WEBVTT - Teaching Our Parents 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.880 There comes a point in your life where you worry 0:00:02.880 --> 0:00:05.480 about your parents like they're your children. 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:10.400 There is a point in your life where your parents 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:11.840 become your children. 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:19.800 It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:21.840 from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:25.279 Webby award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors. 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:27.880 Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. It 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:31.280 was about our growth, a place where we could be vulnerable. 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:34.200 Be wrong, or but most apportly be us. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:37.120 But as we know, life keeps evolving, and so do we, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.239 and through it all, one thing has never changed. 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:41.320 This is. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.280 Because we got a lot to talk about. 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:46.440 Story time. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:52.040 All right, I'm gonna tell y'all about something that happened 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.400 literally two weeks ago. Well, by the time y'all hear this, 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.680 it'll be more weeks after that. But I was getting 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:59.560 ready to go back and film season five of Zatima. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.800 Since I'm going back to film, Kay and I always 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:06.080 calling the reinforcements if I'm not going to be here 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:06.800 to hold up. 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:08.000 My end of the bargain with the crib. 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:10.560 KAY gonna calling my parents, So my dad comes in, 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:12.600 My dad comes in. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.040 Me and him were just chopping it up. I'm like, yo, Dad, 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:16.520 what's the you know, what's the plan? What you got 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:17.039 going on? 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.600 Shout out to my sister Tory and a fiance Boone there. 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:24.199 At this point, they've already had their first child. 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.280 So my dad was coming up and he was just like, no, 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:29.040 you know, we're just focusing on you know, your your 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.640 sister and Boom getting their own place, and this and 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:33.920 this and that, and we're just going over life plans. 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:36.720 And I happened to say to him, did you ever 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:38.400 consider moving down to Georgia? 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:43.880 He was like, not really, I didn't really think about it. 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:45.440 So he and I sat down for about forty five 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:49.280 minutes and we went through his whole financial uh plan 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:51.760 portfolio and his plan for the next five years, and 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:53.920 I said, Pops, you know you have enough money to 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.720 actually buy a home that can be an investment for 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.360 you and generations to come if you move to Georgia. 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:00.440 And he was like for real. 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:03.480 Five days later, my dad put an off friend on 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.160 the house and now my parents are. 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:06.880 Moving to Georgia. 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:08.440 Yeah, I can't wait. 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:09.840 I can't wait either. 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.080 That's exciting all right. Time for karaoke. 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:15.160 I gotta I got a karaoke song. 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:17.920 I love that you just coming into season now with 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.120 all the karaoke songs. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:21.480 Oh going on? 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:25.040 I mean, speaking of portfolio, Michael has enough to probably 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:26.200 get us through the entire season. 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.680 Defending on the episode, Oh absolutely, there's no doubt in 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:29.040 my mind. 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.560 So I'm gonna start off with this. See if I notice, Okay, d. 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:43.040 Man, we're going to make a change. Yeah, it's going 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:50.520 to make a change. Once in myne this is great. 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:50.920 I love this. 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:54.800 It's gonna feel real good. It's gonna make a difference. 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:56.760 It's gonna make you right. 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:05.799 As I turned up the color my favorite. 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:08.560 Winter cold, I never swear disablu. 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.880 Win my mind. No one ever knows those words. 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:12.520 Every time I forgot what I thought it was. 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.120 It was she don't she just be saying it sounds 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:16.360 oh as I. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.680 Always thought it was like as I go to the 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:28.800 corner store. 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:25.720 Going to the corner store. 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.080 Yeah, you never know, it was all over the place. 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:31.960 He might have to go to the very Indiana. 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:34.080 There was no corner store. 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:39.800 No, it's nothing but corner stores and words corners. 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.720 You know what you was the corner. 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.880 Stood niggas probably Yeah. 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.440 So I wasn't too far off he might have been 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:48.080 up in the corner. 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:52.840 Did we know about the Steel Mills. 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:59.040 Store? I love it. That's a good one though, making changes. 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:00.839 I closed my eyes. 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:03.800 I thought, we need to you singing that part right? 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:04.840 See that? Come on? 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.520 Okay now, m J two you with the cover J. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.320 That'd be just as bad as flex this senior the 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:13.120 Senior years. 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.000 I would never do that to Michael. I ain't gonna 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:16.440 lie to y'all. 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:18.880 When I first watched the movie, I was like, I 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:21.360 don't want to see this movie because I love Mike 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.800 so much that I just said, in my mind there's 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:26.600 nobody that can become Michael Jackson. 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:28.120 And then I watched You Far. 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:31.880 He was Michael bron He. 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.720 Was Michael Michael. Then then Jamie was Ray. Like when 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.080 I looked at him as I'm. 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:42.680 Like, ybody anybody got? But I'm not going that far. 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:45.400 Because Jamie had the voice, the movement. 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:47.120 He danced like Michael. 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.040 But he couldn't speak like Michael on the regular. 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:57.640 That is this conversation impression the person because was Michael. 0:04:57.800 --> 0:05:01.680 That's what Jamie was, absolutely Ray. I'm not saying that 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:03.560 is better than Mike. 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.040 That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying Jamie was more 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.159 Ray than Jafar as Michael. That's all I'm saying. 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.760 I'm not agreeing with that. The reason why I'm saying 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:14.760 that is because it is Ray was known for his voice, right, 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.960 and that right, yes, but Michael is known for dancing 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:22.040 and did you watch how he became Mike? 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.800 Like it is so there are so many Michael Jackson. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.840 Impersonal is that when you watch you still say he 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.920 don't move like Mike Jafar and that that Billy Jean 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:34.720 tribute looks just like I'm not disputed he needs to 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:35.839 win for that. 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:39.679 Bro, I'm just saying I really adamantly think that Jamie 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:42.000 tapped into something different to become Ray. 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:45.400 I wouldn't argue that because I love Jamie and I 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:46.640 love I wouldn't argue that. 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:49.520 I'm just want to specify. 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.000 That's the only thing I'm arguing because did an amazing John. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:53.680 So how about this? I think it becomes a thing 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.479 where it's like, what do you prefer? Right? 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.640 Because you got Ray, you also got Tina Turner and 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:03.920 Angela Basset. Nobody became better than anybody like I would never, never, 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:07.080 not you know what I'm saying, Angela Bassett as Tina Turner. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.240 But I'm not gonna discredit Ray. I would put your 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.679 far up there with them as well, and we can't. 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:16.440 We can't discredit j Lo as Selena true because with. 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.200 Life, Yeah, they're kind of all on part man. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:20.160 Those those four. 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:22.680 For me, I'm just happy somebody did Mike justice, you 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:23.200 know what I'm saying. 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.960 That's and that's the thing, right, Like you look at 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.160 you watch the movie, and you're not for a second 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:35.679 thinking that this is a bad impression of Mike. You're thinking, like, Okay, 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.120 this guy is impressed like he's Mike. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:40.200 Right watching Mike. 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.640 Yes, you know it's not Mike, but his performance isn't 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:46.960 a distraction to what the story is. 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:49.720 So to ask a question, who would you take this, 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:52.440 Mike or the guy who played Mike in The American 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:53.960 Dream the Jackson five. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.080 I'm gonna take American Dream first, always. 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.280 The story or the guy who played Mike, because I 0:06:58.360 --> 0:06:59.680 take the American Dream story. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:00.600 But I'll take. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:03.200 I like that. 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:04.600 I like that. 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:06.520 I mean they were parts man when he was like 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:11.120 peoples on my nose an American Dream. Like now I 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.080 feel like I felt like I knew who Michael was 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.800 because American Dream. See, Jafar is just like a. 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:21.560 Affirming He's reaffirming what I always knew. Like people who 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:22.880 saw that, I agree with you, bro. 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:25.760 It was hard for people keep asking me about the movie, 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:30.160 and all I keep saying is I loved the movie 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:34.000 because Jafar did so good as MJ. But when you 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:37.040 watch The American Dream and you watch that five part 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.480 docu series, or. 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:41.000 It's not even docu series, I don't even know what this. 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:45.880 Yeh mini series, a limited mini series or something like that. 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:48.200 I just felt like I got so much in depth 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.160 information about the whole family that it seemed like it 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.680 was just a more in depth story. Now we don't 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.120 know what they had to deal with legally now trying 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.080 to do that movie. So it's unfair to critique, you know, 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.920 because I don't We've wanted to critique Antoine fu Qua 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:03.840 as the director because we haven't seen what they had 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:04.360 to take. 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:06.360 Out and this part two coming true. 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:11.880 But first it was ended at such a weird place. 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:18.200 But okay, Young Michael, Young Michael and Michael versus Young 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:23.800 Michael American Dream. I think American Dream Michael Body ye. 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:28.040 Wasn't Jason Weaver. Jason he did this thing. 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.160 Yeah, I saw it recently. I was like, Africa, how 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.440 good he was? 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:33.040 JA was good? And was he really singing? 0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:33.560 Yeah? 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:36.559 I was really singing. That's why to me at Jason 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:37.760 Weaver gets the nod on that. 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:41.280 Jason, where is that guy? Is so talented? He's been 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:41.960 good and everything. 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.280 I think eight episodes on Sister season nine, remember when 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:49.240 he was opposite when Cameron was doing that. 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.080 Yes, yes, yes, shout out to Jason. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.200 Shout out to his mom too for having to wear 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:56.280 with I'm so glad that we brought this up a 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.679 wherewithal for Lion King to turn down the advanced money 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:04.880 and fight royalty. Yeah, like that's that's like life. His 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:06.360 mom is the goat for that. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:08.520 This is technically opp. 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:15.800 The one good thing about Far's performance is that any critics, 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.240 anybody who loved the movie, everybody has the same opinion. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.320 Far killed. Yeah, it was amazing. 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:24.920 Yeah, he's going to get nominated, for sure, he has. 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:26.400 I think after the first day or two of the 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:28.439 Rotten Tomato score was like twenty seven percent. But I 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:30.480 think more and more people are realizing that Rotten Tomato 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:34.439 is not accurate. It's not the audiences. Yeah, it's so 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:38.000 far off sometimes, yeah, so far off. Yeah, all right, cool, 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.240 Well let's take a quick break and we'll be back, 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.040 all right now, all right, So do we actually have 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:47.160 an opera or no op for today, seeing as though 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:48.960 we kind of did an impromptu one. 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:52.280 We do, And I did have an opera no op 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.720 in my mind because I've been listening to Brandy's memoir 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:57.320 on audio book and it's really good, okay, and she 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.920 talks about working with Jason Weaver on the back. 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:10.520 In Yeah. 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:12.959 And wildly enough, Brandy said that thea was a total 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:18.560 bitch on the set. You would never know. Yeah, but 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:22.520 here's my opera. Now, this one is a bit crazy. 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:24.720 I was on Instagram the other day and I saw 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:28.640 it was like not really an ad. It kind of 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:34.079 seemed fake, but I couldn't dig out like it looks real. 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:35.640 So it's a product. 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:40.319 It's called the Venus Guard, and it's like an insert 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:43.280 for a woman that she puts in her vagina that 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:47.880 protects her against sexual assault. It doesn't protect her against 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.800 sexual assault, but if a sexual assault were to occur. 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:52.240 It would. 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:57.760 It would damage the man so badly it like attaches 0:10:57.840 --> 0:10:59.000 to his penis. 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:00.320 He can't take it off. 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.679 Unless he goes to the hospital, and so it preserves 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:07.480 like evidence of sexual assault so that this person can't 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:08.760 deny that they did it. 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:12.600 I think it's insane. Have you ever heard about how 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:15.240 cats parts work? 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:15.960 Yeah? 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:22.439 Yeah, it's like a cat. It's like an apparatus for cats. 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:24.200 You don't know how cats. 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:27.319 I watched my face. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:32.720 I'm like, I'm like, bite your joint like a hook. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:35.480 Yeah, Like the male cat has a hook and he 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:39.480 latches on he like pierces the female once he's inside her, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.920 so she can't detach. 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:46.200 Cat. 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.200 So the man got a hook on his joint. 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:52.800 Yeah, So that's kind of how the venus guard works. 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.560 This is this is what I think I got. 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:58.719 If you're not asking and you're trying to take the 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.080 kuda and you get what you deserve. 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:07.120 Deserve exactly what you deserve, right, Yes, she took the 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:10.079 guard out for the hospital guy, So it would it 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:12.680 be something that a woman just wears regularly. 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:13.760 That's what I'm like. 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:16.240 I feel like I got something you put in and 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.160 take out because like. 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:20.360 It's going out to a party and you're like, I 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:26.200 want to get black down, Like yeah, it's basically essentially 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:26.959 a chastity bell. 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:27.400 That's right. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:29.640 Utility joint. 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:34.839 Yeah, interested learns something new every day. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:35.120 Chill. 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:35.400 Yeah. 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:36.679 I had no idea about. 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:38.400 That on the flip side of that, because I think 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:42.080 when it comes to sexual assault and consent, a lot 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:44.000 of times the onus is on the woman to protect 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:48.080 herself against predators. But I did see another post not 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.960 long after that a man teaches young boys about consent. 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.760 These boys are like seven, eight, nine, ten years old, 0:12:56.400 --> 0:13:00.000 and he did a demo for them where he's talking 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.440 to a woman and he's like, hey, can I get 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:03.880 a hug? And she's like no, and then he keeps 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:06.200 begging her for a hug, and then he asked the boys, 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:07.880 did that sound like a yes? 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.560 They're like no. So he's teaching them. 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:12.880 Basically to get an enthusiastic yes. But these are like 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.400 really young boys, So I'm wondering. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:17.120 On that. 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.319 I do have an op on that, only because there 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.000 was another thing going around where a woman had made 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:26.680 a statement that women men don't try anymore and once 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:28.640 you say no to them, they just walk away. 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:30.520 And the men were saying, well, what do you want 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:31.040 us to do? 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.319 And she was like, y'all don't even try to be persuasive, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.560 which remember when we had this conversation before when I 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.760 was growing up, A lot of young a lot of 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:40.840 girls as I got older, told me it was just 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:42.680 like you didn't work hard enough for it, like I 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.240 had a crush on you, and I'm like, where. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:46.679 Do we draw the line? 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.880 And that was But when I thought about having four sons, 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:51.960 how do we advise them when they're in a relationship 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.520 like that or they're trying to pursue someone too much. 0:13:56.080 --> 0:14:00.439 They're going to tell you, They're going to tell you exactly. 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:04.600 They always going to be the corny kid. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.719 It don't matter because my father and my uncle is 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.840 the same way. Surety say no, shorty, seem like she's 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:11.400 not interested. 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:17.040 Go somewhere else. Because of that, But the narrative about 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:17.760 what a man. 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:21.880 Is supposed to do, when you get mixed mixed information 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:24.920 from people, this is how young men end up in trouble. 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.040 But this is also how young women end up in trouble, 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:30.200 because if you're not teaching young men the right thing, 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.720 and a young woman who doesn't know any better, comes 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:34.680 across a young man who was taught the wrong way, 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:36.720 she's going to start feeling like she was the problem. 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:39.200 Or realistically, she's not the problem. We have to start 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:41.760 teaching young men and women what consent looks like. 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:43.560 You know what I'm saying, Yeah, that's what I was 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:47.320 going to say. Both parties have to learn what is consent. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:50.000 Because a woman saying, oh, you don't try hard enough. 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:53.280 I said no and you're not pushing that is because 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:56.840 she has learned that, you know what I'm saying, in 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.600 rape culture and not having consent like that, somebody is 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:00.480 supposed the pushing. 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:01.200 That is okay. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.480 Where we should be teaching young women like you have 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.760 to give enthusiastic consent. If you don't give your enthusiastic consent, 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:10.440 there's no green light. That's not a green light, So 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.640 nobody's going to keep pursuing you, and you're not entitled 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:12.840 to that. 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.680 And that shouldn't really excite you either unless you have. 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:19.480 Now in some relationships, you may have consent that a 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:25.200 no is a green light, but that could be yeah, 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:30.240 we preconcerned that that. Yeah, not just like a random dude, 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.920 you know, because if I say no to a random 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.760 person and you keep trying, I'm gonna sock you. 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:37.200 In the face. 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:42.520 The enthusiastic gifts also should be followed with an enthusiastic no, Yeah, exactly, yes, you. 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:43.120 Know, and I do. 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:46.320 I do think people have to be aware that there 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.640 is not one way of teaching people. People are being 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:50.960 taught different things. So if a young man or a 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:54.120 young woman isn't aware, take that opportunity. 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.200 To educate rather than shame, you know. 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.560 But when I was mentoring young men and women through 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.720 Prototype when they were really really young, and that's when 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:04.080 I started to learn, like, y'all really don't know what 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:07.320 consent looks like. It's not on one gender or the other. 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:09.960 Y'all both don't know. Because the young girls were saying 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:11.600 things that I was just like, you're gonna get yourself 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:13.760 in trouble saying that. And then young men, I was 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.000 just like, you can't do that that, Like you just 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:16.760 cannot do that. 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.920 And I was like, wow, no one's really teaching them. 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:22.920 Because speaking about sex, especially in the Black community, has 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:26.480 become so taboo that a lot of parents aren't speaking 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:29.280 to their kids about sex, you know, Like, I do 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.800 think that we would have a lot less like rape 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.280 culture wouldn't be as big of a thing if a 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:37.400 lot more parents and adults felt comfortable talking to their 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:40.480 kids about sex without it being taboo, does. 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.640 Health or sex education classes still happen. I know we 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:44.680 had got to sign off on something for Jackson for school, 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:46.960 but I'm wondering if like across the board, you know, 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:49.160 having health. I had health in high school, for example, 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:50.440 one semester gym. 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:53.080 I had one semester. They didn't teach consent. They just 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:54.240 taught reproductive health. 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:57.880 Protective, right, which is scary. 0:16:58.360 --> 0:16:59.080 That is scary. 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.240 I think we did health in sixth grade, seventh grade, 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:05.240 and tenth grade or something like that, so it was 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.920 like levels of sex education right each. 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.560 I think one should be dedicated to consent though at 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:13.320 least one, you know, chapter. 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:13.520 At least. 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:15.359 I'll say it again, my boys is gonna be the 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:18.040 corny kids. I was the corny kid. My brother Brian 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:20.440 was the corny We got older, and so many young 0:17:20.480 --> 0:17:21.960 women when we got older, just like I had to 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.119 crustion on you, but you ain't even really try, And 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:25.639 I was like, I did try. I asked you if 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:28.000 you won't go out, and you was like no, So 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:29.360 I wouldn't ask somebody. 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.879 Else hard out the window. 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:32.960 Yeah, but I think. 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.800 You also, your sons will also attract the kind of 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:40.000 people that they are instead of that's true, you know, 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:44.040 because because they stay true to you know, their values, 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:46.080 they'll track somebody with the same type. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.320 About that, because if I had a daughter, I wouldn't 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:51.440 play those games neither. I'm I wouldn't tell my daughter 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.480 that it's cool for you to play the work harder game. 0:17:54.840 --> 0:17:57.000 I'm with you, you got to have an enthusiastic yes, 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.439 because if I ask you if something happened and you 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:02.119 didn't give any enthusiastic yes, now it's the problem for that. 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:03.720 Yeah, man, you know what I'm saying. 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:07.040 There you go, I agree, all right. Cool, Well, if 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:09.200 we go back to story time now we're talking about 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:13.520 preparing our parents. I was equally shocked when I know 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:15.879 that my father in law was coming down here to 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.360 visit us like he typically does while de VALA's filming. 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:23.240 And then after the conversation, Devous like you know, call 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.440 up Curtis Scoop is going to start looking for a house, 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.520 and literally within five days was putting in an offer 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:32.520 getting it accepted. And It's funny because I spoke to 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:36.800 your mom shortly thereafter to kind of gauge how she 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:38.520 was feeling about it, because I'm just like, man, I'm 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:40.920 thinking if I were in her shoes and you went 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:42.720