WEBVTT - The School Rev-Up 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:07.600 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio Podcast. Okay, 0:00:08.000 --> 0:00:13.000 Hi Kramer. Hi, So August is here? August is here? 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:18.720 Are you feeling the rev up? I'm actually I oh 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:20.440 b if I feel it all the things like we're 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:23.360 supposed to meet the teacher and I we're actually not 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:27.000 going to the meet and greet you no, you know 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.520 you're in music when not a meet and greet? No 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:32.960 stick key pass needed, just come on in listen. Meet 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.560 the parent night. I'm going to go to that, sure, 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:38.960 but it's it's like the last week before school. So 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:40.680 I'm like, let's go to the lake let's and the 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:42.760 kids are totally fine with it. Well, I do think 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:45.440 it's interesting because even we're doing like a meet the teacher, 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:47.400 you know, we only go two days a week and 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:49.600 we start on the seventeenth, but next week we have 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:53.040 the and I've done this school, this is my sixth year. 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:54.600 I'm like, do I even really need to go? But 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:56.160 then part of me feels like I feel a little 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.840 more in touch if I go. So I'm gonna and 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:02.320 it's in the morning, easy, But if school starts in 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.679 this can they just make school start later like that? 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:09.000 Because school doesn't really start in two weeks. If next 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.720 week the school things are beginning. I know, I know. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.880 That's how I felt with sports. I'm like, a couple 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:16.480 weeks ago sports started, I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, yeah, 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:21.640 loves her ballet right now, you're not taking someher. I'm like, wait, no, yes, inaccurate. 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:24.680 I know. So we're actually going to spend five nights 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:26.280 at the lake and I'm really looking forward to it. 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.520 So are all your house guests gone, Well, no, my 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:33.640 dad's coming in town. You I don't know how you've 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:36.920 done this. Yeah, you're my hero, and I really mean that. 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.119 This is not ass kissy, this is legit. I don't 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:43.680 know how you've done it. You had said, Preston Son, 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:47.560 that's inaccurate, A little thrown off in my brain. Alan's 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.920 son was here and then he left, and you had 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:54.480 about forty eight minutes before Alan's parents came. They stayed 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.000 for a month. Yep, four and a half weeks. Your 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.040 mom casually like it was Yep, she came to the 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:01.200 lake for four nights. Yeah. Honestly, though it's been it's 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:02.880 been great, and it was great when his family came 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:06.320 in town, Like it was. It was great. I really 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:10.320 do you think that helped me? Because we all know 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:13.000 this is not my strongest trade. Do you think that 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:17.120 lake house like moving it around, having a different place 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:19.080 for them to go, or like what helps you have 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:20.880 you have a guest room? I know, but that's still 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.040 in your home. I think it's because they live in Scotland, 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.000 you know what I mean? Yeah, Okay, It's one of 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.760 those where it's when they come like I want to 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:32.160 be I want them to feel comfortable here. That's I 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:36.080 sound horrendous on this podcast. You have family that like 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:38.840 they live close. Yeah, do you know what I mean? Like, yeah, 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:42.600 we they you know, they haven't been here in two years, 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.600 you know, so it's yeah, And it honestly flew by, 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:49.079 It really did. But Alan and I went on a 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:53.000 date night the other night and he goes, Babe, what 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:58.160 was the good news? Always I was watching the oh Alan, 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:01.000 the you know the wind down well and it was 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:02.840 I reposted it on mine but I was like, oh, 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.079 I started laughing out loud and I was like, well, babe. 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:07.440 I was like I was just like having fun with 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.600 it and like kind of teasing it because in my 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:14.680 mind that's how I manifested telling you guys. Oh okay, 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.920 so we're getting closer. We're getting closer to why I 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.040 did that too. But that's where I was like, I'm 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.080 gonna manifest, like telling the girls on the show, do 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:24.000 you know I do you want to know a really 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:27.600 fun secret? I manifested if I ever got pregnant, how 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:29.679 I would tell you guys on a show. Oh really? Yeah? 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.840 Can I say it? Yeah? Because I think it's cute 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:34.839 and I'm not gonna have another baby, so it's totally fine. 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:38.600 Uh yeah, oh yeah, I'm gonna be forty five in January. Okay, 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:42.000 it feels a little. I'm really lucky that I got 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:45.320 that last one in yeh and healthy and our family's 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:49.720 so complete and our rooms are full. So but I 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:51.800 always thought it would be and I wish I guess 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.400 I wish I would have done this. I have a 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:58.480 lot of hindsight pregnancy, Like I get very anxious hearing 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.240 pregnancy or something. I think because our world feels so 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.640 public and there's so much about what we all do 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:06.640 in our industries that make people feel like they should 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:09.560 know things, and so I guard them extra tight because 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.440 I just want it to be our news for as 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:14.480 long as it can be our news. Anyways, if I 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.719 was gonna have another baby, it would be I would 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.480 have Hannah would be in the know, and we would 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:22.400 have a special guest on Zoom and it would be 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:29.360 the ultrasound Oh cute, cute surprise guest. But I'm having 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:33.880 another babies, So you manifested something that wasn't going to be. Well, 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:35.240 I just think of, like, how would I tell you? 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.240 Because we're all so much closer now too, Like we're 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.000 together every week and we share so much, and I'm 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:44.520 way closer to Kat than I've was before, you know, 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.479 just by like default of what we're all up to, 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:51.000 so I wouldn't be as top secret. It's it's fun 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.920 to to do those things. But I tell you what though, 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:57.640 that uh, that video got some comments in the comments 0:04:57.640 --> 0:05:00.600 section all of a sudden, I was like, all these 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.440 com like what but there was one comment in there 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:07.080 about let's just say it was a political thing. Some 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:09.200 some were funny. They're like, oh, wedding number seventeen. I'm like, 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.560 oh my god, how'd you guess? I do love your 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:14.279 ability to laugh at yourself. Why did I say a 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:18.120 whole baby? Sometimes I it's fine, it's fine, it's fine, 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.359 why am I this way? But there was one in 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.560 there that she went a little political, which, by the way, 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:27.359 I've never and I'm not even that's the thing, like 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.120 I think the I think I actually will probably get 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:34.480 more hate for this, but I'm not. I'm like, can 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:36.720 I say I'm I'm not for anyone but for God? 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:41.480 Well you can say that, but also I don't. I don't. 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:44.160 I don't like any of it. Yeah, I just I 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:47.479 always kind of fall in the middle, and I'm not that. 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:50.240 I again, that's that is the most political thing I 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:52.920 think I've ever said. But I'm not for I'm not, 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.160 I'm not really for any of it. Like it's that's 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:56.760 probably bad to me to say that. I probably shouldn't 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:58.480 say that. Huh Oh, I don't think. I think that's 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:00.720 just honest. I have my what I believe and like 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:03.400 things that I but I I like things on the left. 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:05.880 I like things over there, you know. So it's like, 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:07.600 I'm like, am I the only one with male trust 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:11.520 issues that, like, I don't believe? Here we go this thought, 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:15.000 I get the comment session ruling. I just don't really 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:18.040 believe any man is going to say maybe anything. He's like, 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:19.920 I don't know that he's going to fully do And like, 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:22.880 why are we saying to any person, if you promise this, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:26.040 for sure, you'll do it, not just say. Man. Trust 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.520 issues in the way that any person says I'm going 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:31.359 to do this, and we all just believe them so 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.599 much so to our core that we're willing to fight 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:35.320 and lose family and friends over it. That's kind of 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:38.240 wild in my just in my brain. So yeah, but 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.720 I ended up because I just didn't want to get 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:42.120 in the comments on this one. But I ended up 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:44.240 just dming her straight and I was just like just 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:49.719 so you know, like, yeah, that's not true. And she's like, oh, 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:52.080 I thought that you like publicly support it. I'm like, no, 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:56.360 I wouldn't because I don't believe in the whatever, you 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.880 know what I mean? Yeah, And so she was like, oh, 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:03.560 that's all she could really say. Meanwhile, the comments were 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:06.320 still I know, it was insane, but it's just funny 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:10.120 to me that like people take something and then run 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:12.760 with it. I also believe what they think, yeah, and 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:16.160 I'm like, I will never talk politics. Also, the area 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.160 we live in in Tennessee, I think people assume a 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.679 certain thing. They forget that we're friends with certain people, 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:22.400 but I'm also friends with a lot of other people 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:29.040 that are massively democrat democratic democratic democratic. Yeah yeah, so 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:33.480 I'm like love them all. Yeah, it's really it is crazy. 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:37.080 I just I am so I wish you guys. I 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.800 might video my face sometime when I'm reading the comments, 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.040 because I feel like I look at it far away 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.360 and then I just kind of go as it, like 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:46.480 I don't want anything to hurt my feelings, so I 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:48.520 kind of glance. But it kept ding ding ding ding, 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:50.600 and I'm like, oh boy. And then I saw just 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:52.840 enough that people were coming in at each other, and 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:54.840 I'm like, what what are we doing? That makes all 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:57.520 of this makes me sad because I'm like, why are we? Like, 0:07:57.600 --> 0:07:59.640 don't don't fight, No, I don't fight with each other. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:03.480 Can make jokes about me, some which were just wildly 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:08.360 wrong but super wrong, go ahead, I know, and I 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:12.040 think we all can laugh at ourselves enough that we 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.000 don't let it hurt our feelings. But there is I 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:16.760 just don't want them going at each other. Yeah yeah, 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:20.880 but I appreciate it too. Sometimes I wish I could unleash, like, 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:23.520 you know, the little social media army to come in 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:26.360 and rescue me, but I'm like, it's fine, So what's 0:08:26.400 --> 0:08:29.840 going on with you? Anything you want to unpin? I do? Okay, 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:33.520 I don't even know. This will hopefully resonate with someone. 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:37.440 So have you ever had to if you had ever 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:40.760 had to request or not request certain kids being classrooms 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:45.280 with your kids? Yes, okay, I should have voiced my 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:49.280 moodu about this about three months ago. Yeah, I am 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.720 gonna go extra thirty thousand feet because I never know 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:58.080 who's listening. Huh. So Love has had a friend. Why 0:08:58.080 --> 0:08:59.960 do I have this stomach ache like it's already gonna 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:08.520 a sex conversation. She's had a friend who is an extra, 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:14.920 a little barnacle, like really like stuck to her. And 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.480 I think Love is her like her person, her comfort person, 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.640 and Love dearly loves this little girl. She's great. She's 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.880 just a really talented little girl. But I can tell 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:28.439 that Love is wanted to make more friends at school. 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:30.719 We only go two days a week to begin with, 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.000 and I feel like we went through a lot last 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.040 year where Love tried to meet somebody new and it 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:39.559 felt maybe a little she got a little more territorial 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.840 over her Love and so a lot of big feelings 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:45.960 a lot of sadness, and so I was I've just 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:49.079 been really prayerful, Like how much do I want to 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:52.560 interject here? You know, because part of what I really 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.280 believe is that we'll continue to get situations and situations 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:57.960 until we can grow the skill level or something to 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:01.640 like figure out how to do it different. Yeah, while 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.920 also holding in the other hand that they're ten years old, 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.760 and so some of these conversations are hard for even 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:07.640 forty year olds to have. So how do we at 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:11.200 ten go? You're making me feel this way? Like that's 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:13.560 a pretty big ask for a ten year old. So 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:15.679 Love has been working on standing up for herself or 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:19.320 being a little more assertive. She is sometimes met though 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.640 with like, well then we just can't be friends, and 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.080 I've told her I'm like, well then you just have 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:25.280 to look at her and say that would make me 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.520 really sad because I love you as a friend. However, 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.920 I want to have other friends too. So fast forward, 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:34.200 I'm staying prayerful. Do I say anything? Do it? I 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:37.720 mean when I tell you, and I firmly believe when 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:39.120 you don't know what to do, don't do anything at all. 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:41.560 So I just sat on it for like a solid 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:45.040 three months, I finally reach out to our director and 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:48.640 I say, can we just have a quick conversation. And 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.640 I get on the phone with her and I say, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:55.160 I'm like the most PC down the middle speaking to politics, 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:57.360 like most down the middle I can be. I said, 0:10:57.360 --> 0:10:59.319 I don't want to disrupt anyone. I don't want anyone 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.720 left out. I'm not saying this is an actual request. 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:04.400 I just and she goes, I'm going to stop you 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.880 right there. I've already had two faculty come to me 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:12.200 with this situation and it's already been decided. And I 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:13.880 said I don't want to know what's been decided, and 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:17.520 she said fair, and she said, I just I My 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:22.160 biggest thing, I guess was for her. I'm afraid that 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.960 the family of this little girl is probably going we 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:28.840 have to be with love because that is like the 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:31.960 comfort zone. And I'm afraid that we are just being 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.760 looped into that because I haven't said one something one 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:38.560 way or the other. So I finally say something and 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.680 she's like, it's already been decided, and I was like, okay, 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:44.280 well that actually makes me feel validated a that you've 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:46.640 witnessed the same thing, because also there're ten I don't 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:48.640 want to make it dramatic, and I don't want to. 0:11:49.840 --> 0:11:52.240 I don't want to split apart friends, you know, like 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.840 it is tiny. They do only go two days a week, 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:58.280 and also that's her chance to plug in and meet 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.679 other people and we have like, you know, all walks 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:03.880 of life there, which is so fun to me. And anyways, 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:08.520 so then the class announcements came out, and at first, 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:11.120 what a mess. At first it looked like they had 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:13.199 the same teacher, and I was like, okay, So Levi 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:16.400 and I had the conversation. I said, this is your opportunity, shorty, 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:18.480 like you got to you gotta say the hard thing 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:20.880 if that's what it when it's needed, and she was like, okay, 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.120 I think I can do it. Then the email comes 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.440 out and says, just kidding, there's been a typo. They're 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:30.440 not in the same class. So I wondered if anyone, like, 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.439 I've never had to say that before, I've never had 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.560 to request I don't want to, but I have heard 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:38.800 from a couple other moms that they've done that and 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:41.760 it changed like their lives in the best way. I 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:45.400 just didn't want the sad first day. I also didn't 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:49.200 want the family drama fallout. Yeah, it's a lot layered. Yeah, 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:51.600 it's tricky, and I think I do. I do think 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.680 the schools do a really good job. Like if there's 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:59.600 when you do the end of year, they'll say, is 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:04.520 there any one that is disrupting your child and for 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:09.160 their in your kids class, for their education, you know 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:15.960 like that, and the I know they did this. Yeah, 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:17.720 well least in our school they do. Yeah, if there's 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:20.480 someone that there's like issues or whatever that let's say, 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:22.439 if like kids aren't getting along or if there's someone 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:26.520 that they're struggling with, like, they'll they'll take it into consideration. 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:28.360 I do know that they also do a good job too, 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:33.000 Like with Joli's dyslexia, they make sure they have another person, 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:37.280 like I know another girl that Jolie's close with that 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:41.160 is in her homeroom class because that way, Jolie is 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.600 not the only one being pulled out. So they make 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.640 them feel too that like they're not the only ones 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.640 in the classroom that has to do special education. Yeah, 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:53.840 you know, so I love that piece, but something did 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.160 happen last year, And like the hard thing is is 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.440 like I love the mom, I love the kid, this 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:03.760 is the problem and I love my kid. Well no, 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:07.160 but it's it makes Jolly uncomfortable. So there's a certain 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:10.880 someone again, the sweetest kid, Like I love him, he's 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.880 so sweet, but he loves Jolie oh like so much. 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.240 Like he tried to propose to her at the on 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:20.280 the playground, and you know there's other certain things that 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:26.080 happen that make her feel uncomfortable and she's less proposals 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:30.920 and so you know, again such a sweetheart, Like he's 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:33.480 so sweet again, love his mom, like all of it. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:38.040 But one of the teachers pulled me aside and was like, hey, 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:39.800 just so you know, like we're going to separate them 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.400 again because like we see it also being like a 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:45.080 she looks uncomfortable and I was just like, thank you 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.520 for taking that into consideration because like it does make 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:50.440 her uncomfy. Yeah, and she doesn't know how to express it, 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:53.680 and like you know, the mom and I've chatted, but 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:57.200 it's like, oh, you know, like it's the same. It's 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:58.960 just hard at that age, you know what I mean. 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:01.160 So it's like it's and he's again so sweet, like 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.600 he shows up at like her softball games and like 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:07.560 he's he's sweet, you know, and like he's a little bachelor. Yeah, 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:11.000 like he's he's adorable, and it does make her uncomfy. Yeah, 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.000 so like they'll not having them be in the same 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:16.840 homeroom is great. Yeah, that's what I told Love. I said, 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.720 even if it's just a little breatheability separation, you're gonna 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:23.080 have some recess together anyways. And it's so tiny, and 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.000 again it's two days a week, but just the idea 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.280 that she can like take a deep breath and maybe 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.480 meet somebody new. Yeah, and she's a big like Love 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.920 wants to do four square, and she is still very 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.480 ten and I just am trying to protect the ten 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:41.440 in her so long as I can, because and this 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:43.480 other sweet little girl's a little bit more mature and 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:46.000 wants to do different things, and like Love is like 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:47.640 a little sporty and wants to get out there. And 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:48.680 I said, I think it could be good for you 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:50.280 to meet other people that want to do the same things. 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:55.000 So yeah, well good. Yeah. And also tough conversations at ten, 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:58.200 I know, because the girl's sweet. So it's not even 0:15:58.280 --> 0:15:59.960 like she's mean or we have to deal We've had 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.960 to deal with that before and we were assertive, but 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.080 this I'm like, man, she's just such a great kid, 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:08.960 but she really just wants to be with love alone. Yeah, 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:11.280 and that's hard. That is hard. Yeah, and it's hard 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:14.160 to say, like your body language, I mean, she's ten, 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.320 your body language is making this other person feel left 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:20.000 out because you literally put your back to them hard times. Oh, 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:22.600 I know. So we'll see how the school year goes. 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:26.400 And they're doing how many days? Just too? Two days? Yeah, 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:29.080 we applied for five for a different school and we 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.800 were waitlisted. So I'm just like letting that ride. Yeah, 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:34.080 and We'll just stay in our little rhythm another year. 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:51.520 I love it. So we've decided to. And it's been 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:55.440 really tough too because we love we love who's been 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:59.600 helping with Roman, but she just needs more hours, and 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:02.560 I think he needs more school romans, a social guy 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:06.840 romans of yeah, and and you know, we still obviously 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:09.879 we need help because we have family here so for 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:15.320 things and trips and stuff like that. But I've I've 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.440 been struggling with whether to put him every single day 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:20.919 or three times a week. But the problem is is, 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.840 like I have this like weird guilt because with Jase 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:27.080 and Jolie at three, they went three times and then 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.119 I was with them for two days. But if I 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.240 book something like Alan can't well he's got to do 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:34.320 analysis and he's got his like thing, you know, his 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.720 his clients, and so it's really hard to find someone 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:40.080 for like Tuesday Thursdays. So I think what we're gonna 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.560 do is we're gonna put him in just to have 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.320 the full time because it's still cheaper than like what 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.480 it was crazy for part time nanny. And then I 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:51.960 think I'm going to designated day like every Wednesday is 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:53.960 like me and Roman day, and I just he doesn't 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.160 go to school that day, so that where I can. 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:59.600 But then like when I book something, he's covered. Yeah, 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:02.520 so just hold this place at least. Yeah, that's smart. Yeah, 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:04.520 so I does. That's what we're going to do. Does 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:09.119 the help know this? Yes? Okay? Good? Yeah, okay good. 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:10.680 And it's you know, it's one of those things where 0:18:10.680 --> 0:18:13.560 I'm like, I don't, I know, you want to do 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.680 more than what we can give you, Like you want 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:18.639 more than twenty five hours, and then like I know 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.480 he needs to go to school, and I know if 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:23.200 we just give you two days, like you're going to 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:25.520 find something else and then we won't have the availability 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:28.160 in the school anymore for the full time. Yeah, and 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:31.560 I don't like I'm I'm that person too where I'm like, 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:33.920 I don't want to I can't. I can't pay you 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:35.240 to do my laundry. I don't want to pay I 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:38.000 don't want a personal assistant. I know. And I'm also like, 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:40.560 that's not like you, as telling her. I'm like, you 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.320 thrive as with being of kids, and I love our 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:45.760 relationship that I don't want to get upset because something 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:47.800 fell through on the personal side of things. Sure, you 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:49.920 know something. I just want to always keep that separate. 0:18:50.280 --> 0:18:52.480 Well that isn't interesting because it leads me to the wine. 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:56.240 Oh great, Yeah, it is full time help or nothing. 0:18:56.320 --> 0:18:58.159 And I just don't know where we live in between. 0:18:58.359 --> 0:18:59.800 And I don't know that we're going to solve anything 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:02.360 here because to your point, but like we're going into 0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:04.639 the school year and we've had we've had some like 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.879 kind of piece together help this summer. The logistics are 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.159 not worth even explaining. But I know that when they 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:12.760 go to school, you know, for August, Line won't go 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:14.400 to school. She has our little two day a week 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:16.080 and it's the same two days a week as the kids, 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:18.679 which is great when it all wines up. Yeah, but 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:21.199 it is hard to find people even it feels like 0:19:21.240 --> 0:19:24.439 you have to have them full time salary or not 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:26.640 at all. Yeah, And I don't know what to do. 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.800 So I'm just back in my and and I think, 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.719 you know, we talked about manifesting, and like I have 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:36.880 such a block in my brain about childcare. I've never 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:39.040 felt positive about it. I've never felt like I'm going 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:41.280 to find my person. I just am starting to go. 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:44.200 Am I in the acceptance phase of just that this 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.119 is our life and that we don't have help, and 0:19:46.200 --> 0:19:49.000 that it's always going to feel like this. I think, 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:54.639 I mean, that's that's the question. I mean, I don't know. 0:19:54.680 --> 0:19:57.280 It's like you pay for I think you could find 0:19:57.280 --> 0:19:59.960 someone again, but you don't want full time. I don't. 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:03.320 So I don't need full time, no, I know. And 0:20:03.400 --> 0:20:06.840 so but if you don't have full time, you just 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:08.879 don't have any flight. I don't know. It's such a 0:20:08.880 --> 0:20:12.520 weird and so we're stuck. And so like there's you know, 0:20:12.600 --> 0:20:15.240 I had something Sunday. There's a radio guy in town 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:19.000 and getting inducted to the Hall of Fame. He's such 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:20.960