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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all. It's your girl x PE and it's

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Speaker 1: your girl Dreana call.

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Speaker 2: And you are tuned into a bonus episode of Poor Minds.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I know that y'all been waiting. Were the bonus episodes?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, we about to get back on that for y'all.

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Speaker 1: So what are we talking about today?

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Speaker 2: I seen the tweet earlier. I seen the tweet earlier today.

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Speaker 2: They basically had said that, like niggas like this dude

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Speaker 2: had basically said that he don't care if he been

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Speaker 2: with a female for centuries, it's the love of his life, come.

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Speaker 1: Along, he out or whatever.

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Speaker 2: So I kind of wanted to talk about that because

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Speaker 2: the person who retweeted it, basically it was a woman,

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Speaker 2: and she basically had said, if anything, one thing I

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Speaker 2: admire about men is that they always know how to

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Speaker 2: put themselves first in any situation. So I thought that

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Speaker 2: that was a good topic to talk about because I

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Speaker 2: feel like when it comes to relationships, and not just

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Speaker 2: relationships just I mean, well, I guess, not just intimate relationships,

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Speaker 2: relationships in general, women always trying to hold she down

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Speaker 2: and niggas don't give a fuck like niggas don't never second,

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Speaker 2: guess anything, if they feel like it's something better out there,

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Speaker 2: they gonna go. They don't give a fuck about the

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Speaker 2: history about how long they been together. Wi I mean,

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Speaker 2: how long y'all been together with y'all been through?

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Speaker 1: None of that.

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Speaker 2: She and I just feel like women, why do we

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Speaker 2: just always want to like, ha, feel like we gotta

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Speaker 2: hold a situation down when obviously we've seen this time

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Speaker 2: and time again.

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Speaker 1: Cause this is not the first.

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Speaker 2: Time that I've seen a nigga say something like these

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Speaker 2: on social media. So not saying that all dudes feel

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Speaker 2: this way, because I mean, you know, you do have

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Speaker 2: some dudes that believe in holding a female you know,

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Speaker 2: female been holding them down, let me stick with her.

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Speaker 2: But for m for the most part, we always see

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Speaker 2: it in the media too. Niggas get out on they

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Speaker 2: leave the beach, they've been holding him now. So I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I just think it's crazy. Well, I

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Speaker 2: feel like that's natural for women to do because it's

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Speaker 2: our natural instinct to take care of people and you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean, and be like that motherly type

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Speaker 2: hate that I'm trying. I hope that women are breaking

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Speaker 2: this habit is we love a project. Women love a project.

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Speaker 2: They love to feel like, well, let me groom this

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Speaker 1: And all he's gonna do is.

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Speaker 2: Take everything that you made him to be and go

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Speaker 2: give that to the next woman. So I feel like

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Speaker 2: I'm not into that. You need to come to me

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Speaker 2: I'm not twenty twenty one, I don't have time to

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Speaker 2: I don't want you because at this age I'm not

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Speaker 1: Then all of a sudden he get on and leave

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Speaker 1: me for von Cuischa from the hood that gotta ask

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Speaker 2: A nigga, that's all. He's not about to leave you. No,

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Speaker 2: you never know if anything, Cuisia, the one is about

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Speaker 1: Ask done and all you never know? Bon Cuishia got that?

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Speaker 2: Ask girl please, And these niggas do not be giving

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Speaker 1: None of that. She if you are not the woman

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Speaker 2: You always gonna get lived, period, and that don't matter, right,

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Speaker 2: And that's why I said, I just don't like. I

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Speaker 1: We're supposed to be building up together, and there's nothing

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Speaker 2: you said, holding somebody down when they ain't got it,

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Speaker 2: I have to spleech your bills. Now, I done told

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Speaker 2: like there's more people, right, and that's that's the relationships

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Speaker 2: with a nigga paying for everything. But I'm but to me,

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Speaker 2: I mean, well, to me, holding down, it's just like

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Speaker 1: So it's like we're building something together. I'm holding up

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Speaker 2: Whether it's like y'all both may have a day job,

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Speaker 1: Y'all still splitting the bills, because.

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Speaker 2: Anytime a man is not paying one hundred percent of

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Speaker 1: Doing shit, you hold it down. I don't see I

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Speaker 1: don't because it down.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like that's just I mean, with that

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like that's holding it down. I just

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Speaker 2: Holding it down, to me is when beaches be going

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Speaker 2: over and beyond for niggas paying half of the bills

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Speaker 2: ain't going like you said, that's holding up y'all end

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Speaker 2: of the other relationship. If y'all agreed that that's what

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Speaker 2: just holding down for your nigga, Like you're doing what

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Speaker 2: you you doing too much this, like you paying this

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Speaker 2: Now that's when I feel like, okay, sis, you need

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing that.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like that's a little silly, especially like

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Speaker 2: I said at this age, Yeah, I don't give the

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, don't even get into that

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Speaker 2: Giving niggas money anyway period, Like you should not be

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Speaker 1: It's all everything I love. I ain't never gave no

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Speaker 2: Not once in my life have I ever gave a

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Speaker 1: Can I borrow two hundred dollars or whatever?

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Speaker 2: Like no, ladies, do not give these niggas your mother

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Speaker 1: Right, And that's and back like, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like most of the people that listen

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Speaker 2: Because I'm telling you, all this effort and all that

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Speaker 1: Know how relationship is gonna work out.

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Speaker 2: Are It's very rare that somebody that you were dating

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Speaker 1: You can be rich, you can have all the bread,

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Speaker 2: Have good pussy, you can be cooking for him, cleaning

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Speaker 2: for him everything. That's what I'm saying. I hate the

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Speaker 2: it's this. It's bitches out here that got some you know,

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Speaker 1: That bond, there is literally nothing you can do about it.

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Speaker 2: So that's why I said, if you got a bond

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Speaker 2: you were down ass bitch and oh, let me pay

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Speaker 1: I'm different.

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Speaker 2: But that's why I don't not not to be funny,

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Speaker 2: but that's why it's like, going back to what you

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Speaker 2: said earlier, you look at holding you down like a

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Speaker 2: good and and I guess that is a good thing.

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Speaker 1: But that's why I've never been a hold.

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Speaker 2: It down ass bitch, Like I'm not about to hold

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Speaker 1: On the hope of no, not on the hope, well,

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Speaker 1: on the hope of you might make it. But then

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Speaker 1: also maybe we've been together for five.

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Speaker 2: Six years, we going through some shep and you end

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Speaker 1: But the relationship was different. You know. That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You gonna let by one.

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Speaker 2: A nigga might take a certain nigga, a certain type

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Speaker 2: I'm just saying, niggas cannot stand if you suck another

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Speaker 2: nigga did, cause you know, feel like because sucking is degrading.

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Speaker 1: That's why I like doing it, cause I like to

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Speaker 1: be disrespectful.

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Speaker 2: I will say this, Niggas do feel like if you

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Speaker 2: fucked another nigga, that's.

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Speaker 1: Bad, but did you suck that nigga did?

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Speaker 2: But I'll say this, and I'm a one being a woman,

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Speaker 2: I feel that way too, though I always said that,

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Speaker 2: like I don't know, I've always said like I would

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Speaker 2: have stick to somebody before I sucked they because I

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Speaker 2: just feel like.

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Speaker 1: Sucking dick is more into me. In my opinion, I

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Speaker 1: totally agree with you. But at this point in my life,

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Speaker 1: if I don't want to suck your dick, I'm not fucking.

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Speaker 2: I can't, yeah, because I mean in my younger days,

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Speaker 2: I was the same way, because I'm like, oh, I'm

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Speaker 2: not sucking this dick like I just want to fuck.

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Speaker 2: But now I need that for a play. I need

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Speaker 2: my pussy a, I need this ass a. Well you

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Speaker 2: all of that. That don't mean I gotta suck y'all.

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Speaker 2: De I like to suck big though.

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Speaker 1: I like to suck big too, but I like to

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Speaker 1: suck the nigga that I really fuck with. That's me,

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Speaker 1: that's but that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: At this age, I'm not just fucking like you know,

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Speaker 2: like if I'm fucking you like I fuck with you

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Speaker 2: some sort of way, you know what I mean, It's true.

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Speaker 2: So look, we got into the bed topics. Will y'all

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Speaker 2: know we always.

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Speaker 1: Be getting all over the like.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I just feel like life is just

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Speaker 2: crazy when it comes to relationships and stuff. As women,

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Speaker 2: you just have to demand, demand what you want and

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Speaker 2: put yourself first.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's how these niggas always all fucking ways. That's

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Speaker 1: why I said.

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Speaker 2: That's why we both said, ladies, is very very important

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Speaker 2: to get everything you want out of a relationship. And

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Speaker 2: that's and once you see that you're getting everything you want,

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Speaker 2: make them do the work.

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Speaker 1: Make a men work for you.

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Speaker 2: And then once you're getting everything you want, okay, then reciprocated.

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Speaker 1: But I'm telling you every time a man will suck

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Speaker 1: you dry if you let him period, he can stick

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Speaker 1: me drawing literally.

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Speaker 2: Okay, guys, that's how we got for it today for

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Speaker 2: the bonus episode. Y'all know, we always just do a

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Speaker 2: little quick topic for the bonus episode.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so let us go.

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Speaker 2: Let us know how y'all think about, you know, being

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Speaker 2: in a relationship with a man or dealing with a

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Speaker 2: man and giving your all versus him giving his all

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Speaker 2: right or him just dropping and shouldn't leave you for

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Speaker 2: another bitch.

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Speaker 1: And if that happened to y'all, we want to know about, like,

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Speaker 1: hit us up and let us know about y'all experience. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and that's always.

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Speaker 2: Send y'all's questions to ask poor Minds at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: And uh, we'll see y'all on Wednesday. On Wednesday, Bye y'all, Bye,