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Speaker 1: little right subject my husband and his groupies. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been married twenty two years and we have three children.

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Speaker 1: My husband and I have a great marriage, and he

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Speaker 1: I am too successful to be checking women in public,

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Speaker 1: but I will not allow them to keep disrespecting me

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Speaker 1: my husband, but I do want to resolve this issue.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that I am being overly sensitive? Steve?

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Speaker 1: Since you are a very high profile star, I need

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Speaker 1: Men have much bigger egos than women. Yeah, women have

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Speaker 1: But don't you think for one minute that men don't

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Speaker 1: You got one more time back yass up. He goes

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Speaker 1: If you shade my girl in any way, and I can't,

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Speaker 1: My husband and his groupies. She's been married twenty two years.

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Speaker 1: Husband's a good man. They got some business that she

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Speaker 1: Could it be that number one, they think because you

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