WEBVTT - Second Date Update UPDATE: A Christmas Quarrel 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.720 You know, a lot of times we do second date 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:04.720 update updates to find out what couples have been up 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:07.920 to since they agreed to go out again, but rarely, 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.600 actually never have we ever done one with a pair 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:14.240 who said they had no interest in seeing each other 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.119 for a second time. That's true because it's hard to 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:19.480 do an update on something that never happened yet. So 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:22.920 that is, until today, we could not believe we got 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.840 an email from one particular couple. We'll play the audio 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.520 for you and then get the brand new update from 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:34.760 them right afterwards in your second date update update right now, 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:42.000 Rooking Jewels Second date Update. Every guy knows this feeling, 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:47.240 walking through the mom, just looking around, doing some shopping, 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:49.920 proving out to the music, Maybe gonna head over to 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:53.559 pack son and pick up some new flip flops for 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:56.320 a vacation you haven't schanduled yet. Who knows, Man, It's crazy. 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.480 You have the mom and then you look over there 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:03.040 and you're like, oh, hello, is that a lady. There's 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:04.640 probably a lot of them at the mall. So you 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.679 go up and talk to that attractive lady, ask her 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:10.560 a question, introduce yourself, tell her she looks beautiful, and 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:13.680 she doesn't answer you, so you're like, man, she's playing 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:15.920 hard to get, so you just keep talking and you 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.560 keep talking, and then all of a sudden security comes 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:20.440 and grabs you and takes you out of the store 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:24.400 for harassing a mannequin. That happens to me on a 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:28.440 lot of occasions, but apparently, in today's second date update, 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:31.000 Kendra is on the phone a guy came up and 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.840 approached her in the mall, and Kendra is not a mannequin. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:38.040 She is a real life female woman. This, Paul would 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:42.520 be really awkward if she was. What's up, Kendra? Hi, Yes, 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:47.039 it's true, I'm not the Manian nice. Yeah, so your 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:48.600 email said that you met the dude you want to 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.560 call today at the mall. Yeah, that's impressive. That is 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:55.160 like old school style at the mall. Yeah, no online dating. Yeah, 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:57.400 so I actually work at the mall. I work at 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:01.680 a department store in the perfume section. Oh okay, yeah, yeah, 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.440 how are you meeting men in the perfume section. Well, 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.720 it's sort of like a culmination of perfumes and cologns 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.240 or in the same areas. Okay, I was gonna say, 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:12.160 if he's buying perfume, do not believe him that it's 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:16.160 for his mother. Yeah. No. He came out to me 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.880 and is asking me about like which cologne he should 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:22.080 buy and what I'd recommend, and so I was giving 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:25.240 him my thoughts on a few different ones and he 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:29.079 just he was like, well, what's your favorite one? And oh, 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:31.560 that's a line right there that is yeah. Oh yeah. 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.160 Anytime that I've ever hit on a woman at the mall, 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:35.960 that's always what I do, like, well, what shirt do 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:39.440 you like best? Do you like the way these fit more? 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:42.280 I would just take that as a sign of an 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:46.000 indecisive person. I had no idea. There's usually an arterior motive, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.560 but they usually never pick up on it. They're like, 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:51.120 well I like that one, but honestly, that one shows 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.760 a little bit of your love handles for your body frame. 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.480 I wouldn't wear it, and they're like all right. So 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.919 he asked you what your favorite one is? Yeah, and 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.440 I told him and then he's like, great, I'll take 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.960 that one. So after I rang him up, he was like, 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.560 so I was wondering if I wear this, will you 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:11.520 go out with me? Oh that's kind of cute. Yeah, 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.920 that's a good line. And that's when you called him 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:18.960 all security, No. I mean I thought it was really cute. 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:21.600 And also it's like the fact that he bought it 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.040 and then asked me out. You know, it's not like 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:25.919 he was saying, well, you know, I'm only going to 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:27.440 buy this if you go out with me, kind of 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.880 like you already bought it, which was really it would 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:32.240 have been funny if you said no and then he 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:36.840 returned it right there. All right, so you guys agreed 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:38.640 to go out. When did you actually have a date, 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.920 like a few days after that? Okay, we've got dinner 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:45.840 and so yeah, it was really nice and he you know, 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:50.000 you wore that cologne and he smelled really good. So 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.080 I mean, obviously you're doing a second date. Update. So 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:54.160 you liked the guy? Were you pleasantly surprised though you've 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.440 known him for two seconds at your job when you're 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.440 helping him out buy some cologne and now you're at 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:03.680 dinner with him. I was surprised at like how awesome 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:08.200 our chemistry was. We had a really great conversation, and 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:12.400 I guess I was really tickled that how we kind 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:21.960 of played with each other and oh well not physically sickling, 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.440 but so like with our word you know, just like 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:28.400 play jokes back and forth kind of thing. So it 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:32.200 was a lighthearted conversation. Yeah. At one point I had 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:36.799 gotten a little worried because he started off saying like, hey, 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.320 you know, um, I know this is the first date, 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:41.720 but I think I need to kill him, clean it 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:48.320 out something whoa that? Yeah? And I was like, oh, shoot, 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:51.280 like you just come out of prison or like this, Yeah, 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.120 what what is this? So it's like I have to 0:04:55.160 --> 0:05:00.160 admit something. I actually was not interested in buying cloth own. 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.640 I just wanted to talk to you. I knew it. 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:05.720 It just sounded like a line to me. So what 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:08.560 does that mean? He had been to the department store 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.760 before and like kind of stocked you a little bit, 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:12.920 and so I don't I don't think so. I mean, 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:15.240 I think it's it's more like he was, I don't know, 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.800 passing by like sometimes like you're walking, you know, through 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:20.800 the entrance to get another part, and then I guess 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.960 you just saw me and then decides that you want 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.720 to talk to me. That's a compliment. Right When he 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:28.520 said that to me, it was it was really I 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:32.320 don't know, flattering, because he specifically, you know, played this 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.920 whole act to get to talk to me and ask 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:37.800 me out. Go back to your date. What happened? So 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:40.560 the date was going so well that we actually ended 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:43.359 up sharing and for the for me, like, this is 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:48.200 something that's never happened before. We started talking a little 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:52.880 bit about our future together. What like two of you 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:56.479 were just in general, well, okay, so I was talking 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.560 about my mom and he was like, oh my god, 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:03.400 that's how just like my mom. And then we you know, 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:06.880 we started sharing things about our moms and we were like, 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:09.680 oh my god, they're so similar, like they would get 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:13.320 along so well. And then he was like, yeah, it 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:15.160 would be kind of cool if you met my mom. 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:18.960 What were you like, I mean, what was your reaction 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:21.679 to that? Well, to be honest, it actually it didn't 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:26.480 feel weird. It actually felt natural, Like it just felt 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:29.719 comfortable between the two of us. That's the one thing 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.719 that I could think of, Like maybe he got spooked 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.240 because we were already talking about a future and he 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:38.120 already mentioned like meeting his mom. But but the thing is, 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:39.680 I didn't bring that up, you know what I mean, 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.320 Like that was his thing. He's the one who brought 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:46.839 it up. So he scared himself. Yeah, yeah, I guess 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:50.680 scared himself, so maybe he read the situation differently than you. 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:52.280 Like you're like, oh, this feels normal, and to him 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:54.120 it might have fel awkward. Yeah. I mean that's the 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.640 only thing that I can possibly think about. How did 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.880 everything end? Um? He walked me back to my car 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.839 are and like he just kind of stood there, and 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:06.240 I thought he was gonna kiss me. So you know, 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:09.480 I was trying to be open, you know, ready to receive. 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.760 But how did that happen? You just stand there with 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.240 like your legs and your arms open, like kind of 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.000 like a gingerbread man. Like, in case this happens, I 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.920 want you to know my body language. I'm wide open 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:21.880 for it. You sometimes have to be that direct with men. No, 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.280 I mean like I was just, you know, ready for 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:28.160 him to make a move, but then he just gave 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:33.240 me a really big hug and then he said call me. 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.600 I don't think that's bad though. I mean some guys 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:38.320 either maybe he missed his moment he felt like, or 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:41.560 he doesn't kiss on the first date. Not all guys do. Well, 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:43.720 I mean that's what I was thinking at first. But 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:48.160 it's been two weeks now and he hasn't responded any 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:50.560 of my text. I really wanted this to work out 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:53.600 for you. Yeah, okay, well we'll play a song, come 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:55.680 back call him and get your second date update. All right, 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:04.080 jubil in the morning if you're just joining us for 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.680 today's second date update. Kendra is on the phone and 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.200 today she wants to call a guy named Ryan who 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.679 is not calling her back. And she really liked Ryan, 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:16.040 mostly because they have the same mom. Yeah, that's what 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:19.160 she said. They have the same mom, and so she 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:22.080 really liked him and they bonded. They went out to 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:25.760 dinner and bonded at dinner talking about their mothers because 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:27.840 she was like, my mom's like this, she's crazy lady. 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.600 And he was like, my mom's exactly the same way. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:31.440 She's crazy La too. We should totally have her mom's 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:32.880 meet And I guess they had a really in depth 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.800 conversation about their families and future and all that stuff. 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:37.560 But that's the reason she thinks she might not be 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:39.880 getting a call back from Ryan is because maybe he 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:41.160 took it the other way and it seemed like a 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.760 little too much too soon on their first date. Kindra, 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:48.400 are you ready to call your kind of brother? I'm 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:52.679 ready to call Ryan? All right? Well, I'm gonna dial 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:54.520 his phone number right now, see if we can get 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:56.040 him on the phone and find out why he doesn't 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:58.920 want to see you again. Okay, it sounds mean like that, 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.720 why he doesn't want to call you back? All right? 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:11.440 Here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Ryan please? 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:14.680 This is him? Hey, what's up Ryan? How are you? 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:16.600 This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:21.720 It's a radio show. Okay, I didn't. I don't think 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.320 I entered to winning anything. Is this is about you 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:26.840 didn't enter to win anything? No? We do a segment 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.000 on our show called the second Date Update. Have you 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:32.360 ever heard of that before? No? I haven't. All right, 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.000 it's where if you go out on a date with 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.600 somebody and then end up not calling them back after 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.720 they email us to see if we can get you 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.880 on the phone and find out why. That's kind of strange. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:44.319 But yeah, and the girl that emailed us about you 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:50.559 is named Kendra. Oh she emailed you. Yeah, she emailed 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:52.680 us because she said that she had a really good 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.280 time with you, but you haven't responded to anything. So 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:56.839 she asked us to get you on the phone and 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:58.920 see if we could figure out why you don't want 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.640 to go out with her again. Yeah, I don't really 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:05.160 want to talk about it. Wait, so there's a reason. Well, yeah, 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.520 there's a reason. I mean, I'm not I'm not just 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:10.040 some kind of ask blows people off for no reason, 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:11.800 Like if I had liked her, I would have called 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.240 her back. Yeah, and that's why she's confused, because she 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.120 thought you liked her. I'm sorry, that's that's just was 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.960 in the case. I thought you liked her. I mean, 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:22.960 the way she described it, it it sounds like you were 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.680 super into her. I mean I thought I liked her 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:27.559 at the start, but by the end of the day 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:33.480 that was definitely questioning that. So what changed then? I 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.680 really don't want to talk about it. Isn't this enough? 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.160 I haven't I told you enough? No, Actually, you just 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:40.439 I've actually piqued our interest more because he said there's 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.040 a problem. But now we don't know what it is. 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:45.040 Because here's the thing. She wants to know. She's been 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:48.520 racking her brains, she's been thinking about you NonStop. I really, 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:52.320 she sounds like a really nice person. Can you at 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:55.040 least just do her the favor If she really wants 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:56.720 to know, you can just tell her that it was 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:00.200 it was when we started talking about our families. Don't 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:02.719 know what that means. I don't. Honestly, I don't think 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.000 she will, because when we talked to her, she said 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:07.080 that when you guys started talking about your moms and 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.520 your families, that was when you both perked up and 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:13.160 thought everything was even better. Yeah. No, no, that's when 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:16.600 things really took a churn. That was not she okay. 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:21.400 She said that you were like our mom should meet. Yeah. 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.880 At that point I thought everything was going really well. 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:27.160 But then she got a little rude about the family thing. 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:29.680 It just shed a little too far, she like, rip 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:35.600 on your mom. No. No, Basically, we were talking about family, 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:39.600 and we got talking about the holidays, and she sort 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:42.800 of made a joke. She said, well, you know, if 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:45.160 things work out between us, you're going to spend the 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:49.000 holidays at my place. And so I tried to joke back, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:52.440 basically saying, oh, well, next year we'll started at my place. 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:54.840 You know that, like an every other year sort of thing. Yeah, 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.320 that's actually kind of cute, right, Yeah, it was sort 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:59.439 of a cute, too little joke, but all of a 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.440 sudden she got really serious about it. Whoa, what do 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.960 you mean? She got serious about it. Well, she refused 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:08.320 to even acknowledge this joke and was like, well, no, 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:11.160 we're spending it in my place every year or nothing 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:15.520 at all. I was like, no, we can switch off 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:18.080 every other year. That's the normal way to do things. 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.000 So now you're having an argument that people usually have, 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:23.520 I don't know, a couple of years into her relationship 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:25.640 on a first date exactly. I mean, she got so 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.160 defensive about it. She's like, I have a huge family 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:30.559 and I never missed Christmas, and so you're going to 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.360 have to compromise and come to my Christmas every single year. 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:37.440 I kind of get herself like one of the reasons 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.439 I love my husband and knew it would work out 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:42.400 is because his family does Solstice. They don't even do Christmas. 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.160 So I'm like, I own it. Yeah, well, unfortunately my 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:48.920 family doesn't do a Solstice or anything. Still, I would 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:51.760 be missing my family's Christmas to go to her family 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:55.120 every year. It was unreasonable. I mean, you don't think 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:57.040 that there's maybe a way you could come to a 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.839 conclusion later on down the road. No, not at all. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:06.400 There's no reasoning with Kendra. She's basically squatting on Christmas 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:10.559 and saying this is my day, It's not yours, it's mine. 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:15.800 For the rest of the time, it was absurd still 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:19.480 together to me? Is that bad? Hey? Ryan, I want 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:21.520 to let you know that Kendra is actually on the 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:24.880 phone listening right now and wants to talk to you. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:28.559 She stop. Yeah she is, Kendra. Say hi, if you're 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:33.360 still there, Hi Ryan? Wow? Oh my god? Yeah? So 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:37.440 what this whole thing was a setup? Kind of Yeah? Look, Ryan, 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:42.080 I told you that Christmas is really important to me. Okay. 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.240 I remember you saying that, and I just thought it 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:47.840 was ridiculous. Well okay, Well if it's ridiculous, that means 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:50.080 that Christmas is not important to you, which means you 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.760 can spend it at my place. Well that's pretty good point. No, 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:55.760 of course Christmas is important to me. That was not 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.960 even what That was not even what you were saying 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.960 on this day though. You were saying that Christmas was 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:03.920 more important to you than it would ever be to me. Basic. 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.439 So I never said that. I never said that. You're 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:10.319 you're putting words in my mouth. No, that is essentially 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:12.400 what you were saying to me. Ken No, I told 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.360 you I have a big family. I have never missed 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:19.280 Christmas once in my life. Okay, and this is the 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:21.200 only time I get to see some of my relatives. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.520 And just because I start dating someone, that doesn't mean that, 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:25.880 like suddenly I'm going to start missing Christmas. You guys 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:27.840 have been on one date. What are you doing? I 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.200 think I don't have a family too. No, I know 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.800 you have a family. We talked about it. Your family 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.880 can come to my place and stund Christmas with my family, 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.880 but it's going to be at my house. You already 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:42.400 know my family lists far away. It's not even easy 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.600 for them to get together for Christmas with my own family, 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.680 let alone your family. Okay, well you know what, Like 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.960 I mean, some of them already coming from different parts 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:52.320 of the country, so they might as well just come 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:57.040 over here and all be together. And absurd, Oh my god, 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.240 what is happening right now? It's not absurd. I'm telling 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:04.240 you your family can come to my place. It'll be great. 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.520 But like that's it, Like we can compromise and that 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.000 you'll get to see your family, you'll get to have 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.720 a Christmas, but it's going to be at my place. 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.000 You're being so selfish. It's no wonder that you don't 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:19.640 have a boyfriend Okay, look who's talking mister. I don't 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.680 have a girlfriend yet. That's true. You got some common 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:27.000 ground there, a single at least, I will say, kedre. 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:29.520 I mean, isn't there like a way like maybe you 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:33.120 guys could do Christmas Eve at his place Christmas Morning 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:36.600 at your place? There is no compromising on this. I 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:40.720 get all of Christmas, including Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:44.960 and afternoon. You get all the other holidays, like all 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:50.280 of them. I don't care, but I have Christmas. I 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:54.880 get Harbor Day, Flag Day. Like no one even celebrates 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.000 your holidays. I mean like you could do those days 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:01.640 if you wanted to. But I mean, like, come on, 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:07.600 like fireworks and the important holiday at those fine, but 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:10.320 Christmas is the only important one to me. So you 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:13.280 get an important one. I get an important one. Do 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:16.120 you guys realize that this is all a hypothetical conversation 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.520 because you've only been on one date. It's not hypothetical, 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:23.160 this is real. I mean, if I promise you, if 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.640 you just one Christmas, just try it out and come 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.680 to my place, you will understand what I'm talking about. 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.440 You're gonna love it. I mean, your family will love 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:37.360 it because it's amazing. It's like I can't even describe. 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:39.440 You'll just fall in love with it and then you 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:43.240 won't even want to have Christmas any other place. Yeah, 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:46.280 that's exactly what you do, isn't it. What do you mean, 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.440 that's exactly what you want? You really in for one 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:51.800 Christmas and then I'm stepped there for the rest of 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:57.160 my damn life. No, No, I'm not feeling okay, really, 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.920 your first one, don't care how good pressure you are 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:03.920 on your own. All the other Christmas you would want 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.959 to come to my place? Well, you guys have to 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:12.000 go out again. Yeah, you're dating already. You realize that, right. 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.920 I think you guys are married. Actually you don't know it, 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:18.480 but you've only been on one date. Ryan, would you 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:20.600 like to go out on one more date with Kendra? 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:23.320 You guys can have a discussion about this in private 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.320 if you want, we will pay for a second date. 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:28.000 Will you go out with Kendra again? Please? It doesn't 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.800 even sound like Kendra wants to go out with me. No. 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.399 I mean I like you. I think you're great. I 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:36.639 just we have this disagreement and if we could just 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:41.080 work this one issue out, then I think this relationship 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:44.440 could possibly work. Okay, so she is open to going 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:46.480 out with you again, Ryan, would you do it? We 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.040 will pay for a second date. I would consider it, 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.680 and I will try. It would past all the mean 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:56.040 things she's just said, only if she will consider spending 0:17:56.119 --> 0:17:59.560 Christmas one time at my family's place. Oh that's a 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:02.960 good day, Kendra, just once. Man, Absolutely not never happening. 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:09.800 Are you serious? Okay, so good deal. So that's a no, Kendred. 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.280 You don't want to go out with Ryan again because 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.480 he wants to spend maybe one Christmas with his family. 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.000 That is a capital end capital Oh dude, but what 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:17.520 if you like fell in love with him and you 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:20.959 guys started having your own Christmases. At some point, I 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:24.720 will always be spending Christmas with my family. Ryan, You 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:27.879 and your stupid family can go have your little Christmas together. 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:31.920 But I'm not going on a second date with you. Sorry. Right, well, 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:34.840 I think that's enough for the second date update. I 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:38.600 don't know. I don't know what happened, but I think 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:41.160 it was a second date update. Yes, I'm not sure, 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:44.720 like I was listening to a married couple argue. But Kendra, 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.480 sorry you didn't get a second date. But at least 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:50.320 I don't care anymore? Okay, cool. Well, one thing the 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:52.480 second day update has taught me is I'm even more 0:18:52.600 --> 0:18:54.800 thankful now than ever before that I don't talk to 0:18:54.840 --> 0:19:00.359 my family very much. It's broken jewel. And then morning 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:03.639 you just heard a very contentious second date update from 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:07.720 last year with Kendra and Ryan, and believe it or not, 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:11.480 they're actually on the phone with us again. Kendra and Ryan, 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:16.600 how are you guys doing well? Good? All right? Yeah, 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:18.080 it sounds a lot friendly er. I need to be honest. 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:20.240 When our producers said that you had emailed the show 0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:23.280 with an update, I thought they were joking. I was like, 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:25.680 what's the update. They're still not talking and they still 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:29.680 hate each other, but apparently you two had some news 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:33.280 that you wanted to share with us. Are you guys together? Yeah, 0:19:34.200 --> 0:19:44.160 believe it or not? Rough, Yeah, yeah, seriously. Actually after that, 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:47.800 I did not have any intention of seeing him again. 0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:51.000 I was so angry. Really, I couldn't have picked that 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:52.719 up on the phone call at all, that you were angry? 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.040 She hit it. Well, yeah, To be honest, I did 0:19:55.040 --> 0:19:59.600 not see us really having a future either. Who though 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:04.760 I did. Actually, yeah, would you just text him a 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.119 middle finger? And then you guys started talking again. No, 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:11.240 so okay, Like when you guys played it on the radio, 0:20:11.560 --> 0:20:14.840 A lot of my friends and family hurt it, and 0:20:15.240 --> 0:20:17.720 they gave me a really hard time and they were 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:19.840 just like, I don't know what you're doing. You guys 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:24.840 have incredible chemistry, and you can't agree on one thing 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.920 Christmas and basically either just like you made a major mistake. 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:33.399 And even my grandma was like, even my grandma was like, 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:38.200 if you don't marry him, I will. He really willing 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:41.679 to compromise a lot. Yeah, So I reached out to 0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:45.720 him and I texted him, so are your friends and 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:49.000 family giving you a hard time too? And of course 0:20:49.119 --> 0:20:53.320 I said yes, And then I told him what my 0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:57.800 grandma said, and and then I was like, so, do 0:20:57.840 --> 0:20:59.879 you want to get a drink and laugh about this together? 0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:02.199 And I would have thought you were setting me up 0:21:02.240 --> 0:21:05.320 if I were him. Honestly, it became something that we 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:08.960 could talk about just the call and how much we 0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:11.560 were bothered by our friends and family about it. It 0:21:11.760 --> 0:21:15.280