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Speaker 1: Yeah, settles up with your father?

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: We got some really great questions today that we're gonna

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Speaker 2: do with our special guest, Kathy.

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Speaker 1: You want the honors today? He's so they're all handsome.

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Speaker 1: Fan favorite from gen season of the Batchelor Spencer how

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Speaker 1: are you doing Welcome? Welcome, Hi Spencer, How are y'all?

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Speaker 4: I'm doing better now?

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Speaker 1: But you weren't nervous coming on to talk to us? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Extremely, extremely nervous. Yeah, I'm getting Night one PTSD right now.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, wait real quick?

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Speaker 2: Did you get that Night one? Were you like really nervous?

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Speaker 3: No? So Night one? Actually I was very lucky. I

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Speaker 3: was the second one out of our limo, and when

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Speaker 3: actually saw Jen and I made eye contacts with her

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Speaker 3: and that kind of help.

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Speaker 4: He's everything I was like.

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Speaker 3: And they do such a good job of hiding all

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Speaker 3: the camera's crew anything like that.

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Speaker 4: So it was just a girl standing out from a

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Speaker 1: A girl looking for a guy. You got this girl.

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Speaker 2: Everybody else entrance right, watched everybody else come. I was

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Speaker 2: one of the last second to the last one to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was number two out, so I was It

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Speaker 3: was really nice that.

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Speaker 4: That, Spencer.

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Speaker 1: How nervous were you?

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Speaker 4: I wasn't nervous initially.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't nervous until we started having a few of

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Speaker 4: Was going into one on one conversations.

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Speaker 3: That's why I was like okay, but when it was

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Speaker 3: just introductions meeting someone, I can usually I do pretty

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Speaker 3: good job of filling any dead space if there's ever

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Speaker 3: any on I thrive at first dates.

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Speaker 4: So I was. I was excited for night one and

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Speaker 2: The guys like you were just bonding and getting to

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Speaker 2: know everybody else that was coming.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, that was fun because for.

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Speaker 3: The first few days that you're there, it's just you

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Speaker 3: then you are tossed into limos and you meet all

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Speaker 1: Sounds like his season was like our season. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: have a question before we get into anything else. You said,

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Speaker 1: I was reading about you, because you know, I like

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Speaker 1: You said something that really stuck out to me. You said,

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Speaker 1: you can't compete for someone's heart. It's not a competitional

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Speaker 1: you came to that, Like how that just blew my

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that you can, if you work.

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Speaker 3: And if you put in put in the work, if

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Speaker 3: to And during my time on the show, there were

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Speaker 3: And there were aspects of everything that were competitive, right.

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Speaker 4: It's love, Snapper, a competition.

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Speaker 1: I love that I love has to happen so great.

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Speaker 1: You also said in that same article, that you approach

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Speaker 1: relationships differently after the show, how I want to tell us,

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Speaker 1: Salat Jane, what changed you coming from that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and how you.

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Speaker 4: It's kind of too prong, yes, ma'am. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So going into the show, I was lucky to have

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Speaker 3: someone to know about me going into this experience, But

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Speaker 3: I've never been in a relationship where there's a finite

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Speaker 3: amount of time before you have to get from point

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Speaker 3: A to point B. It's always been especially as a man.

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Speaker 1: And you learn about them, right, yeah, the time.

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Speaker 3: You learn about them, and there's no there's no set deadline.

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Speaker 3: So going into filming it was a really really interesting

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Speaker 3: knew what I needed to know about someone, what I

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Speaker 3: it forces you to prioritize, Okay, what's most important, what's

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Speaker 3: But more than that, yeah, more than that, I want

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Speaker 1: Over the long haul, the really important thing. Yeah, your

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I asked the love language question night one.

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Speaker 3: Actually yeah, but yeah, so it kind of I didn't

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Speaker 4: But with the time that I spent.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: The conversations that we're having at the level we were

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Speaker 4: Hey, I just met you a couple of nights ago.

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Speaker 1: We've got four more minutes. Let's get to know each other.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was and talk fast.

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Speaker 2: Can you share with me that I noticed that you

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Speaker 2: do a journal on gratitude.

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Speaker 3: Me, I have a five minute journal that I do

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Speaker 3: every morning. That's just things that you're grateful for, things

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Speaker 1: Writing it down, and I'm going to tell you that

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Speaker 1: what I'm goingightful for because it really doesn't change your

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it does, and it changes the way that you

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Speaker 4: And there's just so much I think we have to

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Speaker 2: Bream it to the universe every day just gives you

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Speaker 1: It just does.

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Speaker 1: Thankful for things that haven't even come yet.

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Speaker 4: That's right exactly.

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Speaker 3: And I think one of the things too that took

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Speaker 4: Receive, because that's hard. Didn't receive them for a reason.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And that's that's just it comes down to

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Speaker 2: Or haven't received them as of yet, that's absolutely right.

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Speaker 2: They still may come.

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Speaker 1: But that it's all in my mind. That's all of

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Speaker 1: the positive. It's having that positive outlook, all right. Have

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Speaker 1: you been on any dates since the show.

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Speaker 4: I've been on one date. Have really?

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Speaker 3: The show, it's just kind of been a whirlwind. So

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Speaker 1: I have two cats? What can you do for me?

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Speaker 3: So we after the show, a lot of people thought

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Speaker 3: was painting pets. So unfortunately I'm not that artistically gifted.

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Speaker 3: We have eighty two employees on staff now. They're all artists,

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Speaker 3: and we take photos of people's pets that they submit

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Speaker 3: like your favorite photo, and they use yeah, well they

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Speaker 3: use Adobe illustrators, so it's actually a digital kind of

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Speaker 3: mugs and we're actually about to launch puzzles and stuff.

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Speaker 4: Can I tell you.

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Speaker 1: I gave This wasn't my pet I gave. I didn't

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Speaker 1: clearly didn't think it through. Last year I gave my

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Speaker 1: son in law. My daughter and son Will had their

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Speaker 1: and I ordered golf balls with the baby's face on it. Oh,

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Speaker 1: don't hit the baby. I didn't take it through, and

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Speaker 1: he goes, Kathy, I can't use.

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Speaker 4: Use remember, so you know what?

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Speaker 3: You could have come up with a really good solution

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Speaker 3: though for wives that don't want their husbands.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there you go. That's a business in and

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Speaker 1: So Spenser, we're going to ask you.

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Speaker 1: Will you be willing to help us out with some advice?

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Speaker 1: Yes, all right, we're going to start with question one.

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Speaker 1: As soon as it here it comes all right. Anonymous

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Speaker 4: Right? Holy?

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Speaker 1: I love you. I love you, Spencer, I speak it man.

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Speaker 1: Tell us how the world.

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Speaker 4: Cut off everything with this guy? Instantly? Do it?

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Speaker 1: Now? Do you think she enjoys being the other woman? Like?

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Speaker 1: Who wants to be the other There's so many things

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Speaker 1: Were you eat? I mean, it's your job, it's so yeah,

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Speaker 2: You know, I gotta say though, that to me, I

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Speaker 1: I got to say, that's what I said. That's the

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Speaker 1: move now, honey.

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Speaker 3: Also not your place to make that judgment. You don't

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Speaker 4: Just to be fair, like.

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Speaker 1: They might go home and have it happy at him.

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Speaker 2: She's assuming, and what do we know about that? Do

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Speaker 1: Do not assume. There's the word ass isnt assume for

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Speaker 4: Make you and me when you assume?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I'm glad it was anonymous because I don't

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Speaker 1: But that's crazy. You need to rethink. Do you start over? Yep?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the eighteen year difference. Age difference sounds like

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Speaker 1: Oh, she's just Spencer. We got plenty of that in

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Speaker 2: taking it really hard. I really can't see my helf

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Speaker 2: ask now? Or should I wait? The breakup is still

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Speaker 1: What should I do? Thank you so much? Love you both.

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Speaker 1: Wait can I I've got the solution before Spencer, I've

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Speaker 1: got and oh wow, it's going to bring you business.

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Speaker 1: Call Spencer, Call Spencer, send him a picture of the dog.

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Speaker 1: Frame on the coffee mugs. Put it on the coffee mugs,

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Speaker 1: Put it on an eight by ten on your wall.

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Speaker 1: Talk to Nikki and okay.

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Speaker 4: Susan, are you looking for another job? We might be hiring.

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Speaker 1: That was Kathy? That was me?

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Speaker 4: Wait wait, I came are really small right now?

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Speaker 1: It was in the studio today we have each other

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Speaker 1: all a big and if that's sort, if you hire me,

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Speaker 4: That's perfect.

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Speaker 1: Now what do you think?

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Speaker 3: The one thing that sticks out to me is when

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Speaker 3: she says that it was essentially her fault that they

449
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:22,280
Speaker 3: broke up. If you're going if you're going to want yeah,

450
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: that's what's the freaking dog.

451
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: No, he's got the dog, he's got the dog. We

452
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 1: want visitation rights. So thank god they didn't have kids.

453
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Speaker 3: I was dating I got my dog with someone that

454
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 3: I was dating, and it ended.

455
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 4: It ended mutually, but.

456
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:48,119
Speaker 3: She ended up saying, hey, she's happier with you, she

457
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 3: likes you more, essentially, and she was really really mature

458
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,200
Speaker 3: and saying that. And I'm grateful for that, because dealing

459
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 3: with this would be rough. If you're going to ask

460
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 3: the split time, you got to do it now and again.

461
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think by the way, baby, I hate that

462
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 2: I ruined your world. And I love Nikki as much

463
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 2: as you do, so I'm going to take them every

464
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 2: other weekend or But you know.

465
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Speaker 1: What's hard about passion, guys, here's what's hard about that.

466
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 1: The elephant in the room, or in this case, the

467
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: dog in the room, is that is that he's taking

468
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 1: the break up. Really it's difficult for him. So do

469
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Speaker 1: you really think he wants to see her at his

470
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 1: front door? No? No, But she loves the dog too,

471
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Speaker 1: So how do you fix that? I mean, I love

472
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:33,440
Speaker 1: my cats, but I'd get another dog.

473
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Speaker 2: But she's going to be punished because she ended a

474
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Speaker 2: relationship and can't.

475
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Speaker 1: No. I mean, in a perfect world, right, in a

476
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Speaker 1: perfect world, they would you know, meet at at at

477
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: you know, McDonald's and share the you know, hand off

478
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 1: the dog every week. But I just I think it's

479
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 1: really hard when your heart's broken and you have to

480
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: see that.

481
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Speaker 2: Best case scenario is give him the dog and go

482
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Speaker 2: get in that.

483
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Speaker 1: That's what I said.

484
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Speaker 3: That would be best case scenario because for her, if

485
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: she's the one that decided to cut it off, obviously

486
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 3: emotions aren't really involved for her anymore. But having been

487
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 3: on the side of the party that's kind of caught

488
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:14,400
Speaker 3: off guard. That would be really, really rough, especially because

489
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 3: he'd probably keep thinking there's still a chance they get

490
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 3: back together because they have this.

491
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Speaker 1: I think the best thing. You broke his heart, and

492
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 1: that's okay. You know, that's part of falling in love

493
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: is you might fall out of love. That's okay. But

494
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: I think the guy suffering, and I think I hope

495
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 1: this woman puts the pain that he's in a little

496
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 1: bit ahead of her want and need for the dog.

497
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Speaker 3: That's preach cavvy. That's why I think too, Yes, all right, Yes,

498
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 3: one more.

499
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Speaker 4: One more.

500
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Speaker 1: Here we go Anonymous ass Kathy and Susan. I'm just

501
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 1: going to get right to it. This is so mortifyed

502
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,919
Speaker 1: for me, but I have to do it. I just

503
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 1: moved in with my boyfriend. He lists with three other boys. Well,

504
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 1: that's the first problem. Okay, he lives with three other

505
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 1: boys that are his best friends. We're going to be

506
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 1: staying with him until his lease ends in about three months,

507
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 1: and then we're going to move into our own place.

508
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 1: Our bathroom is connected to our bedroom. He works from home.

509
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: I have IBS otherwise irritable bowel syndrome. What the hell

510
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: do I do? I just can't do it. I'm too nervous.

511
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 1: He's right there, He's always right there. I can't go

512
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,400
Speaker 1: in my office. I can't go in the shared bathroom.

513
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: This is a nightmare. I didn't even think about this.

514
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 1: We're not even close to a decent bathroom in our

515
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: area that I could escape to. Just a gas station

516
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 1: bathroom that's a far walk away. I'm so nervous to

517
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: be human around him. How do I get over the fear?

518
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 1: Please help? Well, I have IBS, So go ahead, Spencer.

519
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: What do you think?

520
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thinking you make a little investment in something

521
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 3: called pooper reve It's a I got it.

522
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 4: Everybody need to make a little investment, and.

523
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 3: Maybe when you're in there, either watch tiktoks or something

524
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 3: with loud audio.

525
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: Or run plush her to see plush plus.

526
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:09,880
Speaker 4: There we go.

527
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 2: You know what I got to say, Wait a minute,

528
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, she's embarrassed in front of her boyfriend

529
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,679
Speaker 2: if he doesn't know she has like, isn't that something

530
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 2: your boyfriend?

531
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 4: You should probably listen.

532
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 1: I was very when I was dating my husband. I

533
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: it was really hard for me. And when it came on,

534
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 1: it came on very quickly. It does, and I was

535
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 1: embarrassed and I didn't know. So I can only imagine

536
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: with all these guys, it's you know that, it's not

537
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: just go and be done. It's painful, it's it's not good.

538
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,880
Speaker 1: And I but here's my question, anonymous, And I feel

539
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: your pain, no pun intended. I feel your pain. However,

540
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: I have to ask why didn't you wait for this

541
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 1: until the lease ended in three months?

542
00:27:58,600 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 3: Like?

543
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 1: Why did you make your life so difficult? Forget the ibs?

544
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: You know what he's going to be up for the

545
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,640
Speaker 1: roommate who wants to live with four guys? Not I said,

546
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:11,880
Speaker 1: the little clean up after these per who cares wait

547
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 1: the three months? Go get your You know.

548
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:17,679
Speaker 4: What I will say. So I've been in I was

549
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 4: in a relationship.

550
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 3: It was like eight months I was dating someone and

551
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: for the first six months, if i'd ever go stay

552
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 3: at her place, she was in an apartment complex with

553
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 3: just like she was an apartment room with one one bedroom,

554
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: one bath.

555
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 4: If I had to go.

556
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 3: To go, I would go down to the lobby and

557
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 3: say that I forgot something in my car. I'd go

558
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: down to the lobby bathroom.

559
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think a lot of people do that.

560
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 2: I would say, honey, excuse me, it's that time, stay clear.

561
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: It's something that happens. Everybody goes it is, but ibs

562
00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: is I've had it. I know it's like God, I

563
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: don't so anonymous. I feel sorry for you. I would say,

564
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: you know, get a hold, get a hotel room for

565
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: three months, and you know, that's what the hell you did.

566
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 4: That's what a for.

567
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: And that On that happy note, Spencer, I hate to

568
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: tell you this, but this is going to do it

569
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 1: for our episode with you on wuld you come back?

570
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: I had so much fun talk.

571
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 3: I would love to come back, and I can I

572
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 3: flip the script on you for one moment, ask a question.

573
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: You know what, Absolutely, it'll be very quick. Take the

574
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: time we got. We'll just extend that. You know, we'll

575
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: just block, but we'll just push somebody else off of

576
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 1: that's half an hour.

577
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 4: I'll be quick. I don't know who's next. Tell them

578
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 4: I apologize.

579
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: You're good, You're good, You're good.

580
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 3: I happen to have a woman in my life that

581
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 3: I care very very deeply about, who is single after

582
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 3: some not great real relationships, excluding the relationship with my father.

583
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 4: And dad's available.

584
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, is your father available?

585
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 4: He's father's remarried. Unfortunately, I would have told you guys

586
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 4: that instant.

587
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: Okay, what does this woman have to do with your father?

588
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: Will be quiet?

589
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 3: This is this is my mother and she has been

590
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 3: looking for her person. She's lost hope a little bit.

591
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,959
Speaker 3: And there happens to be some fantastic men on a

592
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 3: TV show that's airing right now.

593
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 2: She should fill out that application, get on itself.

594
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: How old is your mom? She is fifty six right now,

595
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: so that's a little young for the show. But I

596
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: will give you some advice that you're well.

597
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 4: You did this for.

598
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: My advice is tell your mom to get up, get out,

599
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: join some clubs, learn how to play tennis, learn how

600
00:30:57,040 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: to kayak, you know, learn join group to do stuff,

601
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 1: because if you put yourself in situations where saying she's

602
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: sitting at home, No, she's looking for love. I'm saying

603
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 1: love does not come and knock on your door. And

604
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 1: so if she will get out and do things. The

605
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: thing is, you meet people when you're doing things you love,

606
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 1: and you meet someone who has the same interest, you

607
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: have a much better shot at having a good date.

608
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 2: And coming from her right side here, the right side

609
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 2: of the brain. If there's someone in particular that she's

610
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 2: interested in from this show, send a little note in

611
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 2: his messages. You know it's called the m Yeah. Yeah,

612
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,719
Speaker 2: she just energuced yourself, you know, something nice.

613
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 3: And with the unfortunate track record that's taking place, I

614
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 3: think she's almost given up hope.

615
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 4: So I might have to take as into my own heath.

616
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 1: You know what, Tell you to know who it is

617
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: you write them, Tell her to read, tell her tell

618
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: her to reach out, tell her to come to Austin.

619
00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: I'll take her to coffee. I'll teach her or d

620
00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 1: M Joan and have joan.

621
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 4: There you go, there you go. How long is your

622
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 4: moment single?

623
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 3: She has been single now for a little over three years,

624
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 3: and she was in a ten year relationship.

625
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: He sucks. That's hard.

626
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, that one. That one was that guy stuck.

627
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: But I love that you're looking out for your mom.

628
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 1: I really really.

629
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 4: Does she live in down She is in Dallas, yes, ma'am.

630
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: Wow cool. Well, I would say, I don't know. She active?

631
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: Does she do a lot of stuff?

632
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 4: Yes?

633
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, she and she has friends that keep her really

634
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 3: active to which is good, you know.

635
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: I mean, look how busy we are. We don't again,

636
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 1: it's it's it's keeping a positive attitude, like we were

637
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 1: talking about earlier. She just you know, get up every

638
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: day and and put it out there that you're happy in.

639
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 1: Life's good and who knows what it'll come.

640
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 2: Killing me not to ask who it is.

641
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 1: Oh, is there somebody on the show? There is someone

642
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: on the show she's interested in.

643
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 4: I know that.

644
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 3: So she has been watching the show and she said

645
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 3: that there are men on the show that she's interested in.

646
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, do a little do a little work for her, honey. Yeah,

647
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 2: you know, if she just waits a couple more years,

648
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 2: she can apply and be on it.

649
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 4: I just wanted to know if you guys had it.

650
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 3: Seems like you had a fantastic experience, and we did

651
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 3: and this has been such a pleasure, and thank you

652
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 3: our pleasure.

653
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 1: We're going to have you back again. Trust me, I

654
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 1: would love to you you.

655
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 4: Let me know when, and maybe I just need to

656
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 4: drive down to Austin.

657
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: You knows, hey, Spencer, let me know, let me lie in,

658
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: let me know you play golf. We like to play golf.

659
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 4: You go, Oh my gosh, you guys would want me

660
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 4: at golf. I'm not that talent.

661
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: Well that would make us feel really good. So you're invited.

662
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 3: Perfect, Okay, just give me like a six wing handicap

663
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 3: and we're good.

664
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: Oh, who's counting scores? By the way, I have a

665
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: foot weedge? You know what that is?

666
00:33:58,320 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 4: What's a foot edge?

667
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 1: Who you want to go?

668
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 4: I like that I can do that.

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