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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Hey everyone, how's it going?

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Speaker 2: We got to think of something because it does sound

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Speaker 2: drab without it.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I wish we could delve though, Like we got the numbers,

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Speaker 1: but I'd be curious if it's because it's the same

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Speaker 1: every time. Should you change it up every time? Or

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Speaker 1: do they want to gone?

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Speaker 2: So what I think it is? I think scrub it

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Speaker 2: up Dub was fine. Yes, I think in the tub

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Speaker 2: is what people were like, Well.

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Speaker 1: That is kind of weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I mean I've found it ever since she

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Speaker 2: said it. I think I made a comment about it.

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Speaker 2: But I think we can keep scrubing up dub if

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Speaker 2: you feel like you want to sing, I'm good I didn't.

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Speaker 2: What are you mad at me about? I'm not mad

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Speaker 2: at you? Why am I getting attitude?

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Speaker 3: No attitude?

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Speaker 2: There's attitude, not.

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Speaker 1: A strong attitude happening. See. So, just if people aren't aware,

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Speaker 1: we did a poll feel Sad on the Facebook group

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Speaker 1: asking what do they think about Tanya's scrip.

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Speaker 2: We did it an anonymous yeah, yeah, Oh Yeahbert, unless

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Speaker 2: it was one of you guys, I didn't do it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Scrubber do that like something Mark would do.

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Speaker 1: Scrub Tonya asking since this came up in today's episode,

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Speaker 1: how do we feel about scrub a dub dub and

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Speaker 1: the tub of tub tub seventy not a fan that

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Speaker 1: hurts some comments, Abigail said, if there was a doesen't

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Speaker 1: phase me option, I would take that.

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Speaker 3: It's meant to delight, not to not phase Nikki.

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize people hated it so much. I think

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Speaker 1: it's funny and cute. Doesn't bother me, Abigail, I literally

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Speaker 1: hate it. When Tanya says it at the top of

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Speaker 1: the episode, it reminds me how far we've strayed from

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Speaker 1: the Gray's commentary, and it makes me sad brook It

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Speaker 1: is so cringe. I fast forward through it.

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Speaker 2: Wow, whoa, that's like three seconds Nareda.

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Speaker 1: I sing it with Tanya at the beginning of the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Jenna is not necessary, but I'm so used to it.

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Speaker 1: I sing along April, who cares. It's so on brand

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Speaker 1: for Tanya and that's what makes it cute and funny

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Speaker 1: and it makes me laugh every time. And it's energetic

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Speaker 1: and it sets the tone. I like the whole segment.

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Speaker 1: It's one second. It's one second, Alyssa. I sing with

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Speaker 1: Tanya when she says it. I love it, Kelly Ray

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Speaker 1: in the most loving way possible. It and that to

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Speaker 1: be continued to the end. Can both go. They feel forced,

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Speaker 1: and they make me cringe so much love. I'm a

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Speaker 1: Day one listener and I'll listen forever.

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Speaker 2: Cringe is tough, cringes.

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Speaker 1: Ouch, Rafaela, I love it. No complaint's Lindsay. My son

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Speaker 1: says it with Tanya every time, so you know it's

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Speaker 1: across the board.

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Speaker 2: And I told her that. I told her that, you know, I.

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Speaker 4: I think I've lived enough life to know that I'm polarizing.

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Speaker 4: A boss once told me that I was a cartoon

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Speaker 4: character of a person and that people can only handle

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Speaker 4: me and sizes, and maybe he's right.

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Speaker 1: For some people, he's not right.

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Speaker 3: Maybe he was right.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that you're scrub a dub dub in

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Speaker 2: the tub of tub tub tune like in Cops. Cops

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Speaker 2: late to you as a person kind of does it really.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't doesn't, not as a person nor as a radio person, right.

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Speaker 2: I think it's just a preference and we got the

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Speaker 2: the opinions on it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, oh yeah, and they said in general, they said,

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Speaker 2: in general, our intro and our intros are just like

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Speaker 2: so dull compared to other podcasts. Yeah, you know what.

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Speaker 4: You know what it is that the Toast created a

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Speaker 4: song and it's so cute. Every time I hear I

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Speaker 4: sing along a good morning, it's the toes thin.

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Speaker 5: Clawden where you're hut that the next time's here, Sorry everybody,

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Speaker 5: Easton's not here, but next time he's here, he may

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Speaker 5: have when that somebody sent in that maybe we could adopt.

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Speaker 3: Maybe that's a better move, like a little fun jingle

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Speaker 2: I know, I agree, but I I know that.

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Speaker 3: I can ask chat chips to do it.

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Speaker 2: But is it an iHeart thing where they all the

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Speaker 2: intros are very similar.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be. We don't have to follow suits.

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Speaker 2: We can do whatever we want, can do whatever we want.

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Speaker 3: I'm speaking of Mark.

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Speaker 4: Yes, did you know all the other podcasts have their

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Speaker 4: own mic flags.

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Speaker 1: This is a thing as well. This is not a

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Speaker 1: Mark thing. I wouldn't even know how to change in

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Speaker 3: I know how to change a mic flag, you.

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Speaker 1: Have to take the whole microphone.

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Speaker 3: There's a whole, but I'll show you there's no Oh no,

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Speaker 3: I don't want.

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Speaker 2: To do it.

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Speaker 1: It's a terrible idea. What are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Do it on this one?

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Speaker 4: But I can do it on the one Beca's using.

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Speaker 4: It's very easy. So basically all you do is you

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Speaker 4: undo that.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. Undoing anything makes me nervous.

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Speaker 2: I told, I explained that to her. I said, I

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Speaker 2: think we definitely should have them when we do it

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Speaker 2: in the other room with guests. We should have our

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Speaker 2: own mic flag because I don't know how we have

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Speaker 2: been one of the longest running podcasts that I HEARTMA

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Speaker 2: and don't have our own microphone.

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Speaker 3: You know why? Because we're just nice and kind and agreeable.

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Speaker 3: Why with that?

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Speaker 2: I didn't know anything about it until you sent me.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know what that's.

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Speaker 4: Called desk, and I see call it what it is.

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Speaker 4: I see, I'm a Charlotte Mike flags. I see all

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Speaker 4: these new podcasts have these shiny, bright new toys.

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Speaker 3: What a scrubbing and have nothing nothing? Well, I'm about.

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Speaker 1: To I don't think mike flags are something that our

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Speaker 1: listeners care about.

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Speaker 3: You never know they care about an intro.

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Speaker 1: Well, they have to hear that every week. The Mike

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Speaker 1: flags that can be oblivious to.

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Speaker 2: About the respect.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. By the way, the Mike flags is a little

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Speaker 1: cube thing under the microphone that has a logo.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're watching the videos, this little.

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Speaker 4: Square say honor with Ryan Seacrest.

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Speaker 2: I know that's what I said. I said, since we

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Speaker 2: it's fine. You don't want to have to switch them

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Speaker 2: every time. Feels annoying. However, in the other room, WHI

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Speaker 3: It's really not that hard. We could do it ourselves.

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Speaker 3: I could teach you.

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Speaker 4: I'm not gonna do it now because we had to

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Speaker 4: unplug the microphones, but it really takes five seconds.

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Speaker 2: Anything unplugging is too much to me, especially I would

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Speaker 2: imagine for Easton as the engineer who has to deal

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Speaker 4: Home studios, I would change my flag all the time.

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Speaker 4: I don't know why now that I think about it,

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Speaker 2: For us.

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Speaker 3: I'm happy to volunteer as tribute.

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Speaker 2: Did you notice anything new about me?

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Speaker 3: Your hair is different? It is different. Did you curl

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I waved it with the curling iron because I

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Speaker 2: normally have it blown out with like the dice and

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Speaker 2: air up. It was kind of supposed to be a

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Speaker 2: joke because of your hair thing, because I was dying

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Speaker 2: at the comments and people were like, I went through

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Speaker 2: the last five weeks and her hair is pulled back.

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Speaker 2: And I went through and I was like, there's no way.

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Speaker 2: pulled back in like a low ponytail braider bun.

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Speaker 3: So so here's the here's the skinny on that.

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Speaker 4: My hair is usually half a half down like it

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Speaker 3: But I'm it's always down.

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Speaker 1: Not always, not always.

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Speaker 2: No, there was one where it was like this, and

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Speaker 2: the rest were like all that. It was so eye

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Speaker 2: opening because I was like, oh, maybe she's right, like

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Speaker 2: I normally notice hair stuff, But I get why I

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Speaker 4: I never wear it in that topsy turley hair thing,

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Speaker 1: But the problem is that was behind you, Like, we

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Speaker 3: I know the back of my hair is no no

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Speaker 1: That was a good problem Crystal put together.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she kills it. It was Crystal's birthday. I don't

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Speaker 2: even know when this is airing, but last week La

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Speaker 2: and I just need to say, happy birthday, christ We

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Speaker 2: love you and appreciate you so much.

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Speaker 3: Happy birthday, Crystal.

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Speaker 5: Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Crystal.

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Speaker 3: We love you, we love you, we love you.

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Speaker 4: What a gift again to the world, a gift to

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Speaker 4: our scrubbing in community, a gift to all.

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Speaker 2: I got my lips tattooed. So it's called lip blush.

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Speaker 3: By the way, we're reverting back to your hair. I

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Speaker 3: like it. Like this, I think better, Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll take that into consideration while I'm doing my hair.

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Speaker 2: If I'm going to see you, what just tan you like? No?

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Speaker 2: I got so I went and it's called lip blushing,

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Speaker 2: and it's where they do tattoo lip color. So they're

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Speaker 2: really it's really intense right now. So once so basically

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Speaker 2: it does what it tattoo does. Well, I guess it

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Speaker 2: feels intense to me because I don't normally wear like

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Speaker 2: bright pinkish colors. But basically after a week it'll go

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Speaker 2: through the process like a tattoo, and it'll like really

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Speaker 2: dry and scab and then it'll and then it'll just

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Speaker 2: be like natural and I'll just have like a permanent

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Speaker 2: lip color.

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Speaker 1: So then you don't have to ever wear a lipstick.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to. I do, but I don't have to,

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Speaker 2: Like if I wake up and I'm just like gorgeous glowing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but if the tattoo takes whatever a fact a

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Speaker 1: month from now, are you done with lip gloss and

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Speaker 1: lipstick or you're going to keep doing it.

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Speaker 2: I'll put gloss on to give it shine, and I'll

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Speaker 2: use lip liner, but I don't need to put a color.

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Speaker 3: There's two different things.

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Speaker 4: There's a color color, I put the color, and then

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Speaker 4: you put the gloss on top.

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Speaker 2: So that's just like clear, right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So the tattoo is to stop using what product this?

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Speaker 2: No? Well yeah, but it's really nute. It's just to

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Speaker 2: I don't want to wear makeup, I can just like

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Speaker 2: A lot of people said, now that they've watched The Pit,

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'll watch it tonight.

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Speaker 3: I will have time, okay, town so Mama gets what

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Speaker 4: I meant to say, I have Sonny, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 3: In my mind, I didn't know that I wrote daddy.

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Speaker 4: So I just see her thumbs down. I'm like, does

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Speaker 4: What am I supposed to do with this thumb's down?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, or maybe it was like I don't even know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't need to know more details about what

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Speaker 1: Hi bt m e. This one starts. I like that.

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Speaker 1: I just looking at pictures of Walton gogin speedo.

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Speaker 4: So I was just very alarming on the TV. Quickly

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Speaker 1: Yeah, since you loved wanting to help people found your podcast.

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Speaker 1: It was my sister. I would often wake up and

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Speaker 1: you brighten people's days. Well, that's very sweet. This is

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Speaker 1: ask Beca how she and Haley have become so comfortable

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Speaker 1: even in large settings like Tanya's wedding. It's probably a

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Speaker 1: We've gone to functions where you wouldn't even think we

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend has made it clear that she wants us

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Speaker 1: frustrated with my insecurities around this and a note. We

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of when we first started. I

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Speaker 2: I think I need to practice when I'm in situations.

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Speaker 2: I would say I'm very rarely in situations where I'm

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Speaker 2: Like I've never questioned it, just walking around with her

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Speaker 2: in public, and again, you're right, I do surround myself

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Speaker 3: Who would care, literally no one.

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Speaker 2: I think we've also been together for a long time.

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Speaker 3: But I think I've met most of those people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think it's also how you approach the

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Speaker 2: we've talked about We've talked about this a lot on

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Speaker 2: the podcast, Like if you're going on a date with

444
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Speaker 2: someone and you have a kid, instead of instead of

445
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Speaker 2: presenting it like timidly like oh I have a by

446
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Speaker 2: the way, like, don't be upset, but I have a kid,

447
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Speaker 2: it's kind of.

448
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Speaker 3: Tell you something. Yeah.

449
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Speaker 2: I think it's so important to practice confidence, and a

450
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Speaker 2: lot of that comes with just ignoring any of the

451
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Speaker 2: noise that could come or who cares what people are

452
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Speaker 2: looking or staring. I think if you're confident about who

453
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Speaker 2: you're with and you love the person you're with, you

454
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Speaker 2: want to show them affection. I think it just shows

455
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Speaker 2: people like, Wow, they're very confident in who they are

456
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,280
Speaker 2: and like how they love their person.

457
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Speaker 3: But also like who cares what strangers think?

458
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Speaker 2: Like I do care, like you're very much.

459
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Speaker 3: I don't care about people I know.

460
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Speaker 2: So I'm trying to come at her from a perspective

461
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Speaker 2: of someone who does care.

462
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Speaker 4: Because like somebody who I feel like, I'm probably like

463
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Speaker 4: your partner, because I also like physical touch and I

464
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Speaker 4: love PDA, and like I feel like I take it

465
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Speaker 4: to an extreme, like all grab Robbie's crotch.

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Speaker 6: And Yeah's crotch, So I feel like that would be

467
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Speaker 6: really that would hurt my feelings if he my partner,

468
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Speaker 6: didn't reciprocate that PDA back.

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Speaker 4: So like I can empathize with your partner feeling that way,

470
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Speaker 4: feeling slighted.

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Speaker 2: It's also though sometimes I know Haley will always be like, oh,

472
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Speaker 2: like it made me feel so loved when you came

473
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Speaker 2: up and just like put your hand on my back.

474
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Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be these like brand displays of affection.

475
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Speaker 2: But I think even going up and touching her back

476
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Speaker 2: or rubbing her back or just like holding squeezing her hand.

477
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Speaker 2: I think little things like that will just even if

478
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Speaker 2: that's how you have to ease into it. It doesn't

479
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Speaker 2: need to be anything like grabbing her crotch, right, It

480
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Speaker 2: doesn't need to be that, And it can be something

481
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Speaker 2: as simple as letting her know that you're letting other

482
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Speaker 2: people know who are watching you, that that is your

483
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Speaker 2: person and that you are not single or available to

484
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Speaker 2: be hit on. And I think just making her feel

485
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Speaker 2: like you're proud of her, because even though you can

486
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Speaker 2: say it in words and when you're alone do things,

487
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 2: It's like showing that type of love and affection in

488
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Speaker 2: front of the world is really important, I think, and

489
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Speaker 2: especially in a queer relationship. It's especially right now, like

490
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Speaker 2: it's just so important to feel like proud and confident

491
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Speaker 2: in your relationship and make the person that you love

492
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Speaker 2: proudly know that you love them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm Atanya. I could care less what anyone thinks.

494
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Speaker 1: And I'm in the minority in my family because my

495
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Speaker 1: wife is a Becca or a PDA PTSD. She's very,

496
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Speaker 1: very always concerned about other people thinking. It drives me

497
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Speaker 1: crazy because who cares? And I guess the point is

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Speaker 1: in your situation, the people who care are biggots, and

499
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Speaker 1: so why would you care what biggots think? Like that

500
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Speaker 1: should be the last thing on your mind. I think

501
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Speaker 1: you need to get to a place of out and

502
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Speaker 1: proud and everything BECA just said is right, And I

503
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Speaker 1: know it's a process, yeah, but out and proud with

504
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Speaker 1: whatever that out inness may be, it doesn't even have

505
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Speaker 1: to be your part and your relationship, your sexual leanings.

506
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Speaker 1: It could be anything. Be proud with who you are

507
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Speaker 1: and what you want to be. And I have a

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Speaker 1: quote because we always have quotes. We love quotes. Life

509
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Speaker 1: is a game of three parts, and the first part

510
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Speaker 1: you're very concerned about what people think about you, and

511
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Speaker 1: in the second part, you don't care what people think

512
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Speaker 1: about you. But in the third and final part, you

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Speaker 1: realize people were never thinking about you.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, so true.

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Speaker 1: Think about that.

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Speaker 4: I never look at people that are like kissing in

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Speaker 4: public and think like weirdos.

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Speaker 1: No, but I will look at people kissing in public

519
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Speaker 1: because it's great and holding hands love is love, and

520
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 1: yeah is wonderful. I think it's fantastic love. I love

521
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Speaker 1: out and proud people. I think it's awesome.

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Speaker 2: I also think I always see, like when I see

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Speaker 2: two women holding hands, I'm like, oh my god. Like

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's like a secret club that I

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Speaker 2: get to be a part of. Like I like, we're

526
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Speaker 2: all in this club together. And so I think it's

527
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Speaker 2: so important for people who are maybe scared or in

528
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Speaker 2: the closet to see people like you and your girlfriend

529
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Speaker 2: out showing book affection. Like, it's so important for people

530
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 2: to see that. And also people who are out like

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Speaker 2: Haley and I have been to see people and be like,

532
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:11,959
Speaker 2: oh my god, lesbians, you know it's fun. So I

533
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Speaker 2: hope that you can lean into feeling confident and making

534
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Speaker 2: sure that you don't care about because Mark's so right,

535
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Speaker 2: like the people who who, the people who care don't matter,

536
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Speaker 2: and the people who matter don't care.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just spinning out the clots like it's nothing.

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Speaker 1: That's good. All right, let's see from a confused scrubber. Hello, Tanya, Becka,

539
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Speaker 1: Mark and Easton. Last year, I ended up in a

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Speaker 1: situationship with a guy after we both ended previous relationships.

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Speaker 1: At the time, I was happy to keep things casual

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Speaker 1: as I was still healing. Along the way, I caught

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Speaker 1: feelings for him. I caught myself caring a lot and

544
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Speaker 1: getting upset if he didn't match my energy. Long story short,

545
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Speaker 1: he got a job at my company, so now we

546
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Speaker 1: see each other a few times a week. Over the

547
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Speaker 1: last few months, we've transitioned to being friends, keeping things

548
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Speaker 1: friendly in a work environment. He always seemed to reach out,

549
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Speaker 1: never letting too much time pass without having some contact.

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Speaker 1: But there's always been mixed signals. Recently asked me to

551
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Speaker 1: get a drink, but then on the day of he

552
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: seemed disengaged and it became difficult to confirm, which is

553
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 1: a common theme for him. After months of confused mixed

554
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: signals and mental exhaustion wondering where I stood, I asked

555
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Speaker 1: him please never speak to me again, which he didn't

556
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 1: take well. I know I can be reactionary. I realized

557
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 1: I still had feelings for him and cutting off contact

558
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 1: was the best option. I've never told him that. I

559
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: can't help but think I self sabotaged with someone I

560
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,440
Speaker 1: genuinely connected with, and I really enjoyed his company. I'd

561
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Speaker 1: love to hear from Tanya and Becca how you navigated

562
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Speaker 1: each of your relationships during the difficult phases. Tanya, you've

563
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: spoken about Robbie not wanting to be exclusive early on,

564
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: and then you had to navigate the trigger event. Becca

565
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 1: you've shared that it took years for you to introduce

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Speaker 1: Haley to your parents, knowing how close you are to

567
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Speaker 1: your family. Did these events ever make you doubt you

568
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: were with the right person. Did you ever debate cutting

569
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Speaker 1: things off and thinking you deserved better? How did you

570
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Speaker 1: keep your cool during the times when things maybe didn't

571
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Speaker 1: go the way you pictured. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Well, I didn't introduce Haley to my parents for a

573
00:25:56,920 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 2: long time, not because of anything Haley did me questioning

574
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 2: my my relationship with Haley. It was nothing about that,

575
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 2: But I also my whole thing with this confusion that

576
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 2: people experience with these people, you're the right person, isn't

577
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 2: going to make you feel confused?

578
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 3: True but false as well?

579
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:24,479
Speaker 4: Why Yeah felt good to say, because two things can

580
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 4: be true at the same time.

581
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Speaker 3: So early days when I was dating Robbie.

582
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Speaker 4: I was as confused as she was because I was like,

583
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Speaker 4: I want to be with him, but he wasn't ready

584
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Speaker 4: to be an exclusive relationship.

585
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 3: Remember, but you know I'm gonna date someone else. And

586
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Speaker 3: then he was like oh no, no, no, no, what to do job?

587
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Speaker 3: Then he keep crawling.

588
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Speaker 2: But he wasn't non communicat He didn't bail on plans

589
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,640
Speaker 2: or like disengage. He was very engaged when you were.

590
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 4: Together, municative and honest about not being ready to be

591
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 4: in an exclusive relationship. But that's confusing to me because

592
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 4: you're acting like we're in an exclusive relationship, but yet

593
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 4: you can't be in an exclusive relationship.

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Speaker 2: See, I disagree he was dating. He was in a

595
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 2: dating season, so I think you totally caught him off guard,

596
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 2: and so I think he was like, wait, I'm wanting

597
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 2: to like date and be single, but I just like

598
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 2: met the best girl ever, and so I have to

599
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 2: be honest with her about where I'm at so that

600
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 2: the intentions are set if she doesn't want to do this.

601
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 2: And so when he told you where he was, he

602
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 2: was very clear, and you said, okay, well I'm going

603
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 2: to date other people, and then he goes, wait, I

604
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 2: don't want you to do that. Yeah, correct, that's not this.

605
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:26,959
Speaker 2: This is different.

606
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 3: It's all confusion, you know.

607
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 2: I just don't think the person that is meant for

608
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: you is going to make you overthink every little thing

609
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 2: you do like this and also throw a fit when

610
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 2: you set a boundary. She said a boundary and said,

611
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 2: don't talk to me like you're confusing me, and he

612
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 2: did not like it.

613
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 3: I don't think this is not not your guy.

614
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 2: If he comes back and is a man and has

615
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 2: like intentional conversation like hey, I'm sorry, I've been confusing

616
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 2: you and I really want to be with you and

617
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 2: date you exclusively. Great, I'm all about it. But this

618
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,199
Speaker 2: guy doesn't seem like the type he's going to do that.

619
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Speaker 3: You might just need a little more time.

620
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Speaker 1: T I M.

621
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 2: Well, don't wait on him, is what I'm trying to tell.

622
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 2: Don't wait, go date other people. Don't let his paldiness

623
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 2: or whatever he's doing at work distract you, like you

624
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 2: do your own thing. And if he comes back and

625
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 2: can be have a mature conversation and talk to you

626
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 2: like a man that you deserve, email us let us know. Okay,

627
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: we do have one more email, but first we're going

628
00:28:42,600 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 2: to take a break. A right, we are back, So

629
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Speaker 2: before we get into our next dear Bonya's, we have

630
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 2: a jingle that was submitted for our intro song from Amanda.

631
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 2: This was back in March.

632
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, last month. This came in. I think we had

633
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: talked about because you had mentioned that other show with

634
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: their fun theme song, and we said, if anybody has anything,

635
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: send it on in. We'll see what we like. So

636
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: this is what she sent in, Amanda, Amanda, here we go.

637
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 2: Sometimes about a TV show.

638
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 3: Fenshion. It's too.

639
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: Named bed Tivvy and Tony.

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00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 3: I mean Amanda's voice is poor.

641
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was the bop. Also, we'd have to change

642
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 2: it to Tanya Yad.

643
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 4: Right, yeah, Tanya Rad is still technically going to be

644
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 4: my name.

645
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:51,239
Speaker 3: It's gonna be Tanya Rad.

646
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

647
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's your middle name.

648
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, say sometimes about a TV show friendship.

649
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, there was a couple of words. I didn't hear it.

650
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: I didn't get Yeah, more time, let's take it step through.

651
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 1: Let's go through the lyrics. Swimbing, Hey, sometimes about a

652
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: tee shop, mostly fenship.

653
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 3: It's too man?

654
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 1: What was that?

655
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 2: Too odd? Woman?

656
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: I don't think I love that?

657
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 2: It is too odd women?

658
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 3: Was it mod women?

659
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: Maybe? Mod women?

660
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 2: Modern woman?

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Speaker 3: Reverse? Can you rewind just a smidge?

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Speaker 1: Not really? But I can go back this much? No,

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Speaker 1: I guess I can't.

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Speaker 3: All Right, here we go swembing, hey.

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Speaker 5: Scrubbing and hey, hey, got that sometimes about a TV

666
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Speaker 5: show mostlyship, it's.

667
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: Too too mod women? But what did she say? Friendship and.

668
00:30:58,720 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 3: No friendship?

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Speaker 4: I think it's double friendship friendship friendship.

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Speaker 2: And two more women.

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Speaker 1: Here's the rest. Shoot, I'm sorry, Tilly Antony, two women

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Speaker 1: named Becket till Anton you're at Yeah, okay, I love it?

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00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, Amanda, throw send us the lyrics.

674
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: Amanda and then well we're.

675
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 6: Down all it was fun, it's cute, and.

676
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 1: If anyone else has options, we can rotate them whatever.

677
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 4: Nothing i'd love more than a rotator.

678
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 1: We're coming to the end, I think the end of

679
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 1: these days scrubbing with that that is maybe coming to

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00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 1: an end.

681
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 3: I'm with it, okay, Tatum.

682
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 1: Day one listener and the biggest fan of the whole

683
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: scrubbing in fam here. I wrote your four names and

684
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: different orders a million times, and none of them felt right,

685
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: so we landed on scrubbing and fam. Thank you for

686
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 1: bringing light and love to my life every week. I

687
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: would like to hear what each of you are most

688
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: proud of in your personal life and your professional life. Tatum,

689
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: I like the name Tatum.

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00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: It's a great name. It's my cousin, my cousin's daughter's name.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good one.

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00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 3: Tatum Tilly, No, that'd be good too, That's cute. Yeah.

693
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Speaker 2: Do you have anything off the topic.

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Speaker 1: I'll go first while you guys think of it.

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00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Personal life, I'm just really proud to have been in

697
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 1: a relationship now for twenty eight years. The summer will

698
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: be twenty.

699
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: Years, honestly. Yeah. In these days, well, sure lifetime, very

700
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 2: proud of that.

701
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Speaker 1: I'm very proud of my daughters. I'm very proud of

702
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 1: that whole family we've created and that kind of environment,

703
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: proud of that. Professionally, I'm very proud that I own

704
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: a house in southern California and I'm putting my daughter

705
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: through college without debt, and that is I feel like

706
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:51,719
Speaker 1: an amazing accomplishment. And when this relationship started twenty eight

707
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: years ago, I'm not sure I was very confident that

708
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 1: that was going to happen. So it's pretty it's pretty great,

709
00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: and I don't want to lose sight of that or

710
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: take it for granted. I need to think, Wow, I've

711
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 1: actually done something here.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say personally, I would say the growth

714
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 2: of not I mean, I would say I'm a recovering

715
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 2: people pleaser, Like it still happens, but I really feel

716
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 2: like I've leaned into like living my life the way

717
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 2: that I want to despite any opinions about it and

718
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 2: my relationship with Haley, I feel a lot of pride

719
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Speaker 2: in And then I think professionally also, I was going

720
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: to say buying my house and like extending the house

721
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 2: into my ad like I just feel very proud that

722
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Speaker 2: I'm able to do that at my age and also

723
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 2: like not being married or having someone that's like like

724
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 2: being able to do it by myself. I guess yeah

725
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 2: feels really cool and I feel a lot of pride

726
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 2: in that.

727
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 3: Personally, I feel most proud that I really.

728
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 4: Feel like I march the beat of my own drum.

729
00:33:57,960 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 4: I really just like live my life the way I

730
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 4: want to live it, which I always have. And I

731
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 4: think in high school I was like a little embarrassed

732
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 4: of it, you know what I mean, Like I was

733
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 4: like I cared more about what people thought. I still

734
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 4: was myself and I was like the way that I

735
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 4: am now just like loud and out and like yeah

736
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 4: silly and goofy. But I think I cared more in

737
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 4: high school. Now I like really don't care, which I

738
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 4: like am proud of, you know. Yeah, Because like I

739
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 4: posted this video, the viral, the video of me that

740
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 4: went viral, it was like thirty three million views, Like

741
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,240
Speaker 4: thirty three million views. Now I got like the meanest

742
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 4: comments literally on planet Earth. And I really truly can

743
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 4: say with like every bone in me that not one

744
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 4: of those comments hurt my feelings. That people that like

745
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 4: if it was you guys saying that stuff, it would

746
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 4: really hurt my feelings. I think I care about like

747
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 4: the people in my life with the people in my

748
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 4: life think about me. But strangers I like literally do

749
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 4: not care. And like I'm proud of that.

750
00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 2: It's it's such a like I don't think anyone who

751
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 2: isn't in this like specific industry of having moments where

752
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 2: you go viral and having that much a spotlight or

753
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 2: attention on you. How incredible it is that you feel

754
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 2: that way, Yeah, because I would not.

755
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, but literally.

756
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 2: Video in two seconds? Would it have lasted?

757
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 4: I was like fighting back at it for a while,

758
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 4: And then when I went real viral, I was like,

759
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 4: I can't keep up with the negative, negative comments, but

760
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 4: I kept responding to like everybody that would say something

761
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 4: like you're so ugly, I was like, actually think I'm gorgeous.

762
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 3: Like I'm just like responding just like rage bait. Yeah,

763
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 3: I don't really know what that means. I just like

764
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 3: use it in terms.

765
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 4: And then professionally, I'm really proud of the fact that

766
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 4: just what I do every day. I feel like, especially

767
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 4: in this industry, things are getting so weird now, Like

768
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 4: TV shows are just like going away. Things are dropping,

769
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 4: things aren't working. Everything's shifting, and I feel like the

770
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 4: entertainment industry is changing, and so I just feel very

771
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 4: proud and grateful that I have been doing what I'm

772
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 4: doing now for fifteen years.

773
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: The one who calls you a cartoon character, he's not

774
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: around anymore. You're still here.

775
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, Mom is still here, baby.

776
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't go anywhere, and he gone, well, he's

777
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 4: not really gone, gone adjacent gone to Jason.

778
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

779
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 3: So yeah, I'm really proud of that.

780
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 4: Some may say I'm a creature of habit, but I

781
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 4: also at the end of the day too like I'm

782
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 4: proud of that.

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00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, fine, yeah, love one quick life. I had to

784
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: update from Macy Day one scrubber with a life update.

785
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:37,799
Speaker 1: Y'all helped me out when I was dating, and I

786
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: updated you on the show when I got married, so

787
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:40,879
Speaker 1: I thought it update you again.

788
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 2: Then.

789
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 1: I'm a proud mom to a precious baby girl. We

790
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 1: had March. She's a scrubbing in baby. Just wanted to

791
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: that Your show has always been a light to me,

792
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:48,839
Speaker 1: but now you all keep me laughing during late night

793
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 1: nursing sessions. Thank you for keeping the show strong eight

794
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: years later. It's been a joy for me through so

795
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: many seasons of life. Tanya, I can't wait for your

796
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,240
Speaker 1: mom journey. Keep us posting all the things the scrubbers

797
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: need to hear. Love you all, xox So there's.

798
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 2: Just something so cool thinking about someone sitting up in

799
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 2: the middle of the night nursing their baby and like

800
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 2: giggling while we just talk about nonsense. Yeah, I love it.

801
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 3: I did too. Podcasts.

802
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:12,800
Speaker 2: Congratulations Macy.

803
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 3: So happy for you to bring up full circle.

804
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:15,359
Speaker 2: What'd you say?

805
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 3: I'm proud of our podcast.

806
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 2: Like the obvious answer, but like having a podcast that

807
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 2: runs for as long as ours have, first.

808
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 3: Of all, is such a blessing.

809
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 2: Blessing and also doesn't happen for everyone who starts a podcast,

810
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 2: And I feel really proud and grateful for like what

811
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 2: we've done in the community we've created and.

812
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 3: And how we've handled the podcast.

813
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:38,959
Speaker 4: I feel like we want this to be a place

814
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 4: of like light and levity, and it really is for people.

815
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 2: It really is for like Macy nursing nurse away. All Right,

816
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 2: it's time to say goodbye. I'm staring. I'm so hungry

817
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 2: I could eat a Ryan Compton. I'm literally so starming.

818
00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 2: I could eat Ryan Compton. What, I'm so hungry?

819
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 3: Is he in the rundown? Brian Compton? Yeah? Do you

820
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 3: know who that is?

821
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: Yeah?

822
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 2: I know Ryan Compton. Do you know what Ryan Compton is?

823
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

824
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 3: This guy had my first kiss with what. I'm so confused.

825
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 2: It's a trend. Just say, I'm so hungry. I could

826
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 2: eat and they fix someone from like someone's life that

827
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 2: they like would be like, how do you know that name?

828
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:36,919
Speaker 1: Tagged photos and find their name just to freak someone out.

829
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: And it worked.

830
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was perfect, Thank you so much.

831
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 3: Trends are so weird, so weird, but they're so fun.

832
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 3: So should make our own trends. Be trendsetters.

833
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 2: Give me some.

834
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 3: I'm gonna follow the trends.

835
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 2: Let's do oh Mark. I was thinking we should do

836
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 2: this because I was trying to tell Tanya that there's

837
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 2: these TikTok videos where people will hear blindly hear Taylor

838
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 2: Swift songs are like whoever whatever artists and then without

839
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 2: knowing what's next, they have to give it a spot

840
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 2: one through five, but they can't switch it. So I

841
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 2: think we should make our own with like the hardest. Yeah,

842
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 2: but I don't know how to do that. I mean,

843
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 2: I guess you just.

844
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 3: Reported to do it for you.

845
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 2: You just but it just needs to be a sound

846
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 2: that people could reuse. That's how we could start a trend.

847
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 4: Oh what now you're taking? Yeah, I thought we could

848
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 4: play that fun game. I think that's cute.

849
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 1: The blind ranking is fun.

850
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, we could do that. But I

851
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 2: was thinking we could go any even further and do it.

852
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 2: We could have our own trend on TikTok. It's okay,

853
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 2: I'll do it. Don't you worry about it. I'll tell

854
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 2: Ashley all right. We love you so much. Hope you

855
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: have a great week.

856
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 4: The haters win, Yeah, they don't like that to be continued.

857
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 4: It's gone in the trash down the drain