Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect
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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Jaselle Bryant.
Speaker 1: What's up? What's up? Everyone? This is Robin Dixon. Thank
Speaker 1: you for being here with us once again.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, grave, yes, in the house. That was good.
Speaker 1: Actually, that was amazing. Yes.
Speaker 2: I came up with that, like just now, how are
Speaker 2: you feeling.
Speaker 1: You're feeling good? You look good. I'm feeling good. Thank you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you look amazing, thank you, thank you. It's quiet and busy. Yes,
Speaker 1: everybody's gone. Everybody's gone. The kids are at school. One
Speaker 1: is at the getting his haircut. He's got a doctor appointment.
Speaker 2: Yes, all that he's doing maintenance. Okay, do you have
Speaker 2: a shady moment?
Speaker 1: I traveled recently for basketball for the kids for Corey,
Speaker 1: and we were in Indianapolis, Indiana. Okay, never been there before.
Speaker 1: It actually is a nice city. Oh okay, good, yeah,
Speaker 1: not you're going to say it was trash. No, okay,
Speaker 1: it actually is a nice city. We were in like
Speaker 1: the suburbs of it, but the suburbs were nice, and
Speaker 1: you know, it's a really nice city. So it kind
Speaker 1: of surprised us how nice it was. Anyway, the shady
Speaker 1: moment comes our rental car, oh broke down on us.
Speaker 1: What yes, Brandon, And it was like it had six
Speaker 1: thousand miles a Ford Explorer, six thousand miles on it.
Speaker 1: In the middle of Indiana, Indianapolis, the rental car breaks down. Yeah, which,
Speaker 1: and it's such a pain in the ass. It's like, who,
Speaker 1: I'm here for basketball games. I'm trying to get to
Speaker 1: my son's basketball game and over here the cars breaking down?
Speaker 1: So did you miss the game? We met? We made
Speaker 1: it to the game because one of a random mother
Speaker 1: on another team who knew me from Housewives, was just like,
Speaker 1: she's from Indiana, so her son's team was playing on
Speaker 1: the India on the Indie Heat. She was just like, hey, Robin,
Speaker 1: how you doing. I'm like, oh my god, I'm dealing
Speaker 1: with this rental car down on me. She's like, all right,
Speaker 1: well out it. Because we were so the games we
Speaker 1: were in one gym and then Corey's next game was
Speaker 1: in another gym that was like twenty five minutes away.
Speaker 1: So fortunately we made it to the one gym and
Speaker 1: we were able to park, and then we couldn't start
Speaker 1: the car. Oh god, so you know, I just tell
Speaker 1: this random lady the story. She's like, oh, well, I'm
Speaker 1: going to the other gym too, so y'all can hop
Speaker 1: in my hole.
Speaker 2: She was more than happy.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, oh yes, she was like yes, shout out
Speaker 1: to Mila. But she definitely came through and we all
Speaker 1: me Wanta Carter hopped in her car, and she kept
Speaker 1: apologizing because it was like her son's old two thousand
Speaker 1: fourd escape. It was it was it was I hadn't
Speaker 1: seen a car are of that condition in a while.
Speaker 2: Over so she kept like that think got you from
Speaker 2: A to B exactly.
Speaker 1: I said, I don't care, just give it to my
Speaker 1: son's game. But then we had to deal with the
Speaker 1: whole Okay, now we gotta meet go back to the
Speaker 1: other gyms to meet the tow truck to take that car,
Speaker 1: and then we have to take an uber back to
Speaker 1: the airport forty minutes away.
Speaker 2: They wouldn't come bring you one.
Speaker 1: Well, because it was Saturday, all the small local branches
Speaker 1: were closed and so the only thing open is the airport.
Speaker 1: And try getting through to somebody at the airport to
Speaker 1: bring me a car. That's not happening. It was just
Speaker 1: so it was so much, right, So we had to
Speaker 1: get the car toad, take an uber to the airport,
Speaker 1: get another car, and then going by a business.
Speaker 2: It was that's a lot. Yeah, so what what car
Speaker 2: rental company? As you are shady as well, I.
Speaker 1: Mean they did what they could, like the roadside assistance people,
Speaker 1: they did what they could, but it was that was
Speaker 1: a pain in the ass.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, as we were on to you. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: So my shady moment is because this has happened to me.
Speaker 2: It's only like what time is it right now? Ten
Speaker 2: thirty in the morning. Yeah, it's happened to me like
Speaker 2: five times today. Okay, people asking me what I'm gonna
Speaker 2: do now that I'm gonna be an empty nester. Oh,
Speaker 2: I'm sick of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is.
Speaker 2: The shadiness is not I'm gonna be an empty nest
Speaker 2: of shady keep asking, asking and reminding you and reminding
Speaker 2: me and what I'm gonna do, and oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: And they're like talking to me like my life is over, yes,
Speaker 2: and stop it right, like people everywhere ever I went
Speaker 2: got my car washed. Huh, I don't know these people.
Speaker 2: They are just going to me.
Speaker 1: Oh my God, the girl's gonna leave. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: what you gonna do? Oh my god, you're gonna be
Speaker 1: an empty nester? Like what right? Keep reminding, But I
Speaker 1: guess they're like concerned. Maybe they've been through that, or
Speaker 1: they picture themselves going through that and like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: what would I do? But yes, they they are not
Speaker 1: thinking like You're getting this question eight million times a day.
Speaker 2: A day, and so I'm just putting that out there
Speaker 2: to the universe. Stop asking me.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonn tell you what I'm gonna do. Yes,
Speaker 2: walk around naked. You already know that. Right in my house,
Speaker 2: I'm just no clothes. I'm gonna eat breakfast naked. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna eat lunch naked. Okay, you probably already do that.
Speaker 2: I mean it freaks out the girls, so I try
Speaker 2: not to. And then I'm just gonna live, okay the end. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm going to visit my children, I'm going to visit Robin.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna play in the streets.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be y'all gonna see me on TMZ like
Speaker 2: dating somebody, kissing somebody in the corner.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do all the things. It's a turn up
Speaker 1: time good. Yes, yes, I think I think you'll be okay,
Speaker 1: I mean, of course, it's I can't imagine when that
Speaker 1: time comes from me, so I know how you're feeling, yeah,
Speaker 1: or I can I can only imagine how you're feeling.
Speaker 1: But I'm sure you will find ways to keep yourself
Speaker 1: very busy.
Speaker 2: Me too, So leave me alone. And when you see
Speaker 2: me in the streets acting wild, because you will see that,
Speaker 2: just leave me alone.
Speaker 1: I'm living but now got three schools to visit, three
Speaker 1: kids to visit.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love that though, right, So I'm gonna be
Speaker 2: hitting the road doing that. Yeah, I'm gonna be mine
Speaker 2: in my business. I'm gonna be talking. Y'all know I
Speaker 2: don't do that very well, So I will be talking
Speaker 2: and just in any corner. Okay, Yeah, i'ma be doing
Speaker 2: me the.
Speaker 1: In Do you feel like you're gonna have to evenly
Speaker 1: divide up your time to visit the girls? Like, do
Speaker 1: you think one of them would be like all of them? Okay,
Speaker 1: all of them will be.
Speaker 2: If I go to one school, the other two are
Speaker 2: gonna definitely be like how long did she stay? And
Speaker 2: then like they're gonna want to meet a match whatever
Speaker 2: I did with that one.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's terrible, horrible and Grace is the worst one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Grace to be like, you know, well, mom, like why
Speaker 2: aren't you coming? Like she's she's a bit of a nag.
Speaker 2: I love her, but like if she if you tell
Speaker 2: her something. Let's say, she's like, I want to go
Speaker 2: eat tacos and you're like, oh, Grace, you know, like
Speaker 2: we're gonna eat steak. She's like, but what's going on
Speaker 2: with tacos?
Speaker 1: What's wrong tacos?
Speaker 2: And like until you eat the steak she's asking about,
Speaker 2: like she doesn't let her go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that, she's that girl.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so she's gonna want to make sure that
Speaker 2: she gets all the mommy time.
Speaker 1: Oh I love that, Like yeah, well no, I mean
Speaker 1: I love that just your relationship with your girls, because yes,
Speaker 1: I had a great relationship with my mother, but I
Speaker 1: didn't want to like spend time with my mother, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean, because your mother was like me right.
Speaker 1: I mean, like no offense to my mom, but I
Speaker 1: wasn't like worrying about if she seeing with my brother
Speaker 1: or yeah yeah or when I mean and maybe it's
Speaker 1: because I went to I mean, no, it's just different.
Speaker 1: I can't even say that was maybe because I went
Speaker 1: to University of Maryland and it was closer to home, right,
Speaker 1: And you know, I kind of could go home whenever
Speaker 1: I wanted to anyway, but I don't. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think if I was, like in another city, I would
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, mom, come hang out.
Speaker 2: Well, times are different, Yeah, I think relationships with parents
Speaker 2: and children for sure, are totally different from they were
Speaker 2: in the past, and different in a good way.
Speaker 1: No, in a great way. Yeah, and I'm not letting
Speaker 1: my girls go Like I saw gosh, who was it?
Speaker 1: Whi's Khalifa? Uh huh? Did you see this? He said,
Speaker 1: I don't remember where it was. I saw the headline
Speaker 1: a little clip. He goes to the club with his mom.
Speaker 1: Strip club with his mom.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a relationship.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, I actually could
Speaker 1: picture myself doing that, which is my boys. Yeah, yeah
Speaker 1: I could.
Speaker 2: I definitely can see you doing that and me with mine. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't need to go to the strip club, but
Speaker 2: like we could definitely go right like club hop.
Speaker 1: Like hang out. He's like, yeah, my mom is my
Speaker 1: roll dog, Like, oh, I love that.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's funny.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, that's gonna be me and
Speaker 1: my kid.
Speaker 2: Yes, what age is that he is? This ten years
Speaker 2: from now?
Speaker 1: Shoot, not even no, like when they're like Cory's what
Speaker 1: Cory sixteen? Sixteen? Yeah, maybe five.
Speaker 2: So when he's legal, you know of riving gonna be
Speaker 2: and uh, what's up? Magic City?
Speaker 1: Yes, we're doing at all.
Speaker 2: She's gonna be in Miami at eleven.
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, so I'm not smoking weed with my kids though.
Speaker 2: Please don't.
Speaker 1: I mean, does anybody smoke weed anymore? I thought it
Speaker 1: was just all edibles. What people I mean is rollo,
Speaker 1: your nostrils don't work. I smell weed all the time.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter where I am. It does not matter
Speaker 1: where I am. I smell weed. So yes, people still
Speaker 1: smoke weed. Okay.
Speaker 2: A couple of things that we're a little late to
Speaker 2: discuss what we're gonna We need to discuss first things first,
Speaker 2: the benefit benefit benefer, Is that right?
Speaker 1: The benefit of it all? Yes? Okay, well it's Ben
Speaker 1: and j Lo. Yes, every day it's different now.
Speaker 2: Because we don't by the time this who knows, but
Speaker 2: every day is different. So on today I think it's
Speaker 2: over what you.
Speaker 1: Think I think it's quite rocky. I think I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's over. Yeah, well you know what, right,
Speaker 1: once it's rocky, I think with Jen and Ben it's over.
Speaker 1: It's over. Yeah, now did we because because all right,
Speaker 1: so what do we know? We know that he supposedly
Speaker 1: moved out of.
Speaker 2: Their house, their l a house. He's like down the street,
Speaker 2: around the corner, somewhere in the airbnb. Right, yeah, we
Speaker 2: know that they he's we know, we definitely know for sure.
Speaker 2: He's never looked happy. Okay, that's clear. The man hasn't smiled.
Speaker 2: And how long they've been married eighteen months? Who knows,
Speaker 2: Let's say to you in two years?
Speaker 1: Has it? It was a pandemic.
Speaker 2: I don't know when they got married, but he has
Speaker 2: not smiled. The honeymoon colleagues not here the fact check.
Speaker 2: So we're just gonna say all kinds of wrong things today. Okay,
Speaker 2: but I think that, Yeah, I think it's a rap.
Speaker 1: And she looks she doesn't look great to me. She
Speaker 1: looks bothered. Yes, she looks stressed. She's bothered. I hesitate
Speaker 1: to use the old word old oh's old oh ozempict
Speaker 1: I was like.
Speaker 2: Old organza oat meal.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what old words. You got married a
Speaker 1: year ago.
Speaker 2: Yes, and in all, he's been grimacing for three hundred
Speaker 2: and sixty five days.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, so Ben, be free and be happy again. Yeah,
Speaker 2: get your life. Yeah all, that's all I'm gonna say
Speaker 2: about that.
Speaker 1: But but Jin, let's figure out why, why.
Speaker 2: Why this is not working for you. As a matter
Speaker 2: of fact, I don't ever want her to get married again.
Speaker 2: As a matter of fact, just live with somebody. You
Speaker 2: don't have to get married. You do not have to
Speaker 2: marry these people.
Speaker 1: She don't have to live with anyone at this point. Yes,
Speaker 1: I think her career just takes precedence over everything in
Speaker 1: your life, everything. And I think eventually that just she
Speaker 1: probably you know, gets in a new relationship and they're
Speaker 1: in the honeymoon phase, yeah you know, and then eventually
Speaker 1: if fizzles, and then she's back to just full force
Speaker 1: on her career.
Speaker 2: And I think she emasculates men.
Speaker 1: Probably, And when's the last time we've seen Ben affleck
Speaker 1: do like any type of project, you.
Speaker 2: Know, like is he dunkin donuts? He dunk and donuts
Speaker 2: us to death? Okay, we were duncan out, that's true.
Speaker 1: That's true.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean but he no, he's working, he's been
Speaker 2: in he was in so movie.
Speaker 1: Oh is he? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I have Well, he was promoting a movie recently, Okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't know if anyone saw it, but I think
Speaker 2: he's busy as well. So I think that that's hard
Speaker 2: and that's what they were saying. He was working on
Speaker 2: a project out of the country during the met gala.
Speaker 1: That's why he wasn't there.
Speaker 2: I'm like, he don't like her and he don't like
Speaker 2: that kind of stuff right the end. So anyway, we
Speaker 2: wished them the best individually, not together. We wished them
Speaker 2: the best individually. Okay, so just get away from each other.
Speaker 2: It's been a while, but we have not talked about
Speaker 2: Sean Buffee Combs and the video that the entire world.
Speaker 1: Has seen disgusting.
Speaker 2: Did we talk that day that it came out? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Remember Bianca texted it. Yes, And well we didn't talk talk.
Speaker 1: We were it was just in our group chat in
Speaker 1: a group chat. Yeah, and because I think I was
Speaker 1: out of town. But yeah, that was disgusting. That was horrifying. Yes,
Speaker 1: And then to think about do you know the time,
Speaker 1: like how long did they stay in a relationship after
Speaker 1: that years years, like a couple of years.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I made my children watch it because I have
Speaker 2: daughters and just to be like, look, if you ever
Speaker 2: even get an inkling that anybody's gonna put your hands
Speaker 2: on you, you call me. Yeah, you call the police.
Speaker 2: Get the hell away. I don't care where you are,
Speaker 2: I'm coming to get you this. I felt so horrible
Speaker 2: for Cassie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my brother called me.
Speaker 2: He was like, you know so many reasons why this
Speaker 2: is horrible, and one of them is like, he's making
Speaker 2: everyone think that all black men are like this, like
Speaker 2: black men.
Speaker 1: Just out here beating people up.
Speaker 2: But this is what's even worse. The apology. What in
Speaker 2: the world apology? But did we hear the word I
Speaker 2: apologize or I'm sorry?
Speaker 1: No, it was it was a woe is me type
Speaker 1: of thing. Yeah, trying to fizzle, like defizzle the situation.
Speaker 2: Right, he actually said he didn't apolishe you're right here,
Speaker 2: he said, up right?
Speaker 1: Or I was that I was in a really big
Speaker 1: dark place and I had to get help. But I
Speaker 1: got help, and I got help.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so difficult to reflect on the darkest times
Speaker 3: in your life. Sometimes you gotta do that. I was ugh,
Speaker 3: I mean, I had rob bottom, but I make no excuses.
Speaker 3: My behavior on that video is inexcusable. I take full
Speaker 3: responsibility for my ashes in that video. I was disgusted
Speaker 3: then when I did it. I'm disgusting now boy.
Speaker 1: Good night bye. After after he called her whole lawsuit
Speaker 1: a live la.
Speaker 2: Yes, put out a whole statement. Enough, I'm tired of
Speaker 2: people slang during.
Speaker 1: Me right what That's insane? Yeah, that is insane. And
Speaker 1: I just I mean, did you see Cassie's statement that
Speaker 1: she released. No, she released a statement and she pretty
Speaker 1: much you know, was thanking everyone for their support and said,
Speaker 1: you know, she was definitely younger and in a bad
Speaker 1: place and it was a really difficult time for her.
Speaker 1: And she's still you know, as she's grown out of that,
Speaker 1: yeah and healed from it, she still has that trauma.
Speaker 1: You know, she's still healing from that trauma for.
Speaker 2: The rest of her life.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I'm sure and her statement was really gracious
Speaker 1: because I'm sure it wasn't easy reliving that. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing that on Instagram and whatever, TV and over and
Speaker 1: over and over again and people just reaching out and stuff.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that wasn't easy to relive that and to
Speaker 1: see yourself in that position like that's that's horrible.
Speaker 2: Yes, my heart goes out to her and anyone who
Speaker 2: has in any way had to endure domestic islands.
Speaker 1: This makes you wonder like what is why did he
Speaker 1: have to do all that? Why? That's that's my whole point.
Speaker 2: Why why?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 2: I just don't even know.
Speaker 1: It was clear she was trying to lead, like let
Speaker 1: her go, like.
Speaker 2: She's barefoot, right, she's she doesn't even have shoes on,
Speaker 2: and she's trying to get Oh no, she's trying to
Speaker 2: get out of there, and you run after her naked
Speaker 2: with a towel, but that towel was wrapped on real
Speaker 2: tight and beat her.
Speaker 1: Up like dude, what are you doing? And God?
Speaker 2: And and then then I thought, like what happened when
Speaker 2: when we couldn't see the camera, Like what happened when
Speaker 2: she went back into the run.
Speaker 1: Right, or what happened prior to or what has happened?
Speaker 1: What happened? You know at any point is that it
Speaker 1: makes my stomach hurt. It really does. So, so that
Speaker 1: whole lawsuit I'm sure is full of truth, you know,
Speaker 1: the whole thing. I believe every single last word and
Speaker 1: I believe that instance, I believe that lawsuit.
Speaker 2: Can't stop, won't stop, full stop, just stop. Yeah stop dude,
Speaker 2: And you have a machine behind you. I'm just surprised
Speaker 2: that the machine let him do that dumb ass apology
Speaker 2: non apology.
Speaker 1: Like, but he's probably also the type like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do what I want to do. Yeah, you have a
Speaker 1: machine behind me. But but he has a machine behind him.
Speaker 1: But that machine probably also can't tell him anything, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean?
Speaker 2: True, but like the narcissism of it all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and to think that that was gonna help the situation.
Speaker 2: Right, you have daughters, This is ah, Okay, we're gonna
Speaker 2: move on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we just he needs to. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't know what he can or will do to try
Speaker 1: to like rehab his his image or his you know, reputation,
Speaker 1: but I think it's gonna be really hard for him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And this is was really crazy. So as I'm
Speaker 2: watching this, I'm like, where are Cassie's uncles? Hmmm? Because
Speaker 2: my pinion, like, if I would have seen that from
Speaker 2: my girls, first of all, or if anybody that you know,
Speaker 2: my family would have seen that happened to me, right there,
Speaker 2: would be nothing stopping them from finding him, right, and
Speaker 2: damn they're killing him, like they would take the L.
Speaker 1: Yeah, easy, take the L. Yeah. And I'm sure for
Speaker 1: years she probably didn't really tell anyone. She probably told
Speaker 1: everyone she was okay and nothing was going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So yeah, but you know, I think her husband has
Speaker 1: been really really great for her. He seems, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: to be so supportive and thank god. Right, yeah, he
Speaker 1: seems to like really just have her back. So I
Speaker 1: think that's her that's her strength, and that's her rock
Speaker 1: in this situation. But yeah, that was just ugly. I
Speaker 1: just ladies, please, you do not ever have to deal
Speaker 1: with that. Do not allow yourself to be put in
Speaker 1: that situation, and can you continue to stay and continue
Speaker 1: to deal with it. And fellas, keep your hands to yourself.
Speaker 2: Period the end. There's no need put your hands on
Speaker 2: a woman ever. Just be if you want to. If
Speaker 2: you want to hit something, the pillow there, you go,
Speaker 2: hit that, right, go to the gym, there's boxing.
Speaker 1: H hit the body bag. I think they can just
Speaker 1: hit a female and.
Speaker 2: She's you know, it's wild, right, she's a friend.
Speaker 1: I want to say frail, but you know, she's thin
Speaker 1: and I don't know how tall she I'm big.
Speaker 2: No, no, not put your hands on them, not put
Speaker 2: your hands on anybody. I start there, but do not.
Speaker 2: And he dragged her. Like when I saw that, I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, I'm okay. We could go
Speaker 2: on forever. Let's starts. I'm about to get upset, even
Speaker 2: more upset. But like, ladies, don't Definitely, if you ever
Speaker 2: even get an inkling of that, just leave, Just turn
Speaker 2: around and don't ever look back ever ever ever? Can
Speaker 2: we get into the Kelly Roland of it all? Because
Speaker 2: she is my favorite, She is my new fa faith
Speaker 2: for writ because she is doing things that I wish
Speaker 2: I have I have done in the past.
Speaker 1: You haven't.
Speaker 2: Well I've let a lot slide, yeah, but she ain't
Speaker 2: let nothing slide. And I am here for it.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: So Kelly Rowland was at the Cans Film Festival, which
Speaker 2: I guess.
Speaker 1: Is in can France, France.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's not in La that would And she
Speaker 2: was a friend and she's like on the red carpet
Speaker 2: and they're taking pictures of her, Oh Kelly, Kelly, Kelly,
Speaker 2: And apparently a security guard was trying to move her.
Speaker 1: Right like usher her through parably rushing her and yes,
Speaker 1: pushing on her and write all of that.
Speaker 2: And so someone on the TikTok did like, we're gonna
Speaker 2: we're gonna read her lips and say and I believe everything,
Speaker 2: And she was like, bitch, get the fuck up off me.
Speaker 2: You don't know who the hell I am, but I'm
Speaker 2: gonna let you know. My name is Kelly freaking Rolling,
Speaker 2: God damn it. And you will not touch me and
Speaker 2: you will not talk to me like a child, because
Speaker 2: that I am not. I'm a grown ass woman, a
Speaker 2: beautiful one at that. Yeah, that's what Kelly said. And
Speaker 2: I am here for it, Yes, no, I'm here for it.
Speaker 2: First of all, we know that the French are rude, yeah,
Speaker 2: really rude.
Speaker 1: And but but when they're dealing with Americans, yeah, Americans
Speaker 1: and celebrities, like they need to know like, no, you
Speaker 1: need to simmer down. Yeah, you can't talk to people
Speaker 1: just any type of way.
Speaker 2: No, you cannot, and like, and I know that everybody
Speaker 2: wants to use their authority, their little power that they
Speaker 2: have in the moment, stop it.
Speaker 1: Right and the like, if she wants to take her time,
Speaker 1: her time, she shoved and wave and whatever. Let her
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 2: She's a queen. She's gonna walk when she wants to walk.
Speaker 2: And this is the thing. Kelly Rowland has been on
Speaker 2: a million red carpets. She knows the routine. She knows
Speaker 2: what to do. You don't have to usher her through aggressively.
Speaker 2: She will get to the top of the steps when
Speaker 2: she feels like it.
Speaker 1: Right right, But she told her off. I wonder if
Speaker 1: the lady understood what she was saying, though maybe not.
Speaker 2: I didn't even think about that.
Speaker 1: Because you know, when you get to tell someone off,
Speaker 1: you're talking really fast. So if this lady is not
Speaker 1: fluent in English, she's probably like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: the hell you're saying.
Speaker 2: Well, this was actually a viral moment, so I'm sure
Speaker 2: someone has told her in English what say?
Speaker 1: Yes? The end?
Speaker 2: Now, I do want to get to the real Housewilves
Speaker 2: of Beverly Hills, Okay, because I just found out that
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't want to say her no wrong,
Speaker 2: but Bozama is that right?
Speaker 1: I don't know she is.
Speaker 2: She's a new housewife. Do you know who this woman is?
Speaker 2: So she is like the bomb?
Speaker 1: Oh really?
Speaker 2: Yeah? She like was I think the CEO of Uber
Speaker 2: at one time. I'm gonna I'm gonna look at the
Speaker 2: things of the things that she has done. But she's
Speaker 2: like legit, like a real boss. She's been the present.
Speaker 2: Oh Bozama, Saint John, Saint John, hold on, if we
Speaker 2: had Carli here, she would do this for us.
Speaker 1: But Carli is not here. Okay, she's forty seven, Okay.
Speaker 2: She she's married.
Speaker 1: I think she has a girl.
Speaker 2: She's a marketing degree, executive entrepreneur, and author of a memoir,
Speaker 2: and she's a former global CMO of Netflix. She I'm
Speaker 2: gonna say she worked at Uber, but I'm just I
Speaker 2: don't know that's true. I want to say she has
Speaker 2: been running a whole lot of ship.
Speaker 1: For a whole long time. She's a bad bitch.
Speaker 2: She's a bad bitch. She's a boss, loss bitch. She's
Speaker 2: all the things. And it actually shocked me to see
Speaker 2: that she would get into the housewife of it all
Speaker 2: because housewives crazy. I just was like, that's not in
Speaker 2: my mind. I'm thinking that's not her lane. But I
Speaker 2: don't know this woman.
Speaker 1: Do we know her connection or I guess through I
Speaker 1: don't know any of those.
Speaker 2: I don't know maybe Sutton, because Sutton is very much
Speaker 2: dabbled in all kinds of businesses. Maybe garcel I can't
Speaker 2: see Dared or Kyle or Erica knowing her.
Speaker 1: But that's interesting. That's a different type of person for
Speaker 1: that show, like an accomplished business woman, totally accomplished business,
Speaker 1: highly accomplished.
Speaker 2: I've seen her in person at party and she's beautiful,
Speaker 2: so like her skin is like glass.
Speaker 1: I did see it. Like I'm not familiar with her,
Speaker 1: but I've read this she's Ghanian. So she's Ghana, yes,
Speaker 1: which is cool. So now we have the first Ghanian housewife.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well traveled, well spoken, she is. She's that
Speaker 2: that girl. Now how she's gonna translate or housewives?
Speaker 1: We'll see, Yeah, that's that. I'm curious, like where how
Speaker 1: do we how does that translate? Is she fitting in
Speaker 1: with the group and what's her connection and all that?
Speaker 1: But maybe Kathy.
Speaker 2: Hilton, because Kathy Hilton is I feel like, has a
Speaker 2: strong business connection side.
Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, who knows, I don't know who knows. We
Speaker 1: find out.
Speaker 2: Were about to see. As a matter of fact, I'm
Speaker 2: very curious. I'm gonna call my people over there, get
Speaker 2: to tea because you know people, I do know people
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get to tea. I'm not gonna tell y'all
Speaker 2: to tea, but I'm gonna get to seek. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna hold it. You know how you hold tea
Speaker 2: in your backpacket for a long time. Yeah, there's a
Speaker 2: lot that we do. Speaking of tea, I had, I
Speaker 2: did have some tea. It'll come to me, okay, But
Speaker 2: we have We have so many questions that people have
Speaker 2: written up, and I want to do these right here.
Speaker 2: What isn't this the ask us anything? Yes, guys, we
Speaker 2: haven't done asked us anything in a long time.
Speaker 1: So dun dun no North dun.
Speaker 2: Durm it's now time for ask us anything.
Speaker 1: Yes. So like a few weeks ago, we actually put
Speaker 1: a question on our Instagram to ask us anything Yes,
Speaker 1: and now we're answering the questions. Yes, okay, I want
Speaker 1: to answer this one first, and said the Pink pop box, Hey,
Speaker 1: Pink Pop Box, that is such a tongue twister.
Speaker 2: Yes, but he right, he or she? I don't know
Speaker 2: if it's a man I want Okay, writes us all
Speaker 2: the time, I love yes.
Speaker 1: And supports Yeah, says how is the war against those
Speaker 1: Gosh darn deer going, Oh that's me. Well, do you
Speaker 1: have answer? I need advice because I don't know if
Speaker 1: you notice the deer when you walk up, you probably
Speaker 1: haven't noticed the deer have been walking all through my
Speaker 1: flower beds in front of my house, on my walkway,
Speaker 1: And so the mulch gets.
Speaker 2: Oh, I did see that all in the middle of
Speaker 2: my sidewalk. I didn't know what that was.
Speaker 1: Yes, so I'll I'll see there's a bunch of mults
Speaker 1: on my side on my walkway. I'll go and sweep
Speaker 1: it up. The next day it's a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: mult on my side sidewalk. And then so I just
Speaker 1: left it alone. My landscaper cleaned it up last time.
Speaker 2: He was here, your landscaper, and then my boyfriend Yes, yes, shaboo.
Speaker 1: And then and then this morning it's there again. I'm like,
Speaker 1: these damn ye deer, I need them, like okay, the
Speaker 1: sour spring work. Yes.
Speaker 2: I feel like you're shady because you don't listen to me.
Speaker 2: I told you I have not seen a deer since
Speaker 2: I put that ship down. Really, yes, okay, So what
Speaker 2: you do is I use zest zest. Okay, takes zest
Speaker 2: and it's very easy. You think it's it's gonna be
Speaker 2: hard to do, but it's not. I took a cheese greater,
Speaker 2: I grated up the zest, and then I just sprinkled
Speaker 2: that thing everywhere, especially if there's any bushes that that
Speaker 2: the deer have been eating. Hinely put it around there.
Speaker 2: But just like put it all over your flower bed,
Speaker 2: you will not see a deer. Okay, them jokers do
Speaker 2: not like it. Good, all right, I'm sick of them.
Speaker 1: It's like I hate them. Yes, we're not friends, and
Speaker 1: I'm so mad. My camera never picks them up because
Speaker 1: I just want to like boo, like scare them, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, like get away.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I've done that. I've like on my camera,
Speaker 2: I've like screamed at them. They just look at me
Speaker 2: and just keep Really they are the worst. Yes, it's
Speaker 2: like crazy parties.
Speaker 1: I have flowers that they're supposed to not like, like
Speaker 1: my landscape are intentionally Yeah, the flowers out there because
Speaker 1: deer don't like those flowers. Yes, they now eat them.
Speaker 2: Yes, Amazon dot Com get get what. I buy a
Speaker 2: box of four, I mean, I'm sorry, a box of nine.
Speaker 1: It's like nine in a pack. That you buy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I grate all that stuff up. Oh, like, so how
Speaker 1: many bars did you.
Speaker 2: I put out? Like I'm about to do it again,
Speaker 2: but I put out maybe like.
Speaker 1: Six bar? Four bars? Oh rate it up? Nice. I
Speaker 1: have a nice little bucket.
Speaker 2: And I just sprinkle really yeah, okay, you will not
Speaker 2: see a deer. Okay, this is a test to see.
Speaker 1: Okay, I have a couple of things.
Speaker 2: So one question from k aggress a eight best advice
Speaker 2: to deal with annoying coworkers. Well, Robin and I have
Speaker 2: a lot of experience with annoying co workers.
Speaker 1: But ours is different because like we're like forced to
Speaker 1: deal with them.
Speaker 2: Any any job situation, you're forced to deal with the
Speaker 2: co workers.
Speaker 1: True, but you're you're not forced to like hang out
Speaker 1: with them and like, well, when you're not working, oh right,
Speaker 1: and eat and dine and break bread with these people. Yes,
Speaker 1: and travel right, right, and travel and go to parties
Speaker 1: and go to parties, invite and invite them over.
Speaker 2: Like ah, but I find that you can you can
Speaker 2: always try to find common ground and a commonality with
Speaker 2: annoying people. I'm not big on listening to people talk
Speaker 2: about nothing right, small talk, small talk, disgusting. How about
Speaker 2: when you're talking about your boring life and you think
Speaker 2: it's not boring horrible?
Speaker 1: So I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't like any of it. And but I've decided
Speaker 2: that some people actually like that. Yes, So I've just
Speaker 2: you know, tried to deal with it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I remember when I was working in an office setting,
Speaker 1: when I used to work at under Armoured Corporate and
Speaker 1: Otis Elevator Corporate, and when I worked in that setting
Speaker 1: and I would come in for you know, in the morning, yeah,
Speaker 1: on a Monday, and they'd be like and just random
Speaker 1: people will just walk up to me and be like, yeah, hey,
Speaker 1: how was your weekend? And I'm like, what do you know?
Speaker 2: Like get away?
Speaker 1: But I'm like, my weekend was great because I wasn't here.
Speaker 1: What even if I did nothing, it was amazing. What
Speaker 1: do you mean how was my weekend? Like?
Speaker 2: What? Yeah, that's stupid small talk that you don't want.
Speaker 1: I could not. I was like, I'm like looking at him,
Speaker 1: like I can't believe you just asked me a dumb
Speaker 1: ask question. What do you mean? How is my weekend?
Speaker 1: It's amazing?
Speaker 2: The hell it's better than being here, damn it. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, did you ever ask them back like, well,
Speaker 2: how was your no?
Speaker 1: No, never.
Speaker 2: That's a good trick though, if you don't want to
Speaker 2: answer them, you'd be like, well how was yours?
Speaker 1: Right, be like I don't I can't really remember how
Speaker 1: is yours?
Speaker 2: And they will get to talking, right, and just to
Speaker 2: them out. I am a master and listening to people
Speaker 2: talk and I don't hear a word.
Speaker 1: They say, I don't hear anything. See, I can't that.
Speaker 1: I'm not good at that. I did that.
Speaker 2: Actually last week two days ago, I was like this
Speaker 2: chick won't stop talking and I'm not listening. But everybody
Speaker 2: around me who knows me knows just not listening.
Speaker 1: No, didn't hear one word, but I do think. Okay,
Speaker 1: So instead of saying how is your weekend? Ask what
Speaker 1: did you do this weekend? Right? You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: because I think that how is your weekend? Is like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: it's great. But if you ask, and if you want,
Speaker 1: if you want to get to know someone better or
Speaker 1: foster you know, some type of interaction, then you have
Speaker 1: to frame your questions so that they're more open ended. Yes, right,
Speaker 1: so say what did you do this weekend? Right? Instead
Speaker 1: of I think you should teach a class small talk
Speaker 1: class small yes, small talk, want on want hate it.
Speaker 1: But to deal with co workers, I mean annoying coworkers,
Speaker 1: what do you say, like, just well, you said find
Speaker 1: common ground. Yes, I say kill them with kindness. Oh,
Speaker 1: definitely kill them with kindness. Yeah yeah, and just yeah,
Speaker 1: they might be annoying and all that, but I think
Speaker 1: it's better if you just kill them with kindness and
Speaker 1: keep it going, because if you allow them to frustrate
Speaker 1: you more and more and more, then your experience is
Speaker 1: worse and worse and worse.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you want to whatever is that you're doing
Speaker 2: job wise, you want to be able to enjoy it.
Speaker 1: So just you know, and just realize it's a job
Speaker 1: and you're going home and yeah it's temporary.
Speaker 2: Concentrate on the check, yeah, yeah, contentrate on that bank account.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: So somebody asked me. They said, Hampton University, where one
Speaker 2: of my daughters is going to school, it's forty thousand
Speaker 2: dollars a year. And they ask were the twins able
Speaker 2: to get some of those new scholarships that the new
Speaker 2: president created. Apps of freaking lutely, Hampton for my daughter
Speaker 2: is not forty thousand dollars. It is about half of that.
Speaker 2: And I can't speak for Angel and Grace Door got
Speaker 2: her little scholarship, so and I don't know if you
Speaker 2: apply for the Yeah, there's a bunch of scholarships out
Speaker 2: there for college kids to apply for, right and let's
Speaker 2: just keep it, keep it and grants and all that
Speaker 2: they have to do their research. Definitely apply for all
Speaker 2: of them. You might get some of it. Any amount
Speaker 2: off of tuition is a blessing. Tuition is expensive. Tuition
Speaker 2: for is that's a real number.
Speaker 1: And did you did your parents pay for your college? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so did mine. And I'm like that was such
Speaker 1: a blessing. I mean, so that's huge. Like I'm as
Speaker 1: a parent whose kids are you know, will be in
Speaker 1: college soon, I'm like, yeah, y'all better keep shooting that
Speaker 1: basket that ball, putting that ball in that basket, but
Speaker 1: try to get an athletic scholarship because it's a tuition.
Speaker 1: It's crazy expensive. And it just makes me appreciate my
Speaker 1: parents more and more and more that they sacrificed to
Speaker 1: send me to school and instead of me having to
Speaker 1: take out financial loans, school loans, all that type of
Speaker 1: stuff like that is a huge blessing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, thank you to my dad. He said, you
Speaker 2: got four years of my money, honey, so graduate, yes, okay,
Speaker 2: So I'm.
Speaker 1: Sorry that's hard because on top of that, they're thinking
Speaker 1: about retirement. Well, it's like such a tough spot. It's
Speaker 1: like us as adults, we're thinking about saving for retirement,
Speaker 1: and then you're also worrying about putting your kids in college.
Speaker 1: College a lot, It is a lot.
Speaker 2: And so literally you need to start saving money, yes
Speaker 2: when you're two.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, you do. Yes, And I mean and that's
Speaker 1: something that like we don't really realize or you know,
Speaker 1: no matter how many times my parents have told me
Speaker 1: when I was younger, like oh do this, do this,
Speaker 1: do this, you don't really realize like why they're telling
Speaker 1: you until you're kind of at the stage maybe where
Speaker 1: we are where we're like, oh shit, we got kids
Speaker 1: in college, we got to retire, like all that type
Speaker 1: of stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you definitely need to save so and like Gucci
Speaker 2: Louie product are really not important. No, what's important is
Speaker 2: kids graduate, I mean, kid's education, your retirement so that
Speaker 2: you have some funds when you are no longer working
Speaker 2: and fabulous trips. Yes, the end, right, okay, in that order.
Speaker 2: And good food, Oh, good food, good food. So Matthew
Speaker 2: Mayo said, I'm sorry, but Robin face card never declient
Speaker 2: never never, never, never decline. Yes, Robin Dixon with the
Speaker 2: face card, thank you perfect.
Speaker 1: I would I would disagree, but I appreciate you. Thank you.
Speaker 2: So it says when exclamation point never, And then they
Speaker 2: want the skincare routine.
Speaker 1: Yes, you know what I mean. I think it's just
Speaker 1: important that you do daily skincare. You wash your face
Speaker 1: at night, you use all of your you know, anti
Speaker 1: aging serums, your vitamin C, your retinols, your moisturizer, you
Speaker 1: stay hydrated. Of course, I get facials and botox. Botox
Speaker 1: is actually a great thing. Botox is your friend. Yes,
Speaker 1: botoxes your thing. I actually need to go. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: just saw. I've always been conscious of my skin, and
Speaker 1: I would like to say the same applies to Jaseelle.
Speaker 1: I don't know why Matthew only said this about Robin. Matthew, Matthew,
Speaker 1: the same thing applies to just say okay, because Jazelle's
Speaker 1: beautiful face is beautiful. Never to face card never declines
Speaker 1: in the skin is.
Speaker 2: Flawless, Okay, I want to say this before I don't.
Speaker 1: I forget.
Speaker 2: So there's been some changes with like the Apple podcast app.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, right, or there's been changes with how you download. Yeah,
Speaker 2: reason to be shady, I believe.
Speaker 1: So the downloads. So if you have set reasonably Shady
Speaker 1: to automatically download, you might have to go into the
Speaker 1: podcast app and reset that because something has There's been
Speaker 1: like an update to the app, and a lot of
Speaker 1: the podcasts that you automatically download aren't downloading.
Speaker 2: So you open that app Apple Podcast App, You go
Speaker 2: to the library, and you select reasonably shady. You tap
Speaker 2: on the three dots that you know are probably up
Speaker 2: in the corner or somewhere. You select settings, and under
Speaker 2: settings you'll toggle on automatic downloads and adjust any other
Speaker 2: settings or downloads preferences. So you have to do all
Speaker 2: this and then you'll automatically get it. So you might
Speaker 2: not be automatically getting it. And a lot of people
Speaker 2: ask me like, well, how how do I get the podcast?
Speaker 2: And I'm actually like, I don't know. So I just
Speaker 2: told y'all how.
Speaker 1: To do it.
Speaker 2: Now now I know, yeh, Now you know, yes, And
Speaker 2: now I know, And I shouldn't say that it's horrible.
Speaker 1: Yes, but if you have an iPhone, you just go
Speaker 1: to the podcast app, yeah and type in reasonably shady
Speaker 1: and you'll find it so and then set it to
Speaker 1: automatically download.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so everybody did do that. And then while you're there,
Speaker 2: just like review us and tell us, tell the whole
Speaker 2: world that we're amazing. Yes, Robin Andzel are amazing. Okay,
Speaker 2: So I don't want to forget this, So going back
Speaker 2: to botox really quickly, because it is your friend, and
Speaker 2: I'm a shout out and giving a little shout out
Speaker 2: little Kean or Stewart.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I had a conversation with her the other day and
Speaker 2: she's somebody was talking about botox and she was like,
Speaker 2: and I told her, I get it like around my eyes,
Speaker 2: and she was like, okay, but she's that I'm gonna
Speaker 2: need for you to get it on the sides of
Speaker 2: your nose and on your forehead and like down your nose.
Speaker 2: You don't get it on your forehead, not really, because
Speaker 2: I told her I want people to see mike xprushion,
Speaker 2: Like if I'm mad at you, I want you to
Speaker 2: know I'm mad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you want your wrinkles to stay, I know.
Speaker 2: But I don't really have a lot.
Speaker 1: No, you don't have a lot, but you don't want
Speaker 1: them to continue to get worse. That's the point of botox,
Speaker 1: that it freezes your wrinkles to prevent them from continuing
Speaker 1: to get deeper.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, all right, well I'm okay with it right now. Okay,
Speaker 2: because I said, because she was like, you need to
Speaker 2: get on your forehead, and I was like, I have
Speaker 2: a little bit, but I want people. I want my
Speaker 2: forehead to move. She was like, forehead should never move.
Speaker 2: And she said what does she say something about around
Speaker 2: the note like in the corners of your eyes, like
Speaker 2: down your nose, which I've never done. It is, actually
Speaker 2: it sounds a bit scary. That does something. Oh oh,
Speaker 2: I think it stops like any any lines, like maybe
Speaker 2: across the top of your bridge nose.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Anyway, let's keep it moving. She said, your lips get
Speaker 2: flat automatically. Everyone's lips get flat. I've never heard that, okay,
Speaker 2: have you?
Speaker 1: I mean I think everything, we just all of everything
Speaker 1: that as we get older, Yeah, we lose volume all
Speaker 1: over in our face.
Speaker 2: But I okay, So all these chicks with these big lips,
Speaker 2: which you actually frightened me. If I see you with
Speaker 2: big lips, I mean that with altered big lips. Yes,
Speaker 2: I want you to know if I'm having a conversation
Speaker 2: with you, I'm scared. No, I'm scared. I'm actually frightened.
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about clowns. I really am so so just
Speaker 2: how I'm terrified. But she said, if you get it
Speaker 2: on top of your not your lip, but like on
Speaker 2: top I guess what is that called.
Speaker 1: Your So she's saying a lip flip to do a
Speaker 1: lip lip? There we go. Okay, how did you know
Speaker 1: that word? Because I've done it before. But I don't
Speaker 1: see a difference. I don't know a.
Speaker 2: Lip what's the lip flip? Do you flip your lips up?
Speaker 1: No, it's just supposed It's just it's supposed to. It
Speaker 1: doesn't flip your lips up. It's just supposed to like
Speaker 1: lift your lip a little bit. So where do they
Speaker 1: put the needle. It's kind of like the top line.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's like, yeah, like where you would put
Speaker 1: It's where you would put lipliner.
Speaker 2: Oh that's what they Oh that's okay. Mine is okay
Speaker 2: for right now.
Speaker 1: I don't think you need a liip flip.
Speaker 2: She told me I needed a lip flip. I need,
Speaker 2: She told me, I need all kinds of things in
Speaker 2: my face. Yeah.
Speaker 1: See, like I've never noticed a difference with the lip flip.
Speaker 1: Only when you get a lip flip, you can't like
Speaker 1: suck on a straw. You can't whistle. It's like it's
Speaker 1: like weird. It feels weird.
Speaker 2: So I don't prefer to get a list, there will
Speaker 2: be no lip flip for me. Yeah, I'll be lip unflipped. Okay, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: but I mean I do. I'm all about like enhancement
Speaker 2: and you know, if you if you want to do whatever,
Speaker 2: tweaks whatever, get it done right, get into it, get you.
Speaker 1: Don't afraid of and don't like judge it. You know.
Speaker 1: I think when you're like altering yourself, like okay, you
Speaker 1: want to like take it easy, but when you're just
Speaker 1: kind of like enhancing what you already have or preserving it,
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2: Yes, and no to the lip flip for for you.
Speaker 1: For me, you don't need it either. You don't need
Speaker 1: to eat it. I don't think anyone needs a lip flip.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like saying lip flip. Next time I go
Speaker 2: see my girl, massage and be like, can I get
Speaker 2: a lip flip? She gonna be like, get your lip
Speaker 2: flip out of here, Jasell. Anyway, that's our show today.
Speaker 2: We love you guys so much. Don't ever forget to
Speaker 2: live your life either.
Speaker 1: Reasonable Oh sure, dude, We're both by.
Speaker 2: Reasonably Shady is a production of the Black Effect podcast Network.
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