WEBVTT - Dear Banya: Pulse or Pitt

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey everyone, how's it going?

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<v Speaker 2>We got to think of something because it does sound

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<v Speaker 2>drab without it.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish we could delve though, Like we got the numbers,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'd be curious if it's because it's the same

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<v Speaker 1>every time. Should you change it up every time? Or

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<v Speaker 1>do they want to gone?

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<v Speaker 2>So what I think it is? I think scrub it

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<v Speaker 2>up Dub was fine. Yes, I think in the tub

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<v Speaker 2>is what people were like, Well.

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<v Speaker 1>That is kind of weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, I mean I've found it ever since she

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<v Speaker 2>said it. I think I made a comment about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think we can keep scrubing up dub if

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like you want to sing, I'm good I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>What are you mad at me about? I'm not mad

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<v Speaker 2>at you? Why am I getting attitude?

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<v Speaker 3>No attitude?

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<v Speaker 2>There's attitude, not.

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<v Speaker 1>A strong attitude happening. See. So, just if people aren't aware,

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<v Speaker 1>we did a poll feel Sad on the Facebook group

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<v Speaker 1>asking what do they think about Tanya's scrip.

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<v Speaker 2>We did it an anonymous yeah, yeah, Oh Yeahbert, unless

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<v Speaker 2>it was one of you guys, I didn't do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Scrubber do that like something Mark would do.

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<v Speaker 1>Scrub Tonya asking since this came up in today's episode,

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<v Speaker 1>how do we feel about scrub a dub dub and

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<v Speaker 1>the tub of tub tub seventy not a fan that

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<v Speaker 1>hurts some comments, Abigail said, if there was a doesen't

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<v Speaker 1>phase me option, I would take that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's meant to delight, not to not phase Nikki.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize people hated it so much. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's funny and cute. Doesn't bother me, Abigail, I literally

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<v Speaker 1>hate it. When Tanya says it at the top of

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<v Speaker 1>the episode, it reminds me how far we've strayed from

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<v Speaker 1>the Gray's commentary, and it makes me sad brook It

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<v Speaker 1>is so cringe. I fast forward through it.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, whoa, that's like three seconds Nareda.

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<v Speaker 1>I sing it with Tanya at the beginning of the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Jenna is not necessary, but I'm so used to it.

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<v Speaker 1>I sing along April, who cares. It's so on brand

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<v Speaker 1>for Tanya and that's what makes it cute and funny

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<v Speaker 1>and it makes me laugh every time. And it's energetic

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<v Speaker 1>and it sets the tone. I like the whole segment.

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<v Speaker 1>It's one second. It's one second, Alyssa. I sing with

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<v Speaker 1>Tanya when she says it. I love it, Kelly Ray

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<v Speaker 1>in the most loving way possible. It and that to

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<v Speaker 1>be continued to the end. Can both go. They feel forced,

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<v Speaker 1>and they make me cringe so much love. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>Day one listener and I'll listen forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Cringe is tough, cringes.

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<v Speaker 1>Ouch, Rafaela, I love it. No complaint's Lindsay. My son

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<v Speaker 1>says it with Tanya every time, so you know it's

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<v Speaker 1>across the board.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told her that. I told her that, you know, I.

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<v Speaker 4>I think I've lived enough life to know that I'm polarizing.

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<v Speaker 4>A boss once told me that I was a cartoon

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<v Speaker 4>character of a person and that people can only handle

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<v Speaker 4>me and sizes, and maybe he's right.

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<v Speaker 1>For some people, he's not right.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe he was right.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that you're scrub a dub dub in

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<v Speaker 2>the tub of tub tub tune like in Cops. Cops

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<v Speaker 2>late to you as a person kind of does it really.

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<v Speaker 1>Doesn't doesn't, not as a person nor as a radio person, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's just a preference and we got the

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<v Speaker 2>the opinions on it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, oh yeah, and they said in general, they said,

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<v Speaker 2>in general, our intro and our intros are just like

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<v Speaker 2>so dull compared to other podcasts. Yeah, you know what.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what it is that the Toast created a

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<v Speaker 4>song and it's so cute. Every time I hear I

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<v Speaker 4>sing along a good morning, it's the toes thin.

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<v Speaker 5>Clawden where you're hut that the next time's here, Sorry everybody,

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<v Speaker 5>Easton's not here, but next time he's here, he may

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<v Speaker 5>have when that somebody sent in that maybe we could adopt.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe that's a better move, like a little fun jingle

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<v Speaker 3>is so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I agree, but I I know that.

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<v Speaker 3>I can ask chat chips to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>But is it an iHeart thing where they all the

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<v Speaker 2>intros are very similar.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't have to be.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't have to be. We don't have to follow suits.

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<v Speaker 2>We can do whatever we want, can do whatever we want.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm speaking of Mark.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, did you know all the other podcasts have their

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<v Speaker 4>own mic flags.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a thing as well. This is not a

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<v Speaker 1>Mark thing. I wouldn't even know how to change in

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<v Speaker 1>mic flag.

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<v Speaker 3>I know how to change a mic flag, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Have to take the whole microphone.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a whole, but I'll show you there's no Oh no,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want.

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<v Speaker 2>To do it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a terrible idea. What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Do it on this one?

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<v Speaker 4>But I can do it on the one Beca's using.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very easy. So basically all you do is you

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<v Speaker 4>undo that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to do that. Undoing anything makes me nervous.

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<v Speaker 2>I told, I explained that to her. I said, I

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<v Speaker 2>think we definitely should have them when we do it

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<v Speaker 2>in the other room with guests. We should have our

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<v Speaker 2>own mic flag because I don't know how we have

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<v Speaker 2>been one of the longest running podcasts that I HEARTMA

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<v Speaker 2>and don't have our own microphone.

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<v Speaker 3>You know why? Because we're just nice and kind and agreeable.

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<v Speaker 3>Why with that?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know anything about it until you sent me.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even know what that's.

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<v Speaker 4>Called desk, and I see call it what it is.

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<v Speaker 4>I see, I'm a Charlotte Mike flags. I see all

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<v Speaker 4>these new podcasts have these shiny, bright new toys.

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<v Speaker 3>What a scrubbing and have nothing nothing? Well, I'm about.

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<v Speaker 1>To I don't think mike flags are something that our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners care about.

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<v Speaker 3>You never know they care about an intro.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, they have to hear that every week. The Mike

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<v Speaker 1>flags that can be oblivious to.

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<v Speaker 2>About the respect.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. By the way, the Mike flags is a little

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<v Speaker 1>cube thing under the microphone that has a logo.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if you're watching the videos, this little.

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<v Speaker 4>Square say honor with Ryan Seacrest.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that's what I said. I said, since we

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<v Speaker 2>do the podcast most of the time in the studio,

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<v Speaker 2>it's fine. You don't want to have to switch them

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<v Speaker 2>every time. Feels annoying. However, in the other room, WHI

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<v Speaker 2>should ever, even if we hold them by themselves, What

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<v Speaker 2>if we just held them while we were in here.

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<v Speaker 3>It's really not that hard. We could do it ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>I could teach you.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna do it now because we had to

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<v Speaker 4>unplug the microphones, but it really takes five seconds.

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<v Speaker 2>Anything unplugging is too much to me, especially I would

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<v Speaker 2>imagine for Easton as the engineer who has to deal

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<v Speaker 2>with the sound, and we had our.

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<v Speaker 4>Home studios, I would change my flag all the time.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know why now that I think about it,

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<v Speaker 4>but I know how to do it, so I could

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<v Speaker 4>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>For us.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm happy to volunteer as tribute.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you notice anything new about me?

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<v Speaker 3>Your hair is different? It is different. Did you curl

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<v Speaker 3>it differently?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I waved it with the curling iron because I

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<v Speaker 2>normally have it blown out with like the dice and

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<v Speaker 2>air up. It was kind of supposed to be a

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<v Speaker 2>joke because of your hair thing, because I was dying

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<v Speaker 2>at the comments and people were like, I went through

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<v Speaker 2>the last five weeks and her hair is pulled back.

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<v Speaker 2>And I went through and I was like, there's no way.

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<v Speaker 2>Her hairs down a lot, and then every video it's

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<v Speaker 2>pulled back in like a low ponytail braider bun.

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<v Speaker 3>So so here's the here's the skinny on that.

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<v Speaker 4>My hair is usually half a half down like it

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<v Speaker 4>is today, so it is pulled back on the top.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm it's always down.

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<v Speaker 1>Not always, not always.

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<v Speaker 2>No, there was one where it was like this, and

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<v Speaker 2>the rest were like all that. It was so eye

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<v Speaker 2>opening because I was like, oh, maybe she's right, like

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<v Speaker 2>I normally notice hair stuff, But I get why I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't notice anything different because there wasn't anything different.

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<v Speaker 4>I never wear it in that topsy turley hair thing,

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<v Speaker 4>but I did.

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<v Speaker 1>But the problem is that was behind you, Like, we

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<v Speaker 1>can't see behind you right right.

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<v Speaker 3>I know the back of my hair is no no

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<v Speaker 3>issue for me.

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<v Speaker 1>That was a good problem Crystal put together.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she kills it. It was Crystal's birthday. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know when this is airing, but last week La

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<v Speaker 2>and I just need to say, happy birthday, christ We

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<v Speaker 2>love you and appreciate you so much.

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<v Speaker 3>Happy birthday, Crystal.

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<v Speaker 5>Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Crystal.

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<v Speaker 3>We love you, we love you, we love you.

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<v Speaker 4>What a gift again to the world, a gift to

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<v Speaker 4>our scrubbing in community, a gift to all.

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<v Speaker 2>I got my lips tattooed. So it's called lip blush.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, we're reverting back to your hair. I

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<v Speaker 3>like it. Like this, I think better, Okay, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll take that into consideration while I'm doing my hair.

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<v Speaker 2>If I'm going to see you, what just tan you like? No?

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<v Speaker 2>I got so I went and it's called lip blushing,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's where they do tattoo lip color. So they're

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<v Speaker 2>really it's really intense right now. So once so basically

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<v Speaker 2>it does what it tattoo does. Well, I guess it

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<v Speaker 2>feels intense to me because I don't normally wear like

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<v Speaker 2>bright pinkish colors. But basically after a week it'll go

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<v Speaker 2>through the process like a tattoo, and it'll like really

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<v Speaker 2>dry and scab and then it'll and then it'll just

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<v Speaker 2>be like natural and I'll just have like a permanent

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<v Speaker 2>lip color.

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<v Speaker 1>So then you don't have to ever wear a lipstick.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have to. I do, but I don't have to,

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<v Speaker 2>Like if I wake up and I'm just like gorgeous glowing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but if the tattoo takes whatever a fact a

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<v Speaker 1>month from now, are you done with lip gloss and

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<v Speaker 1>lipstick or you're going to keep doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll put gloss on to give it shine, and I'll

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<v Speaker 2>use lip liner, but I don't need to put a color.

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<v Speaker 3>There's two different things.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a color color, I put the color, and then

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<v Speaker 4>you put the gloss on top.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's just like clear, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So the tattoo is to stop using what product this?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Well yeah, but it's really nute. It's just to

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<v Speaker 2>like enhance my like not having to wear makeup. If

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to wear makeup, I can just like

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I like this because.

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<v Speaker 1>She literally did. Yeah, Okay, how painful.

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<v Speaker 2>Was that Okay, so this is a good question. You

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<v Speaker 2>get numbed, so, oh it's that bad? Yeah, you get

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<v Speaker 2>um Yeah, you have so many nerve dings in your lips.

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<v Speaker 2>So the first I would say hour, it's probably like

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<v Speaker 2>a hour and a half total. It's like a vibration.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't feel any pain, Like I could fall asleep

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<v Speaker 2>because I hear the sound of the.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the last thirty minutes when she starts going

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<v Speaker 2>over places that she already went and like the like

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<v Speaker 2>like the cup, it's bow quite painful. I would say

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<v Speaker 2>a six point five out of ten.

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<v Speaker 1>That's to wear off.

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<v Speaker 2>At that point, I'm either assuming yeah, I guess that

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<v Speaker 2>is that. Yeah, it's a commitment, but I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had it done before, so it's a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>about me.

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<v Speaker 1>Why have you had it done multiple times because it

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<v Speaker 1>wears off?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because you know, like with your lips, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>not like going super deep like a regular tattoo, because

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to go like that deep into your lips,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's it's more like surface level, so you just

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<v Speaker 2>get them touched up.

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<v Speaker 1>It's probably been like a year and a half since

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<v Speaker 1>I did it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so fun. I love stuff like, I just love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, yeah, profound.

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<v Speaker 4>Sometimes I think like I'm like, you know, I go

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<v Speaker 4>back and forth with this, like I just want to

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<v Speaker 4>wear sweats every day, but I also want to look

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<v Speaker 4>cute and I also want to like, you know, all

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<v Speaker 4>the things. And it's exhausting being a woman feeling like

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<v Speaker 4>like for me personally, I can't speak for you or

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<v Speaker 4>for any other woman out there wanting to present yourself

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<v Speaker 4>in like a nice way, you know, Like I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to look like slobko bob, even though I do

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of the times like roll out in my

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<v Speaker 4>sweats and stuff. I don't want to present that way.

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<v Speaker 4>I want to present myself like a strong business woman,

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<v Speaker 4>you know. So I do have to put some effort

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<v Speaker 4>into it, but gosh, the crimping of the hair, putting on,

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<v Speaker 4>like putting on makeup every day and I don't do it,

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<v Speaker 4>but the last three days I put makeup on every

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<v Speaker 4>single day for three days in a row, and it's

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<v Speaker 4>just like exhausting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I love.

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<v Speaker 4>It, Oh, I like look forward to doing it, you

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<v Speaker 4>like we get already. Like there's two types of people

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<v Speaker 4>in this world. The ones who travel like me, who

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<v Speaker 4>I use that as my excuse to like not wear makeup,

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<v Speaker 4>wear whatever comfy is, clothes I can possibly put on

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<v Speaker 4>my body and that's how I travel. Becca puts makeup

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<v Speaker 4>on to get on the airplane.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, I just want to you want to which

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<v Speaker 2>is I know?

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<v Speaker 3>Which is like so nice? Like I wish I had that.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think my mom always like made herself presentable

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<v Speaker 2>when she left, so it was like and not in

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<v Speaker 2>a way. She never made me feel like I had

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<v Speaker 2>to do that. But I just saw, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>just watched that, and so I love it. But I

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<v Speaker 2>don't feel any type of like resentment about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like you if I had put makeup on to

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<v Speaker 4>go to the airport, I would be.

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<v Speaker 3>Annoyed it myself.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but again, different types of people in the world,

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<v Speaker 4>different strokes for different folks.

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<v Speaker 2>Is anyone watching the Pit?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I feel like I'm cheating on grays if I

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<v Speaker 1>watched the pitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so about the Pulse, So okay, I'm hearing I'm

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<v Speaker 2>hearing about the Pulse. The pit I tried to watch.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a little too glory for me. But everyone

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<v Speaker 2>has been like, just get through the first episode, you'll

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<v Speaker 2>ad just so I did. Now I'm like very locked in.

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<v Speaker 2>I want I'm just like I'm excited to go home

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<v Speaker 2>and watch after this eight or nine. Okay, it's very

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<v Speaker 2>there's no music, so it's very just like it feels

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<v Speaker 2>like you're in the er. It's very intense storylines, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's going hour by hour of this shift in the er.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's cool. An hour of Yes, it's like twenty four,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's real.

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<v Speaker 2>Time, yes, or of a shift, so it's not twenty four,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like whatever, the shift forty twelve maybe tween episodes

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<v Speaker 2>of okay, so fifteen hour shift.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, so episodes.

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<v Speaker 2>Every episode is an hour from the same shift.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cool.

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<v Speaker 2>It's cool, but it is little glorier and there's no.

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<v Speaker 1>Nine am. Oh that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people said, now that they've watched The Pit,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to watch any other medical shows that they feel

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<v Speaker 2>so corny.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the problem and corny.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I heard the everyone's like, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>watch the Pulse. It's more like Gray's And I'm like, but.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll I can't make a decision the Pulse or Pit.

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<v Speaker 2>Pulse or Pit Pit pulsor pit. Maybe start with the

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<v Speaker 2>pulse and then watch the pit if it's hard to

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<v Speaker 2>go back.

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<v Speaker 1>The pulse is ten episodes. If that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Say, I imagine you'll like the pulse more.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll do you.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think you watch the pulse and I'm watching

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<v Speaker 2>the pit and then we can compare and see. You

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<v Speaker 2>can be like, oh you should watch that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'll watch it tonight.

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<v Speaker 1>Do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I will have time, okay, town so Mama gets what

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<v Speaker 3>she wants.

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<v Speaker 2>MoMA. The other day we were supposed to meet for

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<v Speaker 2>a walk and Tanya.

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<v Speaker 3>Was like, I first she didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Mean, but she said, I have Sonny. I just parked

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<v Speaker 2>at the Maybourne Hotel and I'm gonna go to Daddy's

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<v Speaker 2>office while I wait for you. And I thumbs downed

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<v Speaker 2>it because I was like, why would you say daddy

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<v Speaker 2>to me? And she was like And so then I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going into a doctor's appointment and she's rapid fire. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like trying to listen to the doctor. My phone is

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<v Speaker 2>just like vibrating, and I'm like, who is texting me?

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<v Speaker 2>And she's like, why did you thumbs down it? Are

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<v Speaker 2>you okay? Hi? What's going on? And I finally get

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<v Speaker 2>out the doctors. I'm like, I thumbs downed it because

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<v Speaker 2>you said daddy, and she was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>that's a typo. And I'm like, okay, well you're typing

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<v Speaker 2>it too much of big honor correct to daddy? What

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<v Speaker 2>is that?

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<v Speaker 3>What are you trying to run, Robbie?

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't work that way.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 4>I meant to say, I have Sonny, I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 4>to Robbie's office, and the I'm gonna walk your way

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<v Speaker 4>to your doctor's appointment, and it's correct it to daddy's office.

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<v Speaker 2>Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>In my mind, I didn't know that I wrote daddy.

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<v Speaker 4>So I just see her thumbs down. I'm like, does

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<v Speaker 4>that mean she's not meeting me for my walk?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 4>What am I supposed to do with this thumb's down?

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<v Speaker 4>I had no idea what that thumbs down? So I

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<v Speaker 4>was panicking.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, hello, hello, right mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Just parked at the Maybourne, Gonna go visit Daddy at work,

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<v Speaker 2>then head toward Bedford. It's even worse than I remembered.

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<v Speaker 2>It deserved it thumbs down, visit Daddy at work. The

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<v Speaker 2>fact that your phone autocorrect Robbie did daddy? Lets me

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<v Speaker 2>know that language is being used too often.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly, or maybe it was like I don't even know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't need to know more details about what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna go with autocorrect.

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<v Speaker 3>That's enough. Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 2>But we do have some dear bonnier questions. So we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna take a break and we'll be right back. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>we are back with some dear bonya cues.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi bt m e. This one starts. I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I just looking at pictures of Walton gogin speedo.

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<v Speaker 4>So I was just very alarming on the TV. Quickly

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<v Speaker 4>yellow banana hammock.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, since you loved wanting to help people found your podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It was my sister. I would often wake up and

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<v Speaker 1>she had you on blast while getting ready and giggling

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<v Speaker 1>to herself. I am part of the l g B

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<v Speaker 1>t Q plus community and she had me listen to

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<v Speaker 1>Becka's episode about going public with Haley, and I've been

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<v Speaker 1>hooked ever since. I don't think you'll realize how much

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<v Speaker 1>you brighten people's days. Well, that's very sweet. This is

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<v Speaker 1>from Oh she signed this PDA PTSD. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>ask Beca how she and Haley have become so comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>with PDA in public. I admire how you are so yourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>even in large settings like Tanya's wedding. It's probably a

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<v Speaker 1>testament to the people you surround yourself with. I have

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<v Speaker 1>been with my girlfriend two years and I'm still very

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<v Speaker 1>heah to hold hands in public because of people staring

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<v Speaker 1>or judging. In the beginning of our relationships, she was

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<v Speaker 1>okay with but her love language is physical touch. It's

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<v Speaker 1>become a rift lately. We're both accepted by friends and

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<v Speaker 1>most family, but it's the others that stressed me out.

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<v Speaker 1>We've gone to functions where you wouldn't even think we

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<v Speaker 1>were together, as I'll just keep myself busy talking to others,

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<v Speaker 1>which leads to arguments, especially because I've been hit on

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<v Speaker 1>before because it's not clear that I'm with someone. I've

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<v Speaker 1>just had bad experiences in the past with things said

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<v Speaker 1>to me or stare that it's always in the back

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<v Speaker 1>of my mind. We have two weddings to attend this year.

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<v Speaker 1>My girlfriend has made it clear that she wants us

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<v Speaker 1>to act and look like a couple. I know she's

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<v Speaker 1>my person, but I am scared that she will become

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<v Speaker 1>frustrated with my insecurities around this and a note. We

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<v Speaker 1>do live in a city that is very accepting of

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<v Speaker 1>the community, but I still feel uncomfortable. Any advice would

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<v Speaker 1>be appreciated in Tanya, congrats on such a picturesque wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>Love you all.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think of when we first started. I

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<v Speaker 2>think around family and people that I wasn't sure how

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<v Speaker 2>they'd react. I was a little more are held back

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<v Speaker 2>with PDA, but I think Haley and I had a

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<v Speaker 2>conversation about it, and she was always very clear she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to feel hidden or like put back in

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<v Speaker 2>the closet, and so I think as soon as she

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<v Speaker 2>explained that feeling to me, I was like, Okay, then

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<v Speaker 2>I think I need to practice when I'm in situations.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say I'm very rarely in situations where I'm

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<v Speaker 2>around people who make me feel un comfortable. I try

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<v Speaker 2>to avoid those at all costs. But I also think

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<v Speaker 2>living in LA like that part of it is super easy,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I've never questioned it, just walking around with her

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<v Speaker 2>in public, and again, you're right, I do surround myself

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<v Speaker 2>with people who are very supportive and loving, and even

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<v Speaker 2>at weddings. Not that Tanya's wedding felt like there was

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<v Speaker 2>anyone there.

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<v Speaker 3>Who would care, literally no one.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we've also been together for a long time.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think I've met most of those people.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, But I think it's also how you approach the

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<v Speaker 2>confidence of your relationships. So it's kind of like how

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<v Speaker 2>we've talked about We've talked about this a lot on

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast, Like if you're going on a date with

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<v Speaker 2>someone and you have a kid, instead of instead of

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<v Speaker 2>presenting it like timidly like oh I have a by

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<v Speaker 2>the way, like, don't be upset, but I have a kid,

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell you something. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's so important to practice confidence, and a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of that comes with just ignoring any of the

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<v Speaker 2>noise that could come or who cares what people are

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<v Speaker 2>looking or staring. I think if you're confident about who

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<v Speaker 2>you're with and you love the person you're with, you

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<v Speaker 2>want to show them affection. I think it just shows

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<v Speaker 2>people like, Wow, they're very confident in who they are

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<v Speaker 2>and like how they love their person.

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<v Speaker 3>But also like who cares what strangers think?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I do care, like you're very much.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't care about people I know.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm trying to come at her from a perspective

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<v Speaker 2>of someone who does care.

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<v Speaker 4>Because like somebody who I feel like, I'm probably like

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<v Speaker 4>your partner, because I also like physical touch and I

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<v Speaker 4>love PDA, and like I feel like I take it

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<v Speaker 4>to an extreme, like all grab Robbie's crotch.

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<v Speaker 6>And Yeah's crotch, So I feel like that would be

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<v Speaker 6>really that would hurt my feelings if he my partner,

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<v Speaker 6>didn't reciprocate that PDA back.

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<v Speaker 4>So like I can empathize with your partner feeling that way,

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<v Speaker 4>feeling slighted.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also though sometimes I know Haley will always be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>like it made me feel so loved when you came

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<v Speaker 2>up and just like put your hand on my back.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't have to be these like brand displays of affection.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think even going up and touching her back

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<v Speaker 2>or rubbing her back or just like holding squeezing her hand.

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<v Speaker 2>I think little things like that will just even if

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<v Speaker 2>that's how you have to ease into it. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>need to be anything like grabbing her crotch, right, It

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't need to be that, And it can be something

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<v Speaker 2>as simple as letting her know that you're letting other

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<v Speaker 2>people know who are watching you, that that is your

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<v Speaker 2>person and that you are not single or available to

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<v Speaker 2>be hit on. And I think just making her feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you're proud of her, because even though you can

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<v Speaker 2>say it in words and when you're alone do things,

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<v Speaker 2>It's like showing that type of love and affection in

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<v Speaker 2>front of the world is really important, I think, and

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<v Speaker 2>especially in a queer relationship. It's especially right now, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's just so important to feel like proud and confident

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<v Speaker 2>in your relationship and make the person that you love

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<v Speaker 2>proudly know that you love them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm Atanya. I could care less what anyone thinks.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm in the minority in my family because my

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<v Speaker 1>wife is a Becca or a PDA PTSD. She's very,

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<v Speaker 1>very always concerned about other people thinking. It drives me

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<v Speaker 1>crazy because who cares? And I guess the point is

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<v Speaker 1>in your situation, the people who care are biggots, and

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<v Speaker 1>so why would you care what biggots think? Like that

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<v Speaker 1>should be the last thing on your mind. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you need to get to a place of out and

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<v Speaker 1>proud and everything BECA just said is right, And I

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<v Speaker 1>know it's a process, yeah, but out and proud with

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<v Speaker 1>whatever that out inness may be, it doesn't even have

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<v Speaker 1>to be your part and your relationship, your sexual leanings.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be anything. Be proud with who you are

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<v Speaker 1>and what you want to be. And I have a

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<v Speaker 1>quote because we always have quotes. We love quotes. Life

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<v Speaker 1>is a game of three parts, and the first part

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<v Speaker 1>you're very concerned about what people think about you, and

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<v Speaker 1>in the second part, you don't care what people think

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<v Speaker 1>about you. But in the third and final part, you

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<v Speaker 1>realize people were never thinking about you.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, so true.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about that.

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<v Speaker 4>I never look at people that are like kissing in

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<v Speaker 4>public and think like weirdos.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but I will look at people kissing in public

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<v Speaker 1>because it's great and holding hands love is love, and

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<v Speaker 1>yeah is wonderful. I think it's fantastic love. I love

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<v Speaker 1>out and proud people. I think it's awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think I always see, like when I see

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<v Speaker 2>two women holding hands, I'm like, oh my god. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's like a secret club that I

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<v Speaker 2>get to be a part of. Like I like, we're

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<v Speaker 2>all in this club together. And so I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>so important for people who are maybe scared or in

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<v Speaker 2>the closet to see people like you and your girlfriend

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<v Speaker 2>out showing book affection. Like, it's so important for people

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<v Speaker 2>to see that. And also people who are out like

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<v Speaker 2>Haley and I have been to see people and be like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, lesbians, you know it's fun. So I

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<v Speaker 2>hope that you can lean into feeling confident and making

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<v Speaker 2>sure that you don't care about because Mark's so right,

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<v Speaker 2>like the people who who, the people who care don't matter,

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<v Speaker 2>and the people who matter don't care.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm just spinning out the clots like it's nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good. All right, let's see from a confused scrubber. Hello, Tanya, Becka,

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<v Speaker 1>Mark and Easton. Last year, I ended up in a

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<v Speaker 1>situationship with a guy after we both ended previous relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>At the time, I was happy to keep things casual

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<v Speaker 1>as I was still healing. Along the way, I caught

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<v Speaker 1>feelings for him. I caught myself caring a lot and

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<v Speaker 1>getting upset if he didn't match my energy. Long story short,

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<v Speaker 1>he got a job at my company, so now we

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<v Speaker 1>see each other a few times a week. Over the

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<v Speaker 1>last few months, we've transitioned to being friends, keeping things

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<v Speaker 1>friendly in a work environment. He always seemed to reach out,

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<v Speaker 1>never letting too much time pass without having some contact.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's always been mixed signals. Recently asked me to

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<v Speaker 1>get a drink, but then on the day of he

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<v Speaker 1>seemed disengaged and it became difficult to confirm, which is

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<v Speaker 1>a common theme for him. After months of confused mixed

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<v Speaker 1>signals and mental exhaustion wondering where I stood, I asked

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<v Speaker 1>him please never speak to me again, which he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>take well. I know I can be reactionary. I realized

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<v Speaker 1>I still had feelings for him and cutting off contact

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<v Speaker 1>was the best option. I've never told him that. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't help but think I self sabotaged with someone I

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<v Speaker 1>genuinely connected with, and I really enjoyed his company. I'd

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<v Speaker 1>love to hear from Tanya and Becca how you navigated

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<v Speaker 1>each of your relationships during the difficult phases. Tanya, you've

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<v Speaker 1>spoken about Robbie not wanting to be exclusive early on,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you had to navigate the trigger event. Becca

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<v Speaker 1>you've shared that it took years for you to introduce

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<v Speaker 1>Haley to your parents, knowing how close you are to

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<v Speaker 1>your family. Did these events ever make you doubt you

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<v Speaker 1>were with the right person. Did you ever debate cutting

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<v Speaker 1>things off and thinking you deserved better? How did you

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<v Speaker 1>keep your cool during the times when things maybe didn't

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<v Speaker 1>go the way you pictured. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I didn't introduce Haley to my parents for a

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<v Speaker 2>long time, not because of anything Haley did me questioning

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<v Speaker 2>my my relationship with Haley. It was nothing about that,

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<v Speaker 2>But I also my whole thing with this confusion that

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<v Speaker 2>people experience with these people, you're the right person, isn't

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<v Speaker 2>going to make you feel confused?

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<v Speaker 3>True but false as well?

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<v Speaker 4>Why Yeah felt good to say, because two things can

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<v Speaker 4>be true at the same time.

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<v Speaker 3>So early days when I was dating Robbie.

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<v Speaker 4>I was as confused as she was because I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>I want to be with him, but he wasn't ready

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<v Speaker 4>to be an exclusive relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember, but you know I'm gonna date someone else. And

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<v Speaker 3>then he was like oh no, no, no, no, what to do job?

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<v Speaker 3>Then he keep crawling.

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<v Speaker 2>But he wasn't non communicat He didn't bail on plans

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<v Speaker 2>or like disengage. He was very engaged when you were.

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<v Speaker 4>Together, municative and honest about not being ready to be

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<v Speaker 4>in an exclusive relationship. But that's confusing to me because

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<v Speaker 4>you're acting like we're in an exclusive relationship, but yet

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<v Speaker 4>you can't be in an exclusive relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>See, I disagree he was dating. He was in a

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<v Speaker 2>dating season, so I think you totally caught him off guard,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I think he was like, wait, I'm wanting

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<v Speaker 2>to like date and be single, but I just like

0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:11.760
<v Speaker 2>met the best girl ever, and so I have to

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<v Speaker 2>be honest with her about where I'm at so that

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<v Speaker 2>the intentions are set if she doesn't want to do this.

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<v Speaker 2>And so when he told you where he was, he

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<v Speaker 2>was very clear, and you said, okay, well I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to date other people, and then he goes, wait, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want you to do that. Yeah, correct, that's not this.

0:27:26.160 --> 0:27:26.959
<v Speaker 2>This is different.

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<v Speaker 3>It's all confusion, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't think the person that is meant for

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<v Speaker 2>you is going to make you overthink every little thing

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<v Speaker 2>you do like this and also throw a fit when

0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:41.120
<v Speaker 2>you set a boundary. She said a boundary and said,

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<v Speaker 2>don't talk to me like you're confusing me, and he

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<v Speaker 2>did not like it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think this is not not your guy.

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<v Speaker 2>If he comes back and is a man and has

0:27:53.359 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 2>like intentional conversation like hey, I'm sorry, I've been confusing

0:27:58.080 --> 0:28:00.240
<v Speaker 2>you and I really want to be with you and

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<v Speaker 2>date you exclusively. Great, I'm all about it. But this

0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:06.199
<v Speaker 2>guy doesn't seem like the type he's going to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>You might just need a little more time.

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<v Speaker 1>T I M.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, don't wait on him, is what I'm trying to tell.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't wait, go date other people. Don't let his paldiness

0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:21.520
<v Speaker 2>or whatever he's doing at work distract you, like you

0:28:21.600 --> 0:28:24.000
<v Speaker 2>do your own thing. And if he comes back and

0:28:24.080 --> 0:28:27.720
<v Speaker 2>can be have a mature conversation and talk to you

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<v Speaker 2>like a man that you deserve, email us let us know. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we do have one more email, but first we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to take a break. A right, we are back, So

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<v Speaker 2>before we get into our next dear Bonya's, we have

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<v Speaker 2>a jingle that was submitted for our intro song from Amanda.

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<v Speaker 2>This was back in March.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, last month. This came in. I think we had

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<v Speaker 1>talked about because you had mentioned that other show with

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<v Speaker 1>their fun theme song, and we said, if anybody has anything,

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<v Speaker 1>send it on in. We'll see what we like. So

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<v Speaker 1>this is what she sent in, Amanda, Amanda, here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes about a TV show.

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<v Speaker 3>Fenshion. It's too.

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<v Speaker 1>Named bed Tivvy and Tony.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean Amanda's voice is poor.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was the bop. Also, we'd have to change

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<v Speaker 2>it to Tanya Yad.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, yeah, Tanya Rad is still technically going to be

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<v Speaker 4>my name.

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<v Speaker 3>It's gonna be Tanya Rad.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's your middle name.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, yeah, say sometimes about a TV show friendship.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, there was a couple of words. I didn't hear it.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't get Yeah, more time, let's take it step through.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go through the lyrics. Swimbing, Hey, sometimes about a

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<v Speaker 1>tee shop, mostly fenship.

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<v Speaker 3>It's too man?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that?

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<v Speaker 2>Too odd? Woman?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I love that?

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<v Speaker 2>It is too odd women?

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<v Speaker 3>Was it mod women?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe? Mod women?

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<v Speaker 2>Modern woman?

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<v Speaker 3>Reverse? Can you rewind just a smidge?

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<v Speaker 1>Not really? But I can go back this much? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>All Right, here we go swembing, hey.

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<v Speaker 5>Scrubbing and hey, hey, got that sometimes about a TV

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<v Speaker 5>show mostlyship, it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Too too mod women? But what did she say? Friendship and.

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<v Speaker 3>No friendship?

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's double friendship friendship friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>And two more women.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the rest. Shoot, I'm sorry, Tilly Antony, two women

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<v Speaker 1>named Becket till Anton you're at Yeah, okay, I love it?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Amanda, throw send us the lyrics.

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<v Speaker 1>Amanda and then well we're.

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<v Speaker 6>Down all it was fun, it's cute, and.

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<v Speaker 1>If anyone else has options, we can rotate them whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>Nothing i'd love more than a rotator.

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<v Speaker 1>We're coming to the end, I think the end of

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<v Speaker 1>these days scrubbing with that that is maybe coming to

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<v Speaker 1>an end.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm with it, okay, Tatum.

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<v Speaker 1>Day one listener and the biggest fan of the whole

0:31:46.960 --> 0:31:49.200
<v Speaker 1>scrubbing in fam here. I wrote your four names and

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<v Speaker 1>different orders a million times, and none of them felt right,

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<v Speaker 1>so we landed on scrubbing and fam. Thank you for

0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:56.600
<v Speaker 1>bringing light and love to my life every week. I

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<v Speaker 1>would like to hear what each of you are most

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<v Speaker 1>proud of in your personal life and your professional life. Tatum,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the name Tatum.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a great name. It's my cousin, my cousin's daughter's name.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>Tatum Tilly, No, that'd be good too, That's cute. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have anything off the topic.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll go first while you guys think of it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Personal life, I'm just really proud to have been in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship now for twenty eight years. The summer will

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<v Speaker 1>be twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>Years, honestly. Yeah. In these days, well, sure lifetime, very

0:32:31.440 --> 0:32:32.000
<v Speaker 2>proud of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very proud of my daughters. I'm very proud of

0:32:34.720 --> 0:32:38.400
<v Speaker 1>that whole family we've created and that kind of environment,

0:32:38.880 --> 0:32:42.120
<v Speaker 1>proud of that. Professionally, I'm very proud that I own

0:32:42.120 --> 0:32:44.560
<v Speaker 1>a house in southern California and I'm putting my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>through college without debt, and that is I feel like

0:32:47.800 --> 0:32:51.719
<v Speaker 1>an amazing accomplishment. And when this relationship started twenty eight

0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 1>years ago, I'm not sure I was very confident that

0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:57.160
<v Speaker 1>that was going to happen. So it's pretty it's pretty great,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't want to lose sight of that or

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<v Speaker 1>take it for granted. I need to think, Wow, I've

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<v Speaker 1>actually done something here.

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<v Speaker 3>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would say personally, I would say the growth

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<v Speaker 2>of not I mean, I would say I'm a recovering

0:33:11.120 --> 0:33:13.840
<v Speaker 2>people pleaser, Like it still happens, but I really feel

0:33:13.840 --> 0:33:17.760
<v Speaker 2>like I've leaned into like living my life the way

0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:22.760
<v Speaker 2>that I want to despite any opinions about it and

0:33:23.440 --> 0:33:25.440
<v Speaker 2>my relationship with Haley, I feel a lot of pride

0:33:25.480 --> 0:33:27.959
<v Speaker 2>in And then I think professionally also, I was going

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<v Speaker 2>to say buying my house and like extending the house

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<v Speaker 2>into my ad like I just feel very proud that

0:33:32.640 --> 0:33:36.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm able to do that at my age and also

0:33:36.160 --> 0:33:40.680
<v Speaker 2>like not being married or having someone that's like like

0:33:40.880 --> 0:33:42.920
<v Speaker 2>being able to do it by myself. I guess yeah

0:33:43.040 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 2>feels really cool and I feel a lot of pride

0:33:45.640 --> 0:33:45.800
<v Speaker 2>in that.

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<v Speaker 3>Personally, I feel most proud that I really.

0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:57.400
<v Speaker 4>Feel like I march the beat of my own drum.

0:33:57.960 --> 0:33:59.920
<v Speaker 4>I really just like live my life the way I

0:34:00.160 --> 0:34:05.800
<v Speaker 4>want to live it, which I always have. And I

0:34:05.800 --> 0:34:07.800
<v Speaker 4>think in high school I was like a little embarrassed

0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:08.880
<v Speaker 4>of it, you know what I mean, Like I was

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:12.160
<v Speaker 4>like I cared more about what people thought. I still

0:34:12.239 --> 0:34:15.239
<v Speaker 4>was myself and I was like the way that I

0:34:15.280 --> 0:34:18.520
<v Speaker 4>am now just like loud and out and like yeah

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:20.920
<v Speaker 4>silly and goofy. But I think I cared more in

0:34:21.000 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 4>high school. Now I like really don't care, which I

0:34:23.800 --> 0:34:26.200
<v Speaker 4>like am proud of, you know. Yeah, Because like I

0:34:26.200 --> 0:34:28.200
<v Speaker 4>posted this video, the viral, the video of me that

0:34:28.239 --> 0:34:30.279
<v Speaker 4>went viral, it was like thirty three million views, Like

0:34:30.320 --> 0:34:33.240
<v Speaker 4>thirty three million views. Now I got like the meanest

0:34:33.239 --> 0:34:36.759
<v Speaker 4>comments literally on planet Earth. And I really truly can

0:34:36.840 --> 0:34:40.839
<v Speaker 4>say with like every bone in me that not one

0:34:40.840 --> 0:34:44.520
<v Speaker 4>of those comments hurt my feelings. That people that like

0:34:45.040 --> 0:34:46.719
<v Speaker 4>if it was you guys saying that stuff, it would

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 4>really hurt my feelings. I think I care about like

0:34:49.200 --> 0:34:51.080
<v Speaker 4>the people in my life with the people in my

0:34:51.120 --> 0:34:54.680
<v Speaker 4>life think about me. But strangers I like literally do

0:34:54.760 --> 0:34:56.680
<v Speaker 4>not care. And like I'm proud of that.

0:34:57.280 --> 0:35:01.719
<v Speaker 2>It's it's such a like I don't think anyone who

0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:06.600
<v Speaker 2>isn't in this like specific industry of having moments where

0:35:06.640 --> 0:35:09.000
<v Speaker 2>you go viral and having that much a spotlight or

0:35:09.000 --> 0:35:12.080
<v Speaker 2>attention on you. How incredible it is that you feel

0:35:12.080 --> 0:35:13.759
<v Speaker 2>that way, Yeah, because I would not.

0:35:14.200 --> 0:35:15.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but literally.

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:18.480
<v Speaker 2>Video in two seconds? Would it have lasted?

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:20.560
<v Speaker 4>I was like fighting back at it for a while,

0:35:20.640 --> 0:35:22.040
<v Speaker 4>And then when I went real viral, I was like,

0:35:22.080 --> 0:35:24.239
<v Speaker 4>I can't keep up with the negative, negative comments, but

0:35:24.239 --> 0:35:26.640
<v Speaker 4>I kept responding to like everybody that would say something

0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:28.960
<v Speaker 4>like you're so ugly, I was like, actually think I'm gorgeous.

0:35:29.160 --> 0:35:32.400
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm just like responding just like rage bait. Yeah,

0:35:32.680 --> 0:35:34.000
<v Speaker 3>I don't really know what that means. I just like

0:35:34.080 --> 0:35:34.840
<v Speaker 3>use it in terms.

0:35:36.200 --> 0:35:42.279
<v Speaker 4>And then professionally, I'm really proud of the fact that

0:35:42.920 --> 0:35:45.920
<v Speaker 4>just what I do every day. I feel like, especially

0:35:45.960 --> 0:35:49.080
<v Speaker 4>in this industry, things are getting so weird now, Like

0:35:50.120 --> 0:35:53.040
<v Speaker 4>TV shows are just like going away. Things are dropping,

0:35:53.080 --> 0:35:55.560
<v Speaker 4>things aren't working. Everything's shifting, and I feel like the

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:58.239
<v Speaker 4>entertainment industry is changing, and so I just feel very

0:35:58.280 --> 0:36:02.239
<v Speaker 4>proud and grateful that I have been doing what I'm

0:36:02.280 --> 0:36:04.520
<v Speaker 4>doing now for fifteen years.

0:36:04.880 --> 0:36:06.759
<v Speaker 1>The one who calls you a cartoon character, he's not

0:36:06.800 --> 0:36:08.040
<v Speaker 1>around anymore. You're still here.

0:36:08.239 --> 0:36:10.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Mom is still here, baby.

0:36:11.040 --> 0:36:13.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, she didn't go anywhere, and he gone, well, he's

0:36:13.680 --> 0:36:17.320
<v Speaker 4>not really gone, gone adjacent gone to Jason.

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:17.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I'm really proud of that.

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:25.840
<v Speaker 4>Some may say I'm a creature of habit, but I

0:36:25.840 --> 0:36:27.920
<v Speaker 4>also at the end of the day too like I'm

0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:28.440
<v Speaker 4>proud of that.

0:36:28.640 --> 0:36:33.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, fine, yeah, love one quick life. I had to

0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:36.000
<v Speaker 1>update from Macy Day one scrubber with a life update.

0:36:36.160 --> 0:36:37.799
<v Speaker 1>Y'all helped me out when I was dating, and I

0:36:37.840 --> 0:36:39.640
<v Speaker 1>updated you on the show when I got married, so

0:36:39.719 --> 0:36:40.879
<v Speaker 1>I thought it update you again.

0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:41.000
<v Speaker 2>Then.

0:36:41.040 --> 0:36:42.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm a proud mom to a precious baby girl. We

0:36:42.800 --> 0:36:45.680
<v Speaker 1>had March. She's a scrubbing in baby. Just wanted to

0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:47.120
<v Speaker 1>that Your show has always been a light to me,

0:36:47.120 --> 0:36:48.839
<v Speaker 1>but now you all keep me laughing during late night

0:36:48.920 --> 0:36:51.239
<v Speaker 1>nursing sessions. Thank you for keeping the show strong eight

0:36:51.280 --> 0:36:52.880
<v Speaker 1>years later. It's been a joy for me through so

0:36:52.960 --> 0:36:55.600
<v Speaker 1>many seasons of life. Tanya, I can't wait for your

0:36:55.640 --> 0:36:58.240
<v Speaker 1>mom journey. Keep us posting all the things the scrubbers

0:36:58.239 --> 0:37:01.520
<v Speaker 1>need to hear. Love you all, xox So there's.

0:37:01.320 --> 0:37:03.640
<v Speaker 2>Just something so cool thinking about someone sitting up in

0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:05.759
<v Speaker 2>the middle of the night nursing their baby and like

0:37:05.840 --> 0:37:09.080
<v Speaker 2>giggling while we just talk about nonsense. Yeah, I love it.

0:37:09.200 --> 0:37:11.560
<v Speaker 3>I did too. Podcasts.

0:37:11.600 --> 0:37:12.800
<v Speaker 2>Congratulations Macy.

0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 3>So happy for you to bring up full circle.

0:37:14.920 --> 0:37:15.359
<v Speaker 2>What'd you say?

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:20.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm proud of our podcast.

0:37:18.160 --> 0:37:20.880
<v Speaker 2>Like the obvious answer, but like having a podcast that

0:37:21.000 --> 0:37:23.480
<v Speaker 2>runs for as long as ours have, first.

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:25.480
<v Speaker 3>Of all, is such a blessing.

0:37:25.600 --> 0:37:28.800
<v Speaker 2>Blessing and also doesn't happen for everyone who starts a podcast,

0:37:29.400 --> 0:37:33.319
<v Speaker 2>And I feel really proud and grateful for like what

0:37:33.360 --> 0:37:36.600
<v Speaker 2>we've done in the community we've created and.

0:37:35.880 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 3>And how we've handled the podcast.

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:38.959
<v Speaker 4>I feel like we want this to be a place

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:41.160
<v Speaker 4>of like light and levity, and it really is for people.

0:37:41.520 --> 0:37:46.439
<v Speaker 2>It really is for like Macy nursing nurse away. All Right,

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:49.840
<v Speaker 2>it's time to say goodbye. I'm staring. I'm so hungry

0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:56.840
<v Speaker 2>I could eat a Ryan Compton. I'm literally so starming.

0:37:56.880 --> 0:38:05.000
<v Speaker 2>I could eat Ryan Compton. What, I'm so hungry?

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:09.319
<v Speaker 3>Is he in the rundown? Brian Compton? Yeah? Do you

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<v Speaker 3>know who that is?

0:38:10.800 --> 0:38:11.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:38:11.000 --> 0:38:13.400
<v Speaker 2>I know Ryan Compton. Do you know what Ryan Compton is?

0:38:13.800 --> 0:38:14.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>This guy had my first kiss with what. I'm so confused.

0:38:20.920 --> 0:38:27.279
<v Speaker 2>It's a trend. Just say, I'm so hungry. I could

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:29.640
<v Speaker 2>eat and they fix someone from like someone's life that

0:38:29.680 --> 0:38:32.080
<v Speaker 2>they like would be like, how do you know that name?

0:38:34.040 --> 0:38:36.919
<v Speaker 1>Tagged photos and find their name just to freak someone out.

0:38:37.000 --> 0:38:37.520
<v Speaker 1>And it worked.

0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:39.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was perfect, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 3>Trends are so weird, so weird, but they're so fun.

0:38:42.960 --> 0:38:45.960
<v Speaker 3>So should make our own trends. Be trendsetters.

0:38:46.480 --> 0:38:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Give me some.

0:38:46.960 --> 0:38:48.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna follow the trends.

0:38:49.000 --> 0:38:51.239
<v Speaker 2>Let's do oh Mark. I was thinking we should do

0:38:51.239 --> 0:38:53.080
<v Speaker 2>this because I was trying to tell Tanya that there's

0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:57.360
<v Speaker 2>these TikTok videos where people will hear blindly hear Taylor

0:38:57.400 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 2>Swift songs are like whoever whatever artists and then without

0:39:01.120 --> 0:39:03.080
<v Speaker 2>knowing what's next, they have to give it a spot

0:39:03.120 --> 0:39:05.239
<v Speaker 2>one through five, but they can't switch it. So I

0:39:05.239 --> 0:39:08.320
<v Speaker 2>think we should make our own with like the hardest. Yeah,

0:39:08.360 --> 0:39:09.440
<v Speaker 2>but I don't know how to do that. I mean,

0:39:09.480 --> 0:39:10.040
<v Speaker 2>I guess you just.

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:11.960
<v Speaker 3>Reported to do it for you.

0:39:11.960 --> 0:39:14.480
<v Speaker 2>You just but it just needs to be a sound

0:39:14.520 --> 0:39:17.120
<v Speaker 2>that people could reuse. That's how we could start a trend.

0:39:17.560 --> 0:39:21.120
<v Speaker 4>Oh what now you're taking? Yeah, I thought we could

0:39:21.160 --> 0:39:22.840
<v Speaker 4>play that fun game. I think that's cute.

0:39:23.120 --> 0:39:24.239
<v Speaker 1>The blind ranking is fun.

0:39:24.320 --> 0:39:26.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, we could do that. But I

0:39:26.800 --> 0:39:29.080
<v Speaker 2>was thinking we could go any even further and do it.

0:39:29.200 --> 0:39:32.000
<v Speaker 2>We could have our own trend on TikTok. It's okay,

0:39:32.000 --> 0:39:33.799
<v Speaker 2>I'll do it. Don't you worry about it. I'll tell

0:39:33.840 --> 0:39:37.080
<v Speaker 2>Ashley all right. We love you so much. Hope you

0:39:37.120 --> 0:39:38.000
<v Speaker 2>have a great week.

0:39:44.320 --> 0:39:47.040
<v Speaker 4>The haters win, Yeah, they don't like that to be continued.

0:39:47.080 --> 0:39:49.799
<v Speaker 4>It's gone in the trash down the drain