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Speaker 4: My cousin called me at midnight asking me to babysit

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Speaker 4: her kids. I told her forget my number.

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Speaker 1: I guess you got call an out the cousin.

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Speaker 4: She's not Batman. Okay, this is just literally what happened.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, yo, I gotta post his asad

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Speaker 4: because what the F I just posted recently about my

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Speaker 4: grandfather's funeral, which apparently was a grap show within itself.

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Speaker 4: But this started before the ceremony. I live in a

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Speaker 4: different stay than the majority of my family. I'm twenty eight.

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Speaker 4: I work full time doing stuff with my day and

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Speaker 4: my life, you know, being twenty fing eight. By the way,

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Speaker 4: this comes from shrooms from Mars on the rsash Okay

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Speaker 4: Storytime subrend it. So, of course that doesn't matter, and

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Speaker 4: I should always make time for family, YadA, YadA, YadA.

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Speaker 4: Let's just ignore the fact that I actually know about

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Speaker 4: fifteen percent of you by face and maybe seven you

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Speaker 4: seven percent of you by name. Oh but sorry, that's

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Speaker 4: between the four hundred Mildred's and the two hundred and

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Speaker 4: fifty Lindas and eight hundred Stephanee Joc's and Janets that

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Speaker 4: I see once every full planetary alignment. Someone's bound to

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Speaker 4: get lost in the weeds. I obviously make time for

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Speaker 4: my parents, grandmother, siblings when we are all available. I'm

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Speaker 4: the youngest out of three, and while my job is

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Speaker 4: pretty good compared to theirs, it's definitely the most lenient

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Speaker 4: and anyone else that I see on a regular basis. Anyway,

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Speaker 4: back to the funeral. During the pre ceremonial gathering, I'm

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Speaker 4: being showered with do you remember me? Do you know

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Speaker 4: who I am? It's been a long time.

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Speaker 1: I changed your diapers and all that stuff. I'm leading juic, yay, Hi,

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Speaker 1: who are you?

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Speaker 4: I just say yes, yes, and yes to avoid the bs.

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Speaker 4: So in the midst of that, one of my cousins,

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Speaker 4: who I have zero memory of but apparently regularly talks

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Speaker 4: to my mom, comes up to me and introduce me

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Speaker 4: to their kids. We exchange pleasantries and they seem super

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Speaker 4: happy to meet me, and their mom says that I've

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Speaker 4: been absolutely and and their mom says that they've been

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Speaker 4: absolutely dying to see me. My brain is like what

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Speaker 4: the F And I just shake it off at that

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Speaker 4: moment because I wasn't in a good mood and I

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Speaker 4: just didn't want to focus on it. My cousin tells

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Speaker 4: me they're around my age and that they also live

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Speaker 4: in my state, and they're actually about a forty minute

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Speaker 4: drive from my place. Oh that's awesome. I don't care.

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Speaker 1: I feel like OP just doesn't like is this a

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Speaker 1: funeral of one?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But I feel like OP just like, I love my life.

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Speaker 1: I don't care about these people.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's literally it. So let me just let me

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Speaker 4: do my thing.

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Speaker 1: Yea.

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Speaker 4: It's like a turtle on the log, dude.

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Speaker 1: Literally, it's like, this is my day, this is my life.

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Speaker 1: I don't care for you.

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Speaker 4: She's a turtle on a log and there's just a

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Speaker 4: bunch of people tube and everyone's like, I want to

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Speaker 4: take the turtle home. She's like, let me be let

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Speaker 4: me sell them bathe on my log.

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Speaker 1: This is my log. Stay away from my log, Stay

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Speaker 1: away from me. It's on your marry and do your thing.

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Speaker 1: He'll do like a little head nod and like gotcha.

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Speaker 4: Yeah exactly. That's all she wants to do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh see you jet.

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Speaker 4: She suggests a little get together sometime later this year

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Speaker 4: and says she'll talk to my mom about it. Which, sure,

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Speaker 4: that's fine. I mean, it's not like I'm fourteen and

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Speaker 4: I have to ask her permission to do anything anymore.

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Speaker 4: But I took that at says a cool I don't

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Speaker 4: have to worry about it then, and left it at that.

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Speaker 4: Fast forward to about forty five minutes ago. It's almost midnight.

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Speaker 4: I get a call from a number that's based in

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Speaker 4: the city most of my family lives in. In the

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Speaker 4: other say not only that, but it's a very specific location,

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Speaker 4: too specific to be just a spam call, So naturally

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Speaker 4: I kind of panicked. My grandmother was down there at

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Speaker 4: the time, and she's a few years younger than my

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Speaker 4: late grandfather, so call me a little paranoid. I answered, Hey,

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Speaker 4: my name, Hey, OPI, this is cousin. How are you? Hey,

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Speaker 4: I don't know who the f you are. What's up?

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Speaker 4: What's going on? Everything? Okay? Yeah, sounding confused in my question,

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Speaker 4: Everything's fine. I was just calling to see if you

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Speaker 4: After I was finally able to put together who this was.

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Speaker 4: I felt like that meme with all the equations floating around,

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Speaker 4: near midnight to schedule an effing playdate. I said, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: What remember at the funeral we talked about you and

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Speaker 4: the good names getting together. Sometime later this year? Daughter

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Speaker 4: a tour on Saturday morning. So I was thinking we

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Speaker 4: for lunch, just nowhere without because my son is only

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Speaker 4: eighteen yo. What I remember her saying that they were

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Speaker 4: around my age the home. We can't even drink.

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Speaker 1: That's the point that that's what came across Opie's Body's like,

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Speaker 1: he can't drink. I don't want to hang out with

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Speaker 4: Then she starts rambling about her daughter isn't allowed to

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Speaker 4: she's twenty two. It doesn't know what moderation means. Why

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Speaker 4: is this? Why why are we talking about alcohol? This

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Speaker 4: is at lunch, at lunch.

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Speaker 1: This is also yeah, but also this is freaking midnight.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's midnight.

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Speaker 1: I don't call.

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Speaker 4: I do know. I call people after nine, certain people

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Speaker 4: I call after nine, But other than that, I don't

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Speaker 1: I would text us if it's an emergency.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I text everyone, Yeah, like I would. Maybe the

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Speaker 4: only person I call after night is my girlfriend, that's it.

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Speaker 1: Brother he's so sweet.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but like not even John Orsam. I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 4: it's like almost eight, but they're not.

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Speaker 1: This is Yeah, Yeah, I get that, Yeah, this is,

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Speaker 1: this is a this is I would be like, can

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Speaker 1: we do this tomorrow? Yeah, talking about this tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: We'll figure this out tomorrow. Maybe this is just me

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Speaker 4: but letting God's green earth. What a twenty eight almost

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Speaker 4: Just focus on school and don't get anybody pregnant, not

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Speaker 4: to mention the fact that I don't even know these people.

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Speaker 4: Before I knew it, I had started wheezing and squawking

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Speaker 4: on the phone, and Couz did not appreciate it. I

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Speaker 4: couldn't hear what she said under my laughter, but I

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Speaker 4: was like, yeah, I don't think, so I work a

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Speaker 4: double on Saturday, so I'm not getting off until like

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Speaker 4: eight pm. Well, first off, I don't know what was

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Speaker 4: so funny about what I said, And you could easily

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Speaker 4: just do a nice dinner or something. Eight pm isn't

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Speaker 4: too late. My little patience is gone at this point, ma'am.

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Speaker 4: I work a good forty minutes away. This isn't Star Trek.

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Speaker 4: I'm not getting home until around nine, and I'm not

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Speaker 4: itching to babysit after an eleven hour shift. I could

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Speaker 4: recommend some spots for y'all to check out yourselves, but

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Speaker 4: this isn't a college town. You're not going to find anyplace.

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Speaker 4: This was zero out, But it's not like they don't

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Speaker 4: have other drinks. Excuse me. I know your mother did

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Speaker 4: not raise you to be rude like this, especially to family.

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Speaker 2: Dude, I don't even know you.

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Speaker 4: I have no idea who you are, and you're calling

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Speaker 4: me at witching hour to schedule a hangout with your kids,

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Speaker 4: who were, in fact not around my age.

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Speaker 1: This is weird, Like is weird? The mom is weird.

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Speaker 1: I feel like the kids are like.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they're just like that's cousin Greg. I feel

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Speaker 4: like I feel like cousin wants something out of Opie.

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Speaker 1: No, and that's to take care of her kids.

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Speaker 4: And yeah, and the kids are just sort of like,

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Speaker 4: we don't care. We just want to see this college.

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Speaker 1: I feel like the kids should. This is what my

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Speaker 1: mom would have done. She would like, this is your

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Speaker 1: cousin Greg's number, reach out to him if you want

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Speaker 1: to reach out if you're to be in the same spot, Like,

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Speaker 1: hey do that. Yeah, Like they're also these kids are

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Speaker 1: also adults. Yeah, they can make decisions for themselves.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, eighteen twenty two.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't need to be a helicopter mom.

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Speaker 4: She always gets what she wants. People go around her schedule. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: this is definitely what that is.

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Speaker 1: This is also midnight, Like I would be so furious,

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Speaker 1: Like I don't like again, I love that worker double

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Speaker 1: them the next day. Yeah, I love Op's just straightforwardness

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Speaker 1: of like, who the heck are you? I don't even

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Speaker 1: is like they're kids. I don't want to hang out

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Speaker 3: I feel like, oh, people like, yeah, y'all are all

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Speaker 4: We're not the same. Please do not call me again,

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Speaker 4: but you can always call us every weekday at three

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Speaker 4: pm PSC just tap her profile. I hang up, and

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Speaker 4: I had a small cackle fit with my fiance, who

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Speaker 4: was awoken by this nonsense. Obviously, I'm not going to

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Speaker 4: key hope she wakes my mom and bits to her

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Speaker 4: about me, so Mom can cuss her out for calling

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Speaker 4: either of us at such an ungodly hour. But I

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Speaker 4: know Mom's going to tell me that I've good, have

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Speaker 4: been a little nicer, which honestly, I think I just

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Speaker 4: did fine by not cussing during the conversation. But maybe

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Speaker 4: this was just me and my zero BS tolerance talking.

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Speaker 4: So am I the A hole?

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Speaker 2: I know?

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Speaker 4: I mean, are you the a hole for not?

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Speaker 5: No, you're not the a hole for saying no, babysitting

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Speaker 5: your cousins like your unknown cousins kids, Yeah, and calling

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Speaker 5: you strangers yeah, they're literally ours a strangers like calling.

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Speaker 4: For a favor. Yeah, it's so weird.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. You remember when we talked at the

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Speaker 1: funeral and you said, sure you'll hang out with us.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like I'm uncertain.

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Speaker 1: Sure you meant yes, and you meant to do that

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Speaker 1: next week.

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Speaker 4: So we're also like, why not. They're leaving the next

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Speaker 4: day too. It sounds like, yeah, I'll be there tomorrow

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Speaker 4: at least a two week let them.

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Speaker 1: I was like if if I if someone called me

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Speaker 1: and like, I don't know you, I mean to hang

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Speaker 1: out with your kids. No, but I again the fact

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Speaker 1: that's like I can recommend some spots for you.

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Speaker 4: That's nice.

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Speaker 1: That's nice. It's also midnight. I would like to get

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Speaker 4: Yeah, when they can drink. Oh man, that's the end

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend ghosted me, so I gave away his PlayStation

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Speaker 4: Ghosts can't play video.

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Speaker 2: Games Finders keepers. So I twenty eight female don't consider

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Speaker 2: So four years ago, I was in a relationship that

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Speaker 2: I'd like to explain the red flags I ignored because

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Speaker 4: Please give this some loose format, I what, Please give

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Speaker 2: I also think it'll help me therapeutically to vent a

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Speaker 2: That part isn't red flag, It's to be expected with

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Speaker 2: He's like jaziontic. Then five days after returning, he told

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Speaker 4: Here, Come on, dude.

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Speaker 2: Saying this now with clarity, I realized what a huge

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Speaker 2: eight ish months later. We were still living near his base,

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Speaker 2: He hadn't had a job outside of his National Guard.

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Speaker 2: His car, schooling, and rent were all paid for out

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Speaker 4: I feel like what he's trying to do is butter

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Speaker 4: He's rethinking that. So he's like, I don't know. I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because if I'm in a relationship and they moved

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Speaker 2: I was flabbergasted. You can come if you want to,

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Speaker 2: I got a chance to call him, he'd cut me

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Speaker 4: The addiction.

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Speaker 2: He hung up and ghosted me for a week After that, week,

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Speaker 4: Through Facebook.

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Speaker 2: Okay, not even a text.

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Speaker 4: This is what happened. He was on Facebook dating and

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Speaker 4: Quick, let me messege your my girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Uh work my ex. He never called. I have not

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Speaker 2: But at that point, we've been together for three years,

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Speaker 2: some books. Right wrong, This garbage can person only sent

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Speaker 4: She doesn't let people borrow her books.

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Speaker 2: I don't. I would be livid you were.

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Speaker 4: A me borrow book. I live with you, but you

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Speaker 2: But I have a very specific condition in which I

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Speaker 4: He took across country, dude.

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Speaker 2: Mine you. Yes, he was on deployment, but he lived

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Speaker 2: So here's my petty revenge. I couldn't do much because

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Speaker 2: So I packed it up and gave it to my

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Speaker 2: Let's go. But you know how you can get lucky

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Speaker 2: if you join us live every week. Had three pmpst

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Speaker 2: I honestly think you have not I think, sure, Petty,

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Speaker 2: but he ghosted you and broke up with you over Facebook.

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Speaker 4: You're right, dude, I still have my ex's Apple TV thing.

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Speaker 4: I accidentally forgot to send it back to her.

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Speaker 2: What So I.

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Speaker 4: Sent back a few things to my ex and then

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Speaker 4: there was like another thing of things, so forgot to

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Speaker 2: Yeah no, I gave all of my exes stuff immediately.

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Speaker 4: Nice.

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Speaker 2: I like put it all in a bag and I

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Speaker 4: Good for you. I still have a few books.

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Speaker 2: Kind of feel bad, but now edit, I realized I

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Speaker 2: I hope any vets who read this are not offended

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Speaker 2: If it does matter at all, he did not pay

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Speaker 2: this is still something petty that I did, hence the tag.

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Speaker 2: I know it's petty. I do feel bad, and that's it.

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Speaker 2: Don't feel bad, girl.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, you're good.

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Speaker 1: You're good.

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Speaker 4: You can oh wow, you have the right to be

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what, you did a good deed too,

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Speaker 2: because you gave your friend's nephew a PlayStation.

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Speaker 4: He will always love you.

439
00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,080
Speaker 2: He's gonna be like, oh my god, you're so freaking cool.

440
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:42,960
Speaker 4: You're the best ever.

441
00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:47,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, my dad's girlfriend's kids were being xenophobic, so we

442
00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:49,640
Speaker 1: spoke fluent Spanish in front of them.

443
00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,880
Speaker 4: Having or showing dislike or prejudice against people from other countries.

444
00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,840
Speaker 1: Xenophobia. Let's get it out of there. Bear with me.

445
00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:59,480
Speaker 1: I'll try my very best to keep this as short

446
00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 1: as possible. My parents split when I was twenty three

447
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,800
Speaker 1: and my sister was twenty. They were such a poor

448
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,720
Speaker 1: match and I'm surprised they lasted so long, and both

449
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,040
Speaker 1: of us breathed a bit of a sigh of relief

450
00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:14,800
Speaker 1: when they split. Everyone was immediately happier, and since then,

451
00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:18,360
Speaker 1: both of our parents have found new partners. By the way,

452
00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,800
Speaker 1: this comes from a user don't suffer fools on the

453
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Speaker 1: r slash Okay, sorry, time supred it.

454
00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:23,239
Speaker 2: So.

455
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Speaker 1: I've always had a good relationship with my dad, albeit

456
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:28,600
Speaker 1: a bit of a strained one. My dad is a

457
00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:31,879
Speaker 1: far bit less politically correct than I am, and I

458
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 1: am hardly PC at all. Trust me. He calls things

459
00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,359
Speaker 1: that are stupid or that he doesn't like gay, He

460
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 1: uses slurs to describe gay people, thinks Hillary Clinton would

461
00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,440
Speaker 1: be a bad president because she'd nuke everyone on her period,

462
00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 1: and laments that he can't use the N word in public. Okay,

463
00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:50,640
Speaker 1: So your.

464
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:52,600
Speaker 4: Dad's wow sol the oath kind of guy.

465
00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, sounds like he has a lot of privilege.

466
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:59,679
Speaker 1: He's the epitome of out of touch late fifties lily

467
00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:03,320
Speaker 1: white guy, is what I'm saying. Mmm. I love my dad,

468
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,680
Speaker 1: and while these things bother me, there's literally no changing him.

469
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: So I have to just bear with it when I'm

470
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,040
Speaker 1: hanging out with him. And an important note is that

471
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:15,280
Speaker 1: while my dad says some sexist home of crap, he

472
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 1: never does so in public. Oh great, so he can

473
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 1: do it around, you know, the people who lives around

474
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,840
Speaker 1: his friends. But yeah, he knows that he's It's like,

475
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:23,719
Speaker 1: it's not allowed to say it.

476
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 4: It's like a cricket until they get close to you.

477
00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:28,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they jump away.

478
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

479
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:31,440
Speaker 1: At the very least, he knows when to keep his

480
00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:35,239
Speaker 1: opinions to himself and his family. Recently, my dad has

481
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 1: been seeing this woman, let's call her Iris. Iris has

482
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 1: two kids as well, twenty nine male and twenty seven female.

483
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:45,960
Speaker 1: I don't really know Iris very well. I met her

484
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 1: earlier this year at my dad's place, but only very briefly,

485
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 1: as I was dropping off a few things with my dad.

486
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 1: My sister has never met her before, and neither of

487
00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 1: us I've met her kids before either, so you haven't

488
00:21:59,320 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 1: really you don't know that.

489
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 4: These new people. Don't know these new people.

490
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 1: Okay, my dad really likes this woman, so he wants

491
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,159
Speaker 1: all of us, both sets of kids, to get to

492
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 1: know each other and the parents so we all can

493
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Speaker 1: be a blended family lovely. Despite my dad's political incorrectness,

494
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 1: he can be adorable sometimes. Okay, your dad's still So

495
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: Dad invited us all out to dinner. My sister's known

496
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 1: to be a bit briskly with strangers, so I told

497
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Speaker 1: her to be on her best behavior because I want

498
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:28,639
Speaker 1: our dad to be happy and didn't want to defend

499
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 1: iris or her kids. Yeah, that makes faarafones. So we

500
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: sit down and all start trying to get to know

501
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 1: each other. My dad chose a Mexican restaurant to take

502
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Speaker 1: us out to because it's our whole family's favorite type

503
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:44,399
Speaker 1: of restaurant. My mom has the most bombastic, authentic Mexican

504
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 1: food all the time, so its my mom and dad split.

505
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 1: My dad has been trying to fill the hole with

506
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:52,159
Speaker 1: my mom's great cooking left in his belly so to speak,

507
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:57,200
Speaker 1: and is a takaria junkie to carry to ya takaria junkie.

508
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 1: Also important to note, me and my sister, just being

509
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: half Mexican, have really white skin. We have obviously Mexican features,

510
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,840
Speaker 1: or at least I think they're obviously Mexican, but everyone

511
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,400
Speaker 1: always assumes that we are a white European descent because

512
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: of the color of our skin. So we sit down

513
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 1: with Iris and her kids, and immediately her kids start complaining,

514
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 1: these are again twenty nine, like they're like late twenty

515
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: twenty seven. Oh boy, oh no, these are grown, these

516
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 1: are grown, ah adults complaining that half of the menu

517
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:26,240
Speaker 1: is in Spanish.

518
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,720
Speaker 4: Oh no, bro, come on.

519
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: Next to each thing on the menu was the Spanish

520
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: name and the English name, and all the descriptions were

521
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: in English, so it wasn't like an English speaker couldn't

522
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 1: read it. I am near fluent in Spanish and my

523
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 1: sister speaks passibly, and we're both in school to become

524
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: English second language teachers. But we tried to settle the

525
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,920
Speaker 1: hair on the backs of our necks and ignore them.

526
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 1: We actually managed to have a pleasant combo with them. Otherwise,

527
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: until the waiter comes over to get our drink orders.

528
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,399
Speaker 4: Oh uh ooh, I see you.

529
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: Iris's son snapped at the waiter like a dog to

530
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 1: get his attention and take his order first.

531
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:03,880
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, and her.

532
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:08,439
Speaker 1: Daughter spoke in highly condescending voice, very slowly, like this

533
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 1: man working at a restaurant that caters to big, fat

534
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:16,200
Speaker 1: white people couldn't understand dang English. Iris was normal, thank god,

535
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: But when the waiter, bless his jolly soul, he was

536
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: so kind despite being treated like an idiot by those

537
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:24,680
Speaker 1: two left. Her son remarked that he didn't expect the

538
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: service to be very good. I don't even know he

539
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 1: could understand us. Oh no, my dad has been to

540
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: this place before, so he said, no, the service here

541
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: is great. You're gonna love this food. I recommend again,

542
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 1: I can't remember what exactly he recommended, you know, something

543
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 1: that dad always usually gets trying to smooth things over.

544
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 1: And then the son says, not like I could understand

545
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:51,440
Speaker 1: him either with that god awful accent. These people need

546
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,120
Speaker 1: to learn English if they want to come to America.

547
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,200
Speaker 1: Probably an illegal or some crap.

548
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,080
Speaker 4: Oh gosh, dude, Oh my goodness.

549
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 1: This is a twenty nine year old man in public.

550
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 4: Dude, that's insane.

551
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: And one the mom, I guarantee you that dad mom,

552
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 1: not Op's mom. But oh p he's like yeah, the

553
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:13,360
Speaker 1: new the new mom, and the sister your girlfriend.

554
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:13,879
Speaker 4: Yeah.

555
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 1: Oh, they're just like, yeah, keep it on, keep it up.

556
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 4: Oh, this is so bad.

557
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: Before we get into it, if you ever, if you

558
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: like a friend or like a partner, if they started

559
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 1: doing say that, they're saying that, well one saying I

560
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 1: would obvious that's it, obviously no. But yeah, they were

561
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:35,199
Speaker 1: very rude to waiters. I hate that.

562
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, no, no, no, no.

563
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:38,640
Speaker 1: That's really goes. I always make sure to say please

564
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 1: and thank you.

565
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 4: I want everyone to feel welcomed in love.

566
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I even when I leave, I make thanks

567
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: you for thank you for the food, appreciate you guys,

568
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 1: have a good night. I always say that. Yeah, me

569
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 1: and my sister are generally nice, kind people, but no

570
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 1: one has ever accused us of being patient or suffering

571
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 1: fools silently, So because we're petty, we just gave each

572
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: other a look and started speaking only in Spanish to

573
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:04,920
Speaker 1: one another for the rest of the night. Yo, could

574
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: you imagine what they like? Opie and the sisters speaking

575
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: Spanish their eyes must have been like, oh no, I

576
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:18,959
Speaker 1: felt bad because Iris looked mortified. Oh, Irish looked mortified,

577
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,439
Speaker 1: But it felt so good to be so petty. For

578
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 1: the next hour or so through dinner, we of course

579
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: switched to English to talk to Iris or her kids,

580
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: but with each other and my dad, who could understand

581
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 1: it a bit but not speak it, we spoke the

582
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 1: most rapid fluent Spanish we could muster, oh boy, and

583
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: at every opportunity my sister would try to mention that

584
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: we were Mexicans and had grown up in an Hispanic

585
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: household with our mom and her extended family. I would

586
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 1: have said something, but let's keep going. Since then, my

587
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: Dad's been texting and calling us, mostly because I'm usually

588
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 1: the ringleader of these sorts of things, begging for us

589
00:26:55,680 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 1: to apologize to Iris's kids for embarrassing them. No, f that,

590
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: for embarrassing them. I'm sure my dad didn't know they

591
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: were going to be so racist towards Mexicans or else.

592
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,880
Speaker 1: I'm sure he wouldn't have invited them to go out

593
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,360
Speaker 1: for Mexican food, but I know he doesn't think what

594
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: they said was that racist. Like I said earlier, the

595
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 1: dad doesn't care or this is like the dad's like, Oh,

596
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 1: they can say it because I say it at home.

597
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 1: This is fine, you know, this is comfortable.

598
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

599
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: He said that they could have been worse.

600
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, they could have actually like said the end word

601
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:36,200
Speaker 4: in public, yeah, or like actually said what they really thought. Yeah.

602
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: He said that they could have been worse and there

603
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,400
Speaker 1: was no need for you to humiliate them and Iris

604
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: like that. I agree, Iris was lovely. I should have

605
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: taken her feelings into account, and I have no problem

606
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: calling or meeting her to apologize for acting so petty

607
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 1: and childish. But dang it, I do not want to

608
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: apologize to racist for pointing out and not taking their

609
00:27:57,200 --> 00:28:01,720
Speaker 1: racism sitting down. Is that so wrong? What should I do?

610
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 1: Am I just being petty about this too? I don't

611
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: want to make my dad unhappy, but I know he's

612
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: not a good judge of what is and isn't racism,

613
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 1: and I don't feel like I should apologize for slapping

614
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: a couple of racist adult brats down. There is an

615
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: update like this is this is just this is I

616
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: think this is a competition of petty But oh he's

617
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 1: in the right yeah, oh yeah, yeah.

618
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean in a way you did isolate the

619
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 4: two kids, and they were horrible people. So not saying

620
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 4: you have to apologize to him, you were on their

621
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 4: level in a way to like show them rather.

622
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 1: Than tell them like, hey, that's not right. Yeah we

623
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: are Mexican. If our dad hasn't told you, which I

624
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: think that should have been, like my previous part.

625
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you don't. I mean, if you don't feel

626
00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 4: like you have to apologize to him and you don't

627
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 4: want to build a relationship with them, you know.

628
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to if this is not for

629
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: your father's happiness, this is for your happiness.

630
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,959
Speaker 4: Yeah, And like you can tell your dad like, hey,

631
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 4: I don't really like these people.

632
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,480
Speaker 1: The fact that they're like they're willing to apologize to

633
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: iris is great.

634
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, and they like.

635
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 1: They don't have to be like justify their explanation.

636
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 2: You know.

637
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 4: I'm all about being around people you're excited to be around.

638
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially I Ah, I hate people who are rude

639
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: to like waiters and like food service. You do realize

640
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: if people are out there and you do that, you

641
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: do realize these people are serving you food.

642
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

643
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: Do you say that out loud? They're serving you food?

644
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 1: You know that means they can. They can do whatever

645
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 1: they want to your food.

646
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 4: Oh wow, I didn't think about that.

647
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, so be kind to your waiters. Update. So I

648
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: thought i'd come back to update y'all. My sister and

649
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: I talked about it with our mom. I was gonna say, yeah,

650
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: like what if mom were there? Yeah, I would have

651
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: told I would have told Dad, Like what if our

652
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 1: mom was there? What do you think I could We

653
00:29:58,600 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: could have been worse.

654
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah.

655
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 1: If you say they could have been worse, we could

656
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Speaker 1: have been worse. So I thought i'd come back to

657
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Speaker 1: update y'all. My sister and I talked about it with

658
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,479
Speaker 1: our mom, who has always been much calmer than us.

659
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 1: She laughed at us speaking nothing but Spanish and said

660
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Speaker 1: she wished she'd been there to see Iris' kids' faces.

661
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: She did tell us to just apologize, though, because she

662
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: knows how our dad can hold grudges over tiny things

663
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: like this. We didn't really want to do that, though,

664
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Speaker 1: so I contacted Iris and asked her if I could

665
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Speaker 1: meet up for coffee and talk about everything that happened.

666
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Speaker 1: She was super apologetic when we met for coffee and

667
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: said a lot of her kids's funny ideas come from

668
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Speaker 1: their bio dad, who was a patriotic Republican. Ooh, I

669
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Speaker 1: think she has died. Ah. The way she kind of

670
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: sugarcoated everything about it makes me think maybe she doesn't

671
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Speaker 1: necessarily think what they did was wrong in general, just

672
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: that she was sorry my sister and I happened to

673
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Speaker 1: be part of to be part Mexican, and that what

674
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Speaker 1: they did offended us.

675
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Speaker 4: Not sorry for what.

676
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, Oh, they were just they were the kids.

677
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: They said the darnedest things, even though they were literally thirty. Anyway,

678
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 1: it was just me and Iris at Starbucks. My sister

679
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 1: wasn't there. She's grown incredibly apathetic to the incident in

680
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 1: a very short amount of time. That's just the way

681
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: she is. And I said, I understand everyone's entitled to

682
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: their opinion, that my dad has some opinions I don't

683
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: agree with at all. Two, but that it was rude

684
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: of them to assume we'd be okay subjected to their

685
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: racist remarks and was embarrassing to be seen with racist.

686
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: Iris was pretty flustered at the terms racist, but I

687
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:40,959
Speaker 1: didn't back down anyway. She was at least reasonable and

688
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: apologized again about what happened and I apologize that we

689
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: embarrassed her at dinner, and besides some slightly irreversibly ruffled feathers,

690
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: I think I've at least smoothed things over with her,

691
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Speaker 1: and you can smooth things with us every weekday Live

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Speaker 4: H this is stuff. It's her kids and to respect

694
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Speaker 4: them and their ideas and their values. So that's probably

695
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 4: why she's sugar sugar coating everything.

696
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: One hundred. Uh. They they're just again privileged. You're privileged.

697
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 1: You can't you know, they're not gonna they don't know,

698
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: they don't understand that. They don't think they will ever understand.

699
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Speaker 4: I bet you they got the brand newest iPhone.

700
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 1: They got, they got cyber trucks. Oh yeah, I'm kidding.

701
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 1: I don't know people who have cyber trucks. Just saying no,

702
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 1: there's no reason for you to apologize again. You apologize

703
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: to the person that you need to apologize. Yeah, and

704
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: the fact that she's understanding, but not to the extent

705
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 1: that you want her to be. I guess you guys

706
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: are meeting halfway. This isn't your family. Yeah, you don't

707
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: have to deal with them. You have to see your dad.

708
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 1: But I know you want to make things you know,

709
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: you know friendly. You don't have to do that.

710
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 4: Nope.

711
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, back to the story. My dad is another story.

712
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: Speaking of another story, My dad is another story. He

713
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: is uparently not talking to me until I apologize to

714
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: his girlfriend's kids. I made my stance clear that I

715
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: wouldn't and if he wanted to act like racism against

716
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 1: his kids, as was okay, then I wouldn't be hanging

717
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 1: around him anymore, or god forbid bringing my future mixed

718
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,479
Speaker 1: kids and his future grandkids around. My sister just sent

719
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: him a text that said, have fun with the racist.

720
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Speaker 1: She's not good at being settled anyway. That's where things

721
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Speaker 1: are right now. Not a super good ending, but not

722
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Speaker 1: necessarily a bad ending either. And that's the actual end.

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Speaker 4: You're just kind of, you know, stood your ground on

724
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Speaker 4: what you believed in and what you value.

725
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 1: You have to tell your dad like, there there's a

726
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Speaker 1: fine line, Dad, Like, I get it. That's who that's

727
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Speaker 1: who you are. I'm not going to change who you are.

728
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Speaker 1: I just don't agree with it. Yeah, that's that's your family.

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Speaker 1: Have fun. Yep, low contact is all low contact racists suck.

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Speaker 1: Xenophobic people stuck, prejudiced, suck you stuck.

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Speaker 2: I'm frustrated because even my own family tells me I'm

741
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742
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748
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Speaker 2: my ex husband cheated on me with a woman I

749
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,359
Speaker 2: didn't know, but she knew me. He left me for her.

750
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Speaker 2: Our only daughter was a baby, and I just moved

751
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Speaker 2: on with my life. I'm never going to fight for

752
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 2: a man who makes immature decisions without first thinking about

753
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 2: the consequences. He married that woman. I went on with

754
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 2: my life, preferring to have a healthy cop parenting for

755
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Speaker 2: my daughter. He never showed remorse, and he even told

756
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 2: me that ours was always mistake and that woman was

757
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,760
Speaker 2: the love of his life. That helped me to realize

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Speaker 2: that he's a tonal wiener and I don't need a

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Speaker 2: man like that in my life.

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Speaker 4: Now.

761
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 2: He cheated on her, and for some reason, this woman

762
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 2: who always had a really cold, distant relationship with me,

763
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 2: is insisting and trying to talk with me every day.

764
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 2: I found out about the infidelity from my daughter, who

765
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 2: wasn't affected by that, so I didn't think too much

766
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Speaker 2: about it. The only thing that worried me was knowing

767
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Speaker 2: if he was going to be able to continue having

768
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 2: our daughter at his house on weekends as always. But

769
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Speaker 2: his wife started sending me messages explaining what happened when

770
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,359
Speaker 2: I never asked her that, and in the past I

771
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 2: only spoke to her if her husband didn't answer my

772
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 2: text to ask something about my daughter. It's obvious that

773
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,319
Speaker 2: she needs to talk about it. It doesn't matter if

774
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,800
Speaker 2: I answered dryly because she sends me long audios talking

775
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:54,439
Speaker 2: about it anyway. I mean, I understand that she needs

776
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 2: to talk about her husband's in fidelity and blah, but

777
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 2: why me. I don't want to be rude, but I

778
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 2: don't care how how she or he feels. In one

779
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 2: of her audios, she says, you know how I feel now,

780
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 2: but that was seventeen years ago. It's not the same.

781
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 2: And if I'm being one hundred percent honest, she can't

782
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 2: compare herself to me at all. A woman who has

783
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 2: just given birth to whom her husband tells her that

784
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 2: he has been cheating on her for a long time

785
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 2: with another woman who was not boring in bed and

786
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 2: does know how to value him, versus a woman who

787
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: always knew that her husband isn't faithful and decided to

788
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 2: marry him anyway. Anyway. I've tried to ignore her as

789
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 2: much as I can, but even when I talk to

790
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 2: my family or friends about this, almost all of them

791
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 2: told me things like, oh, but she must feel lonely,

792
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 2: But she wasn't to blame for being the other one.

793
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 2: I think you should be more empathetic. She absolutely was

794
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 2: to blame. We all need someone to talk to or

795
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 2: my favorite one. She's not to blame for him being

796
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 2: a cheater. You should understand her because she needs help.

797
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 2: I understand that she is not to blame and he's

798
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 2: the cheater. But she is totally an adult woman at

799
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 2: the time, and she decided to marry a man she

800
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 2: knew was sleeping with her while his wife was pregnant.

801
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 2: So why would I now carry the weight of helping

802
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 2: her when she never helped me by telling me, Hey,

803
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,320
Speaker 2: your husband slept with me and that's really crappy because

804
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 2: he's married to you, or that's what I do if

805
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 2: a married man flirted with me. Now, if she didn't

806
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 2: do any of that, then why is it my duty

807
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 2: as a feminist to force myself to be her friend?

808
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense. And the worst thing is that

809
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: almost all the women around me tell me that I

810
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: should help her and be her ear when I don't

811
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 2: want or feel empathy for her or for him.

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00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 4: The enemy of my enemy is my friend. Now that

813
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 4: doesn't apply here whatsoever.

814
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:33,760
Speaker 2: Like this is ridiculous. Your friends are trying to push

815
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 2: you into this weird relationship, make you carry all of

816
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:42,359
Speaker 2: this baggage, emotional baggage for this woman who wronged you. Yeah, yes,

817
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,760
Speaker 2: seventeen years ago, but like wronged you and you're having

818
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 2: to go through again again because she's roping you back

819
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 2: into it.

820
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're gonna have to go through again. Your husband

821
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 4: cheating on?

822
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, oh my god, the heck. I think

823
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,479
Speaker 2: she and he knew very well what they were getting into.

824
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 2: I don't understand why I should be her free therapist now.

825
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 2: Being cheer on is not my whole personality. I don't

826
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 2: need to talk to her about that. Twenty four to seven.

827
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 2: I just chose to ignore her, and that's what I'm

828
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: going to continue to do because I don't care how

829
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: she feels. Even if I'm a bad feminist for not

830
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 2: feeling empathy, You're not. That is literally not what feminist is. Though.

831
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Speaker 2: All of your friends who are saying that are crazy. Sorry,

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00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 2: my first language is Spanish and I wrote everything pretty

833
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 2: annoyed and edit. No, I can't block her because she's

834
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 2: still living with him and I need to have her

835
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 2: contact in case of an emergency with my daughter. Yikes.

836
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 2: And honestly, it's weird to have so many comments and

837
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 2: even private messages from people wanting to tell me what

838
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 2: I should send to her and even writing what I feel.

839
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:38,839
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but there's no way I'm going to use

840
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 2: the message of a stranger who doesn't know me, how

841
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 2: I feel or the whole situation to say something to someone.

842
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of people in the comments

843
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 2: are reflecting their own traumas. And there is an update?

844
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 2: But what do you think? Is there anything else? Hop

845
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 2: he needs to do?

846
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 4: No, you already know what to do. New friend group, dude.

847
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 2: New friend group. Drop them? They freaking suck.

848
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,240
Speaker 4: They really do. Did she just asked for advice?

849
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 2: She didn't want advice?

850
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, she already know. You already got what's right

851
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 4: on your head? Yeah?

852
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, there is an update.

853
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,399
Speaker 4: Should we block the I would?

854
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,919
Speaker 2: I mean, they said she can't because she still lives

855
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 2: with the dad, so they need information about the daughter.

856
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,399
Speaker 2: But the second she's not living with them, out you're done. Hi,

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00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 2: it's been a while since I posted, and I just

858
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: wanted to give a little update for people who were worried.

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Speaker 2: First of all, my mother was a lover for a

860
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 2: long time when I was a teenager, plus during my adulthood.

861
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:29,399
Speaker 2: The relationship lasted long years until he died. I think

862
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 2: his wife never found out about his affair. That's why

863
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 2: my mom manipulates me so much into not judging my

864
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 2: ex's wife, because no one chooses who to fall in

865
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 2: love with, yes, but also you do choose how you

866
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 2: react to it and how you go about it. And

867
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 2: anyone who uses all I was in love with them

868
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 2: to justify cheating messed up. My mother always reflected herself

869
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Speaker 2: on that woman, and that's why she said that my

870
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 2: ex husband and his lover now wife are soulmates and

871
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 2: I shouldn't get in the way. I was very young

872
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 2: at the time. I could only lean on my mother

873
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 2: for a little support, and while narcissists always catch vulnerable people. Nowadays,

874
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:08,760
Speaker 2: I don't have much contact with her, but my daughter

875
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 2: spends time with my family and about my friends. Well,

876
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 2: I'm a feminist activist, and opinions regarding lovers are divided

877
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 2: because most of them are in the liberal side. Most

878
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 2: of the times, it's seen as something misogynistic to judge

879
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 2: them because they're single woman and the man is the

880
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: one we should blame. Plus we need to be sororos,

881
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 2: so I expected that reaction from most of them. I

882
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 2: agree with that in most cases, but not in this one.

883
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 2: I disagree with that as a very strong as a pro,

884
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 2: I've got the pro as a feminist, I don't think

885
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 2: that as like, if you are cheated on and there's

886
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: an affair partner, I don't think that you should go

887
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 2: after the woman and like freaking scream and our and

888
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 2: put all of the blame on her. That's not the case.

889
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 2: But I don't think that they're in the clear. I

890
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 2: think it's like, when you get cheated on, you should

891
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 2: be putting all of that and stuff towards your and

892
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 2: betrayal towards your partner.

893
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

894
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 2: However, that doesn't mean that the person who was the

895
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 2: fair partner did nothing wrong.

896
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

897
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: I think that's how I look at it.

898
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 4: Unless you know the fair partner.

899
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 2: Then yeah, and then it's like yeah, because it's about

900
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 2: who you're in contract with, I guess.

901
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 4: It's okay to feel the emotion of in hate toward

902
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 4: and anger towards that person.

903
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you don't have to like hack on it.

904
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 4: That's wasting your energy. The best revenge is investing in yourself.

905
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: I can feel empathy when the woman did not know,

906
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 2: or when she's a minor being groomed, but in this case,

907
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 2: I do not feel any pity because she knew what

908
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 2: she was doing. Women can also be mean and cruel.

909
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 2: Women can also choose to be the bad guys in

910
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,919
Speaker 2: the story without someone manipulating us, because we are not weak,

911
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 2: and my excess wife is that kind of woman. No

912
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 2: one manipulated her into doing anything. I'm sorry that explanation

913
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: was perhaps unnecessary, but there were people who didn't understand

914
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 2: my families and friends behavior, and honestly, it feels good

915
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 2: to vent. I have spoken with my excess wife because honestly,

916
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: a few days ago, I had a really stressful day

917
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,359
Speaker 2: and the last thing I needed was to see your

918
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 2: messages in my WhatsApp, so I just exploded. I planned

919
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 2: to continue ignoring her, but that day I was upset

920
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: about things about my work and I ended up telling

921
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 2: her everything. I sent her an audio telling her that

922
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 2: I'm not interested in her life or in the fact

923
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 2: she's suffering. I told her that I am not her friend,

924
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 2: nor am I interested in being one. She never asked

925
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,439
Speaker 2: me for forgiveness, and now she expects me to start

926
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 2: the group of women cheated on by my ex I

927
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 2: told her other things, and I would love to be

928
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 2: able to post audios here I told her that she

929
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 2: knew very well what she got herself into. She knew

930
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: well that my ex was capable of cheating on the

931
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 2: mother of his baby, but she still decided to marry

932
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 2: him and live the stupid fantasy that she could change

933
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 2: him and that she was different from all the other

934
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 2: women he was with. God, I hate long audios, but

935
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 2: it was plus five whole minutes telling her that her

936
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 2: situation in mind are nothing alike. I think that was

937
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 2: my greatest catharsis. She got upset and we started arguing.

938
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 2: It was quite tiring, and the last thing I want

939
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 2: is to have problems after seventeen years of having normal

940
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 2: co parenting. I know they are not going to get divorced,

941
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 2: and that means I will have to live with her

942
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 2: in my life forever. So I sent a message to

943
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 2: my ex resending him one of the audios she sent me.

944
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 2: I took the work to listen to them all, and

945
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 2: she never apologized to me. I don't need her apologies,

946
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 2: by the way, I don't care. But some comments asked

947
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 2: me about that. They were just audios complaining and wanting

948
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: us both to speak badly about him or wanting to

949
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 2: have me as a free therapist. I told my ex

950
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 2: to tell his wife to calm down and pay for

951
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 2: a psychologist.

952
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 4: Backs.

953
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:25,879
Speaker 2: He apologized to me and told me that they're both

954
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: working on the marriage, so they're at a stage where

955
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 2: she still feels angry and insecure with him, Like, yes,

956
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: obviously idiots. So since I've suffered the same, No, it's

957
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 2: not the same, she felt that we could share the pain.

958
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 2: He told me that they both started going to the

959
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 2: online conferences of I don't know what couple who teach

960
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 2: how to get over in infidelity. Sometimes I feel envious

961
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 2: of people who can scam others so easily, will scam

962
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 2: you unless you join us live every weekday athst on YouTube,

963
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 2: just tab our profile.

964
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 4: She's not obligated to do anything for this woman.

965
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 2: Literally, you owe this woman nothing for a long.

966
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 4: She got She don't once, she doesn't need to relive

967
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 4: it again.

968
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: No, just honestly, I feel like you text your husband

969
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: and you text this woman, put him in a group

970
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 2: chut and say, hey, please do not reach out to

971
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 2: me unless it is about our daughter, and that's it.

972
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,919
Speaker 4: Can you do no contact order for this I told

973
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 4: them that.

974
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: I am not friends with her and that this affects

975
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 2: our co parenting, so he should put a stop to

976
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 2: her if she doesn't understand what I say. In the end,

977
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 2: he reluctantly told me he was going to talk to her,

978
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 2: and I've gone three days without any message from her

979
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: except today when where she told me that my daughter

980
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 2: was sleeping there. So I guess it worked. I don't

981
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 2: care if they live a happy or miserable marriage. I

982
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 2: don't care if she's happy knowing that he cheated on

983
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 2: her but stays with them. Anyways, I just want to

984
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 2: live in peace without getting into trouble with people who,

985
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 2: at forty plus years old, are still living mentally in

986
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 2: high school.

987
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 4: This is definitely the idea of you. If she never

988
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 4: met the rock stone.

989
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 2: Mmmmm yeah yeah yeah. See right about now he's met.

990
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 4: The rock sticks, she's about to meet him.

991
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 2: Yeah.

992
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 4: This is as your time, girl.

993
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 2: This is your time. But that is the end of

994
00:44:58,719 --> 00:44:59,280
Speaker 2: that story.

995
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 4: My mother lied about my father's passing. Turns out I

996
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 4: have fifty four half siblings.

997
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 1: Fifty four fifty four. He was busy, not four, not

998
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 1: five fifty four.

999
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 4: Yep, you read that right, buck buck. Because this is

1000
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:19,839
Speaker 4: a wild one trigger warning in a car accident, growing up.

1001
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 4: I'd always remember my mom being a single mom. I

1002
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 4: don't remember the exact moment she told me my dad

1003
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 4: was passed because I was so younger, I've kind of

1004
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 4: always known. My mom told me that my dad died

1005
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 4: in a car accident two months before I was born.

1006
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 4: She said he was hit by a wasted semi driver

1007
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 4: and was killed instantly on impact. Obviously, no one questions

1008
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 4: their own mother, especially at a young age. You believe

1009
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 4: they're every word.

1010
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1011
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Wondrous Off the World

1012
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 4: on the R. Slishowcase story Tom Sawbreden. So this is

1013
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 4: what I always told people growing up. If they ever

1014
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 4: asked about my dad, I would say, I don't have

1015
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 4: a dad, because he was my mom, even on financial

1016
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 4: aid papers, claim to be a widower. Whenever I asked questions,

1017
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 4: my mom said things that just made sense to me, Like, Mom,

1018
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 4: why don't you have photos of dad? She told me

1019
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 4: they all burned in a house fire they started by

1020
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 4: the driver right after I was born.

1021
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: Mmm, that's weird.

1022
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 4: This made sense because we had moved to a new

1023
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 4: house when I was very young. Also, again, why would

1024
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 4: you question your own mom. I tried to research my

1025
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 4: dad and his death, but nothing ever came of it,

1026
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 4: I assume because back in the day they didn't have

1027
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 4: computers or internet. If they did, it wasn't much. I

1028
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 4: let her find out his name was Donald according to

1029
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 4: my birth certificate. The only reason I found this out

1030
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 4: was because I had forced my mom to give me

1031
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 4: it so I could get my license at sixteen. A

1032
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 4: lot of the times I tried to ask more questions

1033
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 4: when I got older, but my mom became visibly angry

1034
00:46:56,400 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 4: when I did this. Eventually I just stopped because I

1035
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 4: didn't want to get yelled at it anymore. This strained

1036
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 4: our relationship Growing up. My mom and I were really

1037
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 4: never close. I tried asking family members questions and literally

1038
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 4: no one, even my grandpa knew. My mom and grandpa

1039
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 4: are super close, so this was very odd to me.

1040
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 4: The last time I asked Grandma before I finally asked

1041
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 4: my mom for the last time, my grandma said, I

1042
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 4: don't know who or where your dad is, but I

1043
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 4: know your mother loves you. Holy crap. When my grandma

1044
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 4: said that, I got goosebumps and knew something was very wrong.

1045
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 4: Fast forward to when I was nineteen, I started to

1046
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:39,319
Speaker 4: see a therapist after being a victim of attempted kidnapping

1047
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 4: and diagnosed with PTSD. My therapist told me to take

1048
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 4: a DNA test to possibly find out more about my

1049
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 4: dad's side. This way I could still find out info

1050
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 4: without having to ask my mom and making her angry again.

1051
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 4: I asked my mom to pay for the DNA test

1052
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 4: because I was a poor college student at the time.

1053
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:01,399
Speaker 4: She right away got so mad and yelled at.

1054
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: Me, Mom, it's moments for therapy and PTSD and I

1055
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: need to know who my father is.

1056
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 4: Oh boy. She claimed that the government was going to

1057
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 4: call my DNA and sell it, so I never ended

1058
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 4: up taking it. After that, I didn't bring it up again.

1059
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:21,840
Speaker 4: Fast forward to when I was twenty years old, around

1060
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 4: Thanksgiving time, my three friends and I had a fun

1061
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 4: day of baking cookies and talking all day long until

1062
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 4: I brought up the stories of my past and my father.

1063
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 4: I had a conspiracy theory that I made up about

1064
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 4: my life was a total joke. I told my therapist

1065
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 4: once and my now friends. The theory what if my

1066
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:43,280
Speaker 4: mom had a one nice stand with rockstar slash musician

1067
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 4: and got pregnant with me. She never was able to

1068
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 4: find him again, so she couldn't tell him. My mom

1069
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 4: is considered the golden child in her siblings, so in

1070
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:54,960
Speaker 4: order to remain in the good graces of my grandparents,

1071
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 4: she told them she eloped and got married, then got

1072
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 4: pregnant with me, and shortly after my dad in a

1073
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 4: car accident right before I was born. Would make total

1074
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 4: sense why none of my family met him or knew

1075
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 4: him if it was a short relationship. My theory wasn't

1076
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 4: too off. But this is what really went down. My

1077
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 4: friends all told me that my stories didn't really add up.

1078
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:22,160
Speaker 4: A lot of them said they seemed odd, but never

1079
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 4: said anything. My friends paid for me to take a

1080
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:27,879
Speaker 4: DNA test. Finally I took a DNA test and then

1081
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 4: confronted my mom about it. She finally confessed that she

1082
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 4: always wanted to have a child, but never wanted to

1083
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 4: get married. She found a clinic that would do sperm

1084
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 4: donor babies. She had two miscarriages before me, with all

1085
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 4: different donors. The third time she got pregnant with me,

1086
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 4: the name Donald came from the donor. There was no

1087
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,320
Speaker 4: Dad that in a car accident. All lies.

1088
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:58,440
Speaker 1: Okay, oh wow, now we at least know the truth. Yeah, yeah, okay,

1089
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 1: let's see why mom was not okay, was telling this

1090
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:02,399
Speaker 1: to the daughter.

1091
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 4: With my results from the DNA test, I mostly just

1092
00:50:05,680 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 4: had a first cousin matches and didn't think anything of it.

1093
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 4: But what I didn't know was the first cousins and

1094
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 4: a half siblings share a similar amount of DNA. A

1095
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 4: few weeks later, a girl messaged me claiming to be

1096
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:23,319
Speaker 4: my half sister. She was able to answer all of

1097
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:26,439
Speaker 4: my questions. I had. The reason my mom never could

1098
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 4: answer those questions weren't because she was upset he didn't,

1099
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 4: but because she truly didn't know. So she had no

1100
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 4: idea who this guy was.

1101
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 1: It's just Donald, that's it.

1102
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 4: Oh, he has a good four oh one k and

1103
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:42,400
Speaker 4: it's six or five? All right, my kid, Good jeans,

1104
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 4: good jeans, condunk.

1105
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: That's it, all right done.

1106
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 4: The girl who messaged me was correct that she was

1107
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 4: my half sister. She introduced me in a group chat

1108
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 4: to the other siblings. This was three years ago and

1109
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 4: we had thirty half siblings at the time. Now we're

1110
00:50:59,600 --> 00:50:59,920
Speaker 4: up to.

1111
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 2: And expecting more to still pop up.

1112
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:05,720
Speaker 4: We are from all over the country. We will truly

1113
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 4: never know how many of us there is because of

1114
00:51:09,040 --> 00:51:12,799
Speaker 4: how messed up the donor industry is. As for my

1115
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 4: dad being alive, we found this out recently after a

1116
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 4: few years of research and slewthing. My sisters found our

1117
00:51:20,360 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 4: donor through leeds from the DNA tests. We have reached

1118
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 4: out to him and he is grateful to know about us.

1119
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 4: We have limited contact due to his family and his

1120
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 4: horrible wife. His wife wants to keep her a good

1121
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 4: reputation in air quotes like helping families get pregnant is

1122
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 4: a bad thing. Partly I think his wife is. Wait,

1123
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 4: his wife is very religious and most of our siblings

1124
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:49,720
Speaker 4: parents are the same sex couples.

1125
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 1: Okay, oh that's gisu is usually that's what they do

1126
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:52,920
Speaker 1: for Yeah.

1127
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 4: I was like, let's talk about this.

1128
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, that makes sense. I was also in the

1129
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:00,280
Speaker 1: same way. Huh.

1130
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 4: Our donor never told his family about being a sperm

1131
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:07,799
Speaker 4: donor in college because of his extremely Catholic family. I

1132
00:52:07,840 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 4: wish he would tell them and we could meet our cousins, aunts, uncles,

1133
00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 4: and grandparents, but it's unlikely he ever will. He talks

1134
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 4: to us rarely to say happy Birthday or Merry Christmas.

1135
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 4: But that's about it. That's so happen.

1136
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 2: That's so cool.

1137
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, thankfully he was able to give us updated correct

1138
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:29,359
Speaker 4: medical information. This is so cool. I I honestly maybe

1139
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 4: wouldn't be one, but I would love to be his

1140
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 4: donor and be like, what's up. What's up, dudes, how's

1141
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:38,399
Speaker 4: it going. It's tricky, it is might try to get

1142
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:38,879
Speaker 4: money from.

1143
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 1: Him or whatever. That's what I was gonna allude to,

1144
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 1: especially your wife, to his wife, the sperm donor's wife. Yeah,

1145
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 1: Donald's wife is just like, these aren't our kids like you? Yeah, yeah,

1146
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 1: these aren't. You did the donations. That's it. What's that

1147
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: is done. You don't have to talk to them. They're

1148
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 1: out of your life. You're like, if I weren't Ope,

1149
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 1: I mean if I were Donald, I'm like, what do

1150
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:00,600
Speaker 1: you mean?

1151
00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 2: Good?

1152
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:03,440
Speaker 1: I want to see what I look like.

1153
00:53:03,520 --> 00:53:06,280
Speaker 5: I love my family, My big family is I've always

1154
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 5: wanted to make the fact.

1155
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 1: That he's saying Happy Birthday America, he shows a he

1156
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: is a.

1157
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 4: Great guy, great guy, w donor.

1158
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:15,319
Speaker 1: This is this is just a weird situation that I

1159
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 1: don't even know how to go about.

1160
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 4: Amen. Amen, I'm just I'm just go alad. Donald's a

1161
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 4: good guy.

1162
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1163
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 4: There has been a few donor child stories on the

1164
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:29,720
Speaker 4: Okay Storytime podcast, but my story is a bit different

1165
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:33,319
Speaker 4: from what I've learned before on the pod. Sadly, this

1166
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 4: is common in the donor children community. Many parents alive

1167
00:53:36,920 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 4: to their children with no planning to tell their kids.

1168
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 4: In the nineties, no one ever expected that DNA test

1169
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 4: would be what it is today. Shot a lot of

1170
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 4: people in the foot at a slash update. As of

1171
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 4: January twenty fourth, of twenty twenty three, we have just

1172
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:56,880
Speaker 4: found three more siblings. We now have fifty three siblings

1173
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:57,640
Speaker 4: and counting.

1174
00:53:57,800 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

1175
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:01,759
Speaker 4: Another update twenty one months later. I was twenty when

1176
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 4: I discovered that I had thirty siblings until recently. I

1177
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 4: recently turned twenty five, and now we have fifty four siblings.

1178
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:11,520
Speaker 4: We are likely to find more during the holidays, as

1179
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 4: many people receive DNA tests as gifts or buy them

1180
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,800
Speaker 4: on sale at that time. Unfortunately, we will never truly

1181
00:54:17,880 --> 00:54:20,680
Speaker 4: know how many of us there are. The donor industry

1182
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 4: is extremely sketchy and doesn't keep accurate records of live birds,

1183
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 4: allowing them to sell more. I got married in September

1184
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:32,560
Speaker 4: and we just received our photos back. Four of my

1185
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 4: sisters were bridesmaid that's a door and one of my

1186
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 4: brothers attended as well.

1187
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:40,840
Speaker 1: That's awesome, that's so sweet. Oh my gosh, so cool.

1188
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 4: Most of them drove seven to thirteen hours and some

1189
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 4: even flew across the country to be there for the

1190
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 4: wedding weekend. This experience was something I never dreamed of

1191
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:53,400
Speaker 4: as a little girl. But I am so happy I

1192
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 4: got to share my wedding day with my siblings by

1193
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 4: my side. My friends who bought me the DNA test

1194
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 4: mentioned in the emer original posts were also at the

1195
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 4: wedding and met my siblings for the first time.

1196
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 1: This is so cute, Oh my god, crazy.

1197
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 4: This was full circle, surreal moment. Now onto the realty

1198
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:13,280
Speaker 4: of the evening, my family members still had no idea

1199
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 4: about this, literally, none of them. My family was my debut,

1200
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:23,319
Speaker 4: you could say, of my mom's long held secrets. I

1201
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 4: was tired of bearing her burden because it was never

1202
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 4: mine to hold the wedding program including my siblings' names

1203
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 4: and labeled them as sister of the bride or brother

1204
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 4: of the bride. My mom had refused to give a

1205
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 4: speech at the wedding for some reason. I told her

1206
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:40,720
Speaker 4: that a parent typically does this and that the groom's

1207
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 4: father was giving one. She still refused, so I told

1208
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 4: her my sisters would instead. She said that was fine,

1209
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:50,600
Speaker 4: but I don't know what she expected them to say,

1210
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 4: since they weren't going to lie for her too.

1211
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:54,800
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.

1212
00:55:55,239 --> 00:55:57,400
Speaker 4: They checked with me first to see if it was

1213
00:55:57,440 --> 00:56:00,839
Speaker 4: okay to talk about the siblings and how we found

1214
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:03,399
Speaker 4: each other. I said a fit, just do it.

1215
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 1: I love this. This is crazy.

1216
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:08,279
Speaker 4: During the speeches, it felt like dropping a bomb and

1217
00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:12,440
Speaker 4: then walking away. I got to sit back, grab some popcorn,

1218
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:16,400
Speaker 4: but no literally, because we have popcorn as wienertail snack.

1219
00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 4: We replaced cock with wiener Yeah.

1220
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 1: Oh that's so yeah cocktail.

1221
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 4: And watched the show unfold. My three sisters gave a

1222
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 4: speech together, and it was one of the funniest things

1223
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 4: I've ever heard. They talked about how we all took

1224
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 4: DNA tests and how I was found. The looks on

1225
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: my aunt's uncles and older cousins faces were priceless.

1226
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: I love this.

1227
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:48,840
Speaker 4: I am so glad we have a videographer and should

1228
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:52,399
Speaker 4: be getting those back too soon. They were in utter

1229
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:57,799
Speaker 4: shock and disbelief. Their reactions were almost as entertaining as

1230
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 4: the speech itself. It felt incredible to finally be able

1231
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 4: to speak openly about my life. Of course, I noticed

1232
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 4: a lot of whispers and strange glances afterwards, but that

1233
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 4: was no longer my problem to fix. Thankfully, my narcissistic

1234
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:15,240
Speaker 4: mother managed to keep it together during the wedding, of course,

1235
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 4: because she had to maintain a front for the world. However,

1236
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 4: the following week, once we were back home, she apps

1237
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 4: she was absolutely awful to me and she still mostly is. Ultimately,

1238
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 4: I believe it was one thousand percent worth it, and

1239
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 4: I would do it a million times over again. The

1240
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 4: truth always comes out, and we could be truthful that

1241
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 4: we will always go live every weekday at three PMPSD.

1242
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:40,360
Speaker 4: Just tap her profile, tap it. What do you think

1243
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 4: about the speech? Beautiful? I absolutely beautiful.

1244
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: Wow.

1245
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 4: I want to see the video.

1246
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: I want to see I want to see, like I

1247
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: just want to see all of it. But and I'm

1248
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: so happy that op got like hot, like a lot

1249
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: of not just like one or two. She got like

1250
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 1: five siblings siblings to come, which is great. I would

1251
00:57:59,880 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 1: have talk to my mom first, or her mom after.

1252
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 1: It seemed like she didn't do it Prior she was like, hey, can.

1253
00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:08,920
Speaker 4: You give a speech? No, Okay, I'm gonna have my

1254
00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 4: other three sisters do it.

1255
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 1: She's like the day of it seemed like I don't

1256
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 1: think it was like I think she did it. I

1257
00:58:13,880 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 1: think okay, because it sounded like she did it the

1258
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 1: day of, at least she did. She dropped a bomb

1259
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 1: on everyone else other than her mom.

1260
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 4: I don't understand her and her mom have always been

1261
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:25,439
Speaker 4: not good.

1262
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like especially being a single parent. It seemed

1263
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 1: like her mom was a single parent.

1264
00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 4: I think she's ashamed of it one hundred.

1265
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: Per I agree. I agree, but like I would have

1266
00:58:35,920 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 1: been like Mom, it's okay, like zero judgment. I'm here

1267
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: because of you and because of him. Thank you.

1268
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:44,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, of course, of course.

1269
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: So why especially when it's already found out. Why dig

1270
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,200
Speaker 1: a bigger hole when there's no need to dig a

1271
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,360
Speaker 1: bigger hole? I don't know. This is a bit story

1272
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 1: in itself for Opie though, Like it's not about the mom,

1273
00:58:55,560 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 1: it's about op It's great for siblings. They have a

1274
00:58:59,160 --> 00:59:02,640
Speaker 1: group chat, so beautiful. Before is the is the dad

1275
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 1: still because he has a family, he seems like at

1276
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:06,600
Speaker 1: least a wife, and he is he still donating?

1277
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 4: No, he probably put in a lot of work back

1278
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 4: in the day.

1279
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:14,640
Speaker 1: Dude, that's wild. This is a very happy story. I

1280
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: love this story.

1281
00:59:15,360 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 4: Since we found our donor and have contact with him,

1282
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 4: I sent him photos of from the wedding he was

1283
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:24,560
Speaker 4: thrown for us. He wished us the best and said

1284
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:27,040
Speaker 4: we all looked beautiful. I replied, thank you so much.

1285
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 4: I guess we have some good genes.

1286
00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 1: That's so cute.

1287
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:32,479
Speaker 4: Initial info from OPI. One thing you ought to mention

1288
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:35,919
Speaker 4: not super important, but just funny. Sister with black hair

1289
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 4: and I came from the same clinic. We are a

1290
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 4: few months apart, so our mothers likely cross paths while

1291
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 4: at the clinic. Because it wasn't a big town. When

1292
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:47,320
Speaker 4: I first met her, it felt like I already knew her,

1293
00:59:47,640 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 4: I joked, because we had already met on the shelf

1294
00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 4: at the clinic.

1295
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:54,320
Speaker 1: The fact that they can joke about this.

1296
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:55,920
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, dude, that's brilliant.

1297
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: Dude, I love this.

1298
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:58,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is a great no, no, OPI, you have

1299
00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 4: a great mindset with this. I there's the best story

1300
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 4: of the day right here.

1301
01:00:02,960 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 1: Shout out to your friends, by the way, because again

1302
01:00:05,560 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 1: you knew that. Yeah, yeah, they got it for her.

1303
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:10,720
Speaker 1: They're like, you can't afford it. Your mom doesn't want

1304
01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 1: you to do it, and she won't buy it for you,

1305
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 1: so we're gonna do it for you. Surprise, DNA test

1306
01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:17,200
Speaker 1: friends my friend, Yeah, w friends, that's that was Is

1307
01:00:17,200 --> 01:00:17,840
Speaker 1: that the end of the story.

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01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 4: That's the end story?

1309
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:22,400
Speaker 1: Whoa fifty four siblings and the fact that, I mean

1310
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:23,480
Speaker 1: everyone seems.

1311
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 4: Happy, but it's probably more.

1312
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 1: There could be more.

1313
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:27,000
Speaker 4: They even said, oh, yeah, there's probably one hundred and

1314
01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 4: fifty out there.

1315
01:00:27,520 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 1: But how would if how would you react? You're like, oh,

1316
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 1: I'm adopted. If I found out adopted, I'm a I'm

1317
01:00:34,640 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 1: a don't I'm a donor. If I grew.

1318
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 4: Up with a single mom and my life turned out

1319
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:43,000
Speaker 4: to how it is, i'd probably be If I am

1320
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 4: right now, I'd probably be happy. Yeah, be like, no

1321
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 4: freaking way, I have more family. This just means I

1322
01:00:48,720 --> 01:00:52,440
Speaker 4: could travel like everywhere more. Yeah. Yeah, I'd probably like

1323
01:00:52,440 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 4: suck them out and be like what's up and then

1324
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 4: be like, dude, come to LA check it out.

1325
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 1: I would do the same thing if I were like

1326
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:00,120
Speaker 1: if I had a single parent, or again, if I

1327
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 1: had like two dads, two moms and they're like I

1328
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: was a donor child, I would be so just interested

1329
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:10,680
Speaker 1: and like who was my donor? Like? Who do I

1330
01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:12,280
Speaker 1: look like more? Do I look look more like him?

1331
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 1: Do I look like what if like one of my

1332
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: parents that praised me? It's crazy. I do love a

1333
01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 1: friend who is a she's a she's a donor. Wow,

1334
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 1: she's she's not a donor, she's a don't she's a

1335
01:01:23,080 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 1: donor baby or yeah, a donor baby. So and she

1336
01:01:26,560 --> 01:01:27,520
Speaker 1: has a sister same thing.

1337
01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 4: Wow, because she has.

1338
01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 1: Two moms and they look kind of alike. But it's

1339
01:01:32,200 --> 01:01:37,120
Speaker 1: two different donor dads. One the friend I know, she's

1340
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:40,840
Speaker 1: very interested on knowing who her dad was. Her sister's like,

1341
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't care, so to teach their own so, but

1342
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: I don't think my friend ever found out dang. So

1343
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:51,720
Speaker 1: but like like she said, and like he said, it's

1344
01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:53,120
Speaker 1: hard and sketchy.

1345
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:53,560
Speaker 4: With their records.

1346
01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:55,560
Speaker 1: But that's a great This is a great story. I

1347
01:01:55,600 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 1: love this story. Hey, it's John yo Og host here.

1348
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 4: We're gonna get back to the store.

1349
01:02:00,120 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 2: Is basal a quick three minute break of ass from

1350
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 2: our sponsors.

1351
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 4: My ex boyfriend's family fond over me at a party

1352
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 4: and just ignored his new girlfriend.

1353
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 2: Ooh, you're winning.

1354
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:13,080
Speaker 4: I met my ex boyfriend let's call him Greg, through

1355
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 4: a long term friend of mine, Heather. We have been

1356
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,240
Speaker 4: friends for a few years, but only saw each other

1357
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 4: once or twice a year since we live in different countries.

1358
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Salty Box sixty three

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01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:25,200
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1360
01:02:25,520 --> 01:02:28,240
Speaker 4: On one of my visits to her country, she invited

1361
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 4: me to her boyfriends Fred's birthday party. I was excited

1362
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,320
Speaker 4: to go and meet their friends, and I was also

1363
01:02:33,400 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 4: good friends with Fred at this point, so I just

1364
01:02:36,080 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 4: all in all happy to be included in the party.

1365
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 4: I was informed the day of that his brother Greg

1366
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 4: was also going to be there and that we would

1367
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:46,000
Speaker 4: probably hit it off pretty well. Fast forward to the

1368
01:02:46,040 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 4: party and we clicked off instantly. We chatted the whole

1369
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:51,520
Speaker 4: night and enjoyed each other's company. He was the only

1370
01:02:51,560 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 4: one there who really talked to me the whole night.

1371
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 4: I don't speak their language very well, so all communication

1372
01:02:56,760 --> 01:02:58,920
Speaker 4: with me and him had to be in English. The

1373
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,520
Speaker 4: rest of the party saw have got carried away with

1374
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 4: their own conversations and I didn't feel like reminding them

1375
01:03:04,240 --> 01:03:07,080
Speaker 4: to switch languages for my sake. All the time as

1376
01:03:07,080 --> 01:03:09,960
Speaker 4: and I went on, we found a deep connection with

1377
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 4: each other, and I ended up seeing him every night

1378
01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 4: during my trip. When it was time for me to

1379
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:21,800
Speaker 4: go home, he came to see me and promised me

1380
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:24,880
Speaker 4: that he was gonna come visit me in my country

1381
01:03:25,080 --> 01:03:26,160
Speaker 4: a couple months later.

1382
01:03:28,160 --> 01:03:30,560
Speaker 2: Limitive romas for the ideals.

1383
01:03:30,600 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 4: From that point on, we began our long distance relationship.

1384
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 4: For the sake of this post, I'm gonna leave out

1385
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:37,360
Speaker 4: the highs and lows of the relationship since it could

1386
01:03:37,360 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 4: be a whole post on its own, but I will

1387
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:42,880
Speaker 4: say that during our year we were together. Most of

1388
01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 4: the time, I was miserable. Our communication was not the best,

1389
01:03:46,680 --> 01:03:49,200
Speaker 4: and he was struggling a lot with his mental health

1390
01:03:49,440 --> 01:03:52,400
Speaker 4: That affected me negatively. Since I was the one he

1391
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:55,360
Speaker 4: turned to, I listened and I tried to help him

1392
01:03:55,360 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 4: best I could, but on my own. But my own

1393
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 4: mental health started to spiral of control as well. And

1394
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 4: then one night before Valentine's Day in twenty three, he

1395
01:04:04,040 --> 01:04:05,640
Speaker 4: called me to end it.

1396
01:04:05,800 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 5: No.

1397
01:04:07,080 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 4: I was so tired at that point that a part

1398
01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 4: of me was relieved, but another part was pissed and hurt.

1399
01:04:13,120 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 4: He promised to send me all of the stuff I

1400
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 4: had left at its place and we never spoke after

1401
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:21,360
Speaker 4: that again. A few months after the breakup, I still

1402
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 4: hadn't received my things, so I reached out to my

1403
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 4: friend Heather so she could talk and ask around to

1404
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 4: figure out what was going on. She saw me Greg

1405
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:31,160
Speaker 4: have planned on sending my things but decided against it

1406
01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:34,280
Speaker 4: because it was too expensive. At this point, I was

1407
01:04:34,280 --> 01:04:37,000
Speaker 4: a bit annoyed about the fact that he had promised

1408
01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:39,400
Speaker 4: but went back on it, but also that he had

1409
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 4: failed to let me know so I would have some

1410
01:04:41,920 --> 01:04:45,200
Speaker 4: peace of mind. My friend Heather, being the absolute wonder

1411
01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:49,000
Speaker 4: that she is, got Greg's mother to send some of

1412
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:52,000
Speaker 4: my stuff that I really needed slash one and took

1413
01:04:52,160 --> 01:04:54,640
Speaker 4: the rest from Greg's house to store in her attic

1414
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 4: for when I would be visiting next time. She also

1415
01:04:57,120 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 4: let me know the reason Greg had given a reason

1416
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 4: for the break up was that he didn't feel heard

1417
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 4: in our relationship, despite me basically being his therapist for

1418
01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:09,439
Speaker 4: almost all of our relationship. I don't think you're hearing yourself.

1419
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 2: Then before you should open your ears.

1420
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:13,000
Speaker 4: At this point, I was glad it was over and

1421
01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:15,560
Speaker 4: started working on myself. I started taking better care of

1422
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:19,360
Speaker 4: myself and I lost twenty kilos. Holy that's like forty

1423
01:05:19,400 --> 01:05:22,600
Speaker 4: two pounds pound. I had gained a lot of weight

1424
01:05:22,680 --> 01:05:25,280
Speaker 4: during the relationship due to stress. I did a lot

1425
01:05:25,320 --> 01:05:28,959
Speaker 4: of self reflection and overall healed over time. I also

1426
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:31,280
Speaker 4: managed to get my school back on track and was

1427
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:34,000
Speaker 4: now going to graduate the rest of my class, even

1428
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:35,880
Speaker 4: though at one point I was a year behind. In

1429
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:37,919
Speaker 4: February of twenty four, I got a call from Heather

1430
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:41,240
Speaker 4: saying that Fred had proposed and that they were going

1431
01:05:41,240 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 4: to get married in September, and I was invited Fred

1432
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:45,920
Speaker 4: and Heatherston in the street waiting wedding wedding wedding. At

1433
01:05:45,920 --> 01:05:48,280
Speaker 4: this point, I had not seen her or Fred for

1434
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 4: over a year, and I was happy and excited for

1435
01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:53,200
Speaker 4: the event. The only downside was I was going to

1436
01:05:53,200 --> 01:05:55,920
Speaker 4: be seeing my ex at the wedding, but I decided

1437
01:05:55,960 --> 01:05:57,920
Speaker 4: I wasn't going to let that affect me since I

1438
01:05:57,960 --> 01:05:59,760
Speaker 4: had worked on myself and I was happy with the

1439
01:05:59,800 --> 01:06:02,240
Speaker 4: person that I had become. A few weeks later, I

1440
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 4: talked with Heather about me coming and what Greg thought

1441
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:07,800
Speaker 4: of it. His response had been, well, if we both

1442
01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 4: are single at the time, who knows. And at that

1443
01:06:10,200 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 4: point I could not do anything but laugh since I

1444
01:06:12,760 --> 01:06:16,120
Speaker 4: thought he was being ridiculous to think after all this time,

1445
01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 4: I would start something up.

1446
01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 2: Here that is so funny, like op, He's like, hey,

1447
01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:21,720
Speaker 2: can you just check, like want to make sure that'll

1448
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:25,720
Speaker 2: make my axe uncomfortable And Greg's like, well, if I'm single,

1449
01:06:25,840 --> 01:06:28,120
Speaker 2: I guess I could make it work. And ill He's like,

1450
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 2: that was not what I was suggesting.

1451
01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 4: Fast forward to the rest of the wedding. I was

1452
01:06:33,560 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 4: packed and ready to go when Heather called me telling

1453
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 4: me that Greg was going to bring his new girlfriend

1454
01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:40,560
Speaker 4: to the wedding. I bet you, Tim Bucks and I

1455
01:06:40,560 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 4: have a girlfriend and told us until I figured this out.

1456
01:06:42,640 --> 01:06:45,720
Speaker 4: When I heard this news, I have never been more

1457
01:06:45,760 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 4: relieved in my life. Now I could finally go enjoy

1458
01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:50,720
Speaker 4: myself without him possibly trying to get close to me.

1459
01:06:50,840 --> 01:06:52,560
Speaker 4: And I was all over the moon by that. So

1460
01:06:52,800 --> 01:06:54,480
Speaker 4: the day of the wedding rolled around. Here we go.

1461
01:06:54,640 --> 01:06:56,720
Speaker 4: I took my time getting ready and made sure that

1462
01:06:56,800 --> 01:06:59,280
Speaker 4: I looked my absolute best since I was not only

1463
01:06:59,320 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 4: going to see my boyfriend for the first time in

1464
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,320
Speaker 4: one and a half years, but I was going to

1465
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 4: see his whole family at the event as well. It's

1466
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:09,440
Speaker 4: time to work. I had my hair nicely curled in

1467
01:07:09,520 --> 01:07:13,560
Speaker 4: Hollywood style, and wore a long baby pink gown and

1468
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:16,960
Speaker 4: strappy pink heels that matched the dress perfectly. I looked

1469
01:07:17,000 --> 01:07:19,880
Speaker 4: and felt amazing and was ready to enjoy my day

1470
01:07:19,920 --> 01:07:22,360
Speaker 4: and have a good time. Before the ceremony, I saw

1471
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:25,320
Speaker 4: my ex and his new girlfriend and went to say hello.

1472
01:07:25,560 --> 01:07:27,800
Speaker 4: I hugged him and asked him how he was. Then

1473
01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 4: went to introduce myself to his girlfriend, and then took

1474
01:07:30,680 --> 01:07:32,760
Speaker 4: my seat next to some people I already knew. We

1475
01:07:32,840 --> 01:07:34,520
Speaker 4: did not speak for the rest of the night. At

1476
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:36,800
Speaker 4: the reception, where I was kind of got my petty

1477
01:07:36,840 --> 01:07:39,400
Speaker 4: revenge even though I didn't ask for it. But my

1478
01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:42,080
Speaker 4: little petty heart was still very fool Because of this,

1479
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:45,480
Speaker 4: Greg and Fred's whole extended family came to greet me

1480
01:07:45,960 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 4: one by one, saying how absolutely happy they were to

1481
01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:52,360
Speaker 4: see me. Their mother hugged me warmly and said how

1482
01:07:52,480 --> 01:07:53,280
Speaker 4: much she missed me.

1483
01:07:53,600 --> 01:07:53,800
Speaker 1: Woo.

1484
01:07:56,880 --> 01:07:59,640
Speaker 4: Their father did the same and said it was just

1485
01:07:59,720 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 4: nothing since we broke up, and it was wonderful to

1486
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 4: hear my laughter once again.

1487
01:08:05,000 --> 01:08:06,760
Speaker 2: They like you, Ma, I like you more.

1488
01:08:06,840 --> 01:08:09,560
Speaker 4: To bet they don't have another son to give. That sucks.

1489
01:08:09,680 --> 01:08:12,200
Speaker 4: Their aunt told me how amazing I looked, and how

1490
01:08:12,280 --> 01:08:15,280
Speaker 4: I was positively glorrowing. Every single one of them gave

1491
01:08:15,320 --> 01:08:17,800
Speaker 4: me compliments and said how much they had missed me,

1492
01:08:18,200 --> 01:08:20,120
Speaker 4: and that they had looked forward to the wedding so

1493
01:08:20,200 --> 01:08:22,000
Speaker 4: much more since they found out I was coming.

1494
01:08:22,280 --> 01:08:24,120
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, people love you.

1495
01:08:24,680 --> 01:08:27,760
Speaker 4: While this was happening, my ex was also saying hello

1496
01:08:27,920 --> 01:08:30,479
Speaker 4: to his family, but failed to introduce his girlfriend to them.

1497
01:08:30,840 --> 01:08:33,160
Speaker 4: Mind you, none of them, expect his parents, had met

1498
01:08:33,200 --> 01:08:35,639
Speaker 4: her at this point, so she was left to finn

1499
01:08:35,680 --> 01:08:38,000
Speaker 4: for herself, and I really felt bad for her and

1500
01:08:38,120 --> 01:08:40,519
Speaker 4: I went on and after dinner, my ex solong with

1501
01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:42,960
Speaker 4: this girl, disappeared for most of the night. At one point,

1502
01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:46,000
Speaker 4: Heather came fuming, telling me that they had been outside

1503
01:08:46,040 --> 01:08:49,120
Speaker 4: the whole time while my family and friends were giving speeches,

1504
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:52,400
Speaker 4: and when asked to come inside by the maid of honor,

1505
01:08:52,680 --> 01:08:55,240
Speaker 4: he had asked why and refused to come in. I

1506
01:08:55,280 --> 01:08:58,280
Speaker 4: bet you maybe the new girl, I think, yeah, I.

1507
01:08:58,200 --> 01:09:01,160
Speaker 2: Think they're all yeah newall is He's probably upset that

1508
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:03,880
Speaker 2: his family are, you know, trying to talk to his

1509
01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 2: old ex.

1510
01:09:05,120 --> 01:09:08,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, someone's not being very secure.

1511
01:09:08,600 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 2: One's insecure here and op he's just living her best life.

1512
01:09:11,200 --> 01:09:13,280
Speaker 4: She's just glowing, dude, and you can glow if you

1513
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:16,320
Speaker 4: come to our lives every week's day. Win three pmpst

1514
01:09:16,560 --> 01:09:18,799
Speaker 4: just top to be. Opie is winning.

1515
01:09:19,280 --> 01:09:22,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, OPI, you're fine, like you've done nothing wrong. His

1516
01:09:22,960 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 2: family loves you, they hate the new girlfriend. They hate him.

1517
01:09:25,960 --> 01:09:29,400
Speaker 2: It seems like, so you're chilling, man, there's nothing else

1518
01:09:29,479 --> 01:09:30,559
Speaker 2: then you need to do.

1519
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:36,160
Speaker 4: Trade son for ex girlfriend. They probably would take that easily. Meanwhile,

1520
01:09:36,280 --> 01:09:38,320
Speaker 4: I was having the time of my life sitting with

1521
01:09:38,479 --> 01:09:41,400
Speaker 4: Heather's work friends and two of her cousins, one of

1522
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:43,360
Speaker 4: who tried to hit on me despite being a baby

1523
01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:45,040
Speaker 4: face twenty year old, while I am a full girl,

1524
01:09:45,160 --> 01:09:48,040
Speaker 4: twenty seven year old woman. But fun Nevertheless, I would

1525
01:09:48,080 --> 01:09:49,920
Speaker 4: do this if I was twenty oh hack yet that

1526
01:09:50,000 --> 01:09:52,880
Speaker 4: what's up, baby mom? I got invited to some events, dude,

1527
01:09:52,960 --> 01:09:54,400
Speaker 4: especially that Andrew was like twenty.

1528
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:56,760
Speaker 2: Seven, Angie was twenty seven. If you were a baby

1529
01:09:56,800 --> 01:09:57,920
Speaker 2: face twenty year old, you'd be there.

1530
01:09:57,960 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 4: She was working. Want to dance in this version?

1531
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:03,439
Speaker 2: Your voice hasn't dropped dead.

1532
01:10:03,520 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 4: Come on, come on to dance. I got invited to

1533
01:10:08,080 --> 01:10:10,960
Speaker 4: some events by the end, and I will attend if

1534
01:10:11,000 --> 01:10:13,760
Speaker 4: I have time. My exist parents also asked if I

1535
01:10:13,840 --> 01:10:15,960
Speaker 4: was willing to be their tour guide since they were

1536
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:18,640
Speaker 4: planning a trip to my country next summer, and I

1537
01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:22,160
Speaker 4: happily accepted. I danced, and I drank champagne. I left,

1538
01:10:22,240 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 4: and I had talked with everyone I knew, made some

1539
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:27,400
Speaker 4: new friends, and had a night and a hangover the

1540
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:30,760
Speaker 4: next morning that I will not soon forget. I left

1541
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:32,880
Speaker 4: knowing that I had been seen as a friend of

1542
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 4: the bride rather than the groom's brother's ex, and that

1543
01:10:35,600 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 4: nobody in the family had ill feelings towards me. All

1544
01:10:38,880 --> 01:10:41,000
Speaker 4: in Oh, my petty heart was happy, and the bride

1545
01:10:41,040 --> 01:10:43,599
Speaker 4: of the groom had a beautiful wedding that I had

1546
01:10:43,640 --> 01:10:48,800
Speaker 4: a great pleasure of being a part of. WOP. You

1547
01:10:48,920 --> 01:10:51,280
Speaker 4: killed that girl, you slad, But I think that's the

1548
01:10:51,400 --> 01:11:58,320
Speaker 4: end of that episode.