WEBVTT - Ep155: Non Monogamous Logic feat. Jet Setting Jasmine

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<v Speaker 1>You're welcome, guys to horrible decisions. Before we get started

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<v Speaker 1>with this week's episode, I do want to thank everybody

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<v Speaker 1>who came up and turned out and motherfucking texts. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to take my dick to all time row you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta I just got gifted a dick. Oh you sure

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<v Speaker 1>did by a are well, not you, but the other

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<v Speaker 1>half of you. I am excited to start this week's episode.

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<v Speaker 1>So many of our listeners have been wanting you to

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<v Speaker 1>come on, um and before I want to give you

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<v Speaker 1>the right motherfucking insure, I do want to say, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>know this your girl Mandy be a k A full

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<v Speaker 1>cor pumps a k A debt bitch ak stallion, and

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go ahead and tell the people who

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<v Speaker 1>you are. Hi, I'm wheezy and I am sitting across

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<v Speaker 1>from jet setting Jasmine. Put your mouth closer to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Look we don't you know, I gotta say. When I

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<v Speaker 1>we did our show in Chicago and um Glamazantaomi came

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<v Speaker 1>and she brought um Kingo's dick. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my pointing in my hand, you know, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to talk, And at one point I started holding

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<v Speaker 1>it like a microphone, and when I held it like

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<v Speaker 1>a microphone, I realized one hand was not enough, and

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<v Speaker 1>we just said it was the last lady that we

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<v Speaker 1>were recording with, like, you can't wipe a big dick, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But she said right, but you didn't, and like how

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<v Speaker 1>long have y' all been together? And at what point

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<v Speaker 1>in time was your pussy Like, yeah, it fits now,

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<v Speaker 1>well before before any of that, I saw a picture

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Oh, and before I knew wherever the relationship

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<v Speaker 1>was going to go, the friendship, the business ship, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it was, I said I could probably deal with that

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<v Speaker 1>every other night, and he was like okay, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like cool. So that we came to some terms

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<v Speaker 1>of agreement early on that y'all weren't gonna funk every night,

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<v Speaker 1>and you can't wipe a big dick, but you can

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<v Speaker 1>a hole man, so that yeah, you have to the

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<v Speaker 1>whole comprehensive man, so that way you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>focus on everyone loves when he comes on he is

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<v Speaker 1>and just I think another thing that's so great too,

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<v Speaker 1>is like when you think of I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>you guys call each other porn stars or what verbid

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<v Speaker 1>you use, but like I consider Hingnore our porn star.

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<v Speaker 1>And I guess when I think of a male porn star,

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<v Speaker 1>especially like a dom like that, you just don't expect

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<v Speaker 1>him to be so sweet. I know that's a very

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<v Speaker 1>simple word for him, but when he said like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>as long as it doesn't hurt kids or women or

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<v Speaker 1>animals like and it was just so simple. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>repeated that so many times because I was like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't find a way to wrap it up like

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes when it comes to sexual kings and fetishes. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just so grateful that he's been on our show

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<v Speaker 1>and that our listeners like loved him so much, and

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<v Speaker 1>especially male listeners because his energy, although dominant and mask

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<v Speaker 1>was just like Hey, I want to help you too,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and that's so crucial for I think of

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<v Speaker 1>business like you guys have. So I wanted to ask you,

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<v Speaker 1>what how did how did you guys spend Valentine's Day?

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<v Speaker 1>So we excuse me, I am working through a cold

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Um. We were on the West Coast. I

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<v Speaker 1>just flew in yesterday. Actually we were out in San

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<v Speaker 1>Francisco and we had the kids with us. We travel

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<v Speaker 1>with them, so we took them out to eat what

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<v Speaker 1>he took us out to eat. Um our always thought

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<v Speaker 1>to pick the restaurant the most expensive, damn placed. It

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<v Speaker 1>was called us Um San Francisco. Of course it is

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<v Speaker 1>named after the damn city, and you know it was

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<v Speaker 1>They had crabs and oysters and I was I was

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<v Speaker 1>sick at the time, so I didn't even have much

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<v Speaker 1>of an appetite. But they that didn't stop them, so

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<v Speaker 1>they had Valentine's Day. We you know, brought the baby out.

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<v Speaker 1>We went to a museum like interact. We took pictures.

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<v Speaker 1>So see that's really you. What about you? How is

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<v Speaker 1>the Valentine's Day? He was great. So although I was

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<v Speaker 1>in my period, it was a really loving day. And

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<v Speaker 1>I must say like I felt really loved. Star flew

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<v Speaker 1>in from l A the night before and we woke

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<v Speaker 1>up together and I was like, so he's not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make me breakfast. I was like so mad about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you, I'm gonna let this shifts out.

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<v Speaker 1>But um, you know, my man came with like a

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<v Speaker 1>gift this stuff I wanted, like, you know, just like

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<v Speaker 1>lounge clothes and like a Duffel bag I wanted and

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<v Speaker 1>little ship and I had gotten him a Kobe Bryant

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<v Speaker 1>momba mentality book that he's been asking for right now,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say it sounds really simple of

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<v Speaker 1>a gift, but it was so hard to get. So

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<v Speaker 1>actually I went on live and started pitching about how

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't find it and shout out to my friend

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<v Speaker 1>Alex who has the book, and I was like, nick,

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<v Speaker 1>because it takes like a month to get it in stock,

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<v Speaker 1>and they stopped publishing it because people are selling it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like on Amazon for a hundred and eighty dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>Even they stopped selling um the league or was a

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<v Speaker 1>Nike one of them decides to put Kobe's like off

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<v Speaker 1>the mark it for a while because they because so

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<v Speaker 1>many people would buy it. It's very sat yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't want that to happen to him. And then

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<v Speaker 1>after that, so all I got him was the book.

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<v Speaker 1>Because Mssius was coming into the house and he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know Um, so he just knew like I was like

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<v Speaker 1>be home by eight, right, So he was like, is

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<v Speaker 1>it a stripper a singing telegram? It's we're about to

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<v Speaker 1>this like who coming into the house. And I was like, yo, God, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>just let me surprise you. And the way that we'll

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<v Speaker 1>be rolling. I know he thought we were having a

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<v Speaker 1>three sons. So there's this girl that we've been flirting with.

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<v Speaker 1>She lives down south somewhere. I won't say where, but

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<v Speaker 1>I swear I thought he clicked on her Instagram to

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<v Speaker 1>see if the bitch was in New York. I figure

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<v Speaker 1>out what's gonna happen. So when the masseuse came in,

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<v Speaker 1>she was actually cute, had dreads, black, big old booty.

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<v Speaker 1>She comes in. He was like, oh he saw the table.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, oh, thank you so much. This is

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<v Speaker 1>so sweet man. I mean when they got in the room,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure he was like, she's gonna suck my dick.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's crazy because it ain't come with a happy

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<v Speaker 1>and no regular massous all right, bro, anyway, okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>I would have appreciated it. I I was like, gonna

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<v Speaker 1>stuck his dick. You know, I was gonna do a

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<v Speaker 1>health thing. So anyway, my period was just at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the cusp, right, and I know that he

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<v Speaker 1>really don't want to suck me in my period because

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<v Speaker 1>just renovated his new place. So the couch lit, the

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<v Speaker 1>bed sheets is lit. So I was like, look, I

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<v Speaker 1>brought my own towel and we can, you know, do

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<v Speaker 1>our thing. He was looking at me like if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sucking it for you, bitch? So we end up watching

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<v Speaker 1>TV falling asleep. I was so upset. I woke up

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<v Speaker 1>like such a fucking girl, almost still pm messing. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I'm ugly. He doesn't want to suck me.

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<v Speaker 1>This is ridiculous. How can we have This is such

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<v Speaker 1>not everybody sucks through blood whatever, So I don't understand that.

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<v Speaker 1>But wait, I don't understand it either. Okay, well I

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<v Speaker 1>do so thanks. I woke up in the morning. I

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<v Speaker 1>was in the clear, and then I put fingers up

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<v Speaker 1>there and make sure nothing came out. I woke that

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<v Speaker 1>ending up like hey, I wasn't even trying to be cute. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>it's off. We could funk. Now. You ain't see me

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<v Speaker 1>in a minute because I was gone. It was Valentine's

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<v Speaker 1>Then we ain't fuck. You're about to suck me, and

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<v Speaker 1>I swear the pressure. I almost felt bad. This was

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<v Speaker 1>like not romantic at all. He was like, okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>was about to get up and go to the gym,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's fine, you can suck me right now, which

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<v Speaker 1>sat on the motherfucking bed with my knee look back

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<v Speaker 1>like hello. It was good though, um, but now we

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<v Speaker 1>had a cool um date weekend and took some shrooms.

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<v Speaker 1>That was fun, so we went to sleep no more. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys never heard of that, it's this play

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<v Speaker 1>of Macbeth and basically like instead of sitting in it,

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<v Speaker 1>you walk through it. You could follow like twelve different actors.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like a haunted house, but it's not scary.

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<v Speaker 1>You just basically watched different scenes acting. So I was

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<v Speaker 1>not really feeling the shrooms at first, So what are

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<v Speaker 1>you doing? You're not feeling the drugs you're on? You

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<v Speaker 1>take me and suddenly I get in this room. I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot I've been sure described me exactly what I saw,

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<v Speaker 1>and this was not the shrooms. It's like nine thirties.

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<v Speaker 1>You walk in there, they're smoking long cigarettes. They have

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<v Speaker 1>on these beaded gowns like it's a whole thing. One

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<v Speaker 1>room was playing techno music. This thing was tired and

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<v Speaker 1>ship he was like, yo, I'm gonna outstope for a

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<v Speaker 1>second because it was getting a lot, and I hear techno.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why would techno music be playing? I'll walk

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<v Speaker 1>in and it's like they recreated this moment in time. Basically,

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<v Speaker 1>this is what I saw. There was a man with

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<v Speaker 1>like a lamb's head. But this is real. This isn't hallucinating.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this isn't hallucinating. This is real, Which is why

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<v Speaker 1>the shroom's even got funnier. Because I had to confirm

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<v Speaker 1>with the person next to me that I saw what

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<v Speaker 1>I saw. I was gonna ask, did you sat check?

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<v Speaker 1>The slow lights are going crazy and the lights are

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<v Speaker 1>slowing down. So when the lights are slowing like this,

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<v Speaker 1>you see things in segments right because they're flashing. There,

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<v Speaker 1>the room's going completely black, then it's turning on. There's

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<v Speaker 1>going completely blackness turning on. There is a baby of

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<v Speaker 1>toy baby with blood on it. A woman just pulled

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<v Speaker 1>it out of herself. Um she was getting naked. There

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<v Speaker 1>was another bald woman who had like a bottle of

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<v Speaker 1>her her chees or some kind of chocolate, pouring it

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<v Speaker 1>on the guy with the lamb's head, whose dick was

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<v Speaker 1>out and he was covering his dick. And then they

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<v Speaker 1>just started dancing and like smearing chocolate over each other,

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<v Speaker 1>and the baby was like bleeding and ship. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking around and mind, You're wearing a mask and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to see other people seeing what I'm seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>So finally I found one black person okay, and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know if he was black or not, but the

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<v Speaker 1>hair was protruding through the mask, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. I had to go around the room and

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<v Speaker 1>fucking tap this nick and I said excuse me, and

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<v Speaker 1>he came down. I said, do you see what I say?

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<v Speaker 1>If he starts laughing, he was like, yeah, they got

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<v Speaker 1>a baby and ship I was like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, maybe he's had too, because I'm my eyes

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<v Speaker 1>out and my nick is gone, so I can't confirm

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<v Speaker 1>with him. Bitch. I walk over to somebody else and

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<v Speaker 1>that somebody has a black mask on, so you're wearing

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<v Speaker 1>a white mask, the black mask of the people that

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<v Speaker 1>work there. They can help you whatever. I said, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know who you are. I know you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know who I am, but I just means you didn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really high right now. And then the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>he said, are you okay? I was like, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>push through. But in my seeing what I'm seeing, is

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<v Speaker 1>there really a dick out with chocolate laugh the hardest

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<v Speaker 1>thought me. He's like, yes, it's really out. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god. So I'm trying to take off the mask.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, no, no no, because they're gonna kick you out

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<v Speaker 1>if you take the mash. Bitch. I fucking walk out

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<v Speaker 1>of there. Right, there's people that haven't seen it yet.

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<v Speaker 1>They're in line. I fucking pull off the mask. I'm slit, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh wait, till y'all get in that

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucker look for the pregnant bits and follow the pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>bit because it comes out. Oh my god. Frateful was

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<v Speaker 1>looking at me like this what. It was the weirdest

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day. Then I come outside to my nigga, who's

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<v Speaker 1>talking to security because he's just like, Yo, this is

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<v Speaker 1>weird white people sitting for the only black people outside. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>He's just like he's like, oh, what's that baby? I'm like, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>they was playing a techno baby came out. They chocolate

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<v Speaker 1>on dick. It was crazy, and he looked at me like,

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<v Speaker 1>bitch and this was my gift? Like anyway, it was great.

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<v Speaker 1>It was great, great, great. And then we went to

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<v Speaker 1>the box, which is a you know where the box is.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you and um, you're happy, would love it.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like a avant garde show. Um you can

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<v Speaker 1>call it a sex show, but they don't have sex

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<v Speaker 1>where they just do this crazy stuff. Have you been yet?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh no? Well the first thing I saw, also still

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<v Speaker 1>on shrooms, was a woman who came out in late

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<v Speaker 1>text and stuck her head inside of a balloon that

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<v Speaker 1>just kept growing and growing and growing. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>had to confirm again is that a balloon all on

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<v Speaker 1>my trip? And They're like, no, what's on her head?

0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.080
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, wow, it's still fucking going. A rabbi

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<v Speaker 1>came out with mazza. He was sucking throwing the mazza

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<v Speaker 1>at people and then like had a wine bottle, stuck

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<v Speaker 1>it up his ass, turned upside down and let the

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<v Speaker 1>wine go in his ass and squirted it out. That

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<v Speaker 1>was my Valentine's Day. And then I can't really be

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<v Speaker 1>doing with some white people ship bro bro was crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>But Ryan met up with me from pose. Ryan came through.

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<v Speaker 1>Um so anyway, we're in the car home and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Yo, what a great Valentine's Day, What a

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<v Speaker 1>great Vantine' Day? Like I'm so any I want to

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<v Speaker 1>find He's like, I don't know how I feel. He

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<v Speaker 1>was just so crazy and like fun and like I

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<v Speaker 1>fucking loved it. So ye go to the box and

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<v Speaker 1>sleep no more. Yeah. Um, my Valentine's Day didn't involve

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<v Speaker 1>really any partners. Um. I went to All Star weekend

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<v Speaker 1>and for any of the followers who are new or

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<v Speaker 1>found me and learned about me through horrible decisions. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>Prior to the podcast, I'd spent five years of the

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<v Speaker 1>sports blogger and since I was eleven, I played basketball,

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<v Speaker 1>So through middle school, I did AU, I did inner merals,

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<v Speaker 1>JV varsity, like literally played through my my college years

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<v Speaker 1>except for my senior year because I was working. But yeah, anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>the fourteen year old self in me was probably the

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<v Speaker 1>most excited um ever. It was just it was a

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<v Speaker 1>great experience. Um. I want to shout out to my

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<v Speaker 1>friend Alexis and Marion. So everyone was like, oh, bit,

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<v Speaker 1>you got fluid out. Who sponsored Joe trip? Nobody? Um,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend works for the league and invited me out

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<v Speaker 1>and wanted me to be her guests so to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to go to the Skills Challenge and the All

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<v Speaker 1>Star Game and then just to be able to party

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<v Speaker 1>like the whole time with like all of these like legends.

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<v Speaker 1>I got the invite to the Legends brunch, which was

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<v Speaker 1>like beyond amazing, Like I'm in a room with Bill Russell,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in the room with you know, Magic Johnson and

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<v Speaker 1>all of these legends. Um, they awarded Scottie Pippen. Um

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<v Speaker 1>and this means probably a lot or means nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>the girls listening to the podcast, maybe girls like you.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know who Bill Wrestles is. Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>they know he rich girl. He just turned eighty seven. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but like to be in these rooms and these spaces. UM,

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<v Speaker 1>I do also, UM want to give a shout out. No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it never does. Actually, UM, I want to give a

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<v Speaker 1>shout out as well to Martin. Martin and used to

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<v Speaker 1>um work with Wheezy and I. But he did an

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<v Speaker 1>event for b Et Honey. Because show you Sharona's. They've

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<v Speaker 1>been on these streets working. Look at me, put this

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<v Speaker 1>camera in my face. This nigga was like, oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>When he met Sharona's, I thought they were just doing

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<v Speaker 1>something like niggas, Oh yeah, let's link, let's work together.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, you guys have to know each other. Whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Sharona did his little Danny's commercial. Yeah, okay, motherfucker hosted

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<v Speaker 1>All Star Ship. What about games people play? What about

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<v Speaker 1>the horrible decision? Nah? It was it was Um. He

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<v Speaker 1>reached out to me to come because they did have

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<v Speaker 1>like a podcast UM set up with Martell and b

0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:42.400
<v Speaker 1>et Um and Kenyan Martin was in there. He has

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<v Speaker 1>a new podcast coming out with Nick Storm. Nick Storm

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<v Speaker 1>is a good friend of mine as well. It's called

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<v Speaker 1>Neat and Unfiltered. And I got to sit there and

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<v Speaker 1>watch them interview Jadakiss and Jadakiss has been a long

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<v Speaker 1>time friend. So literally just like to go to all

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<v Speaker 1>of these events. Um it was amazing. Um, Dwyane Wade

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<v Speaker 1>through a UM like a a spades event. So you

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<v Speaker 1>literally walk around the goddamn room and fucking James Harding

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<v Speaker 1>and Russell Westbrook are playing against Like it was insane.

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<v Speaker 1>You just don't even know, Like Jason Tatum and his

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<v Speaker 1>dad are right there playing against someone who else was

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<v Speaker 1>in there like fucking everybody. Oh my god. Um, Rudy

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<v Speaker 1>Gobert like so many of the All Stars when they're

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<v Speaker 1>Dwyane Wade was like literally just walking around tapping people

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<v Speaker 1>up and then for the patrons, Kevin from Greenleaf was

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<v Speaker 1>in there, and so I walked up. That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>was excited to go and walk up. So I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know me how TV shows get you, bro, So mind You,

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<v Speaker 1>like I like James Hard and Russell Westbrook, like I

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<v Speaker 1>know the athletes like I used to be in that space.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been to the sp Awards, like, met a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of these guys already. But me and my friend be

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, that's Kevin, Like he keeps walking around, he

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<v Speaker 1>got a little dimples. So I walked up to him,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm just like Kevin from green Leaf. I really

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<v Speaker 1>enjoyed it on the show mind You. For whatever reason,

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<v Speaker 1>he let me know that he's nothing like the Kevin

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<v Speaker 1>that he portrays. Um because he is kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga on the show who cheats on charity with

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<v Speaker 1>a man and isn't comfortable with his sexuality. But um,

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<v Speaker 1>he was super dope to see him. I literally did

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<v Speaker 1>a whole um green Leaf episode on Patreon, so it

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<v Speaker 1>was dope to see him in there. That was amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>and honestly, yeah, it was literally the most amazing All

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<v Speaker 1>Star experience I could have ever asked for I've been

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<v Speaker 1>to All Star. Um, maybe this is maybe my fourth

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<v Speaker 1>All Star I've been to, and I feel like it

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<v Speaker 1>should be my lessons. I'm turning thirty this year. I'm like, oh, this,

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<v Speaker 1>can I really still say I'm going to All Star

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<v Speaker 1>and be excited about it? Set up this because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>even like the followers are just like, what's going on

0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.640
<v Speaker 1>All Star? For I did? I think that All Star

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<v Speaker 1>is definitely one of the weekends where you could go

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<v Speaker 1>for a long time, only because people they go to

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<v Speaker 1>Super Bowl weekend ship very rarely go to the game.

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<v Speaker 1>But All Star has so many events, right, Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can't get it to even me and Benson we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about it. These events, like if you not plugged up,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not getting into none of these events. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>go to the club and they're raping like regular people

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<v Speaker 1>at the clubs, like the events I went to. If

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<v Speaker 1>you were on any sort of publicist lists or knew

0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:10.040
<v Speaker 1>these brands, you're not getting into the door to these

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<v Speaker 1>open bar events. It's like it's hard as fun. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm saying, like you could get into an event,

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<v Speaker 1>so why not say I can't. Yeah, that's what But

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<v Speaker 1>like what people that do like fashion week. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>fucking plugged in the fashion way, why aren't you like ship?

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<v Speaker 1>I totally fucking get it, like going to shows that

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<v Speaker 1>is such a staple thing in the world, much like

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<v Speaker 1>All Star Like, why not fucking go to fashion me forever?

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<v Speaker 1>I think we have a thing where All Star weekend

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<v Speaker 1>is associated with whole ship with true but like you

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<v Speaker 1>can still fucking like other shit about it. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 1>I think for for me being someone who like grew

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<v Speaker 1>up watching basketball, like literally I had Slam magazine covers

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<v Speaker 1>like on my wall East Bay. I used to order

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<v Speaker 1>all that ship and order my sneakers from East Bay

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<v Speaker 1>back when that ship came out even Okay, so I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what that is, but I know what demo is.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at remember, look at it and it just got

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<v Speaker 1>down here bad. I mean, they had shoes, but baby fat.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not getting baby fat out of East By Easy

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<v Speaker 1>may have had baby fat, but I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. Maybe maybe Russell stons about some ads in

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<v Speaker 1>that whole. I don't know. I don't know, bitch, because

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<v Speaker 1>that was that magazine. Okay, but I was so happy,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you don't understand like literally, like I was like

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<v Speaker 1>looking at my friends, I'm like, I'm trying not to

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<v Speaker 1>cry right now with you, but like it was like

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<v Speaker 1>one of my best like like that I've had on

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<v Speaker 1>a long time, and it was like my wheelhouse. But

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<v Speaker 1>being with horrible decisions, like I've been completely like taken

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<v Speaker 1>out of the sports space. Like I don't really talk

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<v Speaker 1>about sports as much anymore. A lot of the like

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<v Speaker 1>events and things that we go to have nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>do with sports. We're so busy now we're on tour.

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<v Speaker 1>Every time we've been in a goddamn city, I don't

0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:53.920
<v Speaker 1>looked up NBA games. We miss it all the fucking time,

0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:55.840
<v Speaker 1>either the niggas got in town or the games of

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<v Speaker 1>the same night as our shows. So like I just

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<v Speaker 1>haven't been able to be a part of it. So

0:18:59.840 --> 0:19:02.040
<v Speaker 1>this weekend was just like and then to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to see the Dunk Contest live, like I was just

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<v Speaker 1>so happy it was it was, it was very exciting. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>well I had to watch it, so I'm glad, but

0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.080
<v Speaker 1>I'd be forgetting that like this nigga. I was like, Yo,

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<v Speaker 1>you know we're going out to night he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, it's Valentine's Day and he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not a fucking national holiday, my nigga like, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't care. I don't can't care, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>This is why I got to be gay again us

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<v Speaker 1>because girls do girly stuff, but not like stud game.

0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.879
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I ain't gonna hold you like bitch. Elizabeth Cambridge,

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<v Speaker 1>that's who I was farting with all weekend. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>She's six ft eight fucking gorgeous. I don't know. I

0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:48.080
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't know. Look up Eat Cambridge on

0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:52.440
<v Speaker 1>UM on Instagram and let me tell you how big

0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:57.480
<v Speaker 1>of a look. Oh my god. So listen, she comes

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<v Speaker 1>into the room with me and my home girls because

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<v Speaker 1>we have the same publis, and so she comes into

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<v Speaker 1>the room and I just feel I need to tell

0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:06.679
<v Speaker 1>her because if she goes in through her car, I said, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I just need to tell you. There's mad heart emojis

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<v Speaker 1>under your pictures from me. I have set the jewel

0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:15.000
<v Speaker 1>emoji and I am I'll be under your comments. Bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought i'd let you know. She's very nice

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<v Speaker 1>to meet you. She laughed, and then my friend was like, yeah,

0:20:20.119 --> 0:20:22.760
<v Speaker 1>she has a podcast. Called horrible decisions, and this bitch

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh my god, I've heard of it. That's

0:20:24.760 --> 0:20:29.399
<v Speaker 1>all you all you need to say? Why you my friend?

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<v Speaker 1>That is how she gotta. That's just you know, well

0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:38.840
<v Speaker 1>look they're not together. No, mo, maybe that's her brother

0:20:38.920 --> 0:20:44.639
<v Speaker 1>bit alex Lee. I don't know what you're gonna you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? She she just liked the fucking

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<v Speaker 1>brain on my parade and I'm over here happy she

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<v Speaker 1>knew about a podcast. She was smiling, what's the AFL

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<v Speaker 1>player American? No, that's NFL. I mean what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he ain't got no more? She what is that? So?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that a renable Australia? So she's from there? I

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<v Speaker 1>think no, maybe not, I don't know, but she says

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<v Speaker 1>adds and I'm like, oh that's cute, like write your

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<v Speaker 1>little exit. Um. Anyways, we're gonna get into our vanillaship.

0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:31.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm super excited to bring this up. Our listeners sent

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<v Speaker 1>it in and everyone kept tagging like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>this made me think of Wheezy and added Wheezy literally

0:21:36.560 --> 0:21:40.960
<v Speaker 1>all of last week. So h G t V features

0:21:41.040 --> 0:21:46.159
<v Speaker 1>its first ever throuble on House Hunters Representation matters. The

0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:51.280
<v Speaker 1>episode followed Ryan's Jelly on a quest to find their

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<v Speaker 1>dream home UM titled Three is Not a Crowd in

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<v Speaker 1>Colorado Springs. The episode followed the three on the questifying

0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:00.480
<v Speaker 1>their dream house in Colorado. The trio wanted to find

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<v Speaker 1>a new home that will accommodate their unique dynamic as

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<v Speaker 1>well as provides space for Brian and Lorie's two children.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to ask you, Wheezy, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to ask you and um your relationship um

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<v Speaker 1>with hubby, but Wheezy, when you were in your throuble, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to ask, would you guys look for

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<v Speaker 1>a three bedroom a one bedroom with a kid room,

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<v Speaker 1>an office and on one bed do you' all sleep together?

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<v Speaker 1>I believe this this, And we said a master bedroom

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<v Speaker 1>like a guest room, like y'all could do a two

0:22:31.760 --> 0:22:34.600
<v Speaker 1>bedroom with three people and together. I think we were

0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:36.840
<v Speaker 1>talking about, well, everybody make good money. You know what

0:22:36.840 --> 0:22:39.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. She has a great job, I make money.

0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:41.840
<v Speaker 1>He makes great money. So like, no one was ever

0:22:42.000 --> 0:22:44.520
<v Speaker 1>talking about goals that are unattainable. But we did say,

0:22:45.119 --> 0:22:46.960
<v Speaker 1>like we definitely got had a guest room for like

0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:50.000
<v Speaker 1>when someone getting on our nerves or and California. King

0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:53.240
<v Speaker 1>was the thing we talked about. Oh for the bed, well,

0:22:53.240 --> 0:22:55.600
<v Speaker 1>that would make so like the King bed. Luckily she

0:22:55.760 --> 0:22:59.359
<v Speaker 1>had one. I have a queen. Um, and then like

0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:02.560
<v Speaker 1>if we were ever vacation and like hotels have a king. Yeah.

0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:04.919
<v Speaker 1>But I realized, I was like, I even had a

0:23:04.920 --> 0:23:06.800
<v Speaker 1>three stome in my bed recently and it's a queen.

0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:10.159
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, well, she can't say her Yeah. No,

0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:13.760
<v Speaker 1>sleeping three people in a queen is not so Um.

0:23:13.800 --> 0:23:15.639
<v Speaker 1>If you guys have not you know, picked up on

0:23:15.680 --> 0:23:18.840
<v Speaker 1>the hints yet. This is the other half of King Noir,

0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:21.119
<v Speaker 1>who you guys love so very much on this show,

0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:22.960
<v Speaker 1>and the first time I had him on, I know

0:23:23.000 --> 0:23:25.639
<v Speaker 1>we talked a little bit about the dynamic of the relationship,

0:23:25.880 --> 0:23:28.199
<v Speaker 1>but it was before the baby. Um, I believe the

0:23:28.200 --> 0:23:30.040
<v Speaker 1>baby was on the way though this was Oh my god,

0:23:30.040 --> 0:23:34.080
<v Speaker 1>maybe the baby was on the way. UM. I want

0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:38.000
<v Speaker 1>to talk now about how do you guys? What relationship

0:23:38.160 --> 0:23:41.199
<v Speaker 1>title or group would you guys fall under? Um, have

0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:43.199
<v Speaker 1>you guys ever been in a throuble? Do you consider

0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:47.040
<v Speaker 1>yourself Polly open swingers? What? What is the title for

0:23:47.080 --> 0:23:50.399
<v Speaker 1>y'all's relationship? It really is all of the above. Oh wow, um,

0:23:50.440 --> 0:23:54.680
<v Speaker 1>because sometimes we swing. We are definitely in an open relationship,

0:23:54.880 --> 0:23:57.280
<v Speaker 1>and I do think that most of those relationships can

0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:01.760
<v Speaker 1>fall under some form of open and um, he is polyamorous,

0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:06.800
<v Speaker 1>so I consider myself to be a sexual opportunist. Okay,

0:24:07.280 --> 0:24:09.119
<v Speaker 1>so it's you know, if it's a good time and

0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:12.159
<v Speaker 1>it meets my needs, I'm with it. I find that

0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:17.399
<v Speaker 1>interesting because people always say things like when they're Polly,

0:24:17.440 --> 0:24:20.760
<v Speaker 1>it's together, and you don't identify that way. So how

0:24:20.800 --> 0:24:23.560
<v Speaker 1>does it work being Polly on one end but not

0:24:23.600 --> 0:24:26.480
<v Speaker 1>the other? Because I assume Polly to be like having

0:24:26.560 --> 0:24:30.720
<v Speaker 1>multiple relationships and kind of intertwining them. But I guess

0:24:30.720 --> 0:24:34.480
<v Speaker 1>not it doesn't necessarily And I think sometimes that becomes

0:24:34.480 --> 0:24:38.000
<v Speaker 1>problematic is that we have these very very tight ideas

0:24:38.040 --> 0:24:41.040
<v Speaker 1>about what all of these things have to look like.

0:24:41.480 --> 0:24:43.440
<v Speaker 1>So that way, when you get in them and you realize,

0:24:43.480 --> 0:24:45.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, this aspect works for me, but this doesn't,

0:24:45.960 --> 0:24:48.480
<v Speaker 1>then you feel like I'm not good at being polyamorous

0:24:48.560 --> 0:24:50.720
<v Speaker 1>or I'm not good at being a swinger. And really

0:24:50.760 --> 0:24:53.359
<v Speaker 1>it's like you could just adjust it to what works

0:24:53.400 --> 0:24:57.240
<v Speaker 1>for y'all. You know, for us, when when we were pregnant, um,

0:24:57.520 --> 0:25:00.240
<v Speaker 1>we weren't really seeing other partners. We were very focused

0:25:00.280 --> 0:25:04.240
<v Speaker 1>on our you know primary Yeah, like we're about to

0:25:04.240 --> 0:25:06.440
<v Speaker 1>bring in a new member to this family, Like, let's

0:25:06.480 --> 0:25:09.120
<v Speaker 1>make sure our ship is all together, let's make sure

0:25:09.160 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 1>the older girls are straight, you know, just the household,

0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:15.320
<v Speaker 1>the family. Um, he's here now we used to him,

0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:20.280
<v Speaker 1>so right now we opening things back up. Um. You know,

0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:23.679
<v Speaker 1>we've we've thought about all kinds of different combinations that

0:25:23.680 --> 0:25:28.520
<v Speaker 1>could possibly work. I have the two older older children

0:25:28.600 --> 0:25:32.800
<v Speaker 1>from uh, you know, previous relationship, and King didn't have

0:25:32.840 --> 0:25:36.600
<v Speaker 1>any biological children, and you know, I always knew like

0:25:36.920 --> 0:25:40.440
<v Speaker 1>maybe he might want children down the line. Um, and

0:25:40.520 --> 0:25:42.920
<v Speaker 1>I already knew he was Polly. So we even thought about,

0:25:42.960 --> 0:25:44.920
<v Speaker 1>like maybe there will be a woman that you'll meet

0:25:45.359 --> 0:25:48.080
<v Speaker 1>and you have children with, and I'll get to be

0:25:48.119 --> 0:25:50.360
<v Speaker 1>a part of that with you the way that you've

0:25:50.359 --> 0:25:53.399
<v Speaker 1>been supporting me with my children. And you're already getting

0:25:53.400 --> 0:25:55.920
<v Speaker 1>into like some of the questions that I wanted to

0:25:55.920 --> 0:26:00.919
<v Speaker 1>to ask in the wh that is. But also, um,

0:26:00.960 --> 0:26:03.000
<v Speaker 1>I've never looked at it in the way you're looking

0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:05.719
<v Speaker 1>at it. Um. So for someone who I think swinging

0:26:05.760 --> 0:26:08.600
<v Speaker 1>would work for me? Again, I really I recently said

0:26:09.000 --> 0:26:12.400
<v Speaker 1>My issue is I don't see many relationships that I've

0:26:12.400 --> 0:26:14.880
<v Speaker 1>ever envied or that I want to emulate, or that

0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:17.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what a relationship really ideally would look

0:26:17.960 --> 0:26:20.720
<v Speaker 1>like for me. Um. But knowing that I do want

0:26:20.760 --> 0:26:22.800
<v Speaker 1>that open space, but there's still are boundaries that I

0:26:22.840 --> 0:26:25.919
<v Speaker 1>would have. UM. I think it's interesting that you said

0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:28.879
<v Speaker 1>that he's Polly, but I'm not because I did always

0:26:28.960 --> 0:26:31.240
<v Speaker 1>think that if I were to get into a relationship,

0:26:31.680 --> 0:26:33.320
<v Speaker 1>his views would have to align with mine and we

0:26:33.359 --> 0:26:35.280
<v Speaker 1>have to be exactly on the same page. We just

0:26:35.280 --> 0:26:40.480
<v Speaker 1>got to respect each other. And can I ask one question?

0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:42.159
<v Speaker 1>I know, UM, some of you guys don't know, but

0:26:42.280 --> 0:26:44.240
<v Speaker 1>we started late because of some audio issues. I do

0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:46.600
<v Speaker 1>have to leave. But I have a main question for you.

0:26:47.119 --> 0:26:49.399
<v Speaker 1>I've been non monogamous for like the last two and

0:26:49.560 --> 0:26:51.720
<v Speaker 1>two and a half years, probably actually maybe since we started,

0:26:51.720 --> 0:26:58.280
<v Speaker 1>probably three years. But like managing jealousy, right, there's moments

0:26:58.320 --> 0:27:01.520
<v Speaker 1>where like I feel no, and and then it will

0:27:01.600 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 1>come and then I've heard had some criticism from friends

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:07.800
<v Speaker 1>like oh, it's not for you, right, because I've had

0:27:07.800 --> 0:27:10.760
<v Speaker 1>those moments of jealousy. And I'm curious to know if

0:27:11.160 --> 0:27:14.120
<v Speaker 1>you know someone who seems you have such a big

0:27:14.200 --> 0:27:17.919
<v Speaker 1>level of commitment with him and strong ties. How do

0:27:18.000 --> 0:27:20.679
<v Speaker 1>you manage jealousy and has it stopped or when does

0:27:20.720 --> 0:27:22.600
<v Speaker 1>it come up? Do you notice? So that's a great

0:27:22.680 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 1>question and it will always be there. The same people

0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:28.760
<v Speaker 1>who tell you that your relationships are not for you

0:27:28.800 --> 0:27:32.399
<v Speaker 1>because you get jealous, tell them to apply that same

0:27:32.440 --> 0:27:35.439
<v Speaker 1>thing to them in their monogamous relationship. We get jealous

0:27:35.480 --> 0:27:39.280
<v Speaker 1>and monogamous relationships also, we get jealous in our friendships.

0:27:39.640 --> 0:27:42.560
<v Speaker 1>You're like, bait, you went to go see Make Death

0:27:42.600 --> 0:27:44.920
<v Speaker 1>without me or Valentine's Day you went to All Star

0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:50.159
<v Speaker 1>Weekend with you know what I mean. So, jealousy is

0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:52.919
<v Speaker 1>a is an emotion. If we can actually accept that

0:27:52.960 --> 0:27:56.720
<v Speaker 1>we get jealous all the time, then we're able to

0:27:56.760 --> 0:27:59.680
<v Speaker 1>accept a little bit more in our relationships. We realize like, oh,

0:27:59.800 --> 0:28:03.000
<v Speaker 1>it's not because we're polly or because we're opener, because

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:06.000
<v Speaker 1>we're swinging. It's because I feel insecure in this moment,

0:28:06.560 --> 0:28:10.879
<v Speaker 1>or I feel left out, you know, Or he didn't

0:28:10.920 --> 0:28:13.600
<v Speaker 1>take out the trash before he went to go have

0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:16.040
<v Speaker 1>dinner with so and so. Was he so excited that

0:28:16.080 --> 0:28:18.119
<v Speaker 1>you know, he's not meeting the needs of the householders,

0:28:18.160 --> 0:28:21.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, some things like that. So I don't try

0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.960
<v Speaker 1>to get over jealousy. I tried to sit with it.

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:27.640
<v Speaker 1>Why what's making me jealous? I hate it. I want

0:28:27.680 --> 0:28:30.280
<v Speaker 1>to be like, you know, go have fun. I'm gonna

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:33.320
<v Speaker 1>you know what, I'm gonna be here with the kids watching.

0:28:33.640 --> 0:28:38.280
<v Speaker 1>You know. I genuinely mean it when I say that,

0:28:38.360 --> 0:28:42.280
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want monogamy because I feel like it's stifling.

0:28:42.360 --> 0:28:44.400
<v Speaker 1>Maybe not at this point in time because it's a

0:28:44.440 --> 0:28:47.480
<v Speaker 1>new love, like right, we've been dating like almost a year,

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:51.200
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like I mean it when I say

0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:52.479
<v Speaker 1>I want you to be happy. I mean it when

0:28:52.520 --> 0:28:54.040
<v Speaker 1>I want you to go out and other girls because

0:28:54.040 --> 0:28:57.880
<v Speaker 1>I do. But if we talk about it, I'm generally happy.

0:28:58.080 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm excited to hear about it because I know he's

0:28:59.720 --> 0:29:02.680
<v Speaker 1>excited tell me. And there's this weird moment after I'm like,

0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 1>why don't you just want to call me? Is it?

0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:07.480
<v Speaker 1>Why don't you want to? It's weird? And sometimes I

0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:10.880
<v Speaker 1>feel like that insecurity. Am I ever going to get

0:29:10.880 --> 0:29:13.200
<v Speaker 1>over that hump? Or am I really being serious when

0:29:13.240 --> 0:29:15.200
<v Speaker 1>I say it's a weird thing I'm going through? Yeah?

0:29:15.240 --> 0:29:17.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean it is. I think about how long we've

0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:20.600
<v Speaker 1>been we've been raised in program to be a particular way,

0:29:20.680 --> 0:29:23.479
<v Speaker 1>So it's like we're challenging our own natural emotions on

0:29:23.600 --> 0:29:26.280
<v Speaker 1>top of the messaging that we've been hearing for you

0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:29.720
<v Speaker 1>know whatever, twenty plus years. You're supposed to grow up,

0:29:30.000 --> 0:29:33.280
<v Speaker 1>go to school, get a good job, marry one person,

0:29:33.760 --> 0:29:37.000
<v Speaker 1>love them until you die, and then anything that's out

0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:39.400
<v Speaker 1>of that sort. You start a question like like, Okay,

0:29:39.480 --> 0:29:41.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe this isn't for me. Maybe you know, maybe I

0:29:41.600 --> 0:29:43.720
<v Speaker 1>didn't make the right move. How do you make sure

0:29:43.760 --> 0:29:46.000
<v Speaker 1>that your things? Does king have to do to make

0:29:46.040 --> 0:29:49.840
<v Speaker 1>you feel comfortable? Yes? So for us, jell And you ask,

0:29:50.000 --> 0:29:53.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, when do I realize jealousy for me when

0:29:53.040 --> 0:29:55.200
<v Speaker 1>we're not spending a lot of time with one another.

0:29:55.680 --> 0:29:57.720
<v Speaker 1>If we're spending like if we've been seeing each other

0:29:57.760 --> 0:30:01.200
<v Speaker 1>every single day and we've gonna get like like about

0:30:01.200 --> 0:30:04.440
<v Speaker 1>three weeks, it is probably our max. And then with

0:30:04.520 --> 0:30:06.920
<v Speaker 1>each other every day. Yeah, somebody needs to go out

0:30:06.920 --> 0:30:09.720
<v Speaker 1>of town for work, you know, just because we just

0:30:09.760 --> 0:30:13.040
<v Speaker 1>start like living on top of each other, then I'm

0:30:13.080 --> 0:30:14.760
<v Speaker 1>usually good. You know, he'd be like, you know, I'm

0:30:14.760 --> 0:30:16.560
<v Speaker 1>going out to l A. I'm probably gonna link up

0:30:16.600 --> 0:30:18.239
<v Speaker 1>with so and so. I'm going to New York. I'm

0:30:18.240 --> 0:30:20.800
<v Speaker 1>probably gonna link up with so and so. That's cool.

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:24.120
<v Speaker 1>You got in your city. I mean, it would be

0:30:24.200 --> 0:30:26.280
<v Speaker 1>nice if we could find someone a date in our city.

0:30:26.280 --> 0:30:27.880
<v Speaker 1>But things are a little different because of the type

0:30:27.920 --> 0:30:31.240
<v Speaker 1>of work that we do and because you know, we

0:30:31.240 --> 0:30:33.600
<v Speaker 1>we have a family in our household, and you know,

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:35.080
<v Speaker 1>they go to school in our community. So it's a

0:30:35.080 --> 0:30:38.560
<v Speaker 1>little bit difficult to date in our community. But for

0:30:38.600 --> 0:30:40.320
<v Speaker 1>the most part, I mean, he's gone on a couple

0:30:40.320 --> 0:30:43.600
<v Speaker 1>of dates locally and it's it's fine, But it's when

0:30:43.640 --> 0:30:45.680
<v Speaker 1>we've been away from each other for like two or

0:30:45.720 --> 0:30:48.960
<v Speaker 1>three weeks and then and now you go, Okay, you

0:30:48.960 --> 0:30:50.200
<v Speaker 1>you're about to come home in a week, but you

0:30:50.240 --> 0:30:51.800
<v Speaker 1>mean you're going on a date, Like you can't just

0:30:51.840 --> 0:30:54.840
<v Speaker 1>wait until you get home, you know. So it really

0:30:54.840 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 1>has a lot to do with how much time we're

0:30:56.760 --> 0:30:59.440
<v Speaker 1>spending with each other. Um other things is how I

0:30:59.480 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 1>feel about my self. I know, when my self esteem

0:31:03.200 --> 0:31:08.800
<v Speaker 1>for you know, that week before your period rights stage. Yeah,

0:31:10.320 --> 0:31:13.160
<v Speaker 1>I haven't there yet. I don't want nobody around me normally,

0:31:13.200 --> 0:31:16.960
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't even want company. I get I get

0:31:17.080 --> 0:31:19.800
<v Speaker 1>just really agitated. I literally just want to be by myself.

0:31:19.960 --> 0:31:23.280
<v Speaker 1>Even with my friends, like they'll know during that time

0:31:23.320 --> 0:31:25.160
<v Speaker 1>of week, but even if I'm dating, I'll be like

0:31:25.800 --> 0:31:30.160
<v Speaker 1>not not today. Just see. I should be more like that.

0:31:30.240 --> 0:31:33.239
<v Speaker 1>I should say I need space, but instead I'm like,

0:31:33.280 --> 0:31:38.840
<v Speaker 1>but where are you? You know? Um? So sometimes you know,

0:31:38.880 --> 0:31:41.840
<v Speaker 1>it's just it's just that it's UM me being aware

0:31:41.960 --> 0:31:44.840
<v Speaker 1>of where I'm at in my life, what's going on

0:31:44.920 --> 0:31:47.720
<v Speaker 1>with me, and then articulating what I need from him.

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:50.360
<v Speaker 1>So my question to you, A lot of a lot

0:31:50.400 --> 0:31:54.440
<v Speaker 1>of um our audience is also trying to find what

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:57.280
<v Speaker 1>works for them relationship wise. UM. We've had a ton

0:31:57.320 --> 0:32:00.600
<v Speaker 1>of letters writing in saying that their partner doesn't please them,

0:32:00.800 --> 0:32:03.960
<v Speaker 1>but they don't want to cheat. UM, what y'all are

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:06.280
<v Speaker 1>doing and the way that your relationship is set up,

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:08.800
<v Speaker 1>you don't view any any of his other partners as

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:10.840
<v Speaker 1>him cheating because you guys are open with it. Correct,

0:32:11.000 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 1>as long as we share with each other, UM, you

0:32:14.520 --> 0:32:17.440
<v Speaker 1>know our intentions, right we have. We finally got to

0:32:17.520 --> 0:32:19.040
<v Speaker 1>a point where it's like, if he's not gonna lead

0:32:19.040 --> 0:32:20.600
<v Speaker 1>to anything, Seriously, I don't need to know about every

0:32:20.600 --> 0:32:24.200
<v Speaker 1>single person you're flirting with. Okay, that's agree. Um. We

0:32:24.240 --> 0:32:26.280
<v Speaker 1>also have like a don't let me be the last

0:32:26.320 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 1>person in the room to know. Don't have me walk

0:32:28.920 --> 0:32:33.320
<v Speaker 1>up in a horrible decision. No, no, no, UM we

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:36.800
<v Speaker 1>know because I see, UM, I don't know how you

0:32:36.840 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 1>handle that. Cisth um literally like everything. But I'm really

0:32:41.480 --> 0:32:44.520
<v Speaker 1>big with I don't want anyone on the podcast that

0:32:44.560 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I've had relationships with. Um Weeie and I have gone

0:32:47.680 --> 0:32:50.080
<v Speaker 1>back and forth with that quite a few times because

0:32:50.120 --> 0:32:53.080
<v Speaker 1>she wants to bring her ex's on and talk across

0:32:53.200 --> 0:32:56.080
<v Speaker 1>with them, and and I'm just like, well, I won't

0:32:56.080 --> 0:32:58.760
<v Speaker 1>be here, like I don't want to involve myself in

0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:01.120
<v Speaker 1>whatever turmoil she's with. Our partners were at glad of

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:03.520
<v Speaker 1>issue with Love a Girl? Were you around here and

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:06.280
<v Speaker 1>love a Girl? She threatened to sue us child like

0:33:06.840 --> 0:33:09.200
<v Speaker 1>a whole lot of fucking bullshit. But I just know

0:33:09.240 --> 0:33:14.160
<v Speaker 1>that once you take it, their emotions are just more

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:16.520
<v Speaker 1>and so anyone who has been on the podcast. I

0:33:16.600 --> 0:33:18.760
<v Speaker 1>have a nigga right now that I'm talking to. He's like,

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:20.200
<v Speaker 1>when I'm gonna be on the podcast? I said, we

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:23.920
<v Speaker 1>don't already. Fun guess you're not coming on. I said,

0:33:24.200 --> 0:33:25.960
<v Speaker 1>you can't come on now we didn't already have a sex.

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.200
<v Speaker 1>You can't on the show. You can't suck your way

0:33:28.240 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 1>on the show, not with me, not gonna happen me.

0:33:30.320 --> 0:33:32.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm here on my own marriage, Like, I ain't gonna

0:33:32.280 --> 0:33:34.160
<v Speaker 1>hold you. That's why I wanted to dinner on the show.

0:33:34.160 --> 0:33:36.000
<v Speaker 1>And now no, let me let me keep him off

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:37.760
<v Speaker 1>of it. Actually I want because I'm still trying to

0:33:37.760 --> 0:33:40.840
<v Speaker 1>shoot my shot over there. I goddamn. Now, I'm very

0:33:40.880 --> 0:33:45.480
<v Speaker 1>big with not mixing business and pleasure. Um, it's why

0:33:45.560 --> 0:33:47.600
<v Speaker 1>for like all of the things that I do behind

0:33:47.640 --> 0:33:50.120
<v Speaker 1>the scenes with horrible decisions, like anyone that we've ever

0:33:50.520 --> 0:33:52.840
<v Speaker 1>done work with, like, I want people to see me.

0:33:53.120 --> 0:33:55.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm very stern, very strong, very mean. I even have

0:33:55.840 --> 0:33:57.920
<v Speaker 1>to tell the people like that I work with sometimes

0:33:57.920 --> 0:33:59.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry if I'm coming off a certain way, but

0:34:00.320 --> 0:34:04.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't ever want to mix. So yeah, no, never

0:34:04.680 --> 0:34:08.799
<v Speaker 1>did that. Don't worry. No, you're not walking into don't know. Um.

0:34:08.840 --> 0:34:11.440
<v Speaker 1>But but like you know, that's that's something for us.

0:34:11.480 --> 0:34:14.600
<v Speaker 1>It's huge, it's huge, and we've actually had the conversation.

0:34:15.160 --> 0:34:18.520
<v Speaker 1>UM as far as if you smashed a friend, um,

0:34:18.640 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 1>letting your person you know, your partner know as much

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:23.480
<v Speaker 1>as it may be uncomfortable to let him know before

0:34:23.640 --> 0:34:27.640
<v Speaker 1>the front lets him absolutely So at what I guess,

0:34:27.640 --> 0:34:29.799
<v Speaker 1>did you grow up in the kink space to where

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 1>this was comfortable for you? How did you know that

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:34.200
<v Speaker 1>this is how you wanted to have relationship? Again, some

0:34:34.239 --> 0:34:36.239
<v Speaker 1>of our listeners are in their thirties and just now

0:34:36.480 --> 0:34:41.080
<v Speaker 1>realizing like, maybe monogamy isn't for me. Um, what conversations

0:34:41.120 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 1>did you have to have with yourself and how did

0:34:43.600 --> 0:34:45.799
<v Speaker 1>you open your mind into the kink space the way

0:34:45.800 --> 0:34:48.840
<v Speaker 1>that you have? So? I was raised a good Catholic

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:52.320
<v Speaker 1>girl and all right in the first generation from the

0:34:52.360 --> 0:34:55.800
<v Speaker 1>Philippines and Panama, grew up right in the forties projects

0:34:55.800 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 1>of far rockaway queens, moved down to Miami with those

0:34:59.600 --> 0:35:06.640
<v Speaker 1>same good values. Oh Miami turned you out? Okay, say less? Uh,

0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:12.480
<v Speaker 1>it was when I got when I got around years old. Um,

0:35:12.560 --> 0:35:15.560
<v Speaker 1>it's I remember going to drop my my daughter off

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:19.279
<v Speaker 1>at school and somebody was like, hi, Mommy's mom and

0:35:19.320 --> 0:35:24.279
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what, Like, that's my name? Now? He

0:35:24.320 --> 0:35:31.959
<v Speaker 1>didn't like that I became somebody's mom as my first name.

0:35:32.680 --> 0:35:35.520
<v Speaker 1>And I don't know why, but that kind of is

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:37.799
<v Speaker 1>set off something in me, like what do you like

0:35:37.920 --> 0:35:43.720
<v Speaker 1>to do? Who are you? Um? I don't remember having

0:35:43.800 --> 0:35:46.719
<v Speaker 1>done anything. And like at that point ten years that

0:35:46.880 --> 0:35:50.800
<v Speaker 1>was really based on something that I thought was like interesting, cool,

0:35:50.920 --> 0:35:53.680
<v Speaker 1>or exciting for me. There was a lot of building

0:35:53.800 --> 0:35:56.640
<v Speaker 1>of and raising children that was happening, but there was

0:35:56.680 --> 0:36:01.160
<v Speaker 1>no really like personal personal development. At that same time,

0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I was doing a radio show, The Emotion Picture with

0:36:03.719 --> 0:36:07.720
<v Speaker 1>my brother um who's still supporting me even here tonight,

0:36:08.280 --> 0:36:11.440
<v Speaker 1>and UM we were asking we were asking each other

0:36:11.520 --> 0:36:13.960
<v Speaker 1>really crazy questions based on the topics, and it was

0:36:14.640 --> 0:36:17.960
<v Speaker 1>like like things about polyamory and threesomes and all these

0:36:18.000 --> 0:36:22.600
<v Speaker 1>different sexual and relationship experiences and questions, and it was

0:36:22.719 --> 0:36:27.080
<v Speaker 1>challenging me two really like you know, have you lived yet?

0:36:27.800 --> 0:36:32.839
<v Speaker 1>And why are you so conservative? Who? Who put this

0:36:32.960 --> 0:36:36.040
<v Speaker 1>in you know, in your head? So the conversation that

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:39.399
<v Speaker 1>I that I really did have with myself is who

0:36:39.440 --> 0:36:43.680
<v Speaker 1>gave you these messages? And like when you start looking

0:36:43.760 --> 0:36:46.120
<v Speaker 1>at the people as an adult, when you start looking

0:36:46.200 --> 0:36:49.000
<v Speaker 1>at the people who put things that you live by

0:36:49.160 --> 0:36:50.840
<v Speaker 1>in your head and you see how the motherfucker's are

0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:55.560
<v Speaker 1>living today, it's like that's who I'm listening to and

0:36:54.680 --> 0:36:59.600
<v Speaker 1>why Because either I'm gonna turn out like them, or

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:03.239
<v Speaker 1>I just can't like this is this is not a

0:37:03.280 --> 0:37:05.560
<v Speaker 1>model This is not a model citizen even for me,

0:37:05.719 --> 0:37:08.200
<v Speaker 1>right and I want to say not even that monogamy

0:37:08.400 --> 0:37:12.400
<v Speaker 1>is a bad thing, UM, but I know that with

0:37:12.400 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 1>with you know, the conversations that I've had on this

0:37:14.800 --> 0:37:16.880
<v Speaker 1>UM show the people that I'm meeting being more in

0:37:16.920 --> 0:37:20.480
<v Speaker 1>this space. UM. A lot of the people that are

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:25.200
<v Speaker 1>in monogamous relationships I find to be not only not

0:37:25.239 --> 0:37:28.480
<v Speaker 1>truthful to their partners, but not truthful to themselves because

0:37:28.480 --> 0:37:31.760
<v Speaker 1>it's just the ideals around monogamy or that it's one person,

0:37:31.840 --> 0:37:34.080
<v Speaker 1>one love, you have sex with one person. Even looking

0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:37.640
<v Speaker 1>at someone else is considered you know what what is it? Um?

0:37:37.680 --> 0:37:42.000
<v Speaker 1>Not um? When you covet yeah, you know? And so

0:37:42.600 --> 0:37:45.520
<v Speaker 1>everything about everyone that I know to be in monogamous

0:37:45.520 --> 0:37:50.600
<v Speaker 1>relationships spend more time defending their relationship than actually having it,

0:37:50.920 --> 0:37:54.120
<v Speaker 1>or they're constantly looking for something for the person to

0:37:54.160 --> 0:37:56.440
<v Speaker 1>be doing something wrong, because as we know, nobody is perfect,

0:37:56.960 --> 0:38:00.120
<v Speaker 1>and so it's like there's more time spent on seeing

0:38:00.280 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 1>what is that person doing when I'm not around. Let

0:38:02.239 --> 0:38:04.240
<v Speaker 1>me go through his phone, let me go through the laptop,

0:38:04.360 --> 0:38:07.359
<v Speaker 1>let me see this person and a lie because all

0:38:07.360 --> 0:38:10.600
<v Speaker 1>people lie. He can't be this perfect and and so

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:13.800
<v Speaker 1>like in the conversations, everything you've said has been so beautiful.

0:38:14.040 --> 0:38:16.440
<v Speaker 1>When King Noir came in here and spoke on your

0:38:16.480 --> 0:38:19.719
<v Speaker 1>relationship and and how you guys grow in the communication

0:38:19.760 --> 0:38:22.879
<v Speaker 1>and just the respect for each other. Um, I'm glad

0:38:22.920 --> 0:38:26.799
<v Speaker 1>that we could have these conversations for our audience, specifically

0:38:26.920 --> 0:38:29.960
<v Speaker 1>for people of color who often grow up in the church. Um.

0:38:30.040 --> 0:38:31.719
<v Speaker 1>And right now we're having, you know, just all the

0:38:31.760 --> 0:38:37.000
<v Speaker 1>backlash even just with um, the Dwayne Wade situation with

0:38:37.160 --> 0:38:41.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, um Zaiah, I think is what she wants

0:38:41.040 --> 0:38:43.960
<v Speaker 1>to be called, like coming out and just saying I

0:38:44.040 --> 0:38:46.400
<v Speaker 1>want to be identified as a girl daddy. That is

0:38:46.440 --> 0:38:48.440
<v Speaker 1>how I live my life and just seeing how many

0:38:48.440 --> 0:38:52.080
<v Speaker 1>people are uncomfortable with it. Um, so I wanted to

0:38:52.160 --> 0:38:54.240
<v Speaker 1>get so. We have a segment on the show called

0:38:54.320 --> 0:38:57.240
<v Speaker 1>a Hord derv. The Horde derv is a sex tip

0:38:57.760 --> 0:39:00.200
<v Speaker 1>And to me, I know that you probably have a

0:39:00.360 --> 0:39:05.200
<v Speaker 1>ton because you guys do fetish training, and I wanted

0:39:05.239 --> 0:39:07.279
<v Speaker 1>to talk to you. King Noir talked a little bit

0:39:07.280 --> 0:39:09.840
<v Speaker 1>about what he does. I know he specializes in flogging.

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:12.200
<v Speaker 1>I've seen you as well with the flogging. But could

0:39:12.200 --> 0:39:15.040
<v Speaker 1>you give some sex tips that you give um during

0:39:15.080 --> 0:39:17.799
<v Speaker 1>your fetish training and also explain to us what your

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:19.719
<v Speaker 1>role is in the fetish training because you guys do

0:39:19.760 --> 0:39:22.400
<v Speaker 1>it together sometimes I see, well, yes, so can you

0:39:22.440 --> 0:39:25.440
<v Speaker 1>get into that and your role as a woman and

0:39:25.560 --> 0:39:28.880
<v Speaker 1>what tips you give to women entering entering into those

0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:35.319
<v Speaker 1>training sessions. Um. So, one of my favorite things to

0:39:35.320 --> 0:39:39.160
<v Speaker 1>focus on is psychological domination. You know, there's a lot

0:39:39.320 --> 0:39:43.080
<v Speaker 1>of um, there's a lot of focus on like what

0:39:43.160 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 1>tools should I use? What you know, all of these

0:39:45.840 --> 0:39:48.719
<v Speaker 1>that that can take you a while to learn, you know,

0:39:48.840 --> 0:39:51.319
<v Speaker 1>and to We went to my sex sungine together. I

0:39:51.320 --> 0:39:52.840
<v Speaker 1>don't know if he told you the last time he

0:39:52.960 --> 0:39:56.640
<v Speaker 1>was here and this sextungine, I'm waiting to get um

0:39:56.680 --> 0:39:59.759
<v Speaker 1>the master of the sex Engine on the show. Oh

0:39:59.800 --> 0:40:03.279
<v Speaker 1>my god. I was good. I love her. I got

0:40:03.280 --> 0:40:05.640
<v Speaker 1>her number and we went to this and it's so

0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:08.839
<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna let you get back. But I never

0:40:08.880 --> 0:40:11.640
<v Speaker 1>got to share the sex eungine experience. But the fact

0:40:11.680 --> 0:40:14.439
<v Speaker 1>that he went in there because he's like, I'm not

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:18.719
<v Speaker 1>comfortable with using certain of these toys and I want

0:40:18.719 --> 0:40:20.239
<v Speaker 1>to be sure I don't hurt anyone. I want to

0:40:20.280 --> 0:40:22.600
<v Speaker 1>be sure that when I'm teaching people how to use them,

0:40:22.719 --> 0:40:26.239
<v Speaker 1>because there's some heavy, high quality. They extended me on

0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:28.880
<v Speaker 1>like this thing and they put like leather straps around

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:30.920
<v Speaker 1>my thighs because you know, I'm a little thick. I

0:40:30.960 --> 0:40:33.759
<v Speaker 1>was like, um, maybe not the rope, sweet get the

0:40:33.840 --> 0:40:36.319
<v Speaker 1>love they get the hardest is that hold me up

0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:40.080
<v Speaker 1>by Yeah? But it was just so incredible to see

0:40:40.120 --> 0:40:43.840
<v Speaker 1>that even he takes the time to just learn, knowing

0:40:43.880 --> 0:40:46.880
<v Speaker 1>that he's also a teacher. Um. So I appreciated that

0:40:46.920 --> 0:40:48.680
<v Speaker 1>as well. But yeah, it was super fun. I was

0:40:48.719 --> 0:40:50.880
<v Speaker 1>grateful that he allowed me like just I was like,

0:40:50.880 --> 0:40:56.200
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't notice. Um but okay, so psychological domination talked

0:40:56.239 --> 0:41:01.920
<v Speaker 1>to me. So what could you do without using a rope? Harness,

0:41:02.320 --> 0:41:06.240
<v Speaker 1>without using your hands? Okay, so I'll be I fucking

0:41:06.520 --> 0:41:09.080
<v Speaker 1>But that's only like if we're at dinner or in

0:41:09.120 --> 0:41:12.520
<v Speaker 1>a club, Like once you catch eyes with someone for

0:41:12.560 --> 0:41:15.279
<v Speaker 1>a good amount of time, like it allows it lets

0:41:15.280 --> 0:41:18.000
<v Speaker 1>them know that you're interested. Um, I would say when

0:41:18.000 --> 0:41:21.440
<v Speaker 1>I dominate people, I'm I'm vocal, Okay, so I do

0:41:21.560 --> 0:41:26.080
<v Speaker 1>use my voice. Um, that's good, that's excellent. Outside of

0:41:26.120 --> 0:41:28.880
<v Speaker 1>that girl I ain't got no special powers. Okay, Okay,

0:41:28.960 --> 0:41:30.320
<v Speaker 1>let me. I'm gonna give you. I'm gonna give you

0:41:30.320 --> 0:41:34.160
<v Speaker 1>an exercise please, Okay. So let's yeah, we'll use this one.

0:41:34.680 --> 0:41:38.600
<v Speaker 1>So let's just imagine. I'm um, I'm on the West coast,

0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:42.040
<v Speaker 1>You're on the East coast. Okay, and we're that's too

0:41:42.080 --> 0:41:46.719
<v Speaker 1>far girl. Okay, we're having a pseudo you and I

0:41:46.840 --> 0:41:50.240
<v Speaker 1>right now, a pseudo dum sub relationship. Let's just okay whatever,

0:41:50.840 --> 0:41:55.000
<v Speaker 1>And UM, I help my my partners, well my couples,

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:57.359
<v Speaker 1>learn how to connect when they're not even with each

0:41:57.400 --> 0:42:00.960
<v Speaker 1>other because a lot of times, you know, people say,

0:42:01.120 --> 0:42:03.799
<v Speaker 1>we don't have time for for play for you know,

0:42:03.840 --> 0:42:06.520
<v Speaker 1>we worked so much, we worked these different shifts, or

0:42:06.640 --> 0:42:09.200
<v Speaker 1>she lived here and I lived there, And that's real.

0:42:09.400 --> 0:42:11.560
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's that's that's the world that we live in.

0:42:11.760 --> 0:42:15.040
<v Speaker 1>You know. Um, women aren't staying at home waiting for

0:42:15.080 --> 0:42:17.719
<v Speaker 1>their husbands to come in, you know, they're not they're

0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:22.000
<v Speaker 1>working now, exacting. So how can you stay engaged? How

0:42:22.040 --> 0:42:25.439
<v Speaker 1>can you add fetish play kink without even being able

0:42:25.480 --> 0:42:28.800
<v Speaker 1>to see each other? So, UM, I do the little

0:42:28.840 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>things like you know, go on FaceTime middle of the

0:42:31.440 --> 0:42:34.400
<v Speaker 1>day or something like that. UM, ask them what how

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:38.320
<v Speaker 1>they're doing at work? You know, it's like I'm doing okay, cool?

0:42:38.600 --> 0:42:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Maybe have a task for them. So with something that

0:42:40.480 --> 0:42:44.040
<v Speaker 1>you're working on right now, a project you've been prepared.

0:42:44.239 --> 0:42:47.839
<v Speaker 1>Oh I have another podcast coming out, but it's far Yeah,

0:42:47.920 --> 0:42:51.440
<v Speaker 1>just scheduling to get into the studio. UM, so yeah,

0:42:51.520 --> 0:42:53.920
<v Speaker 1>that's the project all right. So you're gonna be a

0:42:53.960 --> 0:42:57.960
<v Speaker 1>bad girl right now. Okay, okay, okay. So I'm gonna say, hey,

0:42:58.000 --> 0:43:02.000
<v Speaker 1>many how are you? I'm good? Sup? Um, thanks for

0:43:02.040 --> 0:43:03.839
<v Speaker 1>taking a couple of minutes away from work to talk

0:43:03.880 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 1>with me. I wanted to check in with you for

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:11.200
<v Speaker 1>a second. How is scheduling going? It's insane. I have

0:43:11.280 --> 0:43:13.440
<v Speaker 1>the tour, I have all of these things going on.

0:43:13.800 --> 0:43:15.920
<v Speaker 1>So are you telling me that you haven't done what

0:43:15.960 --> 0:43:18.640
<v Speaker 1>you were supposed to do? Oh? See, this is already

0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:21.400
<v Speaker 1>turning me out, y'all. Hear this, yeah, hear this. No,

0:43:21.560 --> 0:43:24.200
<v Speaker 1>But I'm going to get to it, like I I. Okay,

0:43:24.239 --> 0:43:28.279
<v Speaker 1>that's okay. UM. I kind of knew you would say that,

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:31.960
<v Speaker 1>and if I were there, I'd be able to punish

0:43:32.000 --> 0:43:35.160
<v Speaker 1>you appropriately. But since I'm not, you're gonna have to

0:43:35.200 --> 0:43:38.719
<v Speaker 1>do it. Yourself, Mandy, So go ahead and walk out

0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:42.600
<v Speaker 1>your office. Go to that bathroom that's right around the corner.

0:43:42.640 --> 0:43:46.480
<v Speaker 1>Go ahead, I'll watch walk with me. Take the phone. Okay,

0:43:46.480 --> 0:43:50.520
<v Speaker 1>she walking out. Okay, she in the bathroom right around

0:43:50.520 --> 0:43:54.319
<v Speaker 1>the corner. For the thing going that stall. Put your

0:43:54.320 --> 0:44:01.600
<v Speaker 1>hands out, Mandy. Okay, how many um, how many studios

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:05.480
<v Speaker 1>were you supposed to schedule this week to two episodes?

0:44:05.719 --> 0:44:15.520
<v Speaker 1>To spank your hands twice? Now? You know how you

0:44:15.520 --> 0:44:19.000
<v Speaker 1>doing little harder than that? You know, I want to

0:44:19.000 --> 0:44:21.480
<v Speaker 1>break I gotta show coming up or something like that,

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:25.400
<v Speaker 1>and probably not your hands, but you know, put your

0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:27.880
<v Speaker 1>pants down. Go ahead and spank yourself twice. You know.

0:44:28.040 --> 0:44:33.200
<v Speaker 1>It's crazy though to think that I've done this. But

0:44:33.719 --> 0:44:36.560
<v Speaker 1>so the guy that I pegged, we haven't paid, like,

0:44:36.640 --> 0:44:39.719
<v Speaker 1>we haven't had that interaction in quite some time, and

0:44:40.040 --> 0:44:43.520
<v Speaker 1>he misses like he wants to do that again, and

0:44:43.719 --> 0:44:46.839
<v Speaker 1>most recently and I probably like he's so bad, but

0:44:46.920 --> 0:44:49.719
<v Speaker 1>some most recently he'll call me when he goes to work,

0:44:49.760 --> 0:44:52.080
<v Speaker 1>and because it's the West Coast, it's like ten am

0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:53.840
<v Speaker 1>for me, seven am for him, and he's on his

0:44:53.880 --> 0:44:56.239
<v Speaker 1>way to work, and we were talking about the things

0:44:56.239 --> 0:44:58.600
<v Speaker 1>that we wanted to do. And so when he got

0:44:58.640 --> 0:45:03.520
<v Speaker 1>to his work parking lot, he played with he fingered

0:45:03.560 --> 0:45:05.279
<v Speaker 1>his ass in his car for me and set me

0:45:05.320 --> 0:45:07.200
<v Speaker 1>a video of it because I was like, well, you

0:45:07.200 --> 0:45:11.160
<v Speaker 1>haven't set me that, so I and of course all

0:45:11.160 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 1>of my friends are like, girl, how the hell you beginning,

0:45:13.600 --> 0:45:16.400
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker to do this, but I didn't, Like, I'm like,

0:45:16.440 --> 0:45:19.640
<v Speaker 1>I just talked to them. But it is a psychological

0:45:19.719 --> 0:45:23.680
<v Speaker 1>domination or something like that. With him would be you know, um,

0:45:23.760 --> 0:45:26.640
<v Speaker 1>this week, you're gonna wear that anal plug to work

0:45:26.960 --> 0:45:29.239
<v Speaker 1>for the rest of the week. Yeah, Like and and

0:45:29.280 --> 0:45:31.319
<v Speaker 1>he'll do like when he's at a stoplight, Like he'll

0:45:31.360 --> 0:45:33.239
<v Speaker 1>send me a video of him jacking his dick. And

0:45:33.640 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 1>he really likes how his work pants feel on his

0:45:36.719 --> 0:45:39.480
<v Speaker 1>on him, so like that becomes the whole conversation when

0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:42.160
<v Speaker 1>he's at work and I've gotten him to do things

0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:45.000
<v Speaker 1>in his office and things like that. So and I

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:47.600
<v Speaker 1>actually used to do this with Lawyer Vey a lot. Um.

0:45:47.680 --> 0:45:50.319
<v Speaker 1>He would go into the stalls at work and I'd

0:45:50.320 --> 0:45:51.560
<v Speaker 1>be like, well, I want to see and this is

0:45:51.600 --> 0:45:53.920
<v Speaker 1>all of me sending him old videos or if if

0:45:53.960 --> 0:45:55.400
<v Speaker 1>I you know, I wasn't in class and I was

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:57.080
<v Speaker 1>at home waiting to go to school. I could sell

0:45:57.160 --> 0:45:59.680
<v Speaker 1>himself while he was at work. So this is really

0:45:59.719 --> 0:46:02.160
<v Speaker 1>interest thing. And I think a lot of like the

0:46:02.239 --> 0:46:06.000
<v Speaker 1>women listening who want to maybe switch rolls. Maybe when

0:46:06.239 --> 0:46:09.400
<v Speaker 1>they're more of a sub role in the bedroom, this

0:46:09.480 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 1>could be how they dom outside of the bedroom. I

0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:18.200
<v Speaker 1>mean my sub she lives in in Philly. I think, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,

0:46:18.560 --> 0:46:22.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie. I would love to bring her.

0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:28.239
<v Speaker 1>I just maybe want. First off, she's beautiful, she's freaking beautiful. Um,

0:46:28.400 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 1>but the submissive level that she's on I've never seen

0:46:35.040 --> 0:46:37.040
<v Speaker 1>and I and the whole time, I guess and she

0:46:37.160 --> 0:46:40.200
<v Speaker 1>was called a service sub. He referred to her as

0:46:40.239 --> 0:46:44.080
<v Speaker 1>a service Yeah, and I was just like, she was everything.

0:46:44.200 --> 0:46:47.759
<v Speaker 1>Here's here's your water, are you thirsty? Like just being

0:46:47.840 --> 0:46:52.160
<v Speaker 1>so very attentive. She's well trained and so you guys

0:46:52.239 --> 0:46:55.799
<v Speaker 1>trained her as your sub. This is her first dominant

0:46:56.280 --> 0:47:00.920
<v Speaker 1>dom sub relationship. Wow. So if a woman were to

0:47:00.960 --> 0:47:03.120
<v Speaker 1>come to you and say, hey, I really want to

0:47:03.239 --> 0:47:06.360
<v Speaker 1>sub because I feel like that's what would arouse me

0:47:06.440 --> 0:47:08.800
<v Speaker 1>the most. What are some of the first questions you

0:47:08.800 --> 0:47:10.600
<v Speaker 1>would ask her to make sure that that's something that

0:47:10.640 --> 0:47:14.960
<v Speaker 1>would be for her sen your resume okay, professional resume,

0:47:15.280 --> 0:47:19.920
<v Speaker 1>not your you know, not your whole resume. Wait wait

0:47:19.920 --> 0:47:23.120
<v Speaker 1>wait you asking what does that matter? What someone? I

0:47:23.120 --> 0:47:26.760
<v Speaker 1>want to know what your time, talent, and finances are, Like, oh,

0:47:26.800 --> 0:47:29.479
<v Speaker 1>I mean, anyone suck a dig for the most part,

0:47:29.640 --> 0:47:31.480
<v Speaker 1>and I don't have a dick, so that doesn't help

0:47:31.480 --> 0:47:34.319
<v Speaker 1>me at all. Everybody always comes like I can suck

0:47:34.400 --> 0:47:36.160
<v Speaker 1>dick so good. I want to be yourself, Like, how

0:47:36.160 --> 0:47:38.360
<v Speaker 1>does that help me? That doesn't help you at all? No,

0:47:38.800 --> 0:47:42.960
<v Speaker 1>not a mother for work, like right, and I don't

0:47:42.960 --> 0:47:45.799
<v Speaker 1>know who's sucking it because so I got the dial

0:47:45.880 --> 0:47:48.680
<v Speaker 1>do too, and my my, my mouth didn't even go

0:47:48.719 --> 0:47:53.160
<v Speaker 1>past the head. I said, I would be incompetent as

0:47:53.239 --> 0:47:56.839
<v Speaker 1>fuck putting this in my God, and I'd like to

0:47:56.880 --> 0:48:00.719
<v Speaker 1>think I am a great aid dick sucker you but yeah,

0:48:00.840 --> 0:48:03.680
<v Speaker 1>but not with that thing. I was just like, nig

0:48:04.760 --> 0:48:06.600
<v Speaker 1>here you go, you get a hand jut. You know

0:48:06.640 --> 0:48:08.440
<v Speaker 1>what that's that's one of the drawbacks of having a

0:48:08.480 --> 0:48:11.719
<v Speaker 1>big day. Does your jaw stretch from sucking? Like you

0:48:11.719 --> 0:48:15.080
<v Speaker 1>know how yours? I mean, like your pussy gets used

0:48:15.120 --> 0:48:17.759
<v Speaker 1>to big dicks, But does your mouth work the same

0:48:17.840 --> 0:48:20.480
<v Speaker 1>to you? You know, and this is I'm sure it's science.

0:48:20.520 --> 0:48:23.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't we just get really know what we ain't cool,

0:48:23.800 --> 0:48:25.919
<v Speaker 1>don't do this. We're not gonna do this, and that's

0:48:25.920 --> 0:48:27.480
<v Speaker 1>what we're not gonna do. I'm just like, I don't

0:48:27.480 --> 0:48:29.719
<v Speaker 1>know if the mouth stretches the same as a vagina,

0:48:31.120 --> 0:48:34.239
<v Speaker 1>it's not. We're getting cool positions. And you know, I

0:48:34.280 --> 0:48:37.160
<v Speaker 1>just learned other things that he likes. Okay, I can

0:48:37.200 --> 0:48:39.239
<v Speaker 1>dig that. I can dig that. So I wanted to

0:48:39.239 --> 0:48:42.120
<v Speaker 1>actually talk to you UM again. We mentioned the baby,

0:48:42.480 --> 0:48:46.080
<v Speaker 1>we mentioned your relationship. UM. I did want to get

0:48:46.160 --> 0:48:53.399
<v Speaker 1>into sorry, UM, non monogamous consequences UM, if that makes sense.

0:48:53.440 --> 0:48:56.440
<v Speaker 1>And I wanted to talk to you about the boundaries

0:48:56.560 --> 0:48:59.640
<v Speaker 1>that are set because especially which is now amazing. I

0:48:59.640 --> 0:49:03.080
<v Speaker 1>didn't know you identified as almost all of the ethical

0:49:03.120 --> 0:49:05.960
<v Speaker 1>nonmonogamy titles UM. But I wanted to talk about the

0:49:05.960 --> 0:49:09.520
<v Speaker 1>boundaries that you UM set. Also how it is dating

0:49:09.680 --> 0:49:12.560
<v Speaker 1>while being in sex work UM. And then I just

0:49:12.640 --> 0:49:16.080
<v Speaker 1>had a couple what if questions and how you would

0:49:16.120 --> 0:49:19.080
<v Speaker 1>handle those being in the relationship that you're in now. UM.

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:21.399
<v Speaker 1>So I think you did mention some of the boundary

0:49:21.440 --> 0:49:25.279
<v Speaker 1>What are the boundaries UM, or do you suck them.

0:49:25.280 --> 0:49:28.360
<v Speaker 1>You guys seem really like respectable, Like are their boundaries

0:49:28.400 --> 0:49:32.279
<v Speaker 1>that are set? And the main thing is letting each

0:49:32.320 --> 0:49:34.640
<v Speaker 1>other know. You know, there there are some people that

0:49:34.880 --> 0:49:38.560
<v Speaker 1>UM that he's either dated or wanted to day and

0:49:38.600 --> 0:49:41.200
<v Speaker 1>I've just been like like, nah, don't do that because

0:49:41.360 --> 0:49:43.640
<v Speaker 1>like she's stepped to me sideways or you know what

0:49:43.719 --> 0:49:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, UM, or you know, like if you just

0:49:47.040 --> 0:49:48.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't get a good vibe where I realized, like I

0:49:48.920 --> 0:49:50.960
<v Speaker 1>don't really think that he cares for this person. It's

0:49:50.960 --> 0:49:54.560
<v Speaker 1>like why try to bring that person into not necessarily

0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:58.080
<v Speaker 1>into our relationship, but still like bringing someone into my

0:49:58.160 --> 0:50:02.840
<v Speaker 1>life is still bringing someone into our life, right, So UM,

0:50:02.880 --> 0:50:05.319
<v Speaker 1>it is important that whoever we deal with not not

0:50:05.400 --> 0:50:08.200
<v Speaker 1>only that we communicate with each other, but that we

0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:11.040
<v Speaker 1>are communicating with that other person and they understand what

0:50:11.080 --> 0:50:15.440
<v Speaker 1>our relationship is like, so there's no there's no confusion,

0:50:16.000 --> 0:50:19.080
<v Speaker 1>you know. So that's part of our responsibility. Well, it's funny.

0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:22.080
<v Speaker 1>We we had this conversation UM as well, like and

0:50:22.120 --> 0:50:25.080
<v Speaker 1>this is probably after the first UM episode that he did,

0:50:25.320 --> 0:50:27.560
<v Speaker 1>and I was like just questioning as well as the

0:50:27.640 --> 0:50:31.000
<v Speaker 1>dynamic and how it works. And maybe it's more so

0:50:31.200 --> 0:50:33.839
<v Speaker 1>me being wanting to feel in control. But I told him,

0:50:33.880 --> 0:50:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I know, Jasmine is you're primary. I

0:50:36.120 --> 0:50:38.280
<v Speaker 1>don't know if I could ever go into something knowing

0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:42.480
<v Speaker 1>that I'm under another woman. Um do the other women

0:50:43.080 --> 0:50:44.879
<v Speaker 1>that that deal with him? Do you know if that's

0:50:44.960 --> 0:50:48.439
<v Speaker 1>a feeling, um, that that you come first? Really? Because

0:50:48.480 --> 0:50:50.320
<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of women do want to feel

0:50:50.320 --> 0:50:53.680
<v Speaker 1>like their first. Um. But in that dynamic and a

0:50:53.719 --> 0:50:56.479
<v Speaker 1>lot a lot of these there is a primary, Yeah,

0:50:56.560 --> 0:50:59.439
<v Speaker 1>there is. And I think the best setup is when

0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:04.719
<v Speaker 1>when our secondary partner has their own primary partner, you

0:51:04.719 --> 0:51:07.439
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. I think that tends to work

0:51:07.680 --> 0:51:12.600
<v Speaker 1>the best. Or if they are uniquely submissive, you know,

0:51:13.200 --> 0:51:18.719
<v Speaker 1>so being or feeling second or whatever anything, but being

0:51:18.800 --> 0:51:21.680
<v Speaker 1>in the primary doesn't have that same kind of pressure

0:51:21.800 --> 0:51:26.359
<v Speaker 1>or you know, um other than that, Like for us,

0:51:27.080 --> 0:51:31.120
<v Speaker 1>our boundaries changed, like we continuously talk about them. With

0:51:31.200 --> 0:51:34.239
<v Speaker 1>the baby, it was a little bit different when it

0:51:34.360 --> 0:51:38.200
<v Speaker 1>came to work. It's like, it's work, so I don't

0:51:38.200 --> 0:51:41.719
<v Speaker 1>get to go like, well, you know, um, I'm gonna

0:51:41.760 --> 0:51:44.520
<v Speaker 1>pick who you're gonna start with with that company. Like,

0:51:45.280 --> 0:51:47.719
<v Speaker 1>but for our company, we we handle that like a

0:51:47.760 --> 0:51:50.400
<v Speaker 1>business decision. It's not like I don't want you fucking

0:51:50.400 --> 0:51:52.239
<v Speaker 1>that girl because I feel jealous. Is like, no, like

0:51:52.360 --> 0:51:57.160
<v Speaker 1>is this gonna sell right when it comes to work?

0:51:57.239 --> 0:51:59.520
<v Speaker 1>Is just like we make sure that person not racist

0:51:59.600 --> 0:52:02.520
<v Speaker 1>to talk reckless then you know, and they got a

0:52:02.560 --> 0:52:06.160
<v Speaker 1>clean test or whatever, of course. Um. But other than that,

0:52:06.239 --> 0:52:08.560
<v Speaker 1>we try really hard to keep it open and fluid,

0:52:08.560 --> 0:52:12.560
<v Speaker 1>because when you have rules that are so rigid, you

0:52:12.600 --> 0:52:15.279
<v Speaker 1>find yourself being like, oh, I should have created a

0:52:15.320 --> 0:52:19.680
<v Speaker 1>rule for that rule I forgot, you know. And it

0:52:19.960 --> 0:52:22.040
<v Speaker 1>hasn't always been easy. They have been times where I

0:52:22.120 --> 0:52:24.359
<v Speaker 1>was like, well, I need to know like a week

0:52:24.440 --> 0:52:27.640
<v Speaker 1>before and you know, right, because yeah, we even talked

0:52:27.680 --> 0:52:29.600
<v Speaker 1>about that, like the rules and boundaries that you would

0:52:29.600 --> 0:52:33.120
<v Speaker 1>even set in a threesome, like you know you like,

0:52:33.280 --> 0:52:34.920
<v Speaker 1>um And I can't remember the guest that we had

0:52:34.920 --> 0:52:38.359
<v Speaker 1>on but she remembered or no, actually should it was me? Um,

0:52:38.400 --> 0:52:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I had a threesome with one of my friends and

0:52:40.719 --> 0:52:45.200
<v Speaker 1>her partner and I completely didn't have the conversation as

0:52:45.280 --> 0:52:48.120
<v Speaker 1>if if kissing was too much, and I didn't have

0:52:48.160 --> 0:52:52.640
<v Speaker 1>the conversation with what really their boundaries were. Um. And

0:52:52.680 --> 0:52:54.799
<v Speaker 1>so I know that that's something for me like that

0:52:54.840 --> 0:52:56.560
<v Speaker 1>I would have but also I know, like right now,

0:52:56.600 --> 0:52:58.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I would want to know it

0:52:58.520 --> 0:53:02.000
<v Speaker 1>all UM. To me, it's more so about like, you know,

0:53:02.760 --> 0:53:06.040
<v Speaker 1>don't have a baby, don't like you know, don't bring

0:53:06.080 --> 0:53:08.680
<v Speaker 1>nothing back to me, don't have a woman, also questioning

0:53:08.680 --> 0:53:11.960
<v Speaker 1>my position with you. So I wanted to ask. I asked,

0:53:12.040 --> 0:53:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I have three questions you already kind of mentioned UM again,

0:53:14.920 --> 0:53:17.800
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to bring up UM. This is something recent.

0:53:18.120 --> 0:53:21.040
<v Speaker 1>So UM the rapper of the baby and his baby

0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:25.160
<v Speaker 1>mom are currently expecting a child. However, she just went

0:53:25.280 --> 0:53:29.960
<v Speaker 1>on a complete um posting screenshots and everything else because

0:53:30.160 --> 0:53:33.399
<v Speaker 1>she found out that he is expecting another baby with

0:53:33.480 --> 0:53:38.319
<v Speaker 1>another woman. However, when their relationship with like when we

0:53:38.360 --> 0:53:41.279
<v Speaker 1>all started finding out who she was, she did do

0:53:41.360 --> 0:53:44.200
<v Speaker 1>an interview and was like, me and him are single,

0:53:44.360 --> 0:53:47.200
<v Speaker 1>but that's still my boo. So I wanted to talk

0:53:47.239 --> 0:53:52.320
<v Speaker 1>about even the I guess lack of communication or ideal

0:53:52.400 --> 0:53:55.479
<v Speaker 1>that we are someone's primary but we expect from them,

0:53:55.560 --> 0:54:00.399
<v Speaker 1>but we know that titles suck. But so that made

0:54:00.440 --> 0:54:03.880
<v Speaker 1>me come to this question, So, how would you handle

0:54:04.520 --> 0:54:08.239
<v Speaker 1>UM being in the non monogamous relationship that you are,

0:54:08.320 --> 0:54:11.399
<v Speaker 1>and how would you handle King coming to you and

0:54:11.440 --> 0:54:14.279
<v Speaker 1>saying Hey, I got someone else pregnant, especially after you

0:54:14.320 --> 0:54:18.040
<v Speaker 1>too just now started a new family together. What would

0:54:18.040 --> 0:54:20.000
<v Speaker 1>that conversation be like? And is there a way to

0:54:20.040 --> 0:54:28.040
<v Speaker 1>prevent that from happening? Oh? Yeah, there's like well, you know,

0:54:28.160 --> 0:54:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I think about that more often than than people probably think,

0:54:32.160 --> 0:54:35.399
<v Speaker 1>because of the type of work that we do, more

0:54:36.000 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 1>than his personal sex. Um. You know, I've I've dated him.

0:54:41.280 --> 0:54:43.799
<v Speaker 1>I know what his personal sex is like. He is

0:54:43.880 --> 0:54:47.319
<v Speaker 1>very good about using protection, you know. So that's that's

0:54:47.440 --> 0:54:51.360
<v Speaker 1>one that's important. But the work that we do is

0:54:51.360 --> 0:54:54.480
<v Speaker 1>not it's not protected most of the time. So I

0:54:54.520 --> 0:54:57.479
<v Speaker 1>do think, like, and those girls aren't on birth control? Well,

0:54:57.520 --> 0:55:02.200
<v Speaker 1>that's not a question that we generally act. So porn

0:55:02.600 --> 0:55:06.239
<v Speaker 1>porn performers usually do what they're supposed to do to

0:55:06.360 --> 0:55:10.120
<v Speaker 1>protect their you know, protect themselves from becoming pregnant. Um.

0:55:10.400 --> 0:55:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Most are very responsible because this is this is our work.

0:55:13.640 --> 0:55:15.560
<v Speaker 1>You know, you can't most people are not going to

0:55:15.640 --> 0:55:19.600
<v Speaker 1>make money if they're constantly having babies, right. So um,

0:55:19.640 --> 0:55:21.239
<v Speaker 1>but I do think, like, what if somebody forgot to

0:55:21.239 --> 0:55:24.839
<v Speaker 1>take their pill right or um, what if she thought

0:55:24.880 --> 0:55:26.920
<v Speaker 1>she was not able to have children and all of

0:55:26.960 --> 0:55:29.840
<v Speaker 1>a sudden she can uh and you know, that would

0:55:29.880 --> 0:55:32.000
<v Speaker 1>be a consequence of the work that we do. So

0:55:32.360 --> 0:55:34.239
<v Speaker 1>that's not something that I could see myself being like,

0:55:34.640 --> 0:55:36.560
<v Speaker 1>how do you not know? So you don't feel like

0:55:36.600 --> 0:55:40.360
<v Speaker 1>it's a consequence as far as in your personal arrangement

0:55:40.600 --> 0:55:43.799
<v Speaker 1>with allowing him to others, I mean, as long as

0:55:43.800 --> 0:55:49.080
<v Speaker 1>you're would condoms would So there's a two percent chance.

0:55:49.120 --> 0:55:52.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, I trust him to use a condom, right,

0:55:52.480 --> 0:55:54.800
<v Speaker 1>And I also know that I can trust the condom

0:55:55.560 --> 0:55:59.440
<v Speaker 1>to do his job up to a certain percentage. So

0:55:59.480 --> 0:56:01.680
<v Speaker 1>I think, you know, I would probably be upset because

0:56:01.719 --> 0:56:04.560
<v Speaker 1>this isn't something that we plan um when we were

0:56:04.640 --> 0:56:07.000
<v Speaker 1>talking about expanding our family, and it may not be

0:56:07.040 --> 0:56:09.520
<v Speaker 1>through my body and maybe through him in another relationship.

0:56:10.040 --> 0:56:12.400
<v Speaker 1>You know, we had the conversation. So it's not a

0:56:12.480 --> 0:56:15.760
<v Speaker 1>foreign thought for him to have a child with another woman,

0:56:16.520 --> 0:56:20.160
<v Speaker 1>but an unexpected situation, it would feel like an unexpected situation.

0:56:20.440 --> 0:56:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Would it feel like cheating? No? Right, I know that

0:56:23.680 --> 0:56:26.239
<v Speaker 1>that's also been um, not only with what happened with

0:56:26.280 --> 0:56:29.359
<v Speaker 1>the baby, but um. Dwyane Wade just recently came out

0:56:29.360 --> 0:56:32.520
<v Speaker 1>with a documentary where he and Gabrielle Union opened up

0:56:32.520 --> 0:56:36.920
<v Speaker 1>about the break baby that happened. Um, they're both you know,

0:56:37.640 --> 0:56:40.880
<v Speaker 1>UM aligned with that they weren't technically together at the

0:56:40.920 --> 0:56:43.360
<v Speaker 1>time that it happened. But I know again in the

0:56:43.480 --> 0:56:45.759
<v Speaker 1>space when you do allow your partner to go out

0:56:46.120 --> 0:56:48.719
<v Speaker 1>and have other partners, that these are things that you

0:56:48.800 --> 0:56:51.480
<v Speaker 1>hope doesn't doesn't happen. But I don't think we've had

0:56:51.480 --> 0:56:53.759
<v Speaker 1>the conversation. And of course I wish Weasy was here

0:56:53.760 --> 0:56:56.640
<v Speaker 1>as well, because you know and I know that UM

0:56:56.880 --> 0:56:59.719
<v Speaker 1>last episode or a few episodes ago, she was just like, well,

0:56:59.760 --> 0:57:01.480
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't in town, so I told him go out

0:57:01.480 --> 0:57:04.040
<v Speaker 1>and have fun and so but I I just don't

0:57:04.080 --> 0:57:07.560
<v Speaker 1>know how those conversations would be if you're letting him

0:57:07.600 --> 0:57:09.760
<v Speaker 1>have this fun and then he brings that back home.

0:57:10.560 --> 0:57:14.920
<v Speaker 1>Another question that I had is how would you handle

0:57:15.080 --> 0:57:19.360
<v Speaker 1>or if it's a conversation about your partner telling you

0:57:19.360 --> 0:57:23.320
<v Speaker 1>that he loves another woman. UM. And I know again

0:57:23.400 --> 0:57:28.480
<v Speaker 1>you're super open and free with this, but to me, UM,

0:57:28.560 --> 0:57:31.480
<v Speaker 1>my idea of open relationships is why I would see

0:57:31.480 --> 0:57:34.480
<v Speaker 1>you're clear of this. I want to me, I know

0:57:34.520 --> 0:57:37.720
<v Speaker 1>that you could have emotionless sex and if it's cheating,

0:57:38.080 --> 0:57:39.920
<v Speaker 1>I want you to, you know, go out and have

0:57:40.040 --> 0:57:41.240
<v Speaker 1>if you if you want to have sex, I don't

0:57:41.240 --> 0:57:42.760
<v Speaker 1>want to feel like I'm tying you down. Of course,

0:57:42.800 --> 0:57:47.160
<v Speaker 1>do it responsibly. UM. But my fear is the idea

0:57:47.280 --> 0:57:51.800
<v Speaker 1>of you sharing like strong feelings and an emotional connection

0:57:51.880 --> 0:57:54.760
<v Speaker 1>to someone else. UM. What is the conversation that you

0:57:54.840 --> 0:57:57.440
<v Speaker 1>have in regarding that and are you find do you

0:57:57.480 --> 0:58:01.080
<v Speaker 1>feel like someone can fully you know, have all of

0:58:01.160 --> 0:58:06.439
<v Speaker 1>those feelings for multiple women? I do, UM, I feel

0:58:06.480 --> 0:58:09.840
<v Speaker 1>like and and knowing him by the time he got

0:58:09.880 --> 0:58:15.600
<v Speaker 1>to a position of loving someone, then they're already like

0:58:15.680 --> 0:58:17.800
<v Speaker 1>I've already accepted the idea of them being in our

0:58:17.880 --> 0:58:21.880
<v Speaker 1>life for a long long time. You know, they're the

0:58:21.920 --> 0:58:24.600
<v Speaker 1>women that he has stated that. You know, he's really

0:58:24.640 --> 0:58:27.280
<v Speaker 1>liked them and they really liked him. And by no

0:58:27.400 --> 0:58:31.760
<v Speaker 1>means do I approve a relationship. I share my thoughts

0:58:31.840 --> 0:58:35.240
<v Speaker 1>on it. I share how UM, I think this person

0:58:35.400 --> 0:58:39.280
<v Speaker 1>will compliment him, will compliment us, I share what I

0:58:39.320 --> 0:58:43.240
<v Speaker 1>don't like. I mean, I'd be putting it off, and

0:58:43.400 --> 0:58:46.360
<v Speaker 1>you know that's a decision for him to make. So

0:58:47.720 --> 0:58:49.800
<v Speaker 1>if I could see, like, this person seems like they're

0:58:49.800 --> 0:58:52.320
<v Speaker 1>a good fit. They've been around, they're doing things together.

0:58:52.480 --> 0:58:55.760
<v Speaker 1>You know, we're talking about her, I talked to her.

0:58:56.040 --> 0:58:58.280
<v Speaker 1>I could see that, you know, I know he's lovable,

0:58:59.200 --> 0:59:03.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, and and he is starting to voice everyone

0:59:03.040 --> 0:59:06.680
<v Speaker 1>fell in love with him on the show, So I

0:59:06.680 --> 0:59:11.040
<v Speaker 1>would already I would expect that to happen. Now. Unfortunately,

0:59:14.360 --> 0:59:20.040
<v Speaker 1>excuse me, Unfortunately a lot of these relationships haven't, you know,

0:59:20.080 --> 0:59:22.240
<v Speaker 1>they haven't made their way to the point of love.

0:59:22.640 --> 0:59:24.920
<v Speaker 1>But once I thought that they were getting serious, I've

0:59:24.920 --> 0:59:27.240
<v Speaker 1>definitely put in my mind, like, Okay, what would that

0:59:27.320 --> 0:59:30.400
<v Speaker 1>be like if you know, she moved closer to Florida

0:59:30.600 --> 0:59:33.760
<v Speaker 1>or you know, so I don't know, it doesn't surprise me.

0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:36.880
<v Speaker 1>And as far as um a man or anybody being

0:59:36.920 --> 0:59:40.040
<v Speaker 1>able to love multiple people, the way that we look

0:59:40.080 --> 0:59:42.720
<v Speaker 1>at it is like we could think of hundreds of

0:59:42.720 --> 0:59:46.920
<v Speaker 1>people that we love, what of all different types of relationships.

0:59:47.040 --> 0:59:49.600
<v Speaker 1>And I don't say like, nah, you can't love your

0:59:49.680 --> 0:59:52.800
<v Speaker 1>your best friend like me, you know, or you got

0:59:52.880 --> 0:59:56.479
<v Speaker 1>love for your cousin, Nah, love for me. So there's

0:59:56.520 --> 0:59:58.960
<v Speaker 1>no way that I can limit his love or even

0:59:59.000 --> 1:00:01.560
<v Speaker 1>look at it from that way. Um. I do understand

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<v Speaker 1>where people want to have like a certain type and

1:00:04.960 --> 1:00:08.160
<v Speaker 1>a certain intimacy, but the love that he and I have,

1:00:08.520 --> 1:00:11.000
<v Speaker 1>he can't have that with you because you know me

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<v Speaker 1>right right right, So it doesn't like I don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>just can't think about it that way. If he said

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<v Speaker 1>I love her, I would like, Okay, you love her

1:00:18.640 --> 1:00:22.000
<v Speaker 1>for her, like you don't love her because she's like me,

1:00:22.200 --> 1:00:24.960
<v Speaker 1>or I have nothing to do with that really, right.

1:00:25.040 --> 1:00:27.080
<v Speaker 1>So I So the home mail question that I have

1:00:27.160 --> 1:00:30.840
<v Speaker 1>for this episode, it's coming from me, UM, and it's

1:00:30.880 --> 1:00:34.600
<v Speaker 1>because I've been talking a lot about relationships on Instagram

1:00:34.680 --> 1:00:37.920
<v Speaker 1>Live UM again meet with the idea of what I

1:00:37.920 --> 1:00:41.560
<v Speaker 1>would want UM not being as controlling, you know, because

1:00:41.680 --> 1:00:44.520
<v Speaker 1>I would let the person do what they want. But

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times the men I've gotten kicked back

1:00:47.480 --> 1:00:50.760
<v Speaker 1>from the men in my life as well as the women, saying, well,

1:00:50.800 --> 1:00:52.960
<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't let a guy know upfront that he can

1:00:52.960 --> 1:00:55.040
<v Speaker 1>go out and have sex with other people. You shouldn't

1:00:55.080 --> 1:00:57.880
<v Speaker 1>let a guy know upfront, UM, that you're okay with

1:00:57.920 --> 1:01:00.640
<v Speaker 1>this happening, or that you would allow this or you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So my question to you is being in the space

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<v Speaker 1>where I do want to date UM, and I am

1:01:06.000 --> 1:01:09.120
<v Speaker 1>looking for a partner that would accept you know. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know where what I would define it

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<v Speaker 1>as UM. How do I open up and say like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be with you, but you can also

1:01:17.880 --> 1:01:20.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, do what you want. But I want something

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<v Speaker 1>real with it not sounding like a situation ship, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, because I think that that's um

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<v Speaker 1>where I don't know, like I feel like I've been

1:01:30.120 --> 1:01:31.800
<v Speaker 1>where I knew you was doing what she was doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I personally don't want to know the girls. I don't

1:01:34.240 --> 1:01:36.720
<v Speaker 1>want them coming to me. I don't care about them.

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<v Speaker 1>Like again, like I'm hoping you're responsible. I don't want

1:01:39.680 --> 1:01:42.640
<v Speaker 1>to know anything about what you guys do, but I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to build a relationship. And I just feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a lot of men are saying that if I'm

1:01:47.600 --> 1:01:51.480
<v Speaker 1>allowing them that freedom, that I won't hold that title.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, yeah, I don't. I don't agree with those men. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but again, you know, that might be their thing for

1:01:57.680 --> 1:02:01.240
<v Speaker 1>their for them and their relations it for me, I

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<v Speaker 1>think what I had to to make very clear is

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<v Speaker 1>um at the time that we met, a lot of

1:02:07.360 --> 1:02:10.440
<v Speaker 1>guys were saying to me because I was doing like

1:02:10.560 --> 1:02:13.280
<v Speaker 1>these um sex toy parties and all that time, it's like, oh,

1:02:13.400 --> 1:02:15.960
<v Speaker 1>soon you're gonna slowed it, like you'll you'll you'll want

1:02:15.960 --> 1:02:18.880
<v Speaker 1>to slow down soon enough. We get that about the podcast,

1:02:19.200 --> 1:02:21.720
<v Speaker 1>Like even about us coming on here talking and sharing

1:02:21.760 --> 1:02:25.720
<v Speaker 1>our stories, they say the same thing like even either, ay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not datable right now because of the podcast, um

1:02:29.160 --> 1:02:32.200
<v Speaker 1>that we say wild stuff. Um of course even in dating,

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<v Speaker 1>Like one of the first questions that I get is

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<v Speaker 1>are you going to share this on your show? Like,

1:02:36.960 --> 1:02:39.960
<v Speaker 1>so it's a it's a lot right now with dating

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<v Speaker 1>because of the show and us being in the sex space. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but also because we are fairly young. With these non

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<v Speaker 1>monogamous ideals, I'm finding it hard now to say them

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<v Speaker 1>without seeming like I just want a situation ship, but

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<v Speaker 1>that I want more. Well, I think the more the

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<v Speaker 1>more you define what it is that you want, or

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<v Speaker 1>even what you're trying to figure out, which is going

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<v Speaker 1>to explore and judging their reaction. If their reaction doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>go I want to help you want to stand that,

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<v Speaker 1>or that's interesting, or I want to stick around to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what that might look like. Then they're not

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<v Speaker 1>for you, you know what, Like let me be easy

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<v Speaker 1>for you. So a king, I was like, listen, I

1:03:23.400 --> 1:03:27.040
<v Speaker 1>don't want to settle down. I like what I do

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<v Speaker 1>you know? I like that you got this kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like crazy edgy thing going on. I wanted us to

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<v Speaker 1>make money together, you know, but I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>still do the freaky ship because I got the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>That helps. I need to hear about some of your

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<v Speaker 1>freaky ship because I can't okay you. And then when

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<v Speaker 1>we started to get a little bit more serious, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, these are the needs that I need met

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<v Speaker 1>for me, Like this makes me feel like I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of relationship I want to be in. And

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<v Speaker 1>as long as those needs are met in your spare time,

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<v Speaker 1>you can do those other things that meet your needs.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to be responsible for meeting all

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<v Speaker 1>of your Oh I do not. I like that, And

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<v Speaker 1>he was he's okay, he has been okay that that

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<v Speaker 1>has still maintained been a main thing for us. He

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<v Speaker 1>said that on the very first episode that I had

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<v Speaker 1>of him, and he's um and and we had the conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, because I think I started the episode with

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty Ricky song and he was like, what the

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<v Speaker 1>funk are you playing? And so his example was like,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm with a partner or or like my partner

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<v Speaker 1>wants to go and see pretty Ricky, that's not something

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<v Speaker 1>that would make me happy. But I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>keep her from happiness. So if she wants to go

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoy Pretty Ricky with another guy, if I really

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<v Speaker 1>love my partner, I want her to be happy, why

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<v Speaker 1>would I not let her go see the Pretty Ricky concert. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I know why you and King are friends. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. You know, you know he would be like, oh, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm texted with Mandy Dad And I was like, thank god,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't care about All Star Weekend in that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, no, no, I know. Look, I know you

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<v Speaker 1>were like, girl, why are you still talking about this?

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<v Speaker 1>I know our listeners were like, so this is a

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<v Speaker 1>basketball podcast. Now I'm happy about your level of excitement,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean? Yeah, but like y'all could

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<v Speaker 1>talk about stats and basketball yeah and bullshit. Um he

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<v Speaker 1>sends music, he um, he um asks me like my

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts on his scenes, especially too, because he's had bigger

1:05:25.040 --> 1:05:26.960
<v Speaker 1>women on this scenes. He's had just a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>different things. Um. Actually, ship I got He's supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>be letting me direct one Um what next week or

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<v Speaker 1>something like that. Yeah, And so I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never really held a camera, but I know the

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<v Speaker 1>angles that I like enjoying. So he's like, yeah, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>talk about like where we should you know, put the

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<v Speaker 1>camera and stuff like that, but I just enjoyed too,

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's a lot of things that, yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>understand about what you guys relationship is. And that's why

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<v Speaker 1>every time he's come on and I've asked questions of

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<v Speaker 1>how it works. Um hearing also from the woman's side,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why everyone was like, y'all need jazz on

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<v Speaker 1>the show? Why isn't Jasmine been on the show? But

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<v Speaker 1>I love that pretty much You're saying, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people listening have picked up on it too,

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<v Speaker 1>is you know what your needs are and he meets

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<v Speaker 1>those and that's all you need for your relationship. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that's what we I guess we seek

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<v Speaker 1>people to normally be everything, and it's it's also like

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<v Speaker 1>not realistic. Yeah, that's why you're always looking to see

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, right, or wanting more because your your

1:06:32.280 --> 1:06:36.720
<v Speaker 1>your goal is impossible, you know. So look, let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what else I outsourced anal sex. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do that. I know you don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do I wouldn't want to do it with

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<v Speaker 1>that either. I don't think it's possible to say. He

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say he's had anal sex before. And I said, how,

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<v Speaker 1>oh plenty, How what assholes are those taking in? Bro? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're gonna end up gifting this um and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not sure what live show yet, only to somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>can take in there like you. I'm not giving it

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<v Speaker 1>to someone who cannot take this thing. So King noir

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<v Speaker 1>Um has a mold. And it's funny because I got

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<v Speaker 1>this when I came into the studio like last week,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, nigga nah, And he sent it

1:07:17.160 --> 1:07:19.840
<v Speaker 1>with his next to it, and I'm not gonna lie.

1:07:20.160 --> 1:07:23.200
<v Speaker 1>His looks bigger than this because he was hyped to

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<v Speaker 1>send my pictures like but even down to the vein.

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<v Speaker 1>So guys, if y'all were like, I'm like, how does

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<v Speaker 1>yours look bigger than this? I said, oh nah, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>like good good root time we've tried, you know sex,

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<v Speaker 1>we get like that much tion, right, And but in

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<v Speaker 1>my mind I'm way back and I'd be like, so

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<v Speaker 1>then I go, how did I do? He was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, You're gonna somebody else? So the guy

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<v Speaker 1>that I just had perpendicular sex with I kept telling him.

1:07:54.840 --> 1:07:56.360
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, I wanted in my butt. I

1:07:56.400 --> 1:07:59.040
<v Speaker 1>wanted in my butt, but y'all know. So I have

1:07:59.080 --> 1:08:00.760
<v Speaker 1>a joke that I only do know once a quarter.

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<v Speaker 1>But I haven't done anal because I cut off. I

1:08:04.360 --> 1:08:06.680
<v Speaker 1>cut him off in October, so it's been almost six

1:08:06.760 --> 1:08:09.360
<v Speaker 1>months since I've had anal. So the last time I

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<v Speaker 1>was with him, I was like, you can do it,

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<v Speaker 1>and girl, it was not going in it. It ain't

1:08:13.360 --> 1:08:16.640
<v Speaker 1>just half the size of this, but it's big and

1:08:16.680 --> 1:08:18.920
<v Speaker 1>it wouldn't get there. And we started with the toy.

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<v Speaker 1>I had my butt plug my toy, went through the

1:08:21.360 --> 1:08:23.439
<v Speaker 1>whole emotions, and he was like, I knew you wasn't

1:08:23.479 --> 1:08:25.839
<v Speaker 1>gonna be able to take it. He told me he

1:08:26.040 --> 1:08:28.960
<v Speaker 1>wants to do it. He's only had anal sex one

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<v Speaker 1>time in high school and the girl blood. So he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm hurting, you know, I just haven't

1:08:35.000 --> 1:08:37.519
<v Speaker 1>wanted to try it. So I'm gonna hopefully try it again.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I don't know when I see him again, but yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>not doing it. So you outsode, you say, listen, king,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to have anal sex, go So ladies

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<v Speaker 1>for y'all answering the questions or or sending in the

1:08:54.120 --> 1:08:58.920
<v Speaker 1>questions for homemail about your partners wanting to do threesomes,

1:08:58.920 --> 1:09:01.040
<v Speaker 1>are wanting to do things that you know you're not

1:09:01.120 --> 1:09:05.000
<v Speaker 1>comfortable with. Um, would you call it a hall pass

1:09:05.040 --> 1:09:06.880
<v Speaker 1>for maybe the people who are in these type of

1:09:06.920 --> 1:09:11.080
<v Speaker 1>monogamous relationships, because I do like, again the idea of

1:09:11.200 --> 1:09:15.519
<v Speaker 1>keeping your partner happy and not making them feel prisoner

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<v Speaker 1>in their relationship right or within themselves. I mean, like,

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<v Speaker 1>just let's think about it outside of sex, because when

1:09:22.240 --> 1:09:25.960
<v Speaker 1>when we say sex, like all these extra things come about.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, if um, I don't like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like Chinese food, okay, and he does, imagine me being like,

1:09:36.600 --> 1:09:39.439
<v Speaker 1>but I don't like Chinese food. So that's it. You

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<v Speaker 1>can't eat Chinese food. You are the rest of your

1:09:42.240 --> 1:09:44.920
<v Speaker 1>as long as we're as long as we're together. That

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<v Speaker 1>seems so unfair, but but because because it really is right,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it really is how much emphasis and value

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<v Speaker 1>we've placed on things that at the end of the

1:09:57.640 --> 1:10:00.280
<v Speaker 1>day really don't hold that much weight. You know what

1:10:00.360 --> 1:10:04.439
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. He we're neither of each other's first sexual

1:10:04.520 --> 1:10:07.960
<v Speaker 1>experience and we're not going to be each other's last. Okay, boom,

1:10:08.000 --> 1:10:10.320
<v Speaker 1>Now that that's out of the way, let's like live

1:10:10.360 --> 1:10:14.559
<v Speaker 1>this great life together. And that's that's so amazing. So

1:10:14.680 --> 1:10:16.439
<v Speaker 1>there's a bunch of things like I have a male

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<v Speaker 1>submissive that lets me put dicks in his ass, you know,

1:10:20.520 --> 1:10:22.760
<v Speaker 1>because I don't like it to mind, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty cool to pay. King's not gonna let me

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<v Speaker 1>do that. He's very dominant, like to where even we've

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<v Speaker 1>had conversations, I was like, oh, yeah, you're not like

1:10:31.320 --> 1:10:32.880
<v Speaker 1>none of the things out and ever like you two

1:10:32.960 --> 1:10:37.679
<v Speaker 1>down even watching the videos, like he's just he's so manly,

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<v Speaker 1>like everything mainly possible. So if I if I want

1:10:42.200 --> 1:10:44.360
<v Speaker 1>to be on a body that's a little bit, yeah,

1:10:44.439 --> 1:10:45.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to get that out of him. So

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<v Speaker 1>what if he said like, no, you can never not

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<v Speaker 1>even you can never dumb me, you can't dumb anyone else.

1:10:52.040 --> 1:10:54.639
<v Speaker 1>I would be like, Okay, well that's a whole side

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<v Speaker 1>of myself. I'll just go ahead and shut off until forever. Right.

1:10:59.080 --> 1:11:02.600
<v Speaker 1>That's that's that's it's not realistic. But also why so

1:11:02.640 --> 1:11:05.720
<v Speaker 1>many people in these relationships are like I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>cheat or and you know, for all the fellows listening,

1:11:08.680 --> 1:11:11.240
<v Speaker 1>y'all know we do it better. So just so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>don't tell us no because uh, look your brothers, you know,

1:11:17.040 --> 1:11:18.960
<v Speaker 1>you know we kind of cheat better, right, Like women

1:11:19.000 --> 1:11:24.120
<v Speaker 1>are way better cheaters, were more detail oriented, and nine

1:11:24.120 --> 1:11:26.559
<v Speaker 1>times out of ten it will be to find what

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<v Speaker 1>we are lacking in you. Especially. The problem is a

1:11:30.200 --> 1:11:34.120
<v Speaker 1>lot of times women will communicate what they want and

1:11:34.160 --> 1:11:37.400
<v Speaker 1>a man just doesn't fold. On the other end, when

1:11:37.720 --> 1:11:40.160
<v Speaker 1>a man says this is what I want or else,

1:11:40.840 --> 1:11:42.639
<v Speaker 1>we kind of feel the need like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>this is our only way to keep him. And so

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<v Speaker 1>there's just a different level in exchange in relationships. And

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<v Speaker 1>also I don't want to say respect, but just bending programming,

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<v Speaker 1>make the bullshit that he will still leave you for us.

1:12:00.000 --> 1:12:03.479
<v Speaker 1>They'll have a baby on you with and you know,

1:12:03.760 --> 1:12:07.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, and it's it's it's crazy, the idea of well,

1:12:07.200 --> 1:12:09.320
<v Speaker 1>if I do this, he'll stay, If I do this,

1:12:09.360 --> 1:12:11.800
<v Speaker 1>it'll keep him. Um. And I think it's also funny,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, we talked about Halle Berry getting cheated on.

1:12:14.320 --> 1:12:18.360
<v Speaker 1>Beyonce probably be cheated on like I cheated on listen.

1:12:18.360 --> 1:12:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to be high to come and attack me. Yeah,

1:12:21.120 --> 1:12:26.599
<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't want to just we're gonna say

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<v Speaker 1>there was some feelings there. Um, but like if those

1:12:30.280 --> 1:12:34.040
<v Speaker 1>women who we put at this high you know esteem,

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<v Speaker 1>can be cheated on and probably doing everything right, live

1:12:37.439 --> 1:12:39.280
<v Speaker 1>up to things that maybe we don't even see, like

1:12:39.479 --> 1:12:41.320
<v Speaker 1>you nothing to do with them. It has to do

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<v Speaker 1>with that that other person being able to respect the

1:12:43.439 --> 1:12:46.000
<v Speaker 1>commitment they made, you know what I'm saying, Like we

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<v Speaker 1>always look at the person that got cheated on, like

1:12:47.600 --> 1:12:49.479
<v Speaker 1>what did you do wrong? Like, no, you didn't do

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong. The fucking cheater did something wrong, right, you know?

1:12:53.200 --> 1:12:55.080
<v Speaker 1>So y'all what I tell you, don't come woman a

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<v Speaker 1>woman to no woman. No, you better go to your

1:12:57.680 --> 1:13:01.840
<v Speaker 1>man or you. But that's the thing too, if they're

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<v Speaker 1>coming to another woman about their man, they're not gonna leave.

1:13:04.680 --> 1:13:07.840
<v Speaker 1>They're just they're just notifying the other woman, which just

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<v Speaker 1>recently happened to me. And again y'all heard the snippet

1:13:12.160 --> 1:13:15.680
<v Speaker 1>from the bonus episode on the last episode, Um, it

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, girl, but you also know the man

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<v Speaker 1>that you're with, and everything that you're telling me is

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much what I said in that Like, you know,

1:13:23.920 --> 1:13:26.439
<v Speaker 1>King you know who you're with, you know what he likes,

1:13:26.520 --> 1:13:30.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, um, what you're capable of giving him as

1:13:30.840 --> 1:13:34.240
<v Speaker 1>far as yourself, and you're not gonna try to be

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<v Speaker 1>anyone different than that to fulfill anything else, and you're

1:13:37.080 --> 1:13:39.479
<v Speaker 1>allowing him to be the person who he is. I

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<v Speaker 1>really like everything you said, and now I need to

1:13:42.040 --> 1:13:44.960
<v Speaker 1>go find my lover, my partner, my man. And I

1:13:45.000 --> 1:13:48.080
<v Speaker 1>know you guys are listening to this episode, probably questioning

1:13:48.360 --> 1:13:53.040
<v Speaker 1>your relationship if it's not going well, questioning yourself as

1:13:53.080 --> 1:13:56.120
<v Speaker 1>far as, um, what you truly want and what will

1:13:56.120 --> 1:13:59.280
<v Speaker 1>truly make you happy? Um Again, I'm entering I'll be

1:13:59.320 --> 1:14:03.160
<v Speaker 1>thirty this year, so it's also something to where I've

1:14:03.160 --> 1:14:05.360
<v Speaker 1>been battling because of course we all still have this

1:14:05.439 --> 1:14:08.439
<v Speaker 1>pressure with getting into our thirties, and I have. I mean,

1:14:08.479 --> 1:14:11.040
<v Speaker 1>I've been in situation ships, I've been with lovers that

1:14:11.080 --> 1:14:13.479
<v Speaker 1>I would claim as my ex is. But as far

1:14:13.479 --> 1:14:17.760
<v Speaker 1>as having a real true adult relationship, UM with a

1:14:17.760 --> 1:14:21.080
<v Speaker 1>man where both of us communicated our titles with each other,

1:14:21.520 --> 1:14:26.360
<v Speaker 1>that hasn't really been you know there. So with me

1:14:26.479 --> 1:14:29.720
<v Speaker 1>looking to have that within the next year or so,

1:14:30.640 --> 1:14:33.120
<v Speaker 1>this conversation was everything I needed. I'm gonna listen back

1:14:33.160 --> 1:14:35.680
<v Speaker 1>to this episode and listen back to everything you said. Um.

1:14:35.720 --> 1:14:40.360
<v Speaker 1>But also if anyone's into fettish training seeing you live,

1:14:41.000 --> 1:14:44.559
<v Speaker 1>um perform, watch your videos, um anything, can you please

1:14:44.640 --> 1:14:47.559
<v Speaker 1>drop where everyone can find you? Um, and we'll also

1:14:47.600 --> 1:14:49.840
<v Speaker 1>put it in the description of this episode. Okay, cool.

1:14:49.880 --> 1:14:52.800
<v Speaker 1>You can find everything at jet setting Jasmine dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>There you go and and boom right there, and then

1:14:55.240 --> 1:14:58.760
<v Speaker 1>also jet Setting Jasmine on Instagram as well, like socials

1:14:58.760 --> 1:15:00.960
<v Speaker 1>will be there. Um, you guys can see her. I'm

1:15:01.000 --> 1:15:03.519
<v Speaker 1>sure if any of you guys listened, y'all see why

1:15:03.840 --> 1:15:07.000
<v Speaker 1>you two are together. Because the way you, you know,

1:15:07.280 --> 1:15:11.439
<v Speaker 1>just literally just speak on on almost your existence is

1:15:11.439 --> 1:15:14.160
<v Speaker 1>the same as him sitting across from us, just speaking

1:15:14.160 --> 1:15:16.960
<v Speaker 1>into the love that you guys have for each other. Um.

1:15:17.000 --> 1:15:19.960
<v Speaker 1>But I think you guys know yourselves more than a

1:15:20.000 --> 1:15:22.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of people. And like I say, um too, and

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<v Speaker 1>I say this all the time before we get out

1:15:24.439 --> 1:15:26.919
<v Speaker 1>of here. Um, you can't expect anyone to give you happiness.

1:15:26.960 --> 1:15:29.559
<v Speaker 1>If you're not happy with yourself, you can't expect anyone

1:15:29.600 --> 1:15:31.720
<v Speaker 1>to give you an orgasm. If you don't know how

1:15:31.760 --> 1:15:35.280
<v Speaker 1>to give yourself an orgasm, you can't expect anyone else

1:15:35.320 --> 1:15:37.400
<v Speaker 1>to please you in ways and know you if you

1:15:37.439 --> 1:15:40.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know yourself. Um, and that's been a lot of

1:15:40.280 --> 1:15:44.760
<v Speaker 1>what I've been dealing with myself, UM recently, just trying

1:15:44.760 --> 1:15:46.360
<v Speaker 1>to figure out exactly what I want and how to

1:15:46.439 --> 1:15:49.719
<v Speaker 1>tell a person this is what makes me happy. Um,

1:15:49.880 --> 1:15:52.880
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna take this, this podcast, and you're gonna send

1:15:52.920 --> 1:15:59.519
<v Speaker 1>it to that person this episode listen from from beginning

1:15:59.560 --> 1:16:03.320
<v Speaker 1>to end. And and if you if you can ride

1:16:03.360 --> 1:16:06.040
<v Speaker 1>with what we talked about, or if you're even open

1:16:06.080 --> 1:16:10.760
<v Speaker 1>to having a discussion about so, then let's meet for dinner. Yeah,

1:16:10.800 --> 1:16:14.200
<v Speaker 1>I really like that. But also just and again, UM,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess before we get out here, can I ask

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<v Speaker 1>you one more question? So a lot of the times,

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<v Speaker 1>especially because I only do deal with black men, but

1:16:22.200 --> 1:16:25.560
<v Speaker 1>even in this in the kink space, going to hedonism,

1:16:25.600 --> 1:16:29.040
<v Speaker 1>going to the sex clubs, UM, I do find it

1:16:29.400 --> 1:16:33.080
<v Speaker 1>still to be almost taboo for black men to allow

1:16:33.200 --> 1:16:36.519
<v Speaker 1>their partners to be with other men. So how was

1:16:36.600 --> 1:16:40.200
<v Speaker 1>that conversation with with King? And and what advice would

1:16:40.200 --> 1:16:42.519
<v Speaker 1>you give? Is that just not the nigger for me?

1:16:42.600 --> 1:16:44.680
<v Speaker 1>If he if he wouldn't allow me to also have

1:16:44.800 --> 1:16:48.120
<v Speaker 1>another man or you know, how do you bring up

1:16:48.120 --> 1:16:51.080
<v Speaker 1>that conversation? Um, I mean, I definitely think that we

1:16:51.160 --> 1:16:54.840
<v Speaker 1>have issues around ownership of our black bodies for sure.

1:16:55.120 --> 1:16:58.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean I think it's something that like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>other people, not white people in this country and across

1:17:02.080 --> 1:17:06.559
<v Speaker 1>the world, have had ownership of our black bodies, and

1:17:06.560 --> 1:17:10.400
<v Speaker 1>then that mentality has stuck, and then it transferred its

1:17:10.400 --> 1:17:14.120
<v Speaker 1>way into the leaders of our household having ownership of

1:17:14.439 --> 1:17:17.200
<v Speaker 1>and we see it of we see our black men

1:17:17.439 --> 1:17:23.519
<v Speaker 1>owning their moms, owning their daughters, their baby moms, you

1:17:23.520 --> 1:17:25.439
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, and and so on and so forth.

1:17:25.479 --> 1:17:27.880
<v Speaker 1>So I do think that's a lot of work that

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<v Speaker 1>we have to do to deconstruct, you know, that idea

1:17:30.560 --> 1:17:33.760
<v Speaker 1>of ownership, especially of black women's bodies. And I think

1:17:33.760 --> 1:17:37.439
<v Speaker 1>it's important for women to understand that mentality exists and

1:17:37.479 --> 1:17:41.120
<v Speaker 1>it's not love. You know, that fritnership is not like

1:17:41.160 --> 1:17:43.800
<v Speaker 1>oh he is not he don't play with me like that,

1:17:43.920 --> 1:17:48.680
<v Speaker 1>Like no, you know, he's putting restrictions and limitations on you.

1:17:49.080 --> 1:17:51.879
<v Speaker 1>So really ask yourself if this is something that's important

1:17:51.920 --> 1:17:53.720
<v Speaker 1>to you, and this is something that you really want

1:17:53.760 --> 1:17:58.080
<v Speaker 1>to do, then have a serious conversation, um, and not

1:17:58.280 --> 1:18:01.759
<v Speaker 1>just like you know, like you stop tripping, Like no, really,

1:18:01.920 --> 1:18:04.719
<v Speaker 1>I would really like to have sex with another partner,

1:18:05.320 --> 1:18:08.160
<v Speaker 1>And you know, it kind of bothers me that we

1:18:08.240 --> 1:18:11.040
<v Speaker 1>can't get past this. And if he's not willing to

1:18:11.120 --> 1:18:16.440
<v Speaker 1>have that conversation, he is still operating from a colonized

1:18:16.640 --> 1:18:20.800
<v Speaker 1>um mentality that needs to be broken down far before

1:18:20.840 --> 1:18:26.800
<v Speaker 1>y'all go to he though you know she needs to go.

1:18:27.439 --> 1:18:31.200
<v Speaker 1>You need a deeper level of work there. So you know,

1:18:31.240 --> 1:18:34.600
<v Speaker 1>I haven't had that experience um with King, but I

1:18:34.640 --> 1:18:36.479
<v Speaker 1>have dated someone that was like, yeah, we can have

1:18:36.520 --> 1:18:39.760
<v Speaker 1>like all the threesomes only with women, and it's just

1:18:39.840 --> 1:18:44.000
<v Speaker 1>like even it's as as someone who's bisexual. I'll have

1:18:44.040 --> 1:18:47.040
<v Speaker 1>threesomes from time to time, but that's not ideal. I

1:18:47.040 --> 1:18:50.080
<v Speaker 1>would prefer a woman just with a woman, and a

1:18:50.160 --> 1:18:53.400
<v Speaker 1>man just with a man, or a multiple man maybe,

1:18:53.439 --> 1:18:56.640
<v Speaker 1>but like I like the anatomy of a woman just

1:18:56.840 --> 1:18:58.880
<v Speaker 1>by itself and the intimacy that comes with being with

1:18:58.920 --> 1:19:01.960
<v Speaker 1>a woman, and then it's completely different um sexually that

1:19:02.040 --> 1:19:04.439
<v Speaker 1>I have my interaction with with men, and so I

1:19:04.439 --> 1:19:06.200
<v Speaker 1>actually like to keep those separate. But as soon as

1:19:06.240 --> 1:19:08.320
<v Speaker 1>they find out I like women, it's like, oh, we're

1:19:08.320 --> 1:19:10.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna have who we are have women all the time,

1:19:10.960 --> 1:19:14.680
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, no, no, I didn't really want you

1:19:14.680 --> 1:19:17.719
<v Speaker 1>can have one like I. You know, I was dealing

1:19:17.760 --> 1:19:20.720
<v Speaker 1>with seven for seven years. We had two two or

1:19:20.720 --> 1:19:25.439
<v Speaker 1>threesomes in seven years. And I picked the girls. They

1:19:25.439 --> 1:19:28.920
<v Speaker 1>were my friends. Um, they're still my friends. Uh, but

1:19:29.960 --> 1:19:31.320
<v Speaker 1>you know because I picked them, you know, and they

1:19:31.400 --> 1:19:34.519
<v Speaker 1>enjoyed themselves and we had a great time and you know. Um,

1:19:34.560 --> 1:19:37.200
<v Speaker 1>but no again, I want to thank you guys. Check

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<v Speaker 1>out jet Setting Jasmine dot com. Um, you guys can

1:19:40.600 --> 1:19:42.559
<v Speaker 1>check you guys are on tour. Goddamn more than us

1:19:42.840 --> 1:19:46.800
<v Speaker 1>are on tour. All the informations that we're going to

1:19:46.840 --> 1:19:49.559
<v Speaker 1>all the cities, all the countries. Okay, so if you

1:19:49.600 --> 1:19:53.720
<v Speaker 1>guys want to learn more about you know, um jet

1:19:53.760 --> 1:19:57.200
<v Speaker 1>Setting Jasmine performing live again. She does do things solo

1:19:57.240 --> 1:19:59.880
<v Speaker 1>as well as with King Noir. UM check it out

1:20:00.160 --> 1:20:03.639
<v Speaker 1>the descriptions in the episode. Um. Also, if you haven't

1:20:03.720 --> 1:20:08.920
<v Speaker 1>yet become a patrin bitch, um, go to Patreon dot

1:20:08.960 --> 1:20:13.000
<v Speaker 1>com Backslash Horrible Decisions. Um it is eighteen and up,

1:20:13.240 --> 1:20:15.120
<v Speaker 1>which is why you can't just go to the Patreon

1:20:15.160 --> 1:20:18.559
<v Speaker 1>platform and find us. We post porn, not our own porn,

1:20:18.800 --> 1:20:22.400
<v Speaker 1>but we do have porn sleepers on there. Um and

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<v Speaker 1>then we give you guys three extra episodes per month. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the only place that has allowed you guys to

1:20:28.040 --> 1:20:30.960
<v Speaker 1>get pre cell tickets for the show. Um. We still

1:20:31.000 --> 1:20:33.640
<v Speaker 1>have yet to announce New Orleans and Vegas. Listen, I

1:20:33.640 --> 1:20:35.840
<v Speaker 1>ain't even gonna hold you. It ain't me. It's listen,

1:20:35.880 --> 1:20:39.320
<v Speaker 1>it ain't me. Just know that y'all at my comments

1:20:39.360 --> 1:20:43.719
<v Speaker 1>and ain't me bitch. Um. If anything, I am working

1:20:43.720 --> 1:20:45.120
<v Speaker 1>my ass off to try to see if we can

1:20:45.120 --> 1:20:49.040
<v Speaker 1>get something during essence UM in New Orleans. But we

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<v Speaker 1>do in New Orleans this year. Just know it ain't me,

1:20:51.320 --> 1:20:54.080
<v Speaker 1>God damn it. We're working on it. Um. Vegas as well.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just venues. It's timing. It's a lot coming up,

1:20:56.400 --> 1:20:58.760
<v Speaker 1>especially with the holidays in the summer, but we're still

1:20:58.760 --> 1:21:02.160
<v Speaker 1>working on it. If you're sick of waiting. Um again,

1:21:02.880 --> 1:21:09.040
<v Speaker 1>we have Charlotte. Um. Oh wait, well this week coming up,

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<v Speaker 1>we have Charlotte. Well now that's next week. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>My calendar is a all fus up. So we have

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<v Speaker 1>Charlotte on March fourth. We have Orlando on March seven.

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<v Speaker 1>We have Atlanta on the March. By the way, if

1:21:27.400 --> 1:21:30.519
<v Speaker 1>you guys are interested, thank you, Yes, Vincent, come through

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<v Speaker 1>with the come through. If you guys are looking to

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<v Speaker 1>come to the UM Atlanta show, there are a few

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<v Speaker 1>tickets left. That maybe our largest show. UM. There is

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<v Speaker 1>less than a hundred tickets left for that show on

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<v Speaker 1>March twenty. Then on March will be in Toronto. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>April five, we will be in the Bay Area, and

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<v Speaker 1>then we are wrapping it up right now in l

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<v Speaker 1>A on April ninth. UM, So come out, check us out.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that Horrible Decisions that com UM. And yeah, y'all know,

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<v Speaker 1>funk with me. I got some new stuff coming out

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<v Speaker 1>with you have a lot of stuff coming out. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just excited that you guys have a lot of this

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<v Speaker 1>space to bring on people like Jasmine to explain and look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning with you guys. So again, I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>guys enjoyed this week's episode. UM. And again, this has

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<v Speaker 1>been yet another episode of horrible Decisions by six. This

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<v Speaker 1>is okay. Let me read the slow. If you were

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<v Speaker 1>able to live to the age of ninety and retained

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<v Speaker 1>either the mind of a third year old for the

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<v Speaker 1>last sixty years of your life, the mind or body?

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<v Speaker 1>Which would you want? If you're ninety years old, you

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<v Speaker 1>want the mind or the body of a third year old.

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<v Speaker 1>The body. Can you imagine how you'll sound? She findest

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<v Speaker 1>fun like I don't care. Like even when I was

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<v Speaker 1>like in my in my early twenties, I always had

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<v Speaker 1>an old soul. Niggas thought I was older all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I'mould pick the same. I'm my body, nig I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>fucking seven. Do you have a secret hunch about how

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<v Speaker 1>you'll die? I don't think about that. I think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna die on a I do not think about um.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so weird because honestly, I have a little flashes.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's weird because when I'm in a car, when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with somebody like I won't to me honestly, it's

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<v Speaker 1>why I don't I all hop out of my friend

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<v Speaker 1>believe that your date death day is like already written. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't think about that, and I honestly

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<v Speaker 1>want to get off this conversation. Well, I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna die doing something adventurous, like I think the

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<v Speaker 1>scariest way for me to die, in my opinion, would

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<v Speaker 1>be like drowning. I'm terrified of that. It almost happened

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<v Speaker 1>to me once. There was like someone I was playing

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<v Speaker 1>that chicken game whatever, what's it called when you're on

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<v Speaker 1>someone's shoulders. Oh, well, she didn't realize that I was

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<v Speaker 1>so deep under and I couldn't get up, and then

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<v Speaker 1>her legs were wrapping around my neck. And I remember

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<v Speaker 1>that feeling of almost passing out and drowning, and I

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<v Speaker 1>would never want that to happen. But I do think

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<v Speaker 1>when I die, I don't think about it's gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>like bungee to the next question number eight. Three things

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<v Speaker 1>you and your partner appear to have in common? So

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<v Speaker 1>you can answer this me and you. This is I

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<v Speaker 1>want to say thirty six questions to love each other? Um,

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<v Speaker 1>what do we have in common? I ain't gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>People listen to us, and I think now that we're

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<v Speaker 1>three years in, they realized we don't have much in

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<v Speaker 1>common outside of love to travel. We both love to

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<v Speaker 1>suck dick, and we we both get our hair done with.

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<v Speaker 1>We've we both love to travel, we both love we

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<v Speaker 1>both love our friends a lot. We love our friends.

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<v Speaker 1>We both like ethnic foods. I was gonna say we

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<v Speaker 1>both like bougie things, but I lowis bitten across and

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<v Speaker 1>you see I got a very very jacket. But this

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<v Speaker 1>is just now like things that I couldn't afford um

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<v Speaker 1>and I also used to. So the niggas i've when

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<v Speaker 1>I talk about sugar daddies and stuff like that, all

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<v Speaker 1>of the men that I've dealt with are those that

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<v Speaker 1>won't buy me. They would never they would never buy

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<v Speaker 1>me tangible things. They would buy me things for school,

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<v Speaker 1>they would pay for my bills, they would do things

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<v Speaker 1>for my livelihood, but they're they're not materialistic niggas. So

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<v Speaker 1>now that you know, they know I really don't need

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<v Speaker 1>that money that way, if I do ask for something,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, oh I want this, and they're okay, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm waiting on these wire celshos right now. So it's yes,

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<v Speaker 1>the pump that's my Valentine's list. That's literally what I'm getting. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's crazy because so they have a boot version and

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<v Speaker 1>open til versions and pumpers. So the boots are seventred

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<v Speaker 1>the and the other two are. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>the boot is seasonal, open toe was also seasonal, because

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<v Speaker 1>we live, I said, the pump I could wear a

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<v Speaker 1>year round. I would get in shoes by the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Um yeah, but see even my even even on Louis,

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<v Speaker 1>it's on like, um combat boots they said are uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>for me for those and yeah, those just like listen,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I want. I know that you like ship

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<v Speaker 1>like this, but that's kind of tacky. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not tacky. He's like, listen, it's too over the top.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like it's not. Then you can dress it down,

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<v Speaker 1>but you can wear that with cargo pants. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why you feel like it's too much.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, I think it's too showy. He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get you some while I sell ship, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna be all over it. And I'm like they're

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<v Speaker 1>just body standing that. I'm not gonna lie like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>one of those that didn't grow up with money. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have family members that have money, and to me,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe in spending so much money on something.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was talking to my homeboy about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you know, if I'm gonna buy something,

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<v Speaker 1>the monogram is gonna be only because they're gonna know

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<v Speaker 1>if it costs to a hundred and they're gonna because

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<v Speaker 1>they gonna see it. I don't want just a leather

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<v Speaker 1>for black leathers. Felt like the y s l like

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<v Speaker 1>he'll was tasteful and not that much. And he's like no,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like real, NS know when you have a

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<v Speaker 1>certain kind of time. I'm like, well, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know a bitch with I walked down the

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<v Speaker 1>street with Well, actually the way saw does have the

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<v Speaker 1>very round front with a certain kind of thing. But anyway, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Nine is for what in your life do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>most grateful? Ten? If you could change anything about the

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<v Speaker 1>your raised, what would be Eleven Tell take four minutes

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<v Speaker 1>and tell your partner your life story and as much

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<v Speaker 1>detail as possible. I think that's a good one too. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>If you could wake up tomorrow morning having gained one

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<v Speaker 1>quality or ability, what would it be.