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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Nila and it's Wednesday, Happy Ho

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Speaker 2: Ho ho.

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Speaker 1: Hunk Day and it's two days till Christmas. I know

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Speaker 1: y'all stressed up. Well, we wanted to start this episode

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Speaker 1: off a little different. We have two tiny special guests

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Speaker 1: with us, guys, very VIP. Can you introduce yourself?

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Speaker 3: Luna Irie?

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Speaker 1: And how old are you? Guys?

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Speaker 3: I'm six five.

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Speaker 1: Five and when's your birthday?

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Speaker 3: I'm twenty seven five.

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Speaker 1: Do you know your astrology sign is no? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: we failed.

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Speaker 2: I know. I realized you didn't notice know it recently

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Speaker 2: and I was just like, how are you my daughter?

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Speaker 2: You are a Saggitarius and you are a Taurus.

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Speaker 1: Do mean eat meat?

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Speaker 2: No? A Taurus does not mean you eat me. That

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Speaker 2: would be a carnivore. And I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, guys, these are our kids in case you didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how you wouldn't, but this is them.

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Speaker 2: Luna is my daughter, Mila.

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Speaker 1: And Irie's mine. We figured we start off the year

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Speaker 1: with the reason we do everything that we do, which

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Speaker 1: is for them. Christmas is all about them. So are you? Guys?

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Speaker 1: Excited for Christmas?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course. Can you get presents?

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Speaker 2: The most important thing of life?

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Speaker 3: And we already have our presents. Yeah, I can read them,

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Speaker 3: all the presents under my name's tree.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: You know not only is it Christmas time? You know

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Speaker 2: what Christmas time means. It means that the year is

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Speaker 2: coming to an end. And we've had like a really

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Speaker 2: long year and right after Christmas is New Year's I

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Speaker 2: just want to know how how was your year?

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Speaker 1: Ladies? Good? What's your favorite thing that happened this year?

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you they don't remember because it's all jumbled

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Speaker 2: up because I've been in mostly like should we give

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Speaker 2: him a.

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Speaker 3: We don't remember because there was Recca really long time ago. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: I remember one present I got from one.

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Speaker 1: Time ago, a present. Okay, what was the present?

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Speaker 3: And I remember one present then I got a long

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Speaker 3: time ago for my birthday.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Oh yeah, Well you had your birthday this year.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. So that's something that happened.

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Speaker 3: Three days and then Christmas.

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Speaker 1: You had your birthday. You had a drive by birthday.

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Speaker 3: Right. I love that birthday because I loved sitting down?

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Speaker 2: Do you love sitting down?

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Speaker 3: Because what's sitting down for and I love watching the

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Speaker 3: Carrs and saying the thing and watch Stevie.

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Speaker 1: Oh you mean, like on the drive by when they

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Speaker 1: drive by and they had to honk their horns and

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Speaker 1: they have the like the signs and stuff.

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Speaker 3: My really favorite part on her birthday was the blue flight.

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Speaker 3: I know what I'm gonna do on I turned seven.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do a pop star birthday. I really said,

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Speaker 3: you want to signs?

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Speaker 1: Did you guys make any friends over the year? Meet

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Speaker 1: anybody new?

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Speaker 3: I meet somebody knew Shya.

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Speaker 2: That's not you didn't meet her. You know her since

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Speaker 2: she was born.

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Speaker 3: No, when e was Shia. We were at the bag.

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Speaker 3: We saw a girl and we made a new friend.

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Speaker 2: Oh nice.

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Speaker 3: I went camping.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I went camping.

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Speaker 3: I saw a bear.

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Speaker 1: You saw a bear.

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Speaker 3: I think it was Cameron.

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Speaker 1: It was Oh you got lude, ladies. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: guess you guys can't recall the last three hundred and

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Speaker 1: sixty five days, so we're gonna cutry. Are you short?

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Speaker 2: It was nice having you all, and thank you guys

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Speaker 2: so much for coming on. We'll see you next year

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Speaker 2: on Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: Nye Ye, thank you for having us by a nailed on.

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Speaker 3: I got, I got, I got, I got.

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Speaker 1: And if you guys want to hear more from our

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Speaker 1: children's and they actually have more to say, they're just

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Speaker 1: being I don't know, shy right now.

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Speaker 2: Nothing.

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Speaker 3: We just don't remember anything. Yeah, hey, I just talking nothing.

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Speaker 1: You're just talking nothing, just talking nothing. I guess our

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Speaker 1: questions aren't Our questions are whack, but we did ask

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Speaker 1: some good questions over a Patreon for the segment Ship

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Speaker 1: We Ask our Kids where we ask Luna and Iri

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Speaker 1: a few very interesting questions and they have some interesting

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Speaker 1: answers about Christmas, Santa, and more. So make sure you

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Speaker 1: Good Moms, Bad Choices. If you guys have been I've

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Speaker 1: subscribing to the whole year.

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Speaker 3: You guys can go play yay bye, find.

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Speaker 1: A little Okay, I've just spent all my money on

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Speaker 1: IRI's Christmas holiday, and I'm a little stressed about that,

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Speaker 1: but it'll all be worth it in the end when

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Speaker 1: I get a thank you.

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Speaker 2: Mom, what about that one thing I asked for? That

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Speaker 2: one thing you forgot that you didn't get number, Oh

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Speaker 2: this is it?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Thanks?

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Speaker 1: And also like Sanna is probably not getting this. I want,

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Speaker 1: I need, I need the credit a credit. Okay, Sannah's

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Speaker 1: gonna get her like one thing in that room, Okay,

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Speaker 1: everything else is Mama, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, I'm just relying on grandparents to put Santa on

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Speaker 2: something because.

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Speaker 1: I mean, and I know that, like I know she's

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Speaker 1: going to get like a thousand gifts other places. So

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just felt like I wanted to

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Speaker 1: her room has like this been the same since she

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Speaker 1: was a baby, and I was like, I need to

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Speaker 1: update the room, but not knowing like be what I

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Speaker 1: was kind of committing to, and all the like opinions

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Speaker 1: from people like are you paying for that? Was the opinions, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I think you should replace the blinds. Oh you need

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Speaker 1: to do this, like we need to paint this. Who's

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Speaker 1: paying for all these things? Right? You just want me

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Speaker 1: to do all these things for so you feel good

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Speaker 1: about it.

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Speaker 2: But I did, I did, I did do all the things,

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Speaker 2: and today I made to Malli's with my family and do.

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Speaker 1: You have any with you? No, I have to go

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Speaker 1: back tomorrow and finish making them because we're making four

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand, million zillion of them. I'll be selling them

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Speaker 1: on Facebook marketplace to pay for my daughter's room. So

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Speaker 1: if you see some Tomali's on Facebook marketplace in the valley,

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Speaker 1: just that's me. Maybe I'll sell them on the instagrams too.

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Speaker 1: I can't. Well, they're very delicious. How about twenty five

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Speaker 2: How many are you making over there?

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Speaker 1: Oh, I've probably made like already, like one hundred and fifty.

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Speaker 2: How many people are you guys having for Christmas?

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Speaker 1: It's like four?

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Speaker 2: Oh, so you're gonna freeze them from when I think.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, of course, this is like Mexican tradition. We

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Speaker 1: always over make them, like if you're a Mexican or

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Speaker 1: if you or Latin, you know, like the family we

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Speaker 1: do the most. We make five hundred to Molly's and

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Speaker 1: we freeze one hundred of them. We eat them until

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Speaker 1: November next year. But at least now, like I've over

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Speaker 1: the years, I've been trying to like get learn how

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Speaker 1: to make them exactly how my grandmother makes them, and

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Speaker 1: like it's taken three years to figure it out because

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Speaker 1: miss steps, like even this today, like I did, I

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Speaker 1: I so you're still three years later, you still haven't

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Speaker 1: but I literally sat her down. I was like, tell

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Speaker 1: me everything, I'm not doing this again next year. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I am doing this again next year. But also like

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Speaker 1: should happen, like she dies with this recipe, she needs

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Speaker 1: to write it down. But this is specially she's like

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Speaker 2: So especially when you're making four hundreds.

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Speaker 1: I don't have an exact I don't have exact recipe,

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Speaker 2: You need to write it down.

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Speaker 1: I did write it down.

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Speaker 2: You're a recipe, You're like an exact ingredient recipe. Cook.

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Speaker 1: I know, I wrote it all down the cook. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So last year I have figured out like the masa,

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Speaker 1: But like I think I figured oh the chili. This

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Speaker 1: I've got it down. I've got it down, and now

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Speaker 1: It's all I have to say, Like when I'm dead

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Speaker 2: Well, my family will make greens and black eyed peas surely.

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 2: Erica is over here stressing heavily. I am catching a

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Speaker 2: flight to Mexico tomorrow to skip it all. It's like

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Speaker 2: a fucking scrooge of moms. Yeah, I'm going out to town.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing some work some cool model work in the

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Speaker 2: Cabo San Lucas Mountains. I don't really I've never been

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Speaker 2: a huge fan of Christmas. I think it's the man's holiday.

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Speaker 2: I think it's for money, and like Erica, I know

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Speaker 2: my kid cares. So today, to make sure I have

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Speaker 2: any guilt, I went and bought her a two hundred

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Speaker 2: her some pink cowgirl boots. I mean, honestly, what could

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Speaker 2: her dad's family goes crazy. They open gifts at seven am,

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Speaker 2: I just hope she's not scarred for life like that

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Speaker 2: one time at six year old Christmas. My mom isn't,

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Speaker 2: hoping everything's fine. I'm at I'm excited to just go

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Speaker 2: put my fucking phone down because I'm addicted like a

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Speaker 2: fucking crackhead.

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Speaker 1: I am.

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Speaker 2: I'm really scared for me. I'm like, I saw social

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Speaker 2: dilemma and I'm still acting like a crackhead. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: I didn't get anyone anything either, including you. Great, I'm

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Speaker 2: never get anyone anything, and then I feel bad that people.

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Speaker 2: But I'm like, why every year you keep getting me

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Speaker 2: I was like, no, I'm a fairy. She's not a fairy.

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Speaker 2: She just doesn't have any She's not a fairy. In fact,

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Speaker 2: I said, you know what, she maybe is a fairy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not invited to the night fairy gathering. Poor Ariana.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we literally made food. We made little snacks to avoid.

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Speaker 2: our mushroom eyed, So we probably ate about twenty seven

440
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:35,720
Speaker 2: tangerines throughout the evening. I had mushrooms and yogurt mushrooms

441
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,639
Speaker 2: and apple sauce tea tea we made of tea, and

442
00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 2: we had chocolate but I.

443
00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:44,119
Speaker 1: Got from my daughter's school mom, which is so on

444
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 1: our first mom date. That's a pictures. I was like, wow, hi, hello,

445
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 1: you're part of the tribe.

446
00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:53,359
Speaker 2: Oh so finally we got outside where it was beautifully

447
00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,959
Speaker 2: like a little forest out there, and we lit the fire.

448
00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:58,600
Speaker 2: We took blankets. It felt like we were in an

449
00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:04,359
Speaker 2: assimilated backyard, beautiful breathing garden. Of course, I jumped on

450
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:05,120
Speaker 2: the trampoline.

451
00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,560
Speaker 1: We made stale s'mores.

452
00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 2: Eric I've suddenly got so much energy that she came

453
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:16,720
Speaker 2: outside with fifty five snacks ritz crackers, cheddar cheese, and

454
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 2: half grapes. She insisted that everyone ate them together and

455
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,160
Speaker 2: one one bite, and we all listened.

456
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 1: I have video evidence of this guy's Actually I'm a

457
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 1: post on Patreon because this snack is. Jamila was looking

458
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:31,160
Speaker 1: at me crazy like she does often when I tell

459
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:34,400
Speaker 1: her some shit, and then she literally devoured it off

460
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 1: my hand, Like I literally was like, just had it

461
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,439
Speaker 1: in my hand, and she was like, well I was,

462
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 1: And then you were like, oh wow, that is good.

463
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 1: And I convinced everyone that this concoction of mine is

464
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 1: the shit. I actually made it up when I was

465
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: high one day, but it's essentially a cheese like cheese plame.

466
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,480
Speaker 2: This is This is probably part around the park where

467
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 2: we started to come down because we were getting a

468
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 2: little hungry, starved, starved. Sorry we also did you remember

469
00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:01,359
Speaker 2: we ate Chinese food around the fire?

470
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you hated it at you were.

471
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 2: Really the hostess and the musses. We took a shot,

472
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 2: I put I poured intention into the shot. I was

473
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: doing some spells over the tequila, and then we drank it.

474
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,159
Speaker 2: Of course, I took my shirt off because I couldn't

475
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 2: feel anything until I could, in which case I was cold.

476
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 2: I had an accent. We went. We were in medieval

477
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 2: times at.

478
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 1: One point, and then at some point I left everyone

479
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: and I went and at first I laid down in here,

480
00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 1: and then I was like, no, I'm going to bed,

481
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,719
Speaker 1: and I'm not telling anyone. I got it.

482
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 2: I got I got the message. Someone else disappeared, just disappeared,

483
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 2: and then it was just me and Leaf. And then

484
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 2: eventually we just were like, all right, that was a

485
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:42,120
Speaker 2: fun time. I had a great time.

486
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 1: That food was great. All right, catulated it.

487
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:47,479
Speaker 2: Was like the best eight hour. We kept calling it

488
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 2: the holiday party.

489
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 1: We were like, oh, it's the holiday party.

490
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 2: It's right, so many people hits it.

491
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: It was our holiday GMBC holiday party.

492
00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:58,720
Speaker 2: Yeah it was.

493
00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 1: It was wine, mushrooms and weed.

494
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 2: It's all we need in a backyardn't be saying We're like.

495
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 2: One fourth of the party took their shirts off like

496
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,439
Speaker 2: it was crazy. It was a dead Christmas tree with

497
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 2: crazy lights. One fourth of the party got naked and

498
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 2: she started jumping on the trampoline. The other fourth of

499
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 2: the party father gave us drinking wine, seeing all types

500
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 2: of weird shit.

501
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 1: But I think what we wanted to do too today,

502
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 1: because it's the end of the year, is, you know,

503
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 1: do a little recap on our year, on good Mom's

504
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 1: bad choices. We've had some pretty interesting guests this year,

505
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 1: interesting moments, and you guys have been here through it all.

506
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 1: Some of you guys may have joined the tribe, you know,

507
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,199
Speaker 1: mid year. Maybe you guys just started listening to us

508
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 1: last week, or maybe you've been with us for almost

509
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: three fucking years. Oh my god, it'll be three years

510
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: in March. We figured we should just do a little recap,

511
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: maybe play a few clips from some of our most

512
00:23:55,880 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 1: popular and I don't know, fun episodes, not necessarily fun.

513
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 1: Some of them are not fun, some of them are set.

514
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 2: We were just going through there and I was like,

515
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 2: I'm just looking at myself crying.

516
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 1: I'm like Jesus Christ, this is getting intense.

517
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 2: Huh.

518
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 1: Started with the meditation, I think, then we went into

519
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 1: we had Jodie Patterson on. She's an author social activist

520
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:19,919
Speaker 1: for the LGBTQ plus community in black community, and we

521
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:21,640
Speaker 1: had her on where she talked about.

522
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 2: Her son being trans and her realizing around the age

523
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 2: of two, which is like a super interesting experience and

524
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:29,640
Speaker 2: like to hear her perspective.

525
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Speaker 1: That was a good one, m h O.

526
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Speaker 2: Because we were in New York right where I acted

527
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Speaker 2: a fucking full.

528
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: I think we were all we were both acting a

529
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: fucking fool in New York.

530
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 2: That's that's how the Good Lord came down with the

531
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 2: COVID because he was like, these bitches are acting a

532
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: fucking fool. Now, donut now, bitches.

533
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, we went to New York to do some shit,

534
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: and then we also did some mother shit.

535
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,919
Speaker 2: Who did she need to be done? I literally like,

536
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 2: I'm a whole different person since then. I'm like, who

537
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 2: was that? Wasn't me? Wasn't me acting like a goddamn pool.

538
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 2: We hung out with horrible decisions. I have some pictures

539
00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 2: of that too. Maybe we'll have like a little reek

540
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 2: half on the Patreons I have some very secret pictures

541
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 2: from that secret location with the swing and the three

542
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 2: way kiss. I convinced two male roommates to three way

543
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 2: kiss me, and I'm proud of it.

544
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 1: I was there, I witnessed it.

545
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 2: It is true, which means I should be a negotiator.

546
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 1: Because I did not see it happening, and then it happened,

547
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh shit. Over the same day,

548
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: she got two people a three way kiss on the

549
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:24,879
Speaker 1: same day. Oh, a couple that basically went no, they

550
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 1: weren't a couple, they were No, they were coworkers. I

551
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: believe one is maybe Mary.

552
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 2: They were both married.

553
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: They were both married, but they were both clearly having

554
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: an affair, and Jamila made them make out in front

555
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: of us.

556
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 2: With me and then they disappeared into the bathroom, which

557
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 2: confirms our suspicions that they were already sleeping together. And

558
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:47,439
Speaker 2: also I this should be a profession professional three way kisser, convincer, convincer,

559
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 2: night fairy three way kisser convincer.

560
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. I like that. Yeah, I got to the LinkedIn.

561
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 2: Okay, so let's start off. Let's let's play a clip

562
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 2: from one of my favorite favorite podcasts. I'll be actually

563
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,400
Speaker 2: link up with this year. Talk with my mom.

564
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 1: I love them. What haven't you tried that you'd like

565
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:09,199
Speaker 1: to sexually?

566
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 4: Drugs? Oh my god, what drugs? I pretty much tried

567
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 4: it all.

568
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: My favorite drug ever you.

569
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 4: Spoke all the time. I'm just saying the bigger one

570
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 4: that has to chill. I mean literally, It's true.

571
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 2: The favorite one was like which I'd never do again

572
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 2: because it was only a one time and done thing.

573
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 2: Was one of freebase base.

574
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 1: Okay, when I was like years old, I.

575
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 4: Had a choice, very choice, but it was also the thick.

576
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: Of the time you're fully recovered.

577
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 2: We could never forget the time that Karen Lee Porter

578
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,480
Speaker 2: told our entire audience that her favorite drug of choice

579
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 2: would be crack cocaine.

580
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 1: Uh find out this is the mom who is Karen

581
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 1: is a cougar. She's probably I think she's in her

582
00:26:57,119 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: sixties and crack cocaine basing as her drug.

583
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:02,920
Speaker 2: She ended it one day, though she did it twice

584
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 2: in one day, but only one day, which you know,

585
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 2: I love.

586
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 1: I love a cougar that could keep it real. She

587
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 1: knew that it was gonna be She knew it was

588
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 1: gonna be her favorite drug and that she would live

589
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: a long, long, sad, tragic life if she continued. So

590
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: she binged on it.

591
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 2: For a whole night and morning and then gave it

592
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:21,719
Speaker 2: to her her husband's roommate.

593
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: Wow, that was amazing. Yeah that episode, man, that episode

594
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: was hilarious. What was that one called What's your Favorite Drug?

595
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 2: Oh?

596
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your Favorite Drug? So if you haven't listened

597
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 1: to that one, I highly suggest that's just like the

598
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:39,439
Speaker 1: tip of the iceberg of that episode because they're wild.

599
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 2: And just check out us sex Talk with My Mom

600
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 2: because they're amazing. Yeah, what what happened after.

601
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,959
Speaker 1: That Passport Cutty? So you know, I don't know if

602
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 1: you guys got to listen to Passport cuttings episode. It's

603
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 1: a two part episode, so you definitely need to listen

604
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 1: to it because she drops some fucking serious knowledge on that.

605
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 1: I still am not currently fully applying, which I need

606
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,479
Speaker 1: to after listening to that. On how to get what

607
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: you want out of a man, you.

608
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 4: Just got to choose what you want them to spend on. Now,

609
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 4: it doesn't mean that he's gonna be on bed with that,

610
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 4: because some guys are cool.

611
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 5: With giving a bag because it's just an item, and

612
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 5: some guys don't want to spend fifty two hundred dollars

613
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 5: sending you to school because for the semester, because you know, yeah, yeah,

614
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 5: like all that. Like, there's some guys who It's true,

615
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,679
Speaker 5: there's some guys who give cash is, some guys who

616
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 5: give items. There some guys who will pay for the experience,

617
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 5: and some guys who will do something to elevate.

618
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 4: You, you know, help you in your journey, push you forward, whatever.

619
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 4: But you just have to identify who that is.

620
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 5: Like, and I tell people all the time, I'm like,

621
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 5: I'm gonna take whatever he's willing to give.

622
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 4: That's just that's what that guy his category is.

623
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 2: Like he's yeah, it's a guy's yeah.

624
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 4: Yeah.

625
00:28:56,920 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 5: But also as far as you not wanting to look

626
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 5: a certain way to him.

627
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 4: And you saying like, oh, you know, I.

628
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 5: Don't want you to think or I don't want you

629
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 5: to be talking shit later on whatever. The same way

630
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 5: we set up out the tone, how we're trying to

631
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 5: set up the tone, that's all they're doing back, They're

632
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 5: that's conditioning you to do those things prior to meeting him.

633
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 5: He's like, exactly how we're like, you know what I'm

634
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 5: gonna tell him, I don't like cheap guys. I don't

635
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 5: like guys who make me split. I don't like guys

636
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 5: who do this. And we're doing that to condition them

637
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 5: and let them know, like prior to meeting them, they're

638
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 5: doing the same.

639
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: And the exactly the problem is I'm too busy thinking

640
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: what if he thinks this?

641
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 4: Does that give zero fox?

642
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 5: And and he does not care, because the thing is

643
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 5: if we're not equally yoked in that way, then we're

644
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 5: just not meant to fuck.

645
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 1: With each other. That specific question was how do you

646
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 1: know you're what's having sex too soon.

647
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: When you haven't gotten anything?

648
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: You haven't gotten anything.

649
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 2: And I don't think dinner a count. And Erica's question

650
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 2: was this dinner count, I don't think it does. That

651
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 2: was a good one. That was the emin for man

652
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 2: is for money.

653
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, the M and man is for money. Have you

654
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 1: applied that to your life?

655
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 2: You know? Imazy? You know I like I just like

656
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 2: I let people get over all the time. Yeah, someone

657
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,719
Speaker 2: I have I get stuff, for sure, you gotta give

658
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 2: me something. I'm definitely having higher standards for sure. I

659
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 2: don't know if it's because of like financially well, all.

660
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 1: I have to say is that Mila's dom life is

661
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: popping and she's been getting a lot of shit she's

662
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 1: been getting. She got about two hundred and fifty dollars

663
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 1: on Live the other night, which I'm still pissed that

664
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: none of my doms sends me shit except whatever subs.

665
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 2: I basically maybe I'm a sub because I'm getting anything.

666
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: Okay, So this next clip is an episode called Heartbreak Hotel,

667
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: where we solicited you guys to write in your most

668
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: epic break up stories, and y'all has some crazy she

669
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: hear that was a good one not to see. Come here, there,

670
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: come here, and let's share our breakup stories. This boyfriend

671
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: that I dated, who was absolutely crazy, took.

672
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 2: A class about took the ship and smeared it all

673
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 2: over her closet and in her shoes.

674
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 4: We only met once.

675
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: I will fucking fight you, bitch.

676
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 2: Then he kept dismantling my ancestor alter, talking about I'm

677
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 2: praying to dead people without having any education.

678
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: You're just like, dude, you're just having sex. And he

679
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: was like, marry me, marry me, and I was like yes,

680
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 1: and he pulled out the ring like he had a ring,

681
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: you guys, he had. I still have the ring.

682
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 4: Oh, my god, I'm gonna post on Patreon. I'm gonna

683
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 4: show you the ring.

684
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 1: Guys, it is like, you need to show this picture.

685
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 1: I think even you your former bay Adventure Bay, you

686
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 1: shared a breakup story that he had on there that

687
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 1: was you know.

688
00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 2: What, I shared it at the time. I don't think

689
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 2: I admitted that it was my my the guy I

690
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 2: was dating, so adventurebe even though we were going to

691
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 2: take his name out of the files just for right now,

692
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 2: and so yeah, I forgot locked the files. But he

693
00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 2: had actually told me that he took someone someone cheated

694
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 2: on him, and wow, I god lucky, and he took

695
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 2: dog shit and smeared it all over their their closet

696
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 2: and their shoes. And I literally called Erica from the

697
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 2: bathroom of the of the airport to the other location,

698
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm scared. I don't I think

699
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 2: he's crazy. And he told me some crazy shit. It's

700
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 2: not it's not not She's like, it's fine. It was

701
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 2: a long time ago. I said, Erica, this is not normal.

702
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 2: That is not normal behavior. I must have I must

703
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 2: have knew I was going to fuck it up, and

704
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 2: I was scared. But yeah, that's part of the reason

705
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 2: that's over because I knew then that he was crazy. Wait,

706
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: and then he later told me after I cheated on

707
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 2: him that he did consider doing that to me, but

708
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,719
Speaker 2: he was going to take it up a notch and

709
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 2: add shrimp and fish and leave it in my things.

710
00:32:58,000 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 2: But no, don't worry, I went.

711
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 1: Didn't wait, didn't say going to leave you above like.

712
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: He also said that. Yeah, he also said that. I said, well,

713
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 2: what did what are the many what He's like, I

714
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 2: thought about revenge?

715
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, what did you think about?

716
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 2: And he said he thought about driving me to Pump

717
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 2: Springs and there's like a mountain that you can go up.

718
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 1: There's like a lift.

719
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,479
Speaker 2: He said he was gonna hike up the mountain and

720
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 2: then leave me there and maybe take my phone. I

721
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 2: couldn't forget that part, and I said, you're so lucky

722
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: you didn't do that, because then I would have to

723
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 2: murder you.

724
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: Sounds like a serial killer.

725
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 2: It sounds like I dodged a cereal bullet. And I

726
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 2: was still trying. Even after you told me that.

727
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, he's just a little crazy. He

728
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: won't kill me.

729
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 2: He said, well, oh boy, what a year it's been.

730
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: Oh my god, we had boyfriends and now we don't.

731
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 2: We were deep into the boyfriend. We were like boyfriend out.

732
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 2: I was just like boyfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend. I was just

733
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 2: reflecting on that time and I was like, wow, that

734
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: was fun. It was fun, well lasted, and you know,

735
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 2: I'd look back and venture bait. My former boyfriend was

736
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 2: a camper, so that meant I was gonna be a

737
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 2: camper too. He convinced me to buy an eighty dollars

738
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 2: sleeping bag, which I need to go retrieve. And then

739
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 2: I remember looking. I made Erica come with this to

740
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 2: Mars aka Trendon Pinnacles and they were like away from

741
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,720
Speaker 2: us on like a far distant I don't know, lump,

742
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 2: but whatever. Those fucking things are astrological rock. And I

743
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 2: was like, Erica, look at them, what if it doesn't

744
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:24,439
Speaker 2: work out?

745
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 1: And she goes, so what if it doesn't? And I

746
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 1: was like, okay, is that what I said? Yeah?

747
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 2: I was like, look at them over there, taking all

748
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 2: these pictures and shit, and she was like, yeah, it's okay, Ony, fine,

749
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 2: oo cares if it doesn't work out.

750
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 1: And I was like, and here we are. We survived. We survived.

751
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: I mean, I just feel like I don't know, Like,

752
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: of course I didn't go into my relationship hoping it

753
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,800
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna work out, kind of the first relationship I

754
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 1: ever had that I really had no expectations. And I

755
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 1: don't know if that's a good thing. I mean, it

756
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: is a good thing, but I mean I also speak

757
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: maybe speaks volumes to like woo where I where my

758
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 1: mind was in that relationship too. My my, my relationship

759
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 1: with my child's father hurt me so deeply and still

760
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: continues to that. I don't think anything could hurt me

761
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: that much. It's true, it's true. So it's like, yeah,

762
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, I probably cry, but like not

763
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,399
Speaker 1: as much as I cried before. It's not and it's

764
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: not as light to the to my my ex it's

765
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: not as it's really I'm not trying to be a

766
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: bitch and be a slight to that. It's just like

767
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: unfortunately the person before him hurt me so bad that

768
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 1: and that it just doesn't it won't. It can't compare.

769
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 1: It just can't compare, and it shouldn't have to. It shouldn't.

770
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 1: But I think I'm just in the point now where

771
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like maybe if I maybe if I

772
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: get into another relationship or find someone else, maybe my

773
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: perspective will change because maybe that person wasn't my person,

774
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 1: and so I didn't feel these intense feelings of loss

775
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: or like you complete me.

776
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 2: I think it's very healthy to practice detachment. And it's

777
00:35:58,239 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 2: not to say that you don't. You don't you're something

778
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 2: wrong with you and you're a sociopath.

779
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 1: Cycles happen.

780
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,399
Speaker 2: That is life. Things are born and then they die.

781
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 2: You have it, you don't that winter comes, the winter goals.

782
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 2: Accepting that is really where you become peaceful, because you know,

783
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 2: like everything is what it is in its present moment,

784
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 2: and that's the beauty in it, not that you can

785
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 2: hold onto it forever.

786
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: I had to get into that relationship in order to

787
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: put into practice all the all of the work that

788
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 1: I've done. Like I can talk sit and talk all

789
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,280
Speaker 1: day about all the work that I do, but unless

790
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: I apply it in a relationship, then I don't even

791
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:32,800
Speaker 1: know if it's working.

792
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's true, and so like let's talk this.

793
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: So like I went into this relationship, I applied the

794
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 1: things that I've been working on. I fucked up some

795
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 1: a little bit, but for the most part, like, I'm

796
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: really proud of myself on how I navigated that relationship

797
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 1: and also realized, Okay, yeah, there's some things I didn't

798
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: even know that I do that I got to work on, like,

799
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 1: for example, fleeing when I when a man gets emotional,

800
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 1: Like when a man gets too emotional, I'm.

801
00:36:56,320 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 2: Like, em no, don't do that, please, And like, I know.

802
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: That I previously wasn't like that. I was let but

803
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,479
Speaker 1: I think because of my relationship with my daughter's father,

804
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 1: always had to be like be there for him emotionally

805
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 1: and make sure he was okay because there was always

806
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 1: something going on. The idea of having to do that

807
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 1: for a man is like, I can't do it, and

808
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,439
Speaker 1: that's not fair to earn a relationship. So I realized that, Okay,

809
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 1: that's something I really got to work on because I

810
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: want an emotional man, Like I asked for that and

811
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 1: I got that. And maybe actually this can segue us

812
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,279
Speaker 1: into this clip where we talk about manifesting our men,

813
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:40,879
Speaker 1: which I truly believe, but we did, and I think

814
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 1: this year is a testament to the fact that manifestation

815
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 1: truly does work. And I've seen it over and over again.

816
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 1: It's not coincidental. It's very intentional when you write things

817
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 1: down and you speak to it constantly. I mean, fortunately

818
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: me and Jamila, like we have a podcast, so we

819
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: talk about shit all day long. That ends up cultivating

820
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 1: itself in some way.

821
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 2: And what we also realize is we manifested our men

822
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: and we need to be even more specific than before

823
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 2: because that list was spot the fuck on. But there

824
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,240
Speaker 2: were some very important things that were forgotten.

825
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 1: There were there were things I didn't even think I

826
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,720
Speaker 1: had to be specific on. But I gotta be specific

827
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: on ah, to be specific, Like it's one thing to

828
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: say I want an emotional man, but like one through

829
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: ten on a scale, and also and also emotional about

830
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: what right and like health healthy emotional, like.

831
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 2: Rational emotional, real emotional is a manipulative emotional.

832
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So again I'm going to I got to

833
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: go back to the drawing board. I'm not ready to

834
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: go back to the drawing board. I'm really not and

835
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in really dating anyone right now. But

836
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: at some point in the near future, maybe I don't know,

837
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: months or so five months, who knows, I will write

838
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: this list down again and I'll compare notes of my

839
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:08,839
Speaker 1: last one and put like I'm gonna like literally put

840
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: branches off of things.

841
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 2: That's what I did.

842
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: Well, let me know when you write yours, so we

843
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: can be on the same cycle again, so we can

844
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: get niggas at the same time.

845
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 2: Because at the same time, because you know, I get

846
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 2: jealous and I'm kidding you know, I don't want you

847
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 2: to myself.

848
00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: What was I gonna say?

849
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 2: Yes? Also, yeah, it's there's power. I don't know what

850
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 2: the numbers on it were. I don't know what the

851
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 2: time frame, but the shit worked. We've got guy friends

852
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 2: like within the same three weeks. They were like I

853
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 2: literally went over the list with the nigga and he

854
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:36,839
Speaker 2: was like, oh shit. I was like, I know I'm

855
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 2: a night theory, but I mean I really to what

856
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 2: you said. I needed to do some work and I

857
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 2: was the work I hadn't done, and like I had

858
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 2: started to do the work, but I didn't really like

859
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 2: I hadn't really got into it. And I think that situation,

860
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 2: that relationship really made me, really made me dig deep

861
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:02,240
Speaker 2: into myself. I know or women out there backsliding.

862
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:06,280
Speaker 1: Absolutely ninety percent of women do, and that's normal.

863
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 2: And I don't want you to think for one second

864
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 2: that we are like some like Erica is, there's some

865
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 2: super evolved like baby Mama's situation going over here that

866
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 2: that's never happened like it's happened, and I regret it.

867
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 2: And even you know, even though it wasn't supposed to

868
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:22,879
Speaker 2: be that relationship, I still regretted it because it made

869
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 2: me deeply examine how I feel about myself if I'm

870
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 2: sleeping with someone who doesn't really love me, and why

871
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 2: that brings comfort to me.

872
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: I went through this.

873
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 2: Whole year not mentioning this very important part. But I

874
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,359
Speaker 2: feel like it's very important that other women know, Like

875
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: I don't condone backsliding to Baby Daddy's, especially to anyone

876
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 2: who's abusive in any way. Shit happens, and as long

877
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 2: as you're able to actually confront yourself and make better choices,

878
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:49,399
Speaker 2: it's really what's important. But I do understand, like you said,

879
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 2: there's really no heartbreak like the heartbreak of like the

880
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: Baby Daddy, there's really like the attachment is so deep,

881
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 2: and like I know, me and Erica both were with

882
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,320
Speaker 2: those people for a very long time. I'm in a

883
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: space where I'm just very very conscious of who I'm

884
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 2: laying down with.

885
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: I haven't backslid sexually with my baby daddy, but like,

886
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 1: I've definitely backslid emotionally. I don't think you have to

887
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 1: backslide with your pussy in order to backslide right right,

888
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 1: you know.

889
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 2: I honestly I was beating myself up so much about it.

890
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 2: It's just so disappointed in myself.

891
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: People knew, he knew.

892
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, what does this say about me?

893
00:41:27,280 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 1: You know?

894
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 2: It was just sometimes things need to come to the

895
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 2: light so you can look at them for real. You know,

896
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 2: like sometimes you can do things in the dark with

897
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 2: yourself and be secretive about them and know what's fucked up,

898
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 2: But when like you have to admit to it in

899
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,200
Speaker 2: front of other people, that's when you're like, fuck, this

900
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 2: is really bad. I look really bad, and I'm looking

901
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: at myself now. And that was a part of it,

902
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 2: you know.

903
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 1: But all these things couldn't have happened unless we had

904
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 1: boyfriends that we could apply or shit too. So you applied,

905
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: you know, the work that you've done, and realized that

906
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: you had more to do, and that like you had

907
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 1: some things, some skeletons in your closet, we're still there, and.

908
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 2: That maybe monogamy is not like for me right now.

909
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 1: I don't have the capacity to work hard in a relationship.

910
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 1: And that's what I realized too, is that my tolerance

911
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:15,720
Speaker 1: is short. We don't need boyfriends yet. No, we're not ready,

912
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 1: even though I have two.

913
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,280
Speaker 2: Smila has two playboyfriends and one in one prospect.

914
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: Oh really another prospect. I know who it is. I

915
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: know you do.

916
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 2: But like they're all long distance, so don't worry. It's

917
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: not crazy.

918
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: They don't live here.

919
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 2: They don't live here. They're not like too much of

920
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 2: a distraction. Even I'm gonna have to cat these facetimes.

921
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:37,799
Speaker 2: She will literally be on FaceTime silent, No, she said,

922
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 2: And you're gonna say that I don't.

923
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 1: It's not true, and I don't. Literally they were just

924
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: here on FaceTime, not really talking about shit.

925
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:47,399
Speaker 2: That boyfriend, that particular boyfriend that I wasn't. His love

926
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 2: language is quality time, so he doesn't mind. That's what

927
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 2: he likes to do. That's why I entertain it.

928
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:53,720
Speaker 1: That's your love language.

929
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 2: No, it's not, it is.

930
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: I've seen it happen. I've seen you literally on FaceTime.

931
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'll like talking, I'll have a whole conversation

932
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: with you and then she'd be like, what would you say, Like, wait,

933
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:08,240
Speaker 1: someone's on the phone, Like wait, there's actually I'm listening

934
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 1: to what I just said. You're like, it's fine, It's just,

935
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 1: it's just Bay, It's fine.

936
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just, you know, juggling my boyfriends right now.

937
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 2: And you know the best part of the best part

938
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 2: of it is that they all know about each other,

939
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:23,760
Speaker 2: and I just feel liberated and free. A lot of mushrooms.

940
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 2: Scott boyfriends broke she did, my boyfriends broke up with boyfriend.

941
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think what other what other good guests

942
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: did we have? We had on Jamila Lemieux, Lemieux, we

943
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:36,880
Speaker 1: had on Van van Lathan Dear White People, which was

944
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 1: kind of at the it was during like the most

945
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: like talks. I mean, it's always toxic, but like, what

946
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:46,320
Speaker 1: was it when George Floyd? I think was when George

947
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 1: when the George Floyd murder happened too.

948
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 6: But I think a lot of times too though, because

949
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:53,399
Speaker 6: you know, just like any relationship, you have your ups

950
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 6: and downs and ours A lot of it has to

951
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 6: do with infidelity. I always felt like I had something

952
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 6: to prove, like sexually, and.

953
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: So like it became a lot for his pleasure and

954
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 1: because you thought, like, yeah, I'm doing it and not

955
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: because and he probably it's not even his.

956
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 6: Fault, Like he didn't even had no idea, you know,

957
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 6: he was sure, I'm sure focused on pleasing me too.

958
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:13,839
Speaker 4: But like for me, it was.

959
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 7: Like, no, look what I can do right right now,

960
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 7: Whereas now it's it's changed and I don't know it's

961
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 7: gonna be.

962
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 4: It's interesting to think about, like.

963
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 1: When I do find like a.

964
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 6: Boyfriend at some point in my life, like what sex is,

965
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 6: what sex will be like for me? Then, like because

966
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 6: of because I don't look at it the same way

967
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 6: all the time anymore.

968
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: I think that's okay. So it's funny that that that

969
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 1: clip comes up because obviously this was before I had

970
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: a boyfriend, and I was basically saying, how like I

971
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: have I have sex for my own personal pleasure now

972
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 1: and whurs is before when I where I had sex

973
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: for the pleasure of my partner. Because as women and

974
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 1: teenagers were taught to you know, please our partner and

975
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 1: not really understand our bodies and all that shit, I

976
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: have to say, like, it's going to be really hard

977
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 1: for me to have sex with someone else now. Because

978
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: poetry Bay is an excellent lover, an excellent lover, and

979
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: like really put my pleasure first, Like my pleasure was

980
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: his main priority. And I realize that that's kind of rare,

981
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 1: you know, like it's rare to find that compatibility in

982
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 1: a partner in that way, because I feel like men,

983
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 1: especially black men, are are just now really understanding like

984
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: the patriarchy even in sex and undoing and having to

985
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 1: undo those things, like it's not top of line, it's

986
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 1: not top of line priority. I don't know how. I

987
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: don't know who's going to be my next lover, but

988
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 1: it's going to be hard to top that.

989
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 2: The thing is sex is important.

990
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: It's the most, not the most, but it's top three.

991
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's top three. And it's not compromisable. And I

992
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 2: was compromising in a lot of areas and I'm just

993
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:11,320
Speaker 2: never gonna play myself again and pretend like there's certain

994
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 2: things that don't matter, because there's things that matter that

995
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:14,800
Speaker 2: you don't even know matter.

996
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: I have been even now, I've been exploring more so

997
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: my interest in women. I told you me, I was like,

998
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've decided that I don't like women,

999
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: like not that I don't like women because I obviously

1000
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 1: I've slept with women. But if I've decided in my

1001
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 1: head like I could never date a woman, and so

1002
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: I go into that already, like I already make that

1003
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: decision when I meet a woman, if we're gonna have sex,

1004
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's just that. So I've been like talking

1005
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: to this girl lately and even invested.

1006
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 2: Go ahead, tell the people, go ahead, spill the bean.

1007
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 1: Even invested in a very girthy strap on. I show

1008
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: Jamila the strap on, and you didn't show it to

1009
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 1: me in person. Actually I see, well it's in my

1010
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 1: bedroom right now. I'll show it to you because okay,

1011
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 1: I want to see it. I showed Tumila and she

1012
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 1: was like, oh what. She's like, why is it that color?

1013
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, bitch, because it's my color. So

1014
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 1: I got a strap on that's very real. And I

1015
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 1: was just like, you know what, let me just like

1016
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:17,959
Speaker 1: go full fledged into my into exploring my my lesbianism

1017
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: or my interest in women. Still not fully convinced yet,

1018
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 1: I'm still still trying to see like if there's still

1019
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: like an undoing that needs to happen. Honestly, I don't

1020
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: want to force it, but like, I don't know, I do,

1021
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: like I fantasize about women all the time and like, but.

1022
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 2: Maybe you just like to have sex with the men

1023
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 2: that has mean you want to have a relationship or

1024
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 2: maybe the right one will come and you want to

1025
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 2: have a relationship with that one.

1026
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:39,719
Speaker 1: Maybe, but I have to like be open myself up

1027
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 1: to that, you know, And I feel like there might

1028
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: be like a block for me.

1029
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,320
Speaker 2: Okay, like why because it's just like woman, you just

1030
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 2: don't see yourself with one white wit is.

1031
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like maybe I could, maybe

1032
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: I could. I do love men. You're gonna be a

1033
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: late in life lesbian. I mean maybe if I had

1034
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 1: a late maybe I've had a girlfriend that and then

1035
00:47:57,040 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 1: we had like boyfriends, that would be cool.

1036
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 2: I guess I don't.

1037
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:06,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm realizing I'm kind of I think.

1038
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 2: I'm kind of kept territorial. I don't mean like you

1039
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 2: are territorial.

1040
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:11,879
Speaker 1: You are.

1041
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 4: I witnessed it all the time.

1042
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:17,400
Speaker 1: You were very free, but you are territorial.

1043
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 2: Hm free territorial. I'm so you're said a late in

1044
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 2: life lesbian. I've just done so much lesbian shit, like

1045
00:48:27,760 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 2: I've been flocked with a strap on so many times

1046
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 2: in my twenties that I'm good for life, and.

1047
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: I'm also I'm also not good for life.

1048
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 2: I don't really I have no interest in dildo's, I

1049
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 2: have no interest in trap ons. Like I just I'm good.

1050
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: I've done it.

1051
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 2: I've done a lot of it, and I'm just shocking

1052
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:47,720
Speaker 2: to me that you are now embarking on your journey.

1053
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 1: It's also shocking to me that I.

1054
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 2: Spent like a full three years being a lesbian and

1055
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 2: never have I stepped foot in a strap on. I'm

1056
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 2: kind of jealous, but it also as a lesbian, someone

1057
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 2: told me be careful of putting that strap on on

1058
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 2: because you get addicted to it. Really, could you like

1059
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 2: there some kind of power, like when you put a

1060
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 2: dick on, you like powerful?

1061
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. I felt pretty silly.

1062
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: I saw I don't know, I saw you something.

1063
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: I felt well when I when I went when when

1064
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: I showed it to her, she was one who basically

1065
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:15,360
Speaker 1: told me to get it, and then I got it

1066
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:17,000
Speaker 1: and she was like oh, And I was like, bitch,

1067
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 1: you told me. I don't know. I'm just exploring my

1068
00:49:25,719 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: options in twenty twenty one, I'm not It's not fuck

1069
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: these niggas, although sometimes it is.

1070
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 2: I mean, right now it is fucky this. I'm gonna

1071
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 2: tell you what it is. Fuck these niggas get money. Okay,

1072
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 2: except my two boyfriends shout out to you, just kidding.

1073
00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god, my new poll lifestyle. Eric is exploring

1074
00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:52,720
Speaker 2: lesbianism and me, I am now pale.

1075
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 1: Well, isn't Polly when they're all in a relationship.

1076
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:59,279
Speaker 2: Not necessarily not necessarily one of my Okay, so one

1077
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:00,799
Speaker 2: of my speaking of Polly, and we do have an

1078
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 2: episode called Polly Like a Pro, which maybe you need

1079
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 2: to go back and reduce me so you can go.

1080
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: I have to call Saphire. I'm gonna definitely have calls

1081
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 2: south Fire and just touch on some basis. I'm Holly basics,

1082
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 2: Polly basics, but you know, everyone's everyone's Polly looks different.

1083
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 2: And I'm realizing I'm reatching a lot this year. I

1084
00:50:20,239 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 2: don't know if it's the winter solstice, you know, the

1085
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:24,240
Speaker 2: winter sols. This is about a rebirth, it's about reflection,

1086
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 2: it's about hibernation. And they kind of call it a

1087
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 2: time where like a time of pregnancy. Oh no, no,

1088
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 2: not like you get pregnant physically, but like you're pregnant

1089
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:35,959
Speaker 2: with creativity and ideas, and this is the time where

1090
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 2: the next nine months, the next few years, that's where

1091
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Speaker 2: the shit will manifest.

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Speaker 1: It will be fruitful.

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00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 2: So you know, be really conscious of the work you

1094
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:46,320
Speaker 2: do on the dark side and like where you go

1095
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 2: inside yourself the reasons I need attention and the reasons

1096
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 2: I need love, and like trying to nif that in

1097
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 2: the butt. So just like not getting it for the

1098
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 2: wrong reasons. Because one of my boy both of my

1099
00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 2: boyfriends started out with other people. One of my friends

1100
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 2: have since dropped one of the person and I kind

1101
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,439
Speaker 2: of freaked out. My other boyfriend has someone and I'm

1102
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 2: open to we're gonna meet, I don't know anytime, like

1103
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 2: when we don't look in the same state, but I don't.

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00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to feel pressure to like have to

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00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 2: have a relationship with a third person, you know what

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00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 2: I mean. Like usually I'm such a people pleaser and

1107
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:19,760
Speaker 2: I'm just so go with the flow that I'm like, oh, whatever,

1108
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,760
Speaker 2: whatever's cool with you, it's cool with me, cool whatever,

1109
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 2: Like it's cool, Like I'll.

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Speaker 1: Be like that, Will it bother me?

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00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,239
Speaker 2: I'm like no, I'll be fine. A lot of things

1112
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,600
Speaker 2: I do is I'll be fine, or like I realize

1113
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: or like oh no, you eat this last piece. That's

1114
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 2: a terrible example, but like that's how I am. Sometimes

1115
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 2: I'm always thinking of someone else before myself. Like I'll

1116
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 2: like if I think someone's like waiting for me, like

1117
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:43,760
Speaker 2: I'll hold my peat like ridiculous things. It's a ridiculous thoughts.

1118
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 2: But it's true that I've had to really say, hey, bitch, no,

1119
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 2: go take care of yourself. That can wait. Oh no,

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00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 2: if you don't even feel a little bit comfortable with this,

1121
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 2: say no, don't even risk it just because like, oh

1122
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 2: well it will be okay, because I'm usually okay, I

1123
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,240
Speaker 2: am okay, but I'm just okay.

1124
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 1: It's like the baseline. Yes, that's what I'm saying.

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00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 2: I told you, I'm exercising my inner Erica, I by

1126
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 2: drawing more boundaries and not giving a fuck about saying no.

1127
00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:11,919
Speaker 2: Eric is one bitch. You don't give a fuck about

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00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 2: saying no. No, I don't want to do it, nope,

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00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,760
Speaker 2: uh uh nope, that's Erica.

1130
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 1: If I don't say no, it's on my face. I'm like,

1131
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,359
Speaker 1: well what about him?

1132
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 2: We Nope, I'm like fine, Eric, So I'm really exercising

1133
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 2: my inner Erica. I encourage you all to do the

1134
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 2: same thing. And if something is you don't want to

1135
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 2: do it, Nope, Nope, I don't. I don't want to

1136
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 2: and I don't really and I don't even feel like

1137
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 2: compelled to tell you why. It's just what it is.

1138
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 2: I said, So my first instinct just going with it

1139
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 2: because like I overly consider other people's feelings. I don't

1140
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:46,320
Speaker 2: even know how I got on this topic.

1141
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 1: No, it's a good one. I mean I think that

1142
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 1: that's something that you need to bring, obviously into twenty

1143
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: twenty one, is not overly giving people the you know,

1144
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: opportunity to take advantage, you know, because you feel awkward

1145
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:02,760
Speaker 1: or because you'll be okay, because either way you'll be okay.

1146
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 1: And it's like, well, do you want to be okay

1147
00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 1: or do you want to be fucking great? Yeah, I'm

1148
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 1: not like drained because you did some shit that like was.

1149
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:12,800
Speaker 2: I compromise because I just I wanted to make someone

1150
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 2: else happy because I'll do that shit.

1151
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1152
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I'm going to Mexico for Christmas for

1153
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:20,320
Speaker 2: two weeks.

1154
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:21,320
Speaker 1: But I'm meeting her there.

1155
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 2: Yes, this is like we said earlier, it has to

1156
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 2: be a great time to drink Patreon because the stories

1157
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 2: are going to be lit. We're making a down a

1158
00:53:27,560 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 2: deposit on a boat. We were meeting up with friends there.

1159
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 2: It's gonna be special guests. It's gonna be late. You're

1160
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 2: not gonna want to miss the close friends. Also, I've

1161
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 2: been putting some shit on there. I'm like, am I

1162
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 2: doing too much? Oh well, it's close friends.

1163
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 1: These don't get us deleted, like fucking all these other motherfuckers.

1164
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:42,800
Speaker 1: I'm so nervous.

1165
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 2: I know we're not sex workers, but this morning I did,

1166
00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:46,800
Speaker 2: I did. I was testing it. I did post a

1167
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 2: video of me dancing around not naked. But you know,

1168
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys know, I have a

1169
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 2: very large vagina. They call me fatty Caddy. So a

1170
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 2: lot of times, like panty's one lip is always like

1171
00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:59,240
Speaker 2: hanging out a little bit. It's not my full vagina.

1172
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 2: But you could see that lit poking on the side.

1173
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 2: And I like did a video with Luna dancing and

1174
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:05,200
Speaker 2: a body suit, and like four people were like, I

1175
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 2: could see your vagina. I'm like, listen, it's not her fault.

1176
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 1: She's fat.

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00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 2: It's not the full cat. Okay, it's just a little slither,

1178
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 2: relaxed slither what we did the BET Mother's Day Special

1179
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 2: TBT Mother's Day Special.

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Speaker 1: We have some things happening in twenty twenty one, you guys,

1181
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:22,319
Speaker 1: that are really exciting. Just put We're just putting all

1182
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: of our powers towards them, because honestly, the only reason

1183
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:28,799
Speaker 1: they're happening is because A we work our asses off,

1184
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 1: but B we've talked about it NonStop, not with you guys,

1185
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: but with one another. So I think for twenty twenty one,

1186
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:38,800
Speaker 1: my main goal is a getting to the bag moving.

1187
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 1: I want to move so bad. I've lived in this

1188
00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: house for over six years, just so many memories here

1189
00:54:44,160 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 1: with my ex, and I've tried to reimagine it five

1190
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 1: hundred bucking thousand times. I've painted it, I've hung shit,

1191
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: I've moved shit, and it's great and everyone comes over

1192
00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 1: and they love my crib, but like, I'm over it.

1193
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: So that's a goal of mine, making all my dreams

1194
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:01,280
Speaker 1: come true. Maybe all our dreams come true that we've

1195
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 1: that we've worked so hard for up until this point,

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00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,399
Speaker 1: and so I don't know. Just giving me strength for

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00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 1: like six and seven.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, give us strength, give us strength for six

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Speaker 2: and seven and beyond, and like I just please guide

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00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:17,279
Speaker 2: us to make to be the best moms we can be,

1201
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 2: and like make the right choices because Lord knows we're

1202
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,319
Speaker 2: going to fuck up somewhere. It's no, it's impossible to

1203
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 2: not fuck up, but like just let us fuck up

1204
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: in the best possible ways, and like they really know

1205
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 2: themselves and let Lena go to private school with ire

1206
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 2: please bring please, please God, and yeah, that all our

1207
00:55:37,560 --> 00:55:39,359
Speaker 2: dreams come true, which I know they are a girl.

1208
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 2: That's like one thing I don't I don't even I

1209
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,160
Speaker 2: really don't even question.

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00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:46,720
Speaker 1: No, I don't question it and manifest I think everything

1211
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 1: till this point. I think it's like, oh my god,

1212
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:52,560
Speaker 1: it's coming, It's coming. And also that's scary. And also

1213
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: I know in twenty twenty one, I know this year

1214
00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: like because we're inside so much, we were like fucking brewing,

1215
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 1: like little fucking witches and worker bees and shit, twenty

1216
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:06,479
Speaker 1: twenty one is like the year of like coming out,

1217
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: coming out, And also like I know that even actually

1218
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 1: in my relationship, what I realize is I don't have

1219
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 1: good boundaries and work and and just like trying to

1220
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:20,360
Speaker 1: get everything done and so I think that that's something

1221
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:23,320
Speaker 1: that I really need to focus on. And that also

1222
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 1: like just creating more real present time, like being really

1223
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:36,799
Speaker 1: present with Iri because she's she's fucking growing up so

1224
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:40,440
Speaker 1: nast and I'm like, have I been present? Right? Like

1225
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,359
Speaker 1: there's things I just don't remember and I'm just gonna

1226
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:44,239
Speaker 1: ask me and I'd be like, I don't know, and

1227
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:47,040
Speaker 1: it's like, how I just want to be way more

1228
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: present in twenty twenty one. I feel like that's something

1229
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:50,760
Speaker 1: that I really really.

1230
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 2: Really want to focus on me too, putting my fucking

1231
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,879
Speaker 2: phone down and just being like very very present. Yeah.

1232
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I look forward to those that.

1233
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 2: And just doing better being a better version of myself.

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00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 2: I look forward to knowing that I can be a

1235
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 2: better version of myself and that I'm about to be

1236
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 2: a better version of myself, and that every day is

1237
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 2: a practice in being intentional and being a better mom,

1238
00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:15,879
Speaker 2: a better friend, a better person to a better human,

1239
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 2: being a better person than myself. I'm just I'm seeing

1240
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:23,960
Speaker 2: the little progress of the work that I've done, and

1241
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 2: it makes me excited to continue to work on myself.

1242
00:57:28,240 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 1: Amen. Amen.

1243
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 2: And then also this.

1244
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 1: Year has been so fucking hard.

1245
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 2: We could do anything I mean it's I got pass

1246
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 2: this shit. Whoa Lord Jesus, Yes.

1247
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:41,439
Speaker 1: Yes you can, we can. We will the end.

1248
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 2: Happy about the fucking Mary Holidays.

1249
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 1: We love you, guys. We're so grateful for you guys.

1250
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 1: You guys have fucked with us hard this year. You

1251
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: guys have supported us. You guys have cracked us up.

1252
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: Sent us nudes. Thank you, thank so much for those nudes.

1253
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: Love them. More nudes, more nudes please. We apparently can't

1254
00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 1: say we want nuds on Instagram. Oh yeah, we can't

1255
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 1: solicit news. Can't delicit nudes. We're gonna getur account deleted,

1256
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 1: so just send them. Just surprise us with a nude. Also,

1257
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 1: we need a lot more horror stories in twenty twenty one.

1258
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:11,840
Speaker 1: I don't know, like stories of just like hope and happiness.

1259
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 1: Whatever you want to share with us, just share please.

1260
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 1: We want to know about what's going on. I love

1261
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 1: when I get messages from our people. Me too, Girling man,

1262
00:58:19,480 --> 00:58:20,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what's happening.

1263
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, ooh, we love you. Hope you enjoy your

1264
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 2: holiday and get drunk on that motherfucking eggnog. Get drunk,

1265
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 2: and if you have a second after you've listened to

1266
00:58:30,600 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 2: this episode, make sure you go rate and review us

1267
00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 2: on Apple Podcasts.

1268
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:35,480
Speaker 1: I would appreciate it.

1269
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 2: Scroll all the way down, keep scrolling, keep scalling, keep scrolling,

1270
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 2: keeps calling. Then there'll be a button that says leave

1271
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 2: the rate in our review.

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00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, they try to hate, but that's there. It's there,

1273
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 1: and we would appreciate it for Christmas. Thank you, especially

1274
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:50,720
Speaker 1: if you're not going to join Patreon. It's the least

1275
00:58:50,760 --> 00:58:51,880
Speaker 1: you can leave a review.

1276
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 2: Okay, we get times is hard, but that is free.

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Speaker 1: Thanks. Anyway, we'll talk to you guys next week. Bye.

1278
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 2: Hey guys, have you joined Patreon, where we offer even

1279
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 2: more juicy content.

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00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 1: Yes, y'all. We have secret episodes, secret segments, and some

1281
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:16,360
Speaker 1: very personal blog posts that we don't share on the interwebs.

1282
00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:19,360
Speaker 1: So make sure you go check out our patreon. That's

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00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 1: patreon dot com, backslash, Good Mom's Bad Choices.

1284
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 2: Here's a little sneak peek.

1285
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 1: Have you guys ever seen Santa?

1286
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:29,439
Speaker 2: Yeah?

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00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:35,600
Speaker 8: Hello, we watched shows sometimes. Now I saw Santa, this

1288
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 8: fake Santas and the shows. But I saw Santa before

1289
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 8: I saw Santa as my peaked. It was nighttime. It

1290
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 8: was a Patriot sound the real Santa.

1291
00:59:49,320 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 1: You saw the real Santa? Mm hmm, girl, because I looked.

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00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 3: In the window and this sounds reindeer.

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00:59:55,080 --> 00:59:58,439
Speaker 1: How does Santa get into houses that don't have chimneys?

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00:59:59,120 --> 00:59:59,400
Speaker 3: Oh?

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00:59:59,440 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 8: I know, they just have He just has powerser can

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Speaker 8: open the door. He doesn't have a car, but he

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Speaker 8: hasn't a sled, but he just parked anywhere