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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: subject Thanksgiving Surprise. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty seven

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Speaker 1: year old married man and I'm on my second marriage.

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Speaker 1: My wife has two daughters from previous marriage and they're

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Speaker 1: both grown and live in different cities. The oldest daughter

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Speaker 1: is twenty nine now and she has a one year

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Speaker 1: old son. My wife is looking forward to Thanksgiving because

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Speaker 1: she will have the girls home and she can spend

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Speaker 1: quality time with her grandson. But I'm not excited about

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Speaker 1: us all being under one roof because because I had

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Speaker 1: an affair with the oldest daughter. It started when she

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Speaker 1: was twenty seven and she moved back in with us

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Speaker 1: briefly to save some money. She was very flirtatious, and

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Speaker 1: she'd rubbed my head when she hugged me and sit

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Speaker 1: handsome whenever her mom wasn't around. One night, while her

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Speaker 1: with a door cracked, and I mistakenly went in to

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Speaker 1: and I felt terrible, and so did. She moved out

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Speaker 1: the next week. The next week, my wife insisted that

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Speaker 1: sex the second time at her apartment. The affair went

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Speaker 1: on for a while. You ready for this. The affair

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Speaker 1: went on for a while until she got pregnant. We've

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Speaker 1: had a paternity test, so I know it's my son,

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Speaker 1: but my stepdaughter has her boyfriend thinking it's his son.

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Speaker 1: I've always wanted a child, but my first wife couldn't

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Speaker 1: have children. I want to be part of this child's

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Speaker 1: life so badly that I'm willing to end my marriage

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Speaker 1: if I have to. I will not allow another black

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Speaker 1: boy to grow up without a father. I know this

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Speaker 1: is all a big meth, but I'm ready to tell

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Speaker 1: the truth. When we're all together for Thanksgiving, my wife

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Speaker 1: will be heartbroken. I'm sure. Am I being selfish in

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Speaker 1: this situation? That's the question you want to ask? Are

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Speaker 1: you being selfish? I mean, really, that's it that responds

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Speaker 1: is woo? I mean, how dare you write us with

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Speaker 1: this mess? I mean, Steve and I, we aren't in this.

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Speaker 1: You did this. You did this with your stepdaughter, your stepdaughter, dog,

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Speaker 1: your stepdaughter, and it's foul. This is foul right here,

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Speaker 1: This is so foul. If you had to cheat on

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Speaker 1: your wife, I'm gonna say this. I'm gonna say this,

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Speaker 1: if you just had to cheat on your wife, if

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Speaker 1: you could not keep it in your pants because someone

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Speaker 1: sitting in your lap, Honestly, I would have rather for

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Speaker 1: you to step outside the marriage than to get with

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Speaker 1: more sense. Now, you and your stepdaughter have a son

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Speaker 1: together that she had to lie to her boyfriend about,

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Speaker 1: This is so wrong on so many levels. I mean,

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Speaker 1: just lie on top of lie, on top of a lot.

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Speaker 1: I'm hurt for your wife. I'm hurt for her and

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Speaker 1: she doesn't even know what's going on yet, all because

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Speaker 1: you couldn't stay away from her daughter. Why did you

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Speaker 1: allow her to sit on your lap in all that? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: Why did you do that? Why didn't you say no?

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Speaker 1: Why didn't you get up? You know why? That's the

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Speaker 1: part that's killing me. And you know what, there's no

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Speaker 1: good ending. There's no way to end this nicely or respectfully.

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Speaker 1: There's no good ending to this nightmare of a story.

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Speaker 1: There just isn't. There's no way to make it right.

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Speaker 1: I want you to leave. I want you to get

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Speaker 1: wife a Thanksgiving or not. And what a way to

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Speaker 1: continue to live out this lie until something happens. This

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Speaker 1: this situation, Steve boy boy, sir, Yes, yes, sir sir,

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Speaker 1: you are in so much damn trouble right now. You

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Speaker 1: you have not seen the trouble. See you know. Look

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Speaker 1: I tell my sons all the time. The older you get,

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Speaker 1: You know, before you you fifty seven, half a hundred years,

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Speaker 1: you've been here over your stupid ass. I with you

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Speaker 1: with your right Steve does ignant as mess. Now you'd

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Speaker 1: wrote us like we got some help for you. We

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Speaker 1: don't have no help for you, all right, Steve, hang on,

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Speaker 1: hang on. We'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour my Strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter for today's subject thanks Giving Surprise. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening to show all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject Thanksgiving surprise.

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Speaker 1: So fifty seven year old man, you're so ignorant, not

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Speaker 1: fifty seven year old married man that had an affair

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Speaker 1: with your stepdaughter when she moved back in because she

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Speaker 1: needed to get on her feet. She was twenty seven

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Speaker 1: years old, always calling you handle. Y'all had sex while

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Speaker 1: your wife was asleep on the sofa. You felt bad,

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Speaker 1: She felt bad, so she decided to move out the

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Speaker 1: next week. Then your wife tells you help her move

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Speaker 1: you over the apartment having some most sex. Now she

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Speaker 1: twenty nine, So y'all been having this a fair for

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Speaker 1: two years. All this started. She was in there taking

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Speaker 1: a bath and left the doe crack. This is what

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Speaker 1: you said when this happened. Oh, one night, while her

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Speaker 1: use the bath food boy, yeah, doe? How big is

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Speaker 1: y'all bath room? Where when the dog cracked? You mistakenly

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Speaker 1: and you saw in the bathtub, you ain't turned around right, bro, Now,

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Speaker 1: the fab been going on for a while, then guess

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Speaker 1: what he said until she got pregnant. Now she got

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Speaker 1: when it's really your son. And you've always wanted a child,

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Speaker 1: even from your first wife, but she couldn't. And now

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Speaker 1: you want a son so bad you're willing to leave

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Speaker 1: because you didn't. Here come the noble part you throw

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Speaker 1: in because I will not allow another black boy to

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Speaker 1: grow up without a father. He got two damn daddies. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we don't feel sorry for you, bro. Let's tell the truth.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to leave the mama so you could

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Speaker 1: That's really what you talking about. I want this son

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Speaker 1: so badly, I'm willing to leave my wife so I

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Speaker 1: could raise this south But what dog? What doc? Do

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Speaker 1: you know? How? That don't even sound right to no

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Speaker 1: damn other man? Nah, So how you think this gonna work?

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Speaker 1: You're gonna wait on Thanksgiving? She gonna come to the

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Speaker 1: house with the baby with her boyfriend. The other daughter

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Speaker 1: gonna be there, You and your wife gonna be sitting

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Speaker 1: That young ass boy gonna whoop your hands. I'm talking

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Speaker 1: about who he gonna go off? The other sister gonna

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Speaker 1: go off your wife. Lord, have mercy, what you're gonna

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Speaker 1: do to this woman? See, bro, this is a disaster. Now.

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Speaker 1: Do not wait to Thanksgiving right if you're gonna go

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Speaker 1: in here with this noise going here right now, if

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Speaker 1: what you should do. I really don't that Shirley got

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Speaker 1: it right. I don't what you write us for. We

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Speaker 1: ain't got nothing for you. There is no right way

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Speaker 1: to do this, because everything bout it is wrong. See.

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Speaker 1: People think if I just come clean to be honest,

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Speaker 1: that's the right thing to do. What it is still

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Speaker 1: a mess? Hey man, honesty. See, let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: When you've been so dishonest for so long on so

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Speaker 1: coming clean, at least I came clean, at least You've

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Speaker 1: been screwing this woman for over two years wife's daughter.

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Speaker 1: She got chose son. You're f in the and your

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Speaker 1: the other child's relationship, the other sibling with her sister.

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Speaker 1: How could you do this to our mother? Yes, you

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna be right with the two of them. No, Bo,

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Speaker 1: the boyfriend been buying these pampers and everything. He gonna

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Speaker 1: ain't his son, it's your son. And now you was

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Speaker 1: lost your ever loving mine? And now you think on Thanksgiving?

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Speaker 1: It's the time while everybody there. Boy, you you that,

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Speaker 1: so listen to me. It's gonna be food everywhere. It's

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Speaker 1: too much. It's too many knives at Thanksgiving. Oh you

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna dunk your ass down to that punch bowl

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Speaker 1: trying to drink. Sir, sir, terrible, surely, and I do

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Speaker 1: not have an answer for you. We don't know what

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Speaker 1: figure it out. But you're gonna pay. Bro. All I

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Speaker 1: can tell you is you fitn't pay dearly for this.

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Speaker 1: Now you can try a little noble line you tried

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Speaker 1: with me. I'll not see another black boy raised without

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Speaker 1: fucking that's yeah good. This is trouble dog, It's really bad.

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Speaker 1: Hey hot, before I go happy, thanksgivings back and let

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