1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: It's the middle of the night. We've just been picked 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:11,400 Speaker 1: up by this Eastern European looking guy in his little 3 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: golf car. Droven for forty five minutes, and we arrived 4 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: in this parking spot for for big trucks, just waiting. 5 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening. No one really knows what's happening, 6 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: and no one really dares to ask questions because you 7 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: are in this high alert survivor mode. I guess almost 8 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: shaken because of that Drillon int. The guy tell us 9 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: to run to the truck because you can see the 10 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:46,239 Speaker 1: truck doors open, and he says, this is it. He 11 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: points at his lips that you have to be quiet. 12 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: My mom has my youngest sister and her arms, and 13 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: me and my older sister Keaty and I we were 14 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: in charge of a back each and we tried to 15 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: have the two young ones following Diana who was this 16 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: is off to me and my second youngest Muscan and yeah, 17 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: we just like Sprinton, climb up with behind the truck. 18 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: We passed these boxes and then in the end of 19 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: the corner there is like a little spot made for 20 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: for I guess for us, and I just remember that 21 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: my mom says, no one says anything, and you follow 22 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 1: your orders. I know we were young, but I think 23 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: if you put kids in situations where you know it's 24 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:42,759 Speaker 1: life or that, that kids understand also how to manage themselves. 25 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: My mom was sitting in the corner and we were 26 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: just around her, half sleeping, half awake. Dark, It was 27 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 1: a bit cold, and the sound of the flaps of 28 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: the truck going on the entire time we were there 29 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: for I for ages, but I also remember every time 30 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 1: I was feeling a bit you know, sad or like 31 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: what's happening, I just went back to like, oh we're together, 32 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: Oh we're still alive, and everyone's together. This is the 33 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: story of Nadia Adem, a professional soccer player, a doctor, 34 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: a daughter, a sister, a niece, an Afghan refugee, and 35 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: above all else, a kid who just loved to play football. 36 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 1: This is also the story of her awe inspiring family 37 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: of women who, like Nadia, never back down. You'll meet 38 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: her sister, a champion boxer, and her aunt, Afghanistan's most 39 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: famous singer, who's taken her fight for the rights of 40 00:02:46,320 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: Afghan women all the way to the European Parliament. Bar 41 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: all stuff for no bad I'm Hannah watting him. And 42 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,079 Speaker 1: this is Hustle Rule, an audio docuseries featuring the untold 43 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: stories of women's soccer players around the world, based on 44 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: the book Under the Lights and in the Dark, written 45 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: by Gwendolen Oxenham. This episode is Nadian Adem and the 46 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:26,959 Speaker 1: Family of Fighters. It's the late nine nineties. It's four 47 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: or five o'clock in the morning, and the truck drops 48 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: off Nadia and her family in the darkness. I know 49 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: that the plan was she will drop us off close 50 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: to a police station on London because we had a 51 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: family there. But for an hour, almost an hour, we 52 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: didn't really see anyone. Everything is closed, no cars, no 53 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: nothing for an hour, and I remember being super confused 54 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: because I've heard of London. I remember like, there's a 55 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: big city and all like wow. I didn't imagine London 56 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: to be like this, and my brain but no one 57 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: really stays anything because again, it didn't really matter. We 58 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: were alive and we were together. And after an hour 59 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: we saw this older guy with his little dog walking 60 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: and my mom went to him and asked him in 61 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: English where we were and he was like run us 62 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: and she was like, oh, which country? He was more 63 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: confused than we were. He was like Denmark with a 64 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: weird face. I'm almost like thank you. And then she 65 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: asked where the police station was. It was super empty. 66 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: It was like this huge building. And then finally we 67 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: met this one guy and my mom went and and 68 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: told him that we were seeking asylum, and then she 69 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: went in for an interview, and we were sitting and 70 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: waiting for her. The police came out with my mom 71 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: and he looked at us and asked if we were hungry, 72 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:57,160 Speaker 1: did the hungry sign and all, like you know when 73 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: your eyes like a light up. The guy drove us, 74 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: like probably at ten minutes in his police car to 75 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 1: this little store where he bought a banana, milk, fruit 76 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: and stuff toast and you have the best meal so far. Um. 77 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 1: That was like but than any mesialing restaurants I've been on. 78 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: I was born in Afghanistan and lived there until I 79 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 1: was around eleven years old. My dad was an Afghan 80 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: military my mom was a school teacher. My dad was 81 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: killed after the Talban gained power in Afghanistan, which made 82 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: it very very difficult for me and my mom and 83 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: my father sisters to have a life there. I think 84 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: the things I remember from my dad is like the 85 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: positive stuff. I also remember him being away a lot. 86 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: Being a general, he had a lot of responsibility, I guess, 87 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 1: so it was just like the strong person, you know, 88 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: like almost like a superhero. And my eyes, um, he 89 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: was really at dick and and and he had this 90 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 1: aura around him that when he walked in the room, 91 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: everyone kind of almost froze because he had this like 92 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:10,719 Speaker 1: authority tair look, I would say. So. I also remember 93 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 1: when he used to come back from work. The first 94 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:16,280 Speaker 1: half an hour he had to adjust that he was 95 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: home now and had to loosen up. So we were 96 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: like the first half an hour really still, and after 97 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 1: when he loosed up, we were like all over him. 98 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: When he disappeared, for a while, we didn't knew what 99 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: would really happened, and then we found out later on 100 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: that he was killed the same day at this desert. 101 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 1: Not knowing what went dan, it was very hard, and 102 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: you know, you believed the entire time that he actually 103 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: was still alive. And then even when we got to 104 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: know that he was killed, I didn't really believe it 105 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: because in my head I always thought my dad was 106 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: like this, you know, this agent super cooperson that no 107 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:02,480 Speaker 1: one really could touch. After a while of struggling and 108 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:05,920 Speaker 1: trying to survive, we decided to leave the country. We 109 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: sold everything we had paid a human smuggler to get 110 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: a better life, to be somewhere we were safe, and 111 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: this person transported us to Pakistan. From Pakistan, we were 112 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: flown with fake passports is to Italy, and in Italy 113 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: we were transported for fifty hours behind a truck to Denmark. 114 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: And that's where I feel I started to have a life. 115 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: At a refugee center in vis Nadia found her great 116 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: love football. As they say it in Denmark, you're young, 117 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: you don't understand the language, you're curious, and suddenly you 118 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: go from being you know, locked up inside the house 119 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: and not allowed to go outside because of dangerous you 120 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: can be kidnapped or you're gonna be killed, to suddenly 121 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: actually be allowed to be a kid. We were like 122 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: this group of kids that always hang out and you know, 123 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 1: try to try to figure out what's happening around the camp. 124 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: It was my two sisters, my older sister and my 125 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 1: losses Adiana, and then there were like three or four 126 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: other kids from the refugee camp. We spoke different languages, Arabic, Armenian, Bosnian. 127 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: But our communication was like sign language at the beginning, 128 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: I guess, and then later on some Danish words, some 129 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: English word we could like communicate without actually communicating with 130 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: a language, you know what I mean. We just mixed 131 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:38,559 Speaker 1: everything that we kind of knew and it worked. From 132 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: nine to one I was in school, and then from 133 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: nine to midnight I was outside every day. I always say, 134 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: it's fate. The camp was located just beside a football club. 135 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: We just got really quickly the football fields, the football fields, 136 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 1: and then refugee camp was divided by some for a 137 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 1: like thing, and then there was a sense at the 138 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: beginning we were always outside the fence watching. That was 139 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 1: the first time I saw a girl playing football, a 140 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: goal team playing football, and I described it as like 141 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: you know when you're struck by by the lightning and 142 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:16,199 Speaker 1: then you have you hear angels, you know, the light 143 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,599 Speaker 1: I thought it was very very cool to see a 144 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: girl playing the way she was playing, and I was like, wow, 145 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: I really want to be that person. I wanted so 146 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:29,439 Speaker 1: badly to learn how to play football. We didn't really 147 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: had a football or the boots or anything, but what 148 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 1: we had was the passion and the love for the game. 149 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:37,599 Speaker 1: So we used to just like run around after this 150 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:42,319 Speaker 1: Dutch ball and everyone was playing. Everyone with time, we 151 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: figure out how to get around the fence and be 152 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 1: on the field. Then we were like really far away 153 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 1: from the fields and just like looking and as time 154 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: passed by, you get more courage because you're like, oh, 155 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,480 Speaker 1: they've seen me and and they haven't really reacted and 156 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:02,599 Speaker 1: like hostile away, so you get a bit closer. So 157 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: at the end, I was literally on the like field 158 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: and when they had shooting drills, the ball which sometimes 159 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: you know, not hit the goal and go over, so 160 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: then I'll be running off the ball and then bring 161 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: it back to them. But then once I figure out, 162 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: you know that some of the balls were never found, 163 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: I was like, maybe there's other balls that we can find. 164 00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 1: Let's go. So the group and I we took some 165 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: of these plastic trash bags and then we just went 166 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: from A to Z, like from one side to the 167 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: other because it was like really dense forests. And you 168 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 1: know how many balls we discovered, twenty three balls. I 169 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: wasn't shock, everyone wasn't shot. We were so hyped about it. 170 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 1: You know, some of them were you could tell they've 171 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: been there for like years, very deflated an old balls, 172 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:53,959 Speaker 1: like you know, but some of the other ones like 173 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: really really new one, and you know how expensive balls are. 174 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 1: At that point, you're like this nice. So we went 175 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 1: with all the balls back to the club and we're like, 176 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:06,079 Speaker 1: so these are the balls that we found. You know, 177 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: we just showed them the guy he took the new ones, 178 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,679 Speaker 1: but let us have the old ones. We were still 179 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: super excited, you know, like, oh my god, we have 180 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: so many balls. And then we went to this nearest 181 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: tank station because we didn't have a ball pump um 182 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 1: and I remember one person is holding a really tight 183 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: and the other is like pushing the plus to to 184 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: try to get some end the balls, you know, the 185 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: car pumps, the big ones. It was. It was a 186 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 1: good day. It was a good day. So as soon 187 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:38,599 Speaker 1: as you know, the football became a thing, it was 188 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: a competition, so everyone was like trying to figure out 189 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 1: who's like the best player in the campaign. And I 190 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:46,839 Speaker 1: remember our at the beginning. One of the things that 191 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 1: was really big was the juggling competition to see how 192 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: many juggles you can take. Remember at the beginning, I 193 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 1: was like one, two, three, seven, and then I was 194 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:56,679 Speaker 1: stuck to seven for a long time, and then I 195 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 1: went like around seventeen or whatever. But there was one 196 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: I think he was really good and then he was 197 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:05,440 Speaker 1: juggling with one ft but he could keep it off 198 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,599 Speaker 1: for a really long time. I think fifty six. This 199 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: was something that was annoying me because I was like, oh, 200 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: it can't be better than me. And I used to 201 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: every day just like use hours and hours to control 202 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:23,079 Speaker 1: this ball. I remember the day I beat him and 203 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:25,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, already, let's go, guys. And I started to 204 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:27,319 Speaker 1: keep him up and I was like, okay, I just 205 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 1: beat my own record. I remember reaching to fifty six 206 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 1: and then my last touch was really bad. I was like, oh, 207 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 1: I cannot tie with this guy. So I'm just like 208 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: I thrown myself to hit the ball last time. And 209 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: then while I was doing this, I smashed my hand 210 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 1: or my finger, so I was really injured with my 211 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 1: and my tongue. But it didn't really matter because I 212 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:51,599 Speaker 1: was the champ of the camp at that point and 213 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: everyone was like, oh my god, no, you just got 214 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: fifty seven. I'm like, yeah, that's me, guys. The thing 215 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:02,679 Speaker 1: that I really loved about playing football was that you 216 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: could see progress so fast. Like as I said, I 217 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: started taking three juggles and then same day I could 218 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: I was up on seven. So like this thing that 219 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: you felt, oh, you were accomplishing something day by day 220 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:18,439 Speaker 1: as hour went by, it was I don't know, made 221 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,120 Speaker 1: me happy and it was very satisfying. It still is 222 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:24,839 Speaker 1: and and and you know this obsession that I had 223 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 1: with it was going somewhere. I could see that, oh 224 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,439 Speaker 1: I want to learn this trick that I saw. If 225 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 1: I stood there for eight nine hours, I'll actually at 226 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:36,559 Speaker 1: the end get it. And then you're like, oh my god, 227 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 1: I just did it. And then you know your your 228 00:13:38,080 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: excitement grew and you kept going for hours again. After 229 00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: a couple of months, I gathered my courage and when 230 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 1: then asked the coach if I could be a part 231 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 1: of the team. I'm a person with a lot of confidence. 232 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: I've always been this way. But I remember I was very, 233 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:58,719 Speaker 1: very very nervous, first of all because I didn't know 234 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:00,959 Speaker 1: what to say. Secondly because I was scared that he 235 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 1: was saying no. I just went and pointed at myself 236 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: first and then on the field, and then I was 237 00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 1: like this okay, and the guy I was like, yeah, 238 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 1: it just, you know, not his head. That's why I 239 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:16,559 Speaker 1: love football so much, because you don't really need to 240 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: like no, the language he could see in my eyes also, 241 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: you know, the excitement and then the hope, I guess, 242 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:28,040 Speaker 1: and he just smiled and nod at me like yeah, 243 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:30,760 Speaker 1: and then I looked at him. I was like almostn't 244 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 1: sure because I didn't believe that would be that easy. 245 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: But lucky for me, he was a really nice person 246 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 1: and he gave me a chance to be a part 247 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 1: of the team and be able to be a kid, 248 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: I guess. So I'm still grateful for that, and I 249 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:51,440 Speaker 1: think that's the day my life changed. I felt accepted 250 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: right away. One of my first trainings, you're doing the 251 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 1: warm up and you're like, oh, I've never seen this 252 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: exercises before, just like normal warm ups because I've never 253 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 1: done it, you know, I'm like, Okay, knees up, and 254 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 1: you're trying to copy and and trying to adapt. I 255 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: trained with him a couple of weeks, and then one 256 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: day he came. He gave me this little note saying 257 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 1: game Saturday twelve a m at here and I was 258 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 1: about to like explode of happiness. Obviously. I ran to 259 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 1: my mom and told her I needed kleats because it's 260 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: my first game. I need to have football boots because 261 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: so far I've been training with I don't know, just 262 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: like normal shoes. And she didn't really have a lot 263 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,480 Speaker 1: of money, but she was like, okay, fair enough, let's 264 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: go to the local second hand store. And I think 265 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 1: somehow we found these really old, old, old And when 266 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: I say old, like old from ancient football shoes, you know. 267 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: They were too small. I had the biggest blisters, but 268 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: I didn't really care. And I remember sleeping and then 269 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 1: the first night because someone had told me, if you 270 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 1: shower in them and then just have month for a 271 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: really long time, they're gonna expand. So I remember showering 272 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 1: in them in really hot water and then just having 273 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: the month, the entire night to see if they're gonna 274 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: fit better tomorrow. They didn't really do that, but I 275 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 1: should have kept those shoes. I think they would be 276 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: like a lot of money. We're right now, because they 277 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: were like from the forties. So we when left refugee camp, 278 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: we were still in the nerly part of Denmark, in 279 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: this little actually really nice place called Grayby. It was 280 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 1: calm and like environment, very safe, good people. My first 281 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 1: school day was sixth grade. I was the first kid 282 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 1: who looked different in our school than all the other 283 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: Danish ones. So everyone was like excited and super nice 284 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: and curious. There's also some apples on the schoolyard, but 285 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:56,360 Speaker 1: but most of them was really nice. Um and everyone 286 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: had heard that, you know the kids from refugee camp 287 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: who plays football, and uh, they've told him she was 288 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 1: very smart. And at this point I don't I didn't 289 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 1: really knew the language, you know, crazy, because I've literally 290 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: been there for seven eight months. We didn't have a 291 00:17:11,320 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: lot of money. We were actually really poor. I remember, 292 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: you know, my coach at a refugee camp that his 293 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: daughter was gonna start in a bigger team in be 294 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:24,560 Speaker 1: towards US, which means B fifty two. And he was like, 295 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:27,480 Speaker 1: na ya, you guys should come for a trial, you know, 296 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 1: because it's a bigger team and you're gonna play eleven 297 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 1: aside now because we used to play seven aside. And 298 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: it's like Cecily, who was his daughter, and he was 299 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 1: the first kid that I saw playing football first. The 300 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: girl it's going to also be there. So we begged 301 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: my mom to let us go, and she was like 302 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 1: not really, not having it because we had to buy 303 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: from our house to the train station, take a train, 304 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 1: and then take a bus to training and then all 305 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 1: the way back. Taking the train costs money, taking the 306 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: bus costs money, and I don't have the money for 307 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 1: you guys every week to go through three times there. 308 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 1: So the first day we went and it was amazing. 309 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:06,679 Speaker 1: It went really well, and I remember the coach has 310 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 1: been super excited and he was like, I really want 311 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: you guys. We said, well, we want also, but unfortunately 312 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:16,200 Speaker 1: my mom doesn't have the money and we can't afford it. 313 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: This is a lot of money to take the bus 314 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: and the train, and I remember the coach were like, okay, 315 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 1: let me see what I can do. And then when 316 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 1: he came to tell my mom that the club could 317 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:30,159 Speaker 1: pay for our train tickets, my mom really didn't have 318 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 1: any excuses. Her excuse was what about the school that 319 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:36,359 Speaker 1: So we promised her to do really well in school 320 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:39,200 Speaker 1: if she let us go. So I used to take 321 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 1: my you know, school books and stuff in the train 322 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 1: and the bus uh to do homework afterwards, so my 323 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: mom would never have anything to complain about. And she 324 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: let us play football. Nadia and her sister Diana also 325 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 1: found time to work a job. They got a paper 326 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 1: route delivering new papers, leaving the house at five every morning. 327 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 1: So me and Diana, even even though we were really 328 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,200 Speaker 1: young and we're not allowed to work, we started working 329 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 1: with newspaper. It started really slow, and then later on 330 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: we got like more and more and I loved it. 331 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: We had this tradition that every Friday we used to 332 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:22,879 Speaker 1: go and have ice cream, just because you know, we 333 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:25,480 Speaker 1: have the money to have ice cream once a week, 334 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 1: and we loved it sitting there having like five six 335 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 1: scoops of ice cream, just even though we couldn't eat it. 336 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,680 Speaker 1: Then you start freezing. Your tongue used to like be 337 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: numb because it was too cold, but like the feeling 338 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: of you can do it was amazing. I don't know. 339 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 1: We used to help my mom with her you know, 340 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 1: give some of our salary to my mom. We used 341 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 1: to be able to buy shoes. Remember the first thing 342 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 1: we bought was like roller blades, and then slowly kind 343 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,880 Speaker 1: of worked our ways up to bicycles, and then later 344 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 1: on we got our first scooter computer, you know. So 345 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 1: it was like it would just feel of you know, 346 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:03,639 Speaker 1: achieving things. And at the same time our roots got 347 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,439 Speaker 1: bigger and bigger. Because you now have a bicycle, now 348 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:08,640 Speaker 1: you have a scooter, you can have like bigger routes. 349 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 1: So we used to wake up around three am and 350 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: then just like go five hours until eight am, and 351 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,199 Speaker 1: then the day would be finished by me and her 352 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 1: going and buying this like huge cake, splicing it to 353 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: have some green tea. I'll be like a lot of 354 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 1: this life. And then after that going to game. Not 355 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:32,120 Speaker 1: the best way, but hey, me and Jana we played 356 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 1: for a really long time. Here's Diana's memory of the 357 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 1: typical routine. I was really bad at a soccer and 358 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: she was like, if you want this, I'm going to 359 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: teach you, but you need to listen. We was watching 360 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: this movie is like Karate Kid, you know we see 361 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: most of and the Karate Kid, and she was basically 362 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: training me all the time that I used to watch 363 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: Oliver con videos, you know, the German Keeper anybody, and 364 00:20:58,160 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: I used to force her to do the same thing. 365 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 1: When she was like, oh this hurts, I was like, dude, 366 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:04,159 Speaker 1: if you want to be like her, and she was 367 00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:06,840 Speaker 1: like okay, And I used to like punish her if 368 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: she didn't do right, So I would kick the ball 369 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:12,159 Speaker 1: at five times for her to get it. And she 370 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: actually was very very good, seriously, probably one of the 371 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 1: best keepers I've ever played against still today. When I 372 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: was younger, I had a lot of temper and and 373 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: and you know, I always spoke my mind, and I 374 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: used to get a lot of red cars, not because 375 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: of files or anything, just because I used to argue 376 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,560 Speaker 1: with the reft when I was like, this is unfair. 377 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: I was like, why why are you doing this? And 378 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 1: they used to give me a red card for it. 379 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,159 Speaker 1: But I've I've I've learned to control my temper. I 380 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 1: remember one of my coaches telling me that I should 381 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 1: use my temper too, to run more or tackle harder. 382 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: You know, I hit the ball harder and stuff like 383 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 1: using my mouth. So that's something that I've worked on. 384 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:54,800 Speaker 1: But still sometimes I get in the red zone and 385 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:58,639 Speaker 1: I'm about to explode. But I've I've learned to channel it. 386 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,879 Speaker 1: As for Diana, she found her own way to channel 387 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 1: her red zone. She said to me, as a keeper, 388 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,760 Speaker 1: you can have the best game of your life and 389 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: you still can lose one zero. It doesn't matter what 390 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 1: you do. If attacker didn't score and they somehow have 391 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,360 Speaker 1: a hundred chances and you save ninety nine of them, 392 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 1: one is going to go in. So she hated this 393 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:21,959 Speaker 1: feeling of not being in charge, so she started boxing. 394 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 1: Here's Deanna for me personally, if I didn't have the boxing, 395 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: I think it will I will have a different character. 396 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 1: I can be very aggressive and I've just learned how 397 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,359 Speaker 1: to handle it. She was so good. I remember her 398 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,680 Speaker 1: first fight. We were there and I knew it was 399 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 1: like a tournament whereas a lot of boxes, and we 400 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:47,760 Speaker 1: didn't knew what time she's gonna be so I was 401 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 1: there super early. I was there like around ten and 402 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,719 Speaker 1: her fight was like around six pm. It just lasted well, 403 00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: less than twenty seconds. Knock at her opponent, the first 404 00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:15,080 Speaker 1: person she was boxing against, knocked at her. She won 405 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: her first five man That's insane. See, I was like 406 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,399 Speaker 1: happy and disappointed. I was like, what, I'm waited so 407 00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:31,280 Speaker 1: many hours and just twenty seconds? What is this? But yeah, 408 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,560 Speaker 1: she is a beast. She won the Danish championship like 409 00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 1: seven years in a row. She went to China to 410 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: qualify for the Olympics, but had a lot of health 411 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:48,240 Speaker 1: issue as well. She was diagnosed with a tumor, benign 412 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 1: tumor on her brain, which her medicine that she was 413 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,960 Speaker 1: taken was very, very very hard on her body. So 414 00:23:56,160 --> 00:24:00,880 Speaker 1: she was, you know, feeling sick a lot, losing hair, 415 00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: and she also went through like a lot of kimu. 416 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, I have a tumor. 417 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna die. But they checked it. It's not a 418 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 1: dangerous tumor, but it's there, you know. Then I was like, 419 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: I'm really tired. I'm always tired. I want to sleep 420 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:21,560 Speaker 1: all the time. Imagine yourself you have like a Ferrari engine, 421 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 1: and then changed that to I go you know I'm saying, 422 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: and it was difficult for me. So at this point, 423 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:35,120 Speaker 1: she was like training twice a day. Um. So she's 424 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: like a badass. And she called me before the fight 425 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 1: and she's like, oh, I'm feeling so tired now. Yeah, 426 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:44,359 Speaker 1: I'm like that sucks. She's like, oh, I don't I 427 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 1: don't know what's happening in my body. I was like, oh, dude, 428 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: it's okay. The thing and you know, I know, I 429 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 1: don't know what I'm crying. It is just because I 430 00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:01,440 Speaker 1: know how hard it is too well, something so badly, 431 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:07,280 Speaker 1: and then there's obstacles in your way. I never tell 432 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 1: her the stuff because you know, you don't want to 433 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,320 Speaker 1: be like, oh, it's it's hard for you. I never 434 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,320 Speaker 1: say this. I've never said it to her. I always say, 435 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:18,840 Speaker 1: get you together. But I know it's it's hard, you know, 436 00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: because imagine you train, oh, your life to be somewhere 437 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: and then you She was like, I'm feeling so sick. 438 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,879 Speaker 1: I have a fight, like in four hours, and she 439 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:34,120 Speaker 1: was poking, and I know it was because of her medicine. 440 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,560 Speaker 1: And I kept telling her, do you got this? They 441 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 1: cannot do you know, like you it's even though you 442 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: were there with one army, still gonna win. Um so yeah. 443 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 1: So but unfortunately she didn't go by because she she 444 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:53,119 Speaker 1: was like, I couldn't I couldn't even walk. And there 445 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,760 Speaker 1: was a big blow. You know, I was fighting and 446 00:25:55,840 --> 00:26:01,400 Speaker 1: I was winning the any championships. But two thousand thirteen, 447 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:06,200 Speaker 1: it just it was growing. So I had some issues. 448 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: Then I took a break, and they were afraid of 449 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 1: that I could get blind or something like that. I 450 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 1: got to Sweden, I got to treatment every day with 451 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 1: my mom. The tumorous stopped growing, and then I just 452 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:24,560 Speaker 1: started slowly doing my training again. It's tough to make 453 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,320 Speaker 1: a comeback if you've been away for so long time. 454 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,480 Speaker 1: I want to take a step by step. Recent issue 455 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:35,399 Speaker 1: has been here. Nadia and was training together and she 456 00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:38,399 Speaker 1: was on my case all the time, trash talking each other. 457 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: That's there is a part of it, you know, have 458 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,920 Speaker 1: been that since we were child, but a good way, 459 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: in a competitive way. I just decided, you know what, 460 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 1: this disease is there or not, I'm just gonna keep 461 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,960 Speaker 1: doing my thing. I'm a fighter. Nothing would make me 462 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: more happy to being in shape and just be healthy. 463 00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:59,800 Speaker 1: People that they just don't realize that sometimes, you know, 464 00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: until you get sick and then you're like, okay, I 465 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 1: don't want nothing. I just want to be okay. She's 466 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:16,719 Speaker 1: a fighter, and I can tell uh it hasn't been 467 00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: easy for her. But I never said this thought to 468 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 1: her again because we have this mindset and our family 469 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,680 Speaker 1: like it could be always worse. It could be so 470 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:29,439 Speaker 1: much worse. You can walk and you can breathe um, 471 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 1: so anything is possible. On the other hand, I can 472 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,480 Speaker 1: also tell that she's so passionate about it, so I 473 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 1: cannot tell her not to do it because if someone 474 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 1: told me, not you, I don't play football because if 475 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 1: this is this, I'll be like, shut up, I'll still 476 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 1: keep going, you know. So it's a balance. And as 477 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 1: I said, she's a fighter in real life. Also, as 478 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:54,119 Speaker 1: long as you keep fighting, you find a way. It 479 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,120 Speaker 1: took me seven years, but as long as you keep 480 00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 1: coming again and keep coming again, you now you will 481 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:04,240 Speaker 1: find away. The entire family of women knows how to fight. 482 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 1: Their mom raised five girls in an unfamiliar country. Here's Diana. 483 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,800 Speaker 1: But my mom she was a really you know, strong woman, 484 00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: and she was like, look at the glass half full, 485 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 1: don't see the emptiness and it so tould like you 486 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:24,640 Speaker 1: guys have this opportunity people would dream about in India 487 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: and Afghanistan or whatever, do something about. That's what That's 488 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,639 Speaker 1: what we did, you know. And their aunt is a 489 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:37,879 Speaker 1: fighter too. So my aunt Arianna said, is this super 490 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 1: super famous, most famous Afgant singer pop singer. She is 491 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 1: the Afghant Beyonce. How would call her? Don't like literally 492 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,680 Speaker 1: people cry when they see her. I've experienced as I 493 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 1: was an instan bull and she snapped something that she 494 00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: was people were chasing her and then they saw her 495 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,080 Speaker 1: and they're like. Everyone was like just crying. I was like, okay, 496 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: come that. You know. I imagine being an artist in 497 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,320 Speaker 1: the country like Afghanistan, where where females are not allowed 498 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: to have a voice. She has been defying all these 499 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: things and trying to fight for women's right in Afghanistan, 500 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:23,000 Speaker 1: trying to tell women that it's okay to have a voice. 501 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: She puts her life in danger by doing so, so 502 00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,720 Speaker 1: I know for a fact sometimes when she's Afghanistan, there's 503 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:33,640 Speaker 1: scars sent out to try to find her car to 504 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,720 Speaker 1: kill her. My name is Ariana said. I am a 505 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,720 Speaker 1: singer and a woman's rights activists from Afghanistan. I left 506 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 1: Afghanistan at the age of eight when we had to 507 00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 1: flee the country because of the war. I've been living 508 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 1: in the UK since two thousand and I went back 509 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: to Afghanistan in two thousand and eleven as I was 510 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: invited by a big TV to do a concert. When 511 00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,720 Speaker 1: I went back act for this concert, I I just 512 00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,600 Speaker 1: fell in love with the country all over again, with 513 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,960 Speaker 1: the people over the country, with the culture and everything, 514 00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:12,680 Speaker 1: and I decided to to stay in Afghanistan and give back. 515 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:17,000 Speaker 1: During her ten years in Afghanistan, Ariana was a judge 516 00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 1: on big TV shows like The Voice of Afghanistan and 517 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:24,720 Speaker 1: Afghan Superstar. It was not easy for me to to 518 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:28,320 Speaker 1: live in Afghanistan and work from there because because of 519 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,480 Speaker 1: what I stand for, because of the fact that I'm 520 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 1: a singer, because of the fact that i stand for 521 00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:38,800 Speaker 1: women's rights. I mean, talabandon liked me, priests, the extreme 522 00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 1: minded society that we have in Afghanistan. I was a 523 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,720 Speaker 1: target and I was getting threats all the time. But 524 00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 1: the fact that I could change so much, it was 525 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 1: fulfilling as a human being, as a as a woman, 526 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,840 Speaker 1: as somebody you know who stands for for humanity and 527 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: for freedom. The Taliban is on a major offensive, capturing 528 00:30:57,320 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 1: around one fifty Afghan military outposts in the last two months. 529 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: We had to basically escape the takeover Taler and everything. 530 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:11,240 Speaker 1: It was such a nightmare's It was so scary that 531 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: now I'm sitting here thinking about it, I feel I 532 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,160 Speaker 1: still feel like it was either a dream or it 533 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 1: was a movie or something like that. And of course, 534 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 1: as I said, I was already a target of Taliban 535 00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: past few years, and now them taking the entire city 536 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:29,280 Speaker 1: and me being in the city was something crazy, you know, 537 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: and if they captured me, I don't know, they would 538 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 1: have probably instantly killed me, or I don't know what 539 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,680 Speaker 1: they would have done to me. I have no idea. 540 00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: When they got to Coble and I got stuck at 541 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 1: the airport, and I was actually booked on a flight 542 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:45,880 Speaker 1: to leave the day they took over. Unfortunately, when they 543 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,800 Speaker 1: got to the city, our flight got canceled because that 544 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 1: plane was filled with thousands of people inside it, and 545 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 1: the pilots run away, and the security guards at the airplane, 546 00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,200 Speaker 1: everybody run away, and there was chaos, and I was 547 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 1: stuck there at the airport, thinking, oh my god, what 548 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,200 Speaker 1: am I going to do? And by that time we 549 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 1: know that Taliban are like right outside the airport and 550 00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:14,120 Speaker 1: they can come anytime. Eventually, we were rescued by American 551 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,160 Speaker 1: soldiers and they got us out of Afghanistan, whether with 552 00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:21,600 Speaker 1: that army plane. Her passion for her country has led 553 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,080 Speaker 1: Ariana to speak before NATO and the European Parliament to 554 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,880 Speaker 1: bring attention to the fate of her fellow Afghan women 555 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:32,959 Speaker 1: since the US withdrawal. When America came to our country, 556 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 1: they claimed that you know, they will get rid of 557 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:38,400 Speaker 1: al Qaeda, and they will get rid of terrorists and 558 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:43,960 Speaker 1: things like that. And twenty years we thrived and we 559 00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 1: worked so hard, you know, and we achieved so much. 560 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,320 Speaker 1: And these women. We had women working in the parliament, 561 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,600 Speaker 1: we had women working in the offices, and now by 562 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,680 Speaker 1: the return of Taliban, we have lost everything that we're 563 00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,640 Speaker 1: back to zero. My own clothing brand, we had a 564 00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:04,680 Speaker 1: beautiful store in Couple City for about one month only 565 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 1: and this is when unfortunately Taliban took over again. When 566 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:12,760 Speaker 1: they came, we had to unfortunately shut down the store, 567 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,720 Speaker 1: all the team, the women. We had about twenty two 568 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: people working for me at that time. And unfortunately, all 569 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: those women, all the employees, everybody they have, they have 570 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: to just set at home and they have no jobs anymore, 571 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 1: and not even food to eat because you know, of 572 00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,160 Speaker 1: the Taliban and everything that happened. Unfortunately, Taliban are not 573 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,320 Speaker 1: allowing women to work or to study, or they're not 574 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 1: even allowed to go outside without the presence of a man. 575 00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 1: Here's the thing, one message I want to give out 576 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,880 Speaker 1: to all those women is to fight on and not 577 00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 1: give up. Proud of having heared my family and everyone 578 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,880 Speaker 1: is very proud of what she's doing because it's it's 579 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:01,520 Speaker 1: new in Afghanistan. She's a symbole, symbol of freedom. I 580 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,120 Speaker 1: think she is a symbol of what women can achieve 581 00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: if they want to, even though it's I would say, 582 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:11,759 Speaker 1: as a dangerous, dangerous job. I think she inspired me 583 00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,359 Speaker 1: to go after the goals that I want, even though 584 00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,840 Speaker 1: they seemed very hard or there's gonna be obstacles surrounded. 585 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,600 Speaker 1: And if you ask Arianna, she'll tell you her nieces 586 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:30,839 Speaker 1: inspire her too. All of them defy expectations, even if 587 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,320 Speaker 1: their chosen professions are just a touch different from their aunts. 588 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,680 Speaker 1: I've never been to boxing matches before, and this was 589 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:42,000 Speaker 1: the first night. Only went because of Dianna, And by 590 00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:45,160 Speaker 1: the time the five fundition, I was so exhausted and 591 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,919 Speaker 1: my voice had gone because I had screamed so much 592 00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:51,560 Speaker 1: out of your own like excitement and calling her name 593 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:53,440 Speaker 1: and everything, and it was so scary to me. I 594 00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,200 Speaker 1: said to her, I will never ever come back to 595 00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:59,640 Speaker 1: your fight again, because this was way too bad for me. 596 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: And of course she's my niece. I wanted her to 597 00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:05,600 Speaker 1: to win the fight, and everything which she did then 598 00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,680 Speaker 1: my entire family we were there, we celebrated, was beautiful, 599 00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 1: but never again. Arianna has also gone to support Nadia, 600 00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:18,000 Speaker 1: who became a star of the Danish national team, something 601 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,279 Speaker 1: that was really beautiful. When she finished the game and 602 00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:24,960 Speaker 1: we came out of the stadium, there was like a 603 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,520 Speaker 1: long group of children waiting for her for them to 604 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,759 Speaker 1: just sign you know, like give her signature. I was 605 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 1: like wow. I was like, I felt so proud. It 606 00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:40,000 Speaker 1: was really cool, like her aunt pursuing one girl who 607 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,800 Speaker 1: wasn't enough. For Nadia, her dreams extend beyond the field, 608 00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,359 Speaker 1: you know. I saw this film of Tom Cruise where 609 00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:48,880 Speaker 1: he was a lawyer, and I was like, Oh, that 610 00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,800 Speaker 1: looks pretty cool. I want to be a lawyer. And 611 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,680 Speaker 1: then I did internshipping in this law company for a 612 00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,400 Speaker 1: couple of months, and I felt it was really boring 613 00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:59,719 Speaker 1: and it was not the way I imagined or the 614 00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,239 Speaker 1: way it is in the movies. And then I was like, nah, 615 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:05,320 Speaker 1: this is not me. And at a certain point I 616 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 1: wanted to work in Wall Street again because of the money, 617 00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:12,000 Speaker 1: and I was like, nah, this is not me. My 618 00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,960 Speaker 1: mom was always she wanted to be a doctor when 619 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,479 Speaker 1: she was younger, but she got married and life came 620 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,839 Speaker 1: and she didn't really achieve her goal or her dream. 621 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,839 Speaker 1: So she always said to us that she would love 622 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,320 Speaker 1: to see one of us as a doctor, and I 623 00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:29,280 Speaker 1: hated that out, like, I'm not gonna do your dream. 624 00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: It's your dream, is not mine. So she always used 625 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:33,960 Speaker 1: to tell me, but you're very smart. You could be 626 00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 1: a good doctor, and I'm like, yeah, but I don't 627 00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:40,759 Speaker 1: want to because it's your dream. And I remember when 628 00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,040 Speaker 1: I was a nine grade we had this one week 629 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:46,759 Speaker 1: where you get to go and have working experience. I 630 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,440 Speaker 1: chose this private hospital because it was closer our home 631 00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,800 Speaker 1: and I got to sleep in so I didn't have 632 00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,960 Speaker 1: to wake up super early. So I was like, you know, 633 00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:56,959 Speaker 1: one week, I'm gonna sleep in and I'm gonna easy life. 634 00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,040 Speaker 1: But when I was there. While I was there, I 635 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:04,520 Speaker 1: thought it was very interesting. This guy plastic surgeon was 636 00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 1: doing everything from cosmetic to reconstruction. I was like, wow, 637 00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,200 Speaker 1: this is so cool. I had really good grades and 638 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:16,399 Speaker 1: then Denmark High. Your grades are the more doors are 639 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:18,840 Speaker 1: open for you, so I could literally choose anything I 640 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,520 Speaker 1: wanted to any university. And when the day came and 641 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:27,080 Speaker 1: I had to apply, you have three choices and then 642 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,560 Speaker 1: three universities, so you're gonna choose. My first priority is 643 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,239 Speaker 1: this second disc, third disk, so if you don't get 644 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,040 Speaker 1: in in the first, you're gonna go second. If you 645 00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 1: don't get second, third and so on. And I remember 646 00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:42,120 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just gonna medicine first thing. That's 647 00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:43,880 Speaker 1: the only thing I wrote. I was like, medicine and 648 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,160 Speaker 1: where all his university send it in. A couple of 649 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,280 Speaker 1: weeks later, I got the let us saying I was accepted. 650 00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,520 Speaker 1: So I remember not telling my mom that I had 651 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,120 Speaker 1: applied for med school because I wanted to tell her 652 00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: that it's my decision, not because you wanted me to. 653 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,000 Speaker 1: I told my mom Ike got in a finance and 654 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,400 Speaker 1: she was like, oh, I'm very happy for you, but 655 00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:11,000 Speaker 1: like half hearted. But why when I started first semesterisly 656 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,400 Speaker 1: I told my mom that I was accepted in med 657 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,120 Speaker 1: school and she was like super excited. And after first 658 00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,440 Speaker 1: semester I knew I had made the right decision because 659 00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:24,440 Speaker 1: I love everything about it. I really enjoyed this feeling 660 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,759 Speaker 1: that you get like operation rooms. I get the same 661 00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:30,000 Speaker 1: Madrellan and when you're scoring a goal. I love this. 662 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:34,360 Speaker 1: I wouldn't say power, but I don't know this feeling 663 00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,279 Speaker 1: of that you have such a huge responsibility in your hands. 664 00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,520 Speaker 1: I love that I love that you can have a 665 00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:44,279 Speaker 1: huge impact on people's daily lives. When you walk in 666 00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,760 Speaker 1: the like corridors of a hospital and you see all 667 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,839 Speaker 1: the guy and you just smiled to him, you can 668 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: immediately see the change in his face, you know, and 669 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:54,839 Speaker 1: I don't know. I love that feeling, and I love 670 00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:58,839 Speaker 1: the fact that you, a certain situations are the last 671 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,640 Speaker 1: person that can help these people. But when you're trying 672 00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,840 Speaker 1: to qualify as a doctor and be a professional athlete, 673 00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,160 Speaker 1: it's a punishing schedule. You know, you can never learn enough. 674 00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,720 Speaker 1: And every day it's a zoom and it's eight am 675 00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,040 Speaker 1: Danish time, so I wake up at two am to 676 00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:19,000 Speaker 1: attend my school. It's it's the passion that I have. 677 00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:21,840 Speaker 1: And if you want to achieve your goals, you have 678 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,399 Speaker 1: to work hard for it. And I just don't say 679 00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,840 Speaker 1: this to say it. I actually work very hard for 680 00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: everything that I do. Everything I have. My oldest sisters 681 00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:33,719 Speaker 1: is a doctor right now working at a pediatric department 682 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:37,680 Speaker 1: in Denmark. My two youngest sister or nurses. I don't 683 00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,160 Speaker 1: know why we all ended up in, you know, this 684 00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:43,680 Speaker 1: same field. I think the reason is that we really 685 00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:47,320 Speaker 1: want to help people. I think I speak on my behalf. 686 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:53,400 Speaker 1: But I think also probably similar views is that you 687 00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 1: know the importance of having help with the people given 688 00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,359 Speaker 1: us through our lives, you know has meant a lot, 689 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:01,960 Speaker 1: and you wanted to do the same thing for others. 690 00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,920 Speaker 1: My dream or my goal is one day for us 691 00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:12,560 Speaker 1: to have a clinic together somewhere then the deams. I 692 00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:16,239 Speaker 1: want to think of my father. It's something that my 693 00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:18,680 Speaker 1: mom tells me a lot of time, which is funny. 694 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,800 Speaker 1: She says to me, especially me and Diana, we remind 695 00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:24,920 Speaker 1: a lot of him, just the way we are. I 696 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 1: think the way I think she told me one day 697 00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:30,920 Speaker 1: because I've been athletic and lookwise, also looking like my 698 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:35,080 Speaker 1: dad a bit. It's just she says, the character very, 699 00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:39,960 Speaker 1: very determined and and then strong headed stubb And I 700 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:48,000 Speaker 1: would say, even like years went by and I sometimes 701 00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,520 Speaker 1: I felt I saw him, and I'll be like, is 702 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,720 Speaker 1: that him? So I always had this feeling he somehows 703 00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,959 Speaker 1: survived or he is somewhere instill in Afghanistan, or maybe 704 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,680 Speaker 1: he escaped from Afghanistan because he had to you and 705 00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,799 Speaker 1: he's in a different country and one day he's gonna 706 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,440 Speaker 1: come and be like, hey, guys, I had to do this, 707 00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,160 Speaker 1: so it was weird. For a really long time, I 708 00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,080 Speaker 1: felt like I saw in places and I used to 709 00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:15,480 Speaker 1: dream of him a lot, which is I think normal. 710 00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:27,759 Speaker 1: And and I remember when I was doing my biography 711 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:35,719 Speaker 1: with with the Danish writer Um that she explained explained 712 00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,279 Speaker 1: me that there's just like a coping because the mechanism 713 00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:47,080 Speaker 1: that you that it's a normal thing that you that's 714 00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,960 Speaker 1: how you cope with it. Um that for a really 715 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 1: long time you still feel that they're there. So now 716 00:41:55,120 --> 00:42:00,279 Speaker 1: I don't anymore. It's weird. I've told it had a 717 00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:05,960 Speaker 1: really a time, but sometimes it gets to me. M. Yeah, 718 00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,839 Speaker 1: the life if I was as stayed in Afghanistan would 719 00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:12,880 Speaker 1: be probably very very different, if we would be a life. 720 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:16,319 Speaker 1: You know, I think as a girl, you're not really 721 00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,960 Speaker 1: allowed to do anything and not even allowed to go 722 00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:23,280 Speaker 1: to school, which I thought it was stupid. So also 723 00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,640 Speaker 1: when I think of how my character is, how stubborn 724 00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:30,040 Speaker 1: I am with certain stuff, I would have found it 725 00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:34,040 Speaker 1: extremely hard to to just a bow down, and you 726 00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:39,279 Speaker 1: know that's just not in my DNA. So I don't 727 00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:44,080 Speaker 1: think I would been of a life anyways. You know, 728 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,200 Speaker 1: now I've been talking of my dad being just like 729 00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:50,799 Speaker 1: super intelligent, and you know, and really stubborn. I think 730 00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:54,920 Speaker 1: my mom is even stronger. I think she's one of 731 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:59,040 Speaker 1: the strongest people I've ever met. She is tiny, um, 732 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,280 Speaker 1: so I get surprised sometimes I'm like, well, how's that possible. 733 00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:05,600 Speaker 1: And one of the things that I've i know, I've 734 00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,560 Speaker 1: got from a moment I love about her is that 735 00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,920 Speaker 1: she does not take, i know, for an answer if 736 00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:15,400 Speaker 1: she really wants something. At times it's annoying, You're like, oh, 737 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,640 Speaker 1: come on, man, just can you not just not do it? 738 00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,600 Speaker 1: She's like no, And I love that. You know, it 739 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:24,720 Speaker 1: takes a lot of courage and a lot of energy 740 00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,840 Speaker 1: to be that way. Um. But she always follows what 741 00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:32,440 Speaker 1: she wants and I think that's really something that I admire. 742 00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:37,560 Speaker 1: And she's very intelligent, you know, I think, a very 743 00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:42,160 Speaker 1: open minded and adapts easily. I feel she was the 744 00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:47,160 Speaker 1: person who gave us a second chance. My mom was 745 00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,840 Speaker 1: young when my dad died. A lot of women in 746 00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:54,000 Speaker 1: her position, I know, because a lot of women went 747 00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,719 Speaker 1: through the same thing. They were remarried, and my mom 748 00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,719 Speaker 1: there were a lot of people after her. She could 749 00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:04,000 Speaker 1: have done that and you know, almost give up on 750 00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:07,799 Speaker 1: her us because if she got married, we haven't been 751 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,640 Speaker 1: treated well, that's for sure, and probably arranged marriages super 752 00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,960 Speaker 1: early to get rid of you know. UM. So she 753 00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,240 Speaker 1: didn't want that. She wants us to go to school, 754 00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,359 Speaker 1: study and become something. So she chose us and that's 755 00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:25,000 Speaker 1: something that UM always going to be grateful. That's one 756 00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:27,759 Speaker 1: of the reasons I'm so outspoken when it comes to 757 00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:31,840 Speaker 1: my life story and the struggles. I think it just 758 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,160 Speaker 1: shows that you can be in a really dark place 759 00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:38,560 Speaker 1: and then and you can get out of it. The 760 00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:41,319 Speaker 1: most important thing, and this is that you should never 761 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:46,120 Speaker 1: lose hope. I think humans are capable of a lot 762 00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,760 Speaker 1: more than you we actually think we are. It doesn't 763 00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,600 Speaker 1: really matter if you're a refugee or anyone, because everyone 764 00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:55,600 Speaker 1: has their own struggles. You always have to believe this 765 00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,640 Speaker 1: possible to to change your situation. And you know, I 766 00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:01,520 Speaker 1: think the day that I and have holebar, I lose 767 00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,080 Speaker 1: this feeling of that there's nothing I can do, is 768 00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,480 Speaker 1: probably there that I want to die. I know it 769 00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:09,000 Speaker 1: sounds really extreme, but that's also very important for me. 770 00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:15,360 Speaker 1: Nadia has played for professional teams around the world. In 771 00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,040 Speaker 1: she led Parry Saint Germain to their first Division One 772 00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:24,360 Speaker 1: title in history, scoring eighteen goals in twenty seven games. 773 00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:28,879 Speaker 1: Now she plays for nws LS Racing Louisville FC. She's 774 00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,480 Speaker 1: just returning to the field after six months out with 775 00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,759 Speaker 1: an a c L tear. Her first practice back, her 776 00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:38,760 Speaker 1: teammates formed a mini tunnel, giving her high fives, cheering 777 00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:43,200 Speaker 1: as she ran victoriously out to training. After practice is over, 778 00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:46,160 Speaker 1: she often still juggles the way she did when she 779 00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,960 Speaker 1: was a kid, remaining on the field with three or 780 00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,560 Speaker 1: four other players seeing how long they can keep the 781 00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:54,719 Speaker 1: ball up and when things go awry, when the ball 782 00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:58,239 Speaker 1: gets away from them, Nadia is on the sprint splaying 783 00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:04,080 Speaker 1: out her laughter ringing across the wide beautiful field. I'm 784 00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:09,840 Speaker 1: Hannah Waddingham and this is Hustle Rule. Join us for 785 00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:13,560 Speaker 1: our next episode. Brazil's number ten. Cry in the beginning 786 00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:28,080 Speaker 1: and smile in the end. Staff for Noel Bad. Hustle 787 00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:31,920 Speaker 1: Rule is a production of Waffle Iron Entertainment, Range Media Partners, 788 00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:36,120 Speaker 1: Observatory Audio, UP Media and I Heart Radio, written and 789 00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:39,840 Speaker 1: directed by Gwendolyn oxen Um, hosted by me Hannah wadding Um, 790 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,920 Speaker 1: and is based on the book Under the Lights and 791 00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,960 Speaker 1: in the Dark, written by Gwendolyn oxen Um. The executive 792 00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:49,000 Speaker 1: producers are Justin Biskun from Waffle Iron Entertainment, Bob Alligan 793 00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:53,120 Speaker 1: from Range Media Partners, and Sean Titan from I Heart Radio. 794 00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:56,440 Speaker 1: Co written by Ruth Hilton, Produced by Gwendolyn oxen Um, 795 00:46:56,640 --> 00:47:00,480 Speaker 1: Ruth Hilton and Jordana Glick Franszheim, co produced by Jimmy 796 00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:04,959 Speaker 1: Jelinek and Jared Goodstadt, Edited by Carry Caulfield, Eric sound 797 00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:08,480 Speaker 1: design and mixing by Jeremiah's Immerman. 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