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Speaker 1: You're welcome, guys to horrible decisions. Before we get started

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Speaker 1: with this week's episode, I do want to thank everybody

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Speaker 1: who came up and turned out and motherfucking texts. I

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Speaker 1: want to take my dick to all time row you

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Speaker 1: gotta I just got gifted a dick. Oh you sure

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Speaker 1: did by a are well, not you, but the other

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Speaker 1: half of you. I am excited to start this week's episode.

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Speaker 1: So many of our listeners have been wanting you to

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Speaker 1: come on, um and before I want to give you

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Speaker 1: the right motherfucking insure, I do want to say, y'all

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Speaker 1: know this your girl Mandy be a k A full

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Speaker 1: cor pumps a k A debt bitch ak stallion, and

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Speaker 1: you want to go ahead and tell the people who

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Speaker 1: you are. Hi, I'm wheezy and I am sitting across

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Speaker 1: from jet setting Jasmine. Put your mouth closer to it.

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Speaker 1: Look we don't you know, I gotta say. When I

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Speaker 1: we did our show in Chicago and um Glamazantaomi came

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Speaker 1: and she brought um Kingo's dick. So I was like,

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Speaker 1: that's my pointing in my hand, you know, and I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to talk, And at one point I started holding

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Speaker 1: we just said it was the last lady that we

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Speaker 1: were recording with, like, you can't wipe a big dick, right,

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Speaker 1: But she said right, but you didn't, and like how

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Speaker 1: long have y' all been together? And at what point

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Speaker 1: in time was your pussy Like, yeah, it fits now,

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Speaker 1: well before before any of that, I saw a picture

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Speaker 1: of it. Oh, and before I knew wherever the relationship

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Speaker 1: was going to go, the friendship, the business ship, whatever

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Speaker 1: it was, I said I could probably deal with that

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Speaker 1: every other night, and he was like okay, and I

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Speaker 1: was like cool. So that we came to some terms

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Speaker 1: of agreement early on that y'all weren't gonna funk every night,

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Speaker 1: and you can't wipe a big dick, but you can

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Speaker 1: a hole man, so that yeah, you have to the

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Speaker 1: whole comprehensive man, so that way you don't have to

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Speaker 1: focus on everyone loves when he comes on he is

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Speaker 1: and just I think another thing that's so great too,

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Speaker 1: is like when you think of I don't know if

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Speaker 1: you guys call each other porn stars or what verbid

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Speaker 1: you use, but like I consider Hingnore our porn star.

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Speaker 1: And I guess when I think of a male porn star,

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Speaker 1: especially like a dom like that, you just don't expect

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Speaker 1: him to be so sweet. I know that's a very

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Speaker 1: simple word for him, but when he said like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't find a way to wrap it up like

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Speaker 1: sometimes when it comes to sexual kings and fetishes. And

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Speaker 1: I'm just so grateful that he's been on our show

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Speaker 1: and that our listeners like loved him so much, and

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Speaker 1: especially male listeners because his energy, although dominant and mask

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Speaker 1: was just like Hey, I want to help you too,

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Speaker 1: you know, and that's so crucial for I think of

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Speaker 1: business like you guys have. So I wanted to ask you,

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Speaker 1: what how did how did you guys spend Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: So we excuse me, I am working through a cold

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Speaker 1: right now. Um. We were on the West Coast. I

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Speaker 1: We went to a museum like interact. We took pictures.

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Speaker 1: So see that's really you. What about you? How is

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Speaker 1: the Valentine's Day? He was great. So although I was

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Speaker 1: But um, you know, my man came with like a

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Speaker 1: It's like on Amazon for a hundred and eighty dollars.

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Speaker 1: Even they stopped selling um the league or was a

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Speaker 1: Nike one of them decides to put Kobe's like off

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Speaker 1: She lives down south somewhere. I won't say where, but

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Speaker 1: He was like, oh, thank you so much. This is

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. How can we have This is such

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Speaker 1: not everybody sucks through blood whatever, So I don't understand that.

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Speaker 1: I swear the pressure. I almost felt bad. This was

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Speaker 1: like hello. It was good though, um, but now we

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Speaker 1: If you guys never heard of that, it's this play

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Speaker 1: It feels like a haunted house, but it's not scary.

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Speaker 1: You just basically watched different scenes acting. So I was

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Speaker 1: and this was not the shrooms. It's like nine thirties.

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Speaker 1: on these beaded gowns like it's a whole thing. One

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to see other people seeing what I'm seeing.

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Speaker 1: So finally I found one black person okay, and I

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Speaker 1: that's it. I had to go around the room and

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Speaker 1: fucking tap this nick and I said excuse me, and

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Speaker 1: he came down. I said, do you see what I say?

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Speaker 1: If he starts laughing, he was like, yeah, they got

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Speaker 1: a baby and ship I was like, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I said, maybe he's had too, because I'm my eyes

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Speaker 1: out and my nick is gone, so I can't confirm

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Speaker 1: I don't know who you are. I know you don't

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Speaker 1: know who I am, but I just means you didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm really high right now. And then the first thing

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Speaker 1: he said, are you okay? I was like, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: push through. But in my seeing what I'm seeing, is

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Speaker 1: thought me. He's like, yes, it's really out. I said,

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Speaker 1: oh my god. So I'm trying to take off the mask.

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Speaker 1: They're like, no, no no, because they're gonna kick you out

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Speaker 1: if you take the mash. Bitch. I fucking walk out

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Speaker 1: of there. Right, there's people that haven't seen it yet.

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Speaker 1: he ain't got no more? She what is that? So?

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Speaker 1: Is that a renable Australia? So she's from there? I

425
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Speaker 1: think no, maybe not, I don't know, but she says

426
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 1: adds and I'm like, oh that's cute, like write your

427
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:28,560
Speaker 1: little exit. Um. Anyways, we're gonna get into our vanillaship.

428
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 1: I'm super excited to bring this up. Our listeners sent

429
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: it in and everyone kept tagging like, oh my god,

430
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 1: this made me think of Wheezy and added Wheezy literally

431
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Speaker 1: all of last week. So h G t V features

432
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Speaker 1: its first ever throuble on House Hunters Representation matters. The

433
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:51,280
Speaker 1: episode followed Ryan's Jelly on a quest to find their

434
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,639
Speaker 1: dream home UM titled Three is Not a Crowd in

435
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 1: Colorado Springs. The episode followed the three on the questifying

436
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:00,480
Speaker 1: their dream house in Colorado. The trio wanted to find

437
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 1: a new home that will accommodate their unique dynamic as

438
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,959
Speaker 1: well as provides space for Brian and Lorie's two children.

439
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:11,359
Speaker 1: So I wanted to ask you, Wheezy, and then I

440
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 1: do want to ask you and um your relationship um

441
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 1: with hubby, but Wheezy, when you were in your throuble, Um,

442
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 1: I do want to ask, would you guys look for

443
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 1: a three bedroom a one bedroom with a kid room,

444
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 1: an office and on one bed do you' all sleep together?

445
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,920
Speaker 1: I believe this this, And we said a master bedroom

446
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,719
Speaker 1: like a guest room, like y'all could do a two

447
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 1: bedroom with three people and together. I think we were

448
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 1: talking about, well, everybody make good money. You know what

449
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,320
Speaker 1: I'm saying. She has a great job, I make money.

450
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 1: He makes great money. So like, no one was ever

451
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 1: talking about goals that are unattainable. But we did say,

452
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 1: like we definitely got had a guest room for like

453
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 1: when someone getting on our nerves or and California. King

454
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: was the thing we talked about. Oh for the bed, well,

455
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: that would make so like the King bed. Luckily she

456
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 1: had one. I have a queen. Um, and then like

457
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 1: if we were ever vacation and like hotels have a king. Yeah.

458
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,919
Speaker 1: But I realized, I was like, I even had a

459
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 1: three stome in my bed recently and it's a queen.

460
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, she can't say her Yeah. No,

461
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 1: sleeping three people in a queen is not so Um.

462
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 1: If you guys have not you know, picked up on

463
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 1: the hints yet. This is the other half of King Noir,

464
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 1: who you guys love so very much on this show,

465
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:22,960
Speaker 1: and the first time I had him on, I know

466
00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: we talked a little bit about the dynamic of the relationship,

467
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 1: but it was before the baby. Um, I believe the

468
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 1: baby was on the way though this was Oh my god,

469
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: maybe the baby was on the way. UM. I want

470
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: to talk now about how do you guys? What relationship

471
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,199
Speaker 1: title or group would you guys fall under? Um, have

472
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 1: you guys ever been in a throuble? Do you consider

473
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: yourself Polly open swingers? What? What is the title for

474
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 1: y'all's relationship? It really is all of the above. Oh wow, um,

475
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 1: because sometimes we swing. We are definitely in an open relationship,

476
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 1: and I do think that most of those relationships can

477
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: fall under some form of open and um, he is polyamorous,

478
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: so I consider myself to be a sexual opportunist. Okay,

479
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 1: so it's you know, if it's a good time and

480
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,159
Speaker 1: it meets my needs, I'm with it. I find that

481
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 1: interesting because people always say things like when they're Polly,

482
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: it's together, and you don't identify that way. So how

483
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 1: does it work being Polly on one end but not

484
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 1: the other? Because I assume Polly to be like having

485
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: multiple relationships and kind of intertwining them. But I guess

486
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: not it doesn't necessarily And I think sometimes that becomes

487
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 1: problematic is that we have these very very tight ideas

488
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 1: about what all of these things have to look like.

489
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:43,440
Speaker 1: So that way, when you get in them and you realize,

490
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 1: you know, this aspect works for me, but this doesn't,

491
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 1: then you feel like I'm not good at being polyamorous

492
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 1: or I'm not good at being a swinger. And really

493
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 1: it's like you could just adjust it to what works

494
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: for y'all. You know, for us, when when we were pregnant, um,

495
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 1: we weren't really seeing other partners. We were very focused

496
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 1: on our you know primary Yeah, like we're about to

497
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,440
Speaker 1: bring in a new member to this family, Like, let's

498
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 1: make sure our ship is all together, let's make sure

499
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 1: the older girls are straight, you know, just the household,

500
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: the family. Um, he's here now we used to him,

501
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 1: so right now we opening things back up. Um. You know,

502
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,679
Speaker 1: we've we've thought about all kinds of different combinations that

503
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 1: could possibly work. I have the two older older children

504
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: from uh, you know, previous relationship, and King didn't have

505
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 1: any biological children, and you know, I always knew like

506
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,440
Speaker 1: maybe he might want children down the line. Um, and

507
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: I already knew he was Polly. So we even thought about,

508
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: like maybe there will be a woman that you'll meet

509
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 1: and you have children with, and I'll get to be

510
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,360
Speaker 1: a part of that with you the way that you've

511
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 1: been supporting me with my children. And you're already getting

512
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 1: into like some of the questions that I wanted to

513
00:25:55,920 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 1: to ask in the wh that is. But also, um,

514
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: I've never looked at it in the way you're looking

515
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,719
Speaker 1: at it. Um. So for someone who I think swinging

516
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: would work for me? Again, I really I recently said

517
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 1: My issue is I don't see many relationships that I've

518
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:14,880
Speaker 1: ever envied or that I want to emulate, or that

519
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 1: I don't know what a relationship really ideally would look

520
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 1: like for me. Um. But knowing that I do want

521
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: that open space, but there's still are boundaries that I

522
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,919
Speaker 1: would have. UM. I think it's interesting that you said

523
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 1: that he's Polly, but I'm not because I did always

524
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: think that if I were to get into a relationship,

525
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: his views would have to align with mine and we

526
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: have to be exactly on the same page. We just

527
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 1: got to respect each other. And can I ask one question?

528
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:42,159
Speaker 1: I know, UM, some of you guys don't know, but

529
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: we started late because of some audio issues. I do

530
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: have to leave. But I have a main question for you.

531
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,399
Speaker 1: I've been non monogamous for like the last two and

532
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: two and a half years, probably actually maybe since we started,

533
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: probably three years. But like managing jealousy, right, there's moments

534
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 1: where like I feel no, and and then it will

535
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 1: come and then I've heard had some criticism from friends

536
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: like oh, it's not for you, right, because I've had

537
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 1: those moments of jealousy. And I'm curious to know if

538
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 1: you know someone who seems you have such a big

539
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 1: level of commitment with him and strong ties. How do

540
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,679
Speaker 1: you manage jealousy and has it stopped or when does

541
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: it come up? Do you notice? So that's a great

542
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: question and it will always be there. The same people

543
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 1: who tell you that your relationships are not for you

544
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 1: because you get jealous, tell them to apply that same

545
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 1: thing to them in their monogamous relationship. We get jealous

546
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: and monogamous relationships also, we get jealous in our friendships.

547
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 1: You're like, bait, you went to go see Make Death

548
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 1: without me or Valentine's Day you went to All Star

549
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 1: Weekend with you know what I mean. So, jealousy is

550
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: a is an emotion. If we can actually accept that

551
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 1: we get jealous all the time, then we're able to

552
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 1: accept a little bit more in our relationships. We realize like, oh,

553
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: it's not because we're polly or because we're opener, because

554
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 1: we're swinging. It's because I feel insecure in this moment,

555
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 1: or I feel left out, you know, Or he didn't

556
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 1: take out the trash before he went to go have

557
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 1: dinner with so and so. Was he so excited that

558
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 1: you know, he's not meeting the needs of the householders,

559
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 1: you know, some things like that. So I don't try

560
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 1: to get over jealousy. I tried to sit with it.

561
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 1: Why what's making me jealous? I hate it. I want

562
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: to be like, you know, go have fun. I'm gonna

563
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna be here with the kids watching.

564
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: You know. I genuinely mean it when I say that,

565
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: Like I don't want monogamy because I feel like it's stifling.

566
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: Maybe not at this point in time because it's a

567
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 1: new love, like right, we've been dating like almost a year,

568
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: But I feel like I mean it when I say

569
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:52,479
Speaker 1: I want you to be happy. I mean it when

570
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 1: I want you to go out and other girls because

571
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: I do. But if we talk about it, I'm generally happy.

572
00:28:58,080 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: I'm excited to hear about it because I know he's

573
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: excited tell me. And there's this weird moment after I'm like,

574
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: why don't you just want to call me? Is it?

575
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: Why don't you want to? It's weird? And sometimes I

576
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: feel like that insecurity. Am I ever going to get

577
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: over that hump? Or am I really being serious when

578
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: I say it's a weird thing I'm going through? Yeah?

579
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: I mean it is. I think about how long we've

580
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: been we've been raised in program to be a particular way,

581
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,479
Speaker 1: So it's like we're challenging our own natural emotions on

582
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: top of the messaging that we've been hearing for you

583
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: know whatever, twenty plus years. You're supposed to grow up,

584
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: go to school, get a good job, marry one person,

585
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: love them until you die, and then anything that's out

586
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: of that sort. You start a question like like, Okay,

587
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 1: maybe this isn't for me. Maybe you know, maybe I

588
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: didn't make the right move. How do you make sure

589
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: that your things? Does king have to do to make

590
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable? Yes? So for us, jell And you ask,

591
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 1: you know, when do I realize jealousy for me when

592
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: we're not spending a lot of time with one another.

593
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 1: If we're spending like if we've been seeing each other

594
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: every single day and we've gonna get like like about

595
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: three weeks, it is probably our max. And then with

596
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: each other every day. Yeah, somebody needs to go out

597
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: of town for work, you know, just because we just

598
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: start like living on top of each other, then I'm

599
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: usually good. You know, he'd be like, you know, I'm

600
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: going out to l A. I'm probably gonna link up

601
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,239
Speaker 1: with so and so. I'm going to New York. I'm

602
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: probably gonna link up with so and so. That's cool.

603
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: You got in your city. I mean, it would be

604
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: nice if we could find someone a date in our city.

605
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: But things are a little different because of the type

606
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: of work that we do and because you know, we

607
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 1: we have a family in our household, and you know,

608
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: they go to school in our community. So it's a

609
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: little bit difficult to date in our community. But for

610
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: the most part, I mean, he's gone on a couple

611
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: of dates locally and it's it's fine, But it's when

612
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: we've been away from each other for like two or

613
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: three weeks and then and now you go, Okay, you

614
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: you're about to come home in a week, but you

615
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: mean you're going on a date, Like you can't just

616
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: wait until you get home, you know. So it really

617
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 1: has a lot to do with how much time we're

618
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: spending with each other. Um other things is how I

619
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: feel about my self. I know, when my self esteem

620
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: for you know, that week before your period rights stage. Yeah,

621
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,160
Speaker 1: I haven't there yet. I don't want nobody around me normally,

622
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 1: Like I don't even want company. I get I get

623
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 1: just really agitated. I literally just want to be by myself.

624
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: Even with my friends, like they'll know during that time

625
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: of week, but even if I'm dating, I'll be like

626
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 1: not not today. Just see. I should be more like that.

627
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:33,239
Speaker 1: I should say I need space, but instead I'm like,

628
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: but where are you? You know? Um? So sometimes you know,

629
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: it's just it's just that it's UM me being aware

630
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: of where I'm at in my life, what's going on

631
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 1: with me, and then articulating what I need from him.

632
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: So my question to you, A lot of a lot

633
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: of um our audience is also trying to find what

634
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: works for them relationship wise. UM. We've had a ton

635
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: of letters writing in saying that their partner doesn't please them,

636
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 1: but they don't want to cheat. UM, what y'all are

637
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: doing and the way that your relationship is set up,

638
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: you don't view any any of his other partners as

639
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: him cheating because you guys are open with it. Correct,

640
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: as long as we share with each other, UM, you

641
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 1: know our intentions, right we have. We finally got to

642
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 1: a point where it's like, if he's not gonna lead

643
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: to anything, Seriously, I don't need to know about every

644
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: single person you're flirting with. Okay, that's agree. Um. We

645
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 1: also have like a don't let me be the last

646
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: person in the room to know. Don't have me walk

647
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 1: up in a horrible decision. No, no, no, UM we

648
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: know because I see, UM, I don't know how you

649
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 1: handle that. Cisth um literally like everything. But I'm really

650
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 1: big with I don't want anyone on the podcast that

651
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 1: I've had relationships with. Um Weeie and I have gone

652
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 1: back and forth with that quite a few times because

653
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: she wants to bring her ex's on and talk across

654
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: with them, and and I'm just like, well, I won't

655
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 1: be here, like I don't want to involve myself in

656
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: whatever turmoil she's with. Our partners were at glad of

657
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: issue with Love a Girl? Were you around here and

658
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: love a Girl? She threatened to sue us child like

659
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: a whole lot of fucking bullshit. But I just know

660
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: that once you take it, their emotions are just more

661
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: and so anyone who has been on the podcast. I

662
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: have a nigga right now that I'm talking to. He's like,

663
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: when I'm gonna be on the podcast? I said, we

664
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: don't already. Fun guess you're not coming on. I said,

665
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 1: you can't come on now we didn't already have a sex.

666
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: You can't on the show. You can't suck your way

667
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: on the show, not with me, not gonna happen me.

668
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 1: I'm here on my own marriage, Like, I ain't gonna

669
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 1: hold you. That's why I wanted to dinner on the show.

670
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: And now no, let me let me keep him off

671
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: of it. Actually I want because I'm still trying to

672
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: shoot my shot over there. I goddamn. Now, I'm very

673
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 1: big with not mixing business and pleasure. Um, it's why

674
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: for like all of the things that I do behind

675
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: the scenes with horrible decisions, like anyone that we've ever

676
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 1: done work with, like, I want people to see me.

677
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: I'm very stern, very strong, very mean. I even have

678
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: to tell the people like that I work with sometimes

679
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if I'm coming off a certain way, but

680
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 1: I don't ever want to mix. So yeah, no, never

681
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: did that. Don't worry. No, you're not walking into don't know. Um.

682
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 1: But but like you know, that's that's something for us.

683
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 1: It's huge, it's huge, and we've actually had the conversation.

684
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: UM as far as if you smashed a friend, um,

685
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: letting your person you know, your partner know as much

686
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: as it may be uncomfortable to let him know before

687
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: the front lets him absolutely So at what I guess,

688
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 1: did you grow up in the kink space to where

689
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: this was comfortable for you? How did you know that

690
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: this is how you wanted to have relationship? Again, some

691
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 1: of our listeners are in their thirties and just now

692
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: realizing like, maybe monogamy isn't for me. Um, what conversations

693
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 1: did you have to have with yourself and how did

694
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 1: you open your mind into the kink space the way

695
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 1: that you have? So? I was raised a good Catholic

696
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:52,320
Speaker 1: girl and all right in the first generation from the

697
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 1: Philippines and Panama, grew up right in the forties projects

698
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: of far rockaway queens, moved down to Miami with those

699
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 1: same good values. Oh Miami turned you out? Okay, say less? Uh,

700
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 1: it was when I got when I got around years old. Um,

701
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: it's I remember going to drop my my daughter off

702
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 1: at school and somebody was like, hi, Mommy's mom and

703
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: I was like, what, Like, that's my name? Now? He

704
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:31,959
Speaker 1: didn't like that I became somebody's mom as my first name.

705
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: And I don't know why, but that kind of is

706
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 1: set off something in me, like what do you like

707
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:43,720
Speaker 1: to do? Who are you? Um? I don't remember having

708
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 1: done anything. And like at that point ten years that

709
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 1: was really based on something that I thought was like interesting, cool,

710
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: or exciting for me. There was a lot of building

711
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: of and raising children that was happening, but there was

712
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: no really like personal personal development. At that same time,

713
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: I was doing a radio show, The Emotion Picture with

714
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,720
Speaker 1: my brother um who's still supporting me even here tonight,

715
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: and UM we were asking we were asking each other

716
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: really crazy questions based on the topics, and it was

717
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 1: like like things about polyamory and threesomes and all these

718
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 1: different sexual and relationship experiences and questions, and it was

719
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: challenging me two really like you know, have you lived yet?

720
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 1: And why are you so conservative? Who? Who put this

721
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 1: in you know, in your head? So the conversation that

722
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,399
Speaker 1: I that I really did have with myself is who

723
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: gave you these messages? And like when you start looking

724
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: at the people as an adult, when you start looking

725
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 1: at the people who put things that you live by

726
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 1: in your head and you see how the motherfucker's are

727
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: living today, it's like that's who I'm listening to and

728
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 1: why Because either I'm gonna turn out like them, or

729
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 1: I just can't like this is this is not a

730
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 1: model This is not a model citizen even for me,

731
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 1: right and I want to say not even that monogamy

732
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: is a bad thing, UM, but I know that with

733
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 1: with you know, the conversations that I've had on this

734
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,880
Speaker 1: UM show the people that I'm meeting being more in

735
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 1: this space. UM. A lot of the people that are

736
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: in monogamous relationships I find to be not only not

737
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 1: truthful to their partners, but not truthful to themselves because

738
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,760
Speaker 1: it's just the ideals around monogamy or that it's one person,

739
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 1: one love, you have sex with one person. Even looking

740
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: at someone else is considered you know what what is it? Um?

741
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 1: Not um? When you covet yeah, you know? And so

742
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: everything about everyone that I know to be in monogamous

743
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 1: relationships spend more time defending their relationship than actually having it,

744
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: or they're constantly looking for something for the person to

745
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 1: be doing something wrong, because as we know, nobody is perfect,

746
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 1: and so it's like there's more time spent on seeing

747
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: what is that person doing when I'm not around. Let

748
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 1: me go through his phone, let me go through the laptop,

749
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: let me see this person and a lie because all

750
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: people lie. He can't be this perfect and and so

751
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 1: like in the conversations, everything you've said has been so beautiful.

752
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: When King Noir came in here and spoke on your

753
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 1: relationship and and how you guys grow in the communication

754
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,879
Speaker 1: and just the respect for each other. Um, I'm glad

755
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 1: that we could have these conversations for our audience, specifically

756
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 1: for people of color who often grow up in the church. Um.

757
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: And right now we're having, you know, just all the

758
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 1: backlash even just with um, the Dwayne Wade situation with

759
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 1: you know, um Zaiah, I think is what she wants

760
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 1: to be called, like coming out and just saying I

761
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 1: want to be identified as a girl daddy. That is

762
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: how I live my life and just seeing how many

763
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 1: people are uncomfortable with it. Um, so I wanted to

764
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,240
Speaker 1: get so. We have a segment on the show called

765
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,240
Speaker 1: a Hord derv. The Horde derv is a sex tip

766
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: And to me, I know that you probably have a

767
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 1: ton because you guys do fetish training, and I wanted

768
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: to talk to you. King Noir talked a little bit

769
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 1: about what he does. I know he specializes in flogging.

770
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: I've seen you as well with the flogging. But could

771
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: you give some sex tips that you give um during

772
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 1: your fetish training and also explain to us what your

773
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: role is in the fetish training because you guys do

774
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 1: it together sometimes I see, well, yes, so can you

775
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: get into that and your role as a woman and

776
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: what tips you give to women entering entering into those

777
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 1: training sessions. Um. So, one of my favorite things to

778
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: focus on is psychological domination. You know, there's a lot

779
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: of um, there's a lot of focus on like what

780
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 1: tools should I use? What you know, all of these

781
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: that that can take you a while to learn, you know,

782
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,319
Speaker 1: and to We went to my sex sungine together. I

783
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 1: don't know if he told you the last time he

784
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: was here and this sextungine, I'm waiting to get um

785
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 1: the master of the sex Engine on the show. Oh

786
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 1: my god. I was good. I love her. I got

787
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 1: her number and we went to this and it's so

788
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna let you get back. But I never

789
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: got to share the sex eungine experience. But the fact

790
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,439
Speaker 1: that he went in there because he's like, I'm not

791
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: comfortable with using certain of these toys and I want

792
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 1: to be sure I don't hurt anyone. I want to

793
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 1: be sure that when I'm teaching people how to use them,

794
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: because there's some heavy, high quality. They extended me on

795
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 1: like this thing and they put like leather straps around

796
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 1: my thighs because you know, I'm a little thick. I

797
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: was like, um, maybe not the rope, sweet get the

798
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 1: love they get the hardest is that hold me up

799
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: by Yeah? But it was just so incredible to see

800
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 1: that even he takes the time to just learn, knowing

801
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 1: that he's also a teacher. Um. So I appreciated that

802
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 1: as well. But yeah, it was super fun. I was

803
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: grateful that he allowed me like just I was like,

804
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: it doesn't notice. Um but okay, so psychological domination talked

805
00:40:56,239 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 1: to me. So what could you do without using a rope? Harness,

806
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:06,240
Speaker 1: without using your hands? Okay, so I'll be I fucking

807
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: But that's only like if we're at dinner or in

808
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: a club, Like once you catch eyes with someone for

809
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 1: a good amount of time, like it allows it lets

810
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: them know that you're interested. Um, I would say when

811
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: I dominate people, I'm I'm vocal, Okay, so I do

812
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: use my voice. Um, that's good, that's excellent. Outside of

813
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 1: that girl I ain't got no special powers. Okay, Okay,

814
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 1: let me. I'm gonna give you. I'm gonna give you

815
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: an exercise please, Okay. So let's yeah, we'll use this one.

816
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 1: So let's just imagine. I'm um, I'm on the West coast,

817
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: You're on the East coast. Okay, and we're that's too

818
00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: far girl. Okay, we're having a pseudo you and I

819
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:50,240
Speaker 1: right now, a pseudo dum sub relationship. Let's just okay whatever,

820
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 1: And UM, I help my my partners, well my couples,

821
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: learn how to connect when they're not even with each

822
00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 1: other because a lot of times, you know, people say,

823
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 1: we don't have time for for play for you know,

824
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 1: we worked so much, we worked these different shifts, or

825
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 1: she lived here and I lived there, And that's real.

826
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's that's the world that we live in.

827
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 1: You know. Um, women aren't staying at home waiting for

828
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: their husbands to come in, you know, they're not they're

829
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: working now, exacting. So how can you stay engaged? How

830
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,439
Speaker 1: can you add fetish play kink without even being able

831
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 1: to see each other? So, UM, I do the little

832
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: things like you know, go on FaceTime middle of the

833
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: day or something like that. UM, ask them what how

834
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:38,320
Speaker 1: they're doing at work? You know, it's like I'm doing okay, cool?

835
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:40,480
Speaker 1: Maybe have a task for them. So with something that

836
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 1: you're working on right now, a project you've been prepared.

837
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 1: Oh I have another podcast coming out, but it's far Yeah,

838
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 1: just scheduling to get into the studio. UM, so yeah,

839
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 1: that's the project all right. So you're gonna be a

840
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: bad girl right now. Okay, okay, okay. So I'm gonna say, hey,

841
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: many how are you? I'm good? Sup? Um, thanks for

842
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 1: taking a couple of minutes away from work to talk

843
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 1: with me. I wanted to check in with you for

844
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 1: a second. How is scheduling going? It's insane. I have

845
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: the tour, I have all of these things going on.

846
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: So are you telling me that you haven't done what

847
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: you were supposed to do? Oh? See, this is already

848
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 1: turning me out, y'all. Hear this, yeah, hear this. No,

849
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 1: But I'm going to get to it, like I I. Okay,

850
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 1: that's okay. UM. I kind of knew you would say that,

851
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 1: and if I were there, I'd be able to punish

852
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: you appropriately. But since I'm not, you're gonna have to

853
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 1: do it. Yourself, Mandy, So go ahead and walk out

854
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: your office. Go to that bathroom that's right around the corner.

855
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 1: Go ahead, I'll watch walk with me. Take the phone. Okay,

856
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: she walking out. Okay, she in the bathroom right around

857
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 1: the corner. For the thing going that stall. Put your

858
00:43:54,320 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 1: hands out, Mandy. Okay, how many um, how many studios

859
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: were you supposed to schedule this week to two episodes?

860
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: To spank your hands twice? Now? You know how you

861
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: doing little harder than that? You know, I want to

862
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 1: break I gotta show coming up or something like that,

863
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: and probably not your hands, but you know, put your

864
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: pants down. Go ahead and spank yourself twice. You know.

865
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 1: It's crazy though to think that I've done this. But

866
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 1: so the guy that I pegged, we haven't paid, like,

867
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: we haven't had that interaction in quite some time, and

868
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,520
Speaker 1: he misses like he wants to do that again, and

869
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 1: most recently and I probably like he's so bad, but

870
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 1: some most recently he'll call me when he goes to work,

871
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 1: and because it's the West Coast, it's like ten am

872
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: for me, seven am for him, and he's on his

873
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 1: way to work, and we were talking about the things

874
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: that we wanted to do. And so when he got

875
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: to his work parking lot, he played with he fingered

876
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 1: his ass in his car for me and set me

877
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 1: a video of it because I was like, well, you

878
00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: haven't set me that, so I and of course all

879
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 1: of my friends are like, girl, how the hell you beginning,

880
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: motherfucker to do this, but I didn't, Like, I'm like,

881
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 1: I just talked to them. But it is a psychological

882
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: domination or something like that. With him would be you know, um,

883
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 1: this week, you're gonna wear that anal plug to work

884
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: for the rest of the week. Yeah, Like and and

885
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,319
Speaker 1: he'll do like when he's at a stoplight, Like he'll

886
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: send me a video of him jacking his dick. And

887
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 1: he really likes how his work pants feel on his

888
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: on him, so like that becomes the whole conversation when

889
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 1: he's at work and I've gotten him to do things

890
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 1: in his office and things like that. So and I

891
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: actually used to do this with Lawyer Vey a lot. Um.

892
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 1: He would go into the stalls at work and I'd

893
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 1: be like, well, I want to see and this is

894
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: all of me sending him old videos or if if

895
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: I you know, I wasn't in class and I was

896
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 1: at home waiting to go to school. I could sell

897
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: himself while he was at work. So this is really

898
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: interest thing. And I think a lot of like the

899
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 1: women listening who want to maybe switch rolls. Maybe when

900
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: they're more of a sub role in the bedroom, this

901
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: could be how they dom outside of the bedroom. I

902
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: mean my sub she lives in in Philly. I think, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,

903
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I would love to bring her.

904
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 1: I just maybe want. First off, she's beautiful, she's freaking beautiful. Um,

905
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 1: but the submissive level that she's on I've never seen

906
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 1: and I and the whole time, I guess and she

907
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 1: was called a service sub. He referred to her as

908
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:44,080
Speaker 1: a service Yeah, and I was just like, she was everything.

909
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 1: Here's here's your water, are you thirsty? Like just being

910
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 1: so very attentive. She's well trained and so you guys

911
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:55,799
Speaker 1: trained her as your sub. This is her first dominant

912
00:46:56,280 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 1: dom sub relationship. Wow. So if a woman were to

913
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 1: come to you and say, hey, I really want to

914
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 1: sub because I feel like that's what would arouse me

915
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:08,800
Speaker 1: the most. What are some of the first questions you

916
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 1: would ask her to make sure that that's something that

917
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 1: would be for her sen your resume okay, professional resume,

918
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: not your you know, not your whole resume. Wait wait

919
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 1: wait you asking what does that matter? What someone? I

920
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:26,760
Speaker 1: want to know what your time, talent, and finances are, Like, oh,

921
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:29,479
Speaker 1: I mean, anyone suck a dig for the most part,

922
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 1: and I don't have a dick, so that doesn't help

923
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: me at all. Everybody always comes like I can suck

924
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: dick so good. I want to be yourself, Like, how

925
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 1: does that help me? That doesn't help you at all? No,

926
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 1: not a mother for work, like right, and I don't

927
00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 1: know who's sucking it because so I got the dial

928
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: do too, and my my, my mouth didn't even go

929
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: past the head. I said, I would be incompetent as

930
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,839
Speaker 1: fuck putting this in my God, and I'd like to

931
00:47:56,880 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: think I am a great aid dick sucker you but yeah,

932
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 1: but not with that thing. I was just like, nig

933
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: here you go, you get a hand jut. You know

934
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: what that's that's one of the drawbacks of having a

935
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 1: big day. Does your jaw stretch from sucking? Like you

936
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: know how yours? I mean, like your pussy gets used

937
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:17,759
Speaker 1: to big dicks, But does your mouth work the same

938
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 1: to you? You know, and this is I'm sure it's science.

939
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: I don't we just get really know what we ain't cool,

940
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:25,919
Speaker 1: don't do this. We're not gonna do this, and that's

941
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:27,480
Speaker 1: what we're not gonna do. I'm just like, I don't

942
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 1: know if the mouth stretches the same as a vagina,

943
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 1: it's not. We're getting cool positions. And you know, I

944
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: just learned other things that he likes. Okay, I can

945
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 1: dig that. I can dig that. So I wanted to

946
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 1: actually talk to you UM again. We mentioned the baby,

947
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: we mentioned your relationship. UM. I did want to get

948
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:53,399
Speaker 1: into sorry, UM, non monogamous consequences UM, if that makes sense.

949
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 1: And I wanted to talk to you about the boundaries

950
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:59,640
Speaker 1: that are set because especially which is now amazing. I

951
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 1: didn't know you identified as almost all of the ethical

952
00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: nonmonogamy titles UM. But I wanted to talk about the

953
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: boundaries that you UM set. Also how it is dating

954
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 1: while being in sex work UM. And then I just

955
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 1: had a couple what if questions and how you would

956
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:19,080
Speaker 1: handle those being in the relationship that you're in now. UM.

957
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,399
Speaker 1: So I think you did mention some of the boundary

958
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 1: What are the boundaries UM, or do you suck them.

959
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 1: You guys seem really like respectable, Like are their boundaries

960
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 1: that are set? And the main thing is letting each

961
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 1: other know. You know, there there are some people that

962
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: UM that he's either dated or wanted to day and

963
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 1: I've just been like like, nah, don't do that because

964
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 1: like she's stepped to me sideways or you know what

965
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 1: I mean, UM, or you know, like if you just

966
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 1: didn't get a good vibe where I realized, like I

967
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:50,960
Speaker 1: don't really think that he cares for this person. It's

968
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: like why try to bring that person into not necessarily

969
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 1: into our relationship, but still like bringing someone into my

970
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:02,840
Speaker 1: life is still bringing someone into our life, right, So UM,

971
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 1: it is important that whoever we deal with not not

972
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: only that we communicate with each other, but that we

973
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 1: are communicating with that other person and they understand what

974
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 1: our relationship is like, so there's no there's no confusion,

975
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: you know. So that's part of our responsibility. Well, it's funny.

976
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 1: We we had this conversation UM as well, like and

977
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 1: this is probably after the first UM episode that he did,

978
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: and I was like just questioning as well as the

979
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: dynamic and how it works. And maybe it's more so

980
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:33,839
Speaker 1: me being wanting to feel in control. But I told him,

981
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: I was like, I know, Jasmine is you're primary. I

982
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:38,280
Speaker 1: don't know if I could ever go into something knowing

983
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: that I'm under another woman. Um do the other women

984
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 1: that that deal with him? Do you know if that's

985
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:48,439
Speaker 1: a feeling, um, that that you come first? Really? Because

986
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:50,320
Speaker 1: I know a lot of women do want to feel

987
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: like their first. Um. But in that dynamic and a

988
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,479
Speaker 1: lot a lot of these there is a primary, Yeah,

989
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:59,439
Speaker 1: there is. And I think the best setup is when

990
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 1: when our secondary partner has their own primary partner, you

991
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:07,439
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I think that tends to work

992
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 1: the best. Or if they are uniquely submissive, you know,

993
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:18,719
Speaker 1: so being or feeling second or whatever anything, but being

994
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: in the primary doesn't have that same kind of pressure

995
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:26,359
Speaker 1: or you know, um other than that, Like for us,

996
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: our boundaries changed, like we continuously talk about them. With

997
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 1: the baby, it was a little bit different when it

998
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 1: came to work. It's like, it's work, so I don't

999
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: get to go like, well, you know, um, I'm gonna

1000
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 1: pick who you're gonna start with with that company. Like,

1001
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 1: but for our company, we we handle that like a

1002
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 1: business decision. It's not like I don't want you fucking

1003
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: that girl because I feel jealous. Is like, no, like

1004
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 1: is this gonna sell right when it comes to work?

1005
00:51:57,239 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 1: Is just like we make sure that person not racist

1006
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 1: to talk reckless then you know, and they got a

1007
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 1: clean test or whatever, of course. Um. But other than that,

1008
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 1: we try really hard to keep it open and fluid,

1009
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 1: because when you have rules that are so rigid, you

1010
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 1: find yourself being like, oh, I should have created a

1011
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: rule for that rule I forgot, you know. And it

1012
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 1: hasn't always been easy. They have been times where I

1013
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 1: was like, well, I need to know like a week

1014
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 1: before and you know, right, because yeah, we even talked

1015
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 1: about that, like the rules and boundaries that you would

1016
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 1: even set in a threesome, like you know you like,

1017
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 1: um And I can't remember the guest that we had

1018
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,359
Speaker 1: on but she remembered or no, actually should it was me? Um,

1019
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 1: I had a threesome with one of my friends and

1020
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: her partner and I completely didn't have the conversation as

1021
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: if if kissing was too much, and I didn't have

1022
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 1: the conversation with what really their boundaries were. Um. And

1023
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 1: so I know that that's something for me like that

1024
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: I would have but also I know, like right now,

1025
00:52:56,600 --> 00:52:58,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would want to know it

1026
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: all UM. To me, it's more so about like, you know,

1027
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 1: don't have a baby, don't like you know, don't bring

1028
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: nothing back to me, don't have a woman, also questioning

1029
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 1: my position with you. So I wanted to ask. I asked,

1030
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 1: I have three questions you already kind of mentioned UM again,

1031
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,800
Speaker 1: I wanted to bring up UM. This is something recent.

1032
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: So UM the rapper of the baby and his baby

1033
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: mom are currently expecting a child. However, she just went

1034
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: on a complete um posting screenshots and everything else because

1035
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:33,399
Speaker 1: she found out that he is expecting another baby with

1036
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 1: another woman. However, when their relationship with like when we

1037
00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 1: all started finding out who she was, she did do

1038
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 1: an interview and was like, me and him are single,

1039
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: but that's still my boo. So I wanted to talk

1040
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:52,320
Speaker 1: about even the I guess lack of communication or ideal

1041
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:55,479
Speaker 1: that we are someone's primary but we expect from them,

1042
00:53:55,560 --> 00:54:00,399
Speaker 1: but we know that titles suck. But so that made

1043
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 1: me come to this question, So, how would you handle

1044
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: UM being in the non monogamous relationship that you are,

1045
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:11,399
Speaker 1: and how would you handle King coming to you and

1046
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:14,279
Speaker 1: saying Hey, I got someone else pregnant, especially after you

1047
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: too just now started a new family together. What would

1048
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: that conversation be like? And is there a way to

1049
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: prevent that from happening? Oh? Yeah, there's like well, you know,

1050
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 1: I think about that more often than than people probably think,

1051
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:35,399
Speaker 1: because of the type of work that we do, more

1052
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: than his personal sex. Um. You know, I've I've dated him.

1053
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 1: I know what his personal sex is like. He is

1054
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 1: very good about using protection, you know. So that's that's

1055
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: one that's important. But the work that we do is

1056
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 1: not it's not protected most of the time. So I

1057
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:57,479
Speaker 1: do think, like, and those girls aren't on birth control? Well,

1058
00:54:57,520 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 1: that's not a question that we generally act. So porn

1059
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 1: porn performers usually do what they're supposed to do to

1060
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: protect their you know, protect themselves from becoming pregnant. Um.

1061
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 1: Most are very responsible because this is this is our work.

1062
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 1: You know, you can't most people are not going to

1063
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: make money if they're constantly having babies, right. So um,

1064
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:21,239
Speaker 1: but I do think, like, what if somebody forgot to

1065
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:24,839
Speaker 1: take their pill right or um, what if she thought

1066
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:26,920
Speaker 1: she was not able to have children and all of

1067
00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:29,840
Speaker 1: a sudden she can uh and you know, that would

1068
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 1: be a consequence of the work that we do. So

1069
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: that's not something that I could see myself being like,

1070
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 1: how do you not know? So you don't feel like

1071
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 1: it's a consequence as far as in your personal arrangement

1072
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 1: with allowing him to others, I mean, as long as

1073
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 1: you're would condoms would So there's a two percent chance.

1074
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 1: You know, I trust him to use a condom, right,

1075
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:54,800
Speaker 1: And I also know that I can trust the condom

1076
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:59,440
Speaker 1: to do his job up to a certain percentage. So

1077
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I would probably be upset because

1078
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: this isn't something that we plan um when we were

1079
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 1: talking about expanding our family, and it may not be

1080
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 1: through my body and maybe through him in another relationship.

1081
00:56:10,040 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 1: You know, we had the conversation. So it's not a

1082
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:15,760
Speaker 1: foreign thought for him to have a child with another woman,

1083
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:20,160
Speaker 1: but an unexpected situation, it would feel like an unexpected situation.

1084
00:56:20,440 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 1: Would it feel like cheating? No? Right, I know that

1085
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: that's also been um, not only with what happened with

1086
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:29,359
Speaker 1: the baby, but um. Dwyane Wade just recently came out

1087
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:32,520
Speaker 1: with a documentary where he and Gabrielle Union opened up

1088
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 1: about the break baby that happened. Um, they're both you know,

1089
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 1: UM aligned with that they weren't technically together at the

1090
00:56:40,920 --> 00:56:43,360
Speaker 1: time that it happened. But I know again in the

1091
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:45,759
Speaker 1: space when you do allow your partner to go out

1092
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,719
Speaker 1: and have other partners, that these are things that you

1093
00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: hope doesn't doesn't happen. But I don't think we've had

1094
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 1: the conversation. And of course I wish Weasy was here

1095
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 1: as well, because you know and I know that UM

1096
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 1: last episode or a few episodes ago, she was just like, well,

1097
00:56:59,760 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't in town, so I told him go out

1098
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 1: and have fun and so but I I just don't

1099
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 1: know how those conversations would be if you're letting him

1100
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:09,760
Speaker 1: have this fun and then he brings that back home.

1101
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:14,920
Speaker 1: Another question that I had is how would you handle

1102
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 1: or if it's a conversation about your partner telling you

1103
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 1: that he loves another woman. UM. And I know again

1104
00:57:23,400 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 1: you're super open and free with this, but to me, UM,

1105
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:31,480
Speaker 1: my idea of open relationships is why I would see

1106
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 1: you're clear of this. I want to me, I know

1107
00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 1: that you could have emotionless sex and if it's cheating,

1108
00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 1: I want you to, you know, go out and have

1109
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 1: if you if you want to have sex, I don't

1110
00:57:41,240 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 1: want to feel like I'm tying you down. Of course,

1111
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: do it responsibly. UM. But my fear is the idea

1112
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: of you sharing like strong feelings and an emotional connection

1113
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:54,760
Speaker 1: to someone else. UM. What is the conversation that you

1114
00:57:54,840 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 1: have in regarding that and are you find do you

1115
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 1: feel like someone can fully you know, have all of

1116
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:06,439
Speaker 1: those feelings for multiple women? I do, UM, I feel

1117
00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: like and and knowing him by the time he got

1118
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 1: to a position of loving someone, then they're already like

1119
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: I've already accepted the idea of them being in our

1120
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 1: life for a long long time. You know, they're the

1121
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: women that he has stated that. You know, he's really

1122
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 1: liked them and they really liked him. And by no

1123
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:31,760
Speaker 1: means do I approve a relationship. I share my thoughts

1124
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: on it. I share how UM, I think this person

1125
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: will compliment him, will compliment us, I share what I

1126
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: don't like. I mean, I'd be putting it off, and

1127
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: you know that's a decision for him to make. So

1128
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 1: if I could see, like, this person seems like they're

1129
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 1: a good fit. They've been around, they're doing things together.

1130
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 1: You know, we're talking about her, I talked to her.

1131
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:58,280
Speaker 1: I could see that, you know, I know he's lovable,

1132
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:03,000
Speaker 1: you know, and and he is starting to voice everyone

1133
00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 1: fell in love with him on the show, So I

1134
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:11,040
Speaker 1: would already I would expect that to happen. Now. Unfortunately,

1135
00:59:14,360 --> 00:59:20,040
Speaker 1: excuse me, Unfortunately a lot of these relationships haven't, you know,

1136
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:22,240
Speaker 1: they haven't made their way to the point of love.

1137
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:24,920
Speaker 1: But once I thought that they were getting serious, I've

1138
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 1: definitely put in my mind, like, Okay, what would that

1139
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:30,400
Speaker 1: be like if you know, she moved closer to Florida

1140
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 1: or you know, so I don't know, it doesn't surprise me.

1141
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 1: And as far as um a man or anybody being

1142
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:40,040
Speaker 1: able to love multiple people, the way that we look

1143
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 1: at it is like we could think of hundreds of

1144
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 1: people that we love, what of all different types of relationships.

1145
00:59:47,040 --> 00:59:49,600
Speaker 1: And I don't say like, nah, you can't love your

1146
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: your best friend like me, you know, or you got

1147
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:56,479
Speaker 1: love for your cousin, Nah, love for me. So there's

1148
00:59:56,520 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: no way that I can limit his love or even

1149
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: look at it from that way. Um. I do understand

1150
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 1: where people want to have like a certain type and

1151
01:00:04,960 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 1: a certain intimacy, but the love that he and I have,

1152
01:00:08,520 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: he can't have that with you because you know me

1153
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 1: right right right, So it doesn't like I don't. I

1154
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: just can't think about it that way. If he said

1155
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:18,640
Speaker 1: I love her, I would like, Okay, you love her

1156
01:00:18,640 --> 01:00:22,000
Speaker 1: for her, like you don't love her because she's like me,

1157
01:00:22,200 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: or I have nothing to do with that really, right.

1158
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 1: So I So the home mail question that I have

1159
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,840
Speaker 1: for this episode, it's coming from me, UM, and it's

1160
01:00:30,880 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 1: because I've been talking a lot about relationships on Instagram

1161
01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 1: Live UM again meet with the idea of what I

1162
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 1: would want UM not being as controlling, you know, because

1163
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 1: I would let the person do what they want. But

1164
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: a lot of times the men I've gotten kicked back

1165
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 1: from the men in my life as well as the women, saying, well,

1166
01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:52,960
Speaker 1: you shouldn't let a guy know upfront that he can

1167
01:00:52,960 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 1: go out and have sex with other people. You shouldn't

1168
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:57,880
Speaker 1: let a guy know upfront, UM, that you're okay with

1169
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:00,640
Speaker 1: this happening, or that you would allow this or you know.

1170
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: So my question to you is being in the space

1171
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 1: where I do want to date UM, and I am

1172
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 1: looking for a partner that would accept you know. Again,

1173
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,440
Speaker 1: I don't even know where what I would define it

1174
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: as UM. How do I open up and say like, yeah,

1175
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:17,680
Speaker 1: I want to be with you, but you can also

1176
01:01:17,880 --> 01:01:20,040
Speaker 1: you know, do what you want. But I want something

1177
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:23,920
Speaker 1: real with it not sounding like a situation ship, you

1178
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 1: know what I mean, because I think that that's um

1179
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:29,640
Speaker 1: where I don't know, like I feel like I've been

1180
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 1: where I knew you was doing what she was doing.

1181
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 1: I personally don't want to know the girls. I don't

1182
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: want them coming to me. I don't care about them.

1183
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 1: Like again, like I'm hoping you're responsible. I don't want

1184
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 1: to know anything about what you guys do, but I

1185
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 1: do want to build a relationship. And I just feel

1186
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:47,520
Speaker 1: like a lot of men are saying that if I'm

1187
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:51,480
Speaker 1: allowing them that freedom, that I won't hold that title.

1188
01:01:51,840 --> 01:01:55,479
Speaker 1: So like, yeah, I don't. I don't agree with those men. Um,

1189
01:01:55,520 --> 01:01:57,600
Speaker 1: but again, you know, that might be their thing for

1190
01:01:57,680 --> 01:02:01,240
Speaker 1: their for them and their relations it for me, I

1191
01:02:01,280 --> 01:02:05,200
Speaker 1: think what I had to to make very clear is

1192
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 1: um at the time that we met, a lot of

1193
01:02:07,360 --> 01:02:10,440
Speaker 1: guys were saying to me because I was doing like

1194
01:02:10,560 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 1: these um sex toy parties and all that time, it's like, oh,

1195
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,960
Speaker 1: soon you're gonna slowed it, like you'll you'll you'll want

1196
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 1: to slow down soon enough. We get that about the podcast,

1197
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:21,720
Speaker 1: Like even about us coming on here talking and sharing

1198
01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:25,720
Speaker 1: our stories, they say the same thing like even either, ay,

1199
01:02:25,800 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 1: we're not datable right now because of the podcast, um

1200
01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 1: that we say wild stuff. Um of course even in dating,

1201
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:34,640
Speaker 1: Like one of the first questions that I get is

1202
01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 1: are you going to share this on your show? Like,

1203
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 1: so it's a it's a lot right now with dating

1204
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:44,160
Speaker 1: because of the show and us being in the sex space. Um,

1205
01:02:44,240 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 1: but also because we are fairly young. With these non

1206
01:02:47,880 --> 01:02:52,919
Speaker 1: monogamous ideals, I'm finding it hard now to say them

1207
01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 1: without seeming like I just want a situation ship, but

1208
01:02:56,120 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 1: that I want more. Well, I think the more the

1209
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 1: more you define what it is that you want, or

1210
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:04,680
Speaker 1: even what you're trying to figure out, which is going

1211
01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: to explore and judging their reaction. If their reaction doesn't

1212
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,000
Speaker 1: go I want to help you want to stand that,

1213
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 1: or that's interesting, or I want to stick around to

1214
01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:18,160
Speaker 1: figure out what that might look like. Then they're not

1215
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:20,959
Speaker 1: for you, you know what, Like let me be easy

1216
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:23,360
Speaker 1: for you. So a king, I was like, listen, I

1217
01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: don't want to settle down. I like what I do

1218
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:28,760
Speaker 1: you know? I like that you got this kind of

1219
01:03:28,760 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 1: like crazy edgy thing going on. I wanted us to

1220
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 1: make money together, you know, but I want you to

1221
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 1: still do the freaky ship because I got the kids.

1222
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: That helps. I need to hear about some of your

1223
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 1: freaky ship because I can't okay you. And then when

1224
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 1: we started to get a little bit more serious, I

1225
01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: was like, these are the needs that I need met

1226
01:03:44,880 --> 01:03:48,360
Speaker 1: for me, Like this makes me feel like I'm in

1227
01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 1: the kind of relationship I want to be in. And

1228
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 1: as long as those needs are met in your spare time,

1229
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:57,240
Speaker 1: you can do those other things that meet your needs.

1230
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 1: And I don't want to be responsible for meeting all

1231
01:03:59,640 --> 01:04:03,720
Speaker 1: of your Oh I do not. I like that, And

1232
01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 1: he was he's okay, he has been okay that that

1233
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:10,600
Speaker 1: has still maintained been a main thing for us. He

1234
01:04:11,040 --> 01:04:13,520
Speaker 1: said that on the very first episode that I had

1235
01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 1: of him, and he's um and and we had the conversation.

1236
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 1: He's like, because I think I started the episode with

1237
01:04:19,040 --> 01:04:21,360
Speaker 1: a pretty Ricky song and he was like, what the

1238
01:04:21,360 --> 01:04:25,520
Speaker 1: funk are you playing? And so his example was like,

1239
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 1: if I'm with a partner or or like my partner

1240
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:31,160
Speaker 1: wants to go and see pretty Ricky, that's not something

1241
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:33,520
Speaker 1: that would make me happy. But I don't want to

1242
01:04:33,600 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 1: keep her from happiness. So if she wants to go

1243
01:04:36,240 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 1: and enjoy Pretty Ricky with another guy, if I really

1244
01:04:39,560 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 1: love my partner, I want her to be happy, why

1245
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:45,120
Speaker 1: would I not let her go see the Pretty Ricky concert. Look,

1246
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:48,160
Speaker 1: I know why you and King are friends. Yeah, okay,

1247
01:04:48,960 --> 01:04:53,080
Speaker 1: I get it. You know, you know he would be like, oh, like,

1248
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:56,439
Speaker 1: I'm texted with Mandy Dad And I was like, thank god,

1249
01:04:57,040 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 1: because I don't care about All Star Weekend in that.

1250
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:02,800
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, no, I know. Look, I know you

1251
01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:04,600
Speaker 1: were like, girl, why are you still talking about this?

1252
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 1: I know our listeners were like, so this is a

1253
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 1: basketball podcast. Now I'm happy about your level of excitement,

1254
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:13,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yeah, but like y'all could

1255
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 1: talk about stats and basketball yeah and bullshit. Um he

1256
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:21,480
Speaker 1: sends music, he um, he um asks me like my

1257
01:05:21,520 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 1: thoughts on his scenes, especially too, because he's had bigger

1258
01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:26,960
Speaker 1: women on this scenes. He's had just a lot of

1259
01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:29,880
Speaker 1: different things. Um. Actually, ship I got He's supposed to

1260
01:05:29,880 --> 01:05:34,480
Speaker 1: be letting me direct one Um what next week or

1261
01:05:34,520 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 1: something like that. Yeah, And so I'm like, you know,

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01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 1: I've never really held a camera, but I know the

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01:05:39,840 --> 01:05:42,200
Speaker 1: angles that I like enjoying. So he's like, yeah, we'll

1264
01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:44,920
Speaker 1: talk about like where we should you know, put the

1265
01:05:44,920 --> 01:05:47,120
Speaker 1: camera and stuff like that, but I just enjoyed too,

1266
01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 1: Like there's a lot of things that, yeah, I don't

1267
01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:53,080
Speaker 1: understand about what you guys relationship is. And that's why

1268
01:05:53,280 --> 01:05:54,840
Speaker 1: every time he's come on and I've asked questions of

1269
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:57,919
Speaker 1: how it works. Um hearing also from the woman's side,

1270
01:05:57,920 --> 01:06:00,160
Speaker 1: which is why everyone was like, y'all need jazz on

1271
01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:02,280
Speaker 1: the show? Why isn't Jasmine been on the show? But

1272
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 1: I love that pretty much You're saying, which I think

1273
01:06:07,080 --> 01:06:09,160
Speaker 1: a lot of people listening have picked up on it too,

1274
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:12,000
Speaker 1: is you know what your needs are and he meets

1275
01:06:12,040 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 1: those and that's all you need for your relationship. And

1276
01:06:15,560 --> 01:06:18,320
Speaker 1: I think that that's what we I guess we seek

1277
01:06:18,480 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 1: people to normally be everything, and it's it's also like

1278
01:06:24,560 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 1: not realistic. Yeah, that's why you're always looking to see

1279
01:06:27,440 --> 01:06:32,120
Speaker 1: like you know, right, or wanting more because your your

1280
01:06:32,280 --> 01:06:36,720
Speaker 1: your goal is impossible, you know. So look, let me

1281
01:06:36,760 --> 01:06:38,760
Speaker 1: tell you what else I outsourced anal sex. I don't

1282
01:06:38,760 --> 01:06:41,680
Speaker 1: want to do that. I know you don't. I don't

1283
01:06:41,680 --> 01:06:43,000
Speaker 1: want to do I wouldn't want to do it with

1284
01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:45,440
Speaker 1: that either. I don't think it's possible to say. He

1285
01:06:45,520 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 1: didn't say he's had anal sex before. And I said, how,

1286
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:54,440
Speaker 1: oh plenty, How what assholes are those taking in? Bro? Like,

1287
01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:57,520
Speaker 1: So we're gonna end up gifting this um and I'm

1288
01:06:57,560 --> 01:06:59,600
Speaker 1: not sure what live show yet, only to somebody who

1289
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 1: can take in there like you. I'm not giving it

1290
01:07:02,360 --> 01:07:06,560
Speaker 1: to someone who cannot take this thing. So King noir

1291
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:10,200
Speaker 1: Um has a mold. And it's funny because I got

1292
01:07:10,200 --> 01:07:12,680
Speaker 1: this when I came into the studio like last week,

1293
01:07:13,120 --> 01:07:17,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, nigga nah, And he sent it

1294
01:07:17,160 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 1: with his next to it, and I'm not gonna lie.

1295
01:07:20,160 --> 01:07:23,200
Speaker 1: His looks bigger than this because he was hyped to

1296
01:07:23,280 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 1: send my pictures like but even down to the vein.

1297
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:29,800
Speaker 1: So guys, if y'all were like, I'm like, how does

1298
01:07:29,840 --> 01:07:32,080
Speaker 1: yours look bigger than this? I said, oh nah, bro,

1299
01:07:32,280 --> 01:07:36,600
Speaker 1: like good good root time we've tried, you know sex,

1300
01:07:37,720 --> 01:07:40,160
Speaker 1: we get like that much tion, right, And but in

1301
01:07:40,200 --> 01:07:44,840
Speaker 1: my mind I'm way back and I'd be like, so

1302
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,120
Speaker 1: then I go, how did I do? He was like, yes,

1303
01:07:48,480 --> 01:07:51,120
Speaker 1: you know what, You're gonna somebody else? So the guy

1304
01:07:51,200 --> 01:07:54,840
Speaker 1: that I just had perpendicular sex with I kept telling him.

1305
01:07:54,840 --> 01:07:56,360
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I wanted in my butt. I

1306
01:07:56,400 --> 01:07:59,040
Speaker 1: wanted in my butt, but y'all know. So I have

1307
01:07:59,080 --> 01:08:00,760
Speaker 1: a joke that I only do know once a quarter.

1308
01:08:01,200 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 1: But I haven't done anal because I cut off. I

1309
01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:06,680
Speaker 1: cut him off in October, so it's been almost six

1310
01:08:06,760 --> 01:08:09,360
Speaker 1: months since I've had anal. So the last time I

1311
01:08:09,440 --> 01:08:11,160
Speaker 1: was with him, I was like, you can do it,

1312
01:08:11,200 --> 01:08:13,320
Speaker 1: and girl, it was not going in it. It ain't

1313
01:08:13,360 --> 01:08:16,640
Speaker 1: just half the size of this, but it's big and

1314
01:08:16,680 --> 01:08:18,920
Speaker 1: it wouldn't get there. And we started with the toy.

1315
01:08:19,080 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 1: I had my butt plug my toy, went through the

1316
01:08:21,360 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 1: whole emotions, and he was like, I knew you wasn't

1317
01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:25,839
Speaker 1: gonna be able to take it. He told me he

1318
01:08:26,040 --> 01:08:28,960
Speaker 1: wants to do it. He's only had anal sex one

1319
01:08:28,960 --> 01:08:31,680
Speaker 1: time in high school and the girl blood. So he's like,

1320
01:08:31,720 --> 01:08:34,960
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm hurting, you know, I just haven't

1321
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:37,519
Speaker 1: wanted to try it. So I'm gonna hopefully try it again.

1322
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:40,800
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know when I see him again, but yeah, no,

1323
01:08:40,920 --> 01:08:43,800
Speaker 1: not doing it. So you outsode, you say, listen, king,

1324
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:50,040
Speaker 1: if you want to have anal sex, go So ladies

1325
01:08:50,680 --> 01:08:54,000
Speaker 1: for y'all answering the questions or or sending in the

1326
01:08:54,120 --> 01:08:58,920
Speaker 1: questions for homemail about your partners wanting to do threesomes,

1327
01:08:58,920 --> 01:09:01,040
Speaker 1: are wanting to do things that you know you're not

1328
01:09:01,120 --> 01:09:05,000
Speaker 1: comfortable with. Um, would you call it a hall pass

1329
01:09:05,040 --> 01:09:06,880
Speaker 1: for maybe the people who are in these type of

1330
01:09:06,920 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 1: monogamous relationships, because I do like, again the idea of

1331
01:09:11,200 --> 01:09:15,519
Speaker 1: keeping your partner happy and not making them feel prisoner

1332
01:09:15,600 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 1: in their relationship right or within themselves. I mean, like,

1333
01:09:19,640 --> 01:09:22,240
Speaker 1: just let's think about it outside of sex, because when

1334
01:09:22,240 --> 01:09:25,960
Speaker 1: when we say sex, like all these extra things come about.

1335
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:30,080
Speaker 1: But you know, if um, I don't like I don't

1336
01:09:30,120 --> 01:09:36,160
Speaker 1: like Chinese food, okay, and he does, imagine me being like,

1337
01:09:36,600 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 1: but I don't like Chinese food. So that's it. You

1338
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:42,160
Speaker 1: can't eat Chinese food. You are the rest of your

1339
01:09:42,240 --> 01:09:44,920
Speaker 1: as long as we're as long as we're together. That

1340
01:09:44,960 --> 01:09:51,639
Speaker 1: seems so unfair, but but because because it really is right,

1341
01:09:51,760 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 1: you know, it really is how much emphasis and value

1342
01:09:54,880 --> 01:09:57,559
Speaker 1: we've placed on things that at the end of the

1343
01:09:57,640 --> 01:10:00,280
Speaker 1: day really don't hold that much weight. You know what

1344
01:10:00,360 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 1: I'm saying. He we're neither of each other's first sexual

1345
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 1: experience and we're not going to be each other's last. Okay, boom,

1346
01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:10,320
Speaker 1: Now that that's out of the way, let's like live

1347
01:10:10,360 --> 01:10:14,559
Speaker 1: this great life together. And that's that's so amazing. So

1348
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:16,439
Speaker 1: there's a bunch of things like I have a male

1349
01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:20,040
Speaker 1: submissive that lets me put dicks in his ass, you know,

1350
01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:22,760
Speaker 1: because I don't like it to mind, but I think

1351
01:10:22,840 --> 01:10:25,640
Speaker 1: that's pretty cool to pay. King's not gonna let me

1352
01:10:25,680 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 1: do that. He's very dominant, like to where even we've

1353
01:10:28,760 --> 01:10:31,280
Speaker 1: had conversations, I was like, oh, yeah, you're not like

1354
01:10:31,320 --> 01:10:32,880
Speaker 1: none of the things out and ever like you two

1355
01:10:32,960 --> 01:10:37,679
Speaker 1: down even watching the videos, like he's just he's so manly,

1356
01:10:37,840 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 1: like everything mainly possible. So if I if I want

1357
01:10:42,200 --> 01:10:44,360
Speaker 1: to be on a body that's a little bit, yeah,

1358
01:10:44,439 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 1: I'm not going to get that out of him. So

1359
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:48,519
Speaker 1: what if he said like, no, you can never not

1360
01:10:48,600 --> 01:10:52,000
Speaker 1: even you can never dumb me, you can't dumb anyone else.

1361
01:10:52,040 --> 01:10:54,639
Speaker 1: I would be like, Okay, well that's a whole side

1362
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:58,720
Speaker 1: of myself. I'll just go ahead and shut off until forever. Right.

1363
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:02,600
Speaker 1: That's that's that's it's not realistic. But also why so

1364
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:05,720
Speaker 1: many people in these relationships are like I'm gonna go

1365
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 1: cheat or and you know, for all the fellows listening,

1366
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:11,240
Speaker 1: y'all know we do it better. So just so you know,

1367
01:11:11,600 --> 01:11:16,800
Speaker 1: don't tell us no because uh, look your brothers, you know,

1368
01:11:17,040 --> 01:11:18,960
Speaker 1: you know we kind of cheat better, right, Like women

1369
01:11:19,000 --> 01:11:24,120
Speaker 1: are way better cheaters, were more detail oriented, and nine

1370
01:11:24,120 --> 01:11:26,559
Speaker 1: times out of ten it will be to find what

1371
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:30,160
Speaker 1: we are lacking in you. Especially. The problem is a

1372
01:11:30,200 --> 01:11:34,120
Speaker 1: lot of times women will communicate what they want and

1373
01:11:34,160 --> 01:11:37,400
Speaker 1: a man just doesn't fold. On the other end, when

1374
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:40,160
Speaker 1: a man says this is what I want or else,

1375
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,639
Speaker 1: we kind of feel the need like, oh my god,

1376
01:11:42,680 --> 01:11:45,280
Speaker 1: this is our only way to keep him. And so

1377
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:48,640
Speaker 1: there's just a different level in exchange in relationships. And

1378
01:11:48,680 --> 01:11:53,360
Speaker 1: also I don't want to say respect, but just bending programming,

1379
01:11:55,640 --> 01:11:59,960
Speaker 1: make the bullshit that he will still leave you for us.

1380
01:12:00,000 --> 01:12:03,479
Speaker 1: They'll have a baby on you with and you know,

1381
01:12:03,760 --> 01:12:07,200
Speaker 1: you know, and it's it's it's crazy, the idea of well,

1382
01:12:07,200 --> 01:12:09,320
Speaker 1: if I do this, he'll stay, If I do this,

1383
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 1: it'll keep him. Um. And I think it's also funny,

1384
01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:14,280
Speaker 1: like you know, we talked about Halle Berry getting cheated on.

1385
01:12:14,320 --> 01:12:18,360
Speaker 1: Beyonce probably be cheated on like I cheated on listen.

1386
01:12:18,360 --> 01:12:20,920
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be high to come and attack me. Yeah,

1387
01:12:21,120 --> 01:12:26,599
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want to just we're gonna say

1388
01:12:26,760 --> 01:12:30,280
Speaker 1: there was some feelings there. Um, but like if those

1389
01:12:30,280 --> 01:12:34,040
Speaker 1: women who we put at this high you know esteem,

1390
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:37,360
Speaker 1: can be cheated on and probably doing everything right, live

1391
01:12:37,439 --> 01:12:39,280
Speaker 1: up to things that maybe we don't even see, like

1392
01:12:39,479 --> 01:12:41,320
Speaker 1: you nothing to do with them. It has to do

1393
01:12:41,360 --> 01:12:43,439
Speaker 1: with that that other person being able to respect the

1394
01:12:43,439 --> 01:12:46,000
Speaker 1: commitment they made, you know what I'm saying, Like we

1395
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:47,560
Speaker 1: always look at the person that got cheated on, like

1396
01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:49,479
Speaker 1: what did you do wrong? Like, no, you didn't do

1397
01:12:49,520 --> 01:12:53,000
Speaker 1: anything wrong. The fucking cheater did something wrong, right, you know?

1398
01:12:53,200 --> 01:12:55,080
Speaker 1: So y'all what I tell you, don't come woman a

1399
01:12:55,160 --> 01:12:57,639
Speaker 1: woman to no woman. No, you better go to your

1400
01:12:57,680 --> 01:13:01,840
Speaker 1: man or you. But that's the thing too, if they're

1401
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:04,200
Speaker 1: coming to another woman about their man, they're not gonna leave.

1402
01:13:04,680 --> 01:13:07,840
Speaker 1: They're just they're just notifying the other woman, which just

1403
01:13:07,960 --> 01:13:11,879
Speaker 1: recently happened to me. And again y'all heard the snippet

1404
01:13:12,160 --> 01:13:15,680
Speaker 1: from the bonus episode on the last episode, Um, it

1405
01:13:15,800 --> 01:13:17,320
Speaker 1: was just like, girl, but you also know the man

1406
01:13:17,400 --> 01:13:20,600
Speaker 1: that you're with, and everything that you're telling me is

1407
01:13:20,640 --> 01:13:23,439
Speaker 1: pretty much what I said in that Like, you know,

1408
01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:26,439
Speaker 1: King you know who you're with, you know what he likes,

1409
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:30,840
Speaker 1: you know, um, what you're capable of giving him as

1410
01:13:30,840 --> 01:13:34,240
Speaker 1: far as yourself, and you're not gonna try to be

1411
01:13:34,320 --> 01:13:37,040
Speaker 1: anyone different than that to fulfill anything else, and you're

1412
01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 1: allowing him to be the person who he is. I

1413
01:13:39,560 --> 01:13:42,000
Speaker 1: really like everything you said, and now I need to

1414
01:13:42,040 --> 01:13:44,960
Speaker 1: go find my lover, my partner, my man. And I

1415
01:13:45,000 --> 01:13:48,080
Speaker 1: know you guys are listening to this episode, probably questioning

1416
01:13:48,360 --> 01:13:53,040
Speaker 1: your relationship if it's not going well, questioning yourself as

1417
01:13:53,080 --> 01:13:56,120
Speaker 1: far as, um, what you truly want and what will

1418
01:13:56,120 --> 01:13:59,280
Speaker 1: truly make you happy? Um Again, I'm entering I'll be

1419
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:03,160
Speaker 1: thirty this year, so it's also something to where I've

1420
01:14:03,160 --> 01:14:05,360
Speaker 1: been battling because of course we all still have this

1421
01:14:05,439 --> 01:14:08,439
Speaker 1: pressure with getting into our thirties, and I have. I mean,

1422
01:14:08,479 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 1: I've been in situation ships, I've been with lovers that

1423
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,479
Speaker 1: I would claim as my ex is. But as far

1424
01:14:13,479 --> 01:14:17,760
Speaker 1: as having a real true adult relationship, UM with a

1425
01:14:17,760 --> 01:14:21,080
Speaker 1: man where both of us communicated our titles with each other,

1426
01:14:21,520 --> 01:14:26,360
Speaker 1: that hasn't really been you know there. So with me

1427
01:14:26,479 --> 01:14:29,720
Speaker 1: looking to have that within the next year or so,

1428
01:14:30,640 --> 01:14:33,120
Speaker 1: this conversation was everything I needed. I'm gonna listen back

1429
01:14:33,160 --> 01:14:35,680
Speaker 1: to this episode and listen back to everything you said. Um.

1430
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:40,360
Speaker 1: But also if anyone's into fettish training seeing you live,

1431
01:14:41,000 --> 01:14:44,559
Speaker 1: um perform, watch your videos, um anything, can you please

1432
01:14:44,640 --> 01:14:47,559
Speaker 1: drop where everyone can find you? Um, and we'll also

1433
01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:49,840
Speaker 1: put it in the description of this episode. Okay, cool.

1434
01:14:49,880 --> 01:14:52,800
Speaker 1: You can find everything at jet setting Jasmine dot com.

1435
01:14:52,840 --> 01:14:55,200
Speaker 1: There you go and and boom right there, and then

1436
01:14:55,240 --> 01:14:58,760
Speaker 1: also jet Setting Jasmine on Instagram as well, like socials

1437
01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:00,960
Speaker 1: will be there. Um, you guys can see her. I'm

1438
01:15:01,000 --> 01:15:03,519
Speaker 1: sure if any of you guys listened, y'all see why

1439
01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:07,000
Speaker 1: you two are together. Because the way you, you know,

1440
01:15:07,280 --> 01:15:11,439
Speaker 1: just literally just speak on on almost your existence is

1441
01:15:11,439 --> 01:15:14,160
Speaker 1: the same as him sitting across from us, just speaking

1442
01:15:14,160 --> 01:15:16,960
Speaker 1: into the love that you guys have for each other. Um.

1443
01:15:17,000 --> 01:15:19,960
Speaker 1: But I think you guys know yourselves more than a

1444
01:15:20,000 --> 01:15:22,960
Speaker 1: lot of people. And like I say, um too, and

1445
01:15:22,960 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 1: I say this all the time before we get out

1446
01:15:24,439 --> 01:15:26,919
Speaker 1: of here. Um, you can't expect anyone to give you happiness.

1447
01:15:26,960 --> 01:15:29,559
Speaker 1: If you're not happy with yourself, you can't expect anyone

1448
01:15:29,600 --> 01:15:31,720
Speaker 1: to give you an orgasm. If you don't know how

1449
01:15:31,760 --> 01:15:35,280
Speaker 1: to give yourself an orgasm, you can't expect anyone else

1450
01:15:35,320 --> 01:15:37,400
Speaker 1: to please you in ways and know you if you

1451
01:15:37,439 --> 01:15:40,160
Speaker 1: don't know yourself. Um, and that's been a lot of

1452
01:15:40,280 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 1: what I've been dealing with myself, UM recently, just trying

1453
01:15:44,760 --> 01:15:46,360
Speaker 1: to figure out exactly what I want and how to

1454
01:15:46,439 --> 01:15:49,719
Speaker 1: tell a person this is what makes me happy. Um,

1455
01:15:49,880 --> 01:15:52,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna take this, this podcast, and you're gonna send

1456
01:15:52,920 --> 01:15:59,519
Speaker 1: it to that person this episode listen from from beginning

1457
01:15:59,560 --> 01:16:03,320
Speaker 1: to end. And and if you if you can ride

1458
01:16:03,360 --> 01:16:06,040
Speaker 1: with what we talked about, or if you're even open

1459
01:16:06,080 --> 01:16:10,760
Speaker 1: to having a discussion about so, then let's meet for dinner. Yeah,

1460
01:16:10,800 --> 01:16:14,200
Speaker 1: I really like that. But also just and again, UM,

1461
01:16:14,240 --> 01:16:15,599
Speaker 1: I guess before we get out here, can I ask

1462
01:16:15,640 --> 01:16:18,599
Speaker 1: you one more question? So a lot of the times,

1463
01:16:18,640 --> 01:16:22,080
Speaker 1: especially because I only do deal with black men, but

1464
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:25,560
Speaker 1: even in this in the kink space, going to hedonism,

1465
01:16:25,600 --> 01:16:29,040
Speaker 1: going to the sex clubs, UM, I do find it

1466
01:16:29,400 --> 01:16:33,080
Speaker 1: still to be almost taboo for black men to allow

1467
01:16:33,200 --> 01:16:36,519
Speaker 1: their partners to be with other men. So how was

1468
01:16:36,600 --> 01:16:40,200
Speaker 1: that conversation with with King? And and what advice would

1469
01:16:40,200 --> 01:16:42,519
Speaker 1: you give? Is that just not the nigger for me?

1470
01:16:42,600 --> 01:16:44,680
Speaker 1: If he if he wouldn't allow me to also have

1471
01:16:44,800 --> 01:16:48,120
Speaker 1: another man or you know, how do you bring up

1472
01:16:48,120 --> 01:16:51,080
Speaker 1: that conversation? Um, I mean, I definitely think that we

1473
01:16:51,160 --> 01:16:54,840
Speaker 1: have issues around ownership of our black bodies for sure.

1474
01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:58,400
Speaker 1: I mean I think it's something that like, you know,

1475
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:02,080
Speaker 1: other people, not white people in this country and across

1476
01:17:02,080 --> 01:17:06,559
Speaker 1: the world, have had ownership of our black bodies, and

1477
01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:10,400
Speaker 1: then that mentality has stuck, and then it transferred its

1478
01:17:10,400 --> 01:17:14,120
Speaker 1: way into the leaders of our household having ownership of

1479
01:17:14,439 --> 01:17:17,200
Speaker 1: and we see it of we see our black men

1480
01:17:17,439 --> 01:17:23,519
Speaker 1: owning their moms, owning their daughters, their baby moms, you

1481
01:17:23,520 --> 01:17:25,439
Speaker 1: know what I mean, and and so on and so forth.

1482
01:17:25,479 --> 01:17:27,880
Speaker 1: So I do think that's a lot of work that

1483
01:17:27,920 --> 01:17:30,439
Speaker 1: we have to do to deconstruct, you know, that idea

1484
01:17:30,560 --> 01:17:33,760
Speaker 1: of ownership, especially of black women's bodies. And I think

1485
01:17:33,760 --> 01:17:37,439
Speaker 1: it's important for women to understand that mentality exists and

1486
01:17:37,479 --> 01:17:41,120
Speaker 1: it's not love. You know, that fritnership is not like

1487
01:17:41,160 --> 01:17:43,800
Speaker 1: oh he is not he don't play with me like that,

1488
01:17:43,920 --> 01:17:48,680
Speaker 1: Like no, you know, he's putting restrictions and limitations on you.

1489
01:17:49,080 --> 01:17:51,879
Speaker 1: So really ask yourself if this is something that's important

1490
01:17:51,920 --> 01:17:53,720
Speaker 1: to you, and this is something that you really want

1491
01:17:53,760 --> 01:17:58,080
Speaker 1: to do, then have a serious conversation, um, and not

1492
01:17:58,280 --> 01:18:01,759
Speaker 1: just like you know, like you stop tripping, Like no, really,

1493
01:18:01,920 --> 01:18:04,719
Speaker 1: I would really like to have sex with another partner,

1494
01:18:05,320 --> 01:18:08,160
Speaker 1: And you know, it kind of bothers me that we

1495
01:18:08,240 --> 01:18:11,040
Speaker 1: can't get past this. And if he's not willing to

1496
01:18:11,120 --> 01:18:16,440
Speaker 1: have that conversation, he is still operating from a colonized

1497
01:18:16,640 --> 01:18:20,800
Speaker 1: um mentality that needs to be broken down far before

1498
01:18:20,840 --> 01:18:26,800
Speaker 1: y'all go to he though you know she needs to go.

1499
01:18:27,439 --> 01:18:31,200
Speaker 1: You need a deeper level of work there. So you know,

1500
01:18:31,240 --> 01:18:34,600
Speaker 1: I haven't had that experience um with King, but I

1501
01:18:34,640 --> 01:18:36,479
Speaker 1: have dated someone that was like, yeah, we can have

1502
01:18:36,520 --> 01:18:39,760
Speaker 1: like all the threesomes only with women, and it's just

1503
01:18:39,840 --> 01:18:44,000
Speaker 1: like even it's as as someone who's bisexual. I'll have

1504
01:18:44,040 --> 01:18:47,040
Speaker 1: threesomes from time to time, but that's not ideal. I

1505
01:18:47,040 --> 01:18:50,080
Speaker 1: would prefer a woman just with a woman, and a

1506
01:18:50,160 --> 01:18:53,400
Speaker 1: man just with a man, or a multiple man maybe,

1507
01:18:53,439 --> 01:18:56,640
Speaker 1: but like I like the anatomy of a woman just

1508
01:18:56,840 --> 01:18:58,880
Speaker 1: by itself and the intimacy that comes with being with

1509
01:18:58,920 --> 01:19:01,960
Speaker 1: a woman, and then it's completely different um sexually that

1510
01:19:02,040 --> 01:19:04,439
Speaker 1: I have my interaction with with men, and so I

1511
01:19:04,439 --> 01:19:06,200
Speaker 1: actually like to keep those separate. But as soon as

1512
01:19:06,240 --> 01:19:08,320
Speaker 1: they find out I like women, it's like, oh, we're

1513
01:19:08,320 --> 01:19:10,920
Speaker 1: gonna have who we are have women all the time,

1514
01:19:10,960 --> 01:19:14,680
Speaker 1: and I'm like, no, no, I didn't really want you

1515
01:19:14,680 --> 01:19:17,719
Speaker 1: can have one like I. You know, I was dealing

1516
01:19:17,760 --> 01:19:20,720
Speaker 1: with seven for seven years. We had two two or

1517
01:19:20,720 --> 01:19:25,439
Speaker 1: threesomes in seven years. And I picked the girls. They

1518
01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:28,920
Speaker 1: were my friends. Um, they're still my friends. Uh, but

1519
01:19:29,960 --> 01:19:31,320
Speaker 1: you know because I picked them, you know, and they

1520
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:34,519
Speaker 1: enjoyed themselves and we had a great time and you know. Um,

1521
01:19:34,560 --> 01:19:37,200
Speaker 1: but no again, I want to thank you guys. Check

1522
01:19:37,200 --> 01:19:40,519
Speaker 1: out jet Setting Jasmine dot com. Um, you guys can

1523
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Speaker 1: check you guys are on tour. Goddamn more than us

1524
01:19:42,840 --> 01:19:46,800
Speaker 1: are on tour. All the informations that we're going to

1525
01:19:46,840 --> 01:19:49,559
Speaker 1: all the cities, all the countries. Okay, so if you

1526
01:19:49,600 --> 01:19:53,720
Speaker 1: guys want to learn more about you know, um jet

1527
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Speaker 1: Setting Jasmine performing live again. She does do things solo

1528
01:19:57,240 --> 01:19:59,880
Speaker 1: as well as with King Noir. UM check it out

1529
01:20:00,160 --> 01:20:03,639
Speaker 1: the descriptions in the episode. Um. Also, if you haven't

1530
01:20:03,720 --> 01:20:08,920
Speaker 1: yet become a patrin bitch, um, go to Patreon dot

1531
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1532
01:20:13,240 --> 01:20:15,120
Speaker 1: which is why you can't just go to the Patreon

1533
01:20:15,160 --> 01:20:18,559
Speaker 1: platform and find us. We post porn, not our own porn,

1534
01:20:18,800 --> 01:20:22,400
Speaker 1: but we do have porn sleepers on there. Um and

1535
01:20:22,400 --> 01:20:26,000
Speaker 1: then we give you guys three extra episodes per month. Also,

1536
01:20:26,040 --> 01:20:28,000
Speaker 1: it's the only place that has allowed you guys to

1537
01:20:28,040 --> 01:20:30,960
Speaker 1: get pre cell tickets for the show. Um. We still

1538
01:20:31,000 --> 01:20:33,640
Speaker 1: have yet to announce New Orleans and Vegas. Listen, I

1539
01:20:33,640 --> 01:20:35,840
Speaker 1: ain't even gonna hold you. It ain't me. It's listen,

1540
01:20:35,880 --> 01:20:39,320
Speaker 1: it ain't me. Just know that y'all at my comments

1541
01:20:39,360 --> 01:20:43,719
Speaker 1: and ain't me bitch. Um. If anything, I am working

1542
01:20:43,720 --> 01:20:45,120
Speaker 1: my ass off to try to see if we can

1543
01:20:45,120 --> 01:20:49,040
Speaker 1: get something during essence UM in New Orleans. But we

1544
01:20:49,160 --> 01:20:50,960
Speaker 1: do in New Orleans this year. Just know it ain't me,

1545
01:20:51,320 --> 01:20:54,080
Speaker 1: God damn it. We're working on it. Um. Vegas as well.

1546
01:20:54,120 --> 01:20:56,320
Speaker 1: It's just venues. It's timing. It's a lot coming up,

1547
01:20:56,400 --> 01:20:58,760
Speaker 1: especially with the holidays in the summer, but we're still

1548
01:20:58,760 --> 01:21:02,160
Speaker 1: working on it. If you're sick of waiting. Um again,

1549
01:21:02,880 --> 01:21:09,040
Speaker 1: we have Charlotte. Um. Oh wait, well this week coming up,

1550
01:21:10,600 --> 01:21:12,920
Speaker 1: we have Charlotte. Well now that's next week. I'm sorry.

1551
01:21:13,080 --> 01:21:15,880
Speaker 1: My calendar is a all fus up. So we have

1552
01:21:16,160 --> 01:21:20,200
Speaker 1: Charlotte on March fourth. We have Orlando on March seven.

1553
01:21:20,800 --> 01:21:27,400
Speaker 1: We have Atlanta on the March. By the way, if

1554
01:21:27,400 --> 01:21:30,519
Speaker 1: you guys are interested, thank you, Yes, Vincent, come through

1555
01:21:30,520 --> 01:21:32,680
Speaker 1: with the come through. If you guys are looking to

1556
01:21:32,800 --> 01:21:38,240
Speaker 1: come to the UM Atlanta show, there are a few

1557
01:21:38,240 --> 01:21:42,080
Speaker 1: tickets left. That maybe our largest show. UM. There is

1558
01:21:42,120 --> 01:21:44,080
Speaker 1: less than a hundred tickets left for that show on

1559
01:21:44,120 --> 01:21:48,559
Speaker 1: March twenty. Then on March will be in Toronto. UM.

1560
01:21:48,640 --> 01:21:52,000
Speaker 1: April five, we will be in the Bay Area, and

1561
01:21:52,040 --> 01:21:54,600
Speaker 1: then we are wrapping it up right now in l

1562
01:21:54,640 --> 01:21:58,280
Speaker 1: A on April ninth. UM, So come out, check us out.

1563
01:21:58,520 --> 01:22:02,880
Speaker 1: That's that Horrible Decisions that com UM. And yeah, y'all know,

1564
01:22:03,200 --> 01:22:05,000
Speaker 1: funk with me. I got some new stuff coming out

1565
01:22:05,000 --> 01:22:06,800
Speaker 1: with you have a lot of stuff coming out. I'm

1566
01:22:06,840 --> 01:22:08,439
Speaker 1: just excited that you guys have a lot of this

1567
01:22:08,520 --> 01:22:12,960
Speaker 1: space to bring on people like Jasmine to explain and look,

1568
01:22:13,000 --> 01:22:15,600
Speaker 1: I'm learning with you guys. So again, I hope you

1569
01:22:15,600 --> 01:22:18,800
Speaker 1: guys enjoyed this week's episode. UM. And again, this has

1570
01:22:18,840 --> 01:22:24,960
Speaker 1: been yet another episode of horrible Decisions by six. This

1571
01:22:25,040 --> 01:22:27,080
Speaker 1: is okay. Let me read the slow. If you were

1572
01:22:27,120 --> 01:22:30,040
Speaker 1: able to live to the age of ninety and retained

1573
01:22:30,080 --> 01:22:32,720
Speaker 1: either the mind of a third year old for the

1574
01:22:32,800 --> 01:22:36,640
Speaker 1: last sixty years of your life, the mind or body?

1575
01:22:36,880 --> 01:22:39,080
Speaker 1: Which would you want? If you're ninety years old, you

1576
01:22:39,080 --> 01:22:40,720
Speaker 1: want the mind or the body of a third year old.

1577
01:22:41,920 --> 01:22:45,320
Speaker 1: The body. Can you imagine how you'll sound? She findest

1578
01:22:45,360 --> 01:22:47,360
Speaker 1: fun like I don't care. Like even when I was

1579
01:22:47,439 --> 01:22:50,519
Speaker 1: like in my in my early twenties, I always had

1580
01:22:50,520 --> 01:22:52,760
Speaker 1: an old soul. Niggas thought I was older all the time.

1581
01:22:53,000 --> 01:22:55,840
Speaker 1: I'mould pick the same. I'm my body, nig I'll be

1582
01:22:55,920 --> 01:22:59,559
Speaker 1: fucking seven. Do you have a secret hunch about how

1583
01:22:59,600 --> 01:23:02,519
Speaker 1: you'll die? I don't think about that. I think I'm

1584
01:23:02,520 --> 01:23:05,880
Speaker 1: gonna die on a I do not think about um.

1585
01:23:05,920 --> 01:23:09,520
Speaker 1: It's so weird because honestly, I have a little flashes.

1586
01:23:09,960 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 1: But it's weird because when I'm in a car, when

1587
01:23:14,160 --> 01:23:18,439
Speaker 1: I'm with somebody like I won't to me honestly, it's

1588
01:23:18,479 --> 01:23:20,800
Speaker 1: why I don't I all hop out of my friend

1589
01:23:21,160 --> 01:23:24,760
Speaker 1: believe that your date death day is like already written. No,

1590
01:23:25,000 --> 01:23:26,839
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think about that, and I honestly

1591
01:23:26,840 --> 01:23:29,080
Speaker 1: want to get off this conversation. Well, I don't think

1592
01:23:29,080 --> 01:23:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna die doing something adventurous, like I think the

1593
01:23:32,680 --> 01:23:34,599
Speaker 1: scariest way for me to die, in my opinion, would

1594
01:23:34,600 --> 01:23:36,920
Speaker 1: be like drowning. I'm terrified of that. It almost happened

1595
01:23:36,960 --> 01:23:38,639
Speaker 1: to me once. There was like someone I was playing

1596
01:23:38,640 --> 01:23:41,200
Speaker 1: that chicken game whatever, what's it called when you're on

1597
01:23:41,280 --> 01:23:46,360
Speaker 1: someone's shoulders. Oh, well, she didn't realize that I was

1598
01:23:46,439 --> 01:23:48,120
Speaker 1: so deep under and I couldn't get up, and then

1599
01:23:48,120 --> 01:23:51,120
Speaker 1: her legs were wrapping around my neck. And I remember

1600
01:23:51,120 --> 01:23:53,000
Speaker 1: that feeling of almost passing out and drowning, and I

1601
01:23:53,040 --> 01:23:54,960
Speaker 1: would never want that to happen. But I do think

1602
01:23:55,040 --> 01:23:56,760
Speaker 1: when I die, I don't think about it's gonna be

1603
01:23:56,800 --> 01:24:00,639
Speaker 1: like bungee to the next question number eight. Three things

1604
01:24:00,680 --> 01:24:02,519
Speaker 1: you and your partner appear to have in common? So

1605
01:24:03,400 --> 01:24:08,960
Speaker 1: you can answer this me and you. This is I

1606
01:24:09,120 --> 01:24:15,240
Speaker 1: want to say thirty six questions to love each other? Um,

1607
01:24:15,760 --> 01:24:18,040
Speaker 1: what do we have in common? I ain't gonna lie.

1608
01:24:18,880 --> 01:24:20,840
Speaker 1: People listen to us, and I think now that we're

1609
01:24:20,880 --> 01:24:23,000
Speaker 1: three years in, they realized we don't have much in

1610
01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:26,960
Speaker 1: common outside of love to travel. We both love to

1611
01:24:27,000 --> 01:24:32,240
Speaker 1: suck dick, and we we both get our hair done with.

1612
01:24:32,280 --> 01:24:36,479
Speaker 1: We've we both love to travel, we both love we

1613
01:24:36,560 --> 01:24:39,559
Speaker 1: both love our friends a lot. We love our friends.

1614
01:24:39,680 --> 01:24:43,640
Speaker 1: We both like ethnic foods. I was gonna say we

1615
01:24:43,680 --> 01:24:50,439
Speaker 1: both like bougie things, but I lowis bitten across and

1616
01:24:50,479 --> 01:24:52,479
Speaker 1: you see I got a very very jacket. But this

1617
01:24:52,560 --> 01:24:57,320
Speaker 1: is just now like things that I couldn't afford um

1618
01:24:57,439 --> 01:25:00,880
Speaker 1: and I also used to. So the niggas i've when

1619
01:25:00,920 --> 01:25:02,920
Speaker 1: I talk about sugar daddies and stuff like that, all

1620
01:25:02,960 --> 01:25:05,320
Speaker 1: of the men that I've dealt with are those that

1621
01:25:05,439 --> 01:25:08,599
Speaker 1: won't buy me. They would never they would never buy

1622
01:25:08,600 --> 01:25:11,360
Speaker 1: me tangible things. They would buy me things for school,

1623
01:25:11,720 --> 01:25:14,599
Speaker 1: they would pay for my bills, they would do things

1624
01:25:14,640 --> 01:25:19,080
Speaker 1: for my livelihood, but they're they're not materialistic niggas. So

1625
01:25:19,120 --> 01:25:23,160
Speaker 1: now that you know, they know I really don't need

1626
01:25:23,240 --> 01:25:26,040
Speaker 1: that money that way, if I do ask for something,

1627
01:25:26,400 --> 01:25:28,439
Speaker 1: it's like, oh I want this, and they're okay, Like

1628
01:25:28,479 --> 01:25:32,719
Speaker 1: I'm waiting on these wire celshos right now. So it's yes,

1629
01:25:33,040 --> 01:25:36,920
Speaker 1: the pump that's my Valentine's list. That's literally what I'm getting. Well,

1630
01:25:37,040 --> 01:25:39,240
Speaker 1: it's crazy because so they have a boot version and

1631
01:25:39,320 --> 01:25:42,840
Speaker 1: open til versions and pumpers. So the boots are seventred

1632
01:25:43,200 --> 01:25:47,080
Speaker 1: the and the other two are. So I was like,

1633
01:25:48,040 --> 01:25:50,800
Speaker 1: the boot is seasonal, open toe was also seasonal, because

1634
01:25:50,840 --> 01:25:52,360
Speaker 1: we live, I said, the pump I could wear a

1635
01:25:52,439 --> 01:25:56,479
Speaker 1: year round. I would get in shoes by the way.

1636
01:25:56,720 --> 01:26:00,880
Speaker 1: Um yeah, but see even my even even on Louis,

1637
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:03,400
Speaker 1: it's on like, um combat boots they said are uncomfortable

1638
01:26:03,600 --> 01:26:05,679
Speaker 1: for me for those and yeah, those just like listen,

1639
01:26:06,000 --> 01:26:08,320
Speaker 1: that's what I want. I know that you like ship

1640
01:26:08,400 --> 01:26:11,559
Speaker 1: like this, but that's kind of tacky. I was like,

1641
01:26:11,600 --> 01:26:14,240
Speaker 1: it's not tacky. He's like, listen, it's too over the top.

1642
01:26:14,280 --> 01:26:16,559
Speaker 1: He's like it's not. Then you can dress it down,

1643
01:26:16,560 --> 01:26:18,280
Speaker 1: but you can wear that with cargo pants. I was like,

1644
01:26:18,320 --> 01:26:19,920
Speaker 1: I don't know why you feel like it's too much.

1645
01:26:19,920 --> 01:26:21,600
Speaker 1: He was like, I think it's too showy. He was like,

1646
01:26:21,640 --> 01:26:23,280
Speaker 1: I'll get you some while I sell ship, but it's

1647
01:26:23,280 --> 01:26:24,960
Speaker 1: not gonna be all over it. And I'm like they're

1648
01:26:25,000 --> 01:26:29,080
Speaker 1: just body standing that. I'm not gonna lie like I'm

1649
01:26:29,080 --> 01:26:32,800
Speaker 1: one of those that didn't grow up with money. I

1650
01:26:32,880 --> 01:26:35,559
Speaker 1: don't have family members that have money, and to me,

1651
01:26:35,640 --> 01:26:38,759
Speaker 1: I don't believe in spending so much money on something.

1652
01:26:39,240 --> 01:26:41,280
Speaker 1: So I was talking to my homeboy about it, and

1653
01:26:41,280 --> 01:26:43,000
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, if I'm gonna buy something,

1654
01:26:43,240 --> 01:26:45,160
Speaker 1: the monogram is gonna be only because they're gonna know

1655
01:26:45,439 --> 01:26:47,280
Speaker 1: if it costs to a hundred and they're gonna because

1656
01:26:47,280 --> 01:26:49,479
Speaker 1: they gonna see it. I don't want just a leather

1657
01:26:49,600 --> 01:26:52,360
Speaker 1: for black leathers. Felt like the y s l like

1658
01:26:52,439 --> 01:26:55,519
Speaker 1: he'll was tasteful and not that much. And he's like no,

1659
01:26:55,680 --> 01:26:57,600
Speaker 1: he was like real, NS know when you have a

1660
01:26:57,640 --> 01:26:59,040
Speaker 1: certain kind of time. I'm like, well, I don't know.

1661
01:26:59,200 --> 01:27:00,519
Speaker 1: I don't know a bitch with I walked down the

1662
01:27:00,520 --> 01:27:02,680
Speaker 1: street with Well, actually the way saw does have the

1663
01:27:02,760 --> 01:27:05,679
Speaker 1: very round front with a certain kind of thing. But anyway, Okay.

1664
01:27:05,840 --> 01:27:07,160
Speaker 1: Nine is for what in your life do you feel

1665
01:27:07,160 --> 01:27:09,280
Speaker 1: most grateful? Ten? If you could change anything about the

1666
01:27:09,520 --> 01:27:12,719
Speaker 1: your raised, what would be Eleven Tell take four minutes

1667
01:27:12,720 --> 01:27:14,439
Speaker 1: and tell your partner your life story and as much

1668
01:27:14,479 --> 01:27:16,800
Speaker 1: detail as possible. I think that's a good one too. Um.

1669
01:27:16,840 --> 01:27:19,519
Speaker 1: If you could wake up tomorrow morning having gained one

1670
01:27:19,600 --> 01:27:21,400
Speaker 1: quality or ability, what would it be.