Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3: Hey everyone, how's it going?
Speaker 2: We got to think of something because it does sound
Speaker 2: drab without it.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 1: I wish we could delve though, Like we got the numbers,
Speaker 1: but I'd be curious if it's because it's the same
Speaker 1: every time. Should you change it up every time? Or
Speaker 1: do they want to gone?
Speaker 2: So what I think it is? I think scrub it
Speaker 2: up Dub was fine. Yes, I think in the tub
Speaker 2: is what people were like, Well.
Speaker 1: That is kind of weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I mean I've found it ever since she
Speaker 2: said it. I think I made a comment about it.
Speaker 2: But I think we can keep scrubing up dub if
Speaker 2: you feel like you want to sing, I'm good I didn't.
Speaker 2: What are you mad at me about? I'm not mad
Speaker 2: at you? Why am I getting attitude?
Speaker 3: No attitude?
Speaker 2: There's attitude, not.
Speaker 1: A strong attitude happening. See. So, just if people aren't aware,
Speaker 1: we did a poll feel Sad on the Facebook group
Speaker 1: asking what do they think about Tanya's scrip.
Speaker 2: We did it an anonymous yeah, yeah, Oh Yeahbert, unless
Speaker 2: it was one of you guys, I didn't do it.
Speaker 3: Okay, Scrubber do that like something Mark would do.
Speaker 1: Scrub Tonya asking since this came up in today's episode,
Speaker 1: how do we feel about scrub a dub dub and
Speaker 1: the tub of tub tub seventy not a fan that
Speaker 1: hurts some comments, Abigail said, if there was a doesen't
Speaker 1: phase me option, I would take that.
Speaker 3: It's meant to delight, not to not phase Nikki.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize people hated it so much. I think
Speaker 1: it's funny and cute. Doesn't bother me, Abigail, I literally
Speaker 1: hate it. When Tanya says it at the top of
Speaker 1: the episode, it reminds me how far we've strayed from
Speaker 1: the Gray's commentary, and it makes me sad brook It
Speaker 1: is so cringe. I fast forward through it.
Speaker 2: Wow, whoa, that's like three seconds Nareda.
Speaker 1: I sing it with Tanya at the beginning of the podcast.
Speaker 1: Jenna is not necessary, but I'm so used to it.
Speaker 1: I sing along April, who cares. It's so on brand
Speaker 1: for Tanya and that's what makes it cute and funny
Speaker 1: and it makes me laugh every time. And it's energetic
Speaker 1: and it sets the tone. I like the whole segment.
Speaker 1: It's one second. It's one second, Alyssa. I sing with
Speaker 1: Tanya when she says it. I love it, Kelly Ray
Speaker 1: in the most loving way possible. It and that to
Speaker 1: be continued to the end. Can both go. They feel forced,
Speaker 1: and they make me cringe so much love. I'm a
Speaker 1: Day one listener and I'll listen forever.
Speaker 2: Cringe is tough, cringes.
Speaker 1: Ouch, Rafaela, I love it. No complaint's Lindsay. My son
Speaker 1: says it with Tanya every time, so you know it's
Speaker 1: across the board.
Speaker 2: And I told her that. I told her that, you know, I.
Speaker 4: I think I've lived enough life to know that I'm polarizing.
Speaker 4: A boss once told me that I was a cartoon
Speaker 4: character of a person and that people can only handle
Speaker 4: me and sizes, and maybe he's right.
Speaker 1: For some people, he's not right.
Speaker 3: Maybe he was right.
Speaker 2: I don't think that you're scrub a dub dub in
Speaker 2: the tub of tub tub tune like in Cops. Cops
Speaker 2: late to you as a person kind of does it really.
Speaker 1: Doesn't doesn't, not as a person nor as a radio person, right.
Speaker 2: I think it's just a preference and we got the
Speaker 2: the opinions on it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but.
Speaker 2: So yeah, oh yeah, and they said in general, they said,
Speaker 2: in general, our intro and our intros are just like
Speaker 2: so dull compared to other podcasts. Yeah, you know what.
Speaker 4: You know what it is that the Toast created a
Speaker 4: song and it's so cute. Every time I hear I
Speaker 4: sing along a good morning, it's the toes thin.
Speaker 5: Clawden where you're hut that the next time's here, Sorry everybody,
Speaker 5: Easton's not here, but next time he's here, he may
Speaker 5: have when that somebody sent in that maybe we could adopt.
Speaker 3: Maybe that's a better move, like a little fun jingle
Speaker 3: is so cute.
Speaker 2: I know, I agree, but I I know that.
Speaker 3: I can ask chat chips to do it.
Speaker 2: But is it an iHeart thing where they all the
Speaker 2: intros are very similar.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be.
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be. We don't have to follow suits.
Speaker 2: We can do whatever we want, can do whatever we want.
Speaker 3: I'm speaking of Mark.
Speaker 4: Yes, did you know all the other podcasts have their
Speaker 4: own mic flags.
Speaker 1: This is a thing as well. This is not a
Speaker 1: Mark thing. I wouldn't even know how to change in
Speaker 1: mic flag.
Speaker 3: I know how to change a mic flag, you.
Speaker 1: Have to take the whole microphone.
Speaker 3: There's a whole, but I'll show you there's no Oh no,
Speaker 3: I don't want.
Speaker 2: To do it.
Speaker 1: It's a terrible idea. What are you doing?
Speaker 3: Do it on this one?
Speaker 4: But I can do it on the one Beca's using.
Speaker 4: It's very easy. So basically all you do is you
Speaker 4: undo that.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. Undoing anything makes me nervous.
Speaker 2: I told, I explained that to her. I said, I
Speaker 2: think we definitely should have them when we do it
Speaker 2: in the other room with guests. We should have our
Speaker 2: own mic flag because I don't know how we have
Speaker 2: been one of the longest running podcasts that I HEARTMA
Speaker 2: and don't have our own microphone.
Speaker 3: You know why? Because we're just nice and kind and agreeable.
Speaker 3: Why with that?
Speaker 2: I didn't know anything about it until you sent me.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know what that's.
Speaker 4: Called desk, and I see call it what it is.
Speaker 4: I see, I'm a Charlotte Mike flags. I see all
Speaker 4: these new podcasts have these shiny, bright new toys.
Speaker 3: What a scrubbing and have nothing nothing? Well, I'm about.
Speaker 1: To I don't think mike flags are something that our
Speaker 1: listeners care about.
Speaker 3: You never know they care about an intro.
Speaker 1: Well, they have to hear that every week. The Mike
Speaker 1: flags that can be oblivious to.
Speaker 2: About the respect.
Speaker 1: Yeah. By the way, the Mike flags is a little
Speaker 1: cube thing under the microphone that has a logo.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're watching the videos, this little.
Speaker 4: Square say honor with Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 2: I know that's what I said. I said, since we
Speaker 2: do the podcast most of the time in the studio,
Speaker 2: it's fine. You don't want to have to switch them
Speaker 2: every time. Feels annoying. However, in the other room, WHI
Speaker 2: should ever, even if we hold them by themselves, What
Speaker 2: if we just held them while we were in here.
Speaker 3: It's really not that hard. We could do it ourselves.
Speaker 3: I could teach you.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna do it now because we had to
Speaker 4: unplug the microphones, but it really takes five seconds.
Speaker 2: Anything unplugging is too much to me, especially I would
Speaker 2: imagine for Easton as the engineer who has to deal
Speaker 2: with the sound, and we had our.
Speaker 4: Home studios, I would change my flag all the time.
Speaker 4: I don't know why now that I think about it,
Speaker 4: but I know how to do it, so I could
Speaker 4: do it.
Speaker 2: For us.
Speaker 3: I'm happy to volunteer as tribute.
Speaker 2: Did you notice anything new about me?
Speaker 3: Your hair is different? It is different. Did you curl
Speaker 3: it differently?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I waved it with the curling iron because I
Speaker 2: normally have it blown out with like the dice and
Speaker 2: air up. It was kind of supposed to be a
Speaker 2: joke because of your hair thing, because I was dying
Speaker 2: at the comments and people were like, I went through
Speaker 2: the last five weeks and her hair is pulled back.
Speaker 2: And I went through and I was like, there's no way.
Speaker 2: Her hairs down a lot, and then every video it's
Speaker 2: pulled back in like a low ponytail braider bun.
Speaker 3: So so here's the here's the skinny on that.
Speaker 4: My hair is usually half a half down like it
Speaker 4: is today, so it is pulled back on the top.
Speaker 3: But I'm it's always down.
Speaker 1: Not always, not always.
Speaker 2: No, there was one where it was like this, and
Speaker 2: the rest were like all that. It was so eye
Speaker 2: opening because I was like, oh, maybe she's right, like
Speaker 2: I normally notice hair stuff, But I get why I
Speaker 2: didn't notice anything different because there wasn't anything different.
Speaker 4: I never wear it in that topsy turley hair thing,
Speaker 4: but I did.
Speaker 1: But the problem is that was behind you, Like, we
Speaker 1: can't see behind you right right.
Speaker 3: I know the back of my hair is no no
Speaker 3: issue for me.
Speaker 1: That was a good problem Crystal put together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she kills it. It was Crystal's birthday. I don't
Speaker 2: even know when this is airing, but last week La
Speaker 2: and I just need to say, happy birthday, christ We
Speaker 2: love you and appreciate you so much.
Speaker 3: Happy birthday, Crystal.
Speaker 5: Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Crystal.
Speaker 3: We love you, we love you, we love you.
Speaker 4: What a gift again to the world, a gift to
Speaker 4: our scrubbing in community, a gift to all.
Speaker 2: I got my lips tattooed. So it's called lip blush.
Speaker 3: By the way, we're reverting back to your hair. I
Speaker 3: like it. Like this, I think better, Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll take that into consideration while I'm doing my hair.
Speaker 2: If I'm going to see you, what just tan you like? No?
Speaker 2: I got so I went and it's called lip blushing,
Speaker 2: and it's where they do tattoo lip color. So they're
Speaker 2: really it's really intense right now. So once so basically
Speaker 2: it does what it tattoo does. Well, I guess it
Speaker 2: feels intense to me because I don't normally wear like
Speaker 2: bright pinkish colors. But basically after a week it'll go
Speaker 2: through the process like a tattoo, and it'll like really
Speaker 2: dry and scab and then it'll and then it'll just
Speaker 2: be like natural and I'll just have like a permanent
Speaker 2: lip color.
Speaker 1: So then you don't have to ever wear a lipstick.
Speaker 2: I don't have to. I do, but I don't have to,
Speaker 2: Like if I wake up and I'm just like gorgeous glowing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if the tattoo takes whatever a fact a
Speaker 1: month from now, are you done with lip gloss and
Speaker 1: lipstick or you're going to keep doing it.
Speaker 2: I'll put gloss on to give it shine, and I'll
Speaker 2: use lip liner, but I don't need to put a color.
Speaker 3: There's two different things.
Speaker 4: There's a color color, I put the color, and then
Speaker 4: you put the gloss on top.
Speaker 2: So that's just like clear, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So the tattoo is to stop using what product this?
Speaker 2: No? Well yeah, but it's really nute. It's just to
Speaker 2: like enhance my like not having to wear makeup. If
Speaker 2: I don't want to wear makeup, I can just like
Speaker 2: feel like I like this because.
Speaker 1: She literally did. Yeah, Okay, how painful.
Speaker 2: Was that Okay, so this is a good question. You
Speaker 2: get numbed, so, oh it's that bad? Yeah, you get
Speaker 2: um Yeah, you have so many nerve dings in your lips.
Speaker 2: So the first I would say hour, it's probably like
Speaker 2: a hour and a half total. It's like a vibration.
Speaker 2: You don't feel any pain, Like I could fall asleep
Speaker 2: because I hear the sound of the.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And then the last thirty minutes when she starts going
Speaker 2: over places that she already went and like the like
Speaker 2: like the cup, it's bow quite painful. I would say
Speaker 2: a six point five out of ten.
Speaker 1: That's to wear off.
Speaker 2: At that point, I'm either assuming yeah, I guess that
Speaker 2: is that. Yeah, it's a commitment, but I love it.
Speaker 2: I've had it done before, so it's a little bit
Speaker 2: about me.
Speaker 1: Why have you had it done multiple times because it
Speaker 1: wears off?
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you know, like with your lips, and it's
Speaker 2: not like going super deep like a regular tattoo, because
Speaker 2: you don't want to go like that deep into your lips,
Speaker 2: so it's it's more like surface level, so you just
Speaker 2: get them touched up.
Speaker 1: It's probably been like a year and a half since
Speaker 1: I did it.
Speaker 2: It's so fun. I love stuff like, I just love it.
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's like.
Speaker 3: You know what, yeah, profound.
Speaker 4: Sometimes I think like I'm like, you know, I go
Speaker 4: back and forth with this, like I just want to
Speaker 4: wear sweats every day, but I also want to look
Speaker 4: cute and I also want to like, you know, all
Speaker 4: the things. And it's exhausting being a woman feeling like
Speaker 4: like for me personally, I can't speak for you or
Speaker 4: for any other woman out there wanting to present yourself
Speaker 4: in like a nice way, you know, Like I don't
Speaker 4: want to look like slobko bob, even though I do
Speaker 4: a lot of the times like roll out in my
Speaker 4: sweats and stuff. I don't want to present that way.
Speaker 4: I want to present myself like a strong business woman,
Speaker 4: you know. So I do have to put some effort
Speaker 4: into it, but gosh, the crimping of the hair, putting on,
Speaker 4: like putting on makeup every day and I don't do it,
Speaker 4: but the last three days I put makeup on every
Speaker 4: single day for three days in a row, and it's
Speaker 4: just like exhausting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love.
Speaker 4: It, Oh, I like look forward to doing it, you
Speaker 4: like we get already. Like there's two types of people
Speaker 4: in this world. The ones who travel like me, who
Speaker 4: I use that as my excuse to like not wear makeup,
Speaker 4: wear whatever comfy is, clothes I can possibly put on
Speaker 4: my body and that's how I travel. Becca puts makeup
Speaker 4: on to get on the airplane.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I just want to you want to which
Speaker 2: is I know?
Speaker 3: Which is like so nice? Like I wish I had that.
Speaker 2: I also think my mom always like made herself presentable
Speaker 2: when she left, so it was like and not in
Speaker 2: a way. She never made me feel like I had
Speaker 2: to do that. But I just saw, you know, I
Speaker 2: just watched that, and so I love it. But I
Speaker 2: don't feel any type of like resentment about it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you if I had put makeup on to
Speaker 4: go to the airport, I would be.
Speaker 3: Annoyed it myself.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but again, different types of people in the world,
Speaker 4: different strokes for different folks.
Speaker 2: Is anyone watching the Pit?
Speaker 1: No, I feel like I'm cheating on grays if I
Speaker 1: watched the pitch.
Speaker 2: Okay, so about the Pulse, So okay, I'm hearing I'm
Speaker 2: hearing about the Pulse. The pit I tried to watch.
Speaker 2: It was a little too glory for me. But everyone
Speaker 2: has been like, just get through the first episode, you'll
Speaker 2: ad just so I did. Now I'm like very locked in.
Speaker 2: I want I'm just like I'm excited to go home
Speaker 2: and watch after this eight or nine. Okay, it's very
Speaker 2: there's no music, so it's very just like it feels
Speaker 2: like you're in the er. It's very intense storylines, and
Speaker 2: it's going hour by hour of this shift in the er.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's cool. An hour of Yes, it's like twenty four,
Speaker 1: like it's real.
Speaker 2: Time, yes, or of a shift, so it's not twenty four,
Speaker 2: it's like whatever, the shift forty twelve maybe tween episodes
Speaker 2: of okay, so fifteen hour shift.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, so episodes.
Speaker 2: Every episode is an hour from the same shift.
Speaker 1: That's cool.
Speaker 2: It's cool, but it is little glorier and there's no.
Speaker 1: Nine am. Oh that's great.
Speaker 2: A lot of people said, now that they've watched The Pit,
Speaker 2: trying to watch any other medical shows that they feel
Speaker 2: so corny.
Speaker 1: That's the problem and corny.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I heard the everyone's like, you need to
Speaker 2: watch the Pulse. It's more like Gray's And I'm like, but.
Speaker 4: I'll I can't make a decision the Pulse or Pit.
Speaker 2: Pulse or Pit Pit pulsor pit. Maybe start with the
Speaker 2: pulse and then watch the pit if it's hard to
Speaker 2: go back.
Speaker 1: The pulse is ten episodes. If that's.
Speaker 2: Say, I imagine you'll like the pulse more.
Speaker 3: We'll do you.
Speaker 2: But I think you watch the pulse and I'm watching
Speaker 2: the pit and then we can compare and see. You
Speaker 2: can be like, oh you should watch that.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'll watch it tonight.
Speaker 1: Do it.
Speaker 3: I will have time, okay, town so Mama gets what
Speaker 3: she wants.
Speaker 2: MoMA. The other day we were supposed to meet for
Speaker 2: a walk and Tanya.
Speaker 3: Was like, I first she didn't.
Speaker 2: Mean, but she said, I have Sonny. I just parked
Speaker 2: at the Maybourne Hotel and I'm gonna go to Daddy's
Speaker 2: office while I wait for you. And I thumbs downed
Speaker 2: it because I was like, why would you say daddy
Speaker 2: to me? And she was like And so then I'm
Speaker 2: going into a doctor's appointment and she's rapid fire. I'm
Speaker 2: like trying to listen to the doctor. My phone is
Speaker 2: just like vibrating, and I'm like, who is texting me?
Speaker 2: And she's like, why did you thumbs down it? Are
Speaker 2: you okay? Hi? What's going on? And I finally get
Speaker 2: out the doctors. I'm like, I thumbs downed it because
Speaker 2: you said daddy, and she was like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: that's a typo. And I'm like, okay, well you're typing
Speaker 2: it too much of big honor correct to daddy? What
Speaker 2: is that?
Speaker 3: What are you trying to run, Robbie?
Speaker 1: That doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 4: I meant to say, I have Sonny, I'm gonna go
Speaker 4: to Robbie's office, and the I'm gonna walk your way
Speaker 4: to your doctor's appointment, and it's correct it to daddy's office.
Speaker 2: Yea.
Speaker 3: In my mind, I didn't know that I wrote daddy.
Speaker 4: So I just see her thumbs down. I'm like, does
Speaker 4: that mean she's not meeting me for my walk?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 4: What am I supposed to do with this thumb's down?
Speaker 4: I had no idea what that thumbs down? So I
Speaker 4: was panicking.
Speaker 3: I'm like, hello, hello, right mind.
Speaker 2: Just parked at the Maybourne, Gonna go visit Daddy at work,
Speaker 2: then head toward Bedford. It's even worse than I remembered.
Speaker 2: It deserved it thumbs down, visit Daddy at work. The
Speaker 2: fact that your phone autocorrect Robbie did daddy? Lets me
Speaker 2: know that language is being used too often.
Speaker 3: Honestly, or maybe it was like I don't even know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't need to know more details about what
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go with autocorrect.
Speaker 3: That's enough. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: But we do have some dear bonnier questions. So we're
Speaker 2: gonna take a break and we'll be right back. All right,
Speaker 2: we are back with some dear bonya cues.
Speaker 1: Hi bt m e. This one starts. I like that.
Speaker 1: I just looking at pictures of Walton gogin speedo.
Speaker 4: So I was just very alarming on the TV. Quickly
Speaker 4: yellow banana hammock.
Speaker 1: Yeah, since you loved wanting to help people found your podcast.
Speaker 1: It was my sister. I would often wake up and
Speaker 1: she had you on blast while getting ready and giggling
Speaker 1: to herself. I am part of the l g B
Speaker 1: t Q plus community and she had me listen to
Speaker 1: Becka's episode about going public with Haley, and I've been
Speaker 1: hooked ever since. I don't think you'll realize how much
Speaker 1: you brighten people's days. Well, that's very sweet. This is
Speaker 1: from Oh she signed this PDA PTSD. I want to
Speaker 1: ask Beca how she and Haley have become so comfortable
Speaker 1: with PDA in public. I admire how you are so yourselves,
Speaker 1: even in large settings like Tanya's wedding. It's probably a
Speaker 1: testament to the people you surround yourself with. I have
Speaker 1: been with my girlfriend two years and I'm still very
Speaker 1: heah to hold hands in public because of people staring
Speaker 1: or judging. In the beginning of our relationships, she was
Speaker 1: okay with but her love language is physical touch. It's
Speaker 1: become a rift lately. We're both accepted by friends and
Speaker 1: most family, but it's the others that stressed me out.
Speaker 1: We've gone to functions where you wouldn't even think we
Speaker 1: were together, as I'll just keep myself busy talking to others,
Speaker 1: which leads to arguments, especially because I've been hit on
Speaker 1: before because it's not clear that I'm with someone. I've
Speaker 1: just had bad experiences in the past with things said
Speaker 1: to me or stare that it's always in the back
Speaker 1: of my mind. We have two weddings to attend this year.
Speaker 1: My girlfriend has made it clear that she wants us
Speaker 1: to act and look like a couple. I know she's
Speaker 1: my person, but I am scared that she will become
Speaker 1: frustrated with my insecurities around this and a note. We
Speaker 1: do live in a city that is very accepting of
Speaker 1: the community, but I still feel uncomfortable. Any advice would
Speaker 1: be appreciated in Tanya, congrats on such a picturesque wedding,
Speaker 1: Love you all.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of when we first started. I
Speaker 2: think around family and people that I wasn't sure how
Speaker 2: they'd react. I was a little more are held back
Speaker 2: with PDA, but I think Haley and I had a
Speaker 2: conversation about it, and she was always very clear she
Speaker 2: didn't want to feel hidden or like put back in
Speaker 2: the closet, and so I think as soon as she
Speaker 2: explained that feeling to me, I was like, Okay, then
Speaker 2: I think I need to practice when I'm in situations.
Speaker 2: I would say I'm very rarely in situations where I'm
Speaker 2: around people who make me feel un comfortable. I try
Speaker 2: to avoid those at all costs. But I also think
Speaker 2: living in LA like that part of it is super easy,
Speaker 2: Like I've never questioned it, just walking around with her
Speaker 2: in public, and again, you're right, I do surround myself
Speaker 2: with people who are very supportive and loving, and even
Speaker 2: at weddings. Not that Tanya's wedding felt like there was
Speaker 2: anyone there.
Speaker 3: Who would care, literally no one.
Speaker 2: I think we've also been together for a long time.
Speaker 3: But I think I've met most of those people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think it's also how you approach the
Speaker 2: confidence of your relationships. So it's kind of like how
Speaker 2: we've talked about We've talked about this a lot on
Speaker 2: the podcast, Like if you're going on a date with
Speaker 2: someone and you have a kid, instead of instead of
Speaker 2: presenting it like timidly like oh I have a by
Speaker 2: the way, like, don't be upset, but I have a kid,
Speaker 2: it's kind of.
Speaker 3: Tell you something. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think it's so important to practice confidence, and a
Speaker 2: lot of that comes with just ignoring any of the
Speaker 2: noise that could come or who cares what people are
Speaker 2: looking or staring. I think if you're confident about who
Speaker 2: you're with and you love the person you're with, you
Speaker 2: want to show them affection. I think it just shows
Speaker 2: people like, Wow, they're very confident in who they are
Speaker 2: and like how they love their person.
Speaker 3: But also like who cares what strangers think?
Speaker 2: Like I do care, like you're very much.
Speaker 3: I don't care about people I know.
Speaker 2: So I'm trying to come at her from a perspective
Speaker 2: of someone who does care.
Speaker 4: Because like somebody who I feel like, I'm probably like
Speaker 4: your partner, because I also like physical touch and I
Speaker 4: love PDA, and like I feel like I take it
Speaker 4: to an extreme, like all grab Robbie's crotch.
Speaker 6: And Yeah's crotch, So I feel like that would be
Speaker 6: really that would hurt my feelings if he my partner,
Speaker 6: didn't reciprocate that PDA back.
Speaker 4: So like I can empathize with your partner feeling that way,
Speaker 4: feeling slighted.
Speaker 2: It's also though sometimes I know Haley will always be like, oh,
Speaker 2: like it made me feel so loved when you came
Speaker 2: up and just like put your hand on my back.
Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be these like brand displays of affection.
Speaker 2: But I think even going up and touching her back
Speaker 2: or rubbing her back or just like holding squeezing her hand.
Speaker 2: I think little things like that will just even if
Speaker 2: that's how you have to ease into it. It doesn't
Speaker 2: need to be anything like grabbing her crotch, right, It
Speaker 2: doesn't need to be that, And it can be something
Speaker 2: as simple as letting her know that you're letting other
Speaker 2: people know who are watching you, that that is your
Speaker 2: person and that you are not single or available to
Speaker 2: be hit on. And I think just making her feel
Speaker 2: like you're proud of her, because even though you can
Speaker 2: say it in words and when you're alone do things,
Speaker 2: It's like showing that type of love and affection in
Speaker 2: front of the world is really important, I think, and
Speaker 2: especially in a queer relationship. It's especially right now, like
Speaker 2: it's just so important to feel like proud and confident
Speaker 2: in your relationship and make the person that you love
Speaker 2: proudly know that you love them.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm Atanya. I could care less what anyone thinks.
Speaker 1: And I'm in the minority in my family because my
Speaker 1: wife is a Becca or a PDA PTSD. She's very,
Speaker 1: very always concerned about other people thinking. It drives me
Speaker 1: crazy because who cares? And I guess the point is
Speaker 1: in your situation, the people who care are biggots, and
Speaker 1: so why would you care what biggots think? Like that
Speaker 1: should be the last thing on your mind. I think
Speaker 1: you need to get to a place of out and
Speaker 1: proud and everything BECA just said is right, And I
Speaker 1: know it's a process, yeah, but out and proud with
Speaker 1: whatever that out inness may be, it doesn't even have
Speaker 1: to be your part and your relationship, your sexual leanings.
Speaker 1: It could be anything. Be proud with who you are
Speaker 1: and what you want to be. And I have a
Speaker 1: quote because we always have quotes. We love quotes. Life
Speaker 1: is a game of three parts, and the first part
Speaker 1: you're very concerned about what people think about you, and
Speaker 1: in the second part, you don't care what people think
Speaker 1: about you. But in the third and final part, you
Speaker 1: realize people were never thinking about you.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, so true.
Speaker 1: Think about that.
Speaker 4: I never look at people that are like kissing in
Speaker 4: public and think like weirdos.
Speaker 1: No, but I will look at people kissing in public
Speaker 1: because it's great and holding hands love is love, and
Speaker 1: yeah is wonderful. I think it's fantastic love. I love
Speaker 1: out and proud people. I think it's awesome.
Speaker 2: I also think I always see, like when I see
Speaker 2: two women holding hands, I'm like, oh my god. Like
Speaker 2: I feel like it's like a secret club that I
Speaker 2: get to be a part of. Like I like, we're
Speaker 2: all in this club together. And so I think it's
Speaker 2: so important for people who are maybe scared or in
Speaker 2: the closet to see people like you and your girlfriend
Speaker 2: out showing book affection. Like, it's so important for people
Speaker 2: to see that. And also people who are out like
Speaker 2: Haley and I have been to see people and be like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, lesbians, you know it's fun. So I
Speaker 2: hope that you can lean into feeling confident and making
Speaker 2: sure that you don't care about because Mark's so right,
Speaker 2: like the people who who, the people who care don't matter,
Speaker 2: and the people who matter don't care.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just spinning out the clots like it's nothing.
Speaker 1: That's good. All right, let's see from a confused scrubber. Hello, Tanya, Becka,
Speaker 1: Mark and Easton. Last year, I ended up in a
Speaker 1: situationship with a guy after we both ended previous relationships.
Speaker 1: At the time, I was happy to keep things casual
Speaker 1: as I was still healing. Along the way, I caught
Speaker 1: feelings for him. I caught myself caring a lot and
Speaker 1: getting upset if he didn't match my energy. Long story short,
Speaker 1: he got a job at my company, so now we
Speaker 1: see each other a few times a week. Over the
Speaker 1: last few months, we've transitioned to being friends, keeping things
Speaker 1: friendly in a work environment. He always seemed to reach out,
Speaker 1: never letting too much time pass without having some contact.
Speaker 1: But there's always been mixed signals. Recently asked me to
Speaker 1: get a drink, but then on the day of he
Speaker 1: seemed disengaged and it became difficult to confirm, which is
Speaker 1: a common theme for him. After months of confused mixed
Speaker 1: signals and mental exhaustion wondering where I stood, I asked
Speaker 1: him please never speak to me again, which he didn't
Speaker 1: take well. I know I can be reactionary. I realized
Speaker 1: I still had feelings for him and cutting off contact
Speaker 1: was the best option. I've never told him that. I
Speaker 1: can't help but think I self sabotaged with someone I
Speaker 1: genuinely connected with, and I really enjoyed his company. I'd
Speaker 1: love to hear from Tanya and Becca how you navigated
Speaker 1: each of your relationships during the difficult phases. Tanya, you've
Speaker 1: spoken about Robbie not wanting to be exclusive early on,
Speaker 1: and then you had to navigate the trigger event. Becca
Speaker 1: you've shared that it took years for you to introduce
Speaker 1: Haley to your parents, knowing how close you are to
Speaker 1: your family. Did these events ever make you doubt you
Speaker 1: were with the right person. Did you ever debate cutting
Speaker 1: things off and thinking you deserved better? How did you
Speaker 1: keep your cool during the times when things maybe didn't
Speaker 1: go the way you pictured. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Well, I didn't introduce Haley to my parents for a
Speaker 2: long time, not because of anything Haley did me questioning
Speaker 2: my my relationship with Haley. It was nothing about that,
Speaker 2: But I also my whole thing with this confusion that
Speaker 2: people experience with these people, you're the right person, isn't
Speaker 2: going to make you feel confused?
Speaker 3: True but false as well?
Speaker 4: Why Yeah felt good to say, because two things can
Speaker 4: be true at the same time.
Speaker 3: So early days when I was dating Robbie.
Speaker 4: I was as confused as she was because I was like,
Speaker 4: I want to be with him, but he wasn't ready
Speaker 4: to be an exclusive relationship.
Speaker 3: Remember, but you know I'm gonna date someone else. And
Speaker 3: then he was like oh no, no, no, no, what to do job?
Speaker 3: Then he keep crawling.
Speaker 2: But he wasn't non communicat He didn't bail on plans
Speaker 2: or like disengage. He was very engaged when you were.
Speaker 4: Together, municative and honest about not being ready to be
Speaker 4: in an exclusive relationship. But that's confusing to me because
Speaker 4: you're acting like we're in an exclusive relationship, but yet
Speaker 4: you can't be in an exclusive relationship.
Speaker 2: See, I disagree he was dating. He was in a
Speaker 2: dating season, so I think you totally caught him off guard,
Speaker 2: and so I think he was like, wait, I'm wanting
Speaker 2: to like date and be single, but I just like
Speaker 2: met the best girl ever, and so I have to
Speaker 2: be honest with her about where I'm at so that
Speaker 2: the intentions are set if she doesn't want to do this.
Speaker 2: And so when he told you where he was, he
Speaker 2: was very clear, and you said, okay, well I'm going
Speaker 2: to date other people, and then he goes, wait, I
Speaker 2: don't want you to do that. Yeah, correct, that's not this.
Speaker 2: This is different.
Speaker 3: It's all confusion, you know.
Speaker 2: I just don't think the person that is meant for
Speaker 2: you is going to make you overthink every little thing
Speaker 2: you do like this and also throw a fit when
Speaker 2: you set a boundary. She said a boundary and said,
Speaker 2: don't talk to me like you're confusing me, and he
Speaker 2: did not like it.
Speaker 3: I don't think this is not not your guy.
Speaker 2: If he comes back and is a man and has
Speaker 2: like intentional conversation like hey, I'm sorry, I've been confusing
Speaker 2: you and I really want to be with you and
Speaker 2: date you exclusively. Great, I'm all about it. But this
Speaker 2: guy doesn't seem like the type he's going to do that.
Speaker 3: You might just need a little more time.
Speaker 1: T I M.
Speaker 2: Well, don't wait on him, is what I'm trying to tell.
Speaker 2: Don't wait, go date other people. Don't let his paldiness
Speaker 2: or whatever he's doing at work distract you, like you
Speaker 2: do your own thing. And if he comes back and
Speaker 2: can be have a mature conversation and talk to you
Speaker 2: like a man that you deserve, email us let us know. Okay,
Speaker 2: we do have one more email, but first we're going
Speaker 2: to take a break. A right, we are back, So
Speaker 2: before we get into our next dear Bonya's, we have
Speaker 2: a jingle that was submitted for our intro song from Amanda.
Speaker 2: This was back in March.
Speaker 1: Yeah, last month. This came in. I think we had
Speaker 1: talked about because you had mentioned that other show with
Speaker 1: their fun theme song, and we said, if anybody has anything,
Speaker 1: send it on in. We'll see what we like. So
Speaker 1: this is what she sent in, Amanda, Amanda, here we go.
Speaker 2: Sometimes about a TV show.
Speaker 3: Fenshion. It's too.
Speaker 1: Named bed Tivvy and Tony.
Speaker 3: I mean Amanda's voice is poor.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was the bop. Also, we'd have to change
Speaker 2: it to Tanya Yad.
Speaker 4: Right, yeah, Tanya Rad is still technically going to be
Speaker 4: my name.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be Tanya Rad.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's your middle name.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, say sometimes about a TV show friendship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there was a couple of words. I didn't hear it.
Speaker 1: I didn't get Yeah, more time, let's take it step through.
Speaker 1: Let's go through the lyrics. Swimbing, Hey, sometimes about a
Speaker 1: tee shop, mostly fenship.
Speaker 3: It's too man?
Speaker 1: What was that?
Speaker 2: Too odd? Woman?
Speaker 1: I don't think I love that?
Speaker 2: It is too odd women?
Speaker 3: Was it mod women?
Speaker 1: Maybe? Mod women?
Speaker 2: Modern woman?
Speaker 3: Reverse? Can you rewind just a smidge?
Speaker 1: Not really? But I can go back this much? No,
Speaker 1: I guess I can't.
Speaker 3: All Right, here we go swembing, hey.
Speaker 5: Scrubbing and hey, hey, got that sometimes about a TV
Speaker 5: show mostlyship, it's.
Speaker 2: Too too mod women? But what did she say? Friendship and.
Speaker 3: No friendship?
Speaker 4: I think it's double friendship friendship friendship.
Speaker 2: And two more women.
Speaker 1: Here's the rest. Shoot, I'm sorry, Tilly Antony, two women
Speaker 1: named Becket till Anton you're at Yeah, okay, I love it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Amanda, throw send us the lyrics.
Speaker 1: Amanda and then well we're.
Speaker 6: Down all it was fun, it's cute, and.
Speaker 1: If anyone else has options, we can rotate them whatever.
Speaker 4: Nothing i'd love more than a rotator.
Speaker 1: We're coming to the end, I think the end of
Speaker 1: these days scrubbing with that that is maybe coming to
Speaker 1: an end.
Speaker 3: I'm with it, okay, Tatum.
Speaker 1: Day one listener and the biggest fan of the whole
Speaker 1: scrubbing in fam here. I wrote your four names and
Speaker 1: different orders a million times, and none of them felt right,
Speaker 1: so we landed on scrubbing and fam. Thank you for
Speaker 1: bringing light and love to my life every week. I
Speaker 1: would like to hear what each of you are most
Speaker 1: proud of in your personal life and your professional life. Tatum,
Speaker 1: I like the name Tatum.
Speaker 2: It's a great name. It's my cousin, my cousin's daughter's name.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good one.
Speaker 3: Tatum Tilly, No, that'd be good too, That's cute. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Do you have anything off the topic.
Speaker 1: I'll go first while you guys think of it.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Personal life, I'm just really proud to have been in
Speaker 1: a relationship now for twenty eight years. The summer will
Speaker 1: be twenty.
Speaker 2: Years, honestly. Yeah. In these days, well, sure lifetime, very
Speaker 2: proud of that.
Speaker 1: I'm very proud of my daughters. I'm very proud of
Speaker 1: that whole family we've created and that kind of environment,
Speaker 1: proud of that. Professionally, I'm very proud that I own
Speaker 1: a house in southern California and I'm putting my daughter
Speaker 1: through college without debt, and that is I feel like
Speaker 1: an amazing accomplishment. And when this relationship started twenty eight
Speaker 1: years ago, I'm not sure I was very confident that
Speaker 1: that was going to happen. So it's pretty it's pretty great,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to lose sight of that or
Speaker 1: take it for granted. I need to think, Wow, I've
Speaker 1: actually done something here.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say personally, I would say the growth
Speaker 2: of not I mean, I would say I'm a recovering
Speaker 2: people pleaser, Like it still happens, but I really feel
Speaker 2: like I've leaned into like living my life the way
Speaker 2: that I want to despite any opinions about it and
Speaker 2: my relationship with Haley, I feel a lot of pride
Speaker 2: in And then I think professionally also, I was going
Speaker 2: to say buying my house and like extending the house
Speaker 2: into my ad like I just feel very proud that
Speaker 2: I'm able to do that at my age and also
Speaker 2: like not being married or having someone that's like like
Speaker 2: being able to do it by myself. I guess yeah
Speaker 2: feels really cool and I feel a lot of pride
Speaker 2: in that.
Speaker 3: Personally, I feel most proud that I really.
Speaker 4: Feel like I march the beat of my own drum.
Speaker 4: I really just like live my life the way I
Speaker 4: want to live it, which I always have. And I
Speaker 4: think in high school I was like a little embarrassed
Speaker 4: of it, you know what I mean, Like I was
Speaker 4: like I cared more about what people thought. I still
Speaker 4: was myself and I was like the way that I
Speaker 4: am now just like loud and out and like yeah
Speaker 4: silly and goofy. But I think I cared more in
Speaker 4: high school. Now I like really don't care, which I
Speaker 4: like am proud of, you know. Yeah, Because like I
Speaker 4: posted this video, the viral, the video of me that
Speaker 4: went viral, it was like thirty three million views, Like
Speaker 4: thirty three million views. Now I got like the meanest
Speaker 4: comments literally on planet Earth. And I really truly can
Speaker 4: say with like every bone in me that not one
Speaker 4: of those comments hurt my feelings. That people that like
Speaker 4: if it was you guys saying that stuff, it would
Speaker 4: really hurt my feelings. I think I care about like
Speaker 4: the people in my life with the people in my
Speaker 4: life think about me. But strangers I like literally do
Speaker 4: not care. And like I'm proud of that.
Speaker 2: It's it's such a like I don't think anyone who
Speaker 2: isn't in this like specific industry of having moments where
Speaker 2: you go viral and having that much a spotlight or
Speaker 2: attention on you. How incredible it is that you feel
Speaker 2: that way, Yeah, because I would not.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but literally.
Speaker 2: Video in two seconds? Would it have lasted?
Speaker 4: I was like fighting back at it for a while,
Speaker 4: And then when I went real viral, I was like,
Speaker 4: I can't keep up with the negative, negative comments, but
Speaker 4: I kept responding to like everybody that would say something
Speaker 4: like you're so ugly, I was like, actually think I'm gorgeous.
Speaker 3: Like I'm just like responding just like rage bait. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't really know what that means. I just like
Speaker 3: use it in terms.
Speaker 4: And then professionally, I'm really proud of the fact that
Speaker 4: just what I do every day. I feel like, especially
Speaker 4: in this industry, things are getting so weird now, Like
Speaker 4: TV shows are just like going away. Things are dropping,
Speaker 4: things aren't working. Everything's shifting, and I feel like the
Speaker 4: entertainment industry is changing, and so I just feel very
Speaker 4: proud and grateful that I have been doing what I'm
Speaker 4: doing now for fifteen years.
Speaker 1: The one who calls you a cartoon character, he's not
Speaker 1: around anymore. You're still here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Mom is still here, baby.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't go anywhere, and he gone, well, he's
Speaker 4: not really gone, gone adjacent gone to Jason.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I'm really proud of that.
Speaker 4: Some may say I'm a creature of habit, but I
Speaker 4: also at the end of the day too like I'm
Speaker 4: proud of that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, fine, yeah, love one quick life. I had to
Speaker 1: update from Macy Day one scrubber with a life update.
Speaker 1: Y'all helped me out when I was dating, and I
Speaker 1: updated you on the show when I got married, so
Speaker 1: I thought it update you again.
Speaker 2: Then.
Speaker 1: I'm a proud mom to a precious baby girl. We
Speaker 1: had March. She's a scrubbing in baby. Just wanted to
Speaker 1: that Your show has always been a light to me,
Speaker 1: but now you all keep me laughing during late night
Speaker 1: nursing sessions. Thank you for keeping the show strong eight
Speaker 1: years later. It's been a joy for me through so
Speaker 1: many seasons of life. Tanya, I can't wait for your
Speaker 1: mom journey. Keep us posting all the things the scrubbers
Speaker 1: need to hear. Love you all, xox So there's.
Speaker 2: Just something so cool thinking about someone sitting up in
Speaker 2: the middle of the night nursing their baby and like
Speaker 2: giggling while we just talk about nonsense. Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 3: I did too. Podcasts.
Speaker 2: Congratulations Macy.
Speaker 3: So happy for you to bring up full circle.
Speaker 2: What'd you say?
Speaker 3: I'm proud of our podcast.
Speaker 2: Like the obvious answer, but like having a podcast that
Speaker 2: runs for as long as ours have, first.
Speaker 3: Of all, is such a blessing.
Speaker 2: Blessing and also doesn't happen for everyone who starts a podcast,
Speaker 2: And I feel really proud and grateful for like what
Speaker 2: we've done in the community we've created and.
Speaker 3: And how we've handled the podcast.
Speaker 4: I feel like we want this to be a place
Speaker 4: of like light and levity, and it really is for people.
Speaker 2: It really is for like Macy nursing nurse away. All Right,
Speaker 2: it's time to say goodbye. I'm staring. I'm so hungry
Speaker 2: I could eat a Ryan Compton. I'm literally so starming.
Speaker 2: I could eat Ryan Compton. What, I'm so hungry?
Speaker 3: Is he in the rundown? Brian Compton? Yeah? Do you
Speaker 3: know who that is?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I know Ryan Compton. Do you know what Ryan Compton is?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: This guy had my first kiss with what. I'm so confused.
Speaker 2: It's a trend. Just say, I'm so hungry. I could
Speaker 2: eat and they fix someone from like someone's life that
Speaker 2: they like would be like, how do you know that name?
Speaker 1: Tagged photos and find their name just to freak someone out.
Speaker 1: And it worked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was perfect, Thank you so much.
Speaker 3: Trends are so weird, so weird, but they're so fun.
Speaker 3: So should make our own trends. Be trendsetters.
Speaker 2: Give me some.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna follow the trends.
Speaker 2: Let's do oh Mark. I was thinking we should do
Speaker 2: this because I was trying to tell Tanya that there's
Speaker 2: these TikTok videos where people will hear blindly hear Taylor
Speaker 2: Swift songs are like whoever whatever artists and then without
Speaker 2: knowing what's next, they have to give it a spot
Speaker 2: one through five, but they can't switch it. So I
Speaker 2: think we should make our own with like the hardest. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I don't know how to do that. I mean,
Speaker 2: I guess you just.
Speaker 3: Reported to do it for you.
Speaker 2: You just but it just needs to be a sound
Speaker 2: that people could reuse. That's how we could start a trend.
Speaker 4: Oh what now you're taking? Yeah, I thought we could
Speaker 4: play that fun game. I think that's cute.
Speaker 1: The blind ranking is fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, we could do that. But I
Speaker 2: was thinking we could go any even further and do it.
Speaker 2: We could have our own trend on TikTok. It's okay,
Speaker 2: I'll do it. Don't you worry about it. I'll tell
Speaker 2: Ashley all right. We love you so much. Hope you
Speaker 2: have a great week.
Speaker 4: The haters win, Yeah, they don't like that to be continued.
Speaker 4: It's gone in the trash down the drain