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Speaker 1: Still the Place with Laura Layton, Courtney Thorne Smith.

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Speaker 2: And Daphne's Aniga an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 3: Melro's Minute Goals.

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Speaker 1: We're bad.

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Speaker 3: I have a lot of time, Ladies. Some stuff happened

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Speaker 3: this week.

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Speaker 1: It did happen this week. So Molrow's has been a

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Speaker 1: bit in the news because Kristin Davis on her podcast

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Speaker 1: talked about pressure to be thin on Molrow's Place. Mm hmmm, yeah,

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Speaker 1: So I'm just curious. Did you experience anything like pressure

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Speaker 3: I'm just curious about you think.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm starting to learn your sarcasm. Court Gold, you

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Speaker 2: love shooting dancing scenes.

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Speaker 3: I'm like yeah, and you're like, I hate it.

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Speaker 2: Didn't we as young actresses get pressure to stay thin?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, No, that's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Somebody said to me. She was talking about pressure to

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Speaker 1: stay thin on Melow's Place, and I thought, and when

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Speaker 1: I read closer, it wasn't overt pressure. It was that

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Speaker 1: she felt the pressure because she got into this world

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Speaker 1: where everyone looked thin and fit, and there's pressure, there's

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Speaker 1: a tension on you. There's a lot of soul actress.

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Speaker 1: She was an actress, so there were a couple of

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Speaker 1: things who said things. We can get to that in

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Speaker 1: a minute, but I think that's how it felt, right

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Speaker 1: Like I don't think anyone ever said to me you

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Speaker 1: need to be thin, but there was this competition and

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Speaker 1: this sense in the press, and when you're going to fittings,

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Speaker 1: like imagine going to fittings and standing in front of

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Speaker 1: a big mirror and have them put clothes on you

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Speaker 1: several times a week. It's psychological like And when I

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Speaker 1: was thinner. It's interesting because even though when I was

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Speaker 1: really dieting, had thought about food all the time, I

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Speaker 1: didn't have to think about it when I was working.

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Speaker 1: So it was like which devil do you pick? Do

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Speaker 1: you pick the devil where you're constantly dieting and exercising.

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Speaker 1: And I do remember that as a big part of

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Speaker 1: Mero's place, right Like I would wake up no matter

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Speaker 1: what my call time was, it was six. I woke

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Speaker 1: up at four. I had a big cup of coffee,

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Speaker 1: and I exercised, and I remember being very aware of everything.

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Speaker 1: I ate it exhausting.

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Speaker 3: Of course that was the era.

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Speaker 4: Well, it's a particular business, like what other what other

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Speaker 4: industry and what other business is gonna, you know, make

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Speaker 4: women feel even more pressure to to be a certain

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Speaker 4: way or certain shape or certain size.

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Speaker 3: I mean, then we're doing it.

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Speaker 2: We're yeah, we're doing it on camera, and we're we're.

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Speaker 4: Faced with it in the mirror, and it's like, it's

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Speaker 4: just a particular business. It's not it's not the healthiest

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Speaker 4: you know, mindset for any of us.

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Speaker 2: Listen, guys, I'm pulling up Kristin Davis what she actually said,

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Speaker 2: and I'm not sure it was the producers.

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Speaker 3: I think it may have been a co star of ours.

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Speaker 2: That made her all neurotic. If you can guess, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna give you one guess. Is too freaked Kristin Davis

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Speaker 2: out about her weight on our show? Would it be

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Speaker 2: Heather No, No, Doug No, I mean Grant Andrew never.

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Speaker 3: Who does that leave Thomas Collabora. Okay, now tell us

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Speaker 3: tell us what was saying.

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Speaker 2: Well, her memory was that Thomas Collabora said, hey, Kristen,

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Speaker 2: I think you look great, and she's like, yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 3: He's like, yeah, I know the producers are really worried,

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Speaker 3: but I think it's great that we have a woman

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Speaker 1: Oh, which I really should be a compliment, but it's not.

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Speaker 1: I honestly think he meant it as a compliment. But

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Speaker 1: I think that I honestly think he twisted it.

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Speaker 3: I don't know effing way.

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Speaker 4: Come on, Well, Thomas has a way of putting his

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Speaker 4: foot in his mouth. But I think you're probably right, Cord.

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Speaker 4: He probably meant it as a compliment, but it's like

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Speaker 4: a little bit of like foot in his mouth.

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Speaker 3: Collabra. You guys are so she was very thin.

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Speaker 1: So that's interesting about it, right, We get so warped,

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Speaker 1: and I think it's hard for people to really understand,

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Speaker 1: Like you hear TV puts on ten pounds, TV puts

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Speaker 1: on ten pounds, I can't. My girlfriends used to get

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Speaker 1: way too aware of dieting and exercise. I talked a

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Speaker 1: So when you're getting that message as you're walking through

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Speaker 1: you look so much bigger on TV, and my heart

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Speaker 3: And no, they said it nicely.

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Speaker 2: This is what they always said, at least this is

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Speaker 2: what I heard. You look so much thinner in person,

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Speaker 3: Those millions of people that are.

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Speaker 1: Seeing me are like up right really spread the word

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Speaker 4: It's either word or bit of a backhanded compliment, right,

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Speaker 4: like you can't sort of shake that. I mean, I

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Speaker 4: remember like feeling when I got on like, oh, I

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Speaker 4: I really was like, oh my god, Josie Beuse that

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Speaker 4: it's like, oh, I am not shaped like that at all,

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Speaker 4: So just deciding that all right, I'm just gonna have

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Speaker 4: all those things that you nitpick about yourself.

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Speaker 3: I mean I felt like that television show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my clothes were all baggy and stuff, like she

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Speaker 3: And when I started, I think I was a size

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Speaker 2: This is the air they introduced, like zero, Like what

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Speaker 2: So I remember that kind of like the numbers that

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Speaker 2: you guys are talking about Courtney in my mind, you.

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Speaker 4: Know those numbers like are they're they're different for every

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Speaker 3: Every brand is different anyway. Like it's just, oh, it's

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Speaker 3: Like how do you relate to it? Deal with it?

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Speaker 2: You've we've mentioned before Courtney, and not as tough on yourself.

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Speaker 1: Or oh my god, by the grace of God, I

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Speaker 1: you know, so for me when I finally decided to

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Speaker 3: And then I was on ale Mcfeel.

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Speaker 1: Which is even more oh my god heart. And what

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Speaker 2: Well, also, you think it's private, you think it's just

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Speaker 2: you and you're the person wrong. You can't stay a

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Speaker 3: All in your head.

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Speaker 2: And then you realize you know you because you're on

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Speaker 2: all of us in our own heads. There wasn't like,

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Speaker 1: I think, yeah, it was exactly. I thought it was

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Speaker 1: first diet. So it's that first time when you start

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Speaker 1: don't think people talk about enough is that they morph. So,

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Speaker 1: That was easy. But when with eating disorders, it morphed.

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Speaker 2: This is before Melrose. This is ten years before Melrose.

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Speaker 2: You know, the hair falling out, losing the period, having

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Speaker 2: the core of it is the sense of self your

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Speaker 2: self love. You really, you're just comfortable beating yourself up,

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Speaker 2: starving yourself, depriving yourself. And two books that I read

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Speaker 2: that I really loved was Janine raw I loved Food

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Speaker 2: And then I also read The Only Diet There Is

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Speaker 2: and I gave it to my girlfriend and she's like,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to read it because the word diet's

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Speaker 3: But I said, you've got to read it. It was

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Speaker 2: The first time I started to see every time, what

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Speaker 2: is my thought process about deprivation, about not eating?

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Speaker 3: What am I saying to myself?

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Speaker 2: It's gets you more in touch with your negative self

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Speaker 2: support that, it doesn't mean you're going to gain weight.

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Speaker 3: It means you're.

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Speaker 2: Gonna probably make choices that make you feel good. But

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Speaker 2: and being scared and not liking yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the starving leads to the binging, leads to the

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Speaker 1: it's the whole process.

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Speaker 3: So it's learning.

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Speaker 1: It is that self life of learning when you're hungry

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Speaker 1: We wish you'd talk to us.

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Speaker 4: We all were stressing. We had this wonderful conversation. But

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Speaker 3: Podcast something O. Yes, that would be great.

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Speaker 2: Other Memories Melrose Memories.

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Speaker 4: Thanks for tuning into the Melrose Minute. Be sure to

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Speaker 4: tune into Heather locklier Part one. It is up right

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Speaker 2: Part two drops more adventures and memories with Heather Locklear.

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