WEBVTT - Ep 66 "DREAM CHASERS" 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:12.479 talks back? What's up, y'all, it's your girl, a J. 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:15.480 Welcome to a new episode that we talked back. Okay, 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:19.680 high energy, I see you, a J. I like that 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.439 about you today. Look, but my my iron kind of 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:26.680 lower though, manigy feel load to day. Damn what you 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:28.760 don't sound like it? You don't sound like how you 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:31.880 feeling on the inside. Hey, y'all, listen me tim bam. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.360 I love y'all. Welcome back. I'm glad to have you 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:39.320 here today. How was your weekend, a J. I did 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:44.600 nothing girl. Okay, first of all, let me tell you 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:50.000 how about the weekend went all right? So I ain't 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:52.120 a motherfucking t bitch. I was about to make up 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:55.760 some ship to appease y'all. Dren so sick as you say. 0:00:55.960 --> 0:01:00.720 I ain't did nothing girl. I'm granny pussy. Okay, okay, 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:05.920 Granny pussy, Granny, My granny go out working that Granny 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.680 p be in the house. Bit girl, just make up 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.080 some ship. We know. I see, y'all. I'm in her 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:13.560 close friends. I've seen her popping pussy on their hands 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:17.000 stand this weekend and her close friends. I'm sorry, girl, 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:20.080 I wish I might the last time I was on 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:24.959 my head like that, bitch, I might have been thirteen. Now. 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:26.880 I have a neck fucked up a couple of times 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.559 over the years, but this got bad and never grown. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.840 Man and tm J like that that top that doge 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:39.640 piece off? That ain't it? Hell? Yeah? What the funk 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:43.560 you had going on? Girl? I had COVID again. Bitch. Oh, 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:48.240 I forgot I had alive today. Your asked was definitely dead. 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.120 Over the goodness, I was dead over the weekend. I 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:54.680 felt so bad that ship had my head on. Motherfucking 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:59.040 Throb couldn't have leave helping. I took a leave. I 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:05.680 spoke some crack, nothing worse. I took anything and everything 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:08.000 to try to knock their head egg out. Baby. I 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:11.320 was on the bathroom floor, on the black room floor. Okay, 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:14.080 But I feel so much better today. I'm so happy 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.400 to still be here with y'all because that COVID ain't 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:20.440 no joke speaking of that, and he's still out here 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:23.359 speaking of that. Rest in peace to k slay Man 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:27.160 saw that, Yeah, you know he. I didn't realize he 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:28.880 wasn't still in the hospital. They said he'd been in 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:32.119 there for like four months. I wonder if he had 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:37.720 any um pre existing health issues. That's crazy as hell, man, Yeah, 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:44.600 that's saying men. He was only five years old. Yeah, yep, 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.520 Nigga's dying who we never even died before? Every time, 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:51.120 every time it is wicked. She is real wicked. I'm 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.200 so grateful to still be here. Guy chose me to 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:57.560 stay another day. Thank you. You know, evil never dies? 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:04.600 Evil never die? Is that how you feeling about your looks? 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:09.160 I'm gonna be on this be sound about ninety five, 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:14.320 rocking and rolling because evil is that? Why? Is that 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:21.600 why I embraced my light and dark side? Okay, yeah, 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:23.480 it is what it is. I embraced my light in 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:28.200 darkness too. But I wouldn't consider myself evil. I could. 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.600 I can't be evil though, That's what I'm talking about. Like, 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:33.840 I'm happy as long as you don't funk with me. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:39.480 Oh goodness, what's going on? Man? What's going on? In 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:45.360 stupid internet news? So I saw that, uh there, there 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:48.880 was a survey survey that was conducted. So it says 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.800 that motherfucker's is tied to their face being on the 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:56.480 internet basically, So the survey was conducted by nord VPN. 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.240 A little more than one thousand people in the U 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.280 s A T and older were asked about how they 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:06.240 felt about the Internet, and according to PC mag more 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:09.360 than half of the respondent said they would totally delete 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:12.640 themselves off the Internet if they could. About forty seven 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:16.120 percent said they don't trust the internet, in that they 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:19.240 wish the Internet never existed. In a percent said that 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:23.120 they don't use the Internet at all. How you feel 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:28.560 about it, you wanna work with? Yeah, I listen. I'm 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.920 on social media. Instagram is mainly what I'm on. Instagram 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:38.240 and clubhouse. I got a Facebook like twelve years ago. Um, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.240 and you know they'd be fucking nosy, always asking why 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:44.160 I work at Why Like if I log on there 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:47.359 to go to Facebook market or something like that. They 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:50.920 just asking all these questions. And it's like, for real, 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.680 Facebook is like the world Wide Web, and they just 0:04:53.720 --> 0:04:57.840 got everybody in this damn web. And I don't want 0:04:57.839 --> 0:04:59.960 to be in a web. Like I remember when face 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.880 Book not on Facebook, my Space like went away. I 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:05.520 tried to log into my Space to delete my pictures 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:07.320 off that ship and it wouldn't let me. Is as 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:09.719 if you know, once you put your image on these sites, 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:13.240 stay on it, right, and you agree to that when 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:17.160 you sign up exactly, and nobody ever reached the agreement. 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:22.360 I just want to funk with this, so I'm a 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:31.279 side everybody else doing it. Yeah, everybody's doing it now. 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:35.480 I try not to put my real name online, so 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.160 I'll use aliases all the time. When I'm signed off 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.440 for ship, I got a junk play email that's not 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.640 connected to me in no type of way. That ship 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:47.960 is asigned to Google Google um number. I'm not working 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.480 with it. I don't like it. I don't like it. 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.920 I don't want to be google Able, but I guess 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:55.039 at this rate, we don't got no choice. Much like 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.440 how we said about ourselves. I take the good in 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.080 the bed that comes with it, because I mean it 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:05.000 does provided a lot of goodness to the earth too, right, 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:08.839 does it. Yeah? I feel like for black people in particular, 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:10.880 like the Internet, it was like the worst ship that 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:14.080 could have happened to us, because white people actually get 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.960 to now see us and see how the funk we 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:19.040 are and be in our business without actually seeing us 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:22.200 and without actually being around us, so they know, like 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:24.960 now how to manipulate things based on the type of 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:27.960 ship we put online, So I don't know, man, I 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:37.080 don't like it. The girl where Girl of Powers that 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:40.479 be they'll be watching your ass, or the white man 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:46.000 is infiltrating the black community with the information that we posted. 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.280 What y'all don't know is look, what y'all don't know 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:52.440 is the band is not actually the black man. They 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:54.360 just don't look like they mean, they look like us, 0:06:54.360 --> 0:07:03.360 but they ain't us. They're talking about Yeah, wait time, 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.159 wait till I really get this conspiracy segment. I'm about 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.080 to put you all on game. I just feel like 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:10.760 for me, I know, like if I ever became like 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.480 for real famous, it's some ship they're gonna pull up 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:17.960 that out of twit or some shing I'm saying right 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:20.960 now on this motherfucker, that's definitely gonna give me. It's 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:24.440 some hot water I already know, and I would be 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:28.960 just like Ninie, I said what I said two you 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:33.800 said that what pick some crazy ship and they're gonna 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:36.560 break me over the colds about it. I don't care though. 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.760 Cancel culture only last for like two weeks, you'd be, yeah, 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:44.600 I should last for two weeks. The best thing you 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.480 can do is just not respond Okay, don't respond. Let 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.320 the ship blow over and then come back like any 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:51.640 ship happened. But it's always gonna be that one motherfucking 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:55.160 comments like, bitch, we don't forget right, we don't forgot 0:07:55.160 --> 0:08:01.440 about those allegations against you, bitch. Damn that was three 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:08.040 weeks ago, hope to attention to No, where the fun 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:11.080 is Kanye? I'm concerned about him, girl, I'm glad he's 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:14.040 taking a seat because people is getting mad at our continent. 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:21.600 People's all in our reviews like another Kanye day, as 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:25.920 if everybody wasn't reporting on Kanye. But we were going Kanye. 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.160 I mean, I hope he's okay. It was fun. There 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:31.880 was a lot of going on. Yeah, but this this part, 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:35.120 the sad part, is a mental somebody's mental break was 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:38.640 for our show. I don't think Kanye was having a 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.959 mental break. No, I really don't know. I don't think so. 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:44.440 I don't think he was having a mental break. But 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:49.120 did you see um Shaquille O'Neil was on that podcast 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:52.120 The Pivot, and you know a couple of weeks this 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:57.920 damn Channing what's his name, Channing Child Crowder. Channing Crowder 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:02.320 was a guy who said that Russ Wilson was a square, right. 0:09:02.679 --> 0:09:05.640 So now this week they have Shaquille O'Neil on and 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:08.800 he asked Shaquille O'Neil about his divorce from Shanny O'Neil 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:12.960 and to me, it just sounded like he was trying 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:15.560 to give Shaquille O'Neil and out. You know what I'm saying, 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.040 as if this is the type of man who doesn't 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:20.000 take accountability for ship. You know what I'm saying. He 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:22.720 was basically like, well, it was two people in the marriage, right, 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.240 like that wasn't all on you, And Shaquille O'Neal corrected 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:26.880 him and said, you know what, no, it was on 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:29.080 me because she was a good woman. She took care 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:32.839 of my kids, even handled a business aspect of our lives, 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:36.080 and I was sucking up. Period. He took accountability and 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:39.000 that's what. And I'm not saying like women don't be 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:42.640 coming with they both ship, because everybody has their thing, right, 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:47.080 But what he said was he wasn't protecting her. He 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:51.079 wasn't protecting her, he wasn't protecting their vows. And I'm 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.320 pretty sure of protecting her he means like mental mentally, 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.760 like you keep going through ship with something with a man. 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.920 Why am I supposed to stay at what? At what point? 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:03.200 Don't do women leave? Right? And he just was taking 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:07.000 accountability for it like that. I'm sure Seanie heard that. 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:10.840 I was like, finally, motherfucker, they're friends though, you see 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:12.800 what I'm saying, Like he said that on several occasions, 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.440 like they're good, they're friends, Like have their kids grown people? Now? 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.480 You know what? What do they have to fred about? 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.440 But I'm sure I'm sure when he probably said it 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:24.200 to her already. I'm sure if he said it to 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:27.960 the world, he's made those words to her. I like 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.560 shock for that me too. I respect it. But it's 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:33.200 always in hindsight that men see this kind of thing, 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:35.920 you know, it's always no longer got access to you, 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:38.800 not just man people. We always see the air of 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:42.800 our ways in hindsight, not in a moment. I don't 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:47.240 want to just put that on me because I know 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:50.199 I would look back and I don't. I could look 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:56.000 back and be like, damn, you did that. You girl 0:10:56.040 --> 0:11:02.360 get your ship? You know, shame. I'm here for shout 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:08.080 out the man. Oh made the Stallion drop the new 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:13.400 song at Coachella. Um, it's called us a bit and 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:17.080 it samples Joe to See and Wu Tang's freaking you remix? 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:20.120 Did you hear that ship? Did you hear? I heard it? 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:23.439 Like you know, I like that for the young girls. Okay, 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:25.480 I like that for me in the gym, when I'm 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:29.560 trying to do the squat gym in these squats, or 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.120 when I'm I like fucking nigga anthems, I do, but 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:36.080 then I'm old for that ship. Why you don't have 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:38.240 to like, you don't have to live by it. You 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:41.319 just have to enjoy it. While I was playing and look, 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:43.839 I'm about to get deep again. The for frequency of 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:46.440 that fucking music and have you sucked up out? Yeah, 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:49.960 because yesterday my attitude was bad. I woke up and 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:52.240 I heard that song and I played it like three times, 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:55.120 like and you'se a bit like I was all in 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:59.600 a mirror, like pointing at the mirror ship like if 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:03.079 for her see yourself fake flexing and Mike fake flexing 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:07.840 on the nigga in the mirror, and my energy was 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:11.120 really my frequency was low early in the day yesterday. 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:13.640 That's the trust and stay Yeah, I had a stay 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:16.160 as attitude. He was like, I don't want to be 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:18.160 like that. That's how it was. I ain't gonna lie, 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:21.160 but that song did have me Like I got my 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:25.240 squad on yesterday and I was like, I'm gonna kill 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.120 these holes just amer Well. I was squatting to that ship. 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.760 Hey look, I definitely be a whole drug dealer, fucking 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:35.880 drive by type nigg and when I'm in a gym, 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:37.720 us like, you don't have to live it. And that's 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.120 the problem with young people. They don't know how to 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.200 separate the music from their reality. It's just like TV. 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:48.040 You watch a movie, you don't you see uh Dizell 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:51.600 talking about looking back and God, shoot on me. You 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.680 don't want to go outside and shoot up a neighborhood 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.600 because you see that, right, So why do we let 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:59.760 the music influences so much? I don't know, because it's 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:02.920 the it's the frequency of the music, that's just what 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:07.240 it is, like and like it's just the actual fucking frequency, 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:13.360 the medium from the meeting, the speakers. Yeah, she's going 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:15.680 to change your damn mood. It did. It really did 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:17.679 that for me. But I enjoyed every minute of it. 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:19.720 But I did last night I had to like put 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.760 on in the ire and Ericabo, dude, to like elevate 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:28.240 my vibration for real? Who the hell was she talking 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.480 to in that song? Like, what grown man you're calling 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.800 the bitch mag um? Who you think? I think it's 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:37.720 still talking about him. But she said she kept taking 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:40.760 playing b pills. Well, okay, let's not assume the songs 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.640 be by anybody, but she was saying that ship with 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:44.160 a lot of forest. Yeah, I like some ship to 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:46.920 get off her damn chest. No, she said, this song 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:50.000 is very in our quote, this song is very motherfucking 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:52.280 personal to me, and it's to whom it made the 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.600 fun concern. And I really feel like my ladies will 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.560 will funk with me on this one. So drop that ship. 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:05.440 M hmm. You saw, first off, your bitch in the click. 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:09.240 That's how she came in there. You saw Tory Lanes 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:13.120 in the damn club with all her damn enemies. Basically 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.640 just whack how y'all clicking up against a woman? Right? 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:22.360 Is she bigger than all of mega? Probably? Donkey kongdom niggas. 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:30.200 That's the problem. Y'all got the team up to beat her? Shame? Yeah, 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:33.480 what about this guy who on purpose? They did that? 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:37.200 That wasn't a coincidence? Hell, yeah, they probably called each other. Yeah, man, 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:39.280 And then when we get there, we're gonna take a photo. 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:45.320 Who like where you fucking right? Photo? Op right photo 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:48.800 to make sure you spray the top of your head 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:50.960 in because we're gonna get the whole things like, let 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:58.880 me stop, let me stop shaming him. I like ball ahead, 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:02.000 me too. I'm sorry, I'm sorry to worry about the ball. 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:04.760 How about Leskan Keisha? Keisha said, she is leaving your 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.080 bitches if she's in the club mid turn up in 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:14.480 her man call you're in with that girl. What if 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.880 you meet the man of your fucking dreams and he 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.760 just working late one night or you know, out late, 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:23.600 like he may not be out right, but all night 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.600 in the club like you want to get back to him, 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:27.160 and he hit you up and be like all right, 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:30.880 I'm heading home now where you at? So okay on 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.680 a case by case basis, But she said, any time, 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:37.600 if that nigga call her, she leaving, that's my man, 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:42.240 that's my man, and that's good. But girl, don't leave. 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:46.080 I'm out, Okay, if you're that bitch that's gonna leave 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:51.400 every time, I've never mad, don't call me about that nigga, 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:53.840 don't call me because you're mad at the nicktime what 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:57.440 you're doing. I want to get out, no bitch, fuck 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:03.800 you men say your hord with him a bitter tonight 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:11.400 my name. You said that was picked me behavior. I 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:14.280 felt like it was it was given pick me. But 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.720 she already picked though, and she wouldn't be with her 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.880 man who picked her. She want to like just not 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:22.920 have an identity because you got a man, You don't 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.680 have an identity outside of your man, Like you can't 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:29.520 be with your friends and solidify that relations That relationship 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:32.560 is important. Just I feel like my friendships are just 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.560 as important as my relationship with my man. So absolutely so, 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:41.360 I don't wanna, you know, I don't know. You know, 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:43.160 I ain't got no man. Maybe if I get a 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:45.400 big guy might change my mind. Bit I don't know. 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:47.280 We might not even see your ass that you're getting 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:50.120 a super healthy relationship. Ain't nobody gonna see that, but 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:53.400 anybody like a Honestly, when you're in a super healthy, 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:55.960 healthy relationship, you spend a lot of time with that 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.560 person anyway outside of your friends. So once you do 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:01.520 come with your friends, I'm not gonna just up and 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:03.480 lead because you call to on what you're doing. I 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.520 ain't having fun without you, nigga. Well turn on something 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:13.720 on the TV. I'll be back. Yeah. I like to 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:15.600 be on the couch with a man too. I love that. 0:17:15.640 --> 0:17:17.119 But if I choose to be with my friends, and 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:19.880 that's where I'm mad till it's done, because they're important 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:24.320 in my life too. And she told about all right, 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:25.960 if you're in the club, TI, I think, just don't 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:29.280 come with no dick, though I can't actually already told 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:33.800 you it's a problem. I do not want to make 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:38.040 love in the club with a bit. Whyever, why you 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:40.320 gotta make love on time? Let that man go to sleep. 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:44.840 You'll be there when you get there. No wake him 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:47.119 up when you get home. Let him cater to you 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:50.320 like uh, when I come home, they take you on 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:54.000 your shoulder, you roll over. Let that nigga do that. 0:17:54.640 --> 0:18:01.560 All right, y'all, let's pay some bills. We'll be right back. Okay, 0:18:01.640 --> 0:18:04.160 We're done talking about men for the day, y'all. I'm 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:08.520 done talking about I thought you said he was done. 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:13.080 I said I was done having sex with two. But 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:20.600 you're getting all meals, dope calling all meals now you know, 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:23.320 I'm just chilling for real, I don't wanna. I mean, 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:25.760 I feel like I have to talk about that as 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:27.760 against since I got this show, but I ain't got 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:32.119 the funk with him period. That's it. That's it, you 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:36.440 need to break. Let's talk about something outside of these niggas, 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:41.480 and let's talk about chasing your dream. We all got 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:45.240 a dream, especially, I feel like as Americans were afforded 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:47.919 a life where we get to dream some places they 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:50.080 don't even I don't even know kids talk about having 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:55.359 dreams or go you know, ship like that. So I 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.959 found this list of ten mistakes to avoid when chasing 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:01.720 your dream. Think this is something good to be to 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:07.000 share with our listeners, right yeah, hell yeah, because we 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:11.280 all had chasing dreams right right right now. So the 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:17.399 first thing is letting discouragement overwhelmed you. Now, I know 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:22.359 I've done that where I feel like somebody are like 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:26.159 try to play whatever I'm talking about or what I 0:19:26.200 --> 0:19:29.440 think about, or like say somebody already doing that, Like 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:32.760 I want to start this bread company, bitch, everybody's selling bread, 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:38.320 you know, not down got this bread you have to have? 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:46.720 But I have had, like been discouraged by some something simple. 0:19:46.800 --> 0:19:50.760 Is that something to somebody said, or there inability to 0:19:50.800 --> 0:19:54.520 think big? Have you? Um? Of course? Yeah, you know 0:19:54.560 --> 0:19:59.200 I've been writing a book literally for a decade, and 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:01.040 and you know I have intro, I got a couple 0:20:01.040 --> 0:20:03.920 of chapters writ and any time, like I have sent 0:20:04.960 --> 0:20:07.360 something to somebody, if they don't respond in a certain way, 0:20:07.359 --> 0:20:11.360 I get discouraged. Yeah is it not good? We'll get 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.879 in your head. Yes, Like I'm like, damn it is 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:17.840 it not good? Or what you ain't read? What I read? 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:23.680 I thought it was fired. But we gotta stop doing that. Ship. 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:28.400 Don't let discouragement overwhelm you. It's a part of the process. 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:31.520 So it says, take the risks. Are you going to 0:20:31.600 --> 0:20:34.800 be scared? Yes, you'll be petrified. Remember it's going to 0:20:35.280 --> 0:20:38.160 It's not going to be a straight path. Take many 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:41.200 steps and be consistent with your work. Even if you 0:20:41.240 --> 0:20:43.840 don't reach the goal you said, you'll learn, grow and 0:20:43.920 --> 0:20:48.000 perhaps even find new opportunities through the process of stretching yourself, 0:20:48.760 --> 0:20:51.760 believing yourself and the possibility of your dreams coming true. 0:20:52.000 --> 0:20:54.679 Without letting discouragement rob you of the faith you have 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:59.800 in yourself. Boom So number two, denying your currents that 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.840 wuation hold on. Let us go back to one, because 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:06.000 you know, sometimes people be having more faith in me 0:21:06.119 --> 0:21:09.719 than I actually having myself and that motivates me and 0:21:09.720 --> 0:21:11.720 that's okay too, and that's great to have those kind 0:21:11.720 --> 0:21:14.840 of people. Like people think I'm a super superhuman. Sometimes 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:16.880 I'd be like, yeah, that's me, and then in real 0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:21.639 life I'm like, man, I'm fucking lazy, and well, hold on, 0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:24.400 I miss a little piece. They said something about being consistent. 0:21:24.600 --> 0:21:28.560 That's my problem. Consistency. That's a lot. You're not alone. 0:21:29.160 --> 0:21:30.960 The world is a lot of us in that boat. 0:21:31.560 --> 0:21:34.720 It's definitely like I'm being honest with myself and y'all today, y'all. 0:21:36.840 --> 0:21:42.679 Number two, denying your current situation. If your current situation 0:21:42.760 --> 0:21:46.200 is not not ideal, don't live in the now. If 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:47.760 you do, you won't be able to deal with the 0:21:47.760 --> 0:21:52.080 obstacles you're currently facing. Doing nothing won't change your situation 0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:55.040 or bring you any closer to your dreams. Before long, 0:21:55.200 --> 0:21:57.760 you will hit the wall and crash and possibly fall 0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:06.199 into a depression boom. Instead, they're talking to you, me, 0:22:06.920 --> 0:22:10.280 everybody listening, all right. Instead, accept the situation you're in 0:22:10.480 --> 0:22:13.000 and the word toward change and work towards changing it. 0:22:13.280 --> 0:22:16.600 You have more power than you realize. Trust and believe 0:22:16.800 --> 0:22:22.600 in yourself, however small the change happens. Be grateful, Yes, 0:22:23.000 --> 0:22:28.159 gratitude M that's the number one thing. Yep. Yeah. The 0:22:29.040 --> 0:22:32.000 work is the process. You know people always be waiting 0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:34.680 for like the finishing product, But the finishing like it's 0:22:34.720 --> 0:22:38.159 actually the process while you're going through it. Right, you 0:22:38.200 --> 0:22:40.680 know what I'm saying. It's no ending, right that the 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:46.520 whole ship. It's a journey. Yeah. Yes. So three Dwelling 0:22:46.720 --> 0:22:50.080 on the past, that's my problem. I love there me too. 0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:54.440 Listen to this. Holding onto a painful past will fill 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:57.600 you with doubts when you're trying to pursue your dreams. 0:22:58.280 --> 0:23:01.240 You won't be able to handle obstacles that arise, and 0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:04.679 you'll spend your energy on worries and regret. You'll be 0:23:04.720 --> 0:23:07.679 afraid to make decisions because of the past, because of 0:23:07.760 --> 0:23:12.320 past experiences, you'll hold yourself back from claiming opportunities when 0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:15.560 they arise. So let the past be gone, but cling 0:23:15.560 --> 0:23:18.240 to the good memories, and when things are rocky, look 0:23:18.280 --> 0:23:20.560 at the past and smile. Let the bad be a 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:24.800 learning experience. Let learning produce growth, and let growth bring 0:23:24.840 --> 0:23:30.080 you closer to your goal. MM. Hmm. So I am, 0:23:30.119 --> 0:23:34.920 and I can admit this. I am a bit pessimistic. 0:23:35.560 --> 0:23:41.760 I dwell match. I remember one day I was on 0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:45.120 the phone with my friend and she was like, I'm 0:23:45.160 --> 0:23:47.520 like asking for feedback on the ship that I'm talking right, 0:23:47.560 --> 0:23:49.199 And she was like, you know, you've told me this 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:52.720 like a lot of times, because in order to tell 0:23:52.760 --> 0:23:55.160 you the current situation, I got to go back and 0:23:55.200 --> 0:23:59.880 tell you all the ship. You know, a chronicle, right, Yes, 0:24:00.000 --> 0:24:02.800 how I got to this place. But what you're doing is, 0:24:02.960 --> 0:24:05.520 if it's trauma that you experienced in during this conversation, 0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:09.639 you reliving it over and over again. So not don't 0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:12.639 not not talk about it. You gotta talk about the things, 0:24:13.119 --> 0:24:15.960 but you gotta forgive yourself if you got to forgive 0:24:16.040 --> 0:24:19.160