Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Nila and it's Wednesday, Happy Ho
Speaker 2: Ho ho.
Speaker 1: Hunk Day and it's two days till Christmas. I know
Speaker 1: y'all stressed up. Well, we wanted to start this episode
Speaker 1: off a little different. We have two tiny special guests
Speaker 1: with us, guys, very VIP. Can you introduce yourself?
Speaker 3: Luna Irie?
Speaker 1: And how old are you? Guys?
Speaker 3: I'm six five.
Speaker 1: Five and when's your birthday?
Speaker 3: I'm twenty seven five.
Speaker 1: Do you know your astrology sign is no? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: we failed.
Speaker 2: I know. I realized you didn't notice know it recently
Speaker 2: and I was just like, how are you my daughter?
Speaker 2: You are a Saggitarius and you are a Taurus.
Speaker 1: Do mean eat meat?
Speaker 2: No? A Taurus does not mean you eat me. That
Speaker 2: would be a carnivore. And I don't know.
Speaker 1: Anyway, guys, these are our kids in case you didn't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know how you wouldn't, but this is them.
Speaker 2: Luna is my daughter, Mila.
Speaker 1: And Irie's mine. We figured we start off the year
Speaker 1: with the reason we do everything that we do, which
Speaker 1: is for them. Christmas is all about them. So are you? Guys?
Speaker 1: Excited for Christmas?
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course. Can you get presents?
Speaker 2: The most important thing of life?
Speaker 3: And we already have our presents. Yeah, I can read them,
Speaker 3: all the presents under my name's tree.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: You know not only is it Christmas time? You know
Speaker 2: what Christmas time means. It means that the year is
Speaker 2: coming to an end. And we've had like a really
Speaker 2: long year and right after Christmas is New Year's I
Speaker 2: just want to know how how was your year?
Speaker 1: Ladies? Good? What's your favorite thing that happened this year?
Speaker 2: I'm telling you they don't remember because it's all jumbled
Speaker 2: up because I've been in mostly like should we give
Speaker 2: him a.
Speaker 3: We don't remember because there was Recca really long time ago. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: I remember one present I got from one.
Speaker 1: Time ago, a present. Okay, what was the present?
Speaker 3: And I remember one present then I got a long
Speaker 3: time ago for my birthday.
Speaker 1: Okay. Oh yeah, Well you had your birthday this year.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. So that's something that happened.
Speaker 3: Three days and then Christmas.
Speaker 1: You had your birthday. You had a drive by birthday.
Speaker 3: Right. I love that birthday because I loved sitting down?
Speaker 2: Do you love sitting down?
Speaker 3: Because what's sitting down for and I love watching the
Speaker 3: Carrs and saying the thing and watch Stevie.
Speaker 1: Oh you mean, like on the drive by when they
Speaker 1: drive by and they had to honk their horns and
Speaker 1: they have the like the signs and stuff.
Speaker 3: My really favorite part on her birthday was the blue flight.
Speaker 3: I know what I'm gonna do on I turned seven.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do a pop star birthday. I really said,
Speaker 3: you want to signs?
Speaker 1: Did you guys make any friends over the year? Meet
Speaker 1: anybody new?
Speaker 3: I meet somebody knew Shya.
Speaker 2: That's not you didn't meet her. You know her since
Speaker 2: she was born.
Speaker 3: No, when e was Shia. We were at the bag.
Speaker 3: We saw a girl and we made a new friend.
Speaker 2: Oh nice.
Speaker 3: I went camping.
Speaker 1: Oh, I went camping.
Speaker 3: I saw a bear.
Speaker 1: You saw a bear.
Speaker 3: I think it was Cameron.
Speaker 1: It was Oh you got lude, ladies. I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess you guys can't recall the last three hundred and
Speaker 1: sixty five days, so we're gonna cutry. Are you short?
Speaker 2: It was nice having you all, and thank you guys
Speaker 2: so much for coming on. We'll see you next year
Speaker 2: on Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 3: Nye Ye, thank you for having us by a nailed on.
Speaker 3: I got, I got, I got, I got.
Speaker 1: And if you guys want to hear more from our
Speaker 1: children's and they actually have more to say, they're just
Speaker 1: being I don't know, shy right now.
Speaker 2: Nothing.
Speaker 3: We just don't remember anything. Yeah, hey, I just talking nothing.
Speaker 1: You're just talking nothing, just talking nothing. I guess our
Speaker 1: questions aren't Our questions are whack, but we did ask
Speaker 1: some good questions over a Patreon for the segment Ship
Speaker 1: We Ask our Kids where we ask Luna and Iri
Speaker 1: a few very interesting questions and they have some interesting
Speaker 1: answers about Christmas, Santa, and more. So make sure you
Speaker 1: go check out our patreon. That's patreon dot com backslash,
Speaker 1: Good Moms, Bad Choices. If you guys have been I've
Speaker 1: been joined Patreon all year, you have been missing out
Speaker 1: on so much content. In fact, if you're on Patreon
Speaker 1: right now, you might as well and you've been joined
Speaker 1: the whole year, you might as well just subscribe to
Speaker 1: the year because you're gonna save a lot more money
Speaker 1: subscribing to the whole year.
Speaker 3: You guys can go play yay bye, find.
Speaker 1: A little Okay, I've just spent all my money on
Speaker 1: IRI's Christmas holiday, and I'm a little stressed about that,
Speaker 1: but it'll all be worth it in the end when
Speaker 1: I get a thank you.
Speaker 2: Mom, what about that one thing I asked for? That
Speaker 2: one thing you forgot that you didn't get number, Oh
Speaker 2: this is it?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Thanks?
Speaker 1: And also like Sanna is probably not getting this. I want,
Speaker 1: I need, I need the credit a credit. Okay, Sannah's
Speaker 1: gonna get her like one thing in that room, Okay,
Speaker 1: everything else is Mama, all.
Speaker 2: Right, I'm just relying on grandparents to put Santa on
Speaker 2: something because.
Speaker 1: I mean, and I know that, like I know she's
Speaker 1: going to get like a thousand gifts other places. So
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just felt like I wanted to
Speaker 1: her room has like this been the same since she
Speaker 1: was a baby, and I was like, I need to
Speaker 1: update the room, but not knowing like be what I
Speaker 1: was kind of committing to, and all the like opinions
Speaker 1: from people like are you paying for that? Was the opinions, Oh,
Speaker 1: I think you should replace the blinds. Oh you need
Speaker 1: to do this, like we need to paint this. Who's
Speaker 1: paying for all these things? Right? You just want me
Speaker 1: to do all these things for so you feel good
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: But I did, I did, I did do all the things,
Speaker 2: and today I made to Malli's with my family and do.
Speaker 1: You have any with you? No, I have to go
Speaker 1: back tomorrow and finish making them because we're making four
Speaker 1: hundred thousand, million zillion of them. I'll be selling them
Speaker 1: on Facebook marketplace to pay for my daughter's room. So
Speaker 1: if you see some Tomali's on Facebook marketplace in the valley,
Speaker 1: just that's me. Maybe I'll sell them on the instagrams too.
Speaker 1: I can't. Well, they're very delicious. How about twenty five
Speaker 1: dollars for a dozen?
Speaker 2: How many are you making over there?
Speaker 1: Oh, I've probably made like already, like one hundred and fifty.
Speaker 2: How many people are you guys having for Christmas?
Speaker 1: It's like four?
Speaker 2: Oh, so you're gonna freeze them from when I think.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, of course, this is like Mexican tradition. We
Speaker 1: always over make them, like if you're a Mexican or
Speaker 1: if you or Latin, you know, like the family we
Speaker 1: do the most. We make five hundred to Molly's and
Speaker 1: we freeze one hundred of them. We eat them until
Speaker 1: November next year. But at least now, like I've over
Speaker 1: the years, I've been trying to like get learn how
Speaker 1: to make them exactly how my grandmother makes them, and
Speaker 1: like it's taken three years to figure it out because
Speaker 1: like she'll start without me, like and so like I'll
Speaker 1: miss steps, like even this today, like I did, I
Speaker 1: got there late because Iri wasn't feeling well yesterday. And
Speaker 1: I so you're still three years later, you still haven't
Speaker 1: got all the time. So I got it now. I
Speaker 1: went and like she had done a lot of shit,
Speaker 1: but I literally sat her down. I was like, tell
Speaker 1: me everything, I'm not doing this again next year. I mean,
Speaker 1: I am doing this again next year. But also like
Speaker 1: she's getting old, like I mean, God willing, she'll be
Speaker 1: here for many years to come. But like if anything
Speaker 1: should happen, like she dies with this recipe, she needs
Speaker 1: to write it down. But this is specially she's like
Speaker 1: she knows it. No, She's like I don't. I can't
Speaker 1: write it down. It's just it's just things like I
Speaker 1: just I just know what to do and what to
Speaker 1: put in. And it's like I don't really know measurements
Speaker 1: and things.
Speaker 2: So especially when you're making four hundreds.
Speaker 1: I don't have an exact I don't have exact recipe,
Speaker 1: but I know ingredients and the order of things that happen.
Speaker 2: You need to write it down.
Speaker 1: I did write it down.
Speaker 2: You're a recipe, You're like an exact ingredient recipe. Cook.
Speaker 1: I know, I wrote it all down the cook. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So last year I have figured out like the masa,
Speaker 1: which is it's just there, Like it's just there and ready.
Speaker 1: But like I think I figured oh the chili. This
Speaker 1: year I figured out like how to she prepares the pork. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I've got it down. I've got it down, and now
Speaker 1: I can peacefully and know that I can pass this
Speaker 1: tradition down to many people and ancestors or future people
Speaker 1: to come. They better give a fuck because it took
Speaker 1: a long time. What I re better fucking make these tomorrow.
Speaker 1: It's all I have to say, Like when I'm dead
Speaker 1: and gone, she's got to keep the tradition alive.
Speaker 2: Well, my family will make greens and black eyed peas surely.
Speaker 1: Well.
Speaker 2: Erica is over here stressing heavily. I am catching a
Speaker 2: flight to Mexico tomorrow to skip it all. It's like
Speaker 2: a fucking scrooge of moms. Yeah, I'm going out to town.
Speaker 2: I'm doing some work some cool model work in the
Speaker 2: Cabo San Lucas Mountains. I don't really I've never been
Speaker 2: a huge fan of Christmas. I think it's the man's holiday.
Speaker 2: I think it's for money, and like Erica, I know
Speaker 2: my kid cares. So today, to make sure I have
Speaker 2: any guilt, I went and bought her a two hundred
Speaker 2: dollars pink desk on Facebook Marketplace, and I also got
Speaker 2: her some pink cowgirl boots. I mean, honestly, what could
Speaker 2: you ask more? She has like so much family, though
Speaker 2: her dad's family goes crazy. They open gifts at seven am,
Speaker 2: like she's gonna get more than enough shit. So I'm
Speaker 2: not really worried about her, like the experience, I do
Speaker 2: feel kind of bad that I won't be there, and
Speaker 2: I just hope she's not scarred for life like that
Speaker 2: one time at six year old Christmas. My mom isn't,
Speaker 2: but I don't remember six year old Christmas, so I'm
Speaker 2: hoping everything's fine. I'm at I'm excited to just go
Speaker 2: put my fucking phone down because I'm addicted like a
Speaker 2: fucking crackhead.
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: I'm really scared for me. I'm like, I saw social
Speaker 2: dilemma and I'm still acting like a crackhead. So yeah,
Speaker 2: I didn't get anyone anything either, including you. Great, I'm
Speaker 2: never get anyone anything, and then I feel bad that people.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, why every year you keep getting me
Speaker 2: stuff and you know I'm not getting you stuff like
Speaker 2: the extended family like her dad's I'm like, I love
Speaker 2: you guys, I do you know I forget about this
Speaker 2: shit when I get Rachel send you guys some shit,
Speaker 2: like right now, why even on this parture on me?
Speaker 2: I just honestly, every year for the last five years,
Speaker 2: I haven't really gotten shit I used to get, like
Speaker 2: I used to paint them things.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's my Like my mom is like I
Speaker 1: don't know. She claims that she doesn't care about Christmas,
Speaker 1: but literally she goes all out every year. Her whole
Speaker 1: house is like fucking It's like it's like slooming down. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like crazy. I haven't even got my mom a gift.
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm gonna get her, Like she
Speaker 1: has everything. I'm like, I just get her a candle,
Speaker 1: a frame, a beautiful photo. I feel like I'm always
Speaker 1: framing photos she picked up.
Speaker 2: If I really want something, I'm really like, eh, yeah,
Speaker 2: next year, I want to be richer. I'm gonna do better.
Speaker 2: I'm by everybody something, including you, top of the list.
Speaker 1: I don't need anything good, Yeah, I just want people
Speaker 1: to give me money. So if you would like to
Speaker 1: give any any if you would like to give me
Speaker 1: a gift or us a gift, just send us money.
Speaker 1: Join Patreon. That's how you give us a gift.
Speaker 2: Please join Patreon, Like, that's how you.
Speaker 1: Give us a gift. Like, that's how we pay for
Speaker 1: all the shit that we do. Like literally, we don't
Speaker 1: really make much money over here. We're just trying. We'll
Speaker 1: just create more content and create more things for you guys,
Speaker 1: so that at some point it pays off. But Patreon
Speaker 1: really helps us facilitate this podcast.
Speaker 2: Expenses that the podcast incourage.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's not for free. Okay. I don't have
Speaker 1: time to be editing fucking episodes all night long anymore.
Speaker 1: I used to do that shit. But thank God for May.
Speaker 1: Shout out to.
Speaker 2: May, fucking Merry Christmas to us as May.
Speaker 1: Yeah our Pacherini. Yeah, so if you want to pay,
Speaker 1: pay pay us so we can pay them help. That's okay,
Speaker 1: that's it. I'm done begging oh, no, one wants to.
Speaker 2: Hear a vicious beg during Christmas, you know how, Like
Speaker 2: just like everyone you just spend all your money on
Speaker 2: your child, so everybody else, I know, but still you
Speaker 2: could pay us ten dollars. So this is also it's Christmas,
Speaker 2: but it's the end of the year, wrappery. It's been
Speaker 2: quite to the year, motherfuckers. Oh my, has it? Has it?
Speaker 1: I went back and listened to our guided meditation last
Speaker 1: year and and it was like so hopeful. It was.
Speaker 1: It was a great meditation about visualization and looking into
Speaker 1: twenty twenty and all the things that we were gonna
Speaker 1: get done. But honestly, it just ended up cultivating in
Speaker 1: a different way. This year has been like really great
Speaker 1: for us. Obviously people have suffered also, have had to
Speaker 1: shift and figure out what's important, what's not, what's extra honestly,
Speaker 1: go go deep and go inside. Literally literally, we were
Speaker 1: just like sitting here. I was just sitting here thinking
Speaker 1: about this year. I don't know if we're talking about
Speaker 1: the episodes.
Speaker 2: I just was thinking about this year's ride period and
Speaker 2: I'm like, fuck, this year feels like five years and
Speaker 2: it's like it's COVID.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's definite COVID. We're not doing shit.
Speaker 2: But also it's just like so much has happened. I
Speaker 2: feel like I've had like so many lessons in this
Speaker 2: last year. It's been very, very, very fucking intense, and
Speaker 2: I'm grateful for it, and I'm just also grateful to
Speaker 2: be getting over it and it's ending and like entering
Speaker 2: this new We just had a we just had a
Speaker 2: uh winter Solstice. There's a huge shift and energy. I
Speaker 2: feel it. Erica and I and Leaf shout out to Leaf,
Speaker 2: I photographer and gig. We took mushrooms and had an
Speaker 2: amazing time and I really got I think I activated
Speaker 2: my full witch mode slash.
Speaker 1: Night Fairy mode.
Speaker 2: I am now my full witch night Fairy. After the
Speaker 2: Winter Solstice was you guys.
Speaker 1: Well, we didn't know. First of all, I had I
Speaker 1: guess I hadn't been on social so because I didn't
Speaker 1: realize that we were unlocking our magical black powers that that.
Speaker 2: That year moment, that evening and on Twitter, so we
Speaker 2: didn't get them. And then it was also winter Solstice.
Speaker 2: It was like all these things that were happening. And
Speaker 2: then I'm like, what time is it? And He's like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, it's eleven fifty nine. How did you
Speaker 2: know to ask me that right now? I'm like, because
Speaker 2: I am a night fairy. He was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: we did our we get our we get our powers tonight.
Speaker 2: We're like, are you joking? What are you is the
Speaker 2: mushroom stocking? He's like, no, for real, black people are
Speaker 2: getting their powers tonight.
Speaker 1: I'm like, tonight, right now, in.
Speaker 2: The magical backyard, on the magical mushrooms, you are giving
Speaker 2: us our magical powers. It was amazing. I believed every
Speaker 2: part of it. I felt it. And side note, if
Speaker 2: you've never done mushrooms during the holidays next to a
Speaker 2: Christmas tree.
Speaker 1: You haven't lived at all. You haven't done shit.
Speaker 2: You haven't done shit, because during mushrooms during the holidays
Speaker 2: next to a Christmas tree, specifically one that like blinks,
Speaker 2: not even multiple it's literally like I felt like we
Speaker 2: were in multiple places.
Speaker 1: At one point, I felt like we were like on
Speaker 1: an island. It was like a tropical island Christmas tree. Well,
Speaker 1: it depends on music's playing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Then I was like, we're in Malibu, which is essentially
Speaker 1: kind of an island, but if you're from La you
Speaker 1: know it's a little different. So then I was like,
Speaker 1: we're it to Malibu Beach Party Christmas Tree. And then
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, now it's a Christmas story from
Speaker 1: the movie a Christmas Story Christmas Tree.
Speaker 2: We were in a cottage with snow, went in the
Speaker 2: cottage with snow. At the second half of our trip,
Speaker 2: we went outside.
Speaker 1: Finally, finally, we finally we laughed ourselves.
Speaker 2: To tears off of Tender. At one point, we both
Speaker 2: facetimed some niggas at the same time and we made them.
Speaker 1: Talk via the face time, and.
Speaker 2: We got the biggest kick out of that ship. We're like, look,
Speaker 2: they're face time facetiming. It was so great.
Speaker 1: They were like, who.
Speaker 2: Hi, Hi, what's going on my face face time? We're like, oh, yes,
Speaker 2: we're geniuses.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And then we went on Tender.
Speaker 2: We started reading the Tender profiles, which I don't even
Speaker 2: know if this is going to translate. It's funny because
Speaker 2: we were on mushrooms, but it was fucking hilarious. There
Speaker 2: was one who was like, looking for a coal that's
Speaker 2: super cute, super super sweet, super fun and super super sarcastic,
Speaker 2: super sexy and super sarcastic, super sweet, super fun, super
Speaker 2: sexy and super sarcastic. They were like, oh, that's quite
Speaker 2: the combination.
Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, he's super looking for some ship
Speaker 1: that he's probably not gonna find less.
Speaker 2: You're super cute, super smart, super fun and super sexy
Speaker 2: and super sarkist.
Speaker 1: Sarcast I say it five times fast. You're not making
Speaker 1: the cut. You can't make the cut. It's super sarcastic.
Speaker 2: And then also we saw another profile of a very
Speaker 2: interesting looking woman and her profile I mean literally it
Speaker 2: really makes me feel like I need to step my
Speaker 2: profile up. But it was something like domb sub clear
Speaker 2: straight looking for fun, like I'll touch your butt, but
Speaker 2: don't touch mine.
Speaker 1: I'll touch you touch my butt, No, I'll touch yours first.
Speaker 1: Or slat ever, well, slat ever, which is my new
Speaker 1: favorite word, whatever.
Speaker 2: Period, Like everybody text me other day. She's like, I'll
Speaker 2: be there around four seat ever if you don't shut that,
Speaker 2: I'm never letting slut ever go because that girl changed
Speaker 2: my life with that word.
Speaker 1: And then she wrote at the bottom Fedora cargoes. No,
Speaker 1: I forget she hit.
Speaker 2: It on the note. She was she was amazing, she
Speaker 2: was on point because you know, you know the cargo guy.
Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't know no parts OF's cargos.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 2: In fact, actually I think I got a FaceTime recently
Speaker 2: from random, who is like a hard for doora cargo
Speaker 2: type of guy.
Speaker 1: But you also, I don't like too as caangles. Remember
Speaker 1: the caangle hats?
Speaker 2: Oh god, no, I don't want it. It's like the
Speaker 2: ones like the yes. No, that's the same as a Fedora.
Speaker 1: That fedora with the feather and ship I don't want.
Speaker 1: I'm actually mad at the fedora in the right at
Speaker 1: the right place, right time, right, But the cagle never
Speaker 1: fucking works. So if you're listening right now, you're a
Speaker 1: nigga that you know. Thanks, you're doing some ship.
Speaker 2: When you put that shit on, let the cagle go.
Speaker 1: Don't wear that shit please.
Speaker 2: I danced around the Christmas tree. Erica was silent for
Speaker 2: about ninety minutes.
Speaker 1: I was shivering.
Speaker 2: She was so cold and I could feel nothing. She
Speaker 2: was freezing, and I was like, I feel great. Everything's
Speaker 2: ninety eight degrees. And then we unlocked the second second
Speaker 2: half of our trip and went outside, partially because it
Speaker 2: was did you realize it was so dark because it
Speaker 2: was winter solstice and we didn't know we didn't realize
Speaker 2: it was wunch solices. We're just that witchy that we
Speaker 2: plan to do fucking mushrooms around midnight on the winter
Speaker 2: Solstice because we're fucking witches. I'm specifically night fairy. That's
Speaker 2: another thing we discovered. Erica was so angry at area
Speaker 2: around of Grande was I. She was like, yeah, I
Speaker 2: think I said that.
Speaker 1: I recently heard a song where she was talking about
Speaker 1: having sex, and I was like disgusted. I was on
Speaker 1: my bike and I was riding and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't remember what she was talking about, like doing
Speaker 1: doggy style or some shit. I was like, girl, stop,
Speaker 1: I was trying to have a little fairy like she
Speaker 1: just like hops around and just like sprinkles dust everywhere
Speaker 1: or some shit.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, I'm a fairy. She's not a fairy.
Speaker 2: She just doesn't have any She's not a fairy. In fact,
Speaker 2: she has no sex appeal. And there are sexy fairies.
Speaker 2: I said, you know what, she maybe is a fairy.
Speaker 2: She's day fairy, more like a brunch fairy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we call it brunch fery.
Speaker 2: I me, I am a night fairy. There's a distinct difference.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not invited to the night fairy gathering. Poor Ariana.
Speaker 1: I was just saying that.
Speaker 2: She put like sex appeal on fairness in like the
Speaker 2: same category, because I am a fairy and I am
Speaker 2: and I just didn't appreciate that. That night, I was
Speaker 2: very disrespectful to all night fairies everywhere. Before any before
Speaker 2: we took any of the mushrooms, we ordered fifty dollars
Speaker 2: worth of Chinese food and then specifically said if we
Speaker 2: do this now, we're not gonna eat that food. Did
Speaker 2: it anyway? Literally looked over the food every hour, like
Speaker 2: hungry yet Nope, no.
Speaker 1: No, not at all.
Speaker 2: I even open it for like five hours.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we literally made food. We made little snacks to avoid.
Speaker 1: The Chinese leaf shout.
Speaker 2: Out to leave told us that tangerines and citrus up
Speaker 2: our mushroom eyed, So we probably ate about twenty seven
Speaker 2: tangerines throughout the evening. I had mushrooms and yogurt mushrooms
Speaker 2: and apple sauce tea tea we made of tea, and
Speaker 2: we had chocolate but I.
Speaker 1: Got from my daughter's school mom, which is so on
Speaker 1: our first mom date. That's a pictures. I was like, wow, hi, hello,
Speaker 1: you're part of the tribe.
Speaker 2: Oh so finally we got outside where it was beautifully
Speaker 2: like a little forest out there, and we lit the fire.
Speaker 2: We took blankets. It felt like we were in an
Speaker 2: assimilated backyard, beautiful breathing garden. Of course, I jumped on
Speaker 2: the trampoline.
Speaker 1: We made stale s'mores.
Speaker 2: Eric I've suddenly got so much energy that she came
Speaker 2: outside with fifty five snacks ritz crackers, cheddar cheese, and
Speaker 2: half grapes. She insisted that everyone ate them together and
Speaker 2: one one bite, and we all listened.
Speaker 1: I have video evidence of this guy's Actually I'm a
Speaker 1: post on Patreon because this snack is. Jamila was looking
Speaker 1: at me crazy like she does often when I tell
Speaker 1: her some shit, and then she literally devoured it off
Speaker 1: my hand, Like I literally was like, just had it
Speaker 1: in my hand, and she was like, well I was,
Speaker 1: And then you were like, oh wow, that is good.
Speaker 1: And I convinced everyone that this concoction of mine is
Speaker 1: the shit. I actually made it up when I was
Speaker 1: high one day, but it's essentially a cheese like cheese plame.
Speaker 2: This is This is probably part around the park where
Speaker 2: we started to come down because we were getting a
Speaker 2: little hungry, starved, starved. Sorry we also did you remember
Speaker 2: we ate Chinese food around the fire?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you hated it at you were.
Speaker 2: Really the hostess and the musses. We took a shot,
Speaker 2: I put I poured intention into the shot. I was
Speaker 2: doing some spells over the tequila, and then we drank it.
Speaker 2: Of course, I took my shirt off because I couldn't
Speaker 2: feel anything until I could, in which case I was cold.
Speaker 2: I had an accent. We went. We were in medieval
Speaker 2: times at.
Speaker 1: One point, and then at some point I left everyone
Speaker 1: and I went and at first I laid down in here,
Speaker 1: and then I was like, no, I'm going to bed,
Speaker 1: and I'm not telling anyone. I got it.
Speaker 2: I got I got the message. Someone else disappeared, just disappeared,
Speaker 2: and then it was just me and Leaf. And then
Speaker 2: eventually we just were like, all right, that was a
Speaker 2: fun time. I had a great time.
Speaker 1: That food was great. All right, catulated it.
Speaker 2: Was like the best eight hour. We kept calling it
Speaker 2: the holiday party.
Speaker 1: We were like, oh, it's the holiday party.
Speaker 2: It's right, so many people hits it.
Speaker 1: It was our holiday GMBC holiday party.
Speaker 2: Yeah it was.
Speaker 1: It was wine, mushrooms and weed.
Speaker 2: It's all we need in a backyardn't be saying We're like.
Speaker 2: One fourth of the party took their shirts off like
Speaker 2: it was crazy. It was a dead Christmas tree with
Speaker 2: crazy lights. One fourth of the party got naked and
Speaker 2: she started jumping on the trampoline. The other fourth of
Speaker 2: the party father gave us drinking wine, seeing all types
Speaker 2: of weird shit.
Speaker 1: But I think what we wanted to do too today,
Speaker 1: because it's the end of the year, is, you know,
Speaker 1: do a little recap on our year, on good Mom's
Speaker 1: bad choices. We've had some pretty interesting guests this year,
Speaker 1: interesting moments, and you guys have been here through it all.
Speaker 1: Some of you guys may have joined the tribe, you know,
Speaker 1: mid year. Maybe you guys just started listening to us
Speaker 1: last week, or maybe you've been with us for almost
Speaker 1: three fucking years. Oh my god, it'll be three years
Speaker 1: in March. We figured we should just do a little recap,
Speaker 1: maybe play a few clips from some of our most
Speaker 1: popular and I don't know, fun episodes, not necessarily fun.
Speaker 1: Some of them are not fun, some of them are set.
Speaker 2: We were just going through there and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm just looking at myself crying.
Speaker 1: I'm like Jesus Christ, this is getting intense.
Speaker 2: Huh.
Speaker 1: Started with the meditation, I think, then we went into
Speaker 1: we had Jodie Patterson on. She's an author social activist
Speaker 1: for the LGBTQ plus community in black community, and we
Speaker 1: had her on where she talked about.
Speaker 2: Her son being trans and her realizing around the age
Speaker 2: of two, which is like a super interesting experience and
Speaker 2: like to hear her perspective.
Speaker 1: That was a good one, m h O.
Speaker 2: Because we were in New York right where I acted
Speaker 2: a fucking full.
Speaker 1: I think we were all we were both acting a
Speaker 1: fucking fool in New York.
Speaker 2: That's that's how the Good Lord came down with the
Speaker 2: COVID because he was like, these bitches are acting a
Speaker 2: fucking fool. Now, donut now, bitches.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we went to New York to do some shit,
Speaker 1: and then we also did some mother shit.
Speaker 2: Who did she need to be done? I literally like,
Speaker 2: I'm a whole different person since then. I'm like, who
Speaker 2: was that? Wasn't me? Wasn't me acting like a goddamn pool.
Speaker 2: We hung out with horrible decisions. I have some pictures
Speaker 2: of that too. Maybe we'll have like a little reek
Speaker 2: half on the Patreons I have some very secret pictures
Speaker 2: from that secret location with the swing and the three
Speaker 2: way kiss. I convinced two male roommates to three way
Speaker 2: kiss me, and I'm proud of it.
Speaker 1: I was there, I witnessed it.
Speaker 2: It is true, which means I should be a negotiator.
Speaker 1: Because I did not see it happening, and then it happened,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh shit. Over the same day,
Speaker 1: she got two people a three way kiss on the
Speaker 1: same day. Oh, a couple that basically went no, they
Speaker 1: weren't a couple, they were No, they were coworkers. I
Speaker 1: believe one is maybe Mary.
Speaker 2: They were both married.
Speaker 1: They were both married, but they were both clearly having
Speaker 1: an affair, and Jamila made them make out in front
Speaker 1: of us.
Speaker 2: With me and then they disappeared into the bathroom, which
Speaker 2: confirms our suspicions that they were already sleeping together. And
Speaker 2: also I this should be a profession professional three way kisser, convincer, convincer,
Speaker 2: night fairy three way kisser convincer.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I like that. Yeah, I got to the LinkedIn.
Speaker 2: Okay, so let's start off. Let's let's play a clip
Speaker 2: from one of my favorite favorite podcasts. I'll be actually
Speaker 2: link up with this year. Talk with my mom.
Speaker 1: I love them. What haven't you tried that you'd like
Speaker 1: to sexually?
Speaker 4: Drugs? Oh my god, what drugs? I pretty much tried
Speaker 4: it all.
Speaker 1: My favorite drug ever you.
Speaker 4: Spoke all the time. I'm just saying the bigger one
Speaker 4: that has to chill. I mean literally, It's true.
Speaker 2: The favorite one was like which I'd never do again
Speaker 2: because it was only a one time and done thing.
Speaker 2: Was one of freebase base.
Speaker 1: Okay, when I was like years old, I.
Speaker 4: Had a choice, very choice, but it was also the thick.
Speaker 1: Of the time you're fully recovered.
Speaker 2: We could never forget the time that Karen Lee Porter
Speaker 2: told our entire audience that her favorite drug of choice
Speaker 2: would be crack cocaine.
Speaker 1: Uh find out this is the mom who is Karen
Speaker 1: is a cougar. She's probably I think she's in her
Speaker 1: sixties and crack cocaine basing as her drug.
Speaker 2: She ended it one day, though she did it twice
Speaker 2: in one day, but only one day, which you know,
Speaker 2: I love.
Speaker 1: I love a cougar that could keep it real. She
Speaker 1: knew that it was gonna be She knew it was
Speaker 1: gonna be her favorite drug and that she would live
Speaker 1: a long, long, sad, tragic life if she continued. So
Speaker 1: she binged on it.
Speaker 2: For a whole night and morning and then gave it
Speaker 2: to her her husband's roommate.
Speaker 1: Wow, that was amazing. Yeah that episode, man, that episode
Speaker 1: was hilarious. What was that one called What's your Favorite Drug?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your Favorite Drug? So if you haven't listened
Speaker 1: to that one, I highly suggest that's just like the
Speaker 1: tip of the iceberg of that episode because they're wild.
Speaker 2: And just check out us sex Talk with My Mom
Speaker 2: because they're amazing. Yeah, what what happened after.
Speaker 1: That Passport Cutty? So you know, I don't know if
Speaker 1: you guys got to listen to Passport cuttings episode. It's
Speaker 1: a two part episode, so you definitely need to listen
Speaker 1: to it because she drops some fucking serious knowledge on that.
Speaker 1: I still am not currently fully applying, which I need
Speaker 1: to after listening to that. On how to get what
Speaker 1: you want out of a man, you.
Speaker 4: Just got to choose what you want them to spend on. Now,
Speaker 4: it doesn't mean that he's gonna be on bed with that,
Speaker 4: because some guys are cool.
Speaker 5: With giving a bag because it's just an item, and
Speaker 5: some guys don't want to spend fifty two hundred dollars
Speaker 5: sending you to school because for the semester, because you know, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: like all that. Like, there's some guys who It's true,
Speaker 5: there's some guys who give cash is, some guys who
Speaker 5: give items. There some guys who will pay for the experience,
Speaker 5: and some guys who will do something to elevate.
Speaker 4: You, you know, help you in your journey, push you forward, whatever.
Speaker 4: But you just have to identify who that is.
Speaker 5: Like, and I tell people all the time, I'm like,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna take whatever he's willing to give.
Speaker 4: That's just that's what that guy his category is.
Speaker 2: Like he's yeah, it's a guy's yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: But also as far as you not wanting to look
Speaker 5: a certain way to him.
Speaker 4: And you saying like, oh, you know, I.
Speaker 5: Don't want you to think or I don't want you
Speaker 5: to be talking shit later on whatever. The same way
Speaker 5: we set up out the tone, how we're trying to
Speaker 5: set up the tone, that's all they're doing back, They're
Speaker 5: that's conditioning you to do those things prior to meeting him.
Speaker 5: He's like, exactly how we're like, you know what I'm
Speaker 5: gonna tell him, I don't like cheap guys. I don't
Speaker 5: like guys who make me split. I don't like guys
Speaker 5: who do this. And we're doing that to condition them
Speaker 5: and let them know, like prior to meeting them, they're
Speaker 5: doing the same.
Speaker 2: And the exactly the problem is I'm too busy thinking
Speaker 2: what if he thinks this?
Speaker 4: Does that give zero fox?
Speaker 5: And and he does not care, because the thing is
Speaker 5: if we're not equally yoked in that way, then we're
Speaker 5: just not meant to fuck.
Speaker 1: With each other. That specific question was how do you
Speaker 1: know you're what's having sex too soon.
Speaker 2: When you haven't gotten anything?
Speaker 1: You haven't gotten anything.
Speaker 2: And I don't think dinner a count. And Erica's question
Speaker 2: was this dinner count, I don't think it does. That
Speaker 2: was a good one. That was the emin for man
Speaker 2: is for money.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the M and man is for money. Have you
Speaker 1: applied that to your life?
Speaker 2: You know? Imazy? You know I like I just like
Speaker 2: I let people get over all the time. Yeah, someone
Speaker 2: I have I get stuff, for sure, you gotta give
Speaker 2: me something. I'm definitely having higher standards for sure. I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's because of like financially well, all.
Speaker 1: I have to say is that Mila's dom life is
Speaker 1: popping and she's been getting a lot of shit she's
Speaker 1: been getting. She got about two hundred and fifty dollars
Speaker 1: on Live the other night, which I'm still pissed that
Speaker 1: none of my doms sends me shit except whatever subs.
Speaker 2: I basically maybe I'm a sub because I'm getting anything.
Speaker 1: Okay, So this next clip is an episode called Heartbreak Hotel,
Speaker 1: where we solicited you guys to write in your most
Speaker 1: epic break up stories, and y'all has some crazy she
Speaker 1: hear that was a good one not to see. Come here, there,
Speaker 1: come here, and let's share our breakup stories. This boyfriend
Speaker 1: that I dated, who was absolutely crazy, took.
Speaker 2: A class about took the ship and smeared it all
Speaker 2: over her closet and in her shoes.
Speaker 4: We only met once.
Speaker 1: I will fucking fight you, bitch.
Speaker 2: Then he kept dismantling my ancestor alter, talking about I'm
Speaker 2: praying to dead people without having any education.
Speaker 1: You're just like, dude, you're just having sex. And he
Speaker 1: was like, marry me, marry me, and I was like yes,
Speaker 1: and he pulled out the ring like he had a ring,
Speaker 1: you guys, he had. I still have the ring.
Speaker 4: Oh, my god, I'm gonna post on Patreon. I'm gonna
Speaker 4: show you the ring.
Speaker 1: Guys, it is like, you need to show this picture.
Speaker 1: I think even you your former bay Adventure Bay, you
Speaker 1: shared a breakup story that he had on there that
Speaker 1: was you know.
Speaker 2: What, I shared it at the time. I don't think
Speaker 2: I admitted that it was my my the guy I
Speaker 2: was dating, so adventurebe even though we were going to
Speaker 2: take his name out of the files just for right now,
Speaker 2: and so yeah, I forgot locked the files. But he
Speaker 2: had actually told me that he took someone someone cheated
Speaker 2: on him, and wow, I god lucky, and he took
Speaker 2: dog shit and smeared it all over their their closet
Speaker 2: and their shoes. And I literally called Erica from the
Speaker 2: bathroom of the of the airport to the other location,
Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm scared. I don't I think
Speaker 2: he's crazy. And he told me some crazy shit. It's
Speaker 2: not it's not not She's like, it's fine. It was
Speaker 2: a long time ago. I said, Erica, this is not normal.
Speaker 2: That is not normal behavior. I must have I must
Speaker 2: have knew I was going to fuck it up, and
Speaker 2: I was scared. But yeah, that's part of the reason
Speaker 2: that's over because I knew then that he was crazy. Wait,
Speaker 2: and then he later told me after I cheated on
Speaker 2: him that he did consider doing that to me, but
Speaker 2: he was going to take it up a notch and
Speaker 2: add shrimp and fish and leave it in my things.
Speaker 2: But no, don't worry, I went.
Speaker 1: Didn't wait, didn't say going to leave you above like.
Speaker 2: He also said that. Yeah, he also said that. I said, well,
Speaker 2: what did what are the many what He's like, I
Speaker 2: thought about revenge?
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, what did you think about?
Speaker 2: And he said he thought about driving me to Pump
Speaker 2: Springs and there's like a mountain that you can go up.
Speaker 1: There's like a lift.
Speaker 2: He said he was gonna hike up the mountain and
Speaker 2: then leave me there and maybe take my phone. I
Speaker 2: couldn't forget that part, and I said, you're so lucky
Speaker 2: you didn't do that, because then I would have to
Speaker 2: murder you.
Speaker 1: Sounds like a serial killer.
Speaker 2: It sounds like I dodged a cereal bullet. And I
Speaker 2: was still trying. Even after you told me that.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, he's just a little crazy. He
Speaker 1: won't kill me.
Speaker 2: He said, well, oh boy, what a year it's been.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, we had boyfriends and now we don't.
Speaker 2: We were deep into the boyfriend. We were like boyfriend out.
Speaker 2: I was just like boyfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend. I was just
Speaker 2: reflecting on that time and I was like, wow, that
Speaker 2: was fun. It was fun, well lasted, and you know,
Speaker 2: I'd look back and venture bait. My former boyfriend was
Speaker 2: a camper, so that meant I was gonna be a
Speaker 2: camper too. He convinced me to buy an eighty dollars
Speaker 2: sleeping bag, which I need to go retrieve. And then
Speaker 2: I remember looking. I made Erica come with this to
Speaker 2: Mars aka Trendon Pinnacles and they were like away from
Speaker 2: us on like a far distant I don't know, lump,
Speaker 2: but whatever. Those fucking things are astrological rock. And I
Speaker 2: was like, Erica, look at them, what if it doesn't
Speaker 2: work out?
Speaker 1: And she goes, so what if it doesn't? And I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, is that what I said? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I was like, look at them over there, taking all
Speaker 2: these pictures and shit, and she was like, yeah, it's okay, Ony, fine,
Speaker 2: oo cares if it doesn't work out.
Speaker 1: And I was like, and here we are. We survived. We survived.
Speaker 1: I mean, I just feel like I don't know, Like,
Speaker 1: of course I didn't go into my relationship hoping it
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna work out, kind of the first relationship I
Speaker 1: ever had that I really had no expectations. And I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's a good thing. I mean, it
Speaker 1: is a good thing, but I mean I also speak
Speaker 1: maybe speaks volumes to like woo where I where my
Speaker 1: mind was in that relationship too. My my, my relationship
Speaker 1: with my child's father hurt me so deeply and still
Speaker 1: continues to that. I don't think anything could hurt me
Speaker 1: that much. It's true, it's true. So it's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, I probably cry, but like not
Speaker 1: as much as I cried before. It's not and it's
Speaker 1: not as light to the to my my ex it's
Speaker 1: not as it's really I'm not trying to be a
Speaker 1: bitch and be a slight to that. It's just like
Speaker 1: unfortunately the person before him hurt me so bad that
Speaker 1: and that it just doesn't it won't. It can't compare.
Speaker 1: It just can't compare, and it shouldn't have to. It shouldn't.
Speaker 1: But I think I'm just in the point now where
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like maybe if I maybe if I
Speaker 1: get into another relationship or find someone else, maybe my
Speaker 1: perspective will change because maybe that person wasn't my person,
Speaker 1: and so I didn't feel these intense feelings of loss
Speaker 1: or like you complete me.
Speaker 2: I think it's very healthy to practice detachment. And it's
Speaker 2: not to say that you don't. You don't you're something
Speaker 2: wrong with you and you're a sociopath.
Speaker 1: Cycles happen.
Speaker 2: That is life. Things are born and then they die.
Speaker 2: You have it, you don't that winter comes, the winter goals.
Speaker 2: Accepting that is really where you become peaceful, because you know,
Speaker 2: like everything is what it is in its present moment,
Speaker 2: and that's the beauty in it, not that you can
Speaker 2: hold onto it forever.
Speaker 1: I had to get into that relationship in order to
Speaker 1: put into practice all the all of the work that
Speaker 1: I've done. Like I can talk sit and talk all
Speaker 1: day about all the work that I do, but unless
Speaker 1: I apply it in a relationship, then I don't even
Speaker 1: know if it's working.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's true, and so like let's talk this.
Speaker 1: So like I went into this relationship, I applied the
Speaker 1: things that I've been working on. I fucked up some
Speaker 1: a little bit, but for the most part, like, I'm
Speaker 1: really proud of myself on how I navigated that relationship
Speaker 1: and also realized, Okay, yeah, there's some things I didn't
Speaker 1: even know that I do that I got to work on, like,
Speaker 1: for example, fleeing when I when a man gets emotional,
Speaker 1: Like when a man gets too emotional, I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, em no, don't do that, please, And like, I know.
Speaker 1: That I previously wasn't like that. I was let but
Speaker 1: I think because of my relationship with my daughter's father,
Speaker 1: always had to be like be there for him emotionally
Speaker 1: and make sure he was okay because there was always
Speaker 1: something going on. The idea of having to do that
Speaker 1: for a man is like, I can't do it, and
Speaker 1: that's not fair to earn a relationship. So I realized that, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's something I really got to work on because I
Speaker 1: want an emotional man, Like I asked for that and
Speaker 1: I got that. And maybe actually this can segue us
Speaker 1: into this clip where we talk about manifesting our men,
Speaker 1: which I truly believe, but we did, and I think
Speaker 1: this year is a testament to the fact that manifestation
Speaker 1: truly does work. And I've seen it over and over again.
Speaker 1: It's not coincidental. It's very intentional when you write things
Speaker 1: down and you speak to it constantly. I mean, fortunately
Speaker 1: me and Jamila, like we have a podcast, so we
Speaker 1: talk about shit all day long. That ends up cultivating
Speaker 1: itself in some way.
Speaker 2: And what we also realize is we manifested our men
Speaker 2: and we need to be even more specific than before
Speaker 2: because that list was spot the fuck on. But there
Speaker 2: were some very important things that were forgotten.
Speaker 1: There were there were things I didn't even think I
Speaker 1: had to be specific on. But I gotta be specific
Speaker 1: on ah, to be specific, Like it's one thing to
Speaker 1: say I want an emotional man, but like one through
Speaker 1: ten on a scale, and also and also emotional about
Speaker 1: what right and like health healthy emotional, like.
Speaker 2: Rational emotional, real emotional is a manipulative emotional.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So again I'm going to I got to
Speaker 1: go back to the drawing board. I'm not ready to
Speaker 1: go back to the drawing board. I'm really not and
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in really dating anyone right now. But
Speaker 1: at some point in the near future, maybe I don't know,
Speaker 1: months or so five months, who knows, I will write
Speaker 1: this list down again and I'll compare notes of my
Speaker 1: last one and put like I'm gonna like literally put
Speaker 1: branches off of things.
Speaker 2: That's what I did.
Speaker 1: Well, let me know when you write yours, so we
Speaker 1: can be on the same cycle again, so we can
Speaker 1: get niggas at the same time.
Speaker 2: Because at the same time, because you know, I get
Speaker 2: jealous and I'm kidding you know, I don't want you
Speaker 2: to myself.
Speaker 1: What was I gonna say?
Speaker 2: Yes? Also, yeah, it's there's power. I don't know what
Speaker 2: the numbers on it were. I don't know what the
Speaker 2: time frame, but the shit worked. We've got guy friends
Speaker 2: like within the same three weeks. They were like I
Speaker 2: literally went over the list with the nigga and he
Speaker 2: was like, oh shit. I was like, I know I'm
Speaker 2: a night theory, but I mean I really to what
Speaker 2: you said. I needed to do some work and I
Speaker 2: was the work I hadn't done, and like I had
Speaker 2: started to do the work, but I didn't really like
Speaker 2: I hadn't really got into it. And I think that situation,
Speaker 2: that relationship really made me, really made me dig deep
Speaker 2: into myself. I know or women out there backsliding.
Speaker 1: Absolutely ninety percent of women do, and that's normal.
Speaker 2: And I don't want you to think for one second
Speaker 2: that we are like some like Erica is, there's some
Speaker 2: super evolved like baby Mama's situation going over here that
Speaker 2: that's never happened like it's happened, and I regret it.
Speaker 2: And even you know, even though it wasn't supposed to
Speaker 2: be that relationship, I still regretted it because it made
Speaker 2: me deeply examine how I feel about myself if I'm
Speaker 2: sleeping with someone who doesn't really love me, and why
Speaker 2: that brings comfort to me.
Speaker 1: I went through this.
Speaker 2: Whole year not mentioning this very important part. But I
Speaker 2: feel like it's very important that other women know, Like
Speaker 2: I don't condone backsliding to Baby Daddy's, especially to anyone
Speaker 2: who's abusive in any way. Shit happens, and as long
Speaker 2: as you're able to actually confront yourself and make better choices,
Speaker 2: it's really what's important. But I do understand, like you said,
Speaker 2: there's really no heartbreak like the heartbreak of like the
Speaker 2: Baby Daddy, there's really like the attachment is so deep,
Speaker 2: and like I know, me and Erica both were with
Speaker 2: those people for a very long time. I'm in a
Speaker 2: space where I'm just very very conscious of who I'm
Speaker 2: laying down with.
Speaker 1: I haven't backslid sexually with my baby daddy, but like,
Speaker 1: I've definitely backslid emotionally. I don't think you have to
Speaker 1: backslide with your pussy in order to backslide right right,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: I honestly I was beating myself up so much about it.
Speaker 2: It's just so disappointed in myself.
Speaker 1: People knew, he knew.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what does this say about me?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: It was just sometimes things need to come to the
Speaker 2: light so you can look at them for real. You know,
Speaker 2: like sometimes you can do things in the dark with
Speaker 2: yourself and be secretive about them and know what's fucked up,
Speaker 2: But when like you have to admit to it in
Speaker 2: front of other people, that's when you're like, fuck, this
Speaker 2: is really bad. I look really bad, and I'm looking
Speaker 2: at myself now. And that was a part of it,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: But all these things couldn't have happened unless we had
Speaker 1: boyfriends that we could apply or shit too. So you applied,
Speaker 1: you know, the work that you've done, and realized that
Speaker 1: you had more to do, and that like you had
Speaker 1: some things, some skeletons in your closet, we're still there, and.
Speaker 2: That maybe monogamy is not like for me right now.
Speaker 1: I don't have the capacity to work hard in a relationship.
Speaker 1: And that's what I realized too, is that my tolerance
Speaker 1: is short. We don't need boyfriends yet. No, we're not ready,
Speaker 1: even though I have two.
Speaker 2: Smila has two playboyfriends and one in one prospect.
Speaker 1: Oh really another prospect. I know who it is. I
Speaker 1: know you do.
Speaker 2: But like they're all long distance, so don't worry. It's
Speaker 2: not crazy.
Speaker 1: They don't live here.
Speaker 2: They don't live here. They're not like too much of
Speaker 2: a distraction. Even I'm gonna have to cat these facetimes.
Speaker 2: She will literally be on FaceTime silent, No, she said,
Speaker 2: And you're gonna say that I don't.
Speaker 1: It's not true, and I don't. Literally they were just
Speaker 1: here on FaceTime, not really talking about shit.
Speaker 2: That boyfriend, that particular boyfriend that I wasn't. His love
Speaker 2: language is quality time, so he doesn't mind. That's what
Speaker 2: he likes to do. That's why I entertain it.
Speaker 1: That's your love language.
Speaker 2: No, it's not, it is.
Speaker 1: I've seen it happen. I've seen you literally on FaceTime.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'll like talking, I'll have a whole conversation
Speaker 1: with you and then she'd be like, what would you say, Like, wait,
Speaker 1: someone's on the phone, Like wait, there's actually I'm listening
Speaker 1: to what I just said. You're like, it's fine, It's just,
Speaker 1: it's just Bay, It's fine.
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just, you know, juggling my boyfriends right now.
Speaker 2: And you know the best part of the best part
Speaker 2: of it is that they all know about each other,
Speaker 2: and I just feel liberated and free. A lot of mushrooms.
Speaker 2: Scott boyfriends broke she did, my boyfriends broke up with boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think what other what other good guests
Speaker 1: did we have? We had on Jamila Lemieux, Lemieux, we
Speaker 1: had on Van van Lathan Dear White People, which was
Speaker 1: kind of at the it was during like the most
Speaker 1: like talks. I mean, it's always toxic, but like, what
Speaker 1: was it when George Floyd? I think was when George
Speaker 1: when the George Floyd murder happened too.
Speaker 6: But I think a lot of times too though, because
Speaker 6: you know, just like any relationship, you have your ups
Speaker 6: and downs and ours A lot of it has to
Speaker 6: do with infidelity. I always felt like I had something
Speaker 6: to prove, like sexually, and.
Speaker 1: So like it became a lot for his pleasure and
Speaker 1: because you thought, like, yeah, I'm doing it and not
Speaker 1: because and he probably it's not even his.
Speaker 6: Fault, Like he didn't even had no idea, you know,
Speaker 6: he was sure, I'm sure focused on pleasing me too.
Speaker 4: But like for me, it was.
Speaker 7: Like, no, look what I can do right right now,
Speaker 7: Whereas now it's it's changed and I don't know it's
Speaker 7: gonna be.
Speaker 4: It's interesting to think about, like.
Speaker 1: When I do find like a.
Speaker 6: Boyfriend at some point in my life, like what sex is,
Speaker 6: what sex will be like for me? Then, like because
Speaker 6: of because I don't look at it the same way
Speaker 6: all the time anymore.
Speaker 1: I think that's okay. So it's funny that that that
Speaker 1: clip comes up because obviously this was before I had
Speaker 1: a boyfriend, and I was basically saying, how like I
Speaker 1: have I have sex for my own personal pleasure now
Speaker 1: and whurs is before when I where I had sex
Speaker 1: for the pleasure of my partner. Because as women and
Speaker 1: teenagers were taught to you know, please our partner and
Speaker 1: not really understand our bodies and all that shit, I
Speaker 1: have to say, like, it's going to be really hard
Speaker 1: for me to have sex with someone else now. Because
Speaker 1: poetry Bay is an excellent lover, an excellent lover, and
Speaker 1: like really put my pleasure first, Like my pleasure was
Speaker 1: his main priority. And I realize that that's kind of rare,
Speaker 1: you know, like it's rare to find that compatibility in
Speaker 1: a partner in that way, because I feel like men,
Speaker 1: especially black men, are are just now really understanding like
Speaker 1: the patriarchy even in sex and undoing and having to
Speaker 1: undo those things, like it's not top of line, it's
Speaker 1: not top of line priority. I don't know how. I
Speaker 1: don't know who's going to be my next lover, but
Speaker 1: it's going to be hard to top that.
Speaker 2: The thing is sex is important.
Speaker 1: It's the most, not the most, but it's top three.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's top three. And it's not compromisable. And I
Speaker 2: was compromising in a lot of areas and I'm just
Speaker 2: never gonna play myself again and pretend like there's certain
Speaker 2: things that don't matter, because there's things that matter that
Speaker 2: you don't even know matter.
Speaker 1: I have been even now, I've been exploring more so
Speaker 1: my interest in women. I told you me, I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've decided that I don't like women,
Speaker 1: like not that I don't like women because I obviously
Speaker 1: I've slept with women. But if I've decided in my
Speaker 1: head like I could never date a woman, and so
Speaker 1: I go into that already, like I already make that
Speaker 1: decision when I meet a woman, if we're gonna have sex,
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's just that. So I've been like talking
Speaker 1: to this girl lately and even invested.
Speaker 2: Go ahead, tell the people, go ahead, spill the bean.
Speaker 1: Even invested in a very girthy strap on. I show
Speaker 1: Jamila the strap on, and you didn't show it to
Speaker 1: me in person. Actually I see, well it's in my
Speaker 1: bedroom right now. I'll show it to you because okay,
Speaker 1: I want to see it. I showed Tumila and she
Speaker 1: was like, oh what. She's like, why is it that color?
Speaker 1: And I was like, bitch, because it's my color. So
Speaker 1: I got a strap on that's very real. And I
Speaker 1: was just like, you know what, let me just like
Speaker 1: go full fledged into my into exploring my my lesbianism
Speaker 1: or my interest in women. Still not fully convinced yet,
Speaker 1: I'm still still trying to see like if there's still
Speaker 1: like an undoing that needs to happen. Honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: want to force it, but like, I don't know, I do,
Speaker 1: like I fantasize about women all the time and like, but.
Speaker 2: Maybe you just like to have sex with the men
Speaker 2: that has mean you want to have a relationship or
Speaker 2: maybe the right one will come and you want to
Speaker 2: have a relationship with that one.
Speaker 1: Maybe, but I have to like be open myself up
Speaker 1: to that, you know, And I feel like there might
Speaker 1: be like a block for me.
Speaker 2: Okay, like why because it's just like woman, you just
Speaker 2: don't see yourself with one white wit is.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like maybe I could, maybe
Speaker 1: I could. I do love men. You're gonna be a
Speaker 1: late in life lesbian. I mean maybe if I had
Speaker 1: a late maybe I've had a girlfriend that and then
Speaker 1: we had like boyfriends, that would be cool.
Speaker 2: I guess I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm realizing I'm kind of I think.
Speaker 2: I'm kind of kept territorial. I don't mean like you
Speaker 2: are territorial.
Speaker 1: You are.
Speaker 4: I witnessed it all the time.
Speaker 1: You were very free, but you are territorial.
Speaker 2: Hm free territorial. I'm so you're said a late in
Speaker 2: life lesbian. I've just done so much lesbian shit, like
Speaker 2: I've been flocked with a strap on so many times
Speaker 2: in my twenties that I'm good for life, and.
Speaker 1: I'm also I'm also not good for life.
Speaker 2: I don't really I have no interest in dildo's, I
Speaker 2: have no interest in trap ons. Like I just I'm good.
Speaker 1: I've done it.
Speaker 2: I've done a lot of it, and I'm just shocking
Speaker 2: to me that you are now embarking on your journey.
Speaker 1: It's also shocking to me that I.
Speaker 2: Spent like a full three years being a lesbian and
Speaker 2: never have I stepped foot in a strap on. I'm
Speaker 2: kind of jealous, but it also as a lesbian, someone
Speaker 2: told me be careful of putting that strap on on
Speaker 2: because you get addicted to it. Really, could you like
Speaker 2: there some kind of power, like when you put a
Speaker 2: dick on, you like powerful?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I felt pretty silly.
Speaker 2: I saw I don't know, I saw you something.
Speaker 1: I felt well when I when I went when when
Speaker 1: I showed it to her, she was one who basically
Speaker 1: told me to get it, and then I got it
Speaker 1: and she was like oh, And I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: you told me. I don't know. I'm just exploring my
Speaker 1: options in twenty twenty one, I'm not It's not fuck
Speaker 1: these niggas, although sometimes it is.
Speaker 2: I mean, right now it is fucky this. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: tell you what it is. Fuck these niggas get money. Okay,
Speaker 2: except my two boyfriends shout out to you, just kidding.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, my new poll lifestyle. Eric is exploring
Speaker 2: lesbianism and me, I am now pale.
Speaker 1: Well, isn't Polly when they're all in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Not necessarily not necessarily one of my Okay, so one
Speaker 2: of my speaking of Polly, and we do have an
Speaker 2: episode called Polly Like a Pro, which maybe you need
Speaker 2: to go back and reduce me so you can go.
Speaker 2: I have to call Saphire. I'm gonna definitely have calls
Speaker 2: south Fire and just touch on some basis. I'm Holly basics,
Speaker 2: Polly basics, but you know, everyone's everyone's Polly looks different.
Speaker 2: And I'm realizing I'm reatching a lot this year. I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's the winter solstice, you know, the
Speaker 2: winter sols. This is about a rebirth, it's about reflection,
Speaker 2: it's about hibernation. And they kind of call it a
Speaker 2: time where like a time of pregnancy. Oh no, no,
Speaker 2: not like you get pregnant physically, but like you're pregnant
Speaker 2: with creativity and ideas, and this is the time where
Speaker 2: the next nine months, the next few years, that's where
Speaker 2: the shit will manifest.
Speaker 1: It will be fruitful.
Speaker 2: So you know, be really conscious of the work you
Speaker 2: do on the dark side and like where you go
Speaker 2: inside yourself the reasons I need attention and the reasons
Speaker 2: I need love, and like trying to nif that in
Speaker 2: the butt. So just like not getting it for the
Speaker 2: wrong reasons. Because one of my boy both of my
Speaker 2: boyfriends started out with other people. One of my friends
Speaker 2: have since dropped one of the person and I kind
Speaker 2: of freaked out. My other boyfriend has someone and I'm
Speaker 2: open to we're gonna meet, I don't know anytime, like
Speaker 2: when we don't look in the same state, but I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't want to feel pressure to like have to
Speaker 2: have a relationship with a third person, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean. Like usually I'm such a people pleaser and
Speaker 2: I'm just so go with the flow that I'm like, oh, whatever,
Speaker 2: whatever's cool with you, it's cool with me, cool whatever,
Speaker 2: Like it's cool, Like I'll.
Speaker 1: Be like that, Will it bother me?
Speaker 2: I'm like no, I'll be fine. A lot of things
Speaker 2: I do is I'll be fine, or like I realize
Speaker 2: or like oh no, you eat this last piece. That's
Speaker 2: a terrible example, but like that's how I am. Sometimes
Speaker 2: I'm always thinking of someone else before myself. Like I'll
Speaker 2: like if I think someone's like waiting for me, like
Speaker 2: I'll hold my peat like ridiculous things. It's a ridiculous thoughts.
Speaker 2: But it's true that I've had to really say, hey, bitch, no,
Speaker 2: go take care of yourself. That can wait. Oh no,
Speaker 2: if you don't even feel a little bit comfortable with this,
Speaker 2: say no, don't even risk it just because like, oh
Speaker 2: well it will be okay, because I'm usually okay, I
Speaker 2: am okay, but I'm just okay.
Speaker 1: It's like the baseline. Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I told you, I'm exercising my inner Erica, I by
Speaker 2: drawing more boundaries and not giving a fuck about saying no.
Speaker 2: Eric is one bitch. You don't give a fuck about
Speaker 2: saying no. No, I don't want to do it, nope,
Speaker 2: uh uh nope, that's Erica.
Speaker 1: If I don't say no, it's on my face. I'm like,
Speaker 1: well what about him?
Speaker 2: We Nope, I'm like fine, Eric, So I'm really exercising
Speaker 2: my inner Erica. I encourage you all to do the
Speaker 2: same thing. And if something is you don't want to
Speaker 2: do it, Nope, Nope, I don't. I don't want to
Speaker 2: and I don't really and I don't even feel like
Speaker 2: compelled to tell you why. It's just what it is.
Speaker 2: I said, So my first instinct just going with it
Speaker 2: because like I overly consider other people's feelings. I don't
Speaker 2: even know how I got on this topic.
Speaker 1: No, it's a good one. I mean I think that
Speaker 1: that's something that you need to bring, obviously into twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one, is not overly giving people the you know,
Speaker 1: opportunity to take advantage, you know, because you feel awkward
Speaker 1: or because you'll be okay, because either way you'll be okay.
Speaker 1: And it's like, well, do you want to be okay
Speaker 1: or do you want to be fucking great? Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: not like drained because you did some shit that like was.
Speaker 2: I compromise because I just I wanted to make someone
Speaker 2: else happy because I'll do that shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I'm going to Mexico for Christmas for
Speaker 2: two weeks.
Speaker 1: But I'm meeting her there.
Speaker 2: Yes, this is like we said earlier, it has to
Speaker 2: be a great time to drink Patreon because the stories
Speaker 2: are going to be lit. We're making a down a
Speaker 2: deposit on a boat. We were meeting up with friends there.
Speaker 2: It's gonna be special guests. It's gonna be late. You're
Speaker 2: not gonna want to miss the close friends. Also, I've
Speaker 2: been putting some shit on there. I'm like, am I
Speaker 2: doing too much? Oh well, it's close friends.
Speaker 1: These don't get us deleted, like fucking all these other motherfuckers.
Speaker 1: I'm so nervous.
Speaker 2: I know we're not sex workers, but this morning I did,
Speaker 2: I did. I was testing it. I did post a
Speaker 2: video of me dancing around not naked. But you know,
Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys know, I have a
Speaker 2: very large vagina. They call me fatty Caddy. So a
Speaker 2: lot of times, like panty's one lip is always like
Speaker 2: hanging out a little bit. It's not my full vagina.
Speaker 2: But you could see that lit poking on the side.
Speaker 2: And I like did a video with Luna dancing and
Speaker 2: a body suit, and like four people were like, I
Speaker 2: could see your vagina. I'm like, listen, it's not her fault.
Speaker 1: She's fat.
Speaker 2: It's not the full cat. Okay, it's just a little slither,
Speaker 2: relaxed slither what we did the BET Mother's Day Special
Speaker 2: TBT Mother's Day Special.
Speaker 1: We have some things happening in twenty twenty one, you guys,
Speaker 1: that are really exciting. Just put We're just putting all
Speaker 1: of our powers towards them, because honestly, the only reason
Speaker 1: they're happening is because A we work our asses off,
Speaker 1: but B we've talked about it NonStop, not with you guys,
Speaker 1: but with one another. So I think for twenty twenty one,
Speaker 1: my main goal is a getting to the bag moving.
Speaker 1: I want to move so bad. I've lived in this
Speaker 1: house for over six years, just so many memories here
Speaker 1: with my ex, and I've tried to reimagine it five
Speaker 1: hundred bucking thousand times. I've painted it, I've hung shit,
Speaker 1: I've moved shit, and it's great and everyone comes over
Speaker 1: and they love my crib, but like, I'm over it.
Speaker 1: So that's a goal of mine, making all my dreams
Speaker 1: come true. Maybe all our dreams come true that we've
Speaker 1: that we've worked so hard for up until this point,
Speaker 1: and so I don't know. Just giving me strength for
Speaker 1: like six and seven.
Speaker 2: Oh God, give us strength, give us strength for six
Speaker 2: and seven and beyond, and like I just please guide
Speaker 2: us to make to be the best moms we can be,
Speaker 2: and like make the right choices because Lord knows we're
Speaker 2: going to fuck up somewhere. It's no, it's impossible to
Speaker 2: not fuck up, but like just let us fuck up
Speaker 2: in the best possible ways, and like they really know
Speaker 2: themselves and let Lena go to private school with ire
Speaker 2: please bring please, please God, and yeah, that all our
Speaker 2: dreams come true, which I know they are a girl.
Speaker 2: That's like one thing I don't I don't even I
Speaker 2: really don't even question.
Speaker 1: No, I don't question it and manifest I think everything
Speaker 1: till this point. I think it's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's coming, It's coming. And also that's scary. And also
Speaker 1: I know in twenty twenty one, I know this year
Speaker 1: like because we're inside so much, we were like fucking brewing,
Speaker 1: like little fucking witches and worker bees and shit, twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one is like the year of like coming out,
Speaker 1: coming out, And also like I know that even actually
Speaker 1: in my relationship, what I realize is I don't have
Speaker 1: good boundaries and work and and just like trying to
Speaker 1: get everything done and so I think that that's something
Speaker 1: that I really need to focus on. And that also
Speaker 1: like just creating more real present time, like being really
Speaker 1: present with Iri because she's she's fucking growing up so
Speaker 1: nast and I'm like, have I been present? Right? Like
Speaker 1: there's things I just don't remember and I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: ask me and I'd be like, I don't know, and
Speaker 1: it's like, how I just want to be way more
Speaker 1: present in twenty twenty one. I feel like that's something
Speaker 1: that I really really.
Speaker 2: Really want to focus on me too, putting my fucking
Speaker 2: phone down and just being like very very present. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I look forward to those that.
Speaker 2: And just doing better being a better version of myself.
Speaker 2: I look forward to knowing that I can be a
Speaker 2: better version of myself and that I'm about to be
Speaker 2: a better version of myself, and that every day is
Speaker 2: a practice in being intentional and being a better mom,
Speaker 2: a better friend, a better person to a better human,
Speaker 2: being a better person than myself. I'm just I'm seeing
Speaker 2: the little progress of the work that I've done, and
Speaker 2: it makes me excited to continue to work on myself.
Speaker 1: Amen. Amen.
Speaker 2: And then also this.
Speaker 1: Year has been so fucking hard.
Speaker 2: We could do anything I mean it's I got pass
Speaker 2: this shit. Whoa Lord Jesus, Yes.
Speaker 1: Yes you can, we can. We will the end.
Speaker 2: Happy about the fucking Mary Holidays.
Speaker 1: We love you, guys. We're so grateful for you guys.
Speaker 1: You guys have fucked with us hard this year. You
Speaker 1: guys have supported us. You guys have cracked us up.
Speaker 1: Sent us nudes. Thank you, thank so much for those nudes.
Speaker 1: Love them. More nudes, more nudes please. We apparently can't
Speaker 1: say we want nuds on Instagram. Oh yeah, we can't
Speaker 1: solicit news. Can't delicit nudes. We're gonna getur account deleted,
Speaker 1: so just send them. Just surprise us with a nude. Also,
Speaker 1: we need a lot more horror stories in twenty twenty one.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like stories of just like hope and happiness.
Speaker 1: Whatever you want to share with us, just share please.
Speaker 1: We want to know about what's going on. I love
Speaker 1: when I get messages from our people. Me too, Girling man,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what's happening.
Speaker 2: I'm like, ooh, we love you. Hope you enjoy your
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Speaker 2: Here's a little sneak peek.
Speaker 1: Have you guys ever seen Santa?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Hello, we watched shows sometimes. Now I saw Santa, this
Speaker 8: fake Santas and the shows. But I saw Santa before
Speaker 8: I saw Santa as my peaked. It was nighttime. It
Speaker 8: was a Patriot sound the real Santa.
Speaker 1: You saw the real Santa? Mm hmm, girl, because I looked.
Speaker 3: In the window and this sounds reindeer.
Speaker 1: How does Santa get into houses that don't have chimneys?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 8: I know, they just have He just has powerser can
Speaker 8: open the door. He doesn't have a car, but he
Speaker 8: hasn't a sled, but he just parked anywhere