saggitarius and you are a Taurus.

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<v Speaker 1>Do mean eat meat?

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<v Speaker 2>No? A Taurus does not mean you eat me. That

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<v Speaker 2>would be a carnivore. And I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, guys, these are our kids in case you didn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how you wouldn't, but this is them.

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<v Speaker 2>Luna is my daughter, Mila.

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<v Speaker 1>And Irie's mine. We figured we start off the year

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<v Speaker 1>with the reason we do everything that we do, which

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<v Speaker 1>is for them. Christmas is all about them. So are you? Guys?

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<v Speaker 1>Excited for Christmas?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, of course. Can you get presents?

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<v Speaker 2>The most important thing of life?

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<v Speaker 3>And we already have our presents. Yeah, I can read them,

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<v Speaker 3>all the presents under my name's tree.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>You know not only is it Christmas time? You know

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<v Speaker 2>what Christmas time means. It means that the year is

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<v Speaker 2>coming to an end. And we've had like a really

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<v Speaker 2>long year and right after Christmas is New Year's I

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<v Speaker 2>just want to know how how was your year?

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<v Speaker 1>Ladies? Good? What's your favorite thing that happened this year?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you they don't remember because it's all jumbled

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<v Speaker 2>up because I've been in mostly like should we give

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<v Speaker 2>him a.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't remember because there was Recca really long time ago. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I remember one present I got from one.

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<v Speaker 1>Time ago, a present. Okay, what was the present?

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<v Speaker 3>And I remember one present then I got a long

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<v Speaker 3>time ago for my birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Oh yeah, Well you had your birthday this year.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm. So that's something that happened.

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<v Speaker 3>Three days and then Christmas.

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<v Speaker 1>You had your birthday. You had a drive by birthday.

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<v Speaker 3>Right. I love that birthday because I loved sitting down?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you love sitting down?

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<v Speaker 3>Because what's sitting down for and I love watching the

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<v Speaker 3>Carrs and saying the thing and watch Stevie.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you mean, like on the drive by when they

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<v Speaker 1>drive by and they had to honk their horns and

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<v Speaker 1>they have the like the signs and stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>My really favorite part on her birthday was the blue flight.

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<v Speaker 3>I know what I'm gonna do on I turned seven.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do a pop star birthday. I really said,

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<v Speaker 3>you want to signs?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you guys make any friends over the year? Meet

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<v Speaker 1>anybody new?

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<v Speaker 3>I meet somebody knew Shya.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not you didn't meet her. You know her since

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<v Speaker 2>she was born.

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<v Speaker 3>No, when e was Shia. We were at the bag.

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<v Speaker 3>We saw a girl and we made a new friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh nice.

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<v Speaker 3>I went camping.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I went camping.

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<v Speaker 3>I saw a bear.

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<v Speaker 1>You saw a bear.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it was Cameron.

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<v Speaker 1>It was Oh you got lude, ladies. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess you guys can't recall the last three hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>sixty five days, so we're gonna cutry. Are you short?

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<v Speaker 2>It was nice having you all, and thank you guys

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<v Speaker 2>so much for coming on. We'll see you next year

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<v Speaker 2>on Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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<v Speaker 3>Nye Ye, thank you for having us by a nailed on.

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<v Speaker 3>I got, I got, I got, I got.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you guys want to hear more from our

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<v Speaker 1>children's and they actually have more to say, they're just

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<v Speaker 1>being I don't know, shy right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>We just don't remember anything. Yeah, hey, I just talking nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're just talking nothing, just talking nothing. I guess our

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<v Speaker 1>questions aren't Our questions are whack, but we did ask

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<v Speaker 1>some good questions over a Patreon for the segment Ship

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<v Speaker 1>We Ask our Kids where we ask Luna and Iri

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<v Speaker 1>a few very interesting questions and they have some interesting

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<v Speaker 1>answers about Christmas, Santa, and more. So make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>go check out our patreon. That's patreon dot com backslash,

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<v Speaker 1>Good Moms, Bad Choices. If you guys have been I've

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<v Speaker 1>been joined Patreon all year, you have been missing out

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<v Speaker 1>on so much content. In fact, if you're on Patreon

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<v Speaker 1>right now, you might as well and you've been joined

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<v Speaker 1>the whole year, you might as well just subscribe to

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<v Speaker 1>the year because you're gonna save a lot more money

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<v Speaker 1>subscribing to the whole year.

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<v Speaker 3>You guys can go play yay bye, find.

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<v Speaker 1>A little Okay, I've just spent all my money on

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<v Speaker 1>IRI's Christmas holiday, and I'm a little stressed about that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it'll all be worth it in the end when

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<v Speaker 1>I get a thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Mom, what about that one thing I asked for? That

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<v Speaker 2>one thing you forgot that you didn't get number, Oh

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<v Speaker 2>this is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks?

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<v Speaker 1>And also like Sanna is probably not getting this. I want,

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<v Speaker 1>I need, I need the credit a credit. Okay, Sannah's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get her like one thing in that room, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>everything else is Mama, all.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I'm just relying on grandparents to put Santa on

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<v Speaker 2>something because.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, and I know that, like I know she's

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<v Speaker 1>going to get like a thousand gifts other places. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I just felt like I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>her room has like this been the same since she

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<v Speaker 1>was a baby, and I was like, I need to

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<v Speaker 1>update the room, but not knowing like be what I

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of committing to, and all the like opinions

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<v Speaker 1>from people like are you paying for that? Was the opinions, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should replace the blinds. Oh you need

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<v Speaker 1>to do this, like we need to paint this. Who's

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<v Speaker 1>paying for all these things? Right? You just want me

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<v Speaker 1>to do all these things for so you feel good

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<v Speaker 1>about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I did, I did, I did do all the things,

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<v Speaker 2>and today I made to Malli's with my family and do.

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<v Speaker 1>You have any with you? No, I have to go

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<v Speaker 1>back tomorrow and finish making them because we're making four

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<v Speaker 1>hundred thousand, million zillion of them. I'll be selling them

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<v Speaker 1>on Facebook marketplace to pay for my daughter's room. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you see some Tomali's on Facebook marketplace in the valley,

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<v Speaker 1>just that's me. Maybe I'll sell them on the instagrams too.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't. Well, they're very delicious. How about twenty five

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<v Speaker 1>dollars for a dozen?

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<v Speaker 2>How many are you making over there?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I've probably made like already, like one hundred and fifty.

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<v Speaker 2>How many people are you guys having for Christmas?

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<v Speaker 1>It's like four?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, so you're gonna freeze them from when I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh, of course, this is like Mexican tradition. We

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<v Speaker 1>always over make them, like if you're a Mexican or

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<v Speaker 1>if you or Latin, you know, like the family we

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<v Speaker 1>do the most. We make five hundred to Molly's and

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<v Speaker 1>we freeze one hundred of them. We eat them until

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<v Speaker 1>November next year. But at least now, like I've over

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<v Speaker 1>the years, I've been trying to like get learn how

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<v Speaker 1>to make them exactly how my grandmother makes them, and

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<v Speaker 1>like it's taken three years to figure it out because

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<v Speaker 1>like she'll start without me, like and so like I'll

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<v Speaker 1>miss steps, like even this today, like I did, I

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<v Speaker 1>got there late because Iri wasn't feeling well yesterday. And

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<v Speaker 1>I so you're still three years later, you still haven't

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<v Speaker 1>got all the time. So I got it now. I

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<v Speaker 1>went and like she had done a lot of shit,

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<v Speaker 1>but I literally sat her down. I was like, tell

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<v Speaker 1>me everything, I'm not doing this again next year. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I am doing this again next year. But also like

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<v Speaker 1>she's getting old, like I mean, God willing, she'll be

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<v Speaker 1>here for many years to come. But like if anything

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<v Speaker 1>should happen, like she dies with this recipe, she needs

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<v Speaker 1>to write it down. But this is specially she's like

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<v Speaker 1>she knows it. No, She's like I don't. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>write it down. It's just it's just things like I

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<v Speaker 1>just I just know what to do and what to

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<v Speaker 1>put in. And it's like I don't really know measurements

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<v Speaker 1>and things.

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<v Speaker 2>So especially when you're making four hundreds.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have an exact I don't have exact recipe,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know ingredients and the order of things that happen.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to write it down.

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<v Speaker 1>I did write it down.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a recipe, You're like an exact ingredient recipe. Cook.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I wrote it all down the cook. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So last year I have figured out like the masa,

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<v Speaker 1>which is it's just there, Like it's just there and ready.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I think I figured oh the chili. This

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<v Speaker 1>year I figured out like how to she prepares the pork. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got it down. I've got it down, and now

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<v Speaker 1>I can peacefully and know that I can pass this

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<v Speaker 1>tradition down to many people and ancestors or future people

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<v Speaker 1>to come. They better give a fuck because it took

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<v Speaker 1>a long time. What I re better fucking make these tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all I have to say, Like when I'm dead

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<v Speaker 1>and gone, she's got to keep the tradition alive.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, my family will make greens and black eyed peas surely.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>Erica is over here stressing heavily. I am catching a

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<v Speaker 2>flight to Mexico tomorrow to skip it all. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>a fucking scrooge of moms. Yeah, I'm going out to town.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing some work some cool model work in the

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<v Speaker 2>Cabo San Lucas Mountains. I don't really I've never been

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<v Speaker 2>a huge fan of Christmas. I think it's the man's holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's for money, and like Erica, I know

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<v Speaker 2>my kid cares. So today, to make sure I have

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<v Speaker 2>any guilt, I went and bought her a two hundred

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<v Speaker 2>dollars pink desk on Facebook Marketplace, and I also got

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<v Speaker 2>her some pink cowgirl boots. I mean, honestly, what could

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<v Speaker 2>you ask more? She has like so much family, though

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<v Speaker 2>her dad's family goes crazy. They open gifts at seven am,

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<v Speaker 2>like she's gonna get more than enough shit. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not really worried about her, like the experience, I do

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<v Speaker 2>feel kind of bad that I won't be there, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just hope she's not scarred for life like that

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<v Speaker 2>one time at six year old Christmas. My mom isn't,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't remember six year old Christmas, so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>hoping everything's fine. I'm at I'm excited to just go

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<v Speaker 2>put my fucking phone down because I'm addicted like a

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<v Speaker 2>fucking crackhead.

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<v Speaker 1>I am.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really scared for me. I'm like, I saw social

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<v Speaker 2>dilemma and I'm still acting like a crackhead. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get anyone anything either, including you. Great, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>never get anyone anything, and then I feel bad that people.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm like, why every year you keep getting me

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<v Speaker 2>stuff and you know I'm not getting you stuff like

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<v Speaker 2>the extended family like her dad's I'm like, I love

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<v Speaker 2>you guys, I do you know I forget about this

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<v Speaker 2>shit when I get Rachel send you guys some shit,

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<v Speaker 2>like right now, why even on this parture on me?

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<v Speaker 2>I just honestly, every year for the last five years,

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't really gotten shit I used to get, like

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<v Speaker 2>I used to paint them things.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, it's my Like my mom is like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. She claims that she doesn't care about Christmas,

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<v Speaker 1>but literally she goes all out every year. Her whole

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<v Speaker 1>house is like fucking It's like it's like slooming down. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like crazy. I haven't even got my mom a gift.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what I'm gonna get her, Like she

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<v Speaker 1>has everything. I'm like, I just get her a candle,

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<v Speaker 1>a frame, a beautiful photo. I feel like I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>framing photos she picked up.

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<v Speaker 2>If I really want something, I'm really like, eh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>next year, I want to be richer. I'm gonna do better.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm by everybody something, including you, top of the list.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need anything good, Yeah, I just want people

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<v Speaker 1>to give me money. So if you would like to

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<v Speaker 1>give any any if you would like to give me

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<v Speaker 1>a gift or us a gift, just send us money.

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<v Speaker 1>Join Patreon. That's how you give us a gift.

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<v Speaker 2>Please join Patreon, Like, that's how you.

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<v Speaker 1>Give us a gift. Like, that's how we pay for

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<v Speaker 1>all the shit that we do. Like literally, we don't

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<v Speaker 1>really make much money over here. We're just trying. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>just create more content and create more things for you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>so that at some point it pays off. But Patreon

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<v Speaker 1>really helps us facilitate this podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Expenses that the podcast incourage.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because it's not for free. Okay. I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>time to be editing fucking episodes all night long anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to do that shit. But thank God for May.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to.

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<v Speaker 2>May, fucking Merry Christmas to us as May.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah our Pacherini. Yeah, so if you want to pay,

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<v Speaker 1>pay pay us so we can pay them help. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. I'm done begging oh, no, one wants to.

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<v Speaker 2>Hear a vicious beg during Christmas, you know how, Like

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<v Speaker 2>just like everyone you just spend all your money on

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<v Speaker 2>your child, so everybody else, I know, but still you

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<v Speaker 2>could pay us ten dollars. So this is also it's Christmas,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's the end of the year, wrappery. It's been

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<v Speaker 2>quite to the year, motherfuckers. Oh my, has it? Has it?

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<v Speaker 1>I went back and listened to our guided meditation last

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<v Speaker 1>year and and it was like so hopeful. It was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a great meditation about visualization and looking into

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty and all the things that we were gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get done. But honestly, it just ended up cultivating in

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<v Speaker 1>a different way. This year has been like really great

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<v Speaker 1>for us. Obviously people have suffered also, have had to

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<v Speaker 1>shift and figure out what's important, what's not, what's extra honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>go go deep and go inside. Literally literally, we were

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<v Speaker 1>just like sitting here. I was just sitting here thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about this year. I don't know if we're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>the episodes.

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<v Speaker 2>I just was thinking about this year's ride period and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, fuck, this year feels like five years and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like it's COVID.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's definite COVID. We're not doing shit.

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<v Speaker 2>But also it's just like so much has happened. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I've had like so many lessons in this

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<v Speaker 2>last year. It's been very, very, very fucking intense, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm grateful for it, and I'm just also grateful to

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<v Speaker 2>be getting over it and it's ending and like entering

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<v Speaker 2>this new We just had a we just had a

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<v Speaker 2>uh winter Solstice. There's a huge shift and energy. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel it. Erica and I and Leaf shout out to Leaf,

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<v Speaker 2>I photographer and gig. We took mushrooms and had an

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<v Speaker 2>amazing time and I really got I think I activated

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<v Speaker 2>my full witch mode slash.

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<v Speaker 1>Night Fairy mode.

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<v Speaker 2>I am now my full witch night Fairy. After the

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<v Speaker 2>Winter Solstice was you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we didn't know. First of all, I had I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I hadn't been on social so because I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>realize that we were unlocking our magical black powers that that.

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<v Speaker 2>That year moment, that evening and on Twitter, so we

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<v Speaker 2>didn't get them. And then it was also winter Solstice.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like all these things that were happening. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I'm like, what time is it? And He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, it's eleven fifty nine. How did you

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<v Speaker 2>know to ask me that right now? I'm like, because

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<v Speaker 2>I am a night fairy. He was like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we did our we get our we get our powers tonight.

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<v Speaker 2>We're like, are you joking? What are you is the

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<v Speaker 2>mushroom stocking? He's like, no, for real, black people are

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<v Speaker 2>getting their powers tonight.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, tonight, right now, in.

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<v Speaker 2>The magical backyard, on the magical mushrooms, you are giving

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<v Speaker 2>us our magical powers. It was amazing. I believed every

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<v Speaker 2>part of it. I felt it. And side note, if

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<v Speaker 2>you've never done mushrooms during the holidays next to a

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas tree.

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<v Speaker 1>You haven't lived at all. You haven't done shit.

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<v Speaker 2>You haven't done shit, because during mushrooms during the holidays

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<v Speaker 2>next to a Christmas tree, specifically one that like blinks,

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<v Speaker 2>not even multiple it's literally like I felt like we

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<v Speaker 2>were in multiple places.

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<v Speaker 1>At one point, I felt like we were like on

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<v Speaker 1>an island. It was like a tropical island Christmas tree. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it depends on music's playing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I was like, we're in Malibu, which is essentially

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<v Speaker 1>kind of an island, but if you're from La you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's a little different. So then I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're it to Malibu Beach Party Christmas Tree. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, now it's a Christmas story from

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<v Speaker 1>the movie a Christmas Story Christmas Tree.

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<v Speaker 2>We were in a cottage with snow, went in the

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<v Speaker 2>cottage with snow. At the second half of our trip,

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<v Speaker 2>we went outside.

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<v Speaker 1>Finally, finally, we finally we laughed ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>To tears off of Tender. At one point, we both

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<v Speaker 2>facetimed some niggas at the same time and we made them.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk via the face time, and.

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<v Speaker 2>We got the biggest kick out of that ship. We're like, look,

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<v Speaker 2>they're face time facetiming. It was so great.

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<v Speaker 1>They were like, who.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Hi, what's going on my face face time? We're like, oh, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>we're geniuses.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. And then we went on Tender.

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<v Speaker 2>We started reading the Tender profiles, which I don't even

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<v Speaker 2>know if this is going to translate. It's funny because

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<v Speaker 2>we were on mushrooms, but it was fucking hilarious. There

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<v Speaker 2>was one who was like, looking for a coal that's

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<v Speaker 2>super cute, super super sweet, super fun and super super sarcastic,

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<v Speaker 2>super sexy and super sarcastic, super sweet, super fun, super

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<v Speaker 2>sexy and super sarcastic. They were like, oh, that's quite

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<v Speaker 2>the combination.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Wow, he's super looking for some ship

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<v Speaker 1>that he's probably not gonna find less.

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<v Speaker 2>You're super cute, super smart, super fun and super sexy

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<v Speaker 2>and super sarkist.

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<v Speaker 1>Sarcast I say it five times fast. You're not making

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<v Speaker 1>the cut. You can't make the cut. It's super sarcastic.

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<v Speaker 2>And then also we saw another profile of a very

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<v Speaker 2>interesting looking woman and her profile I mean literally it

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<v Speaker 2>really makes me feel like I need to step my

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<v Speaker 2>profile up. But it was something like domb sub clear

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<v Speaker 2>straight looking for fun, like I'll touch your butt, but

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<v Speaker 2>don't touch mine.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll touch you touch my butt, No, I'll touch yours first.

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<v Speaker 1>Or slat ever, well, slat ever, which is my new

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<v Speaker 1>favorite word, whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>Period, Like everybody text me other day. She's like, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>be there around four seat ever if you don't shut that,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm never letting slut ever go because that girl changed

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<v Speaker 2>my life with that word.

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<v Speaker 1>And then she wrote at the bottom Fedora cargoes. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I forget she hit.

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<v Speaker 2>It on the note. She was she was amazing, she

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<v Speaker 2>was on point because you know, you know the cargo guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to. I don't know no parts OF's cargos.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, actually I think I got a FaceTime recently

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<v Speaker 2>from random, who is like a hard for doora cargo

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<v Speaker 2>type of guy.

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<v Speaker 1>But you also, I don't like too as caangles. Remember

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<v Speaker 1>the caangle hats?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god, no, I don't want it. It's like the

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<v Speaker 2>ones like the yes. No, that's the same as a Fedora.

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<v Speaker 1>That fedora with the feather and ship I don't want.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually mad at the fedora in the right at

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<v Speaker 1>the right place, right time, right, But the cagle never

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<v Speaker 1>fucking works. So if you're listening right now, you're a

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<v Speaker 1>nigga that you know. Thanks, you're doing some ship.

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<v Speaker 2>When you put that shit on, let the cagle go.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't wear that shit please.

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<v Speaker 2>I danced around the Christmas tree. Erica was silent for

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<v Speaker 2>about ninety minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>I was shivering.

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<v Speaker 2>She was so cold and I could feel nothing. She

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<v Speaker 2>was freezing, and I was like, I feel great. Everything's

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<v Speaker 2>ninety eight degrees. And then we unlocked the second second

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<v Speaker 2>half of our trip and went outside, partially because it

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<v Speaker 2>was did you realize it was so dark because it

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<v Speaker 2>was winter solstice and we didn't know we didn't realize

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<v Speaker 2>it was wunch solices. We're just that witchy that we

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<v Speaker 2>plan to do fucking mushrooms around midnight on the winter

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<v Speaker 2>Solstice because we're fucking witches. I'm specifically night fairy. That's

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<v Speaker 2>another thing we discovered. Erica was so angry at area

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<v Speaker 2>around of Grande was I. She was like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I said that.

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<v Speaker 1>I recently heard a song where she was talking about

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<v Speaker 1>having sex, and I was like disgusted. I was on

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<v Speaker 1>my bike and I was riding and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember what she was talking about, like doing

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<v Speaker 1>doggy style or some shit. I was like, girl, stop,

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to have a little fairy like she

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<v Speaker 1>just like hops around and just like sprinkles dust everywhere

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<v Speaker 1>or some shit.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, I'm a fairy. She's not a fairy.

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<v Speaker 2>She just doesn't have any She's not a fairy. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>she has no sex appeal. And there are sexy fairies.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, you know what, she maybe is a fairy.

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<v Speaker 2>She's day fairy, more like a brunch fairy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we call it brunch fery.

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<v Speaker 2>I me, I am a night fairy. There's a distinct difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's not invited to the night fairy gathering. Poor Ariana.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just saying that.

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<v Speaker 2>She put like sex appeal on fairness in like the

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<v Speaker 2>same category, because I am a fairy and I am

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<v Speaker 2>and I just didn't appreciate that. That night, I was

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<v Speaker 2>very disrespectful to all night fairies everywhere. Before any before

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<v Speaker 2>we took any of the mushrooms, we ordered fifty dollars

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<v Speaker 2>worth of Chinese food and then specifically said if we

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<v Speaker 2>do this now, we're not gonna eat that food. Did

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<v Speaker 2>it anyway? Literally looked over the food every hour, like

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<v Speaker 2>hungry yet Nope, no.

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<v Speaker 1>No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 2>I even open it for like five hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we literally made food. We made little snacks to avoid.

0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:26.879
<v Speaker 1>The Chinese leaf shout.

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<v Speaker 2>Out to leave told us that tangerines and citrus up

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<v Speaker 2>our mushroom eyed, So we probably ate about twenty seven

0:20:31.840 --> 0:20:35.720
<v Speaker 2>tangerines throughout the evening. I had mushrooms and yogurt mushrooms

0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:38.639
<v Speaker 2>and apple sauce tea tea we made of tea, and

0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:40.960
<v Speaker 2>we had chocolate but I.

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<v Speaker 1>Got from my daughter's school mom, which is so on

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<v Speaker 1>our first mom date. That's a pictures. I was like, wow, hi, hello,

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<v Speaker 1>you're part of the tribe.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh so finally we got outside where it was beautifully

0:20:53.400 --> 0:20:55.959
<v Speaker 2>like a little forest out there, and we lit the fire.

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<v Speaker 2>We took blankets. It felt like we were in an

0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:04.359
<v Speaker 2>assimilated backyard, beautiful breathing garden. Of course, I jumped on

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<v Speaker 2>the trampoline.

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<v Speaker 1>We made stale s'mores.

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<v Speaker 2>Eric I've suddenly got so much energy that she came

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<v Speaker 2>outside with fifty five snacks ritz crackers, cheddar cheese, and

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<v Speaker 2>half grapes. She insisted that everyone ate them together and

0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:22.160
<v Speaker 2>one one bite, and we all listened.

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<v Speaker 1>I have video evidence of this guy's Actually I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>post on Patreon because this snack is. Jamila was looking

0:21:29.240 --> 0:21:31.160
<v Speaker 1>at me crazy like she does often when I tell

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<v Speaker 1>her some shit, and then she literally devoured it off

0:21:34.480 --> 0:21:37.000
<v Speaker 1>my hand, Like I literally was like, just had it

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<v Speaker 1>in my hand, and she was like, well I was,

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<v Speaker 1>And then you were like, oh wow, that is good.

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<v Speaker 1>And I convinced everyone that this concoction of mine is

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<v Speaker 1>the shit. I actually made it up when I was

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<v Speaker 1>high one day, but it's essentially a cheese like cheese plame.

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<v Speaker 2>This is This is probably part around the park where

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<v Speaker 2>we started to come down because we were getting a

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<v Speaker 2>little hungry, starved, starved. Sorry we also did you remember

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<v Speaker 2>we ate Chinese food around the fire?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, you hated it at you were.

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<v Speaker 2>Really the hostess and the musses. We took a shot,

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<v Speaker 2>I put I poured intention into the shot. I was

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<v Speaker 2>doing some spells over the tequila, and then we drank it.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, I took my shirt off because I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>feel anything until I could, in which case I was cold.

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<v Speaker 2>I had an accent. We went. We were in medieval

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<v Speaker 2>times at.

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<v Speaker 1>One point, and then at some point I left everyone

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<v Speaker 1>and I went and at first I laid down in here,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I was like, no, I'm going to bed,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not telling anyone. I got it.

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<v Speaker 2>I got I got the message. Someone else disappeared, just disappeared,

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<v Speaker 2>and then it was just me and Leaf. And then

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<v Speaker 2>eventually we just were like, all right, that was a

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<v Speaker 2>fun time. I had a great time.

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<v Speaker 1>That food was great. All right, catulated it.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like the best eight hour. We kept calling it

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<v Speaker 2>the holiday party.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like, oh, it's the holiday party.

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<v Speaker 2>It's right, so many people hits it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was our holiday GMBC holiday party.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was wine, mushrooms and weed.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all we need in a backyardn't be saying We're like.

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<v Speaker 2>One fourth of the party took their shirts off like

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<v Speaker 2>it was crazy. It was a dead Christmas tree with

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<v Speaker 2>crazy lights. One fourth of the party got naked and

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<v Speaker 2>she started jumping on the trampoline. The other fourth of

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<v Speaker 2>the party father gave us drinking wine, seeing all types

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<v Speaker 2>of weird shit.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think what we wanted to do too today,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's the end of the year, is, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>do a little recap on our year, on good Mom's

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<v Speaker 1>bad choices. We've had some pretty interesting guests this year,

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<v Speaker 1>interesting moments, and you guys have been here through it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you guys may have joined the tribe, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>mid year. Maybe you guys just started listening to us

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<v Speaker 1>last week, or maybe you've been with us for almost

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<v Speaker 1>three fucking years. Oh my god, it'll be three years

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<v Speaker 1>in March. We figured we should just do a little recap,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe play a few clips from some of our most

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<v Speaker 1>popular and I don't know, fun episodes, not necessarily fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of them are not fun, some of them are set.

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<v Speaker 2>We were just going through there and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just looking at myself crying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like Jesus Christ, this is getting intense.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh.

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<v Speaker 1>Started with the meditation, I think, then we went into

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<v Speaker 1>we had Jodie Patterson on. She's an author social activist

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<v Speaker 1>for the LGBTQ plus community in black community, and we

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<v Speaker 1>had her on where she talked about.

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<v Speaker 2>Her son being trans and her realizing around the age

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<v Speaker 2>of two, which is like a super interesting experience and

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<v Speaker 2>like to hear her perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>That was a good one, m h O.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we were in New York right where I acted

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<v Speaker 2>a fucking full.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we were all we were both acting a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking fool in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>That's that's how the Good Lord came down with the

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<v Speaker 2>COVID because he was like, these bitches are acting a

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<v Speaker 2>fucking fool. Now, donut now, bitches.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we went to New York to do some shit,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we also did some mother shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Who did she need to be done? I literally like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a whole different person since then. I'm like, who

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<v Speaker 2>was that? Wasn't me? Wasn't me acting like a goddamn pool.

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<v Speaker 2>We hung out with horrible decisions. I have some pictures

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<v Speaker 2>of that too. Maybe we'll have like a little reek

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<v Speaker 2>half on the Patreons I have some very secret pictures

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<v Speaker 2>from that secret location with the swing and the three

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<v Speaker 2>way kiss. I convinced two male roommates to three way

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<v Speaker 2>kiss me, and I'm proud of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was there, I witnessed it.

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<v Speaker 2>It is true, which means I should be a negotiator.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I did not see it happening, and then it happened,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh shit. Over the same day,

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<v Speaker 1>she got two people a three way kiss on the

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<v Speaker 1>same day. Oh, a couple that basically went no, they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't a couple, they were No, they were coworkers. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe one is maybe Mary.

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<v Speaker 2>They were both married.

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<v Speaker 1>They were both married, but they were both clearly having

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<v Speaker 1>an affair, and Jamila made them make out in front

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<v Speaker 1>of us.

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<v Speaker 2>With me and then they disappeared into the bathroom, which

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<v Speaker 2>confirms our suspicions that they were already sleeping together. And

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<v Speaker 2>also I this should be a profession professional three way kisser, convincer, convincer,

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<v Speaker 2>night fairy three way kisser convincer.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I like that. Yeah, I got to the LinkedIn.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so let's start off. Let's let's play a clip

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<v Speaker 2>from one of my favorite favorite podcasts. I'll be actually

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<v Speaker 2>link up with this year. Talk with my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I love them. What haven't you tried that you'd like

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<v Speaker 1>to sexually?

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<v Speaker 4>Drugs? Oh my god, what drugs? I pretty much tried

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<v Speaker 4>it all.

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<v Speaker 1>My favorite drug ever you.

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<v Speaker 4>Spoke all the time. I'm just saying the bigger one

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<v Speaker 4>that has to chill. I mean literally, It's true.

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<v Speaker 2>The favorite one was like which I'd never do again

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<v Speaker 2>because it was only a one time and done thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Was one of freebase base.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, when I was like years old, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Had a choice, very choice, but it was also the thick.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the time you're fully recovered.

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<v Speaker 2>We could never forget the time that Karen Lee Porter

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<v Speaker 2>told our entire audience that her favorite drug of choice

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<v Speaker 2>would be crack cocaine.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh find out this is the mom who is Karen

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<v Speaker 1>is a cougar. She's probably I think she's in her

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<v Speaker 1>sixties and crack cocaine basing as her drug.

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<v Speaker 2>She ended it one day, though she did it twice

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<v Speaker 2>in one day, but only one day, which you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I love.

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<v Speaker 1>I love a cougar that could keep it real. She

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<v Speaker 1>knew that it was gonna be She knew it was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be her favorite drug and that she would live

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<v Speaker 1>a long, long, sad, tragic life if she continued. So

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<v Speaker 1>she binged on it.

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<v Speaker 2>For a whole night and morning and then gave it

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<v Speaker 2>to her her husband's roommate.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that was amazing. Yeah that episode, man, that episode

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<v Speaker 1>was hilarious. What was that one called What's your Favorite Drug?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what's your Favorite Drug? So if you haven't listened

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<v Speaker 1>to that one, I highly suggest that's just like the

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<v Speaker 1>tip of the iceberg of that episode because they're wild.

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<v Speaker 2>And just check out us sex Talk with My Mom

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<v Speaker 2>because they're amazing. Yeah, what what happened after.

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<v Speaker 1>That Passport Cutty? So you know, I don't know if

0:27:47.960 --> 0:27:50.320
<v Speaker 1>you guys got to listen to Passport cuttings episode. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a two part episode, so you definitely need to listen

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<v Speaker 1>to it because she drops some fucking serious knowledge on that.

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<v Speaker 1>I still am not currently fully applying, which I need

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<v Speaker 1>to after listening to that. On how to get what

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<v Speaker 1>you want out of a man, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Just got to choose what you want them to spend on. Now,

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<v Speaker 4>it doesn't mean that he's gonna be on bed with that,

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<v Speaker 4>because some guys are cool.

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<v Speaker 5>With giving a bag because it's just an item, and

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<v Speaker 5>some guys don't want to spend fifty two hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 5>sending you to school because for the semester, because you know, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>like all that. Like, there's some guys who It's true,

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<v Speaker 5>there's some guys who give cash is, some guys who

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<v Speaker 5>give items. There some guys who will pay for the experience,

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<v Speaker 5>and some guys who will do something to elevate.

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<v Speaker 4>You, you know, help you in your journey, push you forward, whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>But you just have to identify who that is.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, and I tell people all the time, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna take whatever he's willing to give.

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<v Speaker 4>That's just that's what that guy his category is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like he's yeah, it's a guy's yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>But also as far as you not wanting to look

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<v Speaker 5>a certain way to him.

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<v Speaker 4>And you saying like, oh, you know, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't want you to think or I don't want you

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<v Speaker 5>to be talking shit later on whatever. The same way

0:29:10.520 --> 0:29:13.280
<v Speaker 5>we set up out the tone, how we're trying to

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<v Speaker 5>set up the tone, that's all they're doing back, They're

0:29:16.800 --> 0:29:21.760
<v Speaker 5>that's conditioning you to do those things prior to meeting him.

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<v Speaker 5>He's like, exactly how we're like, you know what I'm

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<v Speaker 5>gonna tell him, I don't like cheap guys. I don't

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<v Speaker 5>like guys who make me split. I don't like guys

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<v Speaker 5>who do this. And we're doing that to condition them

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<v Speaker 5>and let them know, like prior to meeting them, they're

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<v Speaker 5>doing the same.

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<v Speaker 2>And the exactly the problem is I'm too busy thinking

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<v Speaker 2>what if he thinks this?

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<v Speaker 4>Does that give zero fox?

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<v Speaker 5>And and he does not care, because the thing is

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<v Speaker 5>if we're not equally yoked in that way, then we're

0:29:52.720 --> 0:29:53.960
<v Speaker 5>just not meant to fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>With each other. That specific question was how do you

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<v Speaker 1>know you're what's having sex too soon.

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<v Speaker 2>When you haven't gotten anything?

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<v Speaker 1>You haven't gotten anything.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't think dinner a count. And Erica's question

0:30:06.640 --> 0:30:08.960
<v Speaker 2>was this dinner count, I don't think it does. That

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<v Speaker 2>was a good one. That was the emin for man

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<v Speaker 2>is for money.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the M and man is for money. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>applied that to your life?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? Imazy? You know I like I just like

0:30:18.440 --> 0:30:23.200
<v Speaker 2>I let people get over all the time. Yeah, someone

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<v Speaker 2>I have I get stuff, for sure, you gotta give

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<v Speaker 2>me something. I'm definitely having higher standards for sure. I

0:30:28.040 --> 0:30:30.640
<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's because of like financially well, all.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say is that Mila's dom life is

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<v Speaker 1>popping and she's been getting a lot of shit she's

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<v Speaker 1>been getting. She got about two hundred and fifty dollars

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<v Speaker 1>on Live the other night, which I'm still pissed that

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<v Speaker 1>none of my doms sends me shit except whatever subs.

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<v Speaker 2>I basically maybe I'm a sub because I'm getting anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So this next clip is an episode called Heartbreak Hotel,

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<v Speaker 1>where we solicited you guys to write in your most

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<v Speaker 1>epic break up stories, and y'all has some crazy she

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<v Speaker 1>hear that was a good one not to see. Come here, there,

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<v Speaker 1>come here, and let's share our breakup stories. This boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>that I dated, who was absolutely crazy, took.

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<v Speaker 2>A class about took the ship and smeared it all

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<v Speaker 2>over her closet and in her shoes.

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<v Speaker 4>We only met once.

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<v Speaker 1>I will fucking fight you, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Then he kept dismantling my ancestor alter, talking about I'm

0:31:27.360 --> 0:31:29.600
<v Speaker 2>praying to dead people without having any education.

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<v Speaker 1>You're just like, dude, you're just having sex. And he

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<v Speaker 1>was like, marry me, marry me, and I was like yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and he pulled out the ring like he had a ring,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, he had. I still have the ring.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, my god, I'm gonna post on Patreon. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 4>show you the ring.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, it is like, you need to show this picture.

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<v Speaker 1>I think even you your former bay Adventure Bay, you

0:31:53.560 --> 0:31:56.480
<v Speaker 1>shared a breakup story that he had on there that

0:31:56.680 --> 0:31:57.520
<v Speaker 1>was you know.

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<v Speaker 2>What, I shared it at the time. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>I admitted that it was my my the guy I

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<v Speaker 2>was dating, so adventurebe even though we were going to

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<v Speaker 2>take his name out of the files just for right now,

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<v Speaker 2>and so yeah, I forgot locked the files. But he

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<v Speaker 2>had actually told me that he took someone someone cheated

0:32:16.560 --> 0:32:19.440
<v Speaker 2>on him, and wow, I god lucky, and he took

0:32:19.760 --> 0:32:22.560
<v Speaker 2>dog shit and smeared it all over their their closet

0:32:22.560 --> 0:32:24.920
<v Speaker 2>and their shoes. And I literally called Erica from the

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:27.680
<v Speaker 2>bathroom of the of the airport to the other location,

0:32:27.760 --> 0:32:29.880
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, I'm scared. I don't I think

0:32:29.880 --> 0:32:32.120
<v Speaker 2>he's crazy. And he told me some crazy shit. It's

0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:33.600
<v Speaker 2>not it's not not She's like, it's fine. It was

0:32:33.640 --> 0:32:35.560
<v Speaker 2>a long time ago. I said, Erica, this is not normal.

0:32:36.120 --> 0:32:38.680
<v Speaker 2>That is not normal behavior. I must have I must

0:32:38.720 --> 0:32:40.160
<v Speaker 2>have knew I was going to fuck it up, and

0:32:40.320 --> 0:32:43.880
<v Speaker 2>I was scared. But yeah, that's part of the reason

0:32:43.880 --> 0:32:46.280
<v Speaker 2>that's over because I knew then that he was crazy. Wait,

0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:48.040
<v Speaker 2>and then he later told me after I cheated on

0:32:48.120 --> 0:32:50.800
<v Speaker 2>him that he did consider doing that to me, but

0:32:50.840 --> 0:32:52.719
<v Speaker 2>he was going to take it up a notch and

0:32:52.760 --> 0:32:57.200
<v Speaker 2>add shrimp and fish and leave it in my things.

0:32:58.000 --> 0:32:59.000
<v Speaker 2>But no, don't worry, I went.

0:32:58.880 --> 0:33:01.920
<v Speaker 1>Didn't wait, didn't say going to leave you above like.

0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:04.800
<v Speaker 2>He also said that. Yeah, he also said that. I said, well,

0:33:04.800 --> 0:33:06.600
<v Speaker 2>what did what are the many what He's like, I

0:33:06.600 --> 0:33:07.520
<v Speaker 2>thought about revenge?

0:33:07.520 --> 0:33:09.640
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, well, what did you think about?

0:33:09.760 --> 0:33:12.720
<v Speaker 2>And he said he thought about driving me to Pump

0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 2>Springs and there's like a mountain that you can go up.

0:33:15.320 --> 0:33:16.040
<v Speaker 1>There's like a lift.

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:18.479
<v Speaker 2>He said he was gonna hike up the mountain and

0:33:18.520 --> 0:33:21.560
<v Speaker 2>then leave me there and maybe take my phone. I

0:33:21.560 --> 0:33:24.440
<v Speaker 2>couldn't forget that part, and I said, you're so lucky

0:33:24.480 --> 0:33:26.200
<v Speaker 2>you didn't do that, because then I would have to

0:33:26.360 --> 0:33:26.840
<v Speaker 2>murder you.

0:33:29.760 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 1>Sounds like a serial killer.

0:33:31.040 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 2>It sounds like I dodged a cereal bullet. And I

0:33:37.520 --> 0:33:38.800
<v Speaker 2>was still trying. Even after you told me that.

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:40.400
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, he's just a little crazy. He

0:33:40.440 --> 0:33:41.080
<v Speaker 1>won't kill me.

0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:43.080
<v Speaker 2>He said, well, oh boy, what a year it's been.

0:33:43.240 --> 0:33:45.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, we had boyfriends and now we don't.

0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:50.040
<v Speaker 2>We were deep into the boyfriend. We were like boyfriend out.

0:33:50.480 --> 0:33:52.680
<v Speaker 2>I was just like boyfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend. I was just

0:33:52.720 --> 0:33:55.120
<v Speaker 2>reflecting on that time and I was like, wow, that

0:33:55.280 --> 0:33:58.560
<v Speaker 2>was fun. It was fun, well lasted, and you know,

0:33:58.840 --> 0:34:02.000
<v Speaker 2>I'd look back and venture bait. My former boyfriend was

0:34:02.040 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 2>a camper, so that meant I was gonna be a

0:34:03.960 --> 0:34:06.240
<v Speaker 2>camper too. He convinced me to buy an eighty dollars

0:34:06.320 --> 0:34:08.839
<v Speaker 2>sleeping bag, which I need to go retrieve. And then

0:34:08.840 --> 0:34:10.680
<v Speaker 2>I remember looking. I made Erica come with this to

0:34:10.880 --> 0:34:14.000
<v Speaker 2>Mars aka Trendon Pinnacles and they were like away from

0:34:14.080 --> 0:34:16.720
<v Speaker 2>us on like a far distant I don't know, lump,

0:34:16.719 --> 0:34:20.520
<v Speaker 2>but whatever. Those fucking things are astrological rock. And I

0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:24.000
<v Speaker 2>was like, Erica, look at them, what if it doesn't

0:34:24.040 --> 0:34:24.439
<v Speaker 2>work out?

0:34:24.600 --> 0:34:30.799
<v Speaker 1>And she goes, so what if it doesn't? And I

0:34:30.840 --> 0:34:33.080
<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, is that what I said? Yeah?

0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:34.719
<v Speaker 2>I was like, look at them over there, taking all

0:34:34.719 --> 0:34:40.000
<v Speaker 2>these pictures and shit, and she was like, yeah, it's okay, Ony, fine,

0:34:40.080 --> 0:34:41.399
<v Speaker 2>oo cares if it doesn't work out.

0:34:41.400 --> 0:34:43.840
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, and here we are. We survived. We survived.

0:34:44.000 --> 0:34:46.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I just feel like I don't know, Like,

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:48.920
<v Speaker 1>of course I didn't go into my relationship hoping it

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:50.800
<v Speaker 1>wasn't gonna work out, kind of the first relationship I

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:53.840
<v Speaker 1>ever had that I really had no expectations. And I

0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:55.239
<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's a good thing. I mean, it

0:34:55.560 --> 0:34:57.080
<v Speaker 1>is a good thing, but I mean I also speak

0:34:57.160 --> 0:35:00.640
<v Speaker 1>maybe speaks volumes to like woo where I where my

0:35:00.680 --> 0:35:03.880
<v Speaker 1>mind was in that relationship too. My my, my relationship

0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:07.360
<v Speaker 1>with my child's father hurt me so deeply and still

0:35:07.400 --> 0:35:12.560
<v Speaker 1>continues to that. I don't think anything could hurt me

0:35:12.600 --> 0:35:15.759
<v Speaker 1>that much. It's true, it's true. So it's like, yeah,

0:35:15.880 --> 0:35:19.640
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't work out, I probably cry, but like not

0:35:19.719 --> 0:35:22.399
<v Speaker 1>as much as I cried before. It's not and it's

0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:25.279
<v Speaker 1>not as light to the to my my ex it's

0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:27.279
<v Speaker 1>not as it's really I'm not trying to be a

0:35:27.320 --> 0:35:28.640
<v Speaker 1>bitch and be a slight to that. It's just like

0:35:29.960 --> 0:35:33.560
<v Speaker 1>unfortunately the person before him hurt me so bad that

0:35:34.320 --> 0:35:36.800
<v Speaker 1>and that it just doesn't it won't. It can't compare.

0:35:36.800 --> 0:35:39.320
<v Speaker 1>It just can't compare, and it shouldn't have to. It shouldn't.

0:35:39.719 --> 0:35:41.239
<v Speaker 1>But I think I'm just in the point now where

0:35:41.280 --> 0:35:43.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Like maybe if I maybe if I

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:45.200
<v Speaker 1>get into another relationship or find someone else, maybe my

0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:48.120
<v Speaker 1>perspective will change because maybe that person wasn't my person,

0:35:48.560 --> 0:35:53.160
<v Speaker 1>and so I didn't feel these intense feelings of loss

0:35:53.280 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 1>or like you complete me.

0:35:55.200 --> 0:35:58.239
<v Speaker 2>I think it's very healthy to practice detachment. And it's

0:35:58.239 --> 0:35:59.839
<v Speaker 2>not to say that you don't. You don't you're something

0:36:00.000 --> 0:36:01.440
<v Speaker 2>wrong with you and you're a sociopath.

0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:02.320
<v Speaker 1>Cycles happen.

0:36:02.560 --> 0:36:05.399
<v Speaker 2>That is life. Things are born and then they die.

0:36:05.560 --> 0:36:08.279
<v Speaker 2>You have it, you don't that winter comes, the winter goals.

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:12.120
<v Speaker 2>Accepting that is really where you become peaceful, because you know,

0:36:12.320 --> 0:36:15.000
<v Speaker 2>like everything is what it is in its present moment,

0:36:15.080 --> 0:36:16.920
<v Speaker 2>and that's the beauty in it, not that you can

0:36:16.920 --> 0:36:17.920
<v Speaker 2>hold onto it forever.

0:36:18.120 --> 0:36:20.520
<v Speaker 1>I had to get into that relationship in order to

0:36:20.560 --> 0:36:23.640
<v Speaker 1>put into practice all the all of the work that

0:36:23.680 --> 0:36:26.440
<v Speaker 1>I've done. Like I can talk sit and talk all

0:36:26.560 --> 0:36:29.280
<v Speaker 1>day about all the work that I do, but unless

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:32.080
<v Speaker 1>I apply it in a relationship, then I don't even

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:32.800
<v Speaker 1>know if it's working.

0:36:32.880 --> 0:36:35.359
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, it's true, and so like let's talk this.

0:36:35.440 --> 0:36:38.520
<v Speaker 1>So like I went into this relationship, I applied the

0:36:38.560 --> 0:36:40.640
<v Speaker 1>things that I've been working on. I fucked up some

0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:42.319
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, but for the most part, like, I'm

0:36:42.320 --> 0:36:45.239
<v Speaker 1>really proud of myself on how I navigated that relationship

0:36:45.280 --> 0:36:48.759
<v Speaker 1>and also realized, Okay, yeah, there's some things I didn't

0:36:48.760 --> 0:36:51.480
<v Speaker 1>even know that I do that I got to work on, like,

0:36:51.600 --> 0:36:54.320
<v Speaker 1>for example, fleeing when I when a man gets emotional,

0:36:54.680 --> 0:36:56.480
<v Speaker 1>Like when a man gets too emotional, I'm.

0:36:56.320 --> 0:37:03.680
<v Speaker 2>Like, em no, don't do that, please, And like, I know.

0:37:03.719 --> 0:37:06.319
<v Speaker 1>That I previously wasn't like that. I was let but

0:37:06.360 --> 0:37:09.479
<v Speaker 1>I think because of my relationship with my daughter's father,

0:37:09.719 --> 0:37:12.640
<v Speaker 1>always had to be like be there for him emotionally

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:15.000
<v Speaker 1>and make sure he was okay because there was always

0:37:15.040 --> 0:37:18.200
<v Speaker 1>something going on. The idea of having to do that

0:37:18.239 --> 0:37:20.880
<v Speaker 1>for a man is like, I can't do it, and

0:37:20.920 --> 0:37:24.439
<v Speaker 1>that's not fair to earn a relationship. So I realized that, Okay,

0:37:24.560 --> 0:37:26.520
<v Speaker 1>that's something I really got to work on because I

0:37:26.560 --> 0:37:28.759
<v Speaker 1>want an emotional man, Like I asked for that and

0:37:28.800 --> 0:37:32.239
<v Speaker 1>I got that. And maybe actually this can segue us

0:37:32.239 --> 0:37:35.279
<v Speaker 1>into this clip where we talk about manifesting our men,

0:37:35.719 --> 0:37:40.879
<v Speaker 1>which I truly believe, but we did, and I think

0:37:40.920 --> 0:37:44.160
<v Speaker 1>this year is a testament to the fact that manifestation

0:37:44.280 --> 0:37:47.839
<v Speaker 1>truly does work. And I've seen it over and over again.

0:37:47.920 --> 0:37:51.759
<v Speaker 1>It's not coincidental. It's very intentional when you write things

0:37:51.800 --> 0:37:55.320
<v Speaker 1>down and you speak to it constantly. I mean, fortunately

0:37:55.320 --> 0:37:57.600
<v Speaker 1>me and Jamila, like we have a podcast, so we

0:37:57.640 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 1>talk about shit all day long. That ends up cultivating

0:38:02.280 --> 0:38:03.359
<v Speaker 1>itself in some way.

0:38:04.239 --> 0:38:07.000
<v Speaker 2>And what we also realize is we manifested our men

0:38:07.400 --> 0:38:11.120
<v Speaker 2>and we need to be even more specific than before

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:15.560
<v Speaker 2>because that list was spot the fuck on. But there

0:38:15.560 --> 0:38:17.240
<v Speaker 2>were some very important things that were forgotten.

0:38:18.280 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 1>There were there were things I didn't even think I

0:38:19.880 --> 0:38:22.720
<v Speaker 1>had to be specific on. But I gotta be specific

0:38:22.840 --> 0:38:26.000
<v Speaker 1>on ah, to be specific, Like it's one thing to

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:29.000
<v Speaker 1>say I want an emotional man, but like one through

0:38:29.080 --> 0:38:33.200
<v Speaker 1>ten on a scale, and also and also emotional about

0:38:33.239 --> 0:38:38.080
<v Speaker 1>what right and like health healthy emotional, like.

0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:43.080
<v Speaker 2>Rational emotional, real emotional is a manipulative emotional.

0:38:43.880 --> 0:38:48.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, So again I'm going to I got to

0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:50.799
<v Speaker 1>go back to the drawing board. I'm not ready to

0:38:50.800 --> 0:38:52.480
<v Speaker 1>go back to the drawing board. I'm really not and

0:38:52.480 --> 0:38:56.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested in really dating anyone right now. But

0:38:57.000 --> 0:38:59.640
<v Speaker 1>at some point in the near future, maybe I don't know,

0:39:00.200 --> 0:39:03.960
<v Speaker 1>months or so five months, who knows, I will write

0:39:03.960 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 1>this list down again and I'll compare notes of my

0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:08.839
<v Speaker 1>last one and put like I'm gonna like literally put

0:39:09.160 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 1>branches off of things.

0:39:10.480 --> 0:39:11.120
<v Speaker 2>That's what I did.

0:39:11.200 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 1>Well, let me know when you write yours, so we

0:39:12.680 --> 0:39:14.560
<v Speaker 1>can be on the same cycle again, so we can

0:39:14.560 --> 0:39:15.480
<v Speaker 1>get niggas at the same time.

0:39:15.520 --> 0:39:17.160
<v Speaker 2>Because at the same time, because you know, I get

0:39:17.200 --> 0:39:19.160
<v Speaker 2>jealous and I'm kidding you know, I don't want you

0:39:19.200 --> 0:39:19.680
<v Speaker 2>to myself.

0:39:21.200 --> 0:39:22.000
<v Speaker 1>What was I gonna say?

0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:25.080
<v Speaker 2>Yes? Also, yeah, it's there's power. I don't know what

0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:26.799
<v Speaker 2>the numbers on it were. I don't know what the

0:39:26.840 --> 0:39:29.080
<v Speaker 2>time frame, but the shit worked. We've got guy friends

0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:32.080
<v Speaker 2>like within the same three weeks. They were like I

0:39:32.120 --> 0:39:34.759
<v Speaker 2>literally went over the list with the nigga and he

0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:36.839
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh shit. I was like, I know I'm

0:39:36.880 --> 0:39:43.560
<v Speaker 2>a night theory, but I mean I really to what

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:47.759
<v Speaker 2>you said. I needed to do some work and I

0:39:47.960 --> 0:39:49.759
<v Speaker 2>was the work I hadn't done, and like I had

0:39:49.800 --> 0:39:51.880
<v Speaker 2>started to do the work, but I didn't really like

0:39:52.000 --> 0:39:55.120
<v Speaker 2>I hadn't really got into it. And I think that situation,

0:39:55.320 --> 0:39:58.680
<v Speaker 2>that relationship really made me, really made me dig deep

0:39:58.680 --> 0:40:02.240
<v Speaker 2>into myself. I know or women out there backsliding.

0:40:01.680 --> 0:40:06.280
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely ninety percent of women do, and that's normal.

0:40:06.360 --> 0:40:08.000
<v Speaker 2>And I don't want you to think for one second

0:40:08.000 --> 0:40:10.040
<v Speaker 2>that we are like some like Erica is, there's some

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:14.080
<v Speaker 2>super evolved like baby Mama's situation going over here that

0:40:14.080 --> 0:40:18.200
<v Speaker 2>that's never happened like it's happened, and I regret it.

0:40:18.239 --> 0:40:19.920
<v Speaker 2>And even you know, even though it wasn't supposed to

0:40:19.960 --> 0:40:22.879
<v Speaker 2>be that relationship, I still regretted it because it made

0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:25.799
<v Speaker 2>me deeply examine how I feel about myself if I'm

0:40:26.040 --> 0:40:28.919
<v Speaker 2>sleeping with someone who doesn't really love me, and why

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:30.160
<v Speaker 2>that brings comfort to me.

0:40:30.680 --> 0:40:31.319
<v Speaker 1>I went through this.

0:40:31.320 --> 0:40:34.160
<v Speaker 2>Whole year not mentioning this very important part. But I

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:36.359
<v Speaker 2>feel like it's very important that other women know, Like

0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:39.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't condone backsliding to Baby Daddy's, especially to anyone

0:40:39.640 --> 0:40:42.160
<v Speaker 2>who's abusive in any way. Shit happens, and as long

0:40:42.200 --> 0:40:45.400
<v Speaker 2>as you're able to actually confront yourself and make better choices,

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:49.399
<v Speaker 2>it's really what's important. But I do understand, like you said,

0:40:49.400 --> 0:40:53.520
<v Speaker 2>there's really no heartbreak like the heartbreak of like the

0:40:53.520 --> 0:40:56.080
<v Speaker 2>Baby Daddy, there's really like the attachment is so deep,

0:40:56.160 --> 0:40:57.960
<v Speaker 2>and like I know, me and Erica both were with

0:40:58.000 --> 0:41:00.320
<v Speaker 2>those people for a very long time. I'm in a

0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:04.560
<v Speaker 2>space where I'm just very very conscious of who I'm

0:41:04.840 --> 0:41:05.560
<v Speaker 2>laying down with.

0:41:05.880 --> 0:41:09.600
<v Speaker 1>I haven't backslid sexually with my baby daddy, but like,

0:41:10.280 --> 0:41:13.040
<v Speaker 1>I've definitely backslid emotionally. I don't think you have to

0:41:13.080 --> 0:41:16.080
<v Speaker 1>backslide with your pussy in order to backslide right right,

0:41:16.400 --> 0:41:16.680
<v Speaker 1>you know.

0:41:17.120 --> 0:41:22.719
<v Speaker 2>I honestly I was beating myself up so much about it.

0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:24.360
<v Speaker 2>It's just so disappointed in myself.

0:41:24.400 --> 0:41:25.600
<v Speaker 1>People knew, he knew.

0:41:25.640 --> 0:41:27.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, what does this say about me?

0:41:27.280 --> 0:41:27.440
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:41:27.480 --> 0:41:29.520
<v Speaker 2>It was just sometimes things need to come to the

0:41:29.560 --> 0:41:31.400
<v Speaker 2>light so you can look at them for real. You know,

0:41:31.560 --> 0:41:33.200
<v Speaker 2>like sometimes you can do things in the dark with

0:41:33.239 --> 0:41:35.799
<v Speaker 2>yourself and be secretive about them and know what's fucked up,

0:41:36.200 --> 0:41:38.799
<v Speaker 2>But when like you have to admit to it in

0:41:38.840 --> 0:41:41.200
<v Speaker 2>front of other people, that's when you're like, fuck, this

0:41:41.320 --> 0:41:43.759
<v Speaker 2>is really bad. I look really bad, and I'm looking

0:41:43.800 --> 0:41:45.880
<v Speaker 2>at myself now. And that was a part of it,

0:41:45.920 --> 0:41:46.160
<v Speaker 2>you know.

0:41:46.239 --> 0:41:48.799
<v Speaker 1>But all these things couldn't have happened unless we had

0:41:48.800 --> 0:41:52.400
<v Speaker 1>boyfriends that we could apply or shit too. So you applied,

0:41:52.840 --> 0:41:54.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, the work that you've done, and realized that

0:41:54.960 --> 0:41:57.560
<v Speaker 1>you had more to do, and that like you had

0:41:57.600 --> 0:42:00.920
<v Speaker 1>some things, some skeletons in your closet, we're still there, and.

0:42:00.880 --> 0:42:03.480
<v Speaker 2>That maybe monogamy is not like for me right now.

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:08.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't have the capacity to work hard in a relationship.

0:42:08.280 --> 0:42:10.200
<v Speaker 1>And that's what I realized too, is that my tolerance

0:42:10.239 --> 0:42:15.720
<v Speaker 1>is short. We don't need boyfriends yet. No, we're not ready,

0:42:16.080 --> 0:42:17.040
<v Speaker 1>even though I have two.

0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:21.280
<v Speaker 2>Smila has two playboyfriends and one in one prospect.

0:42:21.600 --> 0:42:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh really another prospect. I know who it is. I

0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:25.080
<v Speaker 1>know you do.

0:42:26.440 --> 0:42:28.279
<v Speaker 2>But like they're all long distance, so don't worry. It's

0:42:28.320 --> 0:42:28.960
<v Speaker 2>not crazy.

0:42:29.800 --> 0:42:30.440
<v Speaker 1>They don't live here.

0:42:30.640 --> 0:42:32.560
<v Speaker 2>They don't live here. They're not like too much of

0:42:32.560 --> 0:42:34.480
<v Speaker 2>a distraction. Even I'm gonna have to cat these facetimes.

0:42:34.520 --> 0:42:37.799
<v Speaker 2>She will literally be on FaceTime silent, No, she said,

0:42:37.800 --> 0:42:38.839
<v Speaker 2>And you're gonna say that I don't.

0:42:38.840 --> 0:42:41.040
<v Speaker 1>It's not true, and I don't. Literally they were just

0:42:41.160 --> 0:42:43.719
<v Speaker 1>here on FaceTime, not really talking about shit.

0:42:43.840 --> 0:42:47.399
<v Speaker 2>That boyfriend, that particular boyfriend that I wasn't. His love

0:42:47.480 --> 0:42:50.120
<v Speaker 2>language is quality time, so he doesn't mind. That's what

0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:51.920
<v Speaker 2>he likes to do. That's why I entertain it.

0:42:52.719 --> 0:42:53.720
<v Speaker 1>That's your love language.

0:42:53.800 --> 0:42:54.839
<v Speaker 2>No, it's not, it is.

0:42:54.880 --> 0:42:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I've seen it happen. I've seen you literally on FaceTime.

0:42:59.239 --> 0:43:01.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'll like talking, I'll have a whole conversation

0:43:01.640 --> 0:43:04.520
<v Speaker 1>with you and then she'd be like, what would you say, Like, wait,

0:43:04.560 --> 0:43:08.240
<v Speaker 1>someone's on the phone, Like wait, there's actually I'm listening

0:43:08.239 --> 0:43:10.319
<v Speaker 1>to what I just said. You're like, it's fine, It's just,

0:43:10.480 --> 0:43:12.400
<v Speaker 1>it's just Bay, It's fine.

0:43:12.560 --> 0:43:16.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm just I'm just, you know, juggling my boyfriends right now.

0:43:16.360 --> 0:43:18.120
<v Speaker 2>And you know the best part of the best part

0:43:18.160 --> 0:43:19.680
<v Speaker 2>of it is that they all know about each other,

0:43:19.840 --> 0:43:23.760
<v Speaker 2>and I just feel liberated and free. A lot of mushrooms.

0:43:23.760 --> 0:43:26.320
<v Speaker 2>Scott boyfriends broke she did, my boyfriends broke up with boyfriend.

0:43:26.400 --> 0:43:28.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think what other what other good guests

0:43:28.520 --> 0:43:33.160
<v Speaker 1>did we have? We had on Jamila Lemieux, Lemieux, we

0:43:33.200 --> 0:43:36.880
<v Speaker 1>had on Van van Lathan Dear White People, which was

0:43:36.960 --> 0:43:40.520
<v Speaker 1>kind of at the it was during like the most

0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:44.439
<v Speaker 1>like talks. I mean, it's always toxic, but like, what

0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:46.320
<v Speaker 1>was it when George Floyd? I think was when George

0:43:46.360 --> 0:43:49.279
<v Speaker 1>when the George Floyd murder happened too.

0:43:49.400 --> 0:43:51.240
<v Speaker 6>But I think a lot of times too though, because

0:43:51.400 --> 0:43:53.399
<v Speaker 6>you know, just like any relationship, you have your ups

0:43:53.400 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 6>and downs and ours A lot of it has to

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:58.319
<v Speaker 6>do with infidelity. I always felt like I had something

0:43:58.360 --> 0:44:00.640
<v Speaker 6>to prove, like sexually, and.

0:44:00.560 --> 0:44:03.000
<v Speaker 1>So like it became a lot for his pleasure and

0:44:03.080 --> 0:44:05.239
<v Speaker 1>because you thought, like, yeah, I'm doing it and not

0:44:05.320 --> 0:44:07.040
<v Speaker 1>because and he probably it's not even his.

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:09.160
<v Speaker 6>Fault, Like he didn't even had no idea, you know,

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:12.040
<v Speaker 6>he was sure, I'm sure focused on pleasing me too.

0:44:12.120 --> 0:44:13.839
<v Speaker 4>But like for me, it was.

0:44:13.880 --> 0:44:16.799
<v Speaker 7>Like, no, look what I can do right right now,

0:44:18.560 --> 0:44:25.360
<v Speaker 7>Whereas now it's it's changed and I don't know it's

0:44:25.360 --> 0:44:25.640
<v Speaker 7>gonna be.

0:44:25.719 --> 0:44:26.960
<v Speaker 4>It's interesting to think about, like.

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:29.879
<v Speaker 1>When I do find like a.

0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:33.080
<v Speaker 6>Boyfriend at some point in my life, like what sex is,

0:44:33.120 --> 0:44:35.240
<v Speaker 6>what sex will be like for me? Then, like because

0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:36.920
<v Speaker 6>of because I don't look at it the same way

0:44:36.960 --> 0:44:38.440
<v Speaker 6>all the time anymore.

0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:42.120
<v Speaker 1>I think that's okay. So it's funny that that that

0:44:42.200 --> 0:44:44.680
<v Speaker 1>clip comes up because obviously this was before I had

0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:47.920
<v Speaker 1>a boyfriend, and I was basically saying, how like I

0:44:47.960 --> 0:44:50.080
<v Speaker 1>have I have sex for my own personal pleasure now

0:44:50.120 --> 0:44:52.320
<v Speaker 1>and whurs is before when I where I had sex

0:44:52.360 --> 0:44:55.960
<v Speaker 1>for the pleasure of my partner. Because as women and

0:44:56.120 --> 0:44:59.920
<v Speaker 1>teenagers were taught to you know, please our partner and

0:45:00.080 --> 0:45:03.239
<v Speaker 1>not really understand our bodies and all that shit, I

0:45:03.320 --> 0:45:08.000
<v Speaker 1>have to say, like, it's going to be really hard

0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:12.480
<v Speaker 1>for me to have sex with someone else now. Because

0:45:13.320 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 1>poetry Bay is an excellent lover, an excellent lover, and

0:45:18.160 --> 0:45:23.680
<v Speaker 1>like really put my pleasure first, Like my pleasure was

0:45:23.680 --> 0:45:26.960
<v Speaker 1>his main priority. And I realize that that's kind of rare,

0:45:27.440 --> 0:45:32.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, like it's rare to find that compatibility in

0:45:32.880 --> 0:45:35.839
<v Speaker 1>a partner in that way, because I feel like men,

0:45:36.040 --> 0:45:40.680
<v Speaker 1>especially black men, are are just now really understanding like

0:45:41.800 --> 0:45:46.040
<v Speaker 1>the patriarchy even in sex and undoing and having to

0:45:46.160 --> 0:45:49.040
<v Speaker 1>undo those things, like it's not top of line, it's

0:45:49.080 --> 0:45:52.920
<v Speaker 1>not top of line priority. I don't know how. I

0:45:52.920 --> 0:45:55.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know who's going to be my next lover, but

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:56.719
<v Speaker 1>it's going to be hard to top that.

0:45:57.000 --> 0:45:58.320
<v Speaker 2>The thing is sex is important.

0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:01.880
<v Speaker 1>It's the most, not the most, but it's top three.

0:46:02.160 --> 0:46:05.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's top three. And it's not compromisable. And I

0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:07.640
<v Speaker 2>was compromising in a lot of areas and I'm just

0:46:07.680 --> 0:46:11.320
<v Speaker 2>never gonna play myself again and pretend like there's certain

0:46:11.320 --> 0:46:13.840
<v Speaker 2>things that don't matter, because there's things that matter that

0:46:13.880 --> 0:46:14.800
<v Speaker 2>you don't even know matter.

0:46:15.560 --> 0:46:19.520
<v Speaker 1>I have been even now, I've been exploring more so

0:46:20.000 --> 0:46:22.200
<v Speaker 1>my interest in women. I told you me, I was like,

0:46:22.200 --> 0:46:24.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I've decided that I don't like women,

0:46:24.680 --> 0:46:26.920
<v Speaker 1>like not that I don't like women because I obviously

0:46:26.960 --> 0:46:29.319
<v Speaker 1>I've slept with women. But if I've decided in my

0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:31.920
<v Speaker 1>head like I could never date a woman, and so

0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:34.960
<v Speaker 1>I go into that already, like I already make that

0:46:35.000 --> 0:46:37.239
<v Speaker 1>decision when I meet a woman, if we're gonna have sex,

0:46:37.239 --> 0:46:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, it's just that. So I've been like talking

0:46:39.480 --> 0:46:43.480
<v Speaker 1>to this girl lately and even invested.

0:46:45.920 --> 0:46:48.719
<v Speaker 2>Go ahead, tell the people, go ahead, spill the bean.

0:46:49.520 --> 0:46:53.359
<v Speaker 1>Even invested in a very girthy strap on. I show

0:46:53.440 --> 0:46:55.360
<v Speaker 1>Jamila the strap on, and you didn't show it to

0:46:55.360 --> 0:46:57.360
<v Speaker 1>me in person. Actually I see, well it's in my

0:46:57.360 --> 0:46:59.239
<v Speaker 1>bedroom right now. I'll show it to you because okay,

0:46:59.280 --> 0:47:01.239
<v Speaker 1>I want to see it. I showed Tumila and she

0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:04.640
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh what. She's like, why is it that color?

0:47:04.680 --> 0:47:09.120
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, bitch, because it's my color. So

0:47:09.160 --> 0:47:12.279
<v Speaker 1>I got a strap on that's very real. And I

0:47:12.320 --> 0:47:13.640
<v Speaker 1>was just like, you know what, let me just like

0:47:13.840 --> 0:47:17.959
<v Speaker 1>go full fledged into my into exploring my my lesbianism

0:47:18.040 --> 0:47:21.680
<v Speaker 1>or my interest in women. Still not fully convinced yet,

0:47:21.760 --> 0:47:25.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm still still trying to see like if there's still

0:47:25.239 --> 0:47:27.160
<v Speaker 1>like an undoing that needs to happen. Honestly, I don't

0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:30.000
<v Speaker 1>want to force it, but like, I don't know, I do,

0:47:30.080 --> 0:47:32.960
<v Speaker 1>like I fantasize about women all the time and like, but.

0:47:32.920 --> 0:47:34.160
<v Speaker 2>Maybe you just like to have sex with the men

0:47:34.239 --> 0:47:35.400
<v Speaker 2>that has mean you want to have a relationship or

0:47:35.440 --> 0:47:36.719
<v Speaker 2>maybe the right one will come and you want to

0:47:36.760 --> 0:47:37.839
<v Speaker 2>have a relationship with that one.

0:47:37.920 --> 0:47:39.719
<v Speaker 1>Maybe, but I have to like be open myself up

0:47:39.760 --> 0:47:42.040
<v Speaker 1>to that, you know, And I feel like there might

0:47:42.080 --> 0:47:43.120
<v Speaker 1>be like a block for me.

0:47:43.280 --> 0:47:45.320
<v Speaker 2>Okay, like why because it's just like woman, you just

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:47.080
<v Speaker 2>don't see yourself with one white wit is.

0:47:47.920 --> 0:47:49.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I feel like maybe I could, maybe

0:47:49.960 --> 0:47:52.640
<v Speaker 1>I could. I do love men. You're gonna be a

0:47:52.680 --> 0:47:54.520
<v Speaker 1>late in life lesbian. I mean maybe if I had

0:47:54.520 --> 0:47:57.000
<v Speaker 1>a late maybe I've had a girlfriend that and then

0:47:57.040 --> 0:48:00.680
<v Speaker 1>we had like boyfriends, that would be cool.

0:48:00.719 --> 0:48:02.240
<v Speaker 2>I guess I don't.

0:48:03.760 --> 0:48:06.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm realizing I'm kind of I think.

0:48:06.280 --> 0:48:10.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm kind of kept territorial. I don't mean like you

0:48:10.120 --> 0:48:10.920
<v Speaker 2>are territorial.

0:48:11.560 --> 0:48:11.879
<v Speaker 1>You are.

0:48:12.239 --> 0:48:13.319
<v Speaker 4>I witnessed it all the time.

0:48:13.600 --> 0:48:17.400
<v Speaker 1>You were very free, but you are territorial.

0:48:19.680 --> 0:48:25.840
<v Speaker 2>Hm free territorial. I'm so you're said a late in

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:27.759
<v Speaker 2>life lesbian. I've just done so much lesbian shit, like

0:48:27.760 --> 0:48:30.200
<v Speaker 2>I've been flocked with a strap on so many times

0:48:30.239 --> 0:48:33.279
<v Speaker 2>in my twenties that I'm good for life, and.

0:48:33.239 --> 0:48:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm also I'm also not good for life.

0:48:36.120 --> 0:48:37.880
<v Speaker 2>I don't really I have no interest in dildo's, I

0:48:37.920 --> 0:48:41.040
<v Speaker 2>have no interest in trap ons. Like I just I'm good.

0:48:41.560 --> 0:48:42.080
<v Speaker 1>I've done it.

0:48:42.120 --> 0:48:45.080
<v Speaker 2>I've done a lot of it, and I'm just shocking

0:48:45.120 --> 0:48:47.720
<v Speaker 2>to me that you are now embarking on your journey.

0:48:47.719 --> 0:48:48.839
<v Speaker 1>It's also shocking to me that I.

0:48:48.760 --> 0:48:50.520
<v Speaker 2>Spent like a full three years being a lesbian and

0:48:50.560 --> 0:48:52.399
<v Speaker 2>never have I stepped foot in a strap on. I'm

0:48:52.440 --> 0:48:55.080
<v Speaker 2>kind of jealous, but it also as a lesbian, someone

0:48:55.120 --> 0:48:57.319
<v Speaker 2>told me be careful of putting that strap on on

0:48:57.320 --> 0:49:00.520
<v Speaker 2>because you get addicted to it. Really, could you like

0:49:00.520 --> 0:49:01.960
<v Speaker 2>there some kind of power, like when you put a

0:49:02.000 --> 0:49:03.719
<v Speaker 2>dick on, you like powerful?

0:49:04.560 --> 0:49:06.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I felt pretty silly.

0:49:06.239 --> 0:49:08.759
<v Speaker 2>I saw I don't know, I saw you something.

0:49:09.360 --> 0:49:11.560
<v Speaker 1>I felt well when I when I went when when

0:49:11.600 --> 0:49:14.000
<v Speaker 1>I showed it to her, she was one who basically

0:49:14.040 --> 0:49:15.360
<v Speaker 1>told me to get it, and then I got it

0:49:15.400 --> 0:49:17.000
<v Speaker 1>and she was like oh, And I was like, bitch,

0:49:17.040 --> 0:49:25.640
<v Speaker 1>you told me. I don't know. I'm just exploring my

0:49:25.719 --> 0:49:28.759
<v Speaker 1>options in twenty twenty one, I'm not It's not fuck

0:49:28.800 --> 0:49:32.520
<v Speaker 1>these niggas, although sometimes it is.

0:49:32.840 --> 0:49:35.040
<v Speaker 2>I mean, right now it is fucky this. I'm gonna

0:49:35.040 --> 0:49:37.840
<v Speaker 2>tell you what it is. Fuck these niggas get money. Okay,

0:49:37.840 --> 0:49:42.800
<v Speaker 2>except my two boyfriends shout out to you, just kidding.

0:49:47.200 --> 0:49:50.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, my new poll lifestyle. Eric is exploring

0:49:50.040 --> 0:49:52.720
<v Speaker 2>lesbianism and me, I am now pale.

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:55.279
<v Speaker 1>Well, isn't Polly when they're all in a relationship.

0:49:55.280 --> 0:49:59.279
<v Speaker 2>Not necessarily not necessarily one of my Okay, so one

0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:00.799
<v Speaker 2>of my speaking of Polly, and we do have an

0:50:00.840 --> 0:50:03.080
<v Speaker 2>episode called Polly Like a Pro, which maybe you need

0:50:03.120 --> 0:50:05.200
<v Speaker 2>to go back and reduce me so you can go.

0:50:05.280 --> 0:50:08.640
<v Speaker 2>I have to call Saphire. I'm gonna definitely have calls

0:50:08.719 --> 0:50:13.600
<v Speaker 2>south Fire and just touch on some basis. I'm Holly basics,

0:50:13.600 --> 0:50:16.480
<v Speaker 2>Polly basics, but you know, everyone's everyone's Polly looks different.

0:50:16.480 --> 0:50:20.200
<v Speaker 2>And I'm realizing I'm reatching a lot this year. I

0:50:20.239 --> 0:50:21.960
<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's the winter solstice, you know, the

0:50:22.000 --> 0:50:24.240
<v Speaker 2>winter sols. This is about a rebirth, it's about reflection,

0:50:24.280 --> 0:50:26.600
<v Speaker 2>it's about hibernation. And they kind of call it a

0:50:26.640 --> 0:50:30.200
<v Speaker 2>time where like a time of pregnancy. Oh no, no,

0:50:30.280 --> 0:50:32.680
<v Speaker 2>not like you get pregnant physically, but like you're pregnant

0:50:32.719 --> 0:50:35.959
<v Speaker 2>with creativity and ideas, and this is the time where

0:50:36.320 --> 0:50:38.640
<v Speaker 2>the next nine months, the next few years, that's where

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:39.680
<v Speaker 2>the shit will manifest.

0:50:40.239 --> 0:50:41.080
<v Speaker 1>It will be fruitful.

0:50:41.200 --> 0:50:44.600
<v Speaker 2>So you know, be really conscious of the work you

0:50:44.640 --> 0:50:46.320
<v Speaker 2>do on the dark side and like where you go

0:50:46.400 --> 0:50:49.160
<v Speaker 2>inside yourself the reasons I need attention and the reasons

0:50:49.160 --> 0:50:51.080
<v Speaker 2>I need love, and like trying to nif that in

0:50:51.080 --> 0:50:53.520
<v Speaker 2>the butt. So just like not getting it for the

0:50:53.520 --> 0:50:56.640
<v Speaker 2>wrong reasons. Because one of my boy both of my

0:50:56.680 --> 0:51:00.480
<v Speaker 2>boyfriends started out with other people. One of my friends

0:51:00.680 --> 0:51:04.000
<v Speaker 2>have since dropped one of the person and I kind

0:51:04.000 --> 0:51:06.439
<v Speaker 2>of freaked out. My other boyfriend has someone and I'm

0:51:06.480 --> 0:51:08.719
<v Speaker 2>open to we're gonna meet, I don't know anytime, like

0:51:08.760 --> 0:51:11.040
<v Speaker 2>when we don't look in the same state, but I don't.

0:51:11.080 --> 0:51:13.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to feel pressure to like have to

0:51:13.160 --> 0:51:14.800
<v Speaker 2>have a relationship with a third person, you know what

0:51:14.880 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 2>I mean. Like usually I'm such a people pleaser and

0:51:17.520 --> 0:51:19.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm just so go with the flow that I'm like, oh, whatever,

0:51:19.880 --> 0:51:22.760
<v Speaker 2>whatever's cool with you, it's cool with me, cool whatever,

0:51:22.920 --> 0:51:24.000
<v Speaker 2>Like it's cool, Like I'll.

0:51:23.880 --> 0:51:24.840
<v Speaker 1>Be like that, Will it bother me?

0:51:24.880 --> 0:51:27.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm like no, I'll be fine. A lot of things

0:51:27.280 --> 0:51:29.600
<v Speaker 2>I do is I'll be fine, or like I realize

0:51:29.800 --> 0:51:31.960
<v Speaker 2>or like oh no, you eat this last piece. That's

0:51:31.960 --> 0:51:34.440
<v Speaker 2>a terrible example, but like that's how I am. Sometimes

0:51:34.520 --> 0:51:37.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm always thinking of someone else before myself. Like I'll

0:51:37.320 --> 0:51:39.120
<v Speaker 2>like if I think someone's like waiting for me, like

0:51:39.160 --> 0:51:43.760
<v Speaker 2>I'll hold my peat like ridiculous things. It's a ridiculous thoughts.

0:51:43.800 --> 0:51:47.719
<v Speaker 2>But it's true that I've had to really say, hey, bitch, no,

0:51:48.000 --> 0:51:51.560
<v Speaker 2>go take care of yourself. That can wait. Oh no,

0:51:51.680 --> 0:51:54.080
<v Speaker 2>if you don't even feel a little bit comfortable with this,

0:51:54.520 --> 0:51:57.920
<v Speaker 2>say no, don't even risk it just because like, oh

0:51:57.960 --> 0:52:00.239
<v Speaker 2>well it will be okay, because I'm usually okay, I

0:52:00.280 --> 0:52:02.240
<v Speaker 2>am okay, but I'm just okay.

0:52:02.280 --> 0:52:05.480
<v Speaker 1>It's like the baseline. Yes, that's what I'm saying.

0:52:05.640 --> 0:52:07.640
<v Speaker 2>I told you, I'm exercising my inner Erica, I by

0:52:07.800 --> 0:52:10.400
<v Speaker 2>drawing more boundaries and not giving a fuck about saying no.

0:52:10.520 --> 0:52:11.919
<v Speaker 2>Eric is one bitch. You don't give a fuck about

0:52:11.920 --> 0:52:14.080
<v Speaker 2>saying no. No, I don't want to do it, nope,

0:52:14.239 --> 0:52:17.760
<v Speaker 2>uh uh nope, that's Erica.

0:52:18.280 --> 0:52:20.080
<v Speaker 1>If I don't say no, it's on my face. I'm like,

0:52:20.200 --> 0:52:21.359
<v Speaker 1>well what about him?

0:52:21.440 --> 0:52:26.880
<v Speaker 2>We Nope, I'm like fine, Eric, So I'm really exercising

0:52:26.920 --> 0:52:29.759
<v Speaker 2>my inner Erica. I encourage you all to do the

0:52:29.760 --> 0:52:31.680
<v Speaker 2>same thing. And if something is you don't want to

0:52:31.719 --> 0:52:34.200
<v Speaker 2>do it, Nope, Nope, I don't. I don't want to

0:52:34.640 --> 0:52:37.560
<v Speaker 2>and I don't really and I don't even feel like

0:52:37.080 --> 0:52:39.960
<v Speaker 2>compelled to tell you why. It's just what it is.

0:52:40.000 --> 0:52:42.399
<v Speaker 2>I said, So my first instinct just going with it

0:52:42.480 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 2>because like I overly consider other people's feelings. I don't

0:52:45.320 --> 0:52:46.320
<v Speaker 2>even know how I got on this topic.

0:52:46.360 --> 0:52:47.960
<v Speaker 1>No, it's a good one. I mean I think that

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 1>that's something that you need to bring, obviously into twenty

0:52:50.160 --> 0:52:55.600
<v Speaker 1>twenty one, is not overly giving people the you know,

0:52:55.800 --> 0:52:59.480
<v Speaker 1>opportunity to take advantage, you know, because you feel awkward

0:52:59.600 --> 0:53:02.760
<v Speaker 1>or because you'll be okay, because either way you'll be okay.

0:53:02.800 --> 0:53:04.520
<v Speaker 1>And it's like, well, do you want to be okay

0:53:04.680 --> 0:53:07.799
<v Speaker 1>or do you want to be fucking great? Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not like drained because you did some shit that like was.

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<v Speaker 2>I compromise because I just I wanted to make someone

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<v Speaker 2>else happy because I'll do that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's why I'm going to Mexico for Christmas for

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm meeting her there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, this is like we said earlier, it has to

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<v Speaker 2>be a great time to drink Patreon because the stories

0:53:25.600 --> 0:53:27.520
<v Speaker 2>are going to be lit. We're making a down a

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<v Speaker 2>deposit on a boat. We were meeting up with friends there.

0:53:30.760 --> 0:53:32.799
<v Speaker 2>It's gonna be special guests. It's gonna be late. You're

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<v Speaker 2>not gonna want to miss the close friends. Also, I've

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<v Speaker 2>been putting some shit on there. I'm like, am I

0:53:36.719 --> 0:53:38.560
<v Speaker 2>doing too much? Oh well, it's close friends.

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<v Speaker 1>These don't get us deleted, like fucking all these other motherfuckers.

0:53:41.440 --> 0:53:42.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm so nervous.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we're not sex workers, but this morning I did,

0:53:45.160 --> 0:53:46.800
<v Speaker 2>I did. I was testing it. I did post a

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<v Speaker 2>video of me dancing around not naked. But you know,

0:53:49.280 --> 0:53:50.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you guys know, I have a

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<v Speaker 2>very large vagina. They call me fatty Caddy. So a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of times, like panty's one lip is always like

0:53:57.200 --> 0:53:59.240
<v Speaker 2>hanging out a little bit. It's not my full vagina.

0:53:59.280 --> 0:54:01.160
<v Speaker 2>But you could see that lit poking on the side.

0:54:01.200 --> 0:54:03.080
<v Speaker 2>And I like did a video with Luna dancing and

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<v Speaker 2>a body suit, and like four people were like, I

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<v Speaker 2>could see your vagina. I'm like, listen, it's not her fault.

0:54:07.840 --> 0:54:08.319
<v Speaker 1>She's fat.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not the full cat. Okay, it's just a little slither,

0:54:12.000 --> 0:54:16.160
<v Speaker 2>relaxed slither what we did the BET Mother's Day Special

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<v Speaker 2>TBT Mother's Day Special.

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<v Speaker 1>We have some things happening in twenty twenty one, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>that are really exciting. Just put We're just putting all

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<v Speaker 1>of our powers towards them, because honestly, the only reason

0:54:26.000 --> 0:54:28.799
<v Speaker 1>they're happening is because A we work our asses off,

0:54:28.840 --> 0:54:32.600
<v Speaker 1>but B we've talked about it NonStop, not with you guys,

0:54:32.640 --> 0:54:34.960
<v Speaker 1>but with one another. So I think for twenty twenty one,

0:54:35.320 --> 0:54:38.800
<v Speaker 1>my main goal is a getting to the bag moving.

0:54:38.920 --> 0:54:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I want to move so bad. I've lived in this

0:54:40.680 --> 0:54:44.120
<v Speaker 1>house for over six years, just so many memories here

0:54:44.160 --> 0:54:46.960
<v Speaker 1>with my ex, and I've tried to reimagine it five

0:54:47.040 --> 0:54:50.680
<v Speaker 1>hundred bucking thousand times. I've painted it, I've hung shit,

0:54:51.040 --> 0:54:53.560
<v Speaker 1>I've moved shit, and it's great and everyone comes over

0:54:53.600 --> 0:54:55.480
<v Speaker 1>and they love my crib, but like, I'm over it.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a goal of mine, making all my dreams

0:54:58.000 --> 0:55:01.280
<v Speaker 1>come true. Maybe all our dreams come true that we've

0:55:01.640 --> 0:55:03.960
<v Speaker 1>that we've worked so hard for up until this point,

0:55:04.040 --> 0:55:06.399
<v Speaker 1>and so I don't know. Just giving me strength for

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<v Speaker 1>like six and seven.

0:55:07.920 --> 0:55:11.160
<v Speaker 2>Oh God, give us strength, give us strength for six

0:55:11.200 --> 0:55:14.640
<v Speaker 2>and seven and beyond, and like I just please guide

0:55:14.719 --> 0:55:17.279
<v Speaker 2>us to make to be the best moms we can be,

0:55:17.400 --> 0:55:19.640
<v Speaker 2>and like make the right choices because Lord knows we're

0:55:19.640 --> 0:55:22.319
<v Speaker 2>going to fuck up somewhere. It's no, it's impossible to

0:55:22.320 --> 0:55:25.000
<v Speaker 2>not fuck up, but like just let us fuck up

0:55:25.000 --> 0:55:27.920
<v Speaker 2>in the best possible ways, and like they really know

0:55:28.000 --> 0:55:32.600
<v Speaker 2>themselves and let Lena go to private school with ire

0:55:32.880 --> 0:55:37.480
<v Speaker 2>please bring please, please God, and yeah, that all our

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<v Speaker 2>dreams come true, which I know they are a girl.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like one thing I don't I don't even I

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<v Speaker 2>really don't even question.

0:55:44.560 --> 0:55:46.720
<v Speaker 1>No, I don't question it and manifest I think everything

0:55:46.880 --> 0:55:49.120
<v Speaker 1>till this point. I think it's like, oh my god,

0:55:49.120 --> 0:55:52.560
<v Speaker 1>it's coming, It's coming. And also that's scary. And also

0:55:53.400 --> 0:55:56.239
<v Speaker 1>I know in twenty twenty one, I know this year

0:55:56.440 --> 0:55:59.600
<v Speaker 1>like because we're inside so much, we were like fucking brewing,

0:55:59.640 --> 0:56:03.200
<v Speaker 1>like little fucking witches and worker bees and shit, twenty

0:56:03.200 --> 0:56:06.479
<v Speaker 1>twenty one is like the year of like coming out,

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<v Speaker 1>coming out, And also like I know that even actually

0:56:11.920 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 1>in my relationship, what I realize is I don't have

0:56:13.560 --> 0:56:16.960
<v Speaker 1>good boundaries and work and and just like trying to

0:56:16.960 --> 0:56:20.360
<v Speaker 1>get everything done and so I think that that's something

0:56:20.400 --> 0:56:23.320
<v Speaker 1>that I really need to focus on. And that also

0:56:23.560 --> 0:56:31.600
<v Speaker 1>like just creating more real present time, like being really

0:56:31.680 --> 0:56:36.799
<v Speaker 1>present with Iri because she's she's fucking growing up so

0:56:37.200 --> 0:56:40.440
<v Speaker 1>nast and I'm like, have I been present? Right? Like

0:56:40.440 --> 0:56:42.359
<v Speaker 1>there's things I just don't remember and I'm just gonna

0:56:42.360 --> 0:56:44.239
<v Speaker 1>ask me and I'd be like, I don't know, and

0:56:44.280 --> 0:56:47.040
<v Speaker 1>it's like, how I just want to be way more

0:56:47.040 --> 0:56:49.640
<v Speaker 1>present in twenty twenty one. I feel like that's something

0:56:49.719 --> 0:56:50.760
<v Speaker 1>that I really really.

0:56:50.640 --> 0:56:53.000
<v Speaker 2>Really want to focus on me too, putting my fucking

0:56:53.080 --> 0:56:55.879
<v Speaker 2>phone down and just being like very very present. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I look forward to those that.

0:56:58.960 --> 0:57:02.640
<v Speaker 2>And just doing better being a better version of myself.

0:57:02.680 --> 0:57:05.000
<v Speaker 2>I look forward to knowing that I can be a

0:57:05.000 --> 0:57:06.680
<v Speaker 2>better version of myself and that I'm about to be

0:57:06.719 --> 0:57:09.080
<v Speaker 2>a better version of myself, and that every day is

0:57:09.120 --> 0:57:13.080
<v Speaker 2>a practice in being intentional and being a better mom,

0:57:13.160 --> 0:57:15.879
<v Speaker 2>a better friend, a better person to a better human,

0:57:15.920 --> 0:57:20.040
<v Speaker 2>being a better person than myself. I'm just I'm seeing

0:57:20.200 --> 0:57:23.960
<v Speaker 2>the little progress of the work that I've done, and

0:57:24.000 --> 0:57:27.320
<v Speaker 2>it makes me excited to continue to work on myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Amen. Amen.

0:57:29.520 --> 0:57:30.200
<v Speaker 2>And then also this.

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<v Speaker 1>Year has been so fucking hard.

0:57:31.480 --> 0:57:33.080
<v Speaker 2>We could do anything I mean it's I got pass

0:57:33.160 --> 0:57:35.280
<v Speaker 2>this shit. Whoa Lord Jesus, Yes.

0:57:35.640 --> 0:57:41.439
<v Speaker 1>Yes you can, we can. We will the end.

0:57:41.680 --> 0:57:44.120
<v Speaker 2>Happy about the fucking Mary Holidays.

0:57:44.160 --> 0:57:46.280
<v Speaker 1>We love you, guys. We're so grateful for you guys.

0:57:46.280 --> 0:57:48.760
<v Speaker 1>You guys have fucked with us hard this year. You

0:57:48.800 --> 0:57:51.400
<v Speaker 1>guys have supported us. You guys have cracked us up.

0:57:52.040 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 1>Sent us nudes. Thank you, thank so much for those nudes.

0:57:55.240 --> 0:57:58.520
<v Speaker 1>Love them. More nudes, more nudes please. We apparently can't

0:57:58.680 --> 0:58:01.000
<v Speaker 1>say we want nuds on Instagram. Oh yeah, we can't

0:58:01.000 --> 0:58:03.520
<v Speaker 1>solicit news. Can't delicit nudes. We're gonna getur account deleted,

0:58:03.600 --> 0:58:06.120
<v Speaker 1>so just send them. Just surprise us with a nude. Also,

0:58:06.120 --> 0:58:08.400
<v Speaker 1>we need a lot more horror stories in twenty twenty one.

0:58:08.680 --> 0:58:11.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, like stories of just like hope and happiness.

0:58:12.120 --> 0:58:14.360
<v Speaker 1>Whatever you want to share with us, just share please.

0:58:14.960 --> 0:58:16.440
<v Speaker 1>We want to know about what's going on. I love

0:58:16.480 --> 0:58:19.480
<v Speaker 1>when I get messages from our people. Me too, Girling man,

0:58:19.480 --> 0:58:20.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna tell you what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, ooh, we love you. Hope you enjoy your

0:58:23.680 --> 0:58:28.480
<v Speaker 2>holiday and get drunk on that motherfucking eggnog. Get drunk,

0:58:28.600 --> 0:58:30.520
<v Speaker 2>and if you have a second after you've listened to

0:58:30.600 --> 0:58:33.160
<v Speaker 2>this episode, make sure you go rate and review us

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<v Speaker 2>on Apple Podcasts.

0:58:34.560 --> 0:58:35.480
<v Speaker 1>I would appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>Scroll all the way down, keep scrolling, keep scalling, keep scrolling,

0:58:38.800 --> 0:58:41.120
<v Speaker 2>keeps calling. Then there'll be a button that says leave

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<v Speaker 2>the rate in our review.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they try to hate, but that's there. It's there,

0:58:44.440 --> 0:58:47.040
<v Speaker 1>and we would appreciate it for Christmas. Thank you, especially

0:58:47.040 --> 0:58:50.720
<v Speaker 1>if you're not going to join Patreon. It's the least

0:58:50.760 --> 0:58:51.880
<v Speaker 1>you can leave a review.

0:58:52.120 --> 0:58:54.400
<v Speaker 2>Okay, we get times is hard, but that is free.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks. Anyway, we'll talk to you guys next week. Bye.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey guys, have you joined Patreon, where we offer even

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<v Speaker 2>more juicy content.

0:59:07.760 --> 0:59:12.560
<v Speaker 1>Yes, y'all. We have secret episodes, secret segments, and some

0:59:12.720 --> 0:59:16.360
<v Speaker 1>very personal blog posts that we don't share on the interwebs.

0:59:17.160 --> 0:59:19.360
<v Speaker 1>So make sure you go check out our patreon. That's

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<v Speaker 1>patreon dot com, backslash, Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's a little sneak peek.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you guys ever seen Santa?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 8>Hello, we watched shows sometimes. Now I saw Santa, this

0:59:35.920 --> 0:59:40.840
<v Speaker 8>fake Santas and the shows. But I saw Santa before

0:59:41.120 --> 0:59:45.800
<v Speaker 8>I saw Santa as my peaked. It was nighttime. It

0:59:46.040 --> 0:59:48.840
<v Speaker 8>was a Patriot sound the real Santa.

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<v Speaker 1>You saw the real Santa? Mm hmm, girl, because I looked.

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<v Speaker 3>In the window and this sounds reindeer.

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<v Speaker 1>How does Santa get into houses that don't have chimneys?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 8>I know, they just have He just has powerser can

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<v Speaker 8>open the door. He doesn't have a car, but he

1:00:07.880 --> 1:00:11.520
<v Speaker 8>hasn't a sled, but he just parked anywhere